Welcome back to Decode Teen Emotions. I'm John, here with Susan, and Page is back with us for an episode about strengthening relationships, listening, saying what you mean, trust, boundaries, and repairing things when they go sideways. This one's for every teen, guy or girl, navigating friendships, family, or group chats that feel like a full time job.

In this episode, Page admits that managing relationships feels like her whole life right now, and Susan breaks down what actually makes that work better. She covers active listening, including paraphrasing and body language, assertive communication using I statements instead of overexplaining or staying silent, and the real difference between empathy and sympathy. From there she reframes boundaries as a map instead of a wall, covering emotional, physical, and digital space, explains how trust is built in small consistent moments rather than one big gesture, and closes with how to actually repair a relationship by finding what's underneath the surface conflict. Page realizes mid episode that she never told a friend the real reason something bothered her, and decides to finally say it.

By the end of this episode, you will have real tools for listening better, setting a boundary without guilt, and repairing a relationship that's quietly drifted instead of just letting it fade.

In this episode:

• The real difference between active listening and just waiting for your turn to talk
• Why boundaries are a map, not a wall, across emotional, physical, and digital space
• How trust is actually built in small consistent moments, not one big gesture
• Empathy versus sympathy, and how to practice perspective taking
• Page's own realization that she never said the real thing to a friend

This week's challenge: pick one relationship, and try one thing from the episode: practice active listening in one real conversation, use an I statement instead of overexplaining, or name one boundary out loud instead of just feeling resentful about it silently.

📄 Free worksheet: Building Bridges Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Welcome back to Decode Teen Emotions. I'm John, here with Susan, and Braydon is sticking around for round two of the toolbox. This episode is less about talking through feelings and more about what to actually do with them in the moment, whether you're a guy or girl who just needs something that works right now.

In this episode, Susan walks through a full toolbox of in the moment tools, starting with box breathing and the 4-7-8 method, two ways to calm your body down in seconds without anyone even noticing. From there she covers using movement, like Braydon's habit of shooting hoops when he's mad, to burn off the fight or flight energy anger creates. She also gets into making something, whether that's doodling, writing, or messing around on an instrument, as a way to get big feelings out of your head and into something outside of you. The conversation moves into managing social media comparison stress, using I statements instead of you statements in an argument, and finishes with how humor, used the right way, can soften a tense moment instead of making it worse.

By the end of this episode, you will have a full toolbox of in the moment tools, breathing, movement, making something, and better ways to talk through conflict, so you're never standing there with nothing to reach for.

In this episode:

Box breathing and the 4-7-8 method, two fast ways to calm your body down

Using movement, like Braydon's basketball habit, to burn off anger's energy

Making something, art, music, or writing, as a way to get feelings out

Why late night scrolling can quietly make you feel worse, and small ways to manage it

Swapping you statements for I statements, and using humor without making it worse

This week's challenge: pick two tools from the episode, one for cooling down your body, breathing or movement, and one for a conversation, trying an I statement instead of a you statement at least once. Try each one at least once.

📄 Free worksheet: Breathe, Move, Create Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Welcome back to Decode Teen Emotions. I'm John, here with Susan, and today Braydon is back with us for an episode about something that trips up teens and adults alike: actually naming what you feel instead of rounding everything down to mad, sad, or fine. This one's for every teen, guy or girl, who's ever said "I'm fine" when they weren't.

In this episode, Braydon admits "fine" is basically his default answer to everything, and Susan uses that to unpack why most of us never got handed a bigger emotional vocabulary than mad, sad, happy, and fine. She walks through how one word like "mad" can actually be hiding frustration, disappointment, or embarrassment underneath, using Braydon's own group project story as an example. From there, Susan introduces a simple way to track emotional triggers over time, shares the story of a teen named Jake who used a single pause to defuse a blowup with friends, and runs through a handful of in the moment tools, from breathing to bullet point journaling to a body scan, so listeners can find the one or two that actually fit them. The episode ends by connecting all of it back to values, the things underneath your reactions that actually matter to you.

By the end of this episode, you will have a bigger emotional vocabulary, a simple way to spot your own triggers, and at least one calming tool you can try the next time something sets you off.

In this episode:

Why "fine," "mad," and "sad" are often standing in for more specific feelings

Braydon's group project story and how "mad" turned out to be annoyed and worried

A simple way to track your emotional triggers using just three quick notes

Jake's story, how one pause changed an entire argument with friends

A few in the moment tools to try, including breathing, journaling styles, and a body scan

This week's challenge: three times this week, try answering "how are you doing" with a more specific word than fine, mad, or sad, even if it's just in your head. Then pick one tool from the episode, breathing, bullet point journaling, or a body scan, and try it exactly once.

📄 Free worksheet: The Feelings You Haven't Named Yet Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Page shares what it was like to experience online cruelty and want to fight back. Maya shares what happened when she deleted her apps on impulse for a week and discovered something unexpected: mental space, quiet, and a completely different relationship with her phone on the other side. Susan gives four practical tools for auditing your digital habits without giving up the things you actually value about being online.

This one is honest about both sides. Social media has real benefits. It also has a real cost. This episode helps you figure out which one is winning.

In this episode:

• Why social comparison hits differently on social media
• Cyberbullying: why responding angry gives the other person more material
• Maya's three-week digital detox and what she found on the other side
• A practical audit of your feed, your habits, and your phone-free zones
• How much of what you post is really you?

📄 Free worksheet: Episode 12 Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Maya shares what it felt like to have a big friend group and still feel completely alone, because none of them knew the real her. Susan explains why that exhaustion is real even when "nothing happened," and how the decisions we make about ourselves in moments of pain can quietly run our lives for years after the original moment has passed.

This episode is about reviewing those old rules, noticing the comparison trap, and taking one small step toward letting someone see who you actually are.

In this episode:

• The mask we wear and how hiding becomes automatic
• Why performing yourself all day is exhausting in a way that's hard to explain
• Old decisions, new questions: reviewing the rules you made about yourself
• The comparison trap: why comparing your insides to everyone else's outsides isn't fair
• How vulnerability creates connection

📄 Free worksheet: Episode 11 Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Teen guest Page shares what it felt like to realize he'd been agreeing with everyone for so long he didn't know what he actually thought anymore. Susan calls it identity debt, and a lot of teens are carrying more of it than they realize.

This episode gives you two practical tools: a values map to help you know yourself well enough to notice when you're drifting, and a simple framework for saying no without drama or long explanations. Because your discomfort, your values, and your gut feeling count. They're enough.

In this episode:

• Direct vs. indirect pressure: which one is harder to resist and why
• Identity debt: what happens when you perform for so long you lose track of yourself
• Building a values map so you have something to check against when pressure hits
• Practising assertiveness without aggression
• Finding the people who know the real you

📄 Free worksheet: Episode 10 Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Teen guests Page and Maya share what it's like to start tracing your patterns back to where they started. Maya realized she'd been pushing close friends away for two years, all because of something she learned at age 8. Page has been quietly noticing her own patterns since the backpack episode and finally deciding she's ready to do something about them.

Susan introduces two practical tools: the pattern journal (for tracking reactions that feel bigger than the situation) and the compassionate update (for talking to the younger version of you who learned something that's still running the show). This episode won't fix everything. But it might help you get curious enough to start looking.

In this episode:

• Why knowing something affected you is not the same as facing it
• Maya's story: three lost friendships and the eight-year-old behind them
• The pattern journal: how to become a detective of your own reactions
• The compassionate update: what to say to a younger version of yourself
• When self-reflection isn't enough and therapy is worth considering

📄 Free worksheet: Episode 9 Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Susan and teen guest Braydon get into what it's like to carry tension you can sense but nobody explains. Why teens almost always know something is wrong even when adults try to hide it. And why so many teens quietly blame themselves for things that were never their fault or their responsibility.

This episode is about naming what's making home hard, recognizing how it shows up in your body, and building a toolkit for getting through the heavy days without having to fix everything at once.

In this episode:

• Sibling rivalry and the roles we get assigned without choosing them
• The "silent shadow" of financial stress and why not knowing is often worse
• Why parental conflict activates your nervous system even when you try to ignore it
• How to separate the weather from the climate
• Building your toolkit for the hard days

📄 Free worksheet: Episode 8 Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Susan and Braydon explore the difference between performing for your family and actually living with them, and why that gap quietly builds resentment. They also dig into the generational divide: why your parents' solutions often don't fit your problems, and how to start bridging that gap with one honest conversation.

You'll walk away with a simple framework for naming what you need, creating calm corners, and starting the kind of real connection most families never quite get to but wish they had.

In this episode:

• The invisible scorecard and who set the expectations
• Why pressure usually comes from fear, not criticism
• Performing vs. living: are you always "on" at home?
• What parents don't know they don't know
• How to name what you need without it turning into a fight

📄 Free worksheet: Episode 7 Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Page opens up about going disproportionately hurt every time someone cancels plans, and traces it all the way back to a Monday morning in fifth grade that changed how her brain reads certain situations. John gets honest about his own avoidant tendencies and what growing up with an emotionally distant dad still shows up in how he parents today. Susan breaks down attachment styles, emotional imprints, and the story of Leo, a teen who spent years shutting down every time someone raised their voice, until he finally understood why.

By the end of this episode, you will understand that your patterns have roots, and knowing those roots is the first step to changing them.

In this episode:

• Why early experiences leave marks on your emotional skin even when you don't remember them
• What attachment styles are and how to recognize yours
• How Leo's nervous system was still following a rule from childhood years later
• The three questions that help you trace a big reaction back to where it actually started
• Why you don't need a big trauma to deserve support

This week's challenge: Think of one reaction you had recently that felt bigger than the situation called for. Sit with these three questions and write them down: What just happened? What did that remind me of? And what was I actually afraid of?

📄 Free worksheet: Backpack Check Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

John gets real about life with three teenage boys and admits he has not always gotten it right. Braydon opens up about walking through the front door and instantly knowing something is off, absorbing stress that nobody is talking about, and becoming the "human mood detector nobody asked to be." Susan breaks down why home hits on a deeper level than anywhere else, what different parenting styles do to teen emotions, and how one teen named Jalen went from constant explosions to actually feeling heard by making one simple change.

By the end of this episode, you will have real tools to start saying what you feel at home in a way that opens doors instead of slamming them.

In this episode:

• Why tension at home follows you everywhere, even when nobody says a word
• The difference between parenting styles and how they shape your emotions
• How Jalen went from acting out to feeling heard with one small shift
• The "I feel" formula and how to use it in a real conversation
• What parents can do to stay curious instead of reactive

This week's challenge: Try the "I feel" formula at least once in a real conversation at home this week. It does not have to be a big moment. Just practice putting your feeling into words instead of letting it come out sideways. Notice what happens.

📄 Free worksheet: My Family, My Voice Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

John kicks things off by admitting he is a dad of three boys with zero personal experience in this territory, counting entirely on Susan to carry him through. Page opens up about crying at a dog food commercial, feeling hurt by a best friend's totally normal joke, and spending a midnight Google spiral wondering if something was actually wrong with her. Susan breaks down what hormones do to the teenage brain, why the adults around you sometimes make it worse without meaning to, and how one teen named Mia used a simple daily journal to go from feeling like an emotional mess to finally understanding her own patterns.

By the end of this episode, you will understand why your brain reacts the way it does and have a simple tool to start making sense of your own patterns.

In this episode:

• Why hormones make emotions feel bigger and harder to control for both guys and girls
• What estrogen actually does to the teenage brain
• Why "calm down" is the worst thing you can say to someone in that moment
• How one teen used a 30-second daily journal to stop feeling like an emotional mess
• What parents can do to actually help instead of making things worse

This week's challenge: For the next seven days take 30 seconds at the end of each day and write down how your emotional energy felt and one thing that helped or made things harder. That is it.

📄 Free worksheet: The Hormonal Journal Prompts Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Susan explains what triggers actually are, why they sneak up on you, and how "stacked triggers" can turn a small moment into a big reaction. Brayden gets real about his own patterns, from getting called out at basketball practice to firing off messages in group chats, and walks through Susan's five-step Trigger Tracking Worksheet live on air.

By the end of the episode, you'll know how to spot your triggers, read your body's early warning signals, and build a simple plan that actually works.

In this episode:

• What triggers are and why everyone has them
• How your "emotional battery" changes the way you react
• The five-step Trigger Tracking Worksheet
• Why making the gap between trigger and reaction even slightly bigger rewires your brain over time

This week's challenge: Pick one trigger, run it through the five steps, and write it down at least once. That's it.

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📄 Free worksheet: Trigger Tracking Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

In this episode, host Chris and teen guest Peyton get real about those moments when anger takes over — the snaps, the text spirals, the blowups that seem to come out of nowhere. With expert Susan breaking down the science, we unpack why anger is rarely just anger, and what's really going on underneath.

We cover:

• Why your brain "hijacks" you before you can think
• How to identify the real emotions hiding behind anger (hint: it's usually fear, shame, or feeling left out)
• A step-by-step Emotional Check-In you can use before a tough conversation, a test, or a stressful social situation
• How teen hormones make all of this louder — and why that doesn't make you "too much"

Whether you're a teen who's ever exploded over something that felt bigger than it looked, or a parent trying to understand what's going on, this episode gives you real tools — not just "calm down."

📄 Free worksheet: Episode 2 Stress & Anger Checklist, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

In this first episode of Decode Teen Emotions, we break down what anger really is, why it shows up so fast, and what it’s trying to tell you.

Instead of feeling out of control, you’ll start to understand what’s happening inside — and how to respond in a healthier, more confident way.

This worksheet will help you: ✔ Identify your personal anger triggers ✔ Recognize emotional and physical warning signs ✔ Reflect on how you typically react ✔ Start building calmer responses

📄 Free worksheet: Episode 1 Worksheet, download it and follow along at your own pace.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.

Welcome to Decode Teen Emotions — your go-to space for real conversations that help families and teens grow, connect, and thrive.

In this intro episode, we’re reintroducing ourselves and sharing what’s new. You’ll hear from teens and special guests, including experts who work directly with them, bringing real perspectives and meaningful conversations to every episode.

Each episode now includes a companion worksheet designed to help you apply what you learn. These worksheets are inspired by the Wellness Workbook and our teen-focused books, giving you practical tools you can use right away.

Hit subscribe and join us as we build stronger communication, healthier habits, and more confident voices—one episode at a time.

📚 Based on the book series by Agnes Blake: Anger Management for Teens: Mad to Calm

Want to go deeper? Teens Emotional Wellness Workbook

💚 If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In an emergency, call 911.