1. Maria’s journey as a Step Daughter
2. Maria’s journey as a Step Parent
3. Maria’s journey adopting her Step Daughter
4. What to look for in a potential spouse who has a biological child from another person

#stepchild #stepparent #adoption #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce

Maria Natapov Bio

Stepparenting Expert and Trusted Advisor to Divorce Professionals, Financial Advisors, and Parenting Coaches Maria offers a caring and playful coaching approach where clients feel energetically held and empowered to joyfully and confidently blend their families. 

Through her signature 4-step energy-focused process combined with Rapid Resolution modality, Maria helps families transition from chaos to harmony. She enables stepparents to strengthen their values, foster partner alignment, create trust with stepchildren, and enhance community with birth families by building on their existing skills, experiences, and strengths. 

Maria has helped numerous blended families foster more harmonious family dynamics through her VIP Stepparenting Breakthrough support model and her podcast, Synergistic Stepparenting. To learn more about how to work with Maria, visit her website at SynergisticStepparenting.com.

Email: Maria@SynergisticStepparenting.com

Phone number: (617) 419-0878

Website: www.SynergisticStepparenting.com

Podcast: www.SynergisticStepparenting.com/podcast

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/synergisticstepparenting

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maria.natapov

1. Communication is the key in exercising control in a divorce
2. Speaking up for yourself is an ongoing process
3. How to keep control in your co-parenting role

#communication #control #victim #co-parenting #divorce #mediation #childsupportservices #roleplay #toneofvoice #mediator #lawyer

1. Your emotional attachment to money

2. The way in which money defines you; your money type

3. The way in which money affects you

4. Why your spouse may argue over having to pay child support

5. Why your spouse may resist dividing assets

6. How you can navigate around your spouse’s resistance to not paying child or spousal support, and resistance to dividing assets

#money #emotionalintelligence #wealth #ego #fear #gratitude #childsupport #spousalsupport #alimoney #trust #gratitude #attachmenttomoney #selfimage #moneytype #divisionofassets

Kaki Perdue Biography

Kaki Perdue is a CPA and a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™. She spent 12 years as a CPA in public accounting and 6 years as a Chief Financial Officer for a tech company before launching Look Both Ways Financial in 2023. Why financial planning? Kaki strives to meet clients where they are, with no judgment. Kaki is on a mission to teach her clients to feel safe, strong, and secure managing their own money. She embraces the “Less is More” approach to both life and financial planning.  Kaki prefers outdoor fun – hiking, skiing, gardening, & camping.

www.lookbothwaysfinancial.com

kaki@lookbothwaysfin.com

(24) Kaki Perdue, CPA, CFP® | LinkedIn

Kaki is also the host of the Look Both Ways Financial podcast – available wherever you find podcasts.

1. You are not a failure because you’re getting divorced. Everything we experience in life is a learning lesson. It’s how we change as a result of our experiences that matters.

2. If you believe you are the one who eroded the marriage and divorce is now inevitable, you can change the emotional trajectory of the divorce by apologizing. Apologize without putting any blame on your spouse.

3. After the apology, change your behavior to whatever it needed to be in the first place.

4. If we look at life as a learning experience, and that our learning experiences are growth experiences, we will never be victims. Life will always be fair. Life will be fair because through our trials and tribulations we will accept them as tailor-made growth experiences that can challenge our will to live, test our ability to succeed, and drive us to accomplishments we never fathomed before we were tested.

5. Let’s make art out of what we might call failure. Let’s trust the universe that whatever we need for growth will come to us. Let’s align ourselves with truth so that we can see how to change a challenging situation to a new level of understanding of ourselves.

#failure #trust #personalgrowth #challenges #apologize #emotionaldivorce #divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast #blame #spouse #amicabledivorce #victim #victimize #success #life #fair #growth

1. Honesty is good for emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual health.

2. Divorce is fraught with dishonesty to mask fear, hurt, and possibly the knowledge that people have knowingly chosen to marry the wrong person.

3. Divorce can be the event that forces people to self-correct and turn fear into the most truthful and honest conversation they’ve ever had.

4. Once people have the courage to speak honestly, and the commitment to be authentically truthful, their lives are fueled by positive energy and they align with the universe in such a way that everything right for them comes to them.

#truth #honesty #authenticity #communication #truthfulness # divorce #marriage #fear #trust #hurt #emotionalhealth #mentalhealth #physicalhealth #spiritualhealth #dishonesty #mediation

1. In the world of divorce, communication - what you say and how you say it - either helps or hinders how you and your spouse get through the process.

2. The Three Key Elements in successfully handling threatening communication with your spouse:

1. 1. Listen.  Listen without Interrupting.  Listen to Learn.
   2. Ask “Why?”
   3. Address his/her Reasons for the Threats

3. People threaten and become unreasonable because of Fear.

#divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast #communication #fear #anger #hurt #marriage #toneofvoice #words #attorney #divorceattorney #trust

1. Childhood development starts in the womb and is critically important until age 2 to set the foundation for who your baby can possibly be.

2. Your baby is communicating with you through every sound they make. The parents’ role is to communicate back.

3. The games parents play with their newborns each have a learning function to them.

4. It’s important that parents discuss what is priority to them in how they raise their child before having children.

5. Consistency provides a safe and secure environment for children. Each parent’s daily routine is important when there is co-parenting in two households due to divorce.

6. Don’t Compete! Each co-parent is different and each co-parent has value in what they can provide to their children.

7. The Oliiki app is designed to create daily interactions with children up to 24 months old that explain the developmental skill the baby is learning.

Oliiki is grounded in science.  UCL Institute of Education carried out a randomised controlled trial on the Oliiki app and found that parents using the Oliiki app after only 4 weeks had higher parental self-efficacy, (more confident in their parenting) compared to the active control trial. This is significant because high parental self-efficacy is connected with low post-natal depression, low infant mental health issues and high home learning environments.

#coparenting #parenting #education #play #communication #divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast  #amicabledivorce #prenatalcommunication #childhooddevelopment #Oliikiapp #therapy #consistency #newborns #familytherapy @ClareStead @JenJackson

Clare Stead, Creator and Founder of the Oliiki app is an e-Learning specialist, Education researcher and primary teacher. She is passionate about helping parents and careers build their baby’s brains from conception onwards, so the children reach their full potential and fly. Supporting parents early gives them the confidence to know they’re doing the very best for their baby, developing knowledge and skills in play-based learning for our youngest child helps them ensure they thrive, right from the start. 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/clarestead-oliiki/

www.oliikiapp.com

Download the Oliiki app here

https://www.instagram.com/oliiki/

https://www.facebook.com/Oliiki

The Oliiki app is an app for parents and parents-to-be of babies in the first 1000 days, from conception to two to build their babies brain and spark their parenting confidence one play activity at a time.

Jen Jackson

Jen has accumulated 18 years of experience in the healthcare industry and currently serves as an ambassador for healthy youth development within managed care organizations. Her primary professional focus involves identifying innovative approaches to promote youth’s mental health and effectively communicating product differentiators that impact the health and well-being of members.

Jen initiated her career as a mental health therapist, providing services to children, teenagers, and families in various settings, including acute care, county mental health agency, and private practice. She holds a master’s degree in social work from Temple University and is a Licensed Clinical Social worker in the state of Utah. In 2005, Jen earned credentials as a Registered Play Therapist.

www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferannjackson

jj.jenniferannjackson@gmail.com

1. What is behind the co-parenting relationship

2. Accepting that there are predispositions to challenges in intimate relationships

3. How healthy are any of us in our determinations for the right spouse for us

4. What is Fair and Unfair in relationship challenges that confront us

5. How to negotiate for money without using the word “fair”

6. Parental Alienation Advocates; Family Disappeared Podcast; 12 Step Support Group to help divorcing people self-reflect and assume responsibility for their part in the divorce

7. The importance of taking responsibility for their decisions from the choice to marry a certain person, to why the marriage isn’t working out

8. Communication is the center piece to a healthy relationship, even a divorced relationship

9. It takes two to form a productive relationship

10. Parenting without access to the children is a form of being engaged without disrupting the co-parenting relationship

11. To determine the Family System issues is one of the most important concerns in helping a co-parenting relationship

12. The Family Tree has roots in our growth

#communication #coparenting #parentalalienation #relationships #supportgroup #marriage #fair #unfair #FamilyDisappearedPodcast #parenting #guilt #familysystem #12stepprogram #acrimoniousdivorce #Dr.AmyBaker #petcustody #children #adultchildren #mediation #systemicchange

Lawrence Joss Biography

Founder and Director at PA-A.org

Lawrence Joss is a remarkable individual who has spent a lifetime dedicating himself to entrepreneurship, healing, and the service of others. With over three decades of successful entrepreneurship under his belt, Lawrence's journey has taken a profound turn towards supporting and empowering families facing complex challenges in their lives.

Familydisappeared@gmail.com

www.PA-A.org

"I know what I do, but I don't know what I do does"-Solnit

- familydisappeared@gmail.com

- https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

- Website:  https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/  

- Linkedin - Lawrence Joss 

- Family Disappeared Facebook Group

1. The definitions of anger

2. Where anger fits in the seven Stages of Divorce Grief

3. Types of Anger

4. The importance of therapy and self-reflection to deal with anger.

5. The three types of Anger, and what is good anger.

6. Examples of using good anger to advance the divorce in a positive way.

7. The benefits of being able to control anger.

#anger #control #emotions #therapy #communication #communicationskills #communicationtechniques #divorcegrief #badanger #benefitsofanger #forgiveness #acceptance #self-reflection #self-awareness #mediation #lawyers #co-parenting

1. 1. It’s not an argument.
   2. It’s not therapy.

II. People should know the law going into the mediation, and be prepared to work around the law for a compromise that benefits both spouses.

III. Typical Mediation Challenges and How to Handle Them

1. Spousal Support (alimony) is a non-starter.
2. Separate Property Money (inheritance or savings) became community property money.
3. I will only accept a 50/50 custody.
4. I’m not addicted to drugs. I just take them recreationally.
5. I’ll do what I want on my co-parenting time.
6. I’m going to be working less; I’ve been wanting to enjoy life more. (And there’s child and spousal support to pay.)
7. If you leave me I’ll take you for everything.
8. Lose my last name.
9. I have no money.
10. What to do when one or both spouses are angry, or one spouse is crying.

#mediation #angry #spousalsupport #alimony #childcustody #coparentingschedule #substanceabuse #inheritance #compromise #divorcesettlement #therapy #separateproperty #drugs #anger

1. Divorce will unhinge anyone. It’s how people deal with divorce that will benefit them in their divorce and after.

2. You need the professionals who you hire for the divorce to care about you.

3. You need your soon-to-be former spouse to care about you as a co-parent if you have minor children, and as a negotiator when you work on your divorce settlement.

4. How do you get those involved in the divorce to care about you?

5. What does it mean to care about yourself first?

6. How can the spouse who has been dominant in the marriage change so that that person shows themselves to be caring and concerned about the outcome of the divorce settlement?

7. How can the submissive spouse have a different voice negotiating the divorce settlement.

8. How do you cause those you’ve hired for the divorce to stop caring about you and only care about the money they’re making?

9. How self-care influences better relationships?

10. The importance of communication throughout the divorce process.

#selfcare #caring #relationships #communication #settlementagreement #negotiations #mediators #mediation #divorcecoach #therapists #coparenting #fear #podcast #divorcepodcast

1. Even though child support is considered more important than spousal support/alimony, spousal support is much harder to deal with both for the spouses and the legal professionals who provide service: Attorneys, Mediators, Divorce Coaches, Document Preparation person, Therapists.
2. History of spousal support
3. Not gender-driven, while gender plays a huge role when the woman makes more than the man.
4. Reasons for spousal support
5. How to Prepare for the Mediation for spousal support
6. The Negotiation
7. Payor Spouse Offer and Responses
8. Recipient Spouse Offer and Response

Child Support

1. Monthly Amount vs Miscellaneous Expenses. The big wrinkle in child support is the time spent with the children by each parent. The time spent with each parent influences the monthly amount if your state uses a state approved calculator.
2. Negotiable Issues
3. How to Negotiate
   1. Don’t disparage the other spouse
   2. Don’t punish the other spouse by proposing a restrictive schedule if the other parent has been a dialed in parent.
   3. Make the discussion child-focused. Think of what it will be like for your child to move between houses.
   4. Come to the mediation to compromise. Otherwise, schedule a Hearing to have a Judge make decisions for you.
   5. Speak respectfully to your spouse. Lower your tone of voice. Don’t stress out; let your mediator do their job to balance the conversation.
   6. But don’t let yourself be controlled or bullied.

#spousalsupport #alimony #childsupport #childfocused #mediation #divorce #divorcesettlement #lawyer #mediator #specialmaster #divorcecoach #therapist #communication #negotiate #divorcenegotiation #payorspouse #recipientspouse

1. Define High Road as it pertains to divorce

2. What is the crucial hole in the self-help space that you saw with your own divorce, and wanted to fill with your book?

3. Topics that aren’t covered a lot in divorce podcasts, and are in your book
   1. Why shouldn’t one spouse speak badly about the other spouse, especially their mental health assessment of the other spouse?
   2. When to hold and when to fold in co-parenting?
   3. The two categories of advice givers
   4. Injecting Fun into the co-parenting even if you’re the disciplinarian
   5. How much should you tell your children about the marriage and the reason for divorce?
   6. Outsourcing parental tasks to spend more quality time with the children
   7. Receiving gratitude and appreciation from your spouse in the co-parenting give-and-take (Taking the High Road) pg. 210
   8. Establishing Communication Guidelines (Bill Eddy)
   9. Hire a Special Master for on-going co-parenting decisions and issues that will come up after the divorce is final

#divorce #coparenting #author #podcast #amicabledivorce #divorcepodcast #specialmaster #therapist #childcustody #BillEddy #BIFF #outsource #children #marriage #communicationguidelines #advice #advicegivers #disciplinarian #mentalhealth

ANDY HELLER Biography

While navigating through his own divorce Andy read countless support books to help him navigate through the process.   While helpful, Andy identified a crucial hole in the self-help space for men and women navigating through divorce.  Andy’s book “Take the High Road, Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family” is his give back with a stated goal of making the divorce process easier for those who are considering or who are on the divorce path. 

Several factors make his book truly groundbreaking.  First, Andy brings a businessman’s objective perspective into his counsel.  Andy interviewed attorneys, divorcees, therapists, co-parenting counselors, mediators, special masters, and others to arrive at advice and guidance from the leading industry experts.   Andy presents the guidance in 46 strategies, tools, and tips that armed with the experience and counsel of these experts, the readers can themselves, hopefully their former spouses, and most importantly their children land in a healthier place in the months and years after the conclusion of their divorces.

https://www.facebook.com/takethehighroadbook

https://www.instagram.com/andyhheller/

www.takethehighroaddivorce.com

andy@takethehighroaddivorce.com 

1. Define Terms under the label of Gifted
   1. High-functioning Learning Disabled
   2. Gifted
   3. Neorodivergent
   4. Down Syndrome
   5. Autistic
   6. Retarded
   7. Dyslexic
2. Communication
   1. How do children and their parents communicate the children’s needs
3. Socializing within a Gifted and Neurodivergent Community
4. How do divorcing spouses co-parent if one of the parents is resistant to their child’s needs and diagnosis

#giftedchildren #neurodivergent #coparents #coparenting #learningdisabled #dyslexic @autistic #downsyndrome #communication #socialskills #education #legalcustody #diagnosis #resistance #school #RainMan #savant #catalogueing #testing #genetic

Biography for Meghan Bonde

Meghan Bonde is a Tedx speaker, neurodiversity specialist, founder of Team Neurodivergent, and an award-winning speech language pathologist who proudly identifies as Gifted and Neurodivergent.  She provides coaching, consulting, courses, and workshops to empower Neurodivergent people to leverage their many strengths and thrive emotionally.  Meghan is a passionate dancer, writer, reader, artist, and activist, finding inspiration in nature and her remarkable, Neurodivergent family.

www.teamneurodivergent.com

https://www.facebook.com/teamneurodivergent

https://www.linkedin.com/company/tngifted

1. That emotions will run rampant throughout the divorce.

2. How to manage those emotions.

3. The benefit in managing those emotions.

4. The timing of dealing with those emotions.

5. The importance of grieving before filing

6. The 7 stages of divorce grief, and the significance of Forgiveness.

#emotions #grieving #managingemotions #timing #griefstages #forgiveness #filing #emotionaldivorce #legaldivorce #acceptance

1. Different states have different laws.

2. New California law for pet custody: Best Interests of the Pets

https://minellalawgroup.com/blog/how-the-new-pet-custody-law-works-in-california/

3. How to Mediate Pet Custody
   1. Prior ownership
   2. Attachment between animal and pet owner
   3. Living arrangements post-divorce
   4. Dividing animals post-divorce
   5. Long Distance care
   6. Ability of each pet owner to be a responsible pet parent
   7. The financial capability of the pet parents to provide proper care

4. Words of Advice

#animals #pets #petcustody #petinsurance #petcare #animal laws #divorce #legalseparation #animaltrainers #mediation #grieving #animalgrieving #animalcare #bestinterestsoftheanimals #longdistancecare

1. Why Fear is part of Divorce

2. The importance of being honest with all aspects of the divorce

3. An easy way of researching assets and debts to verify accuracy in your spouse’s Discovery

4. Why lying on Income Tax Reports will come back to haunt you

5. How Honesty in the financial part of the divorce will benefit everyone

6. How being Honest with yourself can benefit the divorce, the co-parenting relationship, and your emotional and physical health

#honesty #lie #lying #incometaxreport #childsupport #spousalsupport #alimony #health #divorce #lawyers #forensicaccontants #fear

1. How do you know if you married the wrong person?

2. The age at which we marry matters.

3. When do you call it quits?

4. Is the idea of being a young parent the same now as it used to be years ago?

5. When should a married couple have children?

6. How should a married couple be aligned before becoming parents?

7. Should one spouse share with their spouse that they may have made a wrong decision to marry?

8. When you meet someone who fulfills you differently than your husband or wife, what do you do if the marriage has seemed to be fine until that point?

9. How do you get out of the victim role in a lopsided power dynamic?

10. Do you know who you are and what you bring to the relationship?

1. How to reach Forgiveness?

#marriage #forgiveness #stagesofgrief #co-parenting #divorce #parents #growth #hope #victim #YinYang #marriagecoach #relationship #relationshipexpert #powerdynamic #psychotherapist #podcast #divorcepodcast #love #happiness @CoachCarrieCohen @JudithWeigle @TheAmicableDivorceExpert

CARRIE COHEN Biography

As a Licensed Psychotherapist for 25 years, a Marriage Coach and Relationship Expert, Carrie Cohen helps couples go from “I want a divorce” to “I didn’t know I could love this deeply.” 

Working with clients all over the globe, Carrie has helped over 400 couples heal the stress and trauma that have eroded their relationship, revitalize their love for one another and create a marriage that lasts a lifetime. 

In addition to Carrie’s 15+ years of post-graduate training specifically in couples therapy, her approach to her work is holistically based.  Carrie is also trained in Polyvagal Therapy, certified in Clinical Hypnotherapy, is a Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner, an Integrative Health Coach and a Certified Nutrition Coach.  

Email: cc@carriecohencoaching

Website: www.carriecohencoaching.com

IG: @carriecohencoaching https://instagram.com/carriecohencoaching?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==

LI: Carrie Cohen https://www.linkedin.com/in/carriecohencoaching

1. Being a Victim is a Choice, not a Requirement. Why some people choose Victimhood in their marriages.  a. Learned behavior from parents’ relationship.  b. Feelings of personal insecurity.  c. Fear of losing the relationship.

2. How to know when you’re a Victim.  a. You give the power of decision-making to your spouse, even when it doesn’t make sense.  b. You fear bringing up topics to your spouse, like the finances of the family, to avoid verbal hostility.  c. You don’t insist on being part of the income tax filing, and sign them without reading them.   d. Your spouse will present a settlement agreement to you to sign before a legal professional is involved for legal advice, or to initiate the filing.

3. How to Change from Victim to Equal Partner in the Divorce Decision-Making  a. “I am an equal partner in this relationship and want equal decision-making in the divorce.”  b. Once you process and understand why you’ve accepted being a victim, your voice and attitude can change to one of Calm Control.  c. You don’t have to be mean, arrogant, or demanding. Bear in mind that it was your choice, consciously or unconsciously, to be submissive in the marital decision-making. More than likely, this submissive position as driven you to the divorce.  That’s okay; you’re now exercising control over your own life. Using a calm tone, and words that aren’t offensive, is to your advantage.   d. What typically happens once a victim leaves their former role of powerless person, and assumes the role of control, is that there is an over exaggeration of attitude, which starts a fight, and blows everything out of proportion. The controlling spouse will be shocked at seeing a different attitude in their submissive spouse, and will become both defensive and offensive. That’s why it’s so very important to use a calm, soothing voice, and words that are just as calming, too. (give example) BIFF  e. A power imbalance has been created and maintained during the marriage. Once the victim wants to change the power imbalance, that will create fear in the mind of the controlling spouse. A calm tone, and a refusal to argue, will minimize the reaction of the controlling spouse. Remember, that there are also issues from the personality make-up, and from the way the controller was raised, that contribute their approach to a marriage. Don’t blame them. Sometimes they don’t realize what they’re doing. They need help, too.  f. Lastly, realize that when legal professionals are involved, and after you’ve received legal advice, the professionals will go by the laws of the state, and will be your support system, so to speak, to create the balance that never was, in working with you to craft a divorce settlement.

#victim #control #powerimbalance #financialassets #decision-making #incometax returns #divorcelaws #legaladvice #divorcesettlement #insecurity #power #communication #toneofvoice #BIFF #Bill Eddy #words

1. It’s the words we choose and the tone of voice we use that will give us the strength we need in our communication

2. How not to be verbally bullied

3. How to respond to toxic communication

4. The secret advantage of not engaging in fighting

5. No need to justify yourself in divorce negotiations

6. Less is more in the War of Words

7. BIFF is your toxic communication approach

8. Don’t Threaten Court even if Court is necessary. Just suggest it as a considered resolution.

9. Lay down the rope to stop a verbal tug of war.

10. The goal post can’t move.

#communication #bullying #tugofwar #warofwords #fighting #communicationtechniques #BIFF #words #toneofvoice #toxiccommunication #negotiation #court #podcast #divorcepodcast #toxictexts #toxicemails #divorceattorney

2. There are three divorces: Emotional, Legal and Social A. Go through the grieving before filing B. File with a healed heart C. Your social circle will change with a divorce

3. Don’t try to win your mediator over by bashing your spouse. A. A good mediator will never be swayed by spouse-bashing, but you will put your mediator on guard against you. That means that the mediator has to work extra hard to remain neutral and just work on advancing the conversation, the negotiation, the settlement issues between the spouses.

4. Do not force settlement terms on your spouse. This will make your spouse not trust you, and trust is at stake here. A. Men do this to women more than women do this to men. B. And, men do this to women without receiving counsel from an attorney.  C. And it generally seems that the tone, the condition of the relationship, in those instances where a settlement agreement is proposed to the wife, is fragile, not amicable, and fraught with fear. D. Bring in the attorneys, cause that is the only way fear can be diminished.

1. How life insurance can protect your child and spousal support payments

2. How life insurance can provide for long-term care financial assistance

3. The security of receiving life insurance for income tax free money

4. The difference between the 529 Plan vs Life Insurance for the children’s colleges

5. LifeHappens.org explains the differences in all types of insurance, to include Disability Insurance, Long-Term Care Insurance, Life and Term Insurance

6. Lots of different ways to use insurance

#lifeinsurance #long-termcarepolicy #childsupport #spousalsupport #alimony #disabilityinsurance #protect #plan 529Plan #taxfreemoney #incometax #terminsurance

DINA MABRY BIOGRAPHY

Dina is a trusted resource for life, long-term care, and disability insurance. Being in the industry for over 15 years, Dina has become a respected consultant by creatively finding solutions for estate planning, income replacement and long-term care protection solutions.

Working with over 30+ carriers, she strives to be a reliable expert in her field so clients can make informed decisions and sleep at night knowing they and their families are protected.  She is a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend. 

Dina can be reached at DinaM@BGAinsurance.com or 818-601-3049

www.bgapremierinsurance.com

FB – BGApremierinsurance

IG -BGA_premier_insurance

1. Divorce Statistics for multiple marriages

2. Why people continue to divorce in multiple marriages

3. Different reasons for divorces

4. How having children changes the marital relationship

5. How working together as a married couple affects the marriage

6. The importance of getting along during divorce, and the rising expense of legal representation

7. Grieving the loss of the marriage is paramount before hiring lawyers and filing for divorce

8. Patterns are formed in how relationships start and should be noted for insight

9. Good co-parenting communication is essential in enjoying co-parenting

10. How a prenup can be a caring document

11. How Emotional Intelligence benefits for an amicable divorce

12. Best Interest of the Child

#divorce #marriage #co-parenting #multiplemarriages #lawyers #grief #grieving #therapy #communication #relationshippatterns #childsupport #spousalsupport #alimony #divorcepodcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce #vulnerable #vulnerability #prenup #couplestherapy #blendedfamilies #emotionalintelligence #emotions #intention #BestInterestsoftheChild #family #parentalalienation @LisaDavidOlson @JudithWeigle

Biography of Lisa David Olson

Lisa David Olson is a character. Olson is a self-proclaimed (Practically) World Famous Business Humorist, Multi TEDx speaker, Author, Interactive Speaker, Speaker Trainer, Podcast Host of Stranger Connections, Writer, Innovator, and Prank-Enthusiast.

Lisa has been married three times, with two of the most amicable divorces on record. She is a mother of two boys, and step-mom for three other boys from her current #3 husband.

Lisa’s relationship philosophies and application of same, provide a guiding light for those embarking on the divorce journey.

Stranger Connections podcast

Lisa@LisaDavidOlson.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-david-olson-80376612/

1. What a Voluntary Settlement Conference (VSC) is.

2. Who comprises and attends a VSC.

3. Purpose of a VSC.

4. The Judge in a VSC is chosen by both sides. The Judge is a Private Judge.

5. The Judge in a VSC can be directive in terms of how a Judge in a divorce trial will more than likely decide on issues.

6. What a DissoMaster calculator does for child and spousal support/alimony, and how to use it for support.

7. VSCs take place outside of a courthouse.

8. Who pays for the Judge and all legal and financial professionals in a VSC.

9. How a Mission Statement at the outset of a divorce can be helpful.

10. Divorce is a grieving process and will influence the settlement.

11. The Emotional Settlement and the Legal Settlement, how do people do both?

12. How can a Parenting Coach help in the transition from in-home parenting to co-parenting in two homes.

13. How children are affected by co-parents who fight.

14. The Goal: Two Financially Stable Households

15. Pathway to a confident financial settlement

#podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce #VoluntarySettlementConference #courthouse #divorcecourt #mediation #grieve #financiallystable #PrivateJudge #co-parents #co-parenting #LegalSettlement #EmotionalSettlement #EmotionalDivorce #FinancialSettlement #MissionStatement #DissoMaster #divorcetrial @KathrynCostas @JudithWeigle @TheAmicableDivorceExpert

Biography

Kathy Costas is a Vice President and CDFA® or Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® at EP Wealth Advisors. She has been working in the financial services industry since 1987. She uses her education and personal experience to serve as a compassionate guide to help her clients successfully navigate the financial aspects of the divorce process.

Kathy is a member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals and was appointed by the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts as the chair of the Southern California chapter of the Divorce Alliance, a group for divorce professionals. She is also the leader of the Conejo Divorce Resources Professionals group.  Kathy is an active volunteer with the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation and is a member of the local chapter of the nonprofit fundraising group Dining For Women.

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathy-costas-8a042415/

Email is Kcostas@epwealth.com

805-372-1093

1. The services available to the public

2. The cost involved in using the Self-Help Center

3. The availabilities and importance of language services/translators

4. Who qualifies for free court services

5. How is mediation provided if connected to a case

6. How culture affects mediation

7. How Judges are required to render decisions

8. Managing expectations of people scheduled for Hearings

9. How and when mediation is used within the court system

10. What is expected of the litigants to bring into court for their Hearings

11. How Mediation Settlement Agreements are handled by the Judge for your Hearing

12. How Self-Help Centers provide service, and the limitations imposed

13. State proposed solution to professional legal services with representation and court coordination

#court #mediation #Judge #Hearings #Filing #Translation #LanguageServices #DivorceCourt #FamilyLaw #CourtFees #Evidence #Settlements #Self-HelpServices #Self-HelpCenter #Settlement Agreement

Biography of Gayle Glazer

Gayle Glazer has been a bilingual (Spanish/English) mediator in the Los Angeles Superior Courts since her retirement ten years ago from her three- decade career in the Los Angeles Unified School District.

In 2020, Ms. Glazer became a MC3 Certified Mediator in the state of California. Most recently, she has joined ACMAS, Attorney-Client Mediation and Arbitration Services through the Los Angeles County Bar Association where she will serve as the “lay” arbitrator on the State Bar of California’s Mandatory Fee Arbitration Panel.

Gayle has utilized her conflict resolution skills developed during her career to assist courtroom neophytes. She has helped the opposing parties to settle hundreds of cases, primarily in the areas of Unlawful Detainer (Eviction), Civil Harassment Restraining Orders, Workplace Violence, Elder Abuse and every type of case imaginable in Small Claims Court.

www.GlazerMediation.com 

1. How to approach the emotions that come up when the decision to divorce takes place.
2. How to deal with grief and fear.
3. Set an intent to handle the emotions in a positive way.
4. Why are words important in divorce language?
5. What is Trauma Bonding?
6. How to choose a support group, and surround yourself with, who will keep your emotions positive.
7. Are you in the Fear Rabbit Hole?
8. Self-care is not optional. It gets you out of fear
9. How grief can be a learning opportunity.
10. How do you believe your role was supposed to be in marriage? Was this a false or true belief?
11. Ask each other, “What is our perception of divorce?”
12. Definition of Emotional Intelligence, and how does having EI get you through fear?
13. Patty’s definition of Fear. “Fear brings you information that you need in order to be more of yourself.”
14. Question your belief systems to find out why the marriage didn’t work out.
15. How to handle divorce fears through Emotional Intelligence.
16. When do you hire an attorney if you need representation?
17. Patty’s Steps to Emotional Intelligence: Find a positive support system. Disconnect from time lines provided by others. Allow yourself to grieve. Practice self-awareness.

#EmotionalIntelligence #Grief #Fear #SupportGroups #Therapy #Lawyers #Attorney #Divorce #Belief Systems #Marriage #Trauma #Emotions #Podcast #DivorcePodcast #Amicable Divorce @Patty McGuire @JudithWeigle

Biography for Patty McGuire

Patty McGuire

Founder, Positivity Influencer Coaching

Patty@thepositivityinfluencer.com

www.loveyourmarriageagain.com

Patty McGuire started as a self-worth coach who taught her clients how to create more love and happiness in their lives - one step at a time. Specializing in emotional wellness, divorce recovery and saving marriages, her unique method guides people from fear and pain back to love.

McGuire is now an Emotional Intelligence Master and Coach, and speaks with clients individually and for C-Suite Executives who want to bring Emotional Intelligence to their businesses and leadership methods.

1. Getting Legal Advice is being Disloyal to Your Spouse. “We decided we wanted to keep it amicable, and going to an attorney makes it litigious.”

2. Filing a Response to the Petition makes the divorce contentious.

3. More parenting time will be given to Mom. The fear of most men.

4. “The Judge will see my side if we go to court.”

5. The ruder the lawyer, the better the outcome for their client.

6. The Mediator or Document Preparation people can give legal advice and consulting.

7. Filing a huge brief or statement at a Hearing will help you win in court.

8. The first person who files has the upper hand or advantage.

9. Asking for financial damages because the marriage didn’t work out.

10. “I’ll take everything, even full custody of the kids, if you divorce me.”

1. Why Laughter is Important

2. Why physical exercise is necessary

3. Why the combination of exercise with laughter is golden

4. The emotional effects of laughter

5. The physical effects of laughter

6. Scientific evidence that laughter is the best medicine

7. How stress can cause serious life illness

8. Suggestions for exercise with laughter

#stress #laughter #exercise #self-care #divorce #MayoClinic #medicine #illness #podcast #amicable #divorcepodcast

1. People feel out of control during divorce. (Expand)

2. People need to know how to incorporate the work that is required of them in the filing process, and in the decision-making process. Compartmentalizing time is the way to deal with divorce IF you absolutely have to work.
   1. If you have the luxury of not having to work, then make divorce your job and focus your attention on getting everything necessary for the divorce to move forward expeditiously.

3. We are a culture that supports and glorifies multi-tasking. Multi-tasking divorce into daily routines will make you sick and potentially cause severe illness. Multi-tasking is the last behavior that should be accepted. Separating everything necessary to deal with the legal side of divorce properly, with a clear mind and a calm heart is the only way to properly address the process of divorce.

4. Choose divorce professionals who understand and support the separation of your daily lives from your divorce life. Here’s what I mean…Look at the time you have available outside of your jobs and outside of the schedules for your children for you to complete paperwork, go to mediations, engage in depositions, go to Hearings and Depositions, and any other meetings necessary for the divorce to move forward, and schedule those free times and/or personal days from work, to focus on the divorce. The operative word being focus. Good divorce decisions require nothing less than focus; focus of the mind, of the heart, and of the emotions. When we try and multi-task the divorce stuff into our regular daily stuff, we cannot give divorce stuff the correct focus and attention that it needs to be lasting and appropriate for your lives, especially once the divorce is final. People experience decision-makers remorse because their decisions were made too hastily.

5. Put a schedule together that allows you to work without interruption, that gives you valuable time with your children and all of the activities in their lives, and that provides for exercise and alone time. Look at the remaining time and that’s what you assign for divorce work. Then share that schedule with your divorce professionals, and stick to it. Return emails, phone calls, and paperwork in the time assigned for divorce.

6. The only fly in the ointment of your well-crafted schedule will be Hearings, Depositions, a few meetings with those filing for you, and Mediations, The court isn’t opened on weekends, so personal time from work will have to be taken. If you share that you’re going through a divorce with either your Human Resources department, or your manager/business owner, you both can work together to craft a schedule that allows for work to continue and for your schedule to have flexibility.

7. Lastly, do not respond to angry texts and emails from your spouse during work or family time. That can be done within your divorce time. Nothing will disrupt your day more than mean emails and texts. Control this shit. Do not succumb to disruptive communication. Put it in its place! Your divorce time slot. Everything, as much as possible, goes there.

Compartmentalizing Time will give you a better life quality during divorce, and you will have developed a skill that can be used in any conflict. Part of this is Mindfulness, and part of this is simply scheduling. Have the confidence and the courage to take charge of your time.

#time #control #compartmentalizetime #mediation #divorce #depositions #hearings #work #HumanResources #podcast #divorcepodcast #court #divorcecourt #emails #texts #communication #focus #work

Biography

Judith M. Weigle has been a divorce mediator and document preparation service for 11 years as President of Divorce Resource, Inc. in Los Angeles. In that time she has seen people approach divorce in various ways, and has developed the Recipe for a Heart-Healthy Divorce, a four-step strategy to an amicable and productive divorce. Judith has aggregated the four essential steps that she has learned not only from her clients, but from the learned experts on her podcast to provide a successful formula for the best divorce possible.

www.DivorceResourceInc.com

www.JudithWeigle.com

LinkedIn  https://www.linkedin.com/in/judith-m-weigle-65b1268/

IG @TheAmicableDivorceExpert

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/JudithMWeigle 

310.441.7555

Judy@DivorceResourceInc.com

1. What defines Communication   a. Our words  b. Our tone of voice  c. How we physically appear

2. How does bad communication sound?  a. Filled with anger  b. Yelling  c. Arrogant  d. Threatening

3. How does good communication sound?  a. Listening to learn  b. Not interrupting  c. Speaking from the heart, without blame  d. Soft or nonthreatening tone of voice  e. Compassion  f. Asking questions to get a deeper understanding of what your spouse is trying to say  g. If you’re responding to a threatening spouse, keep responses to a minimum, and very neutral; don’t buy into the argument

4. BIFF  a. In-person bad communication: Response (bad to good)  b. Text communication  c. Email communication  d. Timing of bad communication responses

5. Court Communication  a. Judges don’t want to hear you talk shit about your spouse. (Judge Terry Crone and Judge Michele Lowrance)  b. When one party hires a shark lawyer and the other party is self-represented, don’t think there is an inherent disadvantage (Pam Payton) 

6. Mediation Communication  a. Get legally educated so you can negotiate from a point of knowledge  b. Look your best  c. Be on time  d. Be prepared  e. Listen without interrupting  f. Don’t grimace or make negative facial gestures  g. Don’t say, “Are you done yet?” in an exasperated way.  h. Don’t cop attitude  i. Don’t fight

1. Settle the Emotional Divorce before Settling the Legal Divorce
   1. You can make sound legal decisions while emotional
   2. You’ll spend way too much money on attorneys and court fees when you should be spending money on healing through therapists and coaches
   3. If you’ve already started filing, but find it too emotionally stressful to participate, ask for everyone involved to grant you some time to process the reasons for the divorce before resuming the filing

2. Learn Communication Skills for Conflict
   1. Even in an amicable divorce you’re going to get triggered and fight
   2. If you have a high conflict divorce, you can still change the trajectory of the emotion by knowing successful communication techniques
   3. BIFF is your new best friend

3. Compartmentalize Time
   1. So that your divorce doesn’t consume your life
   2. To keep focus where it needs to be when you’re at work, when you’re with your children, and when you’re with your family and friends
   3. To re-establish control in your life

4. Develop a Self-Care Program w/Laughter
   1. Laughter is the Best Medicine for a Hurting Heart
   2. Physical exercise gets you out of your head because it changes your focus from stressing about the divorce to the activity in which you’re engaged
   3. Laughter will shock your nervous system in a good way

#divorce #amicabledivorce #highconflictdivorce #emotionaldivorce #emotions #recipe #heart-healthy #money #attorneys #divorcecourt #legaldivorce #BIFF #communication #communicationtechniques #time #compartmentalizetime #self-careprogram #selfcare #control #workstress #MayoClinic #laughterasmedicine #goatyoga #puppyyoga #exercise #podcast #divorcepodcast @JudyWeigle @JudithWeigle @RecipeforaHeartHealthyDivorce

Judith Weigle has been a family law mediator for 11 years, in her business Divorce Resource, Inc. She created Recipe for a Heart-Healthy Divorce after working with divorcing couples who exhibited stress and acrimony in the filing and in the mediation of their settlement. The four ingredients in the Recipe for a Heart-Healthy Divorce will turn your divorce around, even if only one spouses employs these techniques.

Individual Coaching available.

www.Divorce ResourceInc.com 

• What You Can Do If You Are the Victim of Parental Alienation
  • Before the divorce
    • Document happy experiences with your children
      • Video & audio recordings, artwork
      • School Records
    • Find an attorney and/or mediator knowledgeable in Parental Alienation
      • Test them, question them, make sure they know what you want
      • Don’t want vengeance. Always make it about the best interests of the children, not about what happened to you.
    • During the Divorce
      • COURT TIME
        • Always be on your best behavior. Stay calm and rational, even when it hurts
        • Never bad mouth your ex to ANYONE
        • See a therapist alone
        • Know your rights; consult with experts
        • Be honest even if your ex isn’t
        • Insert in the custody order that the children do not have the right to unilaterally change visiting times.
        • Ask for consequences if one parent attempts to align the children against the other parent.
      • After the Divorce
        • What you should do when the children begin to behave badly towards you
          • Stay calm and rational – even if it hurts
          • Don’t bad mouth your ex
          • Document everything
          • Get clear video evidence and make sure the sound and picture are clear
        • If you become a target or if they start to ignore the custody times
          • Document everything
          • Call the police but don’t expect them to do anything and have your court order in your hand when you call them.
          • Get a copy of the police report or the report number
        • Get a Temporary Restraining Order
          • Contempt charges are rare and difficult
          • Bring all your evidence to court and have it readily accessible for the judge who should want to view it and read it.

#podcast #parentalalienation #court #evidence #legalrights #co-parenting #custody #childsupport #witnesses #mediator #attorney #parentchildrelationship #divorce #emotions #police #Judge #temporaryrestariningorder #activist #bestbehavior #communication #conflictcommunication #courtpreparation #beforedivorce #duringdivorce #afterdivorce @RonBerglas @TheAmicableDivorceExpert

RON BERGLAS Biography

Ron Berglas is a mediator with Magnum Mediation.  Ron is also the Chair of the Parental Alienation Legislative Group. Together with his colleague Dr. Lynn Steinberg and a group of like-minded alienated parents, they have focused their despair at losing their children to the malign intentions of their former partners into a driving force to enact legislation that would require all mental health practitioners who work with children to be educated in parental alienation. They also continue to combat through legislative action the plethora of misinformation campaigns that have appeared recently that deny the existence of parental alienation.

The Parental Alienation Legislative Group together with PASI, Parental Alienation Syndrome

Intervention, is run by Joan Kloth-Zanard in New York, New York to oversee our 501C3.

Magnum Mediation

909-283-3991

info@magnumediation.com

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/ron-berglas-04

Parental Alienation website: www.palgandpasi.org 

1. How to identify if you are or were held hostage in your marriage.
2. How to identify a cult-like mentality.
3. How you can be seduced by someone who wants to control you.
4. What seduction is like, and why it begins the process of control.
5. How you become a slave to your spouse in your relationship.
6. Neither education nor intelligence have anything to do with being seduced and held hostage in the relationship.
7. What love bombing is and how it is part of the seduction process to establish the hostage relationship.
8. How and when we give our power away to someone else.
9. Are you making choices against your own best interests, and compromising your values?
10. If you’re in a cult-like relationship questioning the other person is not possible.
11. Extricating yourself from a cult-like marriage or divorce.
12. Own your story and drop your shame.

#hostage #cult #relationshiphostage #lovebombing #seduction #control #selfexpression #budget #allowmance #money #jointbankaccount #slave #values #heldhostage #marriage #divorce #compromise #higherlifepurpose #author #cultmember #relationship #DalaiLama #doubt #selfexploration #selfdoubt #vulnerable #courage #shame #lifechoices #survival #failure @DalaiLama @KellyThiel

Biography

Kelly Thiel, author of Unapologetically Glorious, and featured in the documentary series “Seduced” speaks on her experience as part of a cult, how it began and how it ended. Kelly is an accomplished voice actress, author, speaker, consultant, and survivor of the notorious NXIVM cult. Kelly speaks around the world about her personal journey on conquering her own trauma to, in turn, help men and women facing similar adversaties or traumas to conquer their own and rediscover themselves.

IG: @TheKellyThiel

www.KellyThiel.com

Trust is a concern in every relationship. From the trust we place in our restaurant takeout orders being correct, to the trust we place in our children when they’re not in our care, to the trust we place in our medical professionals, the clergy, to the huge trust we place in our spouses to always behave in a way that is respectful, caring, and protective of us.

When our trust is broken in any of our important relationships, we’re crushed. Our whole emotional and physical systems quiver. We are emotionally off-balance. We are no longer comfortable in those relationships.

Now divorce is imminent. And trust is on the line. We second-guess ourselves because we no longer trust our decision-making. All sorts of questions run through our minds: “Did we really know the person we married? Did we miss clues that should have made us suspicious? Was it something I did and didn’t realize it was causing a problem?”  Or, if there was no event that broke the marriage, just two people growing apart, distrust still creeps in because divorce is generally a foreign environment, a language filled with words we don’t typically use, and we have to make really important decisions about money, co-parenting, and living as single people again. Fear rears its ugly head and distrust is the new emotion.

Trust can take on a whole new meaning in our lives if we start with trusting ourselves to be able to deal with the divorce, the future, and a new life. Life is full of challenges, and divorce is one of them. We can get through any challenge if we find a support system of professionals who can put fear and distrust in its place, and help create a foundation in us to tap into our inner strength and resilience, and respond to the decision-making in divorce in an affirmative, focused, honest way.

We are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. We may need the help of a divorce coach or a therapist to bring that resilience forward, but it’s there in every one of us.

If your marriage is ending simply because you’ve both grown apart, distrust still makes its way into your brains because you are no longer working as a team, a unit moving forward together. You are now two individuals who are dividing your stuff, expensive stuff, stuff that was accumulated over quite a few years. You’re not used to this dynamic. The brain goes into protective mode, fight or flight, and you no longer trust each other, even though neither of you have done anything to breach trust.

In this case, remember, you are the same good people you have been. No need to distrust one another. But definitely a time to assert the personal power you have and be vocal, be supportive of yourself, be kind and generous, but be mindful that you are both equally scared, regardless of the posturing of the other spouse. Everyone is scared. No one is secure in divorce.

Trust in yourself will allow you to trust someone else again.

#trust #honesty #divorce #podcast #relationships #communication #fear #distrust #marriage #adultery #infidelity #emotion

The centerpiece to all of the decisions in a divorce is honesty. When both spouses can talk before filing and sort out their feelings honestly, the settlement will be so much easier. It still may take some negotiating, but the conversation will be easier because the emotions of the divorce have been settled. It’s those unresolved emotions that affect the tone of the divorce, the litigious extent of the divorce, and the financial cost of the divorce.

A more correct reality of the marriage and why it has to conclude unfolds in a heartfelt conversation to end the marriage. Blame is stripped away. Anger subsides, forgiveness and understanding move into our hearts when we can openly, honestly, and without blame or justification for past actions and decisions, simply speak from each spouse’s perspective. Everyone has their own perspective on the meaning and purpose of events that shape our lives; and that perspective must be spoken and accepted. People can look at one event and process it differently.

The important conversation may come at different points in the settling of the emotional part of the divorce. It may not come in the very first conversation. It may come after several conversations, but when it does come, it will change the trajectory of the divorce, and the way each spouse thinks of each other and behaves towards each other going forward.

It’s crucial that the divorce is used to grow. Growing in a way that allows for more self-awareness so that the next relationship fulfills people in a more specific way. Or if no other relationship is sought, then let it be growth that simply reveals parts of oneself that help in the overall journey in this life.  

#emotionalintelligence #communication #amicable #amicabledivorce #forgiveness #honesty #emotionaldivorce #anger #blame #grief #personalgrowth #growth #podcast #divorcepodcast #conversation

1. How to detect financial abuse in the marriage

2. What to do with financial abuse in the divorce

3. Emotional Abuse and Money

4. Physical Abuse and Money

5. How to pay your attorney with no access to money

6. Court order for legal fees

7. Transparency in declaring assets

8. What Forensic Accountants do

9. Marital Estate Chart

10. When litigation is needed

11. The importance of reviewing financial documents for each transaction

12. When to hire a larger firm or a sole practitioner

13. How to handle the fear of asking for a divorce in an abusive marriage

14. The importance of having a therapist or divorce coach as a support system

15. Order of Protection for physical abuse

16. How and when to serve the Petition for divorce on the abusive spouse

#financialabuse #jointbankaccounts #creditcards #allowance #physicalabuse #emotionalabuse #marriage #divorce #breadwinner #finances #wageearner #control #accesstomoney #childcare #taxreturns #taxfiling #financialpressure #mindset #finacialmindset #dishonesty #budgeting #budget #financiallydisadvantagedspouse #initialretainer #equality #legalrights #legalfees #court #incarceration #Judge’sorders #assets #transparency #forensicaccountant #fear

@LisaZeiderman

Biography of Lisa Zeiderman, Esq.

Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York. A matrimonial attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements for high-net-worth individuals.

In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal, and Forbes. She is also regularly interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to complex tax issues and child custody, and has been featured in a host of media from The Wall Street Journal to Kiplinger’s, as well as on a multitude of podcasts.

Lz@mzw-law.com

914 455 1000

LinkedIn: (99+) Lisa Zeiderman, Esq | LinkedIn  --@lisazeiderman

Instagram: @lisazeiderman

Facebook: @lisazeidermanesq

Twitter @lisazeiderman

1. Living longer lives makes it harder to grow old together

2. Women initiate divorce more than me

3. Different reasons why people file for divorce after a long-term marriage

4. Women’s income will decrease by 40% in her 60’s, and men by 23%

5. Focus on using a financial expert to help split a pension properly

6. #1 mistake women make: thinking they have to keep the family home

7. How to budget for the future

8. Divorce can provide an opportunity to live the life you’ve always wanted to live

9. Identifying Needs vs Wants in financial planning

10. Establish financial safety nets before filing for divorce

11. The importance of running 3 credit reports in preparation for divorce

12. Desired Lifestyle vs Available Income

13. When to take Social Security. How to determine social security. How to equalize social security for both spouses.

14. Emotional Money Block and Your Money Story

15. How do your values align with your relationship to money?

16. Long-term care for women

#women #money #educate #financial #divorce #greydivorce #income #longtermmarriage #longtermcare #lifeinsurance #annuity #budget #creditreport #socialsecurity #moneyblock #emotionalmoneyblock #selfworth #values #lifestyle #financialplanning #women #pension #financialsafetynet #podcast #2023 #episode #financialcoach #CPA @LindaLingo

Linda Lingo is an authority on women building wealth. Her successful 35-year career in corporate America and her 10 years as a Financial Advisor has given her practical experience, radical knowledge and a deep understanding of the best ways to manage money for the modern-day woman.

Linda has served as the treasurer of The Women’s Fund, Assertive Women Entrepreneurs and Women of Vision.  She has been active in Soroptimist International, and Girls Inc. She also supports women-owned businesses as an Activator with SheEO, and is active in the National Cinderella to CEO Awards Program.

Linda Lingo, Financial Coach & CPA

530-710-8301

 linda@lindalingo.com

www.lindalingo.com

https://www.facebook.com/lindalingofinancialcoach/

instagram.com/moneymamamentor

linkedin.com/in/lindalingo

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZlqhRTVcGwmiSyQqbb09jg

1. Age of Children

2. Polarity of Parenting Styles

3. Conflict with Ex-spouse

4. Over-attachment of Non-custodial parent to child

5. Over-attachment of biological parent to child

6. There are more Blended Families than First Families.

7. Co-habitation rates are soaring, making blended families hard to track.

8. When single parents start dating, step-family dynamics start at this point.

9. Children grieve the loss of the family, just like parents grieve the loss of the marriage.

10. Family Mission Statement

#stepparent #stepparentcoach #blendedfamilies #exspouse #childsupport #cohabitation #dating #noncustodialparent #custodialparent #parentingstyles #author #biologicalparent #conflict #parentalalienation #familymissionstatements #consequences #rules #punishment #siblingrivalry #attachment #overattachment @JudyGraybill

Judy Graybill: links, contact info, and bio

free mini e-book, The 5 Biggest Risks of Conflict in Blended Families: https://tinyurl.com/5BlendedFamilyRisks

FB group for women in stepfamilies: https://tinyurl.com/TheWholeisticStepfamily

website: https://judygraybill.com

email: hello@judygraybill.com

Instagram: @judy.m.graybill

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/judygraybill

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/judygraybill/

MeWe: https://mewe.com/i/judymgraybill

As a Relationship Healer and Certified Stepfamily Coach, Judy Graybill is skilled at identifying where couples get stuck. She helps them develop the mindset, strategy, and action plan to establish long-term harmony, deeper intimacy, and a stronger partnership. She’s also speaks, writes, facilitates in-person workshops, and is co-founder of the group, The Wholistic Stepfamily. Get details and free resources at www.JudyGraybill.com.

1. What a Prenup is

2. What makes a prenup good or bad

3. The requirement to know the laws of your state before giving up marital rights in the prenup

4. Why some people want prenups

5. Why some people agree to sign them even though one person may be disadvantaged

6. What you can or can’t do in a divorce with a lousy prenup

7. The real benefit in a good prenup

8. How mediation can be used to revisit a lousy prenup

9. Spousal support, prenups, and inherited money

10. Spousal support is part of the equity in a marriage

11. People’s relationship to money and how it affects relationships

12. How bad prenups make the marriage weak

13. What Promissory Estoppel is and how it affects spousal support

14. How a postnup can correct a lousy prenup

15. Enforceability of prenups

16. On-line prenups

17. How a good prenup is organized, approached, negotiated, and well thought out beyond the existing assets

18. How to respond if you’re “given” a prenup to sign

19. How a prenup is “fair” to both people

20. What “lifestyle” provisions are that would end a marriage

#nofaultdivorce #prenup #prenups #postnup #promissoryestoppel #mediation #communityproperty #separateproperty #inheritance #TheGenerousPrenup #author #marriage #divorce #enforceability #podcast #spousalsupport #alimony #childsupport #statelaws

Biography

Laurie Israel is a collaborative lawyer and mediator based in Massachusetts. She is the author of “The Generous Prenup: How to Support your Marriage and Avoid the Pitfalls” (2018). Laurie now concentrates her practice on prenups, and has been mediating prenups and postnups in Massachusetts as well as throughout the U.S. She has written extensively on prenups and on the art and skill of mediating prenups, which she believes is the optimal way to help couples mutually address the terms of a prenup and how they may affect each of the parties in the future.

Laurie began her involvement in the area of prenups as a representative for clients negotiating their agreements. She has experienced first-hand how couples can harm each other during the negotiation process in a way that may not easily be forgotten. Laurie believes that if not dealt with in an equitable manner, the content and process of some prenups can do irreparable damage to a couple embarking on marriage. The message in her book “The Generous Prenup” is that prenups are not to be taken lightly and should be used only when absolutely necessary, and when both parties are comfortable with the entire process. She believes the professionals involved should be keenly aware of the issue of fairness to both parties and consider the ultimate health of the ensuing marriage.

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1. The three programs Vicky has that address both managers and employees during the divorce and after: Manage Right; Plan Right, Resolve Right

2. The special services available for specific needs of some divorcing couples, like a special needs child.

3. The importance of testing for special needs children that must be addressed in the divorce.

4. The Divorce Right services include Coaches, Lawyers, Therapists, Clergy, Culture Specialists, LGBTQ specialist, Immigration specialists, Career Coaches.

5. Divorce is the number one reason women find themselves in poverty after divorce.

6. What can a manager or business owner do to manage their own emotions during divorce.

7. Lawyering Up can bring you down, and the pointlessness of this approach.

8. The importance of guidance and direction from a support team to bring sanity and emotional grounding.

9. Work performance suffers a 40% loss in productivity because of divorce.

10. The 5 signs of divorce distraction at work: Absences, presenteeism, emotional outbursts, errors

11. Family Transition Policy for companies to help divorcing employees.

12. Fear of being fired forces employees to quit rather than be fired. Feeling unsupported by their companies. Can’t afford affordable housing near work. Affordable child care available at work or near work.

13. Create a company culture of Respect, Empathy, Compassion.

#divorce #divorcesupportteam #careercounselors #therapist #divorcecoach #lawyer #attorney #mediator #mediation #productivity #lostproductivity #company culture #respect #empathy #compassion #immigration #culturespecialists #guidance #direction #emotionalgrounding #emotion #emotionalsupport # fear #childcare #daycare #affordablechildcare #affordabledaycare #absenteeism #presenteeism @VickyTownsend @PattyMcGuire

Biography

Vicky Townsend is the President and founder of Divorce Right, Inc., a professional development and employee assistance program company.

Vicky is also the co-founder of the National Association of Divorce Professionals, an association for all the licensed professionals that work with clients before, during, and after divorce.

www.DivorceRightInc.com

Vicky@DivorceRightInc.com

1. What it means to be Child-Centered in a Divorce

2. Children feel a sense of responsibility in the break-up of the marriage

3. How parents grieve the break-up of the marriage and put their children at the forefront of the divorce at the same time

4. The importance of a support team for parents to help them go through the grieving process: Mediator, Divorce Coach, Therapist

5. Choose lawyers who are child-centered, not aggressive attorneys, even if you have a high conflict, bullying attorney

6. What to tell the children regarding the divorce; how to tell the children about the divorce

7. The divorce can be a model for positive change for the children

8. The biggest fear of children of a divorce, and how to change that fear

9. How to reinforce hope for the children

10. Parental Alienation: What it is, how it starts, and the long-range effects on the children

11. Co-Parenting Schedules

12. How to work with different parenting styles

#divorce #co-parenting #child-centered #child-centereddivorce #divorcesupportteam #parenting #divorcecoach #therapist #therapy #grief #change #parentalalienation #fear #children #co-parentingschedules #parentingstyles #hope #attorneys #bullyattorneys #highconflict #disciplinarybehavior #datingafterdivorce #author #certifieddivorcecoach @RosalindSedacca @JudithWeigle

Rosalind Sedacca, CDC is a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach, recognized as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce. She is the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network which provides valuable resources for parents who are facing, moving through or transitioning after a divorce. She is also the author of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children – with Love! and co-host of Divorce, Dating & Empowered Living Radio Show & Podcast. Rosalind is an expert blogger for numerous divorce, parenting and dating websites and blogs. Rosalind’s books, courses and programs for divorced parents and singles starting over can be found at her websites: www.childcentereddivorce.com, www.womendatingafter40.com, www.womendatingrescue.com and www.mensdatingformula.com.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChildCenteredDivorce

LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/rosalindsedacca

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/RosalindSedacca  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosalindsedacca/

1. The difference in grief during and after divorce

2. What emotions come after divorce

3. How to determine your new persona after divorce

4. How to get unstuck in the process of divorce and after divorce

5. How important the grief process is in cleansing the emotions from the hurt of divorce

6. How to consider your true purpose in life

7. How to transfer Mom Skills to outside work

8. A peek at Special Needs Children and the demands made on the parents

9. The military vs. challenging marriages and obedience

10. How to tell if you’re in an abusive marriage

#grief #divorcegrief #abuse #abusivemarriage #emotions #lifepurpose #complexkids #specialneedschildren #obedience #author #divorcerecoverycoach #podcast @keenacrowley @judithweigle

Eykiena Crowley US Army Veteran, Divorce Recovery Coach | CEO My Thriving Life Academy

Eykiena “Keena” Crowley is a Divorce Recovery Coach, International Speaker, Published Author of A Superwoman’s Guide to Recovering After Divorce, and Influencer. This Combat Army Veteran and Former Social Work Therapist now uses her experience and training to lead the masses to their greatness by using their inner gifts to elevate to their blissful life.

As the Chairwoman of the My Thriving Life Academy, her firm’s courses, events, and results-based coaching & consulting programs empower divorced women to use their gifts to have a fulfilled life on their own terms. From her one-on-one coaching, group training events and online seminars, she helps the masses significantly shift their lives.

Social Media Handles

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1. What a High Conflict Marriage looks like

2. What High Conflict means

3. How a High Conflict Marriage turns into a High Conflict Divorce

4. Flexibility, Openness and Communication are trademarks of a standard marriage

5. Deflect and Blame are trademarks of a high conflict personality

6. Complex marriages have one person afraid to talk and unable to freely be the person they are

7. The decision to leave is the first big step in a high conflict marriage

8. How to deal with the threats that come with the decision to leave the marriage

9. Communication strategy to threats

10. Assess the kind of attorney you need. If your spouse is a bully, don’t hire a bully attorney or you’ll get caught in the middle of two bullies.

11. What divorce is really about

12. Listening with Curiosity is the Key in having a successful settlement negotiation

13. How the behavior of each spouse affects the response of the other spouse and outcome of a negotiation

14. Timing is everything in the advance planning to exit the marriage and the house

15. Support Teams are the Lifeline to High Conflict Divorces

#highconflictmarriage #highconflictdivorce #mediation #divorcecoach #attorneyfees #listening #communication #supportteams #divorcesupportteams #communicationstrategy @KarenMcMahon @TheAmicableDivorceExpert #amicabledivorce

Biography for Karen McMahon

Karen McMahon is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce.  She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into a powerful and unexpected new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce.  Karen is the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility”, creator of JBD’s exclusive Accelerated Divorce Recovery Program.

Social Media Handles and Number of Followers

LinkedIn

https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenmcmahon/

Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/journeybeyonddivorce

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/journey_beyond_divorce/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@journeybeyonddivo

JBD Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-beyond-divorce-podcast/id1261400624

1. What Conflict Communication is

2. What “showing up” means

3. Why the way we show up matters

4. The elements in our communication and facial expressions that affect the other party

5. Emotional Intelligence

6. Relationship Management

7. What happens in our bodies when we’re in conflict and fear

8. How to turn fear around in our bodies

9. Tone of voice and choice of words matter

10. Identify your triggers

11. Go through the Emotional Divorce before Filing

12. Mediation mistakes with Settlement

13. Both spouses need to go through the emotions of uncoupling

14. Address the Hurt to get to a Better Settlement

15. Where Trust fits into the settlement negotiations and mediation

16. The importance of pre-mediation before both spouses attend

17. Emotional potential

18. Depersonalize issues with the other spouse

19. Four Communication Styles

20. How your parental families determine future relationships

#emotionalintelligence #conflictcommunication #communication #facialexpressions #relationshipmanagement #triggers #response #emotionalpotential #deepbreathing #triggers #emotionaldivorce #hurt #rejection #trust #distrust #mediation #emotionalpotential #communicationstyles #expressive #conflictavoidance #analyzer #selfawareness #family #relationships #pain #gain #conflictcoach #compassion #empathy #sympathy #warmheartedness

Dr. Debra Dupree Biography

Dr. Debra is a Dispute Resolution Specialist, Conflict | Leadership Coach, and International Trainer and Keynote Speaker.  She hosts the podcast ‘Decoding the Conflict Mindset’ to bring ‘thought leaders’ from business and legal worlds to her community worldwide to gain insight when high emotions run high and tough negotiations are at stake.  She also founded the virtual mentorship program “The Agile Lawyer-Mediator Interview Series” drawing upon 12 topnotch advocates and mediators.

Dr. Dupree is author of Your Emotional Potential: How You Show Up Matters

Dispute Resolution Specialist:  Mediation & Conflict Coach | Podcast Host | International Speaker | Author

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1. Why family law professionals are being murdered

2. Who is murdered and by who

3. How family law professionals protect themselves

4. Why clients need to be open about the emotional and domestic violence issues with a soon-to-be former spouse

5. Who is responsible for the divorce remaining amicable

6. The weapon of choice in family law professional shootings are guns, and guns need to be disclosed to your attorney

7. Domestic violence can lead to child abduction

8. Importance of providing updates to your attorney about violent incidences that have currently happened with your spouse

9. Value the safety of your family law professionals

#domesticviolence #violence #divorce #amicabledivorce #lawyers #attorneys #guns #gunviolence #shootings #weapons #childabduction #mentalhealth #emotions #familylaw #safety #mediators #therapists #legal #team @TracyAnnMoore-Grant @JudithWeigle

Tracy Ann Moore-Grant Biography

          Tracy Ann Moore-Grant, Esq. is the founder of the Amicable Divorce Network, established to address a growing need to assist clients who desire to keep their divorce low conflict and to effectively connect them to professionals who are vetted for having a resolution mindset so parties can avoid unnecessary and expensive litigation. The professionals in the Amicable Divorce Network design both the timeline and team for the divorcing parties based on their needs and finances.  Ms. Moore-Grant is passionate about helping families navigate the difficult process of divorce in a respectful and family-focused manner and now represents clients exclusively in amicable and uncontested cases. She is also a mediator, arbitrator, parent coordinator, divorce consultant and guardian ad litem.

          Ms. Moore-Grant is a registered mediator with both the Georgia Office of Dispute Resolution and 9th District ADR for both family law and domestic violence cases as a mediator and arbitrator. She is a step-mother, baker, and schnauzer lover. She is also a Board Member for Mentor Me of North Georgia, contributing writer to My Forsyth Magazine, Mock Trial Coach for Alliance Academy, and teaches Constitutional Law at Lanier Tech. She has achieved an AV Preeminent Judicial Rating from Martindale Hubble, was named a Woman of Forsyth by the Forsyth County News, and has been listed as a Top 10 Female Family Law Attorney in Georgia since 2016. Her firm, Patterson Moore Butler received a Best of Forsyth award in 2022. In 2020, Tracy Ann was personally awarded the Georgia Legal Award for Distinguished Leadership for founding the Amicable Divorce Network, recognizing its positive impact on Georgia family law and families. Ms. Moore-Grant has been a guest on many podcasts and has authored many articles on the topic of amicable divorce.

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1. How to detect a Positive Lawyer

2. How to Humanize the legal profession

3. Why lawyers are negative and want to fight

4. People find the lawyers who match their level of ethics

5. Positive Psychology helps find Positive Lawyers

6. The importance of happiness in the attitude of your lawyer

7. Your lawyer should have a positive attitude on life to positively represent their clients

8. How to be positive in a negative line of work, divorce

9. The importance of gratitude for happiness

10. Relationships are important to happiness

11. Happiness is lived in the moment

#lawyer #attorney #positivethinking #divorce #negativeemotions #well-being #gratitude #depression #happiness #shifting focus #relationships #positivityresonance #oneness #humanconnection #coaching

Biography of Jordana Confino

Jordana Confino is a professional coach, law school assistant dean, and professor dedicated to helping high-achieving professionals realize their own authentic vision of success and achieve greater satisfaction in their lives and work. Seven years after graduating from Yale Law School, Jordana founded JC Coaching & Consulting to advance the well-being of the legal profession and empower lawyers and other professionals to transform their lives and work for the better. Having spent the bulk of her career working as a lawyer and in legal education at elite institutions, Jordana knows that many high-achieving, successful people hold limiting beliefs that prevent them from truly flourishing. For many years, she was one of them. Jordana transformed her life leveraging the science of positive psychology and human motivation theory, and she is passionate about helping others do the same.

Jordana serves as the Assistant Dean of Professionalism and an Adjunct Professor at Fordham Law School, where she oversees the school’s wellness, professional identity formation, and mentorship offerings, and teaches courses on Positive Lawyering and Peer Mentoring & Leadership.  She was voted Adjunct Law Professor of the Year in 2021.

Jordana holds a J.D. from Yale Law School, a B.A. in Psychology from Yale University, and a Certification in Applied Positive Psychology from the New York Open Center. She is a member of the International Coaching Federation.

Social Media & Website

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordanaconfino/
• Website: jordanaconfino.com/coaching
• Blog: jordanaconfino.com/blog

For more information: jordanaconfino.com/coaching

1. How childhood relationships affect adult relationships

2. Repeating the relationship of our parents is normal

3. The importance of communicating your needs in your marriage

4. How blame disables forward movement

5. How to leave the blame cycle

6. Relationship deal breakers

7. How forgiveness allows forward movement

8. Blame causes parental alienation and unhealthy future relationships

9. Co-parenting while divorcing

10. Domestic violence police calls

11. Couples coaching

12. Mediation solutions through individual discussions

13. How to react when a divorce has been requested

14. How to make divorce a new beginning

15. Dating after divorce and introductions to children

#forensicpsychologist #transformationalcoach #childhoodtrauma #caregivers #nofaultdivorce #affection #love #communication #compassion #understanding #children #co-parenting #step-father #step-children #blame #blamecycle #delusion #change #therapy #mediation #parentalalienation #forgiveness #humility #selfless #divorce #coaching #couplescoaching #mediator #mediation #divorce #breathe #court #dating

Dr. Loretta Billoups Biography

Dr. Loretta Billoups is a clinician in the state of California. She Dr. Loretta Billoups is a clinician in the state of California. She obtained a Master's degree in Forensic Psychology from Argosy University

and received her doctorate in Applied Clinical Psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology.  She was previously a Deputy Sheriff with the Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department for close to twelve years. It is her life experience, education, and career choices that has led her to become both a clinician and transformational coach.

Dr. Billoups has been trained in many modalities and due to this, she has treated depression, anxiety, many variations of trauma, and a host of other mental disorders. She has worked with children, adolescents, adults, and the geriatric population. She also enjoys assisting individuals in reaching their true capacity, maximizing their potential, and reaching their goals. She holds her clients accountable so that their deepest desires and aspirations are now a reality.

www.cultivatingyourlife.com

#potential with #relationship & #mental #health #coach #DrLoretttaBilloups https://lnkd.in/dedqt7Mc 

1. What is happiness?

2. Is Happiness defined in the same way by everyone?

3. Is it possible to be happy during a divorce?

4. Is Happiness a choice or a state of being that we can’t do anything about?

5. How self-care is a part of being happy

6. How you know what really makes you happy

7. The signs of a committed relationship

8. How long-distance relationships work or fail

9. Authenticity of self-expression and happiness

10. Why Happiness and Blame cannot live together

#happiness #joy #relationships #commitment #fantasy #author #self-care #longdistancerelationships #blame #self-expression #authenticity #divorce #HappinessHandbooks #podcast #amicabledivorce #THEAmicableDivorceExpert @La-VerneParris @JudithWeigle

LA-VERNE PARRIS Biography

La-Verne Parris, JD, MSc, MEd is a featured author in the health and happiness bestseller, The Wellness Code; and author of the new, humorous and transformational 6-books-in-1 series for women, the Happiness Handbooks (she even illustrated her own book cover!). An award-winning environmental justice/bioethics/science educator, certified life coach, and self-taught author/illustrator, La-Verne enjoys teaching women how to step firmly into their birth-given talents and power.

La-Verne was born in sunny, laid-back Jamaica, but has been a consummate New Yorker on-the-go for most of her trips around the sun. She lives in Mount Vernon, New York with her twin sister and entire family, and loves people-watching and exploring new spots in the world via that last-minute cheap flight. Visit laverneparrislifecoach.com and follow her on social for inspo, laughs, and to contact her; and visit HappinessHeaven.com (site coming soon) for her slogan merch line, designed to help you declare your unbothered right to be happy!

Follow La-Verne

Instagram: @lifecoachlaverne

Twitter: @LaVerne63

Facebook: @LaVerneParrisLifeCoach

Website: laverneparrislifecoach.com

LA-VERNE J. PARRIS

Certified Life Coach

J.D., M.Sc., M.Sc.

917-705-5829

1. Be realistic about keeping and/or refinancing the house

2. The relationship between mortgage lending for a refinance of the house in a divorce, and the legal side of the divorce

3. How should a settlement agreement be written so that a divorced spouse can refinance the house once the divorce is final

4. What it means financially to refinance and keep the house

5. What happens if the lower earning spouse who is still living in the house can’t meet the mortgage payment

6. The tragedy of leaving Title while still on the mortgage

7. What a Due-On-Sale action is based on a Change in Title

8. Mortgage lender bases their decision to lend on

9. There is a difference between family court versus the mortgage industry rules for responsibility

10. How to change Title of the house if both spouses decide to keep the house jointly

11. Qualifications for one spouse to refinance the house in a divorce

12. How does self-employment effect refinancing the house

13. Timing requirements of child and spousal support to refinance the house

14. Know all your options when negotiating the house in a divorce settlement

15. Make the house a financial decision, not an emotional one

#mortgage #refinancing #childsupport #alimony #spousalsupport #divorce #Title #jointTitle #tenantsincommon #mortgagelender #home #house #divorcesettlement #DueOnSale #ChangeinTitle #emotion #self-employment #financialinsecurity #children #coparenting #parents #coparents  #certifieddivorcelendingprofessional #freeconsultation #equalcreditopportunityact #mortgage #amicabledivorce

Biography Tami Wollensak is a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP™) and Senior Mortgage Loan Originator for Oak Leaf Community Mortgage, a Division of Mutual Federal Bank. Tami has worked in the mortgage industry for more than 25 years and is licensed to lend in 46 states. Specializing in Divorce Mortgage Planning, Tami takes a holistic approach to the process of evaluating mortgage options in the context of the overall financial objectives as they relate to divorcing situations prior to settlement for the best outcome. To learn more, visit www.TakeOrLeaveTheHouse.com. 

Tami Wollensak, CDLP®

Sr. Mortgage Loan Originator

Certified Divorce Lending Professional

NMLS #1963450

(708) 359-2070

TamiW@MyOakLeaf.com

Website

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Tami Wollensak, CDLP®, Sr. Mortgage Loan Originator, Certified Divorce Lending Professional Oak Leaf Community Mortgage. NMLS ID: 1963450. Equal Housing Lender. Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation.

1. What a Forensic Accountant does

2. How to find the money for your divorce settlement

3. How a stay-at-home spouse starts to learn about the family money

4. How a stay-at-home spouse can ask about family finances without triggering the other spouse

5. How to protect bank accounts in case the earner spouse dies

6. How to figure out the family finances through income tax reports

7. When to justify bringing on a forensic accountant

8. Financial Abuse

9. Financial Infidelity

10. How to find hidden or overseas accounts

11. Difference between Financial Detectives and Forensic Accountants

12. Business evaluations of a family business

13. Divorce Money Guide

#forensicaccountant #financialdetective #money #incometaxreports #financialcoaching #hidden assets #overseasbankaccounts #divorce #divorcesettlement #familyfinances #businessevaluations #DivorceMoneyGuide #stay-at-homespouse #bankaccounts #financialabuse #financialinfidelity

#restrictingspending #familybusinesses #podcast #supportgroups #divorcesupportgroups #attorney #mediator #attorneyadvice  #groupcoaching #divorcegroupcoaching @TracyCoenen @TheAmicableDivorceExpert

Biography

Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn’t always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree, but added accounting and economics courses so she could sit for the CPA exam… and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans.

https://www.divorcemoneyguide.com

Instagram: divorcemoneyguide

1. What child-centered looks and sounds like.

2. How to understand the stress that your child is going through from the actual co-parenting schedule to the communication between parents and children.

3. How this approach works with one high conflict parent.

4. How parents can be child-centered when the parents are still hurting emotionally.

5. How a child’s sense of family be reinforced with two households.

6. The grieving process for the parents

7. Trauma is generational and can transfer from parents to children for generations.

8. How children process their parents’ anger

9. The importance of children journaling their feelings and experiences

#divorce #coparenting #children #divorceabuse #grievingprocess #divorcecoach #bestinterestofthechild #generationaltrauma  #communicationstrategies #conflict #trauma #journaling #childcentered #amicabledivorce #podcast #JanetPrice #conflictcommunication #coparentinglife #coaching #coparentingschedule #family

Biography of Janet Price

Janet Price is the CEO of JP Coaching & Consulting, Inc and Founder of Divorce & Thriving Beyond.  Janet is a Certified Divorce Specialist and Conscious Co-Parenting Coach who empowers loving parents to rise above the ‘crazy making’ by keeping their kids out of the middle and moving from surviving to thriving!  

Janet is passionate about supporting parents divorcing & beyond, transition from the ‘intimate partner relationship’ to their ‘Business Partner Relationship called: The Kids’ so that the children are free to: love both of their parents and be loved by both of their parents. 

Janet knows the dynamics of divorcing and co-parenting in a high-conflict environment personally - As a child product of high-conflict divorce and a mother involved in a high conflict coparenting relationship, Janet has first-hand experience on the negative impact & trauma the kids experience when parents unconsciously co-parent and stay stuck in the intimate partner relationship communication loop.  

Janet’s Divorce & Thriving Beyond programs provide parents with the tools, skills, strategies, and support to co-parent effectively & transition to their Business Partner Relationship called: The Kids, so that the children experience their birth right, to love and be loved by both parents!

To Learn More about Janet’s Practice go to her website: https://jpcoachingandconsulting.com/divorce-beyond/

To begin getting the support today, join Janet’s private facebook community: Divorce & Beyond: It's Time to Rise, so our Families Thrive!: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceandbeyondtimetorise

• Website: https://jpcoachingandconsulting.com/divorce-beyond/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/jp-coaching-and-consulting-inc
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MakingYourDreamsComeAlive/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jpcoachingandconsulting/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/JPCoaching2
• Alignable: https://www.alignable.com/malibu-ca/jp-coaching-and-consulting-inc

Here is what you will learn:

1. How to deal with your children while you, the parents, are wildly emotional in your divorce process

2. What is Neurodiversity in children?

3. How to stop the blame and resentment cycle that parents may be in

4. Why the divorce rate is higher when parents have a neuro-diverse child

5. How the values that brought you into your current relationship with your partner can be used to reconnect in a co-parenting relationship

6. Coach approach to parenting instead of an authoritative approach

7. How to work with and communicate with a child who has lots of meltdowns and tantrums

8. When the parenting approach changes from giving their children a sense of agency to expecting them to accept an authoritative parenting approach

9. Children understand the coach approach to parenting vs the authoritative approach to parenting

10. How to get on the same of parenting with your co-parent

11. Parenting is an exercise of letting go

12. If parents have neuro-diverse children, the parents may also be neuro-diverse

13. What to do if both parents aren’t on the same page

#parenting #co-parenting #coaching #authoritative #communication #neurodiversity #communication #children #parentingquiz #coachapproach #divorce #family #families #blame #esentment #sanity #complexkids #ImpactParents #TheAmicableDivorceExpert #podcast #divorcepodcast #control #acceptance #collaborativeco-parenting #metacognition #meltdowns #sanityschool  @ElaineTaylorKlaus @JudithWeigle

Biography

Elaine Taylor-Klaus, MCC, is first and foremost the mom in an ADHD ++ family of six, and her complex kids are now successful young adults. Professionally, she is a Master Certified Coach – bringing a coach-approach to her work as an internationally recognized speaker, author and educator. The co-founder of the first global coaching organization for parents and professionals of neurodiverse kids, ImpactParents.com, she is a trusted advisor to parents, executives, health care and education professionals. She is also the co-founder of Sanity School®, a neurodiversity-informed behavior training program for parents. 

In addition to providing training for parents, ImpactParents has trained and certified hundreds of professionals around the world in neurodiversity-informed coaching skills. Elaine co-authored Parenting ADHD Now! in 2016 and published The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More, in 2020. The Essential Guide will be released in Spanish on Valentine's Day 2023. 

Elaine Taylor-Klaus, MCC, CPCC

CEO, ImpactParents.com

Parent company for ImpactADHD®,

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1. What a Worthiness Coach is and how Self-Worth is lost when going through divorce.

2. How Self-Worth affects everything in a person’s life and how to recreate who you are now.

3. How to step back from the negativity that divorce showers on you

4. Steps to Empowerment.

5. The key to self-empowerment

6. The power of forgiveness in divorce and self-worth

7. How to change the energy in communication

8. How to keep your power in threatening messages

9. Emotional Divorce

10. How to remain positive

11. How to define your identity

#self-empowerment #self-worth #divorce #TheAmicableDivorceExpert #PattyMcGuire #JudithWeigle #podcast #divorcepodcast #forgiveness #narcissist #communication #worthinesscoach #emotionalenergy #mediation

Biography

Patty McGuire

Founder, Positivity Influencer Coaching

Patty@thepositivityinfluencer.com

www.loveyourmarriageagain.com

Patty McGuire is a self-worth coach who teaches her clients how to create more love and happiness in their lives - one step at a time. Specializing in emotional wellness, divorce recovery and saving marriages, her unique method guides people from fear and pain back to love.

#selfworthcoach #divorcerecovery #savingmarriages

You will learn the following:

Stage One: Blaming the Spouse

1. a)  Mediation fosters a sense of control
2. b) Mediation defuses fear of the divorce process
3. c) Mediation structures information gathering
4. d) Mediation organizes basic living expenses
5. e) Mediation contributes to better parenting skills
6. f) Mediation works out physical separation details

Stage Two: Mourning the Loss

1. a) Mediation refocuses the “poor me” attitude
2. b) Mediation helps acknowledge the grief
3. c) Mediation acknowledges the reality of the divorce
4. d) Mediation structures necessary information gathering

Stage Three: Anger

1. a) Mediation defuses anger
2. b) Mediation directs the anger energy to focus on specific tasks
3. c) Mediation enhances decision-making abilities
4. d) Mediation focuses on long-term goals

Stage Four: Being Single

1. a) Mediation heightens communication between spouses
2. b) Mediation facilitates co-parenting cooperation
3. c) Mediation improves relationship interaction

Stage Five: Re-Entry

1. a) Mediation provides closure
2. b) Mediation emphasizes the future
3. c) Mediation is efficient and painless compared to court procedures

#TheAmicableDivorceExpert #mediation #co-parenting #anger #grief #blame #settlementdecisions #fear #loss #ElizabethKublerRoss #JudithWeigle #podcast #divorcepodcast #separationanxiety #decision-making #divorce #amicabledivorce #divorcecourt #psychological #parentingskills #communication #livingexpenses

Here's how this works…

Divorce is Emotional, during the lead-up to filing and throughout the filing. Throughout the filing there are so many decisions to make that are extremely important to get right: Custody and Co-Parenting, Child & Spousal Support, Division of Assets & Debts. These decisions cannot be made well while emotional. The question becomes, “Can the emotion be diminished or controlled that become the backdrop to decision-making, and that can be the reason for bad decision-making?” The answer is, “Yes!”

In this episode you will learn more about the Emotional Divorce and its significance in your divorce experience if you would like the best outcome possible for your entire family. Judith will give you real life examples of what to do and what not to do in a variety of situations from making a mutual decision to divorce, to being surprised by being served with divorce papers, to having lawyers involved in representation.

#emotions #grieving #co-parenting #court #griefprocess #mediation #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce #personalitydisorders #divorcinganarcissist #GoodKarmaDivorce #JudgeMicheleLowrance #therapy #alimony #spousalsupport #childsupport #detachment #settlement

The four ingredients to this approach are:

1. Settle the Emotional Divorce before Settling the Legal Divorce

2. Compartmentalize Time

3. Communication for Conflict

4. A Self-Care Program with Laughter

I give a brief explanation of each ingredient in this episode. If just one of these ingredients is successfully accomplished by only one spouse, the trajectory of your divorce will change from seriously acrimonious to better. And sometimes, better is the best it can be.

Thank you for listening all year so that you can learn how to use divorce to grow as an individual and as a parent.

Happy New Year!

#divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce #selfcare #laughter #communication #conflict #narcissism #emotionaldivorce #legaldivorce #divorcefiling #coparenting #highconflictpersonalities #BIFF

1. Skills to deal with divorce
2. Skills to prevent parental alienation
3. Generational trauma and the impact on your children
4. Divorce abuse and its impact on the children
5. Communication strategies for conflict
6. How a woman’s life changes when going from working outside the home to being a stay-at-home mom
7. Support for the children
8. Aspects of being a good parent and co-parenting
9. What working in the ‘best interest of the child’ mean
10. What children go through while their parents are divorcing
11. Support groups for children in a divorce
12. Another way of looking at co-parenting that could change co-parenting challenges

#divorce #coparenting #children #divorceabuse #grief cycles #divorcecoach #bestinterestofthechild #generationaltrauma #parentalalienation #communicationstrategies #conflict #amicabledivorce #podcast #JanetPrice #conflictcommunication #stayathomemoms

Biography of Janet Price

Janet Price is the CEO of JP Coaching & Consulting, Inc and Founder of Divorce & Thriving Beyond.  Janet is a Certified Divorce Specialist and Conscious Co-Parenting Coach who empowers loving parents to rise above the ‘crazy making’ by keeping their kids out of the middle and moving from surviving to thriving!  

Janet is passionate about supporting parents divorcing & beyond, transition from the ‘intimate partner relationship’ to their ‘Business Partner Relationship called: The Kids’ so that the children are free to: love both of their parents and be loved by both of their parents. 

Janet knows the dynamics of divorcing and co-parenting in a high-conflict environment personally - As a child product of high-conflict divorce and a mother involved in a high conflict coparenting relationship, Janet has first-hand experience on the negative impact & trauma the kids experience when parents unconsciously co-parent and stay stuck in the intimate partner relationship communication loop.  

Janet’s Divorce & Thriving Beyond programs provide parents with the tools, skills, strategies, and support to co-parent effectively & transition to their Business Partner Relationship called: The Kids, so that the children experience their birth right, to love and be loved by both parents!

To Learn More about Janet’s Practice go to her website: https://jpcoachingandconsulting.com/divorce-beyond/

To begin getting the support today, join Janet’s private facebook community: Divorce & Beyond: It's Time to Rise, so our Families Thrive!: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceandbeyondtimetorise

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1. When and why people go from behaving respectfully towards one another to criticizing each other and speaking disrespectfully to each other once married.

2. How to define a healthy love relationship.

3. The essential need of people when they get into relationships and marriage.

4. What things changed for you in your understanding of what a good love life was after you left home and engaged in romantic relationships.

5. Why the divorce rate is 50% first marriages, 60% second marriages, and 70% third marriages end in divorce.

6. Why someone is reluctant to make a commitment, and what you should do if that’s you.

7. What makes love mysterious, hard to recognize, and difficult to get back on track.

8. What “love at first sight” is.

9. Question to ask if in a divorce: What did I contribute to the divorce?

10. The importance of grieving a marriage before entering another relationship.

11. The importance of understanding your family history and what you learned from your parents’ relationship.

#divorce #relationships #lovelife #divorcerate #familyhistory #commitment #communication #acceptance #behavioralpatterns #lovelifelearningcenter #DrThomasJordan #grief

Dr. Thomas Jordan is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City. He is on the faculty of NYU’s Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis, author of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life and founder of LoveLifeLearningCenter.com. Dr. Jordan specializes in the treatment of unhealthy love lives and has been studying them for over 30 years.

Links:

Business Name: Love Life Learning Center

Email: drtmjordan@gmail.com

Website: https://lovelifelearningcenter.com/

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1. What Marital Mediation is
2. When divorce is the result of Marital Management
3. Communication Skills and Conflict Management Strategies are keys in divorce
4. Where lawyers fit in the divorce process
5. The players in the management of the divorce process
6. The three important elements of communication: Tone of Words, Body Language,            Words
7. The most common mistakes to avoid in divorce
8. E + R = O (Event + Respond = Outcome)
9. Where the need for control comes from
10. Where does resolving the issues for divorce fit into the emotional and business sides of divorce and settlement discussions
11. When in the divorce process is a Divorce Coach hired
12. How to avoid post-divorce regrets
13. You are not alone in how you feel during divorce
14. How the challenges in divorce can make you stronger
15. Most common mistakes to avoid in divorce

#JenniferWarrenMedwin #DivorceCoach #Author #Divorce #DivorceMediation #Communication #Conflict #DivorceMistakes #SettlementRegrets #Challenges #Podcast #AmicableDivorce #Post-DivorceRegrets #BodyLanguage #BillEddy #BIFF #EmotionalDivorce #Control #FlexibleThinking

About the Author:

Jennifer Warren Medwin, MS is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, Supreme Court of Florida Family Mediator, and a Certified Marital Mediator. Her private practice in Pinecrest, Miami is called Seeking Empowerment: Clarity through Partnership. Jennifer specializes in working alongside individuals and couples who are contemplating divorce and are fearful of high conflict and with those who hope to save their marriages. She partners with clients to develop the clarity, confidence, courage, conflict management strategies, and communication skills they need to move through the process. Jennifer uses her knowledge of coaching and mediation to help her clients emotionally prepare for the dissolution of their marriages or the reconciliation of their relationships in the most organized, time efficient, and productive manner. Additionally, Jennifer is Collaboratively trained, a member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals (NADP), a participant on the SupportPay Advisory Council, a member of the Amicable Divorce Network, an instructor at Family and Co-parenting Enrichment Services (F.A.C.E.S.), a committee member of KidSide, and a contributing writer for Your Tango, Thrive Global, and OurFamilyWizard. She is also the author of Strategies & Tips from a Divorce Coach: A Roadmap to Move Forward. Jennifer's approach to divorce coaching and mediation is one that provides clients with guidance and compassion through a difficult time in their lives.

Jen@seekingempowerment.com

www.seekingempowerent.com

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In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following:

1. Divorces can take even longer than the Shriver/Schwarzenegger 10-year divorce
2. Budgets need to change to accommodate the divorce
3. Compromise as a key to settling the divorce
4. The word “fair” will get you nowhere
5. That there are two divorces, the Emotional Divorce and the Legal Divorce
6. Why the Emotional Divorce has to run its course
7. What a “Status Only” divorce means
8. No one knows how long a divorce will take, but the ones in control are the spouses, not the court and not the lawyers
9. Conflict Communication skills are vital to dealing with an acrimonious spouse

#celebritydivorces #angelinajolie #bradpitt #bethennyfrankel #jasonhoppy #mariashriver #arnoldschwarzenegger #childcustody #emotionaldivorce #legaldivorce #attorneys #communication #conflict #divorcesettlement #amicable #acrimonious #compromise #statusonlydivorce #fair #spouse #BIFF #BillEddy #JudithWeigle #personalitydisorders

This is what you will learn:

1. Burnout can lead to thoughts of suicide.

2. What leads to burnout? How does this specifically address working mothers?

3. The conditions in the workplace and the personal lives of people going through divorce both factor into overall burnout.

4. What is Parental Burnout?

5. How responsible is the employer in creating burnout?

6. What is proximity bias?

7. The Huuman Group™ is about humanizing the workplace. How?

8. What are the leadership skills necessary to address and prevent burnout?

9. Preventing burnout must be modeled by the leadership of an organization, along with middle management who can be the most burned out. How is this done?

10. Productively suffers when workers come to work under stress and emotional pain.

11. Children are even affected at school when their parents are in burnout. How can this change at home and at school?

12. How did Covid affect burnout by working from home?

13. Empathy, Emotional Intelligence, Social Skills in the ability to connect with the team to humanize the health and welfare of their workers.

14. What is Psychological Safety?

15. How does self-awareness influence leaders, and biases of leaders?

16. The importance of coaching in the study of behavior science to mitigate unconscious and conscious bias.

17. How does the feeling of failure due to divorce impact work productivity?

#burnout #workplaceburnout #divorce #empathy #emotionalintelligence #leadership #parentalburnout #leadershipskills #podcast #psychologicalsafety #suicideideation #diversity #loyalty #trust #safety #groupcoaching #vulnerability #coaching #mentalhealthcrises #TheHuumanGroup #Dr.JacquelineKerr #KristieRible #TheAmicableDivorceExpertpodcast #community #corporateleaders #courage #listeningskills #behaviorchange #unconsciousbias #biastraining #brainfog #workplacegenderbalance #performanceindicators #advocacy #businessadvocacy

Biographies of Dr. Jacqueline Kerr and Kristi Rible

Dr Jacqueline Kerr is a mom, behavior change scientist and burnout survivor. She hosts the podcast Overcoming working mom burnout. Her TEDx talk is How to stop burnout before it starts. She is the Head of Behavior Science at The Huuman Group and provides support to companies on having impact through evidence-based behavior change, understanding and solving multi-level public health problems such as burnout, and using implementation science to improve program effectiveness.

Dr Kerr is in the top 1% of most cited scientists worldwide. She was a public health professor until 2018 when she burned out. Dr Kerr’s work is included in the Center for Disease Control and Prevention’s Community Health Guide and she has received over $56 million in funding from the National Institutes of Health and the American Heart Association working on interventions in community settings such as neighborhoods, schools, workplaces, and retirement communities. She also received over $10 million in funding focusing on women’s health. She has been passionate about age friendly cities and was a consultant to both the AARP and SANDAG.

You can connect with Dr Kerr through her:

Website: www.DrJacquelineKerr.com

Podcast: Overcoming working mom burnout

TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/9YY0gVnVPoQ

Stand up comedy: https://youtu.be/Ulx5VNK4E08

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-jacqueline-kerr-a62581173/

As founder and CEO of The Huuman Group™ (a leadership, coaching, and culture consultancy), Kristi is dedicated to humanizing the workplace by building caring leaders for thriving cultures. Caring leaders understand that the future of work demands flexibility for successful work+life integration, psychological safety, and full a representation of our collective humanity: diverse, equitable, and inclusive.

Her international leadership experience spans more than twenty years of working across technology and consumer products for both public and startup ventures throughout the US, Latin America, Europe, Asia, and Africa. To every consulting, teaching, or coaching engagement, she brings an intercultural and multidisciplinary perspective.

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristirible/

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/company/the-huuman-group™/

Instagram: @kristirible and @thehuumangroup

Twitter: @kristirible

www.thehuumangroup.com

In this episode you will learn the following:

1. Integrity-based Leadership and how Integrity and Leadership are present in marriage

2. Success in Marriage: Matching Values even though spouses may think and behave differently, they want the same goals on Money, retirement, relationships monogamy marriage

3. The shift from dating to marriage: Communicate differently but values same. Problem-solving is different but goals the same

4. Is your marriage goal-based?

5. Financial challenges and goal-setting and the importance of living within your means

6. Why money breaks marriages up and how to prevent this

7. Financial reality in goal-setting and how it successfully works

8. Inappropriate use of money is a symptom of a bad marriage

9. The symptoms that inappropriate expenditure of money reveals

10. How to create a better future financially, married or divorced

11. When bankruptcy should be considered

12. Parents are financial role models to their children

13. What place does money have in your opinion of yourself

14. How is staying in a job that isn’t really satisfying similar to staying in a marriage that isn’t really satisfying

15. How developing a business is similar to building a family

16. Success in your attitude shows in your bank account

17. “Dating for any other reason than finding a spouse isn’t a date. It’s just a good time.”

#integrity #leadership #goal-setting #marriage #divorce #finances #financialinsecurity #bankruptcy #money #parenting #rolemodel #communication #marriagesuccess #dating #similarvalues #values #CPA #author #speaker

BIOGRAPHY FOR

RICHARD A. MÉLANÇON, CPA

Richard Mélançon has 25+ years of experience as a Certified Public Accountant, Business Consultant, Professional Speaker, and author.  As a business consultant, he has worked with companies from coast – to – coast to improve operations, enhance security, identify workflow improvements, build an ethical culture, and improve staff productivity. 

Mr. Melancon has published three books since 2009.  His first book, “You Can Afford the Good Life,” is a personal money management guide for people who are in financial crisis.  His second book “18 Secrets to Unlock Profits and Inspire Employees,” helps companies to implement “Best Practices” to operate an effective business.  His third book, “Integrity-Based Leadership,” helps business owners align their personal values with the corporate mission to reduce stress, build team spirit with employees, and expand profits significantly.  Mr. Melancon has developed a professional speaking platform for these topics for groups and workshop settings.

Richard A. Melancon, CPA

4436 Glendale Street

Metairie, LA 70006

VOICE 504-780-909 1

FAX 877-886-4455

E-mail:  Richard@ramcpa.com

Website:  www.ramcpa.com

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You will learn:

1. How to be frank

2. How to allow the mediator to move the discussion forward

3. How to negotiate

4. How not to be held hostage in divorce

5. How to think through and prioritize the division of assets

6. How not to be held hostage in divorce mediation

7. How to recognize a power imbalance in order to mediate

8. Difference between options vs advise and move beyond impasse

9. That your mediator can identify compromises that the parties can’t hear for themselves

10. Mediators have to come to the mediation with an open mind

#mediation #mediator #divorce #divorcemediation #negotiation #hostage #impasse #assets #negotiate #hostagenegotiation #powerimbalance #honesty #openmindedness #compromise #activelistening #mediate #divorcesettlement

Joseph George Biography

Joseph George is an intelligent and astute businessman with an innovative and motivational mindset. His passion for helping people shows in his body of work.  He is an independent, full-time Supreme Court-appointed mediator and arbitrator. As an arbitrator, his role is to ensure the parties get a fair and effectively managed proceeding. His talents as a mediator, helps to guide the parties to a mutually satisfactory dispute settlement. The combination of his past industry experience in contract negotiations and his skills in crisis management makes him an ideal mediator or arbitrator for matters involving construction or employment, as well as complex business disputes. Both roles are crucial components in his position as a founding partner with the George & George ADR Group.

Apart from the business world Mr. George has a meticulous work-life balance, as he is a devout family man. He currently resides in Jacksonville, Florida with his family and is very hands on with his autistic child. He works closely with an individualized education program (IEP) which helps him to address any therapy for speech, behavior, or sensory concerns his child may have.  He is also a promoter of community service and is an avid supporter of community groups designed to inspire and motivate women of all ages.

Joseph George

Executive Director  

George & George ADR Group

https://georgeandgeorgeadr.com/

Florida Supreme Court Certified County Mediator

Florida Supreme Court Qualified Arbitrator

License Notary & E-notary

Certified Loan Signing Agent

Certified Paralegal/Legal Assistant

Certified Cannabis Mediator

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1. Children have a transition to make to accept the nuances of gender switches with a parent
   1. Male to female didn’t want his children calling him
   2. Obligation of the parent to make sure the child is protected through this process

2. Transitioning genders is sensitive and justifiably selfish, but with consequences of attachment to the children

3. The variety of examples of gender identity is cross-dressing, transgenderism, nonbinary, bisexual

4. Religion in a gender identity divorce is an issue

5. Full disclosure isn’t always given to all relatives for a while

6. Family therapy can help, especially in a co-parenting relationship

7. Mediation is a better route to go in gender identity cases because of the potential biases of the Judge assigned to the case

8. Adoption can be affected in a same sex or alternative sex marriage

9. Changing the language on forms regarding gender identification has started for the adults and children

10. Co-parenting can be affected if one parent cannot accept the transition of the other parent in co-parenting time

11. The importance of pausing the legal divorce until the emotions of the parents and the family are settled

#gender #transgender #nonbinary #transsexual #heterosexual #homosexual #gendenridentity #divorce #gay #straight #gendercomplexities #coparenting #mediation #trial #JudgesBias #courtorder #GregLake #MeganSpomer #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce

Biographies

Meagan Spomer, Esq. of Nebraska Legal Group was a prosecutor for Douglas County Child Support Enforcement. It was there that she not only gained invaluable and extensive trial experience, she also saw how wrong things can go in family law cases. Having seen the worst, Megan is committed to providing the very best representations for her clients.

Meagan co-founded the Nebraska Family Law Organization, an organization focused on increasing students’ interest in family law, as well as connecting established attorneys with law students. The organization has succeeded in bringing mentoring to students and attracting quality young lawyers to the practice of divorce and family law.

Greg Lake, Esq. of Nebraska Legal Group focuses his practice on matters with contested custody, complex financial inquiries, and unique legal questions which arise throughout divorce and custody proceedings. Greg has two young children of his own and understands the challenges that parents face when they are suddenly faced with the fact that they will not be able to see their children daily, must begin budgeting on a single income, or the many other challenges which may arise during a custody proceeding. Greg’s passion for family extends beyond the Courtroom as he volunteered to coach his son’s soccer team where he teaches teamwork, discipline, and patience. When not coaching, Greg and his family spend time putting together puzzles, going to the Zoo, and watching Husker games.

Greg applies the same principles of teamwork, discipline, and patience to the practice of law which assists clients in making the best decisions for their case. Greg excels in simplifying the complex legal questions not only for his clients but the Court as well. Taken together, these fundamentals help client’s in making decisions that will impact their financial future, and most importantly, their future with children.

On THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast this week we speak with David Stolz about why he wrote a book for women regarding financial decisions in a divorce settlement, how to know if the financial decisions negotiated created an equal distribution of assets and debts for both spouses, and clarification on filing taxes once a divorce has been filed.

Here’s what was discussed:

1. Why the focus on women and divorce

2. When required to file other than “married Jointly”

3. How state and federal laws impact your income or asset division when filing “married single or Head of Household”

4. Discuss tax implications with your accountant before filing the divorce settlement to insure the settlement is equal after taxes

5. When to register a divorce with Human Resources when a pension is involved

6. Why a court settlement won’t take tax implications into consideration

7. Options in filing taxes with a Legal Separation filing

8. Debt obligations of one spouse for the other while married

9. What an Equalization Payment is and Equal Distribution of Assets

10. A good case for mediation as opposed to court

11. Emotions and how they can impact bad Legal Decisions

12. How to financially function before divorce filing and while taking care of their emotions

13. How emotions, money, and decision-making work together

14. Monthly pension payments vs lump sum payout

#financialadvice #divisionofassets #finances #financialanalyst #certifieddivorcefinancialanalyst #mediation #divorce #equalizationpayment #legalseparation #taxfilingoptions #pensions #money #QDRO #emotionaldecisionmaking

Biography of David Stolz

David Stolz is a principal in Stolz and Associates, a wealth management firm outside of Seattle, WA. He has more than 20 years of experience working with high net worth individuals in the areas of tax, and divorce financial planning. David has written and contributed to various articles on tax, financial and divorce planning in numerous publications including: New York Times, CBS News, CNBC, Washington, Journal of Accountancy and others.

David and his wife live in Tacoma, WA and enjoy the sunshine of Hawaii as well as adventure travel. They share five kids and a growing number of grandkids.

https://www.david-stolz.com

Facebook: davidstolzauthor

Instagram: stolz_dave

About Katherine: 

Katherine Eisold Miller is an attorney on a mission to change how people divorce and help them divorce with dignity. She is the founder of the Miller Law Group and a Director and Trainer with the Center for Understanding in Conflict. She has been working in the field of family law for more than 35 years as an attorney as well as a mediator. She hosts the radio show/podcast Divorce Dialogues. She is co-author of the #1 Amazon bestseller “A Cup of Coffee with 10 of the Top Divorce Attorneys in the United States” and the author of the “New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce.” Her many media accolades include interviews on CBS New York, NBC New York and features in New York Times (2), US News & World Report, ABC News, Money Magazine, Splitopia, Fox News, Huffpost, and BravoTV.

#DivorceMediation #Mediator #Conflict #Coparenting #CoparentingwithaNarcissist #BravoTV #CollaborativeDivorce #DivorceLawyers #DivorceAttorneys #DivorceCourt #Compromise #Respect #DivorcewithDignity #AttorneyKatherineMiller #MediatorKatherineMiller #MillerLawGroup #DivorceLitigation #AmicableDivorce #CenterforUnderstandinginConflict #DivorceDialogues #NewYorkTimes #FoxNews #USNews&WorldReport #ABCNews #MoneyMagazine #Huffpost #Splitopia

Here’s what you’ll learn:

1. The relationship between attorneys and paralegals

2. The role of paralegals in a law firm

3. The human side of working in a legal relationship

4. The right way attorneys should provide service to clients

5. How law schools brainwash students to want to fight s attorneys

6. What attorneys can and should do to better represent their clients, and promote a more positive image in the legal industry

7. The relationship between Humanity and Law

8. The intention is to provide excellent service in the face of being human

9. How to choose the right attorney

10. Trust your gut when hiring legal professionals

11. Signs that your attorney is doing more than necessary just to charge you

12. Types of questions to ask your attorney to know the status of your case

13. Resources to teach you how legal services should be provided

14. Signs that your attorney is doing less than they should

15. The client’s role in an attorney-client relationship

16. Options in hiring legal services other than attorneys

#attorneys #lawyers #paraprofessionals #paralegals #ethics #honesty #litigation #court #familylaw #legaladvice #EdaRosa #Let’sTalkLegalPodcast #attorney-clientrelationship

Biography of Eda Rosa

Eda Rosa accrued 19 years of professional excellence in the legal profession. Early in her career she was a full-time paralegal for law firms across Florida’s tri-county area. She has gained valuable experience supporting attorneys nationwide by efficiently managing the caseload process, delivering a trustworthy product with supporting legal research and enhancing client relations. Additionally, Rosa gained practical knowledge in foreclosure/real estate law, personal injury, legal research, title work, and business/corporate law.

Eda Rosa, LLC. Is a concierge service providing legal support to law firms.

Let’s Talk Legal and Behind the Oath-Experiences of Paralegals are Rosa’s two books.

Let’s Talk Legal is also the name of Eda’s podcast.

www.EdaRosaLLC.com

You will learn:

1. What Trust is

2. How Forgiveness factors into the healing of breached Trust

3. The difference between Misplaced Trust and Earned Trust

4. Why it matters that people take time to learn about one another before trusting in them and marrying them

5. How ego plays into someone’s ability to be trusted with monogamy

6. Cheating doesn’t just mean sexually

7. Where a foundation of Trust comes from

8. When there is an irreputable breakdown in a relationship with children to co-parent and how that works

9. That accepting the reality of our intended partners is essential

10. How to go from betrayal to gratitude

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You will learn how to:

1. Approach marriage and relationships in a nontraditional way
2. Gage the energy and dynamic of a relationship and the value of that for a strong relationship
3. When to know if the marriage can and should be saved
4. How did you learn to choose relationships, and what did you learn about those choices
5. Learn from the past relationship to choose better future ones
6. Be honest and authentic in relationship choices
7. Differentiate being a victim from how people assess their own power
8. Find your sense of self-worth and self-esteem
9. Understand that Men need to be Needed and Women want to be Wanted
10. Recognize the signs that the relationship isn’t right, and what to do if that happens
11. Use your energy to live your best life and have your best relationships
12. Recognize if you’re open to receiving the gifts of life
13. Understand that love and money are the same energy
14. Reassess what marriage means
15. How to show up for yourself and be the authentic person you are
16. Break free of social constructs in relationship expectations
17. Have a strong relationship without Cheating and leading Double Lives (financial ruin, addiction, adultery)
18. Understand the difference between Values Alignment vs Vibration Alignment
19. Understand that we are never rejected; we repel the relationships causing them to change dynamic

Biography of Deborah Peters

Deborah Peters of the Neuro-Engineering Institute is a Psychologist, Mind-Set Expert, Business Coach, and host of The Journey of the Mastery of Your Mind. Deborah offers individual coaching, retreats, workshops and keynotes for continued education and personal and business success.

www.neimind.com

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You will learn:

1. What it’s like growing up in an emotionally and physically volatile home

2. How anxiety is an outgrowth of a volatile home life

3. How anxiety pervades someone’s life

4. The difference between anxiety and panic disorders

5. There are different types of anxiety, manifested in different ways

6. How to deal with the triggers that create panic attacks

7. Why people fight for a failed marriage – at first

8. How to deal with the fear of getting divorced

9. How do you know IF you have a failed marriage is you are a child of a failed parental relationship

10. Falling in Love vs Landing in Love

11. The importance of sharing ourselves with our potential spouses before marriage

12. Why children cannot be a bonding mechanism between spouses

13. How we build new boxes to hide in emotionally

14. Creating a facade to cover up our insecurities, imperfections, and lack of real connection in a relationship

15. The difference between growing apart and not growing together from the start

16. When do you know when you really know someone

17. How to break free from the emotional Box people create for themselves

18. The importance of authenticity and expressing vulnerabilities

19. How shame limits vulnerability and authenticity

20. How a failed marriage can lead to a better life

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Wendy Tamis Robbins, Esq. Biography

Wendy Tamis Robbins is an attorney in Boston, an Anxiety Coach, Author of The Box, Speaker, and host of the Perfectly Panicked podcast.

Wendy has suffered from anxiety and panic attacks all her life. Part of this mental health condition came from her upbringing and part her own issue with authentically expressing herself. As her first marriage ended, Wendy started getting in touch with the reasons for anxiety and panic, and set about changing her life.

She wrote The Box to metaphorically express how she felt in terms of limiting her vulnerability by being less than authentic. Wendy broke out of the imaginary box she put herself in to protect and shield her from the world. The Box is a book that represents Wendy’s freedom from anxiety.

Wendy also provides workshops to help others get out of their self-imposed boxes, address and deal with anxiety and panic attacks, and live an authentic life full of joy.

Facebook: wendytamisrobbinsthebox.com

IG: wendy_tamis_robbins/

LinkedIn: wendy-tamis-robbins-bg806g1b8/

Twitter: WTRobbins

You Tube: UCYicry8lg7dZDVmnWBHLfJg

1. What is Burnout?
2. Why do people become burned out?
3. What are the signs of Burnout?
4. How does Burnout express itself at home and at work?
5. How do people determine where Burnout is coming from?
6. How can people address Burnout?
7. What are some behavioral changes people can make to go from Burnout to Balance?
8. How can those of us seeing a loved one or co-worker who might be experiencing Burnout help them?

Dr. Drea Letamendi Biography

Dr. Drea Letamendi (she/her/ella) is a licensed psychologist and consultant who specializes in organizational development, mental health training, and corporate wellness. She is a fellow at the Institute of Coaching at the Harvard School of Medicine affiliate, McLean, and serves as the Director of Resilience at UCLA, where she designs and activates mental health initiatives and prepares leaders with crisis intervention and field response protocols. 

As a wellbeing strategist, her passion is fostering curiosity, enthusiasm, and capacity for enhancing work-life health, belongingness, and equanimity among ambitious teams. Dr. Drea is a TEDx speaker and delivered TED sessions on "Resilience and Media During a Pandemic," as part of the special COVID-19 series. She’s published several articles and chapters about the positive impacts of media storytelling on mental health, and this work has been featured in the Atlantic, the Guardian, the Los Angeles Times, and on Disney+. Her podcast, "The Arkham Sessions," examines pop culture and its impact on our mental health.

Email: drdreapsychology@gmail.com

Web: drdreapsychology.com

Social media: @ArkhamAsylumDoc 

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The topics for discussion on this episode are:

1. Amicable co-parenting post litigation

2. The Difficulties in a relationship when the woman out earns the man

3. Spousal Support vs Child Support

What you will learn is:

1. Why it’s hard to amicably co-parent when in the middle of divorce litigation
   1. How to get back to amicable co-parenting
   2. The importance of amicable co-parenting
   3. The damage to the children when co-parents fight

2. The issues in divorce when the woman out earns the man
   1. How our culture still views the earning capacity of each gender
   2. Why men who make less than women (even if they have a very respectable salary) ask for more than the law allows in the division of assets
   3. What men should understand in a high net worth divorce settlement if their wives out earn them

3. The intricacies in evaluating Spousal Support
   1. Lots of factors go into the evaluation of spousal support
   2. How different states view spousal support
   3. When spousal support might not be assigned

4. Child Support pays for what?
   1. What the monthly amount of child support pays for
   2. The average range of child support
   3. Why it’s important not to argue about where child support is spent

.How to have an amicable divorce

.How to find and hire amicable attorneys

.How to reign in time and expense when hiring an attorney

.Why being argumentative doesn’t work

.Who comprises the Amicable Divorce Network

.How to become part of the roster for Amicable Divorce Professionals

.How the Amicable Divorce Network vets for professionals on their list

.How to go from high conflict to amicable again

.How attorneys can deal with their client’s emotions

.How professionals in divorce band together to help their mutual clients

.Collaborative Law and a collaborative team approach

.How The Amicable Divorce Network can work within your budget

.Who controls the attorney-client relationship. Shhhh, it’s the client!

.Fighting isn’t necessary to resolve a marriage

.Lying is a waste of everyone’s time and money

.How to understand the emotions of divorce and the impact emotion has on decision-making

#amicabledivorce #divorcelawyer #collaborativelaw #emotionaldivorce #mediation #TheAmicableDivorceExpert #TheAmicableDivorceNetwork #conflict #divorcetherapy #attorneyfees #divorcecourt #legaldivorce #outofcourtsettlement #divorcesettlementagreement #mediationagreement

Tracy Ann Moore-Grant Biography

Tracy Ann Moore-Grant, Esq. is the founder of the Amicable Divorce Network, established to address a growing need to assist clients who desire to keep their divorce low conflict and to effectively connect them to professionals who are vetted for having a resolution mindset so parties can avoid unnecessary and expensive litigation. The professionals in the Amicable Divorce Network design both the timeline and team for the divorcing parties based on their needs and finances.  Ms. Moore-Grant is passionate about helping families navigate the difficult process of divorce in a respectful and family-focused manner and now represents clients exclusively in amicable and uncontested cases. She is also a mediator, arbitrator, parent coordinator, divorce consultant and guardian ad litem.

Ms. Moore-Grant is a registered mediator with both the Georgia Office of Dispute Resolution and 9th District ADR for both family law and domestic violence cases as a mediator and arbitrator. She is a step-mother, baker, and schnauzer lover. She is also a Board Member for Mentor Me of North Georgia, contributing writer to My Forsyth Magazine, Mock Trial Coach for Alliance Academy, and teaches Constitutional Law at Lanier Tech. She has achieved an AV Preeminent Judicial Rating from Martindale Hubble, was named a Woman of Forsyth by the Forsyth County News, and has been listed as a Top 10 Female Family Law Attorney in Georgia since 2016. Her firm, Patterson Moore Butler received a Best of Forsyth award in 2022. In 2020, Tracy Ann was personally awarded the Georgia Legal Award for Distinguished Leadership for founding the Amicable Divorce Network, recognizing its positive impact on Georgia family law and families. Ms. Moore-Grant has been a guest on many podcasts and has authored many articles on the topic of amicable divorce.

info@amicabledivorcenetwork.com

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Here are topics Wendy will speak to in this interview:

Core Values: Honesty is the biggest value to Wendy. Respect is the second biggest value.

Connection is the third biggest value: Family, Friends, Love

“I betrayed myself because I didn’t stick to my core values’” Wendy Sterling. When Wendy started to recognize how she strayed from what she really wanted in life, she started her path to self-identity and recovery from her old less authentic self.

“Don’t live with should’s. Live with your own core values.”

“A lot of who I became in the marriage was a result of not standing in my own core values, and not communicating what I wanted out of life.  I wish I had stood up for what I wanted in the beginning. I stopped trying because I felt unseen.”

Stop being a victim and reclaim your identity and your responsibility in your own life. I played the victim for many years until I lost people in my life and lost my way in my own life choices.

Victim vomiting is a process that keeps you sick and in the place of a victim. Stop sending out invitations to the pity party.

What is the truth about you, your choices, your marriage, and your future?  People look at the negative way too much. To heal you must see the good reflection of yourself.

It’s so easy to lose your authentic self by letting the other roles take over: Wife, Mother, Daughter, Sister, Friend. In order to live in connection with other people we still have to define our own authenticity first, and then work in tandem with those in our lives.  People will understand if you choose to do something for yourself other than what they want you to do. You don’t have to be mean or harsh when you communicate your needs to those in our lives; you just need to be nice, clear, and honest.

Have people in your life who want to listen, understand, and support you in how you want to move forward.

Taking responsibility for your part in the marriage will change the dynamic of the dissolution and make it be the transformative experience that it can be. Communicate to be heard, not to drown out your spouse’s voice. Take responsibility for the mistakes that you made. Acceptance will follow.

Self-compassion and grace will meet you on the other side of taking responsibility for your actions and your words.

There is acceptance of yourself and acceptance of your spouse. Both levels of acceptance are important to move forward, especially if you will be doing co-parenting once the divorce is final.

Owning your truth, how you define yourself, the choices you make for your best life, can only be done if you stop being a victim, stop blaming anyone for your life situation, communicate honestly and congenially, and take responsibility for all of your life choices.

Wendy Sterling Biography

Wendy Sterling is a certified divorce specialist and grief consultant who has helped thousands of women design a life they choose instead of feeling stuck in the one their ex left them with. After ending her own sixteen-year marriage, Wendy saw first-hand the lack of support divorced women experience in moving through pain, fear and anger to experience joy, self-worth and freedom again. She channeled her energy into building a six-figure business in just two years that helps women heal their wounds, end their victim mindset and reclaim their identity.

Wendy’s expertise has been featured in more than 100 media outlets including NBC, Hello Divorce, Romper, Moms Moving On, The Smart Women Show and more. She is also the host of her own podcast, The Divorced Woman’s Guide, which has had over 70,000 downloads in less than two years. Wendy has also hosted summits, appeared on stages (virtual and in person), and facilitated workshops for companies across the country.

When she’s not showing her clients how to turn the most painful moment of their lives into the most empowered moment in their lives, you can find her spending quality time with her two teen boys in Los Angeles, California. Her forthcoming book, I Do, I Did, I’m Done, is due out June 22nd, 2022.

Website: www.wendysterling.net

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorcerehabwithwendy

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcerehabwithwendy/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-sterling-cpcc-acs-cds-and-advanced-thetahealer-34b1b95/ 

Tik Tok: @divorcerehabwithwendy 

Stacy tells a story of her grandmother actually dying of financial abuse. Her grandmother died of physical abuse by her husband because she stayed in the marriage feeling financially trapped with no way out because of a lack of understanding of money, without a financial plan, and living in fear about the future, especially their financial future. 

How can women without income file for divorce, hire an attorney, and know the financial picture of the marriage?

1. An attorney can be paid in different ways that the woman having the money to file for divorce.

2. Filing Joint tax returns will allow you to access those joint returns from the IRS. This will give you the knowledge necessary to know where you’re going financially in the divorce. And you can see if there is IRS debt.
   1. There is an unusual situation in that people can hide money within their IRS account by purposely overpaying their taxes so that the IRS is holding money for your spouse without you knowing that there is a surplus of money.

3. Get a copy of their credit report. It can be emailed to you directly. Go to www.AnnualCreditReport.com and request your credit report. If your spouse has signed your name to loans that you didn’t know about, but you can get a better picture of what you have nd what you owe.

Income versus spending is a whole education unto itself. A good financial analyst and consultant will help you create a budget, a spending plan, and see what the woman has to do to be solvent.

Marital Debt is a huge problem if there is more debt that is known to both spouses. And, the spouse who didn’t incur the debt may be the one paying the debt if the debt was created during the marriage!!!! The creditor doesn’t care who pays it; they just want to be paid.  One suggestion Stacy gave us is to get your name off of joint credit cards that may help a little is minimizing the community debt. Getting a credit report as soon as possible will give you a heads up on the financial health and welfare of the family. Jump in and get involved.

Financial date night, or a financial advisor will help you, as a woman, understand your financial health and welfare. Being strapped for time cannot be an excuse for not knowing about the family finances.

If you’re experiencing pushback from your spouse when asking to know the financial picture of your financial relationship. “A marriage is an economic union,” Stacy said. 100% transparency has to be available or you may be experiencing financial infidelity.

You could be left holding the bag, and it could be an empty bag if there is more debt than can be managed properly. If, for instance, you have taken your name off of the Visa card and your husband takes responsibility for that debt in the marital settlement agreement, Visa won’t care if your husband defaults on the Visa card. Visa will come after you to pay the debt if the debt was incurred during the marriage.

Financial Infidelity happens more than people think. Financial Infidelity is spending on things and hiding it. Not bringing home your full income is financial infidelity. Financial Infidelity means that you or your spouse are hiding spending from the partner.

In a survey of 150 divorced women, 64% felt that their husbands weren’t being truthful about their finances. That’s a big number, too big a number, for financial openness.

Three Parts to a Divorce as far as finances are concerned:

Preparing Financials