Together, we’ll explore ten gentle reminders to help you tune back into what really matters, and create a Christmas atmosphere rooted in presence, emotional safety, and connection rather than performance. This isn’t about doing more, it’s about softening the pace, lowering the pressure, and trusting that love, steadiness, and warmth are already enough.

Whether your December feels joyful, complicated, tender, or all three, this episode is here to remind you: you don’t have to manufacture magic. It’s already there, in the small moments, the shared pauses, and the grace you give to your children and to yourself.

Resources & Links:

📖 Get Madeleine's parenting book: Explore Madeleine’s practical, grace-filled guide to raising resilient children — from toddlerhood to young adulthood and beyond. click here

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Connect with me on Instagram: @thecourageousmumma

In this episode, we’re diving into a simple, eye-opening framework that reveals why we slip into those moments, and how tiny shifts in our tone and presence can completely transform everyday conversations into parenting battles. From school-run stand-offs to bedtime drama, you’ll start to see these patterns everywhere and laugh at how human we all are.

Join me as we explore the three ego states of transactional analysis (Parent, Child, and Adult) and learn how to stay in that grounded, calm, connected space - even when your child is doing everything they can to pull you into the pit.

If you want clearer communication, fewer power struggles, and a home where boundaries and kindness co-exist, this episode hands you the tools to get there - starting today.

📬 Contact Madeleine: Have a question or comment Email me at madeleinstani@icloud.com — I’d love to hear from you.

Resources & Links:

📖 Get Madeleine's parenting book: Explore Madeleine’s practical, grace-filled guide to raising resilient children — from toddlerhood to young adulthood and beyond. click here

🗓️ Book a session with Madeleine: Want to go deeper? You can book a one-to-one parenting session with me click here

Connect with me on Instagram: @thecourageousmumma

Do you wonder how you got so engaged and how to get out of it?

Are you made to feel guilty for holding a boundary, then frustrated when it slips?

You’re not alone. In this episode, we’ll unpack why these patterns keep repeating and how to step out of the emotional back-and-forth that leaves everyone drained.

You’ll learn what’s really happening beneath the surface when you feel blamed, bad, or backed into a corner — and how to bring calm, clarity, and courage back into the moment.

If you’re ready to stop reacting and start leading with confidence, this one’s for you.

I'd love you to leave a review 😀

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In this last of our season on Parenting through the different character types of the Enneagram, we're looking at that child who is always chasing the next thrill, activity, adventure....they love the dazzle of life and seem to have boundless enthusiasm. But facing the minor keys of life is a gift too!

I'm talking today about how to help them to embrace emotions, disappointments and acknowledge their feelings so they can truly connect with people, but without losing that zest for life.

If you have a child who fits this description, or a partner or friend, or even if it's you - this podcast is for you...

Resources & Links:

📖 Get Madeleine's parenting book: Explore Madeleine’s practical, grace-filled guide to raising resilient children — from toddlerhood to young adulthood. click here 

🗓️ Book a session with Madeleine: Want to go deeper? You can book a one-to-one parenting session with me click here

📬 Contact Madeleine: Have a question or comment Email me at madeleinstani@icloud.com — I’d love to hear from you.

Connect with me on Instagram: @thecourageousmumma

Michelle is a qualified sleep coach who has supported hundreds of families to peaceful nights through 1-1 and group coaching.

She is also Mum to three football-mad boys and understands the challenges of parenting, especially the toll of sleep deprivation and the juggle of trying to return to work on sleepless nights.

Michelle’s approach equips mothers with the knowledge and confidence needed to transform their little one's sleep— all without leaving your child to cry.

Resources & Links:

📖 Get Madeleine's parenting book: Explore Madeleine’s practical, grace-filled guide to raising resilient children — from toddlerhood to young adulthood. click here 

🗓️ Book a session with Madeleine: Want to go deeper? You can book a one-to-one parenting session with me click here

📬 Contact Madeleine: Have a question or comment Email me at madeleinstani@icloud.com — I’d love to hear from you.

Connect with me on Instagram: @thecourageousmumma

Michelle's Website: https://www.thebabysleepexperts.co.uk/

Michelle's Free Guide and average sleep needs chart: https://www.thebabysleepexperts.co.uk/free-resources/

Resources & Links:

📖 Get the book: Explore Madeleine’s practical, grace-filled guide to raising resilient children — from toddlerhood to young adulthood. click here 

🗓️ Book a session: Want to go deeper? You can book a one-to-one parenting session with me click here

📬 Contact me: Have a question or just want to say hello? Email me at madeleinstani@icloud.com — I’d love to hear from you.

Connect with me on Instagram: @thecourageousmumma

Come and hear five ways that you can help them to flourish

- to keep those strong, healthy character traits without tipping into overdrive.

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I hope you've had a fun summer. 

I'm launching this term with a fun book, perfect for your friends for Christmas. It's snippets of overheard conversations to make you titter, raise your eyebrows, question yourself and/or the quotee. How would you respond to this one? 

"Why does everyone suddenly need a second screen? It's a post-Covid thing...You know, we're not all operating air traffic control from home!"

Open to conjecture on that one. 

We also chat about the anxious side of early motherhood and how Natasha coped.

Snippets of conversation from Emphatic Middle-Class Women, by Natasha May can be found at Waterstones.com, Amazon and for a signed copy, message Natasha.t.may on Instagram.

Rachel Thomas is the lead specialist nurse for Children's Bladder and Bowel Team for Gloucestershire.  She talks us through the early and late interventions. There are lots of laughs but lots of great info too.

She recommends:

https://eric.org.uk to answer all your questions.

and

the book, Amy Gets Eaten, by Adam Kay

Email me if you're thinking about the day or evening course: Madeleinestani@icloud.com

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Do your kids know what to do if there's a fire?

What are a credit card and cling film doing in with your Meds?

A gripping tour of first aid and how to support your children (or anyone) in common difficulties. Come and learn new things and examine your existing perspectives.

To Contact Meg Sawford: sawford@hotmail.co.uk

Meg signposts to these two 

Choking Jelly babies

How to use a Defibrillator

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or pop me an email... Madeleinestani@icloud.com

The fives have some great strengths;

Firstly, their intellectual capacity and their ability to think deeply and critically are admirable. They are excellent researchers and often good problem solvers. They are naturally curious and have a thirst for knowledge. They can often see connections and patterns that others miss.

They’re fabulous in a pub quiz, though sometimes their knowledge is specialised, so then they’re just fabulous in certain rounds.

See if you recognise yourself, your child or your friends or partner...

Introspective

Analytical

Curious

Independent

Thoughtful

Reserved

Cerebral

Detached

Perceptive

Objective

Focused

Reclusive

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Today, I answer your questions: 

What's the hardest parenting tool; what do I most regret; What am I most pleased with... Here's the good, the bad and the ugly

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Ig; thecourageousmumma

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ig: thecourageousmumma

blog: thecourageousmumma

ask a question or contact me; Madeleinestani@icloud.com

Book on ADHD: Scattered Minds - pop here 

Adult guide to diagnosis - pop here 

Louise's blog Pink Pear Bear - pop here 

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Book mentioned: Gifts of Imperfection pop here 

Do they find it hard to let people see when they're failing or appearing to underachieve?

Can they be a little competitive at times?

They might be an Enneagram type 3 - Sometimes called The Achiever

Come and hear about their superpowers and how to parent them well so their strengths shine and they manage their potential pitfalls.

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Alison Core's full time mission is teaching children why their brains react the way to do and how to manage them. This is a tool for the here and now and for their future too. 

Send your children into with a way to manage their emotions.

Life is tough, but here are tools to regulate kids in those difficult moments... So one day, they'll be adults that regulate themselves in the tough times. Great tools for them - and for us!

Get your copy of Parenting for Life

find out about parent coaching/book a chat here

ask a question or contact me; Madeleinestani@icloud.com

contact Alison here 

The HELPER can take their significance from what they can be for others and sometimes get their needs lost in the process.

Come and see what motivates the Enneagram Type two and hear five ways to build up their self-esteem. 

Here are some useful links 

Pick up a copy of my book, Parenting for Life

Find out information on Parent support here 

I highly recommend Emma's book , Seasons of Sex and Intimacy

Competency is a superpower, but when it tips into criticism of themselves or others it can harm their connection to others and their self-worth.

Come and find out five great ways to parent the improver and help them to feel worthy and to manage their inner-critic, without losing their fabulous superpowers. 

Click here for....

Finding out more about parent-coaching: Parent Coaching

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Do they struggle with meal times?  - distractions, disinterest, fussy eating, allergies...

This week Emma Shafqat hops on the podcast to share gems and insights around food. See her details below.

Click here for....

Finding out more about parent-coaching: Parent Coaching

(on Zoom or in-person)

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Email me with your questions: Madeleinestani@icloud.com

To book a free call with Emma Shafqat, pop here 

or email her emma@dietitianwithadifference.co.uk

This week I'm looking at the Enneagram type 9: The Peacemaker. They're kind, non judgemental, happy to please and to step aside for others - a little too much at times. 

Peacemakers  and are easy to be around. They go with the flow. They're not argumentative and don't mind yielding to stronger opinions.

And whilst that seems ok on the surface - is it really? Or is something else going on? 

Come and find out what is motivating the peacemaker and how we, as parents, can make sure we hone and develop their strengths...and their weaknesses. 

Click here for....

Finding out more about parent-coaching: Parent Coaching

(on Zoom or in-person)

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For a written overview of this week's podcast: Blog

Fortunately, she's unabashed and and speaks into the many areas that can interfere with intimacy. Emma also shares some surprising stats and helps to open the curtain on what's really going on out there, compared to what film, tv and other screen options portray. 

When you're busy raising a family it's possible that sex and relational needs are given a low priority. But emotionally healthy families are healthy in all aspects - the relationship between parents will suffer if intimacy is put on hold or if issues are avoided. 

This podcast will clear up misinformation and hopefully start some good conversations. 

Here are some useful links 

Pop to the blog for a summary of Last month's Enneagram 8

Pick up a copy of my book, Parenting for Life

Find out information on Parent support here 

I highly recommend Emma's book , Seasons of Sex and Intimacy

Further reading by Esther Perell

This season I'm exploring the 9 different types on the Enneagram because it gives such insights and clues as to what motivates different character types. We're not boxing, we're being curious - understanding what makes them tick.

This week, I'm focussing on 'The Challenger' They're assertive, straight talking, decisive, resourcesful and upfront. But they're also loyal, honest and can be protective too.

There are ways to respond to this child that will result in clashes, stand-offs and disconnect. But there are also ways that can build bridges, harness their great strengths and help their super-powers not to be over-powering.

Here's the link to parent-coaching

Here's the link to the book, Parenting For Life - discounted for listeners

As parents it can be transformative to understand these different characters and their motivations so that we can ensure we're using the right tools to help our children to grow.

it's a fascinating tool and I'll be using this podcast as a springboard to go on and do further podcasts on each type so that we can recognise our children (partner/friend/colleague/neighbour) in the different types and use approaches that will help our connection with them and in turn help them. It's priceless!

This is Helen's email address: hello@helencaldercoaching.co.uk

To get a copy of Parenting For Life (and a free 15 min consultation)

Link to book

To book a consultation

Link to Chat

Could it be a place to grow trust and bond?  

Come and find out!

It's great to be back and welcoming you to Season II - I have so much in store for you.

I love hearing your feedback: Madeleinestani@icloud.com

banging doors?

chat back?

resistant?

got louder or gone quieter?

What's that all about?

Come and find out

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This will make a massive difference

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We want them to feel confident to take on challenges and know that there are loving arms waiting for them after their adventures and challenges.  But that can go a little wrong when our needs muscle in front of theirs. Yet, we can go their whole childhood without knowing we've muddled their needs with ours.

Here is a really clear and concise way to check that you're meeting their need for healthy attachment.

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They're easy tools for connection...for fun...for trust...

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One little micro-change in how you respond to your kids will take you on a trajectory towards good relationship: Where there is understanding there can be empathy - Where there is empathy there is connection.

It's easy when you know how.  The alternative? - missing the vital clues and teaching our kids to keep their feelings to themselves - that causes disconnect!!

Nobody wants that. 

Come and explore...

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The Book, pop here 

A consultation, pop here 

Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Consultations here 

Link for the Book here 

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If you want to hop back to the podcast on Consequences, pop here

See you next week,

Mads

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Though, it's never really about the money.

It's about expectations, needs vs desires, borrowing and lending, saving and giving.

Money taps into so many other issues that come from the perspectives they form when they're small.

Money is a great tool for growing and influencing our children to have a healthy heart when it comes to generosity and wisdom.

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See you next week,

Mads

How do we model inclusion and leave people out? 

What dangers lurk when we exclude people from family gatherings? There are some hidden dangers.

Today we make  straightforward sense of an awkward situation.

Pop to the blog for some great reads, here

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For more information about a consultation, pop here

See you next week,

Mads 

Book

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CONsultations

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Or do you feel it's bouncing off them?

Is your influence beginning to fade as they get older?

This week, I’m going to share an easy way to help your kids value your words, no matter what age they are. I'll share a simple way to ensure that you're not falling into common parent traps that make your kids ignore your words.

I'll also share how some common parent-responses can switch them off and even unsettle them. 

Do people tell you it's normal for parents to get ignored? 

It doesn't have to be!

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See you next week,

Madeleine

Yes, it is!

This week we look at three ways to raise the gratitude levels in your home. 

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Madeleine

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What does it mean to you?

What does it mean to your child?

What messages are they picking up at home?

If we're not intentional about our metrics for success our children can pick up hidden messages that ultimately impact their confidence and sense of self. Being intentional about success and failure narratives is a small but vital part of parenting.  Come and see how to re-calibrate

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Often children don't feel confident, or just aren't taught to take an interest: They'll answer questions that they're asked, but won't necessarily think or know how to go past answering and into connected conversation.

Here's how to get past the small talk...

The text for this week's podcast is here

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This week come and find out what attachment isn't and where the tipping point is.

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YES!!!

It's simple and effective, but It's counter-intuitive too.

Are you ready to hard-wire a new response to an angry child? Great, then. come and listen and prepare to be surprised at how your well your children respond to the new you.

They may not always remember the things you said, but they'll remember how they felt in your company when they were upset. 

And...

The link to Parenting For Life is here

The link for parent support is here 

The link for the script for this week's podcast is here 

(Give me a couple of days to pop it up)

acceptance

respect

understanding

sex

social media

How teachers can positively influence our children at a critical stage in their formative years.

Today I meet the woman who takes your parent-voice and your opinions to the places where they can influence.

Parent-ping is an App that canvasses the views of parents and shares them. So if you're wondering...

Is it just me?

Does anyone else think like this?

Does anyone else parent like this?

...you can go and find out. 

Come and meet a mover and shaker in the world of education - you'll soon see why she was awarded and MBE this year.

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This week I’m going to introduce you to my Iranian friend, Zara.  She’s gorgeous, she’s creative, she’s organic and she’s always up to something interesting: She lives in Cheltenham with her husband, Ahmed, a pharmacist, and their two children, Hannah 9 and Ali 7.

Zara is interesting in lots of ways; she ferments, she creates, she’s very into gut-health, interior design- I think that’s a few interesting ingredients. She also home-educates – come and meet her...

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This week I look at VS - Not Scotland vs England, but...

I am VS I did

Connect VS Correct

Quality VS Quantity

How we can respond to our children without getting their defences up and still be a great influence on their evolving decisions.  

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This week I chat with my friend Nicola Wall, who lives through the emotional and physical battles of having Cystic Fibrosis. She's open and honest about the challenges and experiences as well as the life changes they have chosen to make.

It's emotional, it's insightful and I'm humbled by her honesty. 

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Is this true - "Children are so resilient!" ???

How do we retain our own identity whilst parenting?

Can we flourish rather than just survive when the odds are against us?

Here's a story of an artist and photographer who thrives in spite of the odds... She's philosophical, funny, pragmatic and connected. She'll inspire and encourage you. That's Natalie!

Visit Natalie's website here

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Parenting consultations here

What do we know about Gen Z? What do they need from us in order to thrive in their cultural norms?

What does it mean to give our kids an attractive watering hole for a home so that we don't have to build high fences around them?

Come and listen to Alice Bond - she shares great ways to help our children retain their self-worth and connectedness to us.

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This week I'm doing a lightening tour of the 'Gens'. It'll help you to understand what defines them, what affects them and how they're shaped. Why? So we can better connect and positively influence this generation - our kids.

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For info on a parenting consultation pop here 

Here are the key research tools I used for this podcast:

The Varkey Foundation

Pew Research Centre

Jason Dorsey

McKinsey Global Institute

Does our voice have value among the many voices our children hear on line and around them?

This is choc full of sage advice. It will restore your hope.

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Find me on Instagram @thecourageousmumma

or email - madeleinestani@icloud.com

See you next week,

Mads x

He's worth it just for the laughs - and for the rendition of his Henry VIII revision piece.

He's wise, he's funny and his strategies got one of mine through his GCSEs and now we're using them again for A Levels.

Find Tim's book, Brain Box here

Find your discounted copy of Parenting For Life here

Find me on IG: @thecourageousmumma

or Madeleinestani@icloud.com

For details on a parenting session pop here 

See you next week,

Mads 

What was good?

What she'd change

And what's it's been like working as a nurse practitioner through this tough season.

Today's chat is full of pearls of wisdom and great stories. Philippa Nash is one of my go-to people and I'm so thrilled to introduce you to her.

Mads

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I chat to Cat Metcalfe about her journey from working in a corporation before kids through to having three kids and a home business. I enjoyed hearing the process of working out what business to set up by considering her skill set and what motivated her.

It's also really interesting to hear how she applies values to their family life.

If you'd like to hear the episode I refer to on knowing your child's voice and how to support them in their strengths,

pop here

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Pop here

To understand a little more about coaching,

pop here

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See you next week,

Madeleine

Laura Mears is a coach and she can be contacted here

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And we, the courageous kids have hijacked her podcast. Mum loves a practical joke and we wonder how long it will be before she realises she's been played - we've pushed this week's podcast on by a week and slipped our own in, with the help of that reliable rogue, David Baker. And spilled the beans on the courageous life!

If you'd like a copy of Mum's book, visit her website for the special offer

https://www.thecourageousmumma.com/parenting

If you'd like to get the low down on consequences, here's the relevant podcast. It's great. 

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-courageous-mumma/id1503997519?i=1000473663701

Connect here with Laura Mears, Co-Founder and consultant of Salmon Swimming Leadership Consultancy.

Pop here for your copy of Parenting for Life

Love Languages - pop to podcast nine

Empathy - Episode 50

Even if we're the kindest most understanding person in the world, I still believe empathy is honed, it's hard work. But it wins the trust of our children. 

Next week marks a year of podcasting, so this week I'm looking back and reviewing one of the most valuable, basic, but challenging tools of parenting.

Enjoy

what will you be grateful for?

What will you be pleased you did well?

What might you look back at and wish you'd done differently?

We have so much to learn from those who have gone before. They have the benefit of hindsight to add to their wisdom and so much to share.  This week, as it's mother's day, I've had a great conversation with my fabulous Mum. There are so many gems in this one. I loved it. I hope you will too.

Do contact me with questions, comments or to book a parenting chat. I'm the courageous mumma on Insta and the blog and thecourageousmumma@gmail.com

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So many parents out there are coping with a diagnosis for one of their children or a challenge that feels overwhelming. Here are a few common ones:

spectrum disorders

life-threatening diseases

disabilities

disorders

depression

anxiety

addiction

Celiac disease

Diabetes…

The list goes on. Today I chat to a mother whose child had a sudden diagnosis of Diabetes. We talk about the impact on their family, how they reacted and how they cope on an ongoing basis.

If you are struggling with a difficulty with one of your children, you’ll find some resonant themes. If you have a friend or relative coping with a difficulty, there could be some insights that will be helpful in understanding what they are going through.

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Always making the rules,

Always the kill-joy? 

This week I have an encouragement for you. If you're sticking to the rules, you're raising self-esteem. Who'd have thought?

And...I tackle a sure-fire way to stop the whinge-questions - why can't I have one? How come they've got one? You never... it's not fair...

And...do you find your child is struggling with writing and english and it's drowning their creativity? Come and pick up some great ways to re-inspire them. 

Grab yourself the book Parenting For Life here

See the matching blog page here if you like things in text to ponder over.

Thanks for coming.  See you next week. 

How to we say less and get more...

This week Vanessa Kahlon shares great ways to instil good behaviour patterns and keep in good relationship with your child without wasting your voice. And she tackles some of the tough parenting-questions and makes it all seem like good fun.

Here are some of the questions she answers:

What do you do about lying and deceit?

How do you respond to a child who is sneaking food?

Does ‘Sorry!’ have any meaning?

How can they restore relationship after conflict?

What do you do when they refuse to cooperate?

And we chat about why we hate Time-Out!

Some Great Links...

What does a parenting session with Madeleine look like? pop here

To read Vanessa’s guest blog this week pop here

To send Parenting For Life to a friend or to your door, pop here

Grab Vanessa’s brilliant book, Shut up and parent, pop here

All About Vanessa:

Kahlon family services:

https://kahlonfamilyservices.com/about-us/our-team/

KFS school:

https://www.instagram.com/kfs_school/?hl=en

See you next week...

Do you find it easy when your friends experience loss? Do you 

empathise?

Sympathise?

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Get lost for words?

Angharad Candlin is finishing her book on grief. It's a topic to get our heads around. When we, our friends or our children experience loss there are great ways to connect without worrying that it will be all consuming or feeling that we'll say the wrong thing.

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This app was born out of a recognition that young people (of all different backgrounds and upbringings) are leaving home and joining the work force without the strength and resilience needed to thrive.

After interviewing many young people they all pointed to the same issue - come and find out what's at the bottom of it all and what you can do to help your child thrive through childhood and beyond.

The link mentioned in the podcast about what you can do when you're feeling disempowered is podcast 6

The website Iamme. pop here

Parenting for life listener's price. pop here

You can find Hannah here

and this is her blog here

for your copy of the book Parenting For Life pop here

For pics of Colin and Delores pop here (allow a couple of days for this link to appear)

We cover empowerment, courage, arguments, 'sorry' when it's an empty word. We riff on the issues of shame, 'being true to yourself' and whether that's a worth excuse for some of the choices we make! Lies, unconditional love, it's all in there. I came away richer, I'm sure you will too.

Pop here for your copy of the book.

What do you do about it?

What help is available?

What can we do at home? - so much, very easily!

Tony France answers all those questions. This is one of those podcasts that everyone should hear.  Tony brings insight after insight and leaves you feeling empowered. 

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To enquire about a consultation with me pop here

To contact Tony pop here

To get in touch with me: thecourageousmumma@gmail.com

Do pop and rate and review the podcast - punch a few stars up whilst you're there.

Thanks,

Mads x

Start 2021 with one small step for you and one giant leap for the family.

Pop here for your listener's-price copy of Parenting For Life

https://www.thecourageousmumma.com/parenting

The script from the show will appear here a couple of days after the podcast release:

https://www.thecourageousmumma.com/single-post/communication

To contact me: thecourageousmumma@gmail.com

(I think I said icloud in the pod, so sorry)

I look forward to hearing from you.

Mads

Thinking ahead about what to put in and take out can make all the difference to the mood and atmosphere in your home this season. 

Parenting Coach, Julie Cresswell shares some great strategies for keeping the peace and meeting everyone's expectations (including yours) this Christmas 

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Find out more information about the work of Julie Cresswell at www.optimum-coaching.co.uk

and join her FB group here

And to read this week's guest blog by Julie, Are you secretly worried you've broken your child?  pop here

How are today’s  kids – 'Gen Zed' and 'Gen A' evaluating success in their material world? How can we help them to think critically and form their own world view - not just get swept up with the current?

Alice give us a great tool for connectedness and challenges us on the concept of being un-offendable! How would that impact shame in our families if we really mastered that?

To access your special offer (two books for £25), pop here

To contact me: thecourageousmumma@gmail.com

For the Blog, pop here

Alice mentions Slave Free chocolate. Find it here 

Thanks for listening,

Mads

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For parenting support pop here

To contact me: thecourageousmumma@gmail.com

To contact Joy: joy@alivechurch.org.uk

Come and hear

How and when to use Consequences (and when not to)

How to lean in when we feel like leaning away 

And what does it mean to raise children who manage themselves

Do send your questions to thecourageousmumma.gmail

or find me on my blog, pop here

And for those looking to buy the book Parenting For Life at the special 'listener's-price' pop here

pop here to find Hari

In the podcast Hari mentions building a family culture. Here is a two-pod series from The Courageous Mumma to help you create one with your family. Pop here to listen

She also talks about Love Languages. Discover what yours and your children's Love Languages are - and your partner's. You'll save yourself so much time and really reach the deepest parts of the hearts of those you love. Pop here to hear the podcast

To get your book at the special price pop here

In the next few days I'll post a blog to match the pod. It will be here

If you'd like to look into booking a chat pop here

And to find me: madeleinestani@icloud.com

and on Insta @thecourageousmumma.com

See you next week,

Mads 

George Orton chats to Tony France, who's an expert in all things drugs, drugs-related, adolescence, trauma or addiction related.

George asks Tony"

what's out there?

whats' the landscape like?

what do we tell them?

what should we know?

He's a psychotherapist with a difference and this conversation is a great way to get ahead of the drugs conversation with your kids.

I love hearing from you - contact me with questions, feedback, your stories, or links to guests you'd love to hear on the podcast: madeleinestani@icloud.com

For your copy of Parenting For Life Click here 

For this weeks notes to accompany the podcast click here 

(usually within two days of the podcast drop)

To get in touch with Tony France at HeadSight click here 

To reach the Trauma Action Group click here

This week I'm chatting with coach, seasoned parent and wise mother of four, Tania West. She's full of great advice, humble enough to share where she went wrong. And where she went right.  

I love hearing your feedback. Share your thoughts, questions or for parenting support Contact me on madeleinestani@icloud.com 

If you enjoy The Courageous Mumma, You'll love the book. For your special 'Listeners-price' pop here

To see some of the highlights of this week's podcast on the blog in written format pop here

For relationship coaching with The Relationship Academy pop here

For leadership coaching and to contact Tania West pop here 

If you're enjoying The Courageous Mumma, you'll love the book Parenting For Life. For your copy at a special price for listeners pop here here

Whether you're a CEO or a sole-trader - to find out more about Tim and also for Communication Skills support pop here

For Tim's Book Brain Box Essential guide to study success pop here

To find the marriage Course online that Tim mentions in the podcast pop here

To find the key notes for this weeks podcast in text form pop here 

If you're enjoying thecourageousmumma you'll love the book. To get your discounted copy pop here

If you'd like the script from this week's blog and some questions to get started with and inspiration, pop here

I love hearing from you, so do email with feedback or questions or to arrange an appointment madeleinestani@icloud.com

If you'd like to find this in text, pop here (it uploads about two days after the podcast drops)

If you'd like a copy of my book, either pop to the website here

or email me at madeleinestani@icloud.com

also, do email me with questions or stories or feedback. I love hearing from you.

If we want to raise children who thrive, who have high self-esteem and are emotionally intelligent, we need to be countercultural and go against the cultural grain.

So here goes for some truth-busting today.

Pop across to the website to get the transcript: here

I love hearing from you. Do contact me if you have topics you'd like covered or would like to arrange a consultation: madeleinestani@icloud.com

And for your copy of the book: here

If you're enjoying the podcast you'll love the book delivered to your door and you'll love the discount too. Link to book

If you'd like to read this weeks podcast, here it is in text: Link to blog

I love hearing from my listeners. Here's my email:

Madeleinestani@icloud.com

Have you asked yourself some of the big questions about where you're heading? Where your children are heading? Where your relationships are heading?

This week we look at some great ways to set the trajectory in the direction we want it to head.

Here's the blog if you want to follow it written down...

click here

Here's the link for my book:

click here 

Here's how to contact me:

madeleinestani@icloud.com

With strength and gentleness your kids will feel loved and safe. They'll know your expectations and limits clearly and know that your love is consistent when they make good choices and poor choices.

Thanks for joining us this week. I'll put some notes up on my blog so you have something in writing to refer to: Here's the link

And if you love strong, gentle parenting, you'll love my book; Parenting For Life. It's lovely to hold, lovely to look at, lovely on a coffee table quite frankly. And choc full of great ways to raise strong gentle adults from very small. Here's the link, with a 25% discount to my listeners.

This week we look at tools for refining; tools for connection and ways to respect ourselves so that our children do too.

BOOK

If you would like to look at the book and buy your discounted copy pop here

BLOG and here for the text version of today's podcast. Bear in mind it takes a couple of days to appear after the podcast comes out.

REFERENCES

I make some references today to podcast four - so pop across here afterwards

I also talk about consequences, so for more on that refer here to podcast seven for lots of examples and clarity on consequences not punishments. 

COME AND FIND ME

and to connect with me...   Madeleinestani@icloud.com

The blog to match the podcast here

my contact: madeleinestani@icloud.com

Parenting For Life Book here

Fostering information: Here

Parenting For Life book: Here 

My blog: Here

Psychotherapist Margy Wakefield talks us through the insights: find Margy

Find the blog to match the pod and have all the salient points in text right here

I love hearing from you. Keep the questions and encouragments coming: madeleinestani@icloud.com

It also takes the angst out of family life. 

Find more information on this weeks subject plus a link to my book go to my website:

www.thecourageousmumma.com

Personality test: https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new

Look out for the book: Knowing Me Knowing You

janyclementsyapp@gmail.com

Creating fair boundaries and managing them peacefully.

And just maybe there are some antidotes to that addictive on-line world

madeleinestani@icloud.com

Madeleinestani@icloud.com

Caroline Kelly is a counsellor to teens and young people and talks us through some of the challenges today's young people face.

She's also a guest blogger on thecourageousmumma.com this week, pop across and read her article on the causes of anxiety in young people. 

Madeleinestani@icloud.com

https://www.teencounsellingonline.co.uk

Laura Mears of salmonswimming.com brings her wisdom and knowledge this week to help us understand how to know and use our strengths as she shares about how the 5voices not only empowers leaders in business but makes all the difference on the home front.

salmonswimming.com

madeleinestani@icloud.com

@thecourageousmumma

teamlightson@explorium.co.uk.

3 day LightsOn course (reduced to £20) https://www.explorium.co.uk/jam

FB: The Lights On Mum

RACISM; I’M LISTENING!

I’ve asked people of different ages and races to contribute to a list to help us to begin to understand racism.

This is a great overview and explains the common expressions used:

https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/1S5uckFHCA_XZkxG0Zg5U4GQGbY_RklZARwu43fqJH0E/mobilebasic

WATCH

13th (Netflix)

Just Mercy (rent)

READ

How To Be An Antiracist. Ibram x. Kendi

White Fragility. Robin DiAngelo

Why I’m No Longer Talking To White People About Race. Reni Eddo-Lodge

White Rage. Carol Anderson

LISTEN (podcasts)

The Diversity Gap

About Race. by the author Reni-Eddo Lodge (as above)

Madeleinestani@icloud.com