In this episode, Melissa sits down with Laguna Beach-based trainer and former professional surfer Ryah Arthur to explore how physical wellness, accountability, and aligned habits can become a foundation for healing and transformation during life’s most challenging transitions.

From outdoor community workouts to his 90-day GROW program, Ryah shares how small, consistent actions—hydration, sleep, nutrition, movement, and stress regulation—can radically shift your mental, emotional, and physical state. Together, they discuss why getting “out of your head and into your body” is essential during divorce, and how building discipline and self-trust creates real resilience.

“I use the creative power of my personal vibration. I speak it into being.”

Ryah Arthur is a wellness coach, trainer, and former professional surfer based in Laguna Beach, California. With deep roots in the local community, he leads outdoor, functional fitness classes focused on breathwork, mobility, and strength.

He is the creator of the GROW program, a 90-day holistic lifestyle program designed to help individuals optimize their health, reduce stress, and align their habits with their highest vision for their lives.

• Why community-based movement can be a game changer during divorce
• How physical activity helps you shift from mental overwhelm to grounded presence
• The six foundational movement patterns every body needs (and how to start simply)
• Why discipline = self-love (and how to build it in small, sustainable ways)
• The role of accountability in creating lasting change
• How stress (emotional, physical, mental) impacts your body—and how to regulate it
• Why focusing only on your problems keeps you stuck—and what to do instead
• How to define your “dream” and use it as a guiding force for transformation
• The power of daily wins in building resilience and confidence

Ryah’s 90-day GROW program is a holistic approach to wellness that adapts to each individual’s life and stress level.

Participants focus on:

• Hydration (customized, not one-size-fits-all)
• Nutrition and whole foods
• Sleep optimization
• Movement and functional strength
• Breathwork and stress regulation
• Mindset and vision (“the dream”)

Program features include:

• Daily accountability check-ins via video app
• Bi-monthly Zoom sessions with deep dives into key topics
• Optional in-person meetups (for local participants)
• Partner work for deeper connection and support
• A strong, supportive community environment

The goal isn’t perfection—it’s sustainable transformation.

• You don’t need to overhaul your life—start with small, consistent actions
• Healing doesn’t happen in isolation—community accelerates growth
• Getting physically stronger helps you become emotionally resilient
• You can’t control everything in divorce—but you can control how you care for yourself
• A compelling vision for your future is more powerful than reacting to crisis

This episode highlights a powerful truth: divorce is not just a legal process—it’s a full-body, full-life transformation.

Programs like GROW offer an alternative to staying stuck in the stress and analysis of divorce by helping you:

• Reconnect with your body
• Build supportive relationships
• Take aligned, forward-moving action

• Website: ryaharthur.com
• Instagram: @ryaharthur

• High Vibe Mediation: highvibemediation.com
• Follow the podcast on Instagram: @highvibedivorce

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Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

Victoria shares how her own experience navigating a high-conflict, financially entangled divorce inspired her to create tools that help others approach divorce with more clarity, strategy, and confidence. Together, Melissa and Victoria break down key California divorce concepts, including spousal support, Family Code section 4320 factors, budgets, marital standard of living, earning capacity, taxes, imputation of income, lump-sum buyouts, and present value discounts.

They also explore a critical question many people face early on: Is mediation appropriate for everyone? Melissa and Victoria discuss when mediation can be powerful, when it can become a delay tactic, and what red flags may signal that a more structured legal process is necessary.

This episode is packed with guidance for anyone who wants to walk into divorce mediation, negotiation, or litigation feeling more informed, more grounded, and more empowered.

“The way through is you. I have the courage to go within and work my way through.”

Melissa reflects on how this affirmation applies so powerfully to divorce finances. Even with expert support, you are still the person making the decisions about your future. The more you understand your options, priorities, and financial realities, the more empowered you become.

• Victoria’s role as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and family financial mediator

• Why defining the financial variables clearly is essential for productive divorce negotiations

• The value of a global settlement proposal instead of handling divorce issues piecemeal

• The difference between temporary spousal support and permanent spousal support in California

• How Family Code section 4320 factors shape spousal support analysis

• Why marital standard of living is often misunderstood

• The importance of analyzing budgets, taxes, earning capacity, savings, and investments

• What income imputation means and when it comes into play

• How lump-sum spousal support buyouts work

• What present value means and why discounts are often applied in lump-sum negotiations

• Why mediation is not always the best fit for every couple

• Red flags that may suggest mediation is likely to fail or be used as a delay tactic

• Why documentation, data, and the right divorce team can reduce anxiety and improve outcomes

• How divorce coaches, therapists, attorneys, and CDFAs can help support a more empowered process

Victoria emphasizes that one of the biggest mistakes people make in divorce is trying to negotiate without clearly defining the numbers. Estimates, assumptions, and vague language often create confusion, mistrust, and stalled negotiations. Solid financial analysis helps both spouses understand what is actually on the table.

Melissa and Victoria also discuss how support issues are rarely as simple as a single calculator result. Spousal support discussions often require a much deeper look at lifestyle, actual need, cash flow, future earning ability, and the long-term impact of asset division.

Another major theme in this episode is that mediation works best when both people are genuinely capable of participating in good faith. While mediation can be transformative and efficient, it is not always appropriate in cases involving coercion, extreme delay tactics, abuse, or entrenched high-conflict dynamics.

Most of all, this episode is a reminder that divorce is not just a legal process. It is also a financial and emotional transition. Getting informed, building the right support team, and understanding the facts can help you move through it with much more confidence.

Victoria Kirilloff is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), family financial mediator, and founder of Divorce Analytics. After navigating her own high-conflict divorce, Victoria used her background in financial analysis to create the first global settlement proposal and divorce report that helped bring clarity and resolution to her situation.

Today, she helps clients and professionals make the financial side of divorce more transparent, strategic, and productive through documentation, data, and practical financial insight. Victoria believes divorce does not have to be purely destructive and that with the right support, it can become a transformative turning point.

Website: DivorceAnalytics.com

Victoria also offers consultations and shares educational insights through her newsletter.

Visit highvibemediation.com to learn more about Melissa’s mediation services.

You can also connect with Melissa on Instagram through her mediation and podcast pages, both linked in the show notes.

If this conversation helped you feel more informed or empowered, please subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who may need it. Divorce can feel isolating, and these conversations help people feel less alone and more supported.

Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

They offer practical guidance for people considering divorce: begin with emotional support, choose trusted guides carefully, spend limited resources intentionally, and prioritize processes that protect long-term wellbeing and healthier co-parenting.

High Vibe Divorce Podcast — Show Notes

Episode 50 is a milestone—and a reminder that divorce doesn’t have to be a purely adversarial, low-vibration experience. Melissa sits down with Katie Padilla (founder of Bloom Family Law in Oakland), an attorney-mediator-collaborative professional who intentionally stepped away from litigation to support families entirely out of court. Together, they explore divorce as an “underworld initiation”—a sacred rite of passage that can crack you open, help you value-mine the hard parts, and guide you toward a more intentional next chapter.

This conversation is also a practical reality check: who you listen to (friends, family, professionals) matters. Your nervous system matters. And the way you choose to move through the fire shapes your future—especially if you’ll be co-parenting.

“Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”
— Napoleon Hill

Melissa and Katie connect this to “value mining”: finding the benefit—even if you can’t see it yet—and using journaling, reflection, and support to discover the growth on the other side.

Katie reframes divorce as a sacred transition—an opportunity to look inward, interrupt old patterns, and ask:

• What do I want out of this life now?

• What matters most to me?

• What do I want to stop repeating?

Melissa connects this to grief work and “ego death”: the loss of identity and reality can be destabilizing, but also deeply catalytic.

Katie shares the “why” behind leaving court:

• Litigation can amplify blame, defensiveness, and shame

• Judges don’t know your family and often have limited time

• People can “win” legally and still feel depleted, empty, or harmed

• Court is public, and the process can be humiliating and escalatory

They both name what many people sense: even when big emotions show up in mediation, it can still feel like progress—because there’s room for humanity, nuance, and forward motion.

A key theme: accepting what is without collapsing your boundaries.
Surrender = choosing battles wisely, staying grounded, and moving with integrity—not “giving in.”

Katie emphasizes doing things in a way your body can feel proud of later:

• What does integrity mean to you?

• How do you want to show up in the fire?

• What do you want to be able to say about yourself afterward?

Katie outlines Bloom’s approach:

• Collaborative divorce (out of court)

• Mediation and mediation-focused resolution

• Consulting for people negotiating directly or working with a neutral mediator

• Legal consulting + coaching bundled into a flat-fee model

• Access to pre-vetted divorce coaches through Bloom

The thread running through it all: support the whole person—not just the legal problem.

Katie offers a simple but powerful practice: not everyone gets a front-row seat to your divorce.
They discuss how well-meaning friends and family can unintentionally project, escalate, or dysregulate you—and why discernment is everything right now.

A gut-check they share:

• Do you feel supported after talking to this person—or drained?

• Are they regulated—or emotionally fanning flames?

• Are they advising from wisdom—or from their own unresolved stuff?

Melissa breaks down the reality of billable-hour family law and why clients must ask better questions before hiring counsel. They discuss how easy it is for fear and anger to steer the ship—and how quickly costs can balloon without creating real resolution.

Takeaway: Interview professionals like your peace depends on it—because it does.

Katie shares a stat she’s seen: many people retain the first attorney who calls them back—often from a dysregulated, urgent state.

They discuss why beginning with a therapist and/or divorce coach can help you:

• calm the nervous system

• clarify goals

• learn what questions to ask

• choose the right team (legal, financial, coaching)

• spend limited resources more intentionally

Katie calls divorce coaches “divorce doulas”—guides who help you move through the process with steadiness and intention.

Katie shares Bloom’s retreat vision, beginning with a retreat at Mount Madonna Institute, featuring:

• nervous system regulation support

• somatic tools

• yoga therapy elements

• coaching exercises including value mining

Their shared belief: stepping into a safe, intentional space—especially when shame and isolation are high—can be profoundly healing.

• Divorce is hard—but it doesn’t have to destroy you.

• Regulation, support, and discernment can change everything.

• The way you move through divorce shapes your future identity, health, and co-parenting relationship.

• Choose guides you trust. Choose advice you’d actually want to live by.

Katie Padilla is an attorney, mediator, and collaborative professional—and the founder of Bloom Family Law in Oakland, California. Bloom supports clients entirely out of court, focusing on mediation, consulting, and innovative flat-fee legal + coaching support to help people move through divorce with intention, integrity, and whole-person care.

Find Katie / Bloom:

• Bloom Family Law and Bloom Legal Coach

• Bloom Family Law Instagram

Melissa Wheeler Farag is a family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, helping clients move through divorce in a more mindful, respectful, and empowering way.

Find Melissa / High Vibe Mediation:

• High Vibe Mediation

• High Vibe Divorce Instagram

If you enjoyed today’s episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs support. Divorce can be isolating—keep the conversation going.

Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

“We are only subject to a negative thought or belief if we consciously say that it applies to us.”
— from the Letting Go Deck (and Letting Go book) by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.

Karla Kyte of My Divorce Mortgage Planning is a divorce mortgage planning expert with nearly 30 years in lending. She supports divorcing homeowners (and the professionals guiding them) to ensure housing decisions made during divorce actually work when it’s time to qualify—before it’s too late to change course. Karla’s specialty includes the issues that most often trip people up: buyouts, refinances, assumptions, release of liability, support income, self-employment, and debt/income allocation. She’s based in Denver, Colorado, and works nationwide.

• Why “I can afford the payment” isn’t the same as “I can qualify to keep the house”

• The Tetris of divorce terms: legal language, tax concerns, and lending guidelines have to align

• Refinance basics (and why it often means losing the low rate)

• The difference between a cash-out refi and a buyout refinance (and why the distinction matters)

• Assumption vs. release of liability: what’s actually possible, and when

• Why calling the wrong department can get you a flat “no” that isn’t the full story

• Support income rules: what qualifies, how long it must be received, and why documentation + timing matter

• Why cash support payments can wreck mortgage qualification

• Return-to-work income: full-time vs. part-time and what lenders typically require

• Self-employment: why divorce “income for support” can look nothing like “income for lending”

• A creative (and risky) option: Garn-St. Germain protections and continuing to pay an existing mortgage post-divorce (when the other spouse stays on the loan)

• Don’t assume your lender—or your lawyer—knows every option. Mortgage rules are technical, and divorce adds extra layers.

• If you’re exploring an assumption or release of liability, you must speak to the loan servicing department (not general customer service).

• For many loans, assumability is limited—but in divorce, some servicers may allow a release of liability even when the spouse wasn’t originally on the mortgage (often at servicer discretion).

• Support income may be usable for qualification only if it’s court-ordered, paid consistently, and properly documented (and it must generally be expected to continue long enough).

• Never pay support in cash if the recipient needs it to qualify—paper trail matters.

• Part-time income can be hard to use without the right history/guarantees; full-time income is usually easier to re-establish for lending.

• For self-employed borrowers, “income” in divorce calculations can be wildly different from what underwriters can count—plan early, because changing tax strategy often takes time.

• “Ask the right question to the right department—or you could lose a huge opportunity.”

• “A settlement term can be perfectly legal—and still not lendable.”

• “Paper trail is everything when support income is part of qualification.”

• Letting Go (book) + Letting Go Deck — David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.

• Karla’s website: mydivorcemortgageplanning.com

• Mentioned concept: Garn-St. Germain (due-on-sale protections in specific transfer situations, including divorce)

• Website: mydivorcemortgageplanning.com

• Find her by name: Karla Kyte on TikTok / Instagram 

• Podcast + DMs: @highvibedivorce

• Mediation: @highvibemediation

• Website: highvibemediation.com

If this episode helped you think differently about keeping (or selling) the house, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs steady guidance right now. Divorce can be stressful and isolating—let’s keep the conversation going.

Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

This episode is educational and not legal, tax, or financial advice. Mortgage and divorce rules vary by situation—consult the appropriate professionals for guidance specific to your case.

“As we relinquish the negative suppressed feelings from all the programs we have internalized, they’re automatically replaced by higher ones… When our inner feelings are peacefulness, serenity, tranquility, stillness, openness, and simplicity, the effect on others is to increase their awareness… and to give them a greater sense of freedom, perfection, unity, and at oneness with ourselves.”

• What Reiki is (and why it’s not as “woo woo” as people think)

• Heather’s story: finding Reiki during her divorce and feeling immediate relief

• Reiki as universal life force energy + how a Reiki Master acts as a channel

• Why divorce dysregulation (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) can make people avoid finances entirely

• How Reiki can support:

  • stress + anxiety reduction

  • physical pain relief

  • emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual healing

• The 5 Reiki principles and how they apply to divorce (including being kind to yourself—and yes, even your ex)

• In-person vs remote Reiki (and what a session actually feels like)

• Why “I just want to be done” can be a red flag when it’s coming from fear

• The confidence shift: moving from fear → neutral → informed → decisive

• How Heather blends her CDFA work with nervous system support—so clients can think clearly about money

• Why a CDFA + mediator can be a cost-effective team versus litigation + forensic accounting (when appropriate)

• The importance of budgets, disclosures, and not double-counting expenses

• Special note: why finances can be extra nuanced when one spouse is self-employed

• A local Orange County wellness event announcement featuring Reiki, breathwork/hypnosis, and a sound bath

• You don’t need to be “spiritual” to benefit from Reiki—what matters is willingness and consent.

• If you’re dysregulated, it’s harder to:

  • read documents

  • engage in discovery

  • negotiate fairly

  • understand options

  • advocate for yourself

• Financial empowerment in divorce isn’t about power over your spouse—it’s power from within.

• The divorce process is often a business unwinding, and calming your nervous system can help you participate instead of freeze.

Reiki = “universal life force energy.”
A Reiki Master doesn’t “take” your energy or force anything—Heather describes it as intelligent energy that flows where it’s needed. Sessions can be hands-on or hands-off, and can be done remotely with similar impact.

What you might experience:

• deep relaxation (many people fall asleep)

• tingling sensations

• seeing colors/lights behind closed eyes

• emotional release

• increased clarity in the days after (journal + notice dreams/insights)

Heather’s beginner suggestion:
Try once a week for 4 weeks to feel the shift and allow time for integration.

Heather shares an upcoming women’s wellness event focused on alignment:

• Date: March 8, 2026

• Location: Costa Mesa, CA (at Enjoy Yoga)

• Modalities offered: Reiki (Heather), breathwork/hypnosis, and a sound bath

Heather is a Reiki Master, divorce coach, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA). She supports clients through the financial realities of divorce—budgeting, strategy, proposal analysis, tax implications, and long-term planning—while also integrating tools that help clients stay regulated and grounded during an emotionally charged process.

• Melissa / High Vibe Divorce + High Vibe Mediation: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce https://www.highvibemediation.com/ https://www.instagram.com/highvibemediation/ 

• Heather Reeves: https://www.coachingwithorigin.com/ https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithorigin/ 

• Event info: (add registration link once posted)

If this episode helped you, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need a little grounding and support. Divorce can feel isolating—let’s keep the conversation going.

Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

Guest: Sheila Stephens, PA – Physician Assistant, Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach, and Founder of Recenter Anywhere

In this episode, Melissa sits down with Sheila Stephens, a physician assistant turned breathwork and wellness coach, to explore how simple, accessible breathing and mindfulness practices can help you stay grounded—especially during emotionally charged life transitions like divorce.

Melissa and Sheila met at a women’s wellness event in Orange County and instantly connected over their shared belief that healing tools should be practical, affordable, and available to real people in real life. Sheila now offers personalized, one-on-one virtual breathwork sessions, creating custom recordings clients can use anytime they need to recenter.

Together, they dive into:

• What “breathwork” actually means—and why it’s more than just deep breathing

• How breathwork and meditation work together to calm the nervous system

• Why so many of us discover these tools during moments of crisis

• The difference between calming vs. activating breath techniques

• Simple practices you can use anywhere—at your desk, in your car, or even in a convention center

• How these tools help you respond instead of react during conflict

• Why meditation isn’t about stopping your thoughts (and never was)

• How consistent practice creates space between triggers and reactions

• Using breath and mindfulness to reconnect with intuition during big life decisions

• Letting go of perfection and embracing “healthy-ish” habits that actually stick

This conversation is especially powerful for anyone navigating divorce, grief, anxiety, or overwhelm. Sheila explains how breathwork can help you come back into your body, quiet the mental noise, and find safety within yourself—no matter what’s happening around you.

Melissa also shares her own experience using breathwork in high-stress environments, from law school to the bar exam, and how these practices support emotional regulation during divorce.

“Letting go is like the sudden cessation of an inner pressure or the dropping of a weight. It is accompanied by a sudden feeling of relief and lightness, with increased happiness and freedom.”

Sheila Stephens is a Physician Assistant and Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach. Through her business, Recenter Anywhere, she helps overthinkers who feel drained, anxious, or stuck find clarity, momentum, and sustainable “healthy-ish” habits—without rigid rules or one-size-fits-all solutions. Her signature one-on-one sessions provide customized breathwork and meditation recordings clients can use anytime they need to reset.

• Website: recenteranywhere.com

• Instagram: @recenter_anywhere

• Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce

• Melissa / High Vibe Mediation Instagram: @highvibemediation

• Website: highvibemediation.com

If you’re in the midst of divorce or feeling overwhelmed by life’s transitions, this episode offers gentle, practical tools to help you breathe, pause, and come back to yourself—anytime, anywhere.

In this deeply soulful and expansive conversation, Melissa is joined by psychic medium and spiritual guide Alexandra Shelly, host of Embody Your Soul and known online as The Modern Medium. Together, they explore how divorce—like death, illness, and other major life transitions—can become a powerful gateway to awakening, alignment, and transformation.

Alexandra demystifies intuition, spirit guides, and “the Clairs,” offering grounded, accessible ways to understand spiritual connection without bypassing the human experience. This episode invites listeners to see divorce not only as an ending, but as an initiation—an opportunity to reconnect with your authentic self, your higher wisdom, and the unseen support that surrounds you.

Whether you’re brand new to spirituality or already walking a conscious path, this episode is a gentle reminder that you are never alone—and that magic is always available if you’re willing to notice it.

• Why divorce, grief, and “dark” seasons often catalyze the greatest spiritual growth

• How Alexandra defines intuition as your most authentic self

• The difference between asking for “signs” and learning to trust your inner knowing

• An introduction to the Clairs (claircognizance, clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience, and more)

• How to begin connecting with your spirit team—even if you’re brand new

• Why intention is the doorway to spiritual connection

• How signs can show up in everyday life (feathers, numbers, songs, synchronicities)

• The power of choosing to see life as magical

• Why grounding, embodiment, and presence are essential during emotional upheaval

• How spirituality can restore trust in yourself during divorce

• Intuition is your North Star. It’s not mystical or elite—it’s your truest self guiding you home.

• Spirit doesn’t take away your autonomy. Your guides illuminate; you steer the ship.

• You don’t need to be “woo” to be connected. Spirituality can be simple, embodied, and human.

• Divorce is an initiation. It’s ego death—and rebirth.

• You are never alone. Support exists beyond what you can see.

• You get to choose magic. You can live as if everything is a miracle.

• Trust builds confidence. Every time you honor a sign, you strengthen your inner knowing.

“You can live as if nothing is a miracle, or you can live as if everything is a miracle.”

Divorce can feel isolating, destabilizing, and overwhelming. But what if it’s also an invitation—to trust yourself, to reconnect with something greater, and to remember who you really are?

Alexandra Shelly is a psychic medium, Reiki practitioner, death doula, tarot reader, and host of the Embody Your Soul podcast. Known as The Modern Medium, Alexandra helps people connect with their spirit team, intuition, and higher self in grounded, empowering ways.

She offers:

• Psychic mediumship sessions

• Remote and in-person Reiki

• Death doula services

• Tarot readings

• Spiritual mentorship

Alexandra is based in Orange County, California and works with clients worldwide.

Find Alexandra:

• Instagram: @themodernmedium_

• Podcast: Embody Your Soul

• Website: themodernmedium.com

• Also on TikTok & Threads

• 🌐 Website: highvibemediation.com

• 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce/

If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need a reminder that they are supported—even in the darkest chapters.

Until next time,
Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa sits down with Southern California divorce attorney Kimberly Keen for a refreshingly honest and grounded conversation about what it really means to practice family law with integrity.

Kim shares her practical, big-picture approach to divorce—one that prioritizes long-term outcomes, emotional wellbeing, and healthy co-parenting over courtroom theatrics. Together, Melissa and Kim explore:

• When litigation is actually necessary

• How court filings can be used strategically without escalating conflict

• Why settlement is almost always the endgame

• The value of mediation paired with consulting attorneys

• How to choose the right divorce attorney

• Red flags to watch for when hiring counsel

• The importance of mental health, support, and joy during divorce

This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce who wants clarity, empowerment, and a more peaceful path forward.

• Family law isn’t a zero-sum game. Winning a hearing can still cost you years of co-parenting harmony.

• Litigation isn’t the enemy. It can be a strategic tool—used to preserve rights, create leverage, and protect your future.

• Most cases settle. Whether through mediation or negotiation, resolution is usually the destination.

• Mediation works best with support. Having a consulting attorney alongside a skilled mediator leads to stronger, more enforceable agreements.

• Choose an attorney with integrity. Beware of guarantees and “we’ll fight for everything” promises—they often create unrealistic expectations.

• Personality fit matters. You need an attorney you trust to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard.

• Divorce is emotional. Therapy, support systems, nature, and moments of joy are not luxuries—they’re essential.

• You deserve honesty. A great attorney will help you understand risks, not just sell you hope.

• Get support—therapy or a trusted person to talk to

• Spend time in nature

• Try meditation or yoga

• Let yourself have fun

• Make room for joy, even in the middle of hard things

Divorce is stressful, but life doesn’t stop. You’re allowed to laugh, rest, and feel good again.

Kimberly Keen is a divorce attorney based in San Diego, California, known for her practical, empathetic, and settlement-minded approach to family law. She serves clients throughout Southern California, including San Diego, Orange County, Riverside, and San Bernardino.

• TikTok: @kimkdivorcelawyer

• Website: enrightlawapc.com

Melissa Wheeler Farag is a family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, guiding people through divorce with clarity, compassion, and a belief that this transition can be transformative.

• Website: highvibemediation.com

• Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce and @HighVibeMediation

If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it. Divorce can be isolating—let’s keep the conversation going.

Until next time:
Keep the vibes high and the conflict low. 💛

Divorce later in life comes with unique financial, emotional, and psychological challenges—and in this episode, we unpack all of them with clarity, compassion, and wisdom.

Melissa is joined by Andrew Hatherley, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), financial advisor, author, and host of the Gray Divorce Podcast. Together, they explore how gray divorce (typically age 50+) requires a more intentional, educated, and team-based approach—especially when retirement, Social Security, healthcare, and long-term financial security are on the line.

Andrew brings both professional expertise and lived experience, having gone through his own gray divorce at age 52. This conversation blends practical financial strategy with emotional resilience, mindfulness, and purpose-driven rebuilding, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce later in life—or supporting someone who is.

• What qualifies as gray divorce and why divorce rates are rising fastest among adults 65+

• Why financial decisions in later-life divorce carry greater long-term impact

• The importance of working with a CDFA alongside a mediator, attorney, and therapist

• How fear (not fairness) often drives poor divorce decisions—and how to interrupt it

• Why older divorcees must understand:

  • Retirement accounts & tax implications

  • Spousal support sustainability

  • Social Security timing

  • Medicare and health insurance planning

• The critical role of budgeting and net-worth tracking after divorce

• Why “your brother-in-law or girlfriends” are not your financial advisors 😉

• How mediation and amicable divorce models reduce fear, cost, and emotional damage

• Why contentment—not constant happiness—is the real post-divorce goal

• Andrew’s personal post-divorce practices:

  • Meditation and mindfulness

  • Physical health and movement

  • Nature, fasting, and sleep hygiene

  • Public speaking and confidence-building through Toastmasters

• How being a helper—and getting out of your own head—can be deeply healing after divorce

• Why a team-based divorce approach is often less expensive than litigation alone

• Gray divorce requires education, intention, and professional support

• Financial clarity creates emotional stability

• Fear thrives in isolation—community and guidance dissolve it

• You can rebuild financially, emotionally, and spiritually at any age

• Divorce can be a powerful catalyst for growth, service, and purpose

Andrew Hatherley is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, financial advisor, author, and the host of the Gray Divorce Podcast. He specializes in helping individuals and couples navigate the financial complexities of divorce later in life, with a focus on long-term security, education, and peace of mind.

Andrew is also a member of the Amicable Divorce Network, a vetted group of settlement-minded professionals committed to reducing conflict and cost in divorce.

• 🌐 Websites:

  • https://wiserdivorcesolutions.com

• 🎧 Podcast:

  • The Gray Divorce Podcast (available on all major platforms)

• 📘 Free Resource:

  • Reach out to Andrew at andrew@wiserdivorcesolutions.com to receive his 12-page white paper on the finances of gray divorce

• 📖 Book Contribution:

  • Divorce Amicably (published by the Amicable Divorce Network)

Melissa Wheeler-Farag is a family law mediator, attorney, and the host of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. Through mediation, education, and conscious conversation, she helps clients move through divorce with clarity, empowerment, and intention—believing that divorce is not a failure, but an opportunity for transformation.

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Divorce can feel isolating—but it doesn’t have to be.
Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

Divorce doesn’t have to be something you merely survive—it can be the most powerful initiation of your life.

In this expansive and deeply honest conversation, Melissa sits down with former attorney turned wealth, power, and divorce mentor Meagan Norris to explore how divorce can become a strategic power move rather than a breaking point. Together, they dive into emotional mastery, money mindset, authenticity, and the spiritual dimensions of transformation—without bypassing the very real grief and complexity of divorce.

This episode is for anyone who wants to move through divorce with sovereignty, clarity, and self-trust—while building a life that feels aligned, abundant, and true.

• Why divorce can be a vehicle for transformation, not failure

• How to alchemize grief, anger, and fear into emotional power

• The role of authenticity (not positivity) in true healing

• Why suppressing emotions prolongs conflict—legally and energetically

• How mindset and expectations can escalate or de-escalate divorce conflict

• What “sacred selfishness” really means during divorce and parenting

• Quantum leaping, emotional resilience, and collapsing old timelines

• Why women are conditioned to fear money—and why that must change

• Financial sovereignty as a core pillar of post-divorce empowerment

• Letting the old life fall away so something better can emerge

Divorce as Initiation
Divorce often brings ego death—and that’s not a failure. It’s the gateway to profound self-knowledge, emotional maturity, and alignment.

Feel to Heal
High-vibe doesn’t mean bypassing pain. Feeling grief, anger, and despair—without reactivity—is where real power lives.

Authenticity Is the Highest Vibration
You don’t need to “feel good” to heal. You need to feel honest. Authentic emotion is more transformative than forced positivity.

Money Is Neutral—and Powerful
Money amplifies who you already are. Financial sovereignty allows women to parent from stability, choice, and abundance—not fear.

Your New Life Will Cost You Your Old One
Transformation requires letting go. Divorce asks us to release outdated identities, roles, and beliefs to make room for something new.

• The work and meditations of Joe Dispenza

• The Emotional Guidance Scale and teachings of Abraham Hicks

• Conversations around wealth, philanthropy, and feminine power inspired by figures like Melinda Gates

“The worse it feels, the more okay you’re going to be. This is the process of turning stone into a diamond.”

• 🌐 Website: https://megannorris.com

• 📸 Instagram: @megannorriscoaching

• 🎵 TikTok: @divorcedrichwomen

Melissa Wheeler Farag is a family law mediator, recovering divorce litigator, and host of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. She believes divorce isn’t a failure—it’s an opportunity for conscious transformation when supported with the right tools, mindset, and guidance.

• 🌐 Website: https://highvibemediation.com

• 📸 Instagram: Links for High Vibe Mediation & High Vibe Divorce are in the show notes

If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need support right now. Divorce can feel isolating—but conversations like this remind us we’re not alone.

✨ Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low. ✨

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney–Mediator
Podcast: High Vibe Divorce
Listen on: Spotify
Website: @highvibedivorce

In this deeply personal and emotionally resonant episode, Melissa explores one of the most overlooked yet universal aspects of divorce—grief. She shares her own story of profound loss, including the passing of her mother and partner, and how these experiences have shaped her compassionate approach to mediation and emotional healing.
Divorce is more than a legal process—it’s a breakup, a transformation, and an invitation to face yourself. Melissa walks listeners through the five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) and reflects on how each one shows up uniquely in divorce.

She also discusses how grief intertwines with anxiety, identity loss, and emotional surrender, emphasizing that feeling your feelings—rather than avoiding them—is the true path toward acceptance and peace.

• Grief is normal and valid—even if you initiated the divorce.

• You’re not just grieving the person, but also the future you imagined and the version of yourself who believed in it.

• Anger can mask sadness—honor the emotion, but don’t stay stuck there.

• Acceptance doesn’t mean approval; it means acknowledging what is and creating space for new joy.

• The path through grief is not linear—allow your process to unfold and change over time.

“Repressed and suppressed feelings require counter-energy to keep them submerged.
As these feelings are relinquished, the energy that had been holding down the negativity is freed for creativity, growth, and relationships.”
— David R. Hawkins, Letting Go Deck

• Book: Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief by Claire Bidwell Smith, LCPC

• Book & Deck: Letting Go by David R. Hawkins

• Emotional Guidance Scale (available at highvibemediation.com)

Grief is not weakness—it’s evidence of love, growth, and transformation. Whether you’re mourning your marriage, your dreams, or your old self, know that you’re not alone. By acknowledging grief, you create the energetic space for acceptance, renewal, and higher vibration.

In this deeply personal and emotionally resonant episode, Melissa explores one of the most overlooked yet universal aspects of divorce—grief. She shares her own story of profound loss, including the passing of her mother and partner, and how these experiences have shaped her compassionate approach to mediation and emotional healing.
Divorce is more than a legal process—it’s a breakup, a transformation, and an invitation to face yourself. Melissa walks listeners through the five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) and reflects on how each one shows up uniquely in divorce.

She also discusses how grief intertwines with anxiety, identity loss, and emotional surrender, emphasizing that feeling your feelings—rather than avoiding them—is the true path toward acceptance and peace.

• Grief is normal and valid—even if you initiated the divorce.

• You’re not just grieving the person, but also the future you imagined and the version of yourself who believed in it.

• Anger can mask sadness—honor the emotion, but don’t stay stuck there.

• Acceptance doesn’t mean approval; it means acknowledging what is and creating space for new joy.

• The path through grief is not linear—allow your process to unfold and change over time.

“Repressed and suppressed feelings require counter-energy to keep them submerged.
As these feelings are relinquished, the energy that had been holding down the negativity is freed for creativity, growth, and relationships.”
— David R. Hawkins, Letting Go Deck

• Book: Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief by Claire Bidwell Smith, LCPC

• Book & Deck: Letting Go by David R. Hawkins

• Emotional Guidance Scale (available at highvibemediation.com)

Grief is not weakness—it’s evidence of love, growth, and transformation. Whether you’re mourning your marriage, your dreams, or your old self, know that you’re not alone. By acknowledging grief, you create the energetic space for acceptance, renewal, and higher vibration.

Dating after divorce can feel exhilarating, overwhelming, or… completely off the table. Whether you’re ready to jump back in, think you’ll “never date again,” or just want to understand how to approach love more intentionally, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

Melissa is joined by Laurie Gerber, a seasoned love coach, TEDx speaker, and creator of Master the Art of Love, a digital course for women over 50 who are ready to date like they mean it. With over 20 years of coaching experience—including as former President of the Handel Group’s Life Coaching Division—Laurie has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to help them find and sustain love at every stage of life.

They discuss how to know when you’re ready to date again, how to approach casual vs. serious dating, the importance of learning from past relationship patterns, and why clarity about what you truly want—head, heart, and hoo-ha—makes all the difference.

“The more we love, the more we can love. Love is limitless. Love begets love.”
— Letting Go Deck by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.

Melissa reflects on the anabolic power of love—how romantic, platonic, familial, or self-love can expand your capacity for joy and healing after divorce. Whether or not you’re looking for a relationship right now, this episode will inspire you to believe in new chapters.

• Are You Ready to Date Again?
  Laurie’s 26-question quiz helps you assess your emotional, logistical, and family readiness to step back into the dating world.

• Head, Heart & Hoo-ha Framework:
  Laurie shares her signature tool for evaluating potential partners through intellect, emotional connection, and physical chemistry—equally.

• Casual Dating vs. Serious Love:
  Why taking a “gap year” to explore, have fun, and learn what you truly want can make future relationships healthier and less overwhelming.

• Learning from Past Relationships:
  How to spot patterns from previous marriages or partnerships to avoid repeating them.

• Dating Apps vs. Real Life:
  Practical advice on choosing the right dating sites, using them efficiently, and balancing online and offline opportunities.

• Energetic Readiness & Legal Realities:
  Why it matters to clean up unfinished business—emotionally and legally—before calling in your next great love.

Laurie Gerber is a love coach, writer, and speaker who has appeared on The Today Show, Dr. Phil, MTV, A&E, and as the resident love expert for Match, Zoosk, and JDate. She hosts the Love at Any Age podcast and is passionate about helping people find healthy, lasting love through truth-telling and intentional strategy.

• Website: lauriegerber.com

• Podcast: Love at Any Age

• TEDx Talk: The Secret Free Diet

• Instagram: @lauriegerbercoach

• Website: highvibemediation.com

• Instagram: @highvibedivorce

• Free Discovery Call: Book Here

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In this heartfelt and practical episode, Melissa welcomes Betsy Kelly, known online as The Divorce Doula. Betsy is a divorce coach, podcast host, and divorced mom who blends professional training with personal experience to help others navigate divorce with more clarity, calm, and intention.

They dive deep into what a divorce doula is, the power of nervous system regulation, why community and spirituality are essential during divorce, and how intentional daily choices can create a “high vibe” divorce that sets the stage for a better future.

This episode is short, sweet, and full of wisdom for anyone facing divorce — especially those seeking grounding, emotional support, and tools beyond the legal system.

“Although letting go seems simple and easy, its ultimate effects are profoundly powerful.”

—from the Letting Go Deck, inspired by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.
(Author of Letting Go, a must-read for anyone navigating spiritual and emotional healing through divorce.)

• The Role of a Divorce Doula:
  Betsy compares divorce coaching to her experience with a birth doula — a warm, wise guide helping clients make informed, values-aligned decisions throughout the process.

• Nervous System Regulation During Divorce:
  Regulation isn’t one-size-fits-all. Betsy helps clients identify personalized practices (e.g., meditation, intense exercise, journaling, music, holding kids) to stay grounded and make clear decisions.

• Telling Your Divorce Story to Eradicate Shame:
  Betsy shares her own divorce journey and why she launched the Divorce Stories Podcast — to give voice to experiences that are often hidden, isolating, or stigmatized.

• Community, Spirituality & Support:
  Both Melissa and Betsy emphasize the importance of leaning on community — whether spiritual, familial, or chosen — to combat the disorientation and social restructuring that often accompany divorce.

• Coaching vs. Attorneys & Mediators:
  A coach or doula provides emotional regulation and intentional guidance that attorneys and mediators, bound by their roles, cannot offer. This support can reduce conflict, save money, and improve outcomes.

• Training & Professionalism in Divorce Coaching:
  Betsy’s training through Divorce Coaches Academy centers on conflict resolution and structured sessions — highlighting the difference between trained professionals and unregulated “coaches.”

• Daily Orientation Toward Your True North:
  Betsy encourages listeners to ask themselves daily:
  “What kind of divorce do I want? What do I want my kids to remember about this time?”
  Small intentional actions add up to a radically different outcome.

• Website: Apple Podcasts

• TikTok: highvibemediation.com

• Instagram: @highvibedivorce

• Free Discovery Call: Book Here

If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend. Divorce can feel isolating — keep the conversation going, support your loved ones, and remember to keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

• 00:00 – Welcome & Affirmation: “Although letting go…”

• 02:30 – What is a Divorce Doula?

• 08:15 – Regulation Practices & Nervous System Tools

• 15:40 – Shame, Storytelling & Launching Divorce Stories

• 22:00 – Community, Spirituality & Social Restructuring

• 28:10 – Coaching vs. Legal Support Roles

• 36:20 – Training, Professionalism & Reducing Conflict

• 43:00 – Betsy’s Daily Divorce Mindset: Finding True North

• 48:00 – How to Work with Betsy + Final Thoughts

Welcome back to High Vibe Divorce! In this episode, Melissa is joined by Courtney Harkness, a Certified Divorce Coach (CDC) and MBA with a corporate background who now supports women through the emotional and financial complexities of divorce. Known for her calm, nonjudgmental presence and strategic mindset, Courtney helps clients detach from drama, set strong boundaries, and approach divorce like the high-stakes negotiation it truly is.

Together, Melissa and Courtney explore how to emotionally stabilize, set a strategic game plan, and execute your divorce with clarity and composure. From setting boundaries to managing high-conflict personalities, they share actionable tips for keeping your cool and protecting your peace—while still getting a fair deal.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why viewing divorce as a business transaction is empowering for women

• The three-step approach: Stabilize, Strategize, Execute

• How to manage emotional manipulation and financial secrecy

• Practical tools for responding (not reacting) to nasty texts or emails

• How not reacting is your divorce superpower

• What to gather financially before working with a divorce coach

• Why narcissist labels don’t matter—and what to focus on instead

• The emotional letdown of being “officially” divorced—and how to prepare

• The vital role of a certified divorce coach in high-conflict or high-stakes cases

• Tips for spiritual grounding and post-divorce transformation

✨ Affirmation of the Episode:
“I establish boundaries to support my freedom.”

Guest Info:
Learn more about Courtney Harkness and her coaching services at elitedivorcehelp.com

Follow Courtney on Instagram: @elitedivorcehelp

Connect with Melissa:
🌐 highvibemediation.com
📸 Instagram: @highvibedivorce

🎧 If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review! Divorce can be isolating—share this episode with a friend who needs it and keep the support flowing.

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Family Law Mediator and Recovering Divorce Litigator
Guest: Tami Wollensak, Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) and VP at New American Funding

Navigating real estate during divorce doesn’t have to add unnecessary stress to an already emotional time. In this insightful episode, Melissa sits down for a second conversation with Tami Wollensak, a nationally licensed mortgage loan originator and Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®). Tami shares her expertise on what divorcing homeowners need to know about mortgage assumptions, the real cost of keeping the marital home, and how to make fully informed, financially sound decisions about real estate during divorce.

If you're considering keeping your house after divorce—or you're curious about your mortgage options—this is essential listening.

• The emotional vs. financial reality of keeping the marital home

• Understanding mortgage assumptions: What they are, how they work, and how divorce impacts eligibility

• The importance of budgeting for home maintenance and unexpected expenses post-divorce

• How spousal support and child support affect mortgage qualifications

• Why "house poor" isn't a vibe: balancing financial stability and emotional needs

• Common pitfalls with loan assumptions, home equity lines, and timing considerations

• The case for renting after divorce—and why it can be a financially wise, low-stress choice

Tami Wollensak, CDLP is a Divorce Mortgage Specialist and VP with New American Funding. With over 30 years in the mortgage industry, Tami helps divorcing individuals nationwide find smarter, more stable home equity solutions. Her mission is to educate, empower, and remove anxiety from the mortgage process—offering peace of mind and a clear path forward during divorce.

• Connect with Tami:

  • Website: TakeOrLeaveTheHouse.com

  • Resources: EmpoweredUncoupling.com

  • Instagram: @tamiwollensakcdlp

• Episode 17: Tami’s first appearance on High Vibe Divorce: "Should I Take or Leave the Marital Residence?"

• TakeOrLeaveTheHouse.com for mortgage planning tools

• EmpoweredUncoupling.com for real estate and divorce education

• Website: HighVibeMediation.com

• Instagram:

  • Mediation: @highvibemediation

  • Podcast: @highvibedivorce

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! And don't forget to share with a friend who could use some support navigating divorce.

🌟 Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, California Family Law Mediator & Founder of High Vibe Mediation
Podcast: High Vibe Divorce

In this episode, Melissa takes you behind the scenes of the entire divorce mediation process—from first inquiry to final agreement. Whether you're considering mediation, are in the early stages of separation, or simply curious about how it works, this episode is your step-by-step guide to what really happens during divorce mediation.

Melissa, a former litigator turned mediator, shares the exact process she uses in her California-based practice, including how mediation can save time, money, and emotional energy. With insights from her training in Insight Mediation and her background as a Co-Parenting Specialist, she explains how mediation fosters clarity, safety, and self-determination for separating couples.

• 🌀 What is divorce mediation?
  Voluntary, confidential, out-of-court, and built on neutrality—not judgment.

• 📅 The step-by-step process:
  Intake → Mediation Agreement → Goal Setting → Financial Disclosures → Joint Sessions → Negotiation → Drafting the Agreement → Filing with the Court

• 👩‍⚖️ Mediator vs. Attorney vs. Judge:
  Understanding the neutral role of a mediator and why they don’t make decisions or offer legal advice.

• 💻 Virtual & flat-fee mediation in California:
  How Zoom sessions and flat-rate pricing create accessibility and financial clarity.

• 🧠 Insight Mediation in action:
  Exploring the roots of conflict, defensive reactions, and how curiosity can transform combative dynamics.

• 👶 Child-centered parenting plans:
  Crafting plans that reflect a child’s routine, needs, and developmental stage—fitting the parents around the child, not the other way around.

• 💡 When is mediation the right fit?
  Best for couples who want to avoid court, keep control over the outcome, and co-create a more peaceful post-divorce life.

• 🔁 Modifying agreements post-divorce:
  Why many families return to mediation for parenting plan updates or other tweaks—without going back to court.

“Peace begins with clarity.”
Let this episode be your invitation to slow down, get informed, and find the clarity you need to move forward with peace and purpose.

• 🖥️ Book a free discovery call: HighVibeMediation.com

• 📸 Connect on Instagram:
  @HighVibeMediation | @HighVibeDivorce

• Want to learn how mediation actually works (without the legal jargon)

• Are exploring amicable divorce options

• Need a peaceful, streamlined alternative to court

• Are curious about Insight Mediation and how it helps couples shift from defensiveness to understanding

In this deeply empowering episode, Melissa is joined by her longtime friend and fellow divorce professional, Heather Reeves—a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Certified Divorce Coach, licensed real estate broker, and founder of Origin Coaching and Consulting. Together, they explore the emotional and energetic roots of financial anxiety in divorce, especially for women, and how to shift from fear to empowered clarity.

Heather brings a holistic approach that blends financial strategy, somatic coaching, and lived experience. With expertise in corporate finance, real estate, and transpersonal psychology, she helps clients move through divorce with grounded confidence and a renewed sense of self-worth.

🔑 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How financial anxiety contributes to both staying in and leaving a marriage

• The impact of somatic and energetic tools for money-related stress

• What a CDFA does—and why it can be more cost-effective than relying solely on attorneys

• How to reframe money as a tool of empowerment, not just a stressor

💬 Affirmation of the Episode:
“You have been worthy to belong to love all along without any need to improve. In fact, you are love itself.”

Whether you’re navigating the fear of the unknown or beginning to dream of a brighter future, this episode will support you in building financial confidence and emotional resilience.

✨ Connect with Heather Reeves:
🌐 Website: coachingwithorigin.com
📸 Instagram: @coachingwithorigin

🌊 Connect with Host Melissa Wheeler Farag:
🌐 Website: highvibedivorce.com
📸 Instagram: @highvibedivorce

Affirmation of the Episode:
✨ “Let me be open to courageously take the steps that are shown.”
This episode invites you to open your heart and mind to the support, guidance, and next steps that can lead you through divorce with greater ease, intention, and transformation.

In this powerful and insightful episode, I’m joined by James Traub, Certified Divorce Coach (CDC) and founder of Best Possible Divorce. James helps parents across the country navigate the critical early stages of separation with compassion, clarity, and practical strategy. Drawing from both professional training and his own healing journey, James specializes in guiding clients through emotional overwhelm so they can protect parent-child bonds and minimize the financial and emotional cost of divorce.

Together, we explore:

• Why intentionality is essential in divorce—and how to cultivate it

• The CDC certification and what makes divorce coaching such a vital support tool

• Why hiring the right support team (yes, more than just one lawyer!) can actually save money

• The most common mindset mistakes people make in divorce

• The truth about venting—and what to do instead

• Reclaiming power and staying in the driver’s seat of your divorce

• How to re-engage communication with your spouse—even after conflict

• The value of working with grounded, emotionally regulated professionals

• How divorce can be a catalyst for transformation

💡 James shares his thoughtful, grounded approach to helping clients get clear on what they want their post-divorce life to look like, and how to reverse-engineer the support and decisions needed to get there. Whether you’re contemplating divorce, in the midst of it, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers wisdom, strategy, and hope.

• 🌐 Website: bestpossibledivorce.com

• 📞 Book a free 45-minute consultation here

• 💼 Follow him on LinkedIn for incredibly helpful infographics and insights

• 💻 Website: HighVibeDivorce.com

• 📱 Instagram: @highvibemediation | @highvibedivorce

• Please subscribe, rate, and review on your favorite podcast platform

• Share this episode with someone who could use support and inspiration on their divorce journey

Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low. ✨

Welcome back to High Vibe Divorce! In this powerful episode, Melissa sits down with Dr. Debi Silber, a holistic psychologist, bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation (PBT) Institute, to talk about something many divorcing individuals experience—but rarely understand deeply: betrayal.

Whether you’ve been cheated on, blindsided by divorce papers, or deceived in other painful ways, this episode offers validating insights, hope, and tools for healing. Dr. Debi shares her own story of deep betrayal and how it launched her groundbreaking PhD study on betrayal trauma, leading to three major discoveries that are helping people all over the world transform their pain into power.

Together, Melissa and Dr. Debi explore:

• What makes betrayal trauma different from other forms of trauma

• The 5 stages of Post Betrayal Transformation—and how to move through them

• Why staying stuck in pain (stage 3!) is more common than you think

• How betrayal affects your body, mind, and relationships—and how to begin healing

• The surprising ways betrayal may be tied to chronic health issues, anxiety, and difficulty trusting

• The power of deliberate healing and how your divorce can become a launchpad for personal transformation

• Why revenge-based divorce tactics hurt you more than they help—and how slowing down the process can be a gift

• The real meaning of “hard now, easy later”

✨ Affirmation of the Episode (from the Divine Abundance Oracle Deck):
"Freedom — I no longer want this fiery ring of resentment to block the good. Release me from its bonds."

💫 Whether you're in the throes of betrayal or supporting someone who is, this conversation is full of practical wisdom, deep compassion, and empowering perspective shifts. You’ll leave with a better understanding of how to reclaim your power, trust yourself again, and rebuild from the inside out.

RESOURCES & LINKS
🌐 Learn more about Dr. Debi Silber & take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com

🌀 About Dr. Debi Silber: 

Dr. Debi Silber, Ph.D. is the founder of The PBT® (Post-Betrayal Transformation®) Institute as well as National Forgiveness Day (celebrated yearly on September 1st). She runs a WBENC-Certified WBE (Women’s Business Enterprise) company, is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset, and personal development expert, an award winning speaker, the author of Trust Again, The Rebuild Roadmap, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed.

Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts.

She’s also a Certified Personal Trainer, holistic Registered Dietitian with a Master’s in Nutrition earning specialty recognition in weight loss/weight maintenance, a Whole Health Coach, Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, Certified in NES (BioEnergetics) Health, Emotion Code, Whole Person Integration Technique, is a Quantum Human Design Specialist, Quantum Alignment System Specialist, and is a Trauma Sensitive HeartMath Certified Practitioner.

Her Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she’s an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.

📚 Books by Dr. Debi:

• Trust Again

• The Unshakable Woman

• From Hardened to Healed
  🎧 Listen to Dr. Debi’s podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough

📱 Follow Dr. Debi on Instagram: @drdebisilber

CONNECT WITH MELISSA
🌀 Website: www.highvibedivorce.com
📸 Instagram: @highvibedivorce
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“Make Your Divorce an Up-Level, Not a Rock-Bottom”
with Special Guest: Anna Wallace, Divorce Coach & Founder of Your Healthy Divorce

Episode Summary:
In this powerful and inspiring conversation, I’m joined by Anna Wallace—attorney, yoga instructor, wellness mentor, and the visionary behind Your Healthy Divorce. Anna shares her personal journey from divorce litigation to divorce coaching, and how she created the Healthy Divorce Method to support the whole person—emotionally, mentally, financially, and spiritually—through the divorce process.

Together, we explore how divorce doesn’t have to be your rock bottom. With the right support, it can be a beautiful opportunity for growth, clarity, and up-leveling your life.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• How the Healthy Divorce Method integrates nervous system regulation, legal planning, and transformational coaching

• The power of coaching vs. traditional litigation

• Why nervous system regulation is essential for smart, empowered decision-making

• What limited scope legal services really are—and how they can save you thousands

• Why divorce coaches are changing the game

• How yoga, breathwork, and somatic healing can help you alchemize grief into growth

• The emotional + financial cost of staying stuck in fight-or-flight

• What it means to have a divorce your future self will be proud of

Guest Info:
🌿 Anna Wallace, Divorce Coach & Founder of Your Healthy Divorce
Instagram: @thehealthydivorce

Your Health Divorce: Course Link

👉 Anna offers 1:1 coaching, workshops, and her signature Healthy Divorce Course, launching February 1st. It’s packed with self-paced modules to help you stay calm, clear, and confident through your divorce process.

Affirmation of the Episode:
✨ “I am alive. I honor my life by letting go, dancing, singing, and feeling the fullness of my joyful energy. I am my true self when I am having fun.” — I AM Everything Deck

Connect with Me:
💻 HighVibeMediation.com
📸 Instagram: @highvibemediation | @highvibedivorce

If you loved this episode:
🌟 Please subscribe, rate & review on your favorite podcast platform.
📲 Share it with someone navigating divorce who needs a dose of hope, clarity, and calm.
💌 DM me your thoughts—I love hearing from you.

Until next time…
Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

In this transformative episode of High Vibe Divorce, I sit down with Dr. Kate Flynn, a developmental psychologist and crisis coach who helps individuals navigate high-stakes personal and professional crises. With a background in clinical psychology and entrepreneurship, Kate developed a framework for stabilizing chaos, supporting strategic decision-making, and helping individuals emerge from crisis with clarity and control.

Kate shares her personal journey through an unexpected life crisis—her ex-husband’s arrest—which forced her to rebuild every aspect of her life. Through this experience, she uncovered the power of post-traumatic growth, a psychological phenomenon where individuals can emerge from adversity stronger, more intentional, and more connected than ever before.

If you're facing a divorce or any major life crisis, this episode is packed with insights on how to shift from reacting to responding, regain control, and harness life’s toughest moments as a catalyst for growth.

🔹 What is a crisis coach? Kate explains how she helps clients navigate crisis and transition.
🔹 How to stabilize chaos – The first steps to regaining control in a difficult situation.
🔹 The role of radical acceptance in healing and moving forward.
🔹 Why post-traumatic growth is possible – and how to achieve it.
🔹 The importance of choosing the right professionals during a divorce.
🔹 Therapeutic tools for transformation, including EMDR, neurofeedback, IFS (Internal Family Systems), and more.
🔹 How divorce can be a catalyst for personal growth if approached with intention.

💬 "Crisis steals control. How you respond changes everything." – Dr. Kate Flynn
💬 "You can either stay stuck, regress, or use this moment to level up. The choice is yours." – Melissa Wheeler Farag
💬 "There is no going back to who you were before the crisis. But you get to decide if you become better or worse." – Dr. Kate Flynn

✨ Connect with Dr. Kate Flynn at TheCrisisCoach.com
✨ Book a free consultation with Kate: Click Here
✨ Follow Kate on LinkedIn: Dr. Kate Flynn

✨ Connect with Melissa Wheeler Farag:
🔹 Website: HighVibeMediation.com
🔹 Instagram: @highvibemediation | @highvibedivorce

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Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low! ✨💜

Weaving New Beginnings: Holistic Coaching for the Modern Divorce with Sarah Beth Green, CDC

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Family Law Mediator
Guest: Sarah Beth Green, Certified Divorce Coach (CDC)

In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa Wheeler Farag is joined by Sarah Beth Green, a Certified Divorce Coach (CDC) and former energy medicine practitioner. Together, they explore how holistic coaching can support individuals navigating the complexities of divorce. With a focus on emotional regulation, self-awareness, and empowerment, Sarah shares her journey, insights, and the unique ways she blends shamanic energy healing and divorce coaching to help clients transition with clarity and confidence.

🔹 Affirmation of the Day: I am attracted to those people who serve my highest good.
Melissa sets the tone for the episode with an affirmation emphasizing the importance of surrounding ourselves with people who uplift and support us.

🔹 Meet Sarah Beth Green
Sarah is a Certified Divorce Coach with extensive experience in energy medicine, foster care advocacy, and leadership in nonprofit organizations. She is also a fiber artist, known online as The Yarning Shaman, weaving creativity and healing into her work.

🔹 The Power of Certified Divorce Coaching

• Sarah shares her experience with the Certified Divorce Coach program and why having a trained, ethical coach can be essential in navigating the legal and emotional complexities of divorce.
• The importance of hiring a coach with proper certification to ensure they understand legal processes and can support clients effectively.

🔹 Shamanic Energy Healing & Divorce

• Sarah explains shamanic energy healing and how it integrates into her divorce coaching practice.
• How energy work, including soul retrieval and subconscious healing, can help individuals release emotional contracts and move forward.

🔹 The Role of a Divorce Coach in a Legal Setting

• Sarah works as a divorce coach within a law firm to assist clients with emotional regulation and practical support.
• How having a coach can save money by streamlining communication with attorneys and reducing unnecessary legal costs.

🔹 Avoiding Common Divorce Pitfalls

• The dangers of getting swept away in legal battles and unnecessary disputes.
• The importance of being intentional about what truly matters in the divorce process.
• How slowing down, gaining clarity, and setting realistic expectations can lead to a more peaceful and efficient resolution.

🔹 The Four Stages of Stepparenting

• Sarah shares insights from her viral TikTok video and upcoming book on blended families and step-parenting.
• The four emotional phases step-parents go through and how to navigate them successfully.

🔹 Final Takeaways:

• Divorce is an opportunity for transformation.
• The importance of emotional regulation and self-reflection in the divorce process.
• The role of a divorce coach in helping clients navigate legal, financial, and emotional hurdles with confidence.

📲 Instagram & Threads: @SarahGreenCDC
🌐 Nelson Law Group PC Website: https://nelsonlawgrouppc.com/team/sarah-green/

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🌐 Website: www.highvibemediation.com

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Episode Summary:
Welcome to another episode of High Vibe Divorce with your host, Melissa Wheeler Farag! Today, I’m joined by Teresa Harlow, a co-parenting coach, author, and experienced co-parent. We discuss the challenges and rewards of effective co-parenting, and Teresa shares insights from her book Combative to Collaborative: The Co-Parenting Code.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The importance of adopting a business-like mindset in co-parenting transactions.
• How to maintain focus on the well-being of children and practice the Golden Rule in co-parenting.
• Strategies for managing anger, relinquishing control, and fostering collaboration.
• Practical advice for working with step-parents and navigating custody modifications through coaching and mediation.

Affirmation of the Day:
Willingness to create is more vital than trying to create perfection. I choose willingness over perfection.
When it comes to co-parenting, having the willingness to try and collaborate is key. While it may not always be easy, committing to taking the high road and working together will benefit your children in the long run.

Episode Highlights:

• [02:15] Introducing Teresa Harlow and her journey into co-parent coaching.
• [06:30] Why treating co-parenting like a business transaction can be beneficial.
• [12:45] The Golden Rule in co-parenting: How to keep interactions civil and productive.
• [18:20] Managing anger, grief, and disappointment in co-parenting relationships.
• [25:00] How to work with step-parents and create a cooperative parenting team.
• [31:45] Modifying custody arrangements: The role of coaching and mediation.
• [38:00] The importance of mindset shifts in fostering better co-parenting relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Co-parenting is a long-term relationship that requires continuous effort, adjustments, and communication.
• Viewing your ex as a parenting partner rather than an adversary can help reduce conflict and improve outcomes for your child.
• Tools like co-parenting apps (Talking Parents, Our Family Wizard) can be useful in maintaining healthy communication.
• Working with a co-parenting coach can provide guidance and support, particularly when modifying custody arrangements or addressing ongoing conflict.

Connect with Teresa Harlow:

• Website: TeresaHarlow.com (soon to be CoParent-Coach.com)
• Book: Combative to Collaborative: The Co-Parenting Code (Available on Amazon)

Connect with Melissa Wheeler Farag:

• Website: HighVibeMediation.com
• Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce
• Mediation Services: @HighVibeMediation

Support the Podcast:
If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Sharing this episode with a friend who might need it is also a great way to spread support and positivity. Divorce can be stressful and isolating, so let’s keep the conversation going and support one another.

Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, host Melissa Wheeler-Farag, a family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, dives into the importance of selecting the right professionals to support you during your divorce journey. The professionals you choose can make or break your experience, and Melissa shares expert insights on how to navigate this process with clarity and intention.

• Divorce is a Transformative Process – It’s not a failure, but an opportunity for personal growth.

• Choosing the Right Professionals – The right team can reduce stress, save money, and improve outcomes.

• Support is Key – Having the right professionals in your corner is as vital as support from friends and family.

Melissa shares an affirmation card from The Soul’s Journey Lesson Cards by James Van Praagh:

"I am attracted to those people who serve my higher good."
When selecting professionals, ensure they align with your values, goals, and desired divorce experience.

• Helps you get organized, focused, and emotionally prepared for divorce.

• The American Bar Association recognizes divorce coaches as dispute resolution professionals.

• Look for a Certified Divorce Coach (CDC) or someone with mental health training.

• Divorce coaches assist in decision-making, communication strategies, and co-parenting.

• Mediation is less adversarial, more cost-effective, and time-efficient.

• Courts are backlogged (especially in California), making litigation a slow and stressful process.

• Mediation fosters cooperation, which is especially important for co-parenting.

• A CDFA helps with financial clarity:

  • Support calculations

  • Property division & settlements

  • Business & real estate valuations

• More affordable than attorneys and provides specialized knowledge on financial matters.

• If keeping or selling the family home is in question, a CDLP can provide mortgage solutions.

• Example: Tammy Wallensack (featured in a previous episode) specializes in divorce real estate solutions.

• Many professionals offer free consultations to help assess financial options.

• Litigation vs. Settlement Focus – Do you want an aggressive “bulldog” attorney, or someone solution-focused?

• Interview multiple attorneys – Don't hire the first one you meet.

• Ask about strategy – Will they support mediation? Do they promote settlement before trial?

• Beware of conflict-driven attorneys – If they push excessive discovery and litigation, reconsider.

• Know that firing an attorney is an option – If they are not serving your best interests, move on.

• Forensic Accountants – Useful for complex financial cases (businesses, pensions, hidden assets).

• Certified Divorce Real Estate Professionals – If real estate is involved, they provide guidance.

• Therapists & Mental Health Experts – Essential for emotional support and co-parenting strategies.

• Educate Yourself – Utilize resources like ChatGPT to understand state-specific divorce laws.

• Operate from Knowledge, Not Fear – Knowledge empowers you to make rational, high-vibe decisions.

• Listen to Past Podcast Episodes – Many featured professionals offer valuable insights and services.

• Reach Out – If you’re unsure which professional to contact, DM @highvibedivorce on Instagram for guidance.

📌 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @highvibedivorce
📌 Previous Episodes: Scroll through past guests for vetted professionals.
📌 Book a Consultation with a Divorce Coach, Mediator, or CDFA – Research their credentials and expertise.
📌 For legal guidance, consult multiple attorneys before making a decision.

💡 Remember: A high-vibe divorce starts with choosing professionals who align with your vision for the future!

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Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major podcast platforms! If you enjoyed today’s episode, please leave a rating & review to help others on their journey.

🚀 Next Episode Teaser: Stay tuned for an upcoming discussion on Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting Strategies with a top parenting expert!

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Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Divorce Mediator

Welcome to High Vibe Divorce! In this episode, host Melissa Wheeler Farag sits down with Melissa Lenon, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in divorce, co-parenting challenges, and life transitions. They discuss how shifting from conflict to collaboration can create a healthier divorce process and set the stage for more positive co-parenting relationships.

This episode also highlights Divorce with Respect Week—an annual initiative dedicated to promoting amicable, dignified, and private divorce resolutions through collaborative methods. Listeners will learn about the benefits of collaborative divorce, the role of divorce coaches, and how mental health professionals can support families through this major life change.

• Affirmation of the Day: "All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation, only good will come. I am safe." — Louise Hay
• Meet the Guest: Melissa Lenon, LMFT, licensed mental health professional with extensive experience in divorce coaching, parenting plans, and collaborative divorce.
• What is Collaborative Divorce?
  • A structured, out-of-court process aimed at reducing conflict and fostering open communication.
  • Involves attorneys, financial specialists, mental health professionals, and divorce coaches.
  • Encourages respectful co-parenting and ensures both parties maintain control over the outcome.
  • Attorneys sign an agreement to withdraw if litigation is pursued, incentivizing cooperation.
• Divorce with Respect Week 2025:
  • Scheduled for March 3-9, 2025.
  • Provides free 30-minute consultations with professionals, including attorneys, mental health experts, and financial advisors.
  • Offers a national platform to educate individuals on non-adversarial divorce options.
  • More information available at divorcewithrespectweek.com.
• The Mental Health Impact of Divorce:
  • Collaborative divorce helps de-escalate conflict and supports emotional regulation.
  • Importance of professional guidance in parenting plans and co-parenting communication.
  • Addressing high-conflict divorce cases and the long-term effects on children.
• Advice for Those Facing a High-Conflict Divorce:
  • Steps to navigate a contentious divorce when one party refuses to engage in collaborative efforts.
  • The value of coaching to improve personal resilience and communication.
  • Recognizing and managing dynamics with high-conflict or narcissistic personalities.
• Building a Divorce Support Team:
  • Importance of involving financial specialists, therapists, and legal professionals.
  • How a well-rounded team can improve both the emotional and logistical aspects of divorce.

• Melissa Lenon, LMFT: MyDivorceCoach.net | Email: MelissaMFT@iCloud.com
• High Vibe Mediation: HighVibeMediation.com
• Divorce with Respect Week: DivorceWithRespectWeek.com
• Collaborative Practice California: CP-Cal.org

• Website: HighVibeMediation.com
• Instagram: @highvibemediation
• Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share this episode with a friend who may be navigating divorce—support and education are key to transforming this life transition.

Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-Mediator
Guest: Nicole Guena, Human Design Expert and Personal Growth Coach

In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, we dive deep into the world of Human Design and how it can be a transformative tool during major life transitions like divorce. My guest, Nicole Guena, is a Human Design expert and coach who helps individuals understand themselves on a deeper level, enabling them to move through challenges with more clarity and self-compassion.

We discuss how knowing your Human Design type can empower you to make better decisions, improve relationships, and navigate transitions with more ease. Nicole also shares her personal journey of discovering Human Design and how it reshaped her understanding of herself and others.

• What is Human Design? A self-awareness system combining astrology, chakras, the I Ching, and quantum mechanics.

• How Your Energy Type Affects You: Understanding the five main types—Manifestors, Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, and Reflectors—and how each one interacts with the world.

• How Human Design Can Help During Divorce: Gain clarity on decision-making, emotional processing, and personal empowerment.

• Overcoming Conditioning: Many of us have been taught to operate in ways that go against our natural energy flow. Recognizing and embracing our authentic selves can lead to less resistance and more peace.

• Profiles & Their Role in Self-Discovery: How your profile numbers (such as 5/1 or 3/5) shape your approach to life, relationships, and personal growth.

• Understanding Emotional Authority: Whether you have a defined or undefined emotional center can impact how you process emotions, which is crucial during a divorce or any emotional transition.

Nicole is offering High Vibe Divorce listeners 20% off a Human Design reading! Use the code HIGHVIBE20 when booking a session on her website.

• Website: NicoleGuena.com

• Instagram: @Nicole.Guena

• Podcast: Practical Magic

• Book a Human Design Reading: Link to schedule

• Website: High Vibe Divorce

• Instagram (Podcast): @HighVibeDivorce

• Instagram (Mediation): @HighVibeMediation

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Also, don’t hesitate to share this episode with a friend who might benefit from learning about Human Design!

Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

Divorce can feel like a time of fear, loss, and uncertainty—but it doesn't have to be. In this episode, Melissa explores how a scarcity mindset in divorce can lead to fear-based decisions, unnecessary conflict, and emotional distress. Instead, she guides listeners toward an abundance mindset, where trust, optimism, and empowerment create a smoother, more positive transition.

You’ll learn how to recognize scarcity thinking, shift your mindset, and approach divorce with greater peace, clarity, and intention. Plus, Melissa shares practical strategies, journal prompts, and mindset exercises to help you make empowered decisions that support your future happiness.

✅ Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset in Divorce – How your approach impacts everything from finances to co-parenting.
✅ Fear-Based Decision-Making – Signs you may be acting out of fear and how to shift toward empowerment.
✅ Reframing Divorce as a Fresh Start – Seeing opportunities instead of losses.
✅ Practical Ways to Shift into an Abundance Mindset:

• Gratitude practices
• Journaling exercises
• Intentional decision-making
• The Emotional Guidance Scale (Episode 2)

✅ Hiring the Right Support Team – Why choosing a mediator, collaborative attorney, or divorce coach can set you up for success.

📌 FREE Emotional Guidance Scale PDF – Download at highvibedivorce.com
📌 Divorce Wave App – A mindfulness app for navigating divorce with clarity. Use promo code HIGHVIBE for a special discount! Download here
📌 Episode 2: Understanding the Emotional Guidance Scale – Listen now

📝 Reflect on these questions to shift your mindset:

• Where am I holding onto a scarcity belief in my divorce?
• What is one way I can shift my thinking toward abundance today?
• What do I want my post-divorce life to feel like?

💻 Website: highvibedivorce.com
📸 Instagram: @highvibemediation | @highvibedivorce

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✨ Keep the vibes high & the conflict low! ✨

In this transformative episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa Farag sits down with Tamara Rowles, founder of the Divorce Wave app, to discuss how mindfulness, expert guidance, and emotional tools can help you navigate divorce with grace and resilience. Tamara shares her personal journey through divorce and explains how it inspired her to create an innovative mobile app designed to support individuals at every stage of the divorce process. From managing heated emotions to planning for a brighter future, the Divorce Wave app empowers users to process challenges, reduce conflict, and thrive.

Melissa and Tamara dive into the unique features of the app, including expert-guided “surf lessons” and immersive “waves” to help you respond rather than react in high-conflict situations. The episode also explores how mindfulness practices and a positive vision for the future can lead to a less expensive, less stressful divorce.

Whether you’re exploring divorce, in the thick of it, or recovering post-divorce, this episode will leave you feeling empowered, informed, and ready to tackle the waves ahead.

1. The Birth of the Divorce Wave App

   • Tamara's personal divorce journey and the gap she saw in the market.
   • Why Divorce Wave is the app she wished she had during her divorce.

2. App Features:

   • Surf Lessons: Expert tips and knowledge for every phase of divorce, from planning to co-parenting.
   • Waves: Cinematic audio experiences to help process emotions like anger, frustration, and grief.

3. Mindfulness & Empowerment:

   • The importance of responding instead of reacting during divorce.
   • Mindfulness tools to calm your nervous system and build emotional resilience.

4. Practical Applications:

   • How Divorce Wave helps you navigate tough conversations, prepare for mediation, and even deal with frustrating attorneys.
   • Tools for visualizing and building a positive post-divorce future.

5. Special Offer for Listeners:

   • Get a full year of Divorce Wave for only $44.99 (less than the cost of an hour with an attorney!).
   • Use promo code HIGHVIBE to access this special offer.
   • Link: https://divorcewave.mvt.so/?via=melissa

• Melissa: “Being high vibe doesn’t mean bypassing the negative. You have to work through the grief to build a brighter future.”
• Tamara: “The goal is to harness your mind to focus on a positive vision for your future. Just small shifts can create huge changes in your divorce journey.”

• Divorce Wave App:

  • Special Offer: $44.99/year with code HIGHVIBE
  • Download DivorceWave Here

• Follow Divorce Wave:

  • Instagram: @DivorceWave
  • Website: DivorceWave.com

• Connect with Melissa Farag:

  • Website: High Vibe Divorce Website
  • Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share it with a friend who might need support during their divorce journey. Together, let’s keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

Welcome to Episode 24 of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast, hosted by Melissa Wheeler Farag. In this transformative episode, Melissa sits down with Jeff Kolez, Divorce Recovery Coach and founder of DivorceDaddy.com, to discuss men's unique challenges and opportunities during and after divorce. With practical advice, deep insights, and a compassionate approach, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand or support men navigating divorce.

• Opening Affirmation: Melissa begins with an affirmation from Gabby Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie deck: “I cannot control the world, but I can control how I choose to perceive it.” This affirmation sets the tone for the episode, emphasizing personal responsibility and perspective.

• Meet Jeff Kolez, Divorce Recovery Coach:

  • Jeff shares his personal journey through a difficult divorce 13 years ago and how it inspired him to create DivorceDaddy.com, a resource and coaching service for men.

  • He discusses his mission to help fathers rebuild their lives, find emotional healing, and step into their role as intentional, authentic parents.

• Jeff’s Tenets of Divorce: Jeff’s wisdom for men includes actionable principles, such as:

  1. Divorce is war, but the war is within ourselves.

  2. Put your own oxygen mask on first.

  3. Winning at divorce happens outside the courtroom.

  4. Take full responsibility for everything happening in your life.

  5. The crop a relationship bears is more than children; it grows men, women, and societies.

  6. A father’s presence in his children’s lives is objectively beneficial.

  7. Find the gift in your divorce and use it to grow.

• The Importance of Emotional Work for Men:

  • Jeff highlights the value of emotional distance, awareness, and reconnecting with the heart.

  • He introduces the concept of "gray rocking" to manage high-conflict dynamics with an ex-spouse.

• Men’s Emotional Experience:

  • Melissa and Jeff discuss how societal norms often discourage men from expressing vulnerability, leading to anger and other misunderstood emotions.

  • They explore how men can embrace the emotional and spiritual growth opportunities that divorce presents.

• The Role of Fathers Post-Divorce:

  • Jeff shares compelling statistics on the positive impact of fathers in their children’s lives.

  • He encourages men to use the time away from their children to live inspiring lives and to document their love and presence through messages or videos.

• Practical Steps for Healing: Jeff outlines a five-step process to help men rebuild after divorce:

  1. Create emotional distance.

  2. Develop emotional awareness.

  3. Take full responsibility for your actions and choices.

  4. Reconnect with the heart through presence, nature, and movement.

  5. Take action to design and build your future.

• Divorce is not the end—it’s an opportunity for transformation and growth.

• Fathers are essential to their children’s well-being and must actively participate in their lives.

• Healing from divorce requires a balance of emotional work, personal responsibility, and proactive planning.

Jeff Kolez is a divorce coach and founder of DivorceDaddy.com. Through his work, Jeff empowers men to navigate the challenges of divorce, rebuild their lives, and become the best version of themselves for their children and society.

Jeff's bio (in his own words): My name is Jeff. I’m awake now. For a long time I lived in a fog. Those were dark days.
A toxic marriage turned into an even worse divorce, throwing me into a fight I wasn’t prepared for. I lost. A lot.
I was slandered. I left my home with nothing but the clothes on my back.
I was trying to face a heart problem with my head, which is why life didn’t make sense.
Once I understood that, I had a choice. I could either become a victim or learn how to win.
I chose to win.
Now, I have a great relationship, a strong bond with my kids, and I’m living my purpose. I’m building a legacy and embracing the grand adventure of life.
I created Divorce Daddy to help others follow the same path.

Connect with Jeff:

• Website: Divorce-Daddy.com

• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jeffkolez

• Instagram: @rebuildwithdivorcedaddy

Melissa is a family law mediator and host of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. Through her mediation practice and podcast, she helps individuals turn divorce into an empowering and transformative experience.

Connect with Melissa:

• Website: HighVibeMediation.com

• Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce

If you found this episode helpful, please:

• Subscribe to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast on your favorite platform.

• Leave a review to help others discover the show.

• Share this episode with a friend or loved one who might benefit from it.

Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

Title: 23 - Cooking Up Confidence: Empowerment Through Nourishment with Hannah McKitrick

Host: Melissa Farag, Divorce Mediator

Guest: Hannah McKitrick, Intuitive Wellness and Culinary Coach, Founder & CEO of My Intuitive Health

Hannah, the founder of My Intuitive Health, is an intuitive wellness and culinary coach who helps corporate teams and women bring the FUN back into their healthy food and self-growth journey. She holds a sanctuary space in her embodied experiences for clients to tap into their most joyful selves so they can create physical and energetic alignment.

She leads mind-body-soul healthy cooking programs and culinary wellness retreats in Italy and Greece to help her clients bring more lightness into their entire being - physically, mentally, and spiritually. She is trained in transformational coaching, emotional intelligence, psychology, energy work, Eastern medicine, nutrition, culinary arts, and even healed her own gut from Crohn’s disease through food.
She prioritizes joy as the key to transformative health, using food and connection to inspire vibrancy and healing. Through her programs, Hannah helps clients access higher vibrations and nurture their "soul health" from the inside out.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to High Vibe Divorce
00:45 Meet Hannah McKitrick: Intuitive Wellness and Culinary Coach
03:01 Affirmations and Intuition
05:43 Hannah's Health Journey
08:42 Making Healthy Cooking Fun and Approachable
11:13 The Power of Cooking as Meditation
14:07 Exploring Culinary and Wellness Retreats
17:29 Embracing Joy and Alignment
23:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Episode Overview: Melissa Wheeler Farag hosts Hannah McKitrick, an intuitive wellness and culinary coach, on the High Vibe Divorce podcast. The conversation explores how food, joy, and intuitive health can be powerful tools during challenging life transitions such as divorce. Hannah shares her personal health journey, her holistic approach to wellness, and how cooking can be both a meditative practice and a tool for self-discovery. The discussion emphasizes trusting intuition, embracing self-care, and creating joyful experiences through cooking and retreats.

Key Points Discussed:

• Intuitive Health & Personal Journey: Hannah shares how she healed her gut from Crohn's disease using whole foods and how she transformed her approach to health and wellness.

• Cooking as a Meditative Practice: Cooking can be an active meditation that connects you to your body and intuition.

• Cook Club Membership: Hannah offers a Cook Club membership, providing weekly recipes and monthly virtual cooking classes for community connection and healthy eating inspiration.

• Transformational Retreats: Hannah hosts culinary wellness retreats in Italy and Greece, emphasizing soul alignment and personal growth.

• Intuition & Empowerment: Trusting your intuition during life transitions, such as divorce, and creating positive habits for personal well-being.

Guest's Offerings:

• Cook Club Membership: Weekly recipes and monthly virtual cooking classes.

• Culinary Wellness Retreats: Multi-month transformational programs culminating with in-person retreats in Italy and Greece.

Links & Resources:

• Hannah's Website: My Intuitive Health

• Instagram: @hannah.mckitrick

• Cook Club Membership: Available on her website

Affirmation Shared: “I am perceptive. My intuition is powerful. When I am unsure, my intuition is sure. I strengthen my intuition by trusting it and responding to its impulses.”

Host Closing Message: Melissa encourages listeners to trust their intuition, find joy in small steps, and consider cooking as a self-care practice. She invites listeners to explore Hannah’s offerings for deeper wellness and personal growth.

Call to Action:

• Visit Melissa’s website: High Vibe Divorce

• Subscribe, rate, and review the podcast.

• Share the episode with a friend going through a life transition.

Ending Note: “Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.”

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Family Law Mediator and Recovering Divorce Litigator
Podcast: High Vibe Divorce Podcast – Season 2, Episode 22

Episode Summary:
Welcome to the second season of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast! In this heartfelt solo episode, host Melissa Farag shares her wisdom and personal experiences to help listeners who are struggling with the life-changing decision of whether to stay in their marriage or move forward with divorce.

Melissa opens up about her own marriage, personal grief, and spiritual growth, offering practical tools and insights to help you find clarity during this challenging time. She shares mindfulness practices, therapeutic approaches, and spiritual guidance to help you tune into your intuition and make the decision that's right for you.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why divorce isn’t a failure but a transformative opportunity for growth

• How Melissa’s personal journey with loss and grief shaped her decision to divorce

• The importance of therapy and how it can help clarify your decision

• Practical exercises like journaling, pros and cons lists, and the decision-stepping exercise

• How mindfulness practices like meditation, yoga, and breathwork can bring clarity

• The role of spirituality and connecting with your intuition

Key Takeaways:

• Trust your intuition when making difficult decisions.

• Seek emotional and mental clarity through therapy and introspection.

• Divorce doesn’t define your worth or success; it’s part of life’s journey.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Spirit Junkie Deck by Gabby Bernstein

• Episode 15 with Melissa Sparrow – Making Difficult Decisions Through Intuitive Guidance

• EFT Tapping, Meditation Apps like Calm, and Breathwork Tools

Connect with Melissa:

• Website: highvibemediation.com

• Instagram: @highvibedivorce

• TikTok: @highvibedivorce

Call to Action:
If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share it with a friend who may be facing similar challenges—let’s keep the vibes high and the conflict low, together.

Disclaimer: The information shared in this episode is for educational and inspirational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional legal or mental health advice.

In this episode of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast, hosted by Melissa Wheeler Farag, family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, CEO Erin Levine joins the conversation. Erin is a legal tech entrepreneur, attorney, and the founder of Hello Divorce, an online platform aimed at simplifying the divorce process and making it more affordable. The discussion covers the spike in divorce filings at the beginning of a new year, the differences between no-fault and fault-based divorce, and the introduction of covenant marriages in some states. They emphasize the importance of holistic approaches, mediation, and having clear divorce goals. The episode also highlights the advantages of using Hello Divorce for a more equitable and supportive divorce experience. Practical advice includes focusing on financial resilience and emotional well-being, considering legal coaching, and the potential benefits of prenups for future marriages.

00:00 Introduction to High Vibe Divorce

00:38 Meet Erin Levine: Legal Innovator and Entrepreneur

02:58 The Post-Holiday Divorce Boom

05:40 Understanding No-Fault Divorce

09:38 Hello Divorce: A Revolutionary Platform

15:04 The Benefits of Mediation and Holistic Divorce Approaches

21:45 Navigating Divorce with Limited Scope Services

30:12 Practical Tips for a High Vibe Divorce

32:58 Final Thoughts and Resources

Contact Erin Levine and Hello Divorce

Website: https://hellodivorce.com/

Hello Divorce Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hellodivorce/

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Family Law Mediator and Recovering Divorce Litigator

Episode Overview: In this special season finale of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa reflects on her journey of creating the podcast, celebrates the completion of 20 episodes(!), and shares her gratitude for the support and feedback she’s received. This episode offers a deep dive into the key themes of Season 1 and highlights the lessons learned, tools explored, and professionals featured along the way. The overarching message? Divorce can be a transformative experience when approached with a positive, growth-focused mindset.

Key Topics Discussed:

• Affirmation of the Day: "I am capable. Obstacles are only as large as I believe them to be. I can achieve anything I desire with comfort and ease."
• What is a High Vibe Divorce? A process of maintaining a positive vibrational frequency, even during difficult moments. It’s about self-awareness, growth, and keeping the conflict low while focusing on the future.
• Emotional Guidance Scale (from Abraham Hicks): How understanding vibrational frequency helps attract joy and positivity post-divorce. The discussion emphasizes moving from lower vibrational emotions like grief and anger toward higher ones like optimism and joy.
• Loving-Kindness Meditation: A tool for cultivating compassion for yourself and others, especially during times of heightened conflict or stress.
• Somatic Experiencing & Nervous System Regulation: Insights from guests like Darby Jackson on how to regulate your nervous system during the emotionally taxing process of divorce.
• Spiritual Healing and Guidance: Melissa highlights the work of guests like Susie Schaak, who help individuals tap into their spiritual resources, find divine guidance, and feel supported by the universe.
• Approaching Divorce with Intention: The importance of treating divorce like a spiritual and emotional journey. Melissa encourages listeners to use tools like divorce coaches, certified financial analysts, and mediation to make empowered decisions.
• Why Mediation is the Best Path for Most: Melissa’s strong belief in mediation as a low-conflict, empowering alternative to litigation. She shares why maintaining control over your divorce through mediation can lead to better outcomes for you and your family.

Featured Guests from Season 1:

• Darby Jackson (Nervous System Regulation and Somatic Experience Practitioner)
• Erin Birt, Esq. (Restorative Divorce Attorney and Mediator)
• Susie Schaak (Yoga Instructor, Healer, and Author)
• Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA, NCPM, CDS (Certified Divorce Financial Analyst)
• Sharri Freedman, JD (Divorce Coach)
• Brent Beam, PhD (Psychologist: Men's Mental Health)
• Tyler Chernack , CDFA (Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Wealth Manager)
• David Petrusich (Intuitive Astrologer, Evidential Medium: Astrology as Self-Discovery)
• Melissa Sparrow (Intuitive Healer and Medium)
• Ursula Smith, Esq. (Divorce Attorney and Spiritual Guide)
• Tammy Wollensak, CDLP (Certified Divorce Lending Professional)
• Darlene Taylor (Co-Parent Coach and Author)

Key Takeaways:

• Divorce is not the end; it’s the beginning of a new chapter filled with opportunities for personal growth.
• Maintaining a positive mindset can significantly impact how you experience and process your divorce.
• There are many professionals and tools available to support you in creating a high-vibration life post-divorce.
• Mediation is a powerful and often more effective option than litigation, keeping the process in your control.

Connect with Melissa:

• Website: HighVibeMediation.com
• Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce 
• TikTok: @HighVibeDivorce

Call to Action: If you found this episode helpful or inspiring, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share this episode with someone who might need it, and keep the conversation going with your loved ones going through divorce.

Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

Resources Mentioned:

• Emotional Guidance Scale (Download PDF): Available at HighVibeMediation.com
• Stand in Your Truth: Seven Sacred Truths to Living a Divinely Guided Life by Susie Schaak

Thank You: Melissa extends her deepest gratitude to all listeners for their support throughout the first season. Stay tuned for more transformative insights in Season 2!

Episode Summary: In this episode, Melissa Farag sits down with Darlene Taylor, a co-parenting coach and author of It’s Not About Us: A Co-Parenting Survival Guide to Taking the High Road. Melissa and Darlene discuss how taking the high road can lead to healthier co-parenting relationships and happier families post-divorce. Darlene shares her journey, from her own co-parenting struggles to moving across the country to maintain a positive relationship with her ex-husband and their daughter. She emphasizes the importance of separating partner and parent roles, modeling healthy relationships for children, and setting boundaries with friends and family members who may have negative influences on co-parenting dynamics.

Darlene highlights practical advice for navigating divorce and co-parenting while maintaining a child-centered focus. Melissa and Darlene also explore options for divorcing couples, such as utilizing collaborative professionals, mediation, and hiring a co-parenting coach to facilitate an amicable transition for the family.

Key Topics Covered:

• The transformative power of divorce and how it can become a vehicle for growth
• Importance of the high road in co-parenting and maintaining a positive relationship with the other parent
• The role of friends and family and how they can support or hinder a positive co-parenting journey
• Practical steps for a child-centered divorce, including open communication, mediation, and understanding the long-term impacts on children
• Insights into using a divorce concierge service and building a team of supportive professionals

Affirmation of the Week:
“The difficult relationships in my life are the perfect mirror for me to look more closely at my own behavior.” – Reflect on how challenging relationships can reveal areas for personal growth and healing.

Resources Mentioned:

• Darlene Taylor’s Book: It’s Not About Us: A Co-Parenting Survival Guide to Taking the High Road
• High Vibe Mediation and Podcast: Find Melissa Wheeler-Farag on Instagram and YouTube for more content on navigating divorce and maintaining high vibrations.
• Vesta Divorce Concierge: A holistic approach to divorce offering services such as life coaching, financial planning, and real estate support.
• Guided Journal: Darlene also offers a guided journal on Amazon to complement her book and assist with personal reflection and co-parenting goals.

How to Connect with Darlene:

• Website: https://darlenetaylor.com/
• "It's Not About Us" Book: https://amzn.to/3Ua9gn2
• "It's Not About Us" Guided Journal: https://amzn.to/3U9L8RA
• Instagram: @thedarlenetaylor
• TikTok: @thedarlenetaylor

How to Connect with Melissa:

• Website: High Vibe Mediation
• Instagram: @highvibemediation and @highvibedivorce
• YouTube: High Vibe Divorce Channel

Call to Action:
If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to High Vibe Divorce, leave a review on your favorite platform, and share it with anyone who might benefit. Divorce can be a challenging and isolating time—keep the conversation going and support those in your life who are navigating this path. As always, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

In this episode, Melissa is joined by Ursula Smith, attorney and founder of Azimuth Divorce PLLC in Virginia Beach. Together, they explore the transformative potential of divorce and how spiritual practices can provide healing and guidance through life’s toughest transitions. Ursula, a former U.S. Navy intelligence officer and JAG, shares her unique journey from military service to spiritual awakening, which ultimately led her to establish her own divorce firm. She discusses the importance of hiring attorneys and professionals who approach divorce holistically and support clients in ways that resonate on a deeper, spiritual level.

The conversation covers a range of wellness practices, from Akashic Records readings to the benefits of grounding exercises. They also touch on self-care and the importance of choosing professionals who align with your spiritual path during the divorce process. Melissa and Ursula close by discussing the need for gratitude and positivity in everyday life and how shifting one's perspective can turn even the most challenging times into opportunities for growth.

• The Transformative Power of Divorce: Viewing divorce not as a failure, but as a powerful opportunity for personal growth.
• Spiritual Awakening: Ursula’s journey of spiritual awakening following her own divorce and the loss of her mother, which led her to embrace various healing modalities.
• Importance of Holistic Legal Professionals: Why finding an attorney or mediator who approaches divorce holistically can make a significant difference.
• Self-Care & Wellness Practices: Including the benefits of Akashic Records readings, working with a pendulum, and the power of grounding practices like walking.
• Raising Vibrational Frequency: How focusing on gratitude, minimizing alcohol, and embracing a positive mindset can support healing.
• Intuition & Spiritual Gifts: Understanding and developing spiritual gifts, and how tuning into your own intuition can guide you through difficult life events.

• “Divorce isn’t a failure, and your life isn’t over. It’s just beginning.” — Melissa Wheeler-Farag
• “You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what you know you need to do for yourself.” — Ursula Smith
• “Your thoughts manifest your reality. If you wake up each day choosing gratitude, you create a life filled with peace and joy.” — Ursula Smith

From Gabrielle Bernstein's Spirit Junkie Deck: “There’s no such thing as a mistake. Everything happens in divine order. I am being guided to learn and grow.”

• Books: Many Lives, Many Masters by Dr. Brian Weiss
• Practitioners: Dolores Cannon (Quantum Healing Hypnosis Therapy), Dr. Michael Newton (Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls)
• Supplement Recommendations: Calm magnesium supplement, adaptogenic drinks like Recess

• Website: Azimuth Divorce PLLC
• Instagram: @azimuthdivorce

• Website: highvibemediation.com
• Instagram: @highvibemediation, @highvibedivorce

If you enjoyed today’s episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may benefit from hearing it. Divorce can feel isolating, so let’s keep the conversation going and help more people see divorce as an opportunity for growth and transformation.

Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

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Host: Melissa Farag, Family Law Mediator and Recovering Divorce Litigator
Guest: Tami Wollensak, Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP)

Podcast: High Vibe Divorce

In this episode, Melissa speaks with Tami Wollensak, a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP), about the often complicated issue of what to do with the marital residence during a divorce. Tammy shares her personal experience with divorce, offering practical advice for those considering keeping, selling, or refinancing their home. The conversation covers everything from managing emotional attachment to the marital residence to understanding mortgage assumptions and the financial realities of post-divorce life.

• Affirmation of the Day: "Just relax and release and deal only with what's left in front of you. You do not need to worry about the rest."
• Key Considerations for the Marital Residence:
  • Understand Your Financial Situation: Before deciding to keep the marital home, assess if it’s financially feasible. This includes considering not just the mortgage but also other costs such as maintenance and repairs.
  • Early Planning is Critical: Speak with a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) as early as possible to understand your financial options regarding the home, especially if you need to refinance or assume the mortgage.
  • Don’t Rely on Your Attorney for Financial Advice: While attorneys are helpful in legal matters, it's essential to consult the right professionals (like a CDLP) for financial guidance during your divorce.
• Mortgage Assumptions:
  • Mortgage Assumption in Divorce: Some loans may be assumable in a divorce due to life-changing circumstances, allowing you to keep the current mortgage terms. However, the process can take 6–8 months, and it requires careful planning.
  • Start Early: The mortgage assumption process can only begin after the divorce is finalized, so it's important to begin discussions early in the divorce process.
  • Releasing Liability: It’s crucial to release the other spouse from the mortgage liability if one party is keeping the home.
• Importance of Credit Maintenance:
  • Protect Your Credit: Keep making your mortgage payments during the divorce process to avoid damaging your credit and limiting future financial options.
  • Monitoring Your Credit: Check your credit regularly and ensure no new liabilities are being added without your knowledge, especially during a divorce.

1. Consult Early: Work with a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) to determine whether keeping the marital home is a viable financial option.
2. Separate Emotion from Finances: Understand that keeping the home may not always be the best financial decision, even if it feels emotionally important.
3. Assume or Refinance: Learn about mortgage assumption options and consider whether refinancing or selling the home might be a better solution.
4. Protect Your Credit: Maintain your mortgage payments and monitor your credit to keep your financial options open.

• Tami Wollensak’s Website: TakeOrLeaveTheHouse.com
• Consultation with Tami: Tami offers free consultations for those navigating the home-related aspects of divorce.

• Website: TakeOrLeaveTheHouse.com
• Instagram: Follow Tami for helpful advice and a touch of humor on all things divorce and home-related. https://www.instagram.com/tamiwollensakcdlp/ 

• Website: High Vibe Mediation
• Instagram: @highvibedivorce

"Just relax and release and deal only with what's left in front of you. You do not need to worry about the rest."

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend going through a similar experience. Divorce can feel isolating, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Let’s keep the conversation going and support each other. Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Family Law Mediator and Recovering Divorce Litigator

Podcast: High Vibe Divorce

In this insightful episode, Melissa discusses the critical topic of mental health during the divorce process. She emphasizes that it's normal to experience a range of emotions, from anxiety to depression, and encourages listeners to seek support. Melissa shares personal experiences and professional observations, offering practical advice on navigating mental health challenges during divorce. She also provides resources for those in need of immediate assistance and long-term support.

• Affirmation of the Day: "It's safe to ask for help. People want to support me."
• Normalizing Emotional Struggles: It is normal to feel depressed, anxious, or overwhelmed during divorce. Everyone's experience is unique, and there is no right or wrong way to feel.
• Support Resources:
  • 988 Suicide & Crisis Hotline: Available for anyone in the U.S. needing immediate assistance. Dial 988 to speak with a trained counselor.
  • Therapy Options: Exploring therapy can be a beneficial step. Melissa suggests various platforms and organizations for finding the right therapist, including:
    • BetterHelp: Online therapy platform for text and video sessions.
    • GoodTherapy.org: A directory of therapists that allows you to search by specialty and location.
    • Open Path Collective: Offers affordable therapy options with sliding scale fees.
  • Understanding Professional Roles:
    • Psychiatrists are medical doctors who can prescribe medication.
    • Psychologists provide therapy and are typically doctors of psychology.
    • Licensed Clinical Social Workers (LCSW) and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists (LMFT) provide therapeutic support.
• Self-Assessment for Mental Health: If you're unsure about your mental state, consider using self-assessment tools. These can help identify symptoms of depression or anxiety and guide you in seeking appropriate support.
• Importance of Mental Health in Decision Making: Proper mental health support can help you make better decisions during the divorce process, such as child custody and financial agreements.
• Role of Divorce Coaches: A divorce coach can provide personalized support and guidance through the divorce process, acting as a bridge between legal counsel and emotional support.
• Alcohol and Substance Use: Avoiding alcohol and other depressants is crucial, as they can exacerbate mental health issues and complicate legal matters.

1. Seek Professional Help Early: Don’t wait until you’re in crisis to seek help. Proactive support can make a significant difference.
2. Use Available Resources: Utilize platforms like BetterHelp, GoodTherapy.org, and Open Path Collective to find a therapist or coach who meets your needs.
3. Stay Connected: Don’t isolate yourself. Stay in touch with friends, family, or professional support.
4. Practice Self-Care: Prioritize sleep, nutrition, exercise, and limit alcohol consumption to maintain your mental and physical well-being.
5. Communicate with Legal Counsel: If mental health is affecting your ability to participate in legal proceedings, communicate with your attorney or mediator to discuss options like requesting a continuance.

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Hotline
• BetterHelp
• GoodTherapy.org
• Open Path Collective

• Website: High Vibe Mediation
• Instagram: @highvibedivorce

"It's safe to ask for help. People want to support me."

If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit from this conversation. Divorce can be isolating—let's keep the conversation going and support each other. Until next time, keep the vibes high!

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Family Law Mediator

Guest: Melissa Sparrow, Intuitive Healer, Psychic Medium, and Spiritual Teacher

Episode Overview: In this episode, Melissa Wheeler Farag speaks with intuitive healer Melissa Sparrow about spiritual healing after divorce. They explore how intuitive practices like Akashic Record readings, mediumship, and shamanic energy healing can provide guidance and support during major life transitions. Melissa Sparrow shares her personal journey through divorce and how messages from her spirit guides gave her the clarity and courage to move forward. They discuss how healing sessions can help release trauma, cut cords from past relationships, and align with a more positive life path.

Key Topics Covered:

• The role of Akashic Records and mediumship in personal healing
• Melissa Sparrow’s spiritual journey and how it transformed her life after divorce
• Understanding ancestral contracts and timelines in relationships
• Tools for self-empowerment and navigating post-divorce life
• How to book a session with Melissa Sparrow for intuitive guidance

Affirmation for the Episode: "Guidance is available to me now. I know that angels, ancestors, and spirit guides are always at hand. I do not walk alone."

Links & Resources:

• Melissa Sparrow’s Website: melissasparrow.com
• Melissa Sparrow on Instagram: @melissasparrowhealing
• High Vibe Divorce Podcast Website: highvibemediation.com

Contact Information:

• Follow High Vibe Divorce on Instagram: @highvibedivorce
• Melissa Wheeler Farag mediation on Instagram: @highvibemediation

How to Support the Podcast:

• Rate and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
• Share this episode with friends and loved ones going through divorce

Episode Highlight: Melissa Sparrow discusses the importance of understanding that divorce is not a failure but an opportunity for growth. By connecting with spirit guides and healing past traumas, one can find clarity and move towards a more fulfilling life path.

• Diana's Background and Methodologies:

  • Diana shared her journey from Peru to the U.S. and her evolution into a renowned hypnotherapist and coach.
  • She discussed her approach to subconscious reprogramming and how methodologies like hypnosis, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), and parts work can help individuals release deep-rooted fears, trauma, and limiting beliefs.
  • Diana emphasizes the importance of working with a trained professional, especially when dealing with deep inner work.

• Personal Transformation Through Hypnotherapy:

  • Melissa recounted her transformative experience with Diana's hypnotherapy after struggling with grief and loss. The session shifted Melissa from a fear-based mindset to one centered on love and positivity, opening up new possibilities for her life.
  • Diana explained how hypnotherapy works, dispelling myths and highlighting the gentle, effective nature of the practice.

• Navigating Divorce with Empowering Tools:

  • Diana, who recently experienced her own divorce, shared how she utilized the very tools she teaches others to support her through the emotional upheaval and uncertainty of divorce.
  • She discussed the importance of regulating the nervous system, journaling to identify triggers, and working with supportive professionals or practices like EFT tapping, internal family systems, and hypnotherapy.

• Understanding Emotional Flooding and Nervous System Regulation:

  • Diana introduced the concept of "emotional flooding," where overwhelming emotions can paralyze us. She shared practical strategies for managing this, including daily EFT tapping and "taking out the trash" journaling.
  • She also highlighted the significance of recognizing and processing past trauma and emotions to prevent them from affecting future relationships.

• Finding the Right Support During Divorce:

  • Melissa and Diana emphasized the value of finding the right professionals and tools to support personal growth and healing during and after divorce. They shared resources like the EFT Tapping Solution app for daily emotional regulation and the benefits of targeted coaching or therapy.

1. Regulate Your Emotions and Nervous System: Use practices like EFT tapping and journaling to manage emotional flooding and maintain clarity and calm.

2. Unpack Your Baggage: Understand that wherever you go, your subconscious patterns follow. Work on identifying and healing unresolved issues from your past.

3. Invest in Healing Tools: Whether through hypnotherapy, parts work, or working with a relationship coach, investing in these modalities can create lasting positive changes.

4. Choose Trained Professionals: Ensure that any practitioner you work with has proper certifications and experience to safely guide you through deep inner work.

5. Healing is Possible: Even professionals who teach these methods can struggle, but the right tools can help navigate challenging times more effectively.

• Diana Sofia’s Instagram: @iamdianasofia (Sophia with an F)
• Website: DianaSofia.com
• EFT Tapping Solution App: Available on major app stores for guided tapping sessions.
• Books: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford (recommended for understanding projections and shadow work in relationships).

• Website: HighVibeMediation.com
• Instagram: @HighVibeMediation | @HighVibeDivorce

If you enjoyed today's episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share this episode with friends or family who may benefit from the wisdom shared by Diana. Divorce is tough, but with the right tools and support, it can be a powerful catalyst for growth and transformation. Stay high vibe and keep the conflict low!

Episode Summary: In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa Wheeler Farag dives into the world of astrology with the insightful and multi-talented David Petrusich. David, an astrologer, intuitive, medium, psychic, tarot reader, and yoga instructor, shares his deep knowledge on how astrology can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and growth, particularly during transitional times like divorce. Melissa and David explore what astrology is, how it works, and how it differs from other spiritual practices. They delve into the foundational aspects of a birth chart, emphasizing the importance of understanding one’s sun, moon, and rising signs. They also discuss key asteroids like Juno and Vesta, which highlight aspects of commitment and self-devotion, respectively, and how these can influence relationships and personal development.

Key Topics:

• Introduction to Astrology: Overview of Western astrology and its origins as an ancient divination system.
• Birth Chart Basics: Understanding the sun, moon, and rising signs; the significance of the 12 houses; and what they reveal about identity, relationships, and personal growth.
• Asteroids in Astrology: Deep dive into the significance of Juno (commitment) and Vesta (self-devotion) and their impact on relationships and self-awareness.
• Navigating Relationships and Transitions: How astrology can guide personal development, help in navigating post-divorce life, and understanding relationship patterns.
• Tools and Resources: Introduction to the Pattern app for relationship insights and how it integrates astrology to provide guidance on compatibility and personal timing.

Guest: David Petrusich, Astrologer, Intuitive, and Yoga Instructor

Resources:

• David Petrusich Website and Service Offerings: Alchemy by David
• David's Instagram and TikTok: @davidpetrusich
• High Vibe Divorce Instagram: @highvibedivorce
• High Vibe Mediation Instagram: @highvibemediation
• The Pattern App: https://www.thepattern.com/

Call to Action: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share this episode with friends who may benefit from learning more about astrology and its potential for personal growth. Remember to keep the vibes high and the conflict low as you navigate life's transitions.

Episode Summary: In this insightful episode of High Vibe Divorce, host Melissa Wheeler Farag speaks with Tyler Chernack, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and wealth manager, about the crucial role of financial planning in divorce. Tyler shares his personal journey through divorce and how it led him to become a CDFA. They discuss how a CDFA can simplify the financial aspects of divorce, reduce conflict, and help both parties achieve a fair settlement. The conversation covers the differences between a CDFA and a forensic accountant, the importance of understanding financial documents like income and expense declarations, and creative strategies for managing retirement accounts and other assets during a divorce.

Key Topics:

• Affirmation: "I let go of what I can't change."
• Role of a CDFA: How financial expertise can simplify divorce settlements and save money.
• Personal Insights: Tyler’s experience with divorce and why he became a CDFA.
• Comparison: CDFA vs. Forensic Accountant.
• Financial Planning: Importance of creating budgets and understanding financial disclosures.
• Retirement Planning: Key considerations during divorce and the significance of timing in withdrawals.
• High Vibe Divorce: What it means to have a positive, transformative divorce experience.

Guest: Tyler Chernack, CDFA, Vice President at TSG Wealth Management

Resources:

• Contact Tyler Chernack: TSG Wealth Management
• Connect with Melissa: High Vibe Mediation | High Vibe Divorce Podcast Instagram

Call to Action: If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share this episode with friends who might benefit from it, and remember to keep the vibes high and the conflict low during your divorce journey.

Guest: Brent Beam, PhD - Psychologist and Executive Coach

Title: "Navigating Divorce with Compassion: Insights on Men's Mental Health with Brent Beam, PhD"

Summary: In this episode, Melissa Wheeler Farag speaks with Brent Beam, PhD, a psychologist specializing in men's mental health and executive coaching. They discuss the unique challenges men face during divorce, including the pressure to maintain control and the struggle to manage emotions. Brent emphasizes the importance of self-care, community support, and compassionate communication in navigating the divorce process. They also explore the impact of traditional gender roles and offer practical advice for men to maintain their well-being and relationships during and after divorce.

Key Points:

1. Men’s Mental Health in Divorce:

   • Challenges men face due to traditional gender roles and emotional conditioning.
   • Common issues include anger, control, and the impact of societal expectations.

2. The Role of Therapy and Support:

   • Importance of anchoring in the body through healthy routines.
   • Seeking community support and not navigating divorce alone.
   • How therapy can be a practical tool for growth and healing.

3. Impact of Divorce on Identity and Relationships:

   • How divorce threatens men's sense of purpose and identity, especially as parents.
   • Strategies for compassionate communication and co-parenting.

4. Encouragement to Seek Help:

   • Recommending resources like Open Path Collective for affordable mental health support.
   • The importance of finding the right therapist and support systems.

Quote of the Episode: "Divorce is a catalyst for growth—where you're broken is where the light can get in."

Call to Action:

• Subscribe to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast.
• Share this episode with someone who might benefit from understanding the mental health challenges men face during divorce.
• Follow Melissa on Instagram @highvibemediation and visit Brent's website for more resources.

Closing Message: Thank you for tuning in to this enlightening conversation with Brent Beam. Remember, you don't have to go through this alone—reach out for the support you need.

Guest: Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA, NCPM, CDS

Episode Title: Find Financial Clarity in Divorce with CDFA Victoria Kirilloff

Summary: In this episode, Melissa Wheeler-Farag welcomes Victoria Kirilloff, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Nationally Certified Professional Mediator (NCPM), and Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS). Victoria shares her personal journey through a challenging divorce, highlighting how financial clarity empowered her to take control of her situation. They discuss the role of a CDFA in divorce, the four phases of divorce (emotional, social, financial, and legal), and the importance of documentation in securing a fair settlement. Victoria emphasizes the value of hiring the right professionals to support a streamlined, less adversarial divorce process.

Key Points:

1. Victoria's Personal Journey:

   • Overcame an abusive relationship by gaining financial clarity.
   • Created the first "divorce impact analysis report" for her own divorce.

2. Role of a CDFA:

   • Provides financial clarity and helps navigate complex financial decisions during divorce.
   • Importance of understanding marital assets, spousal support, and the financial implications of divorce.

3. Four Phases of Divorce:

   • Emotional: Dealing with the decision to divorce and setting boundaries.
   • Social: Communicating the divorce to others, including children.
   • Financial: Understanding and documenting the marital estate.
   • Legal: Utilizing financial facts to streamline the legal process.

4. Financial Clarity and Documentation:

   • Importance of using accurate data to support financial decisions.
   • Avoiding common pitfalls like underestimating expenses or relying on inaccurate home valuations.

5. Choosing the Right Process:

   • Advocates for a collaborative approach with a team of professionals (mediators, CDFAs, divorce coaches).
   • Emphasizes that litigation can be costly and drawn out, and it’s better to work with professionals who can facilitate a fair and efficient settlement.

Quote of the Episode: "This divorce is not the end of your life—it's a small blip on your financial radar, but it can be a launching pad for your next phase if you approach it with the right team and mindset."

Call to Action:

• Subscribe to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast on your favorite platform.
• Share this episode with someone who might benefit from understanding the financial aspects of divorce.
• Follow Melissa and Victoria on Instagram and visit their websites for more resources and support.

Closing Message: Thank you for tuning in to this insightful discussion with Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA, NCPM, CDS. Remember, divorce is a significant financial event, but with the right support, you can come out stronger and more empowered.

Connect with Melissa and Victoria:

• Melissa Wheeler Farag:

  • Website: High Vibe Mediation
  • Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce
  • Mediation Instagram: @highvibemediation

• Victoria Kirilloff:

  • Website: Divorce Analytics
  • Instagram: @divorceanalytics
  • Book your free consultation: here

Guest: Sharri Friedman, JD, Certified Divorce Coach - Divorce and Relationship Coach, Founder and CEO of Potomac Coaching

Introduction:

• Melissa welcomes listeners to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast, emphasizing the transformative potential of divorce.
• Introduction of Sharri Freedman, highlighting her extensive background in family law and her current role as a divorce coach.

Guest Background:

• Sharri's transition from practicing family law to becoming a divorce and relationship coach.
• Overview of Sharri's certifications and her unique approach, combining legal wisdom with strategies for nervous system regulation, mindset, subconscious trauma healing, and energetics.

Key Discussion Points:

1. Understanding Divorce Coaching:

   • Definition and importance of divorce coaching as recognized by the American Bar Association (ABA).
   • The role of divorce coaches in providing emotional and strategic support during and after the divorce process.

2. Unique Aspects of Sharri’s Coaching:

   • Sharri’s holistic approach combining legal experience, neuroscience, spirituality, and somatic practices.
   • The significance of certifications and the difference between various divorce coaches.

3. Radical Personal Responsibility (RPR):

   • Explanation of RPR and its importance in taking control of one's life during and after divorce.
   • How RPR helps in shifting from victim mentality to empowerment and freedom.

4. The Concept of “Is-ness”:

   • "Is-ness" = Embracing situations as they are without attaching stories and narratives that cause additional pain.
   • Techniques to neutralize emotional reactions and make thoughtful decisions.

5. Liberated Program:

   • Overview of Sharri’s "Liberated" Program, its framework, and its focus on identity evolution.
   • Details on how the program helps clients evolve and thrive post-divorce.

6. Community and Support:

   • The importance of having a supportive community and how Sharri’s group coaching provides this.
   • Encouragement to seek support outside of one's immediate circle for a more transformative experience.

Affirmation of the Day:

• "My high vibe thoughts create health in my body, peace in my mind, and love in my heart."

Closing Thoughts:

• Encouragement for listeners to consider divorce coaching as a valuable resource.
• Information on how to join Sharri’s "Liberated" Program and link for a free discovery call.

Call to Action:

• Visit the High Vibe Mediation website for more resources and to download the Emotional Guidance Scale.
• Follow High Vibe Divorce on Instagram for updates and additional content.
• Subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform.

Contact Information:

• Melissa Wheeler Farag:
  • Website: highvibemediation.com
  • Instagram: @highvibemediation
• Sharri Friedman:
  • Website: Potomac Coaching
  • Schedule a Free Consultation: Book Here
  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourdivorcecoach/

Next Episode Tease:

• Next week we will have sage advice from financial superstar, Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA.

Outro:

• Melissa thanks Sharri for joining the podcast and the listeners for tuning in.
• Reminder to keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

Guest: Erin Birt, attorney-mediator of Birt Family Law from Chicago, Illinois

• Melissa: Welcome back to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. Here, we believe that divorce is not a failure but a new beginning and a vehicle for transformation.
• Gratitude: Thank you to everyone for supporting the podcast in its first season.

• Guest: Erin Birt, attorney-mediator and founder of Birt Family Law in Chicago, Illinois.
• Background: Erin has been practicing since 2003, is a certified alcohol and drug abuse counselor, and advocates for "Restorative Divorce," her proprietary approach to amicable divorce settlement.

1. Erin’s Approach:

   • Restorative Divorce focuses on keeping families intact despite divorce and supporting children's well-being.
   • Erin emphasizes accountability, consequences, and action plans to address family issues outside the court system.

2. Mental Health in Divorce:

   • Importance of addressing clients' mental health and well-being.
   • Erin’s practice includes initial screenings and continuous support for clients' mental health.
   • Discussing the misconception that mental health treatment can negatively impact custody cases.

3. Choosing the Right Divorce Process:

   • The importance of mediation and other non-court processes for most family law issues.
   • Litigation is necessary only for severe issues like abuse or fraud.
   • Emphasizing that mediation allows for a more personalized and future-focused resolution.

4. Impact of the Legal Process:

   • The emotional and financial toll of prolonged litigation.
   • Court processes often lead to frustration and lack of control over outcomes.

5. Encouraging Wellness:

   • Tips for maintaining mental health during the divorce process.
   • Encouragement to use resources like therapy and support groups.

6. Professional Differences:

   • Contrast between litigators and mediators in terms of stress and approach.
   • Benefits of choosing mediation for a more positive and solution-oriented process.

• Affirmation from The Untethered Soul:
  • "The only permanent solution to your problems is to go inside and let go of the part of you that seems to have so many problems with reality."

• Erin’s Advice:
  • Gather information about mediation and alternative dispute resolution.
  • Reach out and learn about the methods to find the best fit for your situation.
• Melissa: Thank you for listening to High Vibe Divorce. Stay in touch, keep the vibes high, and the conflict low.

• Erin Birt:
  • Website: https://www.birtlaw.com/
  • Instagram: Erin Birt | Birt Family Law
• Melissa Wheeler Farag:
  • Website: hivibemediation.com
  • Instagram: High Vibe Mediation | Podcast

• Subscribe & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform.
• Share: Don't hesitate to share this episode with a friend who might benefit from it.

Episode Description: Welcome to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. In this solo episode, Melissa Wheeler Farag dives deep into why mediation holds a much higher vibration than litigation in divorce and family law cases. She shares her journey from a divorce litigator to a passionate mediator, emphasizing the transformative power of mediation. Melissa also discusses the multiple benefits of mediation, including cost-effectiveness, confidentiality, control, and flexibility. She encourages listeners to consider mediation as a primary option, aiming to foster a positive and collaborative divorce experience.

Key Points:

1. Introduction

   • Divorce is not a failure; it's a new beginning and a vehicle for transformation.
   • Melissa’s transition from litigator to mediator.

2. Why Mediation is Higher Vibration than Litigation

   • Mediation preserves relationships and is especially beneficial for co-parenting, business partnerships, or shared properties.
   • Mediation is a voluntary, collaborative process, unlike the adversarial nature of litigation.
   • Emphasis on the benefits of mediation, including improved communication and better future interactions.

3. Affirmation

   • Affirmation for listeners: "I am capable of making healthy decisions for my future."

4. Benefits of Mediation

   • Cost-Effectiveness: Mediation is generally less expensive than litigation. Flat fee or hybrid payment plans are often available.
   • Confidentiality: Mediation sessions are private, unlike public court cases.
   • Control and Flexibility: Parties have more control over the outcomes and can make tailored agreements.
   • Speed: Mediation can be scheduled quickly and resolve disputes faster than the court system.
   • Emotional Well-Being: Mediation is less adversarial and promotes a healthier emotional state.
   • Higher Compliance and Satisfaction: Agreements made in mediation are more likely to be followed and result in higher satisfaction.

5. Emotional Guidance Scale

   • Discusses the emotional guidance scale from Abraham Hicks, highlighting how mediation can lead to higher vibrational emotions.
   • Encourages listeners to strive for feelings like contentment, optimism, and positive expectations through mediation.

6. Additional Benefits

   • Protection for Children: Mediation helps avoid scenarios where children might have to testify or be involved in the conflict.
   • Emotional Closure: Mediation allows for better emotional closure than litigation.
   • Opportunities for Apology and Forgiveness: Mediation provides a safe space for apologies and forgiveness.

7. Call to Action

   • Encourages listeners to download the free Emotional Guidance Scale PDF from her website.
   • Promotes the importance of giving mediation serious consideration before opting for litigation.

Resources Mentioned:

• Emotional Guidance Scale PDF available for free on highvibemediation.com (available in pink or blue).
• Recommended book: The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce.

Connect with Melissa:

• Website: highvibemediation.com
• Instagram: @highvibemediation
• Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce

Support the Podcast:

• If you enjoyed this episode or found it helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform.
• Share this episode with a friend who might benefit from understanding the advantages of mediation over litigation in divorce.

Closing Note:

• "Keep the vibes high and the conflict low."

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-Mediator and Recovering Divorce Litigator

Introduction: Welcome to the High Vibe Divorce podcast! I'm your host, Melissa Wheeler Farag. Here, we believe that divorce isn't a failure and your life isn't over. In fact, it's just beginning and the divorce process is an incredible vehicle for transformation if you're willing to do the work. So keep an open mind and let me be your guide. This is High Vibe Divorce.

Guest: Suzy Schaak - Acclaimed Healer, Yogini, Artist, and Author

Guest Bio: Suzy Schaak is a renowned healer based near the St. Croix River in Minnesota. After a successful career as a fashion stylist, Suzy transitioned to focus on healing, yoga, and spirituality. She founded Pure Yoga in Stillwater, which was celebrated as St. Croix Valley's best yoga studio for a decade. Suzy is known for her clairvoyant healing sessions and her book "Stand in Your Truth: Seven Sacred Truths to Living a Divinely Guided Life." Suzy's work emphasizes the power of vibration and light, aiming to foster love, healing, and transformation.

Episode Summary: In this episode, I sit down with Suzy Schaak to explore her journey from fashion stylist to spiritual healer. Suzy shares her personal experiences with grief and transformation, which led her to a path of healing and helping others. We discuss her book, "Stand in Your Truth," and the seven sacred truths that guide her teachings. Suzy also shares practical advice for those new to spirituality and how to use these truths to navigate difficult life transitions, such as divorce.

Key Topics Discussed:

• Suzy’s background and transition from fashion to healing
• The founding and impact of Pure Yoga in Stillwater
• Suzy’s clairvoyant healing sessions and spiritual experiences
• The inspiration and content of her book "Stand in Your Truth"
• Practical advice for those going through divorce and other transitions
• The importance of grounding, self-compassion, and unconditional love
• Guided grounding and presence exercises led by Suzy

Quotes:

• "Stand in your truth and you'll find your alignment; when you find your alignment, you'll find your healing." - Suzy Schaak
• "Offer yourself grace as you're walking through a really bad situation, and if you can find grace for that other person, you've set yourself free." - Suzy Schaak

Resources Mentioned:

• Book: "Stand in Your Truth: Seven Sacred Truths to Living a Divinely Guided Life" by Suzy Schaak
• Suzy’s website: Suzy Schaak Yoga
• Suzy’s upcoming workbook and online workshop details (check her website for updates)

Connect with Us:

• Melissa Wheeler Farag: High Vibe Mediation
• Instagram: @highvibemediation (professional) and @highvibedivorce

Call to Action: If you enjoyed today’s episode or found it helpful, please subscribe and leave us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Also, don't hesitate to share this with a friend. Divorce can be stressful and isolating, so keep the conversation going and stay in touch with your divorcing loved ones.

Closing: Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

Guest: Darby Jackson, somatic practitioner and nervous system expert

Episode Summary: In this continuation of the interview with Darby Jackson, Melissa and Darby delve into practical tools and techniques for nervous system regulation, especially beneficial during stressful experiences like divorce. Darby provides insights into somatic practices, the importance of co-regulation, and ways to create a sense of safety in the body.

Key Points:

1. Starting Nervous System Regulation:

   • Awareness: Recognizing signs of dysregulation in your body (e.g., heart racing, stomach clenching) and anchoring feelings of both activation and relaxation.
   • Practical Techniques: Slow hand movements, deep breathing, orienting by looking around the space, and the VU breath (inhale through the nose, exhale with a VU sound for 6-10 seconds).

2. Discharging Activation:

   • Healthy Release: Creating a space to release built-up emotions through screaming into a pillow, twisting a towel, or shaking hands and arms.
   • Darby's Online Class: "Body Language" class that combines music and somatic movements to access and release stored emotions.

3. Regulation Techniques for Stressful Situations:

   • Before and During Stressful Events: Practice regulation techniques like deep breathing, VU breath, and spatial orienting before entering high-stress environments such as courtrooms or mediation sessions.
   • Minimizing Screen Time: Reduce screen time and social media use before stressful events to avoid additional dysregulation.

4. Parenting and Co-Regulation:

   • Impact on Children: The importance of a parent’s regulation on a child’s nervous system and recognizing signs of dysregulation in children (e.g., extended tantrums, picky eating, frequent illness).
   • Teaching Emotional Awareness: Helping children identify and express their emotions to foster long-term emotional health.

5. Somatic Therapy Trends:

   • Future Focus: Teaching children to manage big feelings and the importance of developing intuition and self-awareness through somatic practices.

Affirmation: "I reflect deeply with gentle curiosity and compassion."

Call to Action:

• Connect with Darby: Visit Darby's website darbyjackson.com and follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darbyjackson_/ 
  • Free Nervous System Webinar: https://www.darbyjackson.com/free-guide
  • Register for Body Language Somatics Class: https://www.darbyjackson.com/body-language
• Listen to More Episodes: If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform.
• Share with Friends: Divorce can be stressful and isolating; sharing this podcast can support others going through similar experiences.

Connect with Melissa:

• Downloadable Resource: Listeners are invited to download the emotional guidance scale PDF from the High Vibe Mediation website for ongoing reference.
• Follow HVD on Instagram: High Vibe Divorce can be found on Instagram @highvibedivorce and Melissa can be found on her professional Instagram page @highvibemediation.

Closing: "Keep the vibes high and the conflict low."

Guest: Darby Jackson, somatic experience practitioner-in-training, nervous system specialist, Safe and Sound Protocol provider, coach, and Reiki master.

Episode Summary: In this episode, Melissa interviews Darby Jackson, discussing the importance of nervous system regulation and somatic experiencing, especially during challenging times like divorce. Darby shares her journey from entrepreneur to somatic practitioner and provides valuable insights into managing nervous system dysregulation, trauma, and chronic stress.

Key Points:

1. Introduction to Darby Jackson:

   • Background: Darby’s transition from building a multimillion-dollar business to experiencing burnout and discovering somatic experiencing.
   • Expertise: Darby supports adults with nervous system dysregulation, burnout, postpartum issues, chronic stress, trauma, anxiety, chronic illness, and low self-worth.

2. Understanding the Nervous System:

   • States of the Nervous System: Rest and digest, fight or flight, freeze, and fawn.
   • Neuroception: The subconscious process of assessing safety, danger, or life-threatening situations based on previous experiences and trauma.
   • Importance of Regulation: Moving up and down the nervous system states smoothly is crucial for overall health and well-being.

3. Somatic Experiencing:

   • Definition: A body-based approach to healing trauma and regulating the nervous system.
   • Practices: Creating safety in the body, feeling and releasing stored trauma, and using somatic tools for self-regulation.

4. Common Signs of Nervous System Dysregulation:

   • Physical Symptoms: Digestive issues, brain fog, immune system problems, and sleep disruptions.
   • Emotional Symptoms: Anxiety, depression, and difficulty processing emotions.

5. Practical Tips for Regulation:

   • Daily Practices: Grounding exercises like walking barefoot, managing caffeine intake, eating whole foods, and getting sunlight.
   • Somatic Movements: Self-touch techniques such as rubbing earlobes and crossing arms over the chest to mimic a hug and promote self-regulation.

6. Challenges in Somatic Work:

   • Facing Trauma: The difficulty of acknowledging and feeling stored trauma.
   • Self-Resource Building: Developing internal resources to manage intense emotions and situations independently.

Affirmation: "I reflect deeply with gentle curiosity and compassion."

Call to Action:

• Listen to Part Two: More practical tips and exercises from Darby Jackson will be shared in the next episode.
• Connect with Darby:
  • Website at https://www.darbyjackson.com/

     

  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darbyjackson_/

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    Free Nervous System Webinar: https://www.darbyjackson.com/free-guide

     

  • Register for Body Language Somatics Class: https://www.darbyjackson.com/body-language

Connect with Melissa:

• Downloadable Resource: Listeners are invited to download the emotional guidance scale PDF from the High Vibe Mediation website for ongoing reference.
• Follow HVD on Instagram: High Vibe Divorce can be found on Instagram @highvibedivorce and Melissa can be found on her professional Instagram page @highvibemediation.

Subscribe and Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share with friends and keep the conversation going to support those going through divorce.

Closing: "Keep the vibes high and the conflict low."

Key Points:

1. Introduction to Loving-Kindness Meditation:

   • Definition and Origin: A Buddhist mindfulness practice aimed at cultivating compassion and love.
   • Personal Impact: Melissa shares how a simple daily practice of Loving-Kindness Meditation transformed her brain chemistry.

2. Importance in Modern Society:

   • Radical Practice: In a competitive society, wishing well upon others, especially those who have harmed us, is transformative.
   • Emotional Healing: Helps reduce anger and resentment, promoting joy and spreading it outward.

3. Guided Practice:

   • Steps: Start with oneself, then extend loving-kindness to loved ones, neutral people, difficult people, and finally all beings.
   • Mantras: "May I be happy, healthy, safe, and live with ease."
   • Visualization and Emotional Focus: Techniques to deepen the sense of warmth and compassion.

4. Benefits of Loving-Kindness Meditation:

   • Emotional Well-being: Enhances emotional health, resilience, and interpersonal relationships.
   • Transformative Power: Helps individuals in divorce to release negative emotions and cultivate a sense of peace.

5. Practical Application:

   • Daily Practice: Even brief sessions can shift mood and improve interactions.
   • Impact on Relationships: Demonstrating this practice towards co-parents can positively influence children and foster better relationships.

Recommended Reading:

• "Teachings on Love" by Thich Nhat Hanh: A highly-recommended book those interested in this practice.

Conclusion: Melissa encourages listeners to incorporate Loving-Kindness Meditation into their daily routine, highlighting its potential to create significant positive changes in their emotional and relational well-being.

Call to Action:

• Practice Loving-Kindness Meditation: Start with small, manageable sessions and observe the positive changes.
• Share Your Experience: Engage with the High Vibe Divorce community and share how this practice impacts your life.

Resources:

• Mindful Article: "This Loving-Kindness Meditation is a Radical Act of Love" by Jon Kabat-Zinn.
• Book: Teachings on Love by Thich Nhat Hanh found on Amazon.

Connect with Us:

• Website: High Vibe Mediation
• Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce/

Introduction:

• Host's Welcome: The episode introduces the concept of the emotional guidance scale from Abraham Hicks, a tool beneficial for managing emotions during the divorce process or any challenging time.
• Resource Mention: A free downloadable PDF of the emotional guidance scale framework is available on the High Vibe Mediation website.

Key Points:

1. Understanding Emotions:

   • Separation from Feelings: The scale helps individuals recognize that they are not their feelings but can observe and manage them.
   • Emotional Detachment: Learning to detach from negative feelings is crucial during major life transitions, like divorce.

2. Impact of Emotions on Decision-Making:

   • Reaction vs. Intention: Reacting impulsively to feelings can lead to poor decisions. The goal is to respond intentionally and maintain a higher vibration.
   • Managing Low Vibration Emotions: Emotions like frustration, jealousy, and anger are common during divorce but can be managed and transformed.

3. The Emotional Guidance Scale:

   • High to Low Vibrations: The scale ranges from high vibrational emotions (joy, love) to low vibrational ones (fear, despair).
   • Incremental Shifts: Moving up the scale involves recognizing current feelings and taking steps to improve them gradually.

4. Abraham Hicks and the Law of Attraction:

   • Background: Abraham Hicks, channeled by Esther Hicks, emphasizes positive emotions and aligning with desires to manifest a fulfilling life.
   • Co-Creation: We are co-creators of our reality, and our thoughts and feelings shape our experiences.

5. Practical Applications:

   • Daily Practices: Simple practices like deep breathing, focusing on joy, and gratitude journaling can help shift from low to higher vibrations.
   • Awareness and Mindfulness: Being mindful of where we are on the scale and making intentional efforts to move upwards can lead to better emotional health.

Conclusion:

• Affirmation: "The more I attune my energy with appreciation, the more the universe will deliver."
• Encouragement: Listeners are encouraged to use the emotional guidance scale to navigate their emotions during difficult times, recognizing that small, incremental changes can lead to significant improvements in their emotional well-being.

Call to Action:

• Downloadable Resource: Listeners are invited to download the emotional guidance scale PDF from the High Vibe Mediation website for ongoing reference.
• Follow HVD on Instagram: High Vibe Divorce can be found on Instagram @highvibedivorce and Melissa can be found on her professional Instagram page @highvibemediation.
• Further Learning: Additional resources about Abraham Hicks and the emotional guidance scale can be found on Audible, YouTube, and other platforms.

Final Thoughts:

• Personal Growth: Embracing the emotional guidance scale can help individuals manage their feelings more effectively and create a more positive and fulfilling life, even amidst challenging circumstances like divorce.

Episode Title: Introduction to High Vibe Divorce with Melissa Wheeler Farag

Summary: In the inaugural episode of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast, Melissa Wheeler Farag, a family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, shares her personal journey and the transformative power of divorce. Melissa introduces the concept of a "high vibe divorce," where the process becomes an opportunity for personal growth, self-awareness, and healing. She opens up about her own experiences with loss, grief, and the discovery of spirituality, which ultimately led her to a new path in mediation and divorce support.

Key Points:

1. Introduction:

   • Melissa introduces herself as a family law mediator and former divorce attorney.
   • Emphasizes that divorce isn't a failure but an opportunity for transformation.

2. Personal Journey:

   • Melissa shares the significant life events that shaped her path, including the loss of her mother, her own divorce, her father's cancer diagnosis, and the death of her partner.
   • Discusses how these experiences led her to explore spirituality and various healing practices.

3. Spiritual Awakening:

   • Melissa's journey through grief and the role of spirituality in her healing.
   • Exploration of intuitive practices such as mediumship, astrology, tarot, and human design.
   • Emphasis on the impact of these practices on her mental health and overall well-being.

4. Professional Shift:

   • Melissa's transition from a practicing attorney to a full-time mediator and podcaster.
   • Her motivation to help clients see divorce as a transformative process.
   • Encouragement for clients to explore therapy, yoga, meditation, and other wellness practices.

5. Concept of High Vibe Divorce:

   • Explanation of what it means to have a "high vibe divorce."
   • The importance of maintaining a positive mindset and focusing on solutions.
   • How one's vibrational frequency can impact the divorce experience and outcomes.

6. Affirmation and Mindset:

   • Introduction of daily affirmations as a tool for maintaining a positive mindset.
   • Today's affirmation: "I choose to vibrate in my personal peace."
   • Explanation of how affirmations can rewire the brain to focus on positive outcomes.

7. Invitation to Listeners:

   • Encouragement for listeners to engage with the podcast and share their experiences.
   • Invitation to reach out via Instagram and the podcast website with questions and topic suggestions.

Quote of the Day: "Everything is energy. Energy cannot be destroyed. It can only be changed from one form to another." - Albert Einstein

Call to Action:

• Subscribe to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast on your favorite platform.
• Leave a review and share the podcast with friends who may benefit from a positive approach to divorce.
• Follow Melissa on Instagram at @highvibemediation and visit the website at highvibemediation.com.

Closing Message: Thank you for joining the first episode of High Vibe Divorce. Melissa acknowledges the effort of listeners to approach their divorce mindfully and aims to provide tools and insights to make the process more positive and transformative.

Connect with Melissa:

• Website: High Vibe Mediation
• Instagram: @highvibemediation

Music: MARiAN - Summery

Next Episode Teaser: Join us in the next episode where Melissa will delve deeper into the concept of high vibrational living and how it can impact every aspect of your life, especially during challenging times like divorce.