I also discuss age checks, privacy, who receives the settlement money, and why showing our kids how we manage our own phone use matters. Recorded during my September 2, 2026 livestream.

Read the presentation and court filing:

https://www.familyitguy.com/meta-settlement

Chapters

0:00 Will this settlement protect kids?

1:07 Addictive feeds and messages from strangers

4:39 Time limits and the optional chronological feed

8:46 What I would change at Meta

13:11 Parents leading by example

17:23 Age checks, privacy and government control

21:41 What Meta admitted and who gets paid

25:24 Who can enforce the agreement

26:36 Why the safety message matters

Family IT Guy helps parents protect their kids from the two biggest digital dangers: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication, and the ways AI is making both worse. Ben Gillenwater spent 30 years in cybersecurity, and he teaches this as a parent in the same trenches you are.

iPhone Parental Controls Masterclass:

https://www.familyitguy.com/iphone-masterclass?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description

Website: https://www.familyitguy.com

Listen to the Family IT Guy Podcast:

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-it-guy-podcast/id1831912044

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/72yZUVsOqdDk7en5FS9U8g

#parenting #onlinesafety #digitalparenting #kidsonline #cybersecurity #familyitguy

I'm Ben, the Family IT Guy - a dad and a cybersecurity expert with 30 years of experience. I made this video in partnership with the U.S. Department of Homeland Security's Know2Protect campaign. Homeland Security Investigations (HSI) is the part of DHS with dedicated federal agents and computer forensic analysts who spend every day finding and stopping the people who exploit kids online - but they can only act on threats that get reported.

In this video I walk through a real case: a teenage boy was sextorted (an online predator posed as another kid, got him to send a private photo, then threatened to share it unless he paid). He told his mom, she reported it, and a federal agent was at their door within 48 hours. That's the system working - the piece missing for most families is knowing it exists.

If a predator targets your child, there are two ways to report it:

Know2Protect Tip Line: 1-833-591-KNOW (5669)

NCMEC CyberTipline: https://report.cybertip.org

Before anything happens, go to https://know2protect.gov and take the Pledge2Protect with your kids. It walks your family through how predators actually operate, the warning signs to watch for, and practical safety steps you can put in place together.

Chapters:

0:00 A message to predators

0:32 A message for parents

1:02 Meet Ben, the Family IT Guy

1:23 You're not alone: meet HSI

1:48 A real case: sextortion stopped in 48 hours

2:43 How to report: two ways to get help

3:25 What you can do right now

4:04 Take the Pledge2Protect, then share it

Family IT Guy helps parents protect their kids from the two biggest digital dangers: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication, and the ways AI is making both worse.

Website: https://www.familyitguy.com

Listen to the Family IT Guy Podcast:

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-it-guy-podcast/id1831912044

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/72yZUVsOqdDk7en5FS9U8g

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One question sorts the whole internet: how does a company make its money? If the answer is advertising, the product being sold is your attention, and the app is built to collect as much of it as it can. If the answer is subscriptions, you are the customer, and the company stays in business by keeping you happy. Ben walks through the paid, privacy-respecting options by category: email like Proton or Fastmail for about ten to twenty dollars a month, search like Kagi for about five dollars a month, messaging like Signal, which is free and run by a nonprofit, and paid kids' games without the ads and tracking built into free ones.

He also explains how to check a "we're private" claim: open source, which means the app's code is public so outside experts can inspect what it actually does. You do not have to switch everything at once. Start with one, like search, then try getting your close friends and family onto Signal with you.

Proton: https://proton.me

Fastmail: https://www.fastmail.com

Kagi: https://kagi.com

Signal: https://signal.org

Chapters:

0:00 Free isn't free

0:37 The one question that sorts the internet

1:07 The paid alternatives, category by category

1:47 How to tell honest apps from dishonest ones

2:20 Start with one change

Watch the whole series, How the Internet Really Works: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLc3jDQHQdQek

More in this series:

It Started With Bacon (How Free Apps Make Money): https://youtu.be/FQbVOHcQRME

The Cloud Is Someone Else's Computer: https://youtu.be/NsYAPKyJhXg

Should You Accept or Reject Cookies?: https://youtu.be/EEt33DXh--g

You're the Product, Not the Customer: https://youtu.be/UWBA-VcLOGE

Family IT Guy helps parents protect their kids from the two biggest digital dangers: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication, and the ways AI is making both worse. Ben Gillenwater spent 30 years in cybersecurity, and he teaches this as a parent in the same trenches you are.

iPhone Parental Controls Masterclass: https://www.familyitguy.com/iphone-masterclass

Website and free guides: https://www.familyitguy.com

Listen to the Family IT Guy Podcast:

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-it-guy-podcast/id1831912044

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/72yZUVsOqdDk7en5FS9U8g

#parenting #onlinesafety #digitalparenting #kidsonline #cybersecurity #familyitguy

In this conversation she walks through how she decides which games her own kids play, why she's a hard pass on Roblox, the simple signal that tells you a game is doing more harm than good, and how to check whether any game is safe even if you've never picked up a controller. We also get into why a console beats an iPad, which system to buy at each age, and why teaching kids the "why" protects them long after the rules stop working.

If gaming is a fight in your house, this one is for you.

Chapters: 0:00 Meet Miss Devyn and her video-game clubs

2:14 What the clubs actually do (and why community matters)

13:23 Games are neutral: how you use them is everything

15:16 Why she's a hard pass on Roblox, and reading your kid's cues

18:38 If a game is free, your child is the product: console vs iPad

24:52 How to vet any new game (research, chat settings, observe)

31:03 The hard truth about who's online, and staying involved

34:32 Skills, not rules

38:16 What game system to buy at every age

48:09 The biggest misconception about kids who game

53:49 One piece of advice: play the game with your kid

Find Devyn: Miss Devyn's Video Game Universe — missdevyn.com

YouTube: @MissDevynsVGU

TikTok: @MissDevynGames Classes on Outschool: search "Miss Devyn"

Family IT Guy helps parents protect their kids from the two biggest digital dangers: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication. Learn the problems, protect your family, start with yourself.

Get the iPhone Parental Controls guide: familyitguy.com

A cookie is a small file a website saves on your device so it can recognize you. Some cookies are useful, like the one that keeps you logged in or remembers your cart. Tracking cookies are the problem: they follow you from site to site and build a profile of what you read, shop for, and watch, which advertisers pay for. The pop-up is left over from privacy laws the ad industry has already worked around, so even Reject leaves you tracked in other ways.

The real fix is a browser that blocks trackers for you on every site. On iPhone, iPad, and Mac, Safari already does this. On Windows or Android, use Firefox instead of Chrome or Edge, and set it as the default on your devices and your kids' devices. Then tell your kids why you changed it. The lesson is bigger than cookies: everything you do on the internet should be treated as public.

Chapters:

0:00 The cookie question

0:28 What a cookie actually is

1:03 Why clicking Reject barely helps

1:32 The free fix: a private browser

2:12 What to tell your kids

Watch the whole series, How the Internet Really Works: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLc3jDQHQdQek

More in this series:

It Started With Bacon (How Free Apps Make Money): https://youtu.be/FQbVOHcQRME

The Cloud Is Someone Else's Computer: https://youtu.be/NsYAPKyJhXg

Should You Accept or Reject Cookies?: https://youtu.be/EEt33DXh--g

You're the Product, Not the Customer: https://youtu.be/UWBA-VcLOGE

Family IT Guy helps parents protect their kids from the two biggest digital dangers: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication, and the ways AI is making both worse. Ben Gillenwater spent 30 years in cybersecurity, and he teaches this as a parent in the same trenches you are.

iPhone Parental Controls Masterclass: https://www.familyitguy.com/iphone-masterclass

Website and free guides: https://www.familyitguy.com

Listen to the Family IT Guy Podcast:

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-it-guy-podcast/id1831912044

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/72yZUVsOqdDk7en5FS9U8g

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Ben spent years designing and running data centers, including one for the F-18 fighter jet program, so he can show you what "the cloud" actually is: warehouses full of servers in real cities, keeping copies of your photos, messages, and files. You cannot realistically quit the cloud. What you can control is whether the companies holding your data can read it. That comes down to encryption, which means scrambling your files so only a private key can unlock them, and who holds that key. If you hold it, only you can read your files. If a company holds it, they can too.

Ben shares the services he pays for and uses himself for this: Proton for email, files, photos, and passwords, and Signal for private messages and calls. Start by moving one thing you care about to a service that hands you the key.

Proton: https://proton.me

Signal: https://signal.org

Chapters:

0:00 Where your data really goes

0:40 What the cloud actually is

1:12 Watch the data leave a computer

2:52 How to keep private things private

3:32 Why this matters for our kids

Watch the whole series, How the Internet Really Works: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLc3jDQHQdQek

More in this series:

It Started With Bacon (How Free Apps Make Money): https://youtu.be/FQbVOHcQRME

The Cloud Is Someone Else's Computer: https://youtu.be/NsYAPKyJhXg

Should You Accept or Reject Cookies?: https://youtu.be/EEt33DXh--g

You're the Product, Not the Customer: https://youtu.be/UWBA-VcLOGE

Family IT Guy helps parents protect their kids from the two biggest digital dangers: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication, and the ways AI is making both worse. Ben Gillenwater spent 30 years in cybersecurity, and he teaches this as a parent in the same trenches you are.

iPhone Parental Controls Masterclass: https://www.familyitguy.com/iphone-masterclass

Website and free guides: https://www.familyitguy.com

Listen to the Family IT Guy Podcast:

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-it-guy-podcast/id1831912044

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/72yZUVsOqdDk7en5FS9U8g

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In the 1920s a bacon company hired a man named Edward Bernays to sell more bacon. He got physicians to endorse a big breakfast, newspapers ran their opinions as news, and bacon and eggs became "the American breakfast." That method, borrow a trusted voice, hide who is paying, and make the message look like advice, built the modern advertising industry. For most of the last century it had two limits: advertisers could not see exactly who got their message, and they could not change it per person. The internet removed both. Every tap, every pause while you scroll, every video you half watch is measured, and the message adjusts to you in real time.

Ben explains why that makes the internet dangerous for kids. The real problem is not screen time, it is marketing exposure time. Youth suicide is now the second leading cause of death among young people, and for kids aged 10 to 14 the rate tripled between 2007 and 2018. He gives you one question to ask about anything your kids use for free: who is paying for this, and what are they buying? If the answer is advertisers buying attention, that is a red flag, and a lot of the most popular apps fall into that category. Tell your kids the bacon story. Once a kid can spot the hidden sponsor in their breakfast, they start spotting it everywhere.

Chapters:

0:00 The bacon story

1:07 The method behind modern advertising

1:42 How the internet changed the game

3:11 Why this is dangerous for kids

5:18 What you can do

Sources:

Meta's advertising revenue, about 98% of its total: https://www.sec.gov/Archives/edgar/data/1326801/000162828026003942/meta-20251231.htm

Edward Bernays and the Beech-Nut bacon campaign: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edward_Bernays

Youth suicide statistics, CDC: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db471.htm

Watch the whole series, How the Internet Really Works: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLc3jDQHQdQek

More in this series:

It Started With Bacon (How Free Apps Make Money): https://youtu.be/FQbVOHcQRME

The Cloud Is Someone Else's Computer: https://youtu.be/NsYAPKyJhXg

Should You Accept or Reject Cookies?: https://youtu.be/EEt33DXh--g

You're the Product, Not the Customer: https://youtu.be/UWBA-VcLOGE

Family IT Guy helps parents protect their kids from the two biggest digital dangers: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication, and the ways AI is making both worse. Ben Gillenwater spent 30 years in cybersecurity, and he teaches this as a parent in the same trenches you are.

iPhone Parental Controls Masterclass: https://www.familyitguy.com/iphone-masterclass

Website and free guides: https://www.familyitguy.com

Listen to the Family IT Guy Podcast:

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-it-guy-podcast/id1831912044

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/72yZUVsOqdDk7en5FS9U8g

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They get into a lot: why the free apps your kid uses aren't really free, why your kid is already using AI and who should be teaching them, the slang and rating systems kids use on each other that most parents have never heard of, and the red flags that an online "friend" is really a predator. They also dig into the parts of Big Tech's parental controls that don't actually work, what good monitoring really does, and one simple thing any parent can do today.

A couple of numbers from the conversation: suicide is the second leading cause of death for kids 10 to 14 in the US, behind accidents, according to the CDC. Titania also shares two of Bark's own numbers: about 80% of the time, parents had no idea their kid was struggling until an alert flagged it, and Bark now helps protect around 7.5 million kids.

Ben reviewed the Bark Phone earlier this year, and references that review here: https://www.familyitguy.com/bark-phone-review.html

The iPhone Parental Controls Masterclass walks you through locking down your kid's iPhone, every setting, step by step: https://courses.familyitguy.com/iphone

If you ever find out a child is being targeted or exploited online, you can report it to the NCMEC CyberTipline at https://report.cybertip.org/. If you or someone you love is struggling, the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is there any time at https://988lifeline.org/.

Chapters:

0:00 Intro: Titania Jordan, Chief Parenting Officer of Bark

0:52 How she became a Chief Parenting Officer

5:34 Free isn't free: how platforms monetize your time

6:48 An MBA for kids: teaching them the business model

7:25 Dopamine, frame rate, and overstimulated kids

15:08 Nobody is teaching your kid AI, except you

17:40 Where AI belongs for kids, and where it doesn't

23:16 Why Bark exists: 80% of parents had no idea

28:52 Big Tech's parental controls are theater (Apple, TikTok)

33:21 Apple walked back catching child abuse images

34:45 There's no such thing as a friend in a corporation

36:41 Nobody at Bark reads your kid's texts: how it works

41:05 You're not authoritarian, you're being a parent

42:30 Privacy belongs to your child; you're the steward

47:46 Decoding what your kids are really saying (the slang)

55:15 The phone that won't let a kid take a nude

58:00 The predator playbook: grooming red flags

1:00:41 "Disappearing" messages don't disappear (Snap, screenshots)

1:04:06 No company is your friend, but some still do good

1:06:23 Judge a company by how it measures success

1:09:19 Roblox: who are you actually funding?

1:10:37 The one free thing every parent can do

1:12:28 Close: protecting millions of kids

Family IT Guy helps parents protect their kids from the two biggest digital dangers: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication, and the ways AI is making both worse. Ben Gillenwater spent 30 years in cybersecurity, and he teaches this as a parent in the same trenches you are.

Website and free guides: https://www.familyitguy.com

Guest: Titania Jordan, Chief Parenting Officer of Bark.

#parenting #onlinesafety #digitalparenting #kidsonline #cybersecurity #familyitguy

Most of us are scared of this talk, so we put it off, and putting it off is the one move that leaves a kid alone with whatever they find. Chris makes the case for the opposite. Make the conversation normal. Start early, keep it casual, have it often, so your kid runs to you when something feels wrong instead of hiding it. Shine light on the topic.

We get into the number that stopped me cold. In every child-on-child case the counselors Chris interviewed had handled that year, the child who had harmed another had been exposed to pornography early in childhood. We talk about why a young brain has no "file" for what it is seeing, then we get practical: ten conversations before age 10, the porn talk you can have in the car without ever saying the word "porn", and how to make yourself the person your kid comes to.

MORE FROM CHRIS McKENNA

Order his book, 5 Habits of the Tech-Ready Family (out June 16 2026): https://www.techreadyfamily.com

Protect Young Eyes: https://protectyoungeyes.com

Digital parenting coaching, The Table: https://protectyoungeyes.com/the-table

The Ultimate Guide to Understanding Routers: https://www.protectyoungeyes.com/devices/the-ultimate-guide-to-understanding-routers

CHAPTERS

0:00 Welcome

1:05 How Chris got into this

10:39 The realities of porn today

20:04 Young brains can't process it

21:28 The 100% statistic

24:00 Make Porn the Norm (the reframe)

28:14 10 before 10

30:28 Where kids really see it

35:11 How to actually have the talk

43:42 Porn isn't real sex

57:31 The one fix at Apple

SOURCES

The 100% figure is from Chris McKenna's interviews with counselors at Children's Assessment Centers, which work with both the child who was harmed and the child who caused harm. More on his research at https://protectyoungeyes.com

ABOUT CHRIS McKENNA

Chris is the founder of Protect Young Eyes and president of The Better Tech Project. He testified before the U.S. Senate in 2019, co-authored the Child Device Protection Bill that is now law in Utah and Alabama, and is featured in the documentary Childhood 2.0. Publishers Weekly calls his new book "comprehensive," "illuminating," and "an informative resource for parents eager to establish digital safety nets for their children."

ABOUT FAMILY IT GUY

Ben Gillenwater is a cybersecurity expert and dad who helps parents protect their kids from the two biggest digital dangers: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication.

#digitalparenting #onlinesafety #pornography #raisingkids #parentingtips #protectyoungeyes #screentime #familyitguy

Apple just announced a major shift.

With iOS 27, kids' devices can start as a blank slate—no wide-open access, no endless game of chasing settings and blocking apps after the fact. Parents decide what gets added and when.

This is how child-safe technology should work: parental authority first, access second.

It's also a reminder that protecting kids online doesn't require invasive age-verification systems or sacrificing privacy. Good design can solve a lot of problems before lawmakers try to.

Apple deserves credit for raising the bar on both privacy and parental controls.

Would you feel more comfortable giving your child a phone if it started locked down by default?

#Apple #iOS27 #OnlineSafety #DigitalParenting #FamilyITGuy

For parents, the important question isn't which app your child is using—it's whether they understand how these features actually work.

Platforms market disappearing content as temporary, but "disappearing" doesn't mean private. Content can be screenshotted, screen-recorded, photographed with another device, shared, and in many cases retained by the platform itself. The technology may make content less visible, but it doesn't make it disappear from the internet.

In this video, I look at why Meta is embracing a Snapchat-style feature despite ongoing concerns about youth safety online, what parents should know about supervision tools, and why digital literacy is a more effective long-term strategy than relying on app settings alone.

The most valuable lesson we can teach kids is not which apps to fear, but how to think critically about privacy, permanence, and the business models behind the platforms they use every day.

I'm Ben, the Family IT Guy—a dad and cybersecurity expert with 30 years of experience helping families navigate social media, smartphones, AI, parental controls, and online safety.

Subscribe for practical advice on raising tech-smart kids in a digital world.

Governments across the US and around the world want everyone to prove their identity before going online. In places like California, that's moving down to the operating-system level, so you'd have to verify who you are just to use your own computer. It sounds like a reasonable way to protect kids. It isn't.

To check your age online, a company has to collect your ID, verify it, store it, and tie it to what you do. Once that data exists, it lives under whatever the rules happen to be at any given moment, forever. History already showed us how that goes. In 1940 the US Census promised confidentiality; two years later the government canceled that promise, handed over Japanese American families' names and addresses, and sent 120,000 people to internment camps. In 1998, COPPA (the Children's Online Privacy Protection Act) was meant to protect kids online, and instead it gave companies a reason to never build kid-safe products in the first place.

So the real fix isn't more databases. It's skills. Parents who understand how the internet works can lead by example and pass that on to their kids. You can't uncollect data, which is exactly why the only real protection is to not collect it in the first place.

Read the full Declaration of Principles on the protection of children, families, and freedom in the digital age:

https://www.familyitguy.com/declaration-of-principles

CHAPTERS

0:00 The age verification laws coming for everyone

0:39 How online age checks work

1:18 What we want for our kids (the Declaration)

2:09 1940: a privacy promise broken (the Census)

3:38 1998: how COPPA backfired

5:31 What actually changes behavior

6:09 The real fix: skills, not surveillance

6:58 You can't uncollect data

7:16 The one question to always ask

7:37 Your turn

SOURCES AND FURTHER READING

1940 Census and Japanese internment:

- Scientific American, confirmed Census disclosure: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/confirmed-the-us-census-b/

- National Archives, Japanese-American Incarceration: https://www.archives.gov/education/lessons/japanese-relocation

- The Second War Powers Act (1942), which suspended census confidentiality: https://www.govinfo.gov/app/details/STATUTE-56/STATUTE-56-Pg176

COPPA:

- FTC, Children's Online Privacy Protection Rule (COPPA): https://www.ftc.gov/legal-library/browse/rules/childrens-online-privacy-protection-rule-coppa

- FTC, Google/YouTube $170M COPPA settlement: https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/news/press-releases/2019/09/google-youtube-will-pay-record-170-million-alleged-violations-childrens-privacy-law

What actually reduced youth smoking:

- CDC, adult cigarette smoking data (42% to 11%): https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/php/data-statistics/adult-data-cigarettes/index.html

- Levy et al. (Georgetown), SimSmoke policy analysis: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4801780/

- Farrelly et al., "truth" campaign dose-response: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1449196/

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ABOUT

I'm Ben, the Family IT Guy. I help parents handle the two biggest digital dangers facing their kids: addictive algorithms and anonymous communication (and the ways AI is making both worse).

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Because if kids don’t understand how internet companies make money, they can’t fully understand what these platforms are designed to do.

In this video, I break down:

• Why “free” apps are never actually free

• How social media companies really make money

• Why attention is the product being sold

• How addictive algorithms are designed

• Why platforms optimize for “eyeball time”

• How understanding incentives helps kids stay safer online

Companies like TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Google, and others are often framed as tech companies or social platforms. But in reality, most of them are advertising companies.

Their business model depends on maximizing your attention so they can sell ads.

That changes how we should think about screen time, social media, and digital parenting.

If we want kids to navigate the internet safely, we need to help them understand what they’re actually engaging with.

More resources:

familyitguy.com

Chapters

00:00 Why Understanding Business Models Matters

00:25 What a Business Model Actually Is

00:50 How Traditional Businesses Measure Success

01:43 Why “Free” Internet Products Aren’t Free

02:14 The Real Product Social Media Companies Sell

02:54 How Addictive Algorithms Work

03:28 Why You Are the Product

03:52 Looking at SEC Reports

04:43 Why Kids Need This Skill

Subscribe for practical digital parenting advice grounded in cybersecurity and real-world experience.

My name is Ben Gillenwater, also known as The Family IT Guy. I’m a dad and a cybersecurity expert with 30 years of experience, and my mission is simple: help families keep kids safe online while raising healthy, capable humans in a digital world.

In this video, I break down the two biggest online threats facing kids today:

• Addictive algorithms

• Anonymous online chat

These systems are not accidental. Social media platforms are intentionally designed to maximize attention, and anonymous messaging creates environments where predators, criminal networks, and dangerous influences can reach children at scale.

But this video is not about fear.

It’s about understanding what matters most and focusing on practical solutions that actually help families:

• Education over panic

• Skills over rules

• Community over isolation

• Leading by example as parents

I also share the free resources available through Family IT Guy, including:

• Articles and conversation guides

• My podcast with psychologists, detectives, and parenting experts

• My “boring iPhone” setup guide for kids

• The Being meditation app

• The Family IT Guy community

This is a complicated time for parents, but you do not have to figure it out alone.

Resources:

www.familyitguy.com

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

00:20 Why This Work Matters

00:40 The Two Core Problems

01:14 How Addictive Algorithms Work

01:35 Anonymous Chat and Online Predators

02:04 Why This Matters for Every Family

02:41 Skills vs Rules

03:14 Leading by Example as Parents

04:08 Hope for the Next Generation

04:18 Free Resources for Families

05:15 Questions From the Community

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Avery grew up with strong boundaries around technology. Waldorf education. Outdoor adventures. Shared screen time rules. Minimal exposure to social media. But once Snapchat entered the picture in high school, everything changed.

Within a year, Avery bought drugs from a local dealer through the app. He took too much and died on December 19, 2024.

I spoke with Avery’s dad, Aaron, who asked me to share this story so other families don’t experience the same loss.

This is not an isolated case.

According to the DEA, 76% of investigated youth drug-buying cases involved Snapchat. Internal company documents have also shown that dealers prefer disappearing-message platforms because they make detection harder.

In this video, I break down:

• Why Snapchat is different from what most parents think

• How social media platforms enable dangerous behavior

• Why “everyone else has it” is not a good reason

• What actually helps protect kids online

• Why removing social media often strengthens real friendships

• Tools like the Bark Phone that can help parents monitor risk

Watch my conversation with Mike McLeod here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJU9u68PNt8

For more resources, visit:

www.familyitguy.com

Search “Snapchat” on the site for additional articles and tools.

Chapters:

00:00 Avery’s Story

01:11 Why Snapchat Is Different

02:18 The DEA Investigation

03:04 What Actually Protects Kids

04:08 Are Snapchat Friendships Real?

05:08 Why Boundaries Matter

05:47 Tools That Can Help Parents

Check out the @BarkTechnologies phone here: https://www.familyitguy.com/go/bark

But there’s a major problem most people are missing:

AI can sound caring, wise, and authoritative without actually understanding you, your situation, or the consequences of its advice.

In this video, I break down:

• Why people are turning to AI for therapy

• The benefits people are experiencing

• The serious risks parents need to understand

• The privacy tradeoffs nobody talks about

• The dangerous “human-like” illusion of AI

• Why skepticism matters more than fear

• The exact custom instructions I recommend using with AI systems

I also discuss the tragic case referenced in current litigation involving a teen and an AI chatbot, and what it reveals about the limitations of these systems.

My goal is not panic or blind trust. It’s helping families understand what these tools are, where they help, where they fail, and how to use them responsibly.

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Bedrooms should be calm places. Places for sleep, rest, conversation, quiet, and recovery.

But phones, tablets, gaming systems, and social media feeds bring noise into that space — not just sound noise, but mental and emotional noise.

In this video, I explain why removing devices from bedrooms has been one of the most impactful digital changes in our home, both for us as parents and for our kids.

We talk about:

• Why internet-connected bedrooms affect sleep and mental health

• How phones quietly pull attention even when they are not being used

• Why kids are more vulnerable online late at night

• The connection between bedrooms, boundaries, and digital safety

• Why parents need to model this behavior first

• How our family handles phones, tablets, school devices, gaming systems, and smartwatches at night

One of the biggest surprises for my wife and me was how different our bedroom felt the very first night we removed our phones. The room immediately felt calmer, quieter, and more connected.

That same calm matters even more for kids.

Our family rule is simple: Bedrooms are for rest. The internet sleeps somewhere else.

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When you take a picture on your phone, it may include location data, timestamps, device information, camera details, and other digital markers that create a larger story over time.

In this video, I break down a simple privacy habit that takes less than a minute but can reduce how much information you share online.

You’ll learn how to:

• Crop out identifying details in the background

• Remove location metadata before posting

• Adjust timestamps for added privacy when needed

• Reduce the digital trail your photos create over time

One photo may seem harmless, but years of uploaded images can reveal routines, locations, travel habits, and personal patterns.

Perfect privacy online doesn’t exist, but small habits can make a meaningful difference.

Before posting to social media, texting photos, or uploading images to AI tools, take a second look at what your photo may be sharing behind the scenes.

Chapters:

00:00 Why photo privacy matters

00:25 What metadata is hidden in photos

01:05 How to remove location data

02:00 Why timestamps matter

03:15 How companies connect photo data

04:10 Simple privacy habits to use daily

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We talked for almost 90 minutes. AI sextortion, how Snapchat was really designed, the evolution from physical predation to online operations, his family's actual phone contract, and a conversation framework I keep coming back to.

0:00 Introduction

2:03 The man in the van

5:48 Computer forensics training

8:42 Physical abuse vs. online predation

11:41 The screams that stay with you

13:07 When predators face justice

20:03 Trust a predator to be a predator

23:09 From parks to phones

25:58 The "I'm Sorry" Scam

29:07 Sextortion at scale

35:24 Make your kids' accounts private

36:23 AI sextortion and Eli Hecock

40:07 The family contract

43:17 The whitelist approach

46:49 How Snapchat was really designed

56:16 Social media and suicide data

59:26 COPPA and enforcement

1:03:25 The one app for parents

1:09:59 Same side of the table

1:17:52 Every app is a new window

1:19:41 Advice for kids

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In this video, I break down exactly what happened in court, what evidence the jury saw, and most importantly, what's coming next and why the proposed "solutions" may actually make things worse for your family.

Chapters:

0:00 — The $375M Meta Verdict

0:45 — What Evidence the Jury Saw

1:30 — 500,000 Cases a Day: Meta's Own Numbers

2:15 — Who Actually Gets the Money

3:00 — Why the Proposed "Solutions" Are a Problem

4:15 — What Courts, Meta and Government Can't Fix

5:00 — What YOU Can Do Right Now

Courts won't fix this. Meta won't fix this. The government won't fix this.

This is on us.

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The problems they're trying to solve are real. The bills don't solve them.

I'm Ben Gillenwater — dad, cybersecurity expert, 30 years in the field. In this video I break down exactly what these laws would actually do, why the last major child safety law passed in 1998 made things worse, and why the most powerful protection for your kid isn't in a state capitol. It's in your house.

The two things that actually put your kid in danger online:

→ Addictive algorithms engineered like slot machines

→ Anonymous strangers who can reach your child through games, apps, and messaging

Online enticement reports to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children went from 186,000 in 2023 to over one million in 2025. Laws didn't stop that. And the ones being proposed won't either.

Rules expire. Skills don't. That's what this channel is about.

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In Part 2 of our conversation, we dig into the places where parents actually get stuck: the meltdowns when you take devices away, how to tell if screens are the problem or just puberty, what device withdrawal really looks like (and how long it lasts by age), why Silicon Valley parents send their kids to screen-free schools, the alarming 40% drop in empathy among young people since 2000, and why saying no to screens might be the most loving thing you can do.

This is a real conversation between two parents trying to figure this out. No judgment, no perfect answers — just honest experience from someone who's spent decades helping families navigate this.

CHAPTERS: 0:00 Introduction 1:27 Assessing Device Impact vs Normal Development 6:32 Conscious Transitions and Being Present 11:36 Are You More Affected Than You Think? 14:31 Co-Regulation: The Breathing Exercise Story 18:53 You Can't Solve a Math Problem While Drowning 24:43 Device Withdrawal: What to Expect 30:11 Screen Time Boundaries by Age 35:38 Schools Using Devices as Babysitters 42:08 Practical Steps for Reducing Screen Time 46:23 The Gamification of Education 49:28 The Good News: Your Brain Can Rewire 51:31 Communication Without Screens 56:45 Road Rage and Digital Dehumanization 1:03:25 Screens Are Erasing Empathy 1:09:36 Gratitude as a Digital Antidote 1:12:13 The Worst Crisis Humanity Has Faced? 1:15:40 Saying No is an Act of Love 1:22:28 Whitelist vs Blacklist: Device Restrictions 1:27:18 One Change Every Parent Should Make 1:39:43 Closing Thoughts

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Chris Hansen, who has exposed online predators for over two decades, explains how grooming works on modern platforms, why Roblox has become a growing concern for families, and what parents can do right now to reduce risk.

This conversation breaks down the real tactics predators use, how children are targeted, and the specific steps families can take to protect kids without removing technology entirely.

What parents will learn in this episode:

• How predators identify and groom children on gaming platforms

• Warning signs your child may be communicating with strangers

• Why popular safety assumptions about Roblox can be misleading

• The connection between online grooming and real-world exploitation

• Practical rules every family can implement today

• Where parents should and should not allow devices

Timestamps

0:00 Is Roblox safe for kids?

1:25 Chris Hansen’s history investigating predators

5:28 How online grooming works

12:57 Why Hansen began investigating Roblox

28:44 Why Roblox declined on-camera questions

31:32 A Roblox grooming case explained

40:09 Sextortion and modern threats

41:23 What parents can do right now

50:31 Upcoming documentary release

CHRIS HANSEN'S DOCUMENTARY "Taking Down Roblox" drops February 27 on True Blue: https://www.watchtrublu.com

ABOUT FAMILY IT GUY Ben Gillenwater is a 30-year cybersecurity expert (including NSA) helping parents protect their families online.

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In this conversation, we get into the hard stuff: why screen addiction looks identical to drug addiction, what the withdrawal period actually looks like when you take a phone away, what EdTech has done to education (and how to opt out of school Chromebooks), and why parents need to organize with other families instead of waiting for institutions to fix this.

Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction

1:00 - Mike's background in ADHD and executive functioning

3:05 - ADHD is really an executive functioning disorder

5:05 - The four pillars of executive functioning

9:55 - How screens stop brain development

12:25 - The youth mental health crisis

14:59 - Suicide rates tripled after the iPhone launched

18:31 - Getting a real ADHD evaluation

20:14 - Screens stole boredom from childhood

26:14 - Why parents keep screens in their kids' lives

29:48 - Four cognitive distortions parents tell themselves

33:40 - What phone withdrawal actually looks like

47:12 - You can't teach a kid to manage an addiction

53:04 - 500 families eliminated screens, zero regrets

58:55 - EdTech is destroying education

63:34 - Life at 18 with vs. without executive function

69:17 - The one thing every parent should do right now

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This trial in Los Angeles (MDL 3047) brings together claims from more than 2,000 families who allege that platform features such as infinite scroll, autoplay, notifications, and reward systems were intentionally designed to encourage compulsive use in kids and teens.

Evidence presented in court includes:

• Internal memos comparing Instagram to a drug

• Research showing vulnerable teens were especially at risk

• Warnings about beauty filters contributing to body dysmorphia

• Testimony distinguishing “clinical addiction” from “problematic use”

• Allegations linking platform contact to exploitation, drug access, and suicide

At the center of the case is a critical question:

Are these technology companies — or advertising companies built on capturing attention?

Follow Nicki Petrossi of Scrolling to Death for ongoing courtroom coverage and analysis.

To track the proceedings, search: MDL 3047

We get into the CDC data, what she saw inside Meta's own research, why 400 girls at one school deleted social media on Valentine's Day, and what happened when she gave her own son Snapchat and immediately regretted it.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Lisa's background: FBI, Columbine, 30 years in digital safety

2:15 - 800,000 kids follow the Columbine ideology

5:10 - CDC data: self-harm spikes after social media

7:00 - False narratives from platforms

9:30 - "A phone is more dangerous than a gun on the table"

12:05 - Inside the case against Meta

19:40 - 400 girls quit social media on Valentine's Day

22:50 - "Tech is a tool, not a toy"

27:00 - Warning signs for parents of girls

33:37 - The expert's own parenting story

39:40 - "I gave my son Snapchat"

43:17 - One thing parents can do this week

45:11 - Digital Citizen Academy

49:45 - Final question

About Dr. Lisa Strohman:

Clinical psychologist, attorney, and founder of Digital Citizen Academy (digitalcitizenacademy.org). Her free book "Digital Distress" is available at digitalcitizenacademy.org/digital-resources.

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AI-generated videos, deepfakes, and synthetic audio are not just a tech issue. They are showing up inside the apps our kids use every day, mixed in with cartoons, music clips, and “safe” educational content. Most children, and plenty of adults, are being trained to trust whatever looks and sounds real.

In this episode of the Family IT Guy Podcast, I sat down with Jeremy Carrasco@showtoolsai a media producer and AI analyst, to talk about what parents need to understand right now. How AI content is made, how algorithms push it, and how families can spot it before it causes harm.

Jeremy is not guessing from the outside. He has spent years in professional video production, live streaming, and audio engineering. He knows what real human media looks like when it is made by actual people, and where AI still gives itself away.

One of the biggest tells?

👉 AI doesn’t breathe.

AI videos can look believable, especially on a small phone screen. But once you know what to listen and look for, the cracks show up fast. Those cracks matter because kids do not have the life experience or media literacy to notice them on their own.

In this conversation, we break things down in a way parents can actually use.

First, AI videos versus deepfakes.

They are often treated as the same thing, but they are not. Jeremy explains the difference, why deepfakes tend to be targeted, and why mass-produced AI videos are now flooding platforms at scale, often designed to hook kids with familiar characters, faces, or voices.

Second, why audio matters more than visuals.

Parents are taught to watch what their kids see, but listening is just as important. We talk about unnatural speech pacing, missing breaths, flat or mismatched emotion, and why the human voice is still one of the hardest things for AI to fake convincingly.

Third, visual and behavioral red flags parents can learn.

Subtle background warping, strange eye movement, awkward timing, and non-human rhythm. These are things media professionals spot quickly, but they can also be taught to parents who want to be more proactive instead of reactive.

We also zoom out to the bigger issue parents are up against.

Algorithms do not understand childhood, safety, or values. They understand engagement. A feed that starts with something harmless, Bluey, Miss Rachel, animal videos, or learning content, can shift quickly after one curious search or autoplay chain. That is how kids end up exposed to disturbing, violent, or sexualized AI-generated content that looks playful but is not.

We talk about:

- Why kids’ algorithms are some of the most profitable and dangerous systems online

- How “safe” feeds slowly drift without parents realizing

- Why YouTube Kids is safer than regular YouTube but still not a set-it-and-forget-it solution

- The rise of AI-generated sexualized content involving children

- Why sharing kids online can create exposure parents never intended

- Safer ways to share family photos using privacy-first tools

- Why adults have to act as stewards of their children’s digital privacy, even when the platforms will not

This episode is not about fear or banning technology. It is about giving parents clarity in a digital world that is changing faster than most families realize.

If you are raising kids right now, or care about the internet they are growing up in, this conversation is worth your time.

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Shawnna shares her journey from decades in Big Tech and AI leadership to leading a global organization focused on returning missing children to their families. She also opens up about her own family’s experience with a long-term online scam that targeted her autistic son, exposing how sophisticated, patient, and psychologically damaging modern online exploitation has become.

This episode covers:

• How online grooming and long-term scams target kids and young adults

• The role AI and social platforms play in exploitation and manipulation

• Why parental controls alone are not enough

• The reality of missing children and trafficking on a global scale

• How ICMEC measures success by one metric only: kids reunited with families

• The difference between facial detection and facial recognition

• Why digital safety requires community action, better safeguards, and real accountability

If you are a parent, caregiver, educator, or anyone concerned about child safety online, this conversation is essential listening.

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This video is an update — and the situation is escalating.

764 is a decentralized exploitation network targeting vulnerable kids, primarily girls ages 10–17, across platforms like Discord, Roblox, TikTok, Instagram, and Snapchat. The FBI and DOJ are actively investigating, but reports are increasing, not slowing down.

In this video, I cover:

• What 764 is and how it operates

• Why it’s designed to turn victims into perpetrators

• Warning signs parents should never ignore

• Why monitoring alone is not enough

• What to do if your child may be targeted

If your child can receive messages from strangers online, they are at risk. This is information every parent needs to hear.

📌 If you suspect exploitation:

Report to the FBI at ic3.gov

Or call DHS Know2Protect: 833-591-5669

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So what's the antidote?

Stillness.

I've spent 30 years in cybersecurity and I help families navigate technology and online safety. One pattern shows up again and again. We can't teach our kids to manage digital chaos if we can't manage it ourselves.

Psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Amen teaches a simple 15-second breathing protocol.

Inhale for 4 seconds, hold, exhale for 8 seconds, hold again, then repeat several cycles. That longer exhale sends a signal to the body that things are safe and it's okay to calm down.

I looked for an app that uses this pattern without endless menus or decisions and couldn't find one. So I built one called Being - One Minute to Calm. When you open it, it starts immediately. No signups, no subscriptions, just breathing and stillness. It uses gentle haptic taps so you can follow the pattern with your eyes open or closed.

Available on iPhone, iPad, Apple Watch and Apple TV. Android is coming soon.

Search "Being - One Minute to Calm" in the App Store or visit https://www.familyitguy.com/being/

Do you have any experience with meditation or breathwork? Share your story in the comments.

Dr. Dobson shares real stories from her decades of experience working in prisons, state hospitals, and private practice, explaining how understanding the criminal mind can empower families to protect their children. She also discusses how social media can be a powerful tool for raising awareness and holding offenders accountable.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- How offenders cycle through the criminal justice system

- The limitations and corruption in handling child predators

- The role of forensic psychology in protecting victims

- How families can use knowledge and advocacy to improve safety

- Practical insights for keeping kids safe online

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In this episode, we talk about how she:

1. Partnered with schools and clinical psychologists to educate kids AND parents

2. Helped implement Wait Until 8th in her community

3. Worked with school leadership on behavior impacts from devices and social media

4. Started a “Tech Corner” in school and church newsletters

5. Equipped parents with the data they needed to make informed choices

6. Built a like-minded community instead of fighting the battle alone

Her mission?

Arm parents with information so they can protect their kids’ brains—not just hope tech companies or the government will. Actionable steps for parents (we cover in detail):

• Alternatives to smartphones

• Parent email template you can send TODAY (email info@familyitguy.com for template)

• How to build a community of like-minded families:

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– Playdates with shared rules

– No-photo posting waivers at school

• How to confidently start conversations with other parents

Your kids’ safety isn’t up for grabs—and you don’t have to wait for someone else to draw the line.

Watch now and share with a parent who needs this!

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I discuss how AI toys work, the privacy concerns they raise, and why it's crucial for parents to stay informed. Let's ensure our kids' safety in this digital age. For more insights, visit https://www.familyitguy.com and follow me on social media. #aitoys #childsafety #FamilyITGuy

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If you’re a parent, you need to know what this really means—and why you don’t have to hand over your child’s face or ID to use any app. Governments and platforms are claiming these systems protect kids, but what they’re really doing is creating massive databases of children’s IDs and biometric data.

And those databases are getting hacked.

Last month, Discord’s age verification vendor was breached and 70,000 government IDs were stolen, including kids’ documents. Now Roblox is requiring facial age estimation or government ID to use chat, sending that data to a third-party vendor.

We can say NO.

You do NOT have to hand over your child’s face or your family’s IDs to use an app.

I know this video is long, but it’s important for every parent to understand what’s happening. Please share this and help other families stay informed.

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Dr. Carrie explains why screen-induced ADHD looks identical to neurological ADHD — and how a 21–31 day digital detox can reveal the truth. She shares five essential digital boundaries every family needs, and how modeling healthy tech use can rebuild connection at home.

In this episode:

- Why kids are being misdiagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, and depression

- How devices mimic neurological disorders

- The power of a 4-week digital detox

- Five healthy digital boundaries for families

- How to strengthen the parent-child bond in a tech-driven world

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I made an 82-page guide just to help parents set up Apple's Screen Time correctly. That's the problem.

The statistics related to kids having smartphones are alarming:

• Suicide rates for kids 10-14 tripled from 2007-2019

• Child exploitation reports nearly tripled from 2023 to 2024

• 2025 is on track to exceed 1 million child exploitation reports

Apple's Mobile Device Management infrastructure delivers pre-configured, tamper-proof devices to schools and corporations every day. But Apple’s policy restrictions prevent families from accessing the same capability.

The technology exists to protect kids from addictive algorithms and anonymous strangers. We need Apple to make it accessible to families.

Share this if you would like Apple to offer tamper-proof devices to families.

OpenAI just released Sora, an AI video generation app being rolled out to teens. As a 30-year cybersecurity expert, I'm calling it a silver platter for predators. This video breaks down exactly why Sora is different from other social media apps and what specific dangers parents need to understand.

- Why Sora's cameo feature creates permanent biometric data risks your family can't reverse

- 65,000 AI-generated deepfake sextortion cases happened in 2024 - and Sora makes this worse

- The 3 specific threats Sora combines (biometric data harvesting, deepfake weaponization, addictive algorithms)

I spent 30 years in cybersecurity, including work with the NSA, and I'm also a dad. I understand the technical threats AND the parenting challenges. This isn't about creating fear - it's about giving you the knowledge to make informed decisions for your family.

The problem isn't that your kids are bad or that you're failing as a parent. The problem is that companies design these apps asking "can we?" instead of "should we?" Once you understand these patterns, you can protect your family not just from Sora, but from the next app that comes along.

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If your kid has become unreachable since getting a smartphone or tablet - withdrawn from family, losing joy in activities they loved, fighting you over screen time - you're experiencing what thousands of parents are going through right now. You've probably tried taking devices away, setting new rules, drawing hard lines. And it failed.

Here's the part most parents miss: Your child has been watching you on your phone since they were two years old. Sitting in their car seat, watching you scroll at stoplights. At dinner, watching you check notifications. At bedtime, seeing your phone come into your bedroom. Clinical psychologist Dr. Carrie Mackensen explains that children's brains are "associated machines" - they've been unconsciously coding in your behavior for years.This video reveals why traditional authoritarian approaches fail and what actually works: a three-strategy framework that starts with changing your own behavior first.

This isn't about blaming parents - it's about understanding how behavior modeling works and using that knowledge to help your family. Research shows that collaborative approaches where parents model healthy behavior first have significantly higher success rates than authoritarian bans.

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OpenAI launched Sora on October 1st, and within 24 hours security experts bypassed every safety feature. Your child can download it right now and create realistic videos with their own face - no age verification, no parental consent required.

Here's what you can do: knowledge plus communication equals protection. You don't need to become an AI expert, but you do need to stay informed and have real conversations with your kids about these tools - not just the exciting features they see on social media, but the serious risks that come with putting their face and voice into an AI system.

My advice: Don't let your kids use AI tools like Sora alone. Supervision and education are your best defenses.

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Orlando Padilla shares brutal truths about breaking into the field - from bootcamp scams to what hiring managers actually want.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

- Why expensive bootcamps often fail to deliver job placement

- How AI has completely changed tech hiring (and what to do about it)

- How a chemistry major with no CS degree got hired

- Why passion matters more than credentials in actual hiring decisions

- The free resources students can use to test if this career is right for them

If your family is navigating decisions about tech education, cybersecurity careers, or alternatives to traditional CS degrees, this conversation provides the insider perspective you need.

About Orlando Padilla:

26 years of experience. Specializing in vulnerability research, penetration testing, and security training. Former work at Northrop Grumman and founder of multiple security companies. Has trained military and government personnel at Fort Meade.

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I created an 8-year-old account with maximum parental controls active. Within 60 minutes, I found sexual content passing all filters. With 40 million children under 13 using this platform daily, every parent needs to understand what's actually happening - and why Roblox refuses to implement features that would genuinely protect kids.

What I discovered:

Sexual content in 'Public Bathroom Simulator' within 1 hour of testing

Court-documented cases of predators using Roblox to groom teenagers

Platform allows 5-year-old registration despite 12+ rating

Partners with Barbie and SpongeBob to target preschoolers

Deliberately won't build 'approved games only' mode like YouTube Kids has

Revenue protection prioritized over child safety

This video covers Roblox safety concerns, parental controls testing, online predator awareness, children's gaming safety, and why tech companies prioritize engagement over protection. Essential viewing for parents of kids interested in or currently playing Roblox.

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Sarah's awakening moment: "I was following a momfluencer who shared her child's medical diagnosis, hospitals, doctors, appointments. And I realized - I shouldn't know this. This is too far."

That realization led her down a rabbit hole that revealed platform suppression, AI threats, and business models designed to exploit our children.

Topics discussed:

- Why Mom Uncharted got shadowbanned after CNN called her a "watchdog mom"

- The moment a regular mom realized sharenting had gone too far

- Three problems with sharenting every parent should understand

- Why Big Tech suppresses child safety advocates

- What happens when your teenager Googles themselves

- The new AI app that looks like TikTok but threatens every photo

- Why you should model healthy tech boundaries for your kids

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When your teenager has a device in their bedroom at night, four critical dangers emerge:

1. Fatigue destroys judgment - tired teens share information and engage with strangers they normally wouldn't

2. Isolation eliminates protection - when bullying happens at midnight, there's no escape

3. Predators specifically target late night hours when kids are alone, tired, and vulnerable

4. Algorithms exploit exhaustion - tired brains are more susceptible to addictive content

The research is clear: Psychologist Jonathan Haidt documents this in The Anxious Generation. Sleep experts universally recommend it. Parents who implement this report better sleep, fewer emotional crises, less risky behavior, and improved mental health.

One rule eliminates all these risks: No devices in bedrooms—for anyone in the family.

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You survived AOL chat rooms. You navigated the early internet just fine. But here's the uncomfortable truth: that experience doesn't prepare you for what your kids face today. Not because you weren't capable then—but because the internet itself has fundamentally changed.

WHAT ACTUALLY CHANGED:

Then: You had to ask permission to use the family computer

Now: The internet is in your child's pocket 24/7

Then: You heard that dial-up sound when connecting

Now: Silent, constant access with no "logging off"

Then: Your parents could walk by and see the screen

Now: Private devices, encrypted apps, hidden content

Then: Websites were static pages you chose to visit

Now: AI algorithms study every click and serve addictive content

Then: Chat rooms had 10-20 strangers

Now: Anonymous access to millions of people worldwide

Then: The internet was a destination you visited

Now: It follows your child everywhere, constantly pulling their attention back

This isn't about your parenting skills. It's about understanding that a neighborhood street and a six-lane highway require completely different safety rules.

THE THREE MYTHS:

MYTH #1: "I survived the early internet, my kid will be fine"

This is like saying you crossed a quiet street safely, so your kid will be fine crossing a freeway at rush hour. The internet had no algorithms tracking your behavior in the 90s. Today's platforms use artificial intelligence to study your child's every move and serve them exactly what keeps them scrolling. You could log off. Your kids can't escape.

MYTH #2: "The government and platforms will protect my kids"

Who makes money when your kid stays on TikTok for another hour? TikTok does. Who gets campaign donations from tech companies? Politicians do. Frances Haugen testified to Congress with internal documents proving Instagram knew their platform harmed teenage mental health—and they buried the research to protect profits. Right now, 40% of children aged 8-12 are using social media illegally. The biggest fine the FTC ever gave? $5.7 million to TikTok - a rounding error. These companies aren't on your team.

MYTH #3: "Platforms will moderate harmful content"

When the product is free, your child's attention is what's being sold to advertisers. Keeping your kid safe means less time on the platform. Less time means less money. Their business model and your child's safety are opposing goals. This is why every dangerous platform is free—TikTok, Snapchat, Roblox, Fortnite. And every safer platform costs money—Nintendo Switch, Minecraft. When you pay, you're the customer. When it's free, your child's attention is the product.

THE TWO DANGERS THAT MATTER:

After 30 years in cybersecurity (including work at the NSA) and raising my own kid, I've learned that most of the complexity boils down to TWO core dangers:

1. Addictive algorithms - AI designed by psychologists to capture and keep your child's attention

2. Anonymous communication - Strangers having access to your child without accountability

Every dangerous platform has one or both of these. Every safer platform has neither or has strong protections against them.

Once you understand these two dangers, you don't need to become a tech expert. You don't need to learn every new app. You can evaluate TikTok, Roblox, Snapchat, or whatever launches next month using the same framework.

WHAT YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW:

The skills you developed navigating the early internet - critical thinking, stranger danger awareness, healthy skepticism - those are still valuable.

But they need to be updated for an internet that:

- Never turns off

- Studies your child to manipulate them

- Connects them to millions of anonymous strangers

- Makes money by keeping them addicted

You don't need to understand algorithms. You need to have ongoing conversations with your kids about these two dangers and why they matter.

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KEY TAKEAWAY:

Your parents' advice about internet safety was "don't talk to strangers online." That's still true. But today you also need to teach your kids about how platforms are designed to be addictive and why "free" apps are actually the most expensive - they cost attention, mental health, and safety.

Keep your kids away from addictive algorithms and anonymous communication. Teach them why these dangers exist. That's 90% of online safety right there.

- 2021: Frances Haugen leaks Meta internal research: "We make body image issues worse for 1 in 3 teen girls"

- Meta's research showed the problem was NOT content ratings but comparison mechanics, infinite scroll, algorithmic feeds, and validation systems

- September 2025: Four whistleblowers testify Meta systematically suppressed research, used vague language, and destroyed evidence about child solicitation

- October 2023: 42 state attorneys general sue Meta for designing Instagram to addict children and deliberately misleading the public

- 2025: Instagram announces content filtering—the only change that doesn't reduce engagement or revenue

When a platform's revenue depends on maximizing user engagement, safety features that reduce engagement become business threats. Content filtering is the only change Instagram can make that doesn't impact their core business model—which is why it's the only change they're making, despite their own research showing it doesn't address the architectural features causing harm.

You may have heard about Roblox's new safety updates and wondered: "Does this finally make it safe for my kids?" You're not alone. With 40 million children under 13 playing Roblox every day, understanding what these updates actually address—and what they don't—is critical for making informed decisions about your family's safety.

I'm Ben Gillenwater, the Family IT Guy. I've spent 30 years in cybersecurity, including time at the NSA, and I'm also a dad navigating these same challenges. In this video, I break down what Roblox's new safety updates are and I explain the fundamental architecture problem that no update can solve.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why user-generated content platforms are fundamentally incompatible with child safety

- The missing feature that YouTube Kids has but Roblox refuses to implement

- How free gaming platforms create conflicts between your child's safety and company revenue

- Why Roblox partners with preschool brands despite being rated for ages 12+

- What action you can take to protect not just your family but create broader change

Roblox's safety updates treat symptoms, not the core problem. The platform's architecture—millions of user-generated games combined with anonymous social features—is fundamentally incompatible with child safety. Understanding this helps you make better decisions not just about Roblox, but about any platform your children want to use.

This isn't about being anti-technology. It's about understanding how these platforms are designed and whether that design aligns with your family's values and your children's developmental needs.

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If this helped you understand the issues more clearly, share it with other parents in your community. The more families understand these patterns, the more pressure we can put on platforms to prioritize safety over engagement.

Officer Gomez is a deputy and school resource officer who works directly with students and families navigating these challenges daily. What he's witnessing: 100% of teenage boys will be propositioned for sextortion. Kids offering sex for cell phone access. Teens arrested for crimes who prioritize saving their Snapchat streaks. Children whose ideal weekend is "locked in my room on social media all weekend long."

This isn't just your child. This isn't your parenting. This is addiction by design.

Officer Gomez provides the crisis response framework, family communication strategies, and preventive measures that help families regain control and restore connection.

IN THIS CONVERSATION:

The Addiction Truth: Why cell phone addiction mirrors substance abuse patterns—and what that means for your family

Sextortion Reality: How boys with internet access become targets

Crisis Response Protocol: Steps to take when you discover sextortion, inappropriate content, or concerning behavior

The Tribal Council Method: How to respond as a family team instead of treating your child as "broken"

Age 16 Recommendation: Why waiting to give smartphones matters and how to explain it

School Chromebook Reality: Why "you can have cell phones or education, not both" and what parents can do

The Off-Grid Family: Real example of kids thriving without technology—dirty, adventurous, and genuinely happy

Two-Hour Rule: Realistic screen time management with monitoring strategies

Mental Health Conversation: Why everyone needs support and how to normalize getting help

National Center for Missing & Exploited Children: 1-800-THE-LOST

CONNECT WITH OFFICER GOMEZ:

https://www.facebook.com/deputygomez/about

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXkte-5lPIcRHLvvEtYOB2A

This conversation covers difficult topics including sextortion, addiction, and mental health. It's designed to empower parents with practical knowledge and tools. Officer Gomez speaks with both professional authority and parental humility—he's been through these challenges as both a law enforcement officer and a dad.

Share this if you know parents navigating digital safety concerns.

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OpenAI released Sora as an "AI video creation tool," but the actual product tells a different story. It's a social network with:

- Vertical scrolling feeds (TikTok model)

- AI-powered algorithmic recommendations

- Stranger interaction through comments, likes and direct messages

- Video remixing features using other users' content and likenesses

- Self-reported age verification with zero actual verification

From a security standpoint, this combines addictive algorithm design with anonymous communication channels—the two highest-risk factors for young people online.

OpenAI is projected to lose $8 billion in 2024. They won't be profitable until 2029. When a company hemorrhaging money gives away cutting-edge technology cheaply and adds social features, ask: What (or who) is the actual product?

Answer: User data. Every video created, every prompt typed, every interaction feeds their AI training models. In Sora's case, that includes children's faces, voices, creative patterns, and behavioral data.

Kids should not be early adopters of AI technologies. These companies are experimenting with business models, and your kid's data is part of that experiment.

If your children use AI at all, it should be supervised 100% of the time. You should know:

- What they're creating or consuming

- Who they're interacting with

- What data is being collected

- How that data will be used

Key Problems Covered:

- Children can bypass controls by simply logging out

- Defaults are not safe-by-default (backwards safety engineering)

- Zero visibility for parents (not even conversation summaries)

- Controls are not tamper-proof

- System appears designed for PR, not actual child protection

What Real Controls Would Include:

- Tamper-proof architecture

- Safe-by-default settings

- Tiered monitoring (metadata + summaries, not full surveillance)

- Age-appropriate developmental stages

Do not rely on these controls. Kids should use ChatGPT only in shared spaces with ongoing parental engagement and clear family agreements.

Focus on just 2 digital dangers: addictive algorithms that steal attention, and anonymous chat that enables predators. This framework will change how you evaluate every app and platform for your kids.

VIDEO NOTES:

- 10,000+ monthly sextortion cases on Snapchat alone

- Predators use games like Roblox to target children

- "Bottomless feeds" are designed to capture attention

- The currency your child loses without knowing it

From a 30-year cybersecurity veteran who's also navigating parenting in the digital age.

#onlinepredators #digitalsafety #ParentAlert #cybersecurity #childprotection

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As someone who's spent 3 decades in cybersecurity (including NSA work), I use AI daily for software development and research. But as a dad? The risks to developing minds are too significant to ignore.

This video covers:

- Why I compare AI to dangerous weapons for kids

- How AI impacts your child's developing brain

- ChatGPT's new parental controls - and their major weakness

- The simple supervision rule that protects your family

We can't regulate our way out of this. We need to be informed parents making deliberate choices about AI in each of our homes.

With millions watching Family IT Guy content weekly, I can't personally help everyone. This AI chatbot changes that - it is trained on all of my work - my articles, videos, lectures and podcasts.

Perfect for parents who:

- Feel overwhelmed by constantly changing technology

- Need answers in languages other than English

- Want expert guidance without expensive consulting fees

- Have specific questions about their family's situation

Try it for free at www.familyitguy.com - I hope you find it helpful.

As both a cybersecurity professional and a dad, I've discovered that YouTube Kids has three major problems: addictive algorithmic design, inappropriate content infiltration, and low awareness of protective features.

NOTES FROM THIS VIDEO:

- YouTube Kids algorithms are designed to capture attention indefinitely

- Sexual and violent content appears despite "kid-safe" branding

- The whitelist feature that defeats both problems

- Step-by-step protection setup that takes under 5 minutes is available for free at https://www.familyitguy.com/parent-approved-videos-only.html

Cayce Savage testified: "So I would estimate that any child that is in a social space in VR will come in contact with or directly expose something very inappropriate"

Delete their apps. Tell your kids why.

It is easy to recognize when companies do not prioritize child safety. This sworn testimony removes all doubt.

Video of the referenced hearing is available at https://www.c-span.org/program/senate-committee/meta-whistleblowers-testify-on-child-safety-research/665347

Parents watching: I'm addressing Roblox's CEO directly, but need your help amplifying this message. Every share brings us closer to change.

David, I've been publicly critical of Roblox - not from malice, but from concern. As a cybersecurity professional with 30 years experience (including NSA) and a father, I see a clear solution: whitelist parental controls.

THE PROBLEM:

The Roblox platform has millions of user-created games that change daily. Parents cannot possibly review them all. We need what YouTube Kids already offers: "approved content only" mode.

THE BUSINESS CASE:

Yes, whitelist controls might reduce short-term engagement metrics. But long-term, you'll gain millions of parents who currently won't let their kids near Roblox. Lead the industry. Transform negative press into positive coverage. Show that child safety and business success aren't mutually exclusive.

THE ASK:

Implement whitelist features allowing parents to:

- Approve specific games before access

- Approve trusted developers

- Control content exposure proactively, not reactively

David, be the CEO who chose children's safety over engagement metrics. I'll be first to celebrate your leadership.

Parents: Share this with #RobloxWhitelist. Email Roblox support. Send to your school groups. Your voice matters.

16-year-old Adam Raine spent 7 months confiding in ChatGPT before taking his own life. The AI's responses - including "you don't owe them survival" - show why unsupervised AI access poses serious risks to vulnerable children. This video explains what happened and how to protect your family.

KEY SAFETY PRINCIPLES:

- AI appears to understand by mimicing human behavior

- Children cannot distinguish AI responses from genuine care

- Private technology use enables risky AI relationships

- Parent education must precede child access

IMMEDIATE PROTECTIVE STEPS:

1. Establish tech-free private spaces (bedrooms, bathrooms)

2. Create a common-area charging station

3. Try the AI testing exercises yourself

4. Have an age-appropriate conversation about AI

5. Supervise all AI interactions

This isn't about fearing technology - it's about understanding its limitations and protecting vulnerable children during critical developmental years.

Visit FamilyITGuy.com and type AI in the search box for detailed safety guides and age-specific exercises to help your family navigate AI safely.

#AISafety #DigitalParenting #ChatGPT #ChildProtection #OnlineSafety #ParentingTips #MentalHealth #TechBoundaries

Suicide is now the #2 cause of death for ages 10-24. Jason Sokolowski's daughter Penelope became part of that statistic in February 2025, just six months ago. In this raw conversation, Jason shares what he learned too late about the 764 group and online predation.

The 764 group operates with literal guidebooks for grooming children. They reached Penelope through Roblox, controlled her through death threats against Jason and his ex-wife, and weaponized authorities against him when Jason tried to learn more about who is behind this evil.

Jason reveals:

✓ Specific grooming tactics he witnessed but didn't recognize

✓ Why monitoring apps and parental controls failed

✓ How kids create accounts under parent emails

✓ The extortion cycle that traps children

✓ Warning signs every parent should know

✓ Immediate protective actions available

Every parent thinks "not my child." Jason thought that too.

Opening & Context

00:00:78 - Introduction: Why this conversation matters

00:02:09 - Who was Penelope: A brilliant, creative 16-year-old

Family Technology Journey

00:17:54 - First phone at 11: Setting boundaries that seemed reasonable

00:20:20 - Roblox monitoring: "I thought I was covering all bases"

00:22:39 - The anime friend: Witnessing grooming without recognizing it

00:29:16 - Instagram discovery: Multiple accounts, hidden personas

00:35:40 - TikTok emergence: 2500 followers and growing concern

Crisis Escalation

01:15:24 - First self-harm incident: Text from bathroom

01:18:47 - Second cutting episode: "The sight I have in my brain"

01:20:11 - "I'm part of a self-harm group"

01:23:56 - First suicide attempt

01:25:51 - Discovery of 764 messaging: "Culprit" carved into chest

Understanding 764

00:49:22 - How 764 operates: Love bombing to extortion

00:51:56 - The protection trap: Kids protecting parents from death threats

00:55:55 - Culprit's phone calls: Predator contacting Jason directly

01:11:53 - 764 origins: Bill Cadenhead and grooming guidebooks

01:30:34 - Self-harm bucket list: Gamification of suffering

System Failures

00:45:35 - Schools enabling access: Kids exchanging favors for internet

01:33:41 - Protection order: How predators weaponize authorities

01:37:03 - Forced removal from home: System playing into predator's plan

Critical Insights & Solutions

00:42:39 - Timeline: 3-6 months from grooming to full control

01:47:05 - Suicide as #2 cause of youth death

01:51:30 - "Extortion is attempted murder"

02:18:43 - Core solution: No phones in bedrooms

00:46:54 - Essential reading: "The Anxious Generation"

03:02:44 - Meeting kids with curiosity, not judgment

03:06:28 - The Aunt Becky example: True curiosity

When I tested Roblox as an 8-year-old with MAXIMUM parental controls, I found sexual content within minutes.

Roblox just banned Schlep - who got 6 predators arrested. Now 100,000 people have signed a petition. Congress is involved. Louisiana's Attorney General wants them shut down.

Their new "safety" video https://youtu.be/cuPGe99m8zs ? It's not about protecting your kids. It's about protecting their stock price.

WHAT EVERY PARENT NEEDS TO KNOW:

- 40 million kids under 13 use Roblox daily

- Parental controls DON'T work

- They refuse to add basic safety features

- Your kid's face scan may be stored forever

Watch this video. Share it. Your kids deserve better.

#Roblox #ParentsNeedToKnow

Join Family IT Guy Ben Gillenwater and Dr. Steve Underwood (https://www.veritasedconsulting.com) as they connect dots between device addiction and the literacy crisis. Steve overcame poverty and a severe stutter to become a leading education consultant - and his insights will transform how you think about technology's real cost to your family.

CRITICAL MOMENTS:

00:01:40 - Steve's personal struggle that shaped his mission

00:24:21 - The grocery store test revealing 10,000 word gaps

00:28:08 - "Rich get richer, poor get poorer" in literacy

00:43:03 - When addiction patterns repeat across generations

00:47:08 - Using YouTube as a conversation tool, not babysitter

01:20:14 - Why typing skills don't equal future readiness

Learn why first grade is the literacy deadline, how to ask questions that build critical thinking, and what "attachment parenting" means in our digital world.

Perfect for parents who've read "The Anxious Generation" and want specific, actionable strategies beyond just limiting screen time.

#DigitalParenting #LiteracyCrisis #EducationReform #ScreenAddiction #ChildBrainDevelopment #ParentingStrategies

What You'll Learn:

- Why over 100 boys sent inappropriate images to his 16-year-old daughter

- How a child was molested in just 37 seconds at a Dollar Tree

- Why certain kindergarten books are perfect grooming tools for predators

- How to teach kids consent as "the power to stop" not just saying yes

- Why sheltering kids from technology makes them MORE vulnerable

- How teaching toddlers to "fight the vacuum" builds crucial neural pathways

- The one skill every child needs before touching any device

Conrad developed the RECOVER model of therapeutic self-defense after seeing his mother's childhood trauma shape his family. With a master's in forensic psychology and 12 years as a Sacramento police officer, he understands both predator psychology and survivor recovery.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction & Conrad's Background

01:56 Mother's Trauma That Started It All

11:50 The Spider Analogy - How Trauma Affects Intimacy

14:35 Redefining Consent: The Power to Stop

28:42 100+ Dick Pics: The Shocking Reality in Schools

45:13 The 37-Second Molestation Case

53:45 How Kindergarten Books Help Predators

1:04:28 Your Kids: Big Tech's Test Subjects

1:18:37 Teaching Toddlers to Fight Fear

1:29:11 Raising a Daughter Who Triangle Chokes Boyfriends

1:43:41 The 4-Year-Old Who Saved Herself

Resources Mentioned:

Netsmartz

Connect Safely

Internet Keep Safe Coalition

Trad Fam (Idaho organization)

Note: This conversation contains discussions of sexual assault, child abuse, and trauma. While approached sensitively, some content may be triggering.

#childsafety #onlinesafety #parenting #digitalparenting #internetsafety #parentingtips #ConradWoodall #traumarecovery #kidsandtechnology #cybersafety #parentingpodcast #childprotection

As a 30-year cybersecurity expert and father, I'm seeing firsthand how education about online predators is making criminals less effective. In this video, I explain why scammers are trying to infiltrate my content and, more importantly, share the exact conversation you need to have with your kids tonight.

What you'll learn:

- Why education is the best defense against sextortion

- Specific predator tactics: love bombing, sudden friendship, photo requests

- The critical response if your child becomes a victim

- How criminal networks operate globally

Timestamps:

0:00 Evidence we're winning

1:10 How this disrupts criminal business

2:01 Teaching kids to recognize red flags

2:40 Crisis response protocol

Don't let your child become a statistic. Watch, learn, and share with other parents.

In this 2-minute breakdown, discover:

- What bottomless feeds actually are (0:00)

- The hidden business model keeping kids hooked (0:26)

- Why it's literally "digital drugs" with real brain chemistry (0:45)

- The doom scrolling trap adults fall into (1:17)

- How to protect your family starting today (1:36)

As a parent myself, I've watched my own kids struggle with these intentionally addictive designs. After 30 years in cybersecurity, including NSA work, I'm sharing what every parent needs to know about algorithms.

Visit FamilyITGuy.com and search "algorithm" for step-by-step guides to protect your family. No tech expertise required.

#DigitalParenting #ScreenTime #KidsAndTechnology #ParentingTips #DigitalWellbeing

- Why they're doing this work

- Critical safety issues

- Parenting in the digital age

- Solutions and Future Plans

Officer Gomez, a school resource police officer with 12+ years experience and an engineering background, reveals the shocking reality of online child predation. In one summer, he arrested 14 predators attempting to meet children - and says they could arrest 14 EVERY SINGLE DAY.

MOST SHOCKING REVELATIONS:

- 4th and 5th graders are already sending nude photos

- 100% of boys WILL be targeted by sextortion scams

- 18 boys have taken their lives from these scams in the past 2 years

- Predators aren't who you think - many are attractive teens

- "By lunchtime it'll be someone else's picture" - the new normal

KEY TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - Introduction

07:05 - "By Lunchtime" - The Normalization of Nude Photos

18:11 - Elementary School Kids Sending Nudes

26:45 - 14 Predators Arrested in 10 Weeks

29:25 - Why Predators Target Roblox

31:09 - Young, Attractive Predators

35:32 - How Biology Defeats Boys' Judgment

37:49 - 100% of Boys Will Face Sextortion

39:09 - Teen Suicide Statistics

40:38 - Friday Night Tribal Council Solution

44:38 - The 200 Friend Rule

CRITICAL TOPICS COVERED:

✓ The 4-step predator playbook

✓ How to make your kids "hard targets"

✓ What to do if your child is being sextorted

✓ Why Roblox and gaming platforms are hunting grounds

✓ The conversation you MUST have tonight

WHO IS OFFICER GOMEZ:

- School Resource Officer in Idaho

- Electronics Engineering degree

- Works with Idaho Crimes Against Children Task Force

- National speaker on digital safety

- Tracks predator tactics through fake accounts

PARENT ACTION ITEMS:

- Watch this entire interview

- Have "the naked picture scam" talk with your sons TONIGHT

- Implement the 200 friend rule

- Start Friday family discussions about online safety

Share this video - it could save a child's life.

#onlinesafety #parenting #digitalsafety #sextortionawareness #parentingtips #cybersafety #internetsafety #protectkids #parentingadvice #schoolsafety