Unchecked Baggage

49: BPH, iTind & Bathroom Freedom: Rob's Prostate Adventure

Sat, 13 Jun 2026 13:32:15 -0600

Hosts Lena and Rob candidly discuss Rob’s struggle with benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH), the daily disruptions it caused, and the tests and treatments he tried.

Rob describes his decision to have the minimally invasive iTind procedure, what the treatment involved, his recovery, and how his symptoms improved—plus practical advice encouraging men to get checked early.

48: Along the Way: Vonnie’s Solo Quest to See America

Fri, 05 Jun 2026 17:23:51 -0600

Vonnie describes launching a spontaneous solo road trip from Wisconsin to the western U.S., visiting botanical gardens and national parks while funding the journey with gig work like DoorDash and Instacart. She shares practical tips on car camping, renting fuel‑efficient cars, finding safe overnight spots, and using memberships to save money.

The episode also explores themes of solitude, personal growth, and freedom as Vonnie reflects on learning to travel light, trust her instincts, and enjoy the unknown while pursuing a lifelong goal to see the country.

47: Mankeeping: Why Women Are Tired

Sun, 14 Sep 2025 11:13:23 -0600

Hosts Lena and Rob unpack "mankeeping" — the unpaid emotional and social labor women often perform for men. Through candid, humorous conversation, they explore examples, personal stories, and cultural factors like loneliness, changing gender norms, and digital life that contribute to this imbalance.

They reflect on whether it applies to their relationship, discuss health risks of loneliness, and consider how social media, toxic masculinity, and shifting expectations shape modern friendships and intimacy.

46: Do You Like Me? Check Yes or No

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 16:00:26 -0600

Lena interviews 10-year-old Wolf Girl about how to tell when someone likes you. They discuss playground crushes, different behaviors boys and girls show, funny pickup lines, consent, and simple advice like asking directly or watching body language.

45: Circle Back to the Synergy

Sun, 24 Aug 2025 15:25:51 -0600

Hosts Lena and Rob dive into the strange rituals and language of corporate America, sharing funny anecdotes about meetings, team-building, and common office buzzwords. They translate popular corporate phrases into plain English and discuss what these phrases reveal about workplace culture.

Along the way they compare perks, planning rituals, and share listener callouts — all wrapped up with humor and a few upcoming episode teasers.

44: Motherhood in Multiple Time Zones

Sun, 10 Aug 2025 10:30:43 -0600

Join Lena and Rob in a heartfelt episode of Unchecked Baggage as they navigate the emotional landscape of having adult children spread across different parts of the country. Lena shares her personal journey of coping with the challenges and joys of seeing her kids grow into independent adults while living miles apart from them.

The episode delves into Lena's recent trip to Portland, Oregon, where she reunites with her eldest child after a four-year gap, exploring the city's unique charm and dealing with the pangs of missing her children daily. Meanwhile, Rob lightens the mood with his insight and humor, making this episode a touching yet entertaining exploration of parenthood, emotional challenges, and new environments.

Listen in for a blend of heartfelt stories, quirky humor, and an exploration of new places, making it an episode filled with warmth, authenticity, and a touch of comedy.

43: Breaking Boxes and Breaking Bad

Sat, 26 Jul 2025 13:34:46 -0600

In this episode of Unchecked Baggage, hosts Rob and Lena reunite to discuss their monumental move from Texas to New Mexico after a year and a half apart. Broadcasting from their new studio in Albuquerque, they delve into the reasons behind their big move, including family ties and educational opportunities.

Listeners will hear about the trials and triumphs of selling their Texas home, mistakes made along the way, and the ultimate success they achieved with a new real estate agent's help. Moreover, Rob and Lena share their experiences in searching for the perfect New Mexico house, which finally feels like home after living with Lena's sister.

The episode also uncovers the challenges of adapting to life in Albuquerque, from fluctuating feelings of loneliness to the ease and excitement of settling into a vibrant community. Tune in for insights, laughter, and reflections on starting anew in the Land of Enchantment.

42: Bahama-Mama Drama: Tales from our Cruise Adventure!

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 00:01:00 -0600

Join us in this fun-filled episode as we recount our recent adventure on an eight day Carnival Dreams cruise. From the planning and logistics to the exciting escapades on board, we offer a behind-the-scenes look into our unforgettable journey.

Discussing everything from exploring the extravagant ship, enjoying various amenities and culinary delights, to the intricacies of sailing with an interesting mix of cruisers, this episode is a riveting chronicle of our exciting sojourn on the high seas.

Get intrigued as we reveal our candid observations and thoughts about cruise life, sharing the reality of tiny bathrooms and the complexities of managing bulky suitcases in a 150 sq ft cabin with a tiny balcony. With humor and real talk, we delve into details that can make or break your cruise. Is it worth it? Tune in to find out.

Few experiences match the unique enchantment of cruising through azure seas, sampling an array of dishes, and basking in the luxury of nightlife aboard a ship. Through a set of amusing and practical tips, we shed light on Carnival Dreams’ varied amenities, comedy shows, food options, drink packages and more.

From serene beaches to local gastronomic journeys at various ports, every moment of our cruise vacation offers a captivating story. Whether you're contemplating your first cruise or just recalling your own cruising experiences, our story promises an entertaining listen.

Sun, 11 Jun 2023 00:01:00 -0600

In today’s episode, you learn how Rob and Lena REALLY met. This isn't the story that they've been telling everyone for years. Listen to get the deets.

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32: The MIA Offspring Chronicles

Sun, 04 Jun 2023 00:01:00 -0600

In today’s episode, Lena and Rob explore the phenomena of adult children estranged from their parents. They draw from their own personal experience, as well as research.

Links:

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Resource links:

Parents of Estranged Adult Children: Are They Really Clueless?:

https://medium.com/the-conscious-way/parents-of-estranged-adult-children-are-they-really-clueless-1b5d65225c31

How Family Estrangement Echoes Across Generations:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brothers-sisters-strangers/202206/how-family-estrangement-echoes-across-generations

Why Adult Children Estrange (When Parents Are Not Toxic):

https://morinholistictherapy.com/why-adult-children-estrange/

WHAT MAKES ADULT CHILDREN PICK THE ROAD OF ESTRANGEMENT?:

https://sixtyandme.com/adult-children-estrangement/

Estrangement Doesn't Just Happen to "Bad" Moms — It Happened to Me Too:

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/a46619/sheri-mcgregor-estrangement-mother-son/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=arb_ga_ghk_md_pmx_us_urlx_19597983321&gclid=CjwKCAjwvJyjBhApEiwAWz2nLbP1oCQBWkGLvN5N0oGfvCwwaaW8V5uU2rH-w6nf6K7db-1EcBAeGhoCfPIQAvD_BwE

Why Adult Children Are Cutting Off Their Parents More Than Ever:

https://www.newsweek.com/parenting-family-mom-dad-children-estrangement-cut-off-1739384

4 Reasons Parent/Child Reconciliation Is Often Impossible:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/202210/4-reasons-parentchild-reconciliation-is-often-impossible

3 Causes of Family Estrangement:

https://www.parentingforbrain.com/family-estrangement/

Estranged from Your Adult Child? 5 Things You Can Do:

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/estranged-from-your-adult-child-5-things-you-can-do/

Family estrangement: Why adults are cutting off their parents:

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20211201-family-estrangement-why-adults-are-cutting-off-their-parents

Adult children more likely to be estranged from dad than mom:

https://news.osu.edu/adult-children-more-likely-to-be-estranged-from-dad-than-mom/#:~:text=Adult%20children%20are%20over%20four,were%20estranged%20from%20their%20fathers.

Are You Estranged From Your Adult Children?

Four tips to help you heal … and maybe reconnect.:

https://www.aarpethel.com/relationships/are-you-estranged-from-your-adult-children

https://www.rejectedparents.net/

Living with a Broken Heart: Are You Estranged from Your Child?:

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/estranged-from-adult-child-parent-child-estrangement/

Estranged Adult Children? What Not To Do When Your Kids Cut Ties:

https://morinholistictherapy.com/estranged-adult-children-what-not-to-do/

https://sixtyandme.com/estranged-adult-child/

How To Reconnect With An Estranged Adult Child:

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-reconnect-estranged-adult-child_l_63920829e4b0169d76d4f3ae

https://www.greeleytribune.com/2022/06/11/cp/

31: Help! I’m Surrounded by Relatives

Sun, 21 May 2023 00:01:00 -0600

In today’s episode, Lena and Rob explore the challenges of kids living with extended family. They draw from their own personal experience, as well as research.

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30: 20 Questions Minisode Part Deux

Sun, 07 May 2023 00:01:00 -0600

In today’s episode, you’ll learn all about Rob!

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29: 20 Questions Minisode

Sun, 23 Apr 2023 00:01:00 -0600

In today’s episode, you’ll learn all about Lena!

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28: Family First

Wed, 28 Sep 2022 19:41:08 -0600

Tune in to this episode of the Unchecked Baggage podcast, a podcast all about relationship advice with hosts Lena and Rob. They chat about emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage!

Today’s episode is about family; taking in extended family and Rob's 60th birthday.

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27: Psycho Cowboy Part 2

Mon, 25 Jul 2022 00:01:00 -0600

Today’s episode is about stalking - the different types, celebrities who have been stalked and what to do if you find yourself to be a victim of a stalker.

Links:

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Help for stalking victims:

https://www.stalkingawareness.org/what-to-do-if-you-are-being-stalked/

https://victimsofcrime.org/stalking-resource-center/

https://www.safehorizon.org/get-help/stalking/#overview/

Links:

Https://www.ustravel.org

Https://www.Ojp.gov

https://www.stylist.co.uk/news/stalking-increase-pandemic/459719

https://cafemom.com/entertainment/196453-14_celebrities_who_were_stalked

https://ncadv.org/blog/posts/quick-guide-to-stalking-16-important-statistics-and-what-you-can-do-about-it

https://pagesix.com/2014/07/14/stars-safer-since-actress-1989-murder/

https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/tips-to-deal-with-a-stalker-ex/

https://www.stalkingriskprofile.com/what-is-stalking/types-of-stalking

https://www.fighterlaw.com/7-different-types-of-stalkers/

26: Psycho Cowboy

Mon, 11 Jul 2022 08:58:03 -0600

We know the audio sucks on this episode. We're sorry!!!! We tried something new and it didn't work out so well. The content is well worth the suffering, though. Thanks for listening!

On today's episode, Rob and Lena welcome their first guest, cousin Vonnie, who shares her story about being stalked.

Links:

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Help for stalking victims:

https://www.stalkingawareness.org/what-to-do-if-you-are-being-stalked/

https://victimsofcrime.org/stalking-resource-center/

https://www.safehorizon.org/get-help/stalking/#overview/

Some article links referenced in this episode:

https://palomarokc.org/frequently-asked-questions-stalking/

https://reducingtherisk.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/sheridan_roberts_2011_stalking_checklist.pdf

https://www.stalkingriskprofile.com/victim-support/general-advice-for-victims

25: Deeper, Please

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 00:01:00 -0600

On today's episode, Rob and Lena play a game. Enjoy!

24: It’s No Mirage

Mon, 13 Jun 2022 21:21:08 -0600

Today’s episode is about Rob and Lena’s vacation to Punta Cana, Dominican Republic. Enjoy!

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Some article links referenced in this episode:

Ustravel.org

23:March Hare and a Nice Pair

Mon, 16 May 2022 00:01:00 -0600

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Some article links referenced in this episode:

Just kidding! No research was done for this episode.

22: Lipo, a Lift and Some Love

Mon, 11 Apr 2022 09:24:54 -0600

Today’s episode is all about body image as Lena shares her very personal journey.

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Some article links referenced in this episode:

https://nypost.com/2022/01/26/kim-kardashians-figure-is-harmful-for-body-image-study/

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/publications/body-image-report/exec-summary#:~:text=New%20body%20image%20statistics,-New%20online%20surveys&text=One%20in%20five%20adults%20(20,image%20in%20the%20last%20year.

https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/wellbeing/study-names-kim-kardashiaI I'mn-as-star-fuelling-negative-body-image/news-story/2b7fedc2e692d2a01888e2193a64f7c8

https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/11-offensive-phrases-you-didnt-realize-are-fat-shaming/

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/publications/body-image-report/exec-summary#:~:text=One%20in%20eight%20(13%25),concerns%20about%20their%20body%20image.

https://www.thelist.com/44261/womens-perfect-body-types-changed-throughout-history/

https://www.verywellmind.com/body-positivity-vs-body-neutrality-5184565#:~:text=Body%20positivity%20is%20a%20social,views%20the%20physical%20human%20body.

We’ll Be Back Next Week

Mon, 28 Mar 2022 00:01:00 -0600

Lena is recovering from surgery and does NOT feel like talking for an hour right now. But have no fear! We will be back next week with what is most-likely to be our best episode yet. Stay tuned.

21: You Down With SDD?

Mon, 14 Mar 2022 00:01:00 -0600

Tune in to this episode of the Unchecked Baggage podcast, a podcast all about relationship advice with hosts Lena and Rob. They chat about emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage! Today’s episode is about what to do when you’re in a relationship where you both have different libidos, differing level of sexual desire.

Links:

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Visit our website or connect with us on Facebook and Twitter.

Sponsor:

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Research Links:

https://www.blueheart.io/your-relationship#:~:text=by%20Marta%20Pucci-,What%20is%20Sexual%20Desire%20Discrepancy%20(SDD),desires%2C%20interests%2C%20or%20kinks.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-to-do-when-libidos-dont-match_n_5ba00288e4b013b0977d9e25

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desire_discrepancy

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/mismatched-sex-drives

https://sexualbeing.org/blog/how-to-handle-when-your-libidos-dont-match/

https://www.smsna.org/patients/blog/coping-with-mismatched-sex-drives

https://www.bustle.com/p/13-couples-on-how-they-deal-with-mismatched-sex-drives-67304

https://www.cornerstoneclinic.ca/2017/11/mismatched_libidos/

https://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare

20: Wanna Play a Game?

Mon, 28 Feb 2022 00:01:00 -0600

Links:

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Research Links:

https://goop.com/wellness/mindfulness/what-is-monotasking/

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/benefits-of-play-for-adults.htm#:~:text=You'll%20learn%20a%20new,trust%2C%20and%20intimacy%20with%20others.

https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-importance-of-play-for-adults

https://www.npr.org/sections/ed/2014/08/06/336360521/play-doesnt-end-with-childhood-why-adults-need-recess-too

https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a32338336/romantic-couple-games/

https://www.marriage.com/advice/relati2onship/couples-play-together-stay-together/

19: Long Live Lupercalia!

Mon, 07 Feb 2022 00:01:00 -0600

Links:

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Research Links:

https://www.npr.org/2011/02/14/133693152/the-dark-origins-of-valentines-day

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/holidays/valentines-day-ideas/a26863/valentines-day-facts/

https://www.babbel.com/en/magazine/valentines-day-traditions-around-the-world

https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/relationships-love/g30149638/valentines-day-ideas/

https://www.womansday.com/relationships/a4702/10-fun-valentines-day-facts-103385/

https://www.buzzfeed.com/danielacadena/valentines-day-advice-from-experts

https://www.bustle.com/articles/135077-6-reasons-valentines-day-is-actually-worth-celebrating

https://www.bustle.com/articles/137460-12-reasons-strong-couples-dont-need-to-celebrate-valentines-day

https://parade.com/1158778/jessicasager/valentines-day-trivia/

18: We Like Big Butts

Mon, 24 Jan 2022 00:01:00 -0600

Tune in to this episode of the Unchecked Baggage podcast, a podcast all about relationship advice with hosts Lena and Rob. They chat about emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage! Today’s episode is about our most favoritest and least favoritest things! (Yes, I know that isn't a word, but let's just go with it)

Links:

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Visit our website or connect with us on Facebook and Twitter.

Sponsor:

https://newsly.me/ and the promo code BAGGAGE

Research Links:

https://www.therockpit.net/2021/is-it-important-to-have-the-same-music-taste-for-couples/#:~:text=So%20while%20liking%20the%20same,like%20the%20songs%20you%20do.

https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/having-a-favorite-anything-as-an-adult-is-bullshit

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/general/color-coded-what-your-favorite-color-says-about-you/

https://thedigestonline.com/lifestyle/what-your-favorite-alcohol-says-about-you/

17: Who’s Got the Power?

Mon, 10 Jan 2022 00:01:00 -0600

Links:

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Sponsor:

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Research Links:

https://www.counsellinginmelbourne.com.au/power-in-relationships/#:~:text=In%20essence%2C%20power%20is%20the,is%20in%20a%20vulnerable%20spot.

https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/power

https://www.purewow.com/wellness/subtle-signs-of-unhealthy-power-dynamics-in-marriage

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/power-imbalance-in-relationships

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201503/9-ways-restore-balance-relationship

https://www.bustle.com/p/7-early-signs-youll-have-power-struggles-in-your-relationship-15733052

https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/power-in-relationships/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201602/4-truths-about-power-in-relationships-including-yours

16: New Year, New Relationship?

Sun, 26 Dec 2021 22:01:21 -0600

Links:

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Sponsor:

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Research Links:

https://www.history.com/topics/holidays/new-years

https://www.countryliving.com/uk/homes-interiors/interiors/a35094774/new-years-eve-traditions/

https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/g29739527/new-years-eve-traditions/

http://inspiration.rehlat.com/en/destinations/new-year-is-not-celebrated-on-1st-january-in-these-5-countries/

https://discoverhappyhabits.com/new-years-resolution-statistics/

https://www.brides.com/story/romantic-new-years-eve-traditions-for-couples

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201912/what-does-new-year-s-eve-mean-your-relationship

https://www.bridalguide.com/blogs/8-relationship-resolutions-make-the-new-year

https://www.infoplease.com/culture-entertainment/holidays/history-new-year

15: May-December Romance

Mon, 13 Dec 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Today's episode is about age gap relationships - what they are and how to be happy if you are in that type of relationship.

Links:

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https://brightside.me/inspiration-relationships/science-reveals-the-perfect-age-difference-for-a-strong-relationship-and-its-smaller-than-you-might-think-669860/

https://www.brides.com/relationships-with-age-gaps-5105357

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=May-December%20Romance

https://getmaude.com/blogs/themaudern/the-psychology-of-may-december-romances?test=1

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a30911266/may-december-romances/

https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2017/age-differences-between-couples-fd.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/collections/201909/the-may-december-romance

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/may-december-couples

https://www.instyle.com/lifestyle/hump-day/age-gap-relationships#:~:text=%22Age%20gap%22%20relationships%20are%20typically,%26%20Nick%20Jonas%20(11%20years)

https://www.regain.us/advice/general/what-is-an-acceptable-age-difference-in-a-relationship/

https://www.brides.com/handle-age-differences-in-relationships-2303199

https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/lifestyle/article/age-gap-relationships

https://www.sachsandhess.com/blog/2021/04/do-age-gaps-between-a-couple-make-divorce-more-likely/

https://www.marketwatch.com/st

https://www.lovepanky.com/love-couch/romantic-love/may-december-relationships#

https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2017/age-differences-between-couples-fd.html

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/may-december-couples

https://www.agegaplovestory.com/what-is-a-may-december-romance/

https://www.bonobology.com/best-age-difference-successful-marriage/

https://www.brides.com/the-best-age-difference-in-relationships-for-success-5105372

https://www.brides.com/handle-age-differences-in-relationships-2303199

14: Happy Anniversary, Baby

Mon, 29 Nov 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Today’s episode is all about anniversaries. Why are they important? What can you do to celebrate?

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https://theroanokestar.com/2020/06/10/why-itss-important-to-establish-anniversary-traditions-early-in-a-marriage/#:~:text=A%20wedding%20anniversary%20puts%20a,one%20another's%20achievements%20and%20love.

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/it-would-be-a-sure-sign-something-was-wrong-meet-the-couples-who-never-celebrate-their-anniversary_uk_5c403705e4b0a8dbe16db00e

https://www.mydomaine.com/things-to-do-on-your-anniversary

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/seven-year-itch

https://youtu.be/y2Dna8dffc4

https://youtu.be/UBmhje5s3S0

13: Home for the HoliCRAZE

Mon, 15 Nov 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Links:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/band-brothers-and-sisters/201311/time-the-holidays-the-absurdity-family-obligations

https://www.hioscar.com/blog/10-healthy-ways-to-deal-with-holiday-family-drama

https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/faux-obligations-with-family-how-to-say-no-to-those-holiday-invites/

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/12/why-families-fight-during-holidays/282584/

http://familyaware.org/10-helpful-ways-you-can-manage-family-stress-during-the-holidays/#:~:text=The%20holiday%20season%20is%20often,ones%20may%20enjoy%20the%20holidays.

https://www.allprodad.com/reduce-family-fighting-over-holidays/

https://www.gainingspace.com/blog/2019/12/11/gifting-obligation

https://www.nytimes.com/2008/11/22/business/yourmoney/22money.html

https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/2020/11/13/thanksgiving-dinner-politics-family-advice-avoid-fights-column/6256133002/

https://grottonetwork.com/navigate-life/relationships/talking-politics-at-thanksgiving/

12: Cheater, Cheater Pumpkin Eater! Part 2

Mon, 01 Nov 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Links:

https://bestlifeonline.com/reasons-men-cheat/

https://investigationhotline.org/12-female-cheating-facts/

https://www.brides.com/different-types-of-infidelity-1102872

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/why-do-women-cheat

https://www.verywellmind.com/why-married-people-cheat-2300656

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cheat%20on

https://brightside.me/inspiration-relationships/9-types-of-non-physical-cheating-that-are-still-cheating-483810/

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a30459155/why-women-cheat/

https://www.ozy.com/news-and-politics/why-being-cheated-on-is-not-as-bad-as-you-think/87753/

https://www.marriage.com/advice/infidelity/psychological-effects-of-a-cheating-spouse/

https://www.watershedcounselingms.com/2015/09/aftermath-of-an-extramarital-affair-psychological-and-relational-consequences/

https://www.healthshots.com/mind/emotional-health/cheaters-beware-4-mental-health-effects-of-extramarital-affairs/

https://www.imom.com/4-ways-to-protect-your-marriage-from-infidelity/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/clear-communication/201710/7-infidelity-preventatives-your-marriage-needs-today

https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america

https://comparecamp.com/cheating-statistics/

https://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/survey-reveals-faiths-unfaithful-article-1.1815733

11: Cheater, Cheater Pumpkin Eater! Part 1

Mon, 18 Oct 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Today’s episode is all about cheating. Lena and Rob explore how infidelity affects a relationship. What is cheating? Who cheats? Why do people cheat? Listen to learn about all that and more!

Links:

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Some article links referenced in this episode:

https://bestlifeonline.com/reasons-men-cheat/

https://investigationhotline.org/12-female-cheating-facts/

https://www.brides.com/different-types-of-infidelity-1102872

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/why-do-women-cheat

https://www.verywellmind.com/why-married-people-cheat-2300656

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cheat%20on

https://brightside.me/inspiration-relationships/9-types-of-non-physical-cheating-that-are-still-cheating-483810/

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a30459155/why-women-cheat/

https://www.ozy.com/news-and-politics/why-being-cheated-on-is-not-as-bad-as-you-think/87753/

https://www.marriage.com/advice/infidelity/psychological-effects-of-a-cheating-spouse/

https://www.watershedcounselingms.com/2015/09/aftermath-of-an-extramarital-affair-psychological-and-relational-consequences/

https://www.healthshots.com/mind/emotional-health/cheaters-beware-4-mental-health-effects-of-extramarital-affairs/

https://www.imom.com/4-ways-to-protect-your-marriage-from-infidelity/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/clear-communication/201710/7-infidelity-preventatives-your-marriage-needs-today

https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america

https://comparecamp.com/cheating-statistics/

https://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/survey-reveals-faiths-unfaithful-article-1.1815733

10: Everything Turns Him On

Mon, 04 Oct 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Welcome to Unchecked Baggage, a podcast with hosts Lena and Rob, all about relationship advice. Join the conversation as they discuss emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Lena and Rob are here to help you with your baggage—life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage. Join us for today's episode on the importance of communication in a relationship.

Thanks for listening!

Links:

For relationship advice, or to tell us how great we are, email us at uncheckedaf@gmail.com.

Visit our website or connect with us on Facebook and Twitter.

https://www.masterclass.com/articles/important-types-of-nonverbal-communication

https://www.chrysaliscourses.ac.uk/news/why-communication-is-key-to-healthy-relationships

https://www.europeanbusinessreview.com/the-importance-of-effective-communication/

https://online.pointpark.edu/public-relations-and-advertising/gender-differences-communication-styles/

How Strong Are Your Communication Skills As A Couple?

https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/how-strong-are-your-communication-skills-as-a-couple

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-14106/5-communication-mistakes-that-kill-relationships.html

9: Love or Money?

Mon, 20 Sep 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Welcome to Unchecked Baggage, a podcast with hosts Lena and Rob, all about relationship advice. Join the conversation as they discuss emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Lena and Rob are here to help you with your baggage—life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage. Listen today as they discuss the importance of dating.

Links:

For relationship advice, or to tell us how great we are, email us at uncheckedaf@gmail.com.

https://www.news9live.com/lifestyle/beware-millennial-men-women-are-mostly-gold-diggers-21674.html/amp

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Gold%20Digger

https://www.roundabouttheatre.org/about/our-blog/gold-diggers-frauds-or-icons/

https://aninjusticemag.com/gold-diggers-arent-real-you-just-hate-women-8745b57a2865

https://medium.com/the-virago/broke-men-created-the-gold-digger-fb13c97b48f4

https://www.oneadvisorypartners.com/blog/the-history-of-women-and-money-in-the-united-states-in-honor-of-womens-history-month

https://partnersinfire.com/lifestyle/how-to-avoid-getting-taken-advantage-of-as-a-female-breadwinner/

https://www.emlovz.com/how-to-not-be-taken-advantage-of-financially-while-dating/

8: Candles, Flowers and Sandwiches, Oh My!

Mon, 06 Sep 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Welcome to Unchecked Baggage, a podcast with hosts Lena and Rob, all about relationship advice. Join the conversation as they discuss emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Lena and Rob are here to help you with your baggage—life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage. Listen today as they discuss the importance of keeping romance alive in the relationship.

Links:

For relationship advice, or to tell us how great we are, email us at uncheckedaf@gmail.com.

https://www.livehappy.com/relationships/how-romantic-are-you-quiz?nopaging=1

https://liveboldandbloom.com/11/relationships/romantic-things-to-do

https://www.marriage.com/advice/romance/romance-in-relationship/

https://www.marriage.com/advice/romance/what-to-do-when-there-is-no-romance-in-a-relationship/

7: Unaccepted Partner

Mon, 23 Aug 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Welcome to Unchecked Baggage, a podcast with hosts Lena and Rob, all about relationship advice. Join the conversation as they discuss emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Lena and Rob are here to help you with your baggage—life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage. Listen today as they discuss the importance of dating.

Thanks for listening!

Links:

For relationship advice, or to tell us how great we are, email us at uncheckedaf@gmail.com.

Visit our website or connect with us on Facebook and Twitter.

https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/when-your-family-doesnt-approve-of-your-partner/

https://www.elitedaily.com/p/if-your-family-doesnt-support-your-relationship-heres-what-experts-suggest-18011988

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-to-do-parents-dislike-significant-other_l_5d0d2063e4b0a3941862197e

https://www.elitedaily.com/p/if-your-friends-dont-support-your-relationship-heres-what-experts-suggest-17983933

https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/dating-friends-disapprove

6: Date Each Other

Mon, 09 Aug 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Welcome to Unchecked Baggage, a podcast with hosts Lena and Rob, all about relationship advice. Join the conversation as they discuss emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Lena and Rob are here to help you with your baggage—life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage. Listen today as they discuss the importance of dating.

In a long term relationship, having regular date nights is important. It ensures partners remain connected and prevents a relationship from getting stale. Rob shares three lesser known reasons why date night is so important. First, you will be happier when you and your partner are prioritizing each other. Also, your sex life will be better and the woman will have more social satisfaction.

Then, they give examples of various possible date ideas. Instead of talking about work or the kids, it’s best to focus the discussion around you as individuals and your relationship. Free date night ideas include staying home and watching a movie together, cooking dinner, going for a walk or drive or having a midnight picnic. For affordable date nights, you and your spouse could go to a restaurant and dress up a bit, go to a movie dinner, try axe throwing or escape rooms, go to a comedy club or for a little road trip. Then, they list some ideas for more expensive and extravagant date night ideas for special occasions. You could go to a hotel for a night, go to a fancy restaurant and dress up, take a vacation, take a helicopter ride or book an entire movie theater for yourselves.

You have to spend time with your partner or your relationship will suffer. Date night is so necessary as a way of making the time and effort to be alone together. They also reveal that Wednesday is the most popular date night.

Thanks for listening!

Links:

For relationship advice, or to tell us how great we are, email us at uncheckedaf@gmail.com.

Visit our website or connect with us on Facebook and Twitter.

https://www.thecouplescenter.org/5-less-known-reasons-date-night-important/

https://www.couplestherapyinc.com/5-reasons-date-night-important/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/201703/date-night-not-luxury-necessity

https://www.glamour.com/story/the-hierarchy-of-date-nights-w-1

https://www.downredbuddrive.com/ideas-for-at-home-date-nights/

https://www.scmp.com/magazines/style/luxury/article/3036656/9-crazy-romantic-date-ideas-your-next-anniversary-or-first

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/15-surprise-romantic-dates-ideas-with-your-loved-one.html

5: Who’s Insecure?

Mon, 26 Jul 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Podcast: Unchecked Baggage

Episode: 5 Relationship Insecurities

Tune in to this episode of the Unchecked Baggage podcast, a podcast all about relationship advice with hosts Lena and Rob. They chat about emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage! Today’s episode is all about relationship insecurities and comes from a listener’s email question—how do you deal with insecurities in a relationship that develop over time in a healthy way? Lena and Rob dive into the details surrounding this massive topic and are here to help you with your baggage.

What is an insecurity? Listen to the findings of studies done regarding the possible connections between posting on social media and relationship insecurities. In an article from Brides.com, Lena shares the findings of how to tell if you’re insecure in a relationship, even if there is nothing significant going on that would cause it. Millennial attachment based therapist, Alysha Jeney, shares about the impact of things that have happened to you in the past and the five signs to look for to tell if you are insecure. Hear about difficulty in trusting, struggling with intimacy, becoming easily panicked about your partner leaving or rejecting you, feeling easily attacked, and not accepting your authentic self. She shares about solutions in journaling your thoughts, considering whether you and your partner experience love in same way, tracing thoughts back to roots and working to develop self-soothing talk, thinking more rationally and less emotionally, and working on being your authentic self through outlets such as books, counseling, religion, and so on.

While most relationship insecurities come from personal insecurities, it is important to learn what to do about these insecurities once you identify them. Insecurities can result in one having trouble forming long lasting relationships. Causes prove to be numerous, including things like traumatic events, crisis, loss, unpredictable environments, childhood history, and many more. They discuss how the effects of insecurities can also cause issues like low self-esteem, body image issues, lack of direction, feeling overlooked, interpreting others’ behaviors incorrectly, career struggles, and distancing one’s self socially. What can you do about these? First, you must learn to identify the cause! They take a look at another article that identifies 12 steps to overcoming self-doubt. Consider the following steps: stop saying you’re insecure, doubt your doubts, name your critic, stop overthinking, ask for help, cut off comparisons, cultivate confidence, open up, improve self-talk, surround self with positivity, and embrace insecurities as part of being human.

Who do you surround yourself with most and what do they talk about?

As the conversation draws to a close, Lena and Rob open up to share their own personal struggles with insecurities and how they work on them. Rob’s old emotional scars with friends get ripped open and make it difficult for vulnerability. Listen to his past relationships with friends, the hardships he has faced, and why completely opening up still proves challenging. Lena follows up with sharing about her insecurities with weight, her level of education, and finances. What if you have insecurities in your relationship that are justified or valid? Trust is the bottom line, but it is important to remember that it is not static. If it’s worth it, do whatever it takes to make it work!

Don’t forget to leave a review and email in with a question, topic idea, or commentary on the show to be submitted to win a drawing!

Links:

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Some article links referenced in this episode:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-forward/201609/four-ways-stop-feeling-insecure-in-your-relationships

https://hellorelish.com/articles/12-steps-overcome-relationship-insecurity.html

https://www.brides.com/insecurity-in-relationships-5105358

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_590ff70ee4b0f71180724627

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/insecurity

https://darciemft.medium.com/8-ways-to-foster-emotional-safety-in-your-relationship-4588ec3d642a

https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/trust/i-dont-trust-my-partner

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-rebuild-trust

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-being-insecure

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-not-be-jealous

https://www.growingself.com/stop-feeling-insecure/

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_5a39ca5ce4b0d86c803c6d17

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a24437388/insecure-in-relationship/

https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/8-signs-you-are-insecure-in-your-relationship/

https://www.tonyrobbins.com/ultimate-relationship-guide/insecure-in-a-relationship/

https://brightside.me/inspiration-relationships/according-to-a-study-couples-who-post-a-lot-about-themselves-on-social-media-are-insecure-794040/

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4: Sexual Compatibility

Mon, 12 Jul 2021 00:01:00 -0600

While there’s no official definition for the term, sexual compatibility can be considered the extent to which a couple perceives and shares sexual beliefs, preferences, desires and needs with their partner. According to Lena, it’s a difficult thing to pin down. But whether your relationship has it or not, it should be quite obvious. Many people still feel shame in regards to discussing their sexual desires, which results in their needs not being met by a partner. When you first meet someone new, hormones are so high that it can be difficult to gauge sexual compatibility. Rob offers some questions you could ask to determine your new partner’s regular sex drive.

So, can sexual compatibility be fixed? To a certain degree, Lena believes it can be. First, you have to get to the bottom of why someone has lost interest. With effective communication, this can typically be addressed. There are instances of unfixable sexual incompatibility, such as if a couple is no longer attracted to each other or are no longer committed to the relationship. A sexless marriage refers to couples who have sex less than 10 times in a year, or only on special occasions. Rob gives a few tips of how to spice up a sex life in a rut, such as visiting a sex shop together, try a sex therapist, watch pornography or role playing.

If none of these tips work, maybe it’s time to reexamine your relationship. Nobody deserves to be in a relationship they aren’t totally happy in, and being sexually satisfied is a big part of this.

Links:

For relationship advice, or to tell us how great we are, email us at uncheckedaf@gmail.com.

Visit our website or connect with us on Facebook and Twitter.

For more information about sexual compatibility and the relationship stats provided on this episode, check out the following links:

3: Pandemic Love

Mon, 28 Jun 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Welcome to Unchecked Baggage, a podcast with hosts Lena and Rob, all about relationship advice. Join the conversation as they discuss emotional baggage, blended families, love, sex, relationships, and life. Lena and Rob are here to help you with your baggage—life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage. Listen as they take a look at what happened to relationships during the pandemic. How has COVID affected us as a society and the continuum of relationships?

First, Lena and Rob take a look at couples who were paired up prior to the pandemic. They discuss the various sources of stress—jobs, finances, kids at home, sickness, housework, and so much more. Additionally, they take a look at possible stress reliefs that the pandemic brought, such as removing work commutes. With countless factors in play, they seek to understand the overall trajectory of these relationships as a result. Next, they dive into how these factors affected other relationships on the continuum.

Did the pandemic really cause the divorce and break-up rates to skyrocket? Rob shares the importance of making time for your relationship and not always putting the kids first. Learn to spread your time out in a meaningful way. Some people even think the divorce rates have declined, but is this simply due to places being closed? Listen in as they provide a list of questions and things to consider before getting a divorce during these times. Shifting toward the dating scene, Lena and Rob discuss the uptick in matchmaking and online dating sites. They even chat about the recent vaccine pickup lines and how profiles seem to be changing in content as people self-reflect.

To end this episode, Rob and Lena dive into the sex conversation. Learn more about how COVID spreads, what the safest kind of sex is during COVID, and the “glory hole”. Has the pandemic changed sex forever? Don’t miss their answers to these questions. In conclusion, Rob and Lena encourage listeners to take the time to address the possible baggage they have and let it go.

Links:

For more information about COVID and the relationship stats provided on this episode, check out the following links:

2: Couple Friends

Mon, 14 Jun 2021 00:01:00 -0600

Unchecked Baggage is a brand new podcast all about relationship advice. The episodes are aimed at talking about emotional baggage, love, sex, and relationships. The hosts, Lena and Rob, believe that life is too short to be weighed down by unchecked baggage and seek to help listeners let go of past baggage to have better relationships with others. They have been married seven years, but have both brought some emotional baggage from past relationships. Listen as they share about this baggage and what has helped them overcome it.

Today’s episode is all about the importance of having couple friends within a relationship. Rob discusses the excitement in seeing your spouse interact excitedly with others face to face. Observing how other couples interact can help you gauge your own relationship dynamics. He points out the three benefits of having overlapping couple friends: that it increases your attraction to each other, creates a support system and protects your relationship.

Then, they discuss whether having single friends leads to distrust. In Lena’s experience, most of her single friends of the opposite sex have been in her life before her relationship. It’s important to set boundaries and have a clear understanding of what your spouse is comfortable with. Most importantly, you must have respect for your partner so they feel at ease and can easily voice their feelings on the subject. It is the responsibility as the person with the single friend of the opposite sex to respect your partner’s comfort level and to speak positively about your partner with others.

With all of this being said, they move on to address the question: How can you make couple friends? According to Lena’s research, there are three different types of couples. Seekers are people who really want to meet other couples. Keepers are happy with the friends they have, but are still sometimes open to meeting new people. Finally, nesters are people who are happy with a small circle and uninterested in making new friends. A few places to find friends are at work, in facebook and community groups, on apps and through your kid’s schools. Usually, it’s better to choose engaging activities to do with new friends rather than something as intimate as dinner.

Finally, they point out a few things to look out for when making new friends. It’s perfectly normal not to get along with everyone you meet, and gauging how you feel after spending time with others is a good way to determine if the friendship is beneficial to your relationship. Finding friends who are well suited for your relationship and lifestyle takes work, but is worth it.

Links:

Read more information about how to handle relationship baggage in the articles below:

1: Unpack Your Bags

Mon, 31 May 2021 00:01:00 -0600

First, Lena and Rob define emotional baggage as negative unprocessed emotions from past experiences. They point out three types of baggage that can threaten relationships. The first is through family of origin, which can be baggage brought from parents, siblings, or another family member. A good way to address this kind of baggage is through forgiving them, but to also removing yourself from them. Second is depression baggage and Rob shares about his own journey with this. A good way to combat depression is through doing things you enjoy and self care. The last kind of baggage they discuss is the X-factor baggage where you are hung up on a x boyfriend/girlfriend. Rob and Lena talk about how to approach a girlfriend/boyfriend who is holding this baggage.

Next, Lena and Rob talk about sneaky types of baggage which must be addressed in order to have a healthy relationship. First is guilt, which is a feeling you have when you think you’ve done something wrong. They encourage listeners with this baggage to learn from past mistakes rather than letting them control you. Second is regret, which is living in the past. Lena encourages listeners with this baggage to practice learning from the past while focusing on the present. Next is the baggage of fear of the unknown or from past experiences. This can be addressed through exposing yourself to what you are afraid of alongside a good support system. Fourth is inner criticism of talking badly to yourself. Rob and Lena both encourage this to be addressed by learning to silence your inner critic and practicing self care. Lastly is PTSD, which can be addressed through therapy with a professional.

Lastly, Rob and Lena focus on baggage that comes from past or present toxic relationships. They both share some of the baggage they have brought from past relationships and how it has affected their own current relationship. There are several steps that can be taken to address baggage from toxic relationships. The first is purging all physical reminders of the relationship. Secondly is the ability and willingness to open up about the past hurt when a new partner comes along. Lastly is to spend time in self care through journaling, therapy, yoga, or any other activity you enjoy. In conclusion, Rob and Lena encourage listeners to take the time to address and process past baggage which will lead to much healthier preset relationships.

Links:

Read more information about how to handle relationship baggage in the articles below:

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