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Finally Home: Tim Spradlin on Purpose and Healing

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 03:30:00 -0500

In Episode 143 of The Things We All Carry we delve into the powerful and inspiring story of Tim Spradlin, a veteran, a retired firefighter, and a fire marshal who now runs a successful equine therapy farm in Ohio. Tim shares his multifaceted journey through trauma and recovery, his battles with depression and anxiety, and the transformative power of equine therapy. This episode not only highlights Tim's personal experiences but also explores the profound impact of understanding trauma, seeking help, and the importance of community support. Tune in to hear Tim's invaluable insights and learn how he helps first responders and veterans find peace and recovery.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:22 Reflecting on Personal Struggles

02:50 The Question of Doing Enough

05:43 Holiday Struggles and Support

07:58 Introducing Tim Spradlin

10:41 Tim's Journey and Equine Therapy

18:47 Military and First Responder Experiences

29:45 Healing and Helping Others

37:37 Understanding Herd Animals: Horses and Humans

38:23 The Healing Power of Vulnerability

38:47 Learning Through Equine-Assisted Activities

41:26 Personal Reflections and Childhood Memories

46:31 The Importance of Being Present

47:33 Combining Therapy and Peer Support

52:47 Daily Practices for Mental Well-being

55:32 The Journey to Inner Peace

01:04:32 The Future of Finally Home Farm

01:10:54 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Healing Through Gratitude - Ashley's Story

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Episode 142

In this powerful episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack returns after a hiatus to share his personal battle with depression and self-reflection. He introduces his guest, Ashley Iverson, the widow of Corey Iverson, a firefighter who perished in the Thomas Fire of 2017. Ashley talks about coping with her immense loss, finding gratitude, and her mission to support first responders through the Iverson Foundation for Active Awareness (IFAA). She discusses mental health, the importance of gratitude, self-care, and how she continues to carry forward and make a difference in the lives of others.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:25 Personal Struggles and Introspection

02:03 Understanding Depression

04:17 The Journey to Self-Forgiveness

13:43 Introducing Episode 142

16:42 Interview with Ashley Iverson

18:58 Ashley's Background and Early Life

32:39 Meeting Corey Iverson

34:42 A Love Story Begins

36:13 The Proposal and Marriage

36:33 The Thomas Fire Tragedy

37:18 Coping with Loss

38:23 Mental Health Awareness

53:13 The Iverson Foundation

01:07:43 Elements of Healing

01:15:20 Moving Forward

01:19:59 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Grieving Out Loud: A Conversation with Lynn Lewis | Episode 141

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 03:30:00 -0500

In this heartfelt episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack interviews grief coach Lynn Lewis, who shares her journey through grief after the tragic loss of her son to suicide. Lynn talks about her mission to help others by sharing her own story and the importance of grieving out loud. They discuss the complexities of grief, the misconceptions around the stages of grief, and the critical need for self-care. Lynn also emphasizes the emotional toll on first responders and how her work aims to break the stigma surrounding mental health and grief. This episode is a reminder that it's okay to talk about our pain and loss and that doing so can be a powerful step toward healing.

00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry Podcast

00:45 Host's Personal Reflections and Struggles

01:45 Dealing with Grief and Emotions

03:39 Upcoming Episode Preview

07:19 Guest Introduction: Lynn Lewis

07:34 Lynn's Story: A Mother's Grief

08:11 The Impact of Suicide on Family

08:26 Lynn's Journey to Becoming a Grief Coach

09:25 Encouragement to Share and Heal

10:19 Conversation with Lynn Lewis

16:35 Daniel's Life and Career

24:37 The Day of the Tragedy

30:17 Understanding and Coping with Suicide

41:02 Turning Pain into Purpose

41:14 Sharing the Story: A Path to Healing

42:34 Navigating the Stigma of Suicide

44:02 Understanding Grief and Its Stages

47:11 Acknowledgement vs. Acceptance

48:42 Creating an Action Plan for Grief

49:45 Dealing with Guilt and Moving Forward

53:16 Coping with Anniversaries and Special Dates

57:35 The Importance of Talking About Grief

01:06:58 Resources and Final Thoughts

Navigating Grief and Change: Stack's Reflection on the Journey of Healing

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode of The Things We All Carry, Stack shares personal reflections on grief, healing, and change. Nearing the one-year anniversary of his mother's passing, he discusses the importance of family time, dealing with emotional pain, and the unpredictable nature of grief. The episode also explores managing retirement, overcoming feelings of being lost, and seeking community connection. Stack addresses common listener questions on topics like self-care, imposter syndrome, and finding the right therapist. He also introduces a new podcast, 'The Things We All Can,' focused on positive change-makers in the fire service. Listen in for a candid discussion about the challenges and steps toward healing, resilience, and community support.

00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry

00:45 A Personal Reflection on Grief

02:14 Dealing with Loss and Healing

07:10 Navigating Post-Retirement Challenges

11:17 Changing Fire Department Culture

15:29 Finding the Right Therapist

18:30 Addressing Imposter Syndrome

22:05 The Importance of Self-Care

29:09 Upcoming Projects and New Show

32:44 Call for Stories and Conclusion

Navigating Suicide : Mike Part 2

Wed, 23 Oct 2024 06:35:35 -0400

In this comprehensive episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we delve into the profound challenges surrounding trauma and suicide, particularly among first responders and military personnel. The host reflects on personal struggles, including the anniversaries of significant losses in October. Guest Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher and U.S. Army veteran, provides valuable insights into why these issues are so prevalent in high-stress professions. Key topics include the difference between being 'triggered' and 'activated,' the psychological theories of suicidal ideation, and the impact of addiction. The episode highlights the importance of trust, community support, and actionable steps individuals and communities can take to mitigate suicide rates. Join us as we explore these heavy topics and strive to foster better mental health support systems.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:25 Personal Struggles in October

01:07 Reflecting on Past Intros

02:08 Embracing Imperfection and Taking Action

04:20 The Importance of Conversation

05:14 Facing Personal Demons

06:34 The Power of Talking

08:24 Commitment to Self-Improvement

12:39 Episode 139 Introduction

13:04 Understanding Suicide

17:09 Triggered vs. Activated

23:12 Overt and Covert Suicide

32:16 Addiction and Depression

33:26 Interpersonal Theory of Suicide

34:41 Understanding Thwarted Belongingness

35:34 Perceived Burdensomeness in Veterans

36:30 Acquired Capability of Suicide

37:34 The Role of Past Traumas

38:55 Substance Use and Self-Medication

39:49 Mental Health in First Responders

42:33 The Importance of Continued Support

46:41 Community and Personal Responsibility

01:00:44 Changing the Narrative Around Suicide

01:01:29 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Navigating Trauma : Mike - VA Part1

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Join 'The Things We All Carry' for an in-depth exploration of the shared and unique traumas experienced by military veterans and first responders. Reflecting personal grief and the emotional impact of service, this episode features insights from Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher. It addresses the mental health challenges of these communities, delving into 'big T, little T' definitions of trauma, the spectrum of responses, and strategies for seeking help. Through poignant personal stories and professional analysis, we uncover the lasting effects of trauma and the importance of trauma-informed care. Tune in for a compelling conversation on coping mechanisms, camaraderie, and the drive to serve despite overwhelming odds.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:23 Conference in Beaver Creek, Ohio

01:19 Personal Reflections on Grief

04:00 Taking Action for Mental Health

07:35 Introducing Today's Guest: Mike

07:45 Mike's Background and Research

13:44 Growing Up in Virginia

15:59 Military and First Responder Experiences

21:34 Joining the Coast Guard

26:17 Army Career and Behavioral Health Initiative

27:21 Clinical Hours and Publications

28:11 Medically Retired from the Army

28:30 Ongoing Work and Connections

29:04 Focus on Trauma and Suicide

31:03 Defining Trauma

32:13 Trauma in Military and First Responder Communities

34:11 Trauma Responses and Their Impact

45:05 Conditioned Responses and Fight or Flight

54:25 Managing Crisis and Calm

57:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Mindfulness in the Line of Duty - Josh - AZ

Wed, 09 Oct 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode, the focus is on the transformative power of mindfulness for first responders. This episode features Josh, a fire captain and founder of Foundation Fortified. The discussion highlights how mindfulness and meditation can be crucial tools for managing trauma, enhancing focus, and improving mental well-being in high-stress professions. Josh shares his mission to make mindfulness accessible through various platforms, addressing its benefits for both professional and personal life, including for families and children of first responders. The conversation also draws parallels between mindfulness and situational awareness training, emphasizing improved decision-making under stress. Listeners are offered insights into the potential of mindfulness to reshape approaches to mental health and the importance of nonfiction literature in understanding human culture.

00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry

00:25 Personal Reflections and Family Memories

02:32 Struggles with Grief and Self-Improvement

03:42 Commitment to Therapy and Personal Growth

07:08 Episode 137: Featuring Josh from Foundation Fortified

09:16 Josh's Background and Mindfulness Journey

10:05 Understanding Mindfulness and Meditation

13:01 Mindfulness for First Responders

37:02 Practical Steps to Start Mindfulness

42:27 The Essence of Mindfulness

42:53 Finding Joy in the Present Moment

43:21 Explaining Mindfulness to Others

44:06 The Mind's Role in Dissatisfaction

45:46 Training the Mind Against Unhappiness

46:16 Mindfulness and Suffering

47:05 The Importance of Mindfulness in Daily Life

47:47 Mindfulness as a Trainable Skill

49:06 Mindfulness for First Responders

49:55 Mindfulness Practice and Emotional Waves

50:20 The Future of Mindfulness in the Industry

53:10 Mindfulness Resources and Programs

54:18 Mindfulness for Families and Children

55:17 Daily Mindfulness Practice for First Responders

57:47 The Journey of Creating Mindfulness Content

01:03:30 Mindfulness and Leadership

01:05:34 The Impact of Technology on Attention

01:13:10 Mindfulness in High-Stress Situations

01:16:18 The Benefits of Mindfulness Practice

01:18:20 Experiencing Awe Through Mindfulness

01:20:35 Book Recommendations and Final Thoughts

Finding Peace: Brandon's Journey

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we explore the mental health challenges and recovery journeys of first responders. Featuring a profound conversation with Brandon, a firefighter from Cincinnati, who shares his battle with PTSD and his experience with stellar ganglion block treatment. The episode highlights the importance of therapy, the impact of traumatic calls, peer support, and the fight to break mental health stigmas. Additionally, practical strategies for managing mental health, including therapy, meditation, and supportive family interactions, are discussed, offering valuable insights for coping with job-related stress and fostering personal growth.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:28 Reflecting on Conversations with Former Guests

01:09 Challenges of Returning from Inpatient Treatment

06:30 Personal Struggles and Seeking Help

08:16 Introducing Episode 136: Brandon's Story

11:44 Brandon's Background and Fire Service Journey

12:12 Growing Up in a Firefighting Family

21:51 Dealing with ADHD and Personal Challenges

29:41 Joining the Marine Corps and Facing Setbacks

34:11 Pursuing a Career in the Fire Service

36:29 Navigating Multiple Departments

37:11 Paramedic School and Injury

38:20 Facing Physical Limitations

39:02 Transition to Hospital Work

40:49 Struggles with PTSD

49:55 Therapy and Recovery Journey

53:51 Finding Effective Therapy

55:54 The Impact of ART Therapy

57:50 Stella Ganglion Block Experience

01:08:51 Daily Rituals and Mental Health

01:10:10 Department's Mental Health Approach

01:12:31 Moments of Awe and Reflection

01:13:44 Book Recommendations and Closing

The Battle Within - Episode 135

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode, Stack dives deep into the nuanced and often complex experiences of grief, particularly as it relates to first responders. The episode underscores the importance of open discussion and healthy management of grief and trauma. This week's guest, Jamie, the Clinical Director of The Battle Within, shares her personal experiences and insights into trauma-informed care. The Battle Within is an organization dedicated to providing mental and behavioral support to veterans and first responders. Jamie elaborates on their flagship program, the Revenant Journey, a five-day intensive workshop designed to arm participants with essential coping skills and tools. Additional programs such as the Frontline Therapy Network and Dogs for Valor also aim to support individuals dealing with trauma. Tune in to learn more about the impact of grief, the importance of talking about it, and the valuable resources available through The Battle Within.

00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry

00:28 Exploring the Theme of Grief

01:49 Personal Stories of Loss

05:04 The Importance of Healing Out Loud

08:44 Introducing Jamie from The Battle Within

14:05 Jamie's Background and Childhood

16:54 Jamie's Professional Journey

19:15 The Impact of Personal Trauma

21:35 Challenges in Systemic Support

27:01 Integrating Professional and Personal Experiences

29:29 Joining the Club: Embracing the Battle Within

29:48 Origins of the Battle Within

31:13 Personal Journey to the Battle Within

34:10 Core Programs of the Battle Within

34:27 The Revenant Journey: A Deep Dive

35:28 Holistic Healing Approaches

40:27 Building Community and Vulnerability

43:35 Measuring Success and Testimonials

47:44 Getting Involved and Additional Programs

54:26 Cost and Logistics

55:05 Moments of Awe and Book Recommendations

01:01:51 Final Thoughts and Farewell

From The Flight Deck To The Firehouse: Brad W - OH

Wed, 18 Sep 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack interviews Brad, a recently retired firefighter from Ohio with a background in the Navy. Brad shares his journey from working in crash and salvage on a flight deck to becoming a dedicated firefighter. He discusses the significant impact of the opioid epidemic on his career, his struggles with the mental toll of the job, and his current pursuit of a degree in psychology and counseling to help first responders. Tune in for a compelling conversation about trauma, recovery, and the importance of peer support in the firefighting community.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:22 Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone

00:43 Operation Yellow Tape Event

01:56 Engaging with the Community

06:26 Upcoming Appearances and Reflections

07:55 Episode 134 Introduction

08:04 Interview with Brad: Life After Fire Service

12:38 Brad's Background and Early Life

17:07 Military Service and Challenges

26:40 Transition to Firefighting

29:36 Reflecting on a Firefighting Career

29:58 Challenges and Realizations

32:13 Types of Calls and Community Dynamics

33:57 Impact of the Heroin Epidemic

36:00 Personal Struggles and Peer Support

37:10 Transition to Therapy and Retirement

38:27 Ongoing Involvement and Future Plans

40:43 Final Thoughts and Reflections

48:31 Conclusion and Farewell

Triumph Over Adversity: TJ Webb's Journey from Trauma to Triumph

Wed, 11 Sep 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Join us for Episode 133, featuring an inspiring conversation with TJ Webb, a retired police officer, public speaker, and health coach. Webb recounts a horrific shootout in December 2020 that left him with severe injuries, and his subsequent, grueling recovery. During this transformative period, he founded the Fit for Duty Foundation to promote physical fitness among first responders. Webb shares his challenges and triumphs, including his participation in the '30 Days of Murph' challenge, the writing of his book 'Just One More,' and his mission to motivate others through public speaking. Prepare to be moved by a powerful story of resilience, community support, and the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:23 Personal Struggles and Emotional Reflections

05:03 Upcoming Event: Operation Yellow Tape

06:18 Introducing This Week's Guest: T.J. Webb

09:55 T.J. Webb's Background and Career

23:11 The Day That Changed Everything

39:53 Setting a Bold Recovery Goal

40:29 First Steps in Rehab

42:08 Creating a Motivational Sign

45:50 Small Steps to Big Goals

48:58 Achieving the Impossible

55:37 Mental Resilience and Family Support

01:02:09 Launching the Fit for Duty Foundation

01:07:28 Daily Discipline and New Challenges

01:11:46 Final Reflections and Future Plans

Resilience To Leadership with Bruce : Part 2

Wed, 04 Sep 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode of The Things We All Carry we journey through nearly three decades of Bruce's life, starting from his early days as a rookie to his current position of Battalion Chief. Explore his professional growth, coping mechanisms, and personal milestones, including meeting his wife and raising a family. Additionally, gain heartfelt insights into the differences and deep emotional connections between parenting and grandparenting. This episode offers a profound look into the joys, challenges, and legacies that shape our lives, both in our careers and family bonds.

00:00 Starting the Firefighting Journey

00:28 Early Challenges and Realizations

01:17 Career Progression and Training

04:22 Becoming a Paramedic

07:24 Personal Life and Family

09:11 A Life-Changing Call

16:36 Coping with Trauma

33:11 Trust and Relationships

37:43 Evolution of Mental Health Support

37:58 Peer Support and Its Challenges

40:04 Adopt a Firehouse Program

41:17 Resiliency Center and Modern Approaches

43:09 Personal Approach to Mental Health

45:58 Financial Security for Firefighters

50:20 Disconnecting from Work

55:21 Building Strong Relationships

57:16 Department-Wide Mental Health Initiatives

01:01:16 Leadership and Availability

01:04:39 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Resilience To Leadership with Bruce : Part 1

Wed, 28 Aug 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we delve into the life story of Bruce, a battalion chief with over 30 years of experience in the fire service. Stack dives deep into Bruce's early life marked by severe abuse, his path to independence at age 16, and his eventual career in firefighting. The episode tackles heavy themes such as trauma, resilience, and the evolving societal views on public service. With candid discussions about the difficulties Bruce faced both personally and professionally, this episode offers a raw and impactful look at what it means to carry on in the face of adversity.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:25 Apology for No Video

01:04 Introducing Bruce and Episode 131

01:46 The Importance of Civil Discourse

04:55 Challenges in the Fire Service

06:16 Raising the Bar for Recruitment

07:42 Personal Reflections and Future Plans

09:54 Introducing Bruce's Story

11:42 Bruce's Early Life and Family Struggles

17:07 Abuse and Attempted Arson

21:18 Custody Battles and Family Dynamics

31:58 Reconnecting with Siblings

34:22 The Struggles of a Distrusted Child

37:41 Reintegrating Siblings and Teenage Rebellion

39:15 Mental Health Challenges and Emancipation

43:40 Finding Stability and a New Path

45:52 Joining the Volunteer Fire Department

51:46 First Firefighting Experience

55:28 Pursuing a Career in Firefighting

59:27 Concluding Reflections

Rewiring the Brain: PTSD and Neuroplasticity with Dr. Brooke Bartlett"

Wed, 21 Aug 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Join Stack and Dr Brooke Bartlett on The Things We All Carry Episode 130 as they uncover the extensive impact of trauma on mental health. Dr. Bartlett, a clinical psychologist expert in trauma, delves into the brain's intricacies, focusing on the amygdala, prefrontal cortex, and hippocampus. Learn about post-traumatic stress injury (PTSI), the curative potential of neuroplasticity, and evidence-based treatments. Discussions cover the importance of systematic exposure therapy, addressing mental health thoroughly, and why talk therapy might not be enough for severe cases. This episode also underscores proactive interventions in fire and police departments, and the cumulative nature of trauma. Gain invaluable knowledge and practical advice for navigating the challenges of mental wellness.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:22 Meet the First Responders

00:51 Defining Mental Wealth

02:38 Protecting Mental Wealth

04:47 Host's Personal Reflections

10:40 Episode Overview and Guest Introduction

13:39 Dr. Brooke Bartlett's Background

25:21 Understanding the Brain

32:55 Impact of Trauma on the Brain

37:25 Combat Veteran's PTSD Triggered by Barbecue

38:34 Symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Injury

39:35 Brain Scans and PTSD

44:32 Memory Gaps and Trauma

53:15 Neuroplasticity: The Brain's Superpower

01:05:17 Evidence-Based Trauma Therapy

01:15:32 Understanding Internal and External Avoidance

01:15:52 Imaginal Exposures: Facing Trauma Head-On

01:16:51 Recalibrating the Amygdala

01:19:09 The Role of Repetition in Trauma Therapy

01:23:28 Addressing Complex PTSD and Memory Gaps

01:27:44 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the Prefrontal Cortex

01:47:02 The Importance of Proactive Mental Health Strategies

01:49:54 Final Thoughts and Recommendations

Operation Yellow Tape : A Deep Dive With Kenny Mitchell Jr

Wed, 14 Aug 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' retired firefighter Kenny Mitchell Jr. opens up about his journey through trauma, both on and off the job. He discusses the founding of 'Operation Yellow Tape,' an organization dedicated to supporting the mental health of first responders. Listeners are also invited to join Kenny's upcoming free event by registering on his website. The conversation touches on Kenny's career highlights, personal experiences, and offers invaluable insights into balancing work and life while recovering from trauma. Featuring heartfelt reflections, candid advice, and a book recommendation—'Touching the Dragon' by Jimmy Hatch—this episode is a profound exploration of healing and finding purpose.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:25 Personal Reflections and Struggles

02:10 Finding Purpose

05:49 Introduction to Episode 129

05:59 Guest Introduction: Kenny Mitchell Jr.

06:16 Operation Yellow Tape

07:07 The Importance of Open Conversations

10:46 Kenny's Background and Career

14:42 Growing Up and Family Life

21:59 Transition to Firefighting

22:34 Impact of 9/11 and Career Beginnings

24:50 Early Career Challenges

31:45 Mental Health Struggles

37:59 The Turning Point

39:42 A Turning Point: Speaking Up About Mental Health

43:23 The Birth of Operation Yellow Tape

45:06 Inside and Outside the Yellow Tape

47:14 The Importance of Sleep and Communication

57:56 Introducing the HELP Acronym

01:00:46 Expanding the Mission: Speaking to Diverse Audiences

01:06:06 Upcoming Conference and Final Thoughts

Jen : A Volunteer Perspective

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode (128) of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack discusses the challenges faced by first responders, specifically focusing on the personal and professional struggles of Jen, a volunteer rescue chief and full-time paramedic from a small town in Nebraska. The episode highlights the emotional toll of working in a close-knit community where responders often know the individuals they treat. The conversation explores the critical importance of mental health support and the need for debriefing after traumatic incidents. Jen shares her experiences with the deaths of key figures in her department and her efforts to foster a supportive environment for her team, while also discussing her own methods of coping and self-care.

Healing Trauma with Psychedelics : Matt Zemon

Tue, 06 Aug 2024 11:04:44 -0400

In a world where traditional treatments often fall short, especially for first responders and veterans facing trauma, the potential of psychedelics offers a promising avenue. During our latest episode of "The Things We All Carry," I had the privilege of speaking with Matt Zemon, an advocate for the therapeutic use of psychedelics. Our conversation, enriched with personal stories and scientific insights, sheds light on the healing powers and history of these substances.

To dive deeper into Matt's insights, check out his book "Psychedelics for Everyone" and the companion journal "Beyond the Trip." His upcoming book, "The Veterans Guide to Psychedelics," promises to be a valuable resource for those who have served our country. For more information, visit mattzemon.com and follow him on social media.

Explore the full podcast episode for an in-depth look at these conversations and more. As always, your support is invaluable. Share this post with anyone who might benefit, and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. Your feedback helps us continue these meaningful discussions.

Overcoming Tuesday : Part 3

Thu, 01 Aug 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Episode 126 is Part 3 with Jim, a retired firefighter from Ohio, who shares his personal journey of dealing with the mental health challenges of the job. Stack discusses the pressing need to rethink retirement systems for first responders to avoid forcing them to choose between their livelihood and mental health. Jim also opens up about undergoing an EEG brain scan that revealed his brain is in a constant state of fight or flight, leading to neurofeedback therapy to retrain his brain. From impactful personal anecdotes to the exploration of innovative therapies, this episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in mental health and the well-being of first responders.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:22 Introducing Jim from Ohio

00:39 Challenges of Mental Health in First Responders

04:08 Jim's Brain Scan and Fight or Flight Response

05:02 Neurofeedback Therapy Explained

07:12 Jim's Personal Experiences and Reflections

18:48 The Importance of Mental Health Awareness

23:06 Jim's Neurofeedback Journey

31:45 Final Thoughts and Future Plans

32:40 Closing Remarks and Book Recommendations

Overcoming Tuesday : Part 2

Wed, 31 Jul 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this gripping episode of 'The Things We All Carry' podcast, Stack discusses the unique challenges faced by first responders, including the mental health struggles and trauma they experience on the job. Listen to part two of the conversation with Jim from Ohio, where he delves into his own battles with anxiety, burnout, and the difficulties of asking for help. The episode also highlights the importance of teaching resilience and mindfulness at the recruit level to ensure healthier careers across various fields such as firefighting, law enforcement, and nursing. Join the discussion on promoting mental health and reducing exposure to traumatic events in first responder roles.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:25 Host's Personal Reflections

01:41 Recent Episodes Recap

02:01 Building Resilience in First Responders

03:56 Engaging Conversations and Future Plans

05:21 Introducing Episode 125: Part Two with Jim

05:30 Jim's Journey: Burnout and Seeking Help

07:35 Challenges in the Fire Service

08:52 Jim's Role in Cancer and Behavioral Health

11:11 Struggles with Departmental Support

15:10 Near Miss Suicide and Policy Issues

18:57 Jim's Breakdown and Seeking Treatment

21:28 Center of Excellence Experience

34:35 Reintegration and Disability Process

39:10 Final Reflections and Moving Forward

Building Resilience for First Responders with Karen Deppa and Mike Donahue

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack returns with guests Karen Deppa and Mike Donahue, who discuss their organization, Pilot Light. Pilot Light focuses on building resilience for first responders through the application of positive psychology. The conversation delves into the science behind resilience, coping mechanisms, and the impact of social support. Karen and Mike share personal stories and insights from their combined experience in emergency services, explaining how their program aims to proactively prevent psychological injuries. This episode offers valuable perspectives on strengthening mental well-being and fostering proactive mental health practices within the first responder community.

00:00 Introduction and Apology

01:01 Meet Karen and Mike from Pilot Light

04:31 Karen's Journey to Positive Psychology

07:28 Mike's Fire Service Experience

11:20 Understanding Positive Psychology

18:06 The Three Pillars of Resilience

39:02 The Importance of Social Support

41:14 Personal Stories of Resilience 4

3:03 Compassion Fatigue and Its Implications

44:51 Challenges in Fire Service Recruitment and Retention

49:02 Teaching Resilience Skills

56:16 Incorporating Resilience into Daily Life

01:02:07 Final Thoughts and Personal Reflections

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Overcoming Tuesday : Jim Burneka

Wed, 24 Jul 2024 07:50:00 -0400

Episode 123: Overcoming Traumas with Firefighter Author Jim Burneka Join us on the latest episode of 'The Things We All Carry' podcast. In episode 123, Stack discusses the importance of self-care amidst chaotic times, emphasizing mindfulness, exercise, proper nutrition, and mental health support.

This week's guest is retired firefighter and author Jim Burneka, who shares his journey in the fire service in Dayton, Ohio, the impact of budget cuts, and his approach to handling trauma. Hear about Jim's personal experiences, including the poignant inspiration behind his book 'Overcoming Tuesday.'

Learn how proactive mental health care can benefit first responders and how acknowledging vulnerability can lead to resilience. Don't miss this insightful and candid conversation aimed at helping those on the front lines cope better and thrive.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:41 Current Events and Self-Care

02:14 The Importance of Preemptive Mental Health Care

04:11 Challenges Faced by Firefighters

07:16 Guest Introduction: Jim Berneka

10:40 Jim's Cruise Experience

13:31 Memories of the Challenger Disaster

15:02 Musical Connections and Personal Reflections

18:38 Book Giveaway Announcement

18:56 Childhood Memories and Family Background

20:08 Father's Career and Struggles

21:44 Impact of Father's Absence

25:16 Moving Out and Starting a Career

28:01 Firefighting Career Beginnings

28:40 Challenges in Dayton Fire Department

33:29 Dealing with Trauma and Memories

37:52 First Dose of Reality in Firefighting

43:42 Coping with Trauma and Humor

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The Healing Power of Surf Therapy: Rob Garnett from One More Wave

Wed, 17 Jul 2024 07:51:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Things We All Carry podcast! In episode 122, join us for an inspiring conversation with Rob Garnett, the Managing Director of One More Wave and former Navy SEAL. This episode delves into Rob's personal journey—from his extensive military career to his impactful work in supporting disabled veterans through surf therapy. Learn about the mission and values of One More Wave, an organization that provides custom surfing solutions and a strong support community to enhance the mental and physical well-being of veterans. Through touching stories and a deep dive into Rob's life, this episode underscores the importance of connection, community, and the healing power of the ocean. Don't miss out on this uplifting and informative episode!

00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry Podcast

00:24 Host's Personal Update and Montana Trip

03:27 Reflections on Human Connection and Mental Health

06:20 Introduction to Rob Garnett and One More Wave

07:40 Rob Garnett's Background and Early Life

12:26 Joining the Navy and Becoming a SEAL

17:59 Life as a Navy SEAL and Post-9/11 Deployments

20:21 Challenges of Balancing Military and Family Life

22:12 Injury, Recovery, and Transition to Civilian Life

24:06 Founding One More Wave and Its Mission

29:16 Reducing Veteran Suicide Through Surfing

29:48 Adaptive Sports and Team USA

30:59 Getting Started with One More Wave

33:10 Success Stories and Community Impact

36:46 Volunteering and Community Involvement

39:10 Funding and Future Goals

47:01 Personal Reflections and Broader Impact

51:51 Concluding Thoughts and Final Messages

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The Healing Potential of Ketamine: Part 2 with Alex from Emergency Resilience

Tue, 09 Jul 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we continue our insightful conversation with Alex from Emergency Resilience. Join us as we delve into Alex's personal and professional experiences with ketamine, discussing its potential benefits for first responders, veterans, and active-duty military. We explore the importance of mental health, the use of alternative therapies like psychedelics, and how these can help in processing trauma. Alex shares invaluable insights into the practicalities and therapeutic effects of ketamine, including the importance of the 72-hour period post-treatment, and the need for a supportive community. Don't miss Alex's recommendations on how to integrate these therapies into a holistic approach to mental health.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:26 Personal Reflections and Ketamine Discussion

02:00 The Importance of Feeling Emotions

03:18 Challenges in Mental Health

05:08 Episode 121 with Alex: Ketamine Insights

06:58 Ketamine's Therapeutic Process

09:43 Practical Considerations for Ketamine Therapy

18:57 Legal and Ethical Aspects of Ketamine

23:19 Future of Ketamine Therapy

29:52 Women's Ketamine Retreat

36:09 Final Thoughts and Recommendations

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”Rewiring the Mind: The Impact of Ketamine on PTSD”

Tue, 02 Jul 2024 09:15:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 120 of "The Things We All Carry". This week we delve into a thought-provoking conversation with Alex, also known as Emergency Resilience on Instagram and TikTok. Alex brings a wealth of experience as a paramedic and continuing education coordinator, but our discussion goes beyond her professional roles. We explore her personal journey with ketamine, discussing what it entails, who it may be suitable for, and what to expect along the way.

Join us as we uncover the nuances of ketamine therapy, addressing common questions and misconceptions. Whether you're curious about starting your own journey or simply intrigued by the topic, this episode offers valuable insights. Alex's expertise and personal insights make this conversation both enlightening and engaging. Tune in and discover whether ketamine therapy might be right for you.

Your feedback and input are invaluable as I continue to fine-tune the show to better serve you, the listener. Whether you prefer shorter or longer episodes, biweekly or weekly releases, I'm eager to hear your thoughts and preferences.

Your engagement drives the direction of the show, and I'm committed to delivering content that resonates with you and brings positivity to your life. So please, don't hesitate to reach out and share your feedback. Together, let's shape the future of "The Things We All Carry" and continue spreading light and inspiration.

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Eric Part 2 - FL

Wed, 15 May 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 119 of "The Things We All Carry." Today marks the continuation of our conversation with Eric, a seasoned firefighter, former paramedic, and emerging standup comedian. As I mentioned last week, Eric's journey spans nearly 25 years in the firefighting profession, alongside 17 years of marriage and the joys of fatherhood to a teenage daughter.

Through his comedic endeavors, Eric has found a unique way to navigate life's challenges, transforming personal experiences into jokes and stories that resonate with audiences. In this second part of our conversation, Eric shares further insights into his journey, exploring the power of humor in processing adversity and finding light in the darkest moments.

As we delve deeper into Eric's story, I encourage you to listen with an open mind and heart. Your feedback and input are invaluable as I continue to fine-tune the show to better serve you, the listener. Whether you prefer shorter or longer episodes, biweekly or weekly releases, I'm eager to hear your thoughts and preferences.

Thank you for being part of this journey, and enjoy Episode 119 with Eric.

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Eric - FL

Wed, 08 May 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 118 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, I'm excited to introduce Eric from central Florida. With nearly 25 years in the firefighting profession, Eric's journey has been marked by dedication and resilience. A former paramedic, he's been married for 17 years and is a proud father to a teenage daughter. However, amidst the challenges of the job, Eric found solace in humor.

Transforming his experiences into comedic material, Eric pursued a side gig as a standup comedian. From hosting shows to performing at open mics and paid gigs, he's embraced comedy as a way to navigate life's darker moments and connect with others.

In this episode, we explore Eric's journey from firefighter to comedian, delving into the complexities of finding light in the midst of darkness. With his unique perspective and sharp wit, Eric shares insights that are both humorous and thought-provoking.

Stay tuned for Part Two of Eric's story next week, and in the meantime, don't hesitate to share your thoughts and reflections. Reach out to me at stack@thethingsweallcarry.com or connect on Instagram at @thethingsweallcarry. Let's continue this journey together, and remember to get outside and Do Something For Yourself.

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Jake - TX

Wed, 01 May 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 117 of "The Things We All Carry." This week, we have Jake from Houston joining us. Jake's journey began when he reached out to me on TikTok, and after a few attempts to connect, we decided to dive into his story blindly.

As Jake shares his experiences, I'm learning about them in real-time, making this a unique and spontaneous conversation. With 17 years of service under his belt, Jake's firefighting career started as a volunteer in 2007 before transitioning to a career firefighter in 2011. Today, he serves as a fire captain in the Houston area.

Throughout our conversation, Jake offers insights into his journey, from his early days as a volunteer to his current role as a fire captain. As we explore his story together, I'm struck by Jake's resilience and dedication to his profession.

While the interview may have its rough moments, Jake's authenticity shines through as he shares his experiences and perspectives. I encourage you to listen with an open mind and let Jake's story resonate with you.

Join us for Episode 117 of "The Things We All Carry" as we embark on a journey of discovery with Jake from Houston. Don't hesitate to share your thoughts and reflections, and remember to get outside and do something for yourself.

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John T - MA

Wed, 24 Apr 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 116 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, I'm joined by John Talin from Massachusetts. John, a Lieutenant and paramedic at Hyannis Fire, contacted me through Mike Nasti at the Tip of the Spear Leadership Podcast, and Mike couldn't have been more right in recommending him for the show.

With 24 years in the fire service, John has a wealth of experience. He also served as a former canine handler for the Massachusetts task force, and he shares some heartfelt reflections on that part of his career and the special bond he had with his canine partner.

However, what sets this episode apart is John's courage in addressing a deeply personal and often stigmatized issue: sex addiction. John felt that in his previous podcast appearances, he hadn't been completely open. He reached out to me to correct that. He wanted to talk openly about his experience with sex addiction, a topic that is often misunderstood or dismissed.

Despite the potential for judgment, John bravely shares his story, emphasizing the importance of shedding light on taboo subjects. By sharing his experiences, John hopes to help others who may be facing similar challenges and to break down the barriers to discussing sex addiction openly.

Join us for Episode 116 of "The Things We All Carry" as we listen to John's courageous story and learn from his experiences. Don't hesitate to reach out and share your thoughts. Let's engage in meaningful conversations and support one another. And remember…Get Outside and Do Something For Yourself!

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Cody T - CO

Wed, 17 Apr 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 115 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Cody, who reached out to us through Stephen Sims from Episode 102 and 106.

Cody's journey begins in Houston, where he served as a firefighter for five years at Station 55. Amidst the pressures of the job, including traumatic calls and systemic issues within the department, Cody faced additional challenges such as low pay, unfavorable hours, and the loss of his pension due to political mishandling.

After thoughtful consideration with his wife, Cody made the difficult decision to leave Houston and return to Colorado in 2019. However, his journey didn't end there. With the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic, Cody found himself navigating new career paths, eventually becoming a police officer.

In our conversation with Cody, we explore the complexities of his experiences in both firefighting and law enforcement, shedding light on the personal and professional challenges he's faced along the way. From moments of reflection on traumatic incidents to discussions about brain mapping and its potential implications, Cody's story offers insight into the multifaceted nature of first responder life.

As a husband and father of three, Cody's journey underscores the importance of balancing career aspirations with personal responsibilities. His resilience and determination serve as a testament to the strength of the human spirit in the face of adversity.

Join us for Episode 115 of "The Things We All Carry" as we journey alongside Cody through the highs and lows of his career transitions. Don't forget to get outside and do something for yourself!

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Conscious Promises We All Carry

Wed, 10 Apr 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 114 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we have a special episode featuring Joey from Conscious Movements and TJ from the Keep the Promise Podcast. Both Joey and TJ have previously shared their stories on the show, with Joey most recently in Episode 107 and TJ featured in several episodes since the beginning.

This episode centers around the topic of leaving the fire service, exploring the reasons behind such decisions, the challenges faced during transition, and how to prepare oneself for life beyond firefighting. Joey, who has been medically retired from the fire service for three years, provides insights into his journey, while TJ shares his current contemplations about his own future in the fire service.

The conversation delves into the personal and emotional aspects of leaving the fire service, offering candid reflections on the decision-making process, the feelings associated with stepping away, and the importance of preparation for post-fire service life.

Listeners will gain valuable perspectives on navigating transitions, planning for the future, and finding fulfillment beyond the fire service. The episode is filled with laughter, honesty, and meaningful insights into a topic that many firefighters may eventually face.

Join us for Episode 114 of "The Things We All Carry" as we engage in a thought-provoking conversation about leaving the fire service and preparing for what lies ahead. Don't forget to reach out to Joey, TJ, or Stack with your thoughts and questions, and remember to get out there and do something for yourself.

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Kyler - UT

Wed, 03 Apr 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 113 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Kyler, an advanced EMT from central Utah with a unique and powerful story to share. Kyler's journey unfolds from his experiences within the Latter-Day Saints Church to the devastating loss of his mother to suicide at the age of 18.

As a volunteer firefighter and EMT, Kyler has encountered multiple suicides on the job, confronting the harsh reality of mental health struggles firsthand. Through his conversation with Stack, Kyler delves into the complexities of trauma, anxiety, and the challenges of processing loss and grief.

Despite facing overwhelming anxiety and grappling with the weight of his experiences, Kyler shares how he's embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. From navigating the unexpected turns of his career to confronting his own mental health challenges, Kyler's resilience and determination shine through.

This episode offers a poignant exploration of the realities faced by first responders and the importance of prioritizing mental well-being in high-stress environments. Kyler's candid storytelling invites listeners to reflect on their own journeys and to reach out for support when needed.

Join us for Episode 113 of "The Things We All Carry" as we accompany Kyler on his journey of self-discovery and healing. Don't forget to leave a rating and share your thoughts on the show, and remember get out there and do something for yourself.

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Dr Glenn Landry -Vancouver

Wed, 27 Mar 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 112 of "The Things We All Carry." This week, we are privileged to have Dr. Glenn Landry as our guest. Dr. Landry is a renowned sleep expert and authority on circadian rhythms, with over 30 years of experience in the field.

Based out of Vancouver, Canada, Dr. Landry is the founder of Elite Sleep, a company dedicated to helping individuals optimize their sleep quality and overcome the challenges of shift work. During our conversation, Dr. Landry shares invaluable insights into the science of sleep, including its functions, stages, and the importance of maintaining healthy sleep habits.

Listeners will benefit from Dr. Landry's expertise as he breaks down complex scientific concepts into practical advice for improving sleep quality. He also highlights the significance of prioritizing sleep, especially for first responders, and offers a special discount on his online program, "Surviving Shift Work," exclusive to our audience.

In this episode, we delve deep into topics such as circadian rhythms, the biology of sleep stages, and the impact of shift work on overall health. Dr. Landry's ability to communicate complex ideas in an accessible manner ensures that listeners gain a thorough understanding of the importance of sleep for overall well-being.

Stack expresses gratitude to Dr. Landry for sharing his time and expertise, emphasizing the profound impact that prioritizing sleep can have on one's quality of life. Tune in to Episode 112 of "The Things We All Carry" to learn from Dr. Glenn Landry and take proactive steps towards improving your sleep health. And don't forget to get outside and do something for yourself.

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Tara L - ND

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 111 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we have a deeply important conversation with Tara Lorens from North Dakota. Tara's story is one of immense courage and resilience in the face of tragedy.

After the devastating loss of her husband, Doug, to suicide, Tara has been left grappling with financial uncertainty and legal complications. She discovered that she lacks ownership of their home and car, as her name is not on the mortgage or deed. Additionally, her insurance paperwork is in disarray.

In this episode, we hear Tara's plea for help and support. Stack urges listeners to rally together in a collective effort to assist Tara and her children during this challenging time. The show serves as a call to arms, seeking financial contributions to a GoFundMe campaign and seeking legal advice from those experienced in navigating the aftermath of suicide.

Your support and assistance can make a tangible difference in Tara's life and help provide stability and security for her family. Join us in listening to Tara's story and answering her call for help in Episode 111 of "The Things We All Carry." Thank you for listening and for stepping up to support a family in need.

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Bryan, Mike, Tyler, Ian

Wed, 20 Mar 2024 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 110 of "The Things We All Carry," where this week, Stack presents a special roundtable discussion featuring four former guests. Tyler from Wisconsin (Episode 37), Ian (Episode 39), Bryan (Episodes 55, 56, 57, and 58), and Mike (Episode 75), all from Virginia join together to delve deeper into their stories and experiences.

In this candid and heartfelt conversation, these courageous individuals open up about their struggles with issues like drinking, suicide, and trauma during their careers in the fire service. They reflect on their journey of growth and share insights into how they've navigated challenges and found resilience.

From their initial reasons for coming on the show to where they are now and their future aspirations, this roundtable covers a wide range of topics. Despite some technical difficulties towards the end, the authenticity and depth of the conversation shine through.

Join Stack and his guests as they share their stories, vulnerabilities, and lessons learned in Episode 110 of "The Things We All Carry." Sit back, enjoy, and remember to take some time to enjoy Spring, get outside, and do something for yourself.

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Zach M - OH

Wed, 13 Mar 2024 03:30:00 -0400

In this Episode Zach, a military veteran and full-time firefighter from a small farm community in Ohio, opens up about his life and personal struggles. He speaks about the guilt he carries following a friend's suicide in 2014, traumatic incidents involving children he's witnessed as a paramedic matching in age to his own son, and the significant psychological impact of a false accusation of sexual assault in the military that almost led him to suicide. In the aftermath of his legal battle, he chose to leave the military and focus on rebuilding his life. Recently, he began therapy and shares his renewed commitment to his mental health, professional life, and family. He also discusses his experience with the Employer Assistance Program (EAP) and acknowledges the importance of finding a counselor who understands the specific experiences and traumas that emergency service professionals face.

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Jason W - NH

Wed, 06 Mar 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 108 of "The Things We All Carry," where each episode offers a unique perspective on personal growth and transformation. In this installment, Stack sits down with Jason Warn, the owner-operator of Mindfulness Medic, a lifestyle, mindset, and wellness brand.

Jason shares his inspiring journey of overcoming obstacles and transforming his life through the implementation of his six pillars. From battling obesity to reclaiming control of his mindset and life, Jason's story is one of resilience and empowerment.

With 11 years of experience in fire and EMS, Jason brings a unique perspective to his approach to personal development. Together, they delve into his experiences in the field and the lessons learned along the way.

Throughout the conversation, Jason provides valuable insights into how anyone can initiate positive change in their own lives. Whether it's through fitness, mindset shifts, or taking responsibility for one's actions, his story serves as a beacon of hope and encouragement.

Tune in as they explore the importance of the six pillars and how they can be applied to achieve lasting transformation. This episode is a reminder that no matter where you are in life, positive change is always within reach.

Join us for this enriching conversation with Jason Warn on "The Things We All Carry." Don't forget to share your thoughts and feedback with us on Instagram or TikTok @thethingsweallcarry or via email at stack@thethingsweallcarry.com. Enjoy the show!

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Joey Conscious Movements FLA

Wed, 28 Feb 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 107 of "The Things We All Carry." In this insightful episode, we sit down with Joey, a former firefighter paramedic from Florida who spent 12 years serving in Panama City Beach. Joey shares his journey of grappling with PTSD and transitioning out of the fire service about two and a half years ago.

This conversation delves into Joey's experiences navigating life beyond the fire service, offering valuable insights into post-service transition and personal growth. We explore his venture into Conscious Movements, a company born from his own healing journey. Through Conscious Movements, Joey aims to instigate a cultural shift within the fire service, addressing the challenges of change in such a deeply ingrained institution.

Join us as we uncover the noble mission behind Conscious Movements and Joey's efforts to effect meaningful change in the firefighting community. From discussing the hurdles of cultural transformation to sharing practical insights for personal well-being, this episode offers a rich tapestry of wisdom and reflection.

So, sit back, tune in, and glean inspiration from Joey's story. Feel free to reach out with your thoughts, questions, or comments—we're here to engage with you. And remember get out there and do something for yourself!

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Travis - KS

Wed, 21 Feb 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 106 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Travis, a dedicated firefighter EMT from Johnson County, Kansas, whose journey is as inspiring as it is insightful.

Travis shares candidly about his path to the fire service, from his tumultuous teenage years to his commitment to serving his community. With five years as a career firefighter and a previous stint as a volunteer, Travis brings a wealth of experience to the table. But it's his role as a father, husband, and peer support specialist that takes center stage in this episode.

As Travis delves into his personal struggles with alcohol and the traumatic moments he's faced in his career, he sheds light on the profound impact of mental health in the firefighting profession. With honesty and vulnerability, Travis reveals how these experiences led him to become a beacon of support for his fellow firefighters.

His journey as a peer support specialist for Johnson County and beyond underscores his unwavering commitment to improving mental health outcomes within the fire service. By sharing his story and actively engaging in solutions, Travis exemplifies the spirit of resilience and compassion that defines the firefighting community.

This conversation isn't just about Travis—it's a call to action for us all. It's a reminder that by reaching out, speaking up, and lending a helping hand, we can make a difference in the lives of others. So, as you listen to Episode 106, I encourage you to reflect on Travis's message and consider what you can do to support mental health initiatives in your own community.

I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did, and I look forward to hearing your feedback. Connect with me on social media, and let's continue the conversation. Remember, we all carry something, but together, we can lighten each other's burdens.

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Stephen Sims - A Talk About Neurodiversity

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 09:06:00 -0500

Welcome back to "The Things We All Carry," and brace yourselves for a surprise episode drop on an unexpected day. Today, I deviate from the usual schedule to present a conversation that stands out on its own merit.

In this episode, I sit down with Steven Sims, a seasoned firefighter hailing from Houston, Texas. With over a decade of experience in the fire service, Steven brings a unique perspective shaped not only by his professional endeavors but also by his journey as a parent.

The crux of our conversation revolves around Steven's role as a father to three children, one of whom has been diagnosed with autism. Steven provides candid insights into navigating the complexities of parenting a child with special needs, debunking myths and shedding light on the realities of the journey.

From advocating for his child within the education system to discovering resources and support networks, Steven's experiences offer invaluable lessons for parents facing similar challenges. His perspective underscores the importance of understanding and embracing neurodiversity, fostering a culture of acceptance and inclusivity.

As the conversation unfolds, we delve into another facet of Steven's journey—his adult diagnosis of ADHD. With honesty and vulnerability, Steven shares his process of self-discovery and adaptation, highlighting the transformative power of seeking help and making meaningful changes.

Recorded shortly after the holiday season, the episode carries a raw authenticity, accentuated by the host's battle with illness. Despite the physical setback, the dialogue brims with warmth and sincerity, inviting listeners to reflect on the interconnectedness of personal and professional spheres.

Episode 105 serves as a reminder of the profound impact of our experiences on both home and work life. It underscores the importance of open dialogue and mutual support, fostering a community where individuals can share their triumphs, struggles, and everything in between.

So, as you embark on your day, I urge you to tune in, absorb the wisdom shared by Steven Sims, and join the conversation. Because in the end, it's through sharing our stories that we truly connect and uplift one another.

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Hospice Nurse Julie - CA

Wed, 14 Feb 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 104 of "The Things We All Carry," where we embark on a poignant exploration of hospice care, end-of-life transitions, and the invaluable guidance provided by our guest, Julie McFadden, famously known as Hospice Nurse Julie.

In this deeply personal episode, the host reflects on a pivotal moment during his mother's end-of-life journey, where Julie's expertise provided clarity and comfort amidst the emotional turbulence of impending loss. Julie's social media presence, boasting a vast following across platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, serves as a beacon of support for individuals grappling with the complexities of death and dying.

With a wealth of experience spanning over 16 years in nursing, including significant stints in the ICU and hospice settings, Julie's insights are not only informed by professional expertise but also steeped in compassion and empathy. Her recent book, "Nothing to Fear," epitomizes her mission to demystify the end-of-life process, offering solace and guidance to those navigating the intricate terrain of caregiving and bereavement.

Throughout the episode, Julie shares invaluable advice on recognizing the signs of terminal decline, understanding agonal breathing, and fostering an environment of dignity and comfort for both patients and their loved ones. Her emphasis on empowerment through knowledge resonates deeply, serving as a guiding light for families facing difficult decisions and profound loss.

Moreover, the conversation extends beyond the realm of hospice care, delving into the crucial role of first responders in supporting families during moments of crisis. Julie's insights illuminate the importance of compassionate communication and holistic care, bridging the gap between medical professionals and those in need of support.

Episode 104 stands as a testament to the power of vulnerability, education, and human connection in navigating life's most profound moments. As listeners embark on this heartfelt journey, they are invited to embrace the wisdom and compassion embodied by Julie McFadden, a beacon of hope in the face of life's greatest challenges.

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Mark B - OH

Wed, 07 Feb 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 103 of "The Things We All Carry." In this installment, we delve into a personal journey intertwined with friendship, resilience, and the profound impact of life's experiences.

The episode opens with a nostalgic reflection on camaraderie as the host recounts cherished memories of concert escapades with a close friend, Mark. Their shared adventures traversing cities, attending shows, and bonding over drinks or dinners exemplify the essence of friendship.

Mark emerges as a remarkable individual—a beacon of authenticity in a world often defined by conformity. Having transitioned from Ohio to Virginia and back again, his journey unfolds against the backdrop of a distinguished career as a firefighter-medic spanning over a decade in Prince William County.

However, Mark's story is more than a testament to professional dedication; it's a testament to resilience in the face of adversity. From surviving a traumatic childhood incident that left him with severe burns to navigating the complexities of life, Mark's journey is marked by triumphs and tribulations alike.

The episode transcends mere dialogue; it's a heartfelt conversation between old friends, characterized by candor and vulnerability. Mark's return to the East Coast serves as a catalyst for reflection, offering profound insights into the transformative power of shared experiences.

As Mark contemplates reentering the fire service, his passion for the profession is palpable. Armed with a wealth of experience and a fervent desire to mentor the next generation, he embodies the spirit of service and dedication that defines the firefighting community.

Ultimately, Episode 103 encapsulates the essence of "The Things We All Carry"—a poignant reminder that our burdens, triumphs, and connections shape the tapestry of our lives. Through laughter, introspection, and shared experiences, this episode resonates as both informative and entertaining, inviting listeners on a journey of discovery and camaraderie.

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Stephen S - TX

Wed, 31 Jan 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 102 of "The Things We All Carry." In this installment, the host engages in a captivating conversation with Stephen Sims, a seasoned firefighter with a unique life story. Known as TXsickboy on Instagram or unklesims on Instagram, Stephen his journey through the fire service since 2007.

Stephen currently serving as the ladder chauffeur at station 55 in Houston, opens up about a profound experience with a double LODD (Line of Duty Death) in 2009, which significantly impacted him. He candidly describes a period where he, in his own words, "became an a*****e," and how this became a catalyst for his ongoing quest to become a better human, husband, and father.

A self-proclaimed "vagabond" from the start, Stephen's life took him from Mississippi to Alabama, Mississippi, Arkansas, and eventually Texas. The episode delves into his diverse background, including a stint in the Navy, highlighting the value of exploring foreign cultures and broadening one's perspective beyond borders.

Described by his wife as the "village people of careers," Stephen has worn many hats throughout his life. From his creative pursuits in music, art, writing, and woodworking to embracing a punk rock retirement plan with his wife since the "1900s", Stephen's multifaceted personality makes for a compelling conversation.

The episode offers listeners a chance to hear about Stephen's unique take on life in the fire service and his commitment to personal growth. Despite the challenges he faced, Stephen is actively involved in advocating for his children, who are on the autism spectrum. This episode is just the beginning of a two-part series, with Stephen returning in a later episode to discuss ADHD and parenting.

Join the host and Stephen Sims for a thought-provoking and insightful conversation that touches on life, resilience, creativity, and the pursuit of a better self. Episode 102 is not just a podcast; it's a glimpse into the diverse and inspiring stories we all carry.

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Destiny - On Being Resilient - Returns

Wed, 24 Jan 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 101 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're diving into a crucial aspect of our lives—one that many of us carry but often find challenging to explore. I'm thrilled to welcome back Destiny Morris, a licensed marriage and family therapist from California, specializing in the unique challenges faced by first responders, their spouses, and relationships.

In her practice, Destiny offers individual sessions and facilitates a group for first responder spouses, delving into the complexities of life in a way that only someone with her expertise can. In a previous episode (Episode 79, aired on August 24th of last year), we explored topics like hypervigilance, the impact on relationships, and how the life of a first responder ripples through various aspects like interpersonal connections, family planning, and communication.

In this episode, Destiny and I delve into hypervigilance once more, touching on her spouse group and extending our conversation to include family members of first responders. Additionally, we discuss what one can expect when entering therapy, exploring the dynamics, expectations, and the sometimes-sensitive decision of when and how to step back from therapy.

Destiny shares insights into when therapy becomes a valuable ongoing support and when it might transition into a maintenance phase. It's a unique perspective on how therapy evolves and adapts to an individual's needs over time.

I want to express my gratitude to each one of you for your continued support. Your feedback, suggestions, and personal stories are invaluable. Please reach out to me on Instagram or via email at stack@thethingsweallcarry.com or mystory@thethingsweallcarry.com.

Stay tuned for Destiny Morris in Episode 101, and as always, take a moment for yourself. Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other.

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Ben Vernon - CA

Wed, 17 Jan 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to a milestone episode, folks! This is Episode 100 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we have an incredibly special guest with us, none other than Ben Vernon, a Fire Captain hailing from the heart of San Diego. Ben's journey is nothing short of remarkable; he's devoted nearly two decades to the fire service, experiencing both the world of career firefighting and volunteer work.

In this gripping episode, Ben shares his story of transformation – from a young individual unsure of his path to a seasoned public speaker, renowned for an incident that occurred eight years ago. A routine medical call took a shocking turn when Ben found himself in an altercation with a bystander. In a matter of seconds, he and his crew faced a life-threatening attack, leaving Ben and a co-worker stabbed.

The narrative unfolds as Ben walks us through the harrowing details of the incident, the aftermath, and the emotional rollercoaster that followed. From being a first responder to becoming a patient himself, Ben takes us on a journey through the physical and emotional recovery process, offering profound insights into resilience and the human spirit.

This episode is not just another story; it's a testament to the strength of the human will. Ben's candid reflections on the mistakes made and the subsequent attempt on his life make for a truly fascinating and thought-provoking tale. Despite the challenges, Ben and his crew member survived, and today, he stands before us, a dedicated public speaker traveling the world, advocating for mental health and sharing his inspiring story.

As we delve into this gripping narrative, we're reminded of the increasing instances of violence against first responders. Ben's experience serves as a powerful reminder to stay vigilant on every call, as you never know what challenges might arise.

So, without further ado, let's dive into Episode 100 with Ben Vernon. Sit back, absorb the resilience, and share your thoughts. And as we close this chapter at 100, get ready for more incredible stories to come in Episode 101 next week. Enjoy the show!

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Chris B - VA Leashes of Valor

Wed, 10 Jan 2024 03:30:00 -0500

Episode 99 iwith Chris Bowers…Director of Programs
withLeashes of Valor.

Leashes of Valor is a non-profit in Fredericksburg, Virginia that trains service dogs for post-9/11 veterans. These highly trained dogs help veterans who have experienced PTSD, Traumatic Brain Injury, or Military Sexual Trauma.

Chris joined the show to share his story and give us the background about the organization.

You can learn more about their staff, their mission, and how to donate leashesofvalor.org/.

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Diane C - MA Reissue

Wed, 03 Jan 2024 03:30:00 -0500

In the first episode of the new year, "The Things We All Carry" revisits an impactful conversation with Diane Cotter, a name that resonates strongly within the firefighting community. The host pays tribute to Diane's unwavering dedication and resilience in the face of adversity, as she fought for awareness and change after her husband's cancer diagnosis linked to firefighting gear.

Diane's relentless battle against PFAS-infested gear, a substance with devastating effects on the body, is explored in this reissued episode. The host emphasizes Diane's heroism, acknowledging her triumph over powerful opponents, including political figures and union representatives more interested in personal gain than firefighter well-being.

Originally episode 61, this re-release serves as a tribute to Diane's courage and commitment. The host reflects on the past year, expressing gratitude for the audience's support and hinting at exciting developments in the coming year. Taking a break to clear thoughts and recharge, the host encourages listeners to embrace self-reflection and growth in the new year.

As the episode concludes, the host teases upcoming shows, promising intriguing content and urging the audience to continue supporting the podcast by sharing, liking, and spreading the word. The episode encapsulates a mix of gratitude, reflection, and anticipation, setting the tone for an engaging year ahead.

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Marshall (Reissue)

Wed, 27 Dec 2023 03:30:00 -0500

In this episode of "The Things We All Carry," Stack reflects on the aftermath of Christmas and the emotions that come with it. Sharing personal experiences, Stackdiscusses the blend of anticipation and letdown that often accompanies the holiday season.

Keeping the introduction short due to a recovering voice, Stack reintroduces Marshall, a newly promoted fire captain and a colleague with a unique journey in the fire service. Marshall, a cancer survivor diagnosed at age 19, shares his remarkable story of overcoming aggressive cancer and the subsequent challenge of rediscovering life. The conversation delves into Marshall's survivor's guilt, a constant battle with the fear of cancer recurrence, and the emotional toll of living with uncertainty.

Marshall's experiences in the fire service unfold, including the tragic suicide of a crew member named Marcello. Marshall candidly discusses the impact of suicide on the crew and his personal coping mechanisms. The episode further explores Marshall's family life, addressing his son's struggles with ADHD and the adjustments made within the family to provide necessary support and care.

Throughout the conversation, Marshall emphasizes the importance of therapy in addressing untreated issues stemming from his experiences in the fire service, cancer diagnosis, and family challenges. The episode offers a compelling and open dialogue on the complexities of life, mental health, and resilience within the context of a demanding profession.

Originally released as episode seven, this reissue provides a poignant and insightful glimpse into Marshall's journey, highlighting themes of survival, resilience, and the ongoing pursuit of mental well-being.

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Tyler (WI)

Wed, 20 Dec 2023 03:30:00 -0500

This week's episode is from the vault. I'm re releasing episode 37. Tyler is from Wisconsin, he is a firefighter for 18 years and 12 of those he's been in EMS Tyler is currently a paramedic and a captain in his department.

He has one of those stories where the personal is intertwined with the professional. He was married, he was divorced, and then tragedy struck. He shares his story of not only that tragedy, but what he did to overcome the tragedy, and how he's moved forward, and where he is today. As I said in my initial write up or intro for this show, it focuses on his life, that fateful day, his recovery, and his message to anyone fighting their own demons.

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Bobby - NC

Wed, 13 Dec 2023 03:30:00 -0500

Bobby is out of Raleigh, North Carolina. He joined the fire service as a part of the junior program in 2008. He turned 18 and he was hired as a career firefighter. He is what you would call your prototypical black cloud. Any, as he said, any fucked up call in the department has happened when he's been on shift. He's had numerous traumatic calls. In 2018 he had a brush with death He brushes it off as I spent some time in the hospital kind of thing but he came close to damn near dying.

Between constant work,full time firefighting, part time firefighting, chimney work, construction work, he left no time for family and it took a toll. Then he had this call that just tipped the scales and something snapped. He reached out for help after a suicide attempt. You'll hear in the show where that suicide attempt was and how he was found. He found this program called Shields and Stripes, and he spent a month out in Arizona with this program and he can't say enough good things about it. They allowed him to find himself. They allowed him to find some of the root causes of what's going on. They allowed him to repair himself, repair his relationship with his family and start down a path of health and happiness basically.

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BiohackerBabes Lauren & Renee

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 94 of The Things We All Carry. Today, I'm joined by sisters Lauren and Renee. Lauren and Renee are both nutrition and health coaches and they go by the term of biohackers. You can find them on Instagram under @biohackerbabes.

They talk about biohacking, they talk about about health, nutrition, fitness, everything that you can think of that is going to benefit you and change you for the better.

They were introduced to this at a young age and they grew up with this. They were taught this importance of experimentation and individualization. From that individualization and this experimentation they began searching for the edge, for what's going to optimize your health and wellness.

Their podcast, The Biohacker Babes, and I quote from their bio "aims to create insight into the body's natural healing abilities, strengthen your intuition and empower you with techniques and modalities to optimize your health and wellness."

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JordanH - NC

Wed, 29 Nov 2023 03:30:00 -0500

I want to welcome you to episode 93 of The Things We All Carry. It blows my mind that I said 93. I'm creeping up on 100 episodes, and I didn't know where this show was going to go But coming up on 100 episodes is fantastic in my mind.

Jordan Hood started as a volunteer firefighter in 2002 in Pennsylvania in a very small volunteer company. He moved on to York PA in 2008, taking a step up to about 600, 700 runs a year. Then he started applying to jobs up and down the East Coast and ended up landing in Prince George's County, Maryland in 2013.

Prince George's is a busy combination system. It's a large system, bordering D. C., and they run a lot, a lot of calls. That's kind of been the theme, each position he's done, he's brought more calls, more trauma, and more stress to his life.

He ultimately left Prince George's County for a city job because he's always wanted to be a city firefighter. He's been with Charlotte, North Carolina for over five years now.

Jordan reached out to me when he listened to my episode with Mike Nasti on Tip of the Spear Leadership. Turns out that Jordan rode an engine with Mike in Prince George's County. They had a fire which they both have spoken about. Jordan gets into that fire towards the middle of this episode and how it affected him and how it affected Mike and how they move forward from it.

He's done a lot. He's seen a lot. He's been through a lot and he's, he's taken some ownership of everything lately. That's the best part, he's taken some ownership. He's made some changes and he's come out the other end a better person, a better husband, a better father. And a better firefighter and hopefully in the future a better leader because he's looking to move up in the ranks

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The Angry VikingTherapist

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 17:28:00 -0500

Today, I have the pleasure of bringing to you a gentleman who goes by the name the Angry Viking Therapist. You can find him under Dr. Trevor Wilkins on Instagram.

Dr. Trevor Wilkins is a licensed professional clinical counselor and he lives in Kentucky. He specializes in symptoms related to trauma, depression, anxiety, and post traumatic stress disorder. He works with us, this, this first responder community, the military community, high stress environments.

He's been one of us. He was a volunteer firefighter, he was an EMT, and he was a law enforcement officer for 15 years..... including a good stint with Kentucky State Police. He had his own s**t go on in his life He switched gears, went back to school, got his master's degree, started his own practice, and then went back to school again and got his doctorate.

He is a he's a fascinating individual. He works in what we call Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. We get into that a little bit. It's a pioneering form of Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It's a little less, I don't know, a little less forgiving in a way.....not as pretty. It forces you to kind of think about your reaction to antecedents and how you can change your reaction to those....and it would change the outcome quite a bit for you. As well as working with rational emotive behavior therapy, he's also specializes in EMDR We've talked about EMDR quite a bit and he, he makes some good points about how he works with the two and how one is more generalized one might be more specific.

It was a really good conversation with a fascinating individual. Who I hope to have back on the show and we're going to talk about a few more things because we started to go down a tangent and it's worth exploring. So you guys settle in, listen to Dr. Trevor Wilkins, the Angry Viking Therapist. Go enjoy your Thanksgiving.Enjoy your time with family. Enjoy your time with friends. Enjoy some time off from work, hopefully. And get out there and do something for yourselves.

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Curtis - KY

Wed, 15 Nov 2023 03:30:00 -0500

Episode 91

Curtis reached out to me a while ago. He was in a bad spot and he wanted information. He wanted to know how he could get help if he was in a department that's not union and he wanted to get into the Center of Excellence. He didn't know how to do that and he and I went back and forth. He also went back and forth with the guys from Next Rung who run an amazing program there. If you haven't heard of them, go check them out. They do amazing work.

He and I went back and forth and I just off ered some support when I could and, and some guidance when I could. Luckily it worked out for him. He found his way into the Center of Excellence as you'll hear in the show.

A little background on Curtis. He's 16 years in the fire service between EMT and actual fire. He sent me a note and he said he thought he could run from the anger. However, it followed him wherever he went. He had to see he was in trouble and he didn't do that until it was almost too late for him. As a number of my guests have said, he just hopes that one person could get something out of this show, out of the podcast, out of his story.

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AdamL - OH

Wed, 08 Nov 2023 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 90 of The Things We All Carry. This week I sat down with Adam from Ohio. Adam's been in the fire service a little bit over 10 years. He's been active in the union and some of that has kind of come back and bit him in the ass a little bit. He'll tell his side of that story and you kind of figure out why.

Adam's a father and a husband. He has an addiction that we haven't covered yet on this show. Food has been his drug of choice and he finally got to the point where he had to say enough is enough and he had to make some physical changes. He had to make some emotional changes and he had to make some mental changes, strengthen somethings n himself. He's done that and he's made it an amazing transformation, not only. physically but emotionally and mentally as well. He is a strong person and I don't mean that in only a physical sense, but he's a strong person for what he's done for himself and for what he's done for his family.

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Stack on Tip of the Spear Leadership

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 89 of The Things We All Carry. This is a podcast I recorded with Mike Nasti of Tip of the Spear Leadership. He was gracious enough to let me use the recording as a standalone episode for The Things We All Carry. He reached out to me to talk about mental health and how it affects leadership, especially in the fire service. I think you can apply that to leadership in general. So hopefully what you hear is worthwhile and interesting and you can take away something from it and apply it to your own life. I want to thank Mike for being a friend and being open to having me on the show. And for being the guest on my show a couple of times, I guess this technically makes number three for him.

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Kevin E - Cali

Wed, 25 Oct 2023 03:30:00 -0400

This week I welcome Kevin Easley.

Kevin is out of San Diego City. He's been he's been a firefighter for 30 plus years He's coming to the end of a career. I guess you could say an illustrious career, he's seen a lot of things. He's been through a number of traumatic events. He's had victories and he's had losses quite frankly.....and he has learned how to deal with both of those.

He's learned how to almost remake himself in some ways. He's been a captain on a heavy rescue in San Diego city for the majority of his career. He's a special operations guy through and through and we talked for about two hours. It was one of those conversations where I think we both just got lost in it and we probably could have talked for a little bit longer. But I had taken up enough of his time. Maybe he'll come back on and share some more.

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Charlie Collins - VA

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Today's guest is Charlie Collins. Charlie is a singer songwriter out of Northern Virginia who also happens to be a firefighter. He's a firefighter in Loudoun County. He picked up the guitar recently as a way to recover and as a piece of therapy, actually.

And from there, between TikTok, YouTube, friends and co-workers, his stuff got out on the internet and he was picked up by a producer in Nashville, Actually the son of Roger Miller and some of you might know who Roger Miller is. He's famous for the song King of the Road.

His son found Charlie and decided he was worth recording and I have to agree with him. So the result of that recording was the EP called Undisclosed and you're going to hear some of the songs from that in today's episode and you're going to hear a couple of unreleased songs

This one was a good one. This was a fun one to do. There was a typical story of life and some traumas and some drama and then recovery. But there's also five songs mixed in and it was a little tricky for me because it's the first time I've recorded music along with a podcast.

So hopefully the quality treats you right. And, and you enjoy this show as much as I did.

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Alex Potter - AK

Wed, 11 Oct 2023 03:30:00 -0400

This week I had the pleasure of speaking with Alex Potter. One of the first things Alex told me when we spoke was that she always knew hers would be a travel centered life. Travel along with living and working abroad changes and enlightens, anyone who chooses to do so. You can't help, but change a little, at least a little once you're exposed and immersed in a culture other than yours.

Anthony Bourdain once said: "Travel changes you as you move through this life and this world, you change things slightly. You leave marks behind however small. And in return life and travel leaves marks on you."

Alex went to school to become a nurse. During that time she chose to study abroad. She spent time in India, Uganda, and Jordan, while working on her degree. All the while she knew she had a passion for journalism and photography. Once she graduated, nursing jobs were tough to find and she returned to Jordan. That was the start of a career that would find her in Jordan, Yemen and Iraq. Just to name a few of the countries. Her story takes twists and turns involving revolutions invasions, wild land, firefighting, trauma nursing, and in the middle of all of it, finding love. Alex has experienced her share of trauma, death, loss, and grief.Never one to back down from a challenge, Alex has met it all head on and with her head up. Perseverance and a life fulfilled are the themes running through every aspect of her human experience.

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Stephanie - Five After Midnight

Wed, 04 Oct 2023 03:30:00 -0400

"Well behaved women rarely make history"

Marilyn Monroe, Eleanor Roosevelt, Anne Boleyn, even Princess Leia, you take your pick that line has been attributed to all four and more. Credit actually goes to Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, an American professor

Stephanie White is trying her best to make some history. Attempting to change a culture requires you to step on toes and irritate the keepers of the status quo. From marijuana, to PFAS, to mental health, to pregnancy in the fire service, Stephanie is championing progression and change. Her voice can be heard on the 5 After Midnight podcast and her writings can be found in Fire Engineering.

Stephanie and I spoke for a little over an hour last week. We had no planning and zero idea where this would take us. What follows is an off the cuff impromptu conversation between two voices riddled with thoughts, opinions, and ADHD.

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Alex-NOVA

Wed, 27 Sep 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Soren Kierkegaard wrote

"The greatest hazard of all, losing oneself, can occur very quietly in the world, as if it were nothing at all. No other loss can occur so quietly, any other loss, an arm, a leg, $5, a wife, et cetera, is sure to be noticed. "

In our day-to-day lives it's very easy to lose ourselves and our sense of self. We are often the last to notice. Alex is a firefighter from a nearby agency and his story is just that losing himself to the job. His story is a familiar one, one wrought with overtime, an all in culture, a mindset that tells you no one outside the service understands, the morbidity of humor, even a feeling of being better than anyone else, simply because of the work you do.

It's that slow transition into defining yourself as a firefighter, not as an individual or a human working as a firefighter.

Alex lost a girlfriend, nearly lost an entire set of friends, and more importantly, he lost his sense of self and turned very dark before realizing he had to change.

Through therapy he's been able to make amends and changes. He's found the outlets necessary in order to not keep the experiences and emotions bottled in. He's found the way to enjoy and live life and not simply be about the barbell and a fire truck.

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DavidA -PNW

Wed, 20 Sep 2023 03:30:00 -0400

David is a retired firefighter medic from the Pacific Northwest. He spent 28 years on the job between volunteer time and career. His story is one filled with trauma on the job to include numerous pediatric codes and death. Those traumas led him to anger, to drinking, to rehab, and eventually to recovery.

Today David is retired and he's retrained as a welder. He makes his recovery the priority in his life knowing without sobriety, nothing else would be possible. David and I spent two plus hours talking about life recovery and life after the fire service.

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Tattoo Tom - Stillbrave

Wed, 13 Sep 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Tom Mitchell is a hero. I don't throw that title around often or easily, but in this case, it's the truth. Better known as Tattoo Tom, Tom is a self-described and appropriately anointed aggressive and unapologetic activist for children with cancer and their families.

From a personal tragedy was born a dogged determination to do basically anything and everything for these kids and their families. From becoming a boxer at the age of 39 to participating in a Moab 240 to dedicating space on his own skin for the memory of children lost to this disease.....Tom has made himself the ultimate advocate.

He founded Stillbrave to provide non-medical supportive care to children with cancer and their families. The organization does that and so much more. Parents of children with cancer are overwhelmed with a diagnosis, Tom and Stillbrave are there to help. That help can be monetary, emotional, guidance with terms and procedures, or simply a chance to smile. This show is a first responder centered podcast, and it may seem odd to have tom, as a guest, trust me the connection is there. Last September I recorded with Loren, a firefighter in my area, she's also a childhood cancer survivor and a board member of Stillbrave.

A few months ago I found out that a good friend, coworker, and in all but blood a brother of mine was embarking on a cancer journey of his own. His infant son had been diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and the family needed all the help they could get. My first call was to Loren. That's all it took....one call. Loren, Tom, and Stillbrave jumped in and offered money, advice, and an ear. I'm indebted to them for the help they gave so easily in generously.

Listen to Tom's story. Hear the ugly truths about cancer and the treatments. Understand how little is spent on research. Find a way to do your part in this battle.

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The Painted Buffalo

Wed, 06 Sep 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Gandhi said that the "best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others." Jess Rambo is a creative force behind the Painted Buffalo. She's a Marine Corps veteran who has taken her artistic skill and passion and applied it to the veterans community. Her love of art and love for veterans meets in the middle to create opportunities for vets to tell their stories. It doesn't matter if the story is ever heard by anyone else, it simply matters that they are able to express themselves.

Jess hit the road at the beginning of COVID in a school bus, she renovated for her family to live in. Along the way they hit 38 states, 30 national parks and over 300 meetups for veterans all the while meeting over 1200 individual veterans . Her Paint Can Project provides veterans with socks, water bottle shirts, and art supplies meant to encourage them to open up, begin a journey and tell their story.

Today Jess and her children call North Georgia home. She has an even larger and more grandiose vision of what her service can become. She is creating a homestead for her family, her animals, and the veterans to commune, create and connect. Jess has lost herself in the service of others. And we all benefit from the self she's finding a new.

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Chad ”Burnt Out”

Wed, 30 Aug 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Dostoevsky wrote

"You will burn and you will burn out. You'll be healed and come back again."

Those words resonate with me. In some manner, small or large, we burn every day. Day-to-day life alone burns us and then we add traumas, work schedules, irregular sleep, poor diet, and numerous other stressors. I'm not sure if burnout is inevitable but in the first responder world, it's hardly rare.

The second part of that message is vital though...."you will be healed and come back again". That healing starts once there's a recognition and an acceptance of burnout. If you notice some signs and symptoms of burnout it's paramount to seek out help, talk to someone, dig into the why, build a recovery, and then come back again.

Chad Davis is the author of "Burnt Out: A Paramedic's Memoir". This book is his story, his journey, his experience. Chad is a firefighter, a medic, an author, a husband, and a father. He has lived through a number of life altering traumas and has come through the other side. He speaks about life in the station, the significant calls, the traumas, the death of his infant son, the fight to find himself, and life after all of it.

In other words, Chad has been burned, he's been burnt out, he's healed, and he's come back again.

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Destiny Morris @on_being_resilient

Thu, 24 Aug 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Destiny Morris is a licensed marriage and family therapist from California. Her practice centers around first responders, spouses, and relationships. She is certified as a first responder counselor as well as being trained in the practice of EMDR and trauma informed. She works with individuals, couples and holds first responder partner groups.

In this conversation, we discussed the idea of hyper-vigilance and how it affects relationships. We delve into the topic of sex...yeah sex, sex and the first responder. Sex, interpersonal relationships, family planning, communication, and how the life of a first responder affects all of it.

You can find destiny on Instagram under the name @on_being_resilient I look forward to having her on again to get a little more into the weeds on a few of these subjects.

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Sara Thrash-TX

Wed, 23 Aug 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 78 of The Things We All Carry.

Macklemore said.....

"Music is therapy. Music moves people. It connects people in ways that no other medium can. It pulls heartstrings. It acts as medicine."

Sarah Thrash is a Texan, a daughter, a sister, a fighter, and a survivor. Music is a passion and a therapy of sorts for her, whether playing piano, listening to music as the sun sets, or sharing suggestions with strangers on Instagram. Music moves her and helps heal her.

I noticed her stories on Instagram and started following her suggestions and links to songs. I found that to be a wonderful foray into new music and artists. Little did I know that she also had a story to tell. Sarah has experienced numerous traumas and trials in her life. She's faced a long road to recovery from both emotional and physical injuries. She's determined to push on and not let the traumas define or defeat her.

She will be the first to tell you that in her life, the overarching theme is hope. That hope is as much for her as it is for the world around her.

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Ryan A - DC

Wed, 16 Aug 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Ryan is a firefighter in Washington, DC. His experiences with work and life demonstrate a need for a global approach to mental health. We can't only worry about the calls we need to be in tune with all aspects of life for a firefighter. Knowing what trials and tribulations a firefighter's living through and dealing with allows us as peers and leaders to better serve our people.

Ryan dealt with cancer and death in an up close and personal manner. He was thrust into a caretaker role at a point in time, he could never have imagined being necessary. He discusses the realities of caring for a loved one as cancer rages and death approaches. There are moments of beauty and grace sprinkled among the indignity of death. He doesn't pull punches when sharing the uglier side of cancer and hospice. He also shares how this experience has changed his approach at work and the reactions he has had to certain calls.

Separating the two worlds, firehouse and personal life is difficult in the best of times. However, when tragedy strikes it's damn near impossible.

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CopShrink-CA

Wed, 09 Aug 2023 03:30:00 -0400

"My purpose in life is to alleviate suffering."

That's the mission statement of this week's guest. Deana, also known as CopShrink on Instagram, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the state of California. Her focus is working with cops, firefighters and the spouses of both. In addition she responds to large-scale or significant incidents requiring CISM.

In other words...she sees the first responder on their worst day.

Dean has been in practice for 10 plus years and brings her own experiences of trauma and recovery as part of her toolkit. She's a rare therapist who speaks our language and has been touched by our traumas as well. Growing up, her grandfather was in law enforcement. Eventually retiring as chief of police and she was married to a cop as well.

Deana shares her personal story, as well as professional. She's open and candid about topics such as abuse, marriage, divorce, addiction, faith and recovery.

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Mike-VA

Wed, 02 Aug 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Mike is a 15 year career firefighter and has 17 years as a paramedic. He started his career at a young age as a volunteer. He's also a husband and a father of two young children.

I was scrolling through Facebook one day when I happened upon a post from a firefighter in Central Virginia. He was asking for donations to raise money for the Center of Excellence. He wasn't simply asking for money though, he was asking for sponsorship for a run he had planned. That run would take him from Central Virginia across the Potomac River to Southern Maryland up to the Center of Excellence, making it a distance of roughly 80 miles. After reading his post, I reached out and floated the idea of having him as a guest on the show. After some discussion back and forth and an hour long phone call, we settled on a day and time. Mike and I sat down together in my apartment and recorded this conversation.

Mike shares his early brushes with death and trauma and how those times formed and affected him. He's open about the mistakes he's made. The alcohol he used as an escape and the road he is on towards recovery.

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Bonus Episode Pop-Up on Sleep

Thu, 27 Jul 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Some of y'all might recognize this week's guest from Episode 52, as I welcome back Brad from the Eastern Shore of Maryland.

Brad is a third generation firefighter with 22 years of service. He first started as a volunteer and is now approaching 18 years with his career department. Brad reached out to my request for impromptu interviews and it intrigued me since I'd already heard his life story in a previous episode we recorded. It turns out he had a new subject to discuss. He was part of the 62 Romeo sleep cohort and wants to spread the word as a sleep ambassador.

Brad shares his sleep story, tips that help him, what changes he's made and a few other bits of information.

Look up Episode 48 to find out even more information on 62 Romeo.

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Andy Pantelis IAFF District 4 VP-MD

Wed, 26 Jul 2023 03:30:00 -0400

This week offer up my conversation with Andy Pantelis. Andy is the District Four vice-president for the IAFF. For those of you who are non-fire related listeners the IAFF is the international association of firefighters. Andy he was elected to his position in 2016 and he represented the local affiliates at Delaware, Maryland, Pennsylvania, Virginia, West Virginia, and DC.

Andy is also the president of Local 1619 Prince George's county, Maryland, as well as a battalion chief in Prince George's county. He's been with his department since 1997.

We spent about an hour and a half, one morning speaking via zoom. The conversation ranges from mental health to retirement, to cancer prevention, with a few other topics scattered in there. This kind of conversation is helpful, but not exhaustive. We could've spent an episode alone on each topic. Perhaps a deeper dive into a few subjects is warranted in the future. Feel free to reach out to me with any questions or comments concerning this episode or any other.

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Ricky Nuttall - London

Wed, 19 Jul 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Ricky Nuttall is a London firefighter with one hell of a story. On June 14th, 2017, he was dispatched to a structure fire during the early morning hours. That fire turned out to be the deadliest fire in London since world war II. He joined over 250 other first responders to battle the blaze, a devastating blaze at Grenfell tower. Grenfell claimed the lives of 72 residents and injured over 70 more.

Ricky shares his insights and his personal story of that night, as well as how it affected his mental health. Today, he uses that experience and his recovery in presentations to schools, fire departments, and prisons. Just to name a few. He is now a mental health advocate, focusing on raising awareness on the importance of social and workplace mental health and wellbeing. He'll be the first to tell you that he suffered from PTSD after Grenville. He was forced to make decisions that night that altered his life. Add to that childhood trauma and various other service-related traumas it combined to throw his life into a tailspin. He survived his battle with some very serious demons and he is here today to tell the story of recovery.

Ricky coined the phrase, firefighters leave incidents, but incidents don't leave us. In other words.....these are the things we all carry.

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RyanSacMetro-CA

Wed, 12 Jul 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 71 of The Things We All Carry.

It's been a couple months since I put out a call for people interested in doing an impromptu interview.This is another in that series of pop-up interviews.

Ryan is a captain with SacMetro in California. He responded to my message and waited patiently as our schedule seemed to never align. Luckily we were able to sit down and record recently. Ryan shares his own story of trauma and recovery before discussing his work as a peer support coordinator in his department from deadly auto accidents to near misses on house fires we talk about how and why it affected him. Ryan also talks about his experience with EMDR as well as brain spotting.

His goal with the peer support program centers on making certain other firefighters know they aren't alone and are made aware of all the resources available to them.

We kind of joined this conversation as he and I are already rolling along. I never got to do my typical lead in for a guest but it seemed like the right thing at the time.

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Robbie Reissue

Wed, 05 Jul 2023 03:30:00 -0400

One of the disturbing topics that Robbie and I discuss in this episode is how the insurance company is able to both deny his diagnosis of ptsd and then deny his application for life insurance based upon his diagnosis of P. T. S. D.

You know that diagnosis..... they denied he had in the first place?

This is but one example of how corporations treat individuals and are free to do as they please. Robbie's story should be alarming to all of us. The poor state of mental health awareness and care in our country is disturbing. It affects our country at a basal level which leads to a very universal effect.

The state of our mental health care can be seen in our addiction rates, gun violence, homelessness, prison overcrowding, and so on.

This conversation needs to be had and changes must be made.

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Kathy-Last Call Foundation

Wed, 28 Jun 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Maya Angelou wrote in "Letter to My Daughter".

"I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it."

No person sums this up better than Kathy Crosby-Bell in 2014, Kathy experienced a tragedy that no mother should be exposed to. Her son, Michael Kennedy was killed in the line of duty. Michael a Boston firefighter was riding engine 33 on March 26th, 2014. He and Lieutenant ed Walsh were first due to a wind-driven fire in the back bay area of Boston. That fire claimed both of their lives.

Kathy as a mother had every right to fall apart and have anger at the world. In place of that. Kathy made it her goal to fight for the life safety of every firefighter. She founded the Last Call Foundation in Michael's memory. Michael and Lieutenant Walsh died in part due to a failed firehose. They never got the water they called for multiple times.

Last Call started there…

“Why isn't there a burn proof hose for firefighters? “

That mission has now morphed into a battle with special interests and the NFPA. Kathy and Last Call have also expanded their interest into cancer detection, fighting PFAS, helping firefighters seek help for PTSD and offering grants for research in the realm of the fire service.

Because Kathy refused to be reduced by the tragedy of Michael's death the entire fire service has and will benefit from her fight. I'm honored Kathy chose to share her story with me. She is a true inspiration and a testament to what we as humans can do when we harness our power and our tenacity.

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Rescue_RD

Wed, 21 Jun 2023 03:30:00 -0400

I had the pleasure of speaking to Megan Lautz this week. Megan is a registered dietician and personal trainer. She works for Fairfax county here in Virginia and has her own personal practice as well. She's better known as @rescue_RD on social media.

Megan has made it her ambition to help first responders with nutrition and the rigors of work in these jobs and shifts. According to her bio and her website.

"First responders face unique challenges. When it comes to health, these challenges have inspired me to create targeted realistic solutions through the life cycle of a first responders career. I thrive on translating complicated health information into manageable lifestyle changes to fit into an unpredictable shift."

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Kim-MN

Wed, 14 Jun 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Kim is a paramedic out of Minnesota with 10 years of experience. She started training for and qualifying as an EMT during high school and as soon as she was old enough, she began her career on the ambulance. She has seen more than her fair share of traumas, injuries and illnesses. And she has a distinct pleasure of being called a true black cloud.

Unfortunately, Kim also experienced the horrors of an accident while driving the ambulance on duty and on a call. She shares her experience, recover and future plans with me.

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32EngineDC

Wed, 07 Jun 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 66 of The Things We All Carry. This is the second in a series of impromptu pop-up style interviews that I conducted a few weeks ago. Chris and Dan joined me for a conversation from their firehouse in DC.

32 Engine is based in Southeast DC. And Chris is the wagon driver. Dan is a Lieutenant as well as being a member of his department's peer support team. Dana and I have interacted off and on via social media for a while now always seeming to almost cross paths. I appreciated the time to sit, have a conversation and at least put a voice to the name.

The city was kind enough to give us an uninterrupted hour on a Saturday night. And I will tell you that Dan texted me the next morning to report they ended up running 20 calls that shift. Our conversation was unscripted and as impromptu as it gets. We hit on a variety of topics to include peer support, line of duty deaths, living and working in the chaos, and crew life. This audio will seem a little raw and I left it that way on purpose after all they were calling in from the bay of their firehouse while on shift. I felt that deserve to be heard that way.

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Chris Torres FDNY/Next Rung/IGY6

Wed, 31 May 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Chris Torres is a firefighter with FDNY owner of IGY6 Fitness out of New York. He's also a peer support counselor for Next Rung, as well as Vice President and board member of Next Rung. Chris was generous enough to spend about 90 minutes of his valuable time talking to me and sharing his story.

He was born and raised in New York city. He also played collegiate baseball in New York city. And then he found his way to the fire department shortly after college. We discussed both his professional and personal journey along the way. In addition, we talk about his work in the fitness realm and how he is trying to lead prospective firefighters to success.

Chris opens up about the how and why he found it got involved with Next Rung as well as the role he currently plays in that organization. Chris brings a passion to everything he does in life. And it tends to be infectious. He's the kind of person who, after speaking with him inspires you to run head first into whatever brick wall may be in your path.

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Michelle

Wed, 24 May 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to episode 64 of The Things We All Carry. I was doing some work for the show a couple of weeks ago, when an idea came to me. I had read about a pop-up farmer's market and thought the idea could be applied to an interview. Instead of planning out a show by speaking to and interview a guest prior to recording, why not do an impromptu pop-up style interview. Go into an interview, not knowing what's going to be said, not prepared and just have a conversation. The only question I had was who would want to do that? Who would want to give up an hour or so on a Saturday night to share their personal stories and, or traumas.

Turns out when you ask people are more than willing to do just that. So I recorded two shows that Saturday and have a list of people interested in doing another round. Michelle was the first one to reach out to me after I posted. She and I have "spoken" a few times in the past via comments and messages on Instagram. So I knew a little of her life, but I knew nothing of what she shares in this episode.

Michelle is a call taker for 911 service in the Southeastern United States. She shared her stories of childhood, marriage, divorce, and trauma from her job. I had no idea what to expect from this off the cuff conversation, but it definitely didn't disappoint.

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Tip Of The Spear Leadership

Wed, 17 May 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Leadership and mental health are very separate, yet related issues in and around a firehouse.

A good leader will have his or her finger on the pulse of a crew, have the ability to recognize ups and downs. Notice what is, and isn't normal for someone. Foster an environment and an atmosphere that allows for a crew member to express issues and ask for help. A good leader can also help develop mental fitness and wellness in a proactive approach. A leader good, bad or indifferent can make or break a crew.

Lieutenant Mike Nasti is the creator and voice behind "Tip of the Spear Leadership Podcast". Tip of the Spear is a podcast developed for and about leadership. This platform brings the wisdom of various leaders from around the fire service. They share their experience, both failures and successes so we all can learn from them. There's no sugarcoating and no panacea offered just solid information from respected voices.

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A Little More Sweary

Wed, 10 May 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to episode 62 of The Things We All Carry. Today, I'm joined again by Kristie of Sweary Therapy. This is our third episode and she's becoming somewhat of a regular on the show. Her previous episodes are numbers 15 and 30. Kristie is a licensed mental health therapist in the state of Florida.

She isn't your typical staid and starch therapist. She's coming at you with blue pink or multi-colored hair. And she is unafraid to match your firehouse language. Kristie stands out from the get-go and she's a challenge to the status quo.

The thing is she has the knowledge to back it up. The easiest way to describe Kristie is reading directly from our website and I quote. As your therapist, I promise to always be authentic and genuine. And for me, that might include dropping those F bombs and getting into the real s**t with my clients.

I want you to know that you can and should express yourself authentically with me. And if that includes colorful language great. If that's not your style, no worries. As long as you know, you're free to express yourself, however you are comfortable. End quote. Her tagline is simple. And to the point it's just f*****g therapy.

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Diane Cotter- MA

Wed, 03 May 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to episode 61of The Things We All Carry. Few words can strike fear, like the word cancer. The adage is that it will touch everyone's life at some point. That's never been truer for me. As I sit here writing today, I have my own mother foremost in my mind. She's put up a Valiant and brave fight over the last few years after being diagnosed with stage four lung cancer. Her spirits never seemed to break over that time and that holds true today while she's home in hospice care. My mind also turns to a friend, really a brother, as he and his family turn their energy and focus to this battle as well.

Unfortunately as firefighters, we are much more susceptible to this insidious disease than the rest of the population. For many years, we've all heard this dismissal of it's part of the job or something to that effect. We face numerous carcinogens on a daily basis from diesel exhaust to poor sleep to the byproducts of house fires.

The last thing we need is another risk added to that list. Yet in a cruel twist of fate. We have just that and it comes in the very gear meant to protect us. Our turnout gear's festering with and continually shedding what are commonly called forever chemicals or classified as PFAS. They are known carcinogens, with their identified quote unquote safe levels.

Our gear greatly exceeds any so-called acceptable levels. Every time we Don our gear we put ourselves at greater risk for the fight of our lives. Diane Cotter is a patron Saint. She met our industry head on with dogged determination after her husband, a 28 year vet of the Worcester fire department was diagnosed with cancer. Her journey was one of discovery, both as a person and an activist. An unassuming wife and mom, who at one point refuse to have more than 99 Facebook friends became the face and voice of a fierce battle for what amounted to the soul of the fire service. She took up the mantle and the burden of advocacy at the time when the old guard had selfish reasons to quiet and discredit her. Much to our benefit she never quit and didn't back down despite their efforts. Take a listen, as Diane tells her story from the personal side of the battle. Listen as she speaks of the toll it took on her and how she came out the other side.

Then find a way to thank and applaud her for everything she's accomplished for all of us in a fire service. It turns out that we as firefighters really do need heroes. And Diane Cotter is just that our superhero.

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Doug-KS

Wed, 26 Apr 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Doug is a retired assistant chief from the Heartland of America. He spent the majority of his career as a paid guy in a volunteer system. He brings a unique perspective to the show as he's been out of the game for seven plus years now. Mike sent me an email to mystory@thethingsweallcarry.com a while back.

It caught my eye because it wasn't a typical response that I get his subject matter was the makeshift memorials. You find on the side of the road. We all know them and see them marking the spot. A loved one died. Mike's take on. It is a little different, and I tend to agree with them. We as first responders have a difficult time relinquishing some memories.

And these memorials actually serve to refresh our memories. Each time we see them. Speaking from my own perspective, I can't drive through my county and not identify spots where I've cut people out of cars, perform CPR, attended to a battered and mangled body from a hit and run. Or that one time I pulled the truck over to block traffic.

And found the issue to be a dog slowly and painfully dying after being struck by a car. These stand out to me and hit me at various times in places. I can understand how these memorials can serve as a trigger for those involved from the rescue side of an 📍 accident.

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That Time We Solved Problems

Wed, 19 Apr 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Today we set out to discover what happens when you put four podcasters in one room with four microphones. I can tell you it's a little bit of controlled chaos. It was just about a year ago today that I met TJ when he drove to Virginia to meet me and record an episode for this idea. That conversation was the first interview I ever held for the things we all carry. Little did I know that we would strike up a friendship and not only remain in touch but depend on each other for random advice and problem solving. A short time later, Stephanie did the same exact thing and lo and behold also became a sort of advisor in confident. Mike is the loan holdout, but planning continues and he will soon debut on my show.

Between the time we spent together and the texts in a group chat. I know I have the distinct honor and privilege to call these three people, colleagues and friends. The fact that we can sit in a room and have an open. And at times even intelligent conversation is such a blessing for me.

I can't suggest enough that you listen to their shows. You can find TJ as the host of the Keep the Promise Podcast. Stephanie show is called the Five After Midnight podcast and Lieutenant Mike Nasti is the host of Tip of the Spear Leadership.

Each show brings a different take to the fire service yet share certain pieces along the way. Take the time to download and listen to each of them. In my opinion, they are some of the best voices in the fire service genre.

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BONUS EPISODE Bryan- Dealing With Death

Thu, 13 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Welcome to a bonus episode of The Things We All Carry. During the past three episodes I have given the microphone over to Bryan. Bryan, as you may recall, is a retired fire captain with over 34 years of service. He and I spent four plus hours recording his story and his thoughts . One day, after we recorded what we both thought was our final part, Bryan reached out to me and asked if we could sit down again.

I was a bit hesitant at first, simply because we had so much material as it was. I asked why he felt it necessary, and he replied with," I don't think I did a good enough job relaying how much I came to resent death and how I never wanted to see it again". That of course caught my attention and we planned another round.

I initially intended to cut, edit and paste the newest material into episode 57, which is part three of his series. But after listening to the bonus material, I decided it deserved to be a standalone episode. What follows is roughly 30 minutes of Bryan sharing his thoughts on death and me stumbling as I just try to stay out of his way.

I think these 30 minutes are insightful and intriguing and I hope you find the same.

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Bryan-Virginia Part 3

Wed, 12 Apr 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Welcome to Episode 57 of The Things We All Carry. TodayI bring you the final part of my interview with Bryan. In the previous episodes, Bryan discussed various calls and traumas and effects from both of them. From the graphic and all to real calls he ran as a volunteer to experiencing the worst day of firefighter can have.

Bryan discusses his realization that his career has taken a toll on him, both physically and emotionally. He shares the "whys and hows" about how he finally gets to help he needs. He's open about his resistance to, and his inability to be forthcoming in a few attempts at therapy and how it limits his chance at any real or actual recovery.

We discussed the insights he's earned and learned along the way. And he shares both his failures and successes. Bryan will tell you point blank that he is far from finished figuring it out. He won't hesitate to point out that this thing we all call life is simply a work in progress.

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Bryan-Virginia Part 2

Wed, 05 Apr 2023 03:30:00 -0400

In this episode, we discuss the line of duty death of Kyle Wilson. Kyle was a firefighter in Virginia who lost his life in a house fire in the early morning hours of April 16th, 2007.

You can learn more about Kyle and his fire by going to YouTube and searching. F L S T P Kyle Wilson. On that fateful morning, Bryan was the officer of the first arriving rescue squad. He and his crew made numerous attempts to find and rescue Kyle. Once conditions became untenable. All crews were ordered to evacuate and tragically... Kyle lost his life.

Bryan shares his experience with both the fire and all that transpires following that day.

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Bryan-Virginia

Wed, 29 Mar 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Today's episode. Is part one of my conversation with Bryan. Bryan is one of those firemen and fire ground officers. I have looked up to since joining the fire service. He is and was at times a larger than life figure in my department. One of those guys you hear others label a "Fireman's Fireman". Bryan retired roughly 16 months ago after a 34 year career, six is a volunteer and 25 as a career guy. Drawing from an extensive fire career in which he's experienced numerous highs, lows, and absolute tragedies. Brian spent a few hours sharing his thoughts and shining a light on what we all call the job.

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Kevin: A Thousand Naked Strangers

Wed, 22 Mar 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Kevin hazard is a reporter turned paramedic, turned author. His book, "A Thousand Naked Strangers: A Paramedic's Wild Ride To The Edge and Back" chronicles his experiences as a paramedic in Atlanta. Kevin spent time as a reporter in the city before deciding to sign up for training as a paramedic. Soon he was thrown into the deep end, working as an EMT in the worst parts of Atlanta.

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Rick-Fifty11_Media

Wed, 15 Mar 2023 03:30:00 -0400

Today I'm speaking with Rick from Fifty_11 media. Rick is a former paramedic turned graphic artist. He founded 50 11 after his retirement from the EMS world. Fifty_11's mission statement is as follows....

"Fifty_11 is a brand that stands up and stands out for those who suffer from PTSD every day. We see you and we're here to let you know, you are not alone. Our goal is to bring the conversations about PTSD to the light and show that you don't have to suffer in silence. Too many of us are lost because of the stigma and shame that society is attached to mental health in this country. And it's time to end it. ......"

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Brad-MD

Wed, 08 Mar 2023 03:30:00 -0500

I sit down with Brad from the Eastern shore of Maryland. Brad is a third generation firefighter with 22 years of service. He started as a volunteer and is now approaching 18 years with his career department. In this episode, Brad details his story of post-traumatic growth by shedding light on the topic of mental health. Today. Brad uses his experience of growth and personal development to help others in their efforts with their own journey with mental health.

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BURNED

Wed, 01 Mar 2023 03:30:00 -0500

In episode 51, we sit down with Elijah Yetter-Bowman, founder of Ethereal Films, to discuss their latest film entitled "Burned".

"Burned" is a powerful expose on the use of PFAS or "forever chemicals" in our turnout gear. As you'll hear in our conversation, forever chemicals are everywhere, but the concentration levels in items meant to protect us are astounding and disturbing. Elijah's work, along with others in the film, hopes to bring increased attention and drive the necessary changes.

Elijah's path to becoming a filmmaker and problem solver is equally fascinating. Growing up in Wilmington, North Carolina, they attended UNC Chapel Hill originally to pursue a path in healthcare. Recognizing the lack of creative communication for complex issues, they founded Ethereal Films to help solve dire problems through storytelling and impact campaigns. Elijah's expertise and work have received numerous awards, including the Southern Exposure Film Festival in 2021, and they were dubbed a Kentucky Colonel by Governor Beshear in 2022 for their efforts on PFAS awareness.

Join us on The Things We All Carry to hear Elijah's story and learn more about the important work they're doing to drive change. Listen to our podcast on all major platforms.

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TJ Gets Me Talking

Wed, 22 Feb 2023 03:30:00 -0500

In this milestone 50th episode of "The Things We All Carry," Stack is interviewed by TJ of "Keep the Promise" podcast, who previously shared his story of a coworker's line of duty death. Together, they discuss the host's history, fire experiences, and the future of the podcast. The conversation covers some unconventional topics, including psychedelics. Tune in to this episode to join their engaging and thought-provoking discussion.

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Mike-Rhode Island

Wed, 15 Feb 2023 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to Episode 49 of The Things We All Carry. In this episode, we sit down with Mike, a firefighter/paramedic from Rhode Island with over 20 years of experience in the fire service. Mike shares his story of struggles with mental health and the challenges he faced on his journey to becoming a Lieutenant.

Mike's journey is one of resilience and determination. Despite the obstacles he faced, he was able to rise through the ranks and become a leader in his department. Through his experiences, Mike has made it his mission to ensure that no one else in the fire service has to go through what he did.

Join us as Mike shares his story and sheds light on the importance of mental health in the fire service. As he says, "Ultimately, the only thing that is important is to share our stories. I hope to share mine with you." Don't miss this powerful and inspiring episode of The Things We All Carry.

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Rob--62Romeo

Wed, 08 Feb 2023 03:30:00 -0500

Rob is one of the founders and the CEO of 62 Romeo. Rob is a former Navy seal turned entrepreneur. He served eight years in the Navy and was deployed twice as a Navy seal. His SEAL career ended in retirement due to a back injury. As with any veteran, Rob had a few hidden injuries as well to include PTSD, traumatic brain injury, obstructive sleep apnea and insomnia.

In 2017, Rob lost a platoon mate to suicide. This young man had struggled for years with sleep disorders and at the time of the suicide had been awake for five days. This was the impetus to Rob's decision to dive into sleep science. He has since then dedicated himself to the endeavor of solving the bi-directional relationship between sleep and mental health. As firefighters, first responders and shift workers, we are all affected by this issue. Middle of the night calls, poor sleep habits, anticipatory sleep, irregular, sleep patterns. You name it. We have it. We also have alarming rates of mental health issues and suicide. Rob's company and research sets out to tackle this issue with science and education, and they want to do it with you. Not paying a dime. , reach out to Rob at 62 romeo.org and applied to be in a cohort today, it might just save your life.

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Charlie from Ten Eight

Wed, 01 Feb 2023 03:30:00 -0500

In the world of Instagram and social media, memes are a currency of sort. Some pages, like this week's guest TenEight_Memes, just get it and they thrive. Agree or disagree with what Charlie has to say, his memes are still going to entertain you or they're going to provoke you. And that's exactly how this medium should be used, make 'em think, or make 'em laugh.

In his own words from his website, "In a time where police is a dirty word, the Ten. Eight podcast aims to shine lights on the police world to those, not in it and provide some light and humor to those who serve."

To that end Ten Eight and The Things We All Carry have a very similar goal. I want people outside of our community to know the struggles and trauma we experienced as well as to inform those of us inside the community. Much respect to Charlie for his work and the goals you set for his future.

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Dr Jeni Gregory

Wed, 25 Jan 2023 03:30:00 -0500

Today's guest is Dr. Jeni Gregory. She is the mental health professional, working with the men and women of Tacoma fire. Dr. Gregory has a PhD in pediatric Traumatology and holds a master's degree in Social Work. She has a list of accomplishments, seemingly a mile long with experience in numerous war torn regions in the world.

Her work has taken her across the globe from the U.S. to Mexico to Kosovo to Afghanistan to Liberia and many places in between. Dr. Gregory also runs a private practice as well as being an international relief worker. These accolades and accomplishments simply scratch the surface of her professional and personal life.

Today she spent an hour out of her impossibly busy day to share about her work. Her life and her passion for helping firefighters. We spend time discussing trauma, epigenetics, hierarchy of needs, and the companion recovery model. I owe a huge debt of gratitude to Dr. Gregory for her willingness to share her time and her knowledge with me.

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Ali - PA

Wed, 18 Jan 2023 03:30:00 -0500

Welcome to episode 45 of The Things We All Carry. Roughly a week before Christmas, I had the pleasure of speaking with Ali Rothrock. Ali has roughly 17 years of experience as a volunteer firefighter. Her story is one of trauma, resilience and an amazing recovery. She's also the founder and CEO of On the Job and Off, a platform dedicated to building resilient first responders.

Ali's the Executive Director of First Responders Care an organization she uses. to educate first responders on how to recognize and report signs of child abuse, neglect and trafficking. She's also the author of two books. Where Hope Lies and After Trauma: Lessons on Overcoming From a First Responder Turned Crisis Counselor.

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Christopher--FLA

Wed, 11 Jan 2023 03:30:00 -0500

The first episode of 2023 finds us in Florida, speaking with Christopher. He's been a deputy sheriff in central Florida for over 20 years. Christopher reached out to me via Instagram and voiced a desire to share his story. He shares his battle with childhood trauma, trauma from his 20 plus years as a deputy, and discusses the methods and routes he's used to facilitate a recovery.

A huge, thanks to Christopher for stepping up and being my first guest from the world of law enforcement. With zero experience in a fire world.

His story helps prove that while we're all different. We are still very much alike

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TJ_Re-Release

Wed, 04 Jan 2023 03:30:00 -0500

Our stories are very personal, but the lessons learned are universal. I look forward to bringing you these stories as well as a variety of voices, both inside and outside of our community. During the next few weeks, I will highlight and re-release a few previous episodes. New episodes will return January 11th, and I am beyond grateful for the response this show has received and the support each of you gave in the last six months.

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Matt H Re-Release

Wed, 28 Dec 2022 03:30:00 -0500

Our stories are very personal but the lessons learned are universal. I look forward to bringing you these stories as well as a variety of voices, both inside and outside of our community. During the next few weeks, I will highlight and re-release a few previous episodes. New episodes will return January 11th, and I am beyond grateful for the response this show has received and the support each of you gave in the last six months.

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Chris- Utah Re-Release

Wed, 21 Dec 2022 03:30:00 -0500

As the year draws to an end I wanted to take time to thank each of you for listening and supporting this endeavor. A simple idea born of a local tragedy has created a community that now reaches internationally. Someone I never had the chance to meet made an impact on my life when he decided to end his. At that moment I knew someone had to create a platform to expose the traumas, the emotions, and the stories of First Responders. I also realized we all needed to hear the stories of triumph and recovery. This show has provided just that….a platform for survivors to tell their stories.

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Mary - A Discussion of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion

Wed, 14 Dec 2022 03:30:00 -0500

Today I'm joined by Mary Koval, a sociologist from the Richmond, Virginia area. I first heard of Mary from her presentation at a fire service diversity conference. That conference was centered around diversity, equality and inclusion within the fire service. Mary and I sat down and discussed issues surrounding women in the fire service, power dynamics and how stereotypical beliefs affect both the women and those dynamics. This conversation, ranges and topics yet barely scratches the surface of what needs to be discussed.

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Ian-Virginia

Wed, 07 Dec 2022 03:31:00 -0500

Back in November. I had the chance to sit down and speak with Ian. Ian is a firefighter here in Virginia. His story begins in Temecula, California, where he lived until he joined the army after 9/11. He served in Iraq as a forward observer attached to an armor battalion out of Fort Hood Texas What this means is that he had the chance to direct fire and hear things go boom a lot. He left the army to pursue firefighting again and eventually found his way to Virginia. His story is one of combined traumas from childhood to the Army to firefighting. He discusses his time at the Center of Excellence and the Mental Mayday project he is currently working on.

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Jeremy Johns-VA

Wed, 30 Nov 2022 03:30:00 -0500

Jeremy served three tours in Iraq prior to joining the fire service. The situations he was faced with and have overcome are astounding. Jeremy has transformed his negative experiences into something which everyone can benefit from. He is the founder and the face of the resilient rescuer, which highlights overcoming adverse events and traumatic experiences. In relation to first responders and military personnel.

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Tyler- Wisconsin

Wed, 23 Nov 2022 03:30:00 -0500

Today I'm joined by Tyler. Tyler has been a firefighter for 18 years in Wisconsin, 12 of those years in EMS. He is currently a paramedic and serves as a captain in his department.

Tyler's life has taken twists and turns leading up to where he is now. He reached out to me and shared his story and the article he wrote for a firehouse magazine. His professional and private life became inexorably linked one day in 2013. This episode focuses on his life, that fateful day, his recovery and his message to anyone fighting their own demons.

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Multiple Calls Podcast-Ontario

Thu, 17 Nov 2022 03:30:00 -0500

Scott has been a firefighter for 24 years, as well as a medic, his page and his podcast are dedicated. To continuing and bettering fire traditions and the service as a whole. I first heard of Scott and multiple calls when I read his "50 Rules for the Senior Firefighter". An extensive yet not exhaustive list of rules that can guide a firefighter as he or she progresses into the longevity of a fire career.

Scott's work has grown to include the 25 Rules for the Fire Service Instructor and his new project "The Connected Warrior". We spend time discussing all three, but spend the majority of the time with the connected warrior. A huge, thanks to Scott for taking time from his busy schedule to sit down and spend time talking with me. It never ceases to amaze me when people are this generous with their

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Stephanie(Five After MIdnight)-VA

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 03:30:00 -0500

Today, I'm joined by Stephanie. Stephanie is a firefighter paramedic from my region in Virginia. She has nearly 20 years of service on the job. I first heard from her when she reached out on Instagram to tell me she was using my episodes as a teaching tool.

Her episode speaks volumes about the treatment of females in the fire service and in the world in general. Stephanie's story is at times raw and heartbreaking yet there are moments that are uplifting and help restore some faith in the meaning of crew and humanity.

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Five After Midnight-TTWAC

Mon, 14 Nov 2022 03:30:00 -0500

This is technically a bonus episode but not an episode…this my interview as a guest on the Five After Midnight Podcast. The show is hosted by Stephanie who happens to be my guest on this weeks episode. I thought I would put this episode out as a prequel of sorts. Stephanie is a local FF/Medic from my neck of the woods in Virginia. She hosts her show for Fire Engineering. Head over to their show and check out the variety of hosts and topics. What follows is our off the cuff discussion about mental health in the fire service. Stephanie had her hands full wrangling our combined ADHD and my scattered brain. I look forward to releasing her episode of TTWAC this Wednesday.

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Cody Shea-The Call We Carry

Wed, 09 Nov 2022 03:30:00 -0500

Today. I get to introduce my audience to Cody Shea and his brilliant work of art, which is entitled "The Call We Carry"

Cody's a firefighter in the state of Washington and an independent filmmaker. Not just any filmmaker now, but an award-winning filmmaker as he recently won the 2022 best first-time filmmaker award from the California Indies film festival.

Cody set out to make a five minute promo for his department's peer support And what followed became a full feature documentary on trauma, PTSD, and recovery. His movie does to PTSD and recovery. What my podcast is attempting to do. Highlight our struggles inform you that you aren't alone and show a path to recovery.

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Dr Joel Martin- Sleep and Fitness

Thu, 03 Nov 2022 07:55:00 -0400

Dr. Joel Martin joins me today for discussion on sleep and fitness and the effect of both on the tactical athlete. Dr. Martin is an associate professor of kinesiology at George Mason university. His research is focused on improving the fitness and health of the tactical athlete populations..... firefighters, police, and military.

Side note...This is a rough edit of a show that previously failed to load appropriately. Any mistakes or audio glitches are to be blamed on me. Thanks for listening!

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Mike-Buffalo

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 03:30:00 -0400

My guest on this episode is Mike, he joined me from his home near Buffalo. Mike has a connection to an earlier episode. Shawn, his cousin and godfather, was my guest on episode 11. Mike reached out after that episode and expressed his desire to relay his own story. He discusses his childhood, military and fire experience, his battle with trauma and mental health, and the road to recovery.

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Kristie-Sweary Therapy Take 2

Thu, 27 Oct 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Thank you for joining me for another bonus episode of the things we all carry. Kristie of Sweary Therapy is back with another round of answers, to a few questions that have developed along the way.

Just a reminder of where I first heard of Sweary Therapy and Kristie, a friend, a fellow firefighter, Jim Martin runs the unusual Buddha page and podcast. Kristie was a guest on his show and I stole this idea from him. Y'all go check him out on Instagram @theunusualbuddha You can also find Kristie on Instagram. She's @swearytherapy and she has one of the best taglines ever.

"It's just f*****g therapy y'all"

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Jordyn-VA

Wed, 26 Oct 2022 03:30:00 -0400

I had the chance to talk with and learn the story of Jordyn Goddard. Jordyn is a firefighter in the state of Virginia and a former educator. We spent about 90 minutes on the phone. The initial plan was to talk, get comfortable, and learn her story. It took about 30 minutes before I realized this, like Adam’s interview in episode 17, was the show. Jordyn spoke passionately and eloquently about grief, her loss, and her work toward recovery.

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Jess P- VA

Wed, 19 Oct 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Today I'm joined by Jess. For those of you who have listened to earlier episodes, just as the wife of Brian from episode eight.

Once Brian's episode was released and she had a chance to listen to the show. A couple of times, Jess reached out to me. She suggested the spouse may be able to add a different light and point of view when it comes to trauma, the effects of trauma on the firefighter.

And the effects of it all on a spouse, kids and home life. She sat down with me and we discuss her experience and she gives some advice to other spouses as well. I found this to be a valuable conversation and I hope it reaches the audience that it deserves.

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DanSun PhotoArt

Wed, 12 Oct 2022 03:30:00 -0400

This week I had my first international guest. Daniel's a 20 year firefighter paramedic from Western He's also the artist and creative genius behind DanSun Photos. Daniel was diagnosed with PTs in 2014 and his art gave him an outlet to express feelings and emotions associated with PTs.

Along the way he decided to share his art and was surprised and heartened by the reaction. We spend an hour or so talking about life and a few pieces of his art that stood out to me. I've linked the five pieces we discuss in the show notes. You can find them at thethingsweallcarry.com/blog.

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Rescue1 CBD

Thu, 06 Oct 2022 03:30:00 -0400

I recently had a phone call and a discussion with Jon from Rescue 1 CBD. Jon is a firefighter in south Florida and the founder and owner of Rescue 1. He is on a mission to, as his bio says, “ improve our first responders’ sleep, mental health and cut back on the amount of medications required to do those things”

Jon and I spend about an hour talking CBD, his company’s purpose, the process they use, the guarantee he offers, and the benefits of CBD.

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Dr David Griffin--South Carolina

Wed, 05 Oct 2022 03:30:00 -0400

I recently had the privilege of speaking with Dr David Griffin. Many of you will recognize his name as the first in engine driver for the Sofa Superstore Fire that killed 9 firefighters in Charleston SC. Dr Griffin has used his experiences from that day and his entire career for the betterment of the fire service. The numerous accomplishments he has achieved include a Doctorate of Education in Organizational Leadership, rising to the rank of Assistant Chief in the Charleston Fire Department, and author of four books. He is also a renowned public speaker shedding light on organizational change in and outside of the fire service. His information can be found on his website at drdavidgriffin.com.

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Robbie-TN

Wed, 28 Sep 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Today I'm joined by Robbie from Tennessee. Robbie reached out to me after I put out an initial call for people interested in telling their stories. We played phone tag for a couple of months and we finally got the chance to sit and record.

When I first spoke to Robbie, I found myself confused. My simple mind assumed if I was speaking to someone from Tennessee, expect a Southern accent. Imagine my surprise. When some dudes sending like a surfer from Cali came on the line, we discuss his decision to move his family from California to Tennessee.

Some of his trauma, his therapy and the strides he has made.

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Jay-Chicago

Wed, 21 Sep 2022 03:30:00 -0400

This week my conversation is with Jay, a firefighter/paramedic from a suburban Chicago department. He is a 15 year veteran, including 11 at his current department. I first learned of his story after he reached out to me via the mystory@thethingsweallcarry.com email. His story stands out to me because of numerous similarities between my life and his and we delve into some of that during the show.

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James-@behindtheshield911

Thu, 15 Sep 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Today, I'm joined by James gearing. James is an author, a former firefighter of 14 years, a former stunt man, a husband, and a father, and the founder and host of the behind the shield podcast. He is someone I value as a mentor of sorts in this podcast world.

Recently I was in Florida for a vacation and not only did James agree to record with me, but he opened his house What follows is our free flow conversation on a few key topics in the fire service today.

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Chris-FLA

Wed, 14 Sep 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Chris is an Orlando area, firefighter with a fascinating story. He shares his experiences as a two time survivor of childhood cancer and as a firefighter.

His story highlights a common theme from my guests that none of us are a blank slate when we sign up for the fire service. Chris discusses how the unresolved trauma prior to the fire service and the trauma from the job combined to affect both his professional and personal life. Chris's journey and his recovery make for a very powerful story

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Jason-VA

Wed, 07 Sep 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Joining us today is Jason. He's a retired firefighter from the Northern Virginia area.He has 27 years of total service, 20 as a career firefighter and seven prior to that, as a volunteer, he has a very interesting story. And some of you're gonna recognize parts of his story. Some of you probably relate to a lot of his story

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Loren-VA

Wed, 31 Aug 2022 03:30:00 -0400

This is an episode I recorded a few weeks ago with Lauren. Lauren is a firefighter from Virginia, but more importantly, she is a survivor of a rare form of childhood cancer. Her battle with and victory over the illness is a huge part of who she is as a human, a mom and a firefighter.

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Adam Part2

Thu, 25 Aug 2022 03:33:00 -0400

This episode is more of a question and answer style dialogue between Adam and myself. With Jess joining in during a couple of spots. I wanted this episode to be a conversation in which we get a little deeper into the subjects Adam discussed in Part One. I want to take the time to thank Adam for sharing and being open to a second interview. I appreciated and enjoyed the time he gave so willingly.

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Adam-Ohio via VA

Wed, 24 Aug 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Adam is a fire service mentor and a former coworker and someone I've respected my entire career. He had a 20 plus year career that ended prematurely. Today's part one of a two part episode. Part two will be released tomorrow and it will be a conversation between Adam, Jess from episode five and myself.

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Alexx-VA

Wed, 17 Aug 2022 03:30:00 -0400

I'm joined today by Alexx, a firefighter from a jurisdiction close to my own. He reached out to me and expressed a desire to share a story so that someone else might learn from it. Alexx sat down with me one afternoon and discussed his upbringing, his time in the Air Force, his fire service career, his legal battles, and his recovery. He's made great strides and the future is bright for Alexx.

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BONUS Sweary Therapy-FLA

Thu, 11 Aug 2022 03:22:00 -0400

Welcome to another Bonus episode of The Things We All Carry. I’m joined today by Kristie of Sweary Therapy. I first heard of Sweary Therapy and Kristie vis The Unusual Buddha podcast. A friend and fellow firefighter Jim Martin runs that page and podcast, y’all go check him out. ….@theunusualbuddha on Instagram. You can also find Kristie on Instagram, she’s @swearytherapy with the best tagline ever…Its Just F*****g Therapy Y’all.

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Jose-Virginia

Wed, 10 Aug 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Today’s episode is my conversation with Jose. Not only is he a friend and coworker but he is also one of the most genuine and caring human beings I know. He’s a firefighter and a medic as well as a damned good realtor. Jose shares his early life experiences of growing up in Honduras and his family’s escape to the United States. He also discusses his struggles as a young man finding his way, losing a coworker to suicide, and his own health scare.

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BONUS Courtney-VA

Thu, 04 Aug 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Today's episode is a deviation from the norm. I've identified a few people or groups I think would bring benefit to the audience. This is a first in a series of bonus episodes. I'll record and release randomly. Today, I'm joined by Courtney. She's a nurse practitioner in the Commonwealth of Virginia. Courtney's recently opened a business focused on medical marijuana certificates here in Virginia.

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Kevin-Maryland

Wed, 03 Aug 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Kevin is a Volunteer from the Eastern Shore of Maryland. He sheds a different light on mental health from a Volunteer perspective. Kevin discusses family life, some calls, his trauma, and life today.

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Shawn-Virginia

Wed, 27 Jul 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Today's episode is a conversation I had with Shawn out of Virginia. He started his career as a volunteer in the Buffalo area, spending 12 years as volunteer before embarking on a journey. As a career firefighter, he is currently assigned to a ladder truck, as he approaches his 30th year in the fire service.

Shawn shares his thoughts on and experiences with trauma, PTSD, and recovery.

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Dan-Virginia

Wed, 20 Jul 2022 03:30:00 -0400

This week I’m joined by Dan for a discussion about the traumas he’s seen and experienced, the effect of the traumas, and his battle to defeat his demons. Originally from New York, Dan moved to Virginia for the job in 2015. He's been with his present department for seven years. He's got 16 years total experience. Dan speaks about his family history, his fire service history, some of the calls he's run and the recovery's been through because the time we sat down to talk about this, his recovery's been pretty amazing and he's still in the middle of a recovery.

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Greg-Minnesota

Wed, 13 Jul 2022 03:30:00 -0400

Greg is a young firefighter with a few years of EMT service and Fire experience under his belt. He has just started a new rookie year after completing another fire academy. Greg was gracious enough to spend some time with me to share his story. He opens up about his childhood, his background and experiences in fire and EMS, as well as the work he’s put in to overcome struggles.

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Brian-Virginia

Wed, 06 Jul 2022 05:21:00 -0400

This week I sit down with Brian. Brian has been in the Fire Service for a total of 19 years between Volunteer and Career service. He’s currently a Lieutenant in his department. My first contact Brian was about 18 months ago when I reached out to him after a tragedy and he’s been a friend and supporter ever since. Sharing your personal history doesn’t come easy and as You’ll hear in the show, Brian doesn’t enjoy public speaking. I think he was eloquent and very forthcoming throughout. I appreciate the fact he disregarded his fear and joined me for this conversation.

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Marshall-Virginia

Wed, 29 Jun 2022 04:35:00 -0400

I'm proud to call Marshall both a friend and a brother.... we work in the same Fire Department. I've known Marshall for a number of years but this conversation is deeper than anything I'd known previously. Marshall discusses his battle with cancer, life after cancer, losing a crew member, and his personal struggles at home. I can't thank him enough for the time and investment he gave.

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Matt Virginia

Wed, 22 Jun 2022 08:22:00 -0400

Matt made the short drive to sit down and have this conversation. We discuss the trauma he's experienced and the road he has taken to recovery. Be aware this episode has discussion of pediatric death.

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Jess- Virginia

Fri, 17 Jun 2022 00:07:00 -0400

Jess sat down and discussed childhood, the fire service, trauma, and recovery. I have to thank her for her openness and her willingness to be vulnerable. Be aware that this show has themes related to abuse and childhood trauma.

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@tj_leather

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 12:56:00 -0400

TJ of @tj_leather joined me for a conversation surrounding the LODD (Line of Duty Death) of his shift mate in 2018. You can find TJ on Instagram @tj_leather

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Chad-NJ

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 12:13:00 -0400

Chad is a Career and Volunteer firefighter from Central NJ. He called and spoke about his experiences in the fire service and with mental health.

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Chris-Utah

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 09:40:00 -0400

Chris joined me via phone from his home in Utah. His story is impactful and at times disturbing. Please exercise caution if themes of death, suicide, and violence are triggers for you.

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Robert ”Skulls For Hope”

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 08:28:00 -0400

My interview with Robert from Skulls For Hope

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