Not what makes sense. Not what everyone else needs. Not what you think you should want. What do you want?

In this episode of It’s Not What You Think, Julie explores what happens when we gradually lose the thread back to ourselves. We can become incredibly good at reading other people, meeting expectations and functioning in the world while becoming less connected to our own feelings, preferences and needs.

Julie looks at how this disconnection can begin, why it’s often rewarded as independence, capability or selflessness and how it can affect our relationships, decisions and ability to trust ourselves.

You’ll also explore some simple ways to begin reconnecting, not by reinventing yourself, but by noticing the small signals that may have been there all along.

In this episode:

• Why knowing what you want can become surprisingly difficult

• How early experiences can teach us to look outside ourselves for answers

• The difference between understanding yourself and actually being connected to yourself

• How your body can communicate what your conscious mind overrides

• Why reconnecting with yourself can initially feel uncomfortable

• How to begin hearing your own preferences, needs and internal signals again

Learn more about Julie’s work at JulieCochrane.com and explore Noma, emotional wellbeing support that helps you understand the patterns underneath your thoughts, feelings and reactions, reconnect with yourself and begin responding differently over time, at mynoma.health.

In this episode of It’s Not What You Think, Julie explores how disconnection can sit underneath anxiety, overwhelm, people-pleasing, perfectionism and the feeling that you’re always taking care of everyone else while losing track of what you need.

We look at how some of these patterns can begin as ways of maintaining connection with others, why they can follow us long into adulthood and how modern life can make it even easier to keep our attention everywhere except ourselves.

Most importantly, we explore what reconnection can actually look like. Not another self-improvement project, but learning to notice yourself again.

In this episode:

• Why disconnection doesn’t always look like loneliness

• How we can learn to disconnect from ourselves to stay connected to others

• Why highly capable people can still feel disconnected

• How old patterns and modern life can reinforce each other

• Simple ways to begin noticing your own needs, feelings and responses again

Learn more about Julie’s work at JulieCochrane.com and explore Noma, emotional wellbeing support for both the moments you’re in and the patterns underneath them, at mynoma.health.