In this episode, we get honest about the pressure to perform spiritually—and how easy it is to feel like you’re falling short. Whether you grew up in church or came to faith later in life, that quiet sense of “I should be doing better” can creep in.

We talk about the difference between performance-based faith and grace-driven discipleship, and how God actually meets us in our weakness—not our perfection.

If you’ve been feeling inconsistent, disconnected, or just plain discouraged… this one’s for you.

• Why so many of us feel like we’re failing spiritually
• The pressure of “doing more” vs. the invitation to simply be with God
• How our different faith backgrounds shape expectations
• What it looks like to reconnect with God in real, everyday life
• Encouragement for when you feel stuck or behind

• Lectio 365 App: https://lectio365.com/
• Become New Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/become-new-with-john-ortberg/id1554045522
• Confronting the Thief Within: https://amzn.to/48CcrLz

In this episode, we talk openly about our own journey with counseling, what led us there, and how it’s changed our marriage, our parenting, and our emotional health.

We also talk about the stigma that keeps people from getting help, the reality of parenting while still working through your own story, and the tools that have helped us grow along the way.

This one is a little more serious—but if you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure where to start, we hope it encourages you to take a step toward growth.

📘 Boundaries (book): https://amzn.to/4c2Rlbw 🧠 Feelings Wheel: https://feelingswheel.com/

In this episode, we talk about why life doesn’t actually work in perfect balance, how that expectation creates guilt and burnout, and what it looks like to build rhythms that can survive real life instead.

We also share how we handle busy seasons and a few simple practices that have helped us stay grounded emotionally and spiritually.

If you feel overwhelmed, behind, or just tired… this one’s for you.

👉 Processing Styles Workbook: https://bit.ly/3NLZsQ7 📘 Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: https://amzn.to/4sAtV2R 

Resources Mentioned

• Lent & Easter Family Devotional: https://amzn.to/4t2vgzx

• The Hero Bible: https://amzn.to/4lq8tLb

• Living Room Liturgy: https://amzn.to/4lqWvRm

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In this episode, we’re talking honestly about parenting — the sacred moments, the exhausting ones, and the absolutely ridiculous ones.

We share stories from raising three girls, the emotional weight no one prepares you for, and the hilarious meltdowns over sock seams and the concept of Monday. We talk about the pressure parents feel, the illusion of control that parenting quickly destroys, and how sometimes the real formation isn’t happening in our kids… it’s happening in us.

If you’re in the thick of it — tired, overwhelmed, wondering if you’re doing this right — this one’s for you.

We also carve out some practical encouragement for struggling parents:

• Why repair matters more than perfection

• How to pick your battles

• Why protecting your marriage matters

• And how to play the long game

Parenting isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence. And showing up again tomorrow.

Next time, we’re getting specific. We’re diving into what it looks like to raise kids with a healthy faith — not fear-based, not performance-driven, but real and resilient.

Thanks for rolling with the chaos.

If communication feels harder than it should right now, you’re not alone.

If you’ve ever thought, “This isn’t what I pictured,” this conversation is for you.

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Purchase The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry here. 

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