The 12th Step Podcast

The Hero in the Mirror: Mapping Your Recovery Journey

Fri, 06 Mar 2026 07:00:00 -0700

Ever feel like your life is a series of trials you didn’t sign up for? This week, we’re stepping out of the rooms and into the "Ordinary World" of Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey. We break down why your struggle with addiction isn’t just a series of mistakes, it’s the "Call to Adventure" you were initially too afraid to answer. We explore how the "Abyss" of active addiction mirrors the darkest part of the mythic cycle, and more importantly, how the 12 Steps provide the exact roadmap needed to return home with the "Elixir" of sobriety. Whether you’re currently facing your "Road of Trials" or you're a "Mentor" helping others through their own, this episode explores how viewing your recovery through the lens of a classic epic can turn your greatest shame into your greatest strength.

Inventory of the Present: Tools, Trials, and Transitions

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 07:00:00 -0700

Recovery isn’t a static state, it’s a practice. In this episode of The 12th Step, we break down our current "recovery toolkit." We discuss what’s working (and what we’ve had to outgrow), the real-time challenges we’re navigating today, and the intentional steps we’re taking to level up our spiritual and emotional fitness. No fluff, just the reality of the work.

Shame After the Slip: Breaking the Spiral of Self-Loathing in Recovery

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 07:00:00 -0700

In this heartfelt episode, we respond to a listener, Scott, who bravely shares about the crushing shame, low self-worth, depression, and anxiety that often follow acting out. Even while working a solid program and taking responsibility, he finds himself stuck in emotional fallout that feels harder to escape than the behavior itself. How do we tell the difference between healthy accountability and toxic shame? When does remorse help us grow and when does it quietly fuel the next relapse? What happens in the nervous system after acting out, and why can it feel so overwhelming? Most importantly, how do we rebuild self-worth when our actions don’t align with our values? We explore practical tools for interrupting the shame spiral, grounding anxiety, and responding to relapse with rigor and compassion. This conversation dives into the spiritual and psychological dimensions of recovery and reminds us that shame thrives in isolation, but healing happens in connection. If you’ve ever felt like the aftermath of acting out was more painful than the behavior itself, this episode is for you. There is a way forward and it doesn’t require hating yourself to get there.

Clean Time in the Digital Age: When AI Becomes the Addiction

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode, we respond to a courageous letter from Keith, a listener with several years of clean time who has recently found himself caught in a new and unexpected relapse pattern, using AI tools to create pornographic content. As technology evolves, so do the ways addiction can manifest, and many recovery resources haven’t yet caught up. What happens when the very tools you need for your career become triggers? How do you set boundaries around something you can’t fully eliminate? And how do you stay honest, accountable, and spiritually grounded when the lines between work and acting out start to blur? We explore recovery in the digital age, the responsibility we carry for our choices, practical guardrails for navigating unavoidable triggers, and how to build sustainable sobriety in a world where access is constant. If you’ve struggled with relapse connected to technology, or feel like your specific challenge isn’t addressed in traditional recovery spaces, this conversation is for you. There is hope. Even here.

The Power of Living Truth: Why Congruency is Your Recovery North Star

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 07:00:00 -0700

What happens when your "inside" doesn’t match your "outside"? This week on the 12th Step Podcast, we’re exploring congruency, the essential practice of aligning your daily actions with your recovery values. Living out of sync with yourself creates the secret stress and shame that often fuel addiction, damaging your relationships and making sobriety feel like a heavy mask. Join us as we discuss how to close the gap between who you are and what you do, proving that true integrity is your strongest defense against relapse.

Why Recovery Beats the Resolution Rigged Game

Fri, 23 Jan 2026 07:00:00 -0700

The gym is packed, the "dry January" posts are peaking, and the pressure to reinvent your entire life by February 1st is at an all-time high. But for those in the rooms, we know a secret: willpower is a finite resource, and resolutions are often just premeditated resentments.

In this episode, we pull the curtain back on the "New Year, New Me" industrial complex. We discuss why traditional resolutions usually crash and burn for those struggling with addiction, and how the 12-Step philosophy replaces that annual cycle of shame with a blueprint for permanent, manageable change. Instead of waiting for a calendar flip to get our lives in order, we explore the freedom found in daily surrender and the radical idea that we don’t need a "new" version of ourselves, we just need a sober one.

Beneath The Outburst: What We're Really Afraid To Feel

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 07:00:00 -0700

In Part Two, we dig beneath the anger and reactivity that so many addicts identify as their “core issue” and uncover the deeper truth: anger is often the smoke, not the fire. We explore how rage, irritation, and a short fuse act as emotional armor, protecting us from the feelings we’re terrified to experience.

This episode looks at why so many people in recovery can understand their healing intellectually but stay emotionally numb, and how this disconnect keeps their partners from feeling safe or connected. We talk about what it means to actually feel again, the discomfort of letting go of emotional avoidance, and the work required to rebuild emotional presence in relationships.

If you’ve felt stuck at the intellectual level of recovery, or if you’re trying to understand the real role of anger, numbness, and emotional avoidance in addiction, this episode will help you finally see what’s underneath the rage, and what healing looks like when it reaches the heart, not just the mind.

The Regulation We Borrow: Narcissistic Traits In Addiction

Fri, 21 Nov 2025 07:00:00 -0700

In this first part of our two-episode series, we take on a topic many in recovery quietly fear: the overlap between addiction and narcissistic traits. Are they connected? Do early patterns of emotional detachment, superiority, and rule-bending feed an addiction, or does addiction reinforce those traits? And what does it really mean when a therapist says you’re showing “narcissistic qualities”?

We explore how control becomes a coping strategy, how addicts often use others for emotional regulation without realizing it, and why these patterns are so common in people who learned early on to hide or ignore their feelings. We also break down the dynamics that show up with spouses and even toddlers, why chaos can feel strangely “calming,” and how external regulation becomes a lifelong pattern.

If you’ve ever feared the narcissistic label or wondered whether these traits tie into your addiction and emotional disconnection, this episode offers clarity, grounding, and hope.

When They Move On: Letting Go with Grace in Sponsorship

Fri, 14 Nov 2025 07:00:00 -0700

In this week’s episode of The 12th Step Podcast, the hosts read a heartfelt letter from Aaron, a listener who’s been in recovery for four years and recently faced an emotional challenge, his sponsee decided to move on to another sponsor. Though Aaron knows it’s “not personal,” he admits to feeling hurt and a little betrayed after investing so much time and heart into helping someone else.

The hosts unpack this all-too-common experience in recovery circles, exploring what it means to give freely without expectation, the emotional bonds that form in sponsorship, and how to navigate feelings of rejection when someone’s journey takes a new direction. Through honest discussion and personal experience, they reflect on the balance between service and self-care, the humility in letting go, and the quiet beauty in knowing that sometimes growth means releasing others with love.

Defining Sobriety: When Sex Becomes the Struggle

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 07:00:00 -0700

In this heartfelt episode of The 12th Step Podcast, the hosts read a letter from a listener who’s grappling with confusion and fear about a possible sex addiction. Together, they dive deep into the difficult questions: How do you know when sexual behavior crosses the line into addiction? Why aren’t medications alone the solution? And what does “sobriety” really mean for someone in recovery from sex addiction, especially when total abstinence isn’t realistic?

With honesty, empathy, and lived experience, the team explores how addiction isn’t just about the behavior, it’s about the pain beneath it. They discuss how recovery is about connection, healing, and redefining intimacy in a healthy way. Whether you’re personally struggling or just curious about the topic, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and hope for anyone trying to understand what true recovery looks like beyond shame and silence.

The Weight of Silence: Shame, Secrets, and Sexualization for the Betrayed Partner

Fri, 31 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Author and listener Tera Lynch makes a powerful return to the podcast to tackle two incredibly difficult topics she submitted herself. This week, we dive into the profound shame betrayed partners experience when they keep the secret, the painful isolation that comes from keeping quiet. We'll also examine the pervasive sexualization of everything in society and its devastating impact on a partner's sense of self and relationship. Join us for this candid, crucial conversation that brings the unsung struggles of the betrayed partner into the light.

The Betrayal, The Book, and The Power of Healing with Tera Lynch

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0600

This week, a familiar name joins us as a guest! We're honored to welcome Tera Lynch, an author, listener of the show, and Betrayed Partner who found her voice through recovery. Tera shares the incredible and difficult journey that led her to write her book, exploring the raw shame and pain she experienced, and how she moved past the victim role. She’s turned the tough questions she sent to the show into a powerful message of healing. Don't miss this deeply personal and transformative conversation.

Starting Over When Everything’s Lost: Finding Hope After Addiction

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0600

In one of the most heartfelt letters we’ve received, listener H writes about the crushing reality of losing nearly everything to sexual addiction—career, family, friendships, and a sense of home. The weight of shame, regret, and emptiness can make it feel impossible to even imagine recovery, let alone begin rebuilding a life.

In this deeply compassionate episode, we address the raw question: Where do you start when addiction has stripped away nearly everything? We’ll talk about the first small steps toward sobriety, why hope matters even when you can’t feel it, and how trust, relationships, and stability can slowly be rebuilt—one honest, courageous choice at a time.

This conversation is for anyone who feels too far gone or beyond repair. You are not alone, and there is a path forward, even from the darkest places.

Breaking the Silence: Finding Freedom from Sexual Addiction

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0600

In this episode, we tackle one of the most misunderstood and isolating forms of addiction, sexual addiction. Listener Richard asks a brave and important question: How do you approach recovery when the addiction itself is tied to shame, secrecy, and confusion?

We dive into the unique challenges that come with this struggle, why secrecy keeps the cycle alive, how shame distorts self-worth, and what real healing looks like beyond white-knuckling abstinence. Through honest conversation, we explore practical tools for breaking isolation, building accountability, and cultivating healthy intimacy and connection.

Join us as we shine light into one of recovery’s darkest corners and remind each other that no matter the addiction, healing begins when we choose honesty, community, and compassion over silence.

Healing After the Fallout: Making Amends in the Wake of Sexual Addiction

Fri, 03 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0600

In this deeply personal and powerful episode, we explore one of the hardest parts of recovery, making amends after the devastation of sexual addiction. When lies, secrecy, and betrayal shatter trust, the pain ripples far beyond the person in recovery, impacting partners, families, and friends. How do you begin to rebuild after that kind of wreckage? What does a healthy amends look like when the people you’ve hurt may not be ready—or ever willing—to forgive?

Inspired by a heartfelt letter from a listener named Garrett, we dive into the emotional and spiritual process of accountability, repair, and healing. Join us as we discuss the difference between guilt and responsibility, how to approach amends with humility and patience, and why true healing often starts with giving others the space to heal in their own time.

This conversation isn’t about quick fixes, it’s about courage, honesty, and the long, compassionate road toward redemption.

Discovering IFS: A New Path to Healing and Recovery

Fri, 26 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0600

In this powerful episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we're joined by special guest Therapist Colby to explore the transformative practice of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Learn how IFS helps us understand the different "parts" within ourselves — and how that awareness can lead to deep healing, especially in recovery. Colby even guides Gary through a brief demo to show how the process works in real time. Whether you're on a recovery journey or seeking emotional clarity, this episode offers a fresh and compassionate approach to healing from the inside out.

When Care Turns To Indifference: The Hidden Struggles of Betrayed Partners

Fri, 19 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0600

On this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we’re joined by therapist Colby to explore the often-overlooked experiences of betrayed partners. Together, they address listener questions such as:

• How can you prevent a caring partner from slipping into indifference?

• Do you realize your spouse is reliving every shared moment to question its authenticity?

This candid conversation shines a light on the emotional weight betrayal creates—and how awareness, honesty, and real change can help partners begin to heal.

Half Measures, Tourists, and True Recovery

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0600

On this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we’re joined by therapist Colby to tackle some tough but important listener questions:

1. What happens to a spouse when they see their partner only taking half measures in recovery?

2. Are you a tourist in recovery—just visiting but not truly living it?

3. Are you working the 12 steps for yourself or only to save your marriage—and why the latter will never last?

Join us for an honest conversation about what real recovery requires, the impact half-hearted efforts have on loved ones, and how true transformation starts with doing the work for yourself.

Bargaining With Chaos: Finding Balance In Recovery

Fri, 05 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0600

On this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, Steven shares a heartfelt listener email about navigating the chaos of addiction, recovery, work, and family. In his message, Steven admits how often he’s tried to bargain with chaos—hoping for just a little peace or balance—only to realize that chaos doesn’t make deals. Through his journey, he’s discovering that balance isn’t found in control but in surrender, humility, and faith in a Higher Power.

Tune in as we reflect on Steven’s powerful words and invite you to share your own insights: How do you find balance in the middle of life’s storms?

Is It Okay to Do Recovery Differently?

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Tune in to this episode as we hear from a listener who’s one year into recovery—committed, attending meetings, and working with a sponsor—but still struggling to connect with the 12 steps. For this neurodivergent individual, the structure of the program often feels more like pressure than support. While their sponsor, therapist, and spouse all believe in the process, they’re left wondering if it truly fits their needs.

We dive into an important question: What happens when the traditional path doesn’t feel like your path? Can you still grow in recovery by doing things differently? And how do you honor your own truth while managing the expectations of those around you?

Beyond the Crisis: Staying Awake in Long-Term Recovery

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0600

After the chaos subsides and the big milestones are behind us, what comes next? In this episode, we hear from Kevin, who’s seven years sober and thriving in his family life—yet feeling the quiet pull of complacency. Together, we explore what it means to keep growing when the emergencies are over, the structure softens, and the old demons aren’t banging at the door.

Join us as we discuss strategies to reignite your sense of purpose, cultivate new forms of spiritual and personal growth, and avoid the drift into stagnation. Because recovery isn’t just about surviving addiction—it’s about discovering how to truly live.

Recovery in Motion: The Tools We Use Today

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Recovery is anything but static—it's dynamic, personal, and constantly evolving. In this episode, we open up about where we are right now in our individual recovery journeys. From early breakthroughs to deeper emotional work, each of us brings different tools to the table depending on our current stage. Tune in as we share what’s working for us, how our needs have changed over time, and why recovery is never one-size-fits-all. Whether you're just beginning or well along the path, there's something here for every step of the journey.

The Cost of Growth: Why Sacrifice Fuels Real Change

Fri, 08 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Change isn’t easy—and recovery even less so. In this episode, we dive deep into the uncomfortable truth that sacrifice is often the price of progress. Whether you're navigating personal transformation, healing from past wounds, or breaking free from destructive cycles, giving something up is often the first step forward. Join us as we explore what it really means to let go, why it’s necessary, and how sacrifice can become the foundation for lasting growth and recovery.

Lost Episode: The Brothel and the Bell: Searching for God in Recovery

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0600

As promised, if we ever found the recording Daniel lost, we would put them out for you to here. Well great news is Daniel found them and here is the final of three lost episodes.

In this episode, we reflect on a profound quote shared by a listener: “The young man who rings the bell at the brothel is unconsciously looking for God.” What does it mean to seek wholeness in all the wrong places? How does addiction become a misguided spiritual quest—and what happens when we begin to recognize the deeper hunger underneath?

Drawing on Carl Jung’s insights and personal stories from recovery, we explore how acting out can falsely imitate connection, intimacy, or even divinity. We also talk about how real spiritual fulfillment—found through self-love, community, and the 12 Steps—can take the place of that desperate search. Join us for an honest, hopeful discussion on longing, God, and the journey toward true wholeness.

Lost Episode: After the Storm: Recovery, Divorce, and Daniel’s Journey

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 07:00:00 -0600

As promised, if we ever found the recording Daniel lost, we would put them out for you to here. Well great news is Daniel found them and here is the second of three lost episodes.

In this deeply personal episode, we explore the intersection of recovery and divorce, inspired by a listener’s powerful message and request to hear more about Daniel’s story. What does it look like to rebuild after a marriage ends in the midst of healing? How do we navigate feelings of anger, grief, and loss while staying committed to recovery? Daniel opens up about his journey through divorce, the challenges he faced, and the lessons he continues to learn. We discuss what it means to do the next right thing, how to find peace when relationships fall apart, and how humility plays a role in forging a new path forward.

Lost Recording: Black & White Thinking: The Trap of All-or-Nothing in Recovery

Fri, 04 Jul 2025 07:00:00 -0600

As promised, if we ever found the recording Daniel lost, we would put them out for you to here. Well great news is Daniel found them and here is the first of three lost episodes.

In this episode, the team dives into the challenges of black-and-white thinking and how it can deeply impact the recovery journey. Inspired by a listener email, we explore how the all-or-nothing mindset—“I’m either doing great or I’m a failure”—can keep us stuck in cycles of shame, guilt, and self-doubt. We share personal experiences, practical insights, and strategies for embracing the messy middle of growth. Whether you’re in recovery or just trying to break free from rigid thinking, this conversation is for you.

Smartphones, Temptation, and Recovery: Finding Balance in a Connected World

Fri, 20 Jun 2025 07:00:00 -0600

In this episode, we respond to a deeply thoughtful message from listener Zack, who opens up about the struggle many of us face in recovery—navigating the temptations and distractions of smartphone use while still needing to stay connected for work and life.

We explore the challenges of living in a hyper-connected world where one device can be both a tool and a trap. The team shares practical tools, software options, and personal experiences for setting healthy boundaries with technology. We also dive into the importance of intentionality, accountability, and staying honest about the digital triggers that can quietly undermine recovery.

Plus, we revisit a listener favorite—Isaac’s powerful story—and discuss the idea of inviting more voices from local 12 Step groups and Sage into future episodes.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in an endless scroll, tempted by online escapes, or unsure how to strike balance with your phone, this one’s for you.

The Trap of Self-Pity: Escaping the Spiral in Recovery

Fri, 06 Jun 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Why do we so easily fall into self-pity—and why does it feel so familiar to those of us in addiction recovery? In this episode, we respond to a powerful question from listener Shloimy about the role of self-pity in our lives: what pulls us into it, what it costs us, and how we can step out of it.

The team opens up about their own experiences with self-pity, how it masquerades as comfort but often isolates us further, and the practical tools they’ve found that help shift perspective—from gratitude to service to honest connection. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of “poor me,” this conversation is for you.

The Brothel and the Bell: Searching for God in Recovery

Fri, 23 May 2025 07:00:00 -0600

After the Storm: Recovery, Divorce, and Daniel’s Journey

Fri, 09 May 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Black & White Thinking: The Trap of All-or-Nothing in Recovery

Fri, 25 Apr 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Digging Deep—Tools, Triggers, and the Truth Behind Addiction

Fri, 11 Apr 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Recovery isn’t just about stopping a behavior—it’s about building a new way of life. In this episode of 12th Step Podcast, we explore the essential tools for lasting recovery, how to stay out of your inner circle of destructive habits, and the deeper truths addiction may be hiding. Join us as we unpack these powerful topics and offer real strategies for breaking free and staying free.

Beyond the Surface—Fear, Commitment, and the Power of Step Work

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Are you just visiting recovery, or are you truly in it for the long haul? In this episode of 12th Step Podcast, we explore why being a tourist in recovery never works, how fear holds us back from real healing, and whether working the steps actually makes a difference. Join us as we break down these crucial recovery topics and share insights on what it takes to move beyond the surface and into lasting change.

Surrender, Promises, and Lasting Recovery

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 07:00:00 -0600

Join us on 12th Step Podcast as we break down the first three of nine key recovery topics we've encountered while mentoring. We’ll discuss the challenge of surrendering ego to God’s will, explore whether the 9th Step Promise truly comes to life, and share practical insights on maintaining long-term recovery. Tune in for an honest, experience-driven conversation about what it takes to stay on the path of healing and growth.

Rules vs. Principles: Navigating Recovery with Purpose

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we explore the key differences between rules and principles and how they shape your recovery journey. Are you just following a set of rules, or are you embracing the deeper principles behind them? Join us as we discuss how understanding this distinction can strengthen your commitment, foster personal growth, and lead to lasting change.

Love & Addiction: Can Someone with a Sexual Addiction Truly Love Their Partner?

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we tackle a powerful listener question: Can someone struggling with sexual addiction truly love their partner? Is love and addiction at odds, or can they coexist? Join us as we explore the complexities of addiction, its impact on relationships, and what true love looks like in the context of recovery.

Staying on Track: The Dangers of Getting Out of Practice in Recovery

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we explore what happens when you get out of the practice of recovery. How does stepping away from daily routines, meetings, and principles impact your journey? Can slipping out of practice lead to bigger challenges? Join us as we discuss the importance of consistency, recognizing warning signs, and finding your way back to a strong recovery foundation.

Finding Gratitude In Your Journey

Fri, 13 Dec 2024 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, Daniel shares a powerful experience where he revisited his first step while mentoring others. Reflecting on this moment, Daniel opens up about how it reignited his sense of gratitude for the recovery journey.

Join us as we dive deep into the importance of gratitude in healing, growth, and maintaining sobriety. Together, we’ll explore how embracing gratitude can transform our perspectives and strengthen our commitment to recovery.

Take a moment to reflect on your own journey—this episode is a reminder of the gifts that come with recovery.

Listener Email - Finding Recovery Through Life’s Challenges

Fri, 06 Dec 2024 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we address a heartfelt email from one of our listeners who is courageously sharing their struggle with addiction to pornography. Together, we explore how life’s crises and challenges can fuel our addictions, making the journey to recovery even more daunting.

But hope is never out of reach. We'll discuss practical steps, insights from the 12-step journey, and ways to find strength and healing—even in the most difficult times. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your addiction or life’s pressures, this episode is for you. You’re not alone—and recovery is possible.

Tune in and join the conversation.

Listener Email - Finding Joy In The Process

Fri, 29 Nov 2024 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we unpack a listener’s email about discovering joy in the process of recovery. How can we embrace the journey, even when it feels challenging? Join us as we explore the power of gratitude, personal growth, and finding moments of joy along the way. This uplifting conversation is sure to inspire and encourage anyone on the path to healing.

Listener Email - Implementing First Order Changes

Fri, 22 Nov 2024 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we dive into a thought-provoking listener email about implementing first-order changes in recovery. What are they, how do they work, and why are they often the first steps toward meaningful growth? Join us as we explore practical insights, personal experiences, and strategies for making small changes that lead to big transformations on the road to recovery. Don’t miss this heartfelt and informative conversation!

What's The Payoff

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 07:00:00 -0600

Join us on the 12th Step Podcast as we explore the hidden payoffs of continuing addictive behaviors. In this thought-provoking episode, we discuss the reasons why we might cling to unhealthy habits, even when we know they’re harmful. Tune in to gain insights into the psychological rewards of addiction and discover how understanding these payoffs can be the first step toward meaningful change and recovery

Listener Email - What Should I Do?

Fri, 25 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0600

Join the 12th Step Podcast for an impactful episode where we share a heartfelt email from one of our listeners who, though in recovery, is grappling with the decision to disclose their past addiction. As they reach out for guidance, we delve into the nuances of transparency, trust, and the personal journey of recovery. Tune in for a thoughtful discussion filled with empathy, insight, and advice for anyone facing similar crossroads on their path to healing and growth.

Listener Email - Gratitude For Help

Fri, 18 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0600

Join the 12th Step Podcast for an inspiring episode as we share a heartfelt listener email filled with gratitude for the advice they received in a previous episode. Tune in to hear about the incredible transformation in this listener’s life, and how their journey took a powerful turn for the better. It's a story of hope, resilience, and recovery you won't want to miss!

Holiday Strategies

Fri, 11 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0600

This week on the 12th Step Podcast, as the holiday season approaches, we explore essential strategies to help you stay grounded in your recovery. Tune in for practical tips to make your holidays safe, stress-free, and centered on your well-being. Don't let the festivities derail your progress—join us and prepare for a balanced and peaceful holiday season!

False Pleasures Do Not Equal Well Being

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -0600

In this enlightening episode of the 12th Step Podcast, we tackle the concept of "False Pleasures Do Not Equal Well-Being." Join us as we explore how temporary thrills and superficial indulgences can mask deeper issues, and why true well-being comes from addressing underlying needs and cultivating lasting fulfillment. Tune in for insightful discussions and practical advice on finding genuine happiness beyond fleeting pleasures.

Stop, Drop, And Breathe

Fri, 30 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0600

In this episode, we continue our discussion from last time about the powerful concept of 90 seconds. We introduce the tool "Stop, Drop, and Breathe," a simple yet effective exercise that you can use during that critical 90-second window to help with your recovery. Learn how pausing, grounding yourself, and taking a mindful breath can make a significant difference in managing overwhelming emotions and stress. Tune in for practical tips on using this technique to support your journey to well-being.

90 Seconds

Fri, 23 Aug 2024 07:00:00 -0600

In this episode of the 12th Step Podcast, discover how a 90-second brain hack can break the chains of addiction. Inspired by Jill Bolte Taylor's My Stroke of Insight, we reveal the secret to taking control of your emotions and reclaiming your life. Don't miss this game-changing insight!

Are You In A New Place

Fri, 12 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0600

Have you ever been asked if you're in a good or bad place? In this episode, we explore a fresh recovery concept: "I'm in a new space." Join us as we dive into the nuances of this idea, examining how it shifts our perspective on personal growth and recovery. Tune in for insightful discussions and practical tips on embracing your new space and making it a catalyst for positive change. Don't miss out on this transformative conversation!

Listener Email - Conscious Contact With My Higher Power

Fri, 21 Jun 2024 08:28:09 -0600

In this episode, we dive into Step 11 and discuss ways to improve conscious contact with your higher power. We explore practical tips and spiritual practices to enhance your connection. Plus, we tackle a common question: How can you tell if the guidance you're receiving is truly from your higher power or just your own thoughts? Tune in for insights and advice on deepening your spiritual journey.

The King vs. The Fool: Embracing Growth in Recovery

Fri, 07 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0600

Join us as we discuss the concept of The King vs. The Fool and how it applies to our personal growth and recovery. Explore how often we shame ourselves for our actions instead of viewing them as valuable learning experiences. We'll delve into the importance of encouraging our inner king to rise to the occasion, rather than letting the fool take the lead. Tune in for insights on turning mistakes into stepping stones on your journey to recovery.

Listener Email - The Dangers of Staggered Disclosures

Fri, 31 May 2024 07:00:00 -0600

In this episode, we respond to a listener's email about the dangers of staggered disclosures. We discuss the difficulties a spouse faces in recovering from trauma caused by delayed honesty and the risks to your own healing process when the truth is withheld. Tune in to learn why complete transparency is crucial for building trust and fostering recovery in relationships.

Listener Email - My Partner Refuses To Get Help

Fri, 24 May 2024 07:00:00 -0600

In this episode, we address a heartfelt email from a listener who is navigating the difficult waters of addiction recovery while facing a partner's refusal to seek help. We discuss strategies for coping with this challenging situation, offer support and advice, and explore ways to stay strong and focused on your own recovery journey when a loved one is not ready to take that step. Join us for an honest conversation about love, struggle, and the path to healing.

Do We Have Annual Cycles

Fri, 17 May 2024 07:00:00 -0600

Do annual cycles exist? Do you have annual cycles? Join us as we explore this topic with one of our listeners who shares their personal experiences and insights. Discover how seasons and yearly patterns might be shaping your life. Don't miss this fascinating conversation!

Listener Email - Thank You For What You Do

Fri, 29 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0600

We were deeply moved by an email we received this week from one of our listeners, expressing gratitude for our podcast's impact on the recovery community. Tune in as we share this heartfelt message and respond on our latest episode. Your support means everything to us!

Isaac's Story Part Two

Fri, 22 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0600

This episode, we continue on our journey with Isaac, as he courageously shares his experiences and triumphs on the road to recovery. In this first installment of his story, we'll hear about the struggles he faced, the pivotal moments of realization, and the initial steps he took towards a brighter future.

Join us as we dive into Isaac's inspiring narrative, filled with resilience, determination, and the unwavering pursuit of a life free from addiction.

Stay tuned for an uplifting tale of redemption and transformation that will leave you feeling empowered and hopeful.

Isaac's Story Part One

Fri, 15 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0600

This episode, we embark on a compelling journey with Isaac, as he courageously shares his experiences and triumphs on the road to recovery. In this first installment of his story, we'll hear about the struggles he faced, the pivotal moments of realization, and the initial steps he took towards a brighter future.

Join us as we dive into Isaac's inspiring narrative, filled with resilience, determination, and the unwavering pursuit of a life free from addiction.

Stay tuned for an uplifting tale of redemption and transformation that will leave you feeling empowered and hopeful.

Dealing With Separation

Fri, 08 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0700

In this week's episode, we delve into the challenging intersection of separation and recovery. Our listener shares their struggle with navigating a recent separation while staying committed to their journey of healing.

Tune in as we explore coping strategies, offer insights, and provide support for those facing similar challenges. Together, let's shed light on this often-overlooked aspect of recovery and find strength in community.

Join us as we embark on this journey of growth and resilience.

How Do I Break The Cycle

Fri, 01 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0700

In this week's episode, we're tackling the tough topic of breaking cycles. Whether it's negative thinking, self-doubt, or unhealthy habits, we've all been there.

Join us as we explore actionable strategies and personal insights to help you break free from those repetitive patterns. It's time to take charge and pave a new path forward.

Working Your First Step

Fri, 09 Feb 2024 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode, we delve into the critical significance of taking that crucial first step on the road to recovery. We'll explore why this initial action is pivotal, drawing on insights from listener experiences and expert perspectives. Join us as we uncover the transformative power of embracing that first step towards healing and growth.

Listener Email - Negative Self Talk

Fri, 02 Feb 2024 07:00:00 -0700

In this episode, we delve into the perilous realm of negative self-talk, exploring its profound impact on mental health and personal growth. Through dissecting a listeners email, we unravel the dangers and damages wrought by this internal dialogue. Join us as we navigate strategies to combat and conquer the insidious influence of negative self-talk, fostering a healthier and more empowered mindset.

Listener Email - Turning My Will Over To My Higher Power

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0700

This episode is inspired by a heartfelt email from one of our listeners about the challenges of surrendering one's will to their higher power. It's a topic that resonates deeply with many on the journey to recovery and spiritual growth. Join us as we explore the complexities of this process, sharing personal insights, struggles, and moments of grace. Whether you're wrestling with surrender or seeking guidance, this episode offers a safe space for reflection and connection. Tune in as we navigate the beautiful, sometimes bumpy road to surrendering to our higher power.

Listener Email - The Crazy We Create

Fri, 19 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0700

This week, we're tackling a listener's email about addiction and the havoc it wreaks in our lives. Addiction's grip can lead us down turbulent paths, affecting not just us but those around us too. Join us as we dive into personal stories, insights, and the journey to recovery. Tune in for a candid discussion on finding hope, community support, and the transformative power of healing from addiction.

How Do I Overcome Shame

Fri, 08 Dec 2023 07:35:00 -0700

In this episode, we tackle a listener's question: "How do I overcome my shame?" Join us for a quick, insightful exploration into overcoming shame in recovery. We'll share stories, practical strategies, and the transformative power of self-compassion. Discover a path to healing and a shame-free future. Tune in now and let's take this step together!

We Choose Our Actions The World Picks Our Consequences

Fri, 01 Dec 2023 07:00:00 -0700

Hey listeners! 🌟 In this heartfelt episode, we delve into a touching email from a listener grappling with the complexities of co-parenting in the shadow of her ex-husband's addiction.

Tune in as we unpack the emotional journey she's facing and share our insights on navigating this challenging terrain. From addressing the impact on her relationship with her daughter to exploring potential solutions, we're here to provide support and understanding.

Join us for an empathetic discussion on family dynamics, addiction's ripple effects, and the resilience required to navigate such difficult situations. Your stories and questions are always welcome – after all, we're in this together.

🎧 Listen now to gain valuable perspectives and share your thoughts on this crucial topic.

Listener Email - A Concerned Mom

Fri, 17 Nov 2023 06:30:00 -0700

In this episode, we share a poignant email from a concerned mom addressing her son's struggle with sexual addiction, exploring the harsh realities her family faces within their community.

Tune in for a compassionate exploration of addiction, fostering empathy, and breaking down barriers.

Patrick Carnes On Sex Addiction

Fri, 10 Nov 2023 06:30:00 -0700

Technology's purpose is to improve the quality of life for humanity. But unfortunately, in many ways it has provided unintended consequences, for example, serving as stimuli for sex addiction. Dr. Patrick Carnes says that as technologies evolve, we must remain vigilant about this issue, especially when it comes to adolescents. But can vigilance and treatment practices evolve just as rapidly as technology?

Handling Family Events

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 17:29:00 -0600

Do you find yourself in a situation where family events are uncomfortable due to yoru addiction? Or do you find yourself in situation that because of yoru addiction and choices that you're not allowed to attend. Tune in to this episode where our very own Daniel opens up about his experiences with this topic, how he handle things, and what our advice to you is.

Struggling With My Addiction

Fri, 27 Oct 2023 07:36:00 -0600

Tune in as we go over an email from one of our listeners. In this episode we address the listerners questions, thoughts, and concerns regarding how they struggle with their addiction.

Am I An Addict

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 16:19:35 -0600

Tune in as we go over an email from one of our listeners. In this episode we address the listerners questions, thoughts, and concerns regarding if they are an addict.

Struggles With My Sponsor

Fri, 06 Oct 2023 10:00:00 -0600

A sponsor is a mentor or a guide that is there to help you and they themselves have been in recovery and have worked through the steps. However, what happens when you are struggling to work with your sponsor? We dive into that very subject thanks to a listener email. Tune in to this episode to find what we have to say regarding this topic.

What is Sobriety with Sex Addiction

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 07:34:00 -0600

What does sobriety look like for a sex addict? Though sobriety can take on many forms depending on yoru circumstances, the input from your partner, therapist, and more. Tune in as we cover this great question sent in by one of our listeners.

Being Present

Fri, 22 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0600

Many individuals grapple with overwhelming emotions and memories in the face of addiction recovery. Embracing the present moment through practicing mindfulness offers a beacon of hope. Mindfulness allows individuals to anchor themselves, providing clarity and calm amidst the recovery storm. Tune as we discuss why being present is an important part of yoru recovery.

Cross Addictions

Fri, 15 Sep 2023 10:31:00 -0600

Tune in as we talk about multiple addictions that is referred to as “co-occurring addictions” or “cross addictions”. And it’s crucial they be addressed for anyone who is wanting long-term health and recovery. Many people who experience addiction struggle with other addictive processes. This process known as “switching addictions” - attempts to stop one addiction results in an increase in addictive use of another substance or behaviour such as disordered eating or excessive internet use increasing when substance use ends.

Expert Systems Part 2

Fri, 11 Aug 2023 16:26:27 -0600

As we fight through layers of judgment and trauma, our "recovery" is regaining our true selves. The purpose of recovery is to no longer be a copy of someone else's vision. And how do we accomplish this? By intentionally creating expert systems to help you along the way. Tune in to this epeisode as we cover the last six expert systems, Intuition, Spirituality, Perspective, Consciousness, Compassion, and Mindfulness.

Expert Systems Part 1

Fri, 04 Aug 2023 11:00:49 -0600

As we fight through layers of judgment and trauma, our "recovery" is regaining our true selves. The purpose of recovery is to no longer be a copy of someone else's vision. And how do we accomplish this? By intentionally creating expert systems to help you along the way. Tune in to this epeisode as we cover the first six expert systems, Intention, Self-care, Accountability, Study, Reflection, & Recovery Support.

Facing Fear In Recovery

Fri, 28 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0600

There are times when we find ourselves facing a new oppertunity, but we fear that our addiction will return. Because the new oppertunity runs close to how we once acted when we were deep in our addiction. In this episode we will discuss the topic of facing our fears in recovery as these opptunities arise.

Listener Email - Recovery Burn Out

Fri, 14 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0600

In this episode we break down the concerns of one of our listeners in regard to their worries about recovery burn out. Is it real or is it a sign that you have reached a pivotal point in your recovery.

Books And Resources For Recovery

Fri, 30 Jun 2023 10:49:14 -0600

In this episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding what books and resources to read and use in recovery. Tune in as we break down the elements of this topic and provides answers and resources that will add in your recovery.

Finding The Right Therapist

Fri, 23 Jun 2023 08:23:00 -0600

If you think you might be struggling with sex or pornography addiction, seeking out a therapist is a wonderful way to care for yourself. Many sex addicts and their partners say they have been to therapy, but it has not been helpful. Tune in to this episode to find out what we have to say on the topic.

Changing Your Rituals

Fri, 16 Jun 2023 09:03:21 -0600

In most cases, ritualized behaviors are unconscious—that is, an addict may have no idea why they do things a certain way, or that these patterns even exist. When you change your rituals, you change your life. We all have unhealthy habits and behaviors that we indulge in from time to time. They seem harmless. However, awareness of these rituals are critical. Tune in to find out what we have to say about this topic.

Internal Focus and Gratitude

Fri, 12 May 2023 09:20:27 -0600

Join us as we talk about how your internal focus and gratitude can affect your recovery. This key concept can help you daily daily as you shift your external focus on things and those around you toward an inner focus that heps you to find peace and acceptance.

How Do I Amend

Fri, 05 May 2023 09:18:13 -0600

Strugglin with your step work in recovery? Looking for a way to make amends but don't know where to start? Then this episode is for you. Join us for an insightful discussion about how to make amends and get to a place of peace and acceptance.

Recovery After Getting Caught

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 09:19:22 -0600

Have you been caught by your wife once again? Are you struggling with finding recovery? Look no further! 12th Step Podcast is here to help! With us, you can learn the tools and tricks that will help you on your journey to recovery and make sure you never get caught again. Our podcast provides helpful recovery advice from experts in the field, so what are you waiting for? Join us and start your path to a better future.

Listener Email - Recovery After A Divorce

Fri, 21 Apr 2023 10:56:32 -0600

We're so grateful for all the listener email we've been recieving as of late. In this episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding starting how to maintain your recovery after a divorce. Divorce can be a difficult and trying event in ones life. Even with a life event of this magnitude your recovery needs to remain your number one goal. Tune in as we break down the elements of this topic and answer this topic.

Listener Email - Starting My Recovery Journey

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 17:26:55 -0600

We're so grateful for all the listener email we've been recieving as of late. In this episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by two of our listeners regarding starting your recovery hourney and its effects on our lives and those around us. Tune in as we break down the elements of this topic and answer these listeners questions.

Listener Email - Sexting

Fri, 07 Apr 2023 12:37:21 -0600

We're so grateful for all the listener email we've been recieving as of late. In this episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding the dangers of sexting, addiction, and the possible legal ramification. Tune in as we break down the elements of this topic and answer this listener's question.

Listener Email - How Do I Keep My Recovery Despite Divorce

Fri, 31 Mar 2023 08:30:00 -0600

We're so grateful for all the listener email we've been recieving as of late. In this episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding how to keep your recovery despite going through a divorce. Tune in as we break down the elements of this topic and answer this listener's question.

Listener Email - Group Therapy

Fri, 24 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0600

This episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding how group therapy can aid in your recovery. Tune in as we break down the elements of this wonder topic, talk about our own experience in group therapy, answer this listener's questions group therapy, how it helped us, and how we feel it aided our own recovery.

Listener Email - Avoiding Temptation

Fri, 17 Mar 2023 12:00:00 -0600

This episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding how to avoid temptation while in recovery. Tune in as we break down the elements of this wonder topic and answer this listener's questions regarding temptation, tools to continue working on your recovery, and how to handle situations where temptation may show up in your recovery.

Listener Email - How Do I Keep My Anonymity

Fri, 03 Mar 2023 08:52:19 -0700

This episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding how to keep your anonymity while in recovery. Tune in as we break down the elements of this wonder topic and answer this listener's questions regarding anonymity, recovery, and how to handle situations where this may come up in your recovery.

Additionally we want to thank all of our listeners as this is our 100th episode. It has been an amazing journey and we hope to continue to help everyone we can as we carry out the 12th Step, "Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other sex addicts and to practice these principles in our lives."

Listener Email - Recovery Help For Woman

Fri, 24 Feb 2023 07:07:00 -0700

This episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding recovery help for women. Tune in as we break down the elements of their email and provide information regarding help for women.

Listener Email - Keeping My Recovery While Subverting My Guilt And Shame

Fri, 17 Feb 2023 06:42:00 -0700

This episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding how to keep your recovery while subverting their guilt and shame felt through their religion. Tune in as we break down the elements of their email and question along with our special guest LCSW & CSAT Therapist Shane Harmon.

Listener Email - Keeping My Recovery While Living With Other Addicts

Fri, 10 Feb 2023 09:31:48 -0700

This episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding how to keep your recovery while living with other addicts. Tune in as we break down the elements of their email and question along with out special guest LCSW & CSAT Therapist Shane Harmon.

Listener Email: Regarding My Spouse

Fri, 03 Feb 2023 17:56:49 -0700

This episode we will be discussing a topic sent in by one of our listeners regarding their spouse. Tune in as we break down the elements of their email and question along with out special guest LCSW & CSAT Therapist Shane Harmon.

Limiting Beliefs

Fri, 27 Jan 2023 17:10:21 -0700

Join us as we talk about how limiting beliefs affect us. How those self destructive thoughts and limiting state of mind can impede our recovery and feed our addiction.

A New Year and the Meaning Behind Our Sign Offs

Fri, 20 Jan 2023 17:55:32 -0700

With the coming of the new year we have some exciting announcements to make and we wanted to discuss the meaning and importance to us behind our sign offs.

Self Worth

Fri, 30 Dec 2022 08:00:00 -0700

Self-worth is the internal sense of being good enough and worthy of love and belonging from others. Self-worth is often confused with self-esteem, which relies on external factors such as successes and achievements to define worth and can often be inconsistent leading to someone struggling with feeling worthy. Tune in to this episode as we discuss this topic and learn how you can better evaluate your own self worth.

Keeping Your Recovery

Fri, 23 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0700

Join us for this very special holiday season episode where we discuse the meaning of the word "keep" and how versitile and amazing this word is, especially when it comes to your recovery.

Drama and Empowerment Triangles

Fri, 16 Dec 2022 12:19:25 -0700

We all tend to have a default way of looking at problems and our role in them. Whether it’s a minor issue or a full-blown crisis, there is a story that automatically plays out in our heads and colors how we perceive solutions. Sometimes, this perception is correct; other times, it’s off-target or counterproductive. But in every case, understanding how we approach conflict—followed by positively reframing our role—can make real solutions possible.

This is where the Drama Triangle and a more recent interpretation of it, the Empowerment Triangle, can help. Let’s look at these tools and how they help us overcome issues.