He explains how anger is a signal that something matters, why regulation must come before responsibility, and offers gentle practices and questions to help you move from restraint to safety.

Choose compassion over control and remember you are worthy of love and belonging.

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This short episode offers practical reframes and simple phrases to challenge beliefs like “rest must be earned,” helping you set limits that honor your capacity, worth, and relationships.

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Using the metaphor of relationship "BRPEx"—Blame, Rescue, Protest, Escape—Troy shows how fight-or-flight responses shut down thinking and why logic doesn’t land when safety is gone. He teaches simple steps to pause, name emotions, empathize, and regulate so connection can restore clarity.

Choose connection first, slow the spiral, and learn how safety brings the thinking brain back online.

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Troy L. Love explains how chronic procrastination and emotional flatness can be nervous-system protection—called freezing—not laziness, and invites listeners to reframe self-judgment into curiosity about what needs are being protected.

Learn simple steps to honor stillness, tend attachment wounds, and create safety so you can move forward with more peace and connection.

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He offers a simple, trauma-informed grounding exercise (5-4-3-2-1) and compassionate reframing to help the body learn to relax safely and find more peace, joy, and connection.

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This short episode offers simple, trauma-informed tools—breathing, grounding, and self-compassion—to help you respond differently in moments of activation and move toward more peace, connection, and belonging.

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In this episode, Troy L. Love explains why “calm down” often backfires, how shame and threat escalate activation, and invites a simple replacement: ask, “What would help my system feel 5% safer right now?”

Learn practical, relational strategies—breath, grounding, naming feelings, reaching out—that invite safety, connection, and the eventual emergence of calm.

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In this episode we explore the "window of tolerance": the zone where the nervous system can handle life without becoming overwhelmed. Learn how to notice signs of going above (anxiety, panic, reactivity) or below (numbness, shutdown), why the body is always asking "Am I safe?", and how simple curiosity and awareness can widen your window, build capacity, and help you return to connection with kindness.

Learn how to recognize the "judge" of shame, ask what wound is being triggered, and use simple practices—naming shame and refusing to honor it—to begin healing and reclaim a sense of safety, worth, and belonging.

This episode offers a simple, body-first approach and a micro-practice: when you notice a repetitive pattern, ask, “What might my nervous system be trying to protect me from right now?” The episode guides listeners toward building safety, softening shame, and returning to curiosity and connection.

If you’ve been walking alongside us for a while, thank you. Thank you for listening, for doing the work, and for being willing to sit with conversations that are meaningful, vulnerable, and sometimes uncomfortable.

Last season, we moved slowly and intentionally through the Finding Peace Worksheet, exploring awareness, patterns, attachment, and the wounds that often keep us stuck. That work still matters, and there’s no rush to complete it. Healing is not a race.

This season, we’re shifting gears.

These episodes are shorter—about 10 to 15 minutes—and focused on practical, trauma-informed tools you can use in your real, everyday life. Each episode introduces one core idea, practice, or tool you can try immediately. Some will help regulate your nervous system. Some will support healthier responses in relationships. Some will help you get out of your head and back into your body. Others will help you reconnect with the parts of you that feel exhausted, guarded, or quietly longing for more.

The intention is simple: Not just insight—but integration.

You don’t need to overhaul your life. You don’t need to become someone else. You don’t need to be fully healed to experience peace.

What you do need are small moments of intention, consistency, and compassion—right in the middle of life as it is.

Whether you’re listening between sessions, on a walk, during a commute, or in a rare quiet moment that finally belongs to you, this season is designed to meet you where you are.

Let’s get practical. Let’s get honest. And let’s keep finding peace—together

Through candid conversation, James describes steps toward peace — setting boundaries with inner judgment, choosing faith over the numbing rebel, and using hardship to grow, serve others, and reclaim safety and purpose.

Thanks to the Artists from Artlist and Storyblocks for the background music. 

As Sam opens up about the emotional wounds and expectations that have followed him since childhood, he discovers empowering insights and ways to challenge the narratives that have held him back. This heartfelt discussion offers listeners a window into one person's fight for self-acceptance amidst pressures for perfection, while encouraging us all to embrace our worthiness and prioritize self-care in our daily lives.

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Flint – Sunmonth,

Daniel Pratt - Honest Thoughts

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Adam Dib - Up in the Sky

Tomáš Herudek - Sound of Something Horrible

Inon Zur - Searching in Shadow

Shahead Mostafafar - Golden Diamond

Gershwin's Rhapsody in Blue as performed by the United States Marine Band on July 10, 2018. This file is a work of a United States Marine or employee, taken or made as part of that person's official duties. As a work of the U.S. federal government, it is in the public domain.

Through a heartfelt discussion, they explore the intricacies of betrayal trauma, the shadows of judgment, and the weight of family shame. Dee opens up about her fear of being invisible, her desire for legacy, and the protection shields she conceived as a child to survive neglect and betrayal.

As the episode unfolds, Dee uncovers her wisdom and light, embracing her true power, and embarking on a cathartic bonfire ritual to release the burdens she carried. Experience the uplifting transformation as she finds her path to joy, love, and authentic self-acceptance.

Troy guides Dee to challenge her limiting beliefs, dismantle her shadows, and reconnect with clarity and self-care, offering profound insights for listeners on their own journey to healing. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that vulnerability is not a weakness but a doorway to true strength and joy.

Join us as we delve into Al's emotional journey to rewrite his narrative, challenge the voices of judgement and fear, and find his purpose amid the chaos. Listen in as Al explores the powerful stories he tells himself, learns to let go of the shadows of shame, and embraces the pathway to joy, love, and connection.

Gain insights from the transformative work on the podcast and feel inspired to embark on your own journey to find peace. Al's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the profound impact of choosing one's own way, despite the odds.

In this episode, Justson opens up about his struggles with self-love, feelings of unworthiness, and addiction. He shares his journey of finding peace and clarity in life and his challenges in loving himself. Troy and Justson delve deep into core beliefs, attachment wounds, and the impact of feeling unloved and unseen.

Listen in as they explore the possibility of finding self-worth and experiencing unconditional love. This heartfelt conversation sheds light on the importance of connection, integrity, and small daily practices that can lead to profound changes.

Join us in this touching and transformative episode as we navigate the complexities of self-worth and the path to finding peace.

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Together, they explore the shadows that cloud Abigail's self-perception and work through the powerful Finding Peace process to clear them out. Abigail learns to trust herself and embrace her truth, leading to a profound sense of peace and empowerment. This episode is a testament to the transformative power of self-awareness and the importance of rewriting our inner narratives.

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Special thanks to Storyblocks for the background music. 

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John shares his journey of dealing with rejection, abandonment, and betrayal, and how these wounds have shaped his self-perception. Through a Christian perspective, Troy helps John explore his deepest fears and guides him towards self-acceptance and healing.

Join us as we dive into an emotional conversation about the power of rewriting our stories, overcoming shame, and finding the courage to live authentically. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the pathways to joy, love, and connection.

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Special thanks to Storyblocks and https://artlist.io/ for the background music. 

Join them as they delve into Rafael's struggles with vulnerability, the impact of his past, and a recent breakthrough conversation with his former spouse about planning a trip to Europe. Discover how Rafael navigates the shadows of his past, learns to speak his truth, and steps out of the box to embrace joy and authenticity in his life.

Tune in for an inspiring conversation filled with insights on breaking free from limiting beliefs and finding true peace and connection.

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This episode offers profound insights into how our core beliefs can drive self-destructive behaviors. Daniel's story is a testament to the power of vulnerability and the importance of rewriting our narratives to foster joy, love, and connection.

Hosted by Amazon bestselling author Troy L. Love, this episode sheds light on overcoming the shadows of shame and finding peace within ourselves. Please tune in to hear how Daniel identifies and confronts his attachment wounds, paving the way for a more fulfilling and peaceful life.

Don't miss this heartfelt and enlightening conversation on the Finding Peace podcast.

Special thanks to the musicians at https://artlist.io/ for their background music.

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In this episode, Troy helps Carlos navigate the Finding Peace worksheet, exploring the roots of his anger and the stories he tells himself. Carlos candidly discusses his struggles with reacting aggressively, especially in family situations, and how these reactions are linked to past wounds of neglect and rejection.

Through a powerful and emotional conversation, Carlos learns to identify and challenge his core beliefs, replacing them with affirmations of his true worth. Discover how Carlos plans to face future challenges with newfound optimism and tools to maintain peace and connection in his relationships.

Tune in for an episode filled with insights on rewriting personal narratives, healing from past wounds, and embracing the journey toward joy, love, and connection.

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We all have painful events in our lives that can lead to depression, anxiety, addiction, or broken relationships. But here's a secret: it's not about what happened to us that causes suffering; it's the stories we believe about ourselves. Join us as we shine a light on how to rewrite our stories, avoid the shadows of shame, and travel along the pathway to joy, love, and connection. It's the Finding Peace Podcast with your host, Amazon bestselling author Troy L. Love.

In this episode, Troy welcomes Robin Smith, a Marriage and Family Therapist, who shares his journey of overcoming financial stress and balancing legacy beliefs with his financial sovereignty. Robin opens up about his experiences, including the inner conflicts between his past and present self and how he navigates these challenges within his family dynamics.

As they delve into the Finding Peace process, Robin explores the various protective parts of his psyche, uncovering deep-seated wounds and core beliefs. Together, they work through these layers, finding clarity and healing. This episode is a powerful testament to the importance of self-awareness, courage, and connection on the path to inner peace.

Whether dealing with financial stress, relationship challenges, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of yourself, this episode offers valuable insights and practical guidance. Tune in and discover how to transform your pain into a source of strength and joy.

This episode shares a story about a Chinese wealthy man who experienced several turbulent events. The tale highlights the profound truth that what might initially seem bad, could turn out to be a blessing in disguise. If we can lean into the discomfort of these situations, perhaps we can see these events unravel into something good.

However, it's not always easy to accept these situations with grace. This episode brings to light the struggles we might face when faced with adversity, and the importance of not succumbing to our doubts and fears. Recognizing that personal growth often comes from our lowest moments can act as a soothing balm in our difficult times.

What if every rejection, setback, or failure was truly meant for our own good? Could we develop a more open-minded perspective when faced with disappointment? This thought-provoking discussion aims to challenge listeners to see these possibilities through a different lens.

The host also highlights an insightful analogy about what to do with the 'poop' of life. We can isolate it, ignore it until it's unbearable, or we could use it to enrich our lives, the same way farmers use manure to fertilize their crops. It attempts to illustrate how personal growth can blossom from our darkest moments.

Finding Peace podcast invites everyone to share their thoughts about the lessons they learn from the messiness of life, reassuring everyone that they are indeed loved and worth it. It's a journey, and we all share our unique path in it.

Set in a spiritual retreat in Prescott, Arizona, she defies her initial skepticism and uncertainties to give herself a chance at healing. The episode paints a vivid picture of her journey, encompassing moments of vulnerability, laughter, tears, and friendships formed as heartache steadily gave way to self-love.

Interspersed with personal experiences and reflections, the story unfolds her battles with challenges such as parental divorce, personal heartbreaks, and the death of a loved one. Each struggle brings her closer to inner peace and self-love, presenting an unfiltered view of resilience, strength, and the enduring human spirit.

Bearing witness to her journey, we understand her transformation from a woman weighed down by self-loathing and shame to embracing her wounds as stepping stones to self-love and healing. By the end of her journey, she emerges beyond shame, no longer a casualty of failed relationships but a strong, independent woman unafraid of love or companionship.

This episode is a testament to the power of accepting oneself, underlining the belief that everyone, despite their insecurities, deserves peace and attracts a nourished, compassionate, and healing life.

Learn more about the Finding Peace Retreat at www.findingpeaceretreat.com 

Unexpectedly, he found that sobriety didn’t automatically translate to happiness. Instead, it opened floodgates to suppressed emotional wounds — rejection, neglect, abandonment, loss — which he had numbed over the years with his addiction. Confronted with all this unresolved pain, he grappled with enormous bitterness, resentment, and anger, pushing him close to a suicidal abyss.

Troy discovered attachment wounds in his pursuit for help, which sparked a transformation. The newfound clarity helped him realize that these wounds were the root cause of his emotional honesty. He started cultivating healthier responses when dealing with rejection and abandonment, improving his relationships and actions towards his loved ones. On this journey, he developed the Finding Peace process and workbook — a methodology to heal the pain inside and refrain from causing misery and heartache to others.

In this transformative journey, attending a retreat was integral. Its unconventional and interactive approach to learning deeply impacted him, finally leading him to open a private practice and convert his experiences into a full-time practice. He extends an invitation to the ‘Finding Peace Retreat’ for those weighed down by rage, resentment, worry, or depression. He encourages those struggling with attachment wounds to experience a novel and creative approach to learning and finding peace amidst their challenges.

As he concludes, he shares insight on the importance of rewiring our internal narratives from negative to positive. The speaker urges us to fight the 'I'm not enough' mindset, and instead, he relentlessly emphasizes the immense capability and endurance we have as individuals.

Learn more about the Finding Peace Retreat at www.findingpeaceretreat.com

If you've been moved by the podcast's core message and would like to be a part of the upcoming season, we're more than excited to extend the invitation your way. As a guest on the Finding Peace podcast for Season 5, you will have the opportunity to walk through the valuable processes of the Finding Peace worksheet. By visiting findingpeaceconsulting.com/podcast, you can send in your application - simply scroll to the middle of the page and click the "Yes, I'm in" button.

Participate in this enlightening journey and contribute to the heartfelt stories that unveil the hidden love and light in us all. We look forward to reviewing your application and potentially welcoming you to Season 5 of Finding Peace podcast. Remember, you are always worthy of love and belonging.

Troy helps Daniel identify the inner critical voice, the "Judge" that constantly berates him, and the "Martyr" that drives him to please others to avoid abandonment fears. They engage in exercises to confront and disarm these inner voices, ultimately empowering Daniel to reclaim his self-worth and heal his emotional wounds.

The episode highlights the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships and personal beliefs and the process of addressing and transforming these internal struggles.

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Sher's daughter's addiction and her requests for money bring up deep-seated wounds from her past, including feelings of abandonment, neglect, and not being good enough. She sees parallels between her daughter's behavior and her own experiences growing up, leading to betrayal, loss, and abuse. Sher also shared that her daughter had gone missing for several years while battling addiction, which added to her emotional turmoil.

Seeing her daughter's name on her phone triggers these painful emotions, and the core belief that gets activated for Sher is that she is not good enough. This belief stems from her childhood experiences of feeling unloved and unwanted, as she was adopted at a young age without anyone fighting to keep her.

The emotions that Sher experiences in response to her daughter's messages are primarily sadness and fear. She used to provide her daughter with financial support to ease her discomfort, but she realized she was doing it to soothe her emotions rather than address the underlying issues. Now, she's trying to establish boundaries and have conversations before providing financial assistance, but it remains challenging.

Sher's struggle with her daughter's situation also leads to shadows of shame, including feelings of rebellion, self-criticism, and powerlessness. The presence of grandchildren in the equation makes the situation even more complex and emotionally challenging for her.

Troy encourages Erika to start with small increments of time for self-care, even just five minutes, and to fiercely protect that time as non-negotiable. The conversation ends with Erka acknowledging her need for this time and her commitment to incorporating it into her routine despite the discomfort it may initially bring.

Overall, the discussion highlights the challenges many individuals face in balancing work and self-care and the importance of permitting oneself to prioritize personal well-being.

Through therapy and introspection, John begins to understand that his fear is tied to his past, and he's been projecting those old feelings onto his current life. As he faces his shadows, he starts to unravel the root of his fears and makes a profound connection with his new truth.

John learns to embrace self-compassion and forgiveness, recognizing that he is worthy of love and happiness despite his imperfections. This newfound understanding shifts how he views his relationships, particularly with his family, as he becomes more open and honest with them.

**Key Points:**

- John grapples with a deep-rooted fear of losing everything due to past choices. - He confronts his shadows of shame and connects with past wounds of rejection and abandonment. - Understanding the root of his fears helps him let go of unnecessary distress. - John embraces self-compassion, forgiveness, and his new truth. - His relationships, particularly with his family, strengthen as he becomes more open and honest.

Additional Music provided by Artist.io with artists: 

ElevenTales - Slow Tides

Michael Vignola - Calling for You

Katrina Stone - Digging Tunnels

Aija Alsina - Sunrise

Ally utilizes a holistic approach to wellness. She has over 14 years of experience as a social worker, educator, published author, energy healer, retreat facilitator, and certified life coach. For more detailed information about Ally's services, please visit her website, chronicwellness.info.

Kyle shares candidly about the ways he tried to numb the pain, revealing the detrimental impact it had not only on himself but also on the people he loves. Recognizing the need for change, he sought out healthier strategies to find greater peace, joy, and self-acceptance in his life.

One tool that proved instrumental in Kyle's healing process was the "Finding Peace" worksheet, a valuable resource he discovered along the way. He discusses how he utilized this worksheet to confront the deep-rooted issues stemming from his bullying experiences. Kyle explains how the worksheet helped him explore and process his emotions, offering a path toward healing and personal growth.

Throughout the interview, Kyle shares the pivotal moments and insights that led him on his transformative journey. He emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, vulnerability, and seeking support from loved ones and professionals.

Listeners will gain valuable insights from Kyle's story, as he imparts wisdom and practical advice for anyone facing similar challenges. His journey serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of self-acceptance.

Tune in to this empowering episode to hear Kyle's powerful story of overcoming bullying, finding inner peace, and embracing a life filled with joy and self-acceptance.

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A special shout out to Artist.io and the amazing musicians who contributed to the soundtrack for this episode:

• The Dream of Life
  • Sémø, Yoed Nir
• Narcissus
  • Maya Belsitzman & Matan Ephrat
• King's Requiem
  • Alon Peretz
• Mountain of Doom
  • by Amit Weiner
• By the River
  • by Mattia Vlad Morleo
• Stargazing
  • by Livingrooms
• Driving Home
  • by Noam Zaguri

Join her as she faces her Shadows of Shame in this episode of the Finding Peace Podcast.

Thank you also to Artlist for all of the background music we used in this episode.  You can learn more about them here.

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In this episode, we listen to Jules share her story of rejection, betrayal, and abandonment and help her to begin changing the narrative around her Shadows of Shame®. 

Educated and experienced as an engineer, Gary brings a common sense approach to changing beliefs, emotions, mindfulness, and living in greater happiness. Since 2001 Gary has been lecturing, leading retreats, and coaching individual clients so they can live happier lives. His methods are not limited to a particular philosophy or approach, but are based on careful observation and getting practical results.

You can explore more of Gary's work at his website www.PathwayToHappiness.com which has extensive free material and online courses for changing beliefs, emotions, and creating better relationships.

Here is how you can find Sirena:

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Nikki is a Professional Psychotherapist, International Life Coach, Yoga Teacher, and Host of the podcast, Emotional Badass: Where Moxie Meets Mindful. In 2017, she launched the podcast to spread healing, empowerment, and hope to Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), Empaths, survivors, and seekers worldwide. Drawing from her experiences as a survivor of childhood abuse and the years she spent as a psychotherapist and life coach, she's mindfully designed the show to be the emotional education many of us crave.

She truly believes in the power of healing. When we heal our wounds, let go of what doesn’t serve us, and embrace transformational self-care, we can live a life of purpose, peace, and connection. As we each step up to do this healing work—through the butterfly effect, —we change the world.

 Joel Green’s unique differentiator in business and as an individual is his ability to see life objectively from multiple vantage points. Unfortunate circumstances as a youth helped to groom and refine Joel into adulthood. Growing up in an abandoned home and seeing both sides of life has really helped him to connect with people over time.

A thought leader in the motivational category, Joel Green has a B.A. in Psychology from Rider University, which has helped to fuel his ambition to inspire others. He has developed a reputation for personal excellence and motivational talks that contribute tangible advice for attaining desired goals. Many of the messages he has delivered are conveyed in his first book, Filtering: The Way to Extract Strength from the Struggle, due to release this fall. 

 In addition, Green is a professional sports and fitness model and actor, and he has been featured in commercials, ads, and on television. Most recently he was the face of Cheez-It crackers Celebrity Crunch Classic campaign, in which he was solely featured on millions of snack boxes.

 Green is known for setting very ambitious goals for himself, most recently his own challenge of reading 30 books in 30 weeks. He has unflinchingly put in 18-20-hour workdays with great joy to make his dreams a physical manifestation. He attributes his work ethic to his unwavering faith and his passionate desire for excellence – both of which have allowed him to overcome many difficulties and life challenges. Learn more about Joel Green at http://www.joelbgreen.com/. Follow him on Instagram and LinkedIn. 

She made several attempts to control it only to lose control later again. AA was not the right fit for her.  She had already submitted to God and didn’t want to call herself an alcoholic. 

When the COVID-19 pandemic hit, she enrolled in a coaching program to put alcohol aside for three months. Her experience was extremely transformational, and she recognized God’s instruction embedded in the entire process. She identified what alcohol had stolen from her life and understood God had a better plan for her. Rose Ann felt called to document what she learned with a daily devotional so others can experience God’s promises through scriptural instruction with hope and a better plan for the future.

You can get a copy of Rose Ann’s book, The Plans He Has For Me: A 12-Week Daily Devotional for Freedom from Alcohol, by clicking here. 

When you purchase the book, you also get free access to a private Facebook group with other like-minded individuals taking the same challenge and supporting each other.

You can also download the Kickstart Method for Alcohol Freedom for free at www.theplanshehasforme.com.

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Stephanie James is a psychotherapist, presenter, transformational coach, author, filmmaker, radio show, and podcast host. She has experienced what it means to live fully lit up and fully alive. Stephanie has gathered wisdom from some of the most amazing minds and serving hearts on the planet and has synthesized their wisdom with her own knowledge and experience to help amazing individuals, just like you, expand their vision of themselves and ignite their purpose. 

Her personal purpose is to bring as much love and healing to the world as possible. She knows that as we live as the greatest versions of ourselves, we illuminate the way for others to do the same. The unique light that is you was meant to shine bright in this world.  Shine on!

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Dr. Daryl L. Jones owns and operates his own consulting firm, specializing in Organizational Development, DE&I, & Culture. He held executive positions at Nike that spanned 20 years of his career, and philanthropically, he is the Founder and President of the E-5 Foundation based in Chicago, Illinois, a non-profit entity focused on transforming Chicago’s underserved youth in critical areas of development. Jones is passionate about racial justice, history, and cultural authenticity.

Daryl currently resides in Scottsdale, AZ where he is a consultant in Leadership Development, Organizational Transformation, and DE&I.

About The Conscious Vibe (TVC)

Charles Mitchell, Esquire, and Dr. Daryl L. Jones founded the popular podcast, The Conscious Vibe (TVC), where they interview some of today’s most diverse, prolific, and interesting people to elevate intellect through conscious dialogue. This show has gained popularity for its multifaceted conversations around race, politics, business, and culture to drive forward compelling stories, capture critical concepts, and build sustainable intellectual capital. For those wanting to tune into a unique platform with multifarious voices, a genuine focus on personal growth, and a place where intellect is favored over sensationalized narratives that are popular yet not validated, TVC is that place. TVC beseeches candor and respect to move towards an outcome that can avail the greater good. Learn more at www.tcvpodcast.com and follow along with what their conversations are creating on Instagram. 

You can reach Dan by email at Dan@ThePowerOfWeird.com or by calling The Spectrum Perspective at 1-888-488-1129 ext 701.

He theorized that all energy in the universe initiates as scalar energy; and that the sun of our solar system and the stars of the universe are the points of origin, “the storehouses,” for scalar energy. He further theorized that scalar energy is instructive energy, as the entire universe is instructed by this Divine Essence. Subsequently, all spiritual, cognitive, emotional, and physical activity in the universe is initiated and maintained by scalar energy instructions. Scalar energy provides order in the universe. 

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Roberta Hughes is the Founder and lead instructor at PeaceFull Living, a boutique hybrid studio that conveys delicate and personalized Peaceful Living instruction through customized Pilates, Meditation, and Yoga classes. Peaceful Living grants clients a way to filter out life’s pressures through a delicate and highly personalized approach through its live streams and on-demand classes. Its nurturing and customized approach guides clients who desire to change their relationship with stress. Reconnect in a welcoming space from the comfort of your own home.

Learn more by visiting https://www.peacefullliving.com/ and follow Roberta on Facebook @robertapeacefullliving and Instagram @roberta_peacefullliving.

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The listener asked for an in-depth definition of Attachment Wounds. Join me for Episode 2 of Season Four of the Finding Peace Podcast where we explore each of the six attachment wounds: Loss, Neglect, Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse.

To read the typed version of this episode, go to https://troyllove.medium.com/attachment-wounds-explained-3f2b24416ca0

You can listen to this episode and more by going to https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

We do a little switcharoo on this episode. Instead of Troy asking the questions, he is put on the hot seat himself. Check out Jonny, Troy's friend, and producer, as he interviews Troy - asking the questions everyone has been dying to know - like, was Troy Love really born on Valentine's day, or did Troy change his last name? Listen to the answers and more, here on episode 1 of season 4. 

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Who knew what would happen when I picked up a microphone and started this podcast a few years ago?  I have learned a lot, figured out a few things, and met some amazing folks along the way.

This season will take you to new places, introduce you to new people, and I will share with you some new stories all designed to help you tap into that amazing light inside and help you find greater peace, joy, and connection in your life.

Join me for Season 4 of the Finding Peace Podcast. 

John Callas is a veteran writer/director/producer in the entertainment business. His experience ranges from the worldwide release of feature films to numerous motion picture trailers, national and international commercials, live-action title sequences, laser disc projects, a documentary shot on location in Russia, as well as having been the Worldwide VP for The Walt Disney Company while working at a large post-production facility. John wrote and directed the feature film “No Solicitors,” starring Eric Roberts and has adapted NY Times bestselling author, William H. LaBarge’s book, “Lightning Strikes Twice.” John is also a published author which includes: SECRETS, WHEN THE RAIN STOPS, CHRISTMAS VOICES, NO SOLICITORS, AND FIRST TIME PARENTS SURVIVAL GUIDE TO UNNECESSARY AND WILD SPENDING.

John's prowess can be seen on live-action teasers for Ransom, Dennis The Menace, Body Of Evidence, The Golden Child, Spaceballs, The Glass Menagerie, Cocoon II, Poltergeist III, Betrayed, My Girl, Glengarry Glenn Ross, As Well As Title Sequences For The Two Jakes, and A Few Good Men and a promotional film for an amusement ride from Showscan. John also directed an award-winning short film, THE WHITE GORILLA.

While creating live-action teasers for feature films, John had the opportunity to work with notable actors including Mel Gibson, Walter Matthau, Jack Nicholson, Madonna, Eddie Murphy, and Mel Brooks. In addition to working on feature film teasers, his work can be seen in projects for HBO, The Disney Channel, Show Time, the Broadway Play Phantom Of The Opera, and the 1993 redesigned TRISTAR LOGO.

John's extensive background also includes over 200 commercials for such clients as Kellogg's, Dodge, Sunkist, Sprite, Toyota, Fuji, Volkswagen, Honda, McDonalds, Mazda, Minolta, Jedi Merchandising, Kraft, Jordache, Sea World, Givenchy, and Sonassage with celebrity George Burns and industrial projects for Corporations including Vidal Sassoon, Salomon North America, Nissan, and The Kao Corporation Of Japan.

John's television experience includes directing a 14-week series entitled Potentials, with guests Buckminster Fuller, Norman Cousins, Ray Bradbury, Gene Roddenberry, Timothy Leary, and others. He also directed 80 segments for Bobby's World, which has been rated the #1 show on Fox 11 Television in its time slot, garnering John an Emmy nomination. A multi-faceted filmmaker, John's work can be seen in music videos for Glenn Frey Of The Eagles, Bill Wyman Of The Rolling Stones, Jefferson Starship, Sammy Hagar, Rick Springfield, Doobie Brothers, Styx, and more.

John has been recognized with: An EMMY nomination for Bobby’s World, THE NEW YORK CRITICS CHOICE AWARD for Lone Wolf, BEST FEATURE at Fright Night Festival & BEST DIRECTOR at Scar A Con festival for No Solicitors - Several awards for his short THE WHITE GORILLA, A CLIO and BELDING for his work on the Sunkist campaign, BEST OF THE WEST for directorial work on a one-woman show, and an MTV AWARD FOR BEST CONCEPT for Glen Frey's Smuggler’s Blues.

John holds a Master's Degree from Occidental College and is a member of The Directors Guild of America.

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In this episode, discover what happened as you join me in continuing the journey towards Finding Peace.

• Volunteering with the dying as a hospice worker

• Meditating for 28 days straight in complete isolation and pitch-black darkness in a Guatemalan hut

• Living in the frigid Utah wilderness for a month with only a knife, a water bottle, and a blanket

Ambika Devi is an international award-winning publisher and best-selling author of four books, an expert astrologer, and a dynamic speaker. As a personal coach, she specializes in igniting your intuitive magick, getting your creativity flowing, and putting you in touch with your inner wizard! Her pockets are filled with multiple degrees in fields of study including A Masters in Yoga and Meditation, and bachelor’s degrees in Astrology, and Fine Arts. Stuffed inside her backpack are colored pens, a journal, a kindle, a passport full of stamps, and a deck of tarot cards. Her passion is guiding individuals to find inner peace, outward success, and a greater level of health and happiness. She has appeared on The Learning Channel, radio, and in periodicals as a relationship and communication expert, taught Holistic Health at the university level for 21 years, and looks forward to guiding you to reach your highest potential!

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I am standing along the banks of the Colorado River. The sun is rising above the horizon turning the speckled clouds across the sky a fusion of pinks, oranges, and purples. I am standing in soft sand, the kind that billows up into my face at the slightest movement. I am holding two 5 gallon buckets.

I am listening to Joe (name has been changed), a Native American of the Quechan Tribe, on whose land we are standing as he explained that several months ago over 200 youth from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints helped plant hundreds of indigenous trees all along the river to help beautify and preserve the land.

The challenge was that now that summer was approaching and temperatures can rise to nearly 120 Fahrenheit, there was concern about the trees getting enough water. If they could make it through this season, chances would be that the roots would be deep enough by next year for the trees to survive. But for now, there was a need to get water from the river to each of the trees. And that’s why I am holding two 5 gallon buckets. Joe is showing us how to reach the buckets into the river and pull them out without falling in. We are then to carry the buckets of water to the trees, some of which are almost an acre away from the river.

Joe also suggested that we talk to the trees as we are giving them water. “They are living things,” he said. “Encourage them with kind words. Cheer them on.”

Shamefully, I rolled my eyes. I was here at the request of my wife and had about ten other things that I thought I could be doing on a Saturday morning besides carrying water to trees. But I am not one to complain… out loud anyway. So, I dipped my buckets in the river and started to walk.

The water splashed all over my pants and shoes getting them all muddy. My arms started to ache as I carried the buckets of water nearly 50 yards to the farthest tree. I thought to myself, “There has got to be a better way of doing this.” and then my ethnocentrism kicked in. I started imagining how we could dig lines for a sprinkler system or hire a big water truck to drive along the trees spraying water.

But then I noticed some young men laughing and singing as they carried their buckets of water to the trees. They had smiles on their faces. I did not. Immediately, I recognized that my shadows were out.

The impotent one saying: This is too hard. Why are we doing this anyway? It’s not going to make much of a difference. The trees are probably going to die anyway. This is so dumb.

The Rebel: You could be doing something else right now. You could be mowing your own lawn or doing the laundry. I don’t know why you are doing this.

The Judge: You think you know better don’t you. You think you know how to do everything better. Look at those young men having a good time. Why aren’t you smiling?

As I carried the water, the louder they got. The more the water splashed on my shoes creating sand into muddy cement that weighed down my feet, the louder they got.

And then I arrived at the tree. Calling it a tree was being generous. It was really just a twig sticking out of the ground. And it needed me. It needed what I had to offer — right now.

And so I poured the first bucket of water out into the hollowed-out area around the tree. And then I poured the second. And then I heard something that I realized were words coming out of my mouth. “Hey, little tree. I have some water for you. I believe in you little tree. You have what it takes. By this time next year, you will have grown so much. You will have grown branches and will be able to provide shade. You will provide food and shelter for animals and birds. Those who wander here will see your beauty and how you contribute to the beauty of this entire area. You can do it, little tree. I love you.”

And I found myself smiling as I returned to the river to fill my buckets with more water.

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Stress Awareness Month is a time to bring awareness to what causes our stress and how we can keep ourselves healthy mentally. “I was in a serious state of depression for 6 months, basically it started as soon as the pandemic started. The stress of everything happening in the world really made my mental state decline,” says Erin. “What helped me most was writing music. Out of all the chaos came my single Time To Live, which was my way of releasing my emotions into a song and telling myself and others that everything will be okay. I wanted to give people as well as myself a sense of hope and inspire people to continue to live their lives rather than hide in fear.”

Throughout the month of April, Erin hopes to encourage those who also may be struggling. She shares that it is incredibly important to recognize the things in your life that are causing you stress, but on the other hand, it is just as important to find those healthy ways to deal with it. “Set aside time every day to put yourself first. I’m an advocate for listening to your own body, taking slow deep breaks, setting routines and short-term goals to start off the day with an accomplishment.”

Stress continues to build for her in another aspect of her life as she gets ready to move over two thousand miles away and relocating from her hometown in CA to Nashville this summer. “I’m so excited

to be making this move. Yes, it’s very stressful when it comes to packing everything up, including traveling with two cats and a dog. While I do love living in CA, it’s time for me to make that move to Nashville to continue doing what I love.”

As Erin gears up to release a lyric video for this song, scheduled to come out later this month, she shares one more perception on the meaning of this song. “Anxiety and depression can happen to anyone regardless of their situation and everyone handles pain differently. In all, be kind to others, there’s always hope. It’s Time To Live.”

Visit Erin Cosgrove at her website and follow along with her on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. Her song Time To Live is available on all digital platforms including Spotify, Apple Music, and more. For more info on stress and ways to cope, visit www.stress.org.

About Erin Cosgrove: Breakthrough country artist Erin Cosgrove has it all. Based in Los Angeles and Nashville, this powerhouse singer, songwriter and actress has made a name for herself with a great social media following. Teaming up with Grammy winning producer Mikal Blue, Erin released her second single The Perfect Place to Start, which became an overnight hit, gaining over 15k Spotify streams in just the first week and premiered on Sirius XM The Highway. She is also an aspiring actress, having appeared in the hit TV show “Parenthood,” along with “Good Girls Revolt,” and USA’s reality show “Summer Camp.” Erin has opened for some of the biggest names in country music including A Thousand Horses, Big & Rich, Danielle Bradbery, Love & Theft and Russell Dickerson. She has performed at numerous festivals including the Oakheart Country Music Festival, Paddy Fest and Round Up Country Music Festival in CA as well as performing at the Daytona 500, the Tampa Bay Rays Baseball Stadium and the House of Blues. Whether she’s writing, performing, or acting, she feels most at home in front of a crowd or camera. With her powerful vocals, remarkable songwriting and impressive acting, Erin Cosgrove is setting the bar high with the finish line nowhere in sight.

Rusti is a writing coach who offers keynotes, breakout sessions, webinars, weekend retreats (both destination & online), and daylong writing seminars. For over a decade she has been a creative writing instructor and writing coach/editor, specializing in bringing an empathic, heart-centered approach to coaching authors and beginning writers to craft and tweak their words, stories, and lessons. Using time-tested exercises, she shares how our experiences and events are our mirrors and best teachers.

Writers are encouraged to find and speak in their own voice to best serve their audience, not the editor. Working with writers is one of her greatest joys. Sometimes the audience is you as her key statement is “the pen is mightier than the therapist.” Driven by a passion for memoir and passing on stories, Rusti believes if you have lived and breathed, you have a story. The page is the most friendly place for reflection and self-examination. Rusti is often told, “You create such safety for anyone in your groups.” If you have lived and learned, you have the wisdom to share! Both as a writing & speaking coach, she believes the page and stage are waiting for you to appear. Someone is waiting to hear your journey and learn from your wisdom.

You can learn more about Rusti by going to her website: www.rustilehay.info

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Elizabeth Power, M. Ed., CEO of EPower & Associates, Inc. epowerandassociates.com, is a sought-after speaker, facilitator, teacher, and consultant.  EPower &  Associates is the parent organization for The EPower Change Institute and The Trauma Informed Academy.

"All I do is help people with change, resilience and self-care, and alignment. And everything is done from the trauma-informed perspective," she says. "Even courses directly about working with trauma are about change."

Power develops cross-cultural adaptations of models of care for the mental health community as well as helping other countries like Japan develop their own models.  The Trauma-Informed Academy recently released her new model, The Trauma Responsive System which focuses on mastering 9 elements akin to applied emotional intelligence.

She was recently published as third author of an article in Family Medicine about the outcomes of the NIMH research project assessing the effectiveness of the use of the core principles of Risking Connection(r) by Primary Care Providers in their clinical settings. 

When organizations and associations book her as a speaker, it’s most often for motivation, to help people make and adapt to change or to tell her own story of hope and healing.  Conferences love her for her interactive virtual presentations on change, resilience and self-care, and trauma-informed thinking.

“Sharper than a number two pencil, and funnier than a six-pack of funny bones on go-juice,” was one audience member’s response. When you need a speaker with humor, depth, wisdom, and motivation, she’s the one.

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What are some of your core beliefs? Do they empower you or stop you in your tracks?

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In this podcast, I referenced Matthew Dicks, an amazing storyteller in his own right. You can find out more about him here.

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And now I'm standing in the gym with my trainer, and I am so tired. I'm looking around at this gym. It's a fairly small gym, there is a rack of weights. There's a medicine ball, there's a treadmill and a bunch of other things that I'm fairly familiar with, because I've been going to the gym for several years by myself.

I have decided that I needed to do something more intense for me because, unfortunately, as the years continue to go by, I continue to put more and more weight on my body, which I know physically is not healthy for me. And I want to be able to stick around for awhile and spend time with the people that I love the most. And so I've decided to hire this guy to see if he can help me take better care of my body. And I've asked him, in particular, if he can help me holistically, not just working particular muscles, but I want to be able to work more holistically mind, body, and spirit.  I chose him because he is a jujitsu instructor in addition to being a personal trainer, and he told me that his master, who taught him about jujitsu, believed in that holistic part of healing the mind, body, and soul. So I felt that this was going to be a really good experience for me.

He's showing me around the gym, give me a little bit of a tour of his place. He has just moved in a couple of months ago. And he's really excited about this new building, He's telling me about the history of the building and as he's talking, I ended up stepping on to the mat where he teaches jujitsu.  He says to me, "Hey, you got to get off of that. That is sacred ground."

And when he said that, I immediately stepped off of the mat. I didn't want to be disrespectful. But what struck me more was how immediately he reacted in a way that said, Hey, dude, this is sacred space, and no one is allowed to be on the sacred space until they're instructed to do So because sacred work, beautiful work happens on these mats. And so there's formality to it. And that made me really think about a question that a buddy of mine had asked me just three days earlier. And this is the question of the podcast.

Can you help me understand the difference between walls and fences?  

Listen to the answer on this podcast and deepen your understanding of what makes boundaries more effective.

If you want help connecting to your deepest value, click here to check out the Finding Peace Workbook.

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Troy also teaches the listener about BRPEs - the four behaviors that will drive disconnection in a relationship.

You can get a copy of the Year of Self-Love, which Troy reads from during the podcast here.

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In this episode, we explore whether or not Shame is really that great of a cheerleader.  

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And as always, you can pick up your copy of a Year of Self-Love by going here: https://amzn.to/2njvXc9

Referenced in this podcast are the following articles:

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/57a40c19414fb54f51f8095f/t/57db82fc37c581429570a889/1474003709483/Lickel+et+al.pdf

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2155472/The-way-Im-going-Im-going-live-longer-Why-TVs-650lb-Virgin--lost-400lbs-love--morbidly-obese-more.html

Dr Eileen M Feliciano is a doctoral-level Psychologist in New York State with a Psy.D. in the specialties of School and Clinical Psychology. After having thirty-one sessions this week with patients where the singular focus was COVID-19 and how to cope, Dr Feliciano decided to consolidate her advice.  You can read her advice at the link below:

https://energyresourcing.com/blog/mental-health-wellness-covid-19/

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Particularly I have been watching American Idol.  “There can only be one American Idol” is a phrase I hear repeatedly on the show.  There can only be one winner.  That is how it goes in competitions.  There can only be one gold medalist, one winner of the state basketball tournament, one student of the month. I get it.  It’s how the game works.  I hate it.

But it really stirred something up inside of me when I was watching this year's season of American Idol and the contestant Doug Kiker was shown into the audition room where Lionel Richie, Katie Perry, and Luke Bryan sat waiting to hear what Doug was going to sing. 

Doug works as a garbage man missing one of his front teeth.  He had no experience singing except for in the shower. He actually tried out for American Idol in August 2019 and didn’t make the cut before trying out again in front of the judges in Baton Rouge.  You can watch his audition here:

https://youtu.be/LfeXu26peJU

What stood out to me more than anything was the comment Lionel Ritchie made as he put his arm around Doug’s shoulder – “He is trying to show his daughter that he is somebody.”

With tears running down my cheeks, I blurted out, “He is somebody already!  He doesn’t have to prove that to anyone!”

As Rumi says, “You are more valuable than both Heaven and Earth.”  Just you being you is enough.

I want you to say it out loud – I am worthy of love and belonging.  When my shadows tell me otherwise, it is important for me to remember more than ever that I am loved. That I belong…

It is my hope that you can do the same, even if you are not selected as the employee of the month, don’t win on American Idol, or that you weren’t selected for the position you dreamed about – You are enough. And who knows, but if you can tap into that truth, your willingness to believe that may open doors you never imagined.

Please send me your questions for the podcast at troy@troyllove.com

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How  many emails have you received from banks, stores, insurance companies, etc. telling you how they are managing the current COVID 19 situation?

They are probably using words like…

Crisis….

Pandemic...

Critical...

Emergency...

Shortages…

Toilet paper...

 So stressful!  There is so much information being thrown around. It can be confusing.  One of the biggest messages that is proclaimed is social distancing. Ironically, research shows that isolation actually makes us a higher risk of susceptibility to infection, heart disease, stroke, even death.

In this podcast, I explore ways in which we can stay connected during this challenging time. I reference a study mentioned in Christian and Annmarie’s book,  Integrating the New Science of Love and a Spirituality of Peace.

I’d love to hear from you! What are you doing to stay connected to others? What has been hardest for you during this time?  What have you done to help yourself feel assurance that things are going to work out?

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Depression, anxiety disorders,  eating disorders, anorexia, chronic fatigue syndrome, insomnia, gastrointestinal issues, chronic migraines, and an increase in suicide rates.

But a lot of people think that demanding perfection from themselves and others is a powerful motivator for achieving outcomes. Well, the research didn't back that up. Instead, it makes us perform less well and we wallow in shame as a result.  

In this episode, I break down the difference between striving for excellence (which can be positive) and trying to be perfect.  

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Have you heard about the Finding Peace Retreat?  

The Finding Peace Retreat is a 4-day, intensive, experiential training based on the Amazon Best-Selling Book, Finding Peace. The weekend creates a place of healing for individuals with past wounds of loss, rejection, neglect, abandonment, betrayal, and abuse who are looking for greater joy, happier relationships, and deeper fulfillment in their lives. You can learn more about it by clicking here. Spots are filling up fast and the retreat will not be offered again in 2020.

May you find peace always,

Troy

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Here is a list of Warning Signs of Suicide:

• Talking about wanting to die
• Looking for a way to kill oneself
• Talking about feeling hopeless or having no purpose
• Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
• Feeling like being a burden to others
• Increasing the use of drugs or alcohol
• Acting anxious, agitated, or reckless,
• Changes in sleep patterns
• Withdrawing or isolating
• Showing rage or talking about revenge
• Extreme mood swings

Christopher shared the QPR model:

Question the person about suicide

Persuade the person to get help

Refer the person for help

During our interview, the following resources were shared:

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

or TEXT "Hello" to 741741

Yuma Community Suicide Prevention Coalition:

Facebook.com/YCSPC

Yuma Crisis Line: 1-866-495-6735

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, there is hope and there is help.  Use one of the resources above to get help!

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The exercise that I share in this podcast is found in Peter's book, Healing Trauma. 

And of course, you can purchase your own copy of  Year of Self-Love here. 

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If you would like to learn more about the Finding Peace Retreat, where we help you develop a plan for lasting change, check out: https://www.findingpeaceacademy.com/finding-peace-retreat

And if you haven't picked up your copy of a Year of Self-Love, you can do so by going here: http://bit.ly/Yearofselflove 

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Nadine Burke Harris also gave a Ted talk on aces and how it affects health throughout our lives. You can watch her talk here: https://www.ted.com/talks/nadine_burke_harris_how_childhood_trauma_affects_health_across_a_lifetime?language=en

If you would like to learn more about adverse childhood experiences, you can go to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Here you can find a copy of the aces quiz along with other statistics and resources. Https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/childabuseandneglect/acestudy/index.html

Breanna also shared the resiliency assessment. A copy of that assessment is found here: http://www.traumainformedcareproject.org/resources/RESILIENCE_Questionnaire.pdf

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During Matt's growing up years,  he was afraid to let others know that my family was in therapy, as there was often negative stigma and stereotypes attached to it. Gratefully getting help from a mental health professional today is more widely accepted. Matt strongly believes that we are not meant to be alone in this life. Sadly, many of us suffer difficulties that leave us feeling isolated and on our own. As a therapist, Matt quickly gravitated to attachment work and he loves to help individuals, couples, and families learn to connect and attach securely to each other. I have extensive training and practice in emotionally focused therapy (EFT) which is the “gold standard” for this attachment work.  Matt is also a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT) and at Family Strategies Counseling Center.  He has been a practicing mental health clinician since 2012.

In this episode, Matt discusses the hierarchy of connection and gives the listener tools and tips to help make a deeper connection.

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#Connection #connections #friendship #friendshipismagic 

You are also invited to reflect on those who have loved you.  I'd love to hear your stories of how you loved someone else or how someone showed up for you!

You can listen to this and other episodes of the Finding Peace Podcast by going to any of the following links. 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242 https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUg https://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast

Do you know someone who could use a year of Self-Love?  Check out the new book, A Year of Self-Love here.

Take the Five-Day Finding Peace Challenge at www.troyllove.com

You can listen to this podcast on the following links:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242 https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUg https://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast

In this episode, I also mention Mr. Roger's Acceptance Speech at the Emmys for his Lifetime Achievement Award. You can watch his speech here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upm9LnuCBUM

 And remember that A Year of Self-Love is now available to purchase. Pick up your copy here:https://amzn.to/2lCfOxZ

I also answer Megan's question about how to develop self love and self esteem. I refer to my new book, A Year of Self-Love, that came out today, November 19,2019 at a bookstore near you.  You can purchase your own copy here: https://amzn.to/2mNJTun

#thanksmisterrogers #Self-Love

I explain the concept of wanting a do-over and how we tend to put ourselves in situations hoping for a different outcome.  

The Finding Peace Workbook helps us change these patterns in our lives. You can purchase a copy by going to https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Peace-Workbook-Rejection-Abandonment/dp/1546458727/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Troy+l+love&qid=1573068479&sr=8-1

You can also pre-order my new book, A Year of Self-Love by going here: https://amzn.to/2lCfOxZ

A Year of Self Love will be coming out in November. You can preorder your copy here: https://amzn.to/2lCfOxZ

The Finding Peace Workbook can be purchased here.

The Online Finding Peace Course can be purchased here. 

Pre-Order your copy of A Year of Self-Love here.

Also in this show, we explore three points of the Self-Compassion Moment.

1. Honoring our wounds and validating that they hurt.

2. Recognizing that we are not alone in our suffering and that there are others who can relate to what we are going through.

3. Encouraging ourselves to be kinder to ourselves during the process.

Preorder your copy of A Year of Self Love by clicking here: https://amzn.to/2lCfOxZ

Can you recognize the shadows of shame that show up in your life? Can you also recognize the angels who were present in your life who whisper truths about your talents, capabilities, and potential? Who has touched your life and inspired you to dig deeper and step into your core truth?

It is important to note that there is a difference between excelling in skill versus comparing our worth to someone else simply because they have a better mastery of any particular skill. 

How do the Shadows of Shame discussed in this episode show up in your life?  Drop us a line to let us know or to ask a question.  

To get a free copy of the Amazon Best-Selling Book, The Art of Peace, go to www.troyllove.com 

This episode explores what is not helpful when we find ourselves stuck on the cliffs of life and what we can do instead.  Troy explores the quote in As a Man Thinketh by James Allen, “A man only begins to be a man when he ceases to whine and revile and commences to search for the hidden justice which regulates his life. And he adapts his mind to that regulating factor, he ceases to accuse others as the cause of his condition, and builds himself up in strong and noble thoughts; ceases to kick against circumstances, but begins to use them as aids to his more rapid progress, and as a means of the hidden powers and possibilities within himself.”

Toni asks a question about how codependency is related to childhood trauma.

Free Resources on Prodependence can be found at https://sexandrelationshiphealing.com/your-own-sexual-behavior/weekly-webinars/prodependence-betrayed-partner-group/ or

https://sexandrelationshiphealing.com/your-own-sexual-behavior/weekly-webinars/mens-prodependence-partner-group/

or

https://sexandrelationshiphealing.com/your-own-sexual-behavior/weekly-webinars/prodependence/

Send your questions to troy@troyllove.com

3:00 I am afraid of heights.

3:42 Someone sees me on the high dive

4:20 John Eldredge has said, “Even if he can’t quite put it into words, every man is haunted by the question, "Do I have what it takes?”

5:25  The shadows of shame show up.

6:36 The core emotion I faced standing on the diving board was fear.   

6:54 Faith is the antidote to fear.

8:00 - The Pain and Peace Conundrum

10:35 - Having people believe in us can strengthen our own faith

10:46 - Q&A

This podcast is sponsored by the Finding Peace Retreat.

The Finding Peace Retreat is a 4-day, intensive, experiential training based on the Amazon Best-Selling Book, Finding Peace.

The weekend creates a place of healing for individuals with past wounds of loss, rejection, neglect, abandonment, betrayal, and abuse who are looking for greater joy, happier relationships, and deeper fulfillment in their lives.

Whether you’re just becoming aware of how these wounds have impacted your life or are exhausted with the constant cycle of trying to do your best and still feeling like a failure, the Finding Peace Retreat will give you the skills to heal from the past, change the internal negative messages that drive feelings of shame, and develop mindful, compassionate habits leading to greater contentment and peace.

Discover your truth! Connect with your inner light that ignites your power, connection, and purpose.

For more information go to: https://www.findingpeaceacademy.com/finding-peace-retreat

0:32 - I am standing in the small break room in one of the buildings of our local community college. I am grabbing a bottle of water and relieved because the presentation I had just done on helping individuals who self-harm was over. I was silently expressing gratitude that it was finished when the secretary brought in the participant reviews.

0.44 – Meet Philip Sustar…..

1:42 – Philip begins his story and identifies his first attachment wounds: Loss and Abandonment when his father passed away.

2:48 – Philip shares his associated negative core belief with Loss and Abandonment, particularly around men.  He identifies that these negative core beliefs still affect him today even though the wounds occurred at such a young age.

3:36 – Philip is exposed to pornography at the age of 7. With no-one around to help him process the experience, he quickly identified a numbing tool to deal with his attachment wounds.

6:04 – Philip recognized that sex had become his primary coping tool. He realizes now that he was actually craving emotional connection, but his numbing behaviors were simply a counterfeit for the real thing.

7:50 – Philip shares that his first marriage didn’t last. His sexual numbing behaviors had a direct impact on the marriage.  He recognized the progression of his addictive behaviors and saw the path didn’t have a good outcome unless he changed some things in his life.

9:42 – Philip shares how joining a group changed the trajectory of his life. He shares how he had to confront shame with courage.

11:38 – Philip shares one his triggers and recognized it wasn’t the surface level temptations, but deeper emotional struggles. He identified more negative core beliefs that had been tattooed on his heart.

13:44 –Philip shared how he became familiar with the Finding Peace Retreat. He discussed his plan to do a deeper dive in the work, but also admitted that going to the retreat was his way of kicking himself in the pants to actually do the healing work he knew he needed.

15:50 – Philip shared one of the biggest impacts of the Finding Peace retreat. He identified that having women on the retreat helped him be able to process some of his woundedness around women, particularly with the wound of rejection.  There was a discussion about how beneficial it has been to keep the retreat co-ed for both male and female participants.

20:45 – Philip identified what changed about him after coming home from the retreat. He shared that learning the perspective of Attachment wounds went a long way to understand his own behaviors and the behaviors of others.  He also shared that the retreat introduced him to the Shadows of Shame that have been trying to negatively affect him and distract. 

In this episode, Troy does discuss some topics that may not be appropriate for younger children, however, he does not go into explicit detail.

If you would like a free copy of Troy's Amazon Best-Selling book, The Art of Peace, go to www.troyllove.com 

It can be an act of gratitude and appreciation to reflect upon who in your life has been an Attachment Angel. How have those individuals blessed your life?

In this episode of the finding peace podcast, I explore one of my attachment Angels and the blessing that she has been in my life. I would love to hear your comments about who has blessed you in your life and the difference these people have made for you and your future.

For more information of healing from Attachment Wounds, go to www.troyllove.com or www.findingpeaceacademy.com

The good news is that negative core messages can be written and when they do, a whole new world opens up to us.  In this episode, Troy discusses one of the most permeating negative core messages he carried for most of his life and how his perception changes when the negative core message is rewritten.

For more information on how to rewrite negative core beliefs using the Finding Peace Model, go to www.troyllove.com or www.findingpeaceacademy.com

Pain and shame are two of the biggest drivers of suicide. Often the suicidal person is just wanting the pain to stop or they fear that things are never going to get better.  Shame conveys a sense of unworthiness and hopeless.  Especially if they have made a mistake, they believe that they are never going to get past the mistake.  

Warning signs include:

• Talking about wanting to die

• Searching for a way to kill themselves

• Feeling hopeless

• Feeling trapped or in unbearable pain

• Talking about being a burden to others

• Increasing use of alcohol or drugs

• Acting anxious or agitated, or behaving recklessly

• Changes in sleep patterns

• Withdrawing or isolating

• Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge

• Having extreme mood swings

But there is hope.  There is a way out of the darkness.  

Here are some resources for suicidal ideation:

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-someone-now/

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/preventing-suicide/facts-about-suicide/