Waking Up From Narc Abuse https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com A micro podcast designed to help you—not overwhelm you—as you heal and recover from narcissistic abuse. Wed, 26 Nov 2025 11:49:52 -0800 https://podbean.com/?v=5.5 en us Copyright 2023 All rights reserved. Health & Fitness:Mental Health 1440 episodic Today’s topic touches on something that’s been on my mind lately—what happens when a narcissist becomes elderly? Do they become wiser or gentler? For those of you who have grown up with a narcissistic grandparent, you sadly already know the answer to this. This is a *micro* podcast. It’s designed to help you recover and heal, without overwhelming you with information. Alana Sanborn Alana Sanborn No false https://feed.podbean.com/wakingupfromnarcabuse/feed.xml https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/17048564/WAKING_UP_Reclaiming_Your_Life_From_a_Narcissist_2_7j1sx.png Waking Up From Narc Abuse https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com 144 144 Isolation in Abuse: Why You Need Safe Community to Recover Isolation in Abuse: Why You Need Safe Community to Recover https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/isolation-in-abuse-why-you-need-safe-community-to-recover/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/isolation-in-abuse-why-you-need-safe-community-to-recover/#comments Wed, 26 Nov 2025 11:49:52 -0800 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/a5047573-dcac-3af9-9b2c-a23a16e37ec0 https://narcissisticabuserecoveryspace.mn.co/]]> get it. In this episode, we talk about why isolation is such a powerful abuse tactic—and why community is the most effective antidote.
If you’re looking for a safe place to rebuild trust and connection, the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Space is here for you. https://narcissisticabuserecoveryspace.mn.co/]]> Alana Sanborn false No 458 15 full The Truth About Trauma Bonds (And What They're Not) The Truth About Trauma Bonds (And What They're Not) https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/the-truth-about-trauma-bonds-and-what-theyre-not/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/the-truth-about-trauma-bonds-and-what-theyre-not/#comments Thu, 13 Mar 2025 17:03:05 -0700 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/3e586f36-3351-3fae-8c33-df031e376038 Could you be using the term "trauma bond" totally wrong?

  In this episode I explain what a trauma bond really is, and what it's not, and I offer an alternative term that you can start using that will actually mean what you think it means.    Also, I delve into the cycle of abuse as it relates to the narcissist's playbook and how that relates to the real meaning of "trauma bond."]]> Could you be using the term "trauma bond" totally wrong?

  In this episode I explain what a trauma bond really is, and what it's not, and I offer an alternative term that you can start using that will actually mean what you think it means.    Also, I delve into the cycle of abuse as it relates to the narcissist's playbook and how that relates to the real meaning of "trauma bond."]]> Alana Sanborn false No 711 14 full Navigating the Dating World After Narcissistic Abuse Navigating the Dating World After Narcissistic Abuse https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/navigating-the-dating-world-after-narcissistic-abuse/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/navigating-the-dating-world-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comments Tue, 17 Dec 2024 10:24:42 -0800 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/de338521-1736-3b28-8c5c-c50f35811d39 Dating can be a nightmare. Of course, it can also be fun and exciting. But after being manipulated by a narcissist, dating can feel like entering a battle when you're still limping from the last fight.

So, how do you learn to trust your judgment? How do you identify the red flags? Listen in for some of my thoughts on the subject of dating after narcissistic abuse.

]]> Dating can be a nightmare. Of course, it can also be fun and exciting. But after being manipulated by a narcissist, dating can feel like entering a battle when you're still limping from the last fight.

So, how do you learn to trust your judgment? How do you identify the red flags? Listen in for some of my thoughts on the subject of dating after narcissistic abuse.

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 758 13 full A Sick Game: When a Narcissist Plays Sick to Gain Attention A Sick Game: When a Narcissist Plays Sick to Gain Attention https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/a-sick-game-when-a-narcissist-plays-sick-to-gain-attention/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/a-sick-game-when-a-narcissist-plays-sick-to-gain-attention/#comments Sat, 07 Dec 2024 12:01:25 -0800 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/3aa62222-b354-3abf-8041-2e548bb5b669 Narcissists do all kinds of things to gain your sympathy, time, money, and energy. One of the worst (in my opinion), is when they pretend they are ill or injured to use you, to appear less scary, or to keep you coming back to them when you try to leave.

It's really hard to say no to someone who is hurting, right? But what if it's all a ruse?

]]> Narcissists do all kinds of things to gain your sympathy, time, money, and energy. One of the worst (in my opinion), is when they pretend they are ill or injured to use you, to appear less scary, or to keep you coming back to them when you try to leave.

It's really hard to say no to someone who is hurting, right? But what if it's all a ruse?

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 772 12 full 3 Types of Narcissists to Watch Out For 3 Types of Narcissists to Watch Out For https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/3-types-of-narcissists-to-watch-out-for/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/3-types-of-narcissists-to-watch-out-for/#comments Fri, 22 Nov 2024 11:40:22 -0800 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/002efddc-e3ac-3cd5-b49b-8690e978baa9 Narcissists come in all shapes, sizes and ages, but here are three types to look out for. The end result is similar for all three, but their approaches are strikingly different. 

Do you recognize someone you know from this list?

]]> Narcissists come in all shapes, sizes and ages, but here are three types to look out for. The end result is similar for all three, but their approaches are strikingly different. 

Do you recognize someone you know from this list?

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 771 11 full Casey's Story, Part 1: The Date Casey's Story, Part 1: The Date https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/caseys-story-part-1-the-date/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/caseys-story-part-1-the-date/#comments Thu, 14 Nov 2024 18:09:23 -0800 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/fb63d07b-b187-37a1-a9aa-a5c79cfd8154 This is Casey's Story, a true-ish story of narcissistic abuse, told in installments.

Follow along as Casey meets the love of her life, only to realize he's the stuff of nightmares.

This is a new, limited series I'm offering for free to subscribers. 

Click here to subscribe to the series. You'll receive new episodes in your email inbox as they come out.

Music, in order of appearance:

1. Perfection by MaxKoMusic https://maxkomusic.com/ 

2. Hope by Ghostrifter Official  https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-official  3.0 https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/

3. Reporting From The Scene by MaxKoMusic https://maxkomusic.com/ 

All music under Creative Commons CC BY-SA 3.0, promoted by Chosic.

 

]]> This is Casey's Story, a true-ish story of narcissistic abuse, told in installments.

Follow along as Casey meets the love of her life, only to realize he's the stuff of nightmares.

This is a new, limited series I'm offering for free to subscribers. 

Click here to subscribe to the series. You'll receive new episodes in your email inbox as they come out.

Music, in order of appearance:

1. Perfection by MaxKoMusic https://maxkomusic.com/ 

2. Hope by Ghostrifter Official  https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-official  3.0 https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/

3. Reporting From The Scene by MaxKoMusic https://maxkomusic.com/ 

All music under Creative Commons CC BY-SA 3.0, promoted by Chosic.

 

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 393 10 full 3 Tips for Dealing With the Unavoidable Narcissist 3 Tips for Dealing With the Unavoidable Narcissist https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/3-tips-for-dealing-with-the-unavoidable-narcissist/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/3-tips-for-dealing-with-the-unavoidable-narcissist/#comments Sat, 09 Nov 2024 11:43:46 -0800 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/0aaf359e-ebea-30ae-a491-eee14a1b4ef2 Sometimes we can't avoid the narcissists in our lives. So, here are three ways to cope with the triggering experience of contact with the narcissist in your life.

]]> Sometimes we can't avoid the narcissists in our lives. So, here are three ways to cope with the triggering experience of contact with the narcissist in your life.

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 605 9 full Healthy or Toxic? Does Your Relationship Have These 5 Qualities? Healthy or Toxic? Does Your Relationship Have These 5 Qualities? https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/healthy-or-toxic-does-your-relationship-have-these-5-qualities/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/healthy-or-toxic-does-your-relationship-have-these-5-qualities/#comments Thu, 31 Oct 2024 14:03:59 -0700 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/bddaba4d-fc3b-3096-9bb1-e5122114721c If you're used to the turmoil of toxic relationships, you may not be sure how to tell if a relationship is healthy or not. In this episode, we'll go through 5 key signs of a healthy relationship, and you'll notice how different these are from the dynamics you'll have with a narcissistic person.

]]> If you're used to the turmoil of toxic relationships, you may not be sure how to tell if a relationship is healthy or not. In this episode, we'll go through 5 key signs of a healthy relationship, and you'll notice how different these are from the dynamics you'll have with a narcissistic person.

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 1041 8 full Emotional Abandonment: Growing Up with Narcissistic Parents Emotional Abandonment: Growing Up with Narcissistic Parents https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/emotional-abandonment-growing-up-with-narcissistic-parents/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/emotional-abandonment-growing-up-with-narcissistic-parents/#comments Sat, 19 Oct 2024 13:29:10 -0700 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/96a22668-e179-3fba-ab85-f25a9dba2d64 In this episode, we're exploring they dynamics of narcissistic parenting and its profound effects on adult children. Learn more about how a narcissistic parent (or two) can turn you into someone who barely knows your own needs, much less how to speak up for yourself.

]]> In this episode, we're exploring they dynamics of narcissistic parenting and its profound effects on adult children. Learn more about how a narcissistic parent (or two) can turn you into someone who barely knows your own needs, much less how to speak up for yourself.

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 566 7 full What if I'm the Narcissist? What if I'm the Narcissist? https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/what-if-im-the-narcissist/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/what-if-im-the-narcissist/#comments Fri, 11 Oct 2024 13:38:45 -0700 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/9a732050-754a-3b80-9f34-915eba155d70 Lots of people come to me with this question. They want to know if they are the narcissist. They are terrified that they are the one causing all the issues in their relationships, and they've even been told that they are a narcissist!

In this episode, I'll talk about this phenomenon, and also why it might be more comfortable to believe you're the narcissist, when that is far from the truth.

]]> Lots of people come to me with this question. They want to know if they are the narcissist. They are terrified that they are the one causing all the issues in their relationships, and they've even been told that they are a narcissist!

In this episode, I'll talk about this phenomenon, and also why it might be more comfortable to believe you're the narcissist, when that is far from the truth.

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 667 6 full Are We Stigmatizing Mental Illness When We Talk About Narcissists? Are We Stigmatizing Mental Illness When We Talk About Narcissists? https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/are-we-stigmatizing-mental-illness-when-we-talk-about-narcissists/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/are-we-stigmatizing-mental-illness-when-we-talk-about-narcissists/#comments Fri, 04 Oct 2024 13:48:38 -0700 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/efbdc8a9-a741-368b-9019-9c671998b5e1 The podcast episode wherein I ramble a lot about whether the way I speak about narcissistic folks is stigmatizing a mental health issue. Hope it helps to hear my perspective and know that I do think about this particular dilemma a lot.

]]> The podcast episode wherein I ramble a lot about whether the way I speak about narcissistic folks is stigmatizing a mental health issue. Hope it helps to hear my perspective and know that I do think about this particular dilemma a lot.

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 784 5 full The Worst Lies a Narcissist Can Tell You The Worst Lies a Narcissist Can Tell You https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/the-worst-lies-a-narcissist-can-tell-you/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/the-worst-lies-a-narcissist-can-tell-you/#comments Sat, 28 Sep 2024 11:17:50 -0700 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/a0311b3b-ba4a-3ead-ba31-d11186b069e3 Narcissistic people are masters of deception. They will do anything to uphold an image of themselves that is often quite false.

The lies they tell range from miniscule to huge whoppers, but the most damaging and dangerous lies are the ones you keep believing long after they're gone.

]]> Narcissistic people are masters of deception. They will do anything to uphold an image of themselves that is often quite false.

The lies they tell range from miniscule to huge whoppers, but the most damaging and dangerous lies are the ones you keep believing long after they're gone.

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 462 4 full Why do Narcissists Act Like Children? Why do Narcissists Act Like Children? https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/why-do-narcissists-act-like-children/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/why-do-narcissists-act-like-children/#comments Tue, 24 Sep 2024 13:42:09 -0700 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/0b6c26b8-adee-351a-9ed5-cceec4e24d83 Have you noticed that the narcissistic person in your life throws tantrums, acts like they're the only person that matters, and erupts with emotion at the smallest things?

...Kind of like a child does?

There's a couple reasons for that—and no, you are not imagining it!

Let's talk about it.

]]> Have you noticed that the narcissistic person in your life throws tantrums, acts like they're the only person that matters, and erupts with emotion at the smallest things?

...Kind of like a child does?

There's a couple reasons for that—and no, you are not imagining it!

Let's talk about it.

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 537 3 full What the Heck is a Narcissist, Anyway? What the Heck is a Narcissist, Anyway? https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/what-the-heck-is-a-narcissist-anyway/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/what-the-heck-is-a-narcissist-anyway/#comments Fri, 13 Sep 2024 11:20:33 -0700 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/983f6bcf-23ca-3d85-9a7e-42adc3693f33 Calling someone a narcissist has gotten pretty trendy in the last few years, but I believe it's appropriate for the term to be popular. Why? Because there are so many folks out there who fit the description, and it's better that we have a way to name it and talk about it, than to just feel like we're the only ones who see it (or worse, who have experienced the worst a malignant narcissist has to offer).

This is how I define the word "narcissist."

]]> Calling someone a narcissist has gotten pretty trendy in the last few years, but I believe it's appropriate for the term to be popular. Why? Because there are so many folks out there who fit the description, and it's better that we have a way to name it and talk about it, than to just feel like we're the only ones who see it (or worse, who have experienced the worst a malignant narcissist has to offer).

This is how I define the word "narcissist."

]]> My definition of ”narcissist,” and how I feel about it being such a trendy thing to call someone. Alana Sanborn false No 419 2 full The Aging Narcissist The Aging Narcissist https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/the-aging-narcissist/ https://wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/e/the-aging-narcissist/#comments Tue, 29 Aug 2023 22:26:46 -0700 wakingupfromnarcabuse.podbean.com/4e3eafad-dd94-3407-a0ba-3788c2f45a53 Today's topic touches on something that's been on my mind lately—what happens when a narcissist becomes elderly? Do they become wiser or gentler?

For those of you who have grown up with a narcissistic grandparent, you sadly already know the answer to this.

 

This is a *micro* podcast. It's designed to help you recover and heal, without overwhelming you with information.

]]> Today's topic touches on something that's been on my mind lately—what happens when a narcissist becomes elderly? Do they become wiser or gentler?

For those of you who have grown up with a narcissistic grandparent, you sadly already know the answer to this.

 

This is a *micro* podcast. It's designed to help you recover and heal, without overwhelming you with information.

]]> Alana Sanborn false No 606 1 1 full