This week Keith and Gerren close out a three-episode arc on the cost of independence with the hardest question of all. Not apps. Not initiatives. Not policy alone. Until the identity of the person shifts — until they see themselves as better with the group than alone — none of the programs work.

Keith gets personal about his own lifelong pattern of stepping back from community at the last moment. They get into Robert Bellah's Habits of the Heart, Adam Smith vs. Milton Friedman, Alan Greenspan as an Ayn Rand acolyte, the temporarily embarrassed millionaire, and Harvard's 85-year study on happiness. The number one predictor? Social connection. Not wealth. Not career. Not health habits. Other people.

And then Gerren connects both full arcs — trust collapse, identity, the stories we tell, and now this — into one throughput about how human connection breaks down in America. Institutionally. Personally. Cognitively. Narratively. Structurally.

Hard questions. No easy answers. Arc closed.

The Full Arc: Part 1 — The Deal We Didn't Know We Were Making Part 2 — What We Left Behind Part 3 — Can We Buy It Back?

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Thinking out loud about what gets in the way of connection.

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This week Keith and Gerren dig into what we actually gave up — the third place, intergenerational family, shared child rearing, the male social ecosystem, and the spaces where doctor, lawyer, janitor, and teacher used to just exist together without any of that mattering.

Ray Oldenburg coined the term "third place" in 1989. In 1990, only 3% of Americans had no close friends outside family. Today that's 20%. The loneliness epidemic is not a phone addiction problem. It's seventy years of being told you don't need other people — and now we've stopped doing community so thoroughly we don't know how anymore.

Part two of three. Part three next week: what do we actually do about it.

Key Topics: The third place and its collapse, the data on loneliness and friendship, Robert Putnam's Bowling Alone, intergenerational community, shared child rearing, Día de los Muertos, the CIA veteran who never felt less free than back home.

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Thinking out loud about what gets in the way of connection.

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This week Keith and Gerren start a three-episode arc on where American hyper-individualism came from, who constructed it, and what it cost us. From Ayn Rand and Atlas Shrugged to Reagan's government-is-the-problem reframe, to the suburbs, the single-family home, and the structural dismantling of collective institutions every time they started serving people they weren't supposed to.

Part one of three. Hard questions. No easy answers.

Key Topics: The philosophy of radical individualism, the Cold War and collectivism as the enemy, Reagan and the moral reframe of government, the structural isolation of suburban life, welfare and unions dismantled by race, and why you can't individual-choice your way out of a structure built to isolate you.

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Thinking out loud about what gets in the way of connection.

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This week Keith and Gerren get into the full anatomy of a fake apology versus a real one — what makes one land, what makes the other make things actively worse, and why most of us were taught to do a version that makes us feel less bad and call it the same thing.

They work through the five elements of a real apology, the neuroscience of repair, why you are never obligated to accept an apology or reconcile, and what institutional apology without repair actually looks like — from Germany and South Africa to the United States and slavery.

The word apology shares a root with repair. What is one without the other? Hard questions. No easy answers.

Key Topics: The fake apology anatomy, the five elements of a real apology, neuroscience of repair, receiving vs. accepting an apology, institutional apology and reparations.

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Thinking out loud about what gets in the way of connection.

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This week Keith and Gerren get into the three gates of honesty — is it true, is it kind, is it necessary — and why the gap between them is where most hard conversations go wrong. They revisit Jen Oliver's framework from earlier this season, get into Keith's hiring story, and work through what it actually looks like when radical honesty stops being honest and starts being a weapon.

Gerren's close: check your motives. Keith's close: is it for you or for them? Neither of them settled it. They never do.

Key Topics: The three gates of honesty, the kindness performance trap, truth as a weapon, the necessity formula, and when withholding becomes unkind.

Resources Mentioned: 🎙️ Jen Oliver Episode → https://www.moreincommonent.com

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Thinking out loud about what gets in the way of connection.

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Keith tells the story of a missing wallet, a homeless man on Manhattan Beach Pier, and what happened when they chose curiosity over certainty. Gerren brings research showing that dehumanizing narratives about groups literally constrain what policies people will accept — even against their own national interests. Together they work through the contact hypothesis, Jackie Robinson, warmth vs. competence, and why you cannot simply decide to stop stereotyping.

This is the arc finale. It earns everything that came before it. Neither of us settled it.

The Arc: 🎧 Episode 1 — The Trust Recession 🎧 Episode 2 — The Cost of Being Right 🎧 Episode 3 — Tightly Held Values, Loosely Held Beliefs 🎧 Episode 4 — The Stories We Tell About Those People

Resources Mentioned: 📊 2026 Political Research Quarterly → https://prq.sagepub.com 📚 Contact Hypothesis → https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contact_hypothesis

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This week Keith and Gerren close out a three-episode arc on identity, truth and the cost of being right. The question driving it all: what are you actually protecting when you defend a belief? And what happens when you build your identity around values instead of roles, labels and group memberships?

They get into identity-protected beliefs and why evidence doesn't break through them, the Kahan paradox, AA's complicated success rate and what it tells us about how change actually works, and why the asymmetry between marginalized and dominant groups matters when we talk about identity protection.

Plus — Keith defines his own identity on mic in a way that might make you rethink yours.

Key Topics: Identity-protective cognition, the Kahan paradox, AA and the value of imperfect solutions, defining identity beyond roles, tightly held values vs. loosely held beliefs.

Resources Mentioned: 📚 AA Research → https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3860574/ 🧠 Identity Protective Cognition → https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Identity-protective_cognition

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This week Keith and Gerren get into why needing to win isn't just an ego problem — it's a neurological one. Being wrong activates the same brain regions as physical pain. Your brain generates counter arguments instead of evaluating evidence. And when your identity gets fused to your ideas, any challenge to what you believe feels existential.

They also get into why the Socratic method has never actually changed anyone's mind, what intellectual humility looks like in practice, and the therapist quote that sums up the whole thing in eleven words: you can be right, or you can have a relationship.

Key Topics: The neuroscience of being wrong, identity fusion and belief, the dopamine reward loop of winning arguments, intellectual humility, and what it actually takes to reset how we relate to each other.

Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Charlie Bloom — on being right vs relationships → https://www.huffpost.com/author/charlie-bloom

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This week Keith and Gerren get into trust — where it went, why it's so hard to rebuild, and what we're actually asking of each other when we say we want to repair it. From the neuroscience of why distrust is a physiological response to the very real question of whether political fractures can ever fully heal, this one covers a lot of ground without pretending any of it is simple.

Also: only 20% of Americans trust the federal government right now. The most trusted institution? Your employer. We leave that one right there.

Next week they're coming back for identity and what it has to do with all of this. Stay tuned.

Key Topics: The neuroscience of distrust and why it isn't a choice, Dunbar's number and the social architecture of trust, in-group vs. out-group conflict, what accountability actually requires, and the Edelman Trust Barometer's most uncomfortable finding.

Resources Mentioned: 📊 Pew Research — Public Trust in Government → https://www.pewresearch.org 📊 Edelman Trust Barometer → https://www.edelman.com/trust 📚 Dunbar's Number → https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number

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This week Keith and Gerren dig into something they've been circling for a while — what masculinity actually means, what it costs when we get it wrong, and why so many men are still performing a version of themselves that was never really theirs to begin with.

From performative bravado to the very real mental health crisis sitting underneath it, this is the conversation your group chat is too scared to start. They get personal, they get honest — and they stick around at the end for Gerren's halftime karaoke debut at a Tijuana Zonkeys game. Yes, really.

Key Topics: Performative masculinity and why the bravado doesn't hold up, the influence of media and online communities on how men define themselves, vulnerability as strength rather than weakness, and what it looks like to actually build space for men to be real with each other.

Resources Mentioned: 📚 Scott Galloway on Masculinity → https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Scott+Galloway 🎬 Inside the Manosphere (Netflix) → https://www.netflix.com/title/81920687 🧠 Men's Mental Health Resources → https://www.menshealthforum.org.uk/

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In this episode, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the complex relationship between social media, human psychology, and connection. They discuss groupthink, biases, the neurological impact of social media, and strategies for healthier engagement.

 keywords

social media, groupthink, human psychology, biases, neurological impact, connection, emotional awareness, AI, mental health, digital detox

 key  topics

Groupthink and social influence Neurological effects of social media Bias and perception in digital spaces

 guest  name

Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson

 sound bites

"That's how algorithms work on social media" "They know exactly what hair products to send you" "Our brains tend to choose brighter colors"

Chapters

00:00 The Art of Conversational Dance 01:16 Understanding Groupthink and Its Implications 02:59 The Influence of Algorithms on Decision Making 05:04 Navigating Social Media and Human Connection 08:43 The Impact of Social Media on Face-to-Face Interactions 12:34 Bias, Memory, and Decision Making 16:36 The Role of Emotional Awareness in Conversations 20:04 Generative AI and Its Effect on Reality 21:56 Finding Balance in a Digital World 25:45 Creating Healthy Boundaries with Social Media

 resources

Dolly Chug - The Person You Mean to Be - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07V4X7V4X University of Kentucky Study on Social Media and Face-to-Face Contact - https://uknowledge.uky.edu/psychology_facpub/123 AI and Relationship Dynamics - https://www.example.com/ai-relationships

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Explore generational differences, societal perceptions, and strategies for fostering understanding and connection across age groups. Kelly Brinkman, Keith Richardson, and Gerren Taylor delve into the roots of generational stereotypes, the impact of social media, and practical ways to build empathy and resilience.

 keywords

generations, social media, empathy, mental health, workplace, youth development, social change

 key  topics

Generational stereotypes and their origins Impact of social media on youth and mental health Strategies for fostering empathy and understanding across generations

 guest  name

Kelly Brinkman, Keith Richardson, Gerren Taylor

Titles

Bridging Generational Gaps: Understanding and Empathy in a Changing World The Cycle of Generational Judgment and How to Break It

 sound bites

"This cycle of judgment repeats every 20 years." "We want our kids to succeed but judge them harshly." "Embrace your regional identity and differences."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Generational Perspectives 03:29 The Cycle of Generational Judgment 06:24 Cognitive Bias and Memory 09:10 The Impact of Environment on Behavior 12:19 Navigating Youth Sports and Competition 15:20 Understanding Generation Z's Mental Health 18:23 Mentorship and Support for Gen Z 21:13 Cultural Shifts and Emotional Well-being 24:26 Concluding Thoughts and Practical Takeaways

 resources

Bridgeworks on Generational Dynamics - https://bridgeworksonline.com Understanding Social Media's Impact on Youth - https://www.example.com/social-media-impact Mentorship Strategies for Young Employees - https://www.example.com/mentorship-strategies

 guest links

LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/kellybrinkman Twitter - https://twitter.com/keithrichardson

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Interview

 primary  goal

Discussion

Join us as Kelly Brinkman, a generational dynamics expert, explores the nuances of workplace stereotypes, generational differences, and how leadership can adapt to a rapidly evolving workforce. This episode offers research-backed insights and practical strategies for fostering collaboration across generations.

keywords

generational differences, workplace stereotypes, leadership, collaboration, work culture, remote work, generational traits

key topics

Generational stereotypes and their impact on workplace dynamics How leadership can adapt to generational differences The role of technology and remote work in shaping new work norms

sound bites

"Every individual is a unique snowflake." "Leadership must be flexible and adaptable." "Generational cycles repeat every 80 years."

Chapters

00:00 Generational Dynamics and Cultural References 05:21 Understanding Stereotypes and Their Impact 10:02 Navigating Workplace Communication Across Generations 15:27 The Evolution of Work Expectations 19:59 Leadership in a Multigenerational Workplace 25:09 Future Generations and Societal Cycles

resources

BridgeWorks - Generational Insights - https://bridgeworks.com/ The Fourth Turning by William Strauss and Neil Howe - https://www.amazon.com/Fourth-Turning-Annealing-Crisis-Change/dp/0761514001 ChatGPT by OpenAI - https://openai.com/blog/chatgpt/

 guest links

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kellybrinkman/ BridgeWorks - https://bridgeworks.com/

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From Baby Boomers to Gen Z, Kelly explains how brain development, cultural context, technology, and major world events influence how each generation approaches trust, loyalty, feedback, authority, and ambition.

Using neuroscience and sociology, the conversation explores why workplace friction isn’t about age — it’s about context. Kelly breaks down how neural pathways formed during adolescence create “rumble strip” moments when we encounter unfamiliar behaviors, and how understanding this can transform conflict into collaboration.

If you’ve ever wondered why Gen Z seems impatient, why Gen X values independence, or why Millennials blend personal and professional identity — this episode provides clarity.

At its core, this conversation is about one thing: building stronger human connection across differences.

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• Generations are shaped by formative brain development, not just age.

• Technology influences expectations of speed, access, and advancement.

• Trust and loyalty look different across generations.

• Neural pathways formed early in life create behavioral defaults.

• Workplace tension is often contextual, not personal.

• Neuroplasticity allows us to adapt — but it takes intention.

• Understanding context reduces judgment.

“It’s not about age — it’s about context.”

“Those deep neural pathways formed in our formative years become our default lane.”

“If you drive on the shoulder, you hit the rumble strips — and your instinct is to get back in your lane.”

“Gen Z isn’t entitled — they’ve grown up in a world where change happens every six months.”

“Trust is innate for some generations. For others, it has to be earned.”

00:00 – Neural Pathways & The “Rumble Strip” Analogy 02:00 – Meet Kelly Brinkman & BridgeWorks 03:10 – What Defines a Generation? Formative Brain Development 06:30 – Baby Boomers: Authority, Loyalty & Structure 09:15 – Gen X: Independence, Disruption & Skepticism 12:45 – Millennials: Collaboration, Identity & Technology 15:30 – Gen Z: Speed, Smartphones & Imposter Syndrome 18:40 – Trust & Loyalty Across Generations 22:00 – Feedback, Advancement & Workplace Expectations 25:00 – Neuroplasticity & Breaking Out of Default Patterns 28:45 – Context vs Age: Reframing Workplace Conflict 32:20 – Final Reflections & Personal Insights

This episode reframes generational tension through neuroscience and sociology.

The friction we feel isn’t about “kids these days” or “outdated leadership.” It’s about deeply wired expectations formed during our most impressionable years.

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Jen opens up about her lived experience navigating honesty in recovery, the subtle ways we distort truth to protect ourselves, and how self-protection can quietly erode intimacy. The conversation explores how unspoken narratives shape relationships, how motives influence communication, and what it takes to build trust when honesty feels risky.

This episode isn’t about abstract philosophy — it’s about the practical, emotional work of telling the truth when it costs you something. Together, Keith and Jen unpack how emotional maturity develops, how recovery sharpens self-awareness, and why integrity in relationships requires both courage and humility.

If you’ve ever struggled with hard conversations, protecting yourself in conflict, or reconciling your internal truth with what you present to the world, this episode will hit close to home.

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• Truth often reveals itself through tension.

• Recovery sharpens awareness of motive.

• Self-protection can become isolation.

• Integrity requires alignment between inner and outer truth.

• Honesty in relationships is built, not assumed.

• Emotional maturity is developed through discomfort.

• The stories we tell ourselves shape how we show up.

“Sometimes the truth isn’t what we say — it’s what we’re avoiding.”

“You can protect yourself right out of connection.”

“Recovery forces you to look at your motives.”

“Honesty doesn’t mean being harsh. It means being aligned.”

00:00 – Introduction & Framing the Conversation 02:18 – Finding Your True Voice in a Noisy World 08:07 – The Impact of Untruths in Relationships 14:25 – Motives, Self-Protection & Emotional Safety 20:40 – Honesty in Recovery: What It Really Requires 26:15 – Conflict, Accountability & Growth 32:48 – Navigating Truth Without Losing Compassion 38:10 – Living in Alignment with Your Values 42:30 – Final Reflections on Integrity & Connection

Jen is on the show to explore how truth functions as a muscle — one strengthened through recovery, relationship friction, and self-examination.

Throughout the conversation, the recurring thread is this:

Truth isn’t just about accuracy — it’s about alignment.

When our motives, words, and actions drift apart, connection erodes. When they realign, trust grows.

This episode reinforces a central More In Common idea: growth happens when we’re willing to examine ourselves honestly — especially in the places we’d rather not.

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In this episode of the More in Common Podcast, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor sit down with Jen Oliver—speaking coach, podcast host, and founder of Speaking Real Communications—to explore the emotional, relational, and cultural complexity of truth-telling.

Jen shares her personal “no lying” experiment inspired by Martha Beck, unpacking how small, socially acceptable untruths create distance in relationships. Together, they examine the difference between honesty that’s true, kind, and necessary, and honesty that’s self-serving, avoidant, or unintentionally harmful.

From intimate relationships and parenting to recovery culture and modern “speak your truth” rhetoric, this conversation challenges black-and-white thinking and offers a more human, compassionate framework for emotional honesty.

This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation.

00:00 – Cold open & unexpected honesty Nudist colonies, hats, and why this episode immediately goes off-script.

03:00 – Meet Jen Oliver Speaking coach, podcast host, and her mission to help people stop performing and start connecting.

04:45 – The “no lying” challenge Inspired by Martha Beck: what counts as a lie—and why saying “yes” when you mean “no” matters.

07:30 – Giving people the dignity of their response Why telling the truth isn’t about managing someone else’s emotions.

10:45 – Honesty vs. emotional responsibility Where truth ends and self-protection begins in relationships.

14:30 – The Three Gates of Honesty Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

18:00 – Parenting, protection, and selective truth Why something can be true—but still not kind or needed.

21:30 – Truth as a barrier or a bridge How untruths quietly erode connection over time.

24:00 – Leaving certainty behind Jen reflects on religion, dogma, and the discomfort of emotional ambiguity.

27:15 – “Do I look good in this?” A cultural landmine—and why there’s no universal right answer.

30:30 – Why this conversation continues Honesty isn’t black and white—and that’s the work.

• Emotional honesty

• Speaking your truth

• Authentic communication

• Emotional intelligence

• Relationship communication

• Truth vs kindness

• Boundaries and self-trust

• Vulnerability and connection

• Masculinity and emotional awareness

• Conflict navigation

Jen Oliver is a speaking coach, podcast host (Listen for Real), and founder of Speaking Real Communications. Her work focuses on helping leaders and creatives communicate with authenticity, courage, and emotional clarity—without performing or people-pleasing.

Zach reflects on growing up in high-pressure, male-dominated spaces — from sports culture to family business — and how those environments influenced how emotion, anger, and authority were expressed. The conversation examines how men often confuse intensity with aggression, why emotional regulation is misunderstood as weakness, and how learning to pause can radically change relationships at work and at home.

Throughout the episode, Zach connects his personal growth back to the emotional intelligence tools he learned through More in Common alongside Keith — emphasizing listening without fixing, managing tone, and creating safety in male relationships. Rather than rejecting masculinity, the discussion reframes it as something that evolves through awareness, accountability, and intentional practice.

This episode is for anyone navigating leadership, fatherhood, relationships, or self-growth — especially men learning how to hold strength and emotional clarity at the same time.

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00:00 – Introduction & setting the conversation 02:10 – Early influences: sports culture, masculinity, and emotion 06:45 – Anger vs intensity: how tone gets misread 11:30 – Learning emotional regulation in male spaces 16:20 – Taking over the family business & leadership pressure 20:50 – Listening without fixing: lessons from More in Common 25:40 – Redefining masculinity through awareness 30:10 – Modeling healthier masculinity in relationships 34:00 – Growth without perfection: final reflections

• Emotional awareness is learned, not innate

• Masculinity isn’t broken — it evolves

• Regulation creates trust, not weakness

• Listening is often more powerful than solving

• Growth happens through practice, not perfection

• “Masculinity isn’t about being louder — it’s about being steadier.”

• “Sometimes the pause is the most powerful move.”

• “Strength without awareness turns into damage.”

Zach’s appearance on the show isn’t accidental. As he shares in the conversation, his approach to emotional regulation, listening, and supporting others was deeply shaped by the More in Common learning he experienced alongside Keith. That foundation—slowing down before reacting, staying present in hard moments, and choosing curiosity over control—runs through every part of this discussion.

Together, they unpack why “staying calm” isn’t about suppressing emotion, but about creating space for clarity, trust, and better outcomes. From workplace dynamics to being heard without overpowering others, this episode explores how emotional mastery shows up not as perfection, but as practice.

This conversation is for anyone navigating leadership, teamwork, or personal growth—and wondering how to respond more thoughtfully when it matters most.

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• Curiosity can disarm conflict when it’s rooted in care, not performance

• Listening isn’t passive—it’s an intentional skill

• We often react to discomfort before we understand it

• Slowing down creates room for better conversations

• You don’t need to fix someone to show up for them

“Curiosity isn’t about being right—it’s about staying open.” “Listening well changes the temperature of the room.” “Most conflict comes from moving too fast with too little information.” “We confuse reaction with honesty.”

00:00 – Opening & episode framing Setting the tone: curiosity, communication, and why this conversation matters

02:15 – Why curiosity feels risky How social conditioning shapes the way we enter hard conversations

06:40 – Listening vs. reacting Why most of us respond before we actually hear each other

11:30 – Power, identity, and discomfort How dynamics of power affect communication and emotional safety

17:10 – Slowing the conversation down Creating space instead of escalation

22:45 – Curiosity as an act of care When questions build connection instead of control

28:30 – What it looks like to stay present Letting go of the need to fix, prove, or win

33:20 – Final reflections & listener takeaway How to practice better conversations in real life

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In this episode, Keith Richardson, Gerren Taylor, and Nicholas Miller unpack the confusion, pressure, and possibility surrounding modern masculinity. As social expectations shift, many men are left asking: What am I supposed to do now?

Rather than framing masculinity as something broken, this conversation reframes it as evolving—and explores how healthier models of masculinity can foster connection, purpose, and emotional resilience. The episode examines male identity, privilege, vulnerability, and the importance of supportive male relationships, while challenging shame-based narratives that leave men isolated. Through personal stories and sociological insight, the hosts offer a grounded, human approach to masculinity that prioritizes listening, growth, and belonging.

🕒 Episode Chapters 00:00 — Introduction Why masculinity feels confusing right now 02:03 — Masculinity in a Changing World What happens when social expectations shift without a roadmap 06:45 — “What Am I Supposed to Do?” The emotional cost of uncertainty for men 09:52 — Privilege, Backlash, and Defensiveness Understanding positional power without shame 14:20 — Masculinity Isn’t Broken Why masculinity evolves instead of disappears 15:52 — Healthier Models of Masculinity Strength paired with empathy and accountability 20:43 — Male Friendship and Community Why men struggle to build emotionally supportive relationships 24:10 — Listening Without Fixing The power of presence over performance 27:51 — Finding Belonging Beyond Bars and Gyms Rethinking how men connect socially 31:44 — Closing Reflections What growth-oriented masculinity can look like moving forward

🧠 Key Takeaways Masculinity isn’t broken—it’s evolving Men are navigating shifting expectations without clear guidance Vulnerability strengthens connection, not weakness Privilege is positional, not personal Listening without fixing is a critical relational skill Healthy masculinity requires community and support

💬 Memorable Quotes “Masculinity isn’t broken—it evolves.” “We don’t need less masculinity, we need healthier models of it.” “Sometimes, you just need to listen without fixing.”

🔑 Keywords & Topics modern masculinity, male identity, men’s mental health, privilege, vulnerability, gender roles, emotional intelligence, male friendship, masculinity studies, social connection, More In Common Podcast

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Summary

This conversation delves into the complexities of masculinity, exploring themes of code-switching, societal expectations, and the importance of community. The speakers share personal experiences and insights on how men navigate their identities in a rapidly changing world, emphasizing the need for emotional literacy and connection to combat loneliness and isolation.

Takeaways

Code-switching is a form of impression management in social contexts. Masculinity is often defined by societal expectations and personal experiences. The loneliness epidemic among men is linked to a lack of social connections. Men often struggle to find their place within traditional masculine roles. Mentorship from older generations can provide valuable perspectives on masculinity. Community building is essential for men's mental health and well-being. Emotional literacy should be viewed as a vital skill for modern masculinity. Men need to adapt their definitions of masculinity to meet evolving societal norms. The influence of media and culture shapes men's understanding of masculinity. Navigating masculinity involves recognizing and embracing vulnerability. 

Sound bites

"Life is a game. It's all dramaturgy." "Men heal in community." "Men need to meet the moment."

Chapters

00:00 The Complexity of Masculinity and Code-Switching 07:13 Navigating Masculinity Through Personal Experiences 15:17 The Influence of Family Dynamics on Masculinity 20:02 Exploring Community and Connection in Masculinity 27:51 Redefining Masculinity for Modern Relationships

About the Guest Nicholas Miller is a tenured sociology professor at Sacramento City College, founder of multiple workforce pipeline programs, and co-founder of nationally recognized initiatives supporting justice-impacted students. He is also the founder of Conduits for Change, partnering with organizations to build equity-driven cultures and sustainable community impact.

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Using public conversations around modern masculinity—including ideas popularized by Scott Galloway—as a starting point, the group examines how masculinity has always been shaped by economic systems, social expectations, and access to opportunity. They discuss why narratives around rugged individualism, dominance, and self-reliance no longer serve most men—and never truly served everyone equally.

The conversation addresses the growing male loneliness crisis, the misdirection of resentment toward women and immigrants, and why redefining masculinity isn’t about blame—but about reconnection. Rather than offering a single definition, the episode makes space for multiple masculinities rooted in care, accountability, protection, and community.

This episode launches a multi-part series exploring masculinity, identity, and what it means to belong in a rapidly changing world.

• Masculinity is socially constructed, not biologically fixed

• There has never been one “correct” way to be a man

• Economic systems shape identity more than we admit

• Loneliness is a structural issue, not a personal failure

• Blame narratives distract from systemic causes

• Protection, care, and accountability are undervalued masculine traits

• Redefining masculinity is essential for healthier relationships and communities

Chapter Timestamps

00:00 – Why Masculinity Is Having a Moment 02:45 – What People Mean When They Say “Masculinity Is Broken” 06:10 – Masculinity as a Social and Economic Construction 10:55 – Rugged Individualism: Who It Served and Who It Didn’t 15:30 – The Male Loneliness Epidemic 19:40 – Why Resentment Gets Misplaced 24:10 – Patriarchy, Feminism, and Misunderstanding Power 28:50 – Multiple Masculinities Across Race and Class 33:20 – Protection vs. Domination 38:10 – Redefining Masculinity Through Connection 42:30 – Why This Conversation Is Just Beginning

Nicholas Miller is a tenured sociology professor at Sacramento City College, founder of multiple workforce pipeline programs, and co-founder of nationally recognized initiatives supporting justice-impacted students. He is also the founder of Conduits for Change, partnering with organizations to build equity-driven cultures and sustainable community impact.

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Thanksgiving, family dynamics, conversation strategies, emotional intelligence, holiday stress, boundaries, gratitude, family traditions, communication tips, conflict resolution

Summary

In this episode, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson discuss the complexities of family dynamics during Thanksgiving. They share personal anecdotes and explore the emotional tensions that can arise during family gatherings. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, establishing boundaries, and navigating difficult conversations with curiosity and grace. The hosts provide practical strategies for maintaining peace and fostering meaningful connections, ultimately highlighting the significance of gratitude and shared experiences during the holiday season.

Takeaways

Self-awareness is crucial when navigating family dynamics. Thanksgiving can bring out old tensions and unresolved issues. Establishing boundaries early can help manage conversations. Don't try to win Thanksgiving; focus on connection instead. Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it is optional. Use curiosity to navigate difficult conversations. Take a moment to breathe and reset during tense discussions. It's important to protect your peace and honor your boundaries. Focus on the small moments that strengthen family bonds. Gratitude and connection are the true essence of Thanksgiving.

Sound bites

"Don't try to win Thanksgiving." "Take a beat, take a breath." "You don't have to fix your family."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Holiday Reflections 02:51 Thanksgiving Memories and Family Dynamics 06:19 Navigating Family Tensions During Holidays 12:11 Strategies for a Peaceful Thanksgiving 18:15 Building Relationships Through Understanding 24:00 Final Thoughts and Thanksgiving Traditions

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In this conversation, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor explore the No True Scotsman logical fallacy, and the complexities of belonging and identity in social movements. They discuss how purity tests can create division and the importance of empathy and curiosity in fostering deeper connections within communities. The dialogue emphasizes the need for inclusivity and understanding in navigating diverse perspectives, ultimately advocating for a more open and accepting society.

Keywords

Hamilton, No True Scotsman, belonging, identity, purity tests, empathy, curiosity, social movements, community, inclusion

Takeaways

Hamilton is a cultural masterpiece that resonates across age groups. The No True Scotsman fallacy highlights how definitions can be manipulated to protect beliefs. Belonging is a fundamental human need that can lead to gatekeeping behaviors. Purity tests often stem from fear and can create division within communities. Emotional awareness is crucial for understanding our biases and beliefs. Curiosity can deepen connections and foster inclusivity. Empathy allows for more meaningful conversations and understanding. Rigid beliefs can hinder personal growth and community development. Inclusivity can exist alongside standards without creating barriers. The dynamic nature of identity requires openness to diverse experiences.

Sound bites

"It's a purity test that has no definition." "We have combat instead of conflict." "It's about protecting your comfort."

Chapters

00:00 The Cultural Impact of Hamilton 03:04 Understanding the No True Scotsman Fallacy 05:44 Belonging and Identity in Social Movements 08:24 Purity Tests and Their Consequences 11:15 Navigating Emotional Awareness and Resilience 14:05 The Role of Curiosity in Community Building 16:29 The Semi-Permeable Nature of Identity 18:52 Conclusion: Embracing Diversity and Connection

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In this conversation, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor delve into the topic of logical fallacies, particularly focusing on ad hominem attacks. They explore the different forms of ad hominem, how these fallacies manifest in political discourse, and the emotional triggers that lead to such attacks. The discussion emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence in navigating conversations and offers strategies to avoid falling into the trap of ad hominem reasoning. The hosts encourage listeners to engage with curiosity and to reflect on their responses in discussions.

Keywords

logical fallacies, ad hominem, emotional intelligence, political discourse, communication skills

Takeaways

Logical fallacies can hinder productive dialogue. Ad hominem attacks focus on the person rather than the argument. There are three forms of ad hominem: abusive, circumstantial, and tu quoque. Emotional triggers often lead to ad hominem responses. Political discourse is rife with ad hominem attacks. Emotional intelligence helps in managing reactions during discussions. Pausing before responding can prevent ad hominem attacks. Curiosity in conversations fosters understanding. Separating worth from words is crucial in discussions. Growth often occurs in uncomfortable conversations.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Logical Fallacies 02:53 Understanding Ad Hominem Fallacy 05:21 Forms of Ad Hominem Fallacy 08:03 Impact of Ad Hominem in Politics 10:36 Personal Relationships and Ad Hominem 13:24 Emotional Intelligence and Ad Hominem 15:49 Strategies to Avoid Ad Hominem 18:36 Real-World Applications of Ad Hominem 21:08 Conclusion and Call to Action More In Common Website | https://www.moreincommonent.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/moreincommonent Twitter | https://twitter.com/MoreInCommonent Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/moreincommonpod

In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson delve into the concept of logical fallacies, specifically focusing on the straw man argument. They explore how these arguments manifest in discussions, the emotional implications behind them, and the importance of curiosity and clarity in communication. The hosts emphasize the need for emotional intelligence and community connection to navigate disagreements effectively, ultimately advocating for a more understanding and less combative approach to conversations.

Keywords

logical fallacies, straw man argument, emotional intelligence, communication, debate, curiosity, understanding, community, conflict resolution, conversation skills

Takeaways

Logical fallacies hinder effective communication. Straw man arguments misrepresent others' views. Emotional responses can cloud judgment in debates. Curiosity leads to better understanding in discussions. Seeking clarity can prevent misunderstandings. Community validation is often sought after conflict. Emotional intelligence is crucial in conversations. Avoiding straw man arguments requires active listening. Asking questions fosters deeper connections. Conflict is inevitable, but misunderstanding is optional.

Sound bites

"Curiosity is key to understanding." "Let's just start there." "Ask more questions."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Logical Fallacies 03:13 Understanding the Straw Man Argument 05:26 Real-World Implications of Straw Man Arguments 07:37 Navigating Emotional Responses in Arguments 10:35 The Role of Curiosity in Conversations 13:36 Strategies to Avoid Straw Man Arguments 16:37 The Importance of Clarity and Understanding 19:41 Conclusion and Call to Action More In Common Website | https://www.moreincommonent.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/moreincommonent Twitter | https://twitter.com/MoreInCommonent Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/moreincommonpod

conversation, clarity, logical fallacies, false dilemma, nuance, conflict, curiosity, communication, dialogue, understanding

Summary

In this conversation, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor explore the importance of clarity in communication, particularly in the context of logical fallacies. They delve into the concept of the false dilemma, discussing its prevalence in society and how it oversimplifies complex issues. The hosts emphasize the need for nuance in discussions, especially in today's polarized environment, and advocate for embracing curiosity and conflict as tools for better understanding and dialogue.

Takeaways

Clarity in conversation is essential for effective communication. Logical fallacies, particularly the false dilemma, hinder productive discussions. Nuance is crucial in understanding complex issues. Real-world examples illustrate the dangers of oversimplifying arguments. Conflict can be a healthy part of dialogue if navigated properly. Curiosity about others' perspectives fosters better conversations. Avoid categorizing people into binary groups to promote understanding. Recognizing our cognitive biases can help us engage more thoughtfully. Asking questions can help break down false dilemmas. Embracing uncertainty can lead to deeper insights and connections.

Sound bites

"Let's make it easy from the beginning." "The either or or false dilemma." "Curiosity over certainty."

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Clarity in Conversations 02:20 Real-World Examples of False Dilemmas 12:50 Navigating Nuance in Discussions 15:48 The Role of Conflict in Conversations 18:42 Embracing Curiosity Over Certainty

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In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson engage with guest Katie McCleary, an author and educator, discussing the transformative power of writing as a tool for healing and self-discovery. They explore the importance of curiosity in communication, the challenges of overcoming resistance in creative processes, and the need for authenticity in organizational culture. Katie shares insights on how writing can lead to freedom from trauma and the significance of meeting people where they are in their personal journeys. The conversation emphasizes the role of curiosity in fostering connection and understanding, ultimately aiming to create a more inclusive and supportive environment in both personal and professional settings.

Takeaways

Writing can provide freedom from trauma. Imagination is a fundamental human gift. The writing process should be non-prescriptive. Curiosity helps in overcoming resistance. Authenticity is crucial in the workplace. Agility in communication is essential. Curiosity can disrupt negative patterns. Meeting people where they are fosters connection. Writing can lead to personal growth and healing. Creating a supportive environment is key.

Keywords

writing, trauma, communication, curiosity, authenticity, organizational culture, personal growth, storytelling, mental health, creativity

Sound bites

"Freedom from the trauma." "You got to knock them off their seat." "It's really hard to negate joy."

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Writing and Connection 11:18 Overcoming Resistance in Creative Expression 21:26 Curiosity as a Tool for Growth 29:06 Building Authentic Relationships in the Workplace

Bridge the Gap, #storytelling , #compassion , #workplacedynamics , emotional healing, #writing, curiosity, #identity, #humanconnection , personal growth

Summary

In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson welcome Katie McCleary, author of 'Bridge the Gap' and founder of a youth writing nonprofit. The conversation explores the importance of storytelling, the role of writing in healing, and how curiosity can bridge divides in the workplace. Katie shares her personal journey, the impact of her background on her work, and the significance of understanding different perspectives. The discussion also delves into the challenges of judgment and the need for compassion in human interactions.

Takeaways

Katie McCleary emphasizes the power of storytelling in understanding human dynamics. 'Bridge the Gap' aims to address political polarization in workplaces. Curiosity is essential for bridging differences between individuals. Katie's background in poverty shapes her compassion for others. Writing serves as a therapeutic tool for healing and connection. The human ache to be seen and known is universal. Different environments influence how stories are told and experienced. Judgment is tied to our nervous system and affects our interactions. The mind and brain are distinct, impacting our emotional responses. Compassion and curiosity are vital for navigating tough conversations.

Sound bites

"We have personified the amygdala as Amy." "I want to live in the limbic system." "This conversation has always lived in therapy."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Guest 02:24 Katie's Origin Story and Passion for Storytelling 03:34 Bridging the Gap: Understanding Differences 05:52 The Journey of Collaboration: Katie and Jennifer's Story 08:29 Compassion and Curiosity in Challenging Environments 10:48 The Role of Writing in Healing and Connection 12:30 Writing as a Tool for Self-Discovery 16:41 The Impact of Environment on Storytelling 19:58 Judgment and the Human Experience 23:30 Navigating the Mind: Amy and the Lizard Brain 27:33 Conclusion and Future Conversations

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advericundium, logical fallacies, authority bias, misinformation, credibility, pop culture, health influencers, expertise, experience, social media

Summary

In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the concept of advericundium, a logical fallacy that involves appealing to authority. They discuss how this fallacy manifests in pop culture, social media, and health influencers, emphasizing the importance of scrutinizing sources and understanding the difference between expertise and experience. The conversation highlights the challenges of navigating misinformation in today's world and encourages listeners to think critically about the information they consume.

Takeaways

Advericundium is a fallacy that concerns appeals to authority. Authority bias affects how we process information and make decisions. Pop culture often uses authority figures to sell products or ideas. It's important to differentiate between expertise and experience. Health influencers may not have the necessary qualifications to give advice. Scrutinizing sources is crucial in the age of misinformation. Social media can amplify authority bias and misinformation. Not all popular figures are credible sources of information. We should question the motivations behind the information we receive. Critical thinking is essential for navigating today's information landscape.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Commercial References 04:10 Understanding Ad Vericundium 06:32 Authority Bias in Pop Culture 09:43 The Role of Expertise vs. Experience 12:33 Scrutinizing Information Sources 15:19 The Influence of Social Media and Celebrities 18:06 Navigating Health Information 21:14 The Challenge of Credibility in Influencers 24:20 Critical Thinking and Decision Making 27:18 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the complexities of modern conversations, particularly in the context of addiction, political discourse, and the challenges of finding common ground. They discuss the pitfalls of the 'prove me wrong' debate style, the prevalence of logical fallacies, and the impact of outrage culture on meaningful dialogue. The hosts emphasize the importance of emotional awareness, nuanced discussions, and the need for a shift towards constructive conversations that foster understanding and connection.

Keywords

addiction, debate, political discourse, outrage, common ground, logical fallacies, emotional awareness, ideology, conversation skills, human connection

Takeaways

Addiction in America encompasses more than just alcohol; it includes various substances. The debate style of 'prove me wrong' is fundamentally flawed. Modern conversations often lack nuance and understanding. Logical fallacies are prevalent in political discourse and hinder productive discussions. Outrage culture drives economic incentives in media and conversation. Finding common ground is essential for effective political dialogue. Ideology often clouds judgment and prevents open-mindedness. Emotional awareness is crucial for navigating difficult conversations. Nuanced discussions can lead to better understanding and resolution. We must develop skills for human connection to improve conversations.

Sound bites

"No one's doing it right." "It's the economics of the echo chamber." "We're all losing in this current moment."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Energy Release 04:28 Addiction and America's Relationship with Substances 07:26 Debate Dynamics and the 'Prove Me Wrong' Mentality 10:23 The Nature of Modern Political Discourse 13:29 Logical Fallacies in Conversations 16:35 The Economics of Outrage and Echo Chambers 19:22 Finding Common Ground in Political Conversations 22:30 The Importance of Nuanced Discussions 25:27 Navigating Emotional Disconnects in Conversations 28:24 Optimism for Better Conversations 31:20 Conclusion and Call to Action

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In this episode, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson engage in a deep conversation about the prevalence of political violence in America, exploring its historical context, societal implications, and the need for honest dialogue. They draw parallels between political violence and addiction, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging the problem to initiate change. The discussion highlights the complexities of political discourse and the necessity for reflection and intervention to address the underlying issues fueling violence in society.

Takeaways

Political violence has a historical presence in America.

Honest conversations are essential for societal progress.

Acknowledging our issues is the first step to resolution.

Political violence is often a reaction to power struggles.

The addiction analogy helps frame our relationship with violence.

We must confront the uncomfortable truths about our society.

Gun culture plays a significant role in political violence.

Generalizations in political discourse can be dangerous.

The need for intervention is critical in addressing violence.

We must recognize our collective responsibility to change.

Sound bites

"This is our addiction."

"We need to start saying, stop it."

"We need to get sober."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Context Setting

01:32 Political Violence in America

09:59 The Nature of Political Discourse

18:14 Understanding the Roots of Violence

25:41 The Need for Reflection and Change More In Common Website | https://www.moreincommonent.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/moreincommonent Twitter | https://twitter.com/MoreInCommonent Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/moreincommonpod

In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor explore the themes of transformation, bias, and the importance of understanding logical fallacies in conversations. They discuss the journey of individuals who have faced incarceration and the societal perceptions that often lead to hasty generalizations. The conversation emphasizes the need for emotional awareness and the role of rehabilitation in fostering a safer society. The hosts encourage listeners to reflect on their biases and the conclusions they draw from limited information, advocating for a more nuanced approach to discussions.

Keywords

podcast, conversation, bias, emotional awareness, rehabilitation, logical fallacies, hasty generalization, societal issues, transformation, understanding

Takeaways

The importance of emotional awareness in conversations.

Transformation is a long and difficult journey.

Hasty generalizations can lead to harmful stereotypes.

Understanding bias is crucial for meaningful dialogue.

Rehabilitation should be the goal of incarceration.

Context matters in how we perceive individuals.

We often rush to conclusions without sufficient evidence.

Logical fallacies hinder productive discussions.

It's okay to not have an opinion on everything.

Engaging in conversations requires self-reflection.

Sound bites

"We do say whatever we want."

"We talk a lot about bias."

"We create consensus on ideas."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Energy Boost

03:55 Reflecting on Past Conversations

06:29 Understanding Bias and Emotional Awareness

09:40 The Journey of Transformation

12:16 Exploring Logical Fallacies

14:59 Hasty Generalizations and Their Impact

20:04 The Role of Society in Rehabilitation

22:46 Navigating Conversations with Nuance

28:43 Conclusion and Call to Action

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It's a very lonely walk because not a lot of people are doing it. Crying has been very healing. My mission in life is to be that one person. There's no more freedom than being your authentic self. Self-love, it's a drug for me. You have to think three moves ahead before you move one piece. The best way to get around this lifestyle is to heal the inner child. I can show you shortcuts. Don't give up on your inner child. You are going to have those days where you don't want to do nothing.

Keywords

emotional intelligence, authenticity, inner child, community support, self-love, mentorship, healing, Jesse Rodriguez, podcast, personal growth

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Jesse Rodriguez's Journey 03:24 The Importance of Emotional Healing 07:12 Creating Safe Spaces for Authenticity 11:53 The Role of Inner Child Healing 13:10 Community Engagement and Support 16:24 Raw Truths About Life Choices

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In this episode, Jesse shares his transformative journey from incarceration to redemption, emphasizing the importance of accountability, empathy, and education in the healing process. He discusses the impact of solitary confinement, the role of mentors, and the creation of programs aimed at helping others understand their actions and make positive changes. Jesse's story highlights the challenges of reintegration into society and the ongoing journey of healing and self-discovery.

Keywords

healing, accountability, solitary confinement, empathy, remorse, transformation, education, mentorship, criminal justice, redemption

Takeaways

Healing requires accountability for one's actions. Empathy must be developed, not inherent. Understanding remorse is crucial for change. Solitary confinement can lead to profound realizations. Mentorship plays a vital role in personal growth. Education can empower individuals to change their lives. Creating programs can help others heal and grow. Transformation is a continuous journey, not a destination. The impact of one's actions can ripple through lives. Redemption is possible, even after a long incarceration.

Sound bites

"Regret is about me, remorse is about others." "Wherever you go, there you are." "I was deported, but I'm going to be okay."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Healing Journeys 02:05 Accountability and the Path to Healing 06:56 The Impact of Solitary Confinement 13:06 Transformative Conversations and Self-Realization 19:03 Creating Change Through Education 24:48 The Journey to Freedom and Beyond

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In this episode, Jesse Rodriguez shares his transformative journey from a life of trauma, violence, and incarceration to one of healing, art, and service. He discusses the impact of childhood abandonment, the role of gangs in his life, and how solitary confinement became a pivotal moment for his personal growth. Through art and storytelling, Jesse aims to inspire hope and resilience in others, emphasizing the importance of accountability and self-reflection in the healing process.

Keywords

transformation, accountability, resilience, redemption, trauma, healing, art, incarceration, mental health, personal growth

Takeaways

Jesse's journey highlights the power of art in healing. Childhood trauma can have lasting effects on self-esteem. Hope is essential for personal transformation. Understanding trauma helps in healing and recovery. Accountability is crucial in the process of change. Sharing stories can foster connection and understanding. The importance of community support in healing. Learning the difference between discipline and abuse is vital. Self-esteem can be nurtured and rebuilt over time.

Sound bites

"Art is what saved my life." "Hope is an amazing thing." "I want to know more."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Jesse Rodriguez's Journey 10:09 The Impact of Trauma and Abandonment 19:31 Transformation Through Solitary Confinement 31:10 The Power of Self-Discovery and Healing

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This “More In Common” clip show episode, hosted by Gerren Taylor, features three standout conversations from past episodes that explore the art of listening, the courage to change minds, and the power of music in fostering mindfulness. Gerren weaves these moments together, offering context and personal reflection between each segment. The first clip, with Allison O’Brien, dives into listening intelligence and how understanding our listening habits can transform communication. The second, with co-host Keith Richardson, examines how to engage in difficult conversations, move past bias, and build bridges across differences. The third, with musician and mindfulness advocate Shye Harrell, highlights the intersection of music, emotional expression, and community support, particularly in helping children develop mindfulness skills.

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Keywords

listening intelligence, communication, empathy, bias, changing minds, political conversations, mindfulness, music, emotional expression, parenting, children’s education, community support, vulnerability

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Takeaways  • Understanding listening habits can improve connection and trust.  • Self-awareness is key to better communication.  • Changing minds requires curiosity, empathy, and a willingness to concede points.  • Bias can be reduced by listening with openness.  • Music is a powerful tool for emotional expression and mindfulness.  • Teaching mindfulness to children fosters emotional intelligence.  • Community support is crucial in navigating mental health challenges.

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Chapter Markers

00:00 – Introduction Gerren sets up the episode as a collection of impactful clips around connection, curiosity, and emotional intelligence.

02:14 – Listening Intelligence with Allison O’Brien Exploring listening styles—connective, reflective—and how awareness changes interactions.

09:20 – Changing Minds in a Polarized World The challenges and rewards of engaging across divides, with tips for staying curious and open.

16:35 – Music & Mindfulness with Shye Harrell Using music to teach children emotional awareness, Shye’s personal story with the violin, and the role of community in mental health

In this conversation, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the complexities of human connections in the age of social media. They discuss the illusion of community that social media creates, the importance of building deeper relationships through intentionality, and the role of emotional check-ins in fostering trust. The hosts emphasize the need for patience in developing meaningful connections and the power of communication in navigating the challenges of modern relationships.

Takeaways

Social media creates a false sense of community. Real connections require intentional effort and rituals. Emotional check-ins help navigate complex feelings. Conflict can strengthen relationships if handled well. Building trust takes time and patience. Choosing your community is essential for well-being. Presence in relationships is more important than perfection. Intentional conversations can deepen connections. Dopamine hits from social media are fleeting. Shared experiences build lasting bonds.

Sound bites

"We need each other to survive." "Presence over perfection." "Emotional risk as a bridge."

Chapters

00:00 The Illusion of Community in Social Media 04:09 Navigating Social Isolation and Connection 06:57 The Science of Connection and Emotional Health 10:03 Building Deeper Connections Through Rituals 12:41 Intentionality in Relationships 15:44 The Role of Conflict in Connection 18:38 Choosing Your Community Wisely 21:45 The Importance of Familial Bonds 24:38 Using Conversations to Build Relationships 27:37 The Power of Intentional Communication 30:31 Surviving in a Complex Social Landscape

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Keywords: identity, influence, social media, connections, community, Dunbar number, friendship, meaningful relationships, online followers, authenticity

In this conversation, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the complexities of code switching, its impact on identity, and how it manifests in professional environments. They discuss personal experiences with code switching, the importance of bringing one's whole self to work, and the necessity of creating psychological safety in the workplace. The dialogue emphasizes the need for curiosity, engagement, and understanding in communication to foster a more inclusive and productive work environment.

Takeaways

Code switching can be viewed as a superpower. Identity is multifaceted; we are all of those things. Meeting people where they are is essential for communication. Bringing your whole self to work is often counterintuitive. Psychological safety is crucial for productivity. Engagement and understanding are key to effective communication. Curiosity helps navigate cultural differences. Self-acceptance plays a significant role in code switching. Workplaces should allow for emotional expression. Creating a safe space benefits both individuals and organizations.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Code Switching 02:53 Navigating Social Ecosystems 05:56 Cultural Identity and Assimilation 08:40 Economic Implications of Code Switching 11:35 Personal Experiences with Code Switching 14:31 The Importance of Authenticity in Professional Spaces 17:36 Creating Inclusive Environments 20:32 Conclusion and Future Discussions

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In this conversation, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the concept of code switching, particularly within the African American community, and its implications in various social and professional contexts. They discuss the necessity of adapting to different social ecosystems, the cultural identity struggles that arise from assimilation, and the economic pressures that influence how individuals navigate their identities. The conversation emphasizes the importance of creating inclusive spaces where individuals can bring their whole selves without the need for code switching, and it highlights the ongoing need for dialogue around these issues.

Takeaways

Code switching is about adapting communication styles to fit different environments. It serves as a social survival mechanism, especially for marginalized communities. Navigating social ecosystems involves understanding and accommodating different cultural norms. Cultural identity can be compromised when individuals feel pressured to assimilate. Economic factors play a significant role in the necessity of code switching. Personal experiences with code switching vary widely based on individual backgrounds. Creating inclusive spaces is essential for allowing individuals to express their authentic selves. Diversity in perspectives leads to better problem-solving outcomes. The conversation around code switching is ongoing and needs further exploration. Understanding the nuances of code switching can foster empathy and connection. 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Code Switching 04:13 Navigating Social Ecosystems 07:18 Cultural Identity and Assimilation 10:00 Economic Implications of Code Switching 12:57 Personal Experiences with Code Switching 15:43 The Importance of Authenticity in Professional Spaces 18:47 Creating Inclusive Environments 21:44 Conclusion and Future Discussions

Keywords

code switching, cultural identity, social ecosystems, economic implications, inclusivity, personal experiences, African American community, professional spaces, societal norms, adaptation

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In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor delve into the complexities of conflict resolution. They explore the importance of understanding conflict as a natural part of life, the tools and strategies for effective mediation, and the role of emotional intelligence in navigating disagreements. The conversation emphasizes the significance of communication techniques, such as using 'I statements,' and the anatomy of a good apology. The hosts also discuss the evolution of conflict resolution methods and the necessity of establishing ground rules to foster productive discussions. Ultimately, they highlight that while conflict is inevitable, how we choose to engage with it can lead to personal growth and healthier relationships.

Keywords

conflict resolution, mediation, emotional intelligence, communication, apologies, interpersonal relationships, conflict management, ground rules, Gottman Institute, personal growth

Takeaways

Conflict is a natural part of life and not inherently bad. Learning conflict resolution skills at a young age can shape future interactions. Setting ground rules is essential for effective conflict resolution. Using 'I statements' can prevent escalation during disagreements. Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in understanding conflict. Avoiding personal attacks is vital for constructive conversations. The Gottman Institute's Four Horsemen of Conflict provide insight into common pitfalls. A genuine apology involves taking responsibility for one's actions. Asking what someone needs to resolve a conflict can lead to clarity. Conflict can be an opportunity for growth if navigated properly.

Titles

Navigating Conflict: A Journey Through Mediation Understanding Conflict: Tools and Strategies

Sound bites

"I feel like this when XYZ occurs." "You make me feel is often a thing." "What do you need to resolve this conflict?"

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Conflict: A Personal Journey 03:01 Understanding Conflict Resolution Strategies 05:42 The Importance of Communication in Conflict 08:40 Emotional Awareness in Conflict Situations 11:40 The Anatomy of a Good Apology 14:41 Establishing Ground Rules for Conflict Resolution 17:29 The Evolution of Conflict Resolution Techniques 20:13 Avoiding Combat: The Key to Healthy Relationships 23:21 Final Thoughts on Conflict and Resolution

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In this conversation, Keith and Gerren explore the multifaceted nature of curiosity, emphasizing its importance in personal growth, communication, and relationships. They discuss the difference between genuine and performative curiosity, the challenges of maintaining curiosity in emotionally charged situations, and the role of curiosity in breaking down biases and fostering understanding among individuals. The conversation highlights practical tools for engaging curiosity and the emotional aspects that accompany it, ultimately framing curiosity as an act of love towards oneself and others.

Changing your perspective can help identify real problems. Curiosity is essential for meaningful conversations. Genuine curiosity differs from performative curiosity. Emotional triggers can hinder curiosity. Curiosity can reduce defensiveness in discussions. Understanding someone's story fosters deeper connections. Curiosity helps dismantle biases and stereotypes. Curiosity requires courage and emotional awareness. Asking the right questions reveals genuine curiosity. Curiosity is an act of love towards others.

Chapters

00:00 Changing Perspectives: The Importance of Curiosity 04:07 Performative vs. Genuine Curiosity 07:09 The Challenges of Being Curious 09:54 Curiosity in Emotional States 12:59 Deepening Relationships Through Curiosity 15:52 Navigating Difficult Conversations 18:38 Curiosity and Group Dynamics 21:31 The Role of Curiosity in Bias Reduction 24:31 Curiosity as an Act of Love

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In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson welcome back Shye to discuss the intersection of music, mindfulness, and emotional intelligence in children's education and parenting. They explore the importance of teaching emotional awareness to children, the role of music in fostering mindfulness, and the responsibility of parents to model healthy emotional behaviors. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding, and support in nurturing the next generation's emotional well-being.

Keywords

mindfulness, emotional intelligence, parenting, music education, children's emotions, emotional awareness, mindfulness in schools, parenting strategies, emotional support, music and mindfulness

Takeaways

Mindfulness and emotional intelligence should be taught from a young age. Music serves as a powerful tool for emotional expression. Parents have a responsibility to equip their children with emotional skills. Children are often more emotionally aware than adults realize. Modeling emotional behavior is crucial for children's development. It's important to acknowledge and share parental emotions with children. Creating a supportive environment helps children navigate their feelings. Investing in children's emotional education benefits future generations. Parents should trust their children's instincts and feelings. Open conversations about emotions can strengthen family bonds.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Welcome Back 02:42 The Importance of Music and Mindfulness for Children 06:01 Empowering the Next Generation 10:03 Finding Focus and Purpose 12:24 Personal Experiences with Parenting and Emotional Awareness 18:23 The Role of Emotional Validation in Parenting 19:59 Navigating Emotional Awareness in Parenting 23:28 The Importance of Acknowledging Parental Emotions 25:04 Empowering Children Through Emotional Intelligence 28:09 Meeting Kids Where They Are 31:22 Tools for Managing Children's Emotions

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In this episode of the More In Common podcast, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson welcome musician and mindfulness advocate Alexandria "Shye" Harrell. (https://www.shyeeaze.com/) They discuss Shye's journey through postpartum depression, her experience in the Supermom competition, and the creation of her Music and Mindfulness program aimed at helping children understand and express their emotions through music. The conversation explores the importance of mindfulness, the role of music in emotional expression, and the significance of community support in mental health. Shye shares her personal experiences with the violin and how it has shaped her identity as a black woman in music, as well as her insights on finding mindfulness in everyday life through sound and movement.

Keywords

mindfulness, music, postpartum depression, emotional intelligence, supermom competition, violin, mental health, parenting, emotional agility, community support

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In this episode, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the themes of mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and the importance of being present in our daily lives. They discuss the journey of developing emotional awareness, the impact of mindfulness on relationships, and practical techniques for incorporating mindfulness into everyday routines. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-awareness and the role of mindfulness in personal growth, while also addressing the challenges of negative self-talk and the need for compassion in our interactions with others.

Chapters

00:00 The Journey of Podcasting and Success 03:47 Mindfulness and Being Present 06:24 The Science of Mindfulness 08:42 Personal Experiences with Mindfulness 11:32 The Impact of Childhood on Mindfulness 14:28 Practicing Mindfulness in Daily Life 17:10 The Role of Emotional Awareness 19:43 Mindfulness in Relationships 22:21 The Importance of Presence 25:30 Concluding Thoughts on Mindfulness

Takeaways

Mindfulness is about treating every moment as a gift. Being present is where life and learning happen. Mindfulness helps eliminate stress and strain. Practicing mindfulness is a skill that takes time. Negative self-talk can lead to isolation and deeper issues. Mindfulness techniques can help manage emotional responses. Awareness of our surroundings enhances our mindfulness practice. Mindfulness can improve our relationships with others. The journey to mindfulness is personal and unique for everyone. Emotional intelligence is key to navigating human connections.

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In this episode, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the complexities of emotional states, particularly focusing on guilt, shame, and the challenge of self-forgiveness. They discuss the importance of emotional awareness and the distinction between emotional and mental health. The conversation emphasizes the need for practical tools to navigate these feelings and the role of gratitude in fostering resilience. Ultimately, they highlight the significance of building connections and understanding oneself to improve overall emotional well-being.

Keywords

emotional intelligence, self-forgiveness, mental health, emotional health, guilt, shame, gratitude, personal growth, human connection, emotional awareness

Takeaways

Navigating emotional states can be challenging and complex. Self-forgiveness is a process that requires time and effort. Emotional health is often overlooked compared to mental health. Guilt and shame can create a cycle that hinders personal growth. Practicing gratitude can help in the journey of forgiveness. Emotional awareness is crucial for understanding our reactions. Letting go of resentment is essential for emotional freedom. The journey of self-forgiveness is not linear and requires patience. Building connections with others can enhance emotional resilience. Regular self-check-ins can help manage emotional states effectively.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Emotional States 00:15 Practical Steps to Self-Forgiveness 23:46 Building Resilience Through Reflection 26:47 The Power of Community and Connection

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In this episode, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the complexities of human connection and the challenges of changing someone's mind in a polarized world. They discuss the crisis of certainty that many people face, the importance of listening, and how to engage in difficult conversations without shutting others down. The hosts emphasize the need for empathy, understanding cognitive biases, and finding common ground to foster meaningful dialogue. Personal anecdotes illustrate the potential for change when individuals are open to learning from one another.

Keywords

Crisis of Certainty, Difficult Conversations, Cognitive Bias, Listening, Relationships, Common Ground, Personal Experiences, Mind Change

Chapters

In this conversation, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the complexities of personal values, the importance of self-reflection, and the need for honest communication in navigating societal challenges. They discuss how understanding one's values can lead to better outcomes in interpersonal relationships and the significance of discomfort in personal growth. The dialogue emphasizes the collective responsibility to foster compassion and connection in an increasingly isolated world.

Keywords

values, self-reflection, emotional intelligence, human connection, personal growth, social contracts, discomfort, communication, compassion, honesty

Takeaways

It's essential to define and understand your personal values. Safety is a fundamental aspect of societal well-being. Real social sorting requires intellectual engagement. Self-reflection is crucial for personal growth. Discomfort can lead to greater understanding and empathy. Navigating complex conversations is necessary for progress. Emotional awareness helps in understanding our reactions. Collective responsibility is vital for future generations. We must challenge ourselves to engage with differing perspectives. Honesty and compassion should guide our interactions.

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In this conversation, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor explore the complexities of political discourse, focusing on the challenges of navigating differing political beliefs within personal relationships. They discuss the importance of emotional intelligence, the impact of cognitive dissonance, and the necessity of understanding in-group and out-group dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the need for empathy and honest communication, while also addressing the role of expertise and the dangers of false equivalencies in political discussions. The hosts conclude by highlighting the importance of shared values and the potential for meaningful connections despite ideological differences.

Keywords

politics, emotional intelligence, social discourse, cognitive dissonance, political ideology, in-group bias, out-group bias, false equivalency, empathy, communication

In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson welcome Jerah Milligan (@JerahMilligan), who shares insights from his recent one-man show that tackled serious themes with humor. The conversation explores the challenges of mental health discussions, particularly within the Black community, and the complexities of navigating expectations in relationships and the entertainment industry. Jerah reflects on the importance of managing expectations, the impact of jadedness versus acceptance, and the value of curiosity over assumptions. The episode emphasizes personal growth, the dangers of comparison, and the significance of finding perspective and gratitude in life.

Keywords

podcast, mental health, entertainment, expectations, relationships, jadedness, curiosity, personal growth, comedy, one-man show

More From Jerah:

https://www.jerahamilligan.com/

Black Men Can't Jump Podcast https://blackmenpodcast.com/

Keywords

truth, perception, reality, cognitive bias, emotional intelligence, human connection, communication, diversity, podcast

https://www.moreincommonent.com

In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor welcome Allison O'Brien, the Director of Listening Intelligence at the Echo Listening Project. They delve into the concept of listening intelligence, exploring the difference between hearing and listening, and the importance of self-awareness in communication. The conversation highlights various listening habits, including connective and reflective listening, and discusses the misconceptions surrounding listening behaviors. The episode emphasizes the need for understanding different listening styles to build trust and improve communication in personal and professional relationships.

Keywords:

listening intelligence, communication skills, echo listening, self-awareness, listening habits, connective listening, reflective listening, effective communication, listening misconceptions, trust in communication

Echo Listening Project

In this conversation, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the theme of assumptions and their impact on human interactions. They discuss how assumptions can simplify our understanding of complex situations but can also lead to misunderstandings and conflict. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical insights, they emphasize the importance of challenging assumptions to foster better communication and connection with others. The conversation highlights the role of cultural influences in shaping our assumptions and the necessity of being open to different perspectives to build stronger relationships.

Keywords

assumptions, human dynamics, communication, understanding, social interactions, personal growth, relationships, biases, community, connection

In this episode of the More In Common podcast, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the importance of community in modern society. They discuss how technology has changed our connections, the evolutionary need for community, and the challenges posed by hyper individualism. The conversation emphasizes the biological and psychological aspects of community, the impact of modern work dynamics, and practical steps to build meaningful connections in today's world.

Episode References

•  https://www.instagram.com/reel/DC-eTrLS33u/?igsh=NjZiM2M3MzIxNA==

Keywords

community, connection, technology, survival, social bonds, modern challenges, hyper individualism, building community, work-life balance, oxytocin

Keywords

optimism, pessimism, self-talk, positive thinking, mindset, personal growth, communication, emotional health, perspective, life lessons

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References:

• The Diversity of Thought Project

#Diversity of Thought, #emotional intelligence, #online engagement, #trolls, #protecting peace, #racial dynamics, #boundaries, #sadism, #confrontation, #personal experiences

Episode References:

• Diversity of Thought – Embracing Our Differences

Keywords: 

• Diversity of Thought, Pathways to Equity, juvenile detention, online conversations, engagement, curiosity, identity, opinions, culture, dialogue

Keywords

politics, conversations, empathy, understanding, community, engagement, persuasion, media, discourse, common ground

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In this episode of the More In Common Podcast, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the complex emotions of shame and guilt, discussing their differences and how they manifest in personal and social contexts. They delve into the role of shame in shaping identity, the challenges of navigating group expectations, and the importance of self-compassion in overcoming internal shame. The conversation emphasizes the need for emotional awareness and understanding in fostering connections and building community.

Keywords

shame, guilt, emotional awareness, personal growth, social dynamics, self-compassion, community, podcast, human experience, connection

Takeaways

Shame and guilt are often confused but are distinct emotions. Shame is a feeling of being wrong as a person, while guilt is about actions. Understanding the source of shame can help in managing it. Shame can be used as a tool for social order but often fails when misapplied. Self-compassion is crucial for overcoming internal shame. Cultural values influence our perceptions of shame and guilt. Finding supportive social groups can alleviate feelings of shame. Emotional awareness is key to navigating complex feelings. Shame can shape our identity if managed properly. Learning from shameful experiences can lead to personal growth.

Episode References

• Behave - Robert Sapolsky
• Man's search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl
• Group Attribution Error
• Fundamental Attribution Error
• In-Group Bias
• Out-Group Bias
• Ayn Rand

Keywords

tribalism, human experience, social identity, workplace dynamics, community building, connection, bias, belonging, individualism, understanding

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  • MIC Episode: https://youtu.be/w8nuC7Gyfh8 
• JJ episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coach-jj-be-real-be-empathetic-be-loving-e056/id1256899595?i=1000456203129

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Episode References 

• More In Common Website
• B Brave Foundation

Episode References 

• More In Common Website
• ECHO Listening Intelligence
• B Brave Foundation

In this episode of the More In Common podcast, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson explore the importance of setting boundaries in interpersonal relationships and workplace dynamics. They discuss the challenges of navigating sensitive topics, especially during the holiday season, and provide practical strategies for establishing guardrails in conversations. The hosts emphasize the need for intentionality and emotional intelligence in communication, encouraging listeners to practice these skills in both personal and professional settings. The episode concludes with key takeaways and a call to action for listeners to engage in meaningful conversations.

Episode References

• More In Common

Whether or not we can describe it, what is true from this conversation is that vulnerability and the willingness to express it with yourself and others is a big step in finding that connection.

Once she was willing to be vulnerable with her music it all changed, and her music went to a new level.

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Today, we are with singer/songwriter Sydney Lauren.  SYDNEY TELLS STORIES THROUGH HER SONGS. SHE GREW UP SINGING AND WRITING MUSIC JUST OUTSIDE OF NEW YORK CITY, THE PLACE SHE NOW CALLS HOME. THE CITY SERVES AS HER INSPIRATION AS WELL AS HER STOMPING GROUNDS, AND SHE HAS PERFORMED IN NYC VENUES LIKE THE DELANCEY & THE BITTER END.

SYDNEY’S TRAINING IN PIANO, GUITAR AND SONGWRITING ARE CLEARLY REFLECTED IN HER SONGS, WHICH TAKE INSPIRATION FROM SOME OF HER FAVORITE ARTISTS INCLUDING JP SAXE, SARAH BAREILLES, INGRID ANDRESS, AND MORE. HER MUSIC HAS BEEN FEATURED ON “TEMPTATION ISLAND” AND "THE BIGGEST LOSER" ON USA NETWORK.

SYDNEY’S NEW ERA OF MUSIC REPRESENTS A CHAPTER IN HER LIFE LYRICALLY, AND HER AUTHENTIC VISION SONICALLY. SHE DIVES INTO THE EMOTIONS THAT OCCUR DURING HEARTBREAK AND THE SIMPLISTIC HAPPINESS THAT CAN COME WITH LOVE. NEW YORK CITY WILL ALWAYS PLAY AN IMPORTANT ROLE IN HER MUSIC, WHETHER IT’S A STREET SHE REFERENCES OR THE SUBWAY HOME. SHE’S A STORYTELLER AT HEART AND HOPES TO SING WORDS YOU WERE THINKING BUT DIDN’T KNOW HOW TO SAY.

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Topics we discuss:

• How she got good at her Music
  • Accepting that she is good at it
  • Music built her confidence
• Tracking Downloads and attention
• Being vulnerable through her music
• Turning Around a bad mood
• Creating music that resonates with people
• Understanding Self

References:

• Harkness Method
• Nodes Scene from Pitch Perfect
• Her song Bucket Hat 
• Sydney Lauren.com

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Truth is subjective.  What is true to you may not be true to me.  You may think The Matrix is the greatest cinematic accomplishment of the 20th century.  I may think that award belongs to Schindler’s List. 

What isn’t true is that either sentiment is a fact.  This is merely an opinion one holds.  However, we have the tendency to think of our truths as facts and it can create serious issues connecting with others and navigating conversation.

We explore this reality with Sydney in part 1 of our awesome conversation with her.

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Today, we are with singer/songwriter Sydney Lauren.  SYDNEY TELLS STORIES THROUGH HER SONGS. SHE GREW UP SINGING AND WRITING MUSIC JUST OUTSIDE OF NEW YORK CITY, THE PLACE SHE NOW CALLS HOME. THE CITY SERVES AS HER INSPIRATION AS WELL AS HER STOMPING GROUNDS, AND SHE HAS PERFORMED IN NYC VENUES LIKE THE DELANCEY & THE BITTER END.

SYDNEY’S TRAINING IN PIANO, GUITAR AND SONGWRITING ARE CLEARLY REFLECTED IN HER SONGS, WHICH TAKE INSPIRATION FROM SOME OF HER FAVORITE ARTISTS INCLUDING JP SAXE, SARAH BAREILLES, INGRID ANDRESS, AND MORE. HER MUSIC HAS BEEN FEATURED ON “TEMPTATION ISLAND” AND "THE BIGGEST LOSER" ON USA NETWORK.

SYDNEY’S NEW ERA OF MUSIC REPRESENTS A CHAPTER IN HER LIFE LYRICALLY, AND HER AUTHENTIC VISION SONICALLY. SHE DIVES INTO THE EMOTIONS THAT OCCUR DURING HEARTBREAK AND THE SIMPLISTIC HAPPINESS THAT CAN COME WITH LOVE. NEW YORK CITY WILL ALWAYS PLAY AN IMPORTANT ROLE IN HER MUSIC, WHETHER IT’S A STREET SHE REFERENCES OR THE SUBWAY HOME. SHE’S A STORYTELLER AT HEART AND HOPES TO SING WORDS YOU WERE THINKING BUT DIDN’T KNOW HOW TO SAY.

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Topics we discuss:

• Knowing when to walk away from conflict
  • Harkness Method
  • Saying what you don't mean
  • Being Brutally Honest
• Facts vs. Truth
• Accepting Others

References:

• Harkness Method
• Nodes Scene from Pitch Perfect
• Her song Bucket Hat 
• Sydney Lauren.com

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

We reserve play for short periods of time and for our childhood.  Yet, we are increasingly demanding more productivity of our children to get ahead. 

The thing about play, is that it is a necessity of life.  We need it.  We especially need it to improve learning and how we absorb information.  Games are a great way to help kids learn and also enjoy life.

Mastermind Adventures is helping kids who have a hard time learning social and emotional skills.  They are doing it by challenging kids through games so they also have fun with their life. 

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Today we are with Krysten Callina.  She is the Founder of Mastermind Adventures LLC, a talent management agency for professional game masters of tabletop role playing games (like Dungeons & Dragons).  Krysten helps people find connection and community through games so they can embrace their creativity and individuality and have more fun. Her goal is to create the industry standard for professional game masters and to establish a vibrant, safe community of fans of role playing games.

Examples of non-traditional game applications developed by Mastermind Adventures are Quest! Adventure Game for Social Skills Mastery to help kids improve their social emotional skills, and The Game of Influencers, a unique training program for businesses to learn about how to use influencers as part of a marketing strategy.

Mastermind Adventures is currently developing programs that will serve as inroads for young people into the gaming industry - especially for kids in marginalized communities. Krysten is a serial entrepreneur, loves cooking, gardening, photography, interior decorating, nerd topics and whiskey. 

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Topics we discuss:

• Income correlation to effectiveness of Homeschooling
• Building perspective
  • Traveling
  • Exposing to others
• Creating Mastermind Adventures
  • How it started as a Game Night
  • What it is now
• The concept called BLEED
  • Managing the potential dangers

References:

• Home schooling resources
• Mastermind Adventures
  • Live Action Role Play (L.A.R.P.)
  • Who is Percy Jackson
• More In Common Website

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Homeschooling is a great example of the subtle biases we all project onto other because of our cultural influences. 

There are many reasons for homeschooling and it’s important to understand when it makes sense for your kids.  In this conversation with Krysten, we get into some of those reasons and why she made that very decision.

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Today we are with Krysten Callina.  She is the Founder of Mastermind Adventures LLC, a talent management agency for professional game masters of tabletop role playing games (like Dungeons & Dragons).  Krysten helps people find connection and community through games so they can embrace their creativity and individuality and have more fun. Her goal is to create the industry standard for professional game masters and to establish a vibrant, safe community of fans of role playing games.

Examples of non-traditional game applications developed by Mastermind Adventures are Quest! Adventure Game for Social Skills Mastery to help kids improve their social emotional skills, and The Game of Influencers, a unique training program for businesses to learn about how to use influencers as part of a marketing strategy.

Mastermind Adventures is currently developing programs that will serve as inroads for young people into the gaming industry - especially for kids in marginalized communities. Krysten is a serial entrepreneur, loves cooking, gardening, photography, interior decorating, nerd topics and whiskey. 

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Topics we discuss:

• Home schooling resources
• Mastermind Adventures
  • What is Live Action Role Play (L.A.R.P.)
  • Who is Percy Jackson
• B.L.E.E.D.
  • Sara Lynn Bowman
• More In Common Website

References:

• Home schooling resources
• Mastermind Adventures
  • Live Action Role Play (L.A.R.P.)
  • Who is Percy Jackson
• More In Common Website

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

We all struggle to separate these two realities. However, when we can, we will deliver the promise to our children that set them up to live the life they want to live.

We talk a lot in this part 2 with Lisa Davis, MPH, about instilling values in children through the perspective of their personalities and giving them space to be who they need to be.

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Today we are with Lisa Davis, MPH. Lisa has two decades of experience as a health educator and a broadcaster. She has a Master's Degree in Public Health, is creator, host, and producer of the syndicated "It's Your Health" radio heard on regional NPR as well as host/producer of "Talk Healthy Today" brought to you by Pocket Media (of Clean Eating, Vegetarian Times, Better Nutrition. Muscle & Performance, Yoga Journal magazines).

She is host/producer of Naturally Savvy Radio heard online on RadioMD, iHeart Radio Talk, TuneIn, Stitcher, iTunes, UberRadio, and TalkStreamLive. Lisa is also the co-creator and co-host of the podcast "Active Allyship...it's more than a #hashtag!"

In addition to developing radio shows, if it doesn't seem like enough, Lisa has created, produced, and hosted health television shows. Her first show, Health Power, was seen on KRUZ-TV in California. She was also a regular contributor to Carol Alt's national health TV show on FOX News Channel, A Healthy You.

She also authored her books, Clean Eating, Dirty Sex: Sensual Superfoods and Aphrodisiac Practices for Ultimate Sexual Health and Easy to Love but Hard to Live with: Real People, Invisible Disabilities, True Stories.  

Her core passion is helping people find they're why to enable them to live their healthiest life.

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Topics we discuss:

• Daughter with NVLD
  • Helping kids through their challenges
  • Letting people speak for themselves
• Instilling values in kids
• Understanding how kids learn
• Being sex positive with her kids
  • Promoting positive relationships with Sex

References:

• Lisadavismph.com
  • Active Allyship is more than just a Hashtag
  • Talk Healthy Today
  • Naturally Savvy Podcast
• Clean Eating / Dirty Sex - Her Book
• Naturallysavvy.com
• Dr. David Campt
• September 18th Rally
• Non Verbal Learning Disorder
• Autism Spectrum Disorder
• Authoritarian vs. Authoritative parenting

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

That voice inside tells you one thing that reality doesn't seem to support. Then we focus so much on "what is" because we can't see "what could be."

Lisa is an excellent example of looking at life through the lens of what is possible while working through all the early challenges to living a life that feels like she is the best version of herself and still getting better. 

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Today we are with Lisa Davis, MPH. Lisa has two decades of experience as a health educator and a broadcaster. She has a Master's Degree in Public Health, is creator, host, and producer of the syndicated "It's Your Health" radio heard on regional NPR as well as host/producer of "Talk Healthy Today" brought to you by Pocket Media (of Clean Eating, Vegetarian Times, Better Nutrition. Muscle & Performance, Yoga Journal magazines).

She is host/producer of Naturally Savvy Radio heard online on RadioMD, iHeart Radio Talk, TuneIn, Stitcher, iTunes, UberRadio, and TalkStreamLive. Lisa is also the co-creator and co-host of the podcast "Active Allyship...it's more than a #hashtag!"

In addition to developing radio shows, Lisa has created, produced, and hosted health television shows if it doesn't seem like enough. Her first show, Health Power, was seen on KRUZ-TV in California. She was also a regular contributor to Carol Alt's national health TV show on FOX News Channel, A Healthy You.

She also authored her books, Clean Eating, Dirty Sex: Sensual Superfoods and Aphrodisiac Practices for Ultimate Sexual Health and Easy to Love but Hard to Live with: Real People, Invisible Disabilities, True Stories.  

Her core passion is helping people find they're why to enable them to live their healthiest life.

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Topics we discuss:

• Active Listening
  • How she employs it with her daughter
• Navigating our boundaries with others
  • Othering
• Growing up with an Anti-Racist environment
  • Speaking up no matter what
  • What it was like growing up
• Gaining confidence
  • Being herself after many years of being shy

References:

• Lisadavismph.com
  • Active Allyship is more than just a Hashtag
  • Talk Healthy Today
  • Naturally Savvy Podcast
• Clean Eating / Dirty Sex - Her Book
• Naturallysavvy.com
• Dr. David Campt
• September 18th Rally
• Non Verbal Learning Disorder
• Autism Spectrum Disorder
• Authoritarian vs. Authoritative parenting

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

A genius doesn't create without supplies, funding, or assistance to contribute to their field of study. Like an athlete doesn't get to show their skills if the structure of sport doesn't exist. 

This is highlighted by Ben and Fitz in this Part 2 episode of their conversation. They talk about the Genius Myth and the importance of recognizing it when building highly collaborative and effective teams.

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Brian (Fitz) is the Founder and CTO of Tock, and he started Google's Chicago engineering office in 2005. An open-source contributor for over 13 years, Brian was the engineering manager for several Google products, and is a member of the Apache Software Foundation, a former engineer at Apple and CollabNet, and a Subversion developer,

Ben is a co-founder & author of Subversion, a popular version-control tool to help programmers collaborate. He also co-authored the main O'Reilly manual for the software. He is currently the engineering Site Lead for Google's Chicago office, having joined Google in 2005 as one of the first two engineers in Chicago. He manages multiple teams working on Google's Search-serving infrastructure.

Together they have collaborated on multiple talks and books regarding the social challenges of software development. They have given dozens of talks at conferences (many viewable on youtube), and authored a popular O'Reilly book on the subject: Debugging Teams: Better Productivity through Collaboration.

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Topics we discuss:

• Privilege
  • The relative nature of privilege
  • Seeing privilege
• Their Book - Debugging Teams
  • Genius Myth
  • Working together in a creative space
• Peter Principle
• Understanding others
• Pursue what makes sense for each

References:

• ORD Camp
• Crucial Conversations
• H.A.L.T. - Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
• Free Book - Debugging Teams
• Nikola Tesla and Thomas Edison
• Peter Principle

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Culture is an agreed-upon set of values and norms that we accept and embrace. In organizations, if these aren't intentional and established, the company is not likely to operate at its best.

Ben and Fitz came to some remarkable conclusions about Culture in the collective time at Google causing them to write their book, Debugging Teams.

Their goal is to ensure teams operate at their best by being intentional about how they work together and for each other. 

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Brian (Fitz) is the Founder and CTO of Tock, and he started Google's Chicago engineering office in 2005. An open-source contributor for over 13 years, Brian was the engineering manager for several Google products, and is a member of the Apache Software Foundation, a former engineer at Apple and CollabNet, and a Subversion developer,

Ben is a co-founder & author of Subversion, a popular version-control tool to help programmers collaborate. He also co-authored the central O'Reilly manual for the software. He is currently the engineering Site Lead for Google's Chicago office, having joined Google in 2005 as one of the first two engineers in Chicago. He manages multiple teams working on Google's Search-serving infrastructure.

Together they have collaborated on multiple talks and books regarding the social challenges of software development. They have given dozens of talks at conferences (many viewable on youtube), and authored a popular O'Reilly book on the subject: Debugging Teams: Better Productivity through Collaboration.

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Topics we discuss:

• Learning when to speak
  • Using a 20 sided die as a tool
  • Learning to listen
• Finding Common Ground
• Taking a break
  • H.A.L.T.
  • When it's not possible
• Ending Phone Notifications
• Moral Imperative of fixing Culture
  • Their growth to seeing the importance
  • Observations of the pandemic
  • Earn Trust

References:

• ORD Camp
• Crucial Conversations
• H.A.L.T. - Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
• Free Book - Debugging Teams
• Nikola Tesla and Thomas Edison
• Peter Principle

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Too often, we don't look at history from the present it once represented.  As a result, we don't see the perspectives of those that came before us and what they did to give us what we have today.

Paula beautifully discusses this phenomenon relative to those who had to stay silent for us to be able to speak today. 

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We are with award-winning book author, TV writer/producer, and feature screenwriter Paula Yoo.  Hailing from Los Angeles, CA, she loves to spend time hanging with her family and cats. 

Her latest Young Adult narrative non-fiction book, FROM A WHISPER TO A RALLYING CRY: The Killing of Vincent Chin and the Trial that Galvanized the Asian American Movement, is from Norton Young Readers (W.W. Norton & Company). Her books have won many awards, including IRA Notables, Junior Guild Library Selections, and starred reviews from Kirkus.

Paula's TV credits include Freeform's Pretty Little Liars: The Perfectionists, The CW's Supergirl, SyFy's Defiance, Eureka, Amazon's Mozart in the Jungle, and NBC's The West Wing. She has also sold TV pilots and feature scripts.

Paula is also a professional violinist, but not just as a hobby…she has played with the Southeast Symphony, Vicente Chamber Orchestra, Torrance Symphony, Glendale Philharmonic and Detroit Civic Symphony Orchestra, toured and recorded with bands including Il Divo, No Doubt, Fun, Arthur Lee, Love Revisited and Spiritualized, and appeared on national TV shows and commercial spots, including A&E's The Two Coreys reality show and a United Airlines commercial.

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Topics we discuss:

• AAPI experience
  • Coverage variability
  • What's still happening
  • History of AAPI Hate
• Vincent Chin and her Book
• COVID experience as an Asian Woman
• What framed and influenced her perspective
• Prejudice within the Diaspora 

References:

• Paulayoo.com
• Texas Abortion decision
• AAPI history in Illinois mandate
• Vincent Chin
• From a Whisper to a Rallying Cry - Her Book
• Atlanta Spa Shootings
• Sundown Towns

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Her latest Young Adult narrative non-fiction book, FROM A WHISPER TO A RALLYING CRY: The Killing of Vincent Chin and the Trial that Galvanized the Asian American Movement, is from Norton Young Readers (W.W. Norton & Company). Her books have won many awards, including IRA Notables, Junior Guild Library Selections, and starred reviews from Kirkus.

Paula's TV credits include Freeform's Pretty Little Liars: The Perfectionists, The CW's Supergirl, SyFy's Defiance, and Eureka, Amazon's Mozart in the Jungle, and NBC's The West Wing. She has also sold TV pilots and feature scripts.

Paula is also a professional violinist, but not just as a hobby…she has played with the Southeast Symphony, Vicente Chamber Orchestra, Torrance Symphony, Glendale Philharmonic, and Detroit Civic Symphony Orchestra, toured and recorded with bands including Il Divo, No Doubt, Fun, Arthur Lee, Love Revisited and Spiritualized, and appeared on national TV shows and commercial spots, including A&E's The Two Coreys reality show and a United Airlines commercial.

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Topics we discuss:

• Understanding what holds others back
  • Everyone has a pattern
  • Ask questions
  • Walking away when necessary
• Her process
  • How she does all she does
  • What she focuses on
• Identity
• Procrastination
  • Productively and unproductively

References:

• Paulayoo.com
• Texas Abortion decision
• AAPI history in Illinois mandate
• Vincent Chin
• From a Whisper to a Rallying Cry - Her Book
• Atlanta Spa Shootings
• Sundown Towns

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

It's rare these days to get into the field you study in college, especially if you don't go onto a master's or Ph.D. program. 

The rising costs of education make it more and more challenging to pursue a field that doesn't set you back financially for a lifetime and aligns with how you want to live your life.

Brandon Stover is reimaging how to deliver education.   He envisions a practical approach that provides experiences, not just knowledge. 

His ultimate goal is to educate people about the desire while improving the quality of education brought to an employer. 

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Brandon Stover believes that the evolution of the world requires the development of the individual. His work strives to evolve the individual by liberating and educating others to have the belief, willpower, & skills to change their lives and discover a fulfilling purpose to change the lives of others.

As a founder, Brandon is launching a personalized, online university that combines a student's passions with skill building to solve the world's most significant challenges. Constantly evolving himself through learning, he is obsessed with delivering this power to others and scaling its impact.

As a podcaster, Brandon is also the host and producer of the Evolve Podcast, a show about how social innovators and founders can change the world. From climate change to education to mental health, he mines the wisdom of visionaries and experts for the tools and tactics to solve these global issues. He also created the Power To Podcast 90 day audio course, which teaches podcasting in just 10 minutes a day and has over 75K downloads to date.

Before these ventures, Brandon has half a decade of experience as a designer, marketer, and educator. His portfolio and body of work can be found at brandonstover.com.

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Topics we discuss:

• The role fear played
  • It being energy for movement
• The Higher Education Platform
  • What he is building
  • How it works
  • What's the plan?
  • What value you will get.
  • Impact on hiring
• Education to Job Pipeline

References:

• Brandon - LinkedIn
• Brandonstover.com
• Benjamin Mathes - Website
  • Episode with MIC
• Impact theory - Tom Billieu
• Evolvethe.world
• Power To Podcast
• Victor Frankel's - a man's search for meaning
• Our conversation on his podcast
• Conversation with Pete Mulroy
• Conversation with Jamil Smith

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Time continually evolves our needs and how we access those needs.  We have a thirst for knowledge and education, yet, it is increasingly less accessible to us. 

Especially education that captures what we want out of life.  Giving us the practical experience to pursue what we know we are good at, but it falls outside the parameters of traditional education.

We now can re-envision what education looks like for people and how it can be accessible and practical. 

Brandon is thinking differently about giving access to continued education in a way that challenges the status quo. 

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Brandon Stover believes that the evolution of the world requires the development of the individual. His work strives to evolve the individual by liberating and educating others to have the belief, willpower, & skills to change their lives and discover a fulfilling purpose to change the lives of others.

As a founder, Brandon is launching a personalized, online university that combines a student's passions with skill building to solve the world's most significant challenges. Constantly evolving himself through learning, he is obsessed with delivering this power to others and scaling its impact.

As a podcaster, Brandon is also the host and producer of the Evolve Podcast, a show about how social innovators and founders can change the world. From climate change to education to mental health, he mines the wisdom of visionaries and experts for the tools and tactics to solve these global issues. He also created the Power To Podcast 90 day audio course, which teaches podcasting in just 10 minutes a day and has over 75K downloads to date.

Before these ventures, Brandon has half a decade of experience as a designer, marketer, and educator. His portfolio and body of work can be found at brandonstover.com.

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Topics we discuss:

- Listening to Understand

                ○ Seek clarity

                ○ Validate another's emotions

                ○ Impact of Podcasting

- Higher Education

                ○ Evolution of value

                ○ Is it the golden ticket?

- Growing up

                ○ How it led to his awareness

• The challenges he faced

References:

• Brandon - LinkedIn
• Brandonstover.com
• Benjamin Mathes - Website
  • Episode with MIC
• Impact theory - Tom Billieu
• Evolvethe.world
• Power To Podcast
• Victor Frankel's - a man's search for meaning
• Our conversation on his podcast
• Conversation with Pete Mulroy
• Conversation with Jamil Smith

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Jeremiah Smart is an excellent example of someone living that before his dream is fulfilled.  It is never easy, but it becomes easier when we achieve what we set out to do.

However, in the early days, belief and a vision have to drive the perseverance to get where you want to be.  Jeremiah embodies that effort, and we are excited to be a part of his early journey.

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Today we are with Jeremiah Smart.  23 and from Baton Rouge, Louisiana.  Through his dreams, belief in self, hope, and faith, he fulfilled his life dreams.  Currently living in Los Angeles, he produces the Smartway Podcast, where he drops short, weekly pearls of hope and inspiration for anyone who needs a positive boost to their day.

He is an aspiring author and sets out every day to make just one person's life better. 

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Topics we discuss:

• Being better
  • Better than self
  • Better off than parents
• What he has seen in life
  • Maintaining Optimism
• Impatience
  • Comparing others
  • Managing Patience
• What next year looks like for him

References:

• His Podcast - Smartway Podcast
• The Jen Ratio
• Addison Rae Tik Tok
• NBA Young Boy

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

What is impressive about this conversation with Jeremiah Smart is that we get to initially see someone with the dreams and vision for their future that has yet to pan out.

We don't know where he will end up, but he does, and he will do what it takes to make a difference in this world.  This conversation is the beginning of his journey, and we are thrilled to bring that to you. 

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Today we are with Jeremiah Smart.  23 and from Baton Rouge, Louisiana.  Through his dreams, belief in self, hope, and faith, he fulfilled his life dreams.  Currently living in Los Angeles, he produces the Smartway Podcast, where he drops short, weekly pearls of hope and inspiration for anyone who needs a positive boost to their day.

He is an aspiring author and sets out every day to make just one person's life better. 

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Topics we discuss:

• Reading Body language
• What is a lie? 
  • Necessity of lying
  • Fib vs. a lie
  • Boundaries around lying
• Moving to California
  • What impact it has had
  • Seeing other's purpose
• Seeing the best in others.
  • Traveling to get perspective
• Leaving and pursuing
  • Knowing self

References:

• His Podcast - Smartway Podcast
• The Jen Ratio
• Addison Rae Tik Tok
• NBA Young Boy

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

We all have a journey.  On our journey's we take many steps in every direction.  Sometimes, those steps have us walking in a circle, and it seems as if there is no way out.

As we talk about Elizabeth's philosophy on taking small pivots, we learn about her story.  We learn about what her first Pivot was that sent her life in a direction she never thought possible.

After 20 years in an abusive relationship, she took her first Pivot.  That led to many more, giving her the confidence to make big jumps that changed her life. 

It's not always easy, but listening to Elizabeth's story may give you just enough inspiration to take that Pivot you need in your life.

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Elizabeth A. Miles is an author, a certified life and business coach, a podcaster, and an entrepreneur. As the founder of March Forth Media Company, she is on a mission to help creatives find their unique style and voice and share their message with the world. Elizabeth is committed to assisting others in gaining the knowledge, skills, and confidence they need to build a brand and business (and life) they love.

Elizabeth is the author of This Is Where You Pivot: The Shift from Fear to Freedom, The Journey to Healing: Love, Yourself, and Connect You: A Guide to Your Authentic Life. She is also the host of The Power to Pivot Podcast (available on Anchor, Apple, Spotify, and Amazon), where she interviews others who have chosen Pivot in their lives. Her blog features other creatives trying to spread their story and offers tools, tips, and resources for marketing and brand development.

Elizabeth is a Philadelphia native who loves baking and cooking, music, and spending time in nature.

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Topics we discuss:

• What it was like before her choice to Pivot
  • Her pivot moment and what changed
  • The damaging relationship
• The journey to getting to her first Pivot
• Growing up and her early influences
  • Being bullied
  • Finding her place
• What life is like today
  • Listening to Intuition

References:

• Big (The Movie)
  • Zoltar
• Funko Pops
• Power to Pivot
  • Website
  • Podcast
  • Books
• Friends - Pivot segment

Credits:

Music:

Central Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

In life, there are significant moments that change the direction we go.  There are also big moments we choose not to take for fear of the unknown and the amount of change all at once. 

Many people say it is these moments that are necessary to pursue what you want out of life.  And, there is some truth to that.

However, there are so many opportunities to take small steps toward what you want.  Little pivots that add up over time show what you can make that big moment easier.

This perspective is shared fervently by Elizabeth Miles.  Her platform, Power to Pivot, helps us take those little pivots and appreciate the value that gives us on our path to the lives we want to live.

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Elizabeth A. Miles is an author, a certified life and business coach, a podcaster, and an entrepreneur. As the founder of March Forth Media Company, she is on a mission to help creatives find their unique style and voice and share their message with the world. Elizabeth is committed to assisting others to gain the knowledge, skills, and confidence they need to build a brand and business (and life) they love.

Elizabeth is the author of This Is Where You Pivot: The Shift from Fear to Freedom, The Journey to Healing: Love, Yourself, and Connect You: A Guide to Your Authentic Life. She is also the host of The Power to Pivot Podcast (available on Anchor, Apple, Spotify, and Amazon), where she interviews others who have chosen Pivot in their lives. Her blog features other creatives trying to spread their story and offers tools, tips, and resources for marketing and brand development.

Elizabeth is a Philadelphia native who loves baking and cooking, music, and spending time in nature.

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Topics we discuss:

• Understanding boundaries
• Taking small pivots vs. big leaps
  • Proving yourself you can make the change
  • When to make big leaps
• How she learned to Pivot
• What is being an overnight success?
  • Overnight stardom
  • What is success?

References:

• Big (The Movie)
  • Zoltar
• Funko Pops
• Power to Pivot
  • Website
  • Podcast
  • Books
• Friends - Pivot segment

Credits:

Music:

Central Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

When we pursue passions, especially in a group, a decision needs to be made that the pursuit of the thing will be a way to make money. 

Making sure everyone is aligned to the goal while still maintaining the love for the thing is a challenge many people face.  How do we do this without selling ourselves out?

Banana Chant has an amazing outlook on this balance, and as a group, they find that balance seamlessly. It's not easy, but they talk about it openly in an effort to make sure that it is the thing that drives them, not the money. 

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Today is a More In Common first…a full band…Banana Chant.  They are an up-and-coming Alternative Rock Band located in Miami, Florida. With influences such as The Red Hot Chili Peppers, Young The Giant, Jimi Hendrix, and The Beatles, Banana Chant's music is deeply rooted in an authentic appreciation for good old-fashioned rock and roll.

A 4 piece band made up of Gilexson (Singer/Songwriter), Tanis Perez (Guitarist), Vanessa Faith (Bassist), and Doof (Drummer), Banana Chant strives to make music that they personally like to hear. It is not for monetary gain but for the love of music that keeps Banana Chant going. They have one EP released, "The Balloon Room," and an album, "Paying off Student Loans," which was released on March 20, 2021.

Their most recent video, "Floating," is the bands' self-proclaimed magnum opus.  A song about isolation and addition, providing a haunting ghostlike quality with relaxed drums and a colorful bassline. The chorus is euphoric as Gilexson's falsetto and Vanessa's harmonies drift directly into your heart.

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Topics we discuss:

• Balancing monetary goals and the purity of the music
• Understanding roles and strengths in a group
  • Division of labor
• Their process of music creation
  • Breaking news from Vanessa
  • What 'Can't Believe' means from Gio himself

References:

• Banana Chant Website
  • Album - Paying off Student Loans
  • Song - Floating
  • Song - Milky Way
• Jason Derulo – Take You Dancing
• Miami Beach Condo Collapse

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Banana Chant embodies the struggles and the way to resolve those struggles in order to accomplish the common goal. 

A group that produces amazing music has to navigate the nuances of relationships, responsibilities, and the dynamics of a team environment. 

Banana Chant gracefully navigates those challenges and tells us about it in Part 1 of this conversation.

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Today is a More In Common first…a full band…Banana Chant.  They are an up-and-coming Alternative Rock Band located in Miami, Florida. With influences such as The Red Hot Chili Peppers, Young The Giant, Jimi Hendrix, and The Beatles, Banana Chant's music is deeply rooted in an authentic appreciation for good old-fashioned rock and roll.

A 4 piece band made up of Gilexson (Singer/Songwriter), Tanis Perez (Guitarist), Vanessa Faith (Bassist), and Doof (Drummer), Banana Chant strives to make music that they personally like to hear. It is not for monetary gain but for the love of music that keeps Banana Chant going. They have one EP released, "The Balloon Room," and an album, "Paying off Student Loans," which was released on March 20, 2021.

Their most recent video, "Floating," is the bands' self-proclaimed magnum opus.  A song about isolation and addition, providing a haunting ghostlike quality with relaxed drums and a colorful bassline. The chorus is euphoric as Gilexson's falsetto, and Vanessa's harmonies drift directly into your heart.

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Topics we discuss:

• Understanding the goals of a Conversation
  • Managing emotions
  • Listening as a mode of creation
• Managing the differences within the band
  • Individual vs. band goals
  • Finding the balance with Band and other priorities
  • Managing Resent
• Their Origin story and what keeps them together

References:

• Banana Chant Website
  • Album - Paying off Student Loans
  • Song - Floating
  • Song - Milky Way
• Jason Derulo – Take You Dancing
• Miami Beach Condo Collapse

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

In Part 2 of this conversation with Jessica, we really get into what it looks like to navigate acting most aligned to who you are and not what you are told.

The navigation of self within the social structures of our social ecosystems is a balance many do not achieve.  Jessica gets into what this looks like for her as she is an example of what is truly possible to live a happy life. 

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Today we are with Jessica Frew, co-host of the "Husband in Law" Podcast.  A podcast for those who are open-minded enough to let go of the religious and social norms they have been taught we should all fit into.

Steve, Jessica, and Matt walk through the science of making a relationship successful.  Steve and Jessica were happily married for seven years until Steve came out as being gay, which inevitably ended in divorce. Now, Matt and Jessica have been happily married for six years.

Matt, Jessica, and Steve have a relationship that, by most standards, would be considered atypical.

Sharing stories of love, marriage, children, divorce, the struggles of religious norms, homosexuality, and trying to be our best selves, this podcast holds nothing back and shares what most people are scared to talk about.

Jessica is really passionate about Living a BOLD life and how it not only impacts us personally but also in the way we show up in our relationships.

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Topics we discuss:

• Managing judgement
  • Being divorced in the Mormon Church
  • Accepting her ex husband
  • Accepting a "Different" life
• Religious identity
  • What being Mormon means to her
  • Loving and not loving it at the same time
  • Questioning
• Her journey of self-discovery
  • Journaling
  • Helping others on their journey
• Parenting her child to be herself

References:

• Husband in Law Podcast
• Brene Brown
• Church of Jesus Christ
• Identity Covering

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Jessica is a shining example of understanding yourself.  She carries many labels.  Those labels could easily cause her to act in a way that is expected by others.

Yet, it doesn't change who she is.  She wears her labels with pride and still is able to maintain grace and acceptance of others. 

Her compassion emanates from her, and her ability to be who she is with confidence gives her the greatest opportunity to leave a positive impact on this world.

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Today we are with Jessica Frew, co-host of the "Husband in Law" Podcast.  A podcast for those who are open-minded enough to let go of the religious and social norms they have been taught we should all fit into.

Steve, Jessica, and Matt walk through the science of making a relationship successful.  Steve and Jessica were happily married for seven years until Steve came out as being gay, which inevitably ended in divorce. Now, Matt and Jessica have been happily married for six years.

Matt, Jessica, and Steve have a relationship that, by most standards, would be considered atypical.

Sharing stories of love, marriage, children, divorce, the struggles of religious norms, homosexuality, and trying to be our best selves, this podcast holds nothing back and shares what most people are scared to talk about.

Jessica is really passionate about Living a BOLD life and how it not only impacts us personally but also in the way we show up in our relationships.

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Topics we discuss:

- Planning out difficult conversations

• Exploring the emotions
• Holding more than one emotions
• Taking space and time

- Living a bold life

• Doing what feels right to you
• Showing up as yourself

- Setting personal boundaries

References:

• Husband in Law Podcast
• Brene Brown
• Church of Jesus Christ
• Identity Covering

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Our perspective is dramatically shaped by our personal experiences.  Hearing how other people perceive based on their lived experience is a great way to expand your perspective.

In America, we see change as slow and rarely accomplished.  However, when you talk to someone from another country, their perspective of slowness is very different because it truly does take a lifetime for change to occur.

Carlos provides a great perspective on cultural change in this part of the conversation.  Maybe it will help you see a different point of view. 

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Today we are with Carlos "Lonelez" Rosario Gonzalez.  Lonelez began his journey in the music industry as a graphic designer. Having designed for names such as Ozuna, Mozart La Para, J Alvarez, and Natti Natasha, he discovered that his true passion was in music production. Soon, Lonelez began to remix popular songs and it wasn't long until his remixes began to garner favorable attention.

His trap remix of Daddy Yankee's Shaky Shaky became an internet sensation, and his bachata remix of Plan B's Fanatica Sensual was danced all over the world. In 2021, his reggaeton remix of Taylor Swift's Willow became a viral sound on TikTok.

He is now putting lyrics to his beats and, after releasing his first independent album Atraccion in 2018, and recently released his EP LaRomcom. His songs are those of love, adventure, party-going, and fun, with a bilingual touch that's purely unique to Lonelez.

Carlos also has written the romance novel series "The Bohemians".

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Topics we discuss:

• Machismo and his mindset about it

• Speed of cultural change
  • U.S. vs Dominican
• The influence of his art on others
• Vulnerability
  • Falling in love
  • Transforming who he is
  • Trusting yourself and what is
• Reluctance moving to New York
• Music as his future
• The story behind LoneLez

References:

• Carlos' Books
• Carlos' Music
• Hinduism's definitions of Gender
• F.E.A.R - Face Everything and Rise
• Shaky Shaky Remix

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

We create labels to simplify how we see the world. It's an important part of how our brain works.

However, those labels can, and often do, cheat us out of really getting to know someone.

Carlos is a musician. It's easy to come to this conversation with a lot of biases and assumptions based on that one label alone.

What you learn about Carlos in this episode though will change how you look at him as a musician.  This conversation is a great example of how our assumptions can limit our ability to truly know what someone wants from life and who they are.

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Today we are with Carlos "Lonelez" Rosario Gonzalez.  Lonelez began his journey in the music industry as a graphic designer. Having designed for names such as Ozuna, Mozart La Para, J Alvarez, and Natti Natasha, he discovered that his true passion was in music production. Soon, Lonelez began to remix popular songs, and it wasn't long until his remixes began to garner favorable attention.

His trap remix of Daddy Yankee's Shaky Shaky became an internet sensation, and his bachata remix of Plan B's Fanatica Sensual was danced all over the world. In 2021, his reggaeton remix of Taylor Swift's Willow became a viral sound on TikTok.

He is now putting lyrics to his beats and after releasing his first independent album Atraccion in 2018, and recently released his EP LaRomcom. His songs are those of love, adventure, party-going, and fun, with a bilingual touch that's purely unique to Lonelez.

Carlos also has written the romance novel series "The Bohemians."

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Topics we discuss:

• Smile to defuse

                ○ Authentically Smiling

                ○ Finding the best in others

• Masculinity as a Social Construct

                ○ His novels

                ○ Being ourself

                ○ What it's like in the Dominican Republic

• Influence of his childhood on his decisions

                ○ Self-Identity

• Fear and how he shows up through it and with it

References:

• Carlos' Books
• Carlos' Music
• Hinduism's definitions of Gender
• F.E.A.R - Face Everything and Rise
• Shaky Shaky Remix

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

What if you can't meditate? Is it not for you?    

So many actually have a hard time meditating. It's a learned skill, and not everyone can access it.  The truth is, many feel like they are broken because they can't do it.  They are missing out on something people swear by and are left out of a cultural movement.

Do you feel that way? 

This conversation presents another option.  The key isn't meditation.  Rather, it's about finding the opportunity to train to be present, learning calm, and being focused on what is in front of you.

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Today we are with Lincoln Hoppe. Crazy fact, he is actually related to Abraham Lincoln and was named after him.

Lincoln is a film actor in Los Angles and is the lead in a feature called Witnesses that hit theaters on June 4th.  It was top 10 for box office sales and made it up to the top 6. It was the #1 faith-based film.

He is also a produced feature screenwriter and multi-award winner audiobook narrator and voice actor.  And, if not enough, is an acting and improvisation teacher at Playhouse west and Meisner school in North Hollywood.

He is passionate about improvisation. He believes strongly that improv is not just for improv shows and auditions, but it's healthy for the brain, as it skyrockets skills of creativity, spontaneity, and confidence.

He has a complete video on demand course called improv wizards…

He loves to hike, play stringed instruments such as Guitar, mandolin, bass, dulcimer, Bouziki… loves board games, and dungeons and dragons.

Oh, and he has 5 kids.

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Topics we discuss:

• Learning to take a breath
• Improv as a value to life
  • Play
  • Listening
  • Creativity and presence
• Online Improv courses and their value
• Being an adult at play
• How he found his path to Acting
  • The story of how he found Improv
• The community of Improv and non-judgment

References:

• Lincoln's Website
• @lincolnhoppe
• Facebook - Lincoln Actor
• Their Online Course - Improv Wizards
• Wayne Brady and Marc Rebillet - YouTube collaboration
• The Last Good War - Student Film
• Saints and Soldiers, Airborne Creed - Film
• Witnesses
• Martin Harris – Played by Lincoln in Witnesses

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

What if you can't meditate? Is it not for you?    

So many actually have a hard time meditating. It's a learned skill, and not everyone can access it.  The truth is, many feel like they are broken because they can't do it.  They are missing out on something people swear by and are left out of a cultural movement.

Do you feel that way? 

This conversation presents another option.  The key isn't meditation.  Rather, it's about finding the opportunity to train to be present, learning calm, and being focused on what is in front of you.

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Today we are with Lincoln Hoppe. Crazy fact, he is actually related to Abraham Lincoln and was named after him.

Lincoln is a film actor in Los Angles and is the lead in a feature called Witnesses that hit theaters on June 4th.  It was top 10 for box office sales and made it up to the top 6. It was the #1 faith-based film.

He is also a produced feature screenwriter and multi-award winner audiobook narrator and voice actor.  And, if not enough, is an acting and improvisation teacher at Playhouse west and Meisner school in North Hollywood.

He is passionate about improvisation. He believes strongly that improv is not just for improv shows and auditions, but it's healthy for the brain, as it skyrockets skills of creativity, spontaneity, and confidence.

He has a complete video on demand course called improv wizards…

He loves to hike, play stringed instruments such as Guitar, mandolin, bass, dulcimer, Bouziki… loves board games, and dungeons and dragons.

Oh, and he has 5 kids.

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Topics we discuss:

• • Learning to take a breath
  • Improv as a value to life
    • Play
    • Listening
    • Creativity and presence
  • Online Improv courses and their value
  • Being an adult at play
  • How he found his path to Acting
    • The story of how he found Improv
  • The community of Improv and non-judgment

References:

• Lincoln's Website
• @lincolnhoppe
• Facebook - Lincoln Actor
• Their Online Course - Improv Wizards
• Wayne Brady and Marc Rebillet - YouTube collaboration
• The Last Good War - Student Film
• Saints and Soldiers, Airborne Creed - Film
• Witnesses
• Martin Harris – Played by Lincoln in Witnesses

Credits:

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Is it your habits or behaviors? 

Our guest Melissa Stecher is a mom, owner, creator, and a master of taking control of her life. She's walked the long road of changing habits, behaviors, and her mindset to bring hope into her life. Her inspiring conversation provides hope to others that they to can do the same.

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Today we are with Melissa Stecher.  She is the owner & creator of Hopeful Simplicity. In 2017 she reached her snapping point. As a mom, full-time employee, co-parent, blending families, some personal health issues and still being asked all those 'at-home' questions like 'what's for dinner?' she broke.

She was angry and tired all the time and knew that wasn't the person she wanted to be. This is when

she started swapping. Swapping bad habits for better ones, like making her bed each

morning just to feel like she was accomplishing something each day.

They swapped harsh chemical products for natural options and the whole home team started cleaning. They even swapped unsuccessful organizing systems for compromised successes. In 2018 she took a leap of faith in herself and got certified as a professional organizer. Now, not only does she get to save time, save money and live less stressed but she gets to help others find Hope in their chaos & clutter.

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Topics we discuss:

• Just shutting up
• What it means to pull too hard-to-get information
• Introversion and extroversion
• Collaborating with different personalities
• Managing energy when working with others
• Being a Nerd
• Gender Roles within Family
• Making a collaborative household of responsibility

References:

• Chris Hemsworth

• Chris Evans - Body Image issues
• Reference to Ashwin's Episode
• Gen Con
• Harley Quinn
• Funko Pops
• Hopeful Simplicity

Credits:

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

Is it your habits or behaviors? 

Our guest Melissa Stecher is a mom, owner, creator, and a master of taking control of her life. She's walked the long road of changing habits, behaviors, and her mindset to bring hope into her life. Her inspiring conversation provides hope to others that they to can do the same.

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Today we are with Melissa Stecher.  She is the owner & creator of Hopeful Simplicity. In 2017 she reached her snapping point. As a mom, full-time employee, co-parent, blending families, some personal health issues and still being asked all those 'at-home' questions like 'what's for dinner?' she broke.

She was angry and tired all the time and knew that wasn't the person she wanted to be. This is when

she started swapping. Swapping bad habits for better ones, like making her bed each

morning just to feel like she was accomplishing something each day.

They swapped harsh chemical products for natural options and the whole home team started cleaning. They even swapped unsuccessful organizing systems for compromised successes. In 2018 she took a leap of faith in herself and got certified as a professional organizer. Now, not only does she get to save time, save money and live less stressed but she gets to help others find Hope in their chaos & clutter.

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Topics we discuss:

• Just shutting up
• What it means to pull too hard-to-get information
• Introversion and extroversion
• Collaborating with different personalities
• Managing energy when working with others
• Being a Nerd
• Gender Roles within Family
• Making a collaborative household of responsibility

References:

• Chris Hemsworth
• Chris Evans - Body Image issues
• Reference to Ashwin's Episode
• Gen Con
• Harley Quinn
• Funko Pops
• Hopeful Simplicity

Credits:

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

It’s complicated…

Culture is an amalgamation of ideas, histories, life experiences and many other things.  Every culture has subcultures, and the more connected we become the more culture becomes dispersed.

This is a challenge for many as we look to define what our common culture is and could be. 

In this conversation with Ashwin, we talk deeply about what that looks like.  And we dig in on some ideas that could easily be chalked up to biases and prejudices.  But, with listening and deep questioning, we really understand where the ideas come from.

Not just base them on the comments made. 

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Today we are with Ashwin Chacko.  Ashwin is a multi-disciplined illustrator, designer & hand-letterer, working and living in Dublin. He develops and designs conceptual illustrations for advertising campaigns, products, packaging, editorials, children’s books and one off commissions from around the world.

He has published 3 books, "Little Optimist", "Keep At It", and the Children's book "What wondrous Shapes We Are". 

His style is influenced by contemporary culture and is rooted in his love for music, comics, tattoos and street art. He loves telling stories, and is interested in uncovering the social interactions that drive culture.  

He seeks to capture these moments in bold lines & shapes.  His compositions focuses on a strong use of characters intermingled with typography and patterns. He aims to help brands bring people together through the stories embedded in his illustrations.

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Topics we discuss:

• Listening and Asking questions as key to navigating conversation
• Culture and what shapes culture
• Current cultural norms and changes
• Representation in the arts
• Telling Stories
• Making choices

References:

• Ashwin's Books
• Ashwin's Website
• Culture
• Mores
• Jordan Peterson (YouTube)
• Ethos

Credits:

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

It’s complicated…

Culture is an amalgamation of ideas, histories, life experiences and many other things.  Every culture has subcultures, and the more connected we become the more culture becomes dispersed.

This is a challenge for many as we look to define what our common culture is and could be. 

In this conversation with Ashwin, we talk deeply about what that looks like.  And we dig in on some ideas that could easily be chalked up to biases and prejudices.  But, with listening and deep questioning, we really understand where the ideas come from.

Not just base them on the comments made. 

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Today we are with Ashwin Chacko.  Ashwin is a multi-disciplined illustrator, designer & hand-letterer, working and living in Dublin. He develops and designs conceptual illustrations for advertising campaigns, products, packaging, editorials, children’s books and one off commissions from around the world.

He has published 3 books, "Little Optimist", "Keep At It", and the Children's book "What wondrous Shapes We Are". 

His style is influenced by contemporary culture and is rooted in his love for music, comics, tattoos and street art. He loves telling stories, and is interested in uncovering the social interactions that drive culture.  

He seeks to capture these moments in bold lines & shapes.  His compositions focuses on a strong use of characters intermingled with typography and patterns. He aims to help brands bring people together through the stories embedded in his illustrations.

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Topics we discuss:

• Listening and Asking questions as key to navigating conversation
• Culture and what shapes culture
• Current cultural norms and changes
• Representation in the arts
• Telling Stories
• Making choices

References:

• Ashwin's Books
• Ashwin's Website
• Culture
• Mores
• Jordan Peterson (YouTube)
• Ethos

Credits:

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

The power of investing in yourself and your identity is truly powerful.

But do you know how powerful it can be?

Our guest Natalie Christensen demonstrates this power in her chosen domain of film. As a film creator she reimagines ways in which she can implement characters of diversity not typical of their common stereotyped characters. But rather give them a role that redefines the way we previously viewed them. As a woman of mixed ethnicity, Natalie demonstrates the power of identity through her compassion and desire to share her love of film. As for the wider audience, the call for change and creativity to be brought in the world is something that calls for a listen.

Today we are with Natalie Christensen.  Natalie is a second-year film production student in the School of Film and Television at Loyola Marymount University.

Her films and screenplays have won and been selected in festivals and screenplay competitions across the United States.

Along with her film, she has been a pianist for fourteen years, and produces music scores as well as solo work. In 2020 she released her sophomore album "Accidental Wine" under the artist name Renaissance Woman.

She is also an activist who organized and created a protest group in 2020 called Henrico Justice in her county in Virginia, which held three successful protests until she returned to school. More recently, she planned a Black-Asian Solidarity March in Los Angeles and formed an API Student Coalition at her university.

Her art focuses around pressing issues in the world today, and stories she believes can change the world for the better.

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Topics we discuss:

• Compassion
• Defining difficult conversations
• "Making others feel a certain way"
• Emotional IQ
• Directing
• Being a leader and being vulnerable
• Vulnerability
• Racism…not just teaching white people
  • Mixed Race
  • Internalized Racism
• Her experience with racism
• Dynamics of API and the monolith of API

References:

• Her Movie
• Non-Violent Communication (Book)
• Takada Rooks' episode with M.I.C.
• Episode with Dr. Grant
• Green Book (Movie)
• Perspective Readers
• Model Minority

The power of investing in yourself and your identity is truly powerful.

But do you know how powerful it can be?

Our guest Natalie Christensen demonstrates this power in her chosen domain of film. As a film creator she reimagines ways in which she can implement characters of diversity not typical of their common stereotyped characters. But rather give them a role that redefines the way we previously viewed them. As a woman of mixed ethnicity, Natalie demonstrates the power of identity through her compassion and desire to share her love of film. As for the wider audience, the call for change and creativity to be brought in the world is something that calls for a listen.

Today we are with Natalie Christensen.  Natalie is a second-year film production student in the School of Film and Television at Loyola Marymount University.

Her films and screenplays have won and been selected in festivals and screenplay competitions across the United States.

Along with her film, she has been a pianist for fourteen years, and produces music scores as well as solo work. In 2020 she released her sophomore album "Accidental Wine" under the artist name Renaissance Woman.

She is also an activist who organized and created a protest group in 2020 called Henrico Justice in her county in Virginia, which held three successful protests until she returned to school. More recently, she planned a Black-Asian Solidarity March in Los Angeles and formed an API Student Coalition at her university.

Her art focuses around pressing issues in the world today, and stories she believes can change the world for the better.

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Topics we discuss:

• Compassion
• Defining difficult conversations
• "Making others feel a certain way"
• Emotional IQ
• Directing
• Being a leader and being vulnerable
• Vulnerability
• Racism…not just teaching white people
  • Mixed Race
  • Internalized Racism
• Her experience with racism
• Dynamics of API and the monolith of API

References:

• Her Movie
• Non-Violent Communication (Book)
• Takada Rooks' episode with M.I.C.
• Episode with Dr. Grant
• Green Book (Movie)
• Perspective Readers
• Model Minority

What helps you answer and explore the question, who are you?

Answers will vary.

At the most simplistic level, responses to this question can be found in aspects of our life such as passions and self-reflection.

In addition, this question can be reflected in how we respond and treat others, or better yet how we treat ourselves.

Since August is dedicated to the pursuit of happiness, a conversation of becoming one with yourself couldn’t be better timing.

How you can learn to answer the question of who we are, introduces our guest this week, Yvonne Marchese. She joins us in conversation to share her life journey and passions with us. She removes the boundaries placed on her, by her ability to be one with herself which she has found to make the presence of a new day and the present an exciting journey.

Yvonne Marchese is the host of the Late Bloomer Living Podcast, a professional photographer, mom, wife and serial pivoter.

She grew up in El Paso, Texas. In her twenties she sold everything she owned to follow a lifelong dream... moving to New York City where she worked as an actress for 10 years.

She now lives in Norwalk, CT, telling people's stories with her camera and a microphone. Yvonne is of the opinion that stories can change lives… maybe not in an instant, but in laying the seeds of possibility. She's someone who works every day to embrace big, scary, beautiful change and believes it’s never too late to pursue a dream.

It's that belief that led her to start a photography business in her 40s and a podcast in her 50s. She is on a mission to redefine society's ideas on aging and exploring how to live a life by design.

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Topics we discuss:

• Staying curious
  • My reaction to situations.
  • Focusing on yourself
  • Ask about experience not opinion
• Negative self-talk
  • Negative self-talk is a bad habit.
  • You learn to place limits on yourself.
• Mediating and exercises
  • 30-day experiment
  • Getting energy from telling stories
  • Helped create excitement in her life.
• The limit is yourself
  • Found peace in mediation and exercise.
  • How we determine the outcome of our life.
  • Learning to love the process.
• Raising kids
  • Independence takes over.
  • The joy they provide.
  • How perspectives change.

References:

• Mel Robbins Book (5 second rule)
• Simone Knego's Episode
• Psychology of Belief (Book)
• Plotzing - Definition
• Podcast: The Longest Shortest time

Credits:

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

What helps you answer and explore the question, who are you?

Answers will vary.

At the most simplistic level, responses to this question can be found in aspects of our life such as passions and self-reflection.

In addition, this question can be reflected in how we respond and treat others, or better yet how we treat ourselves.

Since August is dedicated to the pursuit of happiness, a conversation of becoming one with yourself couldn’t be better timing.

How you can learn to answer the question of who we are, introduces our guest this week, Yvonne Marchese. She joins us in conversation to share her life journey and passions with us. She removes the boundaries placed on her, by her ability to be one with herself which she has found to make the presence of a new day and the present an exciting journey.

Yvonne Marchese is the host of the Late Bloomer Living Podcast, a professional photographer, mom, wife and serial pivoter.

She grew up in El Paso, Texas. In her twenties she sold everything she owned to follow a lifelong dream... moving to New York City where she worked as an actress for 10 years.

She now lives in Norwalk, CT, telling people's stories with her camera and a microphone. Yvonne is of the opinion that stories can change lives… maybe not in an instant, but in laying the seeds of possibility. She's someone who works every day to embrace big, scary, beautiful change and believes it’s never too late to pursue a dream.

It's that belief that led her to start a photography business in her 40s and a podcast in her 50s. She is on a mission to redefine society's ideas on aging and exploring how to live a life by design.

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Topics we discuss:

• Staying curious
  • My reaction to situations.
  • Focusing on yourself
  • Ask about experience not opinion
• Negative self-talk
  • Negative self-talk is a bad habit.
  • You learn to place limits on yourself.
• Mediating and exercises
  • 30-day experiment
  • Getting energy from telling stories
  • Helped create excitement in her life.
• The limit is yourself
  • Found peace in mediation and exercise.
  • How we determine the outcome of our life.
  • Learning to love the process.
• Raising kids
  • Independence takes over.
  • The joy they provide.
  • How perspectives change.

References:

• Mel Robbins Book (5 second rule)
• Simone Knego's Episode
• Psychology of Belief (Book)
• Plotzing - Definition
• Podcast: The Longest Shortest time

Credits:

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

“Prioritize the relationship over being right.” - Benjamin Mathes 

How much power do you give your ego? 

Our minds are constantly at war with our ego. This war can stunt growth and the ability to reach our true potential because, with ego there is pride. 

Our Guest Benjamin Mathes encourages us to unravel the layers we have built protecting our ego. Once we allow those layers to unravel, we can then find the importance of creating a “Healthy ego”. But first, we must witness our ego without passing judgment. 

Today we are with Benjamin Mathes.  Benjamin has been an actor for over 20 years. On film, television, and stage he has worked with artists such as Clint Eastwood,  Alan Arkin, Sam Raimi, Bradley Cooper, Andy Garcia, Chris Rock, and Brian Grazer.

He has served as an acting coach for Warner Brothers, HBO, and currently for Netflix. Internationally, he runs acting retreats in Ireland, and his career workshops have been held around the world. He is a certified Associate Teacher of Fitzmaurice Voicework®, and has served as vocal and dialect coach for major motion pictures, network television, and theatres around the country.

He is the author of four books: Thought Lozenges for Artists; a daringly optimistic, “open-where-you-want” look into the creative process. “CRASH: Unstuck Yourself”, a guided journal designed to directly combat the blocks holding us from our creative potential.  “You, the Career” offers a holistic approach to life and art that allows you to have the career you want without losing the person you are.  His most recent book, “Short Paragraphs on Listening”, draws from his experience Free Listening on the streets and is an open-where-you-want book about the power of listening.

Lastly, if that's not enough, Benjamin is the founder of Urban Confessional: A Free Listening Movement. Started as a way to challenge conventional actor training, Urban Confessional is a community of artists who believe people should be heard. They stand on street corners all over the world with signs that say "Free Listening" — and you can imagine what happens next. Their work has been featured in magazines, academic publications, and blogs, and on radio and television.  And is now in over 70 countries with thousands of volunteers.

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Topics we discuss:

• Shutting up
  • Keeps the ego in check.
  • Prioritize relationships over being right.
  • Cooling down the need to dominate.
• Is there anything you have left to say?
  • Allows you to fully hear the person.
  • How you can close a conversation.
  • Prioritizes well -being.
• Understanding your own ego
  • He learned from religious and artistic practices.
  • Helping people develop a healthy version of the ego.
  • Divorce helped investigate his ego.
• Practical explanation of ego
  • Ego is not the problem, our relationship with ego is the problem.
  • We can over define ourselves.
  • If we ignore our differences, it hurts the healthy ego.
• Kids vs. Adults
  • Younger kids have a healthier ego.
  • As you grow you create an unhealthier sense of ego.

References:

• Bluey on Disney+
• Urban Confessional
  • Free Listening

Tristan Coopersmith Episode

“Prioritize the relationship over being right.” - Benjamin Mathes 

How much power do you give your ego? 

Our minds are constantly at war with our ego. This war can stunt growth and the ability to reach our true potential because, with ego there is pride. 

Our Guest Benjamin Mathes encourages us to unravel the layers we have built protecting our ego. Once we allow those layers to unravel, we can then find the importance of creating a “Healthy ego”. But first, we must witness our ego without passing judgment. 

Today we are with Benjamin Mathes.  Benjamin has been an actor for over 20 years. On film, television, and stage he has worked with artists such as Clint Eastwood,  Alan Arkin, Sam Raimi, Bradley Cooper, Andy Garcia, Chris Rock, and Brian Grazer.

He has served as an acting coach for Warner Brothers, HBO, and currently for Netflix. Internationally, he runs acting retreats in Ireland, and his career workshops have been held around the world. He is a certified Associate Teacher of Fitzmaurice Voicework®, and has served as vocal and dialect coach for major motion pictures, network television, and theatres around the country.

He is the author of four books: Thought Lozenges for Artists; a daringly optimistic, “open-where-you-want” look into the creative process. “CRASH: Unstuck Yourself”, a guided journal designed to directly combat the blocks holding us from our creative potential.  “You, the Career” offers a holistic approach to life and art that allows you to have the career you want without losing the person you are.  His most recent book, “Short Paragraphs on Listening”, draws from his experience Free Listening on the streets and is an open-where-you-want book about the power of listening.

Lastly, if that's not enough, Benjamin is the founder of Urban Confessional: A Free Listening Movement. Started as a way to challenge conventional actor training, Urban Confessional is a community of artists who believe people should be heard. They stand on street corners all over the world with signs that say "Free Listening" — and you can imagine what happens next. Their work has been featured in magazines, academic publications, and blogs, and on radio and television.  And is now in over 70 countries with thousands of volunteers.

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Topics we discuss:

• Shutting up
  • Keeps the ego in check.
  • Prioritize relationships over being right.
  • Cooling down the need to dominate.
• Is there anything you have left to say?
  • Allows you to fully hear the person.
  • How you can close a conversation.
  • Prioritizes well -being.
• Understanding your own ego
  • He learned from religious and artistic practices.
  • Helping people develop a healthy version of the ego.
  • Divorce helped investigate his ego.
• Practical explanation of ego
  • Ego is not the problem, our relationship with ego is the problem.
  • We can over define ourselves.
  • If we ignore our differences, it hurts the healthy ego.
• Kids vs. Adults
  • Younger kids have a healthier ego.
  • As you grow you create an unhealthier sense of ego.

References:

• Bluey on Disney+
• Urban Confessional
  • Free Listening

Tristan Coopersmith Episode

How well do you listen?  How do you increase your capacity to listen?

How do you define laziness?

Devin shares some really helpful functional tips for listening.  He is a good soul and feels like the friend and family member we all need.

Devin practices compassion often and shares how he does it.  He is a remind of the fact that we get both and good from our parents and those that come before us.  We also get to chose what we keep and how we then raise our own children.  This conversation is a meandering exploration of listening, parenting, compassion, and even the concept of laziness.

“Get 1% better each day” – Devin Larkins

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Topics we discuss:

• Compassion
• Parenting
  • Listening to children
  • Allowing questioning
• What does it mean to be lazy
• Listening
• Justice and progress made

References:

Credits:

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

How well do you listen?  How do you increase your capacity to listen?

How do you define laziness?

Devin shares some really helpful functional tips for listening.  He is a good soul and feels like the friend and family member we all need.

Devin practices compassion often and shares how he does it.  He is a remind of the fact that we get both and good from our parents and those that come before us.  We also get to chose what we keep and how we then raise our own children.  This conversation is a meandering exploration of listening, parenting, compassion, and even the concept of laziness.

“Get 1% better each day” – Devin Larkins

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Topics we discuss:

• Compassion
• Parenting
  • Listening to children
  • Allowing questioning
• What does it mean to be lazy
• Listening
• Justice and progress made

References:

Credits:

Lead editor + Producer: Ruf Holmes

Music:

Main Theme: "Eaze Does It" by Shye Eaze and DJ Rufbeats, a More In Common Podcast Exclusive.

All music created by DJ Rufbeats

True free thinkers are few and far between. At More In Common Podcast, the importance of hiring people who challenge what you're doing and thinking is what our guest, and former producer, Ruf Holmes reflected on. But he's much more than a producer; he's an individual filled with talent and creativity who never fails to offer great insight.

Now it’s his turn to take the mic as he reflects on his time as our producer, discusses his personal life and important current issues. Although it's the end of an era for our talented producer we thank him for the impact and dedication he displayed, we honor you!

“Compassion most of all is listening and hearing”- Ruff Holmes.  

Today we are with Felipe Blue.  He is More Than Therapy’s Founder, Lead Therapist, and Award-Winning Author Felipe helps families, couples, and individuals navigate the stages of their life by providing necessary coping skills for their emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.

He provides mental health and addictions therapy, family therapy, individual therapy, life coaching, peer support, supervision and consultations. When he is not attending to his or other’s mental health, he is a writer, producer and songwriter, poet, photographer, videographer, graphic artist, and more.

Topics we discuss:

• Growth over the two years with More in Common
  • Clear and constant communication.
  • Fear of the follow up got better.
  • Learned how to understand people's personalities better.
• Editing and listening to conversations of guests
  • Found many lessons in ways people view life.
  • Offered a multitude of perspectives.
• False interpretation of the “Black agenda”
  • The real agenda is to live and survive in this world.
  • Misconception on what the meaning is, people view it in a negative light.
  • It’s a way to live and think freely.
• Systems that are in place holding back groups
  • Systematic racism simplified.
  • All systems have a dramatic impact on success.

References:

• His Website
• Jim Crow South
• Sharecropping
• Rainbow Row?
• "Sundownish"
• Forming of Australia