LX2 Codependency Coaching

Slow problem

Thu, 05 Mar 2026 13:02:05 -0700

Today, we are talking about the slow problems we take for granted or avoid. A slow problem are those things we know are issues and we tend to sweep them under the rug or ignore hoping they change on their own. What happens is they eventually become larger issues and get overwhelming over time. It is helpful to have conversations or address them when they are small so they don't have bigger consequences that can end connection or contentment. #slowproblem #conflict #communication #elephantintheroom

Getting out

Thu, 19 Feb 2026 13:28:47 -0700

Today, we are talking about how to change or get out of challenging situation or circumstance that is uncomfortable or not serving the version of you that you're in. The first step is to acknowledge and accept the situation for what it is. Let go of the idea that there is potential or it will get better. Look for models or other ways of doing the thing. Finally, create just one step to start building a different circumstance. Any one of us can change but it takes consistent effort. #gettingout #makingchange #lookforward #acceptance

Tap or drain

Thu, 12 Feb 2026 13:40:28 -0700

Today, we are talking about if something is a tap or a drain. If something is a tap, it moves us forward or gives us energy. Drains limit our motivation or make us feel lower or empty. We can remind ourselves of what motivates us or what keeps us struck in unhelpful patterns. #tapordrain #motivation #movingforward #skillbuilding

Modeling behavior

Thu, 05 Feb 2026 18:55:18 -0700

Today, we are talking about how we show the people around us how to behave. We get an opportunity to show up and be the leaders or communicators we want in our lives. We get to model the behavior we learn and share it with people we care about. The key is to choose wisely and work to normalize healthy coping. #modelingbehavior #parenting #rolemodel #leadership

Comfortable complacency

Thu, 29 Jan 2026 14:45:27 -0700

Today, we are talking about comfortable complacency and the idea that we often don't make change until we are in discomfort. Often, we can talk ourselves out of doing the hard work it takes to see results. Nothing changes, if nothing changes. Find an accountability buddy or someone who can call your attention to living your values and goals consistently. #changehappens #complacency #mentalhealth #accountability

Wisdom

Thu, 22 Jan 2026 20:20:18 -0700

Today, we are talking about sharing and listening to the wisdom around us. Especially now, it is important to pay attention to the experience of the people around us. Recognize that there have been other times in our history we can reflect on and learn from. It is helpful to take some time to check in on those we care about, coming together rather than giving in to the fear and division. #wisdom #checkin #repeatinghistory #community

Distress tolerance

Thu, 15 Jan 2026 11:59:00 -0700

Today, we are talking about how to manage ourselves in really challenging times. Right now we are all getting through day by day and feeling pretty overwhelmed. Either with the state of the world or dealing with hard situations we can simply leave. I have described some ways using Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT practices to give you some tools to work through and tolerate the distress we are all feeling. #mentalhealth #DBT #distresstolerance #dumpsterffire #gettingthrough

Directed attention

Thu, 08 Jan 2026 13:53:05 -0700

Today, we are talking about increasing our directed attention, awareness, to create change. Often we are operating on auto pilot or simply functioning in survival. It isn't until we are really uncomfortable do we then feel like we need to make changes. If we can increase our awareness to the discomfort, we can address the issues likely holding us back from what we want. #awareness #createchange #dothehardthing #growth #mentalhealth

Emotional coregulation

Fri, 26 Dec 2025 17:12:35 -0700

Today, we are about emotional coregulation in the context of conflict. It is helpful to take a pause and get curious before you meeting someone who is having big feelings with your own big feelings. #coregulation #conflicttools #communication #gaslighting

Having your back

Thu, 18 Dec 2025 18:24:54 -0700

Today, we are talking about the idea of building confidence and success when you feel like someone has your back. It is helpful to feeling secure doing new or hard things when you have the support of at least one other person who can encourage you and catch you if you stumble. #whohasyourback #askforhelp #doinghardthings #parenting

Rejection sensitivity dysphoria

Thu, 11 Dec 2025 12:21:04 -0700

Today, we are talking about RSD or rejection sensitivity dysphoria. In the podcast I said disorder but it is dysphoria or feeling sensitive to being rejected. It is generally associated with neurodivergent populations like spectrum disorder or ADHD. People will tend to be sensitive to being rejected or othered when they behave differently than their peers or people around them. This can create behavior like conflict avoidance or people pleasing which relates to codependency. It can also lead to people withdrawing from others or anxiety about how they are perceived. #RSD #attachmentstyle #anxiety #mentalhealth #authenticself #secureattachment

Burn out and boundaries

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 13:22:30 -0700

Today, we are talking about using our boundaries of time, space, thoughts, emotions, sex to help prevent feeling burned out. At the end of the year we are all struggling with the feelings exhaustion and stress, basically burned out. Identifying our boundaries can help manage some of those feelings. #burnout #boundaries #mentalhealth #takeabreak

Effort goes both ways

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 17:52:05 -0700

Today, we are talking about effort going both ways. We are not entitled to is healthy boundaries and healthy love. If someone with a title can't give that to you, you can walk away. We get to choose who has access to us and our resources. #healthylove #boundaries #mentalhealth #estrangedparents #entitlement

Failure to thrive

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 16:14:49 -0700

Today, we are talking about failure to thrive in relationships. While this term typically refers to children receiving substandard care in challenging environments, we'll explore how relationships can also fail to flourish without consistent effort and attention. #relationships #thriving #ittakeseffort #skillbuilding

Grit: making it through

Thu, 13 Nov 2025 14:38:42 -0700

Today, we are talking about the resilience that comes from pressure or adversity. When we have experience dealing with challenging things we gain an awareness of dealing with and working through it. We learn how to make things smooth again and gain the tools tools to work through hard times. #grit #adversity #resilience #makingithrough

Anhedonia; like eating cardboard

Sat, 08 Nov 2025 19:56:59 -0700

Today, we are talking about the anhedonia or the lack of pleasure associated with depression. Often people will not recognize depression because they don't feel sad, they don't feel anything. This is part of what chronic depression feels like for many people. #depression #anhedonia #mentalhealth #alanis #sgs2025

Doing your best

Fri, 31 Oct 2025 15:23:38 -0600

Today, we are talking about the idea of doing your best. Often, we used this phrase when we are getting by. Other times we use to phrase to obfuscate someone else's behavior. We can also use this phrase when we see efforts being made to get better. The idea of "best" is a moving target and changes depending on so many variables. #doingyourbest #doingbetter #givinggrace #parenting

Closing the loop

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 12:48:16 -0600

Today, we are talking about the action of finishing a task consciously. It is helpful to be able to work a task to completion to help our brains feel better. Doing something from beginning to end helps us move forward in life creating a bit of order in the chaos. Managing our anxiety or ADHD, its helpful to pick one things at time, to work through it, and close the loop on the task to feel we are getting things done. #closingtheloop #orderfromchaos #ADHD #anxiety #mentalhealth

Power and Peace

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 11:10:02 -0600

Today, we are talking about power and peace. We can be dealing with difficult situations or circumstances we often give them a lot of power over our lives. It might be helpful to control what we can in the moment. Just a reminder that we have gotten through every hard thing we have ever been dealt before now. Protect your peace. #dontgiveup #seasonaldepression #protectyourpeace #controlwhatyoucan

Being the weapon in conflict

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 13:10:53 -0600

Today, we are talking about being the unwilling weapon in conflicts. There are some relationship dynamics where be become the way people hurt themselves. We can notice that some people will use us to validate how they feel about themselves. It is helpful to notice if you are playing into their narrative. Pay attention to how you feel before, during, and after those confrontations. Increase your awareness of what your own emotional experience is in the interactions with people you often find yourself in conflict with. #relationshipconflict #emotionalexperience #confrontation

Proud of you

Sun, 05 Oct 2025 12:34:29 -0600

Today, we talking about being proud of ourselves and sharing that pride with the people we love. It's hard to see the past versions of us with kindness, grace, and compassion. It might be helpful to work on looking back and recognizing how far we have come, being proud of the version of us who did some hard work. Take a moment to day to acknowledge your past you and be proud of them. #proudofyou #growth #hardwork #learningeveryday #youhavecomesofar

Love or oxytocin addiction.

Fri, 26 Sep 2025 13:34:33 -0600

Today, we are talking about love addiction which is really oxytocin addiction. We can become addicted to the connection created by oxytocin at the beginning of relationships and miss red flags of unhelpful relationship dynamics. We can also move from healthy relationships seeking out the shiny parts of the beginning of new relationships. #loveaddiction #oxytocin #boundaries #missingredgflags

Choices from fear

Fri, 19 Sep 2025 11:51:09 -0600

Today, we are talking make decisions from a place of fear. Often, fear can keep us stuck or make us feel like we don't have a lot of options. We can make a choices even by not make any choice at all. If we can control things in moment when we are uncertain of the outcome, we gain resilience. We build new tool and skills so the next time we are faced with something new or different we can trust ourselves to get through it. The fear might still be there and we can choose something different. #fear #change #feelingstuck #doinghardthings

Wrong kind of good

Fri, 05 Sep 2025 13:04:37 -0600

Today, we are talking about those unhelpful coping skills or behaviors we want to change. There is a payoff or "good" feeling that comes from using them. If we want to change we need to increase the awareness of how it feels before, during, and after we use the "wrong" skill or make the choice to use that behavior. It is helpful to be aware of how and why we use those skills. #copingskills #mentalhealth #makingchanges #unhelpful

Losing yourself

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 12:55:09 -0600

Today, we are talking about losing ourselves in all the different ways we do. We get caught up in work, parenting, or in relationships and often we don't recognize it. It is important to be aware that we can come back to the relationship with ourselves, reconnecting with parts we may have neglected. We can come back to the home within ourself doing things we used to enjoy. Things that feel safe and consistent with our values and goals. Yes, we lose ourselves, and yes we can come home again to people we are and want to be. #losingyourself #cominghome #relationships #balance #rediscoveryou

Importance of Friendship

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 12:57:37 -0600

Today, we are talking about the importance of friendships. Over our lifetime we meet people who come into our life, sometimes for a season and sometimes for longer. They help us get through things or are going through the same things. Having connections help make the hard times a little easier. There is a grief that comes from losing those connections but there is also gratitude for having someone with you at the time. It takes effort to maintain those connections but the reward is worth it.

Can we change?

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 13:23:07 -0600

Today, we are talking about who we change, evolve, grow, and heal. We know life changes and people change. Often change happens because life happens. We can choose to change for the better and sometimes for the worse. With consistency and consciously we can become a different version of ourselves. It will take effort, it will mean failing, and it can lead to some amazing opportunities. It is up to you. #change #evolution #growth #skillsandtools

Logic and feelings

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 12:58:12 -0600

Today, we are talking about the alignment between your head, your heart, and your intuition. We often will try to logic our way into or out of things, even when our heart wants something different. It is helpful to allow space for your feelings so we can process our way to a fuller picture of what are dealing with. It might also be helpful to clean up our head, shifting our internal voice to something a little kinder. Doing so will create a path to trusting ourselves. This piler of alignment creates a safer way move throughout the world. #trustyourself #feelyourfeelings #manageanxiety #bekind #mentalhealth

Positivity v reality

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 13:06:31 -0600

Today, we are talking about positivity versus reality. There are times we work hard to "stay positive" in the face of challenges. It might be a better use of energy to be realistic about our capacity for engagement, choosing consciously who we can be real with. #realist #authenticity #ominouspositivity #toxicpositivity

Acceptance in relationship

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 12:44:19 -0600

Today, we are talking about feeling accepted in our relationships. Are we being seen and understood, all of our parts at the same time? Are we seeing and accepting ourselves. It can ben challenging to be aware of how we show up in relationship when we are too busy criticizing ourselves. Take an opportunity to see who shows in your life if we appreciate all of who we are. #acceptance #relationships #beinghuman #selflove

Prove your love

Fri, 11 Jul 2025 12:56:42 -0600

Today, we are talking about the concept of proving love or earning love. Often, we start in one place in relationship and can get off course as life happens. When we feel like love is transactional, it makes the whole point of connection and acceptance more challenging. #proveyourlove #connection #relationships #receivinglove

Hook up culture and app dating

Fri, 27 Jun 2025 12:56:52 -0600

Today, we are talking about hook up culture and dating on the apps for connection. It is helpful to consider how our brain and endorphins play into connection. Thinking about what the goals are when engaging in dating, in which ever you choose to do it. #hookup #mentalhealth #dating #connection

Global anxiety

Fri, 20 Jun 2025 13:02:46 -0600

Today, is hard podcast. I want to acknowledge this is different from my other content. We are experiencing so many weird things including human rights violations. Protect your mental health. Protest peacefully, mindfully, and stay safe. Curate a feed social media that doesn’t further your anxiety. Talk to people. Reach out to your friends.

“Let not any one pacify his conscience by the delusion that he can do no harm if he takes no part, and forms no opinion. Bad men need nothing more to compass their ends, than that good men should look on and do nothing. He is not a good man who, without a protest, allows wrong to be committed in his name, and with the means which he helps to supply, because he will not trouble himself to use his mind on the subject.” John Steuart Mill

Protest safely

Dysfunctional families

Fri, 13 Jun 2025 12:49:03 -0600

Today, we are talking about dysfunctional families. I think all families function to the level of awareness. There are helpful and unhelpful parts of these systems. As we increase and change our awareness, we can add tool and skill to create better systems and better functional families. #dysfunctionalfamlies #familysystems #mentalhealth #skillbuilding #changingpatterns

Men's mental health

Fri, 30 May 2025 12:56:26 -0600

Today, we are talking about men's mental health. Men are struggling, and consequently, woman are feeling those effects. With marriage rates down and social media movements of men bashing, I wanted to add a different perspective to the conversation. Check in with the partners, friends, dads, brothers and others. Help create a space for their vulnerability.

#mensmentalhealth #boyshavefeelingstoo #healthypartners #strongindependentwomen #mensemotions

The myth of perfection

Fri, 23 May 2025 12:46:49 -0600

Today, we are talking about the myth of perfection. So often we have an idea of what something should feel like, look like, of be and we lose sight of what it is. I was inspired by listening to "The Gift 14 lessons to save your life" by Dr. Edith Eger who is a holocaust survivor, mother, and psychotherapist. She has been through really challenging horrible things and continues to live a beautiful life. #notperfect #existentialtherapy #controlwhatyoucan #mentalhealth #wdnc

Self-awareness

Fri, 16 May 2025 12:57:53 -0600

Today, we are talking about self-awareness. Part of healing, growing, and changing behavior is being aware of who we are and how we show up in the world. Not with criticism and judgement, but with compassion and patience. #selfawareness #mentalhealth #howdidigethere #skillbuilding #getcurious

Rebuilding and repair

Fri, 09 May 2025 12:56:44 -0600

Today, we are talking about rebuilding and repairing. As we evolve in our human experience we get so many opportunities to evaluate the different parts of ourselves. Part of doing that is repairing old thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors. We can make a plan and create new parts rebuilding to the new version of who we want to be. #couplestherapy #evolving #newskills #repair #rebuild

Betraying yourself

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 12:49:57 -0600

Today, we are talking about how we betray ourselves. In one's life we make decisions and choose to live in a way that is inauthentic to who we actually are. Sometimes, it a conscious choice, and other times it is several small choices over time. Pay attention to how you feel when you make those decisions. Start to create space in your life for your whole self. #betrayal #authenticself #beyourself #healingandgrowing

Compartmentalization

Fri, 25 Apr 2025 12:41:17 -0600

Today, we are talking about compartmentalization experiences and emotions. It is sometimes helpful, if not necessary, to put those aside to continue carrying on through life, especially when those things are challenging. #compartmentalize #mentalhealth #gettingthrough #wholeself #feelings

Surrender

Fri, 18 Apr 2025 13:04:53 -0600

Today, we are talking about Surrender and how helpful it is to just sit down sometimes. We are all dealing with so many things. It feels like overwhelmed, frustrated, sad, angry, afraid, and exhausted. One of the only ways to get through really hard times is to take a moment to surrender. Not give up, but slow down. Take care of your basic needs, breathe, make a plan, and then get up and keep doing. #anxiety #surrender #sitdown #takecareofyou

Mindset and assumptions

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 10:52:27 -0600

Today, we are talking about the different mindsets. How we look at the world depending on our attitudes, beliefs, feelings, thoughts, and assumptions. We get to choose how we move through challenges by shifting our mindset or perspective. #mindsetmatters #intention #assumptions #experiences

Generational trauma

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 12:45:10 -0600

Today, we are talking about generational trauma. We can look back though our family lineage and see pattern of behavior. In order to change things for the better, it is important to understand context, history, and then makes changes in our own behavior. #generationaltrauma #knowoyourhistory #makeschanges #lessonsfromyourmother

Judgement

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 12:47:33 -0600

Today, we are talking about judgement and how we are perceived. Sometime we need to check our own behavior and often we need to check who is doing the perceiving. We might need to change our environment to one where we can be our most authentic selves. #judgement #findyourpeople #selfawareness

Emotional baggage

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 12:38:38 -0600

Today, we are talking about emotional the stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck. It is helpful to see, feel, and let go of those emotions. Healing and growing from those challenging things we have experienced. Releasing the things that no longer serve a purpose in the present version of you. #emotionalbaggage #lettinggo #movingforward #mentalhealth

Imposter syndrome is an insult to the previous versions of ourselves

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 12:41:38 -0700

Today we are talking about imposter syndrome. Often when we achieve big things we can often feel undeserving. It is an opportunity to validate previous versions of ourselves who did the hard work to get to us into those spaces. #deserving #impostersyndrome #hardwork #generationalhealing

Resilience; the space between not knowing and knowing

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 12:43:18 -0700

Today we are talking about resilience; the space from now knowing to knowing It can be uncomfortable and create anxiety. It can also create an opportunity to learn new skills and building trust in ourselves. #resilience #nowknowing #trustyourself #skillbuilding

Getting through

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 13:06:46 -0700

Today we are talking about getting though. Because right now, that's all we can manage. Make sure to do the big three: sleep, diet, and moving your body around. Taking care of you takes grace and compassion. #gettingthrough #giveyourselfgrace #roadtrips #goingthoughhell

Conflict, communication, and connection

Fri, 07 Feb 2025 12:44:25 -0700

Today we are talking about conflict. Understanding how you fight and what you're feeling. Also, coming back to the conversation is necessary. #conflict #redlipstick #communication #understanding #rulesofengagement

Anger

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 12:47:36 -0700

Today we are talking about anger. It is often said that anger is a secondary emotion. What is under the anger is usually fear, sadness, feeling disregarded, or not enough. Allow space to figure out what the feeling is. #anger #selfawareness, #70skid #genx #unhelpfulreactions #parenting

Hay comida en la casa/We have food at home

Fri, 17 Jan 2025 12:39:44 -0700

Today we talking about validating and accepting our whole self. The phrase hay comida en la casa, meaning we have food at home. When we love our whole self first, we don't need to work as hard to get love from other people. #bridgetjones #haycomidaenlacasa #loveyourselffirst #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast

Character flaw and mental health

Fri, 10 Jan 2025 12:36:22 -0700

Today, we are talking about seeing our struggles as character flaws. We often assume when we are struggling that something is wrong with us. It's not but that is how it feels. Shift the perspective to trusting yourself. You have gotten this far and you will get past this too. You are not broken. #characterflaw #mentalhealth #trustyourself #greatness

Intellectualizing v Feeling

Fri, 03 Jan 2025 12:46:59 -0700

Today, we are talking about intellectualizing versus feeling in the process of growth. We process lots of information through out thoughts before allowing ourselves to feel it. It is important to be aware of the old narratives and stories we are using when we process. Growth and healing comes from allowing the stories to change. #newyear #change #feelings #thoughts #anxiety

Being Wrong

Fri, 20 Dec 2024 13:11:06 -0700

Today we are talking about being wrong. How being wrong is a good place to be because it gives us a different perspective. We can learn a lot when we are wrong. #beingwrong #scientific method #relationships #bestintentionsthebook

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Best laid plans and adjustment

Fri, 13 Dec 2024 14:06:17 -0700

Today we are talking about plans and adjusting to those plans. Addressing the anxiety and discomfort that comes from changes to our plans. #planning #anxiety #controlwhatyoucan #attachments #trustyourself.

Perception

Fri, 06 Dec 2024 13:27:39 -0700

Today we are talking about perception. How we are perceived in the world around us and how we perceive the world around us. #change #perception #bestintentionsthebook #socialmedia #concretekulture

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Emotional Perspective

Fri, 22 Nov 2024 12:42:20 -0700

Today we are talking about experiencing the world through our emotional perspective. Giving yourself grace and patience while you are having your emotions. Getting through tough experiences. #trustyourself #emotionalawareness #emotioalperspective #mentalhealth

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Nurturing Relationships

Fri, 15 Nov 2024 12:40:51 -0700

Today we are talking about nurturing relationships. Attending to the relationships you want to grow and evolve, especially the relationship with yourself. #growth #nurturing #relationships #bestintentionsthebook

Control what you can, check your facts, and keep going

Fri, 08 Nov 2024 12:55:33 -0700

Today we are talking about controlling what you can in the moment, checking your facts, and keep going. This past week was rough. Lots of emotions. We still have to do things. #postelection2024 #bigfeelings #bestintentionsthebook #mentalhealth #politicsaside

When helping is not helpful

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 12:43:51 -0600

Today we are talking about when helping is not helpful. There are times we think we are helping and it makes things worse. It can be disempowering the person we are trying support. #nothelpful #resentment #needs #rescuing #helping #bestintentionsthethingswedoforlove

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Communication skills for relationships

Fri, 25 Oct 2024 13:03:51 -0600

Today we are talking about relationship communication. I go over a tool I use often to help clients build helpful communication skills. I use the 6 Steps to Great Communication by Cynthia Hansen https://lifeandbeautyweekly.com/2010/10/communication_skills/ #communication #relationships #skillbuilding #connection #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast

Emotional access, awareness, and availability

Fri, 18 Oct 2024 12:55:11 -0600

Today we are talking about being able to access and process our own emotions. Emotional intelligence is about being aware of what we are feeling, authentically showing up, and have compassion for our emotional selves. #emotionalvulnerability #feelyourfeelings #emotionalawareness #newbook #bestintentions #greece #somaticemotions

Denial

Fri, 04 Oct 2024 13:05:04 -0600

Today we are talking about denial and the things we refuse to look at. Often we avoid addressing things head on because we don't know what to do to change them. We don't know where to start. We start by acknowledging they exist. #denial #makingchanges #smallsteps #mentalhealth #elephantintheroom

Distraction vs Detachment

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 14:24:30 -0600

Today we are talking about distraction vs detachment. Often, when we are feeling tough emotions we want to distract ourselves in order not to feel. Whereas detachment might be a better move. Unattached from the outcomes but working through the feelings. #emotions #detachment #distractions #dothework #mentalhealth #lx2codependencypodcast

Satisfaction, suffering, and sacrifice

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 13:19:50 -0600

Today we are talking about satisfaction, suffering, and satisfaction. We get to choose how much of those things we endure or get from life. We can manage our resources, create goals, and set boundaries to a better experience through life. #satisfaction #sacrifices #boundaries #betterlife #mentalhealth

Memory and rebuilding

Fri, 13 Sep 2024 12:39:28 -0600

Today we are talking about memories and how we can change the narrative. We can recall something from a different perspective. We can create a better understanding of who have been and who are becoming. #memories #rebuilding #resilience #childhood

Forgiveness, bridges, and napalm

Fri, 30 Aug 2024 13:01:52 -0600

Today we are talking about forgiveness, bridges, and napalm. We get to determine the relationships that warrant forgiveness as it relates to our peace and access to our resources. Boundaries and bridges help keep us safe and maintain connection. #maintainpeace #forgiveness #burnorbuild #bridges #connection #lx2codependencypodcast

The big three: Food, exercise, and sleep

Fri, 23 Aug 2024 13:10:50 -0600

Today we are talking about the big three things I talk to clients about often often to evaluate how they are feeling: Food, exercise, and sleep. All of these things have an effect on our mood and energy. #sleephygiene #foodmatters #moveyourbody #mentalhealth

Motivation and the fuel we use

Fri, 16 Aug 2024 12:42:42 -0600

Today are talking about motivation and fuel we use to get there. We can use lots of different things to drive us to change, healing, and growth. What fuel are you using and is it sustainable? #motivation #growth #change #beingnew

Routine and rituals to manage anxiety

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 12:44:31 -0600

Today we are talking about using routines and rituals to help us regulate our anxiety. Our brains strive for order. When we can consciously create routine, things we do in a habitual way, we make our brain feels better. The meaning and intentions behind the routine can make it a ritual. #routines #habits #anxiety #mentalhealth

Inner circle

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 12:39:30 -0600

Today we are talking about who is in your inner circle of humans. Who do you feel safe and comfortable with. What those bonds are made of. We get to determine the level of closeness and vulnerablility we share with people. #innercircle #vulnerability #boundaries #community

Assumption of suffering

Fri, 26 Jul 2024 12:47:12 -0600

Today we are talking about the assumption of suffering as it relates to compassion and empathy. We are all going through our things; good, bad, or otherwise. If we can assume people are struggling, it is an opportunity to be kind to ourselves and others. #selfcompassion #suffering #expectations #grace #kindness

Life is not a zero sum game

Fri, 19 Jul 2024 13:54:31 -0600

Today we are talking about shift perspective from a zero sum absolutes mindset. It is not all or nothing, win or lose, love or hate, but something in between. When we can shift perspective and find a middle ground we are less likely to experience such distress or discomfort. #zerosumgame #detachment #5yearanniversary #x2thexennial #classof 91

Righteous Indignation

Fri, 12 Jul 2024 12:54:11 -0600

Today we are talking about the idea "righteous" indignation. The idea of getting angry or frustrated on behalf of someone else. When we are frustrated or irritated about someone else's choices it is an opportunity to recognize what we can control. We can consider the idea that we disrupt our own peace by taking away someone else's ability to manage their own choices. #bugged #unfair #boundaries #detachment

Raised by sheep or wolves

Fri, 05 Jul 2024 12:41:32 -0600

Today we are talking raising sheep or wolves. Thinking about using the opportunity to teach our precious children how to exist the world that can be dangerous. It is our job to teach our kids skills to be safe and secure on the planet where they can get their needs met without sacrificing themselves. #parenting #raisedbywolves #otherpeopleskids #puberty

Finding Gold

Fri, 21 Jun 2024 12:45:20 -0600

Today we are talking about finding gold in your everyday rather than waiting for the "golden years" or "bucket list". Make a to do list and put gold in everyday. #findinggold #emotions #anxietyanddepression #eldorado #kintsugi

The myth of happy and ability to experience joy

Fri, 14 Jun 2024 12:58:07 -0600

Today we are talking about detaching form the myth of being happy and shifting to the feeling of experiencing joy in moments. Sustaining happiness all the time isn't possible. What we can do it experience joy in moments of regular. #happinessmyth #experiencejoy #momentbymoment #doyourbest #beautyinthemoment

Meaningful Relationships

Fri, 07 Jun 2024 13:18:46 -0600

Today we are talking about the importance of meaningful relationships to our longevity and quality of our lives. Our human experience is motivated by connection. We connect with people all the time, creating meaningful connection helps us live well. #meaningfulreltaionships #friendships #buildingcommunity #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast #daringgrately #vulnerabiity

Blessings and lesson

Fri, 31 May 2024 12:57:17 -0600

Today we are talking about the blessings and lessons we experience when we create the perspective of receiving. When we can start to be receiving of good things happening to us rather than waiting for negative things to happen. #blessingshappen #growthmindset #opportunity #lessons #whathappenedtoyou #trauma #mentalhealth #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast

Life is happening

Fri, 24 May 2024 12:47:58 -0600

Life happens and we can get stuck in the why. We don't always know why this tough part of life is happening. It might just be the how. Controlling what we can gives a moment to take back power in the moment it can get easier. #controlwhatyoucan #wecandohardthings #lifehappens #getthroughthemoment #codependencypodcast

Paradoxical feelings and persistence

Fri, 17 May 2024 12:51:20 -0600

Moving forward into our life can be difficult when we are feeling multiple things at the same time. Being human is allowing ourselves to feel our emotions and doing the business of living. We can get get passed the hard things. #whatareyoufeeling #mentalhealt #persistence #atlasoftheheart #growing #doitanyway

Having needs

Fri, 10 May 2024 11:45:14 -0600

Today we are talking about having needs and who we are rely on to meet them. #needs #chosenfamily #mentalhealth #rhainacohen #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast #friendship

Hard lessons and best teachers

Fri, 03 May 2024 13:48:26 -0600

There are so many teachers in our lives. We learn lessons through out our lives. Many of the things we learn feel random but they are all teaching us the things we need to grow into the best version of ourselves. #lessons #bestteachers #growthmindset #unintendedlessons

Self-sabotage as a form of self-harm

Fri, 26 Apr 2024 13:21:32 -0600

We can get in our own way of our growth and progress. It is helpful to be aware of when we are triggered, what is motivating that, and how are we feeling about things. In learning new skills, we might get in our own way and have to restart. #mentalhealth #growth #selfsabotage #hurtingourselves

Default settng

Fri, 19 Apr 2024 13:04:54 -0600

Today we are talking about the default setting and shifting our perspective from our trauma to our growth setting. When we are learning new skills, we will default back to old skills. There are times when we are healing our old behaviors, its helpful to recognize old coping still exists. Integrating new skills takes time and it can be existing. We can benefit from not doing as much. #defaultsetting #oldskills #growthmindset #selflove #receiving

Trust issues

Fri, 12 Apr 2024 13:08:35 -0600

Trust is something people struggle with. Where trust issues come from is feeling confident in who you are and secure in your ability to be vulnerable with others. We have to see who people are and whether they can hold space for you. If they are consistent in showing up with kindness, grace, and compassion. Not everyone is trust worthy but when you can trust yourself, its easier to put faith in others. #trustissues #mentalhealth #vulnerability #trustyourself

Quitting

Fri, 05 Apr 2024 13:10:48 -0600

Quitting things, relationships, and behaviors is challenging. Changing habits and having to engage our brain in what we do can create a lot of discomfort, and it is worth it. #quitting #doingnewthings #growth #changethebehavior #choosingyou

Shapeshifting and people pleasing

Fri, 29 Mar 2024 13:22:20 -0600

When we do not feel safe sharing our emotional self we can shape shift to different version of ourself contributing to the delusion. We become different versions to keep the status quo. Being our whole authentic self takes work. We have to embrace who we are, all of our parts at the same time. #authenticself #healing #shapeshifting #secrets

Detaching from delusion

Fri, 22 Mar 2024 13:22:37 -0600

Today we are talking about detaching from the delusions of how we see the people we want to be in relationship with. #detachment #delusion #codependency #emotionalinvestment #mentalhealth

Lonely at the top.

Fri, 15 Mar 2024 12:43:24 -0600

Today we are talking about the loneliness that comes with growing and healing. #mentalhealth #selftalk #loneliness #boundaries

How hard can it be?

Fri, 08 Mar 2024 10:49:57 -0700

Today we are talking about the idea of making hard challenges. When we willing to face the challenges in our lives that are uncomfortable. We can face them with an attitude of "how hard can it be"? We can change our circumstances even when it is hard. #growpastthechallenge #howhardcanitbe #trustyourself

Nurturing all of the parts of yourself

Fri, 01 Mar 2024 12:59:33 -0700

Today we are talking about ways to nurture the parts of ourselves that still need some momming or dadding, nurture, and love. Part of healing and growing past unhelp coping is is by loving those parts of us that needed to be seen. #nurtureyourself #lovingbetter #mentalhealth #havingpatiencewithyou

Affirmations and healing

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 13:08:41 -0700

Can affirmation help and influence change and growth? YES and it is helpful when we are dealing with change. We have to increase are awareness of what is happening now. We have to look at the bad so we know where to make changes. #positiveaffirmations #healing #growth #mentalhealth #socialmedia

Getting past feeling stuck

Fri, 16 Feb 2024 13:15:32 -0700

Today we are talking about working through those hard moments and creating the life they want. #movingforward #lovingbetter #pasthismoment #mentalhealth #lettinggo

Emotional Reprogramming

Fri, 09 Feb 2024 13:20:29 -0700

Today we are talking about changing how we process emotions by learning new tool and updating how we were originally programmed. We get to choose how we process emotions once we have more tools to manage the situations we are facing. #emotionalprogramming #doingthingsbetter #mentalhealth #lovingbetter #whatnowpodcast #lovingallofyourversions #changemindset

Not enough and too much at the same time

Fri, 02 Feb 2024 13:17:42 -0700

Today we are talking about not feeling like you are enough and how that can lead to you doing too much. We can feel like we need to validate our worth by doing so much more, we get angry, tired, and overwhelmed. It is helpful to pay attention to what we actually have capacity for. #lovingbetter #doingtoomuch #youarerenough #mentalhealth #codependency

Pattern, behavior, and meaning

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 12:48:56 -0700

Today we are talking about patterns, behavior, and meaning. We have the opportunity to change the pattern that happen in our lives by changing our behavior over time. We can shift the meaning we assign to things. #change #mentalhealth #shiftingpatterns #meaningandpurpose

Is this a me problem?

Fri, 19 Jan 2024 13:18:22 -0700

In relationships we often feel like we need to fix problems for other people to keep them in our lives. A helpful thing to start to recognize is IF it is a you problem or a them problem. Then we can allow space for people to address their own problems or for them to acquire tools to fix things for themselves. #notayouproblem #skillbuilding #mentalhealth #codependencycoaching

Don’t just talk about it, be about it

Fri, 12 Jan 2024 12:46:14 -0700

Today we are talking about aligning our words with our behavior especially when we are creating healthy habits and coping skills. The idea of follow through. Increasing our awareness of how we feel. Changing behavior requires action consistently. #newyear #healthhabits #goals #followthrough #mentalhealth

Wrap of 2023 Anxiety, loneliness, and depression part 2

Fri, 22 Dec 2023 12:47:22 -0700

Today we are talking about the end of the year. Looking back not just at 2023 but relistening to the popular episode of Anxiety Loneliness and Depression originally posted 7/25/2019 https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-krijt-b92c2f We are all doing the best we can. You have made it through the best we you can. Proud of you! #endoftheyear #growth #mentalhealth #gettingthrough

Parenting Challenges

Fri, 15 Dec 2023 11:00:24 -0700

Today we are talking about parenting and detaching from the outcome. The Nurtured Heart Approach is a parenting model I endorse. #toxicparenting #detachingfromtheoutcome #lovingbetter #raisinghealthykids

Being your Authentic Self

Fri, 08 Dec 2023 13:16:38 -0700

How we trust ourselves and show up fully we have to be aware of what our authentic self is. Being your most authentic self takes a level of knowing and appreciating who we are, all of our parts, at the same time. We have core values that stay static. Trusting yourself and being securely attached to you is being attached to those core values. #authenticity #lovingbetter #corevalues #betruetoyou

Breaking our own hearts

Fri, 01 Dec 2023 10:58:08 -0700

Often we can break our own hearts by holding on to unrealistic expectations or outcomes. We hold on so tightly and then we "should" ourselves into anxiety and depression. Once we can let go and just be present gratitude gets easier. #90scountry #unrealisticexpectations #lettinggo #shoulding #livinginthepresent

Emotional Hoarding

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 13:11:01 -0700

What emotions are we holding on to that are keeping us stuck. When we have hard things happen we assign meaning to certain feelings. Especially this time of year we have traditions and we get to assign meaning to those traditions. The meaning we place on those traditions is up to us. We get to change the meaning and the feeling associated to those experiences. #emotionalhoarding #makingmeaning #letitgo #mentalhealth #traditions

Secure attachment to ourselves

Fri, 17 Nov 2023 12:13:16 -0700

We are talking about secure attachment to ourselves rather than having to be securely attached to another person or outcome. When we have attachment wounds we can be reacting to an old version of who we have been when our needs didn't get met. We attach to certain outcomes of how we expect things to be. #attachment #loveyourself #mentalhealth #pivot #bestversionofyou

Transformation to the new version of ourselves

Fri, 10 Nov 2023 13:09:43 -0700

Today we are talking about the ways we transform through our lifetime. How we evolve and change adapting to our current circumstances. #growthmindset #adapting #changeovertime #mentalhealth #skillbuilding #detatchment

Toxic Environments, Resilience, and Emotional Safety

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 13:09:04 -0600

Talking about toxic environments and how we can choose to get out of them. We get to choose who we spend our time with and how we leave what doesn't serve the people we are growing into. #toxicsystems #growth #mentalhealth #healing #resilience

The language of Opportunity

Fri, 27 Oct 2023 12:54:42 -0600

Today we are talking about shifting our perspective of what is happening to us to being given an opportunity. When we can look at change as an opportunity to learn something, to do something differently. We can talk differently to ourselves. This is how we grow, how we change. #growthmindset #opportunity #learningskills #mentalhealth #neuroplasticity #selftalk

Deadheading the Roses

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 13:29:42 -0600

Today we are talking about deadheading the roses, cutting off old behaviors that no longer serve a purpose to continue growing. We are looking at behaviors and relationships as we go into "obligation season" or the holiday season. We are increasing awareness of which relationships we can be our most authentic self in. #growingseason #boundaries #usingnewskills #mentalhealth #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast

The Gift of Goodbye

Fri, 13 Oct 2023 12:43:32 -0600

Goodbyes are so hard sometimes. When we are facing loss regularly. Part of how we grow new parts we have to say goodbye to old versions of ourselves. The detachment journey is difficult but also leaves space for appreciating the moment. #detachment #lettinggo #sayinggoodbye #griefsucks

Shifting the narrative

Fri, 06 Oct 2023 12:57:20 -0600

When we are going through hard things, the story we tell ourselves can be jaded based on where we are emotionally. We can shift the narrative by checking out facts. Check out the episode to learn how to change our perspective. #checkyourfacts #therapyworks #lovingbetter #lunax2llc

Reacting versus Responding in conflict

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 13:41:13 -0600

Today we are talking about the difference between reacting versus responding. Reacting is generally emotion driven and usually based on what we are going through in the moment. Responding is more though based and happens when we have time to process out the difference of our thoughts about the situation and not just an emotional reaction. #emotionalintelligence #conflictskills #relationshipbuilding

The spectrum of hope

Fri, 22 Sep 2023 13:27:05 -0600

Today we are talking about the spectrum of hope. We are looking at how hope influences our relationships. What are our expectation of relationships. Hope can become toxic if our needs are not getting met consistently. Check it out and share with people you care about who might need to increase their awareness for setting up boundaries. #toxichope #relationships #lovingpotential #lx2codependencycoaching

All weather friends

Fri, 15 Sep 2023 12:50:33 -0600

Today we are talking about friendship and who shows up consistently. What are we talking about and sharing through the seasons of our lives. Who is there just for the drama and who is showing up to be supportive. #adultfriendship #fairweatherfriends #showupforthedrama #whatyoufocusongrows #whoareyouventingto

Emotional Credit

Fri, 08 Sep 2023 13:16:10 -0600

The idea of emotional credit is the time and effort we invest into relationships assessing what we are getting back. We can often put more resources into people and relationships without really recognizing what our motivation is or looking at whether that investment is reciprocal. We can build resentment or become depleted more quickly and not recognize it. We also might not be giving people enough credit to manage their own stuff because we are so used to saving or rescuing the people we love. #emotionalinvestment #reciprocalrelationships #balancedcredit #fillingyourcup

Appreciate the moment

Fri, 01 Sep 2023 12:51:33 -0600

Taking an opportunity to appreciate the moments that happen in a life. Life is long and life is short. There are moments we want to last forever and nothing does. Being present without holding on too tight to the expectation of how something "should" be. #liveinthemoment #staypresent #createjoy #everythingpasses

Knowing better, doing better

Fri, 25 Aug 2023 13:58:27 -0600

Talking today about diagnosis and title as information. When we learn our diagnosis or more information about how or why we do the things we do, it is an opportunity to learn new skills and tools to address it. We can take power from that information and use it to change how we exist in our world.

Conscious Break Ups

Fri, 18 Aug 2023 13:23:44 -0600

How we consciously dissolve romantic parings when they are no longer working. Taking the time to honor what worked as we uncouple. Looking at how we change and grow through seasons of connection and separation. #consciousseparation #breakups #grief #whatareyourneeds #whowewere

What would people think? How that idea contributes to our Codependency

Fri, 11 Aug 2023 13:11:34 -0600

Often our anxiety and discomfort comes from how we think we are being perceived. The truth is no one cares all that much. We are all just out here doing our best. Trying to be the best version of ourselves. Take a moment to give yourself grace, kindness and patience. #whatwouldpeoplethink #lovingbetter #giveyourselfgrace #thefouragreements #doyourbest

Interview with Renee Valdez: Friend, mentor, and powerhouse

Fri, 04 Aug 2023 13:05:35 -0600

Today we are talking with my former professor and friend Renee Valdez who has her own podcast, Visions of a blind woman. She talking about adjusting to her sudden vision loss and how she uses her new skills to rebuild herself. She is an incredible example of what resilience looks like.

Fail forward

Fri, 28 Jul 2023 12:46:13 -0600

Today we are talking about the challenges of messing it up as we move forward. As we start to use new tools and skills we won't always use them right the first time. We are supposed to fail and mess things up and we get better at it with practice. #failforward @keepgoing #healingjourney #therapyworks #mentalhealth

Raising the bar as you increase your worth

Fri, 21 Jul 2023 12:51:16 -0600

Using new skills can be hard. As we increase our self-awareness of boundaries and expectations, we will raise the bar for our relationships. We teach people how to treat us. We can use skills and not do it perfectly and that is ok. We only get better at doing things with practice, grace and compassion. #doitanyway #manageyourpeace #liveyourworth #raisethebar

Entitlement, worthy and deserving related to Codependency

Fri, 14 Jul 2023 13:01:53 -0600

Today we are talking about how being Codependent can contribute to feeling entitlement and resentment. When we love ourselves we recognize we are worthy and deserving of love simply by being. When we are doing so much for other people we start to create a sense of entitlement. We create transactional relationships that build pressure and unrealistic expectations. #entitlement #worhtyoflove #deserving #boundaries #peoplepleasing

Acceptance, growth and healing

Fri, 07 Jul 2023 13:17:22 -0600

We can't change or grow until we get to a level of acceptance of the situation. We have to tell ourselves the truth with kindness and love. We have to see all of our parts at the same time. It can be really hard and it is worth it. #changeishard #selfacceptance #lovingbetter #therapyworks #movingforward

Conflict and Codependency

Fri, 30 Jun 2023 13:18:57 -0600

Today we are talking about Conflict Style, expectations and emotions. When we are Codependent we can be conflict avoidant. We hold back from expressing our true emotions and expectations because we are trying to avoid discomfort. #conflictskills #emotionalawareness #askingforyourneeds #workingthroughit

Success is relative to the struggle.

Fri, 23 Jun 2023 14:07:50 -0600

How we define success is relative to the struggle we are going through. How and who sets the benchmark informs the goals we have. Those goals we reach or don't reach can create pathways in our brain for what success is. When we shift the perspective from large goals to smaller attainable goals will help your brain receive success. #goalsetting #loweryourexpectations #changeyourbrain #thestruggleisreal

Living in Deprivation

Fri, 16 Jun 2023 14:54:29 -0600

Codependency can cause us deprive ourselves of our needs or create the limiting belief that we aren't deserving of getting our needs met. We are so busy taking care of other people we deprive ourselves of what we want and need for our own peace and wellbeing. #takingcareofyourneeds #livingindeprivation #createyourpeace #lx2codependencycoaching #limitingbeliefs

Emotional availability and vulnerability

Fri, 09 Jun 2023 11:01:24 -0600

Today we are talking about allowing yourself to be emotionally available and vulnerable once you start to love yourself better. Healing past your Codependency and trusting the people around you with your feeling. Breaking down your walls and creating boundaries.

Getting out of the Box

Fri, 02 Jun 2023 13:28:08 -0600

The idea of the box is cutting off parts of ourselves to feel safe in certain relationships or environments to keep ourselves safe. We hold back our authentic big self with all of our parts to stay in relationship. #authenticity #buildingconfidence #gettinginthebox #lettinggoofrelationships #releasingoldversions

Being liked and people pleasing

Fri, 26 May 2023 13:50:48 -0600

Today we are talking about this idea of being liked and being a people pleaser. The challenge is liking yourself and pleasing you. Are you being kind and compassionate to yourself. #boundaries #lovingyoubetter #peoplepleasing #codependency #pickme #likeyoufirst

Navigating boundaries with parents and adult children

Fri, 19 May 2023 13:31:55 -0600

Communicating expectations with parents and adult children and setting boundaries. We are talking about establishing and communicating expectations and boundaries in adult child/parent relationships. #parentchild #adultchildren #boundaries #intergenerationalrelationships #codependencycoaching

Nothing changes, if nothing changes

Fri, 12 May 2023 14:08:45 -0600

We can't be better without making the hard changes. Doing the hard work of applying our new skills and tools will create discomfort and it will also create new ways of being in relationship. Being better at loving ourselves and appreciating the relationships in our lives that are healthy with boundaries. #hardpath #lovingbetter #changeishard #codependencyskills #doingthework

Consciously choosing relationship from an Abundance Mindset

Fri, 05 May 2023 13:43:07 -0600

Once we start to practice setting and maintaining boundaries, we get to choose the people we are in relationship with. Every person we allow to have access to us is a conscious choice. We are the ones who maintain the gate, drawbridge, wall or fortress around us. Approaching relationships from an abundance or infinite mindset gives us an opportunity to love ourselves and others differently. #abundancemindset #consciousrelationships #peacefulwarrior #gametheory

What’s next? Integrating Boundaries into relationships

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 16:11:47 -0600

We are talking about what comes next after learning how Codependency shows in relationships. Doing the communication part of your boundaries, conditions and needs. Creating more awareness of how you feel and how to set up boundaries in the relationships closest to you. #boundaries #choosingpeace #lovingbetter #doingthework #practice

Ownership and Accountability

Fri, 21 Apr 2023 13:34:45 -0600

When reacting from CoD we can take an over abundance of responsibility for reactions or feelings in conflict. We are talking about the orientation of independence, interdependence and codependence. #codependencyeducation #ownershipoffeelings #takingonfeelings #healthyconflict

Aligning your head and heart while healing

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 13:49:25 -0600

While we are in the process of healing, we create a disconnect between your head and your heart. Working through the feeling is important to the process. Learning new skills and then applying them can stir up lots of emotions. Working through the feelings helps you build the skill in a more concrete way. #headandheart #healingjourney #movingforward

Using your New Skill in Old Environments

Fri, 07 Apr 2023 13:32:39 -0600

What does it look like to go into old spaces, relationships and environment with your new skills of boundaries, need and loving yourself better? Having compassion and patience with yourself will help you go into these old spaces with new perspectives. We are always growing, changing and adapting so this an opportunity to check in with who you are today.

Unconditional love, expectations and needs in relationship

Thu, 30 Mar 2023 12:48:39 -0600

Talking about Unconditional love and having expectations. Recognizing that it is ok to have expectations, limits and boundaries in relationship. Access to your energy, time, resources and person can be conditional. Expectations can be managed to minimize disappointment. #lovingbetter #conditionalrelationships #boundaries

The Boundary of Sex Part 2

Fri, 24 Mar 2023 12:58:54 -0600

The ongoing conversation the Boundary of Sex, the focus of our attractiveness and giving into situations when we are people pleasers or Codependent. The desire to connect can lend itself to difficulty creating boundaries. #sexuality #boundaries #shameandguilt #selfesteem

The Boundary of Sex

Fri, 17 Mar 2023 14:25:50 -0600

Sexuality and intimate connection is a significant part of connection. We are talking about who you share intimate space with, when/where, and how much we connect. Sexuality can be very challenging without self-awareness. Increasing your self-awareness of intimate connection and setting healthy boundaries with communication. #sexualboundaries #increasedawareness #communicatingneeds #building connection

The Boundary of Thought

Fri, 24 Feb 2023 08:28:43 -0700

We think constantly. How we share our thoughts and with whom becomes part of our developmental process. We interalize how we see ourselves especially when we are told that other people are observing our thoughts and behaviors. Are we being met with curiosity or do we shut down? #thoughtboundary #managingourthougts #boundaries #feelingsandthoughts

The Boundaries of Physical Space and Material

Fri, 17 Feb 2023 08:37:04 -0700

We are talking about the Physical and Material Boundaries. IT is an opportunity to increase awareness of your needs and how you feel about your physical self and your material stuff. #physicalboundaries #consent #increasedawarness #spaceboundaries #lx2codependencycoaching

The Emotional Boundary

Fri, 10 Feb 2023 09:04:09 -0700

Emotional boundaries and being emotional vulnerable. Increasing the awareness of who we can be vulnerable with, when we share our emotions and how much we share. Codependency is about managing other people's emotions and not allowing ourselves to be emotional to not be seen as a burden. #emotionalboundaries #emotionalvulnerability #havingneeds

The boundary of Time

Fri, 03 Feb 2023 09:54:51 -0700

We are talking about how, with whom and what the feelings are around the resource of time. Increasing awareness about how you are spending it and how to set boundaries or limits around it. #yourtimeisvaluable #increaseawareness #communicateyourexpectations

Introduction to the Boundary Series

Fri, 27 Jan 2023 08:23:47 -0700

Setting limits and access to your resources of time, space, thoughts, sex and stuff are boundaries. Recognizing where you end and someone else begins. Having needs and self-awareness is important to set what your boundaries are and be able to communicate them effectively. #boundaries #selfawareness #knowyourneeds #lovingyourbetter

Toxic side of Codependency

Fri, 20 Jan 2023 09:55:16 -0700

There is a dark side to being Codependent and this conversation is about how it feels when someone comes at you from their CoD. #disappointment #boundaries #lx2condependencycoaching #hardconversations

Working through the Middle

Fri, 13 Jan 2023 09:17:11 -0700

Working towards a goal is hard. It's important to honor your small goals in the middle. #lx2codependencycoaching #themiddle #goalsetting #lovingyourself #smallgoals #worldtravel

Being Uncomfortable doing the work of CoD when having feelings.

Fri, 06 Jan 2023 08:20:05 -0700

Doing the work of CoD can be uncomfortable especially when we have big feelings. Allowing yourself to feel hasn't been safe. When other people have feelings we get uncomfortable and we want to avoid them. Giving yourself space to feel is loving yourself better. #feelingsarehard #feelinglist #apologies #dontsayimsorry

Coping skills from a Loving Better Perspective

Fri, 30 Dec 2022 08:38:55 -0700

How are you coping with challenging feelings when dealing with your Codependency? We can shift from our old coping to find healthier way to keep ourself safe. It is important to evaluate the parts of yourself that need healing. #lovingbetter #lx2codependency #copingskills #healingyourinnerchild

Yes Budget, setting boundaries with Yes

Fri, 23 Dec 2022 10:56:32 -0700

Boundaries are for you to manage. How about setting a budget of your yes. Increase your aware of your yes capacity. Be discerning about how you spend your yes. #boundaries #lx2codependencycoaching #holidayboundaries #lovingbetter