Like I was missing something. Like if I just paused for a second too long, everything would slip.

But nothing slipped. What actually started happening was… space.

Not loud. Not obvious. Just enough space to notice I wasn’t reacting the same way anymore.

This episode sits right inside that space.

Not the kind you force. Not the kind you try to create because someone told you to surrender.

The kind that shows up when you stop pushing against yourself long enough to see what’s already there.

And what’s already there isn’t always big. It doesn’t arrive with certainty or clarity or answers.

It shows up in the smallest moments. Moments that are easy to miss if you’re still looking for something louder.

This conversation moves through that.

Not how to trust. But how to recognize when it’s already happening.

What this episode moves through:

• The subtle ways trust shows up before you’re ready to call it that • Waiting without anxiety & why that changes everything • The shift from urgency into internal timing • Choosing without fear even when nothing external has changed • Letting experience build trust instead of trying to think your way there

There’s nothing to do with this one.

Just noticing.

Where you didn’t rush. Where you didn’t override. Where you stayed with yourself a little longer than you used to.

That’s where it starts growing.

Not through effort. Through repetition of being inside your own timing.

And maybe the quiet part is the part that matters most.

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome to Finding Fertility 00:37 Radical responsibility & creating space 01:07 What begins to shift after weeks of slowing down 01:36 How trust actually starts to show up 02:05 The subtle signs you’re no longer reacting the same way 02:35 Noticing one moment of staying instead of rushing 03:04 Trust grows through experience not effort 03:33 Moving toward integration in week 20 04:02 Closing thoughts & reflection

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Subtle%20Shift%20From%20Anxiety%20to%20Trust%20in%20IVF%20&%20Fertility

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Monica

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• The subtle ways control still shows up even when you think you’ve “done the work” • Why the mundane parts of your day hold more power than the big healing moments • The nervous system patterns built in repetition, not intensity • What it actually feels like to stop filling every quiet space • The difference between thinking about change & living inside it • How presence becomes something your body knows, not something you try to do

There was a point where I stopped looking for the big moment to change everything.

Not because I found it… but because I couldn’t keep chasing it.

I remember thinking something must be missing. Another protocol. Another shift. Another layer I hadn’t uncovered yet. And yet nothing was actually changing in the way I thought it would. Not in the timeline I had quietly decided it should.

And what I didn’t see at the time was how much of my life I was moving through without ever really being in it.

This conversation starts to land there. Not in the dramatic parts of the journey. Not in the big decisions or the big healing moments. But in the places that feel almost too ordinary to matter.

The parts of your day you usually rush through or fill up or try to get past.

And how those exact moments are where something deeper either stays the same… or finally begins to shift.

Timestamps

01:05 The reality of staying in the work over time 02:01 Bringing awareness into the mundane 03:17 Why big healing moments are not where change sticks 04:18 Presence inside ordinary life 05:17 Noticing the absence of urgency 06:12 How patterns are built in small moments 07:11 Parenting, awareness & self-compassion 07:40 Rewiring happens faster than you think 08:09 Returning to yourself in simple ways 08:35 What begins to shift without external change

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Hidden%20Pattern%20Keeping%20You%20Stuck%20in%20IVF%20&%20Fertility%20Burnout

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Monica

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• How awareness quietly turns into pressure and self-monitoring

• The deeply ingrained pattern of being hypercritical with yourself

• Why many emotional patterns are learned, not who you actually are

• The difference between observing and trying to fix yourself

• The concept of “the observer observing the observer”

• How judgment, shame, and blame activate the nervous system

• Why clean awareness creates regulation and softness in the body

• Letting go of the need to improve every moment you notice

• The internal stories that keep you stuck in “this is just who I am”

• Moving into a more neutral, graceful relationship with yourself

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

And this week… we go a layer deeper.

Because a lot of you have done the work. You’ve slowed down. You’ve started noticing your patterns. You’re becoming aware. And instead of that bringing relief… it’s quietly turned into another thing you’re trying to get right.

Watching yourself. Correcting yourself. Wondering if you’re doing it “well enough.”

And I get it. I’ve lived that.

But this is where things can get a little sneaky. Because awareness can very quickly turn into self-monitoring. And self-monitoring almost always turns into judgment.

So instead of softening… your body tightens even more.

This episode is where we shift that.

Not by doing more. Not by fixing anything. But by learning how to observe yourself without adding another layer of pressure on top of everything you’re already carrying.

Because the truth is… you’re not stuck because you’re doing it wrong.

You’re stuck because you’re still judging yourself while you’re trying to change.

And once you see that… something opens.

“Judgment tightens the body. Awareness softens it.”

00:00 Welcome and grounding into your fertility journey

01:35 How awareness turns into self-monitoring and pressure

02:29 The root of self-judgment and learned patterns

03:18 The observer observing the observer explained

04:47 Why judgment tightens the body and awareness softens it

06:12 You are the only one judging yourself

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-17%20Fertility%20Burnout%20&%20the%20Trap%20of%20Self-Monitoring%20Your%20Healing%20During%20IVF%20&%20Infertility

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• The quiet ways control hides inside being responsible, organized, and “on top of it”

• How overdoing becomes identity without you even realizing it

• The internal pressure of time and the feeling of constantly being behind

• The nervous system’s attachment to urgency and why slowing down feels unsafe

• The difference between reacting from default patterns and responding from awareness

• Why radical responsibility is not blame, shame, or self-judgment

• The moment you start noticing yourself in real time and everything shifts

• How small shifts in awareness begin to change your default frequency

• The gap between noticing your patterns and criticizing yourself for them

• Letting yourself be human while still choosing something different next time

“The hardest part of this journey is remembering to break the pattern.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

And this week… we go there.

Not the surface-level stuff. Not the “just stay positive” nonsense. We’re talking about the patterns that have been quietly running your life for years. The ones that look like responsibility. Like being on top of things. Like doing everything right.

But underneath… it’s control. It’s pressure. It’s that constant hum of feeling behind.

And I know this one can feel a bit confronting. Because when we start talking about radical responsibility, it can tip straight into blame if you’re not careful. That old energy of “this must be my fault.”

It’s not that.

It’s the moment you realize… you might not control what’s happening, but you are shaping how you meet it. And that changes everything.

Because this isn’t about doing your fertility journey better. It’s about getting honest with how you’re showing up inside of it.

And once you see it… you can’t unsee it.

00:00 Welcome and grounding into the deeper fertility journey

02:06 The hidden layers of control most women don’t see

03:34 How time pressure creates urgency and tightness in the body

04:30 What radical responsibility actually means

05:55 Forgetting, looping patterns, and removing self-judgment

06:51 Why shifting patterns feels unsafe in your body

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-16%20IVF,%20Control%20&%20Time%20Pressure:%20Why%20You%20Still%20Feel%20Behind%20During%20Infertility

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• Fertility burnout and the internal countdown • IVF trauma and rushed decision making • Subconscious blocks connected to age and timing • Nervous system responses to waiting • Emotional healing through integration not fixing • Mindset and frequency shifts through steady awareness

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This week is not about doing more. It is about letting what you have already seen settle into your body.

Over the last few weeks you have noticed how time pressure became personal. How fertility burnout was not just exhaustion but a constant internal countdown. How IVF trauma and waiting can quietly rush decisions and tighten your pace. Maybe something softened. Not perfectly. Not permanently. But enough to feel a little more space in your chest.

Time is one of the loudest fears in a fertility journey. Age. Expectations. The story of I should have had this by now. And when that story runs unconsciously it shapes your mindset and frequency without you even realizing it. You start living inside the countdown.

“Time pressure loses its power when it is no longer unconscious.”

This week we are integrating. Not fixing. Not evaluating your progress. Not measuring how far you have come in your emotional healing. Just noticing how your body responds to waiting. Does urgency still grip the same way. Does your nervous system soften even slightly when you remember you are not behind.

When you live outside the countdown even briefly something profound happens. Choices return that are not driven by fear. Presence returns. Trust returns. Not because your circumstances changed but because your relationship with time shifted.

“When you stop racing the clock your system remembers how to feel safe.”

This is subconscious healing in real time. The simple practice of being the ultimate observer without judgment. No labels. No performance. Just awareness repeated enough that the frequency naturally recalibrates.

Next week we move into radical responsibility. Not as effort. Not as hustle. As ownership of how you meet your life.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome and settling into week 15 01:07 Letting awareness integrate instead of doing more 02:05 Time pressure age and the fear of being behind 03:03 Living outside the countdown 04:31 Reminding your body it is safe to slow down 04:59 Transition into radical responsibility

If you have been holding your breath for years this episode will feel quiet. Almost too simple. And that is the point. Fertility burnout thrives on urgency. IVF trauma feeds on the countdown. This week we practice something radical. We let it soften. We let the body recalibrate. And we see what choices return when fear is no longer running the show.

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-15Subconscious%20Blocks%20Hidden%20in%20the%20Fear%20of%20Waiting%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• Fertility burnout as nervous system time pressure not failure

• IVF trauma and how urgency imprints in the body

• Subconscious blocks around waiting and safety

• Emotional healing through subtle rhythm shifts

• Frequency changes that happen without force

• Radical responsibility without self blame

• Creating new evidence through small regulated moments

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This week we are not fixing your fertility. We are not solving your timeline. We are looking at the quiet panic underneath it all. The fertility burnout that feels like exhaustion is often just fear dressed up as productivity. The internal clock that feels biological is usually emotional. And when you slow down enough to notice that time pressure is a story your nervous system has memorized, something softens.

You are not behind. You are not late. You are not running out. What if the urgency you feel is not truth but conditioning? What if IVF trauma and subconscious blocks around time have trained your body to believe waiting is dangerous? That is the frequency we are unraveling. Not with force. Not with performance. Just awareness.

“If I told you that you would have your dream family by 2028 and it was a hard guarantee, you would finally relax.”

That is the gift you are practicing giving yourself. When the body no longer feels threatened by time, coherence begins. When you pause without fear, that is emotional healing in motion. And when you notice even one moment where you did not rush, that is subconscious healing happening in real time.

“Your body knows how to regulate pace when it is not driven by fear.”

This episode is about noticing those subtle shifts. The breath that deepens. The decision that waits. The moment you choose rest over reaction. Fertility burnout loses its grip when urgency is no longer your identity. And next week we close this chapter by asking one honest question. Has your relationship with time actually changed in your bones?

Timestamps

00:00 Opening and the deeper layer beneath fertility burnout 01:32 Awareness creating space around time pressure 02:56 The magic wish and what happens when urgency dissolves 03:55 Recognizing subtle nervous system regulation shifts 04:53 Celebrating moments where waiting no longer feels dangerous 05:19 Feeling the shift in your relationship with time

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-14%20Fertility%20Burnout%20Time%20Pressure%20Healing%20Urgency%20at%20the%20Nervous%20System

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• How time pressure reshapes fertility decision making

• The nervous system response behind urgency and fertility burnout

• IVF trauma and the fear of waiting too long

• Subconscious blocks around age timelines and regret

• The difference between relief based decisions and intuitive alignment

• How urgency contracts fascia nervous system and frequency

• Emotional healing through awareness rather than force

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This week we are not fixing anything. We are noticing something. The quiet way time pressure starts deciding for you. Not loudly. Not dramatically. Just subtly enough that urgency begins to feel responsible and stillness starts to feel reckless.

You can feel it in the body. The contraction. The narrowing. The sense that if you do not choose now you will miss your only window. Fertility burnout often does not come from doing too little. It comes from doing too much too fast because waiting feels dangerous. And sometimes what looks like decisiveness is actually relief. Relief from uncertainty. Relief from the discomfort of not knowing.

“Time pressure does not just affect timing. It affects discernment.”

There is a difference between intuition and urgency. Between a grounded next step and a subconscious block that whispers you are running out of time. If you have ever rushed into IVF from fear or rushed away from it from panic you know this energy. The body knows the difference even when the mind pretends it does not.

“Decisions made under time pressure feel different in the body.”

This episode is not about judging your past choices. It is about seeing the pace. Seeing where presence was replaced by pressure. And asking yourself one honest question. What would have happened if I had allowed more space?

Next week we soften the pace. But first you get to see it.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome and the shift into week 13 01:14 How time pressure begins narrowing your choices 02:14 Relief based decisions versus clarity 03:12 The fear of waiting and rushing into IVF 04:11 How urgency affects the body and discernment 05:10 Noticing without correcting and preparing to soften pace

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-13When%20Time%20Pressure%20Hijacks%20Your%20Fertility%20Decisions%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• How fertility burnout subtly becomes identity • The nervous system response to time anxiety and perceived delay • IVF trauma and over identification with diagnosis • Self surveillance tracking and measuring progress • The disappearance of self compassion under pressure • Frequency shifts that begin with awareness not force • Subconscious healing through radical observation

“When time pressure feels personal it creates self surveillance.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

There is a moment on this journey where time pressure stops being about the calendar and starts being about you. Your age. Your diagnosis. Your past failed IVF. Your story. And suddenly fertility burnout is not just exhaustion. It feels like identity. You are no longer navigating a season. You are carrying a label.

This episode is about that shift. The quiet slide from circumstances into self surveillance. The tracking. The measuring. The way your breath shortens when you think you are behind. The way compassion disappears and the inner voice sharpens. This is not because you are broken. It is because you are trying to stay safe inside uncertainty. And that realization alone changes everything.

We talk about subconscious blocks that form when IVF trauma or years of negative tests become personal proof. We talk about frequency and how tension narrows your body without you realizing it. And we talk about noticing. Not fixing. Not performing healing. Just seeing the moment the pressure moves from external to internal. Next week we look at how these identity stories quietly start dictating your choices. And once you see that… you cannot unsee it.

00:00 Welcome and the invitation to radical responsibility

01:07 When time pressure stops being about time

02:03 Over identifying with infertility and past IVF

03:02 Self surveillance tracking and nervous system tension

04:30 Letting the body reveal where it is holding pressure

05:55 Consistency intuition and the quiet work of frequency shifts

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-12Frequency%20Shifts%20for%20Women%20Tired%20of%20Carrying%20Infertility

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• The subconscious block of feeling behind in motherhood and life • How fertility burnout is amplified by internal time pressure • IVF trauma and the nervous system pattern of urgency • The frequency of anxiety when you live in future stories • Control patterns inherited across generations of women • Emotional healing through observation rather than force • The difference between clock deadlines and internal urgency • Shifting mindset without performing positivity

Timestamps

00:00 Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast.

01:03 Ten weeks of awareness around control patterns and overdoing.

01:58 Releasing time pressure and why the real doing may be doing nothing.

03:24 The hidden story of being behind and how it shapes your frequency.

05:13 Noticing how your body responds when urgency shows up.

07:11 Living in the future creates anxiety living in the past creates fear and neither is presence.

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/subconscious-blocks-the-frequency-of-i-m-running-out-of-time-during-infertility-week-11

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• Fertility burnout that hides behind productivity and good intentions • The subconscious blocks that make rest feel unsafe • IVF trauma and the nervous system pattern of overdoing • How guilt shows up when movement slows down • Emotional healing through radical awareness not performance • Time pressure stories and the internal fear of being behind • Mindset shifts that support subconscious healing and frequency change • Why rest without guilt softens survival mode

“Rest without guilt recalibrates your whole system.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

Last week you noticed how quickly doing replaces feeling. How productivity becomes a shield. This week we stay with what happens when that shield lowers. And usually what shows up first is guilt. Not laziness. Not failure. Guilt. Fertility burnout is rarely about doing too little. It is about never feeling allowed to stop.

When rest appears your nervous system may panic. It might whisper that you are behind. That time is running out. That IVF trauma or past disappointments mean you must push harder. And here is the uncomfortable truth. That push is often the very thing keeping your body in survival mode. Emotional healing begins when you pause without earning it. No reward. No justification. Just presence.

We are also opening the door to time pressure. Not the clock. The internal story that it is too late. That your fertility journey is on a countdown. You already know age is not the whole story. But your subconscious may still be running a fear based script. And that script shapes your frequency more than any supplement ever could.

This is where subconscious healing gets real. Not dramatic. Not loud. Just steady. A sticky note that says you do not need to earn this moment. A breath. A softening. And the quiet realization that safety is not something you achieve through overdoing.

Next week we go deeper into those time stories and the subtle ways they shape your choices. For now just notice what happens when you stop performing. It might be uncomfortable. It might also be the relief you have been craving.

Timestamps

02:29 When overdoing softens and guilt shows up

03:58 Rest without earning it and what your body feels 

05:18 Building awareness as subconscious healing 

06:15 Time pressure stories and feeling behind

07:40 Trusting your body and staying committed

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/FertilityBurnoutGuiltRestNoOneTalksAboutDuringIVFInfertility 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• Why overdoing is often about avoiding stillness, not productivity

• How autopilot patterns keep the nervous system in motion

• The link between safety, control, and fertility burnout

• Why boredom and pauses support creativity and regulation

• Observing impulses without fixing, forcing, or judging

• Learning to choose stillness rather than demand it

“The body doesn’t avoid stillness without a reason. That reaction is information.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is for the woman who knows she is tired, but cannot quite slow down. The one who has done all the things. The journals. The planning. The perfect routines. And yet something still feels loud inside.

We talk about why stillness can feel unsafe. Not because anything is wrong with you, but because stillness removes distraction. It asks you to be with yourself without a role, without momentum, without identity. And for many women on the fertility journey, that is where the anxiety lives.

This week is not about forcing rest or becoming some calm unicorn overnight. It is about noticing. The reaching. The tightening. The impulse to fill space. And realizing that those mundane moments are where the deepest awareness begins. Next week, we soften even more as rest gets re-framed without guilt or shame.

01:31 Getting out of autopilot in everyday moments

02:30 Why stillness can feel unsafe

03:54 What boredom teaches the nervous system

05:18 The impulse to escape as information

06:47 Re-framing rest without guilt

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/IVF%20Trauma,%20Stillness,%20and%20the%20Body%E2%80%99s%20Need%20to%20Pause%20During%20Infertility

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

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🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• How overdoing is driven by time pressure, not motivation

• The nervous system pattern underneath fertility burnout

• Why urgency feels responsible even when it is dysregulating

• The illusion of being behind and how it speeds up the body

• Stillness as a threat when worthiness is tied to action

• Noticing sensations instead of fighting stories

• Why slowing down is not indulgent on a fertility journey

“Movement feels like progress even when nothing is actually changing.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is for the woman who cannot seem to stop doing. Reading. Researching. Optimizing. Fixing. The one who tells herself she will rest once this works. The one whose body feels like it is constantly racing an invisible clock. And somehow, slowing down feels irresponsible.

We are not talking about ambition here. We are talking about urgency. The kind that comes from the story that you are behind. That you should have started earlier. That age is the most important factor. That time is running out. And when that story takes over, the nervous system speeds up, the breath shortens, and overdoing feels like the only option.

This episode is not about stopping or fixing anything. It is about noticing what happens in your body when the rush appears. Because when urgency stops running the show, something very different becomes possible. And next week, we go even deeper into why overdoing is often an avoidance of stillness itself.

01:25 Why overdoing did not start with fertility

02:23 Time pressure and the illusion of being behind

03:48 Movement that feels like progress but is not

04:17 Urgency as a body sensation, not a truth

05:46 What your future child will actually thank you for

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Overdoing,%20Urgency%20&%20the%20Illusion%20of%20Running%20Out%20of%20Time%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

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🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• Overdoing as identity, not behavior

• Why slowing down can feel threatening instead of nourishing

• The nervous system cost of being the capable one

• How worth becomes tangled with productivity

• Fertility burnout and emotional depletion

• Noticing patterns without fixing or correcting them

• Soft awareness as a form of subconscious healing

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode goes somewhere tender. Not into doing less. Not into fixing anything. But into the moment where slowing down feels uncomfortable because of who you might be without the doing.

For so many women, overdoing is not a strategy. It is an identity. Being reliable. Being capable. Being the one who holds it all together. And when that identity carries worth, rest does not feel like relief. It feels threatening. Not because things will fall apart, but because a quiet question surfaces underneath it all. Who am I if I stop?

This is not a week for correcting yourself. It is a week for noticing. The guilt. The unease. The urge to justify your time. And what might soften if your worth no longer depended on effort. Listen in and let this one land gently. Something shifts when you see it clearly.

01:06 Why slowing down can feel threatening, not restful

02:03 Overdoing as identity and where worth gets tangled

02:33 The quiet fear underneath constant productivity

03:32 How effort-based worth leads to depletion

04:31 When doing becomes a choice instead of a compulsion

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Fertility%20Burnout%20and%20the%20Identity%20of%20Overdoing%20Everything%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• How overdoing disguises itself as being responsible, capable, and admired

• Why slowing down can trigger anxiety, guilt, or loss of identity

• Movement as a coping mechanism for nervous system regulation

• The invisible link between fertility burnout, worthiness, and control

• How awareness softens patterns without forcing change

• What happens when you stop over-functioning for everyone else

Overdoing is not strength. It is often just a nervous system trying to feel safe.

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is a pause. Not the kind you schedule. The kind that sneaks up on you when you realize how much effort you are pouring into things that are not actually required. The kind that makes you notice how uncomfortable stillness feels when your identity has been built on being the one who does it all.

We talk about overdoing. Not the dramatic kind. The praised kind. The kind that earns compliments while quietly exhausting your nervous system. The kind that looks like leadership, motherhood, fertility dedication, or being the responsible one. And how often that constant motion is not ambition at all, but survival.

If you have ever wondered why slowing down feels harder than pushing through, or why letting something be imperfect makes your chest tighten, this episode is for you. No fixing. No forcing. Just awareness. And what starts to shift when you finally let yourself see the pattern.

01:42 How overdoing hides behind being capable

03:35 Movement as nervous system regulation

04:27 Noticing patterns without judgment

06:18 Letting go of perfection and control

07:07 The link between overdoing and worthiness

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Slowing%20Down%20Can%20Feel%20Unsafe%20During%20Your%20Fertility%20Journey

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• How control quietly disguises itself as safety

• The nervous system cost of gripping, fixing, and managing

• Why surrender often feels like loss, not relief

• Fear patterns hiding underneath overdoing and overanalyzing

• The difference between effort and force

• How honesty creates more space than pushing ever could

“Surrender is not the absence of action. It is the absence of force.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is an honest pause. A breath. A moment to look at how tightly you might be holding your life together and why. Not from judgment. Not from fixing. Just from awareness. Because control can feel responsible, productive, and necessary. Until it quietly turns into exhaustion.

I share a very real chapter of my own fertility journey where surrender was not chosen. It was forced. No job. No distractions. No fixing. Just waiting. And while it did not magically guarantee an outcome, it changed how my body experienced life. It showed me how much effort I had been carrying without realizing it.

This week is not about letting go of everything. It is about noticing where surrender feels dangerous. Where ease feels irresponsible. Where your body is bracing instead of breathing. And what might happen if you stopped fighting long enough to feel what is actually there.

00:00 Welcome and setting the tone for noticing control

01:11 How control disguises itself as safety

02:42 Why fear-based effort works against the body

03:35 A personal story of being forced into surrender

07:14 Where gripping shows up in everyday life

08:42 Surrender as honesty, not collapse

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Surrender%20Feels%20So%20Threatening%20When%20You%20Want%20a%20Baby%20During%20Infertility%20IVF

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

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🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• Control disguised as care, responsibility, and being proactive

• Why overdoing can feel safe but keep the nervous system stuck

• The quiet exhaustion of managing everything and everyone

• How fertility burnout shows up in the mundane moments

• The illusion of success created by control

• Becoming the ultimate observer without judgment

• Why doing nothing for a moment can be deeply regulating

Sometimes fixing is not love. It is fear in a more socially acceptable outfit.

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is a brutally honest look at control. Not the obvious kind. The sneaky kind. The kind that looks like fixing, managing, improving, optimizing, and being the responsible one. The kind that gets praised. And the kind that quietly keeps your nervous system on edge while your body whispers, or screams, for relief.

I share a very real moment where my own control patterns showed up while recording this very series. The urge to do more. Add more. Fix something that was already enough. And how noticing that impulse changed everything. Because the work that actually shifts fertility, burnout, and emotional exhaustion is not flashy. It is boring. It is mundane. And it asks you to sit with discomfort instead of outrunning it.

If you have ever felt like you are doing everything right and still not seeing the shift you want, this conversation will land. Especially if slowing down feels like giving up. Next week, we are gently reframing surrender so it stops feeling terrifying and starts feeling safe.

01:30 Catching control patterns in real time

03:40 When fixing feels like care but creates burnout

05:10 The illusion of success created by overcontrol

07:45 Why doing less can be deeply regulating

10:50 Becoming the ultimate observer without judgment

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Illusion%20of%20Control%20in%20Infertility%20IVF%20Why%20Less%20Is%20Not%20Giving%20Up 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• Fertility burnout as a nervous system pattern, not a personal failure

• How control hides inside efficiency, productivity, and being on top of things

• Why subconscious healing happens in micro moments, not massive breakthroughs

• The difference between fixing yourself and becoming aware of how you live

• Fertility symptoms as information, not punishment

• What motherhood reveals when old patterns go unchecked

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is an invitation to slow down without forcing yourself to slow down. To notice without fixing. To see how much of your fertility journey is being run on autopilot while you are just trying to survive another day of doing all the right things.

If you have ever felt like you need more information, more discipline, more control, this conversation might gently irritate you in the best way. Because the truth is, transformation does not come from tackling the big dramatic moments. It comes from noticing how you move through your day while making breakfast, checking your phone, planning what comes next.

This episode is about awareness, not effort. About where your nervous system actually lives. And why fertility healing often asks us to clean up the small invisible patterns before life asks us to mother through them. There is something quietly powerful waiting for you in the ordinary moments you usually rush past.

“Presence does not require effort. It requires permission.”

01:07 Why slowing down feels unbearable when control patterns are active

02:35 How control hides in ordinary moments, not big decisions

03:35 Why awareness changes reality more than overdoing ever could

05:55 You don’t need a new mindset, you need to notice where you live

08:22 What happens when you stop fixing, pushing, and managing

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Subconscious%20Patterns%20Running%20Your%20Fertility%20Journey%20on%20Autopilot

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• The subtle ways control hides inside responsibility and maturity

• Why most women do not experience control as force, but as protection

• How subconscious control patterns keep the nervous system tense

• The generational imprint of women holding everything together

• The difference between true safety and low level vigilance

• Why doing all the right fertility things can still feel exhausting

• Noticing control without fixing, changing, or judging

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is a quiet one. Not flashy. Not dramatic. And honestly, the most important place to start. We are talking about control, not the loud obvious kind, but the kind that feels responsible. Helpful. Protective. The kind most women were praised for growing up.

I share how control once felt like safety in my own body and how that same pattern followed me into fertility and motherhood. Not because I was rigid or difficult, but because my nervous system thought staying on top of everything was the only way to relax later. Spoiler alert. Later never comes.

This week is not about fixing control or doing something differently. It is about noticing the moment your body tightens and asking one simple question. Is this safety or is this tension? That awareness alone is more powerful than any checklist. And next week, we go deeper into how this shows up in the most mundane moments of your day.

“Control doesn’t feel aggressive. It feels responsible. Mature. Protective.”

01:07 When control feels like safety instead of stress

02:34 Generational patterns and the emotional labor women carry

04:49 Why control actually makes motherhood and fertility heavier

06:13 The nervous system difference between safety and vigilance

07:42 Becoming the ultimate observer in everyday moments

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-2-fertility-burnout-nobody-talks-about-the-cost-of-quiet-control

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• Fertility burnout and why over-efforting feels safe but keeps you stuck

• IVF trauma and how control becomes a subconscious coping strategy

• The illusion of control as protection for the nervous system

• Subconscious healing through awareness, not fixing

• Why frequency behind action matters more than the action itself

• Gut health, mindset, emotional healing, and nervous system regulation as lived experiences

• Slowing down without losing momentum or responsibility

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be.

This episode kicks off a gentle but powerful series that is not about learning more or doing more. It is about noticing what is already happening beneath the surface. Especially the places where control has quietly become your safety net. If you are navigating fertility burnout, IVF trauma, or that constant feeling of having to stay on top of everything just to survive, this conversation is for you.

We talk about the mundane moments no one glamorizes. Your to do list. The way you plan your day. The subtle micromanaging that feels responsible but actually keeps your nervous system on edge. I am not here to tell you to stop controlling your life. I am here to help you see where control is driving, and where it might be costing you more than it gives.

This is not about judgment or immediate change. It is about radical honesty, awareness, and compassion. The kind that opens the door to real subconscious healing. By the end of this episode, you may realize that the slow, seemingly pointless noticing is exactly where the deepest shifts in fertility, mindset, emotional healing, and frequency actually begin. And next week, we go even deeper into why control feels safe, and how to gently unwind it.

“If slowing down feels pointless, that is usually where the real work is.”

Timestamps

01:05: Week one begins, why the slow, mundane work is where true shifts happen

02:03: The fertility to do list and how control hides in plain sight

02:57: Control, obligation, and asking whether it actually lights you up

03:54: Frequency behind action, inspired movement versus pushing from fear

05:47: Why the old fast ways did not work, and the invitation to slow down with grace

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-one-infertility-ivf-burnout-control-the-slow-shifts-that-actually-change-everything

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• Fertility burnout after years of doing everything right • IVF trauma and how it lingers beyond the procedure • Why knowledge alone stops creating change • Subconscious blocks that show up as overdoing and overwhelm • The role of frequency in emotional healing and integration • Letting go of fixing, chasing, and constant optimizing • Becoming the observer instead of the manager of your healing

“Your body isn’t asking for more effort. It’s asking for coherence.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be.

This is not a New Year pep talk. This is not a fresh start fantasy. This is a pause.

There comes a moment in the fertility journey when learning more stops helping. When gut health protocols, mindset work, emotional healing, even subconscious healing start stacking up instead of settling in. When fertility burnout isn’t loud panic anymore, but quiet exhaustion. The kind where you know what to do, yet nothing feels integrated.

This episode is an honest conversation about that moment. The one where information is no longer the issue. Patterns are. Frequency is. The way you relate to your body, your story, your timeline, your expectations. The part where IVF trauma, loss, and pressure quietly shape how safe it feels to slow down.

I share why I am shifting this podcast into something simpler, slower, and more uncomfortable in the best way. Short episodes. Less teaching. More space. Invitations to notice how you move, react, strive, and hold control. Not so you fix yourself, but so you stop abandoning yourself in the name of doing it right.

If you have done everything and still feel stuck, this episode will meet you there. No rescue. No urgency. Just a truth that might feel sharp at first, then oddly relieving.

“Liberation begins when you stop trying to prove you’re doing enough.”

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome and grounding into the conversation 01:30 Why New Year energy never resonated for me 03:20 When knowledge became accessible, but embodiment didn’t follow 05:50 The patterns I see women repeating even with all the tools 07:15 Why this podcast is shifting into shorter, quieter episodes 09:30 Fertility burnout, IVF trauma, and the illusion of control 11:40 What real pattern interruption actually asks of you

“Nothing new needs to be added. Something old needs to be released.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-end-of-infertility-overdoing-a-new-frequency-for-fertility-healing

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• Fertility and gut health: How inflammation, processed foods, and nutrient absorption affect conception

• IVF or medical trauma: The frustration of being told “it just happens” after miscarriage

• Emotional and mindset healing: Turning discipline into self-love and rebuilding trust in the body

• Subconscious blocks and energy work: Letting go of instant gratification to create true healing

• Frequency, coherence, embodiment, and cellular health: How nourishment and awareness elevate fertility

"Pregnancy isn’t a sign of health, it’s a sign of reproduction—and those are not the same thing."

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be. In this episode, I sit down with journalist-turned-health-podcaster Natalie Tisdale, whose fertility journey led her deep into the world of gut health, self-discipline, and true nourishment. What began as frustration after repeated miscarriages became a quest for understanding what her body was actually trying to say. Spoiler alert: it wasn’t about age, it was about inflammation, imbalance, and intuition.

We talk about the myth of “bad luck” and how the body always whispers before it screams. Natalie shares how ditching processed foods, rebuilding her microbiome, and reconnecting to her body’s rhythm changed everything—from her energy to her fertility outcomes. It’s not about a long list of supplements or complicated biohacks, it’s about simple, nourishing choices made with love and awareness.

You’ll laugh, nod, and probably want to grab a cup of bone broth halfway through this one. We also dive into how discipline becomes an act of self-love, why antibiotics wreck more than your gut, and how trusting your inner guidance can transform your fertility journey. The message is clear: healing your gut isn’t just about digestion, it’s about coherence, connection, and creation.

"Discipline isn’t punishment—it’s self-love in action."

Timestamps 00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol 01:31 – Natalie’s shift from news anchor to health storyteller 03:20 – The real reason behind her miscarriages and gut health connection 06:24 – The perimeter-of-the-grocery-store rule that changed everything 09:10 – Why self-discipline is the new self-care 14:12 – How to simplify gut healing and stop the overwhelm 18:46 – Organ meats, bone broth, and forgotten fertility foods 22:35 – Small daily habits that reset your gut and your energy

"When you feel good from the good things, you stop craving the bad things—physically and emotionally."

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: Gut First, Heart Open: Healing Fertility Burnout with Simple Food, Nervous System Care & Soul-Level Trust Natalie Tisdale: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Healing%20Fertility%20Burnout%20with%20Simple%20Food%20Nervous%20System%20Care%20Soul-Level%20Trust%20Natalie%20Tisdale

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• IVF trauma and fertility burnout • Emotional healing and subconscious patterns • Radical responsibility during the TTC journey • Embodiment vs information overload • Epigenetics and long term cellular health • Victim mindset, inner dialogue, and emotional loops • Stepping into trust, self worth, and nervous system coherence

“Your physical body needs time to catch up with your mental reality.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

Today’s episode goes straight to the heart of the fertility journey. If you have been gathering knowledge, listening to every expert, and collecting every supplement like tiny emotional trophies, yet still feel stuck, this one will hit home. I share the honest truth that most women avoid. You might know everything, yet still not be living any of it. You might be doing the physical work while your emotional patterns cancel it out. And I say that with so much love because that was me for years.

We explore the real reason embodiment matters, why victim stories feel comforting but keep you looping, and how your body is always trying to catch up with the version of you who knows she is meant to be a mother. You will hear the clip I wish I had on repeat at twenty seven, thirty one, even thirty four. It will probably trigger something. That is exactly where the gold is hiding.

If you are ready to shift timelines, collapse old patterns, and stop living in emotional slumps that drain your fertility, this episode will land with a mix of truth, humor, and full body resonance. Press play and let this be your turning point.

“Sort the emotion that is keeping you stuck because we do not live in that story anymore.”

00:00 Introduction and emotional insight about the fertility journey 01:05 Why most women avoid the real work and stay in research mode 03:27 Epigenetics and why your emotional patterns matter 04:25 The difference between information and embodiment 06:47 The bold clip on radical responsibility 07:44 How victim loops block your fertility progress 10:05 Who is truly ready for a fertility breakthrough session

“Thoughts, emotions, and actions create your reality, and that is what will shift your fertility timeline.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/breaking-the-loop-of-infertility-ivf-trauma-and-stepping-into-radical-responsibility-fertility-success

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• The messy middle of TTC and IVF recovery • Emotional healing during fertility burnout • Subconscious patterns and self judgment • Frequency shifts and embodied surrender • Radical honesty with yourself during the journey • Letting go of control and rebuilding from a grounded place

“You cannot light switch your body. You cannot snap your fingers and erase decades of patterns.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode takes you straight into the heart of the messy middle, that uncomfortable space between who you were and who you are becoming. If you feel like life is a wobbly tower of blocks and you are using every toe, finger, and nose hair to hold it together, you are not alone. This is the moment where surrender feels impossible and control feels safer, yet your body is quietly asking for stillness, honesty, and trust.

We explore the deep emotional patterns that rise when everything starts to fall apart, the subconscious urge to fix what is not fixable, and the beauty that comes from letting yourself “do nothing” for a moment. Yes, I even talk about my husband sleeping his way to genius and how your soul babies probably wish you would slow down long enough to hear yourself think.

This conversation invites you to soften. To witness the chaos without judgment. To release the frantic Googling and the need for the next perfect plan. And to remember that the void is not punishment. It is power. The version of you on the other side of this episode is clearer, calmer, and more aligned. Press play and feel the shift begin.

“Judgment only comes from the mind. No one is judging you but you.”

00:00 Opening insight on intuition and fertility 01:28 The truth about the messy middle of TTC 04:40 Why letting go of control changes your emotional frequency 07:29 The radical honesty required for real transformation 10:25 How doing nothing can create the biggest breakthroughs 12:47 Reframing setbacks, miscarriages, and slow progress 14:46 Understanding judgment, frequency, and emotional alignment

“Sometimes the greatest healing comes from sitting in the void and doing absolutely nothing.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/when-your-infertility-ivf-journey-feels-like-it-is-falling-apart-even-when-you-re-doing-everything-right

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• Feeling like it is the end when you have one embryo left or one last IVF transfer • Obsessing over fertility numbers and treating them like destiny • Subconscious gender stories, boy mom identity and beliefs about women • Spirit babies, soul contracts and staying grounded in your own joy • Cellular health, frequency and trusting fertility as innate • Nervous system safety, emotional release and facing hard feelings instead of staying positive • False surrender, discipline as self love and choosing to live your life while TTC

“Those are just stories we're making up.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

In this intimate, behind the scenes coaching session, we walk into the tender place so many women land on this journey. The place where you are staring at your labs, your age, your one embryo left and your brain is screaming, this is the end. I share how I went into my own last frozen embryo transfer with the twins convinced it was my final shot, miscarried, and truly believed I would only have one child. Looking back with the eyes I have now, I can see how much of that was a story, a protection pattern and a total disconnect from the truth that fertility lives in your cells, not in your fear.

We explore gender anxiety, boy versus girl stories, and the sneaky subconscious beliefs many of us carry about women, mothers and ourselves. I talk about growing up with a deeply masculine mother, realizing I subconsciously thought all women were bitches, and why my mentor once told me I literally could not hold the woman frequency yet. We fold in spirit babies, soul contracts, and the very human temptation to outsource our power to readings instead of doing the unsexy work of cellular health, nervous system safety, emotional healing and actual joy.

If you are tired of trying to stay positive, secretly terrified of another failed transfer, or spinning in false surrender while saying you have “let it go,” this conversation is your loving interruption. You will hear practical tools, real stories and a deeply truthful reframe that might finally let your shoulders drop and your heart exhale. Press play if you are ready to believe that this is not the end and that your baby is far more interested in your frequency than your perfection.

“Anyways, that's why it's all about you. The baby doesn't want anything. It wants the same frequency, so coming home to yourself is the best thing you can do.”

Timestamps 00:00 - When you are doing everything right energetically and still stressed before IVF 02:51 - Thinking this is the end after loss and why those stories are not the full truth 10:21 - Boy mom identity, feminine wounds and subconscious beliefs about women 17:57 - Spirit baby readings, soul contracts and not outsourcing your power 26:36 - Facing hard emotions instead of forcing positivity before an IVF transfer 32:45 - Written in the stars, miscarriage guilt and what really affects pregnancy 36:29 - Client story of failed IVF, natural conception and releasing TTC timelines

“This is just a chapter. It is not the end. I'm done trying to conceive. I'm going to live my life.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/one-embryo-left-ivf-transfer-anxiety-spirit-babies-letting-go-of-fertility-numbers-as-destiny

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• The emotional and energetic cost of modern womanhood and chronic overwork

• How burnout, stress, and disconnection from joy impact fertility and hormones

• The problem with “junk science” fertility myths around age and supplements

• IVF and medical trauma, and how to reclaim body trust after disempowering experiences

• Gut health as a foundation for hormonal and cellular repair

• Reprogramming subconscious blocks that keep you outsourcing power to experts

• Using discernment and intuition when navigating fertility protocols

• Energetic frequency, emotional coherence, and the cellular blueprint of health

• How AI is reshaping fertility support while still requiring human awareness and embodiment

• Radical responsibility and the shift from victimhood to empowerment

"No one is coming to fix you. And I don’t mean that harshly—it’s actually the most powerful truth you’ll ever accept."

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be. This episode goes deep into the burnout and disconnection women face in the name of “doing it all.” We talk about what it really costs to chase success at the expense of joy, peace, and fulfillment—and how those energetic debts eventually show up in your body and fertility. You’ll hear raw truths about medical myths, why intuition is your most underused fertility tool, and how to stop outsourcing your power to experts, protocols, and even AI.

We also explore how emotional patterns and subconscious blocks shape your frequency, your gut health, and your cellular vitality. If you’ve been “doing everything right” but still feel stuck, this conversation will help you see that healing isn’t about doing more—it’s about aligning deeper. The real medicine begins when you get radically honest about what’s not working and start showing up differently.

There’s a little sass, a little science, and a lot of soul. By the end, you’ll understand that your body never betrayed you—it’s just been trying to get your attention. And once you listen, the magic unfolds naturally.

"Instead of asking ‘Why me?,’ start saying ‘I’m glad it stops with me.’ That’s when you shift from pain to power."

Timestamps 00:00 – Why modern success culture is wrecking women’s health and fertility 03:11 – Junk science, CoQ10 myths, and the power of discernment 07:28 – Radical honesty: what your body is trying to tell you 09:47 – Systems-based healing: addressing the whole ecosystem, not one symptom 17:14 – How gut health and emotional stress create silent autoimmune chaos 23:32 – The deeper energetic layers behind unexplained infertility 27:50 – Turning pain into purpose and rewriting your fertility story

"The baby is the cherry on top. The real work is becoming the woman who no longer abandons herself."

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: The Cost of “Doing It All”: How Fertility Burnout Masks What Your Body Is Begging For - https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-cost-of-doing-it-all-how-fertility-burnout-masks-what-your-body-is-begging-for-with-kirsten-karchmer

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...

This episode is packed with truth bombs, science-backed insights, and a big dose of real talk with fertility expert Kristen Karchmer. Together we peel back the layers of fertility burnout and talk about why women who “do everything right” are often the most exhausted, frustrated, and still not pregnant. Spoiler: it’s not your age, it’s your cellular energy.

We dive into the reality that fertility clinics rarely talk about—how rushing into IVF or IUI without repairing the foundation of your health can actually set you back. Kristen shares how fatigue, stress, and even emotional disconnection play a far bigger role than the latest supplement on TikTok. It’s about building resilience, coherence, and a sustainable rhythm that supports both your body and your future baby.

And yes, we go there: the illusion of control, the obsession with apps and trackers, and the collective conditioning that tells women to “do more” instead of “be more present.” This episode is your permission slip to slow down, listen deeply, and start aligning your energy with your body’s innate wisdom. Because fertility isn’t a race, it’s a frequency shift.

“The only way to get a baby out is to surrender. The same goes for calling one in.”

Timestamps 00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol 06:10 – Listening to your body instead of influencers 09:00 – The illusion of control and the myth of the fertility cliff 12:22 – How surrender prepares you for both conception and motherhood 18:12 – Generational burnout, epigenetics, and fertility 23:45 – Redefining success and rewriting the modern woman’s blueprint

“Surrender isn’t giving up, it’s getting out of your own way so your body can do what it was designed to do.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: The Hidden Cost of Fertility Burnout (and Why Surrender Is Your New Superpower) with Kristen Karchmer https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-cost-of-fertility-burnout-and-why-surrender-is-your-new-superpower-with-kristen-karchmer

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

• The concept of the morphic field and how it relates to fertility

• How personal experience creates new realities of possibility

• The power of meditation to release fear, resentment, and control patterns

• Aligning with a new frequency to shift the fertility journey

• Releasing stuck emotions and rewriting limiting stories

• The presence of spirit babies and the abundance of pregnancy energy

• Practical reminders to be the ultimate observer in daily life

“This meditation isn’t just about feeling what we want in the future. It’s first feeling what’s holding us back that won’t allow us to step fully into that field with confidence.”

Other Great Podcast: Morphic Field: Breaking Free from Infertility Blocks: The Key to Reclaiming Faith & Empowered Choices

Hello Beautiful

So here’s the deal — you say you’re doing all the right things, following all the protocols, eating the kale, and white-knuckling your way through every fertility suggestion Instagram throws at you… yet deep down, you’re still feeling stuck. Why? Because you’re dragging around old stories, fear, and control patterns like a carry-on you refuse to check.

In this episode, we’re diving straight into the morphic field of possibilities — that juicy energetic space where pregnancy, spirit babies, and infinite creation already exist. (Yes, it’s real. No, it’s not just for the woo crowd. Science even calls it a field of possibility. You’re welcome.)

I’ll guide you through a meditation designed to help you actually release the BS holding you back. Expect box breathing, grounding, and some radical honesty with yourself. You’ll feel the energy of thousands of pregnant women, connect with souls waiting to come earthside, and maybe even cry or scream a little. (Both highly encouraged. This isn’t yoga class.)

By the end, you’ll remember what I already know about you: your fertility is innate, your baby is closer than you think, and your job is not to overanalyze but to trust, surrender, and step fully into the field that’s already waiting for you.

“I wish I could take this belief system, this truth, and place it in your heart to allow it to grow and manifest in your own field.”

00:00 – Introduction & morphic field truth bomb 01:23 – What the four-minute mile has to do with fertility 02:45 – Creating a new reality of possibility 04:13 – Why releasing fear, resentment, and control matters 05:11 – The first layer of meditation: letting go of BS 07:04 – Radical honesty and emotional release 08:39 – Guided meditation begins 10:40 – Grounding into Earth & Universe energy 13:01 – Heart-centered activation 13:52 – Feeling the abundance of pregnancy and spirit babies 15:01 – Witnessing stuck stories & emotions 18:21 – Releasing density into the light 19:04 – Stepping into the infinite field of possibilities 21:40 – Aligning your frequency with new realities 23:37 – Bringing awareness back into the heart 24:08 – Closing affirmations 28:00 – Final reflections & reminder to observe daily energy

“You belong in the field of life. You are open to receiving your baby with love, trust, and surrender.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/fertility-meditation-to-trust-your-body-enter-the-field-of-creation-during-ivf-infertility

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Monica

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🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed:

• Breaking free from infertility negativity and victim mode
• How joy, peace, and surrender impact fertility outcomes
• The role of cellular health, gut healing, and emotional well-being
• Intuition as a superpower in conception and birth
• Shifting subconscious patterns and nervous system regulation

“When you lighten up, you create more space—and that’s where miracles can happen.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here… If you’ve been caught in the loop of endless failed cycles, heavy negativity, and feeling like life is on pause until that positive pregnancy test shows up, this episode is your wake-up call. We’re talking about the trap of victim mode and the invisible cost of living in a constant state of lack. Because let’s be honest, you can have the supplements, the protocols, the perfect diet, and still be stuck if your nervous system and subconscious are hijacked by fear.

Think of it like rewinding the same VHS tape over and over—it’s scratched, it’s stuck, and you’re not getting a new ending until you stop pressing play on the old story. When you begin shifting even 1% toward joy, peace, creativity, and living a life that lights you up—everything changes. Your body feels safer, your energy expands, and yes, your fertility can follow suit. This isn’t about perfection or pretending everything’s okay. It’s about consciously creating moments of freedom, love, and alignment, even in the thick of TTC.

If you’re ready to drop the control freak spiral, reclaim your intuition, and open space for something radically different, this is the conversation that could flip your entire journey on its head. Press play and let’s dive in.

“Intuition and discernment are your ultimate superpowers when it comes to fertility.”

Timestamps:

• 02:47 The power of letting go of obsessing over your fertility and living life fully.
• 06:20 How shifting your life and making it easier can transform your fertility journey. 
• 09:50 The unexpected role of joy and play in conception and why your reality can look completely different in six months. 
• 12:47 How to protect your peace and listen to your intuition to shorten your journey and save your sanity.
• 15:53 How intuition protects you during medical interventions that can cause traumatic experiences. 

“You don’t need perfection—just a little bit better, a little more joy, and a whole lot more trust.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/finding-fertility-pregnancy-success-over-35-with-ainsley-part-two 

Connect with Ainsley:

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Monica

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Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed:

• How parasites and gut health impact fertility
• The emotional toll of trying to conceive while traveling
• Supplements, diet, and the overwhelm of doing “all the things”
• Why surrender is the hardest but most powerful shift
• Releasing control and shifting fertility timelines

“There’s no magic off switch for surrender—you just have to practice showing up differently every day.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here... Let's get one thing straight right out of the gate: what if your "fertility issues" are actually a massive, screaming gut health issue in a clever disguise? That’s the mic-drop truth we’re sitting with today from a powerful conversation with a woman who lived it.

We’re diving into the raw, real story of Ainsley, who did ALL the things—the packing cubes overflowing with supplements, the obsessive charting, the perfect prenatals—and still found herself heartbroken every single month. She was the epitome of the overachiever, trying to control every outcome, and her body was having absolutely none of it. It wasn’t until a parasite (yes, a literal gut-wrenching invader) forced her to stop and truly listen that everything shifted. This is about trading the white-knuckle control for a soul-deep surrender, and realizing that sometimes the most radical act is to just… let go.

This episode is a loving, sassy reminder that your body isn’t broken; it’s trying to tell you something. If you’ve ever felt like you’re trying to solve a puzzle with missing pieces while wearing a blindfold, you need to hear this. We’re talking about finding safety in your nervous system, changing the narrative from lack to proof, and how your little one is already teaching you lessons before they even arrive. Get ready for some serious truth bombs and a huge sigh of relief. Press play.

“Life always finds a way if we give it the opportunity.”

Timestamps: 

• 01:58 Ainsley’s fertility journey, the parasite that wrecked her gut health and fertility, and finally becoming pregnant. 
• 06:49 The crushing weight of monthly disappointment, the all-consuming obsession, and the radical power of surrendering control. 
• 10:12 The control patterns and overanalyzing everything, and how she learned to enjoy the journey. 
• 14:07 How gut health contributed to her healing, plus the proof points and mindset shifts that change everything.
• 12:20 The psychological toll of constant travel and feeling "unsafe" on conception. 
• 18:09 The power of releasing control and surrendering the timeline to reduce stress. 

“Our babies teach us lessons before they even arrive—and control is usually the first one.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/finding-fertility-pregnancy-success-over-35-with-ainsley-part-one 

Connect with Ainsley:

• IG: https://www.instagram.com/ainsleymoir/

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed: 

• Unacknowledged grief and its impact on fertility
• Miscarriage, IVF failure, and invisible layers of loss
• How grief gets stored in the body and nervous system
• Science-backed effects of unresolved grief on hormones and immunity
• Real-life stories of grief showing up as physical symptoms in children
• Learning to honor and process grief for deeper healing

“Grief is not a sign of weakness; it’s proof that you loved and believed in something.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here. Today we’re getting raw about a topic no one prepares you for on this fertility journey—grief. Not just the grief of miscarriage or failed IVF, but the invisible grief that creeps into your body, your friendships, your sex life, and even your sense of self. The kind of grief that lingers in your tissues like an unwanted guest and quietly shuts down your body’s ability to receive life.

I share how grief can dysregulate your hormones, suppress your immune system, and trap you in fight-or-flight—making you feel like no matter how “perfect” your diet or protocol is, something still isn’t working. I get personal about losing my dad, watching grief show up as pneumonia in my child’s lungs, and realizing that our bodies will always find a way to express what we refuse to feel.

This isn’t about fixing yourself or bypassing the hard stuff. It’s about giving grief a seat at the table, so it no longer hijacks your energy in silence. If you’re tired of holding it all in, if you’ve been “strong” for too long, this episode is your permission slip to soften, to feel, and to heal. Press play and let’s talk about the grief no one talks about—but every fertility warrior knows too well.

“If you don’t face the grief, it stays stuck. And stuck grief blocks life.”

Timestamps:

• 01:23 The invisible layers of grief in fertility struggles and why you need to recognize grief.
• 03:58 The science of how grief dysregulates the body and blocks fertility even when you’re doing everything right. 
• 05:26 The story of losing my father and how grief showed up as physical illness in my children.
• 09:54 The miscarriage I processed alone, and the long-term impact of pushing grief away.
• 13:08 Understanding that unprocessed grief and stored trauma can turn into a deeper health risk than diet or lifestyle. 
• 15:30 The importance of learning to honor and process grief for deeper healing during your fertility journey. 

“You weren’t broken, you were doing the best you knew how—and that’s all you can control.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-ignoring-grief-keeps-you-stuck-in-infertility-how-to-finally-break-through 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed:

• Fertility burnout & emotional loops
• Radical self-awareness and inner frequency
• Energy and mindset shifts for conception
• Unlearning societal and personal expectations
• Practical joy-based strategies for fertility

Your nervous system is listening to every thought, every feeling—get out of the loop or it keeps running your life.

Hello, beautiful souls. Monica here... If you’ve ever felt like your fertility journey is a relentless hamster wheel, you’re not alone. In this episode, I continue part two of my conversation with Diane Flores as we dive deep into how emotional looping, control freak spirals, and toxic productivity can hijack your body’s ability to conceive. We’re talking about the cellular level, the stuff nobody else wants to tell you, where your joy, boundaries, and radical honesty are actually medicine.

We break down the real work: not just yoga, meditation, or the “full moon ritual” hype, but how to show up in your mundane life with presence, awareness, and self-love. Diane shares her own journey of letting go of the story that her value depended on perfection and performance, and how tiny shifts in mindset, movement, and energy recalibration can literally change your fertility.

This episode is for the women ready to stop white-knuckling, to stop comparing, and to start leaning into the magic of their own body’s wisdom. Expect laughter, tears, and some straight-up, unapologetic truth. Press play and let’s do this together—you’re not broken, you’re just human, and your next chapter is waiting.

The more you shift your inner frequency, the more the world around you starts to shift too.

Timestamps:

• 02:58 How to move past the negative loop and find joy in the mundaneness of life. 
• 06:26 The importance of unlearning old stories and creating a life that serves you. 
• 10:28 Diane on how she shifted her mindset through meditation, self-awareness, and radical honesty. 
• 13:27 Daily energy practices and check-ins you can adopt as foundational fertility work. 
• 18:17 The power of releasing control and how that impacts conception and relationships. 
• 25:14 Diane shares the lonely and difficult journey of motherhood and how it taught her the importance of investing in herself. 

Your reality is made up, but you are the creator—stop controlling, start leaning in, and watch everything respond. 

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-real-block-to-fertility-success-breaking-free-from-control-stress-infertility-struggles-with-diane-flores-part-two 

Connect with Diane Flores:

• Health and Hot 7 Day Challenge- https://www.bossbitchradio.com/healthy-hot-challenge
• Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/dianeflores_ifbb_pro/
• Podcast: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/podcast

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed:

• Why control and masculine energy block fertility
• Movement, strength training, and feminine power
• Nervous system healing for conception
• Reclaiming joy and cellular health in fertility

“You can’t heal your fertility while living like a robot.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here…

Let’s get real. If you’re stuck in the infertility loop, white-knuckling every supplement, every meal plan, every fertility protocol—chances are you’re living in overdrive. You’ve been taught control equals safety. But in reality? That hyper-masculine energy is hijacking your nervous system and shutting down your flow.

This week, I sit down with Diane, who went from teen mom to pole dance studio owner to strength coach—and her story is pure proof that women can alchemize struggle into power. We talk about pole dancing as medicine (yes, seriously), how movement cracks open confidence, and why so many women trade joy for control without even realizing it. Spoiler: control is just an illusion, and your womb knows it.

If you’ve been carrying resentment toward your body, obsessing over timelines, or looping in that same “why not me” story—this episode is your mirror. It’s raw, it’s cheeky, and it’s a loving call to unclench, release, and remember: your fertility thrives on joy, not burnout.

Press play. Your nervous system (and your future baby) will thank you.

“Joy isn’t a luxury. It’s a fertility strategy.”

Timestamps: 

• 02:10 Diane shares her background story and life experiences, and how they have shaped her passion for empowering women.
• 12:00 The invisible mental load women carry and the importance of taking radical responsibility to change your life. 
• 14:40 Understanding the hidden cost of operating from a place of masculine energy and how to stop. 
• 18:00 She explains how she learned to show up for herself and stopped operating with masculine energy. 
• 22:41 The importance of learning that the magic is in the journey, doing what you’re supposed to without forcing things. 
• 26:32 The power of choosing joy and flow as medicine for your fertility journey. 

“Your cells are listening to every emotion you feed them.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-surprising-fertility-strategy-you-haven-t-tried-joy-strength-emotional-healing-during-infertility-with-diane-flores-part-one 

Connect with Diane Flores:

• Health and Hot 7 Day Challenge-https://www.bossbitchradio.com/healthy-hot-challenge
• Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/dianeflores_ifbb_pro/
• Podcast: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/podcast

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed: 

• Resentment in fertility struggles and IVF trauma
• Emotional burnout and subconscious patterns blocking pregnancy
• Partner resentment and navigating unequal fertility burdens
• Transforming resentment, grief, and anger into clarity and power

“You cannot logic your way out of resentment. You have to feel it, name it, speak it.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here...

Let’s get real: resentment is that hot, heavy energy that creeps in when you’ve been holding it together for too long. It’s the quiet rage when your partner doesn’t “get it,” the sting when another woman gets pregnant doing all the wrong things, or the heartbreak of feeling like your body betrayed you. Resentment builds in silence, in over-giving, in minimizing your truth—and it will block your fertility just as much as poor egg quality or high cortisol.

Resentment isn’t just an emotion. It’s an energy that hardens, clogs your flow, and eventually becomes a cellular issue—tight fascia, hormonal misfires, nervous system chaos. You can eat the kale and do the yoga, but if resentment is looping like an old VHS tape in your cells, your body won’t feel safe to conceive. The only way through? Radical honesty, naming your truth, and alchemizing the pain into power.

This is about cleaning up your emotional junk drawer before you step into motherhood. Because bitterness is not the inheritance your baby is calling for. Love, joy, presence—those are. So press play, get radically honest with yourself, and start shifting resentment into clarity, power, and a womb space that feels safe again.

“Where have you swallowed your truth? That’s where resentment is living.”

Timestamps:

• 01:58 How resentment shows up toward partners and women who “have it easier” in their journey.
• 03:08 The resentment that shows up from feeling betrayed by your body and dismissed by the system. 
• 04:25 How resentment hardens into disconnection and blocks conception.
• 06:05 The lonely truth of the fertility journey and how resentment impacts cellular health and hormones.
• 08:59 How to identify resentment, plus tools for alchemizing it into clarity and empowerment. 

“We’re not carrying bitterness into motherhood. That’s the old version of you.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-resentment-is-draining-your-fertility-energy-how-to-finally-break-free 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed:

• Egg quality myths and what science really shows
• Synthetic supplements vs food-derived support for fertility
• Nervous system, trauma, and the hidden impact on hormones
• Functional medicine vs outdated fertility protocols
• How cellular health and autophagy support conception
• Breaking the cycle of burnout and medical gaslighting

"Doctors are still running junky 80s science while your body is asking for the truth."

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here. In this episode, we continue part two of our conversation with Leslie Kenny. Let’s get real for a second. Most fertility clinics are still serving up recycled science from the 80s, handing out the same tired lines: “Your eggs are bad, your only hope is IVF.” Meanwhile, your body is quietly whispering, “Feed me, regulate me, stop drowning me in synthetics.”

This conversation with Leslie goes straight into the cellular level—where fertility actually begins. We talk oogenesis, autophagy, hormones, and why food-derived spermidine is a fertility ally while synthetic versions can wreck the very ovaries you’re trying to support. We call out the medical gaslighting that tells you your thyroid doesn’t matter, that your trauma doesn’t count, that lifestyle is irrelevant. Spoiler: all of it matters.

This isn’t about buying into another protocol. This is about reclaiming your biology, listening to your nervous system, and realizing that your fertility struggle is not proof of being broken—it’s your invitation to wake up to radical self-responsibility. The cherry on top might be the baby, but the real win is the long, vibrant life you create for yourself and your family.

Press play. Let’s rewrite the fertility script.

"Pregnancy isn’t a health certificate. Stop believing that just because you got pregnant, you’re thriving."

Timestamps:

• 01:40 Synthetic vs. natural spermidine and the danger of taking synthetic supplements. 
• 04:30 Understanding cortisol, hormones, and the fertility-stress connection. 
• 07:24 The egg quality myths, medical gaslighting, and the power of taking radical responsibility to change your health.
• 11:05 The impact of trauma, cortisol, and chronic inflammation on the nervous system. 
• 17:13 We discuss conscious motherhood, which starts at conception, and breaking generational patterns. 
• 19:08 How you can reverse biological age and take care of yourself to live a happy and longer life as an older mom. 
• 22:53 The power of practicing balance, listening to your intuition, and honoring wisdom from ancestral health.

"Your nervous system is the hologram running the show. If you’re not healing, start there."

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-real-reason-you-re-not-getting-pregnant-outdated-science-infertility-burnout-emotional-healing-with-leslie-kenny-part-two 

Connect with Leslie Kenny: 

• https://www.instagram.com/lesliesnewprime/
• https://oxfordhealthspan.com
• https://oxfordlongevityproject.org
• https://oxford-healthspan.myshopify.com/FindingFertility
• Your 15% off: FINDINGFERTILITY15

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed:

• IVF burnout, failed treatments, and emotional recovery
• Autoimmune conditions and how they impact fertility
• The role of thyroid health in fertility success
• Lifestyle shifts: diet, sleep, stress, movement, trauma therapy
• Reversing biological age for reproductive health
• Why patience and time can be your fertility superpower

“I spent over $100,000 on IVF and got pregnant naturally after healing my thyroid.”

Hello Beautiful. Monica here, and today’s episode is proof that your body is not broken, even if IVF made you feel like it is. Leslie and I dive into the messy, honest truth about fertility treatments, autoimmune chaos, and what happens when you stop outsourcing your power to doctors and start listening to your own body.

She was told donor eggs were her only shot. Five rounds of IVF, tens of thousands of dollars, specialists across the world—and still nothing. But once she discovered the missing link (a thyroid wrecked by autoimmune disease) and actually supported her body instead of suppressing it, everything changed. She got pregnant naturally at 43. No charts, no meds, no needles. Just balance, presence, and trust.

This conversation is going to ruffle some feathers, because we’re calling out the control freak spirals, the fertility industry scare tactics, and the toxic “just stay positive” advice that leaves women burnt out and disconnected. What you’ll hear instead is radical honesty, a reminder that your biological age is not your destiny, and a soul-deep permission slip to slow the hell down and let your body lead.

Press play now. Your ovaries, your womb, and your nervous system are waiting for this one.

“Patience and time are the two great healers—and yes, even in your 40s, it’s still possible.”

Timestamps:

• 01:57 Leslie’s IVF story: 5 failed rounds, autoimmune diseases, and hidden thyroid damage. 
• 06:15 The perfect storm blocking fertility: stress, poor sleep, diet, and disconnection. 
• 10:15 The fertility industry’s lies about age and why cellular health matters more when dealing with infertility. 
• 12:44 The dangers of over-controlling your body and how to find balance instead. 
• 18:10 The long-term health effects of IVF, the truth about epigenetics, and the importance of taking care of your cellular health. 
• 20:40 Leslie explains how she reversed her biological age from 39 to 21 and how you can reverse your fertility age. 
• 23:47 The science of spermidine, cell renewal, fertility longevity, and the overall health of a mother. 

“You’re not wasting time by healing—you’re buying back years of fertility and life.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-failed-ivf-to-natural-pregnancy-the-real-fertility-breakthrough-doctors-don-t-tell-you-with-leslie-kenny-part-one 

Connect with Leslie Kenny:

• https://www.instagram.com/lesliesnewprime/
• https://oxfordhealthspan.com
• https://oxfordlongevityproject.org
• https://oxford-healthspan.myshopify.com/FindingFertility
• Your 15% off: FINDINGFERTILITY15

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• IVF’s emotional and somatic impact on the body
• Trauma stored in the fascia, the womb, and the nervous system
• Functional freeze during fertility treatments
• Difference between consent and true emotional safety
• How presence and sovereignty change your IVF experience
• Preparing your nervous system for fertility treatments

The body doesn’t forget what it wasn’t given space to process.

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here.

This episode is not about protocols or lab results. It’s about what no one tells you when you’re moving through IVF—the way your body keeps score, not in numbers, but in tension, tightness, and silence. I share my personal journey of realizing how deeply my body had been overridden in the name of doing everything “right,” and how I finally saw the truth hiding underneath the scans and blood draws.

We’re talking about the residue. The frozen places. The subtle ways your body whispers “no” while your mind keeps saying “yes.” IVF isn’t just another dental checkup. It’s intimate, invasive, and sometimes downright disorienting. And if no one teaches you how to stay present, your nervous system quietly takes the hit.

This conversation is raw, it’s tender, and it’s probably the thing you’ve been feeling but didn’t have words for. If you’ve been moving through treatments and still feel unsettled, exhausted, or disconnected, this episode is your permission slip to stop abandoning your body. Press play and discover how everything changes when you bring your body with you.

Sovereignty isn’t about rejecting treatment. It’s about refusing to abandon yourself in it.

Timestamps:

• 03:02 The breathwork moment that cracked everything open, and I realized that my body wasn’t broken, just unheard. 
• 05:38 How I lived three years in autopilot, chasing numbers and procedures that only disconnected me. 
• 07:37 Understanding why IVF is not just another medical appointment but a highly taxing experience.
• 08:43 How the body keeps score in the fascia, womb, and nervous system, even without you realizing it.
• 10:38 How to heal your old IVF treatment trauma and choose it differently next time. 

You are not crazy for still feeling things from years ago. That’s intelligence, not dysfunction.

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-ivf-feels-like-trauma-and-the-path-to-reclaiming-your-body-safety-and-fertility-success 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed:

• Spirit babies and soul contracts in fertility journeys
• Outsourcing vs embodying personal empowerment
• Desperation, intuition, and fertility choices
• Radical honesty in healing and coaching
• Inflammation, nervous system health, and IVF readiness
• Why joy and self-worth are essential for conception

If you’re looking for a yes person, I’m not her—and that’s exactly why my clients heal.

Hello, Beautiful! Monica here, and today, Abigail and I are diving straight into the messy, magical, and often misunderstood world of spirit babies, soul contracts, and the radical honesty required on your fertility journey. This isn’t a fluffy conversation about dates and genders—this is about the deeper layers of healing, the work that either sets you free or keeps you stuck in a desperate cycle of searching for answers outside yourself.

I share real client stories that will make you rethink what “empowerment” actually looks like, from the woman who rewrote her soul contract and turned her health around, to the one who slipped into outsourcing her power and missed the point of her own growth. Abigail and I peel back the curtain on why people crave black-and-white answers, when the truth is found in the gray—in your daily choices, your willingness to do the work, and your courage to face radical honesty.

At the end of the day, fertility isn’t just about getting pregnant. It’s about reclaiming your joy, dismantling old narratives, and refusing to let desperation dictate your path. If you’ve ever asked for a quick fix or begged for someone to give you the “right answer,” this episode is your reminder: the only magic lies in showing up for yourself. Press play and let’s get real.

The worst thing isn’t not becoming a mom—it’s losing yourself while trying.

Timestamps:

• 01:49 Spirit babies, soul contracts, and stories about when spirit baby readings do more harm than good. 
• 06:40 The IVF desperation and the real reason clients get stuck after intuitive readings. 
• 12:00 We explain why you’ll never get a sugar-coated yes from us or the answers you want to hear.
• 18:00 Why lack of joy is a major fertility block, plus learning how to show up authentically in your fertility journey. 
• 23:10 Understanding that the ultimate goal of this fertility journey is to show up for yourself with or without kids.
• 30:17 What no one tells you about soul contracts and spirit babies' choices. 
• 32:05 How to use readings for empowerment and without losing your own intuition. 

Stop outsourcing your empowerment—you are the only one who can do the work.

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-stop-outsourcing-your-power-and-reclaim-your-fertility-now 

Connect with Abigail:

• Website: https://www.breathoflifellc.com/   
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breathoflife_healer/

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• Identity and subconscious patterns in infertility
• Why control and overdoing sabotage fertility
• Nervous system regulation and daily triggers
• Emotional spirals, jealousy, and comparison
• Radical responsibility in breaking fertility patterns
• Consistency in the practices that create lasting change

You’re not infertile, you’re dealing with a fertility issue and deeper patterns of control, fear, and self-worth.

Hello, beautiful souls. Today, we’re cracking open one of the juiciest truths I wish I had known earlier in my fertility and motherhood journey: who you believe yourself to be might actually be what’s keeping you stuck. When your identity is wrapped up in “the woman who struggles to conceive,” you unconsciously broadcast that story again and again, and your body follows suit.

This episode isn’t about doing more—more diets, more protocols, more supplements. It’s about the radical shift that happens when you stop identifying with the struggle and start collapsing old patterns. From spiraling over triggers to reaching for numbing tools like wine, scrolling, or endless Googling, I’m giving you real talk on how to unhook from the stories that are stealing your energy. Think of it like finally cleaning out the emotional junk drawer—you don’t need another gadget, you need to stop digging in the same clutter.

If you’re tired of living in cycles of burnout, control freak spirals, and constant “not enoughness,” this is your wake-up call. You don’t have to be defined by a diagnosis, a failed round, or a past identity. Press play and let’s get you into the frequency of the woman who trusts her body, holds her boundaries, and stops replaying the same old tape.

Lasting change doesn’t come from doing more; it comes from dissolving the parts of you that no longer serve who you’re becoming.

Timestamps

• 01:20 Understanding when your identity keeps you stuck in infertility.
• 03:20 Triggers, spirals, and how to break old narratives that you identify with during your journey.
• 07:20 How to shift your mindset and choose a new story instead of numbing patterns. 
• 15:03 The importance of letting go of control patterns and being consistent in creating lasting change. 
• 20:3 Unlearning people pleasing, high-achieving, and fertility burnout to rewrite your identity. 
• 27:05 The power of healing and unhooking from identity to become a conscious mama. 

How you do one thing is how you do everything—your fertility journey is showing you the patterns that need to shift for life.

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-identity-trap-releasing-the-infertile-label-for-true-fertility-success 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• Type A burnout in motherhood
• Nervous system regulation for moms
• Balancing health priorities with real connection
• Letting go of perfectionism in parenting
• Faith, intuition, and holistic wellness
• Navigating subconscious beliefs and cultural conditioning

You have to trust yourself, and most people don’t because they look at their life and think they’ve failed.

Hello Beautiful, Monica here, and I’m about to get real with you on a topic that’s way too easy to gloss over—how motherhood can feel soul-suckingly mundane when you’re wired as a high-achiever. We’re talking cleaning the same damn high chair for the fifteenth time and wondering why your nervous system is screaming for a project plan instead of playtime.

We dive deep into how our values can either anchor us or drive us into perfectionist overdrive, especially when it comes to our kids’ health. Melisha explains the trap of putting “perfect” above connection, the guilt that comes from letting go, and why sometimes the Gatorade from the sports snack bag is exactly the right call. It’s about radical honesty, grace for the slow process, and remembering that consistent, sustainable change beats all-or-nothing sprints every time.

You’ll hear raw stories about unpacking subconscious beliefs from childhood, faith’s role in keeping your values steady, and how to stand in your own discernment when the cultural noise around you is deafening. If you’re ready for a conversation that’s equal parts loving nudge and truth bomb, press play now.

Healing isn’t glamorous. It’s showing up for yourself in the mundane, over and over again.

Timestamps

• 02:00 The identity crisis that Type A women experience in motherhood and how to redefine what’s valuable as a mom.
• 05:15 The importance of letting go of perfectionism in kids’ health and allowing them to learn by themselves.
• 11:19 Why humility, curiosity, and taking radical responsibility are the real superpowers in healing.
• 16:31 Melisha on her Christian faith and how she learned to question the culture and trust her intuition more.
• 21:54 The isolating journey of untangling cultural vs personal beliefs in religion and wellness.

Connect with Melisha Meredith

IG : https://www.instagram.com/dailywellnesscommunity/

https://www.dailywellnesscommunity.com

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-ivf-burnout-to-fertility-breakthrough-why-nervous-system-healing-could-be-your-missing-link-with-melisha-meredith-part-two 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

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Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed:

• Fertility + Gut Health • Chronic ear infections and immune dysfunction • Natural remedies vs antibiotics • Listening to your body’s early warning signs

• IVF/Medical Trauma • White coat syndrome and disempowered decisions • Intuition ignored in the doctor’s office • Failures that reroute us back to self-trust

• Emotional + Mindset Healing • The emotional toll of motherhood • Body image and subconscious patterning • People-pleasing and fear of authority

• Subconscious Blocks + Energy Work • Passing down limiting beliefs to your kids • The real reason you can’t advocate for yourself • Breaking generational patterns through frequency work

• Frequency, Coherence, Embodiment + Cellular Health • How your kids mirror your frequency, not your words • Cellular health as a legacy • Radical responsibility and emotional coherence

"Knowledge is powerful—but if you don’t deal with the emotions behind your habits, you’re just decorating your dysfunction."

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… Today’s conversation is for every mama who’s ever stood in the doctor’s office, heart pounding, wondering if there’s a better way. Milisha shares how a cycle of chronic ear infections with her daughter became the spark that ignited a full-blown wellness revolution. We’re talking Midwest potlucks, antibiotics, intuition, and that brave moment when you decide: I’m going to trust myself instead.

But don’t be fooled—this isn’t another crunchy-mama flex. We go deeper. Into the emotional trenches. Into the people-pleasing, the mom guilt, and the wild realization that your kids don’t mirror your words—they mirror your frequency. That your fertility issues might be your body’s cry for help, not a broken system. And that healing isn’t just about diet or detox... it’s about emotional honesty and energetic alignment.

This episode is a potent reminder: your healing matters. Not just for you, but for your future babies, your nervous system, your lineage. Press play and feel the power ripple through you.

"Conscious mamas create massive shifts—not just for their families, but for the whole damn planet."

00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol 03:18 – Fertility struggles as a wake-up call to cellular health 05:05 – The moment Milisha said no to ear tubes and yes to natural healing 09:19 – Gut instincts vs white coat pressure: when to listen to your intuition 13:38 – Why changing your diet isn't enough if you’re emotionally stuck 15:04 – The pediatrician showdown: breaking people-pleasing patterns 20:01 – How emotional eating gets passed down through frequency 22:43 – Body shame, generational wounds, and what your daughter really picks up on 26:25 – The hardest part of motherhood for Type A women? The damn mundane

Connect with Melisha Meredith

IG : https://www.instagram.com/dailywellnesscommunity/

https://www.dailywellnesscommunity.com

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/emotional-healing-before-motherhood-the-subconscious-blocks-keeping-you-stuck-with-melisha-meredith-part-one

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• What radical responsibility looks like
• Low progesterone and overlooked physical blocks
• Energetic burnout vs physical imbalances
• How to spot where you’ve fallen off the wagon
• Getting radically honest with your habits

“You can’t out-energy a physical imbalance—and you can’t out-supplement a lie.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here... and today, we're not sugarcoating it.

This is one of those episodes—the kind that hits deep, stings a little, and heals even more. We're talking radical responsibility. Not the hustle kind. The soul-checking, lunch-skipping, progesterone-isn’t-a-fluke kind.

I had a powerful session with a client who felt like she was doing everything right—tracking, meditating, eating clean—but still stuck in the same cycle. Sound familiar? Here's the truth I had to share with her: You might be doing all the right things, but if you’re ignoring known physical issues like low progesterone or gut imbalances, that spiritual hustle is only getting you halfway.

Your body needs your honesty. Your presence. Your willingness to go one layer deeper, not for punishment, but for peace.

Press play if you’re ready to stop outsourcing your power and take your healing into your own damn hands.

“If your body could talk, she’d say: I’m still here. I’m still fighting. But I need you too.”

Timestamps

[01:36] The meaning of radical responsibility and why it will get you faster to your goal.

[02:50] Why doing everything right still isn’t enough when dealing with low progesterone and ignored red flags.

[05:10] The importance of being radically honest and getting back into alignment with both the physical and energetics.

[07:40] Why you have to go a level deeper to tackle your autoimmune condition and see success quicker.

[09:30] The importance of turning every stone so you never wonder “what if”.

“You’re not meant to be perfect. You’re meant to be proud of how you showed up.”

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-be-honest-with-yourself-take-radical-responsibility-even-with-a-medical-infertility-diagnosis 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

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🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• Shame, body image, and infertility
• IVF shame and subconscious fertility beliefs
• Emotional healing after miscarriage and failed cycles
• Cellular health and type-A burnout

“If your body wasn’t healing, you’d already be dead. So maybe give her some credit.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here...

This episode isn’t here to sugarcoat. It’s here to shake up the narrative you’ve been told about your body. You’re not broken. You’re not behind. And you sure as hell aren’t a fertility failure. You’re just running someone else’s roadmap—and your body’s been trying to scream over the GPS the whole time.

I get real about a conversation with a client who spiraled into shame after one miscarriage. One. And that single event labeled her “infertile,” shoved her into IVF timelines, and triggered a full-blown identity crisis. We unpack what actually causes that my body is broken loop—and how you can stop living like a walking fertility statistic.

If you’ve been hustling your way to conception, skipping breakfast and skipping joy, this one’s for you. It’s time to ditch the factory and come back home to your body. You deserve better than another checklist. You deserve a damn revolution—press play.

“Your body is still fighting for you even when you're mad at it. Even when you’ve given up.”

Timestamps

[01:23] The importance of realizing that your body isn’t broken and it’s always fighting for you.

[06:00] How to thank your body when you feel like quitting or are too tired to do anything “right”.

[07:20] How one miscarriage led to an IVF rabbit hole and why trying harder is hurting your fertility.

[08:40] Type A burnout, how it ruins cellular health, and the shame the medical system tricks you into.

[10:15] Radical responsibility vs toxic positivity on your fertility journey.

“You think you’re starting over. You’re not. You’re starting aligned.” 

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-stop-feeling-broken-during-infertility-and-start-trusting-your-body-again

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

🧠 Topics Discussed:

• Why knowledge without embodiment keeps you stuck

• Coherence vs. perfection: how alignment creates real fertility shifts

• Why doing the energetic work only at retreats or sessions isn’t enough

• How to take radical responsibility in your daily routine

• The emotional + subconscious patterns still running the show

• The real reason it’s not “working” (even when you're doing it all)

"The real work isn’t in the next session, it’s in brushing your teeth and checking your thoughts."

Hello beautiful, Monica here...

If you've ever thought, “I could write a damn book on healing and fertility by now,” but you still feel stuck—this episode is for you. Buckle up, because we’re diving into the sneaky little gap between knowing and doing.

We’re talking about that awkward moment when you realize you’ve done all the meditations, drank the bone broth, bought the fancy supplements, and you’re still Googling "why am I not pregnant?" at 2 a.m. 😬

I get it. I lived it. I am it sometimes.

In this raw episode, I spill what actually created a massive shift—not another protocol, not another healer, but showing up in my everyday life like it actually mattered. Like brushing my teeth while checking my frequency. Like choosing not to spiral on a Tuesday afternoon because a thought told me “it’s not working.”

This is the episode where I tell you: You are not lazy. You are not broken. But if you’re not showing up for yourself in the micro-moments, you’re stuck in the illusion of effort. Let’s bust that lie wide open, yeah?

"Your healing happens in how you do life, not how many tools you’ve collected."

⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome and why this episode is NOT for the faint of heart 01:31 – The myth of healing only happening in the big sessions 03:25 – How to check your frequency in mundane moments 05:24 – Why most people aren’t actually applying what they know 07:15 – Monica’s personal slip back into old patterns & how she got out 10:09 – The one-minute practice that retrains your nervous system 12:00 – The four truths of coherence & how they apply to fertility 14:27 – The difference between knowledge & embodiment 15:55 – Micro-moment check-in challenge: are you in default or coherence? 18:53 – Radical responsibility isn’t sexy, but it’s everything

"The magic isn’t in the meditation—it's in how you live when you’re not meditating."

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-your-fertility-isn-t-shifting-even-when-you-re-doing-all-the-right-things-during-ivf-infertility

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• Medical gaslighting in fertility care
• The myth of “unexplained infertility”
• How testing without intuition leads to burnout
• AMH panic and the IVF fear factory
• Western medicine vs empowered fertility care
• Surrendering control while staying empowered

“Unexplained infertility is just code for 'we didn’t bother to look deeper.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here… and let me just say this: if you’ve ever felt like your fertility journey has turned into a full-time job with zero PTO, this episode is going to hit. Deep.

Today, I’m back with Jenna for a raw, powerful part two. We’re digging into the medical gaslighting, the industry that thrives on your fear, and what it really means to make empowered choices around fertility. You’ll hear us riff on everything from “golden handcuffs” and birth control’s broken promise to how the IVF system is built like a car dealership—complete with the closer.

And yes, we’re going there. We're naming the truth: you’re not broken. Your body is wise. And sometimes the most radical thing you can do is slow the hell down, get outside, and stop living like your worth is measured in checklists and lab results.

So, if you’ve been white-knuckling this journey, waiting for someone to finally say, “You can rest,” this is your permission slip. Press play, take the walk, breathe deeper. You’re not alone—and you’re not crazy for wanting more than a number on a chart.

“If you're not ovulating, you're not connected to nature. And if you're not connected to nature, you're not connected to your intuition. Full stop.”

Timestamps

[02:25] Understanding why innate fertility is still real and how to reconnect with it.

[05:39] How the fertility industry is indoctrinated and profits off your panic.

[09:53] What real empowerment in fertility looks like, plus the power of trusting your intuition.

[16:40] The hidden risks of IVF nobody’s talking about and the importance of boosting cellular health.

[19:45] Understanding what “unexplained infertility” really means and why AMH freakouts are messing with your mind.

[21:09] Jenna explains the real problem with obsessively testing everything and how to test the right way.

[23:38] What low energy says about your fertility readiness and why you should have your energy in check before pregnancy.

“The baby doesn’t want your hustle. The baby wants your presence.”

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/is-ivf-the-only-way-what-your-doctors-aren-t-telling-you-about-fertility-success 

Connect with Jenna Longoria:

• https://www.instagram.com/theperiodguru/
• https://pages.jennalongoria.com/fertility-checklist/ 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

• The hidden risks of long-term birth control use
• PCOS, ovarian cysts, and natural healing
• Fertility timelines and age myths
• The emotional cost of control on the fertility journey
• Hormone-disrupting chemicals and modern lifestyle traps
• Emotional load, overwork, and reproductive stress
• Creating space and safety for the baby to arrive
• Why slowing down is sometimes the real medicine

“Your body isn’t broken. It’s brilliant. And it’s begging you to slow down and listen.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here...

If you’ve ever walked out of a doctor’s office with more confusion than clarity and a birth control script you didn’t ask for, this episode is going to hit home.

I’m talking with the incredible Jenna Longoria—aka the Period Guru—who’s lived the nightmare of being dismissed, medicated, and nearly losing an ovary on her honeymoon. Yep. You read that right.

We unpack how years of fake hormones can shut down your body and your intuition, how the post-pill rollercoaster almost took Jenna out, and why timelines are straight-up illusions that fuel fertility burnout. We also go there with the truth about PCOS, secondary infertility, and why sometimes your baby hasn’t arrived yet… because your body is asking you to come home to it first.

Jenna and I crack open a raw, honest conversation about the toxic pressure to do more, be more, push harder... and the quiet truth your body’s been whispering all along. We talk about the deep conditioning that keeps women sprinting through burnout while TTC and the illusion of control IVF sometimes offers. This isn’t a blame game, it’s a wake-up call. Because if you’re trying to create life from a body that’s running on empty, something’s got to give.

We get radically real about redefining success, softening the grip, and why sometimes creating space (literally and emotionally) is the most fertile thing you can do. It’s not about giving up your dreams. It’s about remembering that you're already worthy — before the baby, before the timeline, before all the boxes get checked.

Press play if you're ready to trade hustle for healing and make space for a miracle.

“The answer to our fertility crisis isn’t more IVF. It’s more rest, more presence, more truth.”

Timestamps [01:17] Jenna shares her story of painful periods, PCOS, the birth control pill, and her healing journey.

[04:37] How disconnection from your natural cycle silences your intuition.

[07:45] Age, fear, the myth of the fertility cliff, and why control and timelines are sabotaging your fertility.

[13:10] How modern life and everyday chemicals disrupt our hormones and fertility.

[16:34] The hard truth about overdoing, overworking, and the disconnect from your essence.

[19:00] Understanding why connection and presence matter more than performance.

[22:30] How to get radically honest with yourself and create space your future baby can feel.

[24:39] The deeper reason your baby might be waiting to come through.

“If you're not ovulating, you’re disconnected from your intuition and the source.”

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-real-reason-ivf-isn-t-working-burnout-control-and-your-body-s-cry-for-rest 

Connect with Jenna Longoria:

• https://www.instagram.com/theperiodguru/
• https://pages.jennalongoria.com/fertility-checklist/

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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Topics Discussed

• Functional vs. Western medicine thyroid ranges
• How perfectionism and suppressed expression block healing
• Gut healing as the foundation of hormonal balance
• Misleading food sensitivity tests
• Energetics of autoimmune fertility challenges
• Releasing childhood wounds stored in the body
• Energetics of healing the inner child

You think just because it hasn’t happened yet, you need medical assistance. But what if that timing is your transformation?

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here...

Today’s episode goes deep; we’re talking about thyroids, but not just the kind your lab work pretends is fine. I’m cutting through the medical gaslighting and calling out the perfectionism that’s been silently running your show since you were a girl who learned being good and quiet was safer than being heard.

You don’t need a thyroid diagnosis to feel this one. We’re looking at how being a high-achieving, Type A goddess with zero chill and a tightly clenched jaw might actually be the root of your fertility struggle. Yeah, I said it. It’s not about pink lines; it is about reclaiming your voice, body, and energy from the inside out.

If your gut is “healed” but you still can’t get pregnant, or if your labs are “normal” but your intuition is screaming, this episode is your reminder: your healing journey is not a damn checklist. It’s a reckoning.

If you’re doing all the things and still feel stuck in the same fertility loop, this one’s for you. We’re diving into the kind of work that doesn’t show up on lab reports but lives in your nervous system. That burning sensation in your throat? It might not just be your thyroid. It could be decades of words unsaid, versions of your unseen, and emotions unexpressed.

If you’re done outsourcing your healing and ready to become the most expressed, magnetic, and deeply safe version of you. Press play.

Your healing journey isn’t about doing more. It’s about becoming more of who you were before the world told you to be less.

Timestamps

02:23 Perfectionism, not being heard, and how it links to fertility blocks.

06:15 Understanding when medical support is needed and why you should go into it empowered.

07:35 What Western medicine misses in thyroid testing and why thyroid is the root cause for fertility struggles.  

10:17 Gut health truths that no one is telling you and the importance of doing the right things for you.

12:23 Why your “clean” diet might still be inflammatory and the energetic root of thyroid issues.

18:04 How your body holds on to old emotional wounds and how to release that pain.

23:18 Why physical and energetic healing must happen together.

The reason that situation still impacts your life is because you're still holding the emotion tied to it.

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/you-don-t-need-a-thyroid-diagnosis-to-be-affected-the-hidden-energy-hormone-block-you-re-missing-during-infertility-ivf-2 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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Topics Discussed

• The 4 pillars of conscious living for fertility
• How unresolved childhood trauma affects your fertility
• Relationship dynamics and their impact on healing
• The hidden costs of ignoring emotional wellness
• Energy hygiene as daily self-maintenance
• The 5 stages of transformation
• The myth of instant results & the addiction to new protocols
• What true surrender looks like on a cellular level
• Intuition, inner wisdom & releasing expectations

“You cannot be successful in your purpose if your intimate life is falling apart.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here...

What if the fertility “protocol” you’re chasing isn’t the one you actually need? In today’s second half of Tania’s fire-filled conversation, we’re diving deep into the gaps. The ones you're avoiding. The messy, human, “I thought I already healed that” corners of life that keep bleeding into your fertility journey, your marriage, your mental health, your everything.

We talk about what it means to be conscious, not just within yourself, but in how you show up in your relationships, your communication, your health, and your purpose. Spoiler alert: Most people are nailing 1–2 of these pillars and flat-lining the rest. That imbalance? It leaks. It drags down your progress. It feeds burnout.

This episode breaks down the five emotional and energetic stages you move through on the path to motherhood, entrepreneurship, healing, hell, even marriage. We discuss why most women sabotage their progress by jumping to the next shiny thing and how real transformation happens when you stay put and let it suck for a while. It’s the space where your nervous system gets regulated, your inner voice gets louder, and your cells finally get the memo: We’re safe now.

One of Tania’s friends got pregnant the one month she stopped trying—because she wanted to enjoy a Vegas bachelorette party. Her body finally exhaled, and boom. That’s not magic—it’s biology meeting surrender.

Ready to stop quitting on yourself when things get hard? Press play.

“Anything that works quickly shouldn’t be the only solution—you just need more patience, not another protocol.”

Timestamps

01:25 The 4 pillars of a conscious life and how your childhood story bleeds into your fertility story.

04:38 How fixing your marriage and relationship dynamics can transform your fertility.

07:40 The importance of energy hygiene: the non-negotiable self-care you’re skipping.

11:18 The 5 stages you must move through for transformation and why most people quit at stage 3.

14:42 Why patience and surrendering to the waiting room matter more than protocol.

17:34 The four fertility pillars & how to check your own gaps without overwhelming yourself.

19:08 The power of meditation and how to access your intuition when the world won’t shut up.

“You start with one micro step, then the next one appears—and suddenly you're 100 steps in.”

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/part-two-tania-khazaal 

Connect with Tania Khazaal

https://www.instagram.com/taniatheherbalist/

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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Topics Discussed

• Autoimmune issues in women & internal progress
• Suppression, toxic relationships & chronic illness
• How herbalism helped reverse years of health issues
• Emotional trauma as a root cause of physical symptoms
• Stress, stagnation & the root of chronic symptoms
• Autoimmunity & energetic misalignment
• Subconscious triggers in motherhood
• Postpartum crashes after fertility success

“Suppression might be more dangerous than alcohol, because you carry it 24/7.”

Show Notes Summary

Hello Beautiful, Monica here, and today we’re going there. Deep. Raw. No fluff. Tania the Herbalist joins me for a truth-bomb-packed convo that will stop you in your tracks (and maybe call you out gently while doing it).

We talk about why so many women with autoimmune issues are stuck in survival mode, chasing healing from every angle, supplements, diets, protocols, but still not getting better. Tanya opens up about puking from anxiety every morning, insomnia that felt like a life sentence, and the moment she realized her body was begging her to stop suppressing. Not fixing, feeling.

This isn’t about another green smoothie or fertility-friendly tea. It’s about emotional constipation. About how not speaking your truth, staying in the wrong relationships, and never making real progress for you, not your kids, your boss, or your to-do list, is silently wrecking your immune system.

We’re unpacking what it really means to live in survival mode while chasing fertility goals, snapping at your partner, catching every cold, ruminating over laundry like it's life or death. It’s not just stress. It’s your soul suffocating under default energy loops and outdated purpose narratives.

We’re not here to slap another “modality” on the wound. We’re here to ask: What stories are you playing on repeat while folding your laundry? What do you believe about success, and does it actually excite you? This convo will challenge you, shake you up, and (lovingly) drag your nervous system out of its emotional junk drawer.

So hit play and let’s dive into what’s really keeping your body in a holding pattern, and how to finally shift it.

“Healing happens when you stop externalizing the problem and remember who the f*ck you are.”

Timestamps

01:44 Understanding why a significant number of women suffer from autoimmune illnesses.

03:50 Tanya’s rock-bottom moment with anxiety, insomnia & burnout and her journey into herbalism.

07:09 The toxicity of unspoken relationships and how suppression breaks you.

10:23 The power of mirror works in helping you face your inner demons and find healing.

15:20 The everyday energy that shapes your life and why joylessness and stagnation are the real fertility killers.

20:11 What success actually looks like and how to reverse engineer it.

21:35 Understanding that kids don’t fix you - they show you where you’re broken.

23:19 Postpartum crashes & the cost of not healing before motherhood.

“The body will scream until you listen. The signs are everywhere; you just keep overriding them.”

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/part-one-with-tania-khazaal 

Connect with Tania Khazaal

https://www.instagram.com/taniatheherbalist/

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:

Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon 

Topics Discussed:

• Fertility + Gut Health: Why your future child deserves a body not riddled with food sensitivities, gut issues, and autoimmune risk

• IVF or Medical Trauma: Breaking the cycle of overdoing and Type A-ing your way through fertility

• Emotional and Mindset Healing: Moving through miscarriage grief with grace and surrender

• Subconscious Blocks and Energy Work: Dismantling trauma patterns disguised as ambition

• Frequency, Coherence, Embodiment, Cellular Health: Creating inner safety through embodied action and slowing down

"Rushing is often a trauma response dressed up as ambition."

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...This episode is either going to feel like a deep, gentle hug for your soul or a slap across the face with radical truth. Maybe both. Either way, it’s what you need to hear if you’ve ever thought, “I’m doing everything right, so why am I still stuck?”

We’re done collecting more knowledge. This is about living the work. Feeling it. Embodying it. And practicing it in the boring, everyday moments where transformation actually happens. You’ll hear why slowing down isn’t laziness, it’s sacred. Why the “hustle harder” mentality is just dressed-up fear. And why stillness is your most potent medicine if you let it sink in long enough to actually do its thing.

So if you’re exhausted from research, burnout, and trying to hyper-control your way into pregnancy, this episode is your permission slip to get radically honest, wildly self-aware, and finally… peaceful. Because this work doesn’t just change your fertility, it changes who you are as a mother, a partner, and a soul.

"You know it’s working when you don’t spiral during the two-week wait or another pregnancy announcement."

Timestamps

00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol 02:55 – Rushing is a trauma response, not ambition 04:22 – The magic of consistent energetic rewiring in the mundane 09:39 – Why slowing down builds more time, not less 14:12 – Moving through miscarriage with surrender and grace 20:36 – The real fallout of Type A fertility that no one talks about

"Stillness is medicine, but only if you stay long enough to receive it."

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-you-still-feel-stuck-on-in-infertility-hell-even-after-doing-everything-right

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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Topics Discussed

• Intuition practices for fertility
• Spirit baby communication
• Nervous system regulation and safety
• Letting go of control to access inner guidance
• Written dialogue technique for emotional clarity
• Fear of surrender during conception journeys
• Subconscious resistance to intuitive guidance

You're not relinquishing control, you're gaining real power.

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

This episode is for every woman who’s ever clenched her jaw trying to "do it right" and still felt completely lost. If you're crushing the diet, the supplements, the yoga, and yet still find yourself spiraling with anxiety and doubt, this is the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed. We’re going beyond the to-do list and deep into the intuitive zone, where the real shifts happen, not through hustle, but through hearing.

You’ll meet Katie, a medical intuitive who unapologetically invites you to drop the productivity addiction and sit with yourself for five freaking minutes. We unpack the radical idea that connecting with your spirit baby, your body, or your guides isn't woo: it’s wise. And it’s exactly what your burnout brain has been begging for.

The truth? Your obsession with control might be the block. And the magic? It lives in the messy middle, where you breathe, listen, and get honest. Press play if you're ready to stop.

Control is a survival mechanism, but it doesn’t always serve us.

Timestamps

02:15 A writing technique to calm your nervous system and access intuition and the lessons you’ll learn.

05:45 Why most women struggle to sit with themselves and listen to their intuition.

06:29 How to let your inner guidance team actually help you to feel safe doing “nothing”.

09:07 How to handle scary truths that surface during intuitive work.

12:02 Understanding that radical changes often come from discomfort until you pay attention.

16:58 Why you need to prioritize your child over societal or familial expectations.

19:44 The importance of intentional change to avoid the same stress patterns carrying into pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting.

The more you get what you need from your inner source, the less external noise matters.

Connect with Katie Beecher

www.katiebeecher.com  

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/katie-beecher-medical-intuitive-part-two 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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Topics Discussed

• Energetic and spiritual root causes of infertility
• Soul contracts and past life agreements around parenthood
• Intuitive healing beyond the physical body
• Trauma, guilt, and nervous system imprinting
• How ancestral and childhood pain block conception
• Subconscious fears around motherhood and worthiness
• Spirit baby connections and intuitive parenting
• Emotional healing after loss, miscarriage, or abortion
• Why your baby might be waiting for you to change

“Spirit babies are advanced souls, and some are just waiting for you to get your act together.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

If you've ever sat with the gut-wrenching thought, “I’ve done everything, why am I still not pregnant?”—this episode is the mic-drop truth-teller you didn’t know you needed. I'm joined by the incredible Katie, a medical and spiritual intuitive who doesn't sugarcoat or sidestep the real sh*t—she dives straight into soul contracts, energetic blocks, and the hidden pain your doctor isn’t trained to look for.

Together, we unpack the layers most fertility journeys never touch—from repressed grief and subconscious guilt to childhood trauma and that secret fear you’ll become your mother. Katie explains how spiritual blueprints and unresolved emotional patterns show up in the womb space—and how the body holds onto trauma like it’s a family heirloom. Spoiler alert: IVF can’t fix that.

This episode isn’t here to coddle you. It’s here to wake you up with love. It’s a call to radical responsibility—because sometimes the thing keeping you from your baby isn’t a protocol, it’s a soul-level pattern ready to be rewritten.

So if you’re ready to move beyond the Pinterest-perfect fertility checklist and into true transformation... Press play, love.

“Some women are being called to heal generations of trauma—before they even conceive.”

Timestamps 01:36 Katie’s journey: A medical and spiritual intuitive who creates intuitive soul readings for women.

02:30 Understanding why fertility isn’t always a physical issue but a soul contract thing.

04:00 Illnesses that block pregnancy, why they should be addressed, and how intuition reveals them 07:23 How the body stores energy from trauma, illness, or guilt can silently sabotage fertility.

09:09 Why spiritually evolved women face deeper fertility journeys.

12:58 Understanding the concept of spirit babies and why it is more than just a "woo".

16:31 A wild story: channeling a grandmother to open a blocked fertility path.

19:44 Why intuition matters more than any expert you work with in your journey.

27:25 Why your unmet expectations are prolonging the wait.

“This isn’t just about getting pregnant. It’s about becoming the version of you your child deserves.”

Connect with Katie Beecher:

www.katiebeecher.com 

Full Transcript on the Blog: The Soul Contracts That Could Be Blocking Your Pregnancy with Katie Becher

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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Topics Discussed:

• Energetic grounding for fertility clarity
• Emotional release through meditation
• Nervous system regulation and coherence
• Fertility burnout and energy depletion
• Daily rituals to support subconscious healing

You are not meant to carry it all. You’re meant to clear, to ground, to connect. Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

Let’s get real: if you’re exhausted from trying everything and still feeling like your body’s working against you, this episode is for you. I’m guiding you through the exact energy-clearing meditation that’s helped me show up with way more peace, trust, and emotional bandwidth—even on the wildest days. No white-knuckling. No fake zen. Just real, grounded energy work that clears out the crap clogging your system.

Because here’s the deal: when you’re on the fertility rollercoaster, your nervous system doesn’t lie. You can drink the green juice, pop the supplements, and track your cycle till you’re blue in the face—but if you’re energetically clogged, you’re not going to hear your intuition. This practice helps you drop in fast, clear emotional junk drawers, and open up that divine two-way convo between your womb and the universe.

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up for your energy like it actually matters. Press play, drop in, and let’s start clearing what was never yours to carry. Consistency isn't control—it’s devotion to your own energy.

Timestamps 00:00 - Why your nervous system needs this daily practice 01:30 - How Monica uses this meditation in chaotic moments 05:32 - Rooting into the earth: releasing what you’ve absorbed 08:57 - Connecting to source: your body’s divine channel 11:35 - Building your frequency field for daily energetic protection 14:13 - How to instantly return to this grounded state 16:07 - A bold offer for burnt-out women ready to break the cycle

This is one of the best ways to feel the energetic shift you’ve been longing for.

Full Transcript on the Blog: Grounding & Clearing Energy Activation Meditation for IVF & Infertility 

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣]

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed

The chaos addiction blocking your fertility Nervous system dysregulation and fertility struggles How trauma patterns show up after you get pregnant Epigenetics, motherhood, and the cost of overdoing Why your body can’t receive in a high-alert state The energetic upgrade from hustle to healing How to actually trust the pause without spiraling

You can chase in chaos, but you can’t receive in chaos.

Show Notes Summary

Hello Beautiful Souls, the voice of Monica here...

This one's raw, real, and honestly a little uncomfortable, in the best way. I skipped a podcast episode for the first time in five years. Not because I forgot. Not because I didn’t care. But because I’m practicing what I preach: stepping out of chaos and into calm.

This episode is a full-on permission slip to stop running yourself into the ground in the name of fertility. The endless doing, fixing, tweaking, chasing—it might feel productive, but it’s actually the very frequency that’s keeping your body in survival. Stillness, on the other hand, is scary because it’s unfamiliar. But that’s exactly where your intuition gets loud and your nervous system learns to receive.

I get into how these patterns don’t magically disappear once you get pregnant, and why so many mamas find themselves overwhelmed, triggered, and exhausted postpartum. If your chaos feels safer than peace, this episode is your invitation to shift.

Press play. Let it land. And ask yourself: what if letting go is what moves you forward?

You’re not falling behind. You’re finally tuning in.

Timestamps

00:00 Why chaos is more comfortable than calm 03:25 The illusion of productivity in your fertility journey 04:52 Pregnancy and motherhood don’t erase your patterns 07:50 The chaos comfort zone and your nervous system 08:51 Why peace can feel like panic and how to shift 12:54 Stillness as the gateway to intuition and coherence 14:50 How to gently rewire your frequency without overwhelm 16:18 Stillness doesn't mean failure. It means possibility 20:04 Preview of next week’s grounding and clearing practice

Read Mable's Truth # 10: Finding Comfort in Chaos During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-10-finding-comfort-in-chaos-during-infertility-ivf

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-reason-you-re-addicted-to-doing-on-your-ttc-infertility-ivf-journey

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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Topics Discussed:

• How scattered priorities sabotage fertility healing

• Rewiring subconscious patterns with consistency

• Understanding fear-based supplement routines

• The emotional cost of over-functioning and perfectionism

• Embodying the energy you want your baby to be raised in

• Recognizing when ‘calm’ is just another performance

• How to shift from chasing to receiving

Truth # 9 Scattered Priorities During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-9-scattered-priorities-during-infertility-ivf

"Your baby is not waiting for you to be perfect, your baby is waiting for you to stop abandoning yourself."

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...

Today’s episode is not for the faint of heart, but for the brave souls ready to ditch the invisible hustle and finally get real about where their energy is leaking. If you think slowing down means you're not hustling anymore, think again. Inside, you might still be sprinting like you are training for the Fertility Olympics. In this episode, we call out the sneaky ways perfectionism, fear-based habits, and shiny new supplement plans are secretly sabotaging your journey — and we bring it all back to radical honesty, radical presence, and radical self-love.

We even tap into the deeper truth that sometimes, the stillness you are craving feels terrifying because your nervous system only knows chaos. Spoiler alert: you cannot out-supplement, out-research, or out-strategize your way into coherence. You have to live it. Piece by piece, moment by moment, tree nap by tree nap. If you are ready to stop proving, stop chasing, and start receiving, this episode is your wake-up call.

"Some of your healthy habits might be keeping you stuck, because they are still rooted in fear."

Timestamps 00:00 – The real reason your fertility journey feels overwhelming 01:30 – How scattered priorities sneak in without you noticing 03:00 – Why calm is not clarity if you are still performing 06:00 – Supplements: helpful support or fear-based crutch 09:00 – Radical responsibility and emotional triggers 13:00 – Why consistency, not chaos, brings your dreams into reality

"Your dreams are not far away, they are already here — you just have to meet them in your now."

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-break-free-from-overthinking-and-hustle-energy-during-ivf-infertility

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• The gut-brain-womb connection • Fascia, trauma, and reproductive inflammation • Physical manifestations like fibroids and endometriosis • The emotional aftermath of fertility treatments • Why you still don’t trust your body after IVF • The illusion of control • Grieving as a form of healing • Honoring emotional waves rather than bypassing them • Frequency shifts through micro-moments • Living in survival mode and how to get out • The danger of looping old subconscious patterns • Why trust lives in the body, not the mind • How coherence creates space for alignment • Energetic stillness as the new safety

“The magic doesn’t lie in the knowledge—it’s in the integration, the coherence, the alignment.”

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…

Today’s episode is a love note to every over-functioning, perfection-chasing woman who's convinced that doing more is the only way out. Spoiler alert: it’s not. In fact, the exact thing you’re resisting—stillness—is the very frequency your future baby is waiting for.

We’re diving deep into how Mabel, our resident recovering Type A, finally did something different. She didn’t buy another supplement. She didn’t add a new protocol. She simply slowed down. And in that pause, she found the real power—safety, trust, and coherence.

You’ll hear why emotional trauma disrupts more than your mindset—it lives in your fascia, your gut, your womb. And if you don’t feel safe in your body, how the hell are you supposed to trust it? From grief to gut health to gut punches of truth, this episode hits hard and soft all at once.

Listen in, feel it all, and get ready to stop spiraling and start receiving.

“You can’t trust your body if you don’t feel safe inside it.”

00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol 01:03 – The micro-moment that changed everything for Mabel 03:22 – Coherence vs. chaos: your body craves a new kind of safety 04:46 – Real reasons you don’t trust your body (and it’s not your fault) 06:43 – Trauma, fascia, and the invisible root of fertility issues 08:11 – Monica’s raw story of grief and honoring emotional waves 10:31 – Radical responsibility in the mundane moments 12:22 – What Mabel’s spirit baby revealed (and why it’ll give you chills) 15:03 – The one small thing you can do today to shift your energy

“Trust doesn’t live in your brain—it lives in your body.”

Read Truth #8: What If the Pause Is the Portal to Fertility Success During IVF & Infertility?https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-8-what-if-the-pause-is-the-portal-to-fertility-success-during-ivf-infertility

Full transcript over on the blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/still-stuck-in-infertility-ivf-burnout-the-subtle-shift-that-changes-everything

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"Your intuition isn’t missing, it’s just buried under layers of fear, guilt, and Google tabs."

Topics Discussed: • Fertility burnout and emotional fatigue • IVF trauma and feeling broken after failure • The subconscious blocks sabotaging inner knowing • A guided frequency-based practice to shift stuck emotions • Gut instinct vs. overthinking (and how your body tells the truth) • Coherence, embodiment, and listening to the womb-heart-brain connection

Truth # 7: From Overthinking to Inner Knowing During Infertility: Trusting Yourself on the Road to Pregnancy: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/overthinking-to-inner-knowing-during-infertility

"Intuition isn’t a magical skill you need to learn, it’s a power you need to stop ignoring."

Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...

You’ve done it all. You’ve tracked, tested, timed, and twisted yourself into a pretzel trying to "do it right"—but something still feels off. In this episode, we go deep into what that off actually is. Spoiler: it’s not your uterus, it’s not your protocol, it’s not even the moon phase. It’s that you’ve been trained to trust data over your divine knowing, and it’s time to come back home to yourself.

Mabel’s journey through IVF heartbreak led her not to the end, but to the beginning of her own awakening. And yours can too. This episode walks you through a powerful, active meditation to shift the stuck frequencies that are jamming your inner signal. We’re talking fear, guilt, shame, grief—the whole unglamorous gang—and helping you finally feel them so you can alchemize them.

Get cozy or take this on a walk and let this practice unlock the clarity that’s been inside you all along. Ready to stop chasing and start trusting? Then press play.

"I do not lose the dream, I alchemize it."

Timestamps: 00:00 – Why tuning into intuition is more powerful than another supplement 02:50 – The moment Mabel ignored her inner knowing and hit her breaking point 04:44 – The step-by-step frequency practice to unblock intuition 06:13 – Where emotions get stuck in the body and what they might look like 12:48 – Honoring your frequency and shifting stuck emotions 15:42 – Anchoring into love, creativity, and the frequency of motherhood

"Your womb holds unexpressed potential. Stop silencing her with spreadsheets and fear."

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-fertility-clarity-you-ve-been-ignoring-hint-it-s-not-another-protocol-during-ivf-infertility

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Hello beautiful! Monica here—and ooooh baby, are we getting into the thick of it this week. You ever feel like you’ve become the main villain in your own fertility story? Like you’re standing at the edge of breakthrough-ville, but your subconscious is like, “Nope. Let’s binge Netflix and spiral instead.” Yep, that’s self-sabotage, and she’s a sneaky little gremlin with a crown.

In this episode, we’re diving into why you keep getting in your own way—even when you know better. Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy or broken. It’s because your subconscious is on full panic mode, terrified of being judged, rejected, or—gasp—seen. I unpack a real (and wildly relatable) conversation with a Finding Fertility community member who said, “Even when I know I’m doing it, I can’t stop sabotaging myself.” Cue the collective “ugh, SAME.”

We talk about the fears that drive these patterns, how they tie into your childhood, and why they absolutely have everything to do with your fertility—even if they seem unrelated. And I’m not just dishing theory here. You’ll get practical tools, soul-hitting affirmations, and even some sass about why getting pregnant isn’t the endgame—becoming the conscious version of you is.

So if you’ve ever filtered yourself in fear, stayed quiet to keep the peace, or talked yourself out of doing something your soul was screaming for—this one’s for you. Let’s crack open those protective shells, pour some love on your scared inner child, and rewire those crusty old stories. Because your body? She already knows what to do. Now it’s your job to stop getting in her way.

00:00 Welcome & intro 01:01 Why self-sabotage is more common than we think 02:30 Fear of judgment & the subconscious mind 04:18 Suppressing our truth without realizing it 05:13 Childhood programming & nervous system safety 06:11 What this has to do with fertility 07:39 Returning to your center—your “North Pole” 08:35 The role of subconscious empowerment in change 10:32 Tools to break self-sabotage: awareness & action 12:27 Affirmations to shift your self-beliefs 14:53 Self-sabotage is just a cry for safety 15:23 Monica’s personal story of transformation 16:47 Boosting cellular health = fertility magic 18:39 Tease for next week’s episode: The Distress of Intuition 19:38 Invitation for a breakthrough session

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-truth-about-self-sabotage-cellular-health-fertility-success-when-you-re-dealing-with-infertility

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• The power of using your voice on the fertility journey

• How childhood wounds and people-pleasing patterns sabotage fertility

• Gut health and its surprising connection to emotional suppression

• Letting go of perfectionism and societal expectations

• Radical responsibility and nervous system regulation

• Understanding the energetic roots of fertility issues

• The impact of SIBO and functional medicine protocols

• The role of inner child healing and subconscious reprogramming

• Challenges of navigating fertility with a partner not on the same page

• Releasing limiting beliefs and stepping into trust and surrender

“If you don't feel safe, and you're in a state of fear, you're going to have cortisol overdrive.”

Hello, beautiful Monica here! And oh honey, buckle up, because today we’re diving into the emotional jungle gym that is your fertility journey. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about diet, supplements, and fancy med protocols. Sometimes, the real block is you not using your damn voice. Yep, we said it.

In this raw and revelatory episode, we sit down with a brave soul who has been through more fertility treatments than anyone should ever have to endure (we're talking double digits, people). But the real kicker? She hadn’t been speaking up—for her body, her emotions, her intuition. And let’s be real, when your husband is channeling all the Type A, competitive, masculine energy, it’s no surprise your inner child is quietly rocking in a corner whispering, “Please don’t fight.”

We talk about burping (yes, burping) and how it's somehow the digestive version of not using your voice—seriously, who knew your gut could get passive-aggressive too? We unravel people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the childhood moments that had you hustling for love and safety. Monica walks her guest through a transformational subconscious technique that had her feeling chills—in the best possible way. And just when you think you’ve heard it all, we go full metaphysical with past life patterns and inner child work. Because why not?

So if you’ve been quietly nodding along with society’s rules while screaming inside, this one’s your wake-up call. Spoiler: the more you people-please, the longer you stay in fertility hell. Let’s change that.

“You attract what you're vibing on.”

03:13 When you don’t use your voice, you’re not setting boundaries or following your intuition 05:39 Gut symptoms like burping linked to emotional suppression 07:04 Quitting a high-stress job and facing fears of disappointing a partner 10:23 Relationship shifts and fear of changing the status quo 13:37 Fertility treatments making things worse when gut health isn’t addressed 16:52 Having the courage to stand in your power—even if it feels like you need “balls” to do it 18:44 The ‘no’ phase of fertility and becoming radically selfish (in the best way) 21:38 Childhood rot, emotional inheritance, and the body’s reaction to unresolved trauma 24:31 The danger of outsourcing worthiness and the subtle art of not giving a f**k 26:52 Internalizing the need to be perfect and strong to keep the peace 28:58 Visualization and emotional flipping technique to rewire stored trauma 34:18 Whole brain integration and the chills-inducing release moment 39:23 Bringing a photo of your inner child into your healing journey 42:11 Choosing to step into the woman you were born to be, baby or no baby 45:02 Fertility Breakthrough Sessions: What they are, who they're for, and how to get one

“This is not evidence of your future, because you’re going to start moving differently now.”

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-burnout-to-fertility-breakthrough-the-real-reason-you-re-not-getting-pregnant

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Topics Discussed

• The unseen ways clinging to the identity of “the one who’s trying” can hold you back
• Why letting go doesn’t mean giving up – and what it actually does for your fertility
• The role of hope in your journey and when it shifts from empowering to sabotaging
• The difference between wanting and having – and how to shift into the energy of “having”
• The sneaky way stress and control are keeping your body from feeling safe enough for pregnancy
• What radical honesty really looks like on this journey (spoiler: it’s not just positive thinking)
• How your subconscious beliefs about infertility could be shaping your reality
• The importance of embodying trust, surrender, and joy – and how to actually do it

"You can’t have and want at the same time."

Hello, Beautiful! Monica here to shake things up and throw a little radical honesty your way.

Ever feel like you’re trapped in the never-ending cycle of “trying” to get pregnant? Like your whole existence has somehow become wrapped up in charting, Googling, and second-guessing every decision? Well, buckle up, because we’re about to dive into why that’s a huge part of the problem.

This episode is all about the identity you’ve unknowingly taken on—the one who is always trying. And guess what? That identity might just be keeping you stuck. We’re talking about why your subconscious clings to this label, how hope (yes, even hope) can sometimes keep you in limbo, and why shifting from wanting to having is the secret sauce you didn’t know you needed.

I also get into the real reason your body might not be “playing along” with your fertility goals (spoiler: it’s not because it’s broken). It’s because stress and control are energy vampires, and your body needs to feel safe before it gives the green light to baby-making.

So if you’re ready to ditch the death grip on your journey, trust your body, and step into the energy of having, this episode is your permission slip to finally let go. Let’s do this!

Read Truth #6: The Identity of ‘The One Who’s Trying’ https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-identity-of-the-one-who-s-trying 

01:30 – The inspiration for this episode: a perfectly timed post about letting go 02:53 – Why clinging to the “trying” identity could be keeping you in an endless loop 04:48 – The sneaky way your subconscious labels shape your reality (and how to shift it) 06:42 – You can’t have and want at the same time—how to embody trust instead 07:48 – Why white-knuckling your way through this journey is an energy drain 08:44 – The magic in the mundane: shifting from lack to joy in everyday life 09:37 – Hope isn’t the problem…until it is. When hope keeps you stuck instead of moving forward 11:33 – The fear that keeps you gripping control: If I let go, am I giving up? (Spoiler: nope) 12:48 – How your body actually thrives when you stop stressing over every little detail 14:15 – Why quick fixes don’t work & what to focus on instead 15:14 – A sneak peek at next week’s episode: a game-changing fertility breakthrough session!

"Hope is supposed to be a bridge, not a place where you set up camp and live forever."

I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.

ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing

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Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/FertilitySuccessTrustingBodyBreakingFreeInfertilityStruggle 

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• The surprising fear of success in fertility and how it keeps you stuck
• Why your brain might see pregnancy as another way to fail instead of freedom
• The deep-rooted programming that keeps you addicted to “doing” instead of “being”
• How unworthiness and identity play a major role in fertility struggles
• Breaking the habit of seeking validation through achievement
• Why anxiety over fertility can escalate into pregnancy anxiety (and how to prevent it)
• The three powerful questions to ask yourself to shift out of fear and into trust

"If you deep down don’t believe you deserve to become a mother, you’ll subconsciously create obstacles to prevent it."

Truth # 4: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-z2s2n-18073a4

Truth # 3: The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVFhttps://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee 

Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d

Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a

Hello, Beautiful! Monica here, and today we’re diving into a mind-bending, slightly uncomfortable (but wildly important) topic—FEAR OF SUCCESS. Yep, you read that right. Not fear of failure. Fear of actually getting what you want.

Sounds crazy, right? I mean, isn’t the whole point of this journey to become pregnant? But let’s be real—your brain has been so busy obsessing over the struggle, the next supplement, the next protocol, the next thing—that the idea of finally crossing the finish line is, well… TERRIFYING. Because what happens when you’re no longer the one “trying”? What happens when you do get pregnant?

Your subconscious is sneaky like that. It convinces you that staying in the hamster wheel of research and control is saferthan stepping into the unknown of success. Because success means transformation. It means surrender. And let’s be honest—Type-A, overachieving, Google-addicted Mabel is not a fan of surrender.

In this episode, Monique is rolling her eyes at Mabel’s overthinking, Monica is here to gently guide the way, and YOU are going to uncover whether fear of success is secretly sabotaging your journey. You’ll also get three game-changing questions to sit with (preferably under a tree, because let’s add some nature to the healing process, shall we?).

So, if you’ve been stuck in doing instead of trusting, if pregnancy feels just as scary as infertility, or if your brain has ever whispered “What if I mess this up?”—this episode is your wake-up call. Let’s break the cycle and step into the version of you who is ready to receive.

"For so long, you have been the woman who’s trying. That’s who you are. That’s how you relate to yourself, your partner, your doctors. The idea of not being her anymore? That can feel like a loss—even though it’s what you want more than anything."

1. Why do I feel more comfortable being the woman who is trying rather than being the woman who is pregnant?
2. If I stop chasing and just trust, who even am I? What does that version of me look and feel like?
3. How do I let go of the identity of the one who is trying when I’ve been living in it for so long?

00:00 – Welcome to Finding Fertility! Let’s talk about the sneaky fear of success. 01:33 – Why getting pregnant might feel scarier than failing (subconscious sabotage 101) 02:56 – “What if I don’t deserve this?” How unworthiness keeps you stuck 04:26 – The real reason you can’t stop doing (and why sitting under a tree might help) 06:23 – Mabel’s lesson on repeating the same old patterns in fertility 07:19 – The 3 questions you need to ask yourself today 08:34 – If you stop chasing and start trusting… who even are you? 10:00 – The science behind stress in pregnancy (aka, get that cortisol down NOW) 11:29 – Letting go of the identity of the “woman who’s trying” 12:56 – How to shift into the version of you that’s ready to receive

"The magic is in the mundane. When you feel that anxiety bubbling up, the real work is sitting in the uncomfortableness of not doing."

I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.

ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing

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Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-chasing-to-fertile-trusting-the-real-mindset-shift-for-fertility-success 

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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• How hormonal shifts impact motivation, mindset, and fertility
• The importance of radical honesty in personal transformation
• Why slowing down is essential for healing and self-awareness
• The false sense of security in doing "all the things" vs. actually going inward
• How subconscious patterns and generational imprints affect health and fertility
• Breaking free from the belief that healing must be instant or dramatic
• The underestimated power of sitting with discomfort and listening to intuition
• Menstrual cycles as a roadmap to self-awareness and hormonal balance
• How society conditions women to override their natural rhythms
• The importance of practitioners as mirrors for inner work rather than fixers
• Menopause as a transition into personal power rather than a decline
• The silent crisis of men’s sperm health and why fertility is an overall health marker
• How epigenetics play a role in generational health challenges
• The importance of creating daily habits that support long-term well-being

"The answer is within, the answer is always within."

Hello, beautiful—the voice of Monica is here to shake up your fertility mindset once again. If you’re still on the never-ending hamster wheel of “doing all the things” but still feel like you’re getting nowhere, buckle up because today’s episode is your reality check. We’re talking about something that might make your Type A tendencies twitch—slowing down. Yep, the thing that feels impossible but is actually the secret sauce to unlocking your fertility and overall well-being.

Rebecca Rankin is back, and we’re diving deep into why ignoring your body’s signals, overriding your natural rhythms, and stuffing your schedule with all the “fertility must-dos” is actually working against you. We’re talking about real radical honesty—the kind that makes you question your midnight Googling sessions and your obsession with finding the next best supplement. Spoiler alert: the answer isn’t out there. It’s in you. Always has been.

We also get into the not-so-sexy but oh-so-important truth about consistency, how your hormones affect EVERYTHING (yes, even that sudden urge to question your entire existence while doing the dishes), and why menopause might actually be your power era instead of something to dread. Plus, we tackle the biggest lie in the fertility world: the idea that once you “fix” your health, life will be smooth sailing forever. Newsflash—it’s a lifelong journey, but one you actually have control over.

So, if you’re ready to ditch the frantic energy and actually start aligning with your body’s wisdom, this episode is for you. Let’s go.

"Slowing down enough to listen to yourself is the most radical act of self-care you can do."

00:37 – The power of radical responsibility and self-trust in fertility 01:17 – Why the inner work feels “slow” but is actually the fastest way to transformation 02:32 – The hard truth about healing: Why modalities don’t work if you avoid the real work 03:53 – How past traumas and subconscious programming affect your nervous system 04:51 – The lost art of slowing down: Why we ignore our intuition 06:19 – Practitioners as mirrors, not saviors—how to know when to trust yourself 07:48 – Are you living on autopilot? Why you need to take back control 09:14 – The silent work your body does for you—hormones, gut health & energy 10:36 – Consistency over perfection: The secret to long-term healing 11:34 – The domino effect of small daily changes on your health & mindset 13:30 – How society has conditioned women to ignore their own needs 16:21 – The rising infertility crisis: What sperm health tells us about modern health 17:19 – Why birth control masks issues instead of fixing them 19:42 – Menopause: The era of not giving a f*** and stepping into your power 21:30 – The body’s signals don’t lie: How to listen and respond to your own needs 22:56 – Can you sit with yourself? Why true transformation happens in stillness 23:50 – The radical idea of just being with yourself—no distractions, no numbing 24:47 – Final thoughts: The one small action you can take today to shift your energy

"You don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to show up for yourself every single day."

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Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-radical-honesty-can-transform-your-mindset-fertility-journey-with-rebecca-rankin-part-2

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• A guided meditation to ground and reconnect with your higher self
• Why women’s bodies are NOT meant to function like men’s (and why that matters)
• The power of cyclical living and how honoring your natural rhythms can transform your life
• The real reason you feel exhausted and burnt out—hint: it’s not laziness
• How tracking your cycle can reveal hidden patterns in mood, energy, and decision-making
• The problem with hustle culture and why women need to redefine productivity
• The generational patterns that keep women stuck in overwork and guilt
• How patriarchal conditioning has disconnected women from their true power
• Why tuning into your body’s natural rhythms leads to better intuition, health, and fertility

"We’re not meant to be perpetually productive. Our power is in the ebb and flow."

Hello, beautiful.! Monica here, back in your ears, and today, we’re talking about something that might just shake up everything you’ve been taught about success, productivity, and even your own body. Buckle up.

Here’s the thing—women have been lied to. For centuries. We’ve been told to push harder, do more, and operate like mini-men in a world that rewards burnout. But what if the key to feeling your best, being your most creative, and even boosting fertility isn’t in doing more, but in doing differently?

Today, I’m joined by the incredible Rebecca Rankin, who’s here to drop truth bombs about cyclical living—aka, why your hormones are actually your superpower (if you stop fighting them). We’re talking about why you feel like an unstoppable queen one week and a drained zombie the next, why ignoring these shifts wrecks your health, and how simple awareness can change the game.

Spoiler alert: If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing "everything right" but still not seeing results, this episode is your wake-up call. Get ready to stop playing chauffeur to everyone else’s needs and start reclaiming your rhythm, your energy, and your damn life.

"Radical responsibility means calling out the ways we sabotage ourselves—yes, even while washing the dishes."

00:37 – Understanding how your body is actually working FOR you, not against you 00:51 – Quick disclaimer: I don’t diagnose, prescribe, or hand you a magic fertility pill 01:18 – Guided meditation: A quick practice to center yourself in the present moment 06:34 – Rebecca’s journey: From architecture to yoga to women’s wellness 09:27 – The wake-up call moment: When you realize your body has been screaming for attention 12:21 – How women are taught to ignore their own cycles & why that’s a huge mistake 16:40 – The truth about hustle culture: Why women need a different approach 18:07 – Why men and women’s energy cycles are fundamentally different 19:31 – The fertility trap: When "doing all the things" is actually making it worse 22:53 – Understanding your menstrual cycle as a guide for energy, productivity & intuition 24:42 – Why "just think happy thoughts" isn’t enough (and what actually works) 28:38 – The most powerful first step: Start tracking your cycle & mood patterns 29:35 – Monica’s realization: All the spiritual work in the world won’t fix subconscious programming 30:49 – Final thoughts: Unpacking, unlearning, and stepping into your power

"Your hormones are your mystical superpower—if you stop trying to override them."

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Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/ditch-the-hustle-why-women-thrive-when-they-honor-their-natural-rhythms-with-rebecca-rankin-part-1

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Truth # 3: The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVFhttps://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee 

Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d

Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a

• The sneaky ways buried emotional baggage shows up in your life
• How your subconscious beliefs shape your fertility journey
• The real reason why you might still feel stuck despite doing everything ‘right’
• Why functional medicine alone isn’t always enough
• The power of emotional release and why your gut health depends on it
• Breaking free from childhood programming around emotions
• Whole brain state: a powerful tool to rewire subconscious beliefs
• Why ‘staying strong’ and suppressing emotions could be blocking your fertility
• How unresolved emotions manifest as physical symptoms
• Simple journal prompts to uncover and release emotional baggage

READ Chapter 4: Mabel's Buried Emotional Baggage: The Silent Stories That Shape Our Lives - https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-4-mabel-s-buried-emotional-baggage-the-silent-stories-that-shape-our-lives 

"Maybe your parents just didn’t want to deal with your emotions because they were raised by the silent generations and emotions weren’t even a thing."

Hello, Beautiful—Monica here, back again with a hard-hitting, no-nonsense dive into your emotional baggage. (Yes, we’re going there today.)

We’re talking about those neatly packed, possibly designer-labeled suitcases of emotions you’ve been dragging around for decades—some that aren’t even yours. Fun, right? Maybe you’ve done all the ‘right’ things—cleaned up your diet, taken the right supplements, maybe even dabbled in energy work—but somehow, you’re still stuck. Here’s a not-so-fun fact: You can’t out-salad your subconscious beliefs.

If your nervous system is still holding onto past emotional wounds, it doesn’t matter how many green juices you chug or how ‘clean’ your diet is—your body is still living in an old story. So today, we’re unpacking those dusty, forgotten emotional wounds that are silently running the show.

We’ll also talk about the oh-so-familiar conditioning many of us got growing up. You know, the "big girls don’t cry,""stop being so sensitive," and "it’s not that big of a deal" mantras that taught us to shove our emotions down like last season’s trends. But here’s the thing—what you suppress doesn’t disappear; it festers, manifests in sneaky ways (hello, chronic gut issues and hormonal chaos), and keeps you stuck in a loop.

And because I love to make things practical, I’m giving you a few journal prompts to help you dig deep, a breakdown of how your beliefs shape your reality, and the inside scoop on whole-brain states (aka how to trick your brain into rewiring old beliefs).

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering why you’re still stuck despite doing all the things, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it.

"I wasn’t even really allowed to express my emotions—Wendy the Whiner wasn’t invited, and big girls don’t cry."

03:01 – The truth about buried emotional baggage 04:57 – How subconscious beliefs control your fertility 06:20 – Emotional suppression: the silent fertility killer 08:07 – The physical symptoms of unresolved emotions 10:00 – That moment when you realize your dad’s BS is why you can’t tolerate nightshades 12:46 – How childhood conditioning still affects you today 14:33 – The journal prompts that will change your life 19:14 – What did you need as a child that you never got? 21:36 – The story you’re telling yourself about your body 23:55 – Why functional medicine alone isn’t the whole answer 26:13 – Whole-brain state: the cheat code to subconscious rewiring 30:56 – What happens when the fight is over? (Spoiler: identity crisis) 32:41 – Your challenge for the week—time to release what’s holding you back

"You can’t heal what you’re unwilling to look at."

I’ve got three journal prompts to get you started. Then, don’t forget to access the D.R.E.A.M.S. course for more in-depth support for each area:

1️⃣ "What did I need as a child that I never got?"

• What emotions did I have to suppress?

• How did I learn to cope?

• How is this showing up in my life now? 📌 [Refer to: Energetics—Dealing with the Past (Trauma)]

2️⃣ "If I let myself be really, truly angry, what would I say?"

• No editing. No guilt. Just raw, unfiltered emotion.

• Who am I angry at? Myself? Someone else? Life?

• What have I been swallowing down for years? 📌 [Refer to: Energetics—How to Release Anger and Fear]

3️⃣ "What’s the story I’ve been telling myself about my body, my worth, and my ability to become a mom?"

• Where did this story start?

• Whose voice does it sound like?

• What happens if I let that story go? 📌 [Refer to: Mindset—The Importance of Thinking & Speaking in a More Positive Way]

I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.

ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing

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Full Transcript on the Blog: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-block-to-fertility-success-overcoming-suppressed-emotions-during-infertility-ivf 

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"If you've been in this fertility journey, you have probably had a spreadsheet for everything."

• The addiction to busyness & why it keeps you stuck in your fertility journey
• Why we equate doing more with progress (and why that’s a lie)
• How avoiding stillness is actually avoiding healing
• The subconscious patterns that drive over-researching and over-planning
• How Mabel, Monica & Monique tackle the obsession with control
• What happens when you finally slow down and listen to your intuition
• The role of stress, cortisol, and burnout in fertility struggles
• Why busyness is often a form of emotional avoidance
• The mindset shifts needed to embrace trust and surrender
• Practical steps to break free from the cycle of overdoing

"Busyness isn’t always about progress. Sometimes it’s just a fancy disguise for avoidance."

Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d

Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a

Hello, beautiful- Monica here, and today we are about to RUIN your addiction to busyness—in the best way possible. You see, I know you. You’re the type who has an ovulation tracking spreadsheet, a supplement rotation schedule, and a fertility research folder so detailed that even a NASA scientist would be impressed. And hey, I was that girl too. But let’s be real for a second—how’s that working out for you?

Monique is rolling her eyes SO HARD at Mabel today because, spoiler alert, Mabel thinks if she just does more, she’ll fixher fertility struggles. Sound familiar? But what if doing more is actually the problem? What if your obsession with figuring it all out is the very thing standing in your way?

Today, we’re diving into why busyness is often just a sneaky way to avoid the real emotional work. Why sitting still feels terrifying. Why slowing down might be your biggest act of healing yet. Oh, and if you think this episode is gonna be all soft and fluffy, don’t worry—Monique is here with some tough love (and a few hard truths you probably don’t want to hear but absolutely need to).

And because I love making things super practical, I’m giving you a little challenge at the end: Five minutes of stillness. No distractions, no research, no checking your fertility apps. Just you, sitting with yourself. Scary, right? That’s the point.

So grab your tea (or let’s be real, your third cup of coffee), and let’s get into it.

"If you don’t give yourself permission to slow down, your body will do it for you."

00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast 00:10 - The real work of uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey 00:37 - Why radical responsibility is key to getting pregnant 00:51 - Disclaimer: Finding Fertility empowers, not diagnoses 01:15 - Recap: Did you listen to my episodes with Tally Miller? 01:44 - Grounding meditation: Releasing the addiction to busyness 07:19 - Are you addicted to busyness? Let’s talk about it 07:49 - The fertility journey spreadsheet life (yep, we’ve all been there) 08:17 - What happens when you STOP trying to fix everything? 10:38 - The illusion of control & why Mabel is struggling 11:05 - Monique calls out the hustle culture in fertility 12:27 - The subconscious patterns keeping you stuck in overdoing 14:54 - What happens when you finally slow down & listen to your body 17:05 - IVF as a bypass for deeper healing (let’s get real) 19:29 - Healing requires space, not just more action 21:25 - The hardest thing to surrender: The way you’ve been living 23:49 - My personal story: Quitting my job & shifting priorities 25:17 - Three journal prompts to help you break free from busyness 26:41 - Monique’s take: Stuffing down emotions isn’t a long-term strategy 27:40 - Your challenge: 5 minutes of stillness—no distractions 28:08 - Your default energy is running the show (not your yoga practice) 29:28 - Closing thoughts & next week’s deep dive into emotional baggage

"Repressed feelings don’t stay repressed. They just get passive-aggressive—like resentment toward your partner for breathing too loudly."

Full Transcript on the Blog: 

https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-block-to-fertility-success-overcoming-suppressed-emotions-during-infertility-ivf

🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

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Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon 

• Why modern motherhood feels like a trap & how to break free
• The illusion of control & how it sabotages your fertility
• How feminism may have set women up for burnout instead of freedom
• The real cost of trying to “have it all” & what to do instead
• How unresolved generational trauma affects fertility & motherhood
• Why masculine & feminine energy imbalances lead to dysfunction
• The unexpected ways children mirror your emotional wounds
• The importance of presence over perfection in parenting
• How to recognize & break toxic patterns before they pass to your kids