The ASSertive Podcast

Nutrition & Movement

Thu, 27 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We look at a post where our author is struggling with her significant other being unsupportive with her weight loss efforts. We discuss body image, food rules, discuss the drawbacks of Keto and Intermittent Fasting, and dismiss common weight loss marketing tactics. We also explore how lifestyle changes we make impact relationship dynamics.

Nutrition & Weight Loss

Tue, 25 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We look at a post where friends share diet and weight loss tips and we delve into the weight loss culture and we touch on food rules, emotional eating, intuitive eating, set points and how to have a healthy relationship with nutrition.

Relapse Prevention

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We look at a post regarding addiction and explore enabling vs. tough love, how rescuing children from distress can impact us in adulthood and how to prevent relapse.

Addiction

Tue, 18 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We look at a post regarding addiction and explore harm reduction vs. abstinence, the stages of change, and distinguish between a lapse and relapse. We also introduce a relapse autopsy and how to effectively use it and discuss appropriate expectations in addiction.

Outgrowing Friendships

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We continue looking at the thought error of entitlement, this time in regards to a friendship. We discuss the benefits of direct communication and normalize outgrowing friendships.

Entitlement

Tue, 04 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We have an open conversation about entitlement when a spouse gets big-headed after a promotion. A little less psychoeducation but still plenty to learn and plenty of laughs.

Difficult Conversations

Thu, 30 May 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We break down a post regarding conflict avoidance within a romantic relationship and discuss personality traits vs. learned behaviors, appropriate expectations, core beliefs around conflict, how to have difficult conversations and skills for getting to a win-win.

Miscommunications

Tue, 28 May 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We break down a post regarding miscommunication within the family dynamic and discuss triangulation, active listening, empathy building, conflict avoidance tactics, and shifting perspectives.

Shame (Part 2)

Thu, 23 May 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We look at the connection between shame and confidence, coping with excess shame, and managing narcissism. We also tackle buzz word concepts of self-compassion, self-love, and self-care.

Shame (Part 1)

Tue, 21 May 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We explore the data shame provides and how it is important to us and the systems we are apart of. We define Narcissist Personality Disorder gaslighting, and cognitive dissonance. We also differentiate between tactful and tactless honesty.

Guilt (Part 2)

Thu, 16 May 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We explore how to determine if rules are adaptive or maladaptive, challenging maladaptive core beliefs, empathy & empathetic listening, and review the anatomy of an apology.

Guilt (Part 1)

Tue, 14 May 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We explore the data guilt provides and how it is important to us and the systems we are apart of. We also discuss the unbalanced states of guilt, appropriate and inappropriate guilt and the guilt-anger cycle.

Pain (Part 2)

Thu, 09 May 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We explore coping skills for pain, grief, heartbreak and other uncomfortable emotions in the whelm of pain. We also take you through guided imagery for healthy compartmentalization.

Pain (Part 1)

Tue, 07 May 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We explore pain, numbness, and hopelessness. We discuss common ways we numb, learned helplessness, the benefits of crying and briefly touch on grief and the grieving process.

Fear, Anxiety, & Stress (Part 2)

Thu, 02 May 2024 09:03:48 -0500

We explore how to manage anxiety and stress for yourself and how to support those in your life struggling with anxiety. There are tons of coping skills packed into this one! We also take you through a guided meditation.

Fear, Anxiety & Stress (Part 1)

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We explore fear, anxiety, stress, and recklessness. We look at how to differentiate between managing and accommodating anxiety, and discuss procrastination, fear responses, hyper-arousal, and perfectionism.

Anger (Part 2)

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 09:09:38 -0500

We explore skills for managing anger, differentiate between venting and processing, and how to help deescalate others.

Anger (Part 1)

Tue, 23 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We dive into the highs and lows of anger, physical manifestations of anger, how to effectively utilize anger, review the importance of boundaries, how we under and over function in relationships and look at the pros and cons of the anger iceberg.

Joy (Part 2)

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0500

As we continue our week of Joy, we explore skills for managing depression, how to identify your values and how your values can help improve your mood, managing productivity guilt and cultivating a relationship with your future self.

Joy (part 1)

Tue, 16 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We dive into the highs and lows of Joy exploring depression and mania, discuss the hedonic effect, toxic positivity, and the struggle with contentment.

Emotions 101

Mon, 25 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -0600

Happy Holidays!!! Our emotions often feel overwhelming and we either find ourselves consumed by them or avoiding them at all cost. In this bonus episode we break down the 6 core emotions and share with you the data these emotions provide you.

Mental Loads

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -0600

We finish the season with a post where a wife explodes at her husband as we review how to manage mental loads and the importance boundaries play in self-care.

Parentified Child

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -0600

We review a post when the oldest child gets tired of being taking care of everyone and moves out and we explore entitlement and parentified children.

Emotion vs Logic

Thu, 07 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -0600

A couple's explosive argument leads to a discussion on emotional reasoning, over reliance on logic and conflict resolution.

Self Efficacy

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 03:00:00 -0600

There's more sibling drama in this episode as we explore self-efficacy and further discuss financial boundaries and enabling.

Mom Guilt

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0600

We explore inappropriate and appropriate guilt as well as the difference between enabling, creating conflict, and accountability while reviewing a post where a mom processes guilt experienced while coparenting.

Compromise vs People Pleasing

Tue, 28 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0600

We tackle the differences between our personal and professional opinions as we distinguish the differences between compromising and people pleasing.

Power Struggle

Thu, 23 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0600

In this episode, we explore how to handle resistance and review a post where a father and daughter get into a power struggle.

Unspoken Expectations

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0600

We explore what happens when we have unspoken expectations, don't clarify our boundaries, and mix business and family while we share a post where sibling cooperation turns to war.

Bias or Boundaries

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 09:34:02 -0600

In this episode, we explore what happens when secrets are exposed under the guise of setting boundaries while we try to figure out if this is boundary setting or personal bias.

I-Statements

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0600

In this episode we look at the communication skill of I-statements as we review a post dealing with the growing pains involved with adult children living at home.

Being Assertive

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0600

In this episode we review a post where a young adult moves out of off-campus housing due to a partying roommate as we explore examples of assertiveness, personal responsibility, and locus of control.

Violating Boundaries

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0600

We review a post between two sisters where boundaries are violated and discuss why others don't respect boundaries.

Work-Life Balance

Thu, 02 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0500

We review a post where spouses disagree on taking a promotion and discuss work-life balance. We also talk navigating promotions and job offers.

Helping Vs Enabling/Financial Boundaries

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0500

In this episode we look at a post where the OP finds 50k is missing from his bank account and we differentiate between enabling and helping and how to set boundaries around your finances.

Emotional Boundaries

Thu, 26 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0500

In this episode we explore how to set emotional boundaries when dealing with energy vampires.

Fair Fighting

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0500

In this episode we review a post with a feuding couple and introduce skills to fight fairly in your relationships.

Thought Errors

Thu, 19 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we review a post where two sisters share their thoughts on a child-free live as we discuss thought errors and how they get us in trouble.

Loose vs. Assertive Boundaries

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 03:23:00 -0500

We review a post on a parent struggling with enforcing boundaries as we take a closer look at loose boundaries.

Rigid vs Assertive Boundaries

Thu, 12 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0500

We review an AITA post when the kids are left home alone to explore the differences between rigid and assertive boundaries.

Rigid vs Loose Boundaries

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 04:52:58 -0500

In this episode we look at a post dealing with conflict between sisters in an airport as we explore Rigid Boundaries.

What’s A Boundary?

Thu, 05 Oct 2023 06:24:40 -0500

In this episode we look at a post dealing with conflict between a mother and the daycare teacher to introduce you to the components of boundaries.

Communication Styles

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 03:00:10 -0500

Welcome to the ASSertive Podcast. In this episode we break down communication styles using an AITA post about a conflict in IKEA.