UnBroken: Safe Place For Male Survivors Podcast: https://safespacesformen.podbean.com Adult men rising above our childhood, adolescent or adult sexual abuse trauma experiences Thu, 30 Apr 2026 18:00:00 -0700 https://podbean.com/?v=5.5 en us Copyright 2020 All rights reserved. Health & Fitness:Mental Health 1440 episodic Adult men rising above our childhood or adult abuse experiences. At Safe Spaces For Male Survivors we utilize life and leadership coaching strategies and insights unique to survivors of sexual abuse to help you begin to create, build, and lead productive and more fulfilled lives from where they are now. Thomas Edward Thomas Edward No false https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/6516830/podcastlogo.jpg UnBroken: Safe Place For Male Survivors Podcast: https://safespacesformen.podbean.com 144 144 1376: “I’m Afraid He Might Be Acting Out… (Living with a male survivor Part 3) 1376: “I’m Afraid He Might Be Acting Out… (Living with a male survivor Part 3) https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1376-i-m-afraid-he-might-be-acting-out%e2%80%a6/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1376-i-m-afraid-he-might-be-acting-out%e2%80%a6/#comments Thu, 30 Apr 2026 18:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/87212bf5-05ad-369c-8277-85fff6007721 Something feels off… but you don’t know how to address it. This segment explores the fear of secrecy, acting out, or disconnection—and how trauma, shame, and coping behaviors can show up in ways that are hard to name.

With you in this,

Carry Less. Live Free

YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Something feels off… but you don’t know how to address it.
This segment explores the fear of secrecy, acting out, or disconnection—and how trauma, shame, and coping behaviors can show up in ways that are hard to name.

With you in this,

Carry Less. Live Free

YouTube Channel: 
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2290 127 full 1375: I Feel Like I’m Walking on Eggshells (Living with a male survivor Pt 2) 1375: I Feel Like I’m Walking on Eggshells (Living with a male survivor Pt 2) https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1375-i-feel-like-i-m-walking-on-eggshells-living-with-a-male-survivor-pt-2/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1375-i-feel-like-i-m-walking-on-eggshells-living-with-a-male-survivor-pt-2/#comments Thu, 16 Apr 2026 18:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/33073de4-99ce-3ebc-bf6c-98b8217866c4 So you're living with or interacting with a loved one who is a male survivor. You start noticing:

You start adjusting your tone, your timing… yourself. You're changing in the relationship. You inadvertently start to experience some of the same things.  This segment explores how unpredictability creates hyper-awareness in partners—and how slowly losing your natural way of being can happen without you even realizing it.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> So you're living with or interacting with a loved one who is a male survivor. You start noticing:

You start adjusting your tone, your timing… yourself. You're changing in the relationship. You inadvertently start to experience some of the same things. 
This segment explores how unpredictability creates hyper-awareness in partners—and how slowly losing your natural way of being can happen without you even realizing it.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel: 
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2731 126 full 1374: We Get Close… And Then He Pulls Away- (Living with a Male Survivor Pt.1) 1374: We Get Close… And Then He Pulls Away- (Living with a Male Survivor Pt.1) https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1374-we-get-close%e2%80%a6-and-then-he-pulls-away-living-with-a-male-survivor-pt1/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1374-we-get-close%e2%80%a6-and-then-he-pulls-away-living-with-a-male-survivor-pt1/#comments Thu, 02 Apr 2026 18:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/f32c349b-c426-3277-a02b-a6a8cb5aad7d Living with a male survivor. Closeness shows up—and then disappears. This segment breaks down the confusing moment where connection turns into distance, and why a male survivor’s nervous system can’t always stay in intimacy—even when he wants to.

 

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Living with a male survivor. Closeness shows up—and then disappears.
This segment breaks down the confusing moment where connection turns into distance, and why a male survivor’s nervous system can’t always stay in intimacy—even when he wants to.

 

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel: 
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2153 125 full 1358 Rage in Silence 1358 Rage in Silence https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1358-rage-in-silence/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1358-rage-in-silence/#comments Thu, 26 Feb 2026 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/74b03cf4-b035-3490-a8f1-cd695f7d6293 This episode unpacks the silent, explosive, misunderstood anger that male survivors carry for decades. Through Andrew’s story, we explore how childhood sexual abuse traps emotional energy, disrupts identity, and creates adult anger patterns that feel unpredictable and shame-inducing. 

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

 

Ready to give it a try:

Life by Your Design

 

]]> This episode unpacks the silent, explosive, misunderstood anger that male survivors carry for decades. Through Andrew’s story, we explore how childhood sexual abuse traps emotional energy, disrupts identity, and creates adult anger patterns that feel unpredictable and shame-inducing. 

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel: 
Coach Thomas

Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

 

Ready to give it a try:

Life by Your Design

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 3420 124 full 1357 Can I Trust Anyone? 1357 Can I Trust Anyone? https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1357-can-i-trust-anyone/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1357-can-i-trust-anyone/#comments Thu, 12 Feb 2026 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/912f08f3-571c-39d1-9efa-e7d4b6560ec5 Jamal grew up believing isolation was strength. After being abused by a respected male figure and repeatedly misunderstood in therapy, trust became a threat rather than a human need. In this episode, we explore how childhood sexual abuse rewires the brain to equate closeness with danger—especially in Black men raised to be silent, self-sufficient, and unbreakable. We unpack why independence can be a trauma response, not maturity, and how healing begins with safe proximity, cultural resonance, and nervous system recalibration—not forced vulnerability.

This isn't a conversation about “opening up.” It's about learning to exist around people without preparing for harm.

With you in this, Coach Thomas Edward

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel:  Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Ready to give it a try:

Life by Your Design

]]> Jamal grew up believing isolation was strength. After being abused by a respected male figure and repeatedly misunderstood in therapy, trust became a threat rather than a human need. In this episode, we explore how childhood sexual abuse rewires the brain to equate closeness with danger—especially in Black men raised to be silent, self-sufficient, and unbreakable. We unpack why independence can be a trauma response, not maturity, and how healing begins with safe proximity, cultural resonance, and nervous system recalibration—not forced vulnerability.

This isn't a conversation about “opening up.”
It's about learning to exist around people without preparing for harm.

With you in this,

Coach Thomas Edward

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel: 
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Ready to give it a try:

Life by Your Design

]]> Thomas Edward false No 3321 123 full 1356 The Mirror Lies 1356 The Mirror Lies https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1356-the-mirror-lies/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1356-the-mirror-lies/#comments Thu, 29 Jan 2026 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/208e0ec9-2138-314f-824e-39635d133f20 Darren spent decades sculpting a nearly perfect body, but no amount of muscle erased the shame imprinted during childhood sexual abuse. In this episode, we explore how trauma rewires the brain’s interoception system, how gym culture can reinforce unresolved wounds, and how healing requires inhabiting the body rather than managing it.

This is not a story of fitness. It’s a story of finally coming home to your body.

 

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

 

Ready to give it a try:

Life by Your Design

]]> Darren spent decades sculpting a nearly perfect body, but no amount of muscle erased the shame imprinted during childhood sexual abuse. In this episode, we explore how trauma rewires the brain’s interoception system, how gym culture can reinforce unresolved wounds, and how healing requires inhabiting the body rather than managing it.

This is not a story of fitness.
It’s a story of finally coming home to your body.

 

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel: 
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

 

Ready to give it a try:

Life by Your Design

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2954 122 full 1349 — “Haunted By Nightfall” 1349 — “Haunted By Nightfall” https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1349-%e2%80%94-haunted-by-nightfall/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1349-%e2%80%94-haunted-by-nightfall/#comments Thu, 15 Jan 2026 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/426af9d2-2520-339e-a6af-b83f1000198f Nighttime wasn’t rest for Diego—it was danger. As a child, he was sexually abused during overnight stays with family, and his body learned that darkness meant vulnerability. Decades later, he couldn’t sleep, woke with panic attacks, kept lights on, and stayed awake until sunrise “just in case.”

In this episode, we explore how nighttime trauma rewires the brain, suppresses REM sleep, reverses cortisol cycles, and creates lifelong insomnia. We walk through how Diego reclaimed safety in the dark—not by forcing sleep, but by teaching his nervous system that night no longer equals danger.

If nighttime is where your past returns, this episode is for you.

With you in this, Coach Thomas

Carry Less.  Live Free!

 

YouTube Channel:  Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Ready to give it try:

Life by Your Design

]]> Nighttime wasn’t rest for Diego—it was danger. As a child, he was sexually abused during overnight stays with family, and his body learned that darkness meant vulnerability. Decades later, he couldn’t sleep, woke with panic attacks, kept lights on, and stayed awake until sunrise “just in case.”

In this episode, we explore how nighttime trauma rewires the brain, suppresses REM sleep, reverses cortisol cycles, and creates lifelong insomnia. We walk through how Diego reclaimed safety in the dark—not by forcing sleep, but by teaching his nervous system that night no longer equals danger.

If nighttime is where your past returns, this episode is for you.

With you in this,

Coach Thomas

Carry Less.  Live Free!

 

YouTube Channel: 
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Ready to give it try:

Life by Your Design

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2698 121 full 1348 The Father Hunger 1348 The Father Hunger https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1355-father-hunger-the-wound-that-shaped-my-manhood/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1355-father-hunger-the-wound-that-shaped-my-manhood/#comments Thu, 01 Jan 2026 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/35e1f3cd-64e3-3ec1-acc3-eca2bd8406ab Every man carries a story about his father — what he gave, what he withheld, and what that silence taught us about manhood. For male survivors of childhood sexual abuse, that silence often becomes a second trauma — the one that keeps the first wound from ever healing. What happens when the man you needed most couldn’t see you? In this episode, Jack shares his journey from silence and performance to presence and healing. Discover how childhood sexual abuse and father hunger intertwine — and how one man rewired the story of manhood by becoming the father he never had.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit send I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

 

YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | BetterMaleSurvivors.com

 

Ready to give it try:

Life by Your Design

]]> Every man carries a story about his father — what he gave, what he withheld, and what that silence taught us about manhood.
For male survivors of childhood sexual abuse, that silence often becomes a second trauma — the one that keeps the first wound from ever healing. What happens when the man you needed most couldn’t see you?
In this episode, Jack shares his journey from silence and performance to presence and healing.
Discover how childhood sexual abuse and father hunger intertwine — and how one man rewired the story of manhood by becoming the father he never had.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit send I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

 

YouTube Channel: 
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | BetterMaleSurvivors.com

 

Ready to give it try:

Life by Your Design

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2144 120 full 1347- Peter Pan Syndrome Man Who Never Grows Up After Abuse 1347- Peter Pan Syndrome Man Who Never Grows Up After Abuse https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1347-peter-pan-syndrome-man-who-never-grows-up-after-abuse/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1347-peter-pan-syndrome-man-who-never-grows-up-after-abuse/#comments Thu, 18 Dec 2025 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/2859ad3c-b5df-350b-ad9a-c3c04c59e228 For some male survivors, the mask isn’t anger or success — it’s immaturity. They stay in perpetual adolescence, avoiding responsibility, dodging commitment, and joking their way through life. To the outside world, they look carefree. But inside, they’re stuck.

In this episode, Antonne shares how childhood sexual abuse froze his development, leaving him a grown man still living like a teenager. He opens up about sabotaging relationships, struggling as a father, and fearing that he could never step into real manhood.

We explore how trauma wires the brain to chase novelty and escape, why responsibility feels like danger, and the coaching steps that helped Antonne move from avoidance to accountability.

This is the raw truth about Peter Pan Syndrome — and the reminder that growing up doesn’t mean losing joy, it means finding freedom.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this, Coach Thomas

Carry Less.  Live Free!

 

YouTube Channel:  Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

 

Ready to give it try:

Life by Your Design

 

]]> For some male survivors, the mask isn’t anger or success — it’s immaturity. They stay in perpetual adolescence, avoiding responsibility, dodging commitment, and joking their way through life. To the outside world, they look carefree. But inside, they’re stuck.

In this episode, Antonne shares how childhood sexual abuse froze his development, leaving him a grown man still living like a teenager. He opens up about sabotaging relationships, struggling as a father, and fearing that he could never step into real manhood.

We explore how trauma wires the brain to chase novelty and escape, why responsibility feels like danger, and the coaching steps that helped Antonne move from avoidance to accountability.

This is the raw truth about Peter Pan Syndrome — and the reminder that growing up doesn’t mean losing joy, it means finding freedom.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,
Coach Thomas

Carry Less.  Live Free!

 

YouTube Channel: 
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

 

Ready to give it try:

Life by Your Design

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1970 119 full 1346 - The Bedroom Battlefield 1346 - The Bedroom Battlefield https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1346-the-bedroom-battlefield/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1346-the-bedroom-battlefield/#comments Thu, 04 Dec 2025 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/320354a3-dc03-3ef7-bd03-3f054f26b655 Luis thought sex was survival — but in adulthood, performance left him anxious and disconnected. Discover how trauma rewires intimacy, and how he reclaimed the bedroom as a place of safety and connection.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

 

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Luis thought sex was survival — but in adulthood, performance left him anxious and disconnected. Discover how trauma rewires intimacy, and how he reclaimed the bedroom as a place of safety and connection.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

 

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel: 
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2241 118 full 1345 - Living the Double Life: Hiding in Plain Sight 1345 - Living the Double Life: Hiding in Plain Sight https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1345-living-the-double-life/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1345-living-the-double-life/#comments Thu, 20 Nov 2025 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/783804ff-b16f-3e38-8f8a-c80234d36640 Zeke looked like the picture of success — a corporate VP, sharp suit, life of the party. But behind the mask was a man carrying brutal abuse from his father, risky behaviors, and suicidal thoughts. To protect his career, he couldn’t risk traditional therapy. Instead, he turned to coaching — and discovered how to unmask without losing everything he’d built.

In this raw episode, we explore how high-functioning survivors hide in plain sight, the neuroscience behind perfectionism and risky escapes, and the steps Zeke took to break free from his double life.

f you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel: 

Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Zeke looked like the picture of success — a corporate VP, sharp suit, life of the party. But behind the mask was a man carrying brutal abuse from his father, risky behaviors, and suicidal thoughts. To protect his career, he couldn’t risk traditional therapy. Instead, he turned to coaching — and discovered how to unmask without losing everything he’d built.

In this raw episode, we explore how high-functioning survivors hide in plain sight, the neuroscience behind perfectionism and risky escapes, and the steps Zeke took to break free from his double life.

f you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel: 


Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2467 117 full 1344- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain 1344- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1344-i-havent-got-time-for-the-pain/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1344-i-havent-got-time-for-the-pain/#comments Thu, 06 Nov 2025 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/5bc4d3fc-f840-331e-be2b-5cd42dc94b46 Grief feels dangerous for male survivors — but avoiding it comes at a cost. In this episode, Tariq’s story reveals how burying grief turns into anger and exhaustion, and how permission to grieve can unlock real freedom.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

 

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel: 

Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Grief feels dangerous for male survivors — but avoiding it comes at a cost. In this episode, Tariq’s story reveals how burying grief turns into anger and exhaustion, and how permission to grieve can unlock real freedom.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

 

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel: 


Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1966 116 full 1342 - The Denial Mousetrap 1342 - The Denial Mousetrap https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1342-the-denial-mousetrap/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1342-the-denial-mousetrap/#comments Thu, 23 Oct 2025 08:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/8d45aadd-2422-37e0-ab1f-4fdb7ebd6a67 Denial looks like safety, but it’s really a trap. William’s story shows how denial numbs the pain of childhood abuse — and how it quietly wrecks work, relationships, and health. Discover why the brain clings to denial, and one simple way to start breaking free.

 

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

 

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel: 

Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Denial looks like safety, but it’s really a trap. William’s story shows how denial numbs the pain of childhood abuse — and how it quietly wrecks work, relationships, and health. Discover why the brain clings to denial, and one simple way to start breaking free.

 

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

 

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel: 


Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1782 114 full 1341- The Day Shame Moved In 1341- The Day Shame Moved In https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1341-the-day-shame-moved-in/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1341-the-day-shame-moved-in/#comments Thu, 09 Oct 2025 08:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/b088e54e-191c-396b-a9a8-ed1235ba5589 Shame doesn’t just show up — it moves in, uninvited, the moment a boy is abused. In this first episode, Xander shares how silence and secrecy buried his voice, and how shame followed him into every corner of adult life: work, relationships, even his own body. We’ll break down where that shame really comes from, the neuroscience behind why it sticks, and one simple strategy you can use today to start pushing shame back out the door.

If you’ve ever felt like shame defines you, this episode will show you the truth: shame is not your identity.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send me an email.  I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Shame doesn’t just show up — it moves in, uninvited, the moment a boy is abused. In this first episode, Xander shares how silence and secrecy buried his voice, and how shame followed him into every corner of adult life: work, relationships, even his own body. We’ll break down where that shame really comes from, the neuroscience behind why it sticks, and one simple strategy you can use today to start pushing shame back out the door.

If you’ve ever felt like shame defines you, this episode will show you the truth: shame is not your identity.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send me an email.  I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

YouTube Channel: 
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2073 113 full 1343- Stuck in Survival: When Coping Feels Like Control 1343- Stuck in Survival: When Coping Feels Like Control https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1343-stuck-in-survival-when-coping-feels-like-control/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1343-stuck-in-survival-when-coping-feels-like-control/#comments Thu, 25 Sep 2025 19:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/99f67b29-3e72-3ad8-ae0c-3a83c2104412 Survival mode doesn’t always look like fear — sometimes it looks like procrastination, perfectionism, or endless busyness. In this episode, Alejandro’s story reveals how the nervous system keeps survivors stuck, and how you can spot the signs in your own life.

 

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email.  I read my email messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Survival mode doesn’t always look like fear — sometimes it looks like procrastination, perfectionism, or endless busyness. In this episode, Alejandro’s story reveals how the nervous system keeps survivors stuck, and how you can spot the signs in your own life.

 

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email.  I read my email messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1762 115 full 1602-Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men 1602-Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1602-walking-time-bombs-childhood-trauma-in-adult-men/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1602-walking-time-bombs-childhood-trauma-in-adult-men/#comments Mon, 12 May 2025 22:16:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/d1e47466-ee8c-3738-8b89-56ea6cd7a546 In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men, we explore how unresolved childhood abuse and emotional neglect can silently shape a man’s adult life—impacting his work, relationships, and sense of self. Through storytelling, expert insights, and real voices, we uncover how trauma often hides behind success, control, anger, and burnout. This episode invites men—and those who care about them—to begin seeing past the symptoms and into the deeper roots of emotional pain. Because healing starts with recognition, and survival isn’t the same as truly living.

 

With you in this

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel: 

www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com 

 

]]> In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men, we explore how unresolved childhood abuse and emotional neglect can silently shape a man’s adult life—impacting his work, relationships, and sense of self. Through storytelling, expert insights, and real voices, we uncover how trauma often hides behind success, control, anger, and burnout. This episode invites men—and those who care about them—to begin seeing past the symptoms and into the deeper roots of emotional pain. Because healing starts with recognition, and survival isn’t the same as truly living.

 

With you in this

Carry Less.  Live Free

YouTube Channel: 

www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com 

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 3550 112 full 1601-Disclosure: Breaking the Silence 1601-Disclosure: Breaking the Silence https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1601-disclosure-breaking-the-silence/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1601-disclosure-breaking-the-silence/#comments Tue, 25 Feb 2025 00:29:23 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/aae11a15-f3fd-340e-9009-2d630412d435 In this episode, Coach Thomas continues the journey of recovery, guiding you through the challenges of disclosure. Sharing your story can be terrifying—who do you tell? What fears hold you back? Tonight, we explore the barriers to disclosure and how opening up can be a powerful step toward healing. Tune in and discover another path to freedom.

 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

]]> In this episode, Coach Thomas continues the journey of recovery, guiding you through the challenges of disclosure. Sharing your story can be terrifying—who do you tell? What fears hold you back? Tonight, we explore the barriers to disclosure and how opening up can be a powerful step toward healing. Tune in and discover another path to freedom.

 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2362 111 full 1600- Releasing the Grip of Shame 1600- Releasing the Grip of Shame https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1600-releasing-the-grip-of-shame/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/1600-releasing-the-grip-of-shame/#comments Wed, 29 Jan 2025 15:41:20 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/d74d3959-6bf8-362f-897c-beb1d445dcaa After taking a year-long sabbatical at the end of 2023 to focus on personal growth and reflection, Coach T is back and ready to dive into the hard conversations that matter most. In tonight’s much-anticipated live show, Coach T makes a slight shift in plans but delivers an impactful session on how the guilt from childhood sexual trauma keeps many survivors trapped in silence. Tune in as he shares a powerful word technique to help you start breaking free from guilt and begin reclaiming your voice. This is the start of a journey toward healing and transformation—don’t miss it!

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]]> After taking a year-long sabbatical at the end of 2023 to focus on personal growth and reflection, Coach T is back and ready to dive into the hard conversations that matter most. In tonight’s much-anticipated live show, Coach T makes a slight shift in plans but delivers an impactful session on how the guilt from childhood sexual trauma keeps many survivors trapped in silence. Tune in as he shares a powerful word technique to help you start breaking free from guilt and begin reclaiming your voice. This is the start of a journey toward healing and transformation—don’t miss it!

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 3755 110 full Episode 74: Teaming up with Katie Episode 74: Teaming up with Katie https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-74-teaming-up-with-katie/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-74-teaming-up-with-katie/#comments Sat, 03 Feb 2024 08:08:03 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/0bd0384b-73a2-3155-8ce9-12d74061bd1c Today's podcast Coach T is interviewed by Katie. Katie Koestner – First woman in history to speak out nationally as the victim of “date” rape. Cover of TIME magazine at age 18. Subject of movies on HBO and Lifetime. Outspoken activist and entrepreneur. 

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]]> Today's podcast Coach T is interviewed by Katie. Katie Koestner – First woman in history to speak out nationally as the victim of “date” rape. Cover of TIME magazine at age 18. Subject of movies on HBO and Lifetime. Outspoken activist and entrepreneur. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 3606 109 full Episode 73: Processing Loss Sexual Trauma Episode 73: Processing Loss Sexual Trauma https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-73-processing-loss-sexual-trauma/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-73-processing-loss-sexual-trauma/#comments Wed, 17 Jan 2024 06:15:39 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/088fdecc-fe9f-3334-856b-e1b013063691 Coach T works through emotional resonance and losses due to sexual trauma. 

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]]> Coach T works through emotional resonance and losses due to sexual trauma. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2374 108 full Episode 72: Year End 2023 ”I Can’t Get No Satisfaction” Episode 72: Year End 2023 ”I Can’t Get No Satisfaction” https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-72-year-end-2023-i-can-t-get-no-satisfaction/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-72-year-end-2023-i-can-t-get-no-satisfaction/#comments Sat, 30 Dec 2023 06:31:57 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/8098e3a6-27b7-3527-93c9-b004224a011f Coach T ends the year discussion disruption with sexual satisfaction challenges from the CSA. 

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]]> Coach T ends the year discussion disruption with sexual satisfaction challenges from the CSA. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2296 107 full Episode 71: C-PTSD Intimacy Disorder Episode 71: C-PTSD Intimacy Disorder https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-71-c-ptsd-intimacy-disorder/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-71-c-ptsd-intimacy-disorder/#comments Sat, 11 Nov 2023 14:29:43 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/593fb1cc-008d-3469-8e25-cc80917204e1 Today Coach Thomas discusses a prevalent issue that came up in several male survivor coaching sessions last week.  You are not alone!

 

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]]> Today Coach Thomas discusses a prevalent issue that came up in several male survivor coaching sessions last week.  You are not alone!

 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2375 106 full Episode 70: Interview with NAASCA organization Episode 70: Interview with NAASCA organization https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-70-interview-with-naasca-organization/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-70-interview-with-naasca-organization/#comments Fri, 03 Nov 2023 19:30:14 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/06db8971-6aaa-3495-8af2-6a616e003933 It's that time of year when organizations as for interviews to help survivors as they struggle to make it through the holidays.   Hope you enjoy the interview. Remember that until you take the steps to heal you stay in the same place. 

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]]> It's that time of year when organizations as for interviews to help survivors as they struggle to make it through the holidays.   Hope you enjoy the interview. Remember that until you take the steps to heal you stay in the same place. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 5850 105 full Episode 69: Quieting the Noise Episode 69: Quieting the Noise https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-69-quieting-the-noise/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-69-quieting-the-noise/#comments Sat, 10 Jun 2023 05:59:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/646dd3db-4ebc-3070-a727-3125918fc860 Coach Thomas discuss C-PTSD and workshop in Fiji on Sept 21-24, 2023.

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]]> Coach Thomas discuss C-PTSD and workshop in Fiji on Sept 21-24, 2023.

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1456 104 full Episode 68: Pain & Joy of Going Home: RAW Episode 68: Pain & Joy of Going Home: RAW https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-68-pain-joy-of-going-home-raw/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-68-pain-joy-of-going-home-raw/#comments Fri, 26 Aug 2022 11:42:09 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/74b3a87e-68a6-3e98-97ef-a65f5ebcc30f Coach T shares some raw live moments of his trip back home last week where the sexual abuse occurred, encounter with family perpetrator, and pain of protecting family member. It's real and raw.  Safeplace digital magazine launch on Sept 2, planning workshop in Canada. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

 

]]> Coach T shares some raw live moments of his trip back home last week where the sexual abuse occurred, encounter with family perpetrator, and pain of protecting family member. It's real and raw.  Safeplace digital magazine launch on Sept 2, planning workshop in Canada. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2723 103 full Episode 67: Stuck: Adult on the outside, not inside Episode 67: Stuck: Adult on the outside, not inside https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-67-stuck-adult-on-the-outside-not-inside/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-67-stuck-adult-on-the-outside-not-inside/#comments Fri, 05 Aug 2022 10:51:43 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/a41f902c-4bb4-33f9-be4a-573609fcf575 Today's podcast: Some of us look grown up but aren't. We walk around with suits and briefcases and car keys and annuities. But inside, we are five. Ten. Twelve. Sixteen. This morning Coach T discusses arrested development where sexual trauma disrupted certain emotional development stages and we get stuck. 

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]]> Today's podcast: Some of us look grown up but aren't. We walk around with suits and briefcases and car keys and annuities. But inside, we are five. Ten. Twelve. Sixteen. This morning Coach T discusses arrested development where sexual trauma disrupted certain emotional development stages and we get stuck. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1881 102 full Episode 66: Survivors Turning Chronic Stress into Optimal Stress Episode 66: Survivors Turning Chronic Stress into Optimal Stress https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-66-survivors-turning-chronic-stress-into-optimal-stress/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-66-survivors-turning-chronic-stress-into-optimal-stress/#comments Fri, 22 Jul 2022 11:44:02 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/03cf15f0-648b-3272-8c4c-d3b5c2dacd0c This morning Coach T shares working with a client and turning chronic stress into optimal stress. He discusses a bit of neuroscience of riding the wave of adaptive stress to rest and recovery.  He introduces Raj, the new digital magazine coming, and building more resources for male survivors.

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]]> This morning Coach T shares working with a client and turning chronic stress into optimal stress. He discusses a bit of neuroscience of riding the wave of adaptive stress to rest and recovery.  He introduces Raj, the new digital magazine coming, and building more resources for male survivors.

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2729 101 full Episode 65: Tribute to Transition Episode 65: Tribute to Transition https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-65-tribute-to-transition/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-65-tribute-to-transition/#comments Fri, 15 Jul 2022 09:11:22 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/7c6bd548-ab1f-3de0-a6d9-f898decc5abf This morning Coach T pays a little tribute to two military survivors who have transitioned, rest in power. Men who were part of the Safe Place workshop and coaching crew recently passed.  How sharing pieces of their story and working on the issues brought more freedom and sense of justice. 

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]]> This morning Coach T pays a little tribute to two military survivors who have transitioned, rest in power. Men who were part of the Safe Place workshop and coaching crew recently passed.  How sharing pieces of their story and working on the issues brought more freedom and sense of justice. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2151 100 full Episode 64: What It Takes 2: Measuring Your Progress Episode 64: What It Takes 2: Measuring Your Progress https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-64-what-it-takes-2-measuring-your-progress/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-64-what-it-takes-2-measuring-your-progress/#comments Sat, 02 Jul 2022 09:09:11 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/f606bfb5-f882-34cf-9908-906c94a52f87 This morning Coach T picks up on the second part of What It Takes!  He shares signs and milestones to measure your healing from the trauma of the sexual abuse.  He also talks about the the "Toddler's Credo" to help you as you work through issues. Also the possibility of doing live podcasts for insider members, where can call in and ask questions live. 

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]]> This morning Coach T picks up on the second part of What It Takes!  He shares signs and milestones to measure your healing from the trauma of the sexual abuse.  He also talks about the the "Toddler's Credo" to help you as you work through issues. Also the possibility of doing live podcasts for insider members, where can call in and ask questions live. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2023 99 full Episode 63:What it Takes to Start Healing Episode 63:What it Takes to Start Healing https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-63what-it-takes-to-start-healing/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-63what-it-takes-to-start-healing/#comments Sat, 25 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/3714b839-89c5-362e-9a8e-b8e52eeed00b How long have you been procrastinating really working through the abuse issue?  It Takes What I Takes to Heal: As a result of emotional trauma, we begin to feel numb, disconnected and lose our trust in others. It can take a lot of time for this pain to go away, and for us to feel safe again. If the trauma we’ve experienced is psychological, we may suffer from troubling memories, anxiety and emotions. Coach T starts with 5 steps to begin. 

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]]> How long have you been procrastinating really working through the abuse issue?  It Takes What I Takes to Heal: As a result of emotional trauma, we begin to feel numb, disconnected and lose our trust in others. It can take a lot of time for this pain to go away, and for us to feel safe again. If the trauma we’ve experienced is psychological, we may suffer from troubling memories, anxiety and emotions. Coach T starts with 5 steps to begin. 

www.safeplaceformen.com 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2417 98 full Episode 62: Link Sexual Addiction & Abuse Episode 62: Link Sexual Addiction & Abuse https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-62-link-sexual-addiction-abuse/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-62-link-sexual-addiction-abuse/#comments Fri, 15 Apr 2022 08:07:13 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/c37bcf78-48c6-31f8-b16f-9a5b16e014ea Coach T asked by an insider about random sexual encounters he’s facing and what's possibly going on in the brain. Coach T will be heading over to the Insider’s Podcast to share on links between sexual addictions and our sexual abuse.  Subscribe if you haven't.  Also he shared more about the in-person July 7-9 workshop

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]]> Coach T asked by an insider about random sexual encounters he’s facing and what's possibly going on in the brain. Coach T will be heading over to the Insider’s Podcast to share on links between sexual addictions and our sexual abuse.  Subscribe if you haven't.  Also he shared more about the in-person July 7-9 workshop

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1123 97 full Episode 61: Betrayal Trauma Episode 61: Betrayal Trauma https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-61-betrayal-trauma/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-61-betrayal-trauma/#comments Fri, 01 Apr 2022 05:03:32 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/df8c950c-62eb-3857-bff6-3893401be4c5 Without any caffeine, Coach T energetically discusses the next in-person workshop coming up in July 7-9, being interviewed by an actor for role portrayal as survivor, and the psychological aftermath of betrayal trauma that can follow years later after the abuse.

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]]> Without any caffeine, Coach T energetically discusses the next in-person workshop coming up in July 7-9, being interviewed by an actor for role portrayal as survivor, and the psychological aftermath of betrayal trauma that can follow years later after the abuse.

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2148 96 full Episode 60B: Explosive rebuttal Episode 60B: Explosive rebuttal https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-60b-explosive-rebuttal/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-60b-explosive-rebuttal/#comments Tue, 22 Feb 2022 11:07:34 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/4aacf2f3-5900-37ce-b218-6c8970b240fa Yes, it's Tuesday!  This is A 1-off episode where Coach Thomas shares the reaction backlash to the previous episode. He shares the  insider's topic of survivors unknowingly become the abuser during the healing process. for this Friday. 

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]]> Yes, it's Tuesday!  This is A 1-off episode where Coach Thomas shares the reaction backlash to the previous episode. He shares the  insider's topic of survivors unknowingly become the abuser during the healing process. for this Friday. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 740 95 full Episode 60: Disclosure: My partner loves me, but can’t support me anymore Episode 60: Disclosure: My partner loves me, but can’t support me anymore https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-60-disclosure-disclosure-my-partner-loves-me-but-can-t-support-me-anymore/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-60-disclosure-disclosure-my-partner-loves-me-but-can-t-support-me-anymore/#comments Fri, 11 Feb 2022 12:07:30 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/c2c84b43-6d83-3dce-bf4a-29abe310cbc7 Today's podcast coach Thomas receives email concerning a survivor who disclosed to his partner who loves him. However, the partner just cannot support him on this journey at this level any longer. He gives a few tips on disclosure and dealing with this situation.

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]]> Today's podcast coach Thomas receives email concerning a survivor who disclosed to his partner who loves him. However, the partner just cannot support him on this journey at this level any longer. He gives a few tips on disclosure and dealing with this situation.

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2471 94 full Episode 59: New Year: Why Do I Love My Abuser Episode 59: New Year: Why Do I Love My Abuser https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-59-new-year-why-do-i-love-my-abuser/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-59-new-year-why-do-i-love-my-abuser/#comments Sat, 08 Jan 2022 09:18:24 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e4be6194-6f0a-3c94-b8b5-29d30e56917e Happy New Year.  This session Coach T shares a recent client session where the survivor suffered the cognitive dissonance of having empathy and attachment to the individual who sexually abused him. He shares 3 things to consider in experiencing challenging process. 

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]]> Happy New Year.  This session Coach T shares a recent client session where the survivor suffered the cognitive dissonance of having empathy and attachment to the individual who sexually abused him. He shares 3 things to consider in experiencing challenging process. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1713 93 full Episode 58: Healing Crisis After A BreakThrough Episode 58: Healing Crisis After A BreakThrough https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-58-healing-crisis-after-a-breakthrough/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-58-healing-crisis-after-a-breakthrough/#comments Fri, 17 Dec 2021 10:17:23 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/7e42423d-af58-3819-9aa2-4f94d13665f8 In his last podcast for 2021, Coach Thomas shares common survivor issues he's experienced on his road trip the past month in hypnotherapy sessions with clients. They experience major phenomenal breakthroughs, but similar to overcoming physical maladies, feel a bit worse after being on cloud nine. 

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]]> In his last podcast for 2021, Coach Thomas shares common survivor issues he's experienced on his road trip the past month in hypnotherapy sessions with clients. They experience major phenomenal breakthroughs, but similar to overcoming physical maladies, feel a bit worse after being on cloud nine. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2565 92 full Episode 57: Insider‘s Surviving Holidays Episode 57: Insider‘s Surviving Holidays https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-57-insider-s-surviving-holidays/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-57-insider-s-surviving-holidays/#comments Wed, 24 Nov 2021 07:30:40 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/4fdcbffa-994f-3cb7-9f7d-de680f1f24ea Coach Thomas awakes early this morning to share a few things on his mind for survivors in making it through the holidays.  

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]]> Coach Thomas awakes early this morning to share a few things on his mind for survivors in making it through the holidays.  

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2293 91 full Episode 55: We‘re Moving Platforms Episode 55: We‘re Moving Platforms https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-55-we-re-moving-platforms/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-55-we-re-moving-platforms/#comments Fri, 05 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/a8ec5908-5442-3c2f-9e46-2862355932e8 Coach T shares the next stages and Patreon-like platform where the  program is moving.  He shares how Insiders will be for those survivors that are now ready to get their feet wet.  He will not totally disappear from this podcast platform, and occasionally drop in from time to time. 

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]]> Coach T shares the next stages and Patreon-like platform where the  program is moving.  He shares how Insiders will be for those survivors that are now ready to get their feet wet.  He will not totally disappear from this podcast platform, and occasionally drop in from time to time. 

ht

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1171 89 full Episode 54: Jumpstart Your Healing CPR Episode 54: Jumpstart Your Healing CPR https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-54-jumpstart-your-healing-cpr/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-54-jumpstart-your-healing-cpr/#comments Tue, 05 Oct 2021 12:54:50 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/efc6949f-f4cd-3410-8e7b-32eff0909682 Coach T needs a chill pill this morning.  He returned from the conference on fire. He shares meeting with survivors in Dallas, TX and the almost mini-workshop he did on the fly. 

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]]> Coach T needs a chill pill this morning.  He returned from the conference on fire. He shares meeting with survivors in Dallas, TX and the almost mini-workshop he did on the fly. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2022 88 full Episode 53: I Can‘t Remember All the Details Episode 53: I Can‘t Remember All the Details https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-53-i-can-t-remember-all-the-details/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-53-i-can-t-remember-all-the-details/#comments Fri, 10 Sep 2021 07:54:53 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/485231bb-e871-303d-89c9-bc453faba17b Coach T starts with a hectic morning,  his Hollywood survivor guest is no show, a family member experiencing COVID on a ventilator, and a survivor stressed because he cannot remember all the details of the childhood sexual abuse.  Coach T does a quick refresher on fragmented memory.  

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]]> Coach T starts with a hectic morning,  his Hollywood survivor guest is no show, a family member experiencing COVID on a ventilator, and a survivor stressed because he cannot remember all the details of the childhood sexual abuse.  Coach T does a quick refresher on fragmented memory.  

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1503 87 full Episode 52: the gift that keeps stealing and taking Episode 52: the gift that keeps stealing and taking https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-52-the-gift-that-keeps-stealing-and-taking/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-52-the-gift-that-keeps-stealing-and-taking/#comments Fri, 03 Sep 2021 08:39:23 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/1a11f132-f037-32a0-972e-3d0a5a090017 This morning Coach T shares a letter from the partner of his client. The partner shares the devastating havoc the porn and sexual abuse created in their relationship. Coach T shares the strategies he used to get results with this client where others could not. The next cohort for the program starts next week. 

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]]> This morning Coach T shares a letter from the partner of his client. The partner shares the devastating havoc the porn and sexual abuse created in their relationship. Coach T shares the strategies he used to get results with this client where others could not. The next cohort for the program starts next week. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2068 86 full Episode 49: Understand Your Critic Episode 49: Understand Your Critic https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-49-understand-your-critic/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-49-understand-your-critic/#comments Fri, 06 Aug 2021 08:09:21 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/3b142c7a-d69e-3d18-abcc-45d5532453c1 Coach T us up with his latest exploits and the launching of Safe Corner on Instagram.  Smoke from the surrounding fires. How the online coaching course is accelerating recovery time. Then he drops a little knowledge on understanding your inner critic.  Find the link to the video for Safe Corner on his instagram page.  Cheers! 

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]]> Coach T us up with his latest exploits and the launching of Safe Corner on Instagram.  Smoke from the surrounding fires. How the online coaching course is accelerating recovery time. Then he drops a little knowledge on understanding your inner critic.  Find the link to the video for Safe Corner on his instagram page.  Cheers! 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1468 83 full Episode 48: Breaking My Abuse Code Episode 48: Breaking My Abuse Code https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-48-breaking-my-abuse-code/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-48-breaking-my-abuse-code/#comments Thu, 17 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/0dbf1d41-762b-3a99-9050-f1817b539ea8 Thomas talks about the next online course & coaching program being launched.  He shares his 20 recovery intentions.  He encourages all survivors working through issues to have goals via intentions so they can determine if they are actually growing in the direction they desire. 

 

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]]> Thomas talks about the next online course & coaching program being launched.  He shares his 20 recovery intentions.  He encourages all survivors working through issues to have goals via intentions so they can determine if they are actually growing in the direction they desire. 

 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1551 82 full Episode 47: Unhealthy Positivity Episode 47: Unhealthy Positivity https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-47-unhealthy-positivity/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-47-unhealthy-positivity/#comments Thu, 20 May 2021 08:21:47 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/c2552c5e-45db-3271-a25a-c4f838015702 After walking the dog this morning, Thomas shares a coaching session where the survivors belief in being positive were actually hindering and prolonging his recover. Too much of a good thing! 

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]]> After walking the dog this morning, Thomas shares a coaching session where the survivors belief in being positive were actually hindering and prolonging his recover. Too much of a good thing! 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

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]]> Thomas Edward false No 1455 81 full Episode 46: Coaching Survivor Learned Helplessness Episode 46: Coaching Survivor Learned Helplessness https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-46-coaching-survivor-learned-helplessness/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-46-coaching-survivor-learned-helplessness/#comments Thu, 22 Apr 2021 11:05:54 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/a4e3ef88-c18e-3415-b07a-7eecace7d35c This morning Thomas discusses a coaching session from last night that had him frustrated for a bit as he worked with a survivor stuck in learned helplessness state.  Listen to the outcome and takeaways. 

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]]> This morning Thomas discusses a coaching session from last night that had him frustrated for a bit as he worked with a survivor stuck in learned helplessness state.  Listen to the outcome and takeaways. 

www.safeplaceformen.com 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1384 80 full Episode 45: Getting Ready Episode 45: Getting Ready https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-45-getting-ready/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-45-getting-ready/#comments Fri, 16 Apr 2021 21:05:52 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/2f76aaaa-19c2-3eda-b74e-5ae269e9a0d6 Thomas is all over the place with excitement as he gets ready for the next course and coaching on April 19th. He talks about several coaching sessions this week on  language to define, feeling dirty, voices of the abuser, mental health labels, and trauma disconnecting survivors from self. 

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]]> Thomas is all over the place with excitement as he gets ready for the next course and coaching on April 19th. He talks about several coaching sessions this week on  language to define, feeling dirty, voices of the abuser, mental health labels, and trauma disconnecting survivors from self. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1448 79 full Episode 44: Consistency Compounds Episode 44: Consistency Compounds https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-44-consistency-compounds/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-44-consistency-compounds/#comments Thu, 08 Apr 2021 09:59:37 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/0169b100-5809-39a8-8b34-774e00db7e9a Happy morning! Thomas shares an uplifting report from survivor Jeremy concerning the ecourse material and gives Jeremy a  shout out of a few more points on being resilient and continuing to do the work. 

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]]> Happy morning! Thomas shares an uplifting report from survivor Jeremy concerning the ecourse material and gives Jeremy a  shout out of a few more points on being resilient and continuing to do the work. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1287 78 full Episode 43: WITMYS (What I Tell My Younger Self)- Part 2 Episode 43: WITMYS (What I Tell My Younger Self)- Part 2 https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-43-witmys-what-i-tell-my-younger-self-part-2/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-43-witmys-what-i-tell-my-younger-self-part-2/#comments Mon, 05 Apr 2021 12:09:31 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/9043307c-2dc0-304b-ac48-0ee85c091b13 Thomas shares as he chops it up with a group, WITMYS A group that focuses on overcoming the obstacles in life. He is asked the question, "What I'd Tell My Younger Self?" It's a simple candid conversation between three guys trying to put more positivity into the world of dealing with trauma and healing. 

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]]> Thomas shares as he chops it up with a group, WITMYS A group that focuses on overcoming the obstacles in life. He is asked the question, "What I'd Tell My Younger Self?" It's a simple candid conversation between three guys trying to put more positivity into the world of dealing with trauma and healing. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2975 77 full Episode 42: WITMYS (What I Tell My Younger Self)- Part 1 Episode 42: WITMYS (What I Tell My Younger Self)- Part 1 https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-42-witmys-what-i-tell-my-younger-self-part-1/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-42-witmys-what-i-tell-my-younger-self-part-1/#comments Sun, 04 Apr 2021 09:54:02 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/7acfc5a7-c7d7-3b2d-9b31-47fd90518947 Thomas shares as he chops it up with a group, WITMYS.com  A group that focuses on overcoming the obstacles in life. He is asked the question, "What I'd Tell My Younger Self?" It's a simple candid conversation between three guys trying to put more positivity into the world of dealing with trauma and healing. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas shares as he chops it up with a group, WITMYS.com  A group that focuses on overcoming the obstacles in life. He is asked the question, "What I'd Tell My Younger Self?" It's a simple candid conversation between three guys trying to put more positivity into the world of dealing with trauma and healing. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1826 76 full Episode 41: When Will the Abuse Stop Affecting Me? When Does It End? Episode 41: When Will the Abuse Stop Affecting Me? When Does It End? https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-41-when-will-the-abuse-stop-affecting-me-when-does-it-end/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-41-when-will-the-abuse-stop-affecting-me-when-does-it-end/#comments Thu, 04 Mar 2021 11:52:38 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/44b8d2bd-4709-3d25-bb92-988847284cdc Thomas candidly shares a recent moment.  He was asked by a national organization to participant in a PSA. When he could not contribute, hear the insight he learned about his childhood sexual abuse. When does it end?

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]]> Thomas candidly shares a recent moment.  He was asked by a national organization to participant in a PSA. When he could not contribute, hear the insight he learned about his childhood sexual abuse. When does it end?

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 985 75 full Episode 40: Understanding the Power of Limiting Beliefs Episode 40: Understanding the Power of Limiting Beliefs https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-40-understanding-the-power-of-limiting-beliefs/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-40-understanding-the-power-of-limiting-beliefs/#comments Thu, 11 Feb 2021 08:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/feaafe00-2e70-3e53-96f8-ca771c90d0e3 Thomas uncovers understanding the power of limiting beliefs by sharing the story of a Hollywood stuntman he coached, who feared walking into certain rooms in his home. He drops some knowledge from neuroscience on why limiting beliefs are so entrenched and powerful.

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]]> Thomas uncovers understanding the power of limiting beliefs by sharing the story of a Hollywood stuntman he coached, who feared walking into certain rooms in his home. He drops some knowledge from neuroscience on why limiting beliefs are so entrenched and powerful.

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1765 74 full Episode 39: Have You Ever Been Arrested or Detained? Episode 39: Have You Ever Been Arrested or Detained? https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-39-have-you-ever-been-arrested-or-detained/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-39-have-you-ever-been-arrested-or-detained/#comments Thu, 28 Jan 2021 06:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/d08003e1-623f-353f-9fd3-8412211c7cc2 Thomas introduces via a life story about the developmental stages that many survivors are locked or arrested in CPTSD.  He lists the developmental stages asking survivors to examine their current lives. He talks about a Masterclass he's putting together for this year. 

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]]> Thomas introduces via a life story about the developmental stages that many survivors are locked or arrested in CPTSD.  He lists the developmental stages asking survivors to examine their current lives. He talks about a Masterclass he's putting together for this year. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

 

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1606 73 full Episode 37: Accelerating recovery by understanding neuroscience Episode 37: Accelerating recovery by understanding neuroscience https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-37-accelerating-recovery-with-neuroscience/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-37-accelerating-recovery-with-neuroscience/#comments Thu, 14 Jan 2021 02:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/a0d27860-0f2f-3ded-b8fc-09f0f7b8d203 Thomas is asked the question, "Why do you talk so much about neuroscience in your coaching of male survivors?" Thomas breaks down his reasons and shares 4 crucial neuroscience points that may help male survivors or anybody work through issues. 

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]]> Thomas is asked the question, "Why do you talk so much about neuroscience in your coaching of male survivors?" Thomas breaks down his reasons and shares 4 crucial neuroscience points that may help male survivors or anybody work through issues. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1700 71 full Episode 36: No New Year Resolutions -Reenactment Episode 36: No New Year Resolutions -Reenactment https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-36-no-new-year-resolutions-reenactment/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-36-no-new-year-resolutions-reenactment/#comments Thu, 07 Jan 2021 02:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/136856a0-697e-30ad-8d22-c6d7cc4215b2 Thomas shares coaching strategies to achieve progress in 2021.  He discusses reenactment trauma and solutions while celebrating 2021 as his 20th year in working with male survivors. 

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]]> Thomas shares coaching strategies to achieve progress in 2021.  He discusses reenactment trauma and solutions while celebrating 2021 as his 20th year in working with male survivors. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2009 70 full Episode 35: New Year's Eve Dump Episode 35: New Year's Eve Dump https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-35-new-years-eve-dump/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-35-new-years-eve-dump/#comments Thu, 31 Dec 2020 12:00:00 -0800 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/4f088565-8b13-3bfc-a506-c1348e2a8f4c Big Thank You 30 Days Our Story Project. Thomas drops his last bit of knowledge for 2020.  The new year workshop, male gender socialization and abuse, and a plea to make that change. 

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]]> Big Thank You 30 Days Our Story Project. Thomas drops his last bit of knowledge for 2020.  The new year workshop, male gender socialization and abuse, and a plea to make that change. 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1685 69 full Episode 31: Dealing with Critical Inner Voice Episode 31: Dealing with Critical Inner Voice https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-31-dealing-with-critical-inner-voice/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-31-dealing-with-critical-inner-voice/#comments Thu, 29 Oct 2020 02:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/c76bc315-0012-3163-b416-8de249174f61 Coach Thomas discussed the No. 2 issue that often keep male survivors from thriving, the inner critical voice.  He shares a little psych 101 to explain getting stuck and provides a few strategies to use to overcome. 

 

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]]> Coach Thomas discussed the No. 2 issue that often keep male survivors from thriving, the inner critical voice.  He shares a little psych 101 to explain getting stuck and provides a few strategies to use to overcome. 

 

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1512 31 full Episode 30: Rebuilding Trust After Sexual Trauma Episode 30: Rebuilding Trust After Sexual Trauma https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-30-rebuilding-trust-after-sexual-trauma/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-30-rebuilding-trust-after-sexual-trauma/#comments Thu, 22 Oct 2020 02:00:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/3487cd14-bee6-32a5-8334-6e7fc6f5136a Coach Thomas drops some knowledge on thriving and starting to rebuild trust after the sexual abuse. If you're caught in the DEFCON high trust wall, he provides a few insights to navigate.

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]]> Coach Thomas drops some knowledge on thriving and starting to rebuild trust after the sexual abuse. If you're caught in the DEFCON high trust wall, he provides a few insights to navigate.

www.bettermalesurvivors.com 

@msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1474 30 full Episode 29: Sexual Trauma w/Spiritual and Religious Narratives Episode 29: Sexual Trauma w/Spiritual and Religious Narratives https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-29-sexual-trauma-wspiritual-and-religious-narratives/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-29-sexual-trauma-wspiritual-and-religious-narratives/#comments Thu, 15 Oct 2020 09:20:00 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/28062102-ae64-3079-9092-b0fb8cf1bc31 Thomas is asked to discuss working with male survivors whose sexual trauma and recovery has religious or spiritual undertones. Shout out to the Philippines podcast listeners growing numbers.  www.safeplacemen.com 

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]]> Thomas is asked to discuss working with male survivors whose sexual trauma and recovery has religious or spiritual undertones. Shout out to the Philippines podcast listeners growing numbers.  www.safeplacemen.com 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2024 29 full Episode 27: The Message of Emotions Episode 27: The Message of Emotions https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-27-the-message-of-emotions/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-27-the-message-of-emotions/#comments Thu, 24 Sep 2020 10:11:55 -0700 safeplaceformen.podbean.com/d331ed1e-be22-34a8-96e8-1711626c4080 Thomas celebrates the success of another survivor becoming a thriver.  He shares pieces of the course this new thriver reported helped him most the "Message of emotions". www.safeplaceformen.com 

 

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]]> Thomas celebrates the success of another survivor becoming a thriver.  He shares pieces of the course this new thriver reported helped him most the "Message of emotions". www.safeplaceformen.com 

 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1768 27 full Episode 23: Help Me Understand Male Survivors: Trauma misconceptions Episode 23: Help Me Understand Male Survivors: Trauma misconceptions https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-23-help-me-understand-male-survivors-trauma-misconceptions/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-23-help-me-understand-male-survivors-trauma-misconceptions/#comments Thu, 23 Apr 2020 08:52:33 -0700 safespacesformen.podbean.com/aeb7834d-211d-59ea-8e5f-13a3e8f782f8 Spouse of male survivor uttered the words, "Shouldn't you be over that by now!" Thomas discusses a few  common misconceptions about trauma to help those who love male survivors to better understand and cope with many of the issues that come with the territory.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Spouse of male survivor uttered the words, "Shouldn't you be over that by now!" Thomas discusses a few  common misconceptions about trauma to help those who love male survivors to better understand and cope with many of the issues that come with the territory.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1570 23 full Episode 22: Help Me Understand 2: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse -Porn & Female perpetrators Episode 22: Help Me Understand 2: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse -Porn & Female perpetrators https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/help-me-understand-2-i-love-a-male-survivor-of-sexual-abuse-porn-female-perpetrators/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/help-me-understand-2-i-love-a-male-survivor-of-sexual-abuse-porn-female-perpetrators/#comments Sun, 19 Apr 2020 11:43:37 -0700 safespacesformen.podbean.com/81910f52-4cf8-5c41-9aa1-5cc1ed621ddb Continuing the "Help Me Understand" series, Thomas is asked about porn addictions, and help to understand male survivors who are abused by females.  He discusses his own experience and stigma male survivors might live with being abused by female perpetrators. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Continuing the "Help Me Understand" series, Thomas is asked about porn addictions, and help to understand male survivors who are abused by females.  He discusses his own experience and stigma male survivors might live with being abused by female perpetrators. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Thomas Edward false No 1832 22 full Episode 21: Help Me Understand: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse Episode 21: Help Me Understand: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-21-help-me-understand-i-love-a-male-survivor-of-sexual-abuse/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-21-help-me-understand-i-love-a-male-survivor-of-sexual-abuse/#comments Tue, 14 Apr 2020 11:57:04 -0700 safespacesformen.podbean.com/4b4c3ec8-31e7-512f-9014-fb85f1d49353 Asked the question from a listener, Thomas candidly talks to those spouses, partners, family, significant others who love and are part of a male survivor's life, but might be confused or can't understand some of the issues they face.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Asked the question from a listener, Thomas candidly talks to those spouses, partners, family, significant others who love and are part of a male survivor's life, but might be confused or can't understand some of the issues they face.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1832 21 full Episode 20: Male Survivors building emotional resilience during these times Episode 20: Male Survivors building emotional resilience during these times https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/male-survivors-building-emotional-resilience-during-these-times/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/male-survivors-building-emotional-resilience-during-these-times/#comments Mon, 06 Apr 2020 15:29:08 -0700 safespacesformen.podbean.com/c7c7c566-e82a-56ff-be43-5eee347bcde6 Thomas shares how he had to flex his emotional resilience muscle this weekend to confront some issues. He discusses steps that can help survivors of sexual abuse become more resilient.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Thomas shares how he had to flex his emotional resilience muscle this weekend to confront some issues. He discusses steps that can help survivors of sexual abuse become more resilient.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1731 20 full Episode 19: Corona: Quarantined Into Abusive Surroundings Episode 19: Corona: Quarantined Into Abusive Surroundings https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/corona-quarantined-into-abusive-surroundings/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/corona-quarantined-into-abusive-surroundings/#comments Sat, 04 Apr 2020 10:58:22 -0700 safespacesformen.podbean.com/c3b2a2c5-0962-5d1d-9d4d-b1760c607a7b Sometimes being quarantine brings out good and bad in others. Thomas discusses how our past sexual abuse history and trauma might make us more susceptible to unconscious patterns of building relationships with abusive individuals or groups.   www.safeplaceformen.com

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]]> Sometimes being quarantine brings out good and bad in others. Thomas discusses how our past sexual abuse history and trauma might make us more susceptible to unconscious patterns of building relationships with abusive individuals or groups.   www.safeplaceformen.com

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1597 19 full Episode 18: Coronavirus Fireside Chat for Male Survivors Episode 18: Coronavirus Fireside Chat for Male Survivors https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/coronavirus-fireside-chat-for-male-survivors/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/coronavirus-fireside-chat-for-male-survivors/#comments Tue, 31 Mar 2020 11:00:59 -0700 safespacesformen.podbean.com/c50858e7-6ad3-52f6-907a-77cb7be68912 Extra time on your hands? Are living close quarters starting to reveal dysfunctional habits you've avoided addressing?  Thomas follows-up after the coronavirus "How You Doing?" call from last night.  He provides a little advice for some issues survivors are experiencing.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Extra time on your hands? Are living close quarters starting to reveal dysfunctional habits you've avoided addressing?  Thomas follows-up after the coronavirus "How You Doing?" call from last night.  He provides a little advice for some issues survivors are experiencing.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1521 18 full Episode 16: Ways family re-victimize abuse survivors Episode 16: Ways family re-victimize abuse survivors https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-16-ways-family-re-victimize-abuse-survivors/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/episode-16-ways-family-re-victimize-abuse-survivors/#comments Thu, 19 Mar 2020 09:54:46 -0700 safespacesformen.podbean.com/116a9d59-2093-58a5-a78c-d993bcad33a8 Thomas discusses takeaways from a coaching session where the sexually abused survivor's family re-victimized and re-traumatized him. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Thomas discusses takeaways from a coaching session where the sexually abused survivor's family re-victimized and re-traumatized him. www.safeplaceformen.com 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1987 16 full Episode 14:People Pleasing Sexual Abuse Manifesting Issues Episode 14:People Pleasing Sexual Abuse Manifesting Issues https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/people-pleasing-sexual-abuse-manifesting-issues/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/people-pleasing-sexual-abuse-manifesting-issues/#comments Sat, 29 Feb 2020 10:47:26 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/b484ddda-6160-5337-aef9-c79af5678b5b Is people pleasing or compliance patterns manifesting from your sexual abuse history?  They used to for Thomas and a client he worked with this week.  Learn about "kaput power" and one coaching technique Thomas used to help this week's male survivor. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Is people pleasing or compliance patterns manifesting from your sexual abuse history?  They used to for Thomas and a client he worked with this week.  Learn about "kaput power" and one coaching technique Thomas used to help this week's male survivor. www.safeplaceformen.com 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1500 1 14 full Episode 12:Stepping Out Into the Unknown to Heal Part 2 Episode 12:Stepping Out Into the Unknown to Heal Part 2 https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/stepping-out-into-the-unknown-to-heal-part-2/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/stepping-out-into-the-unknown-to-heal-part-2/#comments Thu, 27 Feb 2020 08:45:35 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/998e94a2-631a-5b36-b2e3-ae30afd96290 Part 2 -Thomas shares a blast from the past. Two of the youngest guys Thomas has coached share their experience how the sexual abuse affected their lives and the transformational workshop retreat. www.safeplaceformen.com

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]]> Part 2 -Thomas shares a blast from the past. Two of the youngest guys Thomas has coached share their experience how the sexual abuse affected their lives and the transformational workshop retreat. www.safeplaceformen.com

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]]> Thomas Edward false No 1514 1 13 full Episode 11:Turning Trauma To Triumph Again! Episode 11:Turning Trauma To Triumph Again! https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/turning-trauma-to-triumph-again/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/turning-trauma-to-triumph-again/#comments Fri, 21 Feb 2020 23:23:16 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/353c72db-5b81-599e-8cba-cb5977e658be Thomas and Mike share a candid, powerfully touching moment as they discuss the transformation that has occurred for Mike going through the Stage 4 New Imprint coaching program. Where do you want to be on your journey months from now?  www.safeplaceformen.com

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]]> Thomas and Mike share a candid, powerfully touching moment as they discuss the transformation that has occurred for Mike going through the Stage 4 New Imprint coaching program. Where do you want to be on your journey months from now?  www.safeplaceformen.com

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2209 1 12 full Episode 10:Stepping Out Into the Unknown to Heal Episode 10:Stepping Out Into the Unknown to Heal https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/stepping-out-into-the-unknown-to-heal/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/stepping-out-into-the-unknown-to-heal/#comments Tue, 18 Feb 2020 10:51:21 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/90edd47a-0fa7-5fe5-aade-0d760bc09b3e Thomas shares a blast from the past. Two of the youngest guys Thomas has coached share their experience of the transformational workshop retreat. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Thomas shares a blast from the past. Two of the youngest guys Thomas has coached share their experience of the transformational workshop retreat. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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]]> Thomas Edward false No 1337 1 11 full Episode 9:Valentine's Special For Male Survivors: I care (Usted es querido) Episode 9:Valentine's Special For Male Survivors: I care (Usted es querido) https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/valentines-special-for-male-survivors-i-care-usted-es-querido/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/valentines-special-for-male-survivors-i-care-usted-es-querido/#comments Fri, 14 Feb 2020 12:44:13 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/775446c2-92f1-5aee-9807-aab0130ed456 Special SHOUT OUT! to my peps on this valentine's day.  Hopefully a few words just let you know you are cared about. www.safeplaceformen.com

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]]> Special SHOUT OUT! to my peps on this valentine's day.  Hopefully a few words just let you know you are cared about. www.safeplaceformen.com

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 905 1 10 full Episode 8:Keeping Us From Disclosing The Secret Episode 8:Keeping Us From Disclosing The Secret https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/keeping-us-from-disclosing-the-secret/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/keeping-us-from-disclosing-the-secret/#comments Mon, 10 Feb 2020 18:08:14 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/b15765c0-b5c9-5926-8aa0-10baa68662e1 Thomas candidly dives into a few reasons male survivors might be reluctant to disclose the sexual abuse. He opens up and shares a rare detail about his own sexual abuse and disclosure.  www.safeplaceformen.com

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]]> Thomas candidly dives into a few reasons male survivors might be reluctant to disclose the sexual abuse. He opens up and shares a rare detail about his own sexual abuse and disclosure.  www.safeplaceformen.com

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]]> Thomas Edward false No 1722 1 9 full Episode 7:Heal in Community Not Isolation Episode 7:Heal in Community Not Isolation https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/heal-in-community-not-isolation/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/heal-in-community-not-isolation/#comments Wed, 29 Jan 2020 14:03:54 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/19a40310-f6cc-53dc-a6ab-4629dc463adc Healing in community. Two strangers meet. Thomas met Dave after speaking at the Courage Conference in Florida in October 2019. They asked each other one question "What does it look like for us to be a part of each others life and supporting each other?" It starts here. So, Dave shares part of the insights gained from his journey down the sexual abuse path. 

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]]> Healing in community. Two strangers meet. Thomas met Dave after speaking at the Courage Conference in Florida in October 2019. They asked each other one question "What does it look like for us to be a part of each others life and supporting each other?" It starts here. So, Dave shares part of the insights gained from his journey down the sexual abuse path. 

www.safeplaceformen.com 

#safeplaceformen

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1689 1 8 full Episode 6:Male Survivors! Step Into Your Power & Greatness! Episode 6:Male Survivors! Step Into Your Power & Greatness! https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/male-survivors-step-into-your-power-greatness/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/male-survivors-step-into-your-power-greatness/#comments Fri, 10 Jan 2020 11:20:47 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/4744137a-4c54-5919-a0ed-b2be3d41e6ef Thomas shares his vision of 19 million male survivors, stepping into their greatness and being who they were meant to be, and doing the work to get to that place. www.safeplaceformen.com

]]> Thomas shares his vision of 19 million male survivors, stepping into their greatness and being who they were meant to be, and doing the work to get to that place. www.safeplaceformen.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 2590 1 7 full Episode 5:Acting Out: Moving from Victim to Victim Abuser Episode 5:Acting Out: Moving from Victim to Victim Abuser https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/acting-out-moving-from-victim-to-victim-abuser/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/acting-out-moving-from-victim-to-victim-abuser/#comments Tue, 31 Dec 2019 11:00:40 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/83c8b479-86cc-5031-98bd-ca0290b1781a Thomas shares two recent coaching sessions with high-functioning survivors.  One survivor deals with the aftermath by acting out and repeating abusive behaviors toward family and work teams.  The other via coaching phenomenally changes his trajectory and redefines what success look like. www.safeplaceformen.com

]]> Thomas shares two recent coaching sessions with high-functioning survivors.  One survivor deals with the aftermath by acting out and repeating abusive behaviors toward family and work teams.  The other via coaching phenomenally changes his trajectory and redefines what success look like. www.safeplaceformen.com

]]> Thomas Edward false No 1369 1 6 full Episode 4:Survivors dealing or not with toxic families Episode 4:Survivors dealing or not with toxic families https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/survivors-dealing-or-not-with-toxic-families/ https://safeplaceformen.podbean.com/e/survivors-dealing-or-not-with-toxic-families/#comments Thu, 26 Dec 2019 13:20:38 -0800 safespacesformen.podbean.com/c99c2b75-59c7-5364-b4f6-c48e39b06940 Thomas talks about his coaching sessions over the holidays for survivors attempting to determine if they are in toxic families. www.safeplaceformen.com

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]]> Thomas talks about his coaching sessions over the holidays for survivors attempting to determine if they are in toxic families. www.safeplaceformen.com

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