Clarity Within with Russell Davis

Why Success Can Feel Empty: The Goal Behind The Goal

Tue, 07 Apr 2026 02:38:00 +0100

I remember getting a big promotion at work. The congratulations from colleagues. The excitement of a new challenge and a pay rise. Then, a few days later, walking in on a Monday morning thinking, "Is this it?"

The research is clear: reaching your goals, winning the lottery, even having a baby, doesn't fundamentally change how content you feel. You return to your habitual level of happiness. Most of us are simply aiming at the wrong spot.

If you've ever worked hard to achieve something and felt a hollow emptiness when you got there, this episode is for you.

There's always a goal behind the goal. The promotion, the status, the money, these are the top of the log. Feeling secure, worthy, and whole, that's the bottom. And that's a place to come from, not a place to get to.

The emptiness you feel isn't a sign that something is wrong with you. It's a love letter from your soul.

Clarity Within - The Search is Over

Sun, 05 Apr 2026 13:36:06 +0100

If you've been listening since the days of The Fertile Mind, or found me more recently through You Unleashed, this short episode is for you.

The podcast has a new name, Clarity Within, and a new strapline: The Search Is Over. In this episode, I explain why, where the show has been, and where it's going.

This journey started as a podcast for people navigating the deeply personal experience of fertility. It then opened up to anyone who felt that pull, the sense of striving, achieving, and still feeling like something was missing. That evolution was real, but I didn't explain it to you.

Consider this me putting that right.

Whatever brought you here, fertility, purpose, confidence, or simply that quiet feeling that there's more to life, you're in exactly the right place. The show hasn't changed. It's just finally found its name.

Welcome to Clarity Within.

What I Learned When I Stopped Thinking I Knew Best

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 02:02:00 +0100

What if God is not outside of you, but within you? (Whatever 'God' is for you.)

In this deeply personal episode, I share my journey from religious fear and judgment to experiencing self-compassion, alignment and connection to what I call the intelligence behind life.

We explore ego, perfectionism, prayer, and the difference between striving to be good enough and knowing you already are.

Whether you are spiritual, sceptical or somewhere in between, this episode invites you to rethink your relationship with God, purpose and your own innate worth.

Ending the Need to Prove Yourself

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 02:04:00 +0000

Do you secretly feel like you are not enough?

In this episode, I explore how the belief of not being good enough drives overworking, people pleasing, anxiety and fear of failure. We look at how this mindset begins in childhood and quietly shapes our relationships, career and confidence.

If you are tired of trying to prove your worth, this conversation will help you reconnect with your innate value, shift from lack to abundance, and finally feel at home in yourself.

From Drifter to Creator: How to Build a Life That Inspires You

Tue, 17 Mar 2026 02:01:00 +0000

Do you ever feel like you are drifting through life, successful on paper but disconnected inside?

In this episode, I explore why so many ambitious people feel stuck, lost or unsure of their direction. We look at fear, people pleasing, lack of purpose and the hidden beliefs that keep us playing small.

If you want to stop living the life you think you should live and start creating a life aligned with your heart and soul, this episode will give you clarity, courage and practical insight to begin.

The Dragon Is Not Real, Breaking Free from Fear

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 02:00:00 +0000

I want to tell you a story, a story about a dragon.

It's a story that captures something I see in almost every person I work with, and something I lived myself for years without realising it. We build our lives around protection, chasing money, status, love, approval, because somewhere deep down, we believe there's a dragon coming for us. And the dragon feels completely real. It looks real. It feels real. But what if it isn't?

In this episode, I share Michael Neill's powerful dragon story and explore what happens when we start to see that the fear driving so much of our behaviour isn't actually about what we think it's about. I open up about how I hoarded money without realising it, how much of my identity was wrapped up in my job title, and what it felt like when both were stripped away.

When you see through the illusion of your insecure thinking, when you really see there's no dragon, something extraordinary happens. The anxiety doesn't just reduce. It dissolves. And in the quiet that follows, you reconnect with something that was always there: clarity, wisdom, and the knowing that you are already safe.

You're not scared of what you think you're scared of. You're scared of what you think.

From Good To Great: The 3 Levels of Happiness You Were Never Taught

Tue, 03 Mar 2026 01:57:00 +0000

You've done the work, hit the goals, earned the life, so why does it still feel like something's missing? In this episode, I explore the three levels of happiness through the lens of positive psychology: from chasing pleasure, through achievement, to living with genuine purpose. You'll discover why external success can never create lasting fulfilment, and what it actually means to shift from an outside-in life to an inside-out one. If you're stuck, restless, or quietly wondering is this it? - this episode is for you.

A Guided Meditation to Meet Your Future Self (And Find Your Direction)

Tue, 24 Feb 2026 02:06:00 +0000

When your mind is noisy, and you've lost your sense of direction, sometimes the clearest answers come not from thinking harder, but from going deeper. This immersive guided meditation invites your unconscious mind to connect with the version of you who lived fully, loved deeply, and followed your soul's calling. Find a quiet space, press play, and let this episode do its work.

The Hidden Cost of People Pleasing - And How to Finally Stop

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 02:05:00 +0000

If there were an Olympic medal for people pleasing, I would have won it. In this honest and personal episode, I trace my decades-long habit of becoming whoever I thought others needed me to be, from childhood through my corporate career, and the quiet pain of not knowing who I actually was. I share the insight that changed everything: that self-compassion, not other people's approval, was the missing piece all along. This episode is an invitation to stop living for others and start living from your heart.

Why Thinking Harder Keeps You Stuck (And What to Do Instead)

Tue, 10 Feb 2026 02:03:00 +0000

Most high achievers believe their greatest asset is their ability to think through problems. But what if overthinking is actually what's keeping you trapped? In this episode, I share how I discovered that trying to manage his state of mind through more analysis only made things worse, and introduce a deceptively simple metaphor: the mind works like a snow globe. When you stop shaking it, clarity settles on its own. This episode will change how you relate to your own thoughts.

How to Stop Living the Life You Think You Should - And Come Home to Yourself

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 02:00:00 +0000

After a decade of infertility and a career that never quite felt like mine, I hit a moment of reckoning, and it arrived, unexpectedly, through an encounter with a baby rabbit. In this deeply personal episode, I explore what it means to stop drifting through a life shaped by "should" and to find your way back to who you truly are. If you've ever felt like you're performing your life rather than living it, this episode is a quiet invitation home.

You Are Not Bad or Wrong for How You Feel: Here's What's Really Happening

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 01:55:00 +0000

Do you ever judge yourself for your emotions, or wonder why the people you love seem to react so differently to the same situation? In this episode, I open up about how I used to dismiss my wife's feelings without realising it, and what changed when I understood where emotions really come from. I explore masculine and feminine energy in relationships, why emotions so often create disconnection rather than closeness, and why the path to healing always runs through compassion, not judgment. You are not broken for feeling what you feel.

What If Life Isn't Against You? Einstein's Question That Changed Everything

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 02:53:00 +0000

Einstein once asked whether the universe is friendly, and I believe your answer to that question shapes everything: your relationships, your confidence, your sense of what's possible. In this episode, I trace how my childhood wired me to believe life was harsh and judgmental, and how a gradual shift in that belief changed the texture of my entire experience. What if the universe isn't indifferent or cruel, but actually has your back? What if you are already worthy, exactly as you are?

"I'm Not Good Enough": How to Unlearn the Hidden Beliefs Running Your Life

Tue, 13 Jan 2026 02:52:00 +0000

Most of us are living out beliefs we never consciously chose, thoughts like I'm not good enough, I don't deserve to be happy, or success isn't for people like me. In this episode, I explore how these hidden beliefs quietly run the show, why they feel like facts rather than thoughts, and how even a single insight can begin to unravel them. Whether you're dealing with imposter syndrome, fear of success, or chronic self-judgment, this episode shows you that what was learned can be unlearned.

Why Do I Feel Like Life Is Against Me? Finding Peace When Everything Feels Personal

Tue, 06 Jan 2026 01:50:00 +0000

During our ten-year fertility journey, I felt a deep, burning sense of injustice that life was abandoning me or working against me. In this candid episode, I explore the habit of taking everything personally (from missed opportunities to traffic jams) and the profound shift that came with a different question: what if life isn't personal at all? What if it's simply neutral? This reframe didn't just change how I saw life's difficulties; it led me to a deeper version of myself I hadn't known was there.

Healthy Goals vs Toxic Goals: How to Set Goals That Don't Destroy Your Wellbeing

Tue, 30 Dec 2025 01:37:00 +0000

As a new year begins, most people set goals from pressure, fear, or the quiet feeling that they're not enough yet. In this episode, drawn from the archive, I unpack why some goals actually hold us back, and how goal-setting from the wrong inner state can quietly disconnect us from ourselves. I share a different approach: choosing goals that evoke a powerful way of being, and holding them lightly enough that your self-worth never depends on the outcome. It's not just about what you achieve. It's about who you become along the way.

The Search for Belonging

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 01:35:00 +0000

In this episode, I open up about my lifelong search for a sense of belonging. From feeling like an outsider at school and university, to people-pleasing in adulthood in hopes of earning love and acceptance, I share how old stories shaped how I saw myself. But the real shift happened when I stopped trying to belong by proving my worth and started reconnecting with the truth of who I am beyond the noise of thoughts and judgments. I discovered that belonging doesn’t come from the outside; it comes from within. From knowing we’re already enough, already loved, already worthy, just as we are.

The Courage To Listen

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 01:33:00 +0000

In this episode, I reflect on a simple but powerful idea that struck me from a book I was reading: “Do you have the courage to listen?” It made me realise how often we hear only what we want to hear, or what we already know, instead of truly listening with an open heart. I talk about the times I’ve been challenged to listen to uncomfortable truths about myself, my life, and what I truly desire, and how choosing to listen anyway, even when it hurt, has led to growth, healing and deeper connection. This is about stepping out of your head and into your heart, and having the courage to hear what it’s been trying to tell you all along.

Silencing The Inner Critic

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 01:31:00 +0000

In this episode, I explore the voice many of us live with, the inner critic. I share my own experience of being unknowingly hard on myself, constantly chasing perfection to avoid judgment and earn love. As I became more aware of this critical part of me, I learned that fighting it didn’t help. What made the difference was something far more radical: acceptance. I talk about how compassion, not correction, helped me soften that inner voice, and how imagining that critic as a younger version of myself allowed me to respond with love instead of resistance. If you’ve ever struggled with self-judgment, I hope this episode helps you find a gentler way forward.

Learning To Be Present

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 01:21:00 +0000

In this episode, I open up about one of the most painful moments in my marriage, when my wife told me she felt lonely in our relationship. That wake-up call helped me see just how much I’d been living in my head, disconnected from the present and the people I love. I share how childhood habits of overthinking became my coping mechanism, and how I’ve been learning to come back to presence, to love, and to life itself. This is a raw and honest reflection on the journey from numbing to feeling, from overthinking to connection, and from fear to freedom. I hope it helps you find more connection to your true self that knows you are OK, and to feel more connected to those you love.

From Emotional Avoidance to Emotional Freedom

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 01:46:00 +0000

What if you’ve been avoiding more than just difficult emotions? In this episode, I share my own journey of expanding my emotional range, from numbing anxiety and flatlining through life to truly feeling the full spectrum of joy, grief, love, and connection. We explore how our relationship with feelings affects our relationships with others and our connection to our true self and innate resources, keeping us stuck in life. Learn how to embrace your emotions without fear or judgment, reconnect with your soul, deepen your wellbeing, and allow life to flow more freely.

Creating from the Inside-Out

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 01:43:00 +0000

Are you chasing success to feel happy, or creating from a place of happiness? In this episode, we delve into the profound shift from living outside-in to living inside-out. I break down 10 transformative principles that invite you to stop proving your worth and start honouring your soul. This episode is a call to stop striving and start creating from who you really are, complete and whole.

From Pressure To Presence

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 01:38:00 +0000

Why do we freeze under pressure, even when we care deeply about showing up fully? In this episode, we explore the hidden ways we choke, at work, in relationships, on stage, and how pressure is often self-imposed fear rooted in overthinking. Drawing from sports, personal growth, and psychology, he invites us to see that high performance isn’t about perfection; it’s about presence. Discover how letting go of pressure and tuning into the moment can unlock your most powerful, authentic self, and release the tension and pressure we are storing in our mind and bodies.

The Myth of Normal

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 01:34:00 +0000

What if there’s no such thing as normal? In this episode, we explore the stories we carry about not being good enough, our deep drive to conform, the cancer of comparison and how true freedom comes from reconnecting with who we really are. Through reflections, insights, and lived experience, this episode helps you let go of judgment, drop the mask, and discover the peace of simply being you.

Why You Can't Trust Your Feelings

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 01:13:00 +0000

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking a big misunderstanding: that our feelings are a reliable guide to life.

What if they’re not? What if fear, doubt, and discomfort don’t need to be fixed or followed, but simply noticed and gently held?

Join me as I explore how to stop letting emotions dictate our decisions and start honouring something deeper, our soul, our truth, our quiet wisdom beneath the noise.

Stop Trying To Control Your Thoughts!

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 01:11:00 +0100

In today’s episode, we’re tackling one of the biggest myths out there, that we can control our thoughts. From caveman wiring to corporate overthinking, I unpack why your thoughts aren’t the problem… but how you relate to them might be.

This is an invitation to stop battling your brain and start listening to something deeper, your wisdom, your heart, your soul. If you’ve ever felt trapped by your own overthinking, this one’s for you.

How To Avoid Regrets

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 01:09:00 +0100

Today, we’re diving into a powerful reflection, one that begins with a bold career decision and ends with a deeply human question: What would I regret if I were on my deathbed today?

Inspired by the insights of palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware, this episode explores the top five regrets of the dying and how they can guide us toward more meaningful, joyful, and authentic lives now.

If you're navigating big decisions or just feeling a little off-track, this conversation might be the nudge your soul has been waiting for.

Be Free of Judgements

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 01:07:00 +0100

Today, I share a personal story that began with a simple conversation and ended with a life-changing realisation about judgment. It’s about uncovering the silent rules we've absorbed, the ways we measure ourselves and others, and how that inner critic quietly shapes our lives.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, like you're living life with the wrapper still on, this episode might just help you begin to unwrap the truth of who you really are.

Let’s dive in.

How To Get Unstuck

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 01:40:00 +0100

This week, we are dipping into the archive. In this motivational episode from July 2023, Russell explores the emotional weight of feeling stuck, whether in your career, personal life, or dreams that haven’t yet come alive. Through honest reflections and inspiring client stories, he reveals the power of simply beginning. Because clarity, confidence, and flow don’t come before the first step, they come from it.

You’ll discover:

Why feeling “ready” is a myth and why action creates momentum
How fear of regret can be a powerful motivator for change
What mountaineers, baby photographers, and award-winning filmmakers have in common
Why commitment isn’t a feeling, it’s a choice
The one question that can unlock your next move

This episode is a rallying cry to stop waiting, stop overthinking, and just start. Because the smallest action can topple the biggest blocks.

What Do You Really Want?

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 01:38:00 +0100

In this episode, Russell unpacks the surprisingly difficult, but profoundly important, question: What do I really want? Drawing from his own journey of breaking free from expectations and helping clients do the same, he explores how childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, and self-doubt cloud our clarity and dampen our dreams.

You’ll discover:

Why so many of us don’t know what we truly want (and why that’s okay)
How fear of judgment and learned expectations shape our decisions
Why starting with what you don’t want can help clarify what you do
How to give yourself permission to dream big and live from your heart
Practical tools to reconnect with your desires and create from the inside-out

This episode is an invitation to ditch the “shoulds,” rediscover what lights you up, and start living a life that’s deeply, unapologetically you.

How to Reclaim Your Worth

Tue, 16 Sep 2025 01:36:00 +0100

In this episode, Russell unpacks the deeply human but often hidden habit of seeking validation from others and how it disconnects us from our own sense of worth. With powerful storytelling and raw personal insight, he guides you toward a new relationship with yourself one built on self-acceptance, not external approval.

You’ll discover:

Why chasing praise keeps you anxious, burnt out, and unfulfilled
How validation-seeking begins in childhood and becomes an unconscious habit
Why even praise can't fix the "leaky vase" of self-judgment
The link between people-pleasing, burnout, and fear of criticism
A powerful forgiveness practice to release self-judgment and reclaim your truth

This episode is a compassionate call to stop outsourcing your OKness and start living from your own inner knowing.

How to Hear Your Inner Voice (Even Through the Noise)

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 01:33:00 +0100

In this episode, Russell explores the often-overlooked power of trusting your inner voice, the quiet wisdom that lives beneath the noise of your busy mind. Through real-life stories, vulnerable reflections, and transformative client breakthroughs, he unpacks why clarity doesn’t come from thinking harder, but from listening deeper.

You’ll discover:

Why you struggle to make decisions (and what to do instead)
How your mind’s fear-based noise drowns out your truth
What it really means to trust yourself even when it doesn’t “make sense”
Why short-term discomfort leads to long-term peace
How to honour your intuition without needing to justify it

This episode is an invitation to stop overthinking and start listening to the wisdom within, the part of you that already knows what’s right.

What To Do With Your Busy Mind

Tue, 02 Sep 2025 01:31:00 +0100

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, Russell dives deep into a struggle so many of us silently face: the relentless hum of a busy mind. Drawing from personal experience and the transformative journeys of his clients, he unpacks the real reason our thoughts feel so overwhelming and why trying to manage or silence them rarely brings the peace we seek.

You’ll discover:

What a busy mind actually is (it's not just about negative thoughts)
How distraction, stress, and disconnection stem from a misunderstood place
Why constant stimulation feels necessary but keeps us stuck
The innocent roots of overthinking (and why judgment keeps us trapped)
How loving acceptance and compassion, not control, are the keys to inner calm

Whether you're seeking more presence, clarity, or connection, this episode offers a powerful invitation to return to the quieter, wiser self within you.

Playing Full Out In Life

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 02:27:00 +0100

So often in life, we hold back from playing full out, going for what we want, being who we want to be, speaking our truth, all out of fear. In this episode, we explore what it means to play full out in life, what typically stops us and how we can live a life of no regrets.

Why Expectations Are Toxic

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 02:25:00 +0100

This week we are diving in to the arhcive, this time from March 2023. We explore why expectations are toxic and how they rob us of appreciation in life and set us up for disappointment and frustration.

You Unleashed Trailer

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 13:48:05 +0100

I am Russell Davis, the voice behind the You Unleashed podcast. I have been a therapist and a coach for over 18 years, and I help people get out in their own way, connect to their innate confidence and clarity and well-being to create more life than inspired by deliver life true to their heart and their soul, not one contaminated by fear and expectation.

I've helped people create new lives the other side of the world, have the babies have always wanted, start the business they've been craving to start, to start a new life after being a successful Olympian. In all sorts of walks of life, I have helped people create more of what they want in their life.

This weekly podcast is a short, ten-minute dose of clarity, inspiration and insight. It's a space for you to come back home to connect with your true self, to hear the little voice within and know what you want and know you can create the things you want. It helps you see through the illusion of the noise in our heads and come back to your true self with innate clarity and confidence.

So join me each week for this little ten-minute dose of inspiration and clarity. You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, whether it's Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever it may be. Search Russell Davis You Unleashed. I look forward to joining you on your journey to creating your life unleashed. Loving you.

Being Free From Guilt & Still Be a Nice Person!

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 02:22:00 +0100

We all feel it from time to time, some more than others. Guilt. Guilt can keep us stuck and trapped in people pleasing and perfectionism, keeping us in a place of dis-ease, worry and unhappiness. In this episode, we explore how you can be free from guilt and still be a nice person!

The WD40 Of Change

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 02:17:00 +0100

I had a coach who once said 'Acceptance is the WD40 of change'. This stuck with me and over the years, and in the most challenging of times I can see how true it is. In this episode, we explore what I mean by acceptance and why it is the oil of change.

Unlearning the Habit of Worry

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 01:16:00 +0100

In this episode, we are dipping into the archive from July 2024. I explore our relationship with anxiety and overthinking. I once believed worry was part of my identity, only to discover it was a learned habit shaped by misunderstanding and fear. I share the insights and realisations that helped me and my clients find true peace and freedom, and return to a feeling of home that exists beneath all the noise.

Reclaiming Your Power, Peace, and Purpose

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 01:11:00 +0100

In this episode, I reflect on a time when I felt adrift and unfulfilled despite outward success, and how a shift in self-leadership transformed my life. I share six powerful principles that helped me reconnect with my innate well-being and move from victimhood to empowerment. Through my own vulnerability and insight, I invite you to explore your own path to freedom, purpose, and self-connection.

Four Steps to Clean, Honest Communication

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 01:16:00 +0100

In this episode, we’re exploring one of the biggest barriers to genuine connection in relationships: judgment, and how it quietly undermines our ability to truly understand and be understood. I’ll be introducing a profoundly simple yet transformative model that provides a clean framework for communicating from a place of clarity, empathy, and honesty. Whether it’s navigating a tense moment with your partner or simply asking for what you need from a colleague, this episode will help you in all relationships and interactions.

Why Willpower Isn’t Enough

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 01:28:00 +0100

In this episode, we explore what truly drives us and why traditional motivation methods often fall short. We break down the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation, revealing how tapping into our inner purpose, curiosity, and autonomy creates lasting drive. Learn how to align your actions with what really matters to you and feel more empowered in every area of life.

The Power of Not Knowing

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 01:55:00 +0100

In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of overthinking and the freedom found in letting go of the need to know. I share how what once felt like my greatest strength, my thinking, was actually holding me back from clarity, peace, and purpose. Discover how embracing the unknown can quiet the mind, bring ease to life (and your body), unlock inner wisdom, and bring you home to yourself.

Our Focus Creates Our Reality

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 01:53:00 +0100

Feeling stuck and frustrated about an aspect of life? Or life as a whole? In this episode, we explore how we are often focusing too much on how to create what we want, which stops us from actually doing it! We often try too hard and get in our own way of success. We explore how we can create with more ease and wellbeing!

What Does Your Money Mirror Tell You?

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 01:44:00 +0100

I think money is a fascinating subject. I help my clients let go of limiting beliefs that hold them back in life. In this episode, we look at how our relationship with money can tell us a lot about whether we have limiting beliefs in life or not, and not just about money!

The Power of Connection

Tue, 10 Jun 2025 01:42:00 +0100

The missing ingredient in interactions, whether with our loved ones or colleagues, that can mean anything from misunderstanding to conflict, is connection. In this episode, we explore what connection is and how to create it to bring more ease into relationships, especially in challenging times when emotions are high.

Confidence v Courage

Tue, 03 Jun 2025 01:38:00 +0100

What do we need to create more of what we want in life? Confidence or courage? In this episode, we explore why we can't trust our feelings and when we do listen to our feelings, we can end up feeling stuck in life.

The REAL Cause of Stress

Tue, 27 May 2025 01:07:00 +0100

Stress is so common in today's society. At the same time, I think there is often a misunderstanding of the cause. When you begin to see what's really creating your stress, you can stop looking in the wrong place for the answers and resolve it at the root cause. In this episode, we explore the real cause of stress.

Meditation: An Act Or State Of Mind?

Tue, 20 May 2025 01:04:00 +0100

I used to have a very busy mind. I still do at times. Meditation used to be something I thought I needed to do to have a quieter mind, not that it made much difference in the rest of my day. It is now something I enjoy but don't feel I need. In this episode, we explore meditation as a state of mind instead of an act.

The Secret To More Fun: Finding Joy Even In Tough Times

Tue, 13 May 2025 01:03:00 +0100

I think most people wouldn't say no to more fun in their lives! Despite how challenging life circumstances can be, is it possible to still have moments of fun? How do you create a life with more fun? In this episode, we explore the psychology behind fun and how you can experience more fun and joy in your life.

Thoughts & Feelings Are Not Real

Tue, 06 May 2025 01:55:00 +0100

In this week's episode, we explore the freedom that comes from seeing how thoughts and feelings are pure imagination. 100% of the time.

The Invitation To Be You!

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 01:09:00 +0100

In this episode, I share a poem that I came across in the midst of our infertility journey when life felt hopeless, and I felt worthless. It sparked something in me. It evoked a deep desire to play full-out in life and not have any regrets. To stop getting in my own way. It is called The Invitation. It is an invitation for you to be fully you and create a life of passion and purpose.

How To Deal With Criticism

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 01:07:00 +0100

Criticism can cut deep. Particularly if it is unfair. It can trigger us unnecessarily. Being sensitive to it can keep us in a state of tension. In this episode, we explore why this is the case and how you can stay calm and in your power in the face of unfair criticism.

I am a Champion For Your Soul

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 01:04:00 +0100

We all need someone who's got our back. Who believes in us more than we believe in ourselves. Who picks us up when life feels tough. Who helps us get clear on our truths and have the confidence to create the life we want. My coaches do this for me. In this episode, we explore why this is important and what it can unlock within you to help you create the inspired life you deserve.

The Courage To Be Wrong

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 01:03:00 +0100

I like to be right. I can find it hard to admit I am wrong, particularly to people I care about most. In this episode, we explore why this is often the case and why admitting we are wrong can take courage, but it is also a gift of love (to ourselves and others).

The ‘Something’s Wrong With Me’ Myth—And How to Break Free

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 01:54:00 +0100

Kids can start to think there is something wrong with them when they compare themselves and/or their lives to others. I know I did. This can play out in our lives as adults, even though we are not kids anymore. We start to gather evidence and life experiences that reinforce this unconscious belief. In this episode, we explore how we can let go of that belief, regardless of life experiences that try to reinforce it.

Connecting To Your Innate Wellbeing

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 01:05:00 +0000

What would happen if you could truly KNOW you are OK, and will be OK whatever happens in life? In my experience, my mind and body relax. It creates a sense of ease, relief and happiness in the moment. My mind opens to a sense of possibility more easily. I allow myself to dream dreams and turn those dreams into projects. In this episode, we explore the idea of innate wellbeing and how we can recognise it within ourselves more easily.

Are You Drifting In Life?

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 01:02:00 +0000

I drifted through my corporate career. I may have drifted up the organisation chart, but I didn't have a conscious goal or idea of what I really wanted for my career or life as a whole. When I started to explore what I really wanted, I realised I needed to change direction in a big way. In this episode, we explore what drifting is, why we do it and what we can do to consciously create the life we want.

How To Free Yourself From People Pleasing (And Still Be Caring!)

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 01:01:00 +0000

In my experience, people-pleasing leads to chasing a feeling of contentment and fulfilment and never achieving it. It's an exhausting treadmill that is fuelled by low-level fear and anxiety of being judged or rejected. In this episode, we explore how to free yourself from being a people-pleaser, bringing more ease and flow into your life and body whilst still being a kind and caring person!

Alignment: What It Is And Why It's Important

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 01:01:00 +0000

How come some days or times feel like you are in flow and at other times, life feels like hard work, or you feel 'out of sorts'? In this episode, we look at the different levels of our sense of self and what it means to be in alignment, which brings clarity, inspiration and impactful action.

Slow Down To Speed Up

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 01:51:00 +0000

There is always more we can do in life. At the same time, we know being more present is good for our well-being. In this episode, we explore why slowing down doesn't mean you loose your edge, it means you can be more effective, productive and happier. So what stops us doing it?

How To Stop Overthinking

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 01:48:00 +0000

Are you an overthinker? I can be addicted to my thinking. We know it doesn't serve us, but we can find it hard to break the cycle. In this episode, we explore what is behind overthinking and how we can begin to break free from an addiction to thinking to have more ease, peace and presence in life.

Frustrated With Life

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 01:45:00 +0000

There are times I feel frustrated with life. Experiencing infertility felt unfair and I was angry with life. In this episode, we explore why we are creating our own frustration and what we can do to let it go as it holds us back in creating the things we want in life.

Fear of Success

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 01:43:00 +0000

I think many people can relate to a fear of failure. However, often, what we are scared of is not failure but success. This may sound strange, but in this episode, we explore why the fear of success may be holding you back from creating what you want in your life.

Let go of Imposter Syndrome

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 01:46:00 +0000

I help clients create the family they crave, the work-life balance they want, and the success they want. Whether it is a CEO, Olympian, or wanna-be mum, one of the most common attributes of my clients is Imposter Syndrome to one degree or another. A lack of self-confidence and self-worth. In this episode, I help you explore whether you may have Imposter Syndrome and how you can let it go!

Are You All In?

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 01:42:00 +0000

Are you all in? This may seem like a silly question when often personal development can become all-consuming. Whether it's the career, baby or learning to have less stress. But at the same time, we often are not all-in, we are not playing full out in committing to honouring our heart's desires, despite any fear. Can you be all in and for it not to be all-consuming? I believe you can. In this episode, we explore what being 'all in' really means.

Lack v Abundance

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 01:40:00 +0000

Do you worry about not never being happy? Or not having enough money? Or always in a rush. We are in one of two mindsets: lack or abundance. A lack mindset can keep us from creating what we want in life, whether the baby or promotion. This episode explores the difference between lack and abundance and how you can be more in abundance to help you achieve your goals more easily.

How to Change Your Partner!

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 01:16:00 +0000

Do you ever wish you could change some aspects about your partner? What if I told you, could you change your partner and make them more of the person you want them to be?! In this episode, we explore how to do just that!

Rethinking Goals: Are They Holding You Back?

Tue, 31 Dec 2024 01:14:00 +0000

Surely goals are useful? What if not having goals mean you drift through life without purpose? What if the goals you have are holding you back? In this episode, we explore how to make goals work for you and to ensure they don't hold you back, and whether even having goals serves you at all.

How Change Actually Happens

Tue, 24 Dec 2024 01:12:00 +0000

Many of my clients have limiting beliefs about themselves that they have had for many years, even decades. How do we let go of these old patterns that seem so ingrained? Surely, it takes a long time to do that? In this episode, we explore why that is not the case and how true, organic, life-long change happens. It may be easier than you think!

You are Enough

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 01:08:00 +0000

When we peel away the layers of thoughts and beliefs, one of the core beliefs that most of my clients have, and I had and still have from time to time, is not being enough. Not worthy enough, or good enough, or having enough. This manifests in many ways, whether in self-confidence, fear of not having enough money or time, or thinking you have to prove yourself. In this episode, we peek beyond the veil of this story to explore what it means to KNOW you are enough.

Life Unscripted - Finding Freedom in the Present Moment

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 01:08:00 +0000

There is so much about life we can learn from improv comedy. There may be no script, but there are a set of principles improv comedy actors need to follow to make it work. In my experience, these principles can help us have more contentment and freedom in life. In this episode, we explore these principles to bring more freedom and possibility to life.

Why Confidence is Overrated

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 01:07:00 +0000

Many people don't do what they want to do or be who they want to be because they don't feel confident enough. They think confidence is a prerequisite to doing something when, in fact, confidence is a feeling you get after having done something. In this episode, we explore why confidence follows choice and the importance of making choices that honour your soul.

Future Self Meditation

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 01:39:00 +0000

This week is something different, and I think something special! I share one of my favourite meditations. In this mediation, you get to meet your future self, who has perspective and clarity on what's important in life. You receive guidance and advice from your future self to help you create a life of no regrets. Enjoy!

The 3 Keys To Getting Unstuck

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 01:35:00 +0000

Do you consider yourself an addict? We are all addicted to something. You may or may not be addicted to sugar, your phones, vaping, or ther substances or behaviours but in my experience, most people are addicted to thinking! Over-thinking. Worry. In this episode, I share what I've seen as 3 keys to dealing with my own addictions and my clients, whether it's a substance, behaviour or worry.

How Your Thoughts Shape Your Reality

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 01:28:00 +0000

Orr's law states: What the thinker thinks, the prover proves. When we understand this and see it playing out in our and other people's lives it can be incredibly empowering. It can free is from habitual thought patterns that don't serve us. So this week, we do exactly that!

The World Is Waiting for Your Gifts—Are You Ready?

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 01:00:00 +0000

We are often brought up not to be big-headed. I often get clients to 'boast' about how great they are. They can't do it! They list facts, but it feels like boasting. One thing I have had to learn is that claiming our gifts isn't about being better than someone else.

"The more space we take up in the world, the more we give others permission to do the same." Jacob Collier.

My coach shared this poem with me. It really spoke to me. I want to share it with you so you can know you have gifts for the world. The more you share them, the more flow comes to you and the more you feel alive to life.

Cargo
by Greg Kimura

You enter life a ship laden with meaning, purpose and gifts
sent to be delivered to a hungry world.
And as much as the world needs your cargo,
you need to give it away.
Everything depends on this.

But the world forgets its needs,
and you forget your mission,
and the ancestral maps used to guide you
have become faded scrawls on the parchment of dead Pharaohs.

The cargo weighs you heavy the longer it is held
and spoilage becomes a risk.
The ship sputters from port to port and at each you ask:
"Is this the way?"

But the way cannot be found without knowing the cargo,
and the cargo cannot be known without recognizing there is a way,
and it is simply this:
You have gifts.
The world needs your gifts.
You must deliver them.

The world may not know it is starving,
but the hungry know,
and they will find you
when you discover your cargo
and start to give it away.

How to turn your inner critic into your cheerleader

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 01:01:00 +0000

This week we are diving into the archives from Oct '23. It's one of my favourite topics as it's had such a big impact on me personally. We have parts of us that we often resent and wish we didn't have them. Perhaps it's the worrier in us that worries unnecessarily. In this episode, we explore how we can utilise these parts of us so they become the key to our success.

The Power of Connection

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 01:01:00 +0100

Connection is a wonderful feeling. Whether feeling connected to our partner, friends, or even ourselves. Connection is key to contentment, communication and feeling loved and understood. In this episode we explore how to create connection with others and our true selves, and what typically gets in the way.

How To Find Your Purpose In Life

Tue, 15 Oct 2024 11:59:15 +0100

Purpose brings meaning. Purpose is the key to motivation. Positive psychology says a purposeful life is the highest level of happiness. So, how do you find your purpose? About 20 years ago I started by Googling 'how to find your purpose'. Google or even AI won't tell you your purpose. So how do you find it? In this episode, I'll let you know what I've learned over the last 20 years to point you in the right direction!

What I Often Avoid Sharing...

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 01:01:00 +0100

What if you could feel loved unconditionally? In this episode, I talk about my personal experience with feeling loved and the one thing that made all the difference to me, but it's something I often avoid talking about. But here I bear all hoping it serves you in a similar way.

Let's Talk About Fear

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 01:01:00 +0100

Everyone experiences fear to one degree or another. Fear can hold us back from creating the life we want. Fear fuels anxiety. Fear creates tension in our life (and our bodies). We can't stop feeling feeling fear, as we can't control or choose any of our emotions. In this episode, we look at how we can change our relationship with fear in a way that gives us more peace and ease and empowers us to create more of the life we want.

Where the magic of life is

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 08:18:14 +0100

Many people are scared of the unknown. We like the familiar. It feels safe. I recently did a coaching programme with a coach. I called it Beyond The Edge. It was about me learning more about going beyond my comfort zone, beyond the edge of the known into the unknown, the world of possibility. That's where the magic of life lives. In this episode we explore how you can go beyond your edge to where the magic of your life lives.

The ingredients of creating success

Tue, 17 Sep 2024 11:30:00 +0100

I have never believed in the power of manifestation, thinking your way to being rich or having a Ferarri! Now I know why. In this episode we explore the key ingredients to creating the things you want whether the promotion, the baby or the new business.

Why affirmations don't work!

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 10:50:20 +0100

This week we are diving into the archive from Jan 22. One of the most popular but contraversial episodes!

Affirmations can be very popular in the world of personal development. Let's face it, they don't work! It ends up being a battle between old thougths and new thoughts. Trying to pursuade yourself of something you don't fully believe. In this episode we unpack why they don't work, why they can actually make things worse, and what to do instead!

Self Criticism v Self Love

Tue, 03 Sep 2024 11:00:00 +0100

Can you be hard on yourself? We all know it doesn't really serve us and most people could benefit from more self love. In this episode we explore how we can move from self criticism to self love which brings more ease, peace and flow.

Are you all in?

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 11:20:00 +0100

Are you all in? This may seem like a silly question when often personal development can become all consuming. Whether it's the career, baby or learning to have less stress. Project Baby definitely took over our lives. What if part of you is not all in? Can you be all in and for it not to be all-consuming? I believe you can. In this episode we explore what does all in really means.

Is love all you need?

Tue, 20 Aug 2024 11:15:00 +0100

The Beeltes famously sang 'all you need is love'. I sign of my emails 'Loving You, Russell' regardless of who it is going to, whether a CEO or colleague. It recently lost me a client. So why do I do it? In his episode I explore that I believe to be the core to what you want create in your life, whether a baby, more happiness, less stress or the promotion. Love.

How to be more present

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 11:13:00 +0100

Being present is where the magic happens. Where you feel peace, flow, love, connection. It's where you get insights, clarity and perspective. In this episode we explore how to be more present moment to moment.

How change happens

Tue, 06 Aug 2024 11:12:00 +0100

I don't teach my clients tools and technqiues, I don't believe they bring deep lasting change. I help my clients change their relationship with themselves and life from the inside-out. In this episode we explore what that means and how change really happens.

How to create more of what you want

Tue, 30 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0100

In this weeks episode we dive into one of the popular episodes from the archive. Back with new episodes next week!

We are creating all the time. We may not think we are creating what we want in life, but we may not realise we are also creating what we don’t want. In this episode we explore how we are powerful creators, creating all the time whether we realise it or not. The more we see it, the more we can harness the power to create more of what we want.

Victim v Creator

Tue, 23 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0100

This week we look at an episode from the archive. Life can often feel unfair or a series of circumstances we have to endure. In this episode we look at how we can feel more empowered and like a creator despite our circumstances and limiting beliefs.

How to be free from anxiety and worry

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0100

I used to think I was a worrier and that it was my personality type. No-one is born a worrier. We learn it. Which is good news as it's not our innat self. In this episode we look at how we can stop worry and anxiety preventing us from being the person we want to be and creating the life we want.

Insights

Tue, 09 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0100

We all get the moments of realisation where we see a situation with clarity. In these moments we know whats right for us, particularly in challenging times when we struggle to see the wood from the trees. In this episode we explore how we can have more moments of insights and clarity.

Thinking rehab

Tue, 02 Jul 2024 06:00:00 +0100

One from the archive (Sept 23) this week. We spend more time thinking than is useful. A lot of my clients agree they are ‘over-thinkers’ and can benefit from a calmer mind. When we have a calmer mind we get clarity, perspective and our innate wisdom can kick in. This brings more ease and flow as we navigate life. In this episode we explore how you can do that by recognising the two types of thought and spending more time in the more useful one!

Infinity Meditation

Tue, 25 Jun 2024 06:00:00 +0100

Some time ago, I shared my favourite meditation, so I thought it was about time I shared it again. This is a meditation I recorded myself based on meditations I found powerful in helping me connect to a feeling of peace, well-being, and love—a feeling of being HOME. Enjoy coming home where you are safe, loved, and welcome, and not alone.

Beyond Affirmations

Tue, 18 Jun 2024 11:16:22 +0100

I have spoken in the past about why I am not a fan of affirmations. In this episode, I explore why that is the case and how you can go beyond affirmations and connect to your innate worth, confidence and well-being without trying to persuade yourself of anything.

The Three States of Relationship

Fri, 07 Jun 2024 00:17:54 +0100

Having an engineering background, I find models can be a helpful way of understanding things that appear to be complex. Relationships can be very complex! In this episode, I share a simple model that I and my clients have found incredibly helpful. It helps understand what creates disconnected relationships and how to foster more moments of connection.

I am actually describing a very visual model, which you can see here: https://youtu.be/lSGDtDq6ODQ

The 7 Secrets to Magic

Tue, 28 May 2024 06:00:00 +0100

I recently read William Whitecloud’s The Magician’s Way. It loved it. It explores our innate capability to create a magical life. In this episode, we explore William’s 7 secrets to magic to see what we can learn about getting out of our own way and tap into our innate power to create magic in our lives - creating more happiness and success with more ease and wellbeing.

Be free of judgements

Tue, 21 May 2024 06:00:00 +0100

I tried so hard to be a good boy so I wouldn’t be in trouble. I always saw myself as a kind man. It was an eye-opener to realise I could be judgemental. Then it all made sense. I feared others judgements of me. I judged myself. Judgements played such a big part of my life, why wouldn’t I judge others? Judgements constrict us. They paralyse us from being happy and creating the life we want. In this episode, we explore how we can be free of judgements.