Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating

Big Announcement From Kristen!!

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0400

Hey friends! Kristen here! I'm dropping into the LFTM feed today to let you know about my brand new podcast - The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast!

I couldn't start off on this new season of my podcasting journey without letting yall know about the show and without saying thank you for all your love and support over the years! After all, yall are a huge reason why I fell in love with podcasting in the first place!

I would love for you to come over and listen to the show! And if you know a youth pastor's wife, it would mean the world to me if you would share the show with her!

The first three episodes of The Youth Pastor's Wife Podcast are available now so you can start listening today!

I'm so excited to see what God has in store for this new podcast!

The End of an Era

Wed, 07 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0400

Wow. We can’t really believe that we’re here. In some ways, it seems like the past 6 years have absolutely flown by. In other ways, it seems like we’re limping across this finish line after all of the turmoil and upheaval of the past year. Either way, we are so, so grateful for all of you and are mindful of the Lord’s goodness in all things. We are going to spend this last episode reflecting on the good times, the sad times, the funny times and everything in-between as we close out the Looking For The Middle journey as we have known it.

We have a very special “guest" with us and you do not want to miss it!

Be sure to join our Facebook group here if you want to stay in the loop about what is next for LFTM!

It’s the Final CouchCast…

Wed, 31 Jan 2024 12:05:00 -0400

If you sang that title in your head like I did… you are my people! haha

This is the second to final episode and we are feeling nostalgic so this is a bit of a full-circle moment. We are taking it back to the days of random numbers and topics we don’t know ahead of time like the early days of CouchCast. So, sit back, and enjoy as we answer all your questions one last time!

What to Do With an Extended Season of (Unwanted) Singleness

Wed, 24 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0400

Do you find yourself in a period of being single for longer than you had hoped or planned? Even if this isn’t you right now, there’s a good chance it has been you at some point, and today we’re diving into how to navigate this season and what it looks like to honor the Lord even in a period of life you might not have picked.

Make the Most of Your Online Dating Profile

Wed, 17 Jan 2024 08:56:19 -0400

January and February are the months with the highest traffic on online dating apps for the whole year! Don’t miss out on those quality matches and messages… we’re here to help you get your profile in tip top shape.

Why is the Church Obsessed with Everyone Getting Married?

Wed, 13 Dec 2023 11:11:30 -0400

You guys… this week’s episode is a mess! I am just warning you! We sat down to record and before we knew it, the building was overrun with people and then suddenly there were people all over the outside and they were replacing the gutters. We are all kids of distracted and there is all kinds of noise. SO SORRY!! We did our best guys… haha

Practical Tips for Not “Wasting Your Life” in a Season of Singleness

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 09:02:36 -0400

Last season we touched on this idea from a more philosophical point of view… today, we’re getting into more of what this idea looks like practically.

We’ve Got Some Explaining To Do!

Wed, 29 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0400

We’re back from our little, unexpected, unannounced, poorly executed mini-mid-season-sabbatical! Sorry about that guys… there has been A LOT going on. We get into all of that today and we will be back to our regularly scheduled programming as usual next week!

LFTM Revisited: How to Simplify Dating

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 10:49:06 -0300

We mentioned last week that we have been running on fumes the past couple of weeks… a lot going on personally, with work, and just all around. We hoped we’d be back on track this week, but we’re not quite there yet. So, just bear with us just a little longer and we’ll be back to normal (as normal as you can expect from us) in the next couple of weeks!

3 Questions. 3 Answers!

Wed, 25 Oct 2023 14:57:56 -0300

We’re tackling some of your questions today!!

Are My Feelings True?

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 11:21:27 -0300

Do you ever wonder if you’re wanting to actually date THIS person or if you’re just wanting ANY person to fill a void that you feel in your life? Today, we’re going to tackle this question and talk through several scenarios where you may find yourself in this place. And, then, as always, we’re going to work through how to get out of it!

Let’s Catch Up On Life!

Fri, 13 Oct 2023 14:46:56 -0300

Hello, long lost friends! Goodness, this off-season seemed especially long! We have missed you guys and have so much to talk about… so, jump in with this week’s episode and let’s have a fun season!

Rapid Fire…Your Questions Answered!

Wed, 17 May 2023 06:00:00 -0300

Today is the Season 10 Finale! And, we’re getting through as many of your questions as possible. All bets are off. There are no filters. Here we go!

Dating in Church… the Good, the Bad, and the Weird

Wed, 10 May 2023 06:00:00 -0300

This is definitely one of those episodes where the point is that we all know we’re not alone! Dating in church can be just plain weird sometimes. There are so many pitfalls and awkward situations that are uniquely Christian. Today, we’re diving into all the weirdness, and while we may not actually solve anything, we will definitely all leave feeling decidedly less alone.

Biblical Manhood and Womanhood… Through the Lens of Proverbs

Wed, 03 May 2023 06:00:00 -0300

This episode has been in the works for a few seasons now! We wanted to give it the preparation and thought it deserved… so, now, we’re jumping in and tackling this topic with the book of Proverbs as our jumping off point. We’re looking at the Proverbs 31 woman and then the Proverbs 1-30 man too!

The Art of the Set-Up

Wed, 26 Apr 2023 06:00:00 -0300

Whether you’re the one being set up, or the one doing the setting up… we’ve been on both sides of this delicate topic and we’re talking about the whole process from start to finish from both sides!

Letters to My Younger Self on Dating

Wed, 19 Apr 2023 06:00:00 -0300

Do you ever look back and wish you had been able to tell the younger version of yourself that everything would be ok? Or, maybe you want to tell yourself to snap out of it and get your act together? Here’s what we would have told ourselves if we had that chance!

LFTM Revisited: Early Date Expectations

Wed, 12 Apr 2023 06:00:00 -0300

Dalton has been a bit under the weather and we haven’t been able to record this week. We’ll be back next week with our next new episode, but until then, here’s one of your favorites for you to listen to again!

Oh, those early, awkward, unsure dates.... they're the worst, right? Please tell me I'm not the only one?! One thing that has made all the difference for me is know what to expect going into them. What to expect of the guy AND the date. Today, Dalton and I are talking about what are reasonable and unreasonable expectations to have going into those first few dates with someone new.

How to Simplify Dating

Wed, 05 Apr 2023 06:00:00 -0300

We talk (and complain) a lot about how dating is a complicated and convoluted process and that you don’t want to complicate it more. But, we don’t really talk all that much about how to actually simplify the process. So, let’s do that today!

If I Just Had ______________, My Life Would Be Better

Wed, 29 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0300

Do you ever feel like there’s something missing in your life and if you could just have that one thing, then your life would be better? Complete, even? It’s so easy to push aside the satisfaction and contentment we should look for from Christ and put “things” into that place instead. Sometimes it seems like God doesn’t even understand what it is that you’re walking through. We get it. We’ve been there. We are there. This week’s episode is a little more raw, we’re talking the walls down and speaking from the heart today.

To Pray or Not to Pray

Wed, 22 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0300

That is the question...

Today we’re looking at lots of different scenarios along a dating timeline and discussing whether or not it’s a good idea to pray with your significant other and for your significant other in those scenarios. This is a really sensitive topic and we’re trying to do it justice, while still being clear and offering a Biblical perspective.

Why Is Clarity a Four-Letter Word in Dating?

Wed, 15 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0300

Why is it that everyone wants clarity in dating and at the same time everyone also feels like clarity is greatly lacking in dating? If everyone wants clarity, and yet no-one’s getting clarity, we have a problem on our hands, right? This week, we’re taking a look at why clarity is so important, what some of the major hindrances to it in dating, and what to do about it!

CouchCast: Denominations… How Different Is Too Different?

Fri, 10 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0400

Denominations can cause a lot of confusion when it comes to dating sometimes! There’s a lot of overlap, but there’s a lot of differences too and discerning which are ok and which aren’t can be tricky. We’re walking through our thought processes when it comes to this and you get to come along for the ride!

Why Missionary Dating is So Dangerous

Wed, 08 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0400

We’re digging into the topic of missionary dating today and it’s a great discussion of what to be on the lookout for if you’re concerned that maybe this is the situation you’re in, what it means to be equally yoked, and more.

Don’t Waste Your Dating

Wed, 01 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0400

This week’s episode is the conclusion to the conversation we started last week with Don’t Waste Your Singleness. We’re moving into the realm of dating this week and what it looks like to not waste the time you have as you’re getting to know someone. What’s the purpose of dating? Is time ever really wasted? How can you be sure you’re not wasting time? All questions we’re getting into this week!

CouchCast: A Live Swiping Extravaganza

Fri, 24 Feb 2023 12:07:06 -0400

You guys loved it the last time we had some live swiping through dating apps on an episode, so we made an entire CouchCast out of it. There is no filter and all bets are off as to what we’re going to find! This is probably the longest CouchCast we’ve ever done… and probably the one we laughed through the most!

Don’t Waste Your Singleness!

Wed, 22 Feb 2023 06:00:00 -0400

We’re back!!! Season 10 is here and we’re so excited! We’re kicking off the season taking a look at the idea of making the most of the time you’ve been given as a single person. Instead of seeing it as a burden to carry, how can you be making the most of this time to the glory of God?

What Do I Do If ______________ ??

Wed, 14 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0400

It's the season finale of season 9!! And, it's our question episode for this season all rolled into one. This week, we're answering the question
"what do I do if/when _________?" You guys supplied the answers and now we're talking about them. There is a wide variety of topics being covered today... everything from what to do if you're always being ghosted, how to get up the nerve to approach the guy in your small group that you like, and hypnotism (???). Listen all the way to the end to get the details on that one!

How Do I Know I’m ”Ready” for Marriage?

Wed, 07 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0400

Have you ever wondered if you met "the one" tomorrow would you be ready to pursue marriage? We've probably all asked ourselves that at some point, but it's not always clear what the answer is. So, this week, we're going through some things to be on the lookout for.... patterns you want to see in your life, in thought word and deed, that will all help spell out whether you're ready to take the (hypothetical) plunge or not!

Men (and women) Tell All! An Interview with Ben & Lindsay

Wed, 30 Nov 2022 08:39:22 -0400

This season's Men Tell All episode is a bit different! We're interviewing Ben and his wife Lindsay this week to get some insight into what dating as a Christian couple really looks like. What were the most important and helpful things as they navigated dating, engagement, and now marriage? What is their best advice to those still looking? They have a ton of wisdom!

Why Dating is not a Biblical Construct... and What to Do About It

Wed, 23 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0400

We've all heard it a million times... dating isn't actually in the Bible. We get it, it's not. But, what do you do instead? While the actual dating process isn't in the Bible anywhere, there is plenty within the pages of Scripture about what a man or woman who is following God should look like. There is verse after verse talking about the Sovereignty and Love of God. There are so many principles in God's Word that guide what any relationship between believers should look like. Those things are what we are talking about today and we're weaving them into a specific dating context and how you can overlay so much of Scripture to your dating relationships.

When to Just Shut Up

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0400

You like him... he likes you... seems like a dream scenario, right? Should you always go for it, if that's the case? Are there ever times when you still shouldn't say anything? In this week's episode, we're looking at those times when maybe the best thing to do is just shut up and not say anything. Maybe it's not forever, it's just for right now... we're looking at how to speak up after you've decided not to too.

Also... apologies for the sound issues w/Bethany's microphone! It decided to be annoying this week and we didn't know it until we were done!

CouchCast: Real Talk (the follow up)

Fri, 11 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0400

We're circling back to the online dating app discussion we started in Wednesday's episode... things we see a lot that are frustrating, some that maybe we're being too picky about, and some that are just downright weird. You don't want to miss this... there is live swiping going on as we record!

Real Talk

Wed, 09 Nov 2022 06:11:00 -0400

Y'all, we're calling an audible this week! This is not what we originally had on the schedule... we just recorded it this week even. But, this was probably one of the most vulnerable and unguarded conversations we've ever had on this show. We're taking all of the filters off and talking about where we both are in our singleness right now... what we're thinking, what's hard, what we're wrestling with, and where we see it going. I know it will be relatable and hopefully encouraging to you guys too!

Things to Talk About Before You Get Engaged

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 08:35:04 -0300

Whether you're about to engaged, newly dating someone, or not dating anyone at all, this episode is for you! Knowing when to talk about what can be tricky when you're navigating a dating relationship and especially as you get more serious, it's not always obvious what more serious topics you should be talking about.... and how seriously is appropriate, too! So, today we're going through a whole host of different things that you should be talking about before he pops the question!

Backstage Pass: Should the Person You’re Dating ”Make You Happy”?

Fri, 28 Oct 2022 12:06:10 -0300

This Backstage Pass actually stems from a conversation we were having off the air that we thought would be helpful and encouraging to you guys too? Should the person you're dating be the source of your happiness? This was definitely a soapbox topic for one of us... hint: it wasn't Bethany ;)

Dalton’s Perspective on Our Most Popular Questions

Wed, 26 Oct 2022 07:53:15 -0300

There are several questions that we have gotten way more than any others and we've talked about them in previous episodes or CouchCasts, but this week, we're throwing all of them at Dalton to get a guy's perspective on some of your most burning questions! What do guys really think of girls asking them out? How can we know if a guy is interested or if he's just being nice? Answers to those and so much more in this week's episode!

The Circle Back

Wed, 19 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0300

This episode comes straight from a conversation we had with one of our friends a couple of months back, talking about circling back to a previous relationship after an amicable break-up. When is it a good idea? Who should do the circling back? Why did you break-up? How did you leave it at the break-up? All questions we're diving into today!

CouchCast: How Do I Seek Validation from God Rather than the Guy I’m Dating?

Fri, 14 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0300

This is a common struggle for all of us! We seek to get our validation, worth, and joy from the people around us rather than from God, Himself. So, in a dating context if you're looking to get that from the person you're dating, or the person that you want to be going out with, how do you break that cycle?

Why is Christian Dating so Complicated?

Wed, 12 Oct 2022 06:01:00 -0300

We all know, firsthand, that dating as a Christian is really complicated these days! Why is that though?? We're doing a deep dive in this week's episode to figure out some reasons why and what we can do to fix them!

Women Tell All! w/Mel New & IYKYK Christian Dating

Wed, 05 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0300

This is our first ever Women Tell All episode and we couldn't be happier to have Mel on the show! She founded IYKYK Christian Dating almost two years ago and has created a vibrant community for Christian singles online and in-person through the mixers they have hosted all over the country. They're coming to ATL this month!! So, if you're local and want to sign up, the link is below for tickets. Dalton and I will be there and we're working on some ideas for recording live from the event too! Today, we're talking about trends in Christian dating that she sees as they travel, as well as ways the church gets dating right and where they could improve, we talk about ghosting and how it has no place in Christian circles, and so much more! IYKYK Christian Dating Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/iykykchristiandating ATL Mixer Tickets: https://iykykdating.ticketspice.com/atlanta-ga-iykyk-dating-mixer--ages-23-39--october-22

Backstage Pass: Is it Ok to Ask a Girl Out More Than Once?

Fri, 30 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0300

In this week's Backstage Pass, one of our guy listeners wants to know how it would be taken if he asked a girl out again who has previously said no... more details of the situation in the episode, but we break down the different possible reasons and outcomes and come up with an answer!

What to Look for When You’re Looking: A Discussion of Knights in Shining Armor and Supermodels

Wed, 28 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0300

Whew! That title was a mouthful! This week's episode stemmed from a conversation we had about how what we all tend to look for in someone to date is really what makes dating itself so difficult! If we had a more realistic view of people, and who God created them to be, we might not be in this mess. So, this week we're taking a look at some of the things we should look for instead!

Early Date Expectations

Wed, 21 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0300

CouchCast: How Can I Be More Approachable?

Fri, 16 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0300

1st CouchCast of the season! ....and Dalton's 1st CouchCast ever! We went back to the old days and I didn't tell him the question before we answered it. So, take a listen and find out how to be more approachable to guys... straight from a guy himself!

The One With the Big Announcement

Wed, 14 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0300

I have been counting down the days until you guys could hear this for a LONG time now! I can't wait for you to finally know what we've been keeping under wraps. We're all so excited and would love to know your thoughts!! Also... make sure you listen ALL the way to the end for a hilarious outtake!

Exciting Summer Announcement!

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 17:55:12 -0300

Hey Guys! Just a quick drop-in to make you all aware of an exciting and fun opportunity for the end of this summer! Hope to see a bunch of you there!

Are We Too Distracted With ”Looking”?

Wed, 25 May 2022 06:00:00 -0300

We've been looking for the middle for a while around here... but, one thing we've kind of realized is that maybe we're all too distracted with the "looking" and not focused enough on being found. Let's discuss!

CouchCast Revisited: The Dreaded DTR

Fri, 20 May 2022 06:00:00 -0300

Today, we're taking it wayyy back to a CouchCast that was between season 1 and season 2. The Dreaded DTR. This one isn't so much that our thoughts have changed completely, but it's more of an evolution of thought as we've grown, matured, had more dating experience. Let us know what you think!

When Being Single in the Church Feels Lonely

Wed, 18 May 2022 06:00:00 -0300

Does it sometimes feel like you're the first and only person to ever be single in the church? Everywhere you turn, there are married, or nearly married people? In today's episode, we're discussing reasons why that may be, but even more importantly, we're discussing 5 things you can do to alleviate that feeling of loneliness.

LFTM Unfiltered

Wed, 11 May 2022 06:00:00 -0300

This week is our "question episode" and this season's question was "What do you want to hear our unfiltered, unscripted responses about?". We took your questions/topics from Facebook and Instagram and you're getting our thoughts on those sans filter. Topics range from...finding guys that won't be intimidated by a successful woman... to getting over someone you've never actually dated... to how to handle your friend dating a guy she knew you liked. It's going to be fun!

Backstage Pass: How Do I Bring Up Marriage?

Fri, 06 May 2022 06:00:00 -0300

We got this question from a male listener who has been dating his girlfriend for a while now and wants to know how to bring up discussions about marriage... not a proposal necessarily, but starting to broach the subject of spending a lifetime together. There are a lot of different factors to this, but we're taking a look at several common ones.

8 Ways to End Up Alone (...and how to avoid them)

Wed, 04 May 2022 06:00:00 -0300

Well, this episode is a bit of a departure from what we would normally talk about, but as we've gone through this season, we've found that we've repeated the phrase "...and that's a good way to end up alone" a lot, so we decided to just devote a whole episode to it! So, we're covering all sorts of common things we all do that if we're not careful will ensure that we end up alone.

10 Common Dating Fears And What To Do About Them

Wed, 27 Apr 2022 11:00:29 -0300

We are diving into the things we're probably all scared of to some level but don't want to admit to! Are you afraid you'll become your parents? Are you afraid you're not "ready"? Are you afraid you don't know how to date to begin with? Well, we are right there with you... or, we have been at some point and can totally relate to how that can affect how you approach relationships. So, in this episode, we're breaking these fears down and taking a look at what you can replace it with instead.

Backstage Pass: Help! I Get Attached too Quickly

Fri, 22 Apr 2022 16:47:05 -0300

This was a really great question from one of our guy listeners! More often than not, it's us girls who talk about getting attached too quickly, but this is an issue that guys run into too, so today we're taking a look at how to navigate this tough situation and give some insight into the female perspective on this!

Things We Wish Our Moms (Generation) Knew

Wed, 20 Apr 2022 06:00:00 -0300

Dating is not what it once was! That's our starting point today and we're diving deeper into this idea and hopefully giving some clarity to a topic that seems to be at odds with older generations sometimes.

CouchCast on Steroids (Part 2)

Wed, 13 Apr 2022 06:00:00 -0300

We're continuing our Q&A series from our Facebook Group from last week... this week's questions include:

How do you regain trust within yourself and eventually with someone when your trust was 100% broken by the person you dated previously?
I’d love to hear more about dating in your 30s! I know there was an episode of dating in your 20s versus your 30s, but maybe there could be one specifically about 30s and how to navigate that. I feel like there are some unique challenges because both of the people typically have more established/rooted lives
Ohhh could y’all talk a little about being single and dating while in Ministry?
Something about how to encourage other single friends to be more content in the season…I have by no means perfected it but I have learned a lot from your podcast and other resources to be okay not being in a relationship. However, I have several friends who are often chase guys or complain about not being married yet/put their life on hold waiting for a guy, so advice on how to respond to them and also walk alongside each other in singleness together would be cool to hear!
How to bring up the past when those conversations don't come up naturally?

CouchCast Revisited: Can Guys & Girls Be Just Friends?

Fri, 08 Apr 2022 06:00:00 -0300

We're pulling another CouchCast from the archives and taking a look at how our opinions and thoughts have changed since we first recorded it. With this one, I don't know that they have "changed" so much as they've just evolved and matured. So, if you're wondering if you can just be friends with the guys in your life, take a listen and let us know what you think!

CouchCast on Steroids (Part 1)

Wed, 06 Apr 2022 08:32:50 -0300

A couple of weeks ago, we asked our Facebook group what they wanted to hear us talk about and there were so many great questions we couldn't narrow it down! So, we're answering them all instead! Rapid fire style and like a CouchCast on steroids.

Today's Questions:

1. Thoughts on dating someone who is divorced and/or has kids when you haven’t been divorced and don’t have kids.

2. How do you know if you’re dealing with a gut feeling, doubt, or self sabotage when you are first getting to know someone?

3. Am I closing myself off to opportunities to meet someone because I will only talk to guys that live in my area?

4. How to navigate when your best friend is dating someone you don’t approve of/get along with naturally?

5. When is a good time to bring up counseling when starting to date someone?

Opposite Day: What We’ve Learned from Each Other

Wed, 30 Mar 2022 06:00:00 -0300

Kristen and I have discovered that we're complete opposites when it comes to dating, in a lot of ways... But, we've also discovered that "opposite" can often mean "great learning opportunity" too! In this episode, we're both taking a look at some of the things we've learned along the way from each other and also taking a look at the value of having people in your life who aren't exactly like you when it comes to dating.

CouchCast Revisited: Should a Girl Ask a Guy Out?

Fri, 25 Mar 2022 10:23:08 -0300

I think this is probably the one topic that our thoughts have changed the most about since we originally recorded this CouchCast! It's also a huge lesson in "never say never..."

How to Approach Dating... Rules vs. Grace

Wed, 23 Mar 2022 06:00:00 -0300

If you're like us, it's easy to find yourself with a list of requirements and boxes to check that you're measuring this guy up to. But, is that really the best way of producing a happy future marriage? Maybe not? We're taking a look at how to approach your "list", expectations, and managing being a rule follower when it comes to dating today.

Should This Be Just a Crush or Should I Really Like This Guy?

Wed, 16 Mar 2022 09:32:04 -0300

We answered a similar question during the 12 Days of CouchCast last year and it quickly became our most popular episode of all time! So, we knew there was plenty here to discuss in a full episode too. In this episode, we're giving you several guidelines for determining if this is the kind of guy who you should really like or if he should just remain a crush. Questions to ask yourself and qualities to look for in him too!

Backstage Pass: Girl ”A” Likes Me. I Like Her Friend, Girl ”B”. What Do I Do?

Fri, 11 Mar 2022 06:00:00 -0400

This question came in from one of our dear guy listeners and we can feel his pain! We've both been in very similar situations over the years and it can be tricky. We're taking a look at this potential problem from several different angles and coming up with several suggestions for how to figure out where Girl "A" stands without blowing up any friendships in the process!

Common Online Dating Questions... How to Ask and Answer them Better

Wed, 09 Mar 2022 06:00:00 -0400

We all know that most of online dating is just managing to somehow stand out from the crowd! What better way to do that than with your answers to the most common questions you're going to be asked? We're giving you some great answers to questions, but that's not all... we're going to give you some alternative ways of asking them too. Just one more way to avoid blending in!

Do Opposites Really Attract?

Wed, 02 Mar 2022 06:00:00 -0400

Ok, we've all heard the age old adage "opposites attract".... do they really though? That's what we're taking a look at in this week's episode. Do opposites always attract? Does it matter which qualities are opposite? I mean, I don't want to date the boy version of me, but I don't want to be absolute polar opposites either. So, we're going to dive in and see what happens.

CouchCast Revisited: How Important Are Common Interests?

Fri, 25 Feb 2022 11:30:46 -0400

CouchCast is going to look a little different this season! We're going back into the archives, wayyy back into the archives, and we are picking out some CouchCast questions that we know our thoughts have changed on since we originally recorded it and then we're going to take another crack at it with our new and updated thoughts! This should be fun... so today, we're diving into common interests and how important they really are.

Men Tell All! An Interview with Kevin (and Kristen)

Wed, 23 Feb 2022 06:00:00 -0400

Ok guys... you've been (not so) patiently waiting for this! We are back and kicking things off with a bang! Kevin, Kristen's fiance, is here with us today and we are getting all of the details of their story. How they met, how they re-met, when they knew this was "the one", and what they've learned along the way. We can't wait for you guys to hear this!

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 12 - Do I Like Him or is it Just a Crush?

Fri, 24 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Merry Christmas!! We have reached our final day of the 12 days of CouchCast and Christmas is tomorrow! We hope you guys are all able to take some time to relax, recharge, and enjoy friends and family. But, before that... we're taking a look at ways to tell between actually liking someone or just having a crush on them. It can be tough to tell the difference at the beginning sometimes so we're going to explore the difference between the two!

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 11 - I‘m Jealous of My Friend and Her New Boyfriend, What Do I Do?

Thu, 23 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

So, your friend just started dating this new guy and he seems great, but now it's opened up this glaring hole in your life and you just want what she has... how do you combat the jealousy and bitterness that you might find creeping in? That's what we're diving into today!

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 10 - When to Bring Up Kids

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Well this one can be a doozy! Kids and when to have them can be a pressurized topic sometimes. When is the best time to bring up kids and not seem too "heavy"? What if you don't want to have biological kids? How do you approach all of these things with the guy you're dating?

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 9 - Why Does the Church Equate Marriage with Spiritual Maturity

Tue, 21 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

I bet you guys are all nodding your heads in agreement just after reading that title, aren't you? We sure were! It seems that the church at large holds up marriage as a symbol of spiritual maturity, but is that really even a valid assumption? Why does the church do this? Is it intentional? These are all things we're diving into today!

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 8 - When You‘re the Only Single Person Left at the Holidays

Mon, 20 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Does it seem like everyone has someone this Christmas? Do you feel like you're the only person who doesn't? We get it! We're speaking from our plentiful 1st hand experience on this one... things we've done, and are doing, to combat the loneliness and bitterness that threaten around this time of year!

12 Days of CouhCast: Day 7 - Can You Know ”Too Much” About Dating?

Sun, 19 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

We might be out of a job if talking and thinking about dating is a problem! haha The original question is a good one though.... is it possible to know too much about dating to the point that it is detrimental to your relationships? At it's core, I think this comes down to overthinking... knowing a lot about dating is helpful... overthinking a lot about dating is not. We're going to get into this all more in today's episode!

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 6 - Not Dating in a Bubble When Family Isn‘t Around

Sat, 18 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Not dating in a bubble can be tough enough as it is... add a toxic or distant family into the mix and it gets even tougher! When you're the only believer in your family and they just don't understand your standards, boundaries, and worldview, it can seem impossible! So, today we're taking a look at some ways to bring community into your relationship when your family isn't your closest community.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 5 - Moving On When the Guy I Like is Dating Someone Else

Fri, 17 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

We've all been there, right? You like this guy and have been trying to drop some hints, only to find out he's actually started dating someone else... not fun! It can almost feel like a break-up from your side, but he doesn't even know. We've got some tips and strategies for moving on even when it's hard.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 4 - Should You Always Have Important Conversations in Person?

Thu, 16 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Sometimes it's easier to remember everything you want to say if you write it down first, or you can talk without someone else sitting there waiting to respond, but does that mean it's ok to have big, important conversations (think DTR) over text message or a voice recording app?

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 3 - It‘s Not Halloween, but Let‘s Talk About Ghosting

Wed, 15 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

This question takes a different approach to the ghosting issue... what if you you both just don't text or call after a date? Is it still ghosting? Mutual ghosting? Does that make it ok?

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 2 - How Do I Help My Friend Not Stay Hung-Up Over This Guy?

Tue, 14 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

We got this question from a caring friend who has tried to tactfully tell her friend that she doesn't think the guy she's crushing on is actually interested.... and now, she's not sure where to go from here. We've been in this place, so today we're looking at ways to help your friend move on when the guy's just not interested but also keep your friendship intact at the same time.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 1 - I‘ve Been Blindsided by a Breakup, Now What Do I Do?

Mon, 13 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Honestly, we wish none of you guys ever had to deal with this, but unfortunately that's just not possible! When you've been broken up with out of the blue like this, it's easy to feel a little lost at sea, so to speak. This is something we've had to walk through and we'll be taking a look at some of the things that have helped us in the past.

What is Love?

Wed, 08 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Is this a loaded question or what?! But, what better time to answer it than at Christmas time when we are focused on the greatest demonstration of love ever? God sent His Son, to redeem His people in the ultimate display of love. We're taking a look at some of your common questions about love... how do I know I'm in love? When to say I love you? and more. Then, we're going to take a look at what we can learn about love from God's love for us.

Backstage Pass: Why is a Confidence in a Guy so Attractive?

Fri, 03 Dec 2021 07:48:45 -0400

We have talked a lot about confidence, and how attractive it is, on this podcast. So, the question was posed... WHY is it attractive? What is it about a confident guy that is just so attractive? That's the question we're answering today!

Being Single in the Church

Wed, 01 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0400

It's our "Question Episode" for this season! We asked you guys what are the hard parts and what are the good parts of being single in the church? And oh boy, did you guys have things to say! We created this episode entirely around the feedback we got from you.

It‘s Gameday!

Wed, 24 Nov 2021 06:00:00 -0400

This is a little different than our usual episode format! Since it's a holiday week, we're going to have some fun with it! Today, we're playing games... dating games to be specific... Would You Rather, True/False, and Never Have I Ever. It was super fun and if you go follow along on IG (@lftm_podcast) on release day, you can play too!

Then, we're going to take a look at the games we all tend to play when it comes to dating. Playing hard to get, stringing people along, all that sort of thing. We're going to take a look at what some of the most common games that you see in dating and then whether or not they're really a God honoring way to go about relationships.

CouchCast: How do I Stop the Self-Sabotage in Relationships?

Fri, 19 Nov 2021 06:00:00 -0400

This was one of our longest CouchCast episodes ever! We loved this conversation. As two girls who definitely have self-sabotage tendencies when it comes to relationships, we can definitely relate. We discuss what can cause this kind of thinking, what we should be thinking instead, how to overcome it, and the role your community plays in this.

Men Tell All! An Interview with Dalton

Wed, 17 Nov 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Our Men Tell All series returns with this interview with Dalton Teal. Dalton is 26 years old and works in full-time ministry. This was a great conversation that provided lots of insight into the male brain when it comes to dating, wisdom for pursuing Godly relationships, and plenty of laughs along the way. Normally, we trim these down and only release the full-length interview on Patreon, but we just couldn't decide what to cut out, so enjoy all of it!

Men Tell All: An Interview w/Jared - Uncut Version

Wed, 10 Nov 2021 06:00:00 -0400

If you follow us on Instagram (@lftm_podcast), you saw yesterday that we had some unexpected audio issues with this week's original episode and we're going to have to re-record part of it. So, in the meantime, enjoy this full, uncut interview with Jared that was previously only released on Patreon in its full length form.

In this Men Tell All episode, we interviewed Kristen's boss, Jared. He is a great godly husband and father who brings a great variety of perspective to this series. We ask him some of our tried and true questions as well as some new and different ones. It was a great discussion and we learned a lot!!

Backstage Pass: As a Guy, Should I Let My Female Friends Know I Want to Date Someone?

Fri, 05 Nov 2021 06:00:00 -0300

The answer to this question could go two ways... Are you interested in dating one of your friends or do you just want them to be on the lookout for someone you could date? We're taking a look at both scenarios in today's episode.

How to Talk to Single People

Wed, 03 Nov 2021 06:00:00 -0300

Let's be honest... it can be tricky sometimes trying to figure out what to say, or what not to say, to single friends. Whether you yourself are single or not, either way it can be tough. We're taking a look at some of the things that are really helpful and encouraging, and then some of the things that aren't really all that helpful too. We're also talking about extending lots of grace! **We go on several rabbit trails at the beginning. You've been warned! If that's not your thing, skip to about 15 minutes to get into it.

Dating in a Social Media Age

Wed, 27 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We all know the internet and social media are everywhere! This is not news to anyone... between ordering groceries online, buying a car online, it would naturally follow that we should just be able to order a husband from Amazon, right?! Dating in a social media age though isn't quite that simple. It's not all bad either. In today's episode, we're looking at some ways the internet and social media have helped dating (when used correctly) and then also some drawbacks to it as well.

CouchCast: Is it a Red Flag to Guys if I Haven‘t Ever Been in a Serious Relationship?

Fri, 22 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0300

I think this was Kristen's favorite ever CouchCast question! ....the person asking made a reference to The Bachelor in her question and that's all it took! If you find yourself in this same place of worrying about what potential dates might think of your previous dating history (or lack thereof), we're talking about several different perspectives you can take that will hopefully lessen that worry and burden!

Are We Equally Yoked?

Wed, 20 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0300

This term "equally yoked" gets thrown around a lot, but do you know how to apply it to your current or future relationships? Sometimes it gets over-simplified to "just marry someone who loves Jesus"... and sometimes we make it way more complicated than it has to be. So, today, we're taking a look at what 2 Corinthians 6:14 does say, what it doesn't say, and how you can take the principle behind it and apply it to your relationship, or future relationship, today.

It‘s Ok for Dating to be Fun!

Wed, 13 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We over-think. We over-complicate. We over-analyze. And in the process we end up looking at dating as a chore rather than a fun experience! It's ok for dating to be fun! Let's put some of that fun back into it.... we've got some tips and ideas for doing just that today.

Backstage Pass: What Can I Do to Make Myself More Attractive to a Girl?

Fri, 08 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0300

This was a great question from one of our male listeners! We're taking a look at those intangible things that really up the attractiveness factor outside of someone's looks!

What Are You Waiting For?

Wed, 06 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0300

If you heard last week's episode, you heard us talk about what it looks like when life doesn't go according to plan and you find yourself in a season of waiting. Today, we're going to take that a step further and look at what to do while you're waiting. We're answering questions like what are you actually waiting for? What's the purpose of waiting? and what to do in the meantime?

When Life Hasn‘t Gone According to Plan

Wed, 29 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We can all say this to some extent, right? Life never fully goes how we plan and especially when it comes to dating and relationships, we will most likely all find our lives going somewhat differently than we had planned. Does that mean God's forgotten us? Is He still good? What does His Word have to say about the feelings that come along with a life that didn't go according to plan?

CouchCast: When to Bring up Physical Boundaries

Fri, 24 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0300

There's a tricky balance between talking about the deeper, important things and "scaring someone off". A lot of it comes down to timing and how you choose to broach the subject in the first place. So, today, we're taking a look at those things and offering some advice from the times we've had these same conversations.

What Does Pursuit Look Like?

Wed, 22 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0300

This is one of our most requested topics! How do I know a guy's interested? What will he do when he is? Is he pursuing? Is it ok for me to pursue? We get all of these questions on the regular, so today we're breaking down pursuit... what it looks like, what it doesn't, how it looks at different relationship stages, and more!

Dating Advice from Kindergarten

Wed, 15 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We're convinced you learned everything you needed to know about dating before you ever left Kindergarten! And today, we're going to walk through the top 10 things on that list... clean up your own mess, use your words, keep your hands to yourself, and more!

Don‘t Date in a Bubble

Fri, 10 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0300

It's the second half of "Mantra Week" today and we're rounding things out with Bethany's mantra, "Don't Date in a Bubble". We're going to talk about what it looks like when you are dating in a bubble, what it looks like when you're not dating in a bubble, and what to do if you find yourself in a dating bubble but want to get out.

You Want to be With Someone Who Wants to be With You

Wed, 08 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0300

Season 7 is here! And we're kicking the season off with "Mantra Week". Over the past few seasons we've both developed what could be called our dating mantras... and if you've been around for a bit, you've for sure heard them! Kristen's is "You want to be with someone who wants to be with you!" So, to kick-off our new season with a bang, we've decided to do an entire episode on each of those mantras. This is going to be fun!

An Online Dating Deep Dive: From A Guy‘s Perspective

Fri, 03 Sep 2021 10:34:41 -0300

We've reached the end of online dating month! And, we saved the best for last. We can talk all day about how to date online and what to put in your profile and which pictures to use or which ones to not use, but does any of it really matter if it's not what makes an impression on the guys looking at your profile? Not really. So, we went straight to the guys and asked them their thoughts. Here's what we found...

An Online Dating Deep Dive: Dating Apps

Fri, 27 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0300

It's our last platform review day and today we're taking on the oh so infamous dating apps. Bumble, Hinge, and Coffee Meets Bagel are the three we're taking a look at. We've got tips for setting up a profile, how to use the apps effectively, and some pitfalls to watch out for too.

An Online Dating Deep Dive: Christian Mingle & Match.com

Fri, 20 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We're halfway through our deep dive into all things online dating! Up next in the line-up... Christian Mingle and Match.com. Bethany's 2nd favorite and least favorite... listen to find out which one is which!

An Online Dating Deep Dive: eHarmony

Fri, 13 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0300

Welcome to week 2 of our deep dive into online dating! Today kicks off several episodes taking a look at the specific sites and apps that are out there and giving an in-depth review of them. We're starting off with one of the longest running, most well known sites... eHarmony. This one is actually Bethany's favorite (at the moment) and the one Kristen hates the least, so that's saying something right there!

An Online Dating Deep Dive: Ten Things You Should Know Before You Start

Fri, 06 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0300

It's online dating month! We're taking a deep dive from beginning to end on the entire process of online dating. So, if you've never tried online dating before because it seems to intimidating and confusing, or if you've been away from the online dating world for a while, this is for you. We're going to break down the mindset you need to have going into it this week and then over the next few weeks we'll take an in-depth look at specific apps and sites as well as talk about online dating from guys' perspectives and get their insight into what they're looking for in a girl's profile too!

CouchCast: Help! My Friend is Dating an Unbeliever

Fri, 30 Jul 2021 06:00:00 -0300

If you've got a friend who it dating someone who is not, or doesn't seem to be, a Christian... approaching that conversation can fill you with equal parts terror and dread. It's kind of like your mom always used to say... "it's not what you say, as how you say it".

Today, we're going to give you some ideas for how to approach that and what your motivation and heart attitude should be as you reach out to your friend.

CouchCast: Navigating the InBetween... More than Friends, but Not Quite Dating

Fri, 23 Jul 2021 06:00:00 -0300

This week, you're basically going to be learning from both of us telling you to do exactly the opposite of what we've done. We have learned these lessons the hard way for sure! We've both been in this place... gotten out of this place... and lived to tell about it! So, just know that if you're in this super frustrating place in a situationship with a guy you know... there is light at the end of the tunnel!

CouchCast: Coordinating that 1st Long Distance Meeting

Fri, 16 Jul 2021 06:00:00 -0300

So you've been talking to this seemingly great guy for a while online and now it's time to meet in person for the first time... what should you do? What should you not do? We've got safety tips and more!

CouchCast: Is it Ok to Date Someone in a Different Life Stage?

Fri, 09 Jul 2021 07:19:01 -0300

We get asked a lot about how much of an age gap is too much in dating, but this question was a bit of a different twist on that... it's looking at life stages more than actual age. We go a lot of different directions with this and there is even a story about one of us almost getting attacked by a bird recently. You don't want to miss this! haha

CouchCast: Most Attractive Qualities in a Guy Outside of a Shared Faith

Fri, 02 Jul 2021 06:00:00 -0300

Whether or not he loves Jesus is obviously the most attractive thing, but this was a fun question asked by one of you guys... what are some of the other most attractive qualities to look for in someone? We throw out several of our top ones... confidence, decisive, and several more! We also look at a few that aren't so attractive ;)

Summer CouchCast Rewind: How to Let a Guy Know You're Interested

Fri, 25 Jun 2021 12:18:16 -0300

This is by far the most asked question we get! It can be tough figuring out how to let a guy know you're interested without becoming the pursuer. In today's CouchCast, we went directly to the experts and asked one of our guy friends the best way to really communicate this to them. We also talk about some of our go to flirting techniques so there's that too! ;)

Summer CouchCast Rewind: Is it Ever a Good Idea to Date Someone Who is Not a Christian?

Mon, 21 Jun 2021 21:31:51 -0300

Y'all, I somehow managed to not actually publish last Friday's CouchCast Rewind... so, guess what?! That means 2 this week... today and Friday! Enjoy :)

A great question that is not always fun to talk about, but it needs to be talked about... Is it ever ok to date someone who is not a Christian? That's what we're tackling today.

Summer CouchCast Rewind: How to Break-Up Well

Fri, 11 Jun 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We're on a season break, but we're pulling some popular CouchCasts from the archives for the month of June so you've got something to listen to!! :)

It doesn't matter whether you're the person being broken up with or you're the person doing the breaking up... it's not fun no matter how you look at it. But, there are some things you can do to make it a little better and be able to look back without any regrets. That's what we're talking about today!

Summer CouchCast Rewind: How to Pray for Your Future Husband

Fri, 04 Jun 2021 08:49:34 -0300

We're on a season break, but we're pulling some popular CouchCasts from the archives for the month of June so you've got something to listen to!! :)

We all hear people say that you should pray for your future spouse, but what exactly to pray isn't always easy to figure out... In this episode, we talk about some of the things that we both pray about for our future husbands.

Backstage Pass: When and How are Girls Looking for a Guy to Lead?

Fri, 28 May 2021 06:00:00 -0300

Guys, we know you hear it from girls all the time... "I'm just looking for a guy who is a good leader." Seems simple, but what does it really mean? Is it the same from day 1 of your relationship or does it vary as the relationship changes too? Today, we're taking a look at some of the specific, practical things we would really like for guys to take the lead in along the trajectory of a relationship.

"Burn the Demonic Paperback" (and other lessons learned from awkward 1st dates)

Wed, 26 May 2021 06:00:00 -0300

This episode is a bit of a departure from our usual type of episode and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did making it! We have taken your stories, and thrown in a couple of our own, and we are laughing together and all of the awkward and cringe-worthy moments that 1st dates bring to all of us! :D

How Important is Attraction?

Wed, 19 May 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We all know looks aren't everything, but they are something, right? The question is how big of a something should they really be in your relationship?

We're talking about attraction today and how important or not important it should really be. You might be surprised a little at our answer! :)

CouchCast: I Didn't Really Date in My 20's... Now, I Feel Behind!

Fri, 14 May 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We all start dating at different points in life... for some it's high school, for others it's college, and for some it's not until they hit their 30's. And that's ok!! Just because your path looks different from someone else's, doesn't mean there is something wrong with it. Today, we're taking a look at several different ways to look at your dating journey, other than "I'm behind..."

Commitment... Why Is It So Dang Hard?

Wed, 12 May 2021 06:00:00 -0300

It seems like our culture places less and less value on commitment every single day. It's so hard to find and sometimes even hard to implement ourselves. Today, we're looking at what commitment is, why people are afraid of it, and if it's really worth it to get over that fear.

What's Your Dating Style? ...And What Does it Mean?

Wed, 05 May 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We all approach dating differently and knowing how it is that you approach your relationships can be helpful in knowing how to navigate them too. Are you super logical? Do you lead with your emotional side? Are you a slow and steady wins the race type of dater or do you jump in with two feet from the very beginning? That's what we're taking a look at today and we're going to discuss what it looks like if you are dating someone who approaches dating the same as you do and what it looks like if you guys are opposites.

Backstage Pass: Guys Dating Coworkers in a Female Dominated Profession

Fri, 30 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0300

Good idea or bad idea? Today we're answering the question from one of our male listeners about whether it's a good idea or not to date coworkers when the profession seems to be primarily female. The final decision? It's probably more about how you go about it than anything else. Ladies, we've got a question for you in this too! We need your help!

Rapid Fire Q & A - Your Questions Answered!

Wed, 28 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We're throwing it back to our early season days and drawing your questions straight out of a bowl to answer rapid fire.

- How do I remain friends with my ex if I think he still has feelings for me?

- How do I let a guy know I'm interested if I'm shy?

- How do I open up a conversation on a dating app?

- Should I be worried if the guy I've been talking to for a while starts updating his profile pics on dating apps?

- and more!

Waiting for Boaz... Or Not?

Wed, 21 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We've all heard this term, but what exactly does it mean? Today we're taking a deeper look at the book of Ruth and what it actually says. Was Ruth just sitting around waiting on Boaz? Does this mean we should do the same or is it just setting us up for a Christian version of looking for the oh so elusive Prince Charming?

CouchCast: Is It Ok To Ask a Guy What His Intentions Are?

Fri, 16 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0300

The short answer? Yes. The long answer? It depends... on the situation, how long you've known him, are you actually even dating yet, what other serious things have you already talked about... and the list goes on. We're taking a stab at this question from as many angles as we can in 12 minutes :)

What to Do When it Feels Like You're the Only Single Person Left

Wed, 14 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We've all been there, right? You're out with friends and realize you're the only single one left... it can feel so isolating! Whether it's friends, work, family, or church, we can all find ourselves in these situations. So, today we're taking a look at some tips and strategies for maintaining your joy, contentment, and social life in the midst of it!!

God, What More Do You Want From Me?

Wed, 07 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0300

Sometimes it seems like you're doing all the right things, going all the right places, and checking all the right boxes.... but, you still find yourself single. We can all be tempted to ask God what more he wants from us. Today, we're looking at that question and dissecting what it means to ask it, should we even be asking it, and what does it say about how we view God's character when we ask this question?

Backstage Pass: Should I Be Afraid to Ask a Girl Out?

Fri, 02 Apr 2021 06:00:00 -0300

This one's for the boys! Asking a girl out can be a really nerve-racking thing! Is it something you should be worried about or is it not that big of a deal? We're taking a look at this question from multiple different angles and we've got some encouragement that we hope will be helpful for you guys!

"If You Would Just _______________, Then You Would Find Someone."

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0300

Ok guys, it's question episode time!! We asked you guys this question and have created this episode 100% around your responses. The question is to fill in the blank with what people are telling you...

"If you would just _________, then you would find someone."

"If you would just __________, then dating would be easier".

This was quite the conversation.... it ran the gamut from funny, to ridiculous, to heartbreaking. I think this is the longest episode we've ever done, so we definitely got all of our thoughts out!

Boundaries in Dating

Wed, 24 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0300

When you hear the term 'boundaries' when it comes to dating, we usually just skip straight to physical boundaries in our minds. But, those aren't the only kinds of boundaries you should consider as you navigate dating. Today, we're taking a look at several other types of boundaries you should consider too... relational boundaries, schedule boundaries, spiritual boundaries, and more!

CouchCast: Is "Mantourage" Dating Ever A Good Idea?

Fri, 19 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0300

Well, you can chalk this up to another term we hadn't heard of before! We learn so much from you guys! haha

We're taking a look at the question of whether or not dating multiple people while you decide who you like best is really ever a good idea? We have some differing thoughts on this somewhat. It's a fun discussion!

Bad News Boys: The Guy You Should QUIT Talking To!

Wed, 17 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0300

We've all been there... we either kept talking too long with someone we knew we shouldn't, or we struck up a conversation with a guy we never should have in the first place. We're giving you 10 guys you should stop that conversation with sooner rather than later. Way easier said than done, for sure! We've been there... pretty sure one or the other of us has probably talked with all 10!

Are You Idolizing Your Boyfriend? And How to Stop!

Wed, 10 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0400

This is something we all struggle with to one degree or another! And this is also something that God takes very seriously... it's clearly defined in Scripture as a sin issue. This isn't one of those preferential areas that you can just change if you want to. Today, we are looking what idolatry is, why it's wrong, what God has to say about it, and how you can work to overcome it.

Backstage Pass: Is It Ok to Date My Ex's Friend?

Fri, 05 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0400

This is a question from one of our guy listeners that we were so excited to answer! Doesn't it sometimes seem like in Christian circles that once you've dated one person at the church, you're just not allowed to date anyone else because they're all friends? Should this be the case? What if you're really interested in your ex's friend? We're looking at this from as many angles as we can today!

Decluttering Your Dating Life

Wed, 03 Mar 2021 06:00:00 -0400

It's spring cleaning time! So, we're taking a spring cleaning swipe at dating too. Today, we're talking about four different areas of your life where you may be a little cluttered and not even realize it! Your list... Online Dating Apps... Your Schedule... and Who You're Talking To. We'd be willing to bet, at least one of these areas in your life could use a little decluttering!

Online Dating After You've Been Burned

Wed, 24 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0400

If you've ever dated online for more than about 3 days, you've probably been burned, or burned out, to one extent or another. There are definitely more than one way to be burned when it comes to the world of online dating, so we're going through several of those today as well as some ways to overcome and get back out there after you've been through one of them.

CouchCast: The Fine Line Between Being Clingy and Getting Clarity When You're Texting

Fri, 19 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0400

This was such a great question with a really detailed backstory so you'll have to click on through and listen to get all the info! We look at several aspects of this from a general standpoint as well as specific to this situation. Is it clingy to initiate contact twice in a row? How do you know if he's ghosting you or if it's just a miscommunication? And at the end of the day... what do you have to lose?

Looking for Unicorns

Wed, 17 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0400

We're back for Season 6 and can't wait to get back in the swing of things... we've got some really great topics we're excited to talk about! Today, we're taking a look at the problem of actually finding someone to date. Once you find him, the actual being in a relationship part doesn't seem all that difficult. Sometimes it feels like you're looking for a unicorn! So, we're breaking down what characteristics actually make up a unicorn, what it looks like in real life, and after you find one what else should you be looking to find out.

Top 5 CouchCast Rewind: What Does a Godly Relationship Look Like?

Fri, 12 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Here we are... Your #1 most downloaded CouchCast! And what a great one to have be at the top! This is a question we should all be continually asking ourselves and comparing our relationships to Scripture and seeking after a Godly relationship from the start.

We're taking a quick look at what a Godly relationship looks like today. This is a really broad topic and could get really deep, but we're just pulling out a few major categories and talking about what it means to have a Godly relationship in those specific areas. Communication, Conflict, Community...

Top 5 CouchCast Rewind: Can Your Standards be Too High?

Wed, 10 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0400

We're almost to the end of our countdown which means we're almost to season 6!! Have you ever been told you're too picky? Have you ever wondered if it's true? Today, we're talking about the standards that you should hold high and the ones that it might be ok to let go of... were they ever really standards or were they just preferences that got a little out of control? Find out!

Top 5 CouchCast Rewind: How to Let a Guy Know You're Interested

Fri, 05 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Here we are... #3 in our Top 5 CouchCast Rewind. This is by far the most asked question we get! It can be tough figuring out how to let a guy know you're interested without becoming the pursuer. In today's CouchCast, we went directly to the experts and asked one of our guy friends the best way to really communicate this to them. We also talk about some of our go to flirting techniques so there's that too! ;)

Top 5 CouchCast Rewind: How to Spot Red Flags When Things Are Going Well

Wed, 03 Feb 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Up next in our Top 5 CouchCast Rewind is #4... How to Spot Red Flags When Things Are Going Well.

Sometimes, when things are going really well with this new guy you're seeing, you can overlook things or have blindspots about him because you want it to work out so badly. It's natural! We all do this to some degree. But, then we find ourselves getting hurt the same ways over and over. So, today we're taking a look at how to avoid this common frustration!

Top 5 CouchCast Rewind: I've Never Dated, What Do I Do Now?

Fri, 29 Jan 2021 06:00:00 -0400

We're counting down the days to season 6 and while we do, we're revisiting our top 5 most popular CouchCast episodes. We have almost 85 of them! These are questions we still get a lot too so hopefully this will help everyone get the answers they need without having to wait too! :)

CouchCast: Answering Your Questions About Biblical Sexuality w/Kristin Priest

Fri, 22 Jan 2021 06:00:00 -0400

This is a special extended CouchCast! We sat down to chat with Kristin Priest about her work to create a space for Christian women to have their questions about sex and sexuality answered in a way that always points back to Jesus. We are asking her the questions you all have asked and she has great wisdom and insight to share!!

Kristin is a married Christian woman based in Northern Michigan. She created and facilitates an open space for women to ask questions and talk about sex through her Instagram account @bare.with.kristin. Her desire is to remove the shame surrounding sex in Christian circles and to encourage open conversations that lead back to God, because He is the creator of sex, and He cares!

CouchCast: How to Bring Up and Talk About Differing Preferences/Viewpoints

Fri, 15 Jan 2021 14:39:54 -0400

Surprise!! We're back a week early! We had originally planned to come back next week and resume CouchCast before the new season in February, but we decided kind of spur of the moment to go ahead and record this yesterday... We missed you guys :)

Be sure to listen for a fun announcement about next week's CouchCast too!

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 12 - Is it Wrong to Have That One Person Who Will Always Have a Special Place in Your Heart?

Thu, 24 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

I can't believe day 12 is here! This has been so fun hanging out with you guys everyday for the past couple of weeks... we hope you have enjoyed it too! Today, we're taking a deeper look at the question of whether or not it is wrong to have someone who was maybe a crush or an ex that you just never really got over and still kind of hold on to a little. We're discussing the ramifications that could have on your future marriage as well as some ways to get over that guy once and for all.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 11 - How Long Should We Continue to Date if I'm Not Sure I'm Attracted?

Wed, 23 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

This is the million dollar question! It's so hard to give a specific time frame, but we try to give you some things that will frame your decision... however long it takes. What's informing your attraction? What are your requirements to be attracted to someone? How much do other people factor into this?

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 10 - Dating a Co-Worker When "Work" is at the Church

Tue, 22 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Dating in church is hard enough. Add on top of that the fact that one or both of you works for the church and it can seem almost impossible! We're looking at some ways to avoid the potential awkwardness of this situation.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 9 -2021 Words of the Year

Mon, 21 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

You guys know we each pick a word of the year each year. For 2019, Kristen's word was "Hope" and Bethany's was "Purposeful". We're taking a look back over the past year and what we've learned as well as talking about what our words for 2021 are and how we picked them.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 8 - How Do You Handle Seeing a Guy on a Dating App that You Go To Church With?

Sun, 20 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Do you swipe on him? Ignore it? Bring it up in person? I know from experience that when you see someone you know on pop up on the screen in a dating app, you freeze and a million questions immediately run through your head. Today, we're tackling a few of those questions and giving you some tips on how to handle that potentially awkward situation.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 7 - How to Slide into Someone's DM's... #coviddating

Sat, 19 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

These are weird dating times, can we all agree about that?? Everyone is having to get creative and step out of their comfort zone and try things they haven't before or even things they never thought they would... so, if you find yourself in a place of wanting to slide into someone's DM's, but you never have before, we're here to offer some ideas!

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 6 - Help! My Best Friend's Boyfriend is Flirting with Me

Fri, 18 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

I do not envy you being in this position! If you find yourself in this situation, this is not fun! We talk through several possible scenarios and how to handle each of them.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 5 - Do I Actually Like Him or is He Just a Really Nice Guy?

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Whew! This was a loaded question! There is so much variation and nuance to situations like this it's hard to always know which way to go... We're going to take a high level look at this and pull from some of our own personal experiences to guide this conversation.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 4 - Should You Tell Your Friends Everything?

Wed, 16 Dec 2020 10:00:00 -0400

We're talking about boundaries today... but the usual type of boundaries. We're answering the question of what is ok to tell your friends about your dating life and what should just stay between you and your boyfriend. We all tend to tell our friends everrrrything, but this helps us stop take a step back and make sure we're respecting the privacy of our partner too.

Love at the Holidays

Wed, 16 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Does life really imitate art? Should finding love at the holidays really be as easy as it is in those Hallmark movies we all watch at Christmas? In a word, nope! It's never that easy and in fact, it is probably harder around the holidays. We're talking through some pitfalls to watch out for, some ways to avoid them, and don't worry there's a healthy discussion about those cheesy movies we all hate to love! ;)

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 3 - All About "Breadcrumbing"

Tue, 15 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Y'all. This episode made us feel old. We had no clue what "breadcrumbing" was when we first got this question... there was much googling involved! lol But, we have looked into it some and we're here to give our thoughts on how to tell if someone is breadcrumbing you, how long to wait to see if they might eventually actually like you, and how to move past someone who just stays in that non-committal place.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 2 - Is it Ok for Girls to Ask Guys Out?

Mon, 14 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Is it ok for girls to ask guys out? I think this is far and away the most asked question we get! It's such a tough question to answer too... Is it wrong? No! Is it always the best choice? Also no! I know, I know... we're no help! But, today we're looking at a particular situation involving one of our listeners and offering some ideas and tips that will hopefully help all of you in this situation.

12 Days of CouchCast: Day 1 - Is Chivalry a Thing of the Past?

Sun, 13 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me..... A healthy dose of chivalry!

Today, we're taking a look at the question of whether or not it's reasonable to expect chivalry from a guy or if it's just a thing of the past.

Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart - An Interview with Kristen Clark

Wed, 09 Dec 2020 06:00:00 -0400

We had such a wonderful time chatting with Kristen Clark from Girl Defined Ministries last week. She had so much great Biblical insight and encouragement on these topics of sex, purity, lust, and overcoming temptation and sin!

If you enjoy this, be sure and grab a copy of her book Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart here.

Have We Found the Middle?

Wed, 02 Dec 2020 08:19:27 -0400

We've been looking for it for two years now, so today we're walking through some of the things we've experienced, learned, changed as we've been on this journey to find the middle. Also, be sure to listen all the way to the end for an exciting announcement of something coming up in next week's episode!

CouchCast: Ways to Get out of a Bad 1st Date

Fri, 27 Nov 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Stuck on a super awkward first date with no end in sight? We've got you covered! Several ways to get out of the date and not embarrass anyone... and some of them might not be what you would expect!

An Open Letter to the Church on Singleness

Wed, 25 Nov 2020 09:32:42 -0400

Whew! Y'all, we're getting all our words out this week! We have compiled our thoughts on all (or almost all) of the things we wish the church knew about being single, the things we wish the church did better, and the things we so appreciate that the church does well.

Men Tell All! An Interview with Jared

Wed, 18 Nov 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Backstage Pass: What Things are Girls Willing to Let Go Of?

Fri, 13 Nov 2020 09:12:50 -0400

This is a great question from one of our guy listeners! "What things are on your list of what you're looking for that you aren't willing to let go of?". We talk about the things that would be our absolute deal breakers and which things are ones that we can let go of.

Lies We Believe About Dating

Wed, 11 Nov 2020 11:45:48 -0400

If you're anything like the two of us, you've believed all of these lies about dating at one point or another. Whether it's something you told yourself or something someone else said. We are drawing on our experience, both past and present, battling these lies as we help you think about them biblically. "Marriage will fix everything", "I can fix him", "It'll be different this time" and more!

Biggest Insecurities Going into a Date

Wed, 04 Nov 2020 06:00:00 -0400

We asked! You answered! This episode is entirely inspired by your answers to our question over on Instagram about what your biggest insecurities were going into a date. Such great responses and we're going to tackle them together!

CouchCast: Should I be Worried if My Boyfriend Cheated in His Last Relationship?

Fri, 30 Oct 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Great listener question today! We're looking at some of the things to consider, questions to ask, and decisions to make when faced with this tough situation.

Preferences, Obstacles, and Red Flags... Oh My!

Wed, 28 Oct 2020 06:00:00 -0300

If you're anything like us, you struggle to figure out which "bucket" to put things into too... preference, obstacle, or red flag. You've probably asked yourself "Am I making a bigger deal out of this preference than I should?" "Am I downplaying red flags?" "What should even be a red flag?" Those are some things we're talking about today as we figure out what should go where when you're getting to know someone.

Is There Something Wrong With Me?

Wed, 21 Oct 2020 06:00:00 -0300

If we're honest, we've all asked ourselves this question at one time or another when it comes to dating. Times of frustration. Times of confusion. Times of feeling alone. But, should you really even be asking this question? Today, we're going to get to the bottom of that as we look at when we're prone to asking this question, what we're thinking when we ask it, and how to combat the thought process that gets us to this point.

Backstage Pass: Should I Ask Before Kissing Her or Does It Kill the Mood?

Fri, 16 Oct 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Such a great question from one of our guy listeners! We had to bring in reinforcements for this one... Lindsay (Bethany's sister) and Lauren (Kristen's roommate) are joining us to add some more perspective to this question.

Guys, if you have any other dating questions you want answered from a female perspective, send them our way and we'll get them on the air for you!

Kill the Weeds: Overcoming Common Dating Frustrations

Wed, 14 Oct 2020 06:06:00 -0300

Today, we're talking about some very common dating frustrations we all encounter to some degree... skepticism, bitterness, expectations.... all of those fun things. So, we're going to take a look at some things you can use to replace those frustrations... excitement, forgiveness, and more!!

Lessons from Heartbreak

Wed, 07 Oct 2020 08:00:13 -0300

Today, we're taking a broader look at heartbreak and breakups. Last time we did an episode on heartbreak and disappointment (season 3, episode 23), it was more specifically about getting through a current breakup. This episode takes a look at general themes and lessons we can learn from breakups in general, not as much of a specific situation.

CouchCast: How to Spot Red Flags/Not Overlook Them When Things are Going Well

Fri, 02 Oct 2020 06:00:00 -0300

This is a great topic! Sometimes, when things are going really well with this new guy you're seeing, you can overlook things or have blindspots about him because you want it to work out so badly. It's natural! We all do this to some degree. But, then we find ourselves getting hurt the same ways over and over. So, today we're taking a look at how to avoid this common frustration!

Clear As Mud!

Wed, 30 Sep 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Everyone says they want clarity in their relationships... but everyone also says relationships are confusing and lack clarity. So, if this is something everyone wants, but no one seems to be getting... where are we going wrong? That is the heart of our discussion today!

Am I Ruining My Chances of Dating my Guy Friend?

Wed, 23 Sep 2020 06:00:00 -0300

I think we've probably all asked ourselves this at some point... there was that one guy friend that you kind of like as more than a friend, but you don't know what to do because you've always been 'just friends'. Oh the friend zone... so easy to find yourself there, so hard to get out of it! So, today we're answering that question... Am I ruining my chances of dating a guy by being friends with him first?

Backstage Pass: Things to Never Put on Your Dating Profile

Fri, 18 Sep 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Welcome, Guys!! We're so glad to have you here! It's our 1st ever Backstage Pass episode! We are here to answer the dating questions you've always had, but didn't know who to ask. We'll give you an honest female perspective on those things you've wondered about. Up first today, we are looking at some things you might want to stay away from on your dating profile. You don't ever get to see other guys' profiles, but we do, and these are things we see a lot that might not be translating to the ladies how you think they are.

Ladies, share this with your guy friends, brothers, boyfriends... anyone you can think of who is of the male persuasion and is navigating dating as a Christian. :)

Pro's and Con's of Long Distance Relationships

Wed, 16 Sep 2020 11:10:29 -0300

Sometimes long distance relationships get kind of a bad reputation as just being awful all around. There are some good aspects to them though. and we wanted to give those good things some air time along with the bad too!

Dating for the Beginner (of every age and stage)

Wed, 09 Sep 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Whether you're high school, college, post-college, or in your 30's and beyond... trying to figure out dating for the first time is a daunting task! We've got some tips for navigating this tricky experience regardless of how old you are and then some specific things you can do to make dating as a beginner in your specific life stage easier too.

CouchCast: Is it Ever a Good Idea to Date a Co-Worker?

Fri, 04 Sep 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Such a great question! We talk about the pros and cons of dating a co-worker and the steps to take beforehand to hopefully alleviate any awkwardness if it doesn't work out. And, obviously there are some references from The Office... I mean, come on, do you know us at all?? :)

The Difference Between 'Trying' and 'Trying too Hard'

Wed, 02 Sep 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Season 5 is here!! This is the premiere topic you guys voted on over on IG!

We're covering 7 different ways to tell you might be trying too hard and coming across a little desperate for a guy's attention and then several ways to know that you are putting in an appropriate amount of effort.

CouchCast: Can Your Standards Be Too High?

Fri, 28 Aug 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Have you ever been told you're too picky? Have you ever wondered if it's true? Today, we're talking about the standards that you should hold high and the ones that it might be ok to let go of... were they ever really standards or were they just preferences that got a little out of control? Find out!

CouchCast: How Do I Not Take Rejection Personally?

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Sometimes we default to assuming that anytime a guy doesn't want to go out with us it's because he doesn't find us attractive... sure, this can be part of it, but it's not always the whole picture. We've got some helpful tips for not taking rejection so personally and some ways you can change your mindset to make it easier.

CouchCast: Help! There's a Clingy/Obsessive Guy in My Friend Group.

Fri, 14 Aug 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Have you ever had to deal with a guy who just didn't seem to get the hint? Maybe he's asked you out several times and you always tell him no, but he still won't let it go? That's the situation we're dealing with today. Ideas for being direct, but not rude, when to involve other people, and when to just cut off contact entirely.

CouchCast: Is "Playing Hard to Get" Ever a Good Idea?

Fri, 07 Aug 2020 06:00:00 -0300

In Christian circles, we're told to "leave the ball in his court", "make him pursue you", and on and on... this can easily translate for us girls into playing hard to get. Is this really ever a good idea? That's what we're taking a look at today!

CouchCast: Thoughts on Missionary Dating

Fri, 31 Jul 2020 06:00:00 -0300

This is a fantastic question! When (is it ever?) is it ok to date someone who isn't a Christian or someone who believes some very different things than you do as long as they're willing to learn/try your way? There is a lot of nuance and moving parts to this question, but we're so glad you asked it and think it's a really important topic!

CouchCast: What Does a Godly Relationship Look Like?

Fri, 24 Jul 2020 06:00:00 -0300

CouchCast: Juggling Multiple Conversations on a Dating App

Fri, 17 Jul 2020 09:48:25 -0300

This was such a great listener question! It's always so tricky figuring out how much to share, when to move to only talking to one person, what questions to ask, all of it. We're taking a deeper look at our own experiences with this and sharing some tips we've learned along the way.

Season 4 Blooper Reel!

Fri, 10 Jul 2020 06:07:00 -0300

I don't think this one needs much explanation! Enjoy laughing with us at us! :D

CouchCast: Tips for Moving on When Your Ex is Dating Someone New

Fri, 03 Jul 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Whew! This is a loaded question guys! We're talking about ways to make it easier when your ex starts dating someone new... everything from handling social media, to getting your heart right, to maybe finding someone new yourself!

To the Man I'll Date in the Future

Wed, 01 Jul 2020 12:48:07 -0300

It's the season 4 finale! This episode is dedicated to the (currently hypothetical) men we'll date next. This is an episode looking at what we want guys to know about dating and relationships from the female perspective and also the things we are committing to do now to prepare ourselves and our lives for when we meet them.

CouchCast: Things to Know Before Getting Engaged

Fri, 26 Jun 2020 06:00:00 -0300

What topics should you discuss before you accept a proposal? That's what we're talking about today... there were 4 main topics that we thought were important. You'll have to listen to find out what they are!

Why is Dating So Hard?

Wed, 24 Jun 2020 06:00:00 -0300

We started this episode with a question and a blank slate. Then, we posed this question to our listeners on Instagram and boy did they have answers! This episode is inspired entirely by those answers! Be sure to listen to the whole episode... you may just hear your answer read on air!

CouchCast: What is the Best Message Pace in an Online Dating App?

Fri, 19 Jun 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Today we're talking about the best pace and frequency for messaging on an online dating app. This is a tough one to narrow down to a specific time, but more about matching the interest level you feel. Listen for the details!

Should I Wait for Him to Change?

Wed, 17 Jun 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Oh the age old question.... today we're taking a stab at it! We're also looking at the problem of extended adolescence in our culture and the impact it may have on this. Do I wait for him to change? Grow up? Figure out what he wants?

CouchCast: Online Dating Profiles... Don't Let This Happen to You!

Fri, 12 Jun 2020 08:52:40 -0300

Today, we're going through several different things that you should really avoid putting on your dating profile online or on an app. Lie about your height/body type? All group pics? Try to gloss over the fact that you're not divorced yet? Nope. All bad ideas. Listen now for the rest.

Men Tell All! An Interview with Dylan

Wed, 10 Jun 2020 08:40:46 -0300

Clarity, Patience, Balance... These are all words that came up over and over in our interview! And, I bet these are all things you're looking for more of in your relationships. Today, we sat down with Dylan in an extended conclusion to our Men Tell All series from back in December. He brings some perspective to our younger listeners who are in high school and college.

CouchCast: Helpful Singleness Resources

Fri, 05 Jun 2020 06:00:00 -0300

In today's CouchCast, we're going through some of the resources that have benefited us greatly in our singleness. One book that was even one of the biggest inspirations in our starting this podcast!

Links to the resources we talked about today:

Love in Every Season

True Love Dates

She's Got the Wrong Guy: Why Smart Women Settle

Passion & Purity

Don't Lose Hope!

Wed, 03 Jun 2020 08:07:13 -0300

Dating is tough these days guys, we get it! We've all been tempted to lose hope when it comes to trying to find someone. We've all had to navigate not giving into that temptation. Today, we're talking about the different times we've been frustrated or felt hopeless when it comes to dating. We're talking about things we've said or done that have been helpful with that and also a few that haven't too.

CouchCast: How Can I Get Over My Ex if I Still Have to See Him All the Time?

Fri, 29 May 2020 06:00:00 -0300

This is such a tough place to be! You just got your heart broken and now you have to see the cause of that heartbreak constantly! Today, we're talking about how to practically navigate something like that as well as looking to the Lord and realizing that no matter how alone you feel, you never really are.

6 Guys You Should NOT Want tp Date (Part 2)

Wed, 27 May 2020 06:57:09 -0300

We are here with part 2 of the 6 guys you should not want to date. Today, we're talking about the guy who won't talk about the future, the guy who is controlling, and the guy who isn't teachable. All very important things to look out for in someone you want to or are dating. We'll tell you how to spot them and when it might be time to end it.

CouchCast: Thoughts on Dating With a Big Age Gap

Fri, 22 May 2020 06:00:00 -0300

his week's CouchCast is about dating with an age gap... is age just a number? We talk about the age range we both try to stay within and why. Does it matter if one of you is significantly older than the other or is maturity really what matters?

6 Guys You Should NOT Want to Date (Part 1)

Wed, 20 May 2020 06:00:00 -0300

This week and next week we will be going through 6 different guys you should want to stay away from... 3 this week and 3 next week. Today, we're talking about the guy who's not serious about his faith, the shameless flirt, and the guy who won't do anything.

CouchCast: How to Know You're Ready to Date After a Breakup

Fri, 15 May 2020 06:00:00 -0300

We got this question a lot over the past few weeks on our CouchCast Lives on Instagram. So, we're answering it for this first CouchCast back too! What to look out for to know you are or are not ready to date again after a breakup... some things to look out for both good and bad!

How to Let Go When He Was Never Yours to Hold On To

Wed, 13 May 2020 06:00:00 -0300

This week we are talking about that problem we've all had to deal with... how do you get that guy out of your head and really let go of him when he never even was yours to begin with? It's tough. It's not a clear solution. But, we are going to dive in and give you guys some practical tips for how to get past this as best as you can.

7 Signs Your Relationship is in Trouble

Wed, 06 May 2020 06:05:00 -0300

We're back! This quarantine stuff is no joke... you'd think we'd have more time to record, but it's been the exact opposite. Whew! Today, we're taking a look at several things that may signal relationship trouble ahead. We'll go over how to spot them, how to deal with them, and when it might be a good time to just end the relationship.

6 Men You Should Want to Date (Part 2) - Re-release!

Wed, 29 Apr 2020 06:00:00 -0300

We're throwing it wayyyy back to Season 1 again with this re-release! We'll be back again next with a new episode! Thanks for being so understanding guys! :)

We all have a 'type', those types are all different, and that's ok! But, there are some things that should be consistent in a man you look to date, regardless of what your 'type' is.... most important being that he is following Jesus. Today we're looking at what practical characteristics should be present in a man who is truly seeking Christ and how you can spot them!

Dating App Basics: What to Know Before You Swipe

Wed, 22 Apr 2020 06:05:00 -0300

Here we are again! Another episode from quarantine... we hope you guys are hanging in there! We're focusing again on ways to date during this time so we're talking about dating apps. What to know, what to look out for, which ones are better than others, and more!

The Difference Between Being Alone and Being Lonely

Wed, 15 Apr 2020 06:00:00 -0300

We're back with another episode from quarantine! Hope you guys are all staying safe and well! Today, it seemed fitting to talk about something that may be hitting a little close to home for a lot of us... Loneliness! We may all battle loneliness, but it is not synonymous with being single or being alone. We've got some practical strategies for Biblically fighting feelings of loneliness.

Do's and Dont's of Texting Someone You're Interested In... AKA:Dating in Quarantine!

Wed, 08 Apr 2020 09:52:42 -0300

Surprise!! We weren't planning to go back to new episodes for a couple of more weeks, but we just thought this was a very pertinent and timely subject! ;)

So, We figured out the technology to get this recorded, and here we are! Enjoy!

How to Know if He's a Keeper - Re-Release!

Wed, 01 Apr 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Hey Guys! Hope you're staying home and staying safe! We're praying for you. Until we can get back to recording regularly, enjoy this popular episode from season 2 :)

In today's episode, we've got a list for you going into 10 ways to tell if the guy you're dating, or thinking about dating, is a keeper. Everything from does he make you laugh to does he point you to Jesus...

6 Men You Should Want to Date (Part 1) - Re-release!

Wed, 01 Apr 2020 00:26:45 -0300

Hey Guys! Our recording schedule got all out whack due to the self-quarantining we're all under right now, so we will be re-releasing some popular episodes from the archive over the next couple of weeks! We will also be doing CouchCast LIVE on Instagram on Friday so head over there and follow us @lftm_podcast if you don't already and send us your question now! Ok, on to today's episode...

We all have a 'type', those types are all different, and that's ok! But, there are some things that should be consistent in a man you to look date, regardless of what your 'type' is.... most important being that he is following Jesus. Today we're looking at what practical characteristics should be present in a man who is truly seeking Christ and how you can spot them!

CouchCast: 1st Date Red Flags

Fri, 20 Mar 2020 06:00:00 -0300

In today's episode we're talking about things we both look out for on 1st dates as possible red flags... we talk about some pre and post date red flags too as well as a few 'yellow' flags too.

What's the Point: Selflessness

Wed, 18 Mar 2020 06:00:00 -0300

Today, we're wrapping up our "What's the Point of Dating?" series. We've talked about marriage, sanctification, fun, investigation, and now selflessness. A great relationship is set up for success when there are two people trying to out do each other in service. Listen today as we take a deeper look at what this really means.

CouchCast: How to Navigate a Church that Undervalues Singleness and Overvalues Marriage

Fri, 13 Mar 2020 06:00:00 -0300

This was a doozy of a listener question! "What do you do when the church seems to view singles as second class Christians while married couples are given so much elevation and importance?" We get fired up about this one!

What's the Point: Investigation

Wed, 11 Mar 2020 06:00:00 -0300

We're at the halfway point of our "What's the Point of Dating?" series and today we're talking about investigation. The dating stage is a unique time you have to investigate this person you're in a relationship with and get to know their habits and patterns and everything else you would want to know before taking the next step to marriage. We're here to guide some of that investigation with a couple of things we think are really important to find out during this process!

CouchCast: How to Build Community When Church Options are Limited

Fri, 06 Mar 2020 06:00:00 -0400

This was a great listener question! She asked "How do you navigate finding a community at a church when the small group options are either college students or married couples?". Good news is, you've got options here! Bad news, some might require you getting out of your comfort zone! That's where our discussion focuses today.

What's the Point: Fun

Wed, 04 Mar 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Short, sweet, and to the point today!! We're talking about fun! Fun gets lost a lot of times in Christian dating. You feel so much pressure to focus on spiritual things and making sure there is compatibility there that you forget to make sure you have fun together. We offer some ways to balance that early on in a relationship as well as some practical dating strategies for incorporating fun into your relationship for the long haul!

CouchCast: Help! The Guy I'm Dating isn't Texting Me Back

Fri, 28 Feb 2020 06:00:00 -0400

We've all been there... you're either talking to someone or newly dating and you're not sure if the texting patterns are normal or not. Are you being too needy? Is he just a bad texter? So many questions and so few answers haha... we're tackling this fun issue today!

What's the Point: Sanctification

Wed, 26 Feb 2020 06:00:00 -0400

This is part 2 in our What's the Point of Dating series. Today we're talking about sanctification and how that is a big part of God's design for dating and eventually marriage. We're honing on one huge aspect of this too... community. God created us for community and that takes on many different forms in your life, both pre-dating and after you're in a relationship.

CouchCast: I've Never Dated, What Do I Do Now?

Fri, 21 Feb 2020 09:53:46 -0400

In this episode, we're talking about how to go about starting to date if you've never really dated before... high school, college, 20's, or 30's... we've got something for everyone!

What's the Point: Marriage

Wed, 19 Feb 2020 06:00:00 -0400

In today's episode, we're taking a deep dive look at the point of dating. Or, at least the 1st of 4 points we'll take a look at over the next few weeks. Today we're talking about marriage, what it looks like, what it doesn't look like, what God outlines marriage as, and how to get there. We're talking a lot about I Kissed Dating Goodbye and the courtship culture that has shaped so much of how Christians date still today.

CouchCast: Favorite Girls' Day Ideas

Fri, 14 Feb 2020 06:00:00 -0400

It's Valentines Day!! We figured it would be too late to talk about good Valentine's Day date ideas, but it's always a good day to talk about Galentine's Day! So, we're going over some of our very favorite things to do with the girls!

What's the Point of Dating Anyway? ...but Really.

Wed, 12 Feb 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Welcome to season 4!! We're so excited to be here and can't wait for everything we have in store for you guys this season!

Today, we are talking about the true point of dating and setting the stage for a 5 part series to kick off the season looking at some different themes in Christian dating that should be your focus. Marriage, Sanctification, Fun, Investigation, and Selflessness.

Here is the link to our February picks of the month from Christian Book: http://www.lookingforthemiddle.com/picksofthemotnth.html

CouchCast Countdown #4: Does it Matter if You Make More Money Than He Does?

Tue, 11 Feb 2020 06:00:00 -0400

This can be a very sensitive subject! We try to look at it from several different angles and understand both sides of this. Grace and sensitivity are key!

CouchCast Countdown #3: Is it Ok if One of You is More Invested in Your Relationship with God?

Mon, 10 Feb 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Today, we're answering the question of what to do if one of you is more invested in your relationship with God than the other one? Is it ok? When is it not ok? How do you have the conversation about it?

CouchCast Countdown #2: Making a Good First Impression on His Family & Friends

Fri, 07 Feb 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Oh this is a great question and such a tricky thing to figure out sometimes! Every family and friend group is different, so there will always be some variations to this, but some things are just always a good idea! Those things are what we're talking about in this CouchCast.

CouchCast Countdown #1: Compromise and Submission to Your Husband

Thu, 06 Feb 2020 09:31:26 -0400

CouchCast Countdown is here!! We're counting down to season 4 with a new CouchCast every weekday!

This question is a great one! It looks specifically, in this case, at denominational differences and which ones are ok to compromise on and which ones aren't. Also, how submission to your husband would factor into that as well.

Winter Q&A - Part 5

Wed, 05 Feb 2020 06:00:00 -0400

The final installment of our Winter Q&A series is here!

We will be back next week with our Season 4 premiere! And in the meantime, we have a CouchCast countdown coming at you for the rest of this week and next week too!

Questions for today...

1. How can you tell if Christian guys are into you or if they’re just being nice?

2. Why is it so hard to find a godly guy in the local church?

3. How do you deal with players? The guy my friend likes flirts with her but also with several other girls…

Winter Q&A - Part 4

Wed, 29 Jan 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Only 2 more Q&A episodes left! If you've got a question you'd like to have answered send us a quick email at lookingforthemiddle@gmail.com Today's questions include:

1. What if we both like each other but he doesn't want to date right now?

2. How do you navigate a fear of commitment? On the guy's part and on your part?

3. What exactly does it mean to be intentional in a relationship? What are some examples of it?

Bonus: Get to Know Your Hosts!

Mon, 27 Jan 2020 11:19:14 -0400

We get a lot of questions about our personal lives, hobbies, interests...random stuff! So, we wanted to take a few minutes and answer some of them and let you get to know us a little bet better! We did an 'All About Us' episode before we officially launched way back in 2018, but here's an updated 2020 version :)

Winter Q&A - Part 3

Wed, 22 Jan 2020 10:07:57 -0400

Ok guys, today we've got a super fun guest co-host for ya! Melanie is back in the studio with Kristen and they're answering your questions.

1. When is the right time to say "I love you"?

2. How do you keep your imagination from running wild when you have a crush?

3. How do you navigate a relationship when the two people come from completely different backgrounds? (spiritual, family, socio-economic, etc) Do you think these differences will cause issues in a relationship?

Winter Q&A - Part 2

Wed, 15 Jan 2020 06:00:00 -0400

We really got into this one! So much so that we only had time for two questions... They were a bit intense.

1. How do you still honor your parents when they don't completely approve of your significant other?

2. What is the best way/timing to bring up the conversation of physical boundaries?

Winter Q&A - Part 1

Wed, 08 Jan 2020 06:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to another Q&A series! We're using this break between seasons to answer your questions. These are questions we have gotten that are a little more 'intensive' shall we say than a typical CouchCast so we're tackling them here.

Today's questions are:

1. How do you include your friends when one of you has a boyfriend and the other doesn't?

2. How do you know what is normal compromise in a relationship and what isn't?

3. Where is the line in a relationship between being overbearing or high maintenance and just wanting to know what the other person's schedule looks like?

Bonus: Men Tell All Reflections

Wed, 01 Jan 2020 12:57:49 -0400

We have had so many great conversations since our Men Tell All series finished up and we thought we'd share some of our takeaways with you guys too! Happy New Year - Enjoy!

Season 3 Blooper Reel!

Wed, 25 Dec 2019 06:00:00 -0400

Merry Christmas!!! Laugh with us as we laugh at ourselves! :D

CouchCast: Your Holiday Questions Answered!

Fri, 20 Dec 2019 06:00:00 -0400

Today, we're answering the holiday questions we've been getting. We're talking about gift buying for someone you only recently started dating, meeting the family, should you even bother going on a 1st date over the holidays, and how to make New Year's plans.

Men Tell All! An Interview with Matt

Wed, 18 Dec 2019 06:00:00 -0400

This is our season finale and the final interview in our Men Tell All series! We have had such a great time with this series and learned so much too! Today, we talk a lot about guy/girl friendships and how those look based on whether or not there is any interest. We've also got a couple of questions in this episode that didn't make it into either of the others so be sure to listen all the way to the end.

CouchCast: Are Love Languages Important?

Fri, 13 Dec 2019 15:44:43 -0400

Today we're talking about love languages and does it really matter if you know yours, if you know your boyfriend's, and if you should talk about them or not.

Men Tell All! An Interview with Gabe

Wed, 11 Dec 2019 06:00:00 -0400

Part 2 is here! We laughed a lot in the making of this episode and I think you guys will too! Gabe is hilarious, but quite insightful. We think you'll learn a lot about how guys think from him!

CouchCast: Am I Ever Going to Date Someone Who Doesn't Annoy Me?

Fri, 06 Dec 2019 06:00:00 -0400

Here's our latest CouchCast! The question is "Whenever I start dating a new guy, he always ends up annoying me. Will I ever meet someone who doesn't at all?"

Enjoy! :D

Men Tell All! Interview with Brett

Wed, 04 Dec 2019 06:00:00 -0400

The day you've been waiting for is finally here! This is part one of our three part series digging into the minds of some of the men in our lives. Up first is Brett... he's Kristen's brother and this was definitely a fun one to record!

CouchCast: Black Friday Edition!

Fri, 29 Nov 2019 09:54:19 -0400

Our 2019 Holiday Gift Guide is here! Today, we're talking about what we may (or may not) be getting our friends for Christmas! Gotta keep them in suspense a little... haha.

Christianbook.com was so great to partner with us and bring this episode to you! Click here to go straight to the gift guide page on our website!

So, You've Been Dating Awhile... Now What?

Wed, 27 Nov 2019 06:00:00 -0400

We talk a lot about getting ready to date, going on 1st dates, and the early dating stages. So, today we're talking about what to do, think, and talk about after you've been dating someone for a while.

And, if you listen all the way to the end, we've got a special sneak peek at next week's interview with Brett!

CouchCast: A Blast from the Past

Fri, 22 Nov 2019 07:29:11 -0400

Today we're answering the question, "Are there dating practices from the past that you wish were still around?"... writing letters, flowers on a first date, that sort of thing! :)

Navigating Heartbreak and Disappointment

Wed, 20 Nov 2019 06:00:00 -0400

As you all know, we both went through break-ups this summer. Well, we've had time to process and reflect on that and now we're ready to talk about it. We're offering up some of the things we've learned and the perspective we've gained through all of this to hopefully be helpful to you if you have to walk this same road.

CouchCast: Help! I'm Scared of Going on a Bad Date

Fri, 15 Nov 2019 09:25:53 -0400

I think we can all relate to this on some level! Practical ideas (or more like, idea... haha one main idea for this one) comin' at you this week! :)

Foundations of Flirting

Wed, 13 Nov 2019 06:00:00 -0400

This week's episode is not what we had originally planned... we've been getting so many questions about flirting lately though that we bumped our original episode into next season and we're talking about flirting right here and now. This is a combination of answering your questions CouchCast style and then a regular episode all in one. Enjoy! :)

CouchCast: Good Questions to Ask on a First Date

Fri, 08 Nov 2019 06:00:00 -0400

Whether you're getting to know a guy from scratch or you've been friends for a while... maintaining conversation on a 1st date can be a daunting thing. Today, we're talking about some of our go to questions we always ask early on in the dating process.

Putting Your Best Foot Forward

Wed, 06 Nov 2019 06:00:00 -0400

Getting ready for a 1st date starts way before you actually get asked out! In this episode, we're talking about what you can do to put yourself in a good position to make the best first impression possible. We're talking about being approachable, confident, dressing for your body type and more!

CouchCast: How to Stay Friends After One Date that Didn't "Click"

Fri, 01 Nov 2019 07:00:00 -0300

This was a great listener question of how do you stay friends with a guy in your friend group after one date where one or both of you decided it was better to not go out again. We break it down from each possible scenario of who liked who and who didn't. Check it out!

Halloween Special!!

Thu, 31 Oct 2019 10:03:58 -0300

Surprise!! A tricky treat from your favorite podcast hosts at Looking for the Middle! :)

An Honest Conversation About Dating and Singleness

Wed, 30 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0300

The two of us have been having a lot of conversations lately about dating, singleness, patience, giving grace, practicing what you preach, and resting in God's timing. We just wanted to share with you what's been on our hearts and hopefully encourage you too!

CouchCast: Can You Date "Too Fast" as a Christian?

Fri, 25 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Have you ever wondered if your new relationship was moving too quickly? It can be overwhelming and kind of scary... today, we're answering a great listener question about whether or not moving too fast is as much of an issue when it comes to dating as a Christian.

8 Things A Single Person Never Wants to Hear (...and how to respond to them)

Wed, 23 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0300

The holidays are almost upon us and with that comes lots of parties and lots of well meaning family and friends who sometimes don't think before asking some of the most awkward questions. Today, we're taking a comical approach to how to respond to some of the outlandish things people say!

CouchCast: Should You Ever Date Your Ex?

Fri, 18 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Well, this was a fun one! haha This is such a tricky question. There are so many variables at play. But, we're giving you several good general principles to follow and questions to answer to hopefully make it just a bit less tricky.

Why You Need a Tribe... The Importance of Good Girlfriends in Your Life

Wed, 16 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0300

We all need good girlfriends in our lives for so many reasons! Today we're having our tribe on the show to talk about some of those reasons... and it gets a little loud! haha We're talking about things like accountability, support, humor, distraction. All things that are needed whether you are dating or single.

CouchCast: Perks of Being Single

Fri, 11 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Who says being single is all bad? It's definitely not! You may struggle to find the perks off the top of your head (we sure did!), but when you stop and think about it, it's definitely not all bad :)

Are You Ready to Meet Your Husband?

Wed, 09 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Have you ever stopped to wonder what your life would like when you meet that guy who will become your husband? That is the exact question posed by Stephanie May Wilson in her new Future Husband Quiz. We've both taken the quiz and it was really insightful and helpful! So, we're talking about what we learned and really encouraging you to go take the quiz in today's episode!

CouchCast: How to Let a Guy Know You're Interested

Fri, 04 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0300

How Far is Too Far?

Wed, 02 Oct 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Ok here it is... the sex talk. You've asked and now we're answering! We are asked on a regular basis how far is too far to go with my boyfriend? What standards or boundaries should we have? What's ok and what isn't? We know there is a lot of confusion out there because there are soooo many different opinions and views on this. We try to take this question and add some clarity and encouragement to an issue that can be frustrating and confusing.

CouchCast: How to Encourage Spiritual and Personal Growth in a Relationship

Fri, 27 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0300

This was a great listener question! Definitely really made us stop and think... We're discussing ways to encourage your boyfriend and to improve both of your spiritual and personal growth as you are progressing in a relationship.

Non-Negotiables vs. Preferences... Where to Draw the Line?

Wed, 25 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0300

You all know we like to make lists around here. We're just list people, I guess you could say. We've talked a lot about the lists we make about what we're looking for in a future spouse, but today we're putting a different spin on it. Are there things that may be preferences for some people, but are non-negotiables for you? How do you decide what those are? That's the question we're answering in today's episode.

CouchCast: Is it Ok to Date Someone from a Different Denomination?

Fri, 20 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0300

This is a great listener question today! We are giving our thoughts on dating outside your denomination... does it matter? Are they all just labels anyway? What things are important and which ones aren't? We answer all of these in today's CouchCast.

7 Signs You're On a Good First Date

Wed, 18 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Ever been on a first date and wondered if it was going well? Or, have you wondered how to make sure the guy you were with knew you were having a good time without having to outright say it? We've got you covered! We're going over 7 signs of a good first date today (and a few signs of a not so good first date thrown in for good measure)! Join us!

CouchCast: What Do You Do With the Annoying Habits of Your Significant Other?

Fri, 13 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Oh this is a fun question to kick off CouchCast for season 3 with! We're talking about how to kindly deal with or bring up to your significant other that their constant knuckle cracking and loud gum chewing are driving you crazy!

Can Wanting Marriage Be a Bad Thing?

Wed, 11 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Welcome Back to Season 3!! We're so excited to kick off another season with you guys and we're diving right in with the doozy of a question... Can Wanting Marriage Be a Bad Thing? We walk through several questions you can ask yourself to figure out if maybe you've got your priorities all out of order and how to get them whipped back into shape!

Season 3 Preview!

Fri, 06 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Season 3 is almost here and we can hardly wait so we wanted to come on here and give you guys a sneak peek of what to expect this season on Looking for the Middle! :)

Season 2 Blooper Reel!

Wed, 04 Sep 2019 07:00:00 -0300

If there was any question as to whether or not we're both just a little nutty... there will be no doubt after this! Enjoy!! haha

Favorite Things Month - First Date Must-Haves!

Fri, 30 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0300

As Favorite Things Month winds down and we gear up for Season 3, we thought it would be a good transition to talk about all of our favorite things on a first date. Take a listen to hear the things we don't leave the house without wearing or taking with us!

Favorite Things Month - Things We Use Everyday

Fri, 23 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0300

We had a request for a 'Day in the Life' episode, but we couldn't figure out how to make that interesting with just audio haha... so, we are talking about the things in our lives we can't go a day without! Close enough, right?? :)

Favorite Things Month - Clothes & Shopping

Fri, 16 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0300

We're back with another CouchCast in Favorite Things Month and today, we're talking about some of our favorite brands, stores, and a few shopping tips too.

Favorite Things Month - Bloggers and Instagrammers

Fri, 09 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Hey Guys! Today, we're talking about some of our favorite bloggers and instagrammers. Some serious, but mostly just the ones that make us laugh a lot. We all need a little more laughter in our lives! :)

Favorite Things Month - Beauty/Styling Products

Fri, 02 Aug 2019 07:00:00 -0300

We're doing CouchCast a little different for the month of August! Tune in to find out why... It's Favorite Things Month around here and we're talking about our favorite beauty and styling products. Everything from mascara to coffee scrubs to hair brush/straightener combos.

Summer Series - Q&A #5

Wed, 31 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Today is our 5th and final Q&A episode of the summer! Next month we'll be back to CouchCast every Friday. Today, we're talking about body image, dating in high school, and when is the right time to tell your friend they need to break up with their boyfriend?

CouchCast: Is it Ever Ok to Date Someone Who is Not a Christian?

Fri, 26 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Surprise! We've got a CouchCast for you this week! A great question that is not always fun to talk about, but it needs to be talked about... Is it ever ok to date someone who is not a Christian? That's what we're tackling today.

Summer Series - Q&A #4

Wed, 24 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0300

It's a new day and we've got three new questions to answer for you! All three of these really made us think and hopefully they'll be super helpful to you!

Summer Series - Q&A #3

Wed, 17 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0300

3 Down, 2 to go... Keep the questions coming! We're talking today about how to tell the difference between nerves and red flags in a new relationship and also what pursuit really looks like to a Christian woman.

Summer Series - Q&A #2

Wed, 10 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0300

We're back with round 2 of our summer question series!

Summer Series - Q&A #1

Wed, 03 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Hey Guys! Today, and the rest of July, we're answering your questions!

If You've Kissed Dating Goodbye, How to Say Hello Again

Wed, 26 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0300

It's the season 2 season finale! We're taking it full circle today and getting back to a big reason why we started this podcast in the first place... We explain exactly why we're looking for the middle!

CouchCast: When to Meet the Families

Fri, 21 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0300

When is the best time to meet the family? That's what we're discussing today!

All About Long Distance Relationships

Wed, 19 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Think you have what it takes to go the distance? Long distance that is... today, we're talking about what to look for in yourself and what it takes to navigate a long distance relationship well.

CouchCast: What Do I Do When I Have Strong Feelings for a Guy, but I'm Moving Away?

Fri, 14 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Another great listener question! Today, we're discussing options for what to do when you're moving away, but have strong feelings for someone. Tell him? Try long distance?

Just Relax!

Wed, 12 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Let's not overcomplicate dating! Today, we're talking about ways you can make dating easier, more fun, and just relax while doing it.

CouchCast: Age or Maturity? Which is More Important?

Fri, 07 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Age is just a number.... or is it? That's our topic of discussion in today's CouchCast!

Can You Be Too Picky?

Wed, 05 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0300

We all have a type, and we know what we like, but can holding too tightly to that get you in trouble? That's what we're talking about today!

CouchCast: Where Can You Go to Meet Eligible, Christian Men?

Fri, 31 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Today's question is from a listener who is wondering where she can go to meet eligible, godly, Christian men. We know she's not the only one wondering this, so we're going to take a stab at it today.

How to Know if He's a Keeper

Wed, 29 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

CouchCast: The Best Dating Advice We Ever Got

Fri, 24 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

This was a fun one! We're talking about the best advice we've gotten about dating.... and then we're throwing in a twist and talking about the worst advice we've gotten too!

Managing Expectations

Wed, 22 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Oh those dreaded expectations... they always seem to get in the way don't they! In today's episode we're talking about why and how to manage your expectations in a relationship. We're talking about what is reasonable to expect and what isn't.

CouchCast: The Ideal Dating Timeline

Fri, 17 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

In today's episode, we're answering the question, "How long should you date before getting engaged?". And also, we talk about how ridiculously short both of our parents' dating relationships were! #crazy

A First Date Checklist

Wed, 15 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

In today's episode, we're going to walk you from start to finish on a first date... everything from date ideas to date prep to how to tell if it's going well/not going well and finally how to end the date well and when/how to follow up. It's a lot of info, so get ready and let's just jump in!

CouchCast: Is Age Just a Number?

Fri, 10 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

We stumbled on this CouchCast question ourselves as we were recording a different episode! So, we wrote it down and this week it got picked from the bowl... what is a good age gap between you and the person you're dating? Purely subjective and purely fun this week!

Loneliness, Party of 1...

Wed, 08 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

1 is the loneliest number after all... But, it doesn't have to be! In today's episode, we are covering some strategies for combating loneliness while you're single and talking about what your focus should be on during that time.

CouchCast: What's Keeping You in Your Comfort Zone?

Fri, 03 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

{"'You miss 100% of the shots you don't take' - Wayne Gretzky" -Michael Scott} - Kristen Camp

Need I say more?? lol

How to Relate Well to Friends in Different Stages

Wed, 01 May 2019 07:00:00 -0300

We've got a special guest host today! Melanie (Bethany's sister) is back! Kristen is on vacation so Mel stepped in and we talked all about the obstacles and challenges we face in trying to relate well to friends of all stages... single, married, kids. Everything.

CouchCast: What Does it Look Like for a Guy to Lead Well?

Fri, 26 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0300

In today's episode, we're talking about leadership and what we think you should look for when you're trying to decide if a guy has good leadership potential.

So You've Been Rejected, Now What?

Wed, 24 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Nobody likes being rejected! But, today we're talking about different types of rejection and how to deal with and learn from each one.

CouchCast: The Friendzone Question We Didn't Answer

Fri, 19 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0300

It was brought to our attention that we answered the 'how', but not the 'why' behind guys friendzone a girl... So, we remedied that, called up Kristen's brother again, and he set us straight! :)

Are You What He's Looking For?

Wed, 17 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0300

We all have our lists of what we're looking for and we're told constantly to just hold out for that perfect guy and not to settle. But, very rarely are the tables turned on us and we're forced to ask ourselves do we have the qualities that the guy we're looking for is looking for? Today, we're doing just that!

CouchCast: What Do We Think About Chivalry?

Fri, 12 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0300

This was a great listener question from one of our guy listeners! He asked what aspects of chivalry do girls appreciate? Kristen and I both have different answers... tune in to see if any of yours match ours!

Be Your Own Person

Wed, 10 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Today's episode is short, sweet, and to the point! We're talking about motivations for dating someone, how to be your own person when you're dating someone, and we talk about some of things we still struggle with when it comes to this too.

CouchCast: You Like Him. He Doesn't Like You. When Do You Move On?

Fri, 05 Apr 2019 08:27:03 -0300

Oh this was a tough one! We've all been there... you really like this guy, but he just doesn't seem to be interested. When is enough time to just say ok, I'm moving on? We're talking about what to look for, how to draw boundaries with your time, and move on!

Navigating the Friend Zone!

Wed, 03 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Raise your hand if you've ever been friend zoned! Yep, that's what I thought, lots of hands going up right about now. Figuring out the friend zone is tough regardless of which side of the situation you are on. Today, we're talking about how to recognize when you're being put in the friend zone, ways you may not even realize you're putting someone else there, and we also went to the source and asked the guys directly... why do you friend zone a girl and how do you do it? This should be fun!

CouchCast: How Long Before You Will Know It Is/Isn't Working?

Fri, 29 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0300

A great question to ask yourself when you first start dating someone new! How long do you give it before you know it is or isn't working? How do you know? What to look for? And more...

How to Get Asked Out... Or at Least Improve Your Odds!

Wed, 27 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0300

Really when it comes down to it, there's no magic formula for this, but there are some things you can do to improve your odds of getting the guy you're interested in, or any guy for that matter, to ask you out. That is what we're talking about today...some practical (and not so practical) things you can do to make yourself more "ask out-able" (cuz that's a thing, right??)

CouchCast: Pre-DTR Physical Boundaries

Fri, 22 Mar 2019 08:00:00 -0300

Drawing boundaries can be tough... there's this line between conviction and legalism and you have to constantly evaluate where you're walking on that line. Today, we're answering a listener question about what is ok and what isn't when it comes to physical affection and boundaries.

Dating in Your 20's vs. Dating in Your 30's

Wed, 20 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0300

It's easy to only see the bad parts of the season you're currently in and only the good parts of every other situation you could possibly be in right now instead. The classic 'grass is always greener' mentality... Today, we're talking through the good AND the bad about dating at different stages of your life and what your mentality should be through all of it.

CouchCast: How to Breakup Well

Fri, 15 Mar 2019 08:00:00 -0300

Is "The One" Out There? Do Soulmates Exist?

Wed, 13 Mar 2019 07:49:44 -0300

We hear it all the time.... "Follow your heart and you'll just know when you find 'the one'" Have you ever wondered if 'the one' really is out there? Well today, we're talking all about this topic and coming to a definite conclusion about whether we think soulmates actually exist.

CouchCast: How to Pray for Your Future Husband

Fri, 08 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0400

This was a great question from a listener! We all hear people say that you should pray for your future spouse, but what exactly to pray isn't always easy to figure out... In this episode, we talk about some of the things that we both pray about for our future husbands.

Online Dating #3 - Mel and Tres. A Success Story!

Wed, 06 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0400

We all know someone who has tried online dating, but we don't all know someone who married the person they met online. So, today, we are interviewing Mel and Tres as they tell us all about their story... everything from awkward first dates, to navigating long distance in their relationship, to advice they would give to someone who is thinking of trying online dating. They have so much insight and wisdom! Don't miss it!

CouchCast: What to Do on the Weekend When You Don't Have a Date.

Fri, 01 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0400

Don't have a date this weekend? That's ok! There is still plenty of stuff to do when you're not going out with someone... we talk about several of our favorites in today's CouchCast.

Online Dating #2 - Make Your Profile Stand Out, When to Setup a 1st Date, and How to Stay Safe

Wed, 27 Feb 2019 07:00:00 -0400

There are so many things to consider when you're dating online. Today we're continuing to take a look at what several of those are... how to make your profile interesting and memorable, when is the best time to set up a date, and how to keep yourself safe and minimize risk when online dating.

CouchCast: How Important Are Common Interests?

Fri, 22 Feb 2019 07:00:00 -0400

Do you find it easier to date someone with a lot in common with you or do you prefer more of an opposites attract mentality? Today, we're talking about how much weight common interests should have.

Online Dating #1 - Which Sites to Use and How to Spot a Good Online Dating Profile

Wed, 20 Feb 2019 07:00:00 -0400

Hey Guys! Today kicks off our mini-series on online dating. In this episode, we're comparing sites and telling you the good and bad in each one, we're going through some things to look for in a guy's profile and how to navigate some of the initial steps of online dating.

CouchCast: What to Wear/Eat on a 1st Date

Fri, 15 Feb 2019 07:00:00 -0400

We've all worried about what to wear on a 1st date, but have you ever thought through what you should eat too? No?... just us? Ok, good to know! But seriously, if you have ever wondered about either of those, we throw out our thoughts on the subject here.

Why Can't My Life Be a Romantic Comedy?

Wed, 13 Feb 2019 07:00:00 -0400

Season 2 is here! And just in time for Valentine's Day! In this episode, we're swooning... uh... I mean discussing our favorite RomCom couples and what we love about them. There's nothing wrong with admiring good character in someone from a movie, but you've got to use some discretion and realize that movies just aren't real. So, manage your expectations accordingly!

Season 2 - Extended Sneak Peek!

Mon, 11 Feb 2019 07:00:00 -0400

Season 2 is just around the corner and we wanted to give you a look at what you can expect! And, yes, we realize now that we said 'super excited' approximately 170038579 times in these few minutes... we're working on expanding our vocabularies. Promise! ;)

CouchCast: The Dreaded DTR

Wed, 06 Feb 2019 07:00:00 -0400

You all know what we mean... Define. The. Relationship. So you've been dating a guy for a while but you're just not really sure where it's going and you both just need a little bit more clarity. Do you bring it up? Should you wait and let him do it? When's too soon? Too late? So many questions... we've got a few answers.

CouchCast: How to Look Positively at Past Relationships

Wed, 30 Jan 2019 07:00:00 -0400

Bitter and alone, party of 1? Is this you right after a breakup? Today, we're talking about how to biblically learn and grow from the end of a relationship. It's not always easy, but it is always right.

CouchCast: How Important Is Your Parent's or Friend's Approval?

Wed, 23 Jan 2019 07:00:00 -0400

Let's be real... you're most likely not asking yourself this if your parents and friends are crazy about the guy you're dating. You're asking this if they're not completely on board with him. Today, we're talking about how much their approval matters and how it should affect your decision making.

CouchCast: 1st Date Conversation Starters

Wed, 16 Jan 2019 07:00:00 -0400

Ever been on a 1st date where you can practically hear the proverbial crickets chirping over the awkward silence? Yeah, us too! So, we've put together some of our best ideas for what to fill those silences with... Have fun!

Roundtable Discussion on Modern Christian Dating & Relationships

Mon, 14 Jan 2019 19:29:38 -0400

Hey Everyone! We are really excited *shocker* to be in Duluth, GA this Friday for a roundtable discussion about dating in the 21st century as a Christian. If you're local, feel free to join us! You can email us for the details.

CouchCast: Does He Have to be a Stronger Christian to Lead Well?

Wed, 09 Jan 2019 07:00:00 -0400

Today, we're answering (or at least trying) the question of whether or not the guy you're dating has to be a stronger Christian than you are to lead well...

CouchCast: Flirting 101

Wed, 02 Jan 2019 07:00:00 -0400

We're discussing different flirting styles, how to tell when a guy is flirting with you, some things to avoid when flirting with him, and more!

CouchCast: Girls Asking Guys Out... Good Idea or Bad Idea?

Thu, 27 Dec 2018 07:00:00 -0400

There's a difference between showing interest and pursuit... sometimes that line isn't clear, but where do you draw the line for yourself? Would you ask a guy out... or do you wait for him? We tell you what we think in today's episode!

Season 1 Blooper Reel!

Mon, 24 Dec 2018 11:00:00 -0400

Merry Christmas from us to you! We're giving you the gift of laughter this year.... laughter at our expense, that is. Enjoy! :)

If Singleness Is A Gift, I'd Like To Return It...

Wed, 19 Dec 2018 07:00:00 -0400

Season 1 finale! We're coming into Christmas week and we know that navigating the holiday season as a single person can be tricky... We've got some tips and ideas for making it a smooth(er) couple of weeks as you navigate family, friends, parties, and all the other things you have going on!

Easier Said Than Done

Wed, 12 Dec 2018 07:00:00 -0400

Ok, we're getting real today. We know it's really easy for us to sit here every week and talk about all of the things that will fix issues or help you avoid problems, but implementing those things is a whole different ballgame and we realize that. So, we're talking today about the things we don't have figured out yet or the things we are still struggling with in this single and dating season.

Hospitality & The Single Girl

Wed, 05 Dec 2018 07:00:00 -0400

Do you struggle to be hospitable in our hang-out culture? We're discussing ways today to focus on true hospitable in this season of singleness that will set you up well for later stages in life down the road.

Are You Sure You Want To Get Married?

Wed, 28 Nov 2018 07:00:00 -0400

Does the thought of marriage scare you? For a lot of people, the idea of marriage isn't all rainbows and butterflies... today, we are going to look at what some of those fears are and give some (hopefully) helpful Biblical encouragement to tackle them!

CouchCast: Can Guys & Girls Be Just Friends?

Wed, 21 Nov 2018 07:00:00 -0400

A quick bonus mini-episode! One take, no notes, just imagine a conversation happening on a couch near you. An answer to the age old question... Can guys and girls be just friends?

Are You Content Or Just Distracted?

Wed, 14 Nov 2018 07:00:00 -0400

In today's society, where busyness is a badge of honor, it is so easy to mask a discontented spirit with the distractions of day to day life. Today, we look deeper into this and talk about areas in our own lives where we have done and are doing this even today. It's a daily process of seeking contentment in Christ and we are working on this just as much as the next person.

What's Chemistry Got To Do With It?

Wed, 07 Nov 2018 07:00:00 -0400

Today we're tackling the topics of chemistry and attraction and how important (or not) they are in a relationship. It's definitely one subject where we're still looking for the middle...

What Christian Men Really Think About Dating (Part 2)

Wed, 31 Oct 2018 08:00:00 -0300

Are you lost when it comes to trying to figure out what guys really think about dating? We’ve been there too! So, we went straight to the source. We sent out a survey to Christian guys and asked them all kinds of questions to get inside their brains a little on this topic. Today is part 2 of what we found out!

What Christian Men Really Think About Dating (Part 1)

Wed, 24 Oct 2018 08:00:00 -0300

Girls and Their Lists...

Wed, 17 Oct 2018 08:00:00 -0300

Ok ladies, you all know what we mean... that list of what you want your future husband to be. We all have them, but if they're not handled wisely, they can be more trouble than help. Today we're going to explore which things should be non-negotiable and which ones you probably should let go!

Girl, Live Your Life!

Wed, 10 Oct 2018 08:00:00 -0300

'Waiting' can be a dreaded word among single Christian women, but it doesn't have to be! Today, we're talking about how to actively wait on the guy you're interested in to pursue you and also how to actively wait in a possibly extended period of singleness too.

Six Men You Should Want To Date (Part 2)

Wed, 03 Oct 2018 08:00:00 -0300

Six Men You Should Want To Date (Part 1)

Wed, 26 Sep 2018 08:00:00 -0300

Technology Etiquette For Dating

Wed, 19 Sep 2018 08:00:00 -0300

There is technology at every turn these days! It's a huge part of dating in the 21st century and if used correctly, it can be a great asset in a relationship... Today we're talking about how to balance technology with face to face communication and so much more.

First Date Do's and Dont's

Wed, 12 Sep 2018 08:00:00 -0300

You only get one chance at a good first impression! Join us today as we help you figure out how to ace that good first impression...

Sneak Peek - New Episode Tomorrow!

Tue, 11 Sep 2018 15:08:24 -0300

What We Wish Was Different

Wed, 05 Sep 2018 08:00:00 -0300

In today's episode, we're answering the question 'What do we personally wish was different about Christian dating?'. We'll be talking about some of the quirks and challenges that come along with trying to date as a Christian woman who wants to honor God with her dating life.

Teaser Trailer #2 - What We Wish Was Different

Sat, 01 Sep 2018 20:46:20 -0300

Full episode releases this Wednesday! 9/5/18.

Teaser Trailer - What We Wish Was Different

Wed, 29 Aug 2018 16:02:27 -0300

Full episode will be released next week. 9/5/18.

All About Us!

Thu, 02 Aug 2018 20:57:35 -0300

**Official Season 1 Launch 9/5/18** Come get to know us a little better! This episode is nothing but us rambling on about our lives and hobbies so that you can feel like we're old friends sitting in a coffeeshop catching up on life... because that's probably where we are and what we're doing right now!