The Grace Fueled Wife: Christian Marriage Podcast | Rebuild Emotional Intimacy | Healthy Communication | Conflict Resolution https://TheGraceFueledWife.com Are you sitting in a marriage that feels empty? Struggling to connect with your husband or wondering why communication in your marriage feels so hard? Maybe you feel lonely in your marriage even though you’re still living under the same roof.

Maybe you’re telling yourself you’re just sticking it out for the kids… and what really keeps you in the marriage is your commitment to God.

If this is you, I’ve been there. And I want to help you reconnect in your marriage, rebuild emotional intimacy, and feel cherished again.

Hey, I’m Beatriz Vargas — a Christian marriage coach, Jesus-loving wife, and mom. I’ve been married for over 15 years, but for the first five years of our marriage we struggled with constant conflict, poor communication, and emotional disconnection.

I was busy telling my husband all the things he was doing wrong — what he needed to change, how he needed Jesus, and what he needed to do to make me happy.

We tried marriage counseling, small groups, and all the things we were told would fix our marriage. Nothing worked… and eventually we separated.

But learning how communication, emotional safety, and grace actually work inside a marriage changed everything.

Today, my husband and I have the affectionate, emotionally connected marriage I once thought was impossible.

The Grace Fueled Wife is a Christian marriage podcast, where you’ll learn how to:

•Stop fighting and rebuild connection in marriage

• communicate more effectively with your husband

• break unhealthy conflict cycles in marriage
• rebuild emotional intimacy and connection
• stop feeling lonely in your marriage
• navigate difficult conversations with grace
• strengthen your Christian marriage even when your husband isn’t changing

If you feel like you’re the only one trying to save your marriage… if you’re tired of having the same arguments over and over… or if you’re longing to feel close again, this podcast will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.

Each week we talk about communication in marriage, conflict resolution, emotional intimacy, and how faith and grace can help restore connection in even the most difficult seasons of marriage.

So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and let’s start creating the connected, grace-fueled marriage you’ve been praying for.

]]> Tue, 28 Jul 2026 00:00:00 -0400 https://podbean.com/?v=5.5 en Copyright 2026 All rights reserved. Society & Culture:Relationships 1440 episodic Are you sitting in a marriage that feels empty? Struggling to connect with your husband or wondering why communication in your marriage feels so hard? Maybe you feel lonely in your marriage even though you’re still living under the same roof. Maybe you’re telling yourself you’re just sticking it out for the kids… and what really keeps you in the marriage is your commitment to God. If this is you, I’ve been there. And I want to help you reconnect in your marriage, rebuild emotional intimacy, and feel cherished again. Hey, I’m Beatriz Vargas — a Christian marriage coach, Jesus-loving wife, and mom. I’ve been married for over 15 years, but for the first five years of our marriage we struggled with constant conflict, poor communication, and emotional disconnection. I was busy telling my husband all the things he was doing wrong — what he needed to change, how he needed Jesus, and what he needed to do to make me happy. We tried marriage counseling, small groups, and all the things we were told would fix our marriage. Nothing worked… and eventually we separated. But learning how communication, emotional safety, and grace actually work inside a marriage changed everything. Today, my husband and I have the affectionate, emotionally connected marriage I once thought was impossible. On The Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, you’ll learn how to: • communicate more effectively with your husband • break unhealthy conflict cycles in marriage • rebuild emotional intimacy and connection • stop feeling lonely in your marriage • navigate difficult conversations with grace • strengthen your Christian marriage even when your husband isn’t changing If you feel like you’re the only one trying to save your marriage… if you’re tired of having the same arguments over and over… or if you’re longing to feel close again, this podcast will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. Each week we talk about communication in marriage, conflict resolution, emotional intimacy, and how faith and grace can help restore connection in even the most difficult seasons of marriage. So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and let’s start creating the connected, grace-fueled marriage you’ve been praying for. Connect: Beatriz@thegracefueledwife.com Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity/ Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news. https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach No false https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/6790541/Beatriz-Vargas-Podcast-Cover-2026-.jpg The Grace Fueled Wife: Christian Marriage Podcast | Rebuild Emotional Intimacy | Healthy Communication | Conflict Resolution https://TheGraceFueledWife.com 144 144 E224: Bad Marriage Advice? 3 Marriage Myths That Keep Couples Stuck w. Monica Tanner E224: Bad Marriage Advice? 3 Marriage Myths That Keep Couples Stuck w. Monica Tanner https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e224-bad-marriage-advice-3-marriage-myths-that-keep-couples-stuck-w-monica-tanner/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e224-bad-marriage-advice-3-marriage-myths-that-keep-couples-stuck-w-monica-tanner/#comments Tue, 28 Jul 2026 00:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/9aa91d52-3d49-34d0-bf89-a86c51fff166 Have you ever wondered if some of the marriage advice you've been following is actually making things worse?

From "Never go to bed angry" to "If he loved you, he'd just know what you need," many of the messages couples receive sound wise - but can unintentionally create resentment, anxiety, and disconnection.

In this conversation, I'm joined by relationship coach and author Monica Tanner to unpack some of the most common marriage myths couples believe and what to do instead. Together we explore why making clear requests is healthier than expecting mind reading, why small frustrations shouldn't be ignored, and how learning to communicate your needs can create more connection instead of more conflict.

If you've ever felt stuck between "I don't want to nag" and "I don't know how to ask for what I need," this episode will give you a practical framework for communicating with honesty, kindness, and confidence - without criticism or resentment.

You can find more information about our guest at : https://www.monicatanner.com/

 

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]]> Have you ever wondered if some of the marriage advice you've been following is actually making things worse?

From "Never go to bed angry" to "If he loved you, he'd just know what you need," many of the messages couples receive sound wise - but can unintentionally create resentment, anxiety, and disconnection.

In this conversation, I'm joined by relationship coach and author Monica Tanner to unpack some of the most common marriage myths couples believe and what to do instead. Together we explore why making clear requests is healthier than expecting mind reading, why small frustrations shouldn't be ignored, and how learning to communicate your needs can create more connection instead of more conflict.

If you've ever felt stuck between "I don't want to nag" and "I don't know how to ask for what I need," this episode will give you a practical framework for communicating with honesty, kindness, and confidence - without criticism or resentment.

You can find more information about our guest at : https://www.monicatanner.com/

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 2148 224 full E223: Different Values in Marriage: Are you actually incompatible? E223: Different Values in Marriage: Are you actually incompatible? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e223-different-values-in-marriage-are-you-actually-incompatible/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e223-different-values-in-marriage-are-you-actually-incompatible/#comments Wed, 22 Jul 2026 02:01:43 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/baa9d5a8-6ecb-3f38-bd9e-25456864b978 Have you ever looked at your husband and wondered, "Maybe we're just too different?" When conversations about politics, parenting, faith, finances, or family end in frustration, it's easy to assume you've discovered a fundamental difference in values. But what if emotional disconnection is distorting the way you see each other?

In this episode, I'll help you discern the difference between a true values mismatch and the attachment wounds that can make loving couples feel fundamentally incompatible. You'll learn why emotional safety changes how we interpret disagreements, how to identify when you're reacting to hurt rather than reality, and five questions to help you determine whether you're facing a difference in core values or simply a breakdown in connection.

If you've been wondering whether your marriage is beyond repair—or whether there's still hope beneath the hurt—this conversation will help you see your relationship through a new lens.

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]]> Have you ever looked at your husband and wondered, "Maybe we're just too different?" When conversations about politics, parenting, faith, finances, or family end in frustration, it's easy to assume you've discovered a fundamental difference in values. But what if emotional disconnection is distorting the way you see each other?

In this episode, I'll help you discern the difference between a true values mismatch and the attachment wounds that can make loving couples feel fundamentally incompatible. You'll learn why emotional safety changes how we interpret disagreements, how to identify when you're reacting to hurt rather than reality, and five questions to help you determine whether you're facing a difference in core values or simply a breakdown in connection.

If you've been wondering whether your marriage is beyond repair—or whether there's still hope beneath the hurt—this conversation will help you see your relationship through a new lens.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1506 223 full E222: Not feeling like yourself lately? It might be your hormones w. Bekah Yawn E222: Not feeling like yourself lately? It might be your hormones w. Bekah Yawn https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e222-not-feeling-like-yourself-lately-it-might-be-your-hormones-w-bekah-yawn/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e222-not-feeling-like-yourself-lately-it-might-be-your-hormones-w-bekah-yawn/#comments Thu, 16 Jul 2026 00:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/8f056a78-1eac-393a-a47f-e9fbd3af9757 Have you ever looked at yourself and wondered, What is wrong with me?

Maybe you've been more irritable than usual, emotionally exhausted, struggling with brain fog, or snapping at the people you love—even though that's not who you want to be.

In this episode, I'm joined by friend, Bekah Yawn, of the For Love of Hormones podcast, a hormone coach, FEMM educator, and doula to explore how hormone health can quietly shape your mood, communication, emotional regulation, and even your marriage. Together, we unpack what healthy hormone rhythms are designed to look like, how to recognize when something may be off, and why burnout, stress, and deeper health issues often show up through hormone imbalance.

Whether you're navigating PMS, perimenopause, irregular cycles, or simply wondering why you don't feel like yourself anymore, this conversation offers practical education, compassionate insight, and hope. Understanding your body isn't just about feeling better—it's about caring for yourself well so you can show up with greater peace, presence, and grace.

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Bekahyawn.com/beatriz

 

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]]> Have you ever looked at yourself and wondered, What is wrong with me?

Maybe you've been more irritable than usual, emotionally exhausted, struggling with brain fog, or snapping at the people you love—even though that's not who you want to be.

In this episode, I'm joined by friend, Bekah Yawn, of the For Love of Hormones podcast, a hormone coach, FEMM educator, and doula to explore how hormone health can quietly shape your mood, communication, emotional regulation, and even your marriage. Together, we unpack what healthy hormone rhythms are designed to look like, how to recognize when something may be off, and why burnout, stress, and deeper health issues often show up through hormone imbalance.

Whether you're navigating PMS, perimenopause, irregular cycles, or simply wondering why you don't feel like yourself anymore, this conversation offers practical education, compassionate insight, and hope. Understanding your body isn't just about feeling better—it's about caring for yourself well so you can show up with greater peace, presence, and grace.

You can find the resources discussed at:

Bekahyawn.com/beatriz

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 2270 222 full E221: How to encourage your husband to change without nagging or criticizing E221: How to encourage your husband to change without nagging or criticizing https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e221-how-to-encourage-your-husband-to-change-without-nagging-or-criticizing/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e221-how-to-encourage-your-husband-to-change-without-nagging-or-criticizing/#comments Tue, 14 Jul 2026 00:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/589cac55-3565-357b-8895-04ea761e82ce What if one of the most effective ways to encourage change in your marriage isn't another hard conversation?

When you've been carrying the emotional load for years, the idea of praising your husband can feel frustrating - even unfair. You may wonder why you're expected to do one more thing when you're already exhausted from trying to hold your marriage together.

In this episode, I unpack the psychology behind positive reinforcement and why appreciation isn't about ignoring real problems or pretending everything is okay. Instead, it's about learning how resentment quietly trains your brain to notice only what's missing - and how shifting your attention can influence both your marriage and your own heart.

If you've ever wondered how to encourage your husband without nagging, criticizing, or feeling like you're manipulating him, this conversation offers a practical, grace-filled perspective on creating change through intentional encouragement rather than constant correction.

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]]> What if one of the most effective ways to encourage change in your marriage isn't another hard conversation?

When you've been carrying the emotional load for years, the idea of praising your husband can feel frustrating - even unfair. You may wonder why you're expected to do one more thing when you're already exhausted from trying to hold your marriage together.

In this episode, I unpack the psychology behind positive reinforcement and why appreciation isn't about ignoring real problems or pretending everything is okay. Instead, it's about learning how resentment quietly trains your brain to notice only what's missing - and how shifting your attention can influence both your marriage and your own heart.

If you've ever wondered how to encourage your husband without nagging, criticizing, or feeling like you're manipulating him, this conversation offers a practical, grace-filled perspective on creating change through intentional encouragement rather than constant correction.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1136 221 full E220: Finding Intimacy after infidelity w. Kristina Joy E220: Finding Intimacy after infidelity w. Kristina Joy https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e220-finding-intimacy-after-infidelity-w-kristina-joy/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e220-finding-intimacy-after-infidelity-w-kristina-joy/#comments Fri, 10 Jul 2026 09:45:55 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ba44882c-86c0-38fc-bb73-46e51141b19b Can a marriage heal after infidelity? And if so, where does healing actually begin?

In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with Kristina Joy, host of the Intimacy After Infidelity podcast, to explore the often-overlooked side of betrayal—the story of the woman who stepped outside her marriage and the path that led her back to God, truth, and healing.

Together, we discuss shame, radical honesty, personal responsibility, and why infidelity never happens in a vacuum. Kristina shares how learning to tell the truth about her own heart became the beginning of genuine transformation—not only in her relationship with her husband, but in her relationship with God and herself.

Whether infidelity is part of your story or not, this conversation offers hope for anyone seeking deeper healing, healthier communication, and the courage to face difficult realities with both grace and truth.

 

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https://kristinajoycoaching.com/

 

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]]> Can a marriage heal after infidelity? And if so, where does healing actually begin?

In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with Kristina Joy, host of the Intimacy After Infidelity podcast, to explore the often-overlooked side of betrayal—the story of the woman who stepped outside her marriage and the path that led her back to God, truth, and healing.

Together, we discuss shame, radical honesty, personal responsibility, and why infidelity never happens in a vacuum. Kristina shares how learning to tell the truth about her own heart became the beginning of genuine transformation—not only in her relationship with her husband, but in her relationship with God and herself.

Whether infidelity is part of your story or not, this conversation offers hope for anyone seeking deeper healing, healthier communication, and the courage to face difficult realities with both grace and truth.

 

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https://kristinajoycoaching.com/

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 2043 220 full E219: ADHD May be Affecting Your Marriage but it Doesn't have to Run It E219: ADHD May be Affecting Your Marriage but it Doesn't have to Run It https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e219-adhd-may-be-affecting-your-marriage-but-it-doesnt-have-to-run-it/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e219-adhd-may-be-affecting-your-marriage-but-it-doesnt-have-to-run-it/#comments Wed, 08 Jul 2026 00:50:30 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ba6c4dd9-fe34-3ebf-ab71-431fb3bfceff Do you ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over again - and neither of you understands why?

Maybe one of you is constantly forgetting appointments, running late, making impulsive decisions, or becoming unexpectedly defensive during conversations. It's easy to assume these behaviors mean someone doesn't care, isn't trying, or simply refuses to change. But what if something else is happening beneath the surface?

In this episode, I explore how ADHD can quietly shape communication, conflict, and emotional connection inside a marriage. Drawing from both my work as a couples therapist and my own late ADHD diagnosis, I share how understanding the way an ADHD brain works can transform frustration into compassion without removing personal responsibility.

Whether you have ADHD, suspect your husband might, or simply want to understand your relationship more deeply, this conversation offers practical insight into one of the most overlooked influences on marriage.

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]]> Do you ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over again - and neither of you understands why?

Maybe one of you is constantly forgetting appointments, running late, making impulsive decisions, or becoming unexpectedly defensive during conversations. It's easy to assume these behaviors mean someone doesn't care, isn't trying, or simply refuses to change. But what if something else is happening beneath the surface?

In this episode, I explore how ADHD can quietly shape communication, conflict, and emotional connection inside a marriage. Drawing from both my work as a couples therapist and my own late ADHD diagnosis, I share how understanding the way an ADHD brain works can transform frustration into compassion without removing personal responsibility.

Whether you have ADHD, suspect your husband might, or simply want to understand your relationship more deeply, this conversation offers practical insight into one of the most overlooked influences on marriage.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1481 219 full E218: Survive a loveless marriage, build spiritual intimacy and other "Tried and True" Biblical marriage advice w. Dana Che Williams E218: Survive a loveless marriage, build spiritual intimacy and other "Tried and True" Biblical marriage advice w. Dana Che Williams https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e218-survive-a-loveless-marriage-build-spiritual-intimacy-and-other-tried-and-true-biblical-marriage-advice-with-dana-che-williams/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e218-survive-a-loveless-marriage-build-spiritual-intimacy-and-other-tried-and-true-biblical-marriage-advice-with-dana-che-williams/#comments Tue, 30 Jun 2026 00:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/47f036b8-cd77-38de-9beb-9f79b64c2a9c What if some of the most practical marriage advice isn't new at all?

In this conversation, I'm joined by author, speaker, relationship coach, and Rebuilding Us podcast host Dana Che Williams to discuss her new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples. Together, we explore what Scripture can teach us about real marriages—not idealized ones, but relationships marked by disappointment, loneliness, forgiveness, hope, and redemption.

We talk about why so many Christian couples find themselves in what Dana calls "the marriage in the middle," how spiritual intimacy can transform a relationship even before circumstances change, and why God often leads us one faithful step at a time instead of revealing the entire path.

Whether your marriage feels strong or you're wondering how to survive a season where love feels distant, this conversation offers biblical encouragement rooted in grace, honesty, and God's enduring faithfulness.

Sometimes the next step toward healing isn't finding new advice—it's rediscovering ancient wisdom.

Here is how to get your hands on the book: https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book/ 

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]]> What if some of the most practical marriage advice isn't new at all?

In this conversation, I'm joined by author, speaker, relationship coach, and Rebuilding Us podcast host Dana Che Williams to discuss her new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples. Together, we explore what Scripture can teach us about real marriages—not idealized ones, but relationships marked by disappointment, loneliness, forgiveness, hope, and redemption.

We talk about why so many Christian couples find themselves in what Dana calls "the marriage in the middle," how spiritual intimacy can transform a relationship even before circumstances change, and why God often leads us one faithful step at a time instead of revealing the entire path.

Whether your marriage feels strong or you're wondering how to survive a season where love feels distant, this conversation offers biblical encouragement rooted in grace, honesty, and God's enduring faithfulness.

Sometimes the next step toward healing isn't finding new advice—it's rediscovering ancient wisdom.

Here is how to get your hands on the book: https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book/ 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 2150 218 full E217: 4 behaviors that predict divorce and what to do instead E217: 4 behaviors that predict divorce and what to do instead https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e217-4-behaviors-that-predict-divorce-and-what-to-do-instead/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e217-4-behaviors-that-predict-divorce-and-what-to-do-instead/#comments Fri, 26 Jun 2026 01:12:30 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a75f5f0e-ea2d-384e-9820-bc0146ef3900 Have you ever walked away from an argument wondering, How did we end up here... again? Maybe you started the conversation hoping to feel understood, but somehow it turned into criticism, defensiveness, silence, or resentment instead.

In this episode, we're exploring the four communication patterns that relationship researchers Drs. John and Julie Gottman found can predict divorce with remarkable accuracy—and why simply knowing what not to do isn't enough to create lasting change.

You'll discover what's happening beneath these behaviors, why your nervous system reacts the way it does, and how attachment needs often hide underneath criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Rather than offering another checklist for becoming a "better wife," this episode invites you to look beneath the surface and understand the deeper emotional needs driving your reactions.

When you begin recognizing the pattern underneath the pattern, you gain something far more powerful than perfect communication—you gain the ability to respond with greater clarity, wisdom, and grace.

Sometimes the greatest change in a marriage begins with seeing what's been there all along.

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]]> Have you ever walked away from an argument wondering, How did we end up here... again? Maybe you started the conversation hoping to feel understood, but somehow it turned into criticism, defensiveness, silence, or resentment instead.

In this episode, we're exploring the four communication patterns that relationship researchers Drs. John and Julie Gottman found can predict divorce with remarkable accuracy—and why simply knowing what not to do isn't enough to create lasting change.

You'll discover what's happening beneath these behaviors, why your nervous system reacts the way it does, and how attachment needs often hide underneath criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Rather than offering another checklist for becoming a "better wife," this episode invites you to look beneath the surface and understand the deeper emotional needs driving your reactions.

When you begin recognizing the pattern underneath the pattern, you gain something far more powerful than perfect communication—you gain the ability to respond with greater clarity, wisdom, and grace.

Sometimes the greatest change in a marriage begins with seeing what's been there all along.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1628 217 full E216: Before you decide should I stay or go - ask this E216: Before you decide should I stay or go - ask this https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/before-you-decide-should-i-stay-or-go-ask-this/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/before-you-decide-should-i-stay-or-go-ask-this/#comments Thu, 11 Jun 2026 15:18:15 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/3251ab68-7aa7-3c1d-b31f-51066d88b59b When you keep asking yourself, “Should I stay or should I go?” the real question may not be about your marriage at all.

For many women in struggling marriages, the decision feels urgent. You're exhausted from trying, discouraged by the lack of change, and wondering how much longer you can keep carrying the weight of the relationship. At some point, the question of divorce, separation, or staying begins to surface.

But what if the answer isn't found in making a faster decision?

In this episode, we explore the deeper questions underneath the stay-or-go dilemma, including the difference between permission and discernment, boundaries and ultimatums, and how fear, grief, and exhaustion can influence the choices we make.

Because when your heart is hurting, clarity doesn't come from panic.

It comes from learning how to listen to the wiser, steadier voice underneath it all.

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]]> When you keep asking yourself, “Should I stay or should I go?” the real question may not be about your marriage at all.

For many women in struggling marriages, the decision feels urgent. You're exhausted from trying, discouraged by the lack of change, and wondering how much longer you can keep carrying the weight of the relationship. At some point, the question of divorce, separation, or staying begins to surface.

But what if the answer isn't found in making a faster decision?

In this episode, we explore the deeper questions underneath the stay-or-go dilemma, including the difference between permission and discernment, boundaries and ultimatums, and how fear, grief, and exhaustion can influence the choices we make.

Because when your heart is hurting, clarity doesn't come from panic.

It comes from learning how to listen to the wiser, steadier voice underneath it all.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 939 216 full E215 | Why marriage therapy sometimes fails and what to do instead. E215 | Why marriage therapy sometimes fails and what to do instead. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e215-why-marriage-therapy-sometimes-fails-and-what-to-do-instead/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e215-why-marriage-therapy-sometimes-fails-and-what-to-do-instead/#comments Tue, 26 May 2026 20:17:44 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/dff77d29-b553-3f10-84ef-0fd3bc82ea6b Have you ever wondered why marriage counseling didn’t work, or why the thought of starting it feels terrifying?

Maybe you’ve searched for marriage help, brought up couples therapy, or begged for better communication in marriage… only to feel dismissed, misunderstood, or afraid nothing will actually change. Maybe your husband shuts down, you feel emotionally alone, and every hard conversation somehow turns into the same painful cycle.

In this episode, we talk about why marriage therapy sometimes stalls, why communication tools alone don’t always work, and what may be happening underneath the fear, shutdown, resentment, or criticism that keeps showing up in marriage conflict.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why am I the only one trying?” or worried that even therapy won’t help you save your marriage, this conversation offers a compassionate, grounded perspective on emotional safety, healing, and learning to communicate from peace instead of fear.

Because sometimes the problem isn’t that you don’t know what to say.

Sometimes it’s what happens inside of you before the words ever come out.

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]]> Have you ever wondered why marriage counseling didn’t work, or why the thought of starting it feels terrifying?

Maybe you’ve searched for marriage help, brought up couples therapy, or begged for better communication in marriage… only to feel dismissed, misunderstood, or afraid nothing will actually change. Maybe your husband shuts down, you feel emotionally alone, and every hard conversation somehow turns into the same painful cycle.

In this episode, we talk about why marriage therapy sometimes stalls, why communication tools alone don’t always work, and what may be happening underneath the fear, shutdown, resentment, or criticism that keeps showing up in marriage conflict.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why am I the only one trying?” or worried that even therapy won’t help you save your marriage, this conversation offers a compassionate, grounded perspective on emotional safety, healing, and learning to communicate from peace instead of fear.

Because sometimes the problem isn’t that you don’t know what to say.

Sometimes it’s what happens inside of you before the words ever come out.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1276 215 full E214 | Hearing Jesus When Your Marriage is in Crisis w. Rachael Groll E214 | Hearing Jesus When Your Marriage is in Crisis w. Rachael Groll https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e214-hearing-jesus-when-your-marriage-is-in-crisis-w-rachael-groll/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e214-hearing-jesus-when-your-marriage-is-in-crisis-w-rachael-groll/#comments Thu, 21 May 2026 14:09:31 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/b97e631a-fb43-3204-b327-d48c4d7eba7c What do you do when you’re desperate for answers - and you honestly don’t know what God is asking you to do?

For many women in difficult marriages, the hardest question isn’t just “Should I stay or go?” It’s “How do I know if I’m hearing God clearly?” When marriage problems feel overwhelming, loneliness feels heavy, or fear clouds discernment, it can become difficult to separate God’s voice from panic, shame, or outside opinions.

In this conversation with Rachael Groll, author of Hearing Jesus, we talk about what it really looks like to seek God’s direction during painful seasons—including marriage struggles, abuse, uncertainty, and grief. Together, we explore how Scripture, discernment, and quiet moments of surrender can help you recognize God’s presence even when life feels dark.

God’s voice is rarely loud or dramatic.

Oftentimes,  it’s the quiet whisper leading you toward truth, safety, and peace.

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]]> What do you do when you’re desperate for answers - and you honestly don’t know what God is asking you to do?

For many women in difficult marriages, the hardest question isn’t just “Should I stay or go?” It’s “How do I know if I’m hearing God clearly?” When marriage problems feel overwhelming, loneliness feels heavy, or fear clouds discernment, it can become difficult to separate God’s voice from panic, shame, or outside opinions.

In this conversation with Rachael Groll, author of Hearing Jesus, we talk about what it really looks like to seek God’s direction during painful seasons—including marriage struggles, abuse, uncertainty, and grief. Together, we explore how Scripture, discernment, and quiet moments of surrender can help you recognize God’s presence even when life feels dark.

God’s voice is rarely loud or dramatic.

Oftentimes,  it’s the quiet whisper leading you toward truth, safety, and peace.

For information on my guest visit: https://www.rachaelgroll.com/

Or the Hearing Jesus Podcast

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 2460 214 full E213| When Burnout Makes Your Emotionally Disconnected Marriage Feel Worse E213| When Burnout Makes Your Emotionally Disconnected Marriage Feel Worse https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e213-when-burnout-makes-your-emotionally-disconnected-marriage-feel-worse/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e213-when-burnout-makes-your-emotionally-disconnected-marriage-feel-worse/#comments Tue, 12 May 2026 02:59:52 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/f266d698-5fc3-33da-97f3-246c8bb30fc2 What if your marriage problems feel bigger right now… not because you’re imagining them, but because you’re exhausted?

In emotionally disconnected marriages, burnout can make everything feel heavier. His silence feels louder. His distance feels more personal. And the lack of emotional intimacy in marriage can start to feel like proof that nothing is ever going to change.

In this episode, we talk about the connection between burnout, nervous system overwhelm, and marriage conflict—and why emotional exhaustion can make it harder to discern what’s truly happening in your relationship. Because sometimes the issue isn’t just the marriage itself… it’s that your body has been carrying stress for too long.

If you’ve been trying harder in marriage while secretly feeling depleted, reactive, or emotionally numb, this conversation will help you begin separating what’s true from what’s being amplified by exhaustion—and why healing burnout may change more than you think.

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]]> What if your marriage problems feel bigger right now… not because you’re imagining them, but because you’re exhausted?

In emotionally disconnected marriages, burnout can make everything feel heavier. His silence feels louder. His distance feels more personal. And the lack of emotional intimacy in marriage can start to feel like proof that nothing is ever going to change.

In this episode, we talk about the connection between burnout, nervous system overwhelm, and marriage conflict—and why emotional exhaustion can make it harder to discern what’s truly happening in your relationship. Because sometimes the issue isn’t just the marriage itself… it’s that your body has been carrying stress for too long.

If you’ve been trying harder in marriage while secretly feeling depleted, reactive, or emotionally numb, this conversation will help you begin separating what’s true from what’s being amplified by exhaustion—and why healing burnout may change more than you think.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1383 213 full E212 | You're not too needy! The family patterns behind why you chase connection. E212 | You're not too needy! The family patterns behind why you chase connection. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e212-youre-not-too-needy-the-family-patterns-behind-why-you-chase-connection/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e212-youre-not-too-needy-the-family-patterns-behind-why-you-chase-connection/#comments Wed, 06 May 2026 23:15:33 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/bde6dfa7-f2a8-3ba9-a57f-260703b69768 What if the reason you chase connection in your marriage didn’t actually start with your husband?

So many women in emotionally disconnected marriages find themselves overthinking conversations, overexplaining feelings, or working overtime to create emotional intimacy—only to feel rejected, unseen, or exhausted. And eventually the question creeps in: Am I too needy?

In this episode, we explore the family patterns and emotional survival strategies that shape the way we show up in relationships. From overfunctioning and self-protection to silence, people-pleasing, and emotional pursuit, this conversation uncovers how old relational dynamics can keep repeating themselves inside marriage conflict.

Because sometimes the pain in the present is touching something much older.

If you’ve ever wondered why disconnection feels so activating—or why you keep falling into the same emotional cycle with your husband—this episode will help you begin seeing the pattern with more clarity, compassion, and wisdom.

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]]> What if the reason you chase connection in your marriage didn’t actually start with your husband?

So many women in emotionally disconnected marriages find themselves overthinking conversations, overexplaining feelings, or working overtime to create emotional intimacy—only to feel rejected, unseen, or exhausted. And eventually the question creeps in: Am I too needy?

In this episode, we explore the family patterns and emotional survival strategies that shape the way we show up in relationships. From overfunctioning and self-protection to silence, people-pleasing, and emotional pursuit, this conversation uncovers how old relational dynamics can keep repeating themselves inside marriage conflict.

Because sometimes the pain in the present is touching something much older.

If you’ve ever wondered why disconnection feels so activating—or why you keep falling into the same emotional cycle with your husband—this episode will help you begin seeing the pattern with more clarity, compassion, and wisdom.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1772 212 full How to find a marriage therapist who actually helps - not makes it worse. How to find a marriage therapist who actually helps - not makes it worse. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-find-a-marriage-therapist-who-actually-helps-not-makes-it-worse/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-find-a-marriage-therapist-who-actually-helps-not-makes-it-worse/#comments Thu, 30 Apr 2026 03:10:17 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/5d6c967c-9ddc-35ff-8385-ea91788b1af6 Have you ever walked away from couples therapy feeling worse… more confused, more blamed, or more alone than when you started?

For many women, seeking help for marriage problems feels like the right next step—but not every experience in couples therapy actually leads to clarity or healing. Sometimes, it leaves you questioning yourself even more.

In this episode, we unpack why that happens—and what you should be paying attention to before trusting someone with your relationship. From how a therapist understands power dynamics and emotional safety, to the subtle ways values and bias can shape the process, this conversation will help you approach therapy with more clarity and confidence.

Because getting support should not come at the cost of your voice.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, misunderstood, or dismissed while trying to get help for your marriage, this episode will help you understand why—and how to choose differently moving forward.

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]]> Have you ever walked away from couples therapy feeling worse… more confused, more blamed, or more alone than when you started?

For many women, seeking help for marriage problems feels like the right next step—but not every experience in couples therapy actually leads to clarity or healing. Sometimes, it leaves you questioning yourself even more.

In this episode, we unpack why that happens—and what you should be paying attention to before trusting someone with your relationship. From how a therapist understands power dynamics and emotional safety, to the subtle ways values and bias can shape the process, this conversation will help you approach therapy with more clarity and confidence.

Because getting support should not come at the cost of your voice.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, misunderstood, or dismissed while trying to get help for your marriage, this episode will help you understand why—and how to choose differently moving forward.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1118 211 full How to communicate without criticizing How to communicate without criticizing https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-communicate-without-criticizing/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-communicate-without-criticizing/#comments Tue, 21 Apr 2026 14:38:48 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/85390c4a-f38e-3423-8fad-960c94692421 Many wives are trying to improve communication in marriage by being more intentional, more thoughtful, more aware and somehow still find themselves stuck in the same fight over and over. 

The same patterns of marriage conflict. You’re trying not to criticize, trying to say things the “right way,” but somehow it still lands wrong.

In this episode, we unpack a subtle but powerful dynamic that often goes unnoticed: how even well-meaning communication can sound like criticism and trigger defensiveness. Through real-life examples, you’ll begin to see how small shifts in language can change the entire tone of a conversation from creating disconnection in marriage to creating healthy communication and emotional intimacy. 

Because this isn’t just about what you say…

It’s about how it’s received. It’s not just about your intent but also the impact of your words. 

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “That’s not what I meant,” this episode will help you understand why, and what to do differently.

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]]> Many wives are trying to improve communication in marriage by being more intentional, more thoughtful, more aware and somehow still find themselves stuck in the same fight over and over. 

The same patterns of marriage conflict. You’re trying not to criticize, trying to say things the “right way,” but somehow it still lands wrong.

In this episode, we unpack a subtle but powerful dynamic that often goes unnoticed: how even well-meaning communication can sound like criticism and trigger defensiveness. Through real-life examples, you’ll begin to see how small shifts in language can change the entire tone of a conversation from creating disconnection in marriage to creating healthy communication and emotional intimacy. 

Because this isn’t just about what you say…

It’s about how it’s received. It’s not just about your intent but also the impact of your words. 

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “That’s not what I meant,” this episode will help you understand why, and what to do differently.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 957 210 full The Love Language that Matters Most w. Dr. Gary Chapman The Love Language that Matters Most w. Dr. Gary Chapman https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/the-love-language-that-matters-most-w-dr-gary-chapman/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/the-love-language-that-matters-most-w-dr-gary-chapman/#comments Tue, 14 Apr 2026 13:55:01 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ffba9054-00ed-36fe-b8bb-aa53a7fc20b8 What if you’ve been trying to love your husband the “right way”… but it still isn’t landing?

Many wives feel confused when their efforts to improve communication in marriage don’t lead to deeper connection. You’re trying to show up differently, trying to love him well, and yet the distance remains. It can start to feel like you’re the only one trying in marriage - and nothing is changing.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages and his newest book The Love Language That Matters Most, to explore why that disconnect happens - even when your intentions are good.

We talk about the missing piece most couples overlook: love language dialects, how personality shapes emotional connection, and why love doesn’t always land the way you expect it to.

If your marriage feels stuck despite everything you’ve been doing, this conversation will help you begin to understand why—and what may need to shift beneath the surface.

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The Love Language that Matters Most

The 5 Love Languages

Loving your Spouse When You feel Like Walking Away

 

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]]> What if you’ve been trying to love your husband the “right way”… but it still isn’t landing?

Many wives feel confused when their efforts to improve communication in marriage don’t lead to deeper connection. You’re trying to show up differently, trying to love him well, and yet the distance remains. It can start to feel like you’re the only one trying in marriage - and nothing is changing.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages and his newest book The Love Language That Matters Most, to explore why that disconnect happens - even when your intentions are good.

We talk about the missing piece most couples overlook: love language dialects, how personality shapes emotional connection, and why love doesn’t always land the way you expect it to.

If your marriage feels stuck despite everything you’ve been doing, this conversation will help you begin to understand why—and what may need to shift beneath the surface.

Episode Resources: 

Free Love Languages Assessment

Premium 5 Love Languages Assessment

Apology Language Assessment

 

Books:

The Love Language that Matters Most

The 5 Love Languages

Loving your Spouse When You feel Like Walking Away

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 2360 209 full Why won't he take accountability for his actions? Why won't he take accountability for his actions? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/why-wont-he-take-accountability-for-his-actions/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/why-wont-he-take-accountability-for-his-actions/#comments Tue, 07 Apr 2026 21:40:16 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a5eb8424-1b4b-3e5d-9d6a-1b8bafa9e8fe Have you ever found yourself thinking… “I’ve done everything I can—and he still won’t take responsibility?”

There comes a point in marriage conflict where trying harder doesn’t feel empowering anymore—it feels exhausting. You’ve worked on your communication in marriage, softened your approach, maybe even changed how you handle arguments in marriage… and yet, nothing seems to shift.

So now you’re left wondering what this actually means. Is this a pattern that can change? Or are you the only one trying in marriage while he stays the same?

In this episode, we look beneath the surface of that question and explore what might really be happening when a husband won’t take accountability—without rushing to conclusions or oversimplifying the problem. Because not every situation is the same, and not every answer is easy.

If you’ve been carrying the weight of a marriage that feels stuck, this conversation will help you begin to see your next step with more clarity.

 

Research cited in the podcast is discussed here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magic-ratio-the-key-to-relationship-satisfaction/

 

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]]> Have you ever found yourself thinking… “I’ve done everything I can—and he still won’t take responsibility?”

There comes a point in marriage conflict where trying harder doesn’t feel empowering anymore—it feels exhausting. You’ve worked on your communication in marriage, softened your approach, maybe even changed how you handle arguments in marriage… and yet, nothing seems to shift.

So now you’re left wondering what this actually means. Is this a pattern that can change? Or are you the only one trying in marriage while he stays the same?

In this episode, we look beneath the surface of that question and explore what might really be happening when a husband won’t take accountability—without rushing to conclusions or oversimplifying the problem. Because not every situation is the same, and not every answer is easy.

If you’ve been carrying the weight of a marriage that feels stuck, this conversation will help you begin to see your next step with more clarity.

 

Research cited in the podcast is discussed here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magic-ratio-the-key-to-relationship-satisfaction/

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1114 208 full Is my husband a narcissist or just avoidantly attached? Is my husband a narcissist or just avoidantly attached? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/is-my-husband-a-narcissist-or-just-avoidantly-attached/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/is-my-husband-a-narcissist-or-just-avoidantly-attached/#comments Wed, 01 Apr 2026 02:54:11 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/76e0987e-2792-31a9-b631-915398931a9f Is he actually a narcissist… or is your husband avoidantly attached? 

Are you just exhausted, confused, and starting to question your own reality?

When your husband shuts down, avoids conversations, or makes you feel dismissed, it’s easy to start searching for answers—especially when the relationship feels painful and unclear. You may find yourself wondering if this is emotional abuse… or if you’re overreacting.

In this episode, we slow that question down.

Not to label him—but to help you understand what you’re actually experiencing.

Because not every painful pattern in marriage is the same. And not every emotionally unavailable response comes from the same place.

This conversation brings clarity to the difference between harmful patterns and avoidant behavior—without minimizing the impact it’s having on you.

If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of trying to figure out what’s wrong in your marriage, this episode will help you begin to see it more clearly—and respond from a place of steadiness instead of confusion.

 

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]]> Is he actually a narcissist… or is your husband avoidantly attached? 

Are you just exhausted, confused, and starting to question your own reality?

When your husband shuts down, avoids conversations, or makes you feel dismissed, it’s easy to start searching for answers—especially when the relationship feels painful and unclear. You may find yourself wondering if this is emotional abuse… or if you’re overreacting.

In this episode, we slow that question down.

Not to label him—but to help you understand what you’re actually experiencing.

Because not every painful pattern in marriage is the same. And not every emotionally unavailable response comes from the same place.

This conversation brings clarity to the difference between harmful patterns and avoidant behavior—without minimizing the impact it’s having on you.

If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of trying to figure out what’s wrong in your marriage, this episode will help you begin to see it more clearly—and respond from a place of steadiness instead of confusion.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1794 207 full Tired of meeting your husband's needs and feeling resentful? Tired of meeting your husband's needs and feeling resentful? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/206-tired-of-meeting-his-needs-and-feeling-lonely/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/206-tired-of-meeting-his-needs-and-feeling-lonely/#comments Tue, 24 Mar 2026 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/8db0ee54-8532-318c-ac1a-2e9a6ee617f3 What happens when you’re meeting everyone else’s needs… and no one seems to notice yours?

If you’ve been showing up for your marriage, your home, your kids—doing what you believe a good wife should do—yet still find yourself asking, “But what about me?”… you’re not alone. Over time, that imbalance can quietly turn into resentment, exhaustion, and the painful feeling of becoming invisible in your own relationship.

In this episode, we explore why this dynamic develops, especially for women who are trying to do the right things in their marriage, and why it can feel so confusing when all that effort still leaves you feeling depleted.

Because this isn’t just about fairness or effort.

It’s about what happens when you’ve been pouring out for so long… there’s nothing left to give.

If you’ve been wondering how to keep showing up without losing yourself in the process, this conversation will help you begin to see what might be missing.

 

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]]> What happens when you’re meeting everyone else’s needs… and no one seems to notice yours?

If you’ve been showing up for your marriage, your home, your kids—doing what you believe a good wife should do—yet still find yourself asking, “But what about me?”… you’re not alone. Over time, that imbalance can quietly turn into resentment, exhaustion, and the painful feeling of becoming invisible in your own relationship.

In this episode, we explore why this dynamic develops, especially for women who are trying to do the right things in their marriage, and why it can feel so confusing when all that effort still leaves you feeling depleted.

Because this isn’t just about fairness or effort.

It’s about what happens when you’ve been pouring out for so long… there’s nothing left to give.

If you’ve been wondering how to keep showing up without losing yourself in the process, this conversation will help you begin to see what might be missing.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas, MFT | Marriage and Relationship coach false No 936 206 full God saved my marriage: 3 lessons learned God saved my marriage: 3 lessons learned https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/205-god-redeemed-my-marriage-3-lessons-learned/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/205-god-redeemed-my-marriage-3-lessons-learned/#comments Wed, 18 Mar 2026 03:21:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/589753f9-bb3a-313d-aeaa-f2aca7bcb024 Have you ever looked back at something you shared and wondered if you revealed more than you were ready to?

I recently went back and listened to my own story from a season when my marriage was breaking down—and had that exact feeling. Not just because of what I shared, but because of what I couldn’t see at the time. There were things happening underneath the surface, in me and in my relationship, that I didn’t understand until much later.

In this episode, I revisit that chapter with a different kind of awareness—the kind that only comes with time, reflection, and growth. It’s an honest look at what it felt like to keep pushing for connection, to feel unheard, and to slowly realize there was more going on than I could see.

Because sometimes the hardest part isn’t what we went through… it’s recognizing what we missed while we were in it.

And sometimes, that’s where a different kind of clarity begins.

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Episode 1: My Rockbottom Story: God Redeemed my marriage and can do the same for you

Episode 115: My Rockbottom Story pt. 2: 3 mistakes that led to our separation

 

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]]> Have you ever looked back at something you shared and wondered if you revealed more than you were ready to?

I recently went back and listened to my own story from a season when my marriage was breaking down—and had that exact feeling. Not just because of what I shared, but because of what I couldn’t see at the time. There were things happening underneath the surface, in me and in my relationship, that I didn’t understand until much later.

In this episode, I revisit that chapter with a different kind of awareness—the kind that only comes with time, reflection, and growth. It’s an honest look at what it felt like to keep pushing for connection, to feel unheard, and to slowly realize there was more going on than I could see.

Because sometimes the hardest part isn’t what we went through… it’s recognizing what we missed while we were in it.

And sometimes, that’s where a different kind of clarity begins.

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Episode 1: My Rockbottom Story: God Redeemed my marriage and can do the same for you

Episode 115: My Rockbottom Story pt. 2: 3 mistakes that led to our separation

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas, MFT | Marriage and Relationship coach false No 1108 205 full Why talking about your problems isn't fixing your marriage Why talking about your problems isn't fixing your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e204-why-talking-about-your-problems-isnt-fixing-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e204-why-talking-about-your-problems-isnt-fixing-your-marriage/#comments Wed, 11 Mar 2026 00:22:01 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a2172a12-2806-3c19-bf4e-b05119ec18fd Sometimes the real problem in marriage isn’t the argument — it’s the pattern underneath it.

If you’ve ever felt hopeful after a long conversation with your husband, only to find yourselves having the same arguments in marriage a few weeks later, you’re not alone. Many couples believe better communication in marriage should solve their marriage problems. But even sincere apologies and thoughtful repair conversations don’t always create lasting change.

In an emotionally disconnected marriage, couples can become skilled at repairing conflict while the deeper cycle stays untouched. One partner may keep chasing connection, trying harder in marriage, while the other withdraws emotionally or shuts down. Over time, that pattern quietly recreates the same disconnection — leaving many wives feeling lonely in marriage, like they’re the only one trying to save the relationship.

In this episode, we explore why communication alone doesn’t always restore emotional intimacy in marriage — and what might actually be happening beneath the surface.

Because sometimes the real shift begins when you start seeing the pattern differently.

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]]> Sometimes the real problem in marriage isn’t the argument — it’s the pattern underneath it.

If you’ve ever felt hopeful after a long conversation with your husband, only to find yourselves having the same arguments in marriage a few weeks later, you’re not alone. Many couples believe better communication in marriage should solve their marriage problems. But even sincere apologies and thoughtful repair conversations don’t always create lasting change.

In an emotionally disconnected marriage, couples can become skilled at repairing conflict while the deeper cycle stays untouched. One partner may keep chasing connection, trying harder in marriage, while the other withdraws emotionally or shuts down. Over time, that pattern quietly recreates the same disconnection — leaving many wives feeling lonely in marriage, like they’re the only one trying to save the relationship.

In this episode, we explore why communication alone doesn’t always restore emotional intimacy in marriage — and what might actually be happening beneath the surface.

Because sometimes the real shift begins when you start seeing the pattern differently.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas, MFT | Marriage and Relationship coach false No 968 204 full How to stop chasing your husband without giving up on your marriage How to stop chasing your husband without giving up on your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e203-afraid-to-stop-trying-how-to-create-distance-without-feeling-rejected-or-unwanted/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e203-afraid-to-stop-trying-how-to-create-distance-without-feeling-rejected-or-unwanted/#comments Tue, 03 Mar 2026 02:35:07 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/654bf776-9ed2-3e45-b820-b8a81e555843 What if the real reason you’re afraid to create space in your Christian marriage… isn’t about distance at all?

If you have an emotionally distant husband and you’re usually the one initiating conversations, repairing conflict, or carrying the emotional connection, the idea of “stepping back” can feel terrifying. Not because you want less closeness — but because you’re afraid of what the silence might mean.

In this episode, we gently unpack the attachment anxiety underneath overfunctioning, and why creating boundaries in marriage can stir up deeper fears about rejection, worth, and being chosen. You’ll begin to see how loneliness in marriage isn’t always about lack of effort — sometimes it’s about the story you attach to space.

This is a grounded conversation about communication in marriage, identity in Christ, and what it really means to lead yourself with steadiness instead of fear.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your pursuit is love or panic, this episode will invite you to slow down and notice what’s really happening underneath.

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]]> What if the real reason you’re afraid to create space in your Christian marriage… isn’t about distance at all?

If you have an emotionally distant husband and you’re usually the one initiating conversations, repairing conflict, or carrying the emotional connection, the idea of “stepping back” can feel terrifying. Not because you want less closeness — but because you’re afraid of what the silence might mean.

In this episode, we gently unpack the attachment anxiety underneath overfunctioning, and why creating boundaries in marriage can stir up deeper fears about rejection, worth, and being chosen. You’ll begin to see how loneliness in marriage isn’t always about lack of effort — sometimes it’s about the story you attach to space.

This is a grounded conversation about communication in marriage, identity in Christ, and what it really means to lead yourself with steadiness instead of fear.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your pursuit is love or panic, this episode will invite you to slow down and notice what’s really happening underneath.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist | Relationship Coach false No 1062 203 full Why trying harder to save your marriage is pushing him away Why trying harder to save your marriage is pushing him away https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e202-doing-more-isnt-saving-your-marriage-its-creating-distance/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e202-doing-more-isnt-saving-your-marriage-its-creating-distance/#comments Thu, 26 Feb 2026 01:37:54 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c7bc8429-827d-3160-a714-e15075e4fa1d What if the very thing you call “being a good Christian wife” is quietly creating emotional distance in your marriage?

If you’re the one working on communication, managing conflict, regulating your tone, praying for change, and trying not to be reactive — yet still feel lonely or disconnected from your husband — you may be carrying more than your share.

In this episode, we explore over-functioning in Christian marriage, emotional labor in relationships, attachment anxiety, and the difference between healthy self-leadership and over-responsibility. You’ll learn why constantly managing the emotional climate, initiating every repair, and striving to “do it right” can unintentionally create distance — even when your heart is in the right place.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re the only one trying, wondered why your husband feels emotionally distant, or searched for practical Christian marriage advice that doesn’t shame you — this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening and how to move toward mutual connection without carrying the whole relationship alone.

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]]> What if the very thing you call “being a good Christian wife” is quietly creating emotional distance in your marriage?

If you’re the one working on communication, managing conflict, regulating your tone, praying for change, and trying not to be reactive — yet still feel lonely or disconnected from your husband — you may be carrying more than your share.

In this episode, we explore over-functioning in Christian marriage, emotional labor in relationships, attachment anxiety, and the difference between healthy self-leadership and over-responsibility. You’ll learn why constantly managing the emotional climate, initiating every repair, and striving to “do it right” can unintentionally create distance — even when your heart is in the right place.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re the only one trying, wondered why your husband feels emotionally distant, or searched for practical Christian marriage advice that doesn’t shame you — this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening and how to move toward mutual connection without carrying the whole relationship alone.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist, Relationship Coach false No 1122 202 full Why does my marriage feel lonely even when we're not fighting? Why does my marriage feel lonely even when we're not fighting? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e201-why-does-my-marriage-feel-lonely-even-when-were-not-fighting/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e201-why-does-my-marriage-feel-lonely-even-when-were-not-fighting/#comments Mon, 16 Feb 2026 16:49:34 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/71b11a85-af00-33c4-84e9-b4542d148594 In this anniversary episode, I’m reflecting on how this podcast began — and why so many women resonate with episode one: loneliness inside a marriage that looks “fine” on the outside.

Before my separation nearly 15 years ago, the fighting had stopped. But instead of feeling better, we became quiet roommates. The chaos was gone… but so was the connection.

If you’re not fighting but still feel distant, disconnected, or emotionally alone, this episode is for you.

I unpack the real root of that loneliness — attachment longing — and walk you through the five core questions underneath conflict and disconnection:

Are you there for me? Do I matter? Will you come when I call? Do you need me? Will you be there when I’m vulnerable?

You’ll learn why loneliness isn’t proof your marriage is broken — and how to move toward deeper attunement without rushing to fix everything.

If you’ve ever felt married but emotionally single, you are not alone.

Resources: 

The Every Woman’s Bible is a study Bible for the heart and mind with over one hundred

scholars, writers, and contributors - all women - from around the world. It is packed with study notes and devotionals that address topics relevant to women with cultural, historical, and literary clarity and context to gain greater understanding. 

 

Discover God’s heart for you through deep study and reflection.

Learn more at EveryWomansBible.com.

 

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]]> In this anniversary episode, I’m reflecting on how this podcast began — and why so many women resonate with episode one: loneliness inside a marriage that looks “fine” on the outside.

Before my separation nearly 15 years ago, the fighting had stopped. But instead of feeling better, we became quiet roommates. The chaos was gone… but so was the connection.

If you’re not fighting but still feel distant, disconnected, or emotionally alone, this episode is for you.

I unpack the real root of that loneliness — attachment longing — and walk you through the five core questions underneath conflict and disconnection:

Are you there for me?
Do I matter?
Will you come when I call?
Do you need me?
Will you be there when I’m vulnerable?

You’ll learn why loneliness isn’t proof your marriage is broken — and how to move toward deeper attunement without rushing to fix everything.

If you’ve ever felt married but emotionally single, you are not alone.

Resources: 

The Every Woman’s Bible is a study Bible for the heart and mind with over one hundred

scholars, writers, and contributors - all women - from around the world. It is packed with study notes and devotionals that address topics relevant to women with cultural, historical, and literary clarity and context to gain greater understanding. 

 

Discover God’s heart for you through deep study and reflection.

Learn more at EveryWomansBible.com.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist false No 921 201 full Why good intentions still hurt your marriage communication Why good intentions still hurt your marriage communication https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e200-when-good-intentions-are-hurting-your-marriage-intent-vs-impact-in-communication/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e200-when-good-intentions-are-hurting-your-marriage-intent-vs-impact-in-communication/#comments Tue, 03 Feb 2026 00:30:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/5c97d0ac-a82d-3fb2-9fb9-e326d214c22c In this very special 200th episode of The Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I’m sitting with you in a conversation that feels both tender and necessary—the difference between intent and impact in marriage.

Because so often, we mean well. We’re not trying to hurt our husbands or create distance. And yet, our words can land in ways we never intended, leaving both of us feeling misunderstood, defensive, or shut down. If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “That’s not what I meant,” or “I was just trying to help” I want you to know - you’re not alone!

In this episode, I talk about why good intentions aren’t always enough, and how emotional attunement is what actually creates safety and connection. I’ll walk you through why impact matters more than intent during moments of tension, and how learning to repair—rather than retreat—can become one of the most powerful tools in your marriage.

We’ll talk about how to:

  • Slow down defensiveness (yours and his)
  • Take responsibility for impact without drowning in shame
  • Repair moments of disconnection instead of avoiding them
  • Rebuild emotional safety, even when conversations feel vulnerable

This isn’t about blaming yourself or fixing your husband. It’s about learning how to show up with wisdom, humility, and grace—so reconnection becomes possible again.

 

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]]> In this very special 200th episode of The Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I’m sitting with you in a conversation that feels both tender and necessary—the difference between intent and impact in marriage.

Because so often, we mean well. We’re not trying to hurt our husbands or create distance. And yet, our words can land in ways we never intended, leaving both of us feeling misunderstood, defensive, or shut down. If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “That’s not what I meant,” or “I was just trying to help” I want you to know - you’re not alone!

In this episode, I talk about why good intentions aren’t always enough, and how emotional attunement is what actually creates safety and connection. I’ll walk you through why impact matters more than intent during moments of tension, and how learning to repair—rather than retreat—can become one of the most powerful tools in your marriage.

We’ll talk about how to:

  • Slow down defensiveness (yours and his)

  • Take responsibility for impact without drowning in shame

  • Repair moments of disconnection instead of avoiding them

  • Rebuild emotional safety, even when conversations feel vulnerable

This isn’t about blaming yourself or fixing your husband. It’s about learning how to show up with wisdom, humility, and grace—so reconnection becomes possible again.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist false No 731 200 full Stuck in the same fight? 3 steps to break your cycle of disconnection. Stuck in the same fight? 3 steps to break your cycle of disconnection. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e199-stuck-in-the-same-fight-3-steps-to-break-your-cycle-of-disconnection/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e199-stuck-in-the-same-fight-3-steps-to-break-your-cycle-of-disconnection/#comments Wed, 28 Jan 2026 10:50:59 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/3d3e918b-4081-393c-bc47-45fad3c7b1c7 Have you ever found yourself and your husband stuck in recurring arguments that never seem to resolve? I've been there too. Today, we're piecing together everything we've learned about the negative communication cycle and how it’s responsible for your disconnection. We're diving into practical steps to recognize, regulate, and change these patterns in real-time. We'll talk about how to move from frustration back to connection, and I'll share personal anecdotes and clients' stories that highlight the importance of breaking these cycles. By the end, you'll know how to step out of reactivity with awareness, humility, and grace, fostering a deeper, more empathetic connection in your marriage. This isn't about forcing change, but about gentle, mindful shifts that make all the difference. Join me, take a deep breath, and let's work on breaking those negative cycles together.

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]]> Have you ever found yourself and your husband stuck in recurring arguments that never seem to resolve? I've been there too. Today, we're piecing together everything we've learned about the negative communication cycle and how it’s responsible for your disconnection. We're diving into practical steps to recognize, regulate, and change these patterns in real-time. We'll talk about how to move from frustration back to connection, and I'll share personal anecdotes and clients' stories that highlight the importance of breaking these cycles. By the end, you'll know how to step out of reactivity with awareness, humility, and grace, fostering a deeper, more empathetic connection in your marriage. This isn't about forcing change, but about gentle, mindful shifts that make all the difference. Join me, take a deep breath, and let's work on breaking those negative cycles together.



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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist false No 814 199 full How to stop getting defensive, even when you feel attacked! How neuroscience and scripture align on communication How to stop getting defensive, even when you feel attacked! How neuroscience and scripture align on communication https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e198-how-to-stop-getting-defensive-even-when-you-feel-attacked-how-neuroscience-and-scripture-align-on-communication/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e198-how-to-stop-getting-defensive-even-when-you-feel-attacked-how-neuroscience-and-scripture-align-on-communication/#comments Wed, 21 Jan 2026 09:54:18 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/53645d3f-d1a6-3c75-8f22-dbb4aa578713 Have you ever found yourself in a full-blown argument over something small, wondering how it got so big? In this episode, I share how understanding your nervous system can help you stop getting defensive, even when you feel attacked! You’ll learn what the “stoplight” model of emotions looks like, how Scripture affirms what neuroscience teaches about safety, and a simple breathing exercise to calm your body and reconnect with your spouse.

Join me as we explore how to move from protection mode to grace-filled connection, because even your nervous system is fearfully and wonderfully made.

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]]> Have you ever found yourself in a full-blown argument over something small, wondering how it got so big? In this episode, I share how understanding your nervous system can help you stop getting defensive, even when you feel attacked! You’ll learn what the “stoplight” model of emotions looks like, how Scripture affirms what neuroscience teaches about safety, and a simple breathing exercise to calm your body and reconnect with your spouse.

Join me as we explore how to move from protection mode to grace-filled connection, because even your nervous system is fearfully and wonderfully made.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist false No 743 198 full Tried everything to connect and feel like your getting nowhere? Tried everything to connect and feel like your getting nowhere? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e197-ive-tried-everything-to-connect-but-feel-like-im-getting-nowhere/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e197-ive-tried-everything-to-connect-but-feel-like-im-getting-nowhere/#comments Tue, 16 Dec 2025 00:48:41 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/3bdadef9-7518-31ce-87d5-61fa7b3d51d6 In this episode, I dive deep into the world of emotional pursuers—something I know all too well from personal experience. I'll share my story of how years of tiny rejections and a relentless drive for validation shaped my adult relationships, leading to constant anxiety and a desperate need for connection. We'll explore how these anxiously attached styles develop and the exhausting cycle they create. But don't worry, it's not all doom and gloom! I'll tell you how I began to heal by leaning into my faith and re-identifying myself through God's eyes, rather than seeking my husband's validation. This episode is all about finding strength in your identity and embracing grace in your relationships. I hope my journey can offer you some guidance and hope if you're facing similar challenges. So, if you're an emotional pursuer longing for connection but often finding yourself in a cycle of blame and resentment, you're in the right place. Let's work on becoming the grace-fueled wives we aspire to be, together. 

 

00:00 Introduction: The Weight of Tiny Rejections

01:03 Understanding Emotional Pursuers

01:48 A Personal Story of Perfectionism

04:00 The Impact of Inconsistent Caregivers

04:40 The Exhausting Cycle of Pursuers

08:12 Finding Strength in Faith

09:42 A Path to Healing and Connection

10:22 Conclusion and Support

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]]> In this episode, I dive deep into the world of emotional pursuers—something I know all too well from personal experience. I'll share my story of how years of tiny rejections and a relentless drive for validation shaped my adult relationships, leading to constant anxiety and a desperate need for connection. We'll explore how these anxiously attached styles develop and the exhausting cycle they create. But don't worry, it's not all doom and gloom! I'll tell you how I began to heal by leaning into my faith and re-identifying myself through God's eyes, rather than seeking my husband's validation. This episode is all about finding strength in your identity and embracing grace in your relationships. I hope my journey can offer you some guidance and hope if you're facing similar challenges. So, if you're an emotional pursuer longing for connection but often finding yourself in a cycle of blame and resentment, you're in the right place. Let's work on becoming the grace-fueled wives we aspire to be, together. 

 

00:00 Introduction: The Weight of Tiny Rejections

01:03 Understanding Emotional Pursuers

01:48 A Personal Story of Perfectionism

04:00 The Impact of Inconsistent Caregivers

04:40 The Exhausting Cycle of Pursuers

08:12 Finding Strength in Faith

09:42 A Path to Healing and Connection

10:22 Conclusion and Support

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist false No 746 197 full Why you feel like nothing you do is good enough in your marriage Why you feel like nothing you do is good enough in your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e196-it-doesnt-matter-what-i-do-im-never-going-to-get-it-right/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e196-it-doesnt-matter-what-i-do-im-never-going-to-get-it-right/#comments Wed, 03 Dec 2025 02:27:54 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/680b66f3-8749-3a08-8401-b61b90379677 In this episode I continue the discussion from last week about negative communication cycles, focusing specifically on emotional withdrawers. I'll share a personal story and explore why some people withdraw emotionally in relationships. We delve into how childhood experiences and societal expectations shape this behavior. I highlight the struggles that withdrawers face, such as feeling unsafe expressing emotions and the pressure of perceived failure. By understanding their experiences, we aim to foster empathy, and improve communication. Join me to learn more about how to offer grace and nurture a healthier relationship. 

 

03:06 Understanding Withdrawers

04:07 The Impact of Upbringing on Withdrawers

05:07 Withdrawers in Professional Life

06:51 The Emotional Struggles of Withdrawers

10:40 Empathy for Withdrawers

 

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]]> In this episode I continue the discussion from last week about negative communication cycles, focusing specifically on emotional withdrawers. I'll share a personal story and explore why some people withdraw emotionally in relationships. We delve into how childhood experiences and societal expectations shape this behavior. I highlight the struggles that withdrawers face, such as feeling unsafe expressing emotions and the pressure of perceived failure. By understanding their experiences, we aim to foster empathy, and improve communication. Join me to learn more about how to offer grace and nurture a healthier relationship. 

 

03:06 Understanding Withdrawers

04:07 The Impact of Upbringing on Withdrawers

05:07 Withdrawers in Professional Life

06:51 The Emotional Struggles of Withdrawers

10:40 Empathy for Withdrawers

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist false No 902 196 full THIS is the REAL reason you struggle with communication. THIS is the REAL reason you struggle with communication. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e195-this-is-the-real-reason-you-struggle-with-communication/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e195-this-is-the-real-reason-you-struggle-with-communication/#comments Tue, 25 Nov 2025 00:19:55 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/7461b69f-7e91-3ea3-a298-49213920e31f In this episode, we dive into the root causes of disconnection in marriages focusing on unmet emotional needs and negative communication cycles. I share a personal story showcasing how recognizing these cycles and responding differently can transform interactions. Using a practical exercise, I explain the mechanics of negative communication and how it perpetuates disconnection. Tune in to understand how you can stop these cycles and start feeling connected again. Don't forget to check out the free video training and our community resources - If you’re already on my insider list, I’ve included it with this week’s email.

 

00:23 Understanding Communication Issues in Relationships

01:19 Personal Story: Handling a Partner's Mood

04:09 The Negative Communication Cycle Explained

04:38 Visualizing the Communication Cycle

13:14 Impact of Negative Cycles on Emotional Needs

14:29 Conclusion and Resources

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]]> In this episode, we dive into the root causes of disconnection in marriages focusing on unmet emotional needs and negative communication cycles. I share a personal story showcasing how recognizing these cycles and responding differently can transform interactions. Using a practical exercise, I explain the mechanics of negative communication and how it perpetuates disconnection. Tune in to understand how you can stop these cycles and start feeling connected again. Don't forget to check out the free video training and our community resources - If you’re already on my insider list, I’ve included it with this week’s email.

 

00:23 Understanding Communication Issues in Relationships

01:19 Personal Story: Handling a Partner's Mood

04:09 The Negative Communication Cycle Explained

04:38 Visualizing the Communication Cycle

13:14 Impact of Negative Cycles on Emotional Needs

14:29 Conclusion and Resources

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist false No 945 195 full 3 Steps to diffuse an argument today! 3 Steps to diffuse an argument today! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e194-3-steps-to-diffuse-an-argument/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e194-3-steps-to-diffuse-an-argument/#comments Tue, 18 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/f6a9a64e-141e-389a-be6c-3d9322149640 In this episode, I give you some tips on how you can put defensiveness aside and respond with grace when a situation gets challenging! We explore the emotions behind defensiveness and how to navigate them effectively by learning the three key steps to deescalate an argument. I also share how validating feelings and communicating from a place of understanding can make a huge difference in your relationships. 

00:00 Introduction and Welcome Back

01:13 A Personal Story of Defensiveness

02:28 Reflecting on Emotional Reactions

05:52 Practical Steps to Deescalate Arguments

09:15 Final Thoughts and Announcements

 

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]]> In this episode, I give you some tips on how you can put defensiveness aside and respond with grace when a situation gets challenging! We explore the emotions behind defensiveness and how to navigate them effectively by learning the three key steps to deescalate an argument. I also share how validating feelings and communicating from a place of understanding can make a huge difference in your relationships. 

00:00 Introduction and Welcome Back

01:13 A Personal Story of Defensiveness

02:28 Reflecting on Emotional Reactions

05:52 Practical Steps to Deescalate Arguments

09:15 Final Thoughts and Announcements

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist false No 667 194 full E193// Why is it easier to talk to my bestie than my husband? E193// Why is it easier to talk to my bestie than my husband? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e193-why-is-it-easier-to-talk-to-my-bestie-than-my-husband/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e193-why-is-it-easier-to-talk-to-my-bestie-than-my-husband/#comments Wed, 05 Mar 2025 11:44:26 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a584c64d-3e2e-3bdf-a421-53cd3300181d In this episode, I share insights gained from my recent experiences in therapy training, highlighting the importance of emotional safety in relationships. I discuss how a clinician's listening approach influenced my willingness to share and how this relates to fostering emotional intimacy in marriage. 

I further explore how being a safe spouse means being present and non-judgmental, which requires self-awareness and understanding of what safety feels like. Join me as I reflect on my personal journey and offer practical advice on how to model this crucial aspect of a healthy marriage.

02:32 Personal Reflections and Training Insights

03:34 Understanding Emotional Safety

06:29 Applying Emotional Safety in Marriage

07:59 Restoration and Final Thoughts

 

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]]> In this episode, I share insights gained from my recent experiences in therapy training, highlighting the importance of emotional safety in relationships. I discuss how a clinician's listening approach influenced my willingness to share and how this relates to fostering emotional intimacy in marriage. 

I further explore how being a safe spouse means being present and non-judgmental, which requires self-awareness and understanding of what safety feels like. Join me as I reflect on my personal journey and offer practical advice on how to model this crucial aspect of a healthy marriage.

02:32 Personal Reflections and Training Insights

03:34 Understanding Emotional Safety

06:29 Applying Emotional Safety in Marriage

07:59 Restoration and Final Thoughts

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 736 193 full E192// Why I scrapped my most popular episode and what's new for 2025! E192// Why I scrapped my most popular episode and what's new for 2025! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e192-why-i-scrapped-my-most-popular-episode-and-whats-new-for-2025/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e192-why-i-scrapped-my-most-popular-episode-and-whats-new-for-2025/#comments Fri, 10 Jan 2025 16:34:34 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/7355e35a-e07c-36d9-92c0-0f905709574a In this episode, I address my hiatus from the podcast and the reasons behind it. I discuss my evolving perspective on marriage therapy, shaped by both personal experiences and professional training. Join me as I share insights from my journey, touching on the importance of working on personal issues before tackling couples therapy. This year, my goal is to provide you with tools for achieving security and intimacy in your relationships. Follow along every week as we embark on this journey together. Until next week, my friends!

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]]> In this episode, I address my hiatus from the podcast and the reasons behind it. I discuss my evolving perspective on marriage therapy, shaped by both personal experiences and professional training. Join me as I share insights from my journey, touching on the importance of working on personal issues before tackling couples therapy. This year, my goal is to provide you with tools for achieving security and intimacy in your relationships. Follow along every week as we embark on this journey together. Until next week, my friends!

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 526 192 full E191// How to be accountable for change in your marriage WITHOUT being a doormat! E191// How to be accountable for change in your marriage WITHOUT being a doormat! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e191-how-to-be-accountable-for-change-in-your-marriage-without-being-a-doormat/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e191-how-to-be-accountable-for-change-in-your-marriage-without-being-a-doormat/#comments Tue, 01 Oct 2024 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/835e269b-4a48-31d0-9e96-cc070818b9ef Understanding Grace, Boundaries, and Wisdom in Marriage

 

In this episode, we revisit episode number two, where I discuss how we can't change our husbands, only ourselves, and the importance of offering grace. Taking it a step further, I address common concerns about feeling like a doormat and emphasize the difference between silence and wisdom. Silence is fear-driven while wisdom involves choosing the right moment to express oneself. We delve into practical steps such as using effective communication, setting boundaries, and regulating emotions to foster a healthy marital environment. Through empowering ourselves, we build stronger, more loving relationships. Join me in our community for more discussions!

 

02:29 Reflecting on Episode Two

03:08 Understanding Grace in Marriage

04:19 The Difference Between Silence and Wisdom

05:25 Biblical Insights on Fear and Wisdom

08:00 Practical Steps to Change and Communication

11:13 The Power of Boundaries

11:46 Emotional Regulation and Final Thoughts

12:46 Building Community and Closing Remarks

 

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]]> Understanding Grace, Boundaries, and Wisdom in Marriage

 

In this episode, we revisit episode number two, where I discuss how we can't change our husbands, only ourselves, and the importance of offering grace. Taking it a step further, I address common concerns about feeling like a doormat and emphasize the difference between silence and wisdom. Silence is fear-driven while wisdom involves choosing the right moment to express oneself. We delve into practical steps such as using effective communication, setting boundaries, and regulating emotions to foster a healthy marital environment. Through empowering ourselves, we build stronger, more loving relationships. Join me in our community for more discussions!

 

02:29 Reflecting on Episode Two

03:08 Understanding Grace in Marriage

04:19 The Difference Between Silence and Wisdom

05:25 Biblical Insights on Fear and Wisdom

08:00 Practical Steps to Change and Communication

11:13 The Power of Boundaries

11:46 Emotional Regulation and Final Thoughts

12:46 Building Community and Closing Remarks

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 856 191 full E190// How to regulate your emotions and be less reactive w. Samantha Skelly E190// How to regulate your emotions and be less reactive w. Samantha Skelly https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e190-how-to-regulate-your-emotions-and-be-less-reactive-w-samantha-skelly/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e190-how-to-regulate-your-emotions-and-be-less-reactive-w-samantha-skelly/#comments Mon, 23 Sep 2024 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/d910bd3c-02e4-3c91-8b43-781f5a3650b4 Harnessing the Power of Breathwork to Regulate Emotions and Trauma

This week's episode features an enlightening conversation with Samantha Skelly, founder and CEO of Paws Breathwork. Samantha shares her journey from battling anxiety and an eating disorder to discovering the transformative potential of breathwork. She explains how breathwork can help regulate emotions, reduce trauma responses, and create space between triggers and reactions, which can be particularly beneficial in relationships. We explore the science behind breathwork, its spiritual connections, and its practical applications. Samantha also guides us through a brief breathwork exercise, demonstrating its immediate impact. For those interested in further exploring breathwork, Samantha offers resources through her Breathwork app and facilitator training. This episode is a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve emotional regulation and overall mental well-being.

 

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Control

02:03 Meet Samantha Skelly: Breathwork Expert

03:52 Samantha's Journey to Breathwork

07:16 The Science and Impact of Breathwork

11:05 Breathwork in Relationships

24:21 Practical Breathwork Exercise

34:16 Final Thoughts and Resources

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]]> Harnessing the Power of Breathwork to Regulate Emotions and Trauma

This week's episode features an enlightening conversation with Samantha Skelly, founder and CEO of Paws Breathwork. Samantha shares her journey from battling anxiety and an eating disorder to discovering the transformative potential of breathwork. She explains how breathwork can help regulate emotions, reduce trauma responses, and create space between triggers and reactions, which can be particularly beneficial in relationships. We explore the science behind breathwork, its spiritual connections, and its practical applications. Samantha also guides us through a brief breathwork exercise, demonstrating its immediate impact. For those interested in further exploring breathwork, Samantha offers resources through her Breathwork app and facilitator training. This episode is a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve emotional regulation and overall mental well-being.

 

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Control

02:03 Meet Samantha Skelly: Breathwork Expert

03:52 Samantha's Journey to Breathwork

07:16 The Science and Impact of Breathwork

11:05 Breathwork in Relationships

24:21 Practical Breathwork Exercise

34:16 Final Thoughts and Resources



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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 2381 190 full E189// Is that normal? Discerning through marital disappointment vs. destructive abuse E189// Is that normal? Discerning through marital disappointment vs. destructive abuse https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e189-is-that-normal-discerning-through-marital-disappointment-vs-destructive-abuse/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e189-is-that-normal-discerning-through-marital-disappointment-vs-destructive-abuse/#comments Wed, 18 Sep 2024 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/6fcd0a55-8171-3771-b16a-9ad9cb7207ed Understanding Emotional Abuse: Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages

In this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I'm delving into the critical difference between disappointing and destructive marriages. Building on last week's discussion about emotional abuse, I reference Leslie Vernick's book, 'Emotionally Destructive Marriage,' to provide clarity. We explore what it means to feel emotionally unsafe and identify when it crosses into abuse. We'll also discuss the importance of fully disclosing your situation to a therapist for proper guidance and support, even if it means going alone. This episode aims to offer insights and resources for those struggling in emotionally abusive relationships and emphasizes that you do not have to live in such a nightmare, even as a Christian. Stay tuned as we navigate these heavy but essential topics together.

 

00:00 Introduction: The Fear of Speaking Up

00:29 Understanding Emotional Abuse

02:44 Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages

03:36 Real-Life Examples and Quotes

05:24 Therapist's Role and Client Disclosure

10:59 Mandated Reporting and Emotional Safety

15:14 Concluding Thoughts and Resources

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]]> Understanding Emotional Abuse: Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages

In this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I'm delving into the critical difference between disappointing and destructive marriages. Building on last week's discussion about emotional abuse, I reference Leslie Vernick's book, 'Emotionally Destructive Marriage,' to provide clarity. We explore what it means to feel emotionally unsafe and identify when it crosses into abuse. We'll also discuss the importance of fully disclosing your situation to a therapist for proper guidance and support, even if it means going alone. This episode aims to offer insights and resources for those struggling in emotionally abusive relationships and emphasizes that you do not have to live in such a nightmare, even as a Christian. Stay tuned as we navigate these heavy but essential topics together.

 

00:00 Introduction: The Fear of Speaking Up

00:29 Understanding Emotional Abuse

02:44 Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages

03:36 Real-Life Examples and Quotes

05:24 Therapist's Role and Client Disclosure

10:59 Mandated Reporting and Emotional Safety

15:14 Concluding Thoughts and Resources



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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 1162 189 full E188// I want to go to marriage counseling but he refuses. What should I do? E188// I want to go to marriage counseling but he refuses. What should I do? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e188-i-want-to-go-to-marriage-counseling-but-he-refuses-what-should-i-do/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e188-i-want-to-go-to-marriage-counseling-but-he-refuses-what-should-i-do/#comments Mon, 16 Sep 2024 10:04:02 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/915f4587-7cd8-3fb0-8e79-ff9746edbe1a Navigating Marriage Therapy: Tips for Encouraging Your Spouse to Participate

This week, we dive into communication strategies, using 'I-statements,' and how to approach the topic with your spouse in a way that makes them feel safe and understood. I'll also share insights on clarifying what you want to achieve in therapy and the common issues couples face, like miscommunication, mistrust, and lack of emotional safety. Plus, we'll discuss options for those whose spouses refuse to go to therapy. Tune in as we explore how to make marriage counseling a more approachable and effective process.

 

00:00 Introduction and Personal Confession

02:24 Common Issues in Relationships

04:47 Challenges in Seeking Marriage Counseling

06:16 Effective Communication Strategies

12:16 Clarifying the Core Issues

18:37 Taking Action and Seeking Support

21:38 Conclusion and Community Engagement

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]]> Navigating Marriage Therapy: Tips for Encouraging Your Spouse to Participate

This week, we dive into communication strategies, using 'I-statements,' and how to approach the topic with your spouse in a way that makes them feel safe and understood. I'll also share insights on clarifying what you want to achieve in therapy and the common issues couples face, like miscommunication, mistrust, and lack of emotional safety. Plus, we'll discuss options for those whose spouses refuse to go to therapy. Tune in as we explore how to make marriage counseling a more approachable and effective process.

 

00:00 Introduction and Personal Confession

02:24 Common Issues in Relationships

04:47 Challenges in Seeking Marriage Counseling

06:16 Effective Communication Strategies

12:16 Clarifying the Core Issues

18:37 Taking Action and Seeking Support

21:38 Conclusion and Community Engagement

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 1400 188 full E187// How to be less Critical and communicate gracefully w. Deborah Smith Pegues E187// How to be less Critical and communicate gracefully w. Deborah Smith Pegues https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e187-how-to-be-less-critical-and-communicate-gracefully-w-deborah-smith-pegues/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e187-how-to-be-less-critical-and-communicate-gracefully-w-deborah-smith-pegues/#comments Mon, 05 Aug 2024 18:50:14 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/69a327a1-4e77-3b8d-832f-903a265ee1d8 In this episode of the Gracefueld Wife Podcast, I have the distinct honor of hosting Debra Smith Pegues. Debra is a best-selling author, global inspirational speaker, CPA, MBA, certified John Maxwell leadership coach, and Bible teacher who shares 45 years of marital wisdom. We discuss her journey, the secrets to her successful marriage, and the importance of communication and confrontation in maintaining a healthy relationship. Debra provides invaluable insights on how to approach difficult conversations lovingly and respectfully, the significance of prayer alongside confrontation, and the balance between submission and self-respect in marriage. We also touch on practical tips from her book, '30 Days to Taming Your Tongue,' and her guide, '10 Commandments for a Heavenly Marriage.' This episode is packed with wisdom for any woman navigating the complexities of marital relationships.

04:43 Secrets to a Successful Marriage

06:16 Navigating Spiritual Differences in Marriage

08:40 The Power of Words in Marriage

13:22 Effective Communication Strategies

20:34 The Importance of Confrontation

21:14 Effective Communication Techniques

23:02 Setting Boundaries and Consequences

25:22 Balancing Submission and Confrontation

33:06 The Role of Prayer in Conflict Resolution

36:55 Final Thoughts and Resources

 

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]]> In this episode of the Gracefueld Wife Podcast, I have the distinct honor of hosting Debra Smith Pegues. Debra is a best-selling author, global inspirational speaker, CPA, MBA, certified John Maxwell leadership coach, and Bible teacher who shares 45 years of marital wisdom. We discuss her journey, the secrets to her successful marriage, and the importance of communication and confrontation in maintaining a healthy relationship. Debra provides invaluable insights on how to approach difficult conversations lovingly and respectfully, the significance of prayer alongside confrontation, and the balance between submission and self-respect in marriage. We also touch on practical tips from her book, '30 Days to Taming Your Tongue,' and her guide, '10 Commandments for a Heavenly Marriage.' This episode is packed with wisdom for any woman navigating the complexities of marital relationships.



04:43 Secrets to a Successful Marriage

06:16 Navigating Spiritual Differences in Marriage

08:40 The Power of Words in Marriage

13:22 Effective Communication Strategies

20:34 The Importance of Confrontation

21:14 Effective Communication Techniques

23:02 Setting Boundaries and Consequences

25:22 Balancing Submission and Confrontation

33:06 The Role of Prayer in Conflict Resolution

36:55 Final Thoughts and Resources

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 2393 187 full E186 | 3 steps to stand for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation E186 | 3 steps to stand for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e186-the-3-cs-to-stanging-for-your-marriage-in-the-midst-of-trouble-or-separation/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e186-the-3-cs-to-stanging-for-your-marriage-in-the-midst-of-trouble-or-separation/#comments Mon, 29 Jul 2024 17:14:09 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/61de5158-e21b-38b1-a180-ce8b789efc53 Hello, and welcome back to the Grace Field's Wife podcast! After a brief hiatus due to my training as a marriage and family therapist, I'm excited to bring fresh insights to our podcast. This week, we tackle the pressing question: 'How do you stand for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation?' I'll share three essential Cs: Clarity, Commitment, and Community. We'll discuss identifying whether your relationship is abusive or just disappointing, understanding your and your husband's commitment levels, and the importance of having a supportive community. These steps will equip you with the practical tools to navigate through marital struggles effectively. Join our Facebook group or become an insider to stay connected and find more resources. Until next week!

 

00:00 Welcome Back to the Grace Field's Wife Podcast

03:53 The Importance of Clarity in Marriage

12:16 Understanding Commitment in Marriage

14:40 The Power of Community Support

20:54 Conclusion and Next Steps

 

 

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]]> Hello, and welcome back to the Grace Field's Wife podcast! After a brief hiatus due to my training as a marriage and family therapist, I'm excited to bring fresh insights to our podcast. This week, we tackle the pressing question: 'How do you stand for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation?' I'll share three essential Cs: Clarity, Commitment, and Community. We'll discuss identifying whether your relationship is abusive or just disappointing, understanding your and your husband's commitment levels, and the importance of having a supportive community. These steps will equip you with the practical tools to navigate through marital struggles effectively. Join our Facebook group or become an insider to stay connected and find more resources. Until next week!

 

00:00 Welcome Back to the Grace Field's Wife Podcast

03:53 The Importance of Clarity in Marriage

12:16 Understanding Commitment in Marriage

14:40 The Power of Community Support

20:54 Conclusion and Next Steps

 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 1299 186 full E185// What's more important in your marriage than strong communication? E185// What's more important in your marriage than strong communication? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e185-whats-more-important-in-your-marriage-than-strong-communication/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e185-whats-more-important-in-your-marriage-than-strong-communication/#comments Wed, 20 Mar 2024 17:04:27 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1c63142f-dee8-3973-9b5e-b8c3902e6cf7 In this episode, we discuss the value that is even more important to your marriage than communication and why. We also talk about the limitations of working on your marriage alone and what skills can be learned even if only one spouse is participating.

 

For those of you looking to enrich your marriage and become the hero in your marriage story, check out The Marriage Lab and enter GFW in the coupon code to secure $20 off your monthly marriage membership.

 

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]]> In this episode, we discuss the value that is even more important to your marriage than communication and why. We also talk about the limitations of working on your marriage alone and what skills can be learned even if only one spouse is participating.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 769 185 full E184// What do healthy boundaries in my marriage look like? E184// What do healthy boundaries in my marriage look like? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e184-what-do-healthy-boundaries-in-my-marriage-look-like/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e184-what-do-healthy-boundaries-in-my-marriage-look-like/#comments Mon, 18 Mar 2024 17:14:01 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/73882da3-278b-33a3-aeb3-5e0f98cc4bc4 In this episode, I discuss the importance of establishing healthy boundaries in marriage by reviewing 5 rules for healthy boundaries. Through the examples presented, I illustrate how these principles can help couples navigate the complexities of marriage, empower themselves, and foster mutual respect and love.

 

00:08 The Importance of Healthy Boundaries in Marriage

04:48 Exploring the Laws of Boundaries in Marriage

06:09 Applying Boundary Laws to Real-Life Scenarios

14:52 The Power of Choice and Respect in Marriage

 

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]]> In this episode, I discuss the importance of establishing healthy boundaries in marriage by reviewing 5 rules for healthy boundaries. Through the examples presented, I illustrate how these principles can help couples navigate the complexities of marriage, empower themselves, and foster mutual respect and love.

 

00:08 The Importance of Healthy Boundaries in Marriage

04:48 Exploring the Laws of Boundaries in Marriage

06:09 Applying Boundary Laws to Real-Life Scenarios

14:52 The Power of Choice and Respect in Marriage

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 1449 184 full E183// Build a strong foundation in your marriage in 4 (easy?) steps! E183// Build a strong foundation in your marriage in 4 (easy?) steps! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e183-build-a-strong-foundation-in-your-marriage-in-4-easy-steps/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e183-build-a-strong-foundation-in-your-marriage-in-4-easy-steps/#comments Fri, 08 Mar 2024 16:21:57 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/85f6b1b2-b7b8-3351-8597-a9cad4b9f260 In this week’s podcast, we dive deep into the ins and outs of building a sturdy foundation in marriage. I take you through a group coaching exercise, encouraging you to rate your marriages and personal mental health. We discuss the critical role appreciation, taking responsibility, open communication, and self-care play in fostering a healthy, vibrant marriage. 

 

We delve into the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' concept coined by the Gottman Institute, pinpointing the dangerous behaviors that could mark a marriage heading towards divorce. I also present how to recognize and replace these negative behaviors with healthier alternatives.

 

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Welcome

00:04 Building a Solid Foundation in Marriage

00:41 The Importance of Self-Assessment in Marriage

00:56 Understanding the Marriage Rating Scale

02:50 The Importance of Self-Care in Marriage

03:57 Marriage Coaching and Self-Study Options

05:53 Envisioning a Level 10 Marriage

06:54 Four Tactical Steps to Improve Your Marriage

08:41 Understanding the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Marriage

09:34 Practical Steps to Avoid the Four Horsemen

13:01 The Importance of Timeouts in Conflict Resolution

16:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

 

The Thrive Marriage Lab by Restory Counseling closes doors for registration on April 7th and will not open again until next year. Enter GFW in the coupon code for $20 off your monthly membership. This is a GREAT way to start building that healthy foundation for your marriage.  

 

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]]> In this week’s podcast, we dive deep into the ins and outs of building a sturdy foundation in marriage. I take you through a group coaching exercise, encouraging you to rate your marriages and personal mental health. We discuss the critical role appreciation, taking responsibility, open communication, and self-care play in fostering a healthy, vibrant marriage. 

 

We delve into the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' concept coined by the Gottman Institute, pinpointing the dangerous behaviors that could mark a marriage heading towards divorce. I also present how to recognize and replace these negative behaviors with healthier alternatives.

 

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Welcome

00:04 Building a Solid Foundation in Marriage

00:41 The Importance of Self-Assessment in Marriage

00:56 Understanding the Marriage Rating Scale

02:50 The Importance of Self-Care in Marriage

03:57 Marriage Coaching and Self-Study Options

05:53 Envisioning a Level 10 Marriage

06:54 Four Tactical Steps to Improve Your Marriage

08:41 Understanding the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Marriage

09:34 Practical Steps to Avoid the Four Horsemen

13:01 The Importance of Timeouts in Conflict Resolution

16:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

 

The Thrive Marriage Lab by Restory Counseling closes doors for registration on April 7th and will not open again until next year. Enter GFW in the coupon code for $20 off your monthly membership. This is a GREAT way to start building that healthy foundation for your marriage.  

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 1261 183 full E182// Improve emotional intimacy through your marriage story & have a year of good dates w. Tracy Johnson E182// Improve emotional intimacy through your marriage story & have a year of good dates w. Tracy Johnson https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e182-improve-emotional-intimacy-through-your-marriage-story-have-a-year-of-good-dates-w-tracy-johnson/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e182-improve-emotional-intimacy-through-your-marriage-story-have-a-year-of-good-dates-w-tracy-johnson/#comments Wed, 28 Feb 2024 15:45:31 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e0bfb216-afa9-32b3-909c-12c493220031 On this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife, we get to dive into conversations all about marriage, healing, and the power of stories with the exceptional Tracy Johnson. Tracy's work at Restory Counseling inspired me on my own journey to becoming a marriage therapist. She gives us the scoop on what it means to engage our personal stories in marriage and how that can supercharge healing. Tracy shares a deeply moving personal story about the weight of past experiences and the healing power of having someone witness your pain. We then delve into Restory's Year of Good Dates, an awesome tool Tracy's team developed that's all about sparking connection through shared storytelling. Tracy also drops details about what you can expect from the Thrive Marriage Lab, which is like a gym membership for your marriage! This program brings resources, growth opportunities, and a real community spirit straight into your relationship. If you're all about creating a deeper, richer connection in your marriage, this episode is filled with tons of valuable takeaways. Check it out!

 

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:24 Exploring Your Marriage Story

01:17 Guest Introduction: Tracy Johnson

03:43 Understanding the Role of Family of Origin in Marriage

06:50 Advice for Reengaging a Disengaged Spouse

09:39 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Marriage

11:03 The Role of Loneliness in Marriage

13:34 The Concept of 'ACK': Awareness, Curiosity, Kindness

16:47 A Year of Good Dates: Engaging Each Other's Story

21:24 A Drive to Dairy Queen: A Personal Story

22:43 Understanding the Impact of Past Experiences

23:36 The Power of Witnessing and Understanding

24:29 The Role of Trauma in Relationships

26:58 Choosing to Remember: A Path to Healing

28:26 The Importance of Personal Work in Relationships

30:10 The Power of Story Work and Witnessing

37:22 The Thrive Marriage Lab: A Resource for Couples

40:51 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation

 

You can find Tracy’s info here:

ReStory Counseling:

Thrive Marriage Lab:

 

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]]> On this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife, we get to dive into conversations all about marriage, healing, and the power of stories with the exceptional Tracy Johnson. Tracy's work at Restory Counseling inspired me on my own journey to becoming a marriage therapist. She gives us the scoop on what it means to engage our personal stories in marriage and how that can supercharge healing. Tracy shares a deeply moving personal story about the weight of past experiences and the healing power of having someone witness your pain. We then delve into Restory's Year of Good Dates, an awesome tool Tracy's team developed that's all about sparking connection through shared storytelling. Tracy also drops details about what you can expect from the Thrive Marriage Lab, which is like a gym membership for your marriage! This program brings resources, growth opportunities, and a real community spirit straight into your relationship. If you're all about creating a deeper, richer connection in your marriage, this episode is filled with tons of valuable takeaways. Check it out!

 

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:24 Exploring Your Marriage Story

01:17 Guest Introduction: Tracy Johnson

03:43 Understanding the Role of Family of Origin in Marriage

06:50 Advice for Reengaging a Disengaged Spouse

09:39 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Marriage

11:03 The Role of Loneliness in Marriage

13:34 The Concept of 'ACK': Awareness, Curiosity, Kindness

16:47 A Year of Good Dates: Engaging Each Other's Story

21:24 A Drive to Dairy Queen: A Personal Story

22:43 Understanding the Impact of Past Experiences

23:36 The Power of Witnessing and Understanding

24:29 The Role of Trauma in Relationships

26:58 Choosing to Remember: A Path to Healing

28:26 The Importance of Personal Work in Relationships

30:10 The Power of Story Work and Witnessing

37:22 The Thrive Marriage Lab: A Resource for Couples

40:51 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation

 

You can find Tracy’s info here:

ReStory Counseling:

Thrive Marriage Lab:

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 2652 182 full E181// Are you having trouble with communication in your marriage? These 3 questions can help! E181// Are you having trouble with communication in your marriage? These 3 questions can help! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e181-are-you-having-trouble-with-communication-in-your-marriage-these-3-questions-can-help/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e181-are-you-having-trouble-with-communication-in-your-marriage-these-3-questions-can-help/#comments Tue, 06 Feb 2024 00:05:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/16fcc9a9-1af5-38c5-8cc2-f7d4cc733259 Communication struggles are one of the most common issues in marriage. You are not alone if this applies to you. In this week’s episode, we discuss the importance of communication, and I share three key ideas for improving your communication in marriage. 

First, we recognize that everything a person does or doesn't do communicates something. Second, we look to understand the lens or perspective through which communications are filtered, both when speaking and listening. Lastly, I emphasize the importance of allowing spiritual guidance in communication, particularly in difficult conversations. 

We also talk about this month’s Podcast birthday celebration where we are giving away Amazon gift cards to listeners who join the mailing list and submit a review of the podcast.

 

00:52 The Importance of Communication

01:36 Podcast Birthday Celebration and Giveaway

04:07 Understanding Communication in Relationships

08:02 The Power of Perception in Communication

19:03 The Role of God in Communication

 

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]]> Communication struggles are one of the most common issues in marriage. You are not alone if this applies to you. In this week’s episode, we discuss the importance of communication, and I share three key ideas for improving your communication in marriage. 

First, we recognize that everything a person does or doesn't do communicates something. Second, we look to understand the lens or perspective through which communications are filtered, both when speaking and listening. Lastly, I emphasize the importance of allowing spiritual guidance in communication, particularly in difficult conversations. 

We also talk about this month’s Podcast birthday celebration where we are giving away Amazon gift cards to listeners who join the mailing list and submit a review of the podcast.

 

00:52 The Importance of Communication

01:36 Podcast Birthday Celebration and Giveaway

04:07 Understanding Communication in Relationships

08:02 The Power of Perception in Communication

19:03 The Role of God in Communication

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 1513 181 full E180// What goes on in the mind of a covert narcissist? What does the bible say about submission, oppression and abuse? w. Annette Oltmanns (Part 2) E180// What goes on in the mind of a covert narcissist? What does the bible say about submission, oppression and abuse? w. Annette Oltmanns (Part 2) https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e180-what-goes-on-in-the-mind-of-a-covert-narcissist-what-does-the-bible-say-about-submission-oppression-and-abuse-w-annette-oltmanns-part-2/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e180-what-goes-on-in-the-mind-of-a-covert-narcissist-what-does-the-bible-say-about-submission-oppression-and-abuse-w-annette-oltmanns-part-2/#comments Wed, 31 Jan 2024 00:05:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/f4b23b6b-40e7-34b1-93de-b9b2a6ed5de4 In this week’s episode, I continue my conversation with Annette Otlmans. Annette takes us into the mind of a chronic abuser and gives us the 4 pillars of emotional abuse which are:

Ridgid thinking in these areas:

  • Entitlement
  • Image management
  • Faulty belief system
  • Lower emotional IQ  

Annette and I also discuss what the bible says about submission, oppression, and abuse as it relates to being a biblical wife. We talk about toxic masculinity but also acknowledge the ways in which the patriarchy can be benevolent. 

Lastly, Annette gives us resources and steps to take if we realize we’re in an abusive relationship but aren’t able to or choose not to leave. 

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Here are the other resources she mentioned:

Website: Natalie Hoffman https://www.flyingfreenow.com/

Book: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by: Leslie Burnick

Book: Dating loving and leaving a narcissist by: Dr. Jamie Zuckerman

 

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]]> In this week’s episode, I continue my conversation with Annette Otlmans. Annette takes us into the mind of a chronic abuser and gives us the 4 pillars of emotional abuse which are:

Ridgid thinking in these areas:

  • Entitlement
  • Image management
  • Faulty belief system
  • Lower emotional IQ  

Annette and I also discuss what the bible says about submission, oppression, and abuse as it relates to being a biblical wife. We talk about toxic masculinity but also acknowledge the ways in which the patriarchy can be benevolent. 

Lastly, Annette gives us resources and steps to take if we realize we’re in an abusive relationship but aren’t able to or choose not to leave. 

If this episode resonated with you or you think may apply to someone you know, please share it!

If you want to learn more about the Mend Project, please visit https://themendproject.com/ or follow them on IG: https://www.instagram.com/themendproject/?hl=en

Here are the other resources she mentioned:

Website: Natalie Hoffman https://www.flyingfreenow.com/

Book: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by: Leslie Burnick

Book: Dating loving and leaving a narcissist by: Dr. Jamie Zuckerman

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 1989 180 full E179// Is your husband mean or cranky and you’re looking for clarity to discern emotional abuse? w. Annette Oltmanns (Part 1) E179// Is your husband mean or cranky and you’re looking for clarity to discern emotional abuse? w. Annette Oltmanns (Part 1) https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e179-is-your-husband-mean-or-cranky-and-you-re-looking-for-clarity-to-discern-emotional-abuse-w-annette-oltmanns-part-1/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e179-is-your-husband-mean-or-cranky-and-you-re-looking-for-clarity-to-discern-emotional-abuse-w-annette-oltmanns-part-1/#comments Mon, 29 Jan 2024 23:10:35 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e1811bd5-8756-3433-b930-ff7b7c87eeb4 Do you ever feel like what is wrong with me? Am I not loveable? Why do we have so many communication problems? Are you wondering why your relationship is so toxic? Have you felt like you’re walking on eggshells and can’t determine if your husband is abusive or just has a cranky demeanor?

All these questions are answered in this interview with Annette Oltmans of the Mend Project as she shares her work with us on covert emotional abuse. This is one of my most important episodes to date because as Annette says - “Clarity is the first step to healing.”

She answers questions such as:

  • What is emotional abuse? 
  • What is double abuse and what can pastors and therapists do to prevent it?
  • How can we discern if we are in a double abuse situation? 
  • What is the responsibility of the complementarian church as it relates to abuse and telling women to submit to their husbands? 
  • What are common abusive behaviors and red flags we should look out for? 
  • What is the difference between someone with a mean/cranky disposition (or someone raised with bad habits) vs. a chronic abuser? 

If this episode resonated with you or you think may apply to someone you know, please share it! If you want to learn more about the Mend Project, please visit https://themendproject.com/

 

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]]> Do you ever feel like what is wrong with me? Am I not loveable? Why do we have so many communication problems? Are you wondering why your relationship is so toxic? Have you felt like you’re walking on eggshells and can’t determine if your husband is abusive or just has a cranky demeanor?

All these questions are answered in this interview with Annette Oltmans of the Mend Project as she shares her work with us on covert emotional abuse. This is one of my most important episodes to date because as Annette says - “Clarity is the first step to healing.”

She answers questions such as:

  • What is emotional abuse? 
  • What is double abuse and what can pastors and therapists do to prevent it?
  • How can we discern if we are in a double abuse situation? 
  • What is the responsibility of the complementarian church as it relates to abuse and telling women to submit to their husbands? 
  • What are common abusive behaviors and red flags we should look out for? 
  • What is the difference between someone with a mean/cranky disposition (or someone raised with bad habits) vs. a chronic abuser? 

If this episode resonated with you or you think may apply to someone you know, please share it! If you want to learn more about the Mend Project, please visit https://themendproject.com/

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 2677 179 full E178// Do you want to have an intentional Christian Marriage? Learn how with Rosie Alejandro E178// Do you want to have an intentional Christian Marriage? Learn how with Rosie Alejandro https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e178-do-you-want-to-have-an-intentional-christian-marriage-learn-how-with-rosie-allejandro/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e178-do-you-want-to-have-an-intentional-christian-marriage-learn-how-with-rosie-allejandro/#comments Mon, 15 Jan 2024 00:05:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1143b8db-e1cd-342e-abab-8052b01f9875 A loving and connected marriage doesn’t happen by accident. It takes work and intention. In fact, all intimacy takes intention!  Whether that be with your husband or the Lord, in today's episode, Rosie Alejandro gives us tips to grow your relationship with God and strengthen your marriage. 

 

If you loved today's guest, you can find out more about her here:

Website: https://theintentionalchristianwoman.com/

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intentional-christian-woman-daily-bible-study/id1568177949

 

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]]> A loving and connected marriage doesn’t happen by accident. It takes work and intention. In fact, all intimacy takes intention!  Whether that be with your husband or the Lord, in today's episode, Rosie Alejandro gives us tips to grow your relationship with God and strengthen your marriage. 

 

If you loved today's guest, you can find out more about her here:

Website: https://theintentionalchristianwoman.com/

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intentional-christian-woman-daily-bible-study/id1568177949

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 2729 178 full E177// New Year, New book reccomendations to reignite your marriage today! E177// New Year, New book reccomendations to reignite your marriage today! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e177-new-year-new-book-reccomendations-to-reignite-your-marriage-today/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e177-new-year-new-book-reccomendations-to-reignite-your-marriage-today/#comments Mon, 08 Jan 2024 13:20:49 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/448cf8f5-8b45-368e-9df2-487bb57f4992 Here are 5 of my newest book recommendations to help you achieve a more loving and connected marriage! Listen in to find out why I think these books are special and how I think they can help you in your marriage journey today.

 

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]]> Here are 5 of my newest book recommendations to help you achieve a more loving and connected marriage! Listen in to find out why I think these books are special and how I think they can help you in your marriage journey today.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 1114 177 full E176// Don’t go to marriage counseling until you learn these three things! E176// Don’t go to marriage counseling until you learn these three things! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e176-don-t-go-to-marriage-counseling-until-you-learn-these-three-things/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e176-don-t-go-to-marriage-counseling-until-you-learn-these-three-things/#comments Thu, 04 Jan 2024 10:58:48 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/dda50938-8300-3665-9528-849edc6e42cf Most women looking to save their marriages first look to try marriage counseling. While Marriage counseling can be really helpful, there are important things to know before you invest time and money into the process. 

 

Not to mention that I take issue with some things that happen in marriage counseling and think it’s important to know the types of marriage counseling I recommend. This episode will let you know what red flags to look for when searching for a marriage counselor, what types of marriage therapists I encourage you to consider, and what work you can do BEFORE you get to marriage counseling that will help you achieve better results!

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]]> Most women looking to save their marriages first look to try marriage counseling. While Marriage counseling can be really helpful, there are important things to know before you invest time and money into the process. 

 

Not to mention that I take issue with some things that happen in marriage counseling and think it’s important to know the types of marriage counseling I recommend. This episode will let you know what red flags to look for when searching for a marriage counselor, what types of marriage therapists I encourage you to consider, and what work you can do BEFORE you get to marriage counseling that will help you achieve better results!

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 1691 176 full E175// What to do when you question why God didn’t answer your prayer E175// What to do when you question why God didn’t answer your prayer https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e175-what-to-do-when-you-re-praying-in-god-s-will-the-deadline-has-passed-and-it-just-hasn-t-happened/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e175-what-to-do-when-you-re-praying-in-god-s-will-the-deadline-has-passed-and-it-just-hasn-t-happened/#comments Wed, 27 Dec 2023 17:19:14 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/99193e73-70b8-3424-a471-4a871ce1cc6f We’ve all been there, we’ve all prayed for a thing that was in God’s will or truly believed it to be in His will and wondered why that prayer wasn’t answered or wasn’t answered the way we thought it should. 

This conversation between friends will fill your cup and encourage you in a profound way in that season. In this episode, my friend shares the story of how she prayed in earnest to save her marriage but still ended up in divorce. She shares how God has brought her through it. What he did, and is still doing. You will be left with hope and peace. 

 

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]]> We’ve all been there, we’ve all prayed for a thing that was in God’s will or truly believed it to be in His will and wondered why that prayer wasn’t answered or wasn’t answered the way we thought it should. 

This conversation between friends will fill your cup and encourage you in a profound way in that season. In this episode, my friend shares the story of how she prayed in earnest to save her marriage but still ended up in divorce. She shares how God has brought her through it. What he did, and is still doing. You will be left with hope and peace. 

 

Save this episode and share it. You won’t be disappointed.  

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach false No 2844 175 full E174// What causes infidelity and is your marriage at risk? E174// What causes infidelity and is your marriage at risk? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e174-what-causes-infidelity-and-is-your-marriage-at-risk/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e174-what-causes-infidelity-and-is-your-marriage-at-risk/#comments Wed, 20 Dec 2023 10:31:38 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/83c25f27-612d-3a99-8bf4-f8212cb71ca3 Infidelity…Let’s talk about it. For a show on marriages, I’m surprised I don’t talk about it more!  In this week’s episode, we talk about the root cause of infidelity, discern the risk factors that might exist for our own marriages, and explore ways to guard our marriage against it. 

 

Even if - or especially if, you haven’t walked through infidelity before, this episode is for you!!!

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]]> Infidelity…Let’s talk about it. For a show on marriages, I’m surprised I don’t talk about it more!  In this week’s episode, we talk about the root cause of infidelity, discern the risk factors that might exist for our own marriages, and explore ways to guard our marriage against it. 

 

Even if - or especially if, you haven’t walked through infidelity before, this episode is for you!!!

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife, Marriage Coach false No 1808 174 full E173// Stop People Pleasing and Claim your Christ Centered Identity withThe Grace Filled Leader E173// Stop People Pleasing and Claim your Christ Centered Identity withThe Grace Filled Leader https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e173-stop-people-pleasing-and-claim-your-christ-centered-identity-withthe-grace-filled-leader/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e173-stop-people-pleasing-and-claim-your-christ-centered-identity-withthe-grace-filled-leader/#comments Thu, 14 Dec 2023 15:23:09 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a58934ce-4cc6-3be1-ac53-a2dca4e064a2 As wives and moms who wear all the hats and juggle all the priorities, it can be easy to fall into a role of people pleasing and subsequent burnout. This week's guest Tanya Engesether, of the Grace Filled Leader podcast, shares her journey of people pleasing through her work relationships, and how she was able to reclaim her identity in Christ and start setting healthy boundaries.

We also get vulnerable in discussing how recovering from people-pleasing can potentially bring distress to a marriage and what we can do to maintain a  healthy relationship in the process. 

 

If you’re interested in learning more from today’s guest check out her information below:

Tanya Engesether

Podcast: The Grace Filled Leader 

Website: TheGraceFilledLeader.com

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]]> As wives and moms who wear all the hats and juggle all the priorities, it can be easy to fall into a role of people pleasing and subsequent burnout. This week's guest Tanya Engesether, of the Grace Filled Leader podcast, shares her journey of people pleasing through her work relationships, and how she was able to reclaim her identity in Christ and start setting healthy boundaries.

We also get vulnerable in discussing how recovering from people-pleasing can potentially bring distress to a marriage and what we can do to maintain a  healthy relationship in the process. 

 

If you’re interested in learning more from today’s guest check out her information below:

Tanya Engesether

Podcast: The Grace Filled Leader 

Website: TheGraceFilledLeader.com

Freebie:  7 Day Gratitude Journal

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife, Marriage Coach false No 2415 173 full E172// 3 Ways to Give Yourself Grace in a Tough Season E172// 3 Ways to Give Yourself Grace in a Tough Season https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e172-3-ways-to-give-yourself-grace-in-a-tough-season/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e172-3-ways-to-give-yourself-grace-in-a-tough-season/#comments Tue, 05 Dec 2023 15:39:08 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/63869dbe-c416-337f-a98d-6e21e794185a We’ve all been through tough seasons in life. Times when we are struggling in life and marriage, times when we don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, times when our mental health is low and we’re experiencing anxiety, depression, overwhelm, and burnout. 

 

As a wife and mom, these seasons can happen more often than you think. In today’s episode, I give you 3 practical ways to give yourself grace in such seasons.

 

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]]> We’ve all been through tough seasons in life. Times when we are struggling in life and marriage, times when we don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, times when our mental health is low and we’re experiencing anxiety, depression, overwhelm, and burnout. 

 

As a wife and mom, these seasons can happen more often than you think. In today’s episode, I give you 3 practical ways to give yourself grace in such seasons.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife, Marriage Coach false No 1632 172 full Bonus Epsiode: Life update and How to quit people pleasing with Grace! Bonus Epsiode: Life update and How to quit people pleasing with Grace! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/bonus-epsiode-life-update-and-how-to-quit-people-pleasing-with-grace/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/bonus-epsiode-life-update-and-how-to-quit-people-pleasing-with-grace/#comments Sat, 21 Oct 2023 20:18:29 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c47c537f-ce82-389f-a263-414229142d0c It's out of character for me to go so long without an episode!!! Honestly, I've been going through a lot personally over the past few weeks. Here is a QUICK life update AND a link to an episode I guested on for another show. Happy Listening and I'll be back soon for you!!

My guest appearance on The Grace Filled Leader Podcast is linked for you below. I will have the episode I recorded with her available soon. Check her out!

Part 1-

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grace-filled-leader-people-pleasing-servant/id1652933184?i=1000629057537

 

Part 2-

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grace-filled-leader-people-pleasing-servant/id1652933184?i=1000629183838

 

Website:  https://gracefilledleader.com

Freebie:  

7 Day Gratitude Journal

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]]> It's out of character for me to go so long without an episode!!! Honestly, I've been going through a lot personally over the past few weeks. Here is a QUICK life update AND a link to an episode I guested on for another show. Happy Listening and I'll be back soon for you!!

My guest appearance on The Grace Filled Leader Podcast is linked for you below. I will have the episode I recorded with her available soon. Check her out!

Part 1-

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grace-filled-leader-people-pleasing-servant/id1652933184?i=1000629057537

 

Part 2-

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grace-filled-leader-people-pleasing-servant/id1652933184?i=1000629183838

 

Website:  https://gracefilledleader.com

Freebie:  

7 Day Gratitude Journal

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife, Marriage Coach false No 358 bonus E171// How to create financial intimacy with RADCoaches Rebecca & Dylan E171// How to create financial intimacy with RADCoaches Rebecca & Dylan https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e171-how-to-create-financial-intimacy-with-radcoaches-rebecca-dylan/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e171-how-to-create-financial-intimacy-with-radcoaches-rebecca-dylan/#comments Thu, 21 Sep 2023 11:33:18 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c484c4c6-3f25-303a-b1bb-da26c87d7929 Intimacy can come in many forms. When we think of our close relationships we often think of emotional intimacy. When we think of marriage, we often think of physical & emotional intimacy. But financial intimacy is another type that can really only be experienced through the close bond that comes with sharing a life, goals, and bills with someone!

 

This week, we sit down with Marital Financial Coaches Rebecca and Dylan who who talk to us about what is financial intimacy and how to create it. What holds us back from experiencing it and how are some ways to create a stress-free environment around marital finances. 

 

Rebecca and Dylan can be found on their podcast RADMoney or their website RADCoaches.com

 

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]]> Intimacy can come in many forms. When we think of our close relationships we often think of emotional intimacy. When we think of marriage, we often think of physical & emotional intimacy. But financial intimacy is another type that can really only be experienced through the close bond that comes with sharing a life, goals, and bills with someone!

 

This week, we sit down with Marital Financial Coaches Rebecca and Dylan who who talk to us about what is financial intimacy and how to create it. What holds us back from experiencing it and how are some ways to create a stress-free environment around marital finances. 

 

Rebecca and Dylan can be found on their podcast RADMoney or their website RADCoaches.com

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 2896 171 full E170// What does it cost to save your marriage? E170// What does it cost to save your marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e170-what-does-it-cost-to-save-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e170-what-does-it-cost-to-save-your-marriage/#comments Fri, 15 Sep 2023 16:07:51 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/29aef579-985e-3ca3-878d-668ed9f111b4 There’s a difference between the monetary price of something and the cost of it. As we work to redeem our marriages it’s important to know what the full cost will be. In this episode, I give you three things to consider as a cost when are fighting for our marriages! 

 

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]]> There’s a difference between the monetary price of something and the cost of it. As we work to redeem our marriages it’s important to know what the full cost will be. In this episode, I give you three things to consider as a cost when are fighting for our marriages! 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1639 170 full E169// How to hear from God with Jenilee Samuel E169// How to hear from God with Jenilee Samuel https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e169-how-to-hear-from-god-with-jenilee-samuel/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e169-how-to-hear-from-god-with-jenilee-samuel/#comments Wed, 30 Aug 2023 14:57:19 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/eb94aba5-d311-3480-b38d-ccc2c190f998 God can speak to us at any time, but the times it can be most life giving is when we are in the midst of a dark or uncertain season. In fact, all of my best life decisions have been because God had spoken a word to me. 

 

Today’s guest, Jenilee Samuel of the Java with Jen podcast give us really helpful tips on how to identify God’s voice in our life AND how to strengthen our spiritual senses. 

 

To learn more about her programs check her out at: www.javawithjenpodcast.ORG

and use code GRACEFUELEDWIFE for a $200 savings!

Free 7-step checklist for starting a podcast- it’s a bird’s eye view for the DIY soul.  

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]]> God can speak to us at any time, but the times it can be most life giving is when we are in the midst of a dark or uncertain season. In fact, all of my best life decisions have been because God had spoken a word to me. 

 

Today’s guest, Jenilee Samuel of the Java with Jen podcast give us really helpful tips on how to identify God’s voice in our life AND how to strengthen our spiritual senses. 

 

To learn more about her programs check her out at: www.javawithjenpodcast.ORG

and use code GRACEFUELEDWIFE for a $200 savings!

Free 7-step checklist for starting a podcast- it’s a bird’s eye view for the DIY soul.  

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 2736 169 full E168// Is Marriage counseling worth it? 3 ways to find out! E168// Is Marriage counseling worth it? 3 ways to find out! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e168-is-marriage-counseling-worth-it-3-ways-to-find-out/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e168-is-marriage-counseling-worth-it-3-ways-to-find-out/#comments Fri, 25 Aug 2023 11:59:24 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ddbd58de-c1fd-37c9-8d67-fe77b7f2eaa6 Have you considered marriage counseling but aren’t sure if it will be worth your time and investment? Perhaps you’ve tried counseling before but felt like it just “didn’t work” or maybe you went to one session and your hubby never wanted to go back. 

 

In this episode, you’ll learn 3 ways to discern if marriage counseling is right for you, why it hasn’t worked in the past, and how to make the most of it if you choose to invest in marriage counseling in the future. 

 

Here is the info for Dr. Ruan that I discussed in this episode:

www.v2020counseling.com

 

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]]> Have you considered marriage counseling but aren’t sure if it will be worth your time and investment? Perhaps you’ve tried counseling before but felt like it just “didn’t work” or maybe you went to one session and your hubby never wanted to go back. 

 

In this episode, you’ll learn 3 ways to discern if marriage counseling is right for you, why it hasn’t worked in the past, and how to make the most of it if you choose to invest in marriage counseling in the future. 

 

Here is the info for Dr. Ruan that I discussed in this episode:

www.v2020counseling.com

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1282 168 full E167//3 simple steps to increase intimacy, communicate respect, AND improve your marriage today! E167//3 simple steps to increase intimacy, communicate respect, AND improve your marriage today! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e1673-simple-steps-to-increase-intimacy-communicate-respect-and-improve-your-marriage-today/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e1673-simple-steps-to-increase-intimacy-communicate-respect-and-improve-your-marriage-today/#comments Tue, 15 Aug 2023 00:10:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/82f0b035-8455-3426-84f9-4ebc02537a85 Has your husband told you that he feels disrespected by you but you’re not sure what he means? You don’t fight often but you want to make sure you are doing everything you can to have a healthy marriage. Perhaps you have a good marriage that you want to make great, or perhaps your marriage is struggling and you are looking for ALL the answers to make it better. 

Either way, this episode will teach you what it means to increase intimacy in your relationship, communicate respect to your husband and greatly improve your marriage as a byproduct!

 

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]]> Has your husband told you that he feels disrespected by you but you’re not sure what he means? You don’t fight often but you want to make sure you are doing everything you can to have a healthy marriage. Perhaps you have a good marriage that you want to make great, or perhaps your marriage is struggling and you are looking for ALL the answers to make it better. 

Either way, this episode will teach you what it means to increase intimacy in your relationship, communicate respect to your husband and greatly improve your marriage as a byproduct!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1252 167 full E166// Is your (or your husband’s) ADHD affecting your marriage? With Dr. Danielle McGeough E166// Is your (or your husband’s) ADHD affecting your marriage? With Dr. Danielle McGeough https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e166-is-you-or-your-husband-s-adhd-affecting-your-marriage-with-dr-danielle-mcgeough/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e166-is-you-or-your-husband-s-adhd-affecting-your-marriage-with-dr-danielle-mcgeough/#comments Thu, 10 Aug 2023 11:34:46 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/9b47a306-1966-3df0-983d-4ec14ccc1eb7 Have you ever suspected that you or your husband might have ADHD? You’re not alone. Experts are estimating that ADHD is overlooked AND underdiagnosed in adult women because symptoms present as more internalized and with less hyperactivity as compared to men.

 

Unless there is a deep understanding of one another, having only 1 neurodivergent spouse can cause major communication roadblocks and disagreements in a marriage. In this episode, we explore how to handle those differences and what it looks like to set goals for your marriage to ensure you grow together rather than grow apart. 

 

My guest, Dr. Danielle McGeough can be found through the following resources:

Many hard-working women and high-achieving mommas struggle to find time to make memories with their families and do meaningful work. Her proven methods help them plan and set goals with purpose, so they can delight in living fully both at work and at home.

Podcast: Click here to learn for FREE!

Click here for a FREE Plan Goal Plan Starter Pack

 

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]]> Have you ever suspected that you or your husband might have ADHD? You’re not alone. Experts are estimating that ADHD is overlooked AND underdiagnosed in adult women because symptoms present as more internalized and with less hyperactivity as compared to men.

 

Unless there is a deep understanding of one another, having only 1 neurodivergent spouse can cause major communication roadblocks and disagreements in a marriage. In this episode, we explore how to handle those differences and what it looks like to set goals for your marriage to ensure you grow together rather than grow apart. 

 

My guest, Dr. Danielle McGeough can be found through the following resources:

Many hard-working women and high-achieving mommas struggle to find time to make memories with their families and do meaningful work. Her proven methods help them plan and set goals with purpose, so they can delight in living fully both at work and at home.

Podcast: Click here to learn for FREE!

Click here for a FREE Plan Goal Plan Starter Pack

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 2313 166 full E165// 2 common mistakes people in troubled marriages make E165// 2 common mistakes people in troubled marriages make https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e165-2-common-mistakes-people-in-troubled-marriages-make/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e165-2-common-mistakes-people-in-troubled-marriages-make/#comments Wed, 02 Aug 2023 13:32:07 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/01607173-bd87-3ae1-b7df-0da651cc4cb5 Couples in troubled marriages fall within a spectrum of behavior. Some are busy doing EVERYTHING they can to improve the marriage while others are sitting idly by not even picking up the clues that their spouse is leaving for them. 

 

Which one are you? In this week’s episode, I give a 3 step framework to avoid the over-functioning (or under-functioning) that can happen within the marriage so that you can take clear action before things get to a critical place. 

 

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]]> Couples in troubled marriages fall within a spectrum of behavior. Some are busy doing EVERYTHING they can to improve the marriage while others are sitting idly by not even picking up the clues that their spouse is leaving for them. 

 

Which one are you? In this week’s episode, I give a 3 step framework to avoid the over-functioning (or under-functioning) that can happen within the marriage so that you can take clear action before things get to a critical place. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1152 165 full E164// Listener Q/A: He retreats, I pursue, what should I do? - and MORE E164// Listener Q/A: He retreats, I pursue, what should I do? - and MORE https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e164-listener-qa-how-to-turn-the-work-guy-off-so-he-stops-treating-me-like-one-of-his-employees-and-more/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e164-listener-qa-how-to-turn-the-work-guy-off-so-he-stops-treating-me-like-one-of-his-employees-and-more/#comments Tue, 25 Jul 2023 00:02:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1c77746a-7c1a-3808-b1e6-30950c1d8c42 Every month in our Facebook community I go live to answer listener-submitted questions. This month I am answering:

 

1- How do you turn the work guy off and the loving husband on so he isn’t treating me like one of his employees?

2- What are some things you wish you had known before going through the storm? What are some tools you had before going through the storm?

3- My husband tried to avoid arguments to keep the peace. How do I avoid that and let him know that I want to talk about it

 

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]]> Every month in our Facebook community I go live to answer listener-submitted questions. This month I am answering:

 

1- How do you turn the work guy off and the loving husband on so he isn’t treating me like one of his employees?

2- What are some things you wish you had known before going through the storm? What are some tools you had before going through the storm?

3- My husband tried to avoid arguments to keep the peace. How do I avoid that and let him know that I want to talk about it

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1389 164 full E163// This discovery helped save my marriage! E163// This discovery helped save my marriage! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e163-this-discovery-helped-save-my-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e163-this-discovery-helped-save-my-marriage/#comments Tue, 18 Jul 2023 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/dabee946-071e-3150-9e52-14d2be46eff1 Have you ever heard of your family of origin? That’s the family you grew up with - whatever that looks like for you. While we’re all very familiar with WHO they are, we are often oblivious to HOW they have affected our adult life and marriage. 

 

Even if you think you’re aware, often times there are things that come up which we think are totally unrelated - that greatly affect the way we love and feel love in return. 

 

Once I made this discovery in my own marriage, I was able to take it from just okay to being completely connected and vulnerable again. In this episode, we go through some of the questions to ask yourself that will give you a ton of insight into your marriage and what may be blocking the intimate connection for you. 

 

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]]> Have you ever heard of your family of origin? That’s the family you grew up with - whatever that looks like for you. While we’re all very familiar with WHO they are, we are often oblivious to HOW they have affected our adult life and marriage. 

 

Even if you think you’re aware, often times there are things that come up which we think are totally unrelated - that greatly affect the way we love and feel love in return. 

 

Once I made this discovery in my own marriage, I was able to take it from just okay to being completely connected and vulnerable again. In this episode, we go through some of the questions to ask yourself that will give you a ton of insight into your marriage and what may be blocking the intimate connection for you. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1310 163 full E162// How to be the heroine of your story with Andrew Anderson E162// How to be the heroine of your story with Andrew Anderson https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e161-how-to-be-the-heroine-of-your-story-with-andrew-anderson/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e161-how-to-be-the-heroine-of-your-story-with-andrew-anderson/#comments Tue, 11 Jul 2023 10:29:51 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/67bf804b-32a5-3aab-a288-dc78607692d4 This week international best-selling author Andrew Anderson talks to us about how we can create transformational healing and learn through the hard things in life rather than sitting back and being a victim. 

Andrew is a master practitioner of Mental and Emotional release therapy, transformational coach, and former divorce recovery coach. His words of wisdom will leave you feeling inspired and empowered to make change today!

 

Andrew can be found at:

Website: www.andrewlanderson.com

FB: www.facebook.com/andrewlanderson85

IG: www.instagram.com/andrewlanderson85

email: andrew@andrewlanderson.com

 

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]]> This week international best-selling author Andrew Anderson talks to us about how we can create transformational healing and learn through the hard things in life rather than sitting back and being a victim. 

Andrew is a master practitioner of Mental and Emotional release therapy, transformational coach, and former divorce recovery coach. His words of wisdom will leave you feeling inspired and empowered to make change today!

 

Andrew can be found at:

Website: www.andrewlanderson.com

FB: www.facebook.com/andrewlanderson85

IG: www.instagram.com/andrewlanderson85

email: andrew@andrewlanderson.com

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1976 162 full E161// How to identify a narcissist & coping skills to deal with one for those who can’t go ”no contact” E161// How to identify a narcissist & coping skills to deal with one for those who can’t go ”no contact” https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e161-how-to-identify-a-narcissist-coping-skills-to-deal-with-one-for-those-who-can-t-go-no-contact/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e161-how-to-identify-a-narcissist-coping-skills-to-deal-with-one-for-those-who-can-t-go-no-contact/#comments Fri, 07 Jul 2023 15:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/50c7a0fd-27e2-3fcf-a608-5544de9d4d13 Have you ever wondered if your husband, mother, father brother, etc is a narcissist? This term gets thrown around pretty loosely but narcissism is a clinical personality disorder and it's important to understand it fully. 

 

Once we understand the thought process of the narcissistic person, we can become more skilled at dealing with them. We can handle this person’s behavior with grace, and most importantly, we can understand how to put proper boundaries in place to shield ourselves from narcissistic abuse. 

 

Note - This episode (and the entire podcast) is intended for informational purposes ONLY and is not intended to provide or replace therapy, a diagnosis, or other clinical care. If you or someone you know is dealing with Narcissism you should consult a local licensed professional.

 

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]]> Have you ever wondered if your husband, mother, father brother, etc is a narcissist? This term gets thrown around pretty loosely but narcissism is a clinical personality disorder and it's important to understand it fully. 

 

Once we understand the thought process of the narcissistic person, we can become more skilled at dealing with them. We can handle this person’s behavior with grace, and most importantly, we can understand how to put proper boundaries in place to shield ourselves from narcissistic abuse. 

 

Note - This episode (and the entire podcast) is intended for informational purposes ONLY and is not intended to provide or replace therapy, a diagnosis, or other clinical care. If you or someone you know is dealing with Narcissism you should consult a local licensed professional.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1725 161 full E160// The effect of menopause on your marriage E160// The effect of menopause on your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e160-the-effect-of-menopause-on-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e160-the-effect-of-menopause-on-your-marriage/#comments Tue, 27 Jun 2023 10:30:06 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a13df72f-aa29-311d-804e-53f8701c8ccd Have you or someone you know been dealing with the effects of menopause and have started to see it affect your marriage in negative ways?

This episode with Dr. Sabrina Solt will teach us some practical ways to combat the effects of menopause, communicate them effectively with our husbands and take this normal shift in our hormone levels and use it to create a more effective bond in marriage.

Dr. Solt can be found on Instagram @DrSolt 

 

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]]> Have you or someone you know been dealing with the effects of menopause and have started to see it affect your marriage in negative ways?

This episode with Dr. Sabrina Solt will teach us some practical ways to combat the effects of menopause, communicate them effectively with our husbands and take this normal shift in our hormone levels and use it to create a more effective bond in marriage.

Dr. Solt can be found on Instagram @DrSolt 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 2172 160 full E159// Help! I want my husband to open up to me more E159// Help! I want my husband to open up to me more https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e159-help-i-want-my-husband-to-open-up-to-me-more/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e159-help-i-want-my-husband-to-open-up-to-me-more/#comments Sat, 24 Jun 2023 10:12:30 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/862651c7-4044-3c7f-a998-57858499ca2c Are you tired of feeling like housemates who don’t communicate or share feelings with one another? This episode will help you understand why that may be happening and exactly what change you can make TODAY to start seeing results. I promise you’ll thank me for it.

 

]]> Are you tired of feeling like housemates who don’t communicate or share feelings with one another? This episode will help you understand why that may be happening and exactly what change you can make TODAY to start seeing results. I promise you’ll thank me for it.

 

]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1166 159 full E157// My 3 step framework to reacting with grace E157// My 3 step framework to reacting with grace https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e157-my-3-step-framework-to-reacting-with-grace/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e157-my-3-step-framework-to-reacting-with-grace/#comments Fri, 09 Jun 2023 16:23:11 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/7327bcfc-379b-3eb7-b4b3-f0f71bb12ab5 Unfortunately, many communication breakdowns happen as a result of a reaction vs. a response. There is a big difference between the two. 

A reaction tends to be impulsive, unconscious, emotionally driven, and automatic, while a response is intentional, thoughtful, considered, controlled, and purposeful.

It's important to know that while there are many reasons WHY we react - those reactions don't always have to be negative. 

In this episode, you'll learn my 3 step framework for reacting with grace. 

 

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https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

 

]]> Unfortunately, many communication breakdowns happen as a result of a reaction vs. a response. There is a big difference between the two. 

A reaction tends to be impulsive, unconscious, emotionally driven, and automatic, while a response is intentional, thoughtful, considered, controlled, and purposeful.

It's important to know that while there are many reasons WHY we react - those reactions don't always have to be negative. 

In this episode, you'll learn my 3 step framework for reacting with grace. 

 

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I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

 

]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1191 157 full E 156//What my client did to save her marriage! E 156//What my client did to save her marriage! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/ep156-tired-of-getting-your-husband-to-change-testimony/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/ep156-tired-of-getting-your-husband-to-change-testimony/#comments Tue, 30 May 2023 23:33:48 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c61edc63-f763-3f7b-aeaa-e8580d465dca If you’ve ever felt like you are alone and struggling, today’s episode is proof that becoming a grace-filled wife is possible. We are chatting with a client and student who was feeling lost and defeated and how it made major transformations internally. 

 

The key to unlocking that transformation in yourself and your life is implementation. Today’s guest is a testament to the results that you can achieve as a Christian wife when you work on yourself and implement the practices within The Grace Fueled Wife course!

 

]]> If you’ve ever felt like you are alone and struggling, today’s episode is proof that becoming a grace-filled wife is possible. We are chatting with a client and student who was feeling lost and defeated and how it made major transformations internally. 

 

The key to unlocking that transformation in yourself and your life is implementation. Today’s guest is a testament to the results that you can achieve as a Christian wife when you work on yourself and implement the practices within The Grace Fueled Wife course!

 

]]> Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife Coach false No 1729 156 full E 155// Do you think your husband may be suffering from depression? E 155// Do you think your husband may be suffering from depression? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-i-think-my-husband-has-depression/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-i-think-my-husband-has-depression/#comments Tue, 23 May 2023 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ecb2ec0f-acdc-3775-88fe-5dd5732d6960 How to identify it and three tips to cope.

If you’re a Christian wife that has the feeling her husband might be struggling with depression, this episode is for you! We're breaking down what are the clinical symptoms of depression. When to seek external help to support your husband. Plus, we are diving into how this impacts your marriage and what YOU can do to help!

 

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Do you want to communicate more effectively so you can STOP fighting with your husband and enjoy a more loving and connected marriage? I got you!!

 

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]]> How to identify it and three tips to cope.

If you’re a Christian wife that has the feeling her husband might be struggling with depression, this episode is for you!

We're breaking down what are the clinical symptoms of depression. When to seek external help to support your husband. Plus, we are diving into how this impacts your marriage and what YOU can do to help!

 

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Do you want to communicate more effectively so you can STOP fighting with your husband and enjoy a more loving and connected marriage? I got you!!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1111 155 full E154//Help I Can’t Handle My Husband’s Mood Swings E154//Help I Can’t Handle My Husband’s Mood Swings https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-i-can-t-handle-my-husband-s-mood-swings/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-i-can-t-handle-my-husband-s-mood-swings/#comments Wed, 17 May 2023 14:09:17 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/651a10f7-68e2-37a2-af02-0915158de79e Have you ever felt disrespected, angry, and so furious that you want to explode with anger? Yep, I’ve been there. Oftentimes, we have big reactions to our husband’s mood swings. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down an imperfect moment that I experienced recently as a Christian wife. While I’m not proud of how I reacted, I’m here to give you the tools to utilize so that you don’t walk away from an altercation with your husband feeling like you are in the wrong. 

 

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Looking to heal your marriage, respond with grace, and feel connected to your husband again? I got you!!

]]> Have you ever felt disrespected, angry, and so furious that you want to explode with anger? Yep, I’ve been there. Oftentimes, we have big reactions to our husband’s mood swings.

In today’s episode, I’m breaking down an imperfect moment that I experienced recently as a Christian wife. While I’m not proud of how I reacted, I’m here to give you the tools to utilize so that you don’t walk away from an altercation with your husband feeling like you are in the wrong. 

 

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Looking to heal your marriage, respond with grace, and feel connected to your husband again? I got you!!

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1396 154 full E153//Do You Want Your Husband To Have A Closer Relationship With The Lord E153//Do You Want Your Husband To Have A Closer Relationship With The Lord https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/do-you-want-your-husband-to-have-a-closer-relationship-with-the-lord/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/do-you-want-your-husband-to-have-a-closer-relationship-with-the-lord/#comments Thu, 11 May 2023 22:47:48 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/3c69a4bf-479c-3c06-aafd-cc4917a15955 Is your marriage struggling as a result of your husband’s lack of a relationship with The Lord? Maybe you find yourself saying, “If he only knew..” 

 

So often as a Christian wife, we find ourselves taking on many roles within our marriages and our home. After all, we control the atmosphere of our household, we should be able to control the level of his faith, right? If you find yourself wishing that your husband would have a closer relationship with God and a deeper desire and devotion to his Christian faith, this episode is for you! _____________________________

 

Need help with communicating with him in a way that can avoid a fight and STILL let you express your needs?  I got you!!

]]> Is your marriage struggling as a result of your husband’s lack of a relationship with The Lord? Maybe you find yourself saying, “If he only knew..” 

 

So often as a Christian wife, we find ourselves taking on many roles within our marriages and our home. After all, we control the atmosphere of our household, we should be able to control the level of his faith, right?

If you find yourself wishing that your husband would have a closer relationship with God and a deeper desire and devotion to his Christian faith, this episode is for you!
_____________________________

 

Need help with communicating with him in a way that can avoid a fight and STILL let you express your needs?  I got you!!

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1106 153 full 152 | 4 Mistakes women make when trying to save their marriage 152 | 4 Mistakes women make when trying to save their marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e152-4-mistakes-women-make-when-trying-to-save-their-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e152-4-mistakes-women-make-when-trying-to-save-their-marriage/#comments Tue, 25 Apr 2023 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/5a44c0ed-feb0-345b-a2d3-8a83b77d9d2a If you're anything like me you have probably made one (or more) of these 4 mistakes when trying to save your marriage. The key is now that you're aware of it, what will you do to fix those mistakes in the future? 

 

1 - Trying to do it alone (without any help or guidance) 

2 - Focus only on your husband's mistakes and faults

3 - Live in fear (rather than in your faith)

4- Give up their power!

Need help with that? I got you!!

]]> If you're anything like me you have probably made one (or more) of these 4 mistakes when trying to save your marriage. The key is now that you're aware of it, what will you do to fix those mistakes in the future? 

 

1 - Trying to do it alone (without any help or guidance) 

2 - Focus only on your husband's mistakes and faults

3 - Live in fear (rather than in your faith)

4- Give up their power!

Need help with that? I got you!!

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 968 152 full E151// Are You Over-helping Your Husband? Empower Him To Do More Around The House With These Tips E151// Are You Over-helping Your Husband? Empower Him To Do More Around The House With These Tips https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e151-are-you-over-helping-your-husband-empower-him-to-do-more-around-the-house-with-these-tips/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e151-are-you-over-helping-your-husband-empower-him-to-do-more-around-the-house-with-these-tips/#comments Tue, 18 Apr 2023 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c531c7d0-c005-301e-9764-7c6ebed044f2 Are you TIRED of having to carry the workload of keeping up with the daily chores of your home and trying to simultaneously balance ALL the other things? Yep, I’ve been there! I’m here to help with a few quick tips that are guaranteed to lighten your load and empower your partner to support you When thinking about how to go from doing it all on your own to sharing the load with your partner, it starts with communication. It can be as simple as you telling your husband directly how you feel and what you need from him.  

Inside The Grace Fueled Marriage Method Course, we call this an “I” statement. “I feel ______(insert emotion) when______.” “I feel overwhelmed when I see the dishes in the sick. Can you help me?” Let’s ditch the passive-aggressive tendencies and strive to be direct in our communication. Let him know how this feeling impacts how you are able to show up for him. “I would like to ___ (the thing he wants) without ____ (bad behavior you are doing) so that we can ____.” “I would like to have company over without yelling at you when I’m frustrated so that we can enjoy having time with our friends.”

 

Remember, if he actually helps, respond in gratitude and let go of perfection. It doesn’t have to be your way, it just needs to be done. RESOURCES: EP74: How to get what you want without nagging.

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]]> Are you TIRED of having to carry the workload of keeping up with the daily chores of your home and trying to simultaneously balance ALL the other things? Yep, I’ve been there! I’m here to help with a few quick tips that are guaranteed to lighten your load and empower your partner to support you

When thinking about how to go from doing it all on your own to sharing the load with your partner, it starts with communication. It can be as simple as you telling your husband directly how you feel and what you need from him.  


Inside The Grace Fueled Marriage Method Course, we call this an “I” statement. “I feel ______(insert emotion) when______.”
“I feel overwhelmed when I see the dishes in the sick. Can you help me?”

Let’s ditch the passive-aggressive tendencies and strive to be direct in our communication. Let him know how this feeling impacts how you are able to show up for him.

“I would like to ___ (the thing he wants) without ____ (bad behavior you are doing) so that we can ____.”
“I would like to have company over without yelling at you when I’m frustrated so that we can enjoy having time with our friends.”

 

Remember, if he actually helps, respond in gratitude and let go of perfection. It doesn’t have to be your way, it just needs to be done.

RESOURCES:
EP74: How to get what you want without nagging.

________________

 

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 881 151 full E150// Help! I’m Thinking About Leaving Him But God Hates Divorce. E150// Help! I’m Thinking About Leaving Him But God Hates Divorce. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e150-help-i-m-thinking-about-leaving-him-but-god-hates-divorce/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e150-help-i-m-thinking-about-leaving-him-but-god-hates-divorce/#comments Tue, 11 Apr 2023 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/9b565b60-0885-3314-b938-26c78868600a If you’ve felt stuck in your marriage because you're so unhappy that you've thought about leaving your husband but know that God hates divorce, this episode is for you!

This is one of my most frequently asked questions. As Christian women, we're committed to our marriages but sometimes, the conviction we feel as a Christian wife leads us to feel stuck or trapped. 

In this episode, we review some questions to ask yourself to help bring some clarity.  1- Have you given him a safe place to share?

2- Have you taken the time to heal your OWN trauma? 3- Have you taken time to work on your marital friendship? 4- Have you set strong boundaries and communicated them clearly?

We can not expect to receive what we are not willing to give. In what areas have we fallen short?  If you’re staying together for the kids, the appearances, the ease, it’s time to take inventory, my friend. Ask yourself these questions and sit with God for the answers.

Let Him tell you if you're blameless. It's our job to go where God leads and surrender the outcome to him. Whatever the answer is will truly be the best thing for you!

RESOURCES MENTIONED: Book: Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. John Townsend & Henry Cloud Course: The Grace Fueled Marriage Method 

________________

 

]]> If you’ve felt stuck in your marriage because you're so unhappy that you've thought about leaving your husband but know that God hates divorce, this episode is for you!

This is one of my most frequently asked questions. As Christian women, we're committed to our marriages but sometimes, the conviction we feel as a Christian wife leads us to feel stuck or trapped. 

In this episode, we review some questions to ask yourself to help bring some clarity. 

1- Have you given him a safe place to share?

2- Have you taken the time to heal your OWN trauma?
3- Have you taken time to work on your marital friendship?
4- Have you set strong boundaries and communicated them clearly?


We can not expect to receive what we are not willing to give. In what areas have we fallen short? 

If you’re staying together for the kids, the appearances, the ease, it’s time to take inventory, my friend. Ask yourself these questions and sit with God for the answers.

Let Him tell you if you're blameless. It's our job to go where God leads and surrender the outcome to him. Whatever the answer is will truly be the best thing for you!


RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Book: Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. John Townsend & Henry Cloud
Course: The Grace Fueled Marriage Method 

________________

 

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1700 150 full E149// Are you paranoid to find something inappropriate in your husband’s phone or computer? Try this to cope. E149// Are you paranoid to find something inappropriate in your husband’s phone or computer? Try this to cope. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e149-afraid-to-feel-triggered-in-your-relationship-2-tips-to-handle-your-triggers-with-grace/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e149-afraid-to-feel-triggered-in-your-relationship-2-tips-to-handle-your-triggers-with-grace/#comments Tue, 04 Apr 2023 04:13:19 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a65e022c-de38-3bbd-9655-c7948f13e61c Have you found yourself operating out of a place of fear within your marriage? Maybe you have a fear of finding something inappropriate on your spouse’s phone or computer. This is extremely common in marriages, but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy! 

Last week, we chatted about triggers as part of our boundaries series. It’s possible that the reason you’re feeling fear around this could be that this topic is a sensitive trigger in your marriage. Infidelity, past transgressions, and more could all be contributing to this fear.

If you’re feeling triggered, ask yourself these questions.  Is this a boundary that has been communicated? Was the boundary communicated clearly? What are the consequences if the boundary is not held?

We can communicate the boundary, but it’s HIS choice whether he is going to hold that boundary. We have to ask ourselves… How much are we trying to control? How much control do we need to let go of? We are likely holding onto control because of the fear of something that has happened in the past repeating itself, or because trust has been broken within your relationship. Let’s go a little deeper. There is a possibility that the fear is rooted in your need to protect yourself from harm. This is your brain’s way of keeping you safe. However, if you can focus on perfect love and forgiveness, this will drive out all fear. Fear can not exist where there is perfect love. LINKS MENTIONED: 

Restored 2 More

E46 - How to heal from Infidelity and my husband's porn addiction w. Restored2More Clint & Chastity Munoz

 

https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/?hl=en

Website: https://restored2more.com/

________________

 

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]]> Have you found yourself operating out of a place of fear within your marriage? Maybe you have a fear of finding something inappropriate on your spouse’s phone or computer. This is extremely common in marriages, but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy! 

Last week, we chatted about triggers as part of our boundaries series. It’s possible that the reason you’re feeling fear around this could be that this topic is a sensitive trigger in your marriage. Infidelity, past transgressions, and more could all be contributing to this fear.

If you’re feeling triggered, ask yourself these questions. 
Is this a boundary that has been communicated?
Was the boundary communicated clearly?
What are the consequences if the boundary is not held?

We can communicate the boundary, but it’s HIS choice whether he is going to hold that boundary. We have to ask ourselves…

How much are we trying to control? How much control do we need to let go of? We are likely holding onto control because of the fear of something that has happened in the past repeating itself, or because trust has been broken within your relationship.
Let’s go a little deeper.
There is a possibility that the fear is rooted in your need to protect yourself from harm. This is your brain’s way of keeping you safe. However, if you can focus on perfect love and forgiveness, this will drive out all fear. Fear can not exist where there is perfect love.

LINKS MENTIONED: 

Restored 2 More

E46 - How to heal from Infidelity and my husband's porn addiction w. Restored2More Clint & Chastity Munoz

 

https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/?hl=en

Website: https://restored2more.com/

________________

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 956 148 full E148// Are you afraid to feel triggered in your relationship? 2 Tips to handle your triggers with grace E148// Are you afraid to feel triggered in your relationship? 2 Tips to handle your triggers with grace https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e149-are-you-afraid-to-feel-triggered-in-your-relationship-2-tips-to-handle-your-triggers-with-grace/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e149-are-you-afraid-to-feel-triggered-in-your-relationship-2-tips-to-handle-your-triggers-with-grace/#comments Fri, 31 Mar 2023 06:59:25 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/95659693-2fc5-3cdd-8c14-27398f8f219b Haven't we all been there? Everything is going great in our marriage and one day he says or does something to trigger you, emotions run high and all of a sudden you're back on the crazy cycle of fighting again. 

This week we learn to handle those triggers with grace. We talk about getting curious instead of reacting as well as learn how we can start setting and enforcing boundaries without being manipulative. 

 

]]> Haven't we all been there? Everything is going great in our marriage and one day he says or does something to trigger you, emotions run high and all of a sudden you're back on the crazy cycle of fighting again. 

This week we learn to handle those triggers with grace. We talk about getting curious instead of reacting as well as learn how we can start setting and enforcing boundaries without being manipulative. 

 

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1103 149 full E147// 3 ways to safeguard your marriage E147// 3 ways to safeguard your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e147-3-ways-to-safeguard-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e147-3-ways-to-safeguard-your-marriage/#comments Tue, 21 Mar 2023 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/3b0a7a8d-0e8f-3f7f-b92f-117ca755eca6 Are you looking to safeguard your marriage against contempt, disconnection, or even infidelity? Here are three steps proven to help!

1- Keep it Private:

Be sure to share with only a select circle of friends but don't be so private that you perpetuate the lie that everyone should live happily ever after. 

2- Watch your text messages and phone calls

Do the two of you REALLY need to be texting/ calling people of the opposite sex? I break it down for you here!

3- Prioritize your friendship:

How do you expect to grow old with him if you don't even like him? Work on improving your emotional intimacy!!!

 

 

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]]> Are you looking to safeguard your marriage against contempt, disconnection, or even infidelity? Here are three steps proven to help!

1- Keep it Private:

Be sure to share with only a select circle of friends but don't be so private that you perpetuate the lie that everyone should live happily ever after. 

2- Watch your text messages and phone calls

Do the two of you REALLY need to be texting/ calling people of the opposite sex? I break it down for you here!

3- Prioritize your friendship:

How do you expect to grow old with him if you don't even like him? Work on improving your emotional intimacy!!!

 

 

Wait!!! Before you go! 

Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!

 

Work with me:

Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free. 

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1193 147 full EP146// Not connecting in marriage? This is what you may be missing. EP146// Not connecting in marriage? This is what you may be missing. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/ep146-what-do-some-marriage-counselors-get-wrong/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/ep146-what-do-some-marriage-counselors-get-wrong/#comments Tue, 14 Mar 2023 14:32:27 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/d4df641a-2ab4-3edd-ac2c-bc3b27a42d46 Sometimes marriage counselors get it wrong. I know that's a bold statement, and you might be wondering what I mean by that. But have you ever felt like your counseling "didn't work?" 

I have. 

In this week's episode, we're breaking down what marriage counselors can get wrong and what you may be missing in your marriage.  

What your marriage truly needs is an emotional connection if you want your marriage to thrive. This means intimacy and the ability to be vulnerable without fear.

Tune in for my tips on having the most effective sessions for you and your spouse. 

 

 

Wait!!! Before you go! 

Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!

 

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]]> Sometimes marriage counselors get it wrong. I know that's a bold statement, and you might be wondering what I mean by that. But have you ever felt like your counseling "didn't work?" 

I have. 

In this week's episode, we're breaking down what marriage counselors can get wrong and what you may be missing in your marriage.  

What your marriage truly needs is an emotional connection if you want your marriage to thrive. This means intimacy and the ability to be vulnerable without fear.

Tune in for my tips on having the most effective sessions for you and your spouse. 

 

 

Wait!!! Before you go! 

Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!

 

Work with me:

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]]> In this week’s episode, we’re breaking down what marriage counselors can get wrong. Plus, what exactly they should be focusing on during your sessions with each other. Beatriz Vargas false No 808 146 full EP145// How to Get Your Husband to Go to Marriage Counseling with Dana Che EP145// How to Get Your Husband to Go to Marriage Counseling with Dana Che https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/ep145-how-to-get-your-husband-to-go-to-marriage-counseling-with-dana-che/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/ep145-how-to-get-your-husband-to-go-to-marriage-counseling-with-dana-che/#comments Tue, 07 Mar 2023 00:05:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/6b4fbc86-bfa1-3e40-99f9-8ed0729ece89 In today's episode with Dana Che, we hear about her own marriage testimony, about the marital problems she and her husband faced, and how they overcame them through the help of the Holy Spirit.

We touch on the differences between marriage counseling and therapy versus marriage coaching. Ultimately each are important in different times and seasons. However, the main difference is counseling is talking about the problem, and coaching is finding solutions and results for the goals you have as a couple.

We dive into the question of how to get your husband to go to marriage counseling. The main question is why do you want your husband to go, what are the issues your marriage is facing, and can they be addressed through other means? Once we know our goal, we can work our way backwards to get there.

Men are often reluctant to go to counseling, but they may be open to reading a book together, listening to a podcast, or going to dinner with another couple who may provide insight into your situation.

If your marriage absolutely needs outside help, allow your husband to be a part of the process in choosing a counselor. Put the ball in his court. If he isn’t interested, offer some suggestions and let him choose. If he is adamant against it, this is where prayer comes in. 

Pray for God to change your spouse's heart, continue to love your husband right where he is, and allow the Holy Spirit to soften that hard heart.

Ultimately it's up to God's timeline. We can't control our husbands, and will waste so much time trying to. Rather, we should suggest turning the focus on yourself, on ways you can improve and relinquishing that control over to God. In both of our testimonies as well as countless others, the change didn't come until we let go, and let God.

 

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]]> In today's episode with Dana Che, we hear about her own marriage testimony, about the marital problems she and her husband faced, and how they overcame them through the help of the Holy Spirit.

We touch on the differences between marriage counseling and therapy versus marriage coaching. Ultimately each are important in different times and seasons. However, the main difference is counseling is talking about the problem, and coaching is finding solutions and results for the goals you have as a couple.

We dive into the question of how to get your husband to go to marriage counseling. The main question is why do you want your husband to go, what are the issues your marriage is facing, and can they be addressed through other means? Once we know our goal, we can work our way backwards to get there.

Men are often reluctant to go to counseling, but they may be open to reading a book together, listening to a podcast, or going to dinner with another couple who may provide insight into your situation.

If your marriage absolutely needs outside help, allow your husband to be a part of the process in choosing a counselor. Put the ball in his court. If he isn’t interested, offer some suggestions and let him choose. If he is adamant against it, this is where prayer comes in. 

Pray for God to change your spouse's heart, continue to love your husband right where he is, and allow the Holy Spirit to soften that hard heart.

Ultimately it's up to God's timeline. We can't control our husbands, and will waste so much time trying to. Rather, we should suggest turning the focus on yourself, on ways you can improve and relinquishing that control over to God. In both of our testimonies as well as countless others, the change didn't come until we let go, and let God.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2665 145 full EP 144// How to Divorce Proof Your Marriage EP 144// How to Divorce Proof Your Marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-divorce-proof-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-divorce-proof-your-marriage/#comments Mon, 27 Feb 2023 12:21:16 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/0836cbcd-3702-3c31-84dc-d5a0d48cd54f We are wrapping up our series on intimacy this week. Today, we're talking about the number one way to divorce-proof your marriage. You can have all of the communication tools in the world, but if you fail to do this one thing, your marriage could be at risk. 

The number one way to divorce-proof your marriage is by making deposits as a couple into the love tank of your marriage. The idea is to consistently make deposits into the tank. Then, in difficult times, you can pull from the reserves, and there will be enough leftover to sustain you. 

When a couple only makes withdrawals, eventually the tank runs dry, and small disagreements can become full-blown arguments.  

My goal is to help you prevent that from happening. We are all human, and we will inevitably fail our spouse in some way. However, when there is love left in the tank, it is far more likely we will give each other grace and move forward.

 

 

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]]> We are wrapping up our series on intimacy this week. Today, we're talking about the number one way to divorce-proof your marriage. You can have all of the communication tools in the world, but if you fail to do this one thing, your marriage could be at risk. 

The number one way to divorce-proof your marriage is by making deposits as a couple into the love tank of your marriage. The idea is to consistently make deposits into the tank. Then, in difficult times, you can pull from the reserves, and there will be enough leftover to sustain you. 

When a couple only makes withdrawals, eventually the tank runs dry, and small disagreements can become full-blown arguments.  

My goal is to help you prevent that from happening. We are all human, and we will inevitably fail our spouse in some way. However, when there is love left in the tank, it is far more likely we will give each other grace and move forward.

 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 771 144 full E143// Three Ways to Improve Intimacy in Marriage E143// Three Ways to Improve Intimacy in Marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/three-ways-to-improve-intimacy-in-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/three-ways-to-improve-intimacy-in-marriage/#comments Tue, 21 Feb 2023 00:41:36 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/80c86b52-444c-368b-a677-23f71f4aefa8  

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 881 143 full E142// 4 tips to building a strong foundation for your marriage E142// 4 tips to building a strong foundation for your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e142-4-tips-to-building-a-strong-foundation-for-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e142-4-tips-to-building-a-strong-foundation-for-your-marriage/#comments Fri, 17 Feb 2023 02:17:35 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/2992fa36-8225-3933-811a-b5d9778ddc4d The key to building a strong foundation for your marriage is not just communication or problem-solving skills. It’s about something so much simpler. 

 

Having a rock-solid foundation for your marriage starts with building an amazing friendship! So often we have these great relationships with our besties but we fail to have that same relationship translate to our marriages. 

 

In this episode, you’ll learn these 4 ways to build that friendship! But don’t just read them here listen in to learn how to apply them to your life today!

 

1- Reserve time for fun

2- Approach him with curiosity

3- Regular “business” check-ins

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]]> The key to building a strong foundation for your marriage is not just communication or problem-solving skills. It’s about something so much simpler. 

 

Having a rock-solid foundation for your marriage starts with building an amazing friendship! So often we have these great relationships with our besties but we fail to have that same relationship translate to our marriages. 

 

In this episode, you’ll learn these 4 ways to build that friendship! But don’t just read them here listen in to learn how to apply them to your life today!

 

1- Reserve time for fun

2- Approach him with curiosity

3- Regular “business” check-ins

4- Do things alongside him

 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1655 142 full E141// How to have a more successful date night E141// How to have a more successful date night https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e141-the-problem-with-date-night/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e141-the-problem-with-date-night/#comments Wed, 01 Feb 2023 16:42:34 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a4e9ed67-ddbc-3998-ae5f-002bd9d18033 Have you ever gotten really excited for date night only to have it ruined by an argument or a fight? Take it from me, the girl who fought on her honeymoon and countless dates after… It’s NO FUN! 

In this episode, we discuss how you can protect your marriage and your treasured date nights from an untimely argument. 

And don’t forget! If you want to win a $50 Amazon gift card, or a FREE 1:1 session, write a review, screenshot it send it to me, and share it on your IG stories. I will be picking two winners next week. 

 

 

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]]> Have you ever gotten really excited for date night only to have it ruined by an argument or a fight? Take it from me, the girl who fought on her honeymoon and countless dates after… It’s NO FUN! 

In this episode, we discuss how you can protect your marriage and your treasured date nights from an untimely argument. 

And don’t forget! If you want to win a $50 Amazon gift card, or a FREE 1:1 session, write a review, screenshot it send it to me, and share it on your IG stories. I will be picking two winners next week. 

 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 897 141 full E140// Is anxiety or burnout hurting your marriage? E140// Is anxiety or burnout hurting your marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e140-is-anxiety-or-burnout-hurting-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e140-is-anxiety-or-burnout-hurting-your-marriage/#comments Tue, 24 Jan 2023 16:42:45 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/69efc123-644c-3882-9204-be8b97743d87 Hey Mama! 

 

Recently, I've been dealing with prolonged stress which led to feelings of anxiety and burnout. I’ve since thought a lot about its effects on marriage and had to share! 

 

 While anxiety is characterized by feelings of constant fear and worry, making it difficult to connect with our partners, burnout is different.

 

 Burnout can manifest as physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion, leaving us feeling drained and unable to engage in the emotional and physical aspects of our relationships. Burnout is a result of prolonged stress and anxiety!

 

It's important to remember - this is more normal than you think! Many of us are going through the same thing. That’s why it's so crucial for couples to be open and honest with each other about their struggles and to work together to find ways to support one another during this challenging time AND to protect their marriages from these external pressures.

 

Some tips to help alleviate the effects of anxiety and burnout on your marriage include:

  • Prioritizing self-care and making time for self-reflection
  • Communicating openly and honestly with your husband about your feelings
  • Making a conscious effort to connect with your partner, whether it be through a shared activity or simply spending quality time together
  • Finding ways to de-stress and relax together, such as taking a walk or praying.

 

Remember, it's okay to not be okay and it's okay to ask for help. If you or your partner are struggling with anxiety or burnout, consider reaching out to a therapist who can help! 

 

With love and grace,

 

Beatriz Vargas

 

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]]> Hey Mama! 

 

Recently, I've been dealing with prolonged stress which led to feelings of anxiety and burnout. I’ve since thought a lot about its effects on marriage and had to share! 

 

 While anxiety is characterized by feelings of constant fear and worry, making it difficult to connect with our partners, burnout is different.

 

 Burnout can manifest as physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion, leaving us feeling drained and unable to engage in the emotional and physical aspects of our relationships. Burnout is a result of prolonged stress and anxiety!

 

It's important to remember - this is more normal than you think! Many of us are going through the same thing. That’s why it's so crucial for couples to be open and honest with each other about their struggles and to work together to find ways to support one another during this challenging time AND to protect their marriages from these external pressures.

 

Some tips to help alleviate the effects of anxiety and burnout on your marriage include:

  • Prioritizing self-care and making time for self-reflection
  • Communicating openly and honestly with your husband about your feelings
  • Making a conscious effort to connect with your partner, whether it be through a shared activity or simply spending quality time together
  • Finding ways to de-stress and relax together, such as taking a walk or praying.

 

Remember, it's okay to not be okay and it's okay to ask for help. If you or your partner are struggling with anxiety or burnout, consider reaching out to a therapist who can help! 

 

With love and grace,

 

Beatriz Vargas

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 847 140 full E139// Help! I think I married the wrong man. Listener questions answered! E139// Help! I think I married the wrong man. Listener questions answered! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e139-help-i-think-i-married-the-wrong-man/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e139-help-i-think-i-married-the-wrong-man/#comments Thu, 19 Jan 2023 16:02:24 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/055e59e9-591a-3cc5-b273-15b6da0bdbc5 Ever worried that you married the wrong man? Maybe your husband isn’t spiritual enough, affectionate enough, or proactive enough. Perhaps, he’s content to sit back and let you handle most of the things around the house. Maybe you’ve thought there is no way God meant for you to be married to this man. 

 

These were some of the same thoughts my client secretly held, and to be honest, these are some thoughts I held at one time as well.

 

In this episode, we discuss what scripture says about this and how we can reframe our thoughts to bring more connection, healing, hope and intimacy in your marriage. 

 

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]]> Ever worried that you married the wrong man? Maybe your husband isn’t spiritual enough, affectionate enough, or proactive enough. Perhaps, he’s content to sit back and let you handle most of the things around the house. Maybe you’ve thought there is no way God meant for you to be married to this man. 

 

These were some of the same thoughts my client secretly held, and to be honest, these are some thoughts I held at one time as well.

 

In this episode, we discuss what scripture says about this and how we can reframe our thoughts to bring more connection, healing, hope and intimacy in your marriage. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1276 139 full E138// How to call a time out if an argument gets crazy E138// How to call a time out if an argument gets crazy https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e138-how-to-call-a-time-out-if-an-argument-gets-crazy/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e138-how-to-call-a-time-out-if-an-argument-gets-crazy/#comments Thu, 12 Jan 2023 14:25:53 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/8b110c9c-b8c6-3c88-9a11-8d2afb49659a Hey Mama! 

 

Do you want to learn how to fight fair and have healthy arguments in your marriage? Learning the why, where, when, and how to call an effective “time out” could save your marriage arguments from escalating up the crazy ladder and stop a fight in its tracks!  

 

Bonus - I’m teaching you to do this in a way that keeps the discussion feeling safe and secure in love. You’ll learn my 7 do’s and don’t for calling a time-out to fight fair.

 

This week’s episode is part of my series on (2)5 rules for fighting fair in marriage but this one was so juicy it had to get it’s own show! 

 

With love and grace,

 

Beatriz

 

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]]> Hey Mama! 

 

Do you want to learn how to fight fair and have healthy arguments in your marriage? Learning the why, where, when, and how to call an effective “time out” could save your marriage arguments from escalating up the crazy ladder and stop a fight in its tracks!  

 

Bonus - I’m teaching you to do this in a way that keeps the discussion feeling safe and secure in love. You’ll learn my 7 do’s and don’t for calling a time-out to fight fair.

 

This week’s episode is part of my series on (2)5 rules for fighting fair in marriage but this one was so juicy it had to get it’s own show! 

 

With love and grace,

 

Beatriz

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1258 138 full E137// What is God telling you for your life and marriage in the new year? E137// What is God telling you for your life and marriage in the new year? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e137-what-is-god-telling-you-for-your-life-and-marriage-in-the-new-year/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e137-what-is-god-telling-you-for-your-life-and-marriage-in-the-new-year/#comments Wed, 04 Jan 2023 16:06:13 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/f362db47-0303-3c5c-82ff-bbfd3c042a9d Are you into writing down a word or phrase for the year? Over the past few years, God has been faithful to give me a word to live by. In 2023, he has given me a phrase that was so profound, I had to share it! Listen in to what God has to say about your life and marriage and perhaps sit with him to hear your own!

 

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]]> Are you into writing down a word or phrase for the year? Over the past few years, God has been faithful to give me a word to live by. In 2023, he has given me a phrase that was so profound, I had to share it! Listen in to what God has to say about your life and marriage and perhaps sit with him to hear your own!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 877 137 full E136// Creating a safe marriage: 5 Rules for Fair Fighting Pt. 2 E136// Creating a safe marriage: 5 Rules for Fair Fighting Pt. 2 https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e136-creating-a-safe-marriage-5-rules-for-fair-fighting-pt-2/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e136-creating-a-safe-marriage-5-rules-for-fair-fighting-pt-2/#comments Mon, 19 Dec 2022 12:59:09 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1002a785-f557-391b-8f8b-0f417b90fe5f Do you ever fight in your marriage? Sure you do! Every relationship, even healthy ones experience disagreements. The difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy one is how you fight. 

This episode will give you 5 tips to fight fair in your marriage. There are plenty more than 5 but we will take this slow and I'll be giving you ALL the tips over the next few weeks. 

A marriage is a place where you need to feel safe for there to be true intimacy, without safety, there is no intimacy. These 5 tips will help you to feel safer and more intimate in your marriage. 

This week, you’ll learn the following:

1 - How to use “I feel” statements

2 - The difference between a response and a reaction and how to use them

3 - The Big NO for generalizations

4 - The big No for name calling

5 - The # 1 basic fighting rule. This is NEVER allowed.

 

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]]> Do you ever fight in your marriage? Sure you do! Every relationship, even healthy ones experience disagreements. The difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy one is how you fight. 

This episode will give you 5 tips to fight fair in your marriage. There are plenty more than 5 but we will take this slow and I'll be giving you ALL the tips over the next few weeks. 

A marriage is a place where you need to feel safe for there to be true intimacy, without safety, there is no intimacy. These 5 tips will help you to feel safer and more intimate in your marriage. 

This week, you’ll learn the following:

1 - How to use “I feel” statements

2 - The difference between a response and a reaction and how to use them

3 - The Big NO for generalizations

4 - The big No for name calling

5 - The # 1 basic fighting rule. This is NEVER allowed.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 971 136 full E135// 5 Rules for fighting fair Pt. 1 E135// 5 Rules for fighting fair Pt. 1 https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e135-5-rules-for-fighting-fair-pt-1/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e135-5-rules-for-fighting-fair-pt-1/#comments Fri, 09 Dec 2022 17:31:22 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e079e8a6-36cf-33c7-b6b9-3edaaf668bf4 Do you ever fight in your marriage? Sure you do! Every relationship, even healthy ones experience disagreements. The difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy one is how you fight. 

This episode will give you 5 tips to fight fair in your marriage. There are plenty more than 5 but we will take this slow and I'll be giving you ALL the tips over the next few weeks. 

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]]> Do you ever fight in your marriage? Sure you do! Every relationship, even healthy ones experience disagreements. The difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy one is how you fight. 

This episode will give you 5 tips to fight fair in your marriage. There are plenty more than 5 but we will take this slow and I'll be giving you ALL the tips over the next few weeks. 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1105 135 full E134// Do you need a way to manage all the holiday stress with your husband? E134// Do you need a way to manage all the holiday stress with your husband? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e134-do-you-need-a-way-to-manage-all-the-holiday-stress-with-your-husband/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e134-do-you-need-a-way-to-manage-all-the-holiday-stress-with-your-husband/#comments Fri, 02 Dec 2022 10:47:47 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/6bf80c24-b69a-3d3c-9a3b-186716810cf7  

Christmas is an exciting time of year but can also be very stressful! How many times have you and your husband argued or butted heads over all the things that need to be done? 

 

These tips have helped my husband and I tremendously in this area and I’m gifting them to you! 

 

No more Christmas Burnout!!! Yay!!!

 

My Free GIFT to you!!! Learn from my friend Chelsi JO!

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Christmas is an exciting time of year but can also be very stressful! How many times have you and your husband argued or butted heads over all the things that need to be done? 

 

These tips have helped my husband and I tremendously in this area and I’m gifting them to you! 

 

No more Christmas Burnout!!! Yay!!!

 

My Free GIFT to you!!! Learn from my friend Chelsi JO!

How you can succeed in your home & business without feeling pulled in all directions

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 564 134 full E133// Mental health and your marriage: How do you really feel? E133// Mental health and your marriage: How do you really feel? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e133-mental-health-and-your-marriage-how-do-you-really-feel/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e133-mental-health-and-your-marriage-how-do-you-really-feel/#comments Tue, 22 Nov 2022 00:30:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/7280d492-5f6a-31b9-9e5c-5021c9fe7eb0 Are you tired of giving or hearing over simplified over, spiritual answers when someone asks how you’re doing? Are you tired of answering the question “How are you doing?” with the obligatory - “Fine”  When the answer is anything but? 

 

Perhaps you’re dreading the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday because you know the talk around the dinner table will sound much like this. In this episode we explore some of the reasons why this might be hurting your relationships and mental health. 

 

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]]> Are you tired of giving or hearing over simplified over, spiritual answers when someone asks how you’re doing? Are you tired of answering the question “How are you doing?” with the obligatory - “Fine”  When the answer is anything but? 

 

Perhaps you’re dreading the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday because you know the talk around the dinner table will sound much like this. In this episode we explore some of the reasons why this might be hurting your relationships and mental health. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 712 133 full E131// Bonus: Listener questions answered! How to work on your marriage if your husband refuses therapy and more! E131// Bonus: Listener questions answered! How to work on your marriage if your husband refuses therapy and more! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e131-bonus-listener-questions-answered-how-to-work-on-your-marriage-if-your-husband-refuses-therapy-and-more/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e131-bonus-listener-questions-answered-how-to-work-on-your-marriage-if-your-husband-refuses-therapy-and-more/#comments Thu, 10 Nov 2022 00:30:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/da85836d-c33b-31ed-a188-91389b5b67f6 You ask, I answer! A listener submitted several juicy questions in our Facebook. I have all the answers here. 

 

  • How to work on your marriage if your husband refuses therapy and is difficult to communicate with? 
  • At what point do I throw in the towel?
  • Do your childhood relationships affect you or your spouse? How do  \you address it? 

 

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]]> You ask, I answer! A listener submitted several juicy questions in our Facebook. I have all the answers here. 

 

  • How to work on your marriage if your husband refuses therapy and is difficult to communicate with? 
  • At what point do I throw in the towel?
  • Do your childhood relationships affect you or your spouse? How do  \you address it? 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 881 131 full E130// The 1 thing every apology needs E130// The 1 thing every apology needs https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e130-the-1-thing-every-apology-needs/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e130-the-1-thing-every-apology-needs/#comments Mon, 07 Nov 2022 15:21:12 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/3d4013a0-8298-3c9a-98c7-ff0dc3bb2bb5 Are you tired of feeling like the apology isn’t good enough? Are you wondering what might be missing or why the apology doesn’t feel genuine? 

 

This episode will tell you the 1 thing that EVERY apology needs regardless of the apology language used. 

 

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]]> Are you tired of feeling like the apology isn’t good enough? Are you wondering what might be missing or why the apology doesn’t feel genuine? 

 

This episode will tell you the 1 thing that EVERY apology needs regardless of the apology language used. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 517 130 full E129// How to be the wife he wants to come home to E129// How to be the wife he wants to come home to https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e129-how-to-be-the-wife-he-wants-to-come-home-to/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e129-how-to-be-the-wife-he-wants-to-come-home-to/#comments Wed, 02 Nov 2022 08:04:51 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/6f210b04-3612-3dff-b997-35ab0ff56999 Have you ever sat outside your house trying to rest or regroup before you open the door to the chaos? Of course, you have! We all have. As much as we love our life and family there may be an occasional time when we’re feeling overwhelmed and maybe even dreading coming home. 

If there are issues going on in your marriage, this can be a common occurrence, if not for you, maybe for your husband. 

 

While I can’t do anything to change your current life circumstance, there are things that you can do to make your home a place both you and your husband are excited to come home to!!

 

This episode will help increase your self-awareness and give you some journal prompts to get started.

 

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How to successfully manage your home and business without being pulled in all directions. 

 

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]]> Have you ever sat outside your house trying to rest or regroup before you open the door to the chaos? Of course, you have! We all have. As much as we love our life and family there may be an occasional time when we’re feeling overwhelmed and maybe even dreading coming home. 

If there are issues going on in your marriage, this can be a common occurrence, if not for you, maybe for your husband. 

 

While I can’t do anything to change your current life circumstance, there are things that you can do to make your home a place both you and your husband are excited to come home to!!

 

This episode will help increase your self-awareness and give you some journal prompts to get started.

 

Lastly… You can access the free training by my friend Chelsi Jo Moore I talk about in the episode here:

How to successfully manage your home and business without being pulled in all directions. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1653 129 full E128// 3 ways to rebuild trust in marriage E128// 3 ways to rebuild trust in marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e128-3-ways-to-rebuild-trust-in-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e128-3-ways-to-rebuild-trust-in-marriage/#comments Tue, 25 Oct 2022 00:30:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/f9cc2ae6-4eb8-347b-a6fc-2f92982c91f4 Everyone has felt the sting of broken trust at one time or another. If you haven’t you’re one of the lucky ones! For everyone else, here are 3 practical things you can do to rebuild trust in your marriage relationship and start working towards reconciliation today! 

 

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]]> Everyone has felt the sting of broken trust at one time or another. If you haven’t you’re one of the lucky ones! For everyone else, here are 3 practical things you can do to rebuild trust in your marriage relationship and start working towards reconciliation today! 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 619 128 full E127// 3 ways I partner with God in my marriage E127// 3 ways I partner with God in my marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e127-3-ways-i-partner-with-god-in-my-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e127-3-ways-i-partner-with-god-in-my-marriage/#comments Wed, 19 Oct 2022 12:49:05 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/b2af3790-036c-37ad-bb18-51ee0bf4c8e8 It’s important to partner with God in everything we do. Our marriage is no exception. This episode will give you the exact 3 things I do on a daily basis to partner with God for a more connected, loving, and healthy marriage.

 

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]]> It’s important to partner with God in everything we do. Our marriage is no exception. This episode will give you the exact 3 things I do on a daily basis to partner with God for a more connected, loving, and healthy marriage.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1476 127 full E126// How do I get my husband to notice/love me? E126// How do I get my husband to notice/love me? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e126-how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-noticelove-me/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e126-how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-noticelove-me/#comments Fri, 14 Oct 2022 10:02:37 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/113a47d0-fe45-3750-8a51-f5a6c2ffb080 Have you ever felt like your husband doesn’t notice you? Have you ever wondered what you did wrong or what he’s got on his mind that seems so far away from you? 

 

Don’t worry, you’re not alone! I STILL feel this way sometimes. Over the years, however, I’ve gotten really good at calling attention to this situation and bringing my marriage back to a place of intimacy. Here are the three steps I take to do it!

 

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]]> Have you ever felt like your husband doesn’t notice you? Have you ever wondered what you did wrong or what he’s got on his mind that seems so far away from you? 

 

Don’t worry, you’re not alone! I STILL feel this way sometimes. Over the years, however, I’ve gotten really good at calling attention to this situation and bringing my marriage back to a place of intimacy. Here are the three steps I take to do it!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1600 126 full E125// Bonus - 3 Must read Books on Marriage: Quarterly Book Review E125// Bonus - 3 Must read Books on Marriage: Quarterly Book Review https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e125-bonus-3-must-read-books-on-marriage-quarterly-book-review/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e125-bonus-3-must-read-books-on-marriage-quarterly-book-review/#comments Fri, 07 Oct 2022 09:01:24 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/0ba43b11-fbb6-3cd8-9114-f5834e8f7379 Are you looking to restore, strengthen or improve your marriage or the connection you have with your husband? Aren’t we all? Well then here are three must-read books on marriage that will help you on that journey. 

 

Also - if you missed our last quarterly book review and want to hear more recommendations. Check out EP.108 linked below!

 

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]]> Are you looking to restore, strengthen or improve your marriage or the connection you have with your husband? Aren’t we all? Well then here are three must-read books on marriage that will help you on that journey. 

 

Also - if you missed our last quarterly book review and want to hear more recommendations. Check out EP.108 linked below!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 519 125 full E124// How to improve communication in your marriage by 55%! E124// How to improve communication in your marriage by 55%! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e124-how-to-improve-communication-in-your-marriage-by-55/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e124-how-to-improve-communication-in-your-marriage-by-55/#comments Wed, 05 Oct 2022 00:01:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1eb1a499-a95d-3d9c-abae-bf914a8045ec Are you having trouble communicating? Perhaps you struggle with getting your point across, or you feel like you are not often heard. 

Did you know that 55% of your communication happens WITHOUT words OR tone of voice? That means that if you’re getting this wrong more than half your message is being lost. 

What am I referring to? Glad you asked! It’s BODY LANGUAGE!! Wait, whaaaat?  Seriously, your body language could make the difference between trust and distrust, between being heard or being tuned out. 

Check this week’s episode for the exact breakdown of what you or your spouse might be able to do to improve communication in your marriage. 

 

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]]> Are you having trouble communicating? Perhaps you struggle with getting your point across, or you feel like you are not often heard. 

Did you know that 55% of your communication happens WITHOUT words OR tone of voice? That means that if you’re getting this wrong more than half your message is being lost. 

What am I referring to? Glad you asked! It’s BODY LANGUAGE!! Wait, whaaaat?  Seriously, your body language could make the difference between trust and distrust, between being heard or being tuned out. 

Check this week’s episode for the exact breakdown of what you or your spouse might be able to do to improve communication in your marriage. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1188 124 full E123// Feeling like resentful roommates in marriage? How can self-care help? E123// Feeling like resentful roommates in marriage? How can self-care help? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e123-feeling-like-resentful-roommates-in-marriage-how-can-self-care-help/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e123-feeling-like-resentful-roommates-in-marriage-how-can-self-care-help/#comments Mon, 12 Sep 2022 12:00:58 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c838bad5-76d9-3f25-b79c-6c89f0839a15 Do you feel like a roommate, a “loveless Leah” in your marriage or like a resentful Rachel? Perhaps you feel like “he’s a great guy but….” If so, I want you to take some time to try this tip that will transform your life and your marriage. I promise you’ll be thanking me later!

 

You’ll learn:

- What is resentment anyway and what is causing it for you? 

- How can you work to feel more empowered and less angry at your husband on a weekly basis?

- What can you do to feel more attractive to yourself, your husband, and to start feeling full and fueled once and for all?

 

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]]> Do you feel like a roommate, a “loveless Leah” in your marriage or like a resentful Rachel? Perhaps you feel like “he’s a great guy but….” If so, I want you to take some time to try this tip that will transform your life and your marriage. I promise you’ll be thanking me later!

 

You’ll learn:

- What is resentment anyway and what is causing it for you? 

- How can you work to feel more empowered and less angry at your husband on a weekly basis?

- What can you do to feel more attractive to yourself, your husband, and to start feeling full and fueled once and for all?

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1742 123 full E122// How stand up for yourself (with grace) when your husband is acting out E122// How stand up for yourself (with grace) when your husband is acting out https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e122-how-stand-up-for-yourself-with-grace-when-your-husband-is-acting-out/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e122-how-stand-up-for-yourself-with-grace-when-your-husband-is-acting-out/#comments Wed, 31 Aug 2022 10:32:58 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/007c67ff-64df-3194-b7a5-456c5456e18b If you’ve been starting to feel resentful because you feel like you’re doing all the right things but your husband has been getting away with moody behavior and harsh words, then this episode is for you!

 

Today, we learn 4 steps to stand up for ourselves (with grace of course, when your husband acts out)

 

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]]> If you’ve been starting to feel resentful because you feel like you’re doing all the right things but your husband has been getting away with moody behavior and harsh words, then this episode is for you!

 

Today, we learn 4 steps to stand up for ourselves (with grace of course, when your husband acts out)

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1152 122 full E121// Help! I’ve tried being humble in my marriage and it’s not working E121// Help! I’ve tried being humble in my marriage and it’s not working https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e121-help-i-ve-tried-being-humble-in-my-marriage-and-it-s-not-working/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e121-help-i-ve-tried-being-humble-in-my-marriage-and-it-s-not-working/#comments Fri, 26 Aug 2022 11:58:13 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/71d2e267-72a2-3c17-803c-f51abaaed3be There is a boundary line between humility and abuse, there are also some very practical ways we should view humility as Christians. 

If you feel like you've tried everything in your marriage, especially being humble in your approach but you still haven't seen a change, then this episode is for you. 

 

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]]> There is a boundary line between humility and abuse, there are also some very practical ways we should view humility as Christians. 

If you feel like you've tried everything in your marriage, especially being humble in your approach but you still haven't seen a change, then this episode is for you. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1443 121 full E120// 6 Lessons I learned from my 6 week sabatical E120// 6 Lessons I learned from my 6 week sabatical https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e120-6-lessons-i-learned-from-my-6-week-sabatical/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e120-6-lessons-i-learned-from-my-6-week-sabatical/#comments Thu, 18 Aug 2022 13:16:22 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/6998ee15-ac0c-3f0f-9332-9a433d68a3dd I am back! It's been way too long since my last episode but this week I explain all the happenings and give you the six lessons I learned during my time away and equip you with some tools so you don't have to make some of the same mistakes! 

 

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]]> I am back! It's been way too long since my last episode but this week I explain all the happenings and give you the six lessons I learned during my time away and equip you with some tools so you don't have to make some of the same mistakes! 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2438 120 full E119// Struggling to forgive someone? 5 Step forgiveness process E119// Struggling to forgive someone? 5 Step forgiveness process https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e119-struggling-to-forgive-someone-5-step-forgiveness-process/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e119-struggling-to-forgive-someone-5-step-forgiveness-process/#comments Wed, 06 Jul 2022 14:40:52 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/3f34ed23-038c-3668-93e8-e5904925a3d7 Someone has done something to offend you. More than offense you’re probably angry, hurt, and starting to feel resentful. 

Perhaps you know you SHOULD forgive that person but are struggling with the how. Perhaps you feel resentful of the idea that you “should” forgive this person but don’t think they deserve it or you are struggling to trust them again. 

In this episode, we discuss a 5 step process toward forgiveness. 

 

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]]> Someone has done something to offend you. More than offense you’re probably angry, hurt, and starting to feel resentful. 

Perhaps you know you SHOULD forgive that person but are struggling with the how. Perhaps you feel resentful of the idea that you “should” forgive this person but don’t think they deserve it or you are struggling to trust them again. 

In this episode, we discuss a 5 step process toward forgiveness. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2001 119 full E118// Is your husband not communicating? 3 reasons why E118// Is your husband not communicating? 3 reasons why https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e118-is-your-husband-not-communicating-3-reasons-why/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e118-is-your-husband-not-communicating-3-reasons-why/#comments Mon, 27 Jun 2022 13:06:21 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/301d306e-575b-30e9-8f22-9ccdd7611ff7 It can be really difficult to connect in your marriage if one or both of you aren’t communicating well. Here are three reasons why your husband might not be communicating and some tips to try. 

 

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]]> It can be really difficult to connect in your marriage if one or both of you aren’t communicating well. Here are three reasons why your husband might not be communicating and some tips to try. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 763 118 full E117//Dealing with anxiety? Keeping the faith when things get hard. E117//Dealing with anxiety? Keeping the faith when things get hard. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e117dealing-with-anxiety-keeping-the-faith-when-things-get-hard/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e117dealing-with-anxiety-keeping-the-faith-when-things-get-hard/#comments Mon, 13 Jun 2022 14:25:09 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c536a81e-9b4c-391a-ad0e-841806ed74d4 Are you going through a season of anxiety or a tough time? When we’re faced with these seasons we often find it hard to keep the faith or sometimes even to have the motivation to get through the day. 

Whether you’ve been going through a hard time or not you may want to save this episode to learn how to fight for your marriage, kids, or finances God’s way, and learn how to keep the faith when you’re running on empty or dealing with anxiety.

 

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]]> Are you going through a season of anxiety or a tough time? When we’re faced with these seasons we often find it hard to keep the faith or sometimes even to have the motivation to get through the day. 

Whether you’ve been going through a hard time or not you may want to save this episode to learn how to fight for your marriage, kids, or finances God’s way, and learn how to keep the faith when you’re running on empty or dealing with anxiety.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1006 117 full E116// Should I still have sex with my husband if we’re separated? E116// Should I still have sex with my husband if we’re separated? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e116-should-i-still-have-sex-with-my-husband-if-we-re-separated/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e116-should-i-still-have-sex-with-my-husband-if-we-re-separated/#comments Tue, 07 Jun 2022 15:06:13 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/541d6b1a-dd1f-3819-8006-ba5b739ae004 There are many mixed opinions on this issue mostly because they say it will confuse you or your husband. In some cases, however,  it can heal the marriage. 

 

Here are some tips and arguments for each side to help you decide what’s best for you. 

 

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]]> There are many mixed opinions on this issue mostly because they say it will confuse you or your husband. In some cases, however,  it can heal the marriage. 

 

Here are some tips and arguments for each side to help you decide what’s best for you. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1169 116 full 115 | My rockbottom story Pt. 2: 3 mistakes that led to our separation 115 | My rockbottom story Pt. 2: 3 mistakes that led to our separation https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e115-my-rockbottom-story-pt-2-3-mistakes-that-led-to-our-separation-and-lessons-i-learned/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e115-my-rockbottom-story-pt-2-3-mistakes-that-led-to-our-separation-and-lessons-i-learned/#comments Wed, 25 May 2022 14:37:48 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/bd73e71b-18ed-3058-8d01-d8161e87f45f Way back in episode 1, I said I would talk about the things that I did which led to my separation.

In the excitement of the new show, the start of the pandemic, and recording episode after episode of all the mistakes we make as wives, I forgot to add my 3 biggest mistakes! 

Let’s be clear, I’ve made so many more mistakes. Most of which I’ve talked about in other episodes, but these three are the biggest offenders as it relates to why my husband left.

Of course, that doesn’t excuse his choice, but I hope this episode will give you the insight I promised. I pray this blesses you and gives you an understanding for your own life.  

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]]> Way back in episode 1, I said I would talk about the things that I did which led to my separation.

In the excitement of the new show, the start of the pandemic, and recording episode after episode of all the mistakes we make as wives, I forgot to add my 3 biggest mistakes! 

Let’s be clear, I’ve made so many more mistakes. Most of which I’ve talked about in other episodes, but these three are the biggest offenders as it relates to why my husband left.

Of course, that doesn’t excuse his choice, but I hope this episode will give you the insight I promised. I pray this blesses you and gives you an understanding for your own life.  

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1642 115 full E114//Self Coach Saturday: Fighting for your marriage even if you’re separated E114//Self Coach Saturday: Fighting for your marriage even if you’re separated https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e114self-coach-saturday-how-to-get-the-marriage-of-your-dreams/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e114self-coach-saturday-how-to-get-the-marriage-of-your-dreams/#comments Sat, 21 May 2022 06:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c9080868-005e-3fb0-9a36-51c951a11f5f No matter where you are in your marriage, whether you’re on the brink of separation or you are just looking to reconnect, this episode will help you to visualize and achieve the marriage of your dreams. 

For some of you, the dream will be as big as "I want to win my husband back" for others, you just want to be intimate again. 

We start off with some journal prompts and end with 5 steps to partner with God for the marriage of your dreams. 

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]]> No matter where you are in your marriage, whether you’re on the brink of separation or you are just looking to reconnect, this episode will help you to visualize and achieve the marriage of your dreams. 

For some of you, the dream will be as big as "I want to win my husband back" for others, you just want to be intimate again. 

We start off with some journal prompts and end with 5 steps to partner with God for the marriage of your dreams. 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1079 114 full E113// Quick date night idea when you’re lacking childcare E113// Quick date night idea when you’re lacking childcare https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e113-quick-date-night-idea-when-you-re-lacking-childcare/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e113-quick-date-night-idea-when-you-re-lacking-childcare/#comments Tue, 17 May 2022 05:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/3150e6cc-d2ac-35d5-a52d-b59deb4d3150 I see you out there trying to increase intimacy and connection in your marriage. You want to prioritize date night but don’t have child care. 

 

Here is a quick tip for you to make it happen THIS WEEK!

 

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]]> I see you out there trying to increase intimacy and connection in your marriage. You want to prioritize date night but don’t have child care. 

 

Here is a quick tip for you to make it happen THIS WEEK!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 533 113 full E111// Tempted to give him the silent treatment? 3 ways to do it with grace. E111// Tempted to give him the silent treatment? 3 ways to do it with grace. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e111-is-it-ever-okay-to-give-him-the-silent-treatment/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e111-is-it-ever-okay-to-give-him-the-silent-treatment/#comments Tue, 10 May 2022 05:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/41cc5dc9-33c9-3b86-a336-9352ef8a0556 Is it ever okay to give your husband the silent treatment?

 

I’m sure you’ve wanted to before. Who hasn’t? Although anger and resentment may cause you to want to give your husband the silent treatment, healthy marriages have strong communication and high intimacy levels.

 

So what do we do when we’re not feeling those things? In this week’s episode, we learn how and when it might be appropriate to give our husband the silent treatment. 

 

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]]> Is it ever okay to give your husband the silent treatment?

 

I’m sure you’ve wanted to before. Who hasn’t? Although anger and resentment may cause you to want to give your husband the silent treatment, healthy marriages have strong communication and high intimacy levels.

 

So what do we do when we’re not feeling those things? In this week’s episode, we learn how and when it might be appropriate to give our husband the silent treatment. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 714 111 full E109// What does your bedroom say about your marriage? E109// What does your bedroom say about your marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e109-what-does-your-bedroom-say-about-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e109-what-does-your-bedroom-say-about-your-marriage/#comments Tue, 03 May 2022 11:08:27 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/01263d91-1dad-3ff2-adc4-c1977d64f77d Are you looking for more intimacy in your marriage? Whether you want more sex or just more meaningful conversation the state of your bedroom could be to blame for the disconnection you’re feeling.

This episode will give you three questions to ponder to identify how making some changes to your bedroom can lead to major changes in your marriage. 

 

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]]> Are you looking for more intimacy in your marriage? Whether you want more sex or just more meaningful conversation the state of your bedroom could be to blame for the disconnection you’re feeling.

This episode will give you three questions to ponder to identify how making some changes to your bedroom can lead to major changes in your marriage. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 936 109 full E108//Top 3 books to read for Christian Marriage: Quarterly Book Review E108//Top 3 books to read for Christian Marriage: Quarterly Book Review https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e108top-3-books-to-read-for-christian-marriage-quarterly-book-review/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e108top-3-books-to-read-for-christian-marriage-quarterly-book-review/#comments Thu, 28 Apr 2022 11:02:12 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/155a50fb-b5e9-3d8e-86ae-b5cab7df744e If you are looking for books on marriage whether your marriage is struggling or faces normal struggles like everyone else, this episode is for you.

I give you my top 3 books to read for the next three months to improve and restore your marriage. 

 

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]]> If you are looking for books on marriage whether your marriage is struggling or faces normal struggles like everyone else, this episode is for you.

I give you my top 3 books to read for the next three months to improve and restore your marriage. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 789 108 full E107// 5 Ways to deal with a moody husband E107// 5 Ways to deal with a moody husband https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e107-5-ways-to-deal-with-a-moody-husband/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e107-5-ways-to-deal-with-a-moody-husband/#comments Wed, 20 Apr 2022 08:41:58 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/203357aa-2818-35fc-aee5-92d7ecda7954 Ever wonder why your husband is so grumpy? Learn why AND help your cranky husband come around with these 5 quick tips. 

Remember, since we probably aren’t going to divorce over moodiness it's more of a tension to be managed rather than a problem to be solved! 

 

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]]> Ever wonder why your husband is so grumpy? Learn why AND help your cranky husband come around with these 5 quick tips. 

Remember, since we probably aren’t going to divorce over moodiness it's more of a tension to be managed rather than a problem to be solved! 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 955 107 full E106//Why your apology isn’t being accepted E106//Why your apology isn’t being accepted https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e106why-your-apology-isn-t-being-accepted/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e106why-your-apology-isn-t-being-accepted/#comments Tue, 12 Apr 2022 15:04:40 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/607fbed3-4605-34d7-b8be-f0b17df0fe19 If you’ve ever gotten frustrated because your apology wasn’t accepted or perhaps your husband’s apology didn’t feel genuine for you, this episode is for you! You'll learn why your husband might not believe your apology or why you might not believe his. 

Also, here is the link to my previous episode referenced talking about How to craft an effective apology. 

 

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]]> If you’ve ever gotten frustrated because your apology wasn’t accepted or perhaps your husband’s apology didn’t feel genuine for you, this episode is for you! You'll learn why your husband might not believe your apology or why you might not believe his. 

Also, here is the link to my previous episode referenced talking about How to craft an effective apology. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 878 106 full E105// Help! My husband won’t change - how to win him over without manipulating him E105// Help! My husband won’t change - how to win him over without manipulating him https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e105-help-my-husband-won-t-change-how-to-win-him-over-without-manipulating-him/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e105-help-my-husband-won-t-change-how-to-win-him-over-without-manipulating-him/#comments Wed, 06 Apr 2022 12:22:51 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/6f1313ae-992e-37f3-b0ee-3642d61203aa You may not be able to change your husband but you can influence him!!!!

Here are a few ways you can influence your husband WITHOUT manipulating him!

 

1 - with your actions. 

  • Model the behavior you want
  • Listen without interruption (help him to feel seen and heard)
  • Act with integrity - do what you say you will do

2- Your silence 

  • Don't criticize. “If you want to gather honey” don’t kick over the beehive!" -Dale Carnegie 
  • Criticizing people causes them to become defensive and rationalize their actions. 
  • There are other ways to get your point across

3- Your affections 

  • Show him the kindness of Christ. This is not about manipulating him with sex but rather showing true kindness to him even when he doesn't deserve it

In essence, you can influence your husband by the level of grace you show him. Grace is unmerited kindness (courteous goodwill) how much can you show him today?

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]]> You may not be able to change your husband but you can influence him!!!!

Here are a few ways you can influence your husband WITHOUT manipulating him!

 

1 - with your actions. 

  • Model the behavior you want
  • Listen without interruption (help him to feel seen and heard)
  • Act with integrity - do what you say you will do

2- Your silence 

  • Don't criticize. “If you want to gather honey” don’t kick over the beehive!" -Dale Carnegie 
  • Criticizing people causes them to become defensive and rationalize their actions. 
  • There are other ways to get your point across

3- Your affections 

  • Show him the kindness of Christ. This is not about manipulating him with sex but rather showing true kindness to him even when he doesn't deserve it

In essence, you can influence your husband by the level of grace you show him. Grace is unmerited kindness (courteous goodwill) how much can you show him today?

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1226 105 full E104// Are you fighting over finances? 4 ways to stop fighting over money and start living towards financial harmony E104// Are you fighting over finances? 4 ways to stop fighting over money and start living towards financial harmony https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e104-are-you-fighting-over-finances-4-ways-to-stop-fighting-over-money-and-start-living-towards-financial-harmony/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e104-are-you-fighting-over-finances-4-ways-to-stop-fighting-over-money-and-start-living-towards-financial-harmony/#comments Wed, 30 Mar 2022 14:57:56 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/0bafbb33-caad-3f76-b9cf-b3dcfdb8029f I’m sure at one time or another you and your husband have fought over finances. It is one of the #1 fights couples have and is actually the 2nd leading cause of divorce after infidelity. 

But just because you may be fighting about money now, doesn’t mean you have to continue that way. In this episode, we talk about 4 things you can do to stop fighting over money, start communicating about it more effectively, and start your journey toward financial harmony with your husband. Meaning - this will help you and your husband get on the same page about money!

 

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]]> I’m sure at one time or another you and your husband have fought over finances. It is one of the #1 fights couples have and is actually the 2nd leading cause of divorce after infidelity. 

But just because you may be fighting about money now, doesn’t mean you have to continue that way. In this episode, we talk about 4 things you can do to stop fighting over money, start communicating about it more effectively, and start your journey toward financial harmony with your husband. Meaning - this will help you and your husband get on the same page about money!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1996 104 full E103// My husband asked for a separation/divorce - Not what? 5 ways to handle it with grace E103// My husband asked for a separation/divorce - Not what? 5 ways to handle it with grace https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e103-my-husband-asked-for-a-separationdivorce-not-what-5-ways-to-handle-it-with-grace/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e103-my-husband-asked-for-a-separationdivorce-not-what-5-ways-to-handle-it-with-grace/#comments Thu, 17 Mar 2022 11:54:55 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/392e263a-8eef-3eba-ac67-d00dc70fdb37 Has your husband told you that he doesn’t love you anymore and wants out? That he no longer wants to be in the marriage? That he is tired of trying to make it work? That the issues are mostly yours and he doesn’t believe they will change? 

 

You are not alone. These were some of the exact words from 5 different listeners this month. There may still be hope for your marriage but you have to start by handling the separation with grace. Getting angry, trying to cling to him, or treating him the way he deserves to be treated at this moment will get you nowhere. 

 

I should know. I was in your shoes once. 

 

Here are 5 ways to handle your separation with grace - and while God handles the rest.  

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]]> Has your husband told you that he doesn’t love you anymore and wants out? That he no longer wants to be in the marriage? That he is tired of trying to make it work? That the issues are mostly yours and he doesn’t believe they will change? 

 

You are not alone. These were some of the exact words from 5 different listeners this month. There may still be hope for your marriage but you have to start by handling the separation with grace. Getting angry, trying to cling to him, or treating him the way he deserves to be treated at this moment will get you nowhere. 

 

I should know. I was in your shoes once. 

 

Here are 5 ways to handle your separation with grace - and while God handles the rest.  

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1572 103 full E102// Do you want to go from fighting to flowers? My student tells all about how her marriage started to change within a few weeks. E102// Do you want to go from fighting to flowers? My student tells all about how her marriage started to change within a few weeks. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e102-from-fighting-to-flowers-how-my-client-s-marriage-started-to-change-within-a-few-weeks-is-the-grace-fueled-marriage-method-right-for-you/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e102-from-fighting-to-flowers-how-my-client-s-marriage-started-to-change-within-a-few-weeks-is-the-grace-fueled-marriage-method-right-for-you/#comments Fri, 11 Mar 2022 18:14:33 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/8adef067-c23d-3965-b014-5849c9fa5dcc Hey mama, are you tired? 

Are you tired of feeling like you have a disconnected and loveless marriage? 

Are you tired of feeling like your husband is more of a roommate than a spouse? 

Are you tired of feeling like your marriage is over and there is very little hope because your husband walked out and you are now left alone? 

Are you tired of all the marriage resources for Christian women either needing your husband to participate or expecting you to simply submit? 

Are you looking for a God-centered resource that will help you fix your marriage GOD’s way, WITHOUT being a doormat?

Are you looking to be led by the Holy Spirit in your marriage rather than your emotions?

Have you been considering the Grace Fueled Marriage Method but are not sure if it’s a good fit for you? 

Meet my student Kay.

In this episode, we talk about her experiences with my course and coaching program, The Grace Fueled Marriage Method. She tells us how she was skeptical at first but went from fighting with her husband to getting flowers, jewelry, and homemade breakfast from him within a matter of a few short weeks. 

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]]> Hey mama, are you tired? 

Are you tired of feeling like you have a disconnected and loveless marriage? 

Are you tired of feeling like your husband is more of a roommate than a spouse? 

Are you tired of feeling like your marriage is over and there is very little hope because your husband walked out and you are now left alone? 

Are you tired of all the marriage resources for Christian women either needing your husband to participate or expecting you to simply submit? 

Are you looking for a God-centered resource that will help you fix your marriage GOD’s way, WITHOUT being a doormat?

Are you looking to be led by the Holy Spirit in your marriage rather than your emotions?

Have you been considering the Grace Fueled Marriage Method but are not sure if it’s a good fit for you? 

Meet my student Kay.

In this episode, we talk about her experiences with my course and coaching program, The Grace Fueled Marriage Method. She tells us how she was skeptical at first but went from fighting with her husband to getting flowers, jewelry, and homemade breakfast from him within a matter of a few short weeks. 

Listen in to this juicy episode!!

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2890 102 full E101// Tired of feeling like your husband is a roommate? 2 things to try today! E101// Tired of feeling like your husband is a roommate? 2 things to try today! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e101-tired-of-feeling-like-your-husband-s-roommate-2-things-to-try-today/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e101-tired-of-feeling-like-your-husband-s-roommate-2-things-to-try-today/#comments Wed, 09 Mar 2022 13:48:02 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/b6720802-99e4-3dfa-a75b-64499c09df52 We’ve all heard about couples who “grow apart.” It’s what happens when they become so disconnected and far away that they have trouble getting back to the passion and love they once shared. This “growing apart” usually starts off with roommate syndrome. You know, that feeling that your husband is more of a roommate than a soulmate…

 

Here is the truth, just because your marriage may feel like that now does NOT mean it’s destined to fail. Roommate syndrome is a normal stage that many marriages fall into. The difference between marriages that fail and ones that thrive is that happy couples learn to recognize the signs early on and do things to prevent it from getting worse. 

 

Listen in for 2 tips to start implementing TODAY so you can see the roommate syndrome be reversed within a few weeks. 

 

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]]> We’ve all heard about couples who “grow apart.” It’s what happens when they become so disconnected and far away that they have trouble getting back to the passion and love they once shared. This “growing apart” usually starts off with roommate syndrome. You know, that feeling that your husband is more of a roommate than a soulmate…

 

Here is the truth, just because your marriage may feel like that now does NOT mean it’s destined to fail. Roommate syndrome is a normal stage that many marriages fall into. The difference between marriages that fail and ones that thrive is that happy couples learn to recognize the signs early on and do things to prevent it from getting worse. 

 

Listen in for 2 tips to start implementing TODAY so you can see the roommate syndrome be reversed within a few weeks. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1423 101 full E100// Are you waiting to hear from God? E100// Are you waiting to hear from God? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e100-waiting-to-hear-from-god/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e100-waiting-to-hear-from-god/#comments Wed, 02 Mar 2022 06:29:26 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/dfbffb05-1523-33b5-9167-4c1474f229ff Are you wondering what God says about you, your marriage, the plans you have in life? In this episode, we discuss 3 tips to start hearing God’s voice today as taught by Priscilla Shirer in her book Discerning the Voice of God.  

 

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]]> Are you wondering what God says about you, your marriage, the plans you have in life? In this episode, we discuss 3 tips to start hearing God’s voice today as taught by Priscilla Shirer in her book Discerning the Voice of God.  

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1810 100 full E99//3 ways to overcome insecurity in your marriage E99//3 ways to overcome insecurity in your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e993-ways-to-overcome-insecurity-in-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e993-ways-to-overcome-insecurity-in-your-marriage/#comments Mon, 21 Feb 2022 21:00:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/484a925c-e7eb-39e8-8ab2-2a8508ad19a3 Are you feeling insecure in your marriage? A few weeks ago we talked about how insecurity is hurting your marriage, in this episode, we learn 3 tips (plus a bonus 😉) for how to overcome that insecurity, improve your connection, and reduce resentment for your husband. 

 

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]]> Are you feeling insecure in your marriage? A few weeks ago we talked about how insecurity is hurting your marriage, in this episode, we learn 3 tips (plus a bonus 😉) for how to overcome that insecurity, improve your connection, and reduce resentment for your husband. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1171 99 full E97// Have you set goals for your marriage? E97// Have you set goals for your marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e97-have-you-set-goals-for-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e97-have-you-set-goals-for-your-marriage/#comments Thu, 10 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/cef80755-b9f4-395e-a87a-312d0bf9251c As we enter into this second month of the year many of us are looking at the goals or resolutions we’ve made - or broken so far and either thinking about how to recommit to them or how we can make new goals. 

 

So often, however, we make goals for our health, business, faith, motherhood, and we DON’T make goals for our marriage yet God’s word says very clearly, “without vision the people will perish” Proverbs 19:18

 

Let’s take these next few minutes together to discuss why we should make goals for our marriage and how to make and achieve those goals. 

 

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]]> As we enter into this second month of the year many of us are looking at the goals or resolutions we’ve made - or broken so far and either thinking about how to recommit to them or how we can make new goals. 

 

So often, however, we make goals for our health, business, faith, motherhood, and we DON’T make goals for our marriage yet God’s word says very clearly, “without vision the people will perish” Proverbs 19:18

 

Let’s take these next few minutes together to discuss why we should make goals for our marriage and how to make and achieve those goals. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 765 97 full E96// Help! I feel unappreciated: 3 ways to reduce resentment and strengthen your connection E96// Help! I feel unappreciated: 3 ways to reduce resentment and strengthen your connection https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e96-help-i-feel-unappreciated-3-ways-to-reduce-resentment-and-strengthen-your-connection/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e96-help-i-feel-unappreciated-3-ways-to-reduce-resentment-and-strengthen-your-connection/#comments Tue, 08 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/0bcbcb1e-c05d-3488-a605-cd63ee30bb11 We can all feel unappreciated in marriage at times. 

Here are three ways to reduce your resentment and increase intimacy in your marriage rather than creating resentment and anger. 

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]]> We can all feel unappreciated in marriage at times. 

Here are three ways to reduce your resentment and increase intimacy in your marriage rather than creating resentment and anger. 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1492 96 full E95// How do I forgive after infidelity when I am filled with such anger and pain? E95// How do I forgive after infidelity when I am filled with such anger and pain? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e95-how-do-i-forgive-after-infidelity-when-i-am-filled-with-such-anger-and-pain/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e95-how-do-i-forgive-after-infidelity-when-i-am-filled-with-such-anger-and-pain/#comments Tue, 01 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/cb61313e-7d84-3ffc-bda7-83988217cfdf Your husband cheated. Now What? How do you go on? How do you forgive him when you are filled with such anger and pain. You’re feeling heartbroken but you want to forgive him, or at least you know that God has called you to forgive but are not sure what to do. 

 

I pray this episode is a blessing to you and if it isn’t relevant, please share it with someone whom you think may need to hear it. 

Here are the links to the previous episodes on infidelity:

Apple: E26// Can you forgive after infidelity w. Stephanie Boersma

Spotify: E26// Can you forgive after infidelity w. Stephanie Boersma

 

Apple: E46// How do we heal from infidelity and my husband’s porn addiction with Restored 2 More

Spotify: E46// How do we heal from infidelity and my husband’s porn addiction with Restored 2 More

 

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]]> Your husband cheated. Now What? How do you go on? How do you forgive him when you are filled with such anger and pain. You’re feeling heartbroken but you want to forgive him, or at least you know that God has called you to forgive but are not sure what to do. 

 

I pray this episode is a blessing to you and if it isn’t relevant, please share it with someone whom you think may need to hear it. 

Here are the links to the previous episodes on infidelity:

Apple: E26// Can you forgive after infidelity w. Stephanie Boersma

Spotify: E26// Can you forgive after infidelity w. Stephanie Boersma

 

Apple: E46// How do we heal from infidelity and my husband’s porn addiction with Restored 2 More

Spotify: E46// How do we heal from infidelity and my husband’s porn addiction with Restored 2 More

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1412 95 full E94// 3 ways insecurity is hurting your marriage and how to overcome it E94// 3 ways insecurity is hurting your marriage and how to overcome it https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e94-3-way-insecurity-is-hurting-your-marriage-and-how-to-overcome-it/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e94-3-way-insecurity-is-hurting-your-marriage-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comments Wed, 26 Jan 2022 11:53:57 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/f33c557f-1086-34fd-a2d3-6a28a5fc1318 Do you think you might be insecure in your marriage and are wondering how to change it? Perhaps you aren’t sure if you have a right to feel this way. Perhaps you don’t feel insecure at all. 

 

The truth is we ALL have some insecurities, it’s just that some people are better at managing them and not allowing them to hurt their relationships.  In this episode, we will talk about 3 ways your insecurities might be hurting your marriage, we'll learn which insecurities might be valid, and how we can overcome the ones that are not.

 

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gracefueledmarriagemethod.gr8.com

 

For more info: 

]]> Do you think you might be insecure in your marriage and are wondering how to change it? Perhaps you aren’t sure if you have a right to feel this way. Perhaps you don’t feel insecure at all. 

 

The truth is we ALL have some insecurities, it’s just that some people are better at managing them and not allowing them to hurt their relationships.  In this episode, we will talk about 3 ways your insecurities might be hurting your marriage, we'll learn which insecurities might be valid, and how we can overcome the ones that are not.

 

Are you new around here and want to know more? Check me out at:

www.BeatrizVargas.com

 

Get instant access to my free workbook:

5 Steps to becoming a Grace Fueled Wife - Navigating the journey to improving your marriage

gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com

 

The Grace Fueled Marriage Method is available here: 

gracefueledmarriagemethod.gr8.com

 

For more info: 

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1263 94 full E93// Why is my husband so mean? How to problem solve and communicate with deeper understanding E93// Why is my husband so mean? How to problem solve and communicate with deeper understanding https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e93-why-is-my-husband-so-mean-how-to-problem-solve-and-communicate-with-deeper-understanding/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e93-why-is-my-husband-so-mean-how-to-problem-solve-and-communicate-with-deeper-understanding/#comments Tue, 18 Jan 2022 14:47:04 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/5e4e73dc-aab1-3619-8450-036a01ce8ac9 Ever wonder why your husband says such hurtful things? In this episode, we explore 3 reasons why he might be saying mean things lately. We also learn the difference between mean and moody. 

 

These three things will help you to problem-solve and communicate with your husband with a deeper understanding. Try them out and let us know in the Facebook group how it went!

 

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]]> Ever wonder why your husband says such hurtful things? In this episode, we explore 3 reasons why he might be saying mean things lately. We also learn the difference between mean and moody. 

 

These three things will help you to problem-solve and communicate with your husband with a deeper understanding. Try them out and let us know in the Facebook group how it went!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1517 93 full E92// Tired of being his caretaker? How to get your husband to help out around the house more E92// Tired of being his caretaker? How to get your husband to help out around the house more https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e92-tired-of-being-his-caretaker-how-to-get-your-husband-to-help-out-around-the-house-more/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e92-tired-of-being-his-caretaker-how-to-get-your-husband-to-help-out-around-the-house-more/#comments Tue, 11 Jan 2022 14:21:58 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/b1d56c7c-fdc0-382e-bd72-67d4bd36f34b Wives, I see you out there - trying as best you can to hold the family together. Trying to maintain an image of a respectable family - which you have, except that your husband shows up much less than you let on. I see you, making excuses for him when he doesn’t show up to church, a family event, or an invitation to a friends house. I see you. searching for community, trying, what it seems like - all on your own to build a stronger faith foundation in your home. 

 

I see you mama, trying to keep it quiet because you don’t wan’t anyone thinking bad about your husband. He is a good man. He loves you. He loves your kids. You just wish he would show up in more new areas - like  pray for the family, lead the family, show the loving soft heart of Jesus towards others. 

You want to show love and grace to your husband, despite feeling frustrated, hurt and disappointed. My story is your story. From being abandoned by my husband for my faith to reconciling and leading ministry together, to making excuses again, I have been there. The most important thing I’ve learned is this:

 

Being a grace fueled wife means a commitment to continue working on the marriage EVEN IF he isn’t showing up. It means being in constant prayer for your husband and surrendering the final outcome of your marriage to God. 

 

But when happens when you’re tired? You’re tired of taking care of everything around the house. You just wish your husband would help you out more but don’t know how to ask, or don’t want to nag him yet again. 

 

Here are three things you can do to empower your husband to take care of you! This will leave you feeling more supported and less resentful!

 

Here is the link to the episode I referenced:

On Apple podcasts: E74//How to get what you want without nagging

On Spotify: E74//How to get what you want without nagging

 

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]]> Wives, I see you out there - trying as best you can to hold the family together. Trying to maintain an image of a respectable family - which you have, except that your husband shows up much less than you let on. I see you, making excuses for him when he doesn’t show up to church, a family event, or an invitation to a friends house. I see you. searching for community, trying, what it seems like - all on your own to build a stronger faith foundation in your home. 

 

I see you mama, trying to keep it quiet because you don’t wan’t anyone thinking bad about your husband. He is a good man. He loves you. He loves your kids. You just wish he would show up in more new areas - like  pray for the family, lead the family, show the loving soft heart of Jesus towards others. 

You want to show love and grace to your husband, despite feeling frustrated, hurt and disappointed. My story is your story. From being abandoned by my husband for my faith to reconciling and leading ministry together, to making excuses again, I have been there. The most important thing I’ve learned is this:

 

Being a grace fueled wife means a commitment to continue working on the marriage EVEN IF he isn’t showing up. It means being in constant prayer for your husband and surrendering the final outcome of your marriage to God. 

 

But when happens when you’re tired? You’re tired of taking care of everything around the house. You just wish your husband would help you out more but don’t know how to ask, or don’t want to nag him yet again. 

 

Here are three things you can do to empower your husband to take care of you! This will leave you feeling more supported and less resentful!

 

Here is the link to the episode I referenced:

On Apple podcasts: E74//How to get what you want without nagging

On Spotify: E74//How to get what you want without nagging

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1879 92 full E91//How to give your husband grace when he doesn’t believe E91//How to give your husband grace when he doesn’t believe https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e91how-to-give-your-husband-grace-when-he-doesn-t-believe/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e91how-to-give-your-husband-grace-when-he-doesn-t-believe/#comments Tue, 04 Jan 2022 17:53:51 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/0e943baa-e11c-388e-869e-61ad5eb14088 Are you struggling in your marriage to an unbeliever? 

Here is some truth from God’s word to help you love him well and with God’s grace. In this episode, we will learn three things from God’s word we can do to show him grace. Then we will hear a word from my own husband who was once an unbeliever but has since been transformed by God’s grace.

 

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]]> Are you struggling in your marriage to an unbeliever? 

Here is some truth from God’s word to help you love him well and with God’s grace. In this episode, we will learn three things from God’s word we can do to show him grace. Then we will hear a word from my own husband who was once an unbeliever but has since been transformed by God’s grace.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1469 91 full E90// Let go of shame in marriage to rebuild on a strong foundation E90// Let go of shame in marriage to rebuild on a strong foundation https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e90-let-go-of-shame-in-marriage-to-rebuild-on-a-strong-foundation/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e90-let-go-of-shame-in-marriage-to-rebuild-on-a-strong-foundation/#comments Thu, 30 Dec 2021 18:42:35 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/b140989e-77a3-3724-beea-c88cc5a7db36 This last episode of 2021 will give you a story of hope and reconciliation as well as practical tips to get rid of shame in your marriage and to rebuild it on a strong Godly foundation with my guest Lydia Santos of the Jar Podcast

 

Lydia Santos - Host of the Jar Podcast

IG: https://www.instagram.com/mrs.lydiasantos/

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-jar-podcast-christian-marriage-christian-wife/id1555383745?uo=4

 

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]]> This last episode of 2021 will give you a story of hope and reconciliation as well as practical tips to get rid of shame in your marriage and to rebuild it on a strong Godly foundation with my guest Lydia Santos of the Jar Podcast

 

Lydia Santos - Host of the Jar Podcast

IG: https://www.instagram.com/mrs.lydiasantos/

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-jar-podcast-christian-marriage-christian-wife/id1555383745?uo=4

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2743 90 full E89// An encouraging word for your marriage E89// An encouraging word for your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/an-encouraging-word-for-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/an-encouraging-word-for-your-marriage/#comments Wed, 15 Dec 2021 15:14:47 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/f03905ef-61e9-3414-a121-1035b1752844 I don’t seek out a “word for the year”, but every year since 2017 God has seen fit to give me one. This year that word is for you - it's especially for my listeners - The Grace Fueled Wives club. 

Hint - you have more than the power to change you but also to affect everything around you. 

 

Here is a bit of encouragement continue to fight the good fight, stay strong in your marriage, and believe God for the restoration, hope, and reconciliation he once promised you. 

 

Perhaps you’ve been praying for 1 year, perhaps it's been 10 years, I pray this message is meaningful to you today. 

 

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]]> I don’t seek out a “word for the year”, but every year since 2017 God has seen fit to give me one. This year that word is for you - it's especially for my listeners - The Grace Fueled Wives club. 

Hint - you have more than the power to change you but also to affect everything around you. 

 

Here is a bit of encouragement continue to fight the good fight, stay strong in your marriage, and believe God for the restoration, hope, and reconciliation he once promised you. 

 

Perhaps you’ve been praying for 1 year, perhaps it's been 10 years, I pray this message is meaningful to you today. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1220 89 full E88// Is there hope for a hopeless marriage? E88// Is there hope for a hopeless marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e88-is-there-hope-for-a-hopeless-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e88-is-there-hope-for-a-hopeless-marriage/#comments Tue, 07 Dec 2021 15:27:24 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ac2bbf51-9f67-34c5-9969-b3208d88a1b7 In this episode, we will hear 3 signs of hope for our otherwise hopeless marriages and three signs that perhaps separation is the right course of action. 

 

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]]> In this episode, we will hear 3 signs of hope for our otherwise hopeless marriages and three signs that perhaps separation is the right course of action. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1559 88 full E87// Does your husband deflect or refuse to take responsibility for his wrongs? E87// Does your husband deflect or refuse to take responsibility for his wrongs? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e87-does-your-husband-deflect-or-refuse-to-take-responsibility-for-his-wrongs/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e87-does-your-husband-deflect-or-refuse-to-take-responsibility-for-his-wrongs/#comments Mon, 29 Nov 2021 13:16:11 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a01d2312-117b-3226-b787-b4156304cdab Have you ever argued or tried to have a rational discussion with your husband only to have him respond with something like: 

  • “That’s your issue, not mine”
  • “I can’t control what you think”
  • “You’re being so dramatic”
  • “What about when you did…”

This is so frustrating!!! If your husband often responds to you using statements such as this or  If your husband refuses to take accountability or responsibility for his wrongs and even worse tries to turn it around to you he is using deflection as his defense mechanism. 

While deflection is a symptom of some emotional immaturity and in some cases can be a symptom of a greater issue (i.e. narcissism) there is hope! This episode will give you some tools to cope and overcome deflective behavior.

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]]> Have you ever argued or tried to have a rational discussion with your husband only to have him respond with something like: 

  • “That’s your issue, not mine”
  • “I can’t control what you think”
  • “You’re being so dramatic”
  • “What about when you did…”

This is so frustrating!!! If your husband often responds to you using statements such as this or  If your husband refuses to take accountability or responsibility for his wrongs and even worse tries to turn it around to you he is using deflection as his defense mechanism. 

While deflection is a symptom of some emotional immaturity and in some cases can be a symptom of a greater issue (i.e. narcissism) there is hope! This episode will give you some tools to cope and overcome deflective behavior.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1465 87 full E86// How to ask for what you want without making your husband defensive E86// How to ask for what you want without making your husband defensive https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/86-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-without-making-your-husband-defensive/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/86-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-without-making-your-husband-defensive/#comments Tue, 23 Nov 2021 13:35:12 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/2d949e98-048b-30e9-aa34-ba79d683c5d2 In this episode, I quickly give you some of the information we learn in the Grace Fueled Marriage Method where we investigate conflict resolution strategy and discover how to communicate our interest - or reasons for feeling a certain way rather than our position on how we feel. Think about what would happen if politicians discussed issues vs. arguing to defend their stance on them. This strategy will open the doors to communication while avoiding your husband’s defensive reactions. 

 

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]]> In this episode, I quickly give you some of the information we learn in the Grace Fueled Marriage Method where we investigate conflict resolution strategy and discover how to communicate our interest - or reasons for feeling a certain way rather than our position on how we feel. Think about what would happen if politicians discussed issues vs. arguing to defend their stance on them. This strategy will open the doors to communication while avoiding your husband’s defensive reactions. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1159 86 full E85//Is your impatience hurting your marriage? E85//Is your impatience hurting your marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/is-your-impatience-hurting-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/is-your-impatience-hurting-your-marriage/#comments Mon, 15 Nov 2021 17:37:30 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/17575793-7259-3de6-807c-276a9ef77d55 All too often we want a “quick fix” out of the things that we don’t like. We want to “get rich quick” or “loose weight fast” or in the case of marriage we want our husbands to be better right away. We want to go from roommates to soul mates overnight, but sadly, just like when we’ve gained lots of weight, that excess and unhealthiness takes a long time to burn off. In this episode we dig into that very topic.

 

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]]> All too often we want a “quick fix” out of the things that we don’t like. We want to “get rich quick” or “loose weight fast” or in the case of marriage we want our husbands to be better right away. We want to go from roommates to soul mates overnight, but sadly, just like when we’ve gained lots of weight, that excess and unhealthiness takes a long time to burn off. In this episode we dig into that very topic.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 625 85 full e83// Does your husband feel more like a roommate? This is why... e83// Does your husband feel more like a roommate? This is why... https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/does-your-husband-feel-more-like-a-roommate-this-is-why/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/does-your-husband-feel-more-like-a-roommate-this-is-why/#comments Tue, 09 Nov 2021 09:26:13 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/0adf88ef-f333-3b15-930d-b6679ed7e1ce So often I’ve heard the phrase “my husband feels more like a roommate than a soulmate”. Back when I was in the midst of separation I felt the same way - yet I didn’t know it was a common feeling at the time.

That roommate feeling is a symptom of a much bigger issue. That issue is a lack of intimacy and genuine connection. 

You may already know that you’re lacking intimacy and connection in your marriage. The question is - why? and What can we do to bring back that feeling we once had. 

In this episode, We discuss the reason for this lack of connection in your marriage and how we can work to restore intimacy with your husband. 

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]]> So often I’ve heard the phrase “my husband feels more like a roommate than a soulmate”. Back when I was in the midst of separation I felt the same way - yet I didn’t know it was a common feeling at the time.

That roommate feeling is a symptom of a much bigger issue. That issue is a lack of intimacy and genuine connection. 

You may already know that you’re lacking intimacy and connection in your marriage. The question is - why? and What can we do to bring back that feeling we once had. 

In this episode, We discuss the reason for this lack of connection in your marriage and how we can work to restore intimacy with your husband. 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 934 83 full e82// Let‘s talk about sex! When he wants it more than you. e82// Let‘s talk about sex! When he wants it more than you. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/let-s-talk-about-sex-when-he-wants-it-more-than-you/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/let-s-talk-about-sex-when-he-wants-it-more-than-you/#comments Wed, 27 Oct 2021 11:05:12 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/6038b641-ec18-36eb-86ca-bc2f50cee9ae As Christians, we often avoid talking about sex. Why?? In this episode, we go there! 

 

We specifically talk about what it means for wives whose husbands want sex more than they do. We identify several myths about the topic and explore how you can start to have more loving, connected sex with your husband that you're looking forward to -  rather than doing it out of obligation. 

 

Our guest, Janna Denton Howes is a Desire Coach who helps women married to men, create intimacy in their marriage that feels authentic. 

 

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IG: https://www.instagram.com/jannadentonhowes/?hl=en

Website:

https://jannadentonhowes.com/blog/

Want It more workshop:

https://jannadentonhowes.com/wantingitmore/

 

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]]> As Christians, we often avoid talking about sex. Why?? In this episode, we go there! 

 

We specifically talk about what it means for wives whose husbands want sex more than they do. We identify several myths about the topic and explore how you can start to have more loving, connected sex with your husband that you're looking forward to -  rather than doing it out of obligation. 

 

Our guest, Janna Denton Howes is a Desire Coach who helps women married to men, create intimacy in their marriage that feels authentic. 

 

Did you love our guest today? You can find her at:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/jannadentonhowes/?hl=en

Website:

https://jannadentonhowes.com/blog/

Want It more workshop:

https://jannadentonhowes.com/wantingitmore/

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2625 82 full e81// Don‘t let your marriage take the back seat to your kids! e81// Don‘t let your marriage take the back seat to your kids! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/don-t-let-your-marriage-take-the-back-seat-to-your-kids/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/don-t-let-your-marriage-take-the-back-seat-to-your-kids/#comments Thu, 21 Oct 2021 10:40:51 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/88d29fbc-39fe-32bd-afcf-6bf1837d35a6 Having a child can GREATLY affect your marriage. The entire dynamic changes. For many couples, it means that all the focus goes to the children while the marriage is left to suffer in the background. 

 

In this excerpt from an interview I did with Cynthia Castro of the Rooted Working Mom Podcast we discuss how to NOT let your marriage take a backseat to the kids.  For the full 2 part episode go check out her show!!

 

We got into so much goodness in this interview so be sure to take notes!

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IG: https://www.instagram.com/cynthia.p.castro/

Rooted Working Mom Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rooted-working-mom-christian-mom-raising-kingdom-kids/id1577009841

 

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]]> Having a child can GREATLY affect your marriage. The entire dynamic changes. For many couples, it means that all the focus goes to the children while the marriage is left to suffer in the background. 

 

In this excerpt from an interview I did with Cynthia Castro of the Rooted Working Mom Podcast we discuss how to NOT let your marriage take a backseat to the kids.  For the full 2 part episode go check out her show!!

 

We got into so much goodness in this interview so be sure to take notes!

Did you love our guest today? You can find her at:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/cynthia.p.castro/

Rooted Working Mom Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rooted-working-mom-christian-mom-raising-kingdom-kids/id1577009841

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1998 81 full E80// Feel anxiety or depression when your marriage isn’t going well? How to handle emotional distress and marriage. E80// Feel anxiety or depression when your marriage isn’t going well? How to handle emotional distress and marriage. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/feel-anxiety-or-depression-when-your-marriage-isn-t-going-well-how-to-handle-emotional-distress-and-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/feel-anxiety-or-depression-when-your-marriage-isn-t-going-well-how-to-handle-emotional-distress-and-marriage/#comments Wed, 13 Oct 2021 13:44:28 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/0fdbecef-0d96-39c1-b0ac-c5892d52bcd1 Do you feel anxiety or depression when your marriage isn’t going well? You are not alone! How to handle emotional distress and marriage. As much as we love our husbands it can feel difficult to see past the dark places we sometimes find ourselves. 

 

Here you will find hope and encouragement for those dark moments in marriage as well as a community to help you through the other side. Learn what it feels like to be seen, heard, and appreciated! 

 

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]]> Do you feel anxiety or depression when your marriage isn’t going well? You are not alone! How to handle emotional distress and marriage. As much as we love our husbands it can feel difficult to see past the dark places we sometimes find ourselves. 

 

Here you will find hope and encouragement for those dark moments in marriage as well as a community to help you through the other side. Learn what it feels like to be seen, heard, and appreciated! 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1350 80 full E79// Not connecting with your husband? Edify him back to intimacy E79// Not connecting with your husband? Edify him back to intimacy https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e79-not-connecting-with-your-husband-edify-him-back-to-intimacy/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e79-not-connecting-with-your-husband-edify-him-back-to-intimacy/#comments Mon, 04 Oct 2021 22:27:56 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/45f1d2c5-98fb-30cf-a6d6-065e961accc3 If you’ve been sitting in a season of disconnectedness with your husband - a season of feeling like he’s your roommate rather than your lover or your soulmate here is a tactical tip to rebuild the intimacy. 

 

When we are feeling discouraged in marriage it can be difficult to think of the good things about our husband and while in theory, this tip should be easy, when put into practice in the midst of a strained relationship it can seem almost impossible. 

 

Here is a way to break through that thought pattern and finally see some breakthrough. 

 

Hey love, I want to hear all the things!! Do you have any topics you would like me to discuss? Questions about something going on in your marriage? Hit me up on IG, FB or email and let me know a little about you or jump into the Grace Fueled Wives Club and let us know in the group!

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The Community...

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]]> If you’ve been sitting in a season of disconnectedness with your husband - a season of feeling like he’s your roommate rather than your lover or your soulmate here is a tactical tip to rebuild the intimacy. 

 

When we are feeling discouraged in marriage it can be difficult to think of the good things about our husband and while in theory, this tip should be easy, when put into practice in the midst of a strained relationship it can seem almost impossible. 

 

Here is a way to break through that thought pattern and finally see some breakthrough. 

 

Hey love, I want to hear all the things!! Do you have any topics you would like me to discuss? Questions about something going on in your marriage? Hit me up on IG, FB or email and let me know a little about you or jump into the Grace Fueled Wives Club and let us know in the group!

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https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

 

Work with me:

 

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1088 79 full E77// How to have a more loving and connected marriage without DOing a thing E77// How to have a more loving and connected marriage without DOing a thing https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-have-a-more-loving-and-connected-marriage-without-doing-a-thing/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-have-a-more-loving-and-connected-marriage-without-doing-a-thing/#comments Tue, 21 Sep 2021 15:59:18 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/d8fbdb14-1f86-3bbe-a660-87139b429ad9 Do you want to have a more loving and connected marriage? Have you read all the books or tried all the courses and podcasts but are still struggling in your connection to your husband? Do you feel more like a roommate and wonder what is it you’re doing wrong - or more commonly, figure it has to be your husband’s fault. 

 

Welcome to the club! This secret has helped so many women. Learn how you can move towards a more loving, connected, and intimate marriage without actually doing a thing!

 

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]]> Do you want to have a more loving and connected marriage? Have you read all the books or tried all the courses and podcasts but are still struggling in your connection to your husband? Do you feel more like a roommate and wonder what is it you’re doing wrong - or more commonly, figure it has to be your husband’s fault. 

 

Welcome to the club! This secret has helped so many women. Learn how you can move towards a more loving, connected, and intimate marriage without actually doing a thing!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 866 77 full E76// Trying to be a good help meet but he doesn‘t want the help? E76// Trying to be a good help meet but he doesn‘t want the help? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/trying-to-be-a-good-help-meet-but-he-doesn-t-want-the-help/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/trying-to-be-a-good-help-meet-but-he-doesn-t-want-the-help/#comments Tue, 31 Aug 2021 10:19:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/7f1900f4-03cd-39ec-a7d1-f747a6ae6440 Don’t you hate when you are trying to “help” your husband with something but he refuses? Or better yet, gets annoyed with you for trying?

 

I mean really, doesn’t he know that YOUR way is the superior way to get things done? Whether that means what to eat, what to wear, how much to spend, or whether or not the family should take that vacation. 

 

CLEARLY…. he has it all wrong, right? 

 

We dive into the reasons why your husband may not be responding to your attempts to help and take a hard look at what might happen if you stopped. 

 

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]]> Don’t you hate when you are trying to “help” your husband with something but he refuses? Or better yet, gets annoyed with you for trying?

 

I mean really, doesn’t he know that YOUR way is the superior way to get things done? Whether that means what to eat, what to wear, how much to spend, or whether or not the family should take that vacation. 

 

CLEARLY…. he has it all wrong, right? 

 

We dive into the reasons why your husband may not be responding to your attempts to help and take a hard look at what might happen if you stopped. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1237 76 full E75// How does being a better YOU make you a better wife/mother? E75// How does being a better YOU make you a better wife/mother? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-does-being-a-better-you-make-you-a-better-wifemother/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-does-being-a-better-you-make-you-a-better-wifemother/#comments Wed, 25 Aug 2021 11:45:37 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/bbd8972e-6862-3bca-ac06-edc699abcf9c What would life look like if we actually took the time to care for ourselves?

 

In this episode, we talk about everyone’s favorite 4 letter word - SELF - This isn’t some woo episode on self-love, rather a discussion. 

 

As Christians, we are often taught to die to self or deny ourselves. At the same time, Jesus commands us to love others as ourselves. Yet many of us treat ourselves pretty badly.  As wives and mothers, we run around serving everyone else leaving nothing left for us. In this episode, we discuss how can do both. How we can take time for ourselves AND serve our families?

More importantly, WHY should we prioritize doing so? 

 

Here are other episodes I reference during this conversation:

 

Episode 74: How to get what you want without nagging

https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-get-what-you-want-without-nagging/

 

Episode 40: Do I need it or just WANT it? How understanding the difference can impact your marriage. 

https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/do-i-need-it-or-just-want-it-how-understanding-the-difference-can-impact-your-marriage/

 

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]]> What would life look like if we actually took the time to care for ourselves?

 

In this episode, we talk about everyone’s favorite 4 letter word - SELF - This isn’t some woo episode on self-love, rather a discussion. 

 

As Christians, we are often taught to die to self or deny ourselves. At the same time, Jesus commands us to love others as ourselves. Yet many of us treat ourselves pretty badly.  As wives and mothers, we run around serving everyone else leaving nothing left for us. In this episode, we discuss how can do both. How we can take time for ourselves AND serve our families?

More importantly, WHY should we prioritize doing so? 

 

Here are other episodes I reference during this conversation:

 

Episode 74: How to get what you want without nagging

https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-get-what-you-want-without-nagging/

 

Episode 40: Do I need it or just WANT it? How understanding the difference can impact your marriage. 

https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/do-i-need-it-or-just-want-it-how-understanding-the-difference-can-impact-your-marriage/

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1642 75 full E74// How to get what you want without nagging E74// How to get what you want without nagging https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-get-what-you-want-without-nagging/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-get-what-you-want-without-nagging/#comments Wed, 28 Jul 2021 11:24:34 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/50645fe0-4ca1-3526-a184-8cce63b54be3 Do you want to get what you want WITHOUT nagging? Don’t think that you’re a nag? Listen to this episode to the SECRET to getting what you want, finding peace with the things you don’t, and restoring the lost connection in your marriage!!!

 

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]]> Do you want to get what you want WITHOUT nagging? Don’t think that you’re a nag? Listen to this episode to the SECRET to getting what you want, finding peace with the things you don’t, and restoring the lost connection in your marriage!!!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1233 74 full The power of a carefully chosen girlfriend The power of a carefully chosen girlfriend https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/the-power-of-a-carefully-chosen-girlfriend/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/the-power-of-a-carefully-chosen-girlfriend/#comments Fri, 23 Jul 2021 16:13:22 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/b01c2125-7c22-39e2-bf0b-7584ecbc54c0 Do you have a trusted girlfriend? Do you know how to find one or perhaps you don’t think you need one? Your husband shouldn’t be your only friend. Listen to this episode to learn why you might be missing out and not even know it!

In this episode we will learn: 

  • Why you can’t always talk to your husband about what’s bothering you
  • How relationships (friendships) work both ways
  • How to identify if you’re utilizing your friends?
  • Why you may have access to these friends but find yourself hiding out? 

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]]> Do you have a trusted girlfriend? Do you know how to find one or perhaps you don’t think you need one? Your husband shouldn’t be your only friend. Listen to this episode to learn why you might be missing out and not even know it!

In this episode we will learn: 

  • Why you can’t always talk to your husband about what’s bothering you
  • How relationships (friendships) work both ways
  • How to identify if you’re utilizing your friends?
  • Why you may have access to these friends but find yourself hiding out? 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1318 73 full Now is the time to make lasting change in your marriage! Now is the time to make lasting change in your marriage! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/now-is-the-time-to-make-lasting-change-in-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/now-is-the-time-to-make-lasting-change-in-your-marriage/#comments Thu, 22 Jul 2021 10:57:08 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a51f66ec-758f-3c35-9f80-deae6e4b71cc Are you tired of complaining about your marriage and ready to make a lasting change?

Are you tired of feeling like your husband is just a roommate?

Are you tired of feeling unloved, undesired, and unsexy when you KNOW that you are (or at least you once were!)

If you want to feel WANTED again. Desired by your husband.

If you want to feel like he is your best friend again because you love your husband, he is a good man - you just kinda hate your marriage right now. 

NOW is your time.

If you have been on the fence about the course.

NOW is your time.

If you couldn’t afford it before, NOW IS YOUR TIME!!!!

 

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]]> Are you tired of complaining about your marriage and ready to make a lasting change?

Are you tired of feeling like your husband is just a roommate?

Are you tired of feeling unloved, undesired, and unsexy when you KNOW that you are (or at least you once were!)

If you want to feel WANTED again. Desired by your husband.

If you want to feel like he is your best friend again because you love your husband, he is a good man - you just kinda hate your marriage right now. 

NOW is your time.

If you have been on the fence about the course.

NOW is your time.

If you couldn’t afford it before, NOW IS YOUR TIME!!!!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 722 72 bonus Shhh! I have a confession about surrender... Shhh! I have a confession about surrender... https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/shhh-i-have-a-confession-about-surrender/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/shhh-i-have-a-confession-about-surrender/#comments Wed, 21 Jul 2021 19:18:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1fe11e11-502c-31b5-bb28-6940f235d150 I give you guys a little confession about what is going on with me lately- maybe something similar is going on with you? 

 

Click HERE for my link to the Surrender Chart.

 

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]]> I give you guys a little confession about what is going on with me lately- maybe something similar is going on with you? 

 

Click HERE for my link to the Surrender Chart.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1092 71 full E70// Being a Grace Fueled Wife even in the midst of Separation or divorce E70// Being a Grace Fueled Wife even in the midst of Separation or divorce https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/being-a-grace-fueled-wife-even-in-the-midst-of-separation-or-divorce/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/being-a-grace-fueled-wife-even-in-the-midst-of-separation-or-divorce/#comments Mon, 28 Jun 2021 15:28:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/f8f41e13-0f7a-3e26-8451-e14841bf1e64 Do you feel like you’ve been the perfect wife yet you find yourself still in the midst of separation or divorce? This could be one of the hardest times EVER to show grace in your marriage. 

 

This story with my guest, Yancey Snavely, will give you hope, inspiration, and some tips to handle your current situation with grace. 

 

Even if you’re not in the midst of separation or divorce you will still find some great nuggets of wisdom to implement or share!!

 

Did you love our guest today? You can find her at 

www.everlastingchoice.com

www.Trinitychoice.com

 

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]]> Do you feel like you’ve been the perfect wife yet you find yourself still in the midst of separation or divorce? This could be one of the hardest times EVER to show grace in your marriage. 

 

This story with my guest, Yancey Snavely, will give you hope, inspiration, and some tips to handle your current situation with grace. 

 

Even if you’re not in the midst of separation or divorce you will still find some great nuggets of wisdom to implement or share!!

 

Did you love our guest today? You can find her at 

www.everlastingchoice.com

www.Trinitychoice.com

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 3024 70 full What is the opposite of the crazy train: How can I have that in my marriage? What is the opposite of the crazy train: How can I have that in my marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-is-the-opposite-of-the-crazy-train-and-how-do-i-achieve-that-in-my-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-is-the-opposite-of-the-crazy-train-and-how-do-i-achieve-that-in-my-marriage/#comments Mon, 21 Jun 2021 12:53:02 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/31280922-3d23-3de8-a729-ed2a941503d1 The Energizing cycle is the opposite of the Crazy cycle per Dr. Eggerichs’ book Love and Respect. In this episode, we explore what that is and what are the attitudes, behaviors, and words that are most meaningful for bringing change towards a deeper connection in marriage.

 

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]]> The Energizing cycle is the opposite of the Crazy cycle per Dr. Eggerichs’ book Love and Respect. In this episode, we explore what that is and what are the attitudes, behaviors, and words that are most meaningful for bringing change towards a deeper connection in marriage.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1783 69 full Is your marriage riding the crazy train? Is your marriage riding the crazy train? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/is-your-marriage-riding-the-crazy-train/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/is-your-marriage-riding-the-crazy-train/#comments Mon, 14 Jun 2021 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/592a6436-4e79-3c1a-9476-e739b99be52d Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs’ book Love and Respect talks about the Crazy Cycle. In this episode, we dive into what exactly is the crazy cycle and how we can stop it in our own marriages. 

 

How can we reverse this train headed for separation or divorce and send it back to the land of loving connection, and intimacy with our husband? 

 

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]]> Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs’ book Love and Respect talks about the Crazy Cycle. In this episode, we dive into what exactly is the crazy cycle and how we can stop it in our own marriages. 

 

How can we reverse this train headed for separation or divorce and send it back to the land of loving connection, and intimacy with our husband? 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1413 68 full What is a pattern interrupt and how can it change my marriage? What is a pattern interrupt and how can it change my marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-is-a-pattern-interrupt-and-how-can-it-change-my-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-is-a-pattern-interrupt-and-how-can-it-change-my-marriage/#comments Wed, 09 Jun 2021 12:30:09 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/9107e29d-1952-3f38-a9d7-4efac7ea5f78 Are you living in recurring beliefs or responses that are not always healthy? Feeling stuck in a mundane life? Does your Roommate... er.... your husband have you frustrated? 

This week we go into a deep teaching and some self-coaching on what exactly is a pattern interrupt and how it can transform our life and marriage!

 

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This week we go into a deep teaching and some self-coaching on what exactly is a pattern interrupt and how it can transform our life and marriage!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 931 67 full E66// What is my favorite hack for a spicy marriage? E66// What is my favorite hack for a spicy marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-is-my-favorite-hack-for-a-spicy-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-is-my-favorite-hack-for-a-spicy-marriage/#comments Wed, 02 Jun 2021 00:05:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/dfaca5c6-1f74-3cb7-a7d8-88bf6329aeb0 There are so many tips and tricks we hear to build healthy marriages - here is my favorite one by far!!! Learn how to take your marriage from feeling like boring roommates to a relationship that is spicy and fresh in just TWO WORDS.

 

These two words have helped us and so many others break out of the doldrums of everyday life and into a life that is new fresh and that we don’t need a vacation from. 

 

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]]> There are so many tips and tricks we hear to build healthy marriages - here is my favorite one by far!!! Learn how to take your marriage from feeling like boring roommates to a relationship that is spicy and fresh in just TWO WORDS.

 

These two words have helped us and so many others break out of the doldrums of everyday life and into a life that is new fresh and that we don’t need a vacation from. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 942 66 full E65// What does it take to build a lasting marriage? E65// What does it take to build a lasting marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-does-it-take-to-build-a-lasting-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-does-it-take-to-build-a-lasting-marriage/#comments Wed, 26 May 2021 00:30:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/594cd82d-9af3-3c6a-b7ad-91988ef3aabe Feeling discouraged and hopeless about your marriage and want to know what it really takes to build a marriage that lasts? 

Here are some encouraging words and practical advice to take ACTION today!!!

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]]> Feeling discouraged and hopeless about your marriage and want to know what it really takes to build a marriage that lasts? 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 936 65 full E64// How to be a gracious wife when you’re hurting E64// How to be a gracious wife when you’re hurting https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-be-a-gracious-wife-when-youre-hurting/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-be-a-gracious-wife-when-youre-hurting/#comments Mon, 24 May 2021 14:56:10 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ed85d238-7a6a-33bb-8995-3d3ccd9acd1f Are you dealing with frustration and hurt in your marriage and just don’t know HOW to be gracious? You find yourself wondering, is there  ever an instance when I don’t actually HAVE to be gracious? All these questions answered in today’s episode which is an interview I did for the Full on Purpose Podcast with Becky Williams. 

 

I give a little bit of my story and how I learned to be a gracious wife when I was hurting and I give you tips to do the same. 

 

I leave you with this prayer today. 

Father God, I ask you to fill my sisters with your unlimited grace today. Heal their hearts and hurts. You see each and every woman and what she is going through. You alone can bring healing. Father, we were not meant to be alone. So I ask you to mend the brokenness in her relationships and marriage today. Allow them to forgive as you forgive and to be strong in knowing that you will fight for them and protect them. 

 

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]]> Are you dealing with frustration and hurt in your marriage and just don’t know HOW to be gracious? You find yourself wondering, is there  ever an instance when I don’t actually HAVE to be gracious? All these questions answered in today’s episode which is an interview I did for the Full on Purpose Podcast with Becky Williams. 

 

I give a little bit of my story and how I learned to be a gracious wife when I was hurting and I give you tips to do the same. 

 

I leave you with this prayer today. 

Father God, I ask you to fill my sisters with your unlimited grace today. Heal their hearts and hurts. You see each and every woman and what she is going through. You alone can bring healing. Father, we were not meant to be alone. So I ask you to mend the brokenness in her relationships and marriage today. Allow them to forgive as you forgive and to be strong in knowing that you will fight for them and protect them. 

 

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https://www.fullonpurpose.com/

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2566 64 full E62// Does your husband get mad at you, for getting mad at him? E62// Does your husband get mad at you, for getting mad at him? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/does-your-husband-get-mad-at-you-for-getting-mad-at-him/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/does-your-husband-get-mad-at-you-for-getting-mad-at-him/#comments Mon, 17 May 2021 16:02:58 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c4977504-f75f-3208-8591-b05a6ebc8c05 Has this ever happened to you? It can be frustrating when you are upset about something but your spouse just gets mad at you as if he doesn't have any fault. What do we do in this situation? How do we

1- Prevent it

2- State our needs and interests in a way that will not cause a fight. 

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]]> Has this ever happened to you? It can be frustrating when you are upset about something but your spouse just gets mad at you as if he doesn't have any fault. What do we do in this situation? How do we

1- Prevent it

2- State our needs and interests in a way that will not cause a fight. 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1037 62 full E61// What do I do when my husband communicates with me in anger? E61// What do I do when my husband communicates with me in anger? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-do-i-do-when-my-husband-communicates-with-me-in-anger/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-do-i-do-when-my-husband-communicates-with-me-in-anger/#comments Tue, 11 May 2021 22:17:34 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/9a69dc3b-e7de-3e40-9b4a-85eb0b0d0503 In this episode, I answer a listener’s question of how to react when her husband is communicating with her in anger. We look at 4 steps you can take to still feel seen, and heard while not engaging your husband in the fight he’s (unconsciously?) looking for. 

 

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]]> In this episode, I answer a listener’s question of how to react when her husband is communicating with her in anger. We look at 4 steps you can take to still feel seen, and heard while not engaging your husband in the fight he’s (unconsciously?) looking for. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1073 61 full E60// How to fix your marriage in three (easy?) steps! E60// How to fix your marriage in three (easy?) steps! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-fix-your-marriage-in-three-easy-steps/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-fix-your-marriage-in-three-easy-steps/#comments Wed, 05 May 2021 15:41:10 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/8ee042af-fba0-30e9-8cab-69427f31e8a4 In this episode we will talk about three steps to fixing your marriage that are included in the Grace Fueled Marriage Method

1- The Routine 

2- The Root

3- The Roadmap

 

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]]> In this episode we will talk about three steps to fixing your marriage that are included in the Grace Fueled Marriage Method

1- The Routine 

2- The Root

3- The Roadmap

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 873 60 full E59// Finding the RESOLVE to fight for our marriage when we’re frustrated E59// Finding the RESOLVE to fight for our marriage when we’re frustrated https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/finding-the-resolve-to-fight-for-our-marriage-when-were-frustrated/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/finding-the-resolve-to-fight-for-our-marriage-when-were-frustrated/#comments Wed, 28 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/7b95c7d2-bbc7-3fa5-a001-31680ea7deeb When we’re angry and frustrated in marriage it may be difficult to find the motivation to fight for it and continue. We may find ourselves frustrated when we feel that we’re the only ones who are doing the work. Learn to find the RESOLVE to work on your marriage despite the difficulty you may be feeling in it. 

 

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]]> When we’re angry and frustrated in marriage it may be difficult to find the motivation to fight for it and continue. We may find ourselves frustrated when we feel that we’re the only ones who are doing the work. Learn to find the RESOLVE to work on your marriage despite the difficulty you may be feeling in it. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1223 59 full E58// How to fight for your marriage when your husband isn’t showing up E58// How to fight for your marriage when your husband isn’t showing up https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-fight-for-your-marriage-when-your-husband-isnt-showing-up/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-fight-for-your-marriage-when-your-husband-isnt-showing-up/#comments Tue, 27 Apr 2021 12:37:35 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/17c3ece5-09a5-3509-82d6-8c5558228914 Do you feel alone in your marriage? Does your husband refuse to participate? Perhaps he won't go to counseling, church, or family events. Do you feel like roommates rather than soulmates? Two people who do life together but he doesn't want to connect?  

Well then - this is the episode for you! Listen in while we learn to fight for our marriage when it seems we are the only one in the relationship who cares to put in the effort. 

 

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]]> Do you feel alone in your marriage? Does your husband refuse to participate? Perhaps he won't go to counseling, church, or family events. Do you feel like roommates rather than soulmates? Two people who do life together but he doesn't want to connect?  

Well then - this is the episode for you! Listen in while we learn to fight for our marriage when it seems we are the only one in the relationship who cares to put in the effort. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 994 58 full E57// Have you lost yourself in your marriage? E57// Have you lost yourself in your marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/have-you-lost-yourself-in-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/have-you-lost-yourself-in-your-marriage/#comments Mon, 12 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1b75c73b-3ac5-309c-983a-e1de238f8721 Have you lost yourself in your marriage? Do you find yourself waiting on your husband to make plans for the weekend? Do you spend so much time catering to his needs that you find yourself without time to do anything for yourself? Do you find yourself resentful of your husband’s freedom saying things like “I wish I was able to do that with my day” Have you forgotten who you are in your efforts to be a “good wife?“

 

This episode is for you dear sister! We’re going to talk about how we can make changes in our marriage without our husband having to change a thing! Are you skeptical? Tune in spend the next 10-20 minutes with me and let me know your thoughts. I mean - what do you have to lose?

 

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]]> Have you lost yourself in your marriage? Do you find yourself waiting on your husband to make plans for the weekend? Do you spend so much time catering to his needs that you find yourself without time to do anything for yourself? Do you find yourself resentful of your husband’s freedom saying things like “I wish I was able to do that with my day” Have you forgotten who you are in your efforts to be a “good wife?“

 

This episode is for you dear sister! We’re going to talk about how we can make changes in our marriage without our husband having to change a thing! Are you skeptical? Tune in spend the next 10-20 minutes with me and let me know your thoughts. I mean - what do you have to lose?

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1248 57 full E56// How to stop an argument in your marriage BEFORE it starts. E56// How to stop an argument in your marriage BEFORE it starts. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-stop-an-argument-in-your-marriage-before-it-starts/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-stop-an-argument-in-your-marriage-before-it-starts/#comments Wed, 07 Apr 2021 13:21:42 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a59881da-dd11-3283-8898-22c0ada71c9e L.A.S.T. is my proven 4 step method to stopping an argument before it starts. If you want a healthier marriage without all the silly arguments, tune in!!!!

In this episode, we learn how to make our marriages L.A.S.T. by 

 

L: Leading with the Apology - A: Asking not to be interrupted - S: Stating our request and T: Telling him we love him 

 

This formula may not solve all the problems in your marriage but I promise, you will start to start to see changes if you begin to apply some of the principles I teach in this episode. 

 

Also! The past episodes I referenced are here: or you can scroll back in whatever platform you’re listening from. 

 

Episode #47

How to craft an effective apology

https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-wsezu-f829c0

 

Episode# 54

“Love and respect” A strong-willed woman’s perspective. How to Cherish and Champion your marriage 

https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-pjrkc-ff02aa

 

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In this episode, we learn how to make our marriages L.A.S.T. by 

 

L: Leading with the Apology - A: Asking not to be interrupted - S: Stating our request and T: Telling him we love him 

 

This formula may not solve all the problems in your marriage but I promise, you will start to start to see changes if you begin to apply some of the principles I teach in this episode. 

 

Also! The past episodes I referenced are here: or you can scroll back in whatever platform you’re listening from. 

 

Episode #47

How to craft an effective apology

https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-wsezu-f829c0

 

Episode# 54

“Love and respect” A strong-willed woman’s perspective. How to Cherish and Champion your marriage 

https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-pjrkc-ff02aa

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1200 56 full E55// Love and Respect - A strong-willed woman’s perspective. How to Cherish and Champion in your marriage. E55// Love and Respect - A strong-willed woman’s perspective. How to Cherish and Champion in your marriage. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/love-and-respect-a-strong-willed-womans-perspective/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/love-and-respect-a-strong-willed-womans-perspective/#comments Mon, 29 Mar 2021 05:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1799788b-ec49-3593-8f39-e63175aae9ba The book Love and Respect by Dr. Emmerson Eggerich can be both transformative and controversial. I found its principles to be really helpful for me on my journey yet have found that SO MANY WOMEN take issue with the way it's written. 

Understandably so, It's hard to hear from a MAN who has never been married to a difficult man that he MUST respect his spouse. Then again, we've never been married to a disrespectful wife... Either way, I break down the book and scripture from which it's based to offer us a fresh way of thinking about our marriage roles today. 

 

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]]> The book Love and Respect by Dr. Emmerson Eggerich can be both transformative and controversial. I found its principles to be really helpful for me on my journey yet have found that SO MANY WOMEN take issue with the way it's written. 

Understandably so, It's hard to hear from a MAN who has never been married to a difficult man that he MUST respect his spouse. Then again, we've never been married to a disrespectful wife... Either way, I break down the book and scripture from which it's based to offer us a fresh way of thinking about our marriage roles today. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1532 55 full E54// Help! I think I’m married to a Narcissist with Ronica Cormier E54// Help! I think I’m married to a Narcissist with Ronica Cormier https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-i-think-im-married-to-a-narcissist-with-ronica-cormier/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-i-think-im-married-to-a-narcissist-with-ronica-cormier/#comments Mon, 22 Mar 2021 15:17:25 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ee599900-1dec-3b80-9f55-4973628f8a8d In almost every episode I give a disclaimer about how this info doesn’t apply if you are in an abusive relationship. I talk about how you should first focus on getting yourself safe, then if you feel led working on that marriage from a safe place. Unfortunately, abuse can come in many forms and when that abuse is not physical, it can leave the abused person confused. 

 

In today’s episode, my friend certified Trauma and Resilience Coach, Ronica Cormier host of the Mama trauma podcast talks to us about what it means to live with a Narcissist. This episode will help you identify narcissistic behavior and maybe shed light on some of your questions. 

 

In this episode you will learn:

 

5 Signs you are living with a narcissist:

1- Narcissistic individuals are self-centered

2- Manipulate the situation

3- Pass the blame and don’t take accountability for their actions

4- Confrontations either end up in a blow-up of Narcissistic rage or a “Word salad” 

5- They lack empathy

 

 

What does God’s word say about how we should treat our abusers? 

What are some ways we can move forward?

 

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]]> In almost every episode I give a disclaimer about how this info doesn’t apply if you are in an abusive relationship. I talk about how you should first focus on getting yourself safe, then if you feel led working on that marriage from a safe place. Unfortunately, abuse can come in many forms and when that abuse is not physical, it can leave the abused person confused. 

 

In today’s episode, my friend certified Trauma and Resilience Coach, Ronica Cormier host of the Mama trauma podcast talks to us about what it means to live with a Narcissist. This episode will help you identify narcissistic behavior and maybe shed light on some of your questions. 

 

In this episode you will learn:

 

5 Signs you are living with a narcissist:

1- Narcissistic individuals are self-centered

2- Manipulate the situation

3- Pass the blame and don’t take accountability for their actions

4- Confrontations either end up in a blow-up of Narcissistic rage or a “Word salad” 

5- They lack empathy

 

 

What does God’s word say about how we should treat our abusers? 

What are some ways we can move forward?

 

Did you love our guest? Here is where to find her!

 

Social Media

Learn More: http://ronicacormier.com

IG: https://instagram.com/ronicacormier97

Mama Trauma Sisterhood: https://bit.ly/mtsisterhood

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2131 54 full E53// Fighting for your marriage when your husband doesn’t believe E53// Fighting for your marriage when your husband doesn’t believe https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/fighting-for-your-husband-when-he-doesnt-believe/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/fighting-for-your-husband-when-he-doesnt-believe/#comments Wed, 17 Mar 2021 05:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/78773140-854a-3f48-b50f-40c5bdeac7a8 Are you married to an unbelieving husband? This is what scripture says about it... How can you honor God AND your husband at this time? 

 

When we are married to an unbelieving husband, or even a husband who is a believer but is currently far from God in their walk, we can have the tendency to want to jump in and fix or change the situation. Here are some alternate actions we can take to honor your husband’s space. 

 

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When we are married to an unbelieving husband, or even a husband who is a believer but is currently far from God in their walk, we can have the tendency to want to jump in and fix or change the situation. Here are some alternate actions we can take to honor your husband’s space. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1854 53 full E52// The Script: What to do when your husband isn’t living up to your expectations. E52// The Script: What to do when your husband isn’t living up to your expectations. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/the-script-what-to-do-when-your-husband-isnt-living-up-to-your-expectations/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/the-script-what-to-do-when-your-husband-isnt-living-up-to-your-expectations/#comments Fri, 12 Mar 2021 12:39:52 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/20bc49d8-358e-3a5c-9cad-e61296ed3ce7 Are tired of being a mind reader? Do you feel like “he should have known”? Are you frustrated that your husband hasn’t done the things you expect of him? In this episode, we explore “The Script” and what to do when our husbands are not living up to our expectations. 

 

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]]> Are tired of being a mind reader? Do you feel like “he should have known”? Are you frustrated that your husband hasn’t done the things you expect of him? In this episode, we explore “The Script” and what to do when our husbands are not living up to our expectations. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1150 52 full E51// Help! We’ve tried everything and our marriage hasn’t gotten any better: How to set boundaries in your marriage E51// Help! We’ve tried everything and our marriage hasn’t gotten any better: How to set boundaries in your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-weve-tried-everything-and-our-marriage-hasnt-gotten-any-better-how-to-set-boundaries-in-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-weve-tried-everything-and-our-marriage-hasnt-gotten-any-better-how-to-set-boundaries-in-your-marriage/#comments Wed, 10 Feb 2021 15:33:26 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/18ec488d-2b05-39cf-8d9c-fe004de9f501 This topic came from several different posts I've read from wives saying how they’ve tried everything even counseling but their husband continues to be controlling, watch porn or even over-spend while they expect their wives to pick up the slack. 

These women are desperate and frustrated. The common theme I see that they have little to NO boundaries.

 

In this episode you will learn:

5:05 Why are boundaries in marriage important?

5:26 How do I show grace to my husband without being a doormat?

5:53 What is a boundary anyway?

7:54 what happens when our boundaries aren’t clear?

8:22 What do boundaries in marriage look like? 

10:00 How can I honor God while still honoring my boundaries? 

12:38 How can setting boundaries become manipulative?

15:36 What are the 10 Laws of boundaries? 

 

 

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]]> This topic came from several different posts I've read from wives saying how they’ve tried everything even counseling but their husband continues to be controlling, watch porn or even over-spend while they expect their wives to pick up the slack. 

These women are desperate and frustrated. The common theme I see that they have little to NO boundaries.

 

In this episode you will learn:

5:05 Why are boundaries in marriage important?

5:26 How do I show grace to my husband without being a doormat?

5:53 What is a boundary anyway?

7:54 what happens when our boundaries aren’t clear?

8:22 What do boundaries in marriage look like? 

10:00 How can I honor God while still honoring my boundaries? 

12:38 How can setting boundaries become manipulative?

15:36 What are the 10 Laws of boundaries? 

 

 

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Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!

The Community...

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1156 51 full Are you walking through a dark or uncertain season? Are you walking through a dark or uncertain season? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/are-you-walking-through-a-dark-or-uncertain-season/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/are-you-walking-through-a-dark-or-uncertain-season/#comments Fri, 05 Feb 2021 14:40:12 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/899618b4-ff53-35ba-8be6-3798c12f05e7 We all have seasons of darkness or uncertainty. You are NOT alone. This is an encouragement for just one of those times. 

 

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]]> We all have seasons of darkness or uncertainty. You are NOT alone. This is an encouragement for just one of those times. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 695 50 full Separation to salvation p2: Fighting over finances? Practical tips to achieve financial goals without an MLM Separation to salvation p2: Fighting over finances? Practical tips to achieve financial goals without an MLM https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/separation-to-salvation-p2-fighting-over-finances-practical-tips-to-achieve-financial-goals-without-an-mlm/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/separation-to-salvation-p2-fighting-over-finances-practical-tips-to-achieve-financial-goals-without-an-mlm/#comments Fri, 29 Jan 2021 13:01:02 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/973f77ee-a50a-3d36-92c7-5e3e7e250d6c Now that we have heard about how God redeemed this marriage, Lindsay and I have a candid discussion on fighting over finances, a passive income strategy without an MLM, and how to build generational wealth for your family through real estate.

 

What you will learn:

4:12 Why do couples fight over finances?

6:22 What was the biggest growth point in the area of marital finances?

8:10 How can you achieve your financial goals together

10:46 What specific steps did they take to achieve their financial dream and move to the log cabin in the woods

20:063 Step Recap

20:48 3 types of income

23:14 4 Steps to getting out of the rat race

25:16 Passive income strategy: What is passive income and what is it NOT

34:20 How does real estate create generational wealth

 

 

 

Are you interested to hear more from our guest?

Lindsay Sutherland can be found on the Passive income Examiner Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/passive-income-examiner-work-from-home-freelancers/id1534495831

 

Facebook Group: Escape your 9-5

https://www.facebook.com/groups/escapeyour925/

 

Her course:

www.Rentalincome.gr8.com

 

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]]> Now that we have heard about how God redeemed this marriage, Lindsay and I have a candid discussion on fighting over finances, a passive income strategy without an MLM, and how to build generational wealth for your family through real estate.

 

What you will learn:

4:12 Why do couples fight over finances?

6:22 What was the biggest growth point in the area of marital finances?

8:10 How can you achieve your financial goals together

10:46 What specific steps did they take to achieve their financial dream and move to the log cabin in the woods

20:063 Step Recap

20:48 3 types of income

23:14 4 Steps to getting out of the rat race

25:16 Passive income strategy: What is passive income and what is it NOT

34:20 How does real estate create generational wealth

 

 

 

Are you interested to hear more from our guest?

Lindsay Sutherland can be found on the Passive income Examiner Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/passive-income-examiner-work-from-home-freelancers/id1534495831

 

Facebook Group: Escape your 9-5

https://www.facebook.com/groups/escapeyour925/

 

Her course:

www.Rentalincome.gr8.com

 

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For more: join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2807 49 full From the brink of Separation to Salvation part 1: How God redeemed one marriage and delivered this woman’s dream of her log cabin in the woods From the brink of Separation to Salvation part 1: How God redeemed one marriage and delivered this woman’s dream of her log cabin in the woods https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/a-marriagefromthebrinkof-separationto-salvation-part-1howgod-redeemed-one-marriageanddeliveredthiswomans-dream-of-herlogcabinin-the-woods/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/a-marriagefromthebrinkof-separationto-salvation-part-1howgod-redeemed-one-marriageanddeliveredthiswomans-dream-of-herlogcabinin-the-woods/#comments Fri, 29 Jan 2021 12:02:53 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1e7b7bbc-aa6d-3c38-a1bf-45ef9d428fd3 This episode started out as a teaching on smart financial investments as a couple, then towards the end, the Holy Spirt had our guest reveal her testimony of how God redeemed her marriage BEFORE he made this couple's financial dreams of owning a log cabin in the woods come true.

 

Now, this episode is a 2 part series and in part one, we listen to our guest share her story of the power of God’s redemption in marriage and how setting healthy boundaries and partnering with God can make all the difference.

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]]> This episode started out as a teaching on smart financial investments as a couple, then towards the end, the Holy Spirt had our guest reveal her testimony of how God redeemed her marriage BEFORE he made this couple's financial dreams of owning a log cabin in the woods come true.

 

Now, this episode is a 2 part series and in part one, we listen to our guest share her story of the power of God’s redemption in marriage and how setting healthy boundaries and partnering with God can make all the difference.

Are you new around here and want to know more about me?

 

For more: join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1793 48 full E47//How to craft an effective apology E47//How to craft an effective apology https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/a-lesson-in-apologies-what-makes-an-effective-apology/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/a-lesson-in-apologies-what-makes-an-effective-apology/#comments Wed, 20 Jan 2021 19:36:55 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/60f5da52-8d80-3ff6-b785-3af6f56fdfd9 Mastering the art of an apology can lead to overall feelings of healthy communication. One of the most frustrating feelings in a marriage or disagreement in any relationship is the thought of an insincere apology. In his book “When Sorry isn’t enough” Gary Chapman teaches his finding’s on different apology languages and how adding certain components to your apology can help the offended party feel it’s more sincere. This episode is a brief summary of that teaching with a real-life example of how carefully crafting an apology can really help the other person feel truly understood.

 

Click here to take your apology language quiz:

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]]> Mastering the art of an apology can lead to overall feelings of healthy communication. One of the most frustrating feelings in a marriage or disagreement in any relationship is the thought of an insincere apology. In his book “When Sorry isn’t enough” Gary Chapman teaches his finding’s on different apology languages and how adding certain components to your apology can help the offended party feel it’s more sincere. This episode is a brief summary of that teaching with a real-life example of how carefully crafting an apology can really help the other person feel truly understood.

 

Click here to take your apology language quiz:

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1222 47 full E//46 How do we heal after infidelity and my husband’s porn addiction? w. Restored2More Clint & Chastity Munoz E//46 How do we heal after infidelity and my husband’s porn addiction? w. Restored2More Clint & Chastity Munoz https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-do-we-heal-after-infidelity-and-my-husbands-porn-addiction/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-do-we-heal-after-infidelity-and-my-husbands-porn-addiction/#comments Wed, 13 Jan 2021 19:18:25 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/0bd0c92b-ea28-3cb8-8227-d0fed06578be In this episode, Restored2More ministry takes us through their healing journey and how God helped redeem their marriage from infidelity and porn. They discuss how to rebuild trust in the marriage after the betrayal and give us a story of hope.

 

Clinton and Charity Munoz created a ministry called Restored 2 More. It birthed from their own story of dealing with healing and restoration after walking through a very trying season in their marriage. Restored 2 More was created to help couples rebuild intimacy after infidelity and help women heal from betrayal trauma. They have a podcast called Restored 2 More, a YouTube channel with weekly Vlogs sharing on topics, Workshops, Coaching, and are in the process of co-authoring their first book. They have been married for 7 years with 3 little boys, all under the age of 4. 

 

 

 

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Restored2More Resources:

Website:

https://restored2more.com/

Podcast Link:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/restored-2-more/id1503954507

Youtube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsIU6bNQu6_cggvTaE8lNKQ/featured?sub_confirmation=1

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/Restored-2-More-108863067511392

]]> In this episode, Restored2More ministry takes us through their healing journey and how God helped redeem their marriage from infidelity and porn. They discuss how to rebuild trust in the marriage after the betrayal and give us a story of hope.

 

Clinton and Charity Munoz created a ministry called Restored 2 More. It birthed from their own story of dealing with healing and restoration after walking through a very trying season in their marriage. Restored 2 More was created to help couples rebuild intimacy after infidelity and help women heal from betrayal trauma. They have a podcast called Restored 2 More, a YouTube channel with weekly Vlogs sharing on topics, Workshops, Coaching, and are in the process of co-authoring their first book. They have been married for 7 years with 3 little boys, all under the age of 4. 

 

 

 

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Restored2More Resources:

Website:

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Podcast Link:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/restored-2-more/id1503954507

Youtube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsIU6bNQu6_cggvTaE8lNKQ/featured?sub_confirmation=1

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/

Facebook:

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 3175 46 full What does it mean to be fueled with grace? What does it mean to be fueled with grace? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-does-it-mean-to-be-fueled-with-grace/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/what-does-it-mean-to-be-fueled-with-grace/#comments Mon, 11 Jan 2021 06:50:18 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/fb6b7887-5f79-3232-9d1e-27a270ed0d38 Grace can be an esoteric word that we don’t really understand. Like, the word love, grace can be a word that we have trouble practicing, grasping, or even putting into practice. In this episode, we learn what it means to be a Grace Fueled Wife and how we can apply this to our lives.

 

For more: join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

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]]> Grace can be an esoteric word that we don’t really understand. Like, the word love, grace can be a word that we have trouble practicing, grasping, or even putting into practice. In this episode, we learn what it means to be a Grace Fueled Wife and how we can apply this to our lives.

 

For more: join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity/

 

Reach out to me directly on Instagram:

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1187 45 full From Grievances to Grace: Staying S.T.R.O.N.G.in your marriage when your husband isn't on the same page. From Grievances to Grace: Staying S.T.R.O.N.G.in your marriage when your husband isn't on the same page. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/from-grievances-to-grace-staying-strongin-your-marriage-when-your-husband-isnt-on-the-same-page/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/from-grievances-to-grace-staying-strongin-your-marriage-when-your-husband-isnt-on-the-same-page/#comments Wed, 30 Dec 2020 05:00:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/9e186b7e-e276-3c32-9d63-b8028a86569a Every marriage has had the experience where the couple isn’t on the same page. This often causes disagreements and strife.

Well, how do you move forward in achieving your well-laid 2021 goals if you aren’t in agreement on those goals? This episode gives six steps to stay S.T.R.O.N.G. in your marriage during those times.

 

 

For more live train, join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

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]]> Every marriage has had the experience where the couple isn’t on the same page. This often causes disagreements and strife.

Well, how do you move forward in achieving your well-laid 2021 goals if you aren’t in agreement on those goals? This episode gives six steps to stay S.T.R.O.N.G. in your marriage during those times.

 

 

For more live train, join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

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Become an Insider! I have a gift for you if you do go check out. This is the workbook that accompanies this episode.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1015 44 full Dream Planning for 2021 - How do I accomplish my goals, what happens when God is silent on that journey? Dream Planning for 2021 - How do I accomplish my goals, what happens when God is silent on that journey? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/dream-planning-for-2021-how-do-i-accomplish-my-goals-what-happens-when-god-is-silent-on-that-journey/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/dream-planning-for-2021-how-do-i-accomplish-my-goals-what-happens-when-god-is-silent-on-that-journey/#comments Mon, 28 Dec 2020 14:39:37 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/54a62707-12b6-304d-a78c-c0de28e77e90 Every year I take some time to plan my goals and dreams for the upcoming year, and while I may not have achieved EVERYTHING I wanted - hello global pandemic! I have gotten so much further than I was.

 

In this episode, we take some time to think about our dreams for the new year, break down a step-by-step way to accomplish them, AND learn what we should do if we aren’t really hearing from God on the journey.

 

 

Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

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]]> Every year I take some time to plan my goals and dreams for the upcoming year, and while I may not have achieved EVERYTHING I wanted - hello global pandemic! I have gotten so much further than I was.

 

In this episode, we take some time to think about our dreams for the new year, break down a step-by-step way to accomplish them, AND learn what we should do if we aren’t really hearing from God on the journey.

 

 

Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

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Become an Insider! I have a gift for you if you do go check out. This is the workbook that accompanies this episode.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1413 43 full Enneagram 101 for Christians w. Life Coach Stephani Cook Enneagram 101 for Christians w. Life Coach Stephani Cook https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/enneagram-101-for-christians-w-life-coach-stephani-cook/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/enneagram-101-for-christians-w-life-coach-stephani-cook/#comments Wed, 16 Dec 2020 05:00:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/bb33f1cd-3e87-3578-a45f-f60c88b1c4cf Understanding what motivates us to do what we do can bring transformation to our marriage. It can give us that little bit of extra understanding and grace we need to from a place of fighting and bitterness to understanding and love.  In this episode, life coach Stephani Cook teaches us the basics of the Enneagram as a tool for understanding not only our motivations but also our spouses.

 

If you want to learn more about Stephani, this is where you can find her:

website http://www.stephanicook.org

Facebook http://www.facebook.com/stephaniscook,

Instagram http://www.instagram.com/stephani_cook or

Youtube https://youtube.com/channel/UCagrE4XpDybdmpj4fKA-aQA.

 

 

Access to the FREE 12 days of Christmas training for moms looking to live life with more purpose and productivity

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]]> Understanding what motivates us to do what we do can bring transformation to our marriage. It can give us that little bit of extra understanding and grace we need to from a place of fighting and bitterness to understanding and love.  In this episode, life coach Stephani Cook teaches us the basics of the Enneagram as a tool for understanding not only our motivations but also our spouses.

 

If you want to learn more about Stephani, this is where you can find her:

website http://www.stephanicook.org

Facebook http://www.facebook.com/stephaniscook,

Instagram http://www.instagram.com/stephani_cook or

Youtube https://youtube.com/channel/UCagrE4XpDybdmpj4fKA-aQA.

 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2419 41 full E40// Do I NEED it or just WANT it? How understanding the difference can impact your marriage E40// Do I NEED it or just WANT it? How understanding the difference can impact your marriage https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/do-i-need-it-or-just-want-it-how-understanding-the-difference-can-impact-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/do-i-need-it-or-just-want-it-how-understanding-the-difference-can-impact-your-marriage/#comments Sat, 12 Dec 2020 14:40:29 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ddc4ec9b-c7f1-3b45-83b5-8362b12e8789 Many of us may have grown up with a completely different view of needs vs. wants than I teach in this episode. In it, we explore Maslow’s hierarchy of needs to identify and unmet needs we or our spouses might have. We then learn how ensuring those needs are met can greatly transform our marriage.

 

Here are some of the goodies I promised in the episode!!!

 

 

Your Coupon code for $10 off at Horatio Printing!

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Access to the FREE 12 days of Christmas training for moms looking to live life with more purpose and productivity

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Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

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Reach out to me directly on Instagram:

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]]> Many of us may have grown up with a completely different view of needs vs. wants than I teach in this episode. In it, we explore Maslow’s hierarchy of needs to identify and unmet needs we or our spouses might have. We then learn how ensuring those needs are met can greatly transform our marriage.

 

Here are some of the goodies I promised in the episode!!!

 

 

Your Coupon code for $10 off at Horatio Printing!

http://horacioprinting.refr.cc/beatrizfromthegracef

 

Access to the FREE 12 days of Christmas training for moms looking to live life with more purpose and productivity

www.bit.lysuccesssupportgroup.com

 

 

Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity/

 

Reach out to me directly on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

 

 

Become an Insider! I have a gift for you if you do go check out. This is the workbook that accompanies this episode.

gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1526 40 full Help! My husband is not attracted to me anymore. How to deal with it. Help! My husband is not attracted to me anymore. How to deal with it. https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-my-husband-is-not-attracted-to-me-anymore-how-to-deal-with-it/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/help-my-husband-is-not-attracted-to-me-anymore-how-to-deal-with-it/#comments Wed, 02 Dec 2020 10:34:09 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/6649764e-12ef-3e31-b9b2-b2b3721544fe The demands of life can take a toll, causing us to neglect our self-care, gain weight or simply become emotionally unhealthy. What should we do when our husbands seem to unattracted to us when this happens? He married me for better or worse, right?

 

In this episode, we did into those burning questions! Let me know your thoughts on the issue in our FB group:

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]]> The demands of life can take a toll, causing us to neglect our self-care, gain weight or simply become emotionally unhealthy. What should we do when our husbands seem to unattracted to us when this happens? He married me for better or worse, right?

 

In this episode, we did into those burning questions! Let me know your thoughts on the issue in our FB group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity/

 

Reach out to me directly on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

 

Become an Insider! I have a gift for you if you do go check out. This is the workbook that accompanies this episode.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1588 38 full E35// How to navigate biblical leadership as a strong-willed woman and the true effects of divorce E35// How to navigate biblical leadership as a strong-willed woman and the true effects of divorce https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-navigate-biblical-leadership-as-a-strong-willed-woman-and-the-true-effects-of-divorce/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-to-navigate-biblical-leadership-as-a-strong-willed-woman-and-the-true-effects-of-divorce/#comments Wed, 18 Nov 2020 05:00:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/37129b90-e8b2-36bb-9a5a-ee04ad591f0f Strong-willed women like us sometimes struggle with the idea of biblical leadership or our place in the world. This week’s guest, Rose Ore Owner of Global Rose Media and founder of the Latina Leaders Leaving a Legacy ministry talks to us about what it means to leave a legacy, the true effects of divorce, and how we can navigate biblical leadership as a strong-willed woman.

 

If you were inspired by our guest Rosa Ore here is where to find her!

 

Latina Leaders Leaving A Legacy

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or @latina_leaders_leaving_legacy

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/LatinaLeadersLeavingaLegacy

Website: http://latinaleaderslegacy.com/

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQdftfJc706Pq2IuNwJvGWw/videos

 

My Digital Marketing Business: 

Global Rose Media 

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]]> Strong-willed women like us sometimes struggle with the idea of biblical leadership or our place in the world. This week’s guest, Rose Ore Owner of Global Rose Media and founder of the Latina Leaders Leaving a Legacy ministry talks to us about what it means to leave a legacy, the true effects of divorce, and how we can navigate biblical leadership as a strong-willed woman.

 

If you were inspired by our guest Rosa Ore here is where to find her!

 

Latina Leaders Leaving A Legacy

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/latina_leaders_leaving_legacy/?hl=en

or @latina_leaders_leaving_legacy

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/LatinaLeadersLeavingaLegacy

Website: http://latinaleaderslegacy.com/

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQdftfJc706Pq2IuNwJvGWw/videos

 

My Digital Marketing Business: 

Global Rose Media 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/globalrosemedia/?hl=en

or @globalrosemedia     

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/globalrosemedia1

Website: globalrosemedia.com

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 3415 36 full E33// The importance of faith and prayer as a wife w. Micaela Deegan E33// The importance of faith and prayer as a wife w. Micaela Deegan https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/the-importance-of-faith-and-prayer-as-a-wife-w-micaela-deegan/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/the-importance-of-faith-and-prayer-as-a-wife-w-micaela-deegan/#comments Wed, 11 Nov 2020 05:00:00 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/4e163698-58a6-362a-8900-5fa5c588e2d2 Where does my passion for marriage come from? What does a grace-fueled marriage look like and what does it mean to be a praying wife?

All the answers in this episode which is an interview I did for the Coffee Jeans and Jesus podcast with my friend Micaela Deegan at https://coffeejeansjesus.com/

This story will give you hope for a healed marriage, let you know the importance of a wife's prayer to a Godly marriage.

 

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]]> Where does my passion for marriage come from? What does a grace-fueled marriage look like and what does it mean to be a praying wife?

All the answers in this episode which is an interview I did for the Coffee Jeans and Jesus podcast with my friend Micaela Deegan at https://coffeejeansjesus.com/

This story will give you hope for a healed marriage, let you know the importance of a wife's prayer to a Godly marriage.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2857 34 full E31// How do I allow my husband to lead when he is not a believer? E31// How do I allow my husband to lead when he is not a believer? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-do-i-allow-my-husband-to-lead-when-he-is-not-a-believer/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/how-do-i-allow-my-husband-to-lead-when-he-is-not-a-believer/#comments Wed, 04 Nov 2020 14:03:20 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/35a1f073-8bc1-3930-9ccb-a642600dad29 We’ve all heard the scriptures telling us that our husband is the leader in the household, yet we have an issue with allowing him to lead because our husband isn’t a believer - or isn’t as strong in his walk.

 

This episode will give you 3 tactical steps to allowing your husband to lead EVEN IF you don’t feel comfortable with his spiritual walk.

 

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]]> We’ve all heard the scriptures telling us that our husband is the leader in the household, yet we have an issue with allowing him to lead because our husband isn’t a believer - or isn’t as strong in his walk.

 

This episode will give you 3 tactical steps to allowing your husband to lead EVEN IF you don’t feel comfortable with his spiritual walk.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1668 32 full Systems for a Godly Marriage w. Chelsi Jo Systems for a Godly Marriage w. Chelsi Jo https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/systems-for-a-godly-marriage-w-chelsi-jo/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/systems-for-a-godly-marriage-w-chelsi-jo/#comments Wed, 28 Oct 2020 05:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/280c6506-8adc-3c8f-9c0d-52f5a770858f Have you felt overwhelmed in your life, business, motherhood, and marriage? Systems expert, Chelsi Jo, gives us a framework for maintaining a Godly marriage & the SECRET to her private marriage retreat, and her tips for a healthy marriage.

 

Did you love our guest? You can find her at https://www.chelsijo.co/

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]]> Have you felt overwhelmed in your life, business, motherhood, and marriage? Systems expert, Chelsi Jo, gives us a framework for maintaining a Godly marriage & the SECRET to her private marriage retreat, and her tips for a healthy marriage.

 

Did you love our guest? You can find her at https://www.chelsijo.co/

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2450 30 full E27// Help! I’m living in stable misery and feel like my husband is my roomate. What to do w. Dr. Lynyetta Willis E27// Help! I’m living in stable misery and feel like my husband is my roomate. What to do w. Dr. Lynyetta Willis https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e27-help-im-living-in-stable-misery-and-feel-like-my-husband-is-my-roomate-what-to-do-w-dr-lynyetta-willis/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e27-help-im-living-in-stable-misery-and-feel-like-my-husband-is-my-roomate-what-to-do-w-dr-lynyetta-willis/#comments Tue, 20 Oct 2020 05:00:00 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/b756aef4-bbc1-347d-a262-31b6b77e0ca4 Don't worry. We've all been there. Maybe you've been feeling like your husband is more of a roommate lately.  Every day is the same and it kind of feels like groundhogs day!

Sound familiar? Especially in these times, this phenomenon has become more and more the case. 

In this episode, Dr. Lynyetta Willis teaches us her P.A.T.H.S. to getting out of stable misery and getting back to a place of dynamic joy.

 

If this episode resonates with you, you're ready for some accountability, or you just want to chat about love, grace, and marriages - reach out to me!

 

If you loved our expert Dr. Lynetta Willis, you can find her here to learn all about her!

https://www.drlwillis.com/

 

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]]> Don't worry. We've all been there. Maybe you've been feeling like your husband is more of a roommate lately.  Every day is the same and it kind of feels like groundhogs day!

Sound familiar? Especially in these times, this phenomenon has become more and more the case. 

In this episode, Dr. Lynyetta Willis teaches us her P.A.T.H.S. to getting out of stable misery and getting back to a place of dynamic joy.

 

If this episode resonates with you, you're ready for some accountability, or you just want to chat about love, grace, and marriages - reach out to me!

 

If you loved our expert Dr. Lynetta Willis, you can find her here to learn all about her!

https://www.drlwillis.com/

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2375 28 full When the wife is unfaithful: Healing from Infidelity PT2 w. Micaela Deegan When the wife is unfaithful: Healing from Infidelity PT2 w. Micaela Deegan https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e26-when-the-wife-is-unfaithful-healing-from-infidelity-pt2-w-micaela-deegan/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e26-when-the-wife-is-unfaithful-healing-from-infidelity-pt2-w-micaela-deegan/#comments Thu, 15 Oct 2020 09:57:01 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/7cb15f83-4877-3bbf-8f0c-f2a751e590cd In this interview with Micaela Deegan of the Coffee Jeans and Jesus podcast, we discuss how a loving, Christian wife could find herself in the midst of an affair and looking to God to redeem her marriage and find healing. Micaela tells us of what dangers to look for to guard your heart and gives us hope for healing in our own lives.  IG:https://www.instagram.com/coffeejeansandjesus/

If this episode resonates with you, you're ready for some accountability, or you just want to chat about love, grace, and marriages - reach out to me!

 

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]]> In this interview with Micaela Deegan of the Coffee Jeans and Jesus podcast, we discuss how a loving, Christian wife could find herself in the midst of an affair and looking to God to redeem her marriage and find healing. Micaela tells us of what dangers to look for to guard your heart and gives us hope for healing in our own lives.  IG:https://www.instagram.com/coffeejeansandjesus/

If this episode resonates with you, you're ready for some accountability, or you just want to chat about love, grace, and marriages - reach out to me!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 3874 27 full Bringing Baggage into your marriage? Identifying trauma triggers with Jamily Whitfield Bringing Baggage into your marriage? Identifying trauma triggers with Jamily Whitfield https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e24-bringing-baggage-into-your-marriage-identifying-trauma-triggers-with-jamily-whitfield/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e24-bringing-baggage-into-your-marriage-identifying-trauma-triggers-with-jamily-whitfield/#comments Wed, 07 Oct 2020 14:17:24 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e0d95941-9721-38b5-92ad-e16645ec35aa Trauma expert and LCSW, Jamily Whitfield, teaches us to identify childhood traumas brought into the marriage placing undue expectations on our spouse and damaging the relationship. Begin the healing journey to restored connection with your husband!

 

Guest: Family Whitfield LCSW

Podcast: Beauteous ME

IG @iambeauteousme

email: info@iambeauteousme.com

 

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]]> Trauma expert and LCSW, Jamily Whitfield, teaches us to identify childhood traumas brought into the marriage placing undue expectations on our spouse and damaging the relationship. Begin the healing journey to restored connection with your husband!

 

Guest: Family Whitfield LCSW

Podcast: Beauteous ME

IG @iambeauteousme

email: info@iambeauteousme.com

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2666 25 full E24// Can I forgive after an affair? Infidelity series part 1 w. Stephanie Broersma E24// Can I forgive after an affair? Infidelity series part 1 w. Stephanie Broersma https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e25-can-i-forgive-after-an-affair-infidelity-series-part-1-w-stephanie-broersma/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e25-can-i-forgive-after-an-affair-infidelity-series-part-1-w-stephanie-broersma/#comments Tue, 06 Oct 2020 22:48:02 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/7fc6b987-21ca-321a-87b2-f12127fc17d2 Infidelity can ruin a marriage but it doesn't have to mean the end. Stephanie Broersma of Reclaimed Ministry talks to us about forgiveness after an affair.

Stephanie Broersma

IG: https://www.instagram.com/reclaimedministry/

https://reclaimedministry.com/

 

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]]> Infidelity can ruin a marriage but it doesn't have to mean the end. Stephanie Broersma of Reclaimed Ministry talks to us about forgiveness after an affair.

Stephanie Broersma

IG: https://www.instagram.com/reclaimedministry/

https://reclaimedministry.com/

 

If this episode resonates with you and you're ready for some accountability - reach out to me!

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2955 26 full E22// How Do I Respond to My Husband in Love vs. Anger? E22// How Do I Respond to My Husband in Love vs. Anger? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e22-how-do-i-respond-to-my-husband-in-love-vs-anger/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e22-how-do-i-respond-to-my-husband-in-love-vs-anger/#comments Mon, 21 Sep 2020 07:38:49 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/c0d30d51-b356-3f6e-9c4e-ecab7c18f64f All too often when we are upset with our husbands we have a tendency to respond to him in anger over all the things he didn’t do right.

Even though we know we will most likely have better results if we respond in love, we find ourselves having a tough time doing so.

Learn tactical tips and mindset shifts to respond to your husband in love vs anger and start seeing the transformation in your marriage today.

 

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]]> All too often when we are upset with our husbands we have a tendency to respond to him in anger over all the things he didn’t do right.

Even though we know we will most likely have better results if we respond in love, we find ourselves having a tough time doing so.

Learn tactical tips and mindset shifts to respond to your husband in love vs anger and start seeing the transformation in your marriage today.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1425 23 full E21// I want to grow, but he wants to watch TV, play video games or scroll on his phone - Help! E21// I want to grow, but he wants to watch TV, play video games or scroll on his phone - Help! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e21-i-want-to-grow-but-he-wants-to-watch-tv-play-video-games-or-scroll-on-his-phone-help/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e21-i-want-to-grow-but-he-wants-to-watch-tv-play-video-games-or-scroll-on-his-phone-help/#comments Thu, 27 Aug 2020 11:14:33 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/593658ff-db20-3175-a52f-69ae9d012ec4 Are you frustrated with feeling like you're the only one interested in personal growth? Every time you look at your husband watching TV, playing video games or scrolling through his phone it just aggravates you - doesn't it. 

What can we do? How can we let him know this bothers us? 

 

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]]> Are you frustrated with feeling like you're the only one interested in personal growth? Every time you look at your husband watching TV, playing video games or scrolling through his phone it just aggravates you - doesn't it. 

What can we do? How can we let him know this bothers us? 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1362 22 full E20// Are you a strong willed woman struggling with with giving your husband grace? E20// Are you a strong willed woman struggling with with giving your husband grace? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e20-are-you-a-strong-willed-woman-struggling-with-with-giving-your-husband-grace/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e20-are-you-a-strong-willed-woman-struggling-with-with-giving-your-husband-grace/#comments Tue, 18 Aug 2020 06:52:41 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/62b61990-8b35-3dbf-8f8b-7287abd52f0e This is a recording of an interview I did for the So She Grows Podcast with Ashley Carrol.

 

We talk about stopping the crazy cycle in your marriage, giving your husband grace vs. feeling like a doormat, and becoming more than roommates in your marriage.

 

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]]> This is a recording of an interview I did for the So She Grows Podcast with Ashley Carrol.

 

We talk about stopping the crazy cycle in your marriage, giving your husband grace vs. feeling like a doormat, and becoming more than roommates in your marriage.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1957 21 full E19// Do you want to change your husband? Tactical tips and mindset coaching E19// Do you want to change your husband? Tactical tips and mindset coaching https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e19-do-you-want-to-change-your-husband-tactical-tips-and-mindset-coaching/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e19-do-you-want-to-change-your-husband-tactical-tips-and-mindset-coaching/#comments Wed, 12 Aug 2020 13:02:16 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/628fd452-9081-3c1a-a4fc-5d0f43c61ecd One of the most common themes or questions I’ve heard from women who are in a really ugly place in their marriage is how do I change my husband? How do I get him to stop doing X or start doing Y? This is certainly a fair question. 

This episode will get right to the heart of your mindset of the power of positive influence in marriage. It will also offer you some tactical tips to influence your husband’s heart and surrender the outcome to God for your healing and reconnection.

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]]> One of the most common themes or questions I’ve heard from women who are in a really ugly place in their marriage is how do I change my husband? How do I get him to stop doing X or start doing Y? This is certainly a fair question. 

This episode will get right to the heart of your mindset of the power of positive influence in marriage. It will also offer you some tactical tips to influence your husband’s heart and surrender the outcome to God for your healing and reconnection.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2035 20 full E18// Are you a Christian struggling in your marriage? Normalizing the struggle and the value of accountability E18// Are you a Christian struggling in your marriage? Normalizing the struggle and the value of accountability https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e18-are-you-christian-struggling-in-your-marriage-normalizing-the-struggle-and-the-value-of-accountability/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e18-are-you-christian-struggling-in-your-marriage-normalizing-the-struggle-and-the-value-of-accountability/#comments Fri, 07 Aug 2020 10:47:50 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/1826f8f9-1c41-34a2-844b-536d11cc99bb Are you a Christian struggling with your marriage?

You are not alone. We discuss normalizing these struggles so women feel more empowered to seek help. An unbiased accountability partner can help you with that. 

 

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]]> Are you a Christian struggling with your marriage?

You are not alone. We discuss normalizing these struggles so women feel more empowered to seek help. An unbiased accountability partner can help you with that. 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1921 19 full Are you giving up too soon? Are you giving up too soon? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e17-are-you-giving-up-too-soon/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e17-are-you-giving-up-too-soon/#comments Fri, 31 Jul 2020 12:57:36 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/d616f993-99c6-3a23-81ba-19ee7a5be15f Sometimes when life gets hard, we want to give up. Time and time again we see examples in the bible of people who had enough faith to wait on God’s timing. If you're feeling like you’re losing hope in your marriage, with your prayers, your dreams, or business this message is for you.

 

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]]> Sometimes when life gets hard, we want to give up. Time and time again we see examples in the bible of people who had enough faith to wait on God’s timing. If you're feeling like you’re losing hope in your marriage, with your prayers, your dreams, or business this message is for you.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 608 18 full E16// You are more than your circumstance! Claim Your worth when life feels hard E16// You are more than your circumstance! Claim Your worth when life feels hard https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e16-you-are-more-than-your-circumstance-claim-your-worth-when-life-feels-hard/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e16-you-are-more-than-your-circumstance-claim-your-worth-when-life-feels-hard/#comments Wed, 29 Jul 2020 10:46:29 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/53f09fa8-4133-3d02-b9c5-eca04e518a0d Have you ever felt not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, skinny enough, unworthy of your calling, or imposter syndrome? This is what God has to say to you. Find healing, and transformation right here!

 

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]]> Have you ever felt not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, skinny enough, unworthy of your calling, or imposter syndrome? This is what God has to say to you. Find healing, and transformation right here!

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1428 17 full E15// Is my marriage worth Saving? E15// Is my marriage worth Saving? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e14-is-my-marriage-worth-saving/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e14-is-my-marriage-worth-saving/#comments Tue, 21 Jul 2020 08:27:48 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/358f00bb-3a5b-3660-ad55-4ec03aac60c2 The fact that you even clicked this link to listen to this episode is an accomplishment! So many times we think this thought in private and are afraid to let anyone know we’re struggling with the answer.  Everyone’s situation is different. This episode and worksheet will take you through a series of questions to identify whether or not your marriage is worth saving. The answers are unique to your particular situation but I guarantee if you go through the questions you will start to identify what God is telling you about the answer.

 

I ask one thing from you about this episode. Share it!

 

Even if it doesn’t apply to you. Even if you KNOW your marriage is worth doing the work to improve it. You never know who in your life is struggling with this thought and needs to hear this. Most people won’t just come right out and say it.

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]]> The fact that you even clicked this link to listen to this episode is an accomplishment! So many times we think this thought in private and are afraid to let anyone know we’re struggling with the answer.  Everyone’s situation is different. This episode and worksheet will take you through a series of questions to identify whether or not your marriage is worth saving. The answers are unique to your particular situation but I guarantee if you go through the questions you will start to identify what God is telling you about the answer.

 

I ask one thing from you about this episode. Share it!

 

Even if it doesn’t apply to you. Even if you KNOW your marriage is worth doing the work to improve it. You never know who in your life is struggling with this thought and needs to hear this. Most people won’t just come right out and say it.

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1536 16 full E14// Are you experiencing mom guilt and stagnation in your marriage? w. Ashley Carrol E14// Are you experiencing mom guilt and stagnation in your marriage? w. Ashley Carrol https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e13-are-you-experiencing-mom-guilt-and-stagnation-in-your-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e13-are-you-experiencing-mom-guilt-and-stagnation-in-your-marriage/#comments Tue, 14 Jul 2020 10:02:54 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/caf41307-4ce0-549a-bf3d-ea8697ac73a0 This conversation with my friend Ashley Carroll of the So She Grows Podcast will help you shift your mindset about your motherhood and marriage. We discuss how to eliminate mom guilt, and progress in our marriages with goal setting even if we think our husbands are not interested.

 

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]]> This conversation with my friend Ashley Carroll of the So She Grows Podcast will help you shift your mindset about your motherhood and marriage. We discuss how to eliminate mom guilt, and progress in our marriages with goal setting even if we think our husbands are not interested.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 3281 15 full E13// Are you tired of feeling anger and frustration with your husband? E13// Are you tired of feeling anger and frustration with your husband? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e12-are-you-tired-of-feeling-anger-and-frustration-with-your-husband/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e12-are-you-tired-of-feeling-anger-and-frustration-with-your-husband/#comments Thu, 09 Jul 2020 22:27:47 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/77b3425e-2dd1-53b5-ab59-146d8122f470 Let’s be honest, we all get frustrated with our husbands every now and then.

Ok, sometimes, it’s more than now and then. It’s not just you, every wife, in every season of marriage may feel anger and frustration with her husband. Feeling frustrated with your husband is normal, but did you know that there is something we could be doing at home that would reduce the amount of frustration we felt with him? Do you want to feel less frustration and anger with your husband? This episode is going to give you some quick tips to reduce your frustration in your marriage, help you both feel more understood and bring you Godly peace and understanding in the process.

 

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]]> Let’s be honest, we all get frustrated with our husbands every now and then.

Ok, sometimes, it’s more than now and then. It’s not just you, every wife, in every season of marriage may feel anger and frustration with her husband. Feeling frustrated with your husband is normal, but did you know that there is something we could be doing at home that would reduce the amount of frustration we felt with him? Do you want to feel less frustration and anger with your husband? This episode is going to give you some quick tips to reduce your frustration in your marriage, help you both feel more understood and bring you Godly peace and understanding in the process.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 903 14 full E12// Are you using the #1 communication tool for a healthy marriage? E12// Are you using the #1 communication tool for a healthy marriage? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e11-are-you-using-the-1-communication-tool-for-a-healthy-marriage/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e11-are-you-using-the-1-communication-tool-for-a-healthy-marriage/#comments Wed, 24 Jun 2020 15:51:30 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/a51a4fef-b36a-5833-bf98-62b13abccd73 We hear all the time that communication is the key to a healthy marriage, but sometimes the communication in marriage can breakdown due to bad habits. In this episode, you will learn the #1 communication habit to create happy, healthy, and effective communication.

 

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]]> We hear all the time that communication is the key to a healthy marriage, but sometimes the communication in marriage can breakdown due to bad habits. In this episode, you will learn the #1 communication habit to create happy, healthy, and effective communication.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 884 13 full E11// How do you feel the most loved and do you wish he did more of that? E11// How do you feel the most loved and do you wish he did more of that? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e10-is-your-spouses-love-language-foreign-to-you/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e10-is-your-spouses-love-language-foreign-to-you/#comments Mon, 15 Jun 2020 17:40:07 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ac1624fe-bef9-5632-9ddf-a01cdd78ef68 Most of us have heard of the 5 Love Languages. If you haven't, I give a quick refresher here. In this episode we also talk about how learning a new language is difficult and only gets perfected through practice. Listen in to learn how to practice and speak your husband's love language fluently so that you both communicate love more effectively. 

Reach out to me! Tell me what your experience has been. I want to hear all about it. What is your love language, and what is your spouses? Did you discover anything new? I want to continue the conversation with you. Join the Grace Fueled Wife community on Facebook or DM me or comment on Instagram to keep the conversation going.

 

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]]> Most of us have heard of the 5 Love Languages. If you haven't, I give a quick refresher here. In this episode we also talk about how learning a new language is difficult and only gets perfected through practice. Listen in to learn how to practice and speak your husband's love language fluently so that you both communicate love more effectively. 

Reach out to me! Tell me what your experience has been. I want to hear all about it. What is your love language, and what is your spouses? Did you discover anything new? I want to continue the conversation with you. Join the Grace Fueled Wife community on Facebook or DM me or comment on Instagram to keep the conversation going.

 

Click here for the official 5 Love languages quiz to learn more about yourself and your spouse:

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1303 12 full E10// Are you holding onto this idea that is stealing your joy? E10// Are you holding onto this idea that is stealing your joy? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e9-are-you-holding-onto-this-idea-that-is-stealing-your-joy/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/e9-are-you-holding-onto-this-idea-that-is-stealing-your-joy/#comments Mon, 08 Jun 2020 07:52:31 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e8631ef2-9065-5579-9892-0dd355c3c8f3 Are you holding onto this idea that is stealing your joy? So many times we hold onto things that we think we need or that will bring us joy, but as long as we're holding them we won't experience the promises that God has for us. For me, this idea is perfection. The myth of perfection has led me to places of despair and mom guilt, but I recognize now that I now longer need to do that. Letting go of perfection has allowed me to open up my hands to receive what God has for me instead.

 

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]]> Are you holding onto this idea that is stealing your joy?

So many times we hold onto things that we think we need or that will bring us joy, but as long as we're holding them we won't experience the promises that God has for us.

For me, this idea is perfection. The myth of perfection has led me to places of despair and mom guilt, but I recognize now that I now longer need to do that. Letting go of perfection has allowed me to open up my hands to receive what God has for me instead.

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 658 10 full E9// Husband in a funk? Here’s what to do! E9// Husband in a funk? Here’s what to do! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-8-husband-in-a-funk-heres-what-to-do/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-8-husband-in-a-funk-heres-what-to-do/#comments Fri, 01 May 2020 01:01:17 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/b3ded537-739e-592e-8015-36bb87201c5d We've all been there. We feel like we're doing everything right but we can't seem to get through to our husband. He's been cranky, irritable and downright no fun to be around!! Listen to this episode for a few tips to combat his funky attitude! 

 

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]]> We've all been there. We feel like we're doing everything right but we can't seem to get through to our husband. He's been cranky, irritable and downright no fun to be around!! Listen to this episode for a few tips to combat his funky attitude! 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1275 9 full E8// Taking your marriage from surviving to thriving E8// Taking your marriage from surviving to thriving https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-7-taking-your-marriage-from-surviving-to-thriving/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-7-taking-your-marriage-from-surviving-to-thriving/#comments Tue, 21 Apr 2020 21:31:10 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/af5d16df-3a7e-58e8-86f2-ac1642d43c6e Congratulations, if you're reading to this you've managed NOT to kill your husband over the first 5 weeks of quarantine. Here on this show I like to focus on healing and moving forward towards redeeming our marriages. Now is a great time to move a step forward and take our marriages from surviving to thriving while we have so much time together. 

 

 

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]]> Congratulations, if you're reading to this you've managed NOT to kill your husband over the first 5 weeks of quarantine. Here on this show I like to focus on healing and moving forward towards redeeming our marriages. Now is a great time to move a step forward and take our marriages from surviving to thriving while we have so much time together. 

 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 951 8 full E5// How can you find true, Godly friendship as an adult? E5// How can you find true, Godly friendship as an adult? https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-5-interview-with-the-trusted-friend/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-5-interview-with-the-trusted-friend/#comments Tue, 10 Mar 2020 11:30:03 -0400 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/3a2c4afc-8e1b-5bf6-b3fa-2cf0ff07ec55 Adult friendships can be hard. How do we find true, Godly friendship as adults? What should you share/not share and how do you identify who in your life could potentially fill that role?

Having a trusted friend has been paramount in my journey to keep my sanity in motherhood and marriage but I understand they may be hard to find. Learn to steer clear of gossip, build trust, and form a lifelong bond with that sister friend!

In this episode, I interview my best friend Janice Kertcher and we talk about making lasting friendships as adults, finding people with whom we can share our life struggles, learning to discern how you can trust someone, and avoid toxic gossip. We discuss how all these topics help us to improve our marriages and quality of life as adults. 

 

 

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]]> Adult friendships can be hard. How do we find true, Godly friendship as adults? What should you share/not share and how do you identify who in your life could potentially fill that role?

Having a trusted friend has been paramount in my journey to keep my sanity in motherhood and marriage but I understand they may be hard to find. Learn to steer clear of gossip, build trust, and form a lifelong bond with that sister friend!

In this episode, I interview my best friend Janice Kertcher and we talk about making lasting friendships as adults, finding people with whom we can share our life struggles, learning to discern how you can trust someone, and avoid toxic gossip. We discuss how all these topics help us to improve our marriages and quality of life as adults. 

 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 2870 5 bonus E4// The lie - No one can know what’s going on E4// The lie - No one can know what’s going on https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-4-the-lie-no-one-can-know-whats-going-on/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-4-the-lie-no-one-can-know-whats-going-on/#comments Tue, 03 Mar 2020 06:05:24 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/b20fefa7-f379-5e32-820a-783b90461cd3 In this episode, we discuss our tendency not to talk about issues within our lives and marriage due to shame. We discuss the harm caused by our reluctance to be transparent with each other as well as how to navigate the paradox of transparency and protecting our marriage. 

 

]]> In this episode, we discuss our tendency not to talk about issues within our lives and marriage due to shame. We discuss the harm caused by our reluctance to be transparent with each other as well as how to navigate the paradox of transparency and protecting our marriage. 

 

]]> Beatriz Vargas false No 1144 4 full E3//The lie - It’s no big deal E3//The lie - It’s no big deal https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-3-the-lie-its-no-big-deal/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-3-the-lie-its-no-big-deal/#comments Fri, 21 Feb 2020 08:23:51 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/ad2eee59-b683-5832-8ebe-5da81b3bc054 In this episode I discuss the truth behind the lie we believe when we say "it's no big deal" Why is this harmful? How do we fight this lie and move towards healthier communication?

 

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]]> In this episode I discuss the truth behind the lie we believe when we say "it's no big deal" Why is this harmful? How do we fight this lie and move towards healthier communication?

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 1251 3 full E2// The hard truth about who is to blame for issues in your marriage: The lie - It’s not me its YOU E2// The hard truth about who is to blame for issues in your marriage: The lie - It’s not me its YOU https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-2-the-lie-its-not-me-its-you/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-2-the-lie-its-not-me-its-you/#comments Fri, 14 Feb 2020 13:11:15 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/f730206c-5446-5590-9d83-baa7b70089da It's often easy to blame our husbands for the issues in our marriage. Perhaps they aren't loving enough, affectionate enough, or they don't help with the kids. I get it. Our husbands can be frustrating! What would happen however if we took a close look into our marriages to find what WE can change about ourselves first? 

 

The tough love in this episode will have you re-thinking your perspective on marriage and making changes that can have a positive impact as quickly as TODAY!

 

 

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]]> It's often easy to blame our husbands for the issues in our marriage. Perhaps they aren't loving enough, affectionate enough, or they don't help with the kids. I get it. Our husbands can be frustrating! What would happen however if we took a close look into our marriages to find what WE can change about ourselves first? 

 

The tough love in this episode will have you re-thinking your perspective on marriage and making changes that can have a positive impact as quickly as TODAY!

 

 

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]]> Beatriz Vargas | Marriage Therapist & Christian Marriage Coach false No 592 2 full E1//My Rockbottom Story: God Redeemed my marriage and can do the same for you! E1//My Rockbottom Story: God Redeemed my marriage and can do the same for you! https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-1-my-rockbottom-story/ https://thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/e/episode-1-my-rockbottom-story/#comments Fri, 14 Feb 2020 13:08:21 -0500 thegracefueldwife.podbean.com/74dab33e-59c3-53ee-b07d-953c3123853f In this episode, I talk about my story of healing and redemption in my own marriage. You hear all about what happened and why I feel God has called me to this work.

I was just like you. I felt alone in my marriage. We felt like roommates - bad ones at that. My husband was an unbeliever and he was generally harsh with his words. I was struggling to give him any grace for his bad days because I felt he never gave me grace for mine. 

I would think about what it would be like to leave him and start over... But God! Listen in to hear a story of hope about what only God can do!

 

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]]> In this episode, I talk about my story of healing and redemption in my own marriage. You hear all about what happened and why I feel God has called me to this work.

I was just like you. I felt alone in my marriage. We felt like roommates - bad ones at that. My husband was an unbeliever and he was generally harsh with his words. I was struggling to give him any grace for his bad days because I felt he never gave me grace for mine. 

I would think about what it would be like to leave him and start over... But God! Listen in to hear a story of hope about what only God can do!

 

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