Justin and Andrea also get into the very unhinged realities of property management, the emotional toll of constantly being caught in the middle, and the moment when enough finally becomes enough. It’s one of those episodes that swings from hilarious industry horror stories to something much deeper: trusting your gut, following your integrity, and building a life around real care instead of constant survival mode.

Along the way, they talk networking, relationships, family, San Francisco, Lake Oswego, in-home care, and what it means to find work that actually fits your values. This one is funny, a little wild, and deeply relatable for anyone who has ever looked at their career and thought, “I cannot do this forever.”

In this episode:

-Justin and Andrea on burnout and career pivots

-the reality of working in property management

-the industry stories that make you question everything

-how Andrea found her way into No Worries In-Home Care

-what in-home care actually means and who it helps

-why integrity and loyalty matter so much in care work

-the role networking has played in Andrea’s growth

-San Francisco stories, family life, and a little wine-fueled fun

About the guest:

Andrea Kramer is a former property manager who made a bold transition into the care industry with No Worries In-Home Care. She’s a mom, a networker, a relationship-builder, and someone who chose a more aligned life after years in demanding industries that took a lot out of her. In this episode, she shares what that transition looked like, what she learned from burnout, and why she loves the work she does now.

Connect with Andrea Kramer & No Worries In-Home Care -

Website: noworriescare.com

Instagram: @noworriescare

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1N4cCk7fEN/?mibextid=wwXIfr

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/no-worries-care/

Mentioned in this episode:

No Worries In-Home Care: Andrea explains how the company supports clients with companionship, personal care, meal prep, light housekeeping, errands, and even higher-level care needs like wound care, insulin, catheters, feeding tubes, and more, all in the comfort of home or within a care community.

Bouchon: A Wine Shop: This episode’s wine, like always, is brought to you by Bouchon. Justin gives Mandy and Bouchon their usual shoutout at the top of the episode.

Bouchon: bouchonpdx.com

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Justin and Danny get into how they met, what it looked like to choose each other before titles or success were part of the picture, and the very unglamorous chapters that came before the life they’ve built now. They talk about letting go of what people think, growing into yourself, navigating self-doubt, surviving broke years, and learning how to challenge each other without losing the relationship in the process. From Tinder and Scandals to San Diego, dungeon apartments, free Albertsons bagels, and the long road to stability, this one is funny, personal, and very real.

More than anything, this episode gives listeners a deeper look at Justin through the eyes of the person who knew him before the glow-up, before the business, and before the public-facing version of the story. It’s about partnership, queer love, self-trust, and what it means to become more fully yourself while building a life with someone who sees you clearly.

• Justin and Danny’s real origin story
• how a Tinder match turned into a life together
• what the broke years actually looked like
• San Diego, free bagels, and making a little go a long way
• learning to stop caring so much about what other people think
• the shift that came with getting older and more grounded
• negative self-talk, self-trust, and inner work
• what makes their relationship work, even as total opposites
• the support Danny gave Justin before Blake & Alder ever existed
• karaoke nights, basement parties, and stories from the early years

Daniel Pavis is Justin’s husband, creative sounding board, co-conspirator, and one of the biggest forces behind the scenes of Slightly Unhinged. In this episode, he steps into the chair to talk about growth, identity, partnership, and the road he and Justin took to build the life they have now.

Instagram Creative work / projects

Stranger Care by Sarah Sentilles Danny mentions he’s reading Stranger Care. Official publisher page here: Penguin Random House

Shout out to Shannon for the karaoke memories, fashion inspiration, and generally being everything.

Shout out to Albertsons for the Monopoly-ticket bagel era that kept the romance alive and the groceries interesting.

Instagram: @slightlyunhingedthepodcast

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Mandy is the owner of Bouchon: A Wine Bar in Cedar Mill, one of Portland's most beloved neighborhood wine bars and the unofficial home base of this podcast. In this episode, Justin and Mandy get into how they met, how Bouchon came to be, the rebrand from Portland Wine Cellar to the cozy, sexy space it is now, and why she left her old location the second her lease ran out. They also dig into wine club, the crash course Mandy got in wine knowledge after opening a business she wasn't totally prepared for, and why her no-bullshit approach to wine is exactly what makes her so good at what she does.

And then it gets a little unhinged. They break down this season of RuPaul's Drag Race (the queens were not the problem), compare favorite comfort movies, debate whether Titanic is an acceptable answer in a rapid fire round, and somehow end up talking about Justin's bottle purge party that did not result in fewer bottles.

This one is for the longtime listeners who've been waiting for this episode, and for anyone new who wants to understand exactly what kind of show this is.

In this episode:

• How Justin and Mandy met at a CMBA happy hour
• The origin story of Bouchon and why the name means cork
• Why Mandy hated her old space so much she left the second her lease was up
• The rebrand from Portland Wine Cellar to Bouchon
• Wine club: what it is, how it works, and why the four bottle option is the right call
• Mandy's crash course in wine knowledge and why she's proud of how far she's come
• Why she never pretends to know something she doesn't
• This season of RuPaul's Drag Race, and Mandy's very strong feelings about production
• Rapid fire: comfort movies, wine trends, karaoke go-tos, and a very spirited defense of Dante's Peak
• Justin's bottle purge party that somehow required buying a new case of wine
• Saving bottles from Simon's birth year for his 21st birthday
• The Alien franchise, stepbrothers discourse, and natural wine opinions
• Mandy's unhinged moment: yelling at other people's children in a zip line queue

About Mandy

Mandy is the owner of Bouchon: A Wine Bar in Cedar Mill, Portland. What started as a crash course has turned into a genuine expertise and a community-centered space that people actually want to hang out in. She knows her wine, she'll tell you when she doesn't, and she built something her regulars are fiercely loyal to. She's also been mentioned in nearly every episode of this podcast, so it's about time.

Connect with Mandy & Bouchon

Website: bouchonpdx.com Instagram: @bouchonpdx

How to support Mandy: Visit Bouchon, join the wine club, and send people her way.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Bouchon: A Wine Bar — bouchonpdx.com
• Cedar Mill Business Association (CMBA)
• Violin Wines (Willamette Valley Pinot Noir)
• Vincent Wine
• Granville Wines
• Corsini (Italian wine featured in episode 2/3)
• PDX Deals — pdxdeals.com
• Buddha Lounge, Portland
• Arlene Schnitzer Concert Hall (The Schnitz)
• Jinkx Monsoon

Wine for this episode

Thank you to Bouchon: A Wine Bar for providing the wine for this episode — a 2017 Chateau Falfas Bordeaux, right bank, heavier on the cab than you'd expect, and one of Mandy's personal favorites from the shop. Visit Bouchon: bouchonpdx.com

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Justin and Lily talk about Portland Small Business Network, the difference between authentic networking and rooms full of people just trying to sell, and why referrals should come from real trust, not pressure. They also get into local restaurants, nightlife, hospitality, food culture, and the people and places that help shape Portland’s creative and community-driven spirit. It’s a conversation about showing up for your city, your people, and the small businesses that keep local culture alive.

Lily also shares more about her work with Accident Care Chiropractic, her family’s roots in Portland’s food and small business scene, and the relationship-first approach that defines everything she builds. And of course, Tofu makes an appearance, because some stars simply demand screen time.

This episode is fun, community-focused, and a strong reflection of what Slightly Unhinged is: a space where Justin brings listeners into conversations with people who are actively shaping Portland through connection, culture, and care.

• Justin and Lily on what makes networking actually meaningful
• why being a resource matters more than being pushy
• Portland Small Business Network and how it grew
• supporting downtown Portland and local restaurants
• Lily’s work with Accident Care Chiropractic
• family business, food culture, and community roots
• nightlife, hospitality, and the local spots that shape Portland
• referrals, relationships, and building trust that lasts
• a rapid-fire round on cocktails, brunch, Tofu's fashion, and travel
• an appearance by the iconic Tofu

Growing up in NE Portland’s small business scene, Lily is passionate about helping local businesses thrive. She connects people, builds lasting relationships, and delivers strategic marketing that drives results. With a knack for spotting inefficiencies and a creative edge, she helps businesses grow smarter, faster, and stronger.

Portland Small Business Network: portlandsmallbusinessnetwork.com Facebook Group: Portland Small Biz on Facebook Instagram: linkedin.com/in/lilyj YouTube: @pdxsmallbiz TikTok: @slightlyunhingedthepodcast

Thank you to Bouchon: A Wine Shop for providing the wine for this episode. Visit Bouchon: bouchonpdx.com

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They also talk about Nicole’s pandemic-era love story, supportive queer family, the evolution of her drag persona, and what it really takes to build a life and career in performance. Along the way, the conversation wanders into brunches, wigs, weddings, local drag, and the kind of family stories that could only happen in a beautifully queer cousin web.

This episode is funny, personal, heartfelt, and wildly entertaining, with plenty of laughs and a real love for performance, community, and being exactly who you are.

• Nicole Onoscopi’s path from musical theater to drag
• life in New York and the performances that shaped her
• the pandemic detour that led to her love story and life in Oregon
• how Nicole found her drag name and built her persona
• why drag became the perfect outlet for performance and self-expression
• what it means to have a supportive queer family
• the work behind drag brunches, live vocals, bingos, and producing shows
• how to support local drag by showing up for venues and buying tickets early

Nicole Onoscopi is a Portland-based, Oregon-raised, New York City-cultivated drag queen known for her live vocals, high-energy brunches, and bingos. She has been featured as one of Cosmopolitan’s Cosmo Queens, performed in the Guinness World Record-holding longest drag show, appeared on the Trail Blazers halftime stage, and is part of the CC Slaughters nightclub family. She also hosts and produces Drag Brunch PDX at multiple venues in Portland.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicoleonoscopi

Drag Brunch PDX: https://www.instagram.com/dragbrunchpdx

CC Slaughters: https://www.instagram.com/slaughterspdx

KimChi Chic Beauty: https://kimchichicbeauty.com

Use code NICOLEONOSCOPI15 at checkout for 15% off.

Want to support local drag in a real way? Nicole’s advice is simple: support the venues even when a show isn’t happening, spend intentionally, and buy tickets in advance. It helps venues plan, helps performers keep producing, and helps the local drag community keep thriving.

Instagram: @slightlyunhingedthepodcast

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They get into what people often misunderstand about banking, why small business owners need real human support behind their accounts, and how financial education can genuinely change lives. The conversation also moves into Albert’s journey from Miami to Oregon, the differences between the two cities, queer community, nightlife, chosen family, and the value of building spaces where people can feel seen, supported, and connected.

This episode is warm, funny, and genuinely useful, especially for anyone thinking more seriously about money, business relationships, community, and the kind of support system they want around them.

• Albert Tavarez’s move from Miami to Oregon and how he found community here
• why financial literacy and access to support matter so much
• what separates relationship-based banking from feeling like just a number
• how Albert advocates for the Latino and LGBTQIA+ communities through his work
• the role nonprofits and community leadership play in his life
• what small business owners and future buyers should be doing now to prepare financially
• how networking feels different when it’s built around real community
• Miami nightlife, Portland queer spaces, brunch culture, and a rapid-fire round that goes off the rails in the best way

Albert Tavarez is originally from Miami, Florida, and moved to Oregon eight years ago. He loves Oregon, misses the sun, and is living his dream job by helping others, especially the Latino and LGBTQIA+ communities, through financial literacy and money management. He also has a passion for nonprofit work and serves on the Hillsboro Library Foundation board and as Treasurer for Pacific Northwest Power Partners.

Visit Columbia Bank: Columbia Bank

Pacific Northwest Power Partners: @pnwpowerpartners

Instagram: @slightlyunhingedthepodcast

Thank you to Bouchon: A Wine Shop for providing the wine for this episode. Visit Bouchon: Bouchon

A special extra shoutout to Christine for making the connection to today’s guest.

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This one is occasionally explicit, and full of the kind of real conversation that makes Slightly Unhinged what it is.

• how Kaylyn and Joey accidentally built Action Jackson Promotions after starting in mortgages
• what people are actually afraid of when they show up on camera
• why prep matters so much in video and content creation
• the tension between authenticity, professionalism, and public visibility
• why community and referrals still matter more than chasing trends
• what it’s really like to build a business with your spouse
• whether social media is evolving, collapsing, or both
• side quests into Herbalife, Pure Romance, MySpace drama, astrology, and Walla Walla wine weekends

Kaylyn is the co-founder of Action Jackson Promotions, a production company known for helping brands show up with more intention, personality, and confidence on camera. In this episode, she joins Justin not just as the force behind the production of Slightly Unhinged, but as a guest with her own story and perspective.

Instagram - @kaydawl Website: www.ActionJacksonPromos.com

Special thanks to Mandy and Bouchon: A Wine Shop for supplying the wine for this episode. https://bouchonpdx.com/

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow and subscribe to Slightly Unhinged so you don’t miss future episodes!

In this episode:

• mortgages, affordability, and what buyers are up against right now
• COVID-era real estate and the ripple effects that are still showing up now
• why the right industry professionals can make or break the experience
• wine, Walla Walla, and the side tangents that make Slightly Unhinged what it is

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About Jessica:

Jessica's 10 years' experience in the mortgage industry started when she realized that mortgage lending & customer service were mutually exclusive. Her differentiator is to provide exceptional service to her clients through education and constant communication. If you're looking for a lender partner that listens to your needs and delivers on follow-up, call Jessica!

Connect with Jessica:

Instagram - @jessicahomelender

Book a consult via Instagram link in bio

Website - https://www.cmghomeloans.com/mysite/jessica-scolastico

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessicahomelender/ 

Wine provided by Bouchon: A Wine Shop

https://bouchonpdx.com/