The Lessons from Loss Podcast

Episode 60 - Having choice in death with Lisa Jackson

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 21:34:32 +0100

In this episode I'm in conversation with Lisa Jackson about the importance of choice in death, a timely topic given the upcoming Bill for Assisted Dying being voted on in UK Parliament on November 29th 2024. Lisa's husband Graham endured agonising pain at the end of his life and Lisa is still haunted by his anguished cries for help and relief. She wants people to know there are choices available in death and to have those important but difficult conversations whilst we can. We also talk about the power of realistic optimism and positivity and Lisa shares a few tips on how to deal with particularly challenging moments.

For more information about the Bill for Assisted Dying please go to Dignity in Dying https://www.dignityindying.org.uk/ a UK charity campaigning for

Choice over where we die, who is present and our treatment options.
Access to expert information on our options, good quality end-of-life care.
Control over how we die, our symptoms, pain relief and planning our own death.

There is a wealth of information and template emails for lobbying your MP to support the upcoming Bill.

To find out more about Lisa's work go to https://www.qmhypnotherapy.co.uk/meet-lisa-jackson/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 59 - Personal grief within the collective grief of a pandemic with Maria Bailey

Tue, 14 May 2024 08:49:45 +0100

In this episode I'm chatting with Maria Bailey, founder of Grief Specialists. Maria first started working with grief as the communications expert for a grief education organisation and it was during the pandemic that she was able to put what she learned along the way to good use when both her parents passed away during this time. Since then Maria set up Grief Specialists - a collective of grief experts dedicated to helping anyone who is experiencing loss and grief - to make support more accessible to more people with a whole range of resources covering many different types of loss and also different approaches to working through it. We talk about the additional challenges of bereavement during this particular period, of grieving on a personal level whilst the world was collectively grieving. We also cover the language of loss, keeping loss on the public 'agenda', forgiveness, the collective grief of the death of Queen Elizabeth II and some advice on how to approach anticipatory grief when someone has a terminal condition.

To find out more about Maria's Grief Specialist resource go to https://www.griefspecialists.org/

Dying Matters at https://www.hospiceuk.org/our-campaigns/dying-matters

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 58 - Thriving post burnout with Dr Caroline Steel

Sat, 06 Apr 2024 04:14:04 +0100

In this episode I'm in conversation with Caroline Steel, a GP of 17 years, doctor of 25 years, coach, hypnotherapist and speaker. Caroline grew up in a dysfunctional home with an alcoholic, narcissist, hoarding mother and an absent father, studying was her escape route and she escaped straight into the same chaotic dehumanising stress of the NHS. Roll on two decades and Caroline experienced burnout, but has returned to thrive in her role with tools she learned on her journey to recovery. We talk about losing bits of yourself to fit in with a certain identity, the de-humanising of public service roles and the impact of being parented by emotionally immature parents. Caroline shares the power of trigger tracking and how the strong support of colleagues around her helped her recovery. Caroline now helps others in similiar situations recover from and even prevent experiencing burn out. To find out more about her work at https://www.holisteelik.co.uk/

Adult children of emotionally immature parents by Lindsey C Gibson

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 57 - The calling of Angels with Kirsty Jandrell

Fri, 15 Mar 2024 15:28:30 +0000

In this episode I'm in conversation with Kirsty Jandrell about the impact of losing her mum and step dad within half an hour of each other whilst she was negotiating being a first time mum at the age of 46. These served as a turning point to live her life in alignment with her soul purpose. We cover dealing with grief during Covid pandemic, choosing love over fear and giving ourselves permission to grieve. Kirsty explains about Akashic records and how exploring them can help provide answers and clarity, and some simple practical steps to start you on your own spiritual journey. We talk about the power of stillness in meditation.

Kirsty is a channel, guide and facilitator of multiple modalities to help beautiful souls around the world get clear on what their true dream life is, and guide them into actually creating it and living it.

More about Kirsty's work at https://kirstyjandrell.com/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 56 - Giving stories a voice with Becky Bond

Fri, 16 Feb 2024 18:12:37 +0000

In this episode I'm in conversation with author, ghostwriter and journalist Becky Bond. Becky is passionate about giving people's stories a voice and she does this brilliantly in two ways. Through her ghostwriting she capture's people's stories and her first ghostwriting opportunity happened when she wrote an article about former paramedic, Georgina Hurst. After an horrific car crash caused by her boyfriend, Georgina rebuilt her life from scratch, learning to walk, talk and eat again. She is now a pole dancer. When Georgina read the piece, she asked Becky if shed would help with her book. 'Unbroken: The Woman who Walked Again’ was published in 2021. Becky then received a message from a man called Richie who was ready to share his own truth, but didn’t know how or where to start with his story of abuse, childhood prostitution and the failing care system. His book ‘Richie: Who Cares?' was published in 2022 and is currently being optioned for film and television. More recently Becky has developed a service called Your Story Your Voice wherein she beautifully captures a recorded slice of personal history for future generations to enjoy. We cover the importance of telling our stories, the impact of not doing so, and the joy of having something captured of those we love for when they have passed.

If you would like to chat to Becky about ghostwriting your story and for information about her books already written go to https://www.beckybondwrites.com/

And to capture a slice of personal history go to https://yourstoryyourvoice.co.uk/home-1

Music by Jamie Farrell - https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 55 - Grief in emigration with Sarah van Thiel

Fri, 02 Feb 2024 15:30:08 +0000

In this episode I chat with Sarah van Thiel about the subtle loss and grief she unknowingly experienced when she and her family emigrated to a new country several years ago. It was only when her Mum passed away recently and she picked up a copy of The Grief Recovery Handbook by John James and Russell Friedman and started some of the exercises that she realised how much she had been impacted by the move to a new country. In acknowledging and grieving those losses she now feels truly at home and integrated there. Sarah is training to be a coach and once graduated plans to combine her nursing and coaching skills in supporting and coach women after treatment has finished for cervical, endometrial and ovarian cancers. Watch this space! For more about The Grief Recovery Handbook see https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/books/grief-recovery-handbook-src Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/ More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 54 - Wisdom in grieving with Sara Price

Fri, 19 Jan 2024 15:07:47 +0000

In this episode I'm in conversation with Sara Price about using what she learned from the dastardly decade of loss she experienced years ago to help her grieve for her mum, when she passed just over a year ago, in a much more sustainable and compassionate way. Sara shares so many points of wisdom about grief, we talk about about its unpredictable nature and how it has no respect for convenience or calendars. We cover being kind to ourselves, being unapologetic for how we grieve and acknowledging the totality of the person/relationship lost for all that it brought, good or otherwise. It is an episode full of wisdom and love.

Sara is an expert too in being a rebellious optimist and a serial entrepreneur. She is driven by her desire to help other purpose-led business owners to make a great living AND make a real difference in the world. Sara founded her company, Actually, in 2019 after 26 years in communications, marketing
campaigning and PR including co-founding one of London’s most successful independent PR agencies. Sara has dedicated her career to helping people, organisations and brands to communicate better and has advised some of the leading brands and charities in the world from Kellogg’s to Avon, from SheDecides to UNICEF. Now, she supports changemakers and impact business owners to unleash the power of great marketing with a straightforward, no BS
mix of training, coaching and consultancy.

To find out more about Sara's work please visit https://actually.world/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 53 - The importance of touch with Dr Jane Lewis

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 12:41:15 +0000

Delighted to have a return visit to the podcast from Dr Jane Lewis who featured in episode 43 about the ancient Hawaiian wisdom of Huna. In this episode we are in conversation about touch, the importance of it for our health and the impact of being denied opportunities for touch during the Covid 19 pandemic restrictions. As a body therapist it is a subject close to my heart.

To find out more about Jane's work please go to https://drjanelewis.com/

and https://secretartofhuna.com/

For more about Havening go to https://www.havening.org/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 52 - Healing the rift with his father with Dirk Plas

Fri, 15 Dec 2023 19:12:20 +0000

In this episode Dirk shares the journey to heal the estranged relationship with his Dad after his Mum died. We talk about the languages of love, of accepting everything about those people we love the most, of taking ownership for the part we play in these special relationships. It is a conversation filled with love and honesty.

Dirk offers therapy and coaching in London that encompasses both the mind and body, extending beyond traditional verbal therapy. Find out more at https://www.dirkplas.com/

More about Languages of Love at https://5lovelanguages.com/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 51 - Keep watering you with Julie New

Mon, 04 Dec 2023 09:18:59 +0000

I have a lovely conversation with Julie New, Person Recovery Coach, in this episode which is full of warmth, love and humour and very much about hope. Julie shares the very different experiences of losing her husband, her brother and her ex-husband and father of her children and how these experiences helped shape the writing of her beautiful book The Grief Garden Path. Julie uses nature and the plants and flowers in our gardens to help people navigate their way through grief and recovery. Julie is launching an audio version, personally narrated, of The Grief Garden Path in Dec 2023 to coincide with National Grief Awareness week in association with The Good Grief Trust.

To find out more about Julie's work and to purchase her books, audio or hardcopy go to https://julienew.co.uk/

More about National Grief Awareness week at https://www.thegoodgrieftrust.org/ngaw/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 50 - Follow your Heart with Ming Ewe

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 22:06:49 +0000

In this episode I'm in conversation with Ming Ewe about her rich and varied journey to rediscover the parts of her lost following sexual trauma as a young adult. We cover mindfulness, nature retreats, circling, tantric massage therapy, and Ming shares a few pieces of her beautiful deep poetry that has helped find peace and follow her heart. There is a heap of wisdom and experience shared in this episode.

Ming has generously shared a list of resources that helped her. Please do check them out.

List of helpful healing resources
List of various therapists/things – most of them I’ve done as part of my healing journey apart from Sarah Grace. If you have any questions or want to talk,
please contact Ming at myinnervoice.life@gmail.com

Adhisthana - https://adhisthana.org/natureofmind Buddhist online and in person retreats

Alexey Kuzmin - https://www.tantrictherapy.co.uk/ Tantric therapy for women and couples only. For women only – involves sex therapy and/or tantric or yoni massage. Online and W London

Amelia Griffiths - https://www.ameliagriffiths.com/ Spiritual and sexual healing Online and NW London

Brigit Anna McNeill - https://linktr.ee/brigitannamcneill Nature Connection Guide- Rewilding Humans, Author, Wild Plant Medicine teacher, Mentor. Online and in Devon

Dirk Plas - https://www.dirkplas.com/ Body psychotherapy, authentic relating, psychedelic journeys. London

Embodied Moves - http://www.embodiedmoves.com/ Various modalities to support embodiment including touch,sensuality, meditation and sexuality. Online, London, Stroud

Kalindi Jordan - https://www.kalindijordan.com/ Intimacy and sexual healing coach works with women and couples. Online and Glastonbury, UK

Leticia Valles - https://welldoing.org/counsellors/leticia-valles-relational-
psychotherapist-wc2n Talking psychotherapy, integrative, relational Online and London, UK

Rupert Marques - https://www.handontheearth.org/ Contemplative practice, wilderness rites of passage, ecodharma/buddhist and nature based practice. All over the UK, Ireland, US and possibly Australia – check his calendar

Sarah Grace - https://livinglimitlessly.co.uk/ Helps women heal from past childhood trauma. Online

Sharpham - https://www.sharphamtrust.org/ Various types of mindfulness retreats on a 550 acre estate incorporating nature and community. Some secular or themed retreats in Sharpham House or Coach House. The Barn is Buddhist but nicely so. Woodland and canoeing retreats are outdoors where you live in bell tents. Online and Totnes, South Devon

Steph Magenta - https://stephmagenta.com/ Breathwork and shamanism Online and Glastonbury, sometimes Manchester, UK

Sue Hambleton - https://www.facebook.com/hearthfulheartful.living Health kinesiology, energy healing, gut microbiome reset, intolerance testing. Online and Tur Langton, Leicester, UK

Temple of Eros - FB group. In person sacred sexuality events run by Margo Zwiefka and Paulina Sygulska Tenner. London, UK

Triatna Various groups including

Croydon:
https://www.buddhistcentrecroydon.org/buddhism-and-meditation

London: https://www.londonbuddhistcentre.com/Buddhist practice. Not affiliated to a particular branch ofbuddhism but about applying it to modern world. Online, various global locations including London

Various practitioners in London - FB group: Circling/Authentic Relating in London Relational mindfulness practice with other people to practice authenticity, presence, empathy, deep connection, intimacy and vulnerability. London, UK

Helpful books

Are you the One for Me? - Barbara De Angelis

The Choice for Love: Entering into a New, Enlightened Relationship with
Yourself, Others and the World - Barbara De Angelis

The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of
Trauma - Bessel van der Kolk

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We
Live, Love, Parent, and Lead - Brene Brown

Wild Embers: Poems of rebellion, fire and beauty - Nikita Gill

Sensation: Adventures in sex, love and laughter - Isabel Losada

The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse - Charlie MacKesy

Wild Power: Discover the Magic of Your Menstrual Cycle and Awaken the
Feminine Path to Power Discover the Magic of Your Menstrual Cycle and
Awaken the Feminine Path to Power - Alexander Pope, Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer

The Power of Now: A guide to spiritual enlightenment - Eckhart Tolle

Youtube
Dr Gabor Mate – The 7 impacts of trauma:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5jmsJAClpw

Podcasts

Unlocking us with Brene Brown

https://open.spotify.com/show/4P86ZzHf7EOlRG7do9LkKZ?si=4b9d2403a6634c85

The Amy Rushworth Show

https://amyrushworth.com/the-podcast

The Awake with Jake Show

https://open.spotify.com/show/6IihTAjm9LKOi2UOcLrhbz?si=8a80cce13a0443ba

And finally....

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 49 - Healing grieving hearts with Carole Henderson

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 08:48:30 +0000

In this episode I chat with Carole Henderson who recently lost her business and her reputation overnight. She draws parallels from this experience of loss to other very significant losses in her life, in particular the death of her husband nearly two decades ago. She shares how it is possible to differentiate the loss from the emotion enabling healing without losing the love and using the experience for building sustainable mental wellness for the future.

Carole has been a grief specialist for over 13 years and has helped hundreds of people heal their grieving heart and trained many more in the techniques to do this effectively through her 4 day education programme. Find out more about her work at https://www.edu-therapy.uk/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 48 - Reclaiming joyful playfulness with Eleanor Snare

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 15:19:02 +0100

In this episode I'm in conversation with Eleanor Snare about the loss of and journey to reclaim playfulness and joy in life following an experience of sexual trauma as a young adult. We chat about the erosion of imagination and creativity with the loss of their true identity. Eleanor explains how EMDR therapy was a key component at the start of the healing journey and how an immersion into embodiment practices enabled a return to home in their body. We chat about finding and using our guides. This is a rich and joyful conversation which I'm sure you will enjoy.

Eleanor works exclusively with men equipping them to excel through bringing to light their most effective and authentic selves. To find out more about Eleanor's work go to https://www.eleanorsnare.com/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 47 - Making friends with Lymes and ME with Lauren Wood

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 20:16:19 +0100

In this episode Lauren shares how she lost so many aspects of her life when she developed ME and Lymes disease, yet with some powerful reframing whilst training to be a lifecoach and time out in nature she now views these lifelong conditions to be a gift, her own personal self development tool.

Lauren works with women who understand the importance of having alone time in nature and are ready to develop their skills, mindset and confidence to go get it. To find out more about Lauren's work go to https://onewildlife.co.uk/ or find her on Facebook or Instagram as One Wild Life Coach Wales https://www.facebook.com/onewildlifecoachwales

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about my work at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 46 - Lessons from the Will Writing Yogi with Eunice Learmont

Fri, 22 Sep 2023 15:19:38 +0100

In this episode I chat with Eunice Learmont about the importance of having a will and a lasting power of attorney (LPA) and what she has learned from her many years of being a will writer and her own personal experiences of losing her father and seeing his wishes weren't carried out as he wanted or expected. Eunice shares her knowledge and wisdom with regards to UK will writing and this episode is one that really everyone should listen to, especially if you don't have a will in place or a lasting power of attorney (LPA) and are assuming things will be taken care of in the way you or your family would want. It certainly made me see things in a different light and to know that sorting out your affairs can be done with sensitivity and warmth. All the information Eunice shares is in relation to the current laws of England and Wales in April 2023 when the recording took place. If you are subject to law in other countries please seek relevant guidance. To find out more about Eunice's work please go to: https://www.asiazenwillwriting.co.uk/ Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/ More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 45 - A legacy of adventure with Suzanne Halsey

Fri, 21 Jul 2023 20:18:30 +0100

In this episode Suzanne Halsey shares how the legacy of adventure left by her Dad coupled with the desire to give back to the Wisdom Hospice, where he and all the family had been so well cared for in his final days, led to her embarking on some adventures of a lifetime including running from Lands End to John O'Groats, learning to solo sky dive and climbing Killimanjaro and Everest Base Camp. We chat about new opportunities arising from loss, and how loss can be a catalyst for change and progression.

If you would like to donate to Suzanne's fund raising for the Friends of Wisdom Hospice you can find her Just Giving page at https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/suzannehalseyrunbrit

or direct to the Friends of Wisdom Hospice at https://fowh.org.uk/

To find out more about Run Britannia https://www.ratrace.com/run-britannia

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 44 - The Finder of Lost Things with Hannah Velten

Fri, 07 Jul 2023 08:16:47 +0100

In this episode I chat with Hannah Velten about the extraordinary experience of losing her brother Christian who went missing in Africa as a young man, and reconnecting with him in spirit many years later after she gave up the search for him and lost all hope. Now working in partnership with those living and in spirit Hannah and Christian bring together spirit mediums to perform rescue circles to help release stuck spirits from their earth-bound state, guide them to the Light and clear up global energies in the process. This is a remarkable story, I hope you enjoy it.

To find out more about Hannah and Christian's work and their story:

https://theraiselighthouse.org/ https://www.hannahvelten.online https://www.finderoflostthingspodcast.com https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF2bIq36p7Vm6oOR6IlfQcw/featured https://www.facebook.com/hannahandchrisvelten/ https://www.instagram.com/hannahvelten/ Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/ More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 43 - Working through grief with the ancient Hawaiian wisdom of Huna with Dr Jane Lewis

Fri, 23 Jun 2023 16:27:58 +0100

In this episode I chat with Dr Jane Lewis about the loss of her mum to dementia and how the ancient Hawaiian wisdom of Huna helped her deal with the guilt of making difficult decisions. Practicing the art of Hoʻoponopono during her mum's final months with dementia allowed forgiveness and reconcilliation during this challenging time. We also talk about the importance of finding support, including touch therapy, and acknowledging that grief is a natural process which can bring moments of sadness, joy, frustration and many other emotions.

To find out more about Jane's work with Huna and ways to contact her please go to https://drjanelewis.com/.

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 42 - Listening to the whispers of your gut with Julie Randall

Fri, 09 Jun 2023 18:50:01 +0100

In this episode I chat with Julie Randall about her experience of losing herself in a series of abusive and controlling relationships until eventually her survival instinct kicked in and she began the long process to extract and rediscover herself. We talk about tuning into gut instinct, and how to support someone who is in an abusive relationship but is unable to leave for whatever reason.

Today Julie coaches business women in the art of juggling life and business, and is an advocate for supporting victims of domestic abuse through her work with Women's Aid and the Employers Initiative for Domestic Abuse. You can find out more about Julie's work and these organisations at

https://enlivened.co.uk/

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

https://www.eida.org.uk/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 41 - The losses and lessons of kidney transplantation with Angela Peake

Fri, 26 May 2023 17:42:23 +0100

In this episode I chat with Angela Peake about the losses and wins of receiving a donated kidney twice and spending many years on dialysis in between. We talk about the impact that had on her life, as a parent, a nurse, a wife. Angela also covers the impact of receiving a transplant from someone who lost their life, the gratitude for their family agreeing to it in the midst of their grief. Formerly an oncology nurse for many years Angela now uses her own personal experience of being a patient and a nurse to help others in her profession to support colleagues with a disability. Angela also coaches others through her 12 session bespoke programme called Replenished. To contact Angela email at Angela.peake010@gmail.com

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 40 - Normality not vanity with Fiona Shoults

Fri, 12 May 2023 20:32:51 +0100

In this episode award winning Microbladist Fiona Shoults shares her experience of having breast cancer and the loss of confidence that arose from losing her hair, in particular her eyebrows. We also talk about losing friends during this time, an aspect of loss she was not expecting. Fiona now helps others regain their normality and confidence with her award winning microblading and areola (nipple) tattooing.

To find out more about Fiona's work

https://microbladingandmore.co.uk/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 39 - How changing my beliefs set me free with Sue Ellar

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 09:04:02 +0100

In this episode I'm in conversation with Sue Ellar, a health, vitality and weight loss coach, about what she learned when her seemingly perfect marriage was crumbling around her. We talk about how her beliefs about marriage prolonged her pain and suffering after the discovery of her husband's affair and how she has taken that lesson forward in her next marriage and every relationship. We talk about how our beliefs impact everything we do and how she uses those beliefs to help people positively change their relationships with food and eating. To find out more about Sue's work or to get in contact please go to https://sueellar.com/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 38 - The healing power of meditation with Annya Stoddart

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 20:01:37 +0100

In this episode, acupuncturist and meditation teacher, Annya Stoddart shares how practicing meditation enabled her to find peace and deep connection with her parents in the weeks leading up to their deaths, and since. We talk about the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, the importance of ritual and saying goodbye particularly when there is no body, the anatomy of tears, getting started with meditation and donating your body to medical science. To find out more about Annya's work and download her free Nine Breaths Meditation practice to help you start please check out www.wisdom-mind.co.uk

For information about about donating your body to medical science: https://www.hta.gov.uk/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 37 - Living Off Centre with Laura Bridgens

Fri, 31 Mar 2023 08:37:29 +0100

In this episode I chat with Laura Bridgens about the experience of discovering her late father was not her biological father. She had been conceived by an anonymous sperm donor and this only came to light after she received a commercial DNA testing kit one Christmas. We talk about the huge impact this unexpected discovery had on her sense of belonging, her place in the world and her identity. Laura was fortunate to have had a positive outcome in her quest to find her biological father, but many others are met with rejection and denial. Laura now chairs the Donor Conceived Register and is in the process of setting up a charity to help support other Donor Conceived people as there is very little formal support available currently.

To find out more and get support within the UK go to: https://www.donorconceivedregister.co.uk/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 36 -Reclaiming my body with a tattoo with Harriet Waley-Cohen

Fri, 17 Mar 2023 19:51:19 +0000

In this episode I have a conversation with Harriet Waley-Cohen about her experience of losing a breast to cancer, the impact this had on her body and her relationship to it, and how having her reconstructed breast tattooed on live daytime television ultimately was the catalyst to finding compassion, love and softness within and learning to honour both her body and herself. Harriet shares wisdom about the gifts and unexpected lessons this challenging life situation brought about.

Harriet has been through multiple big life experiences and knows what it takes to make deep rooted changes that stick, and to get through tough times and come out the other side stronger and wiser than ever. As a women’s leadership coach and victim focused trainer Harriet’s mission over the past 19 years has been to make sure women know their true value and can make the impact they want to make in the world, supporting women to change the way they think, act and feel in their relationship with themselves, their bodies and their potential, massively for the better. To find out more about Harriet's work check out her website at https://www.harrietwaleycohen.com/ or connect via Linkedin at https://www.linkedin.com/in/harriet-waley-cohen-speaker/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 35 - A different way to care for our dead with Simon Ferrar of Clandon Wood Natural Burial Ground and Nature Reserve

Fri, 03 Mar 2023 19:20:36 +0000

In this episode I chat with Simon Ferrar about his natural burial ground and nature reserve in Surrey. We cover the beauty of caring for our dead in a way that also cares and protects our environment for generations to come, and Simon shares some beautifully rich stories of the people he has served, and the impact of bringing back ritual, choice and individuality into the way we honour and say goodbye to those we love. He talks about the need to talk to those around us about our wishes, and theirs, for when we have died. For me personally a life affirming episode.

For more information about Clandon Wood check out https://www.clandonwood.com/ or you can connect via Facebook, Instagram or Linkedin

Information about natural burial grounds in the UK http://www.naturaldeath.org.uk/index.php?page=natural-burial-grounds

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 34 - The lenses of loss with Celia Griver

Mon, 20 Feb 2023 20:34:31 +0000

In conversation with Celia Griver of Blossom Hypnotherapy about the impact of losing her mum to cancer when she was just 9 years old, and how some of that loss is only just becoming apparent now. We talk about seeing life through our lenses of loss, and how it feels to be seen by others through their lenses of loss.

Celia is a clinical hypnotherapist helping people find new and different ways to deal with the situations they are experiencing, believing passionately that we are all unique and no one size or methodology fits all.

https://www.blossomhypnotherapy.com/

Music by Jamie Farrell at https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 33 - Walking on the Wilder Side of Life with Jen Le Marinel

Fri, 03 Feb 2023 19:30:00 +0000

Jen Le Marinel and I chat about what she lost when she deliberately walked away from high flying corporate life for a far simpler life. And what she learned walking solo from Lands End to John O'Groats, spending time with the San bushmen in the Kalahari and immersing herself in nature.

Using all that wisdom and lived experience Jen now helps other women to reconnect with who they are at her wild retreats. To find out more about Jen's work check out https://www.wildfirewalks.com/

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 32 - Finding me after losing my voice with Janet Smith-Harrison

Wed, 25 Jan 2023 17:52:15 +0000

In this episode I chat with Janet Smith-Harrison who lost her mum suddenly at the age of 18 sending ripples reverberating out. As life settled once again into a humdrum of happiness Janet then lost her voice at a time she needed it the most. We talk about the struggle of families and the surviving parent when one parent dies, the isolation and frustration of losing your voice, and the need to connect with the very essence of you for ultimate strength and resilience.

Janet helps other women rediscover their essence, if you'd like to find out more please contact her at jmsmithharrison@gmail.com

Music by Jamie Farrell

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at

https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 31 - Honouring Mum and Dad with Emma Goodman

Tue, 10 Jan 2023 09:50:19 +0000

I chat with Emma Goodman about the passing of her parents, how she honours their memory and the lessons she learned from them. A conversation about simple grief and loss in the natural order of life.

Emma is a Personal Trainer and Exercise Specialist in Women's Health - pre and post natal and menopause. To find out more about Emma's work you can find her at https://www.emmafitness.co.uk/about/

or at https://www.energisefitness.co.uk/emma-goodman

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.findingease.co.uk/

Episode 30 - Sixty seconds with Marie DeBont-Booth

Fri, 23 Dec 2022 12:30:41 +0000

In this episode I chat with Marie DeBont-Booth about the sudden death of her brother, the ripples of shock that reverberated through the family and how she found exercising to deal with the grief. This led her into multiple marathon running and more recently slowing and easing into pilates. We talk about running, cake, finding support and getting through the next sixty seconds.

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.re-emerging.com/

or here at https://www.findingease.co.uk

Episode 29 - Smiling through the tears with Genny Jones

Sat, 03 Dec 2022 06:22:01 +0000

I chat with Genny Jones about the very recent passing of her much loved Mum. Genny bravely shares the lessons learned in these very early days, about gratitude, about being ok to not be ok, about getting your house in order, resilience and much more.

Genny, aka Confident Queen, is passionate about the benefits of laughter and smiling on our wellbeing, the UK Laughter Champion 2022, a former Britain's Got Talent participant and author of Crown of Smiles. To find out more about Genny's work find her at https://confidentqueengenny.com/

Music by Jamie Farrell: https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

More about me at https://www.re-emerging.com/

Episode 28 - Balancing the emotions of loss with Liz Almond

Fri, 14 Oct 2022 18:58:50 +0100

In this episode Liz Almond shares her experience of multiple losses, all very different, and the cumulative impact they had on her. We talk about loneliness, developing beneficial emotional hygiene habits, ways in which we might support people in need in different, kinder ways and the Balance Procedure. If you'd like to find out more about Liz's work you can find her at Insightful Minds

https://insightfulminds.co.uk/

https://www.campaigntoendloneliness.org/the-facts-on-loneliness/

https://balanceprocedure.com/

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

https://www.re-emerging.com/

Episode 27 - Hair and loss with trichologist Katy Holohan

Fri, 30 Sep 2022 06:04:45 +0100

In this episode Katy explains about the bi-directional nature of hair loss. The psychological impact of losing our hair and how loss and other trauma can spark off hair loss. She shares how seeing a trichologist can help on many different levels, from emotional support to identifying what has caused the hair loss.

Katy runs a mobile hair studio in Kent alongside her trichology expertise, and has her own fabulous podcast called Hair Therapy which covers every area of hair health and more!

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/hair-therapy/id1558925611

Twitter: @hairtherapyuk

https://www.thelionsbarbercollective.com/

https://masced.uk/

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

https://www.re-emerging.com/

Episode 26 - From sadness to sunshine with Jude Hill

Thu, 15 Sep 2022 23:49:30 +0100

Jude Hill shares her experiences of losing her young son to cancer when she was just 24, and then losing both her parents in quick succession afterwards. She talks about how for years she went through the motions of getting on with life but wasn't really dealing with the grief. The turning point came when she discovered energy work and the power of clearing unhelpful stuck emotion and energy. Jude now helps people, particularly parents who lose a child, navigate their way through grief with her Life After Loss membership programme and book called From Sadness to Sunshine.

https://sadnesstosunshine.com/

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

https://www.re-emerging.com/

Episode 25 - The Whys and Hows of Running 500 Miles with Paul Mason

Fri, 02 Sep 2022 20:29:32 +0100

Endurance runner Paul Mason shares the insight gained from running 500 miles in one continuous effort to raise funds and awareness for research into Liver Cancer following the death of his running friend Mark. Hearing Mark's words of wisdom about how he dealt with his illness, helped Paul push his mind and body to new limits. We also talk about the four sets - mind, heart, health and soul; the importance of having a why and the beauty and impact of singing in harmony.

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/DOUBLERING500

https://www.justgiving.com/campaign/MarkThornberry

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

https://www.re-emerging.com/

Episode 24 - Losing and re-emerging from the menopause with Emma Lewis

Fri, 19 Aug 2022 08:06:35 +0100

Emma Lewis shares her experiences of loss of health and identity as she progressed through the menopause and beyond. An episode for everyone to listen to regardless of gender to help understand what half the human population are likely to experience to some degree. Now thriving Emma is excited about the next chapter in her life with her new found wisdom and knowledge about herself.

https://www.newsonhealth.co.uk/

https://www.postcardsfrommidlife.com/

https://megsmenopause.com/

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

https://www.re-emerging.com/

Episode 23 - Losing weight with help from a spiritual practice with Theodora Izzard

Mon, 08 Aug 2022 21:38:57 +0100

I chat with award winning Angelic Reiki Master Theodora Izzard about how developing a spiritual practice when she found herself in a dark place following the death of her father ultimately led her to shedding over 8 stone of both physical (and emotional) weight and taking her life in a new and different direction.

https://www.theodorafizzard.com/

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

https://www.re-emerging.com/

Episode 22 - Facing the fear of loss with Nichola Hayler

Fri, 27 May 2022 20:48:07 +0100

I chat with Nichola Hayler of My Sacred Space about overcoming the crippling fear of loss and the importance of creating safe therapeutic spaces to let go and heal.

https://www.facebook.com/createmysacredspace

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 21 - Three Dads Walking with Mike Palmer

Wed, 18 May 2022 12:45:12 +0100

I chat with Mike Palmer, one of Three Dads Walking, who I shared a few miles with last year when the walk between their homes passed my local area. Mike shares the experience of losing his daughter Beth to suicide, the camerarderie of the walk, and about educating ourselves about suicide, particularly with young people, and how to help.

Hopeline UK - 0800 0684141

https://www.papyrus-uk.org/

https://www.3dadswalking.uk/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_krcse9JLf0

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 20 - Life moving forward with Martha Johnson

Fri, 22 Apr 2022 08:28:19 +0100

I chat with Martha Johnson who lost her husband very suddenly at home. We talk about what she learned from his passing but also from his life, and how she has moved forward with a new relationship to find happiness in a different way.

https://www.jfarrell.com
https://www.re-emerging.com

Episode 19 - If not this then who am I with Kath Allen

Fri, 08 Apr 2022 08:04:44 +0100

I chat with Kath Allen about losing identity as she changed careers and about defining success. We cover the grief and sadness of working in ecology and how community and the collective power of small actions can help. We talk about boundaries and getting the foundations of self care in place to find flow.

https://uk.linkedin.com/in/kath-allen-phd-139b8539

https://www.facebook.com/groups/togethermumscircle

kath@kathallen.co.uk

https://www.positive.news/

https://conservationoptimism.org/

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 18 - Accepting loss as the Human experience with Andrew Coveney

Fri, 25 Mar 2022 08:10:18 +0000

Episode 18 - I chat with Andrew Coveney about the estrangement from his son, taking responsibility and accepting loss as part of the human experience.

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 17 - The currency of kindness with Johanna Rhys-Davies

Fri, 11 Mar 2022 12:16:09 +0000

I chat with Johanna Rhys-Davies about the shame and loss of amicably walking away from her marriage and being within days of losing her home as the country went into lockdown. We cover kindness, vulnerability and the narrative around success.

Music by Jamie Farrell

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 16 - The rucksack on my back with Fran Mills

Fri, 25 Feb 2022 10:50:49 +0000

I chat with Fran Mills about the wisdom she gained whilst healing from the loss of her childhood due to sexual abuse. We talk about shame, rucksacks, stars aligning and speaking out.

Swim with the Bluetits - https://thebluetits.co/

Music by Jamie Farrell - https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 15 - Finding comfort and guidance in spirituality with Lynda McIver

Fri, 11 Feb 2022 06:28:40 +0000

I chat with Lynda McIver who found great comfort and guidance in spirituality and hypnotherapy following the loss of her sister in a terror attack. She is now working towards sharing these approaches with others to help relieve the pain of loss.

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 14 - I am not my disability with Louise Lyon

Fri, 28 Jan 2022 08:51:51 +0000

I chat with Louise about the loss of her health, living with chronic pain and the lessons she learned about compassion, moderation and self care.

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 13 - Flying high in a new direction with Nushin Elahi

Fri, 14 Jan 2022 14:38:09 +0000

I chat with Nushin Elahi of Reframe Coaching about the loss of many existing anchors in her life when her Mum's health deteriorated and how having the courage to say yes to overcome her fear of flying took her down or rather up an unexpected path to empowerment

https://www.facebook.com/reframecoaching

https://re-frame.coach/

https://fun2fly.blog/

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 12 - Taking opportunities with Rachel Smith

Wed, 05 Jan 2022 08:12:46 +0000

I chat to Claire Farrell about my own experience of being widowed young, living life to the full, regrets, forgiveness and lots more.
https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 11 - Community is everything with Caitlin Limmer

Fri, 17 Dec 2021 08:00:20 +0000

I chat with Caitlin Limmer who was given just 40 mins to live in 2004 and lives today knowing she is only ever one blood test away from needing a transplant. She approaches life with an abundance of positivity and energy and is a driving force within her local community, believing that everybody has something to offer.
https://caitlinlimmer.co.uk/

https://mdspatientsupport.org.uk/

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 10 - Helping young people by sharing Jamie‘s story with Lisa Haddon

Mon, 06 Dec 2021 13:51:42 +0000

I talk with Lisa Haddon who lost her 16yr old son to suicide and how sharing his story is helping raise awareness and educate others about young people and suicide.
https://www.youngminds.org.uk/

https://imago.community/

https://www.papyrus-uk.org/

http://centrepieces.org/

https://www.tcf.org.uk/

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 9 - From dementia to extreme knitting with Susie Hewer

Fri, 19 Nov 2021 07:45:26 +0000

Following the loss of her mum to dementia Susie became a mighty voice in the campaign for research and awareness, through running, knitting and challenging David Cameron

http://extremeknittingredhead.blogspot.com/
https://www.alzheimersresearchuk.org/
https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 8 - The language of loss with Vie Portland

Fri, 05 Nov 2021 12:49:39 +0000

I chat with Vie Portland about grief for things we have lost and for what we never had, the language of loss, how to support someone at the end of life and burlesque
https://www.vieness.co.uk/
https://www.deadgooddays
https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 7 - Facing Fears with Sara Hibbins

Fri, 22 Oct 2021 12:41:06 +0100

In this episode Sara shares how she rediscovered her passion for life through facing her fears with outdoor adventures following the tragic loss of her baby daughter Frankie in a road traffic collision.

https://www.brake.org.uk/
https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 6 - Taking responsibility and staying present with Rachel Chapman of Simply Hypnotherapy

Fri, 08 Oct 2021 08:15:18 +0100

The episode in which I chat with Rachel Chapman of Simply Hypnotherapy about the benefits of therapy, the power of personal responsibility and self belief and the joy of being present.
https://simplyhypnotherapykent.co.uk/
https://www.jfarrellmusic.co

Episode 5 - Emotional intensity, the grief model and self care with Kim Furnish

Fri, 24 Sep 2021 09:54:22 +0100

I chat with Kim Furnish of Instar Coaching about her experiences of loss and how she used her professional knowledge to help her through. A discussion about emotional intensity, the Kubler-Ross grief model, getting support and self care.

https://instarcoaching.com

The Kubler-Ross grief model -https://grief.com

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com

Episode 4 - The art of napping with Katrina Copping

Fri, 10 Sep 2021 08:31:52 +0100

In this episode Katrina shares how she lost her hearing, what she wasn't told by the experts and how she's perfected the art of napping and other great self care habits.

Katrina's blog - https://www.beenhearbefore.com/
RNID - National hearing loss charity - https://rnid.org.uk/
Hearing Link - UK Hearing Loss Charity - https://www.hearinglink.org/

Music produced by Jamie Farrell
https://www.jfarrellmusic.com/

Episode 3 - Building strong guide-ropes with Rob Cowlin

Fri, 27 Aug 2021 06:14:10 +0100

In this episode Rob and I talk about the impact of losing his father, grieving, almost giving up, developing strong guide ropes and learning to both ask for and accept help.

Music by Jamie Farrell https://www.jfarrellmusic.com

Episode 2 - Bouncing forwards full of self belief with Jo Glister

Fri, 13 Aug 2021 09:12:52 +0100

In this episode Jo shares how she lost her confidence and much more as her marriage ended and the steps she took to rebuild her self belief to a far greater level than she had ever experienced before.

Music produced by Jamie Farrell

https://www.jfarrellmusic.com

Episode 1 - How Art took me from darkness to light with Greg Ward

Fri, 30 Jul 2021 14:43:26 +0100

The one in which Greg explains how he discovered he could express, release and begin the heal the hurt of losing the relationship with his children through art and his vision to help others do the same.