Sophie has been nursing for 23 years, with her entire career connected to urology and prostate cancer care. She now works with Prostate Cancer UK, providing information, support and guidance to men, partners and families navigating prostate cancer diagnosis, treatment decisions, side effects and life after treatment. 

Melissa and Sophie compare the UK and Australian systems, including the role of prostate cancer nurses, access to sexual rehabilitation, erectile dysfunction care, psychosexual support, pelvic floor education, penile implants, radiation therapy, hormone therapy and the sometimes-controversial topic of lymph node removal. 

This episode is a thoughtful and practical conversation about the parts of prostate cancer treatment that are not always discussed enough: erections, identity, relationships, grief, masculinity, intimacy and the importance of having someone safe to talk to. 

And yes, as always, we talk about penises. Because ignoring them has never helped anyone. 

Sophie’s biggest message to men going through prostate cancer treatment is to reach out and get support. Prostate cancer can feel lonely, especially when the changes affect sex, relationships and mental wellbeing. But you do not need to sit with those worries by yourself. 

Sometimes the hardest part is starting the conversation. Once one brave person says, “Actually, this has been difficult for me,” the floodgates often open. 

Resources & Links: 

• Prostate Cancer UK has a range of services that can help see links below: 

1. https://prostatecanceruk.org/ 

1. support services page with all the support we offer: https://prostatecanceruk.org/prostate-information-and-support/get-support 

1. Sexual Support: https://prostatecanceruk.org/prostate-information-and-support/get-support/sexual-support 

1. Partners Support Group: https://tackleprostate.org/support-groups/national-prostate-cancer-partners-support-group/ 

• Book an appointment with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

• Prostate Cancer Foundation of Australia https://www.pcfa.org.au/  

Need support? 

At Restorative Health Clinic and Make Hard Easy, we support men and their partners with: 

• penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment 

• erectile dysfunction 

• peyronie’s disease 

• premature ejaculation 

• intimacy and sexual recovery 

• partner-inclusive support where appropriate 

• practical, evidence-based strategies for getting confidence back 

We offer in clinic consultations in Australia and telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live. 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Category: Penile Implants| Prostate Cancer | Buried Penis | Penile Rehabilitation | Erectile Dysfunction| Men’s Health | Peyronie’s Disease 

Episode Summary:  

On this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett speaks with Rob about his experience of prostate cancer, recovery after treatment, and the very real ups and downs of getting back to life after diagnosis. 

This is a practical, honest, and hopeful conversation that walks through what recovery can look like for a man after prostate cancer treatment. Rob shares his story with openness and humour, talking about everything from preparing for surgery and losing weight beforehand, through to dealing with a catheter, continence recovery, penile rehabilitation, Peyronie’s disease, and eventually having a penile implant.  

Melissa reflects on working with Rob across different stages of his recovery, including using tadalafil, a vacuum pump, injections, and later navigating a period of Peyronie’s disease. What comes through strongly in this episode is that recovery is rarely a straight line. Sometimes things improve steadily, sometimes there are unexpected detours, and sometimes the plan changes along the way. That does not mean things have failed it just means the journey is real and sometimes there is a bend in the road(pun intended).  

Rob also talks about the emotional side of surgery and treatment. He was not necessarily thinking the worst would happen, but there was still worry about consequences, loss, and what life might look like on the other side. Melissa also brings in Linda, Rob’s partner, which adds another important layer to the conversation, the support of a positive, involved partner can make a real difference during recovery.  

One of the really valuable parts of this episode is the reminder that there is no single “right” recovery story. Rob had early continence challenges, but improved quite quickly with pelvic floor exercises, walking, and staying engaged in his rehab. He later developed Peyronie’s disease, which Melissa discusses in the context of connective tissue tendencies and risk factors, and eventually went on to have a penile implant, which he describes as something he noticed was there but did not find especially troubling and has improved his quality of life.  

Rob shares that his PSA is now undetectable, and despite the wobbly recovery path, he and his partner are active, travelling, getting on with life, and doing well. That matters, because many men fear that prostate cancer treatment means life is permanently diminished. This episode is a good reminder that life can still be full, active, intimate, and meaningful after treatment.  

Thankfully, recovery is often less about one magical fix and more about stickability(Melissa’s favourite made up word), persistence, support, and finding the right next step. 

Who should listen: 

This episode is for: 

• men preparing for or recovering from prostate cancer treatment 

• men dealing with erection changes or continence issues after surgery 

• men curious about penile rehabilitation or penile implants 

• partners supporting someone through prostate cancer recovery 

• health professionals wanting a real patient perspective on rehab and recovery 

  Need support? 

At Restorative Health Clinic, we support men and their partners with: 

• penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment 

• erectile dysfunction 

• peyronie’s disease 

• premature ejaculation 

• intimacy and sexual recovery 

• partner-inclusive support where appropriate 

• practical, evidence-based strategies for getting confidence back 

We offer telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this episode of The Penis Project, Melissa is joined again by Steve Jones, known to many listeners as the poet who didn’t know it. Steve is now five years on from prostate cancer treatment and he reflects on PSA anxiety, recovery, poetry, weight loss, peer support, and finding purpose in the aftermath of a life-changing diagnosis. This is an honest, moving, and hopeful conversation for men, partners, and anyone navigating life after treatment. 

Steve shares his experience of being diagnosed during COVID, having a radical robotic prostatectomy, and then feeling like he was left to work out the rest on his own. He speaks honestly about PSA anxiety, the emotional toll of survivorship, and the reality that even years later, follow-up testing can still stir up fear. 

But this episode is not just about cancer. It is also about what can grow in the aftermath of a hard diagnosis. 

Steve talks about how prostate cancer unexpectedly opened the door to poetry, advocacy, deeper connection, better health, and a renewed sense of purpose. He also shares his work with A Touchy Subject, where he helps facilitate peer support chats for men navigating prostate cancer, sexual recovery, penile implants, incontinence surgery, and the many challenges no one talks about enough. 

Melissa and Steve also discuss the importance of early testing, why men need better access to holistic care after treatment, and how simple lifestyle changes like weight loss, movement, and resistance training can make a real difference to health, confidence, and recovery. 

This is a moving, funny, wise conversation about fear, resilience, and making something meaningful out of a difficult experience. 

About Steve 

Steve Jones is a prostate cancer survivor, writer, poet, advocate, and peer support facilitator. Since his diagnosis and treatment, he has become a strong voice for men navigating prostate cancer recovery, sharing his experience through poetry, media interviews, support groups, and community advocacy. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

• Steve Jones’ book Words Woke Me https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/words-woke-me-prostate-cancer-poetry-book  

• A Touchy Subject https://www.atouchysubject.com/  

• Steve’s previous two appearances on The Penis Project: https://thepenisproject.podbean.com/e/126-steve-the-poet-who-didn-t-know-it/  https://thepenisproject.podbean.com/e/151-words-woke-me/   

• True North on the Movember website https://truenorth.movember.com/  

• Prostate Cancer Foundation of Australia https://www.pcfa.org.au/  

Need support? 

At Restorative Health Clinic and Make Hard Easy, we support men and their partners with: 

• penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment 

• erectile dysfunction 

• peyronie’s disease 

• premature ejaculation 

• intimacy and sexual recovery 

• partner-inclusive support where appropriate 

• practical, evidence-based strategies for getting confidence back 

We offer telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live. 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA

Category: Men’s Sexual Health | Peyronie’s Disease | Penile Rehabilitation | Erectile Dysfunction  

Episode Summary:  

Peyronie’s disease can affect much more than the penis. It can impact confidence, intimacy, relationships, and emotional wellbeing. Many men suffer in silence or give up on treatment when it feels too hard, too uncomfortable, or too embarrassing to talk about. 

Episode Description: 

In this follow-up episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett welcomes back Richard Connell, inventor of the Comfort Grip, to talk about what’s changed since his first appearance on the show (Episode 194). 

If you’ve ever struggled with the original RestoreX clamp (or any traction device) slipping, pinching, bruising, or simply being too awkward to use consistently, this episode is packed with practical insights. Melissa and Richard discuss why so many men give up on traction therapy too early, and how small design changes can make a huge difference to comfort, confidence, and long-term results.  

Richard explains how the Comfort Grip helps men who find the standard clamp too painful, too fiddly, or too difficult to reach in a flaccid state. The conversation also explores his newer innovation, the Comfort Bend, which is designed to make counter bending more comfortable by reducing pressure points and improving the way force is distributed during treatment.  

Melissa also shares what she’s seeing in clinic, including how these add-ons are helping men stay consistent with traction therapy, especially those with Peyronie’s disease, penile shortening, or difficulty tolerating the original setup. The episode finishes with a broader discussion about innovation in men’s health, the lag between clinical evidence and real-world problem-solving, and why practical, low-risk solutions matter so much in this space.  

In this episode we cover: 

• Why some men find penile traction therapy difficult to tolerate 

• Common problems with the standard RestoreX clamp, including slipping and discomfort 

• How the Comfort Grip may help improve comfort and usability 

• What the Comfort Bend is and why it may help with counter bending 

• Why consistency matters in Peyronie’s disease treatment 

• The challenges some uncircumcised men may experience with traction devices 

• Why practical solutions in men’s health can make a real difference 

• How better support and better design may help men stay engaged in treatment 

About  Richard Connell: 

Richard Connell is the inventor of the Comfort Grip, an accessory designed to improve comfort and usability for men using the RestoreX penile traction device. His work has focused on solving the real problems men report when trying to use traction therapy consistently, including pain, slipping, awkward setup, and difficulty with counterbending. 

  Need support with Peyronie’s disease? 

At Restorative Health Clinic, we support men with: 

• Peyronie’s disease 

• erectile dysfunction 

• Premature ejaculation 

• Phimosis 

• penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment 

• sexual recovery and confidence 

• men’s health concerns affecting intimacy and wellbeing 

We offer telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Category: Partner Support | Prostate Cancer | Intimacy and Sexuality | Penile Rehabilitation  

Episode Summary:

Prostate cancer does not just affect one person. It can affect the couple, the relationship, the way intimacy feels, and the confidence both people bring into the bedroom. Many men and their partners feel alone in that. This episode reminds listeners that they are not broken, they are not failing, and they are definitely not the only ones trying to work out what comes next. 

It also gently challenges the old idea that intimacy only “counts” if there is penetration or a reliable erection. Thankfully, human connection is a bit more creative than that. 

Episode Description:

In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett speaks with Carlotta Thomas about something that does not get talked about nearly enough, the partner perspective after prostate cancer. Carlotta is a breast cancer survivor and the partner of a prostate cancer survivor, and she shares a deeply honest, thoughtful, and hopeful perspective on what it means to navigate love, intimacy, communication, and recovery in a relationship touched by cancer.  

Melissa first met Carlotta through a Canadian support and education organisation (The Walnut Foundation) for men and their partners affected by prostate cancer and was struck by how openly and powerfully she spoke about the realities of being the partner of someone going through treatment and recovery.  

Together, Melissa and Carlotta explore the reality that for many couples, sex and intimacy after prostate cancer may need to look different, especially in a newer relationship. They talk about the common assumption that sex must always mean penetration and why broadening that definition can be both freeing and healing. Carlotta shares how she and her partner navigated those early conversations, how they learned what worked for each other, and why intimacy can be as simple as touch, affection, holding hands, and being emotionally present.  

This episode is particularly valuable because it normalises the awkward bits. The conversations that feel hard. The fear that a partner may withdraw. The uncertainty around erections, desire, and body confidence. Melissa and Carlotta talk openly about how communication is not optional if couples want to stay connected through change.  

There is also a strong message of hope in this episode. Melissa reflects on how many men eventually regain erectile function, sometimes naturally and sometimes with support such as rehabilitation or injections, but that the process can even improve people’s intimate lives. Carlotta’s message is that this journey is one that involves faith, love, courage, resilience, and communication.  

In this episode we discuss: 

• the partner perspective after prostate cancer 

• navigating intimacy in a new relationship 

• why sex is more than penetration 

• how to talk about awkward or emotionally difficult topics 

• the impact of treatment changes on connection and confidence 

• how couples can adapt and find new ways to be intimate 

• why communication is one of the most important tools in recovery 

• hope, resilience, and learning together as a couple 

About Carlotta Thomas: 

Carlotta Thomas is a breast cancer survivor, advocate, leader, and the partner of a prostate cancer survivor. Melissa describes being struck by Carlotta’s honesty and vulnerability when they met through a Canadian prostate cancer support and education event. In this episode, Carlotta shares her lived experience of navigating love, partnership, communication, and intimacy in the context of cancer recovery.  

  Need support with Prostate Cancer or Intimacy? 

At Restorative Health Clinic, we support men and their partners with: 

• penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment 

• erectile dysfunction 

• intimacy and sexual recovery 

• partner-inclusive support where appropriate 

• practical, evidence-based strategies for getting confidence back 

We offer telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Chris brings a unique combination of artistry, anatomy, and sexual-health expertise to a niche area of men’s health that is rapidly growing but often misunderstood. Together, Melissa and Chris unpack the science, the artistry, the risks, and the motivations behind male cosmetic procedures—from girth fillers to anal Botox—while smashing stigma and celebrating patients’ right to feel confident in their bodies. 

Whether you're curious, skeptical, or considering enhancement yourself, this is an honest, deeply educational, boundary-pushing conversation you won’t want to miss. 

 This Episode, We Cover: 

Chris shares his journey from makeup artistry → biology → nursing → nurse practitioner, and how combining aesthetics with sexual health led him to create Lushful Aesthetics, one of the most recognised male-enhancement clinics in the US. 

Melissa and Chris dive into: 

• The difference between cosmetic artistry and simply “knowing the technique” 

• Why penile filler is nothing like facial filler 

• The rise of revision work—and why many patients are coming in after botched jobs elsewhere 

• Ideal candidates for girth enhancement 

• Why proper technique preserves sensitivity 

• What partners think—and why many return to get procedures themselves! 

Chris also explains some of the most intriguing procedures in modern sexual health: 

ShowTox™ 

Botox in the shaft to reduce retraction and help men appear more like a “shower” than a “grower”. 

HoleTox™ 

Anal Botox for: 

• Easier and more comfortable anal play 

• Anal spasms 

• Proctalgia fugax 

• Chronic fissures 

• Post-surgical spasm  (With important safeguards to prevent incontinence) 

Scro-Fill™ 

Scrotal filler to enhance fullness, particularly for men experiencing: 

• Testicular retraction 

• Loss of volume from testosterone suppression 

• Aesthetic concerns 

• Preference for a fuller “hang” 

Penile Filler 101 

• How Chris approaches girth enhancement with an artist’s eye 

• Why anatomy varies dramatically and requires tailored technique 

• The dangers of “one-size-fits-all” injectors 

• Typical filler volumes, costs, longevity & touch-up schedules 

• Why shaft fillers should be placed along the sides, not the top 

• Preserving the dorsal nerve to maintain sexual sensation 

• How to counsel men who want only subtle changes vs. those wanting dramatic gains 

Peyronie’s Disease & Aesthetics 

• Why filler cannot treat plaque—but can improve post-treatment symmetry 

• When cosmetic filler can help visually balance a penis after deformity 

Premature Ejaculation & Fillers 

• Can glans filler help? 

• What the early research shows 

Stigma, Masculinity & Why Men Want Enhancements 

• The shift toward openness in gay and straight communities 

• Generational differences in disclosure 

• Why older men (including 70+) are embracing enhancements 

• Male cosmetic procedures as the new “sports car” 

Connect with Chris 

Instagram: @injectorchris  Clinic: Lushful Aesthetics (NY & San Diego) https://www.lushfulaesthetics.com/    

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

With over a decade of podcasting experience and more than 20 years working with individuals and couples, Allana brings a powerful blend of psychology, spirituality, body-based awareness, and practical tools to help people reconnect — with themselves first, and then with others. 

This episode goes far beyond sex, exploring how unresolved emotional pain, self-rejection, and disconnection from the body can show up as relationship struggles, sexual dysfunction, and ongoing dissatisfaction — and how learning to truly feel can be transformative. 

This episode offers a powerful reminder that sexual health is not just physical — it’s emotional, relational, and deeply human. 

In This Episode, We Discuss: 

•  Allana’s journey into intimacy and relationship coaching — and why intimacy is about far more than sex 

• How intimacy with self is the foundation for intimacy with others 

•  The link between emotional suppression, trauma, and physical symptoms — including sexual dysfunction 

• Understanding the autonomic nervous system and emotional regulation 

•  Why repeating relationship patterns is a sign of unresolved emotional work 

•  What “becoming the one before finding the one” really means 

• Practical communication tools for couples to build safety, presence, and trust 

• Why structured check-ins can prevent resentment and emotional drift 

•  Dating as a practice ground for honesty, boundaries, and self-worth 

•  How to respond to rejection without collapsing into self-blame 

• Why vulnerability is a strength — not a liability 

Key Takeaways 

• Healing doesn’t happen in the head alone — it happens through the body 

• Secure intimacy starts with self-acceptance, not performance or achievement 

• Relationships thrive when two whole people come together — not two people trying to complete each other 

• Communication isn’t about being right; it’s about being heard 

• Emotional safety allows desire, pleasure, and connection to return 

About Allana Pratt 

Allana Pratt is a globally recognised intimacy expert, relationship coach, and host of the Intimate Conversations Podcast, now in its 14th season. She works with individuals and couples to heal heartbreak, develop emotional resilience, and create deeply fulfilling relationships grounded in authenticity and embodiment. 

How to Work with Allana 

Podcast: Intimate Conversations with Allana Pratt  Instagram / YouTube: @allanapratt  Patreon Community: Weekly Q&A and teachings  Website: www.allanapratt.com/connect 

 Special Offer for Penis Project listeners:  Use the code READYNOW to access a subsidised Intimacy Breakthrough Experience call with Allana. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

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Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

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TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

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https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Rachel bravely shares her lived experience of navigating intimacy, grief, love, patience, and reconnection after her partner underwent prostate cancer surgery. What unfolds is not a clinical education session, but a raw, validating conversation about what happens to relationships when erections, continence, desire, and confidence change overnight. 

Together, they explore how prostate cancer is not just a medical diagnosis, it is a life changing event. One that impacts communication, identity, sexuality, and emotional safety on both sides. 

This episode is essential listening for partners, couples, and clinicians who want to better understand the unseen emotional labour carried by those standing beside the man with the diagnosis. 

In This Episode, We Discuss: 

• Why prostate cancer is a couple’s condition, not just a men’s health issue 

• The silent grief partners experience  

• Why erectile dysfunction, incontinence, and medicalised sex can affect intimacy 

• Feeling out of sync: when one partner is focused on survival and the other on connection 

• The loss of spontaneity, desire signals, and sexual confidence 

• The emotional complexity of “being supportive” 

• Why saying “I don’t mind if we never have sex again” can feel like rejection 

• The impact of ED on a partner’s sense of desirability and femininity 

• Navigating injections, pumps, implants  

• Shifting from performance and penetration to connection and shared pleasure 

• Practical strategies that may help  

Key Takeaways 

• Desire doesn’t disappear after prostate cancer — it changes shape. 

• Partners grieve too, and their pain deserves space and validation. 

• Intimacy is about connection, not outcomes. 

• Support for partners is a glaring gap — and one that must be addressed. 

Support for Partners 

If you are a partner navigating life after prostate cancer and would like to connect with others in a similar situation, you can email: admin@rshealth.com.au  (Your details can be passed on confidentially — partner anonymity respected.) 

Resources & Links: 

• Book an in clinic or telehealth consult with our sexual health practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

• Book: Come Together – Emily Nagoski 

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Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

This conversation explores the real relationship work behind non-monogamy, including boundaries, ground rules, consent culture at clubs, the importance of emotional safety, and how past breaches of consent can shape future intimacy. 

What You’ll Hear in This Episode 

• How they met (army posting, friendship-first, and a hilariously blunt pickup line) 

•  Menopause, libido changes, and the ripple effects inside a long-term relationship 

•  What ED did to confidence, connection, and communication — and why many men withdraw silently 

•  Their first visit to Restorative Health Clinic, and the moment treatment helped restore intimacy 

•  The relationship rupture: online searching for connection, betrayal, and rebuilding trust 

•  The turning point: honest conversations that revealed the issue wasn’t “just sex” — it was the relationship 

•  How and why, they entered swinging (slowly), why it wasn’t instant confidence, and what helped 

•  Attraction, compatibility, and why “the whole package” matters more than perfection 

•  Sexual identity and exploration (bisexuality, comfort, and removing shame) 

•  The “unicorn” dynamic: what it means, how it works, and why friendship matters as much as sex 

•  Clubs explained for beginners: 

• what swinging clubs are like 

• what “play areas” are 

• how different venues have different vibes (more social vs more kink-friendly) 

•  The Dom/Sub dynamic: how it developed, how they practised safely, and why education matters 

• Consent and confidentiality: what “yes” must look like, and why assumptions can be harmful 

•  A powerful consent story: what happens when boundaries are crossed, and how recovery can take time 

•  Jealousy (teased at the end): acknowledging it exists and setting up the next part of the conversation 

Key Takeaways 

• ED and libido changes don’t just affect sex — they affect identity, confidence, and emotional connection 

• Silence and embarrassment can create distance in long-term relationships 

• Non-monogamy isn’t a “quick fix” — it often requires more communication, not less 

• Healthy swinging relies on boundaries, consent, and emotional safety 

• Consent isn’t a one-time checkbox — it’s ongoing, clear, and must be re-established 

• Intimacy can be rebuilt, but breaches of trust (or consent) can take months to heal 

Listener Note 

This episode includes frank discussion of sex, non-monogamy, and consent experiences. Please listen with care. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

• https://breathworkforsurfers.com.au/ Mentioned in the podcast Ryan did this program with tom Carroll 

Listen & Subscribe 

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Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

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TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Kurt, a comedy creator, and James, an NHS scientist and geneticist, bring their lived experience and friendship to the mic. What started as a casual post-comedy-night confession (“You’ve had one too?!”) became a mission to normalise the conversation about vasectomy — with honesty, humour, and zero shame. 

From misconceptions about “losing your manhood” to the truth about recovery, ejaculation, and “blue balls,” this episode goes where most won’t — cutting through the misinformation with science, storytelling, and a laugh or two. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• How Never Mind My Bollocks began and why the world needs to talk about vasectomy 

• Myths that persist: masculinity, testosterone, and “dry orgasms” 

• What really happens before, during, and after the snip 

• Why vasectomy doesn’t make you “less of a man” 

• Lived experience vs. medical expertise — and why both matter 

• Common misconceptions around reversibility, chronic pain, and recovery 

• How humour helps break taboo around men’s sexual health 

• Kurt Brookes is Deputy Creative Director at Made in Manchester. James McConnell is a geneticist and allied health professional working within the NHS. Together, they created Never Mind My Bollocks to make vasectomy conversations real, relatable, and stigma-free — sharing stories from men and experts alike to help others make informed choices about their reproductive health. 

 Listen to Never Mind My Bollocks on all major podcast platforms. 

Key Takeaway:  Talking about vasectomy shouldn’t be taboo. Kurt and James remind us that openness — not silence — is the real sign of strength. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

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Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

With nearly two decades in journalism, Sangeeth brings empathy and investigative depth to the conversation as he and Melissa explore everything from erectile dysfunction and Peyronies disease to libido, body image, and the silence surrounding sexual pain. Together they unpack why shame remains one of the biggest barriers to intimacy, how open communication can transform relationships, and what it means to create a culture of curiosity over judgment. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• Sangeeth’s journey from award-winning journalist in Kerala to sexuality educator and founder of VVOX 

• Why he launched VVOX and how its helping people unlearn sexual shame 

• Melissa’s insights into men’s sexual health — erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, Peyronie’s disease, and post-cancer recovery 

• The social and cultural roots of shame around sex 

• How misinformation affects both men’s and women’s confidence and pleasure 

• The importance of empathy, language, and education in sexual healing 

• What it takes to build a healthier, shame-free global conversation around sex 

Key Takeaways: 

• Shame is cultural — but it can be unlearned through education and open dialogue. 

• Science and compassion together heal more than medicine alone. 

• Sexual health is human health: it affects confidence, connection, and quality of life. 

• True intimacy grows from honesty, curiosity, and mutual respect. 

• Access to accurate information is the foundation of sexual freedom. 

About Sangeeth Sebastian: 

Hailing from Kerala, India, Sangeeth Sebastian is the founder of VVOX (pronounced we-vox), a platform dedicated to ending sexual shame by making reliable, evidence-based education about sexuality and mental health available to everyone.  With nearly 20 years of experience as a journalist, he has worked with major Indian media houses including The Hindu, Hindustan Times, and India Today Group. An award-winning sexuality writer and DAAD researcher, his work has been recognised internationally and featured in outlets such as BBC, The Guardian, AFP, Channel 4 UK, and The Daily Mail.  Sangeeth also received the Likho Award for Excellence from the Humsafar Trust for fair and inclusive LGBTQ+ representation in media. 

Learn more about VVOX:  

https://www.youtube.com/@vvoxIndia 

www.vvox.in 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

From awkward inbox messages and clinic mishaps to deeply meaningful patient moments, the team reflects on what it’s really like working in men’s sexual health — a space where humour, vulnerability, trust, and life-changing conversations collide every day. 

This episode is part thank-you, part behind-the-scenes, and part reminder that sexual health work is serious — but laughter matters too. 

 Key Takeaways 

• Men’s sexual health is about much more than erections — it’s about confidence, connection, and quality of life 

• Trust takes time, but once it’s built, men open up in powerful ways 

• Porn has skewed expectations — most penises are completely normal 

• You don’t need to have a penis to understand men’s sexual health — listening matters more 

• A good clinic culture blends professionalism, compassion… and humour 

 Clinic Updates & Announcements 

• New clinic location: Icon Cancer Centre, Midland 

• Expanded support for men post-radiation (prostate, bladder, colorectal cancer) 

• Telehealth services now supporting rural, remote, interstate, and overseas patients 

• Upcoming training & conferences: 

• International Society of Sexual Medicine (Porto, Portugal) 

• Advanced Botox training for penile health applications 

Christmas closure: 

19th December- 12th January 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Jeremy shares his personal journey from genetics research at Duke University to living as a monk, and how mindfulness, neuroscience, and self-compassion became the tools that helped him (and now others) break free from addiction. Together, Melissa and Jeremy unpack the neuroscience of porn use, its impact on intimacy and erectile function, and how men can rewire their brains to rediscover genuine connection and confidence. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• Jeremy’s unique path from scientist to monk to men’s recovery coach 

• How porn addiction develops — and why it’s often hard to recognise early 

• The neuroscience of addiction: dopamine, neuroplasticity, and “amygdala hijack” 

• How compulsive porn use impacts erectile function, libido, and intimacy 

• The truth about porn, body image, and unrealistic sexual expectations 

• The role of mindfulness and meditation in rewiring the brain and regaining control 

• How to “urge surf” — using 90 seconds of awareness instead of autopilot 

• The power of community and accountability in creating lasting change 

• How mindfulness helps men face emotions rather than escape them 

Key Takeaways: 

• Addiction isn’t about weakness — it’s about avoiding uncomfortable emotions. 

• Porn rewires the brain to crave novelty, dulling connection and satisfaction in real life. 

• Mindfulness builds awareness and self-control, allowing men to choose consciously rather than react automatically. 

• Healing comes through connection, compassion, and understanding — not shame. 

• You don’t have to be perfect to make progress; awareness is the first step to change. 

About Jeremy Lipkowitz: 

Jeremy is a certified mindfulness and emotional intelligence teacher, former Buddhist monk, and founder of Unhooked Academy — a global community helping men break free from compulsive behaviours and build discipline, purpose, and fulfilling relationships. He also hosts the Unhooked Podcast, where he interviews experts and shares practical tools for self-mastery and recovery. 

Learn more: www.UnhookedAcademy.com  Follow Jeremy: @jeremylipkowitz  Listen to his podcast: Search “Unhooked” on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz 

   Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

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Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Ryan talks candidly about growing up in a blue-collar household in the 70s, the pressures of masculinity, and how being driven hard as a child shaped his identity. He reflects on his footy career, the unspoken expectations to “be tough,” and how those patterns carried over into life after retirement—leading him to overwork, burnout, and eventually, a total personal reset. 

Through meditation, breathwork, and support from his wife, Ryan found a new path. Today, he mentors men through profound emotional, physical, and spiritual work, helping them reconnect with themselves, develop healthier expressions of masculinity, and live with more balance, softness, and purpose. 

This conversation goes far beyond sport. Ryan opens up about parenting, vulnerability, inner dialogue, relationships, and why so many men feel lost in today’s world. He also explores his work with Reconnected Men, breathwork retreats, and his partnership with the enigmatic healer, Imrah, known to many as “the alchemist.” 

This Episode, We Cover: 

Ryan’s early life & sporting beginnings 

• Growing up under pressure in a hardworking family and feeling driven to please others 

• How internal and external expectations pushed him into rugby league 

• The emotional impact of a “boys don’t cry” upbringing 

Masculinity, identity & the struggles men face today 

• Why modern masculinity feels confusing—and why “toxic masculinity” breaks Ryan’s heart 

• The lack of healthy male role models 

• Balancing discipline with vulnerability 

• Why many men feel they must fix everything rather than be present 

Life after professional sport 

• Losing identity and purpose at 30 

• Overworking to fill a void—“trying to beat yoga at yoga” 

• How breathwork and meditation became lifesaving tools 

• The profound influence of his wife in redirecting his path 

Breathwork, nervous system regulation & healing 

• Ryan’s introduction to meditation through a big wave surfer 

• Using pranayama as the “cheat code” to stillness 

• How breathwork helped him “wield the mind” rather than be controlled by it 

• Why he believes every man should experience nervous-system regulation 

Reconnected Men & the work he does now 

• One-day and three-day men’s retreats in Queensland and Sydney 

• Holotropic/transformational breathwork sessions 

• Corporate breathwork and team integration sessions 

• His mentoring program combining discipline, stillness, personal story, and emotional growth 

The story of Imrah – “the alchemist” 

• How Ryan reconnected with Imrah after 25 years 

• Imrah’s unusual upbringing in the Pilbara and his unique abilities 

• Their partnership in retreats and breathwork events 

• Why I have named Ryan  “the conduit”  

Parenting, relationships & emotional presence 

• Raising daughters with boundaries, connection, and regulated technology use 

• Letting go of control in relationships 

• How softness, listening, and heart-led responses change family dynamics 

Ryan’s message to men 

"You don’t always have to be in control. And you don't have to do it on your own." 

Key Takeaways: 

• Masculinity isn’t the problem—disconnection is. 

• Men thrive when they learn discipline and vulnerability. 

• Breathwork, meditation, and nervous system tools can fundamentally shift a man’s internal world. 

• Healing begins with self-awareness, not fixing others. 

• You can be strong and gentle at the same time—and your family will feel the difference. 

• Sometimes your partner sees your path before you do. 

• Life after high-performance sport requires finding new meaning, not new metrics to “win.” 

Connect with Ryan Girdler & Reconnected Men 

• Reconnected Men (retreats & programs): https://www.reconnectedmen.com  

• Instagram: @ryangirdler 

• Transformational Breathwork & Retreats 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

• https://breathworkforsurfers.com.au/ Mentioned in the podcast Ryan did this program with tom Carroll 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

David, a professional speaking coach and keynote presenter, and Denise, a writer and storyteller, open up about how prostate cancer changed (and strengthened) their relationship — from navigating continence and erectile recovery to rediscovering pleasure, communication, and connection in new ways. 

They share how pelvic floor exercises became a “couples’ activity,” why David calls his penis “Neville,” and how humour, love, and teamwork helped them through the challenges of treatment and recovery. 

This episode is equal parts informative, real, and uplifting — a reminder that intimacy isn’t just about sex, and that open communication can transform even the toughest times into opportunities for growth and connection. 

Episode Highlights 

• The importance of humour and resilience in prostate cancer recovery 

• “Erection parties” and finding levity in hard (and not-so-hard) times 

• David’s flagpole story — and what it taught him about raising more than flags 

• How exercise and pelvic floor rehab changed his life 

• Rediscovering intimacy through outercourse, toys, and open communication 

• Denise’s journey from sexual repression to pleasure and confidence 

• The emotional impact of “dry orgasms” and how couples can adapt together 

• Why men should talk openly about prostate health — and get tested 

Key Takeaways:  

• Communication is everything — before, during, and after prostate cancer treatment. 

• Pelvic floor exercises are for life (and for both partners!). 

• Intimacy after surgery is possible — it just might look a little different. 

• Pleasure and connection go far beyond penetration. 

• Being informed, asking questions, and involving your partner make the journey smoother for everyone. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

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Linkedin: 

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TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Together, they open up about recovery, resilience, and rediscovering intimacy after cancer — proving that sexual function and emotional connection can keep improving long past the two-year mark many men are told is the “limit”. Their journey is one of teamwork, trust, and trying everything from pumps to performance rings to injections — the famous “four Ps” as coined by Mike: Pills, Pump, Puncture, and Performance Ring. 

Key Takeaways:  

• Recovery doesn’t stop at two years. Erections and sensation can continue to improve with regular therapy and effort. 

• Devices aren’t kinky — they’re medical tools. Pumps, rings, and injections all have a role in penile rehabilitation. 

• Partner support changes everything. Involving both people in the journey helps reduce shame and increases success. 

• Hope is powerful. With the right approach, couples can enjoy a “new normal” that’s deeply satisfying and connected. 

• Sex is more than orgasm. Connection, laughter, and closeness are what really matter. 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett 

“Just like you wouldn’t skip physio after a hip replacement, penile rehabilitation after prostate surgery takes consistent effort.  Devices like vacuum pumps, injections, and rings aren’t gimmicks — they’re proven ways to restore blood flow, preserve function, and build confidence. Mike and Shirley’s story shows what’s possible when couples stay curious, keep communicating, and don’t give up.” 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

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 We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

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https://makehardeasy.com.au  

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 TEDX: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Jane’s groundbreaking “steering-wheel” metaphor teaches us that while we can’t control life’s bumpy roads, we can control how we steer through them. Her simple, evidence-based approach to emotional resilience encourages us to replace judgment and blame with choice and responsibility. 

Together, Melissa and Jane explore how our emotions, stress responses, and everyday habits shape mental and physical well-being — from coping with anxiety and overwhelm to managing relationship challenges and recovering from life’s rough patches.  

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• How emotional resilience begins with understanding your “steering wheel” — you choose how you respond. 

• Why rough roads (stress, setbacks, grief) are vital for personal growth. 

• The importance of shifting language: swapping “good and bad” for “rough and smooth” to remove self-judgment. 

• Jane’s research on how simple daily SMS reminders transformed emotional well-being — and even saved lives. 

• The concept of TEPS and PETS: identifying everyday triggers (TEPS) and creating healthy coping strategies (PETS). 

• How partners can use this model to communicate better and manage intimacy challenges after illness or surgery. 

• Practical tools for dealing with overwhelm, from mindful breathing to setting boundaries and creating space for recovery. 

Key Takeaways:  

• You can’t control the road, but you can control your steering. 

• Emotional resilience is a skill — built by practicing calm responses on life’s rough roads. 

• Reframing our language reduces guilt and self-criticism, improving relationships and mental health. 

• Stress, anger, and anxiety aren’t “bad” — they’re part of a healthy pulse of life. 

• Small daily actions (your PETS) can prevent emotional overload and support long-term well-being. 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett 

• Melissa reflects on how Jane’s approach can be applied in men’s health — especially for those recovering from prostate cancer or experiencing sexual dysfunction.  Learning to recognize emotional “rough roads” and respond with awareness can make a huge difference to physical recovery, relationship harmony, and confidence. 

Resources & Links: 

• Dr Jane Foster  Website: emotionalresiliencetraining.com.au  Book: It’s In Your Hands – Your Steering Wheel, Your Choice (available via website & Audible)  Follow Jane on Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

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• LinkedIn: Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

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https://makehardeasy.com.au  

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Linkedin: 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Key Takeaways: 

•    PSA screening saves lives: It’s a blood test. Many men still believe screening means a rectal exam — that misconception stops blokes from testing. 

• Early and regular checks matter, especially with family history. Kirk and his GP were “on it,” which likely changed his trajectory. 

• Rehab starts before surgery: Pre-op pelvic floor coaching and early, structured penile rehab support faster continence and sexual recovery. 

• Expectations matter: Being clear about how important sex is to you helps the team tailor a plan (medications, devices, or injections) so intimacy continues post-treatment. 

• Modern prostate cancer care is not what it was 20 years ago — minimally invasive surgery, targeted radiation, and better side-effect profiles. 

Episode Highlights 

• Family history matters: Kirk, a 59-year-old anaesthetist, always knew prostate cancer was a “when, not if.” Vigilant PSA screening caught it early. 

• PSA test = blood test: Many men still mistakenly think screening means a rectal exam — this myth stops blokes from testing. 

• Gleason upgrade: Biopsy showed 7, but post-surgery pathology was 9 — reinforcing why early surgery was lifesaving. 

• GPs are gold: A trusted GP relationship ensures timely checks and continuity of care. 

• Rehab starts before surgery: Pelvic floor exercises and penile rehab education gave Kirk the best start. 

• Fast recovery: At 5 weeks post-op, Kirk is dry, pad-free, and already regaining erectile function with support strategies. 

• Community conversations: Kirk shared his diagnosis with ice-hockey teammates — most had no idea PSA was just a blood test. 

• Rural barriers: Medicare telehealth changes risk limiting access for country men as of November 1st 2025 — highlighting the importance of policy that supports remote care. 

• Positive outlook: Kirk’s story proves recovery can be quicker than many expect, and modern treatments offer far better outcomes than in the past. 

• Take-home message: Don’t wait for symptoms — get your PSA blood test done and talk to your mates about it. 

Shareable quotes 

• “Good news — PSA screening is a blood test. That’s it.” 

• “Pre-hab matters: start pelvic floor and penile rehab before surgery.” 

• “Sex after prostate cancer is absolutely possible — the toolkit is bigger and better than ever.” 

• “Men will talk footy all day — let’s talk our health the same way.” 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com 

Listen & Subscribe 

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Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   

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https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

Instagram: 

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Linkedin: 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Episode Overview:

• What Peyronie’s disease is and how common it really is
• How to tell the difference between a natural curve and a problem curve
• The new classification system for penile curvature
• The psychological impact of Peyronie’s, including anxiety and dysmorphic disorder
• Restorex traction therapy – why it works when others don’t
• The importance of early treatment vs “waiting until stable”
• What options exist when surgery is (or isn’t) the right answer
• Partner perspectives and how relationships are affected
• Emerging therapies, from nutraceuticals to genetic testing
• Where treatment might head over the next decade

Key Takeaways:

• Peyronie’s is often under-diagnosed and misunderstood.
• Not all curves are Peyronie’s – some are congenital or age-related and not necessarily a problem.
• Restorex is unique in its ability to generate therapeutic force and counter-bend effectively.
• Early intervention with traction, PDE5 inhibitors (like sildenafil), and anti-inflammatories may prevent progression.
• Surgery is effective but comes with risks and regret can be high – conservative options should be maximised first.
• The psychological toll is often greater than the physical curve – reassurance, partner involvement, and counselling are vital.
• Future treatments may include new collagenase drugs, natural compounds, and even gene-based therapies.

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:

At Restorative Health Clinic, we see many men early in their Peyronie’s journey. This conversation reinforced the importance of not dismissing early symptoms. Doing “something” – whether traction, PDE5 therapy, or anti-inflammatories – can help men feel in control, protect their erections, and preserve penile length. Just as you wouldn’t ignore a broken bone, Peyronie’s deserves timely care.

Resources & Links:

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic
• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com
• Dr Landon Trost https://malefertilityandpeyroniesclinic.com/about/
• To access references that were mentioned by Dr Trost in this episode please go to https://malefertilityandpeyroniesclinic.com/about/ and scroll to the bottom of the page.

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Email: admin@rshealth.com.au

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https://melissahadleybarrett.com

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 TEDX

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA

Mitch talks about: 

• Growing up with PE and its emotional toll 

• Navigating sexual intimacy and relationships as a young man 

• His experience with online men’s health services like Pilot 

• The turning point that led him to seek help at Restorative Health Clinic 

• Finding the right treatment—and relief—through personalised care 

This episode is a must-listen for any man who's felt alone with PE, and for partners or parents who want to better understand the experience from a younger male’s perspective. 

 In This Episode, We Cover: 

• What it’s like living with lifelong (primary) premature ejaculation 

• How a father’s prostate cancer treatment led to a cheeky encounter with penile injections—and eventually helped Mitch seek help 

• The cost, pros and cons of online health platforms like Pilot 

• Why in-person or telehealth consults with a practitioner can make all the difference 

• The emotional impact of PE: shame, self-doubt, and how it affects confidence in and out of the bedroom 

• The power of humour and honesty in breaking sexual health stigma 

Key Takeaways: 

• PE can affect men of all ages—including young blokes—and it’s more common than you think. 

• Medication isn’t one-size-fits-all. Finding the right dose and drug with a skilled clinician can be life-changing. 

• Open conversations with family, partners, and mates can reduce shame and build resilience. 

• Telehealth can be a more accessible, cost-effective way to get specialist support—especially in rural areas. 

• Tackling PE early builds long-term sexual confidence and can improve relationships. 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: 

Premature ejaculation can feel devastating for men, but it’s both common and treatable. We see men every day at Restorative Health Clinic who’ve been told to “just relax” or “it’ll go away with age,” but that doesn’t always happen. Treatment is individual and may include: 

• Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) 

• Behavioural therapy 

• Mindfulness and arousal control strategies 

• Support for partners to reduce pressure and enhance intimacy 

Every man deserves to enjoy sex without anxiety—and we’re here to help you do just that. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

Listen & Subscribe 

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Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

 Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

With warmth, wit and wisdom, David opens up about his experience with erectile dysfunction (ED), continence concerns, vacuum pump rehab, and using the FirmTech ring to monitor nocturnal erections—describing it as a “FitBit for your dick.” He also talks about the importance of talking openly about men's health and encouraging others, including his sons and mates, to get checked early. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• Why tracking PSA trends—not just the number—can save lives 

• David’s experience with no symptoms and the surprise diagnosis 

• The emotional toll and stigma around ED and incontinence post-surgery 

• Why using a penile pump isn’t weird—it’s essential rehab 

• Real-world side effects of tablets vs low-dose daily Tadalafil 

• Monitoring erections with FirmTech and what the data can reveal 

• The surprising link between erectile function, heart health, and alcohol 

• The power of talking: How David's openness has led others to get tested 

• Tips for men navigating life post-prostatectomy 

• Why your penis might be the first clue your heart’s in trouble 

Key Takeaways: 

• Prostate cancer is often silent—many men have no symptoms at all. 

• Early detection matters. David’s long-term PSA monitoring saved his life. 

• Erectile rehab works best when started early. Pumps, Tadalafil, and data help. 

• Talking saves lives. One conversation might be what pushes someone to get checked. 

• Nocturnal erections are a sign of good health—and you can measure them. 

• FirmTech isn’t just about sex—it's a window into your cardiovascular system. 

 Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: 

“As a sexologist and nurse practitioner, I see too many men suffer in silence after prostate cancer. David’s story shows that recovery is possible—with data, determination and a bit of humour. Erectile function is not just about sex—it’s a vital sign of your overall health. So yes, monitoring your function might just save your life.”   

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Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our experienced sexual health team at Restorative Health Clinic 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Amy has been a popular guest on The Penis Project and a friend and colleague to Melissa over the past few years and for something different the tables have turned, and Amy is interviewing Melissa to see what she has learnt being a part of The Penis Project community for 200 episodes and just under 5 years of posting. On the 14th of September the Penis Project will have been live for 5 years. This may not seem like a long time for most people but for Melissa it has been huge. Keeping the interviews coming and arranging editing and show notes etc. whilst running a busy growing practice has been hard but worth it, and she has learnt way more from her patients and interviewees than she thought possible.  

Together, Melissa and Amy explore: 

• How a podcast that began during COVID lockdowns with Melissa and Dr Jo Milios (Physiotherapist) and then without realising became a global resource for men’s health 

• Why it’s time to stop joking about penises and start listening 

• The emotional side of male sexuality and how assumptions miss the mark 

• What men really want after prostate cancer (hint: it isn’t just erections) 

• How patients have reshaped Melissa’s clinical approach over time 

• Products that have changed lives—and a few that scared her husband 

• New conversations about sounding, Tantra, and intimacy beyond intercourse 

• What Melissa hopes to do with the next 200 episodes—and who she dreams she will interview next and her dream to be interviewed by…. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• How the podcast began as a way to help patients and became so much more 

• Learning from patients about loss, masculinity, and connection 

• Rethinking the urgency of "getting it up" and embracing broader definitions of intimacy 

• The importance of not making assumptions as clinicians 

• Sex toys and tools Melissa now recommends—and the ones she avoids 

• What a Tantra workshop has taught her about relationships 

• Sounding: safety, stigma, and why we need to talk about it 

• The power of podcasts to create change and community connection 

Key Takeaways: 

• Empathy, humour and curiosity matter more than bravado 

• Real stories help others feel seen, supported, and less alone 

• Sexual health is about connection, not just erections 

• There is no one-size-fits-all solution, but there is always a way forward 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: "My goal is to open up the conversation. Whether it’s about erectile dysfunction, sex after cancer, or pleasure in new ways. Men and their partners deserve honest support and practical options. This podcast has become my passion project, and it’s changed how I practice. Most of all I want to thank the people who have let us interview them for sharing stories and teaching me so much I could never have learnt from a book or another health professional. I hope my patients and listeners realise how important they are to me, my growth as a human and as a health professional." 

Useful Mentions: 

• FirmTech erection ring ("Fitbit for your dick")https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/firmtech-techring , Manta by The Fun Factory  https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/fun-factory-manta-deep-sea-blue  

• VaxAid pump – TGA approved hydro pump for ED 

• Tantra retreats by Sanctuary of Ananda 

• Beaming Beaver organic lubricant 

• My Ilo Australian-designed sex toys 

• Steve "The Poet Who Didn't Know It" and his book Words Woke Me 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

Listen & Subscribe 

• If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. 

Connect With Us 

 We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com   

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

 Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

This episode explores the two main types of phimosis, how to recognise it, what causes it, and what treatments are available beyond circumcision, including the innovative Novoglan device. They also bust myths around hygiene, sensitivity, and when tight foreskin becomes a medical emergency. 

This is a must-listen for anyone experiencing foreskin issues, for clinicians wanting better tools for patient care, and for partners who want to understand more about this issue. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• What phimosis is—and why it only affects uncircumcised men 

• The difference between congenital phimosis and BXO (balanitis xerotica obliterans) 

• Common causes: scarring, trauma, infection, and stretching injuries 

• What is Novoglan and how does it work to gently treat phimosis? 

• Why circumcision isn’t the only answer? 

• Risks of ignoring phimosis—urinary issues, infections, and paraphimosis 

• How tight foreskin can cause sexual dysfunction and distress 

• The role of steroids and soap-free hygiene in treatment 

• Empowering men to make informed choices about their bodies 

 Key Takeaways: 

• You’re not alone. Phimosis is common but often hidden behind shame. 

• Not all tight foreskins need to be cut. Devices like Novoglan offer non-surgical options. 

• BXO is a progressive condition. Early management can preserve both function and comfort. 

• Paraphimosis is a medical emergency. Know the signs and don’t delay seeking help. 

• Sexual function is more than physical. The psychological impacts of phimosis are real and valid. 

• Gentle hygiene is key. Avoid soaps—use warm water and a cotton cloth to keep things clean and healthy. 

 Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:  “As a nurse practitioner and sexologist, I see firsthand how foreskin issues like phimosis affect not just a man’s body, but his confidence, relationships, and sexual wellbeing. The good news is—we can help. There’s more to treatment than just circumcision, and men deserve options, dignity, and evidence-based care. That’s what we’re all about at Restorative Health Clinic.” 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

• The Penis Project podcast Episode 107- Penis Skin Conditions with Dermatologist Dr Ahmed 

• Check out our Youtube for more information on phimosis 

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• Australia: Ships via Restorative Health Clinic 

Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

 Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett  

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Linkedin: 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2019, Mish shares his raw and insightful journey of treatment, recovery, and rebuilding life as a man post-cancer. From Johannesburg to Canada, his story spans continents and emotions — and ultimately, his experience led him to create a space for other men navigating the often-silent challenges of prostate cancer recovery. 

Mish now supports men and their partners through personalised coaching, offering emotional guidance, tools for self-reinvention, and a path toward rediscovering identity and intimacy. He also speaks about the recent release of his book — including why the original title sparked controversy and was later renamed. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• Mish’s prostate cancer diagnosis and the decisions he faced 

• The physical and psychological recovery process after treatment 

• How prostate cancer affects male identity, sexuality, and relationships 

• The importance of support networks for both men and their partners 

• His work as a men’s health coach and the creation of The Recovering Man 

• The evolving conversation around masculinity, vulnerability, and healing 

• Insights from his newly released book on finding sexual pleasure without relying on hard erections.

Key Takeaways: 

Life after prostate cancer is about more than just surviving — it’s about reclaiming who you are. Mish encourages men to explore healing not only of the body but also of self-image, connection, and purpose. 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a confidential consult, in clinic or on telehealth, with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

• Visit The Recovering Man: https://www.recoveringman.net/  – Coaching, articles, and resources for men navigating life after prostate cancer. 

•  Book by Mish Middelmann: Beyond Erections available as paperback or eBook. Details at www.beyonderections.com/book. 

•  Learn more about men’s sexual health services: www.rshealth.com.au 

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Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people navigating penile health—just like Mish. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

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TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

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Linkedin: 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Frida explains what psychosomatic therapy really is (hint: it’s simpler than you think!), and how disconnection between body and mind often lies at the root of illness, fatigue, and sexual dysfunction. With wisdom grounded in yoga, Ayurveda, remedial bodywork, and Eastern and Western healing philosophies, she shares how aligning your physical form can profoundly impact your mental and emotional wellbeing. 

From postural alignment to pelvic floor balance and the power of the breath, this conversation uncovers the life-changing benefits of reconnecting to your body—especially for men dealing with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, or post-cancer recovery. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• What is psychosomatic therapy—and how can it help? 

• Frida’s journey from artist to bodyworker to therapist 

• The Body Mapping Method: what it is, how it works, and why it’s so powerful 

• How posture and muscle tone affect sexual function, stress, and overall health 

• Real-life client transformations through simple body realignment and breathwork 

• Why balance (front/back, top/bottom) in the body is essential—especially for men 

• The link between gym routines, hypertonic pelvic floors, and erectile dysfunction 

• Why breath is the unsung hero of healing and optimal sexual health 

Key Takeaways: 

• Your body tells a story. Posture and breath reflect your stress, habits, and mindset. 

• Balance matters. Overtraining visible muscles while neglecting the rest (like glutes and pelvic floor) can contribute to erectile dysfunction and pain. 

• Small tweaks, big impact. Conscious breathing, posture correction, and gentle movement can lead to major improvements in wellbeing and sexual health. 

• The body remembers. Emotional trauma can live in our tissues; releasing it through bodywork can be incredibly healing. 

• Self-agency is powerful. When you understand your body, you reclaim the power to heal. 

Expert Insights: 

“You are not a sum of disconnected parts—you are one beautiful, functional whole.”  — Melissa Hadley Barrett 

“The breath connects everything. Your nervous system depends on the frequency and depth of the breath.”  — Frida 

About Frida & Body Nature Therapies: 

Frida is a psychosomatic therapist, yoga teacher, remedial massage practitioner, and artist. She founded Body Nature Therapies in 2004 and developed the unique Body Mapping Method, a process that uses illustrated posture analysis to help people visually reconnect with their bodies. 

With decades of experience and a deep passion for self-empowerment and natural healing, Frida helps clients access lasting change—physically, mentally, and emotionally. 

 Learn more: Instagram - @body_nature_therapies  Available for online consultations https://bodynature.org/  

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au   

• https://bodynature.org/ 

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If you’d like to share your journey, special skills or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

Facebook: 

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TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

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Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

This episode dives deep into: 

• Why Amy chose a career in urology 

• How penile enhancement treatments like hyaluronic acid fillers are helping men regain confidence 

• The rise of penile retraction as a commonly ignored concern—and what can be done about it 

• Using tools like Restorex and vacuum erection devices for rehabilitation and enhancement 

• Why Botox for the penis (Bocox) might be the next frontier in treating ED and penile retraction 

• The role of filler sleeves in preserving shape post-injection 

• Her concierge model of care and how it allows for more personalised, holistic men’s health treatment. 

Dr. Pearlman also busts myths and shares real-world insight from her clinical experience. Melissa shares a fascinating case of six men from Papua New Guinea searching for penis enlargement in Perth! 

Key Topics Covered: 

• Penile girth enhancement with hyaluronic acid filler 

• Filler safety, reversibility, and realistic expectations 

• Why sexual confidence matters in treating premature ejaculation 

• Treating penile retraction and post-surgical shrinkage 

• Erectile dysfunction therapies: PDE5 inhibitors, daily tadalafil vs. on-demand Spontan spray 

• How Dr. Pearlman learned procedures after formal training—and why that matters 

• The difference between snake oil and real innovation in men’s health 

• Cosmetic urology vs. functional outcomes: bridging the gap 

About Dr. Amy Pearlman:  Amy is a board-certified urologist, medical educator, and co-founder of the Prime Institute. Her career spans academic medicine, transgender surgery, male sexual health, hormone therapy, and now cosmetic urology with a focus on confidence, body image, and function. Known for her progressive mindset, Amy trains other professionals and speaks globally on men’s health and innovation in urological care. 

• Prime Institute: www.theprimeinstitute.com 

• Follow Amy on Instagram: @amypearlmanmd 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

Listen & Subscribe 

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We love hearing from real people navigating penile health—just like Amy If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. 

Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/   

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Tim and Melissa dive into everything you need to know: how it works, why hydro pumps are different to air pumps, the benefits of VaxAid's unique erection ring system, and what makes it TGA, FDA, and ISO certified. They also explore how this device fits into broader penile rehabilitation strategies post-cancer treatment, after surgery, or for general sexual health optimisation. 

Key Takeaways: 

• What is VaxAid, and how is it different from traditional air pumps or the original Bathmate? 

• Why hydraulic pressure is safer and more effective than air-based systems 

• The importance of nocturnal erections and penile exercise in preventing long-term ED 

• How VaxAid’s comfort ring system supports blood flow while allowing for sexual intercourse 

• Insights into post-prostatectomy rehabilitation and vacuum therapy best practices 

• What makes VaxAid TGA-registered, FDA-compliant, and ISO GMP-certified 

• How VaxAid is supporting global clinical trials in collaboration with FirmTech 

• Tips for pump maintenance, correct sizing, and why quality matters in men’s health devices 

Featured Product: VaxAid Hydro Pump 

• TGA-Registered in Australia 

• FDA-Registered (U.S.) 

•  ISO-Certified Good Manufacturing Practice 

•  Clinically approved erection rings (sizes in 4mm increments) 

•  Designed for both rehabilitation and sexual activity 

•  Works in water (bath/shower) or air (bedroom use) 

• Available in multiple sizes for optimal fit and pressure control 

Top Tips when using: 

• Keep pubic hair trimmed for optimal seal 

• Clean valve parts regularly to prevent water buildup 

• Use the handball pump for more comfortable use, especially post-surgery 

• Choose the right size—think Goldilocks: not too big, not too small, just right! 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: 

• Using a penile pump daily can improve blood flow and preserve erectile function 

• Men often lose nocturnal erections during cancer recovery—this pump helps restore them 

• Cheaper pumps can cause damage due to inconsistent pressure—medical-grade pumps prevent that 

Listener Offer: 

Get 10% off your VaxAid with the code RHC20 – available for Australian and international orders 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au  

Listen & Subscribe 

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Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Richard shares his journey from diagnosis to design, including his extensive research, collaboration with other Peyronie’s specialists, and the trial-and-error process of product development. His invention aims to improve comfort, reduce prep time, and enhance treatment outcomes for men using penile traction therapy. 

The Comfort Grip is designed to replace the standard Restorex clamp with a soft, adjustable, non-painful grip, offering ease of use and compatibility with both circumcised and uncircumcised users. This episode is a must-listen for men with Peyronie’s disease and anyone supporting someone on their penile rehabilitation journey. 

Key Takeaways: 

• Richard’s Peyronie’s diagnosis and personal experience with traction therapy 

• Why the Restorex device works well—but some people need an added fitting to enable to be more comfortable and effective 

• The invention of the Comfort Grip: a gentle, adjustable, and user-friendly alternative end fitting for Restorex 

• Product testing, manufacturing, and future commercial availability 

• Plans to sell via Amazon, eBay, and through Melissa Hadley Barrett’s website 

• Insights into the penis product invention world, marketing humour included! 

Not Just Another Gadget: 

Unlike traditional clamps that often cause pain, the Comfort Grip offers: 

• Infinite adjustment via a turnable bezel 

• Silicone padding for even pressure distribution 

• Quick and painless application—no bandages or taping required 

• Compatibility with foreskin (no need to retract) 

 Where to Get the Comfort Grip: 

The Comfort Grip will be available for purchase in May via: 

• www.rshealth.om.au 

• https://www.comfortgrip.co.uk/shop/  

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au  

Listen & Subscribe 

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Connect With Us 

We love hearing from real people navigating penile health—just like Richard. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  

Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

This conversation shines a light on topics that are often left unspoken: erectile dysfunction after surgery, managing incontinence, and maintaining penis health in the face of cancer treatment. Richard discusses the treatments he tried, including injections, penis pumps, oral medications, and a new nasal spray for ED—and what worked best for him. 

They also talk about the role of partners during recovery. Richard speaks warmly about the support he received from his wife Pauline, and how her own journey with vaginal discomfort was improved with expert help from the vagina whisperer Kate. 

Alongside medical insights, this episode explores the financial realities of treatment, highlights the importance of pre-surgical preparation (including pelvic floor exercises), and makes a compelling case for early PSA screening—particularly for men over 40 or those with a family history of prostate cancer. 

Key Takeaways: 

• Why PSA testing and early detection matter 

• New nasal spray for Erectile Dysfunction- Spontan 

• How pelvic floor physiotherapy helps with recovery and incontinence 

• Treatment options for erectile dysfunction post-surgery 

• The benefits of maintaining penis health after prostate cancer 

• The impact of a supportive partner and professional team 

• Federal and State government support available for incontinence products 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• https://spontan.hck.digital/patient-zone  

• https://www.pelvichug.com/ Louise Hug  

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

• Continence Aids Payment Scheme (CAPS)- federal Australian government https://www.health.gov.au/our-work/continence-aids-payment-scheme-caps  

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We love hearing from real people navigating penile health—just like Richard. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. 

Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/   

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Unlike traditional oral ED medications like Viagra (Sildenafil) or Cialis (Tadalafil), Spontan uses an intranasal delivery system to provide rapid onset—within just five -fifteen minutes—making it ideal for spontaneous sexual activity. This episode dives into how Spontan works, its benefits over oral medications, who it’s most suitable for, and the research behind its success. 

This episode is a must-listen for anyone dealing with ED, exploring options beyond tablets, or simply curious about advances in sexual health treatments for men. 

In This Episode: 

•  Why Spontan offers faster onset compared to oral PDE5s 

•  Differences in side effects between nasal and oral ED medications 

•  Ideal patient profiles and common prescribing scenarios 

• Clinical insights from over 300 patient prescriptions 

•  The role of Spontan in prostate cancer rehabilitation 

•  Tips for effective usage and what to expect with first-time use 

•  Why proper technique reduces nasal discomfort and sneezing 

•  The quirky catchphrase: “Up your nose and up it goes!” 

Key Topics Covered: 

• What are PDE5 inhibitors and how do they work? 

• Why nasal delivery bypasses gut metabolism for improved effectiveness 

• Comparing Spontan with oral Viagra, Cialis and injectables 

• Common side effects (and how to minimise them) 

• Using Spontan for post-prostate cancer sexual rehabilitation 

• Can Spontan be used more than once a day? 

• Compatibility with nasal decongestants (e.g., pseudoephedrine) 

• Patient success stories and selection criteria for best results 

Spontan Nasal Spray: Currently available in Australia via the Special Access Scheme. Book an appointment today at www.rshealth.com.au 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

Listen & Subscribe 

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Want to Share Your Story or Suggest a Topic? 

  We love hearing from listeners and professionals. Reach out via email at admin@melissahadleybarrett.com if you'd like to be featured or have suggestions for future episodes. 

Connect With Us 

Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://prost.com.au/ 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

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https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Dave opens up about his experience living with PE since adolescence, the impact it had on his confidence and relationship, and how alcohol became a coping mechanism. With courage and persistence, Dave eventually found the right healthcare support, the right SSRI medication, and a path forward that improved both his sexual function and emotional connection with his partner. 

Together, Melissa, Dave and Jen dive deep into the emotional, psychological, and physical sides of premature ejaculation — offering valuable insights for men, couples, and practitioners alike. 

In This Episode, We Cover: 

• What premature ejaculation really is – and what it isn't 

• The difference between primary and secondary PE 

• Why many men are misinformed or dismissed by health professionals 

• The impact of PE on relationships, communication, and self-esteem 

• Dave’s journey through trial-and-error with various SSRIs: Priligy (Dapoxetine), Paroxetine, Fluoxetine and Escitalopram (Lexapro) 

• The hidden cost of online treatment platforms – and why cheaper, more ethical options exist 

• How the right treatment changed everything – from sex drive to emotional closeness 

• Jen’s reflections as a partner and the importance of support, understanding and touch 

• How couples can reconnect through small changes, time together, and deeper conversations 

• Melissa’s recommendation: Sanctuary of Ananda for Tantra-based relationship connection workshops 

Key Takeaways: 

• Premature ejaculation is more common than you think – and it’s treatable 

• Not all SSRIs are the same. Personalised treatment matters. 

• The emotional and relational impacts of PE are real – and deserve attention 

• There’s no shame in asking for help. Support is available, affordable, and effective. 

• Sexual health is about more than performance – it’s about connection, confidence, and communication 

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: 

“If PE is affecting your confidence, relationship or sex life – there is help. You don’t need to suffer in silence. With the right support, treatment can be simple, effective, and affordable.” 

Resources & Links: 

• Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 

• Learn more about Sanctuary of Ananda – Tantra and connection workshops for couples 

• Listen to Cam Fraser’s podcast on modern masculinity and sexual wellness 

• For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  

Listen & Subscribe 

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Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

Websites: 

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders 

https://makehardeasy.com.au  

https://melissahadleybarrett.com  

http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ 

http://prost.com.au/ 

Facebook: 

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ 

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814 

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https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ 

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

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Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Scott discusses his diagnosis journey, his search for treatment, and how his dedication to finding answers eventually led him to renowned urologist Dr. Amy Pearlman. Together, they worked on a treatment plan that included injection therapy and ultimately a penile implant to address both Peyronie’s disease and erectile dysfunction. 

Key Discussion Points: 

• Hemochromatosis: What it is, how it’s diagnosed, and its impact on various organs including joints and the reproductive system. 

• The Journey to Diagnosis: Scott’s experience with multiple blood tests, working with a haematologist, and undergoing over 65 phlebotomies to reduce iron levels. 

• Challenges with ED & Peyronie's Disease: The emotional and physical toll of dealing with ED and Peyronie’s disease, as well as the psychological effects on both the patient and their partner. 

• Finding the Right Doctor: How Scott found Dr. Amy Pearlman through social media and her practical, compassionate approach to patient education. 

• The Decision for a Penile Implant: Scott’s experience with various treatments and the eventual choice to proceed with a penile implant to correct both Peyronie’s disease and erectile dysfunction. 

• Surgery and Recovery: What to expect from the implant surgery, recovery process, and post-operative care. 

• Life After Surgery: The emotional relief of restoring intimacy, how the implant works, and Scott’s advocacy through the Boston Scientific Patient Champions Program. 

Important Links & Resources: 

• Let's Talk All Things Men's Health (Facebook Group) – A support group founded by Scott to provide a safe space for men to discuss and share their experiences with various men’s health issues. 

• Dr. Amy Pearlman – Renowned Urologist specializing in men’s health and sexual wellness. https://www.primeinstitute.us/ , Instagram: @amypearlmanmd  

• https://www.bostonscientific.com/en-US/patients-caregivers/edcure-interstitial.html  

Take Control of Your Health:  If you're struggling with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, Peyronie’s disease, prostate or bladder cancer or other men’s health issues, book a consultation with our expert team at Restorative Health Clinic via rshealth.com.au or makehardeasy.com.au. 

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Facebook: 

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https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ 

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett 

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Linkedin: 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ 

 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Frank shares his experience from diagnosis to post-op recovery, including: 

✅ His prostate cancer diagnosis at age 72  ✅ The decision-making process between surgery and radiation  ✅ The importance of pre-op preparation, including pelvic floor exercises  ✅ His post-surgery recovery and continence journey  ✅ Erectile function rehabilitation using medication, self-stimulation, and vacuum pumps  ✅ Tracking nocturnal erections with a FirmTech Ring  ✅ His return to a fulfilling sex life and overall health improvements 

Frank’s story is both informative and inspiring, shedding light on the importance of proactive healthcare, honest conversations with partners, and the role of tracking progress in recovery. 

🎧 Tune in now to hear Frank’s journey and insights! 

Episode Highlights: 

🩺 Diagnosis & Treatment Decisions – Frank shares how his rising PSA levels led to a prostate cancer diagnosis and why he opted for surgery over radiation. 

💪 Pre & Post-Surgery Rehab – The role of pelvic floor exercises, continence recovery, and adjusting to life post-prostatectomy. 

📊 Tracking Progress with Data – Frank’s detailed logging of continence, erectile function, and the use of tools like the FirmTech Ring for nocturnal erection monitoring. 

🔥 Erectile Recovery & Sexual Health – Frank discusses the importance of self-stimulation, medication, and devices in regaining erectile function and intimacy with his partner. 

🩷 The Emotional Side of Recovery – How prostate cancer led to deeper conversations about intimacy and a renewed focus on overall health and well-being. 

If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Chris shares the story behind Squeezy’s creation, its impact on users globally, and its role as the UK’s top-paid medical app. Together, they discuss the importance of pelvic floor exercises for overall health, bladder control, and even sexual function. Learn why consistent practice can make a big difference—and how Squeezy ensures you stay on track. 

Key Topics Discussed: 

• What is Squeezy, and how does it work? 

• The origin story: addressing bladder and bowel issues with technology. 

• How Squeezy helps users stick to their pelvic floor exercise routines. 

• Tailoring Squeezy for individual lifestyles and physiotherapy plans. 

• Addressing specific conditions: post-prostate surgery, erectile dysfunction, and long COVID. 

• Why pelvic floor exercises are a lifelong commitment. 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Squeezy App: Available for a one-time payment of $2.99 in the UK and other markets. Download it from the App Store or Google Play. 

Notable Quotes: 

• "It’s like having your own personal reminder—your 'nagger'—on your shoulder all day, helping you stay consistent." – Melissa Hadley Barrett 

• "A little bit goes a long way. Even just a few exercises a week can make a huge difference." – Chris Robson 

• "The stronger your pelvic floor, the better your orgasms and erections. It's a win-win!" – Melissa Hadley Barrett 

Connect with Us: 

Don’t forget to subscribe to The Penis Project Podcast and leave a review! Share this episode with someone who could benefit from stronger pelvic floor health! 

Find out more here: https://squeezyapp.com/  

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

What We Talked About: 

• Real-Life Struggles: Shannon shares her journey with vulvodynia and vaginismus, including the physical pain and emotional impact. 

• Society’s Unrealistic Expectations: They chat about how society often sets women up with impossible expectations around sex and why it’s okay to redefine intimacy on your terms. 

• Getting Help: Shannon talks about her treatment journey, including using prescribed creams, considering therapy, and learning about her anatomy to take charge of her recovery. 

• Redefining Intimacy: A look at how sex is about so much more than just penetration and why communication and trust are key in relationships. 

• Let’s Get Empathetic: Melissa and Kate highlight why talking about these issues openly is so important for reducing stigma and creating a more supportive world. 

Big Takeaways: 

1. Pain During Sex Isn’t Normal: If you’re struggling, speak up and seek help. 

1. Support is Everything: Having a supportive partner, friends, and medical team can make a huge difference. 

1. Sex is Personal: Don’t let anyone tell you what intimacy should look like—it’s about what works for you and your partner. 

1. You’re Not Alone: So many people deal with these issues. Let’s talk about them and support each other. 

Join the Conversation:  Got a story to share? Or just want to chat about this episode? Hit us up on admin@melissahadleybarrett.com We’d love to hear from you! 

Resources We Mentioned: 

• Counselling and therapy for sexual trauma. 

• Pelvic floor physio options. 

• Online support groups and forums for those with vulvodynia or vaginismus. 

Don’t Miss Out:  Want more honest chats about stuff people don’t talk about enough? Hit that subscribe button and stay tuned for more episodes that keep it real! And don’t forget to leave us review.  

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Dr. Lehmiller discusses key findings from his research, including the results of the largest-ever survey of sexual fantasies in the United States, which reveals what Americans are fantasizing about and how these desires reflect societal shifts in attitudes toward sex and intimacy. 

Topics Covered in This Episode: 

• Future Directions in Sexuality Research: Dr. Lehmiller highlights underexplored areas in the field and shares his vision for advancing the study of human sexuality. 

• Consensual Non-Monogamy: We dive into his research on CNM relationships and discuss the cultural and structural changes needed to support diverse relationship styles. 

• Cultural and Demographic Variations: Learn how factors like age, sexual orientation, and cultural norms shape the nature and prevalence of sexual fantasies. 

• Research Inspiration: Dr. Lehmiller shares what sparked his passion for studying human sexuality and how his role at the Kinsey Institute has influenced his work. 

• Sexual Fantasy Trends: Discover the societal and psychological insights behind the most common sexual fantasies, and how open communication about desires can strengthen relationships. 

As the host of the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast, and a guest expert featured on platforms like Netflix’s Sex, Explained, Dr. Lehmiller brings a wealth of knowledge, humor, and empathy to this thought-provoking conversation. 

Tune in to uncover the science behind sexual desire and learn how to navigate your fantasies with greater confidence and understanding. 

Links and Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

• Dr. Justin Lehmiller’s Blog and Podcast: Sex and Psychology

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Together, we delve into one of the most common challenges faced in long-term relationships: reigniting passion and navigating mismatched desires. We discuss how to move from “roommates” to romantic partners, explore reasons behind dwindling attraction, and offer actionable advice for reconnecting with your partner on an intimate level. 

Key Topics Covered: 

• Defining Sexless Relationships: What constitutes a sexless marriage, and why it might not always mean what you think. 

• Causes of Diminished Desire: Life stressors, parenting, unresolved relational issues, and how these factors impact intimacy. 

• Shame and Guilt Around Desire: Addressing guilt, especially in the context of illness or changing life stages and rediscovering the joy of pleasure. 

• Rekindling Connection: Tips for reigniting the spark, such as reflecting on past intimacy, introducing novelty, and creating space for open conversations about desires and fantasies. 

• Practical Tools and Strategies: 

• The Sexy Happy Hour technique: A light-hearted way to explore fantasies, give feedback, and reignite passion. 

• Incorporating romance: Holding hands, going on dates, and reminiscing about exciting moments from the early days of your relationship. 

• Using games or prompts to foster communication and curiosity about intimacy. 

Memorable Quotes: 

• “Predictability leads us to lose attraction. Introducing novelty and curiosity can reignite that spark.” 

• “When we’re turned into roommates instead of romantic partners, it’s time to intentionally prioritize connection and intimacy.” 

Actionable Takeaways: 

• Start small: Plan a romantic date or set aside time for a Sexy Happy Hour. 

• Reflect on your core erotic emotions: What experiences excite and connect you? 

• Open the conversation: Talk about desires and fantasies in a non-judgmental and curious way. 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Sexology Podcast  

• Relationship and intimacy games for couples 

Subscribe & Review:  If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review! Your feedback helps us bring you more insightful and inspiring content. 

This episode is packed with practical advice and inspiration for anyone looking to reignite intimacy and connection in their relationships. Tune in now to discover how to turn the fizzle back into sizzle! 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

1. Health Management and Responsibility 

• The significance of individual responsibility in monitoring and managing personal health. 

• Exploring the role of hormone levels in cell regeneration and cancer development, with Melissa sharing a study on how low testosterone might increase the risk of high-grade prostate cancer. 

  Testosterone Replacement Therapy 

• Benefits and challenges of testosterone replacement therapy for mood, energy, and overall well-being. 

• Shane shares his journey with prostate cancer, from diagnosis to treatment, and how low testosterone influenced his health management. 

• A discussion on therapy options, dosage adjustments, and the importance of regular monitoring for optimal health outcomes. 

  Practical Health Tools 

• Shane and Melissa discuss the W-912 massage pen for nerve stimulation, used to improve recovery post-surgery and general nerve health. [Link included below] *note this is Shane’s experience and not a professional endorsement by Melissa 

Tune in to hear Shane’s unique insights on his hormone health, his journey through cancer recovery, and taking charge of personal health through informed decisions and proactive measures. 

Further reading:

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

 Key topics include: 

1. Prostate Cancer Diagnosis and Treatment 

• Richard’s decision to opt for robotic prostate surgery over radiotherapy and the recovery process that followed. 

• Reflections on his initial fears, including concerns about anesthesia, biopsy discomfort, and his catheter experience during recovery. 

1. Sexual Rehabilitation and Erectile Health 

• Richard discusses using a penis pump and pelvic floor exercises to prevent penis atrophy post-surgery, offering insights into the challenges and humor he’s found in the process. 

• Melissa provides recommendations on pump use, hair trimming for comfort, and ways to maintain sexual health as part of recovery. 

1. Intimacy and Relationship Adjustments 

• Changes in Richard's intimate life with his partner, how they’ve adapted their relationship post-surgery, and exploring different forms of intimacy as they age. 

• Open discussions on same-sex relationships and how prostate cancer impacts sexual health and partnership dynamics. 

1. Personal Reflections and Family Relationships 

• Richard shares his late-in-life coming out journey, the importance of family connections, and maintaining positive relationships with loved ones, including his ex-wife and daughters. 

• A heartfelt discussion on cherishing relationships and the importance of support systems through health challenges. 

1. Next Steps and Health Management 

• Richard’s ongoing regimen: daily use of the penis pump, pelvic floor exercises, upcoming PSA test follow-up, and transitioning from incontinence underwear as his continence improves. 

Listen to Richard’s candid account of resilience, adaptation, and love as he navigates life post-prostate cancer.

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Today we are going to discuss the big takeaways we got from this years conference. In future episodes I will discuss some of these topics in more detail but for today is an overview.  

I chose to attend mainly presentations around prostate cancer rehabilitation, peyronies disease and relationship issues. Kate attended lots of sessions on women’s health, wellbeing and sexuality.  

My top takeaway was that the research shows ‘less positive outcomes for penile rehabilitation when started greater than 6 months following prostate cancer surgery’ so it is my mission this year to get men to come in earlier and not wait to start rehab.  

Kates big takeaway is that Ph is not just important in pool water, it is also very important in vagina health.  

Listen here to find out more about: Testosterone(having low T may actually increase risk of developing prostate cancer), peyronies, how erectile function drugs are associated with decreasing risk of MACE (major adverse cardiac events), of the 237 reasons people cited for having sex what was the number 1 reason, what is Bocox and many more exciting tit bits.  

Following the conference Kate and I also went on a trip for a few days up the Amazon and did lots exciting things including piranha fishing so we tell you the highlights of this too and recommend you put this on your bucket list. 

If you would like to read the paper that discusses testosterone and prostate cancer this, is it: Prostate safety events during testosterone replacement therapy in men with hypogonadism: A randomised clinical trial. December 2023 JAMA Network Open 6(12):e2348692, DOI:10.1001/jamanetworkopen.2023.48692 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

 - PSA anxiety is a very real feeling that many men and their families feel when waiting for PSA results.

 - What a rise in PSA means and why you don’t need to panic and why you shouldn’t compare your result with your mates. 

 - Bust some PSA myths, plus what to do when it rises and when to be concerned.  

 - What is new in prostate cancer diagnosis and treatments in the future.

 - What is Theranostics and how this could be a big thing in the future of prostate cancer treatment. 

We also discuss the big one ADT treatment (testosterone lowering) what, when, how and why. Is using testosterone therapy when you have had prostate cancer a definite NO, you may be surprised with the answer. 

Find the GU Cast on Instagram gu_cast_podcast this podcast focuses on GU Oncology, all about prostate, kidney, bladder, testis and penile cancer and is hosted by Declan Murphy and Renu Eapen  

Website www.gucast.org   

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Mr Dangerfield in conjunction with Prof Chris Coombs have developed a surgical technique to restore erections utilizing nerve grafting.  

Listen to Melissa have an informal chat with David about this revolutionary surgery. Topics covered are what the surgery entails, who is the perfect candidate, pre-habilitation and rehabilitation following surgery, and much more.   

At present this surgery has mainly been utilised for post-prostate cancer surgical patients but we also discuss areas that this could help other men.

For more information about this innovative technique and Dangerfield, please go to this website where you will find links to TV presentations, other podcasts, YouTube interviews and much more. https://www.cucare.com.au/erectile-restoration-surgery/ 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

Robert had an open prostatectomy in May 2009 and has been on a journey of self-discovery ever since. He initially saw men’s health Dr in Brisbane for 4-5 years until he went searching for other options. He injected twice a week for years a mysterious mix … he did achieve an erection, but this was not ‘wife friendly” as no spontaneity. He was only 57 years old at this stage and disappointed with the loss of what was previously a good intimate relationship. Unfortunately, he received advice that vacuum pumps were a waste of time and used injections for rehab, this became costly and tedious and eventually he ran out of steam 2016 and gave up. He felt shame about loss of function.  

 Along the way he met various health professionals whom he asked if they could help and usually, they didn’t respond well until he was eventually sent to a sex therapist who convinced him that outercourse was the way of the future. Finally in 2021 he was introduced to Victoria’s work by a physio he saw to assist with incontinence issues, and he hasn’t looked back. Through Victoria, he met me and Tess Deveze and continued to spice up his rehab and life. 

 This is a story of perseverance, patience, resilience, and of finding pleasure and joy. I hope you learn as much from Robert as Victoria, and I have and can use some of his lessons and apply them to you. You may be interested to join Victoria’s Hub (a safe place for men to chat, share and help each other. Happy pumping! 

- https://atouchysubject.podia.com/a-touchy-subject-community : to join the Hub Membership 

- https://www.atouchysubject.com/help-for-ed-post-prostate-surgery : free 101 rehab program 

- https://www.atouchysubject.com/ed-vacuum-pump-vacurect-demonstration-video : Vacurect training course 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

 In this episode we discuss; mismatched libidos (takeaway message – you are not broken), how to build desire, premature ejaculation from a psychological approach , “Post nut clarity” what is it?, how important it is to change up your script, and much more.  

 Emily (she/her) is a Queer cis-gendered Sexologist and NDIS Behaviour Support Practitioner based in Geelong, Victoria, who is passionate about advocating for LGBTIQA+ issues, sex, relationships, and the rights of disabled people. She specializes in helping disabled individuals experience the sex and relationships they desire, challenging societal barriers that have long denied them their sexuality. Emily offers sex education, therapy, and tailored support, drawing from her extensive experience with various disabilities and her interest in neurodivergence. She also supports young adults, particularly women, who struggle with sexual confidence, desire, and pleasure due to inadequate sex education and societal pressures. Raised in a conservative rural environment, Emily understands the challenges of unlearning harmful sexual scripts and now helps others do the same, guiding them to reclaim their sexuality and maximize their sexual wellness.  

We hope you enjoy this episode, for more information about Emily and how to book a consult please go to  www.emilyduncansexology.com 

That's Orgasmic podcast is on:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7KO3hdjoPXkYAU3lI4XEkO?si=S9ygU8VSRVC_AeQ0JEHP4A 

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Email: emilyduncan@thatsorgasmic.com 

To book a session with Emily at Emily Duncan Sexology follow the link: https://www.emilyduncansexology.com/ 

Sunroom: https://sunroom.so/thatsorgasmic 

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 TEDX 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

We talk about pads, travelling with pads, penile clamps, underwear he found comfortable, pumping tips and many more.

Please see the blog on our website for more detailed information and links to tools John discusses - https://melissahadleybarrett.com/show-notes/ 

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Today we talk to Archie, a 29 year old guy who has a tight pelvic floor. This caused him issues in the bedroom. When your pelvic floor is too tight it can be a contributing factor to sexual dysfunction in both men and women. For women it usually results in pain and in men erectile dysfunction can be an issue. Listen to this week’s episode to find out how this issue can be helped.  

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Frank talks about how he now wants to talk about his journey with others for two reasons:

1. To help other men in the same situation and,

2. He finds it therapeutic to talk about what he has been through.  

I sincerely hope that you listeners will enjoy this conversation as much as I did and that it gives men soon to go through this journey hope.  

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Websites:

https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders

http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/

http://prost.com.au/

Facebook:

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett

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Many of you saw the TV show where Dr. David Dangerfield was interviewed about this surgery. Professor Chris Coombes and Dr. David Dangerfield perform this surgery to return erectile function to men post prostate cancer treatment. Following Dr Dangerfield’s TV interview, I was inundated with requests for more information so here it is.  

Those of you who are longtime listeners of The Penis Project may remember Episode 46-way back in August 2021 where Jo Milios and I interviewed Dr. Dangerfield on this life changing surgery, and following in that we interviewed a patient who had been through the surgery (Episode 83). A few years have passed now and, in this episode, we speak with Mike who had non nerve sparing prostatectomy in May 2023 and recently had microsurgery with Dr. Dangerfield and Dr. Coombs to repair his erectile dysfunction.  

The plan is we will follow Mike’s journey over the next 12 months and see how he goes, so listen here for the initial post op recovery and keep listening for updates. 

Also, if you want to know more, we will be interviewing Dr. Dangerfield himself in September 2024 so keep listening. 

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Websites:

https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only

https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders

http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/

http://prost.com.au/

Facebook:

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett

YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin:

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