Children First Family Law - Transforming how families navigate the challenging landscape of divorce. https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com Welcome to *Children First Family Law*, a podcast dedicated to transforming the way families navigate the challenging landscape of divorce. In an industry too often focused on litigation, financial battles, and a war-like approach, we advocate for a radical shift in priorities—putting the well-being of children at the forefront. Join us as we explore how to handle divorce in a way that protects children from the collateral damage of parental conflict and legal battles. We offer resources, insights, and expert advice to help parents understand how to manage divorce without destroying their children’s future. By highlighting the flaws in the current system and providing a roadmap for a more compassionate approach, we aim to become thought leaders in this space, calling for change within the professional landscape of family law. We’ll discuss crucial topics like collaborative and amicable divorce, parental alienation, and navigating the complexities of domestic violence and child abuse within the legal system. Through candid conversations and expert guidance, *Children First Family Law* equips families to emerge from the brokenness of divorce with their children’s well-being intact—just like a beautiful stained glass window crafted from shattered pieces. If you’re asking yourself, ”How can I ensure my children aren’t destroyed by my divorce?” or ”Why does my lawyer always push for litigation?” this podcast is for you. Tune in, and let us guide you toward a healthier, more hopeful future for your family. Mon, 09 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0400 https://podbean.com/?v=5.5 en Copyright 2024 All rights reserved. Society & Culture 1440 episodic Children First Family Law Children First Family Law No false https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/19246436/CFF_Cover_TM.jpg Children First Family Law - Transforming how families navigate the challenging landscape of divorce. https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com 144 144 073: Best Hits from the Archives: The SPLIT Films' Ellen Bruno: Giving Voices to Kids of Divorce 073: Best Hits from the Archives: The SPLIT Films' Ellen Bruno: Giving Voices to Kids of Divorce https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/073-how-do-i-get-my-child-s-voice-heard-picking-the-right-child-advocate-in-child-custody-cases-in-colorado/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/073-how-do-i-get-my-child-s-voice-heard-picking-the-right-child-advocate-in-child-custody-cases-in-colorado/#comments Mon, 09 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/3ff44b46-4180-349a-a7bf-ca6deedfa682 In this moving episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista welcomes acclaimed documentary filmmaker Ellen Bruno, the creator behind the powerful films “Split: The Early Years” and “Split Up: The Teen Years.” These documentaries feature a cast of real children who had experienced divorce of their parents, with purely their voices and artwork, no experts, no therapists, no adults – just the kids. Split featured the kids when young; Split Up then followed up with the same kids 10 years later, reflecting on how divorce had impacted them as they emerged into late teens and young adulthood. The films give incredibly powerful insight every parent going through family law dynamics should watch, as well as any professional in the family law arena. The film is raw, honest, and deeply impactful. 

In her conversation with Krista, Ellen shares the personal journey that inspired her to create Split, which began after her own divorce when she heard her own child and others in carpools from school discussing issues of divorce and the lightbulb that went off in her head that she could use her filmmaking to give voice to the voiceless and shine a light on the impact of divorce on children  She had already spent much of her career in humanitarian work and international filmmaking attempting to give voice to many different people groups, with films focusing on issues at the forefront of human rights. 

Ellen began her relief efforts in remote Mayan villages in Tabasco, Mexico. She worked in refugee camps on the Thai-Cambodian border with the International Rescue Committee, in Vietnamese boat camps with The Refugee Section of the American Embassy in Thailand, and as director of the Cambodian Women's Project for the American Friends Service Committee.

With a masters degree in documentary film from Stanford University, she is a recipient of Guggenheim and Rockefeller Fellowships, a Goldie Award for Outstanding Artist, an Alpert Award for the Arts,an Anonymous Was A Woman Award for the Arts, a Shenkin Fellowship from Yale University School of Art, and was an Artist-in- Residence at the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts, among many other accomplishments.

Krista and Ellen explore recurring themes from both Split films, including identity shifts, the emotional cost of “two homes,” and the unspoken pressure children feel to take care of their parents. They also highlight how parents, legal professionals, and mental health practitioners can utilize the films to gain a deeper understanding of the child’s perspective—and why it matters so much. Ellen shares, too, the potential for another film following up yet again with these now-adult kids and/or their parents, a possibility Krista encourages.

This conversation is a true gem for the podcast and a must-listen for divorcing parents, co-parents, attorneys, and anyone who works with families. It’s a powerful reminder that small choices can create lasting change and that truly listening to children can transform our approach to divorce.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The emotional cost of silence and shame in divorce
  • Why kids need space to share their experiences without adult interference
  • The impact of small co-parenting gestures, like family photos or shared events
  • How the Split films help parents and professionals re-center on children
  • A reminder that divorce doesn’t end in six months—it’s a lifelong transition

Resources from this Episode

To purchase the “Split” films:

Contact Ellen Bruno: info@splitoutreachproject.org

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this moving episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista welcomes acclaimed documentary filmmaker Ellen Bruno, the creator behind the powerful films “Split: The Early Years” and “Split Up: The Teen Years.” These documentaries feature a cast of real children who had experienced divorce of their parents, with purely their voices and artwork, no experts, no therapists, no adults – just the kids. Split featured the kids when young; Split Up then followed up with the same kids 10 years later, reflecting on how divorce had impacted them as they emerged into late teens and young adulthood. The films give incredibly powerful insight every parent going through family law dynamics should watch, as well as any professional in the family law arena. The film is raw, honest, and deeply impactful. 

In her conversation with Krista, Ellen shares the personal journey that inspired her to create Split, which began after her own divorce when she heard her own child and others in carpools from school discussing issues of divorce and the lightbulb that went off in her head that she could use her filmmaking to give voice to the voiceless and shine a light on the impact of divorce on children  She had already spent much of her career in humanitarian work and international filmmaking attempting to give voice to many different people groups, with films focusing on issues at the forefront of human rights. 

Ellen began her relief efforts in remote Mayan villages in Tabasco, Mexico. She worked in refugee camps on the Thai-Cambodian border with the International Rescue Committee, in Vietnamese boat camps with The Refugee Section of the American Embassy in Thailand, and as director of the Cambodian Women's Project for the American Friends Service Committee.

With a masters degree in documentary film from Stanford University, she is a recipient of Guggenheim and Rockefeller Fellowships, a Goldie Award for Outstanding Artist, an Alpert Award for the Arts,an Anonymous Was A Woman Award for the Arts, a Shenkin Fellowship from Yale University School of Art, and was an Artist-in- Residence at the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts, among many other accomplishments.

Krista and Ellen explore recurring themes from both Split films, including identity shifts, the emotional cost of “two homes,” and the unspoken pressure children feel to take care of their parents. They also highlight how parents, legal professionals, and mental health practitioners can utilize the films to gain a deeper understanding of the child’s perspective—and why it matters so much. Ellen shares, too, the potential for another film following up yet again with these now-adult kids and/or their parents, a possibility Krista encourages.

This conversation is a true gem for the podcast and a must-listen for divorcing parents, co-parents, attorneys, and anyone who works with families. It’s a powerful reminder that small choices can create lasting change and that truly listening to children can transform our approach to divorce.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The emotional cost of silence and shame in divorce
  • Why kids need space to share their experiences without adult interference
  • The impact of small co-parenting gestures, like family photos or shared events
  • How the Split films help parents and professionals re-center on children
  • A reminder that divorce doesn’t end in six months—it’s a lifelong transition

Resources from this Episode

To purchase the “Split” films:

Contact Ellen Bruno: info@splitoutreachproject.org

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3628 73 full 072: Will Divorce Ruin My Kids? 10 Co-Parenting Strategies to Protect Your Child’s Emotional Health 072: Will Divorce Ruin My Kids? 10 Co-Parenting Strategies to Protect Your Child’s Emotional Health https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/072-will-divorce-ruin-my-kids-10-co-parenting-strategies-to-protect-your-child-s-emotional-health/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/072-will-divorce-ruin-my-kids-10-co-parenting-strategies-to-protect-your-child-s-emotional-health/#comments Mon, 02 Mar 2026 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/9c48f272-6285-353b-9675-ae783181e2e2 In this episode, Krista speaks directly to parents who are lying awake at night asking the same question: Is this going to ruin my kids? Drawing from decades of experience as an attorney, mediator, parenting coordinator, and child advocate, Krista unpacks a hard truth—divorce itself does not automatically damage children, but chronic conflict and poor co-parenting absolutely can. She walks through ten practical, immediately usable strategies to lower tension and protect a child’s emotional safety.

Krista shares real stories from her work with families, highlighting how tone, structure, exchanges, and emotional regulation shape a child’s long-term wellbeing.

Divorce handled with maturity and intention can still raise secure, emotionally healthy children—and that choice starts with the adults.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why divorce itself does not automatically damage children but chronic conflict does
  • Ten practical strategies to reduce co parenting tension and protect emotional safety
  • Keeping children out of the middle and avoiding loyalty binds
  • Managing tone, messaging, and post visit interrogations
  • Creating structure and predictable routines to lower anxiety
  • Handling exchanges calmly to reduce stress and emotional fallout

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode, Krista speaks directly to parents who are lying awake at night asking the same question: Is this going to ruin my kids? Drawing from decades of experience as an attorney, mediator, parenting coordinator, and child advocate, Krista unpacks a hard truth—divorce itself does not automatically damage children, but chronic conflict and poor co-parenting absolutely can. She walks through ten practical, immediately usable strategies to lower tension and protect a child’s emotional safety.

Krista shares real stories from her work with families, highlighting how tone, structure, exchanges, and emotional regulation shape a child’s long-term wellbeing.

Divorce handled with maturity and intention can still raise secure, emotionally healthy children—and that choice starts with the adults.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why divorce itself does not automatically damage children but chronic conflict does
  • Ten practical strategies to reduce co parenting tension and protect emotional safety
  • Keeping children out of the middle and avoiding loyalty binds
  • Managing tone, messaging, and post visit interrogations
  • Creating structure and predictable routines to lower anxiety
  • Handling exchanges calmly to reduce stress and emotional fallout

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 2944 72 full 071: From the Archives: Incremental Trust Building for Co-Parents: A Challenge from International Expert Dr. Michael Saini 071: From the Archives: Incremental Trust Building for Co-Parents: A Challenge from International Expert Dr. Michael Saini https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/071-from-the-archives-incremental-trust-building-for-co-parents-a-challenge-from-international-expert-dr-michael-saini/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/071-from-the-archives-incremental-trust-building-for-co-parents-a-challenge-from-international-expert-dr-michael-saini/#comments Mon, 23 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/b44452ed-3ec9-3f81-8e36-f74b336c3247 Co-parents often find themselves at a stalemate with one parent distrustful of the other. Trust can be rebuilt, and returning guest Dr. Michael Saini has some tips on how to do it.

On today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes back Dr. Saini, a Toronto-based renowned psychologist who has authored more than 200 publications, including book chapters, government reports, systematic reviews, and a vast number of peer-reviewed journal articles highlighting research in the area of family law and its impact on children. Dr. Saini is a passionate advocate for children’s rights.

Krista and Dr. Saini begin their conversation by explaining the importance of establishing boundaries around trust and repairing trust violations in the context of a divorce situation. Dr. Saini outlines the research on trust as the number one dynamic for co-parenting success, emphasizing the importance of accepting who your co-parent is and building trust despite any disputes you may have with them. He shares why coming to terms with “good enough” parenting can be helpful, how the erosion of trust can lead to additional conflicts as co-parents, and why the conflict is worse for your kids than getting your way in the fight you’re having with your co-parent. You’ll hear Dr. Saini’s method of using mini goals to rebuild trust with your co-parent, the foundation childhood creates for trusting or distrusting in future relationships, the importance of exposing kids to new romantic partners carefully, and learning to become comfortable with your new roles post-divorce. Finally, Krista and Dr. Saini explain when trust-building models aren’t appropriate and how to figure out what each parent is willing to do to demonstrate their trustworthiness.

Trust is a complex and significant topic in divorce, and Dr. Michael Saini’s tips can help you rebuild trust with your co-parent and foster a healthy relationship for your children, thereby breaking intergenerational conflict tendencies.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Building boundaries around trust and repairing trust violations
  • Research about trust being the number one dynamic for co-parenting success
  • Dr. Michael Saini’s take on viewing trust as a bank account with a positive or negative balance based on experiences
  • The importance of coming to a place of acceptance of your co-parent, thinking beyond the dispute, and building trust
  • “Good enough” parenting and not placing your standards on the other parent
  • Why emotional processing is like an iceberg, because we only see a small portion of it
  • How erosion of trust leads to additional conflict in co-parenting
  • For your kids, the impact of the conflict is far more harmful than who 'wins' the argument.
  • Anger and fear as secondary emotions to fear
  • Using mini goals to rebuild trust
  • Childhood is the foundation for trusting or distrusting future relationships
  • When conflict is modeled poorly over generations,kids can repeat the same unhealthy patterns rather than learning how to resolve them
  • Exposing kids to new romantic partners very carefully
  • Boundary ambiguity post-divorce and becoming comfortable with new roles
  • When the trust-building models are not appropriate, especially considering the dynamics of violence
  • What each parent is willing to do to demonstrate trustworthiness

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Dickie 2015 Trust and Conflict Resolution - http://childrenfirstfamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Dickie-2015-Trust-and-Conflict-Resolution.pdf

Saini 2025 Trust in AFCC CA Handouts2PP - http://childrenfirstfamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Saini-2025-Trust-in-AFCC-CA-Handouts2PP.pdf

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

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]]> Co-parents often find themselves at a stalemate with one parent distrustful of the other. Trust can be rebuilt, and returning guest Dr. Michael Saini has some tips on how to do it.

On today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes back Dr. Saini, a Toronto-based renowned psychologist who has authored more than 200 publications, including book chapters, government reports, systematic reviews, and a vast number of peer-reviewed journal articles highlighting research in the area of family law and its impact on children. Dr. Saini is a passionate advocate for children’s rights.

Krista and Dr. Saini begin their conversation by explaining the importance of establishing boundaries around trust and repairing trust violations in the context of a divorce situation. Dr. Saini outlines the research on trust as the number one dynamic for co-parenting success, emphasizing the importance of accepting who your co-parent is and building trust despite any disputes you may have with them. He shares why coming to terms with “good enough” parenting can be helpful, how the erosion of trust can lead to additional conflicts as co-parents, and why the conflict is worse for your kids than getting your way in the fight you’re having with your co-parent. You’ll hear Dr. Saini’s method of using mini goals to rebuild trust with your co-parent, the foundation childhood creates for trusting or distrusting in future relationships, the importance of exposing kids to new romantic partners carefully, and learning to become comfortable with your new roles post-divorce. Finally, Krista and Dr. Saini explain when trust-building models aren’t appropriate and how to figure out what each parent is willing to do to demonstrate their trustworthiness.

Trust is a complex and significant topic in divorce, and Dr. Michael Saini’s tips can help you rebuild trust with your co-parent and foster a healthy relationship for your children, thereby breaking intergenerational conflict tendencies.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Building boundaries around trust and repairing trust violations
  • Research about trust being the number one dynamic for co-parenting success
  • Dr. Michael Saini’s take on viewing trust as a bank account with a positive or negative balance based on experiences
  • The importance of coming to a place of acceptance of your co-parent, thinking beyond the dispute, and building trust
  • “Good enough” parenting and not placing your standards on the other parent
  • Why emotional processing is like an iceberg, because we only see a small portion of it
  • How erosion of trust leads to additional conflict in co-parenting
  • For your kids, the impact of the conflict is far more harmful than who 'wins' the argument.
  • Anger and fear as secondary emotions to fear
  • Using mini goals to rebuild trust
  • Childhood is the foundation for trusting or distrusting future relationships
  • When conflict is modeled poorly over generations,kids can repeat the same unhealthy patterns rather than learning how to resolve them
  • Exposing kids to new romantic partners very carefully
  • Boundary ambiguity post-divorce and becoming comfortable with new roles
  • When the trust-building models are not appropriate, especially considering the dynamics of violence
  • What each parent is willing to do to demonstrate trustworthiness

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Dickie 2015 Trust and Conflict Resolution - http://childrenfirstfamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Dickie-2015-Trust-and-Conflict-Resolution.pdf

Saini 2025 Trust in AFCC CA Handouts2PP - http://childrenfirstfamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Saini-2025-Trust-in-AFCC-CA-Handouts2PP.pdf

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Children First Family Law false No 4194 71 full 070: BIFF Communication for Co-Parents with Bill Eddy: International Author and Expert on Coparenting Communication 070: BIFF Communication for Co-Parents with Bill Eddy: International Author and Expert on Coparenting Communication https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/070-biff-communication-for-co-parents-with-bill-eddy-international-author-and-expert-on-coparenting-communication/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/070-biff-communication-for-co-parents-with-bill-eddy-international-author-and-expert-on-coparenting-communication/#comments Mon, 16 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/3a73c817-d7fd-32b2-af10-3a9cfb209814 In this episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista is joined by Bill Eddy, co-founder of the High Conflict Institute and author of BIFF for Co-Parent Communication. They dive into one of the biggest challenges in family law cases: how parents communicate during conflict. Whether tensions show up around parenting time and decision making, medical issues, school events, or simple schedule changes, the way we respond can either calm the situation—or inflame it.

Bill walks through the BIFF method—Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm—and explains why managing your own communication is often the fastest way to reduce conflict. He also explores why some parents get stuck in anger and how that spills over onto children.

If you want practical tools to protect your kids and bring more stability to co-parent communication, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • What BIFF means and why Brief Informative Friendly Firm responses reduce conflict
  • How to respond to hostile emails without escalating parenting time and decision making disputes
  • The 10-question checklist before hitting send
  • Turning an inflammatory message into a focused BIFF response
  • Why unmanaged anger and blame keep parents stuck in high conflict
  • How one parent changing their communication can shift the dynamic
  • Practical tools from the High Conflict Institute for calmer co-parent exchanges

Resources from this Episode

Websites: https://www.conflictinfluencer.com/co-parenting https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

Many BIFF books: Coparent communication – https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Co-Parent-Communication-Difficult-Conflict/dp/1950057100/ref=sr_1_3?crid=QKXMIO5UFGIN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.d-iPiyrt8sAIpAtmKgrvqxqasiVMj2Y1668V1sdm9p9RIRwALrUb2WI2HrCFeWl5O0SYll50CInBtJt_tm0cXApce2CyUYZgQUiPhPZkUrFDg5Mzir9v0Ie5s_WMz5BMsMrWB4FhgxiDhZu41VDYx2MeMu7xYT41D6g-v8mii_S_fCS66goO4BGFK_ma2rUnd2gm4_f8xIoCe0V-3d4ytpaE4n1HxUyhqYssMM0DI1U.ZtNwku4cjDzPxx-yIYT8yi6THUImqBZ4qGOyVOCJ_7E&dib_tag=se&keywords=BIFF+books&qid=1770684270&sprefix=biff+boo%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-3 High conflict personality responses – https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Responses-High-Conflict-Personal-Meltdowns/dp/1936268728/ref=sr_1_2?crid=QKXMIO5UFGIN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.d-iPiyrt8sAIpAtmKgrvqxqasiVMj2Y1668V1sdm9p9RIRwALrUb2WI2HrCFeWl5O0SYll50CInBtJt_tm0cXApce2CyUYZgQUiPhPZkUrFDg5Mzir9v0Ie5s_WMz5BMsMrWB4FhgxiDhZu41VDYx2MeMu7xYT41D6g-v8mii_S_fCS66goO4BGFK_ma2rUnd2gm4_f8xIoCe0V-3d4ytpaE4n1HxUyhqYssMM0DI1U.ZtNwku4cjDzPxx-yIYT8yi6THUImqBZ4qGOyVOCJ_7E&dib_tag=se&keywords=BIFF+books&qid=1770684270&sprefix=biff+boo%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-2 Work – https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Work-Difficult-Workplace-Communication/dp/1950057127/ref=sr_1_4?crid=QKXMIO5UFGIN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.d-iPiyrt8sAIpAtmKgrvqxqasiVMj2Y1668V1sdm9p9RIRwALrUb2WI2HrCFeWl5O0SYll50CInBtJt_tm0cXApce2CyUYZgQUiPhPZkUrFDg5Mzir9v0Ie5s_WMz5BMsMrWB4FhgxiDhZu41VDYx2MeMu7xYT41D6g-v8mii_S_fCS66goO4BGFK_ma2rUnd2gm4_f8xIoCe0V-3d4ytpaE4n1HxUyhqYssMM0DI1U.ZtNwku4cjDzPxx-yIYT8yi6THUImqBZ4qGOyVOCJ_7E&dib_tag=se&keywords=BIFF+books&qid=1770684270&sprefix=biff+boo%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-4 Lawyers & Law Firms: https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Lawyers-Law-Offices-Communication/dp/1950057399/ref=sr_1_6?crid=QKXMIO5UFGIN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.d-iPiyrt8sAIpAtmKgrvqxqasiVMj2Y1668V1sdm9p9RIRwALrUb2WI2HrCFeWl5O0SYll50CInBtJt_tm0cXApce2CyUYZgQUiPhPZkUrFDg5Mzir9v0Ie5s_WMz5BMsMrWB4FhgxiDhZu41VDYx2MeMu7xYT41D6g-v8mii_S_fCS66goO4BGFK_ma2rUnd2gm4_f8xIoCe0V-3d4ytpaE4n1HxUyhqYssMM0DI1U.ZtNwku4cjDzPxx-yIYT8yi6THUImqBZ4qGOyVOCJ_7E&dib_tag=se&keywords=BIFF+books&qid=1770684270&sprefix=biff+boo%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-6

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All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista is joined by Bill Eddy, co-founder of the High Conflict Institute and author of BIFF for Co-Parent Communication. They dive into one of the biggest challenges in family law cases: how parents communicate during conflict. Whether tensions show up around parenting time and decision making, medical issues, school events, or simple schedule changes, the way we respond can either calm the situation—or inflame it.

Bill walks through the BIFF method—Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm—and explains why managing your own communication is often the fastest way to reduce conflict. He also explores why some parents get stuck in anger and how that spills over onto children.

If you want practical tools to protect your kids and bring more stability to co-parent communication, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • What BIFF means and why Brief Informative Friendly Firm responses reduce conflict
  • How to respond to hostile emails without escalating parenting time and decision making disputes
  • The 10-question checklist before hitting send
  • Turning an inflammatory message into a focused BIFF response
  • Why unmanaged anger and blame keep parents stuck in high conflict
  • How one parent changing their communication can shift the dynamic
  • Practical tools from the High Conflict Institute for calmer co-parent exchanges

Resources from this Episode

Websites:
https://www.conflictinfluencer.com/co-parenting
https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

Many BIFF books:
Coparent communication –
https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Co-Parent-Communication-Difficult-Conflict/dp/1950057100/ref=sr_1_3?crid=QKXMIO5UFGIN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.d-iPiyrt8sAIpAtmKgrvqxqasiVMj2Y1668V1sdm9p9RIRwALrUb2WI2HrCFeWl5O0SYll50CInBtJt_tm0cXApce2CyUYZgQUiPhPZkUrFDg5Mzir9v0Ie5s_WMz5BMsMrWB4FhgxiDhZu41VDYx2MeMu7xYT41D6g-v8mii_S_fCS66goO4BGFK_ma2rUnd2gm4_f8xIoCe0V-3d4ytpaE4n1HxUyhqYssMM0DI1U.ZtNwku4cjDzPxx-yIYT8yi6THUImqBZ4qGOyVOCJ_7E&dib_tag=se&keywords=BIFF+books&qid=1770684270&sprefix=biff+boo%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-3
High conflict personality responses –
https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Responses-High-Conflict-Personal-Meltdowns/dp/1936268728/ref=sr_1_2?crid=QKXMIO5UFGIN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.d-iPiyrt8sAIpAtmKgrvqxqasiVMj2Y1668V1sdm9p9RIRwALrUb2WI2HrCFeWl5O0SYll50CInBtJt_tm0cXApce2CyUYZgQUiPhPZkUrFDg5Mzir9v0Ie5s_WMz5BMsMrWB4FhgxiDhZu41VDYx2MeMu7xYT41D6g-v8mii_S_fCS66goO4BGFK_ma2rUnd2gm4_f8xIoCe0V-3d4ytpaE4n1HxUyhqYssMM0DI1U.ZtNwku4cjDzPxx-yIYT8yi6THUImqBZ4qGOyVOCJ_7E&dib_tag=se&keywords=BIFF+books&qid=1770684270&sprefix=biff+boo%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-2
Work –
https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Work-Difficult-Workplace-Communication/dp/1950057127/ref=sr_1_4?crid=QKXMIO5UFGIN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.d-iPiyrt8sAIpAtmKgrvqxqasiVMj2Y1668V1sdm9p9RIRwALrUb2WI2HrCFeWl5O0SYll50CInBtJt_tm0cXApce2CyUYZgQUiPhPZkUrFDg5Mzir9v0Ie5s_WMz5BMsMrWB4FhgxiDhZu41VDYx2MeMu7xYT41D6g-v8mii_S_fCS66goO4BGFK_ma2rUnd2gm4_f8xIoCe0V-3d4ytpaE4n1HxUyhqYssMM0DI1U.ZtNwku4cjDzPxx-yIYT8yi6THUImqBZ4qGOyVOCJ_7E&dib_tag=se&keywords=BIFF+books&qid=1770684270&sprefix=biff+boo%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-4
Lawyers & Law Firms:
https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Lawyers-Law-Offices-Communication/dp/1950057399/ref=sr_1_6?crid=QKXMIO5UFGIN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.d-iPiyrt8sAIpAtmKgrvqxqasiVMj2Y1668V1sdm9p9RIRwALrUb2WI2HrCFeWl5O0SYll50CInBtJt_tm0cXApce2CyUYZgQUiPhPZkUrFDg5Mzir9v0Ie5s_WMz5BMsMrWB4FhgxiDhZu41VDYx2MeMu7xYT41D6g-v8mii_S_fCS66goO4BGFK_ma2rUnd2gm4_f8xIoCe0V-3d4ytpaE4n1HxUyhqYssMM0DI1U.ZtNwku4cjDzPxx-yIYT8yi6THUImqBZ4qGOyVOCJ_7E&dib_tag=se&keywords=BIFF+books&qid=1770684270&sprefix=biff+boo%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-6

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3830 70 full 069: The Benefits of Full-Service Amicable Uncontested Divorce Mediation. How to Save Money, Reduce Stress, and Prioritize Your Family’s Emotional Health During Divorce 069: The Benefits of Full-Service Amicable Uncontested Divorce Mediation. How to Save Money, Reduce Stress, and Prioritize Your Family’s Emotional Health During Divorce https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/069the-benefits-offullservice-amicable-uncontesteddivorce-mediation-how-tosavemoney-reducestress-and-prioritize-your-familys-emotional-health-during/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/069the-benefits-offullservice-amicable-uncontesteddivorce-mediation-how-tosavemoney-reducestress-and-prioritize-your-familys-emotional-health-during/#comments Mon, 09 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/9124e782-d758-3a04-8bdf-b2e9af20602d It’s no secret that separations and divorces can be stressful, costly, and emotionally exhausting, and finding a solution that works for both parties involved and the children can feel impossible.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista outlines the options available to those seeking a divorce or separation, particularly in Colorado. The choices individuals make in this situation have implications, and Krista shares the potential pitfalls and considerations of each one. These options include handling the separation or divorce without an attorney, hiring an attorney (or two–one for each party), coaching services, mediation, and arbitration. She explains each one’s advantages and disadvantages. Krista offers a unique final solution she developed called an Amicable Uncontested Divorce Solution, in which she works with both co-parents to create customized solutions for their particular scenario. Finally, Krista shares the importance of preserving the co-parenting dynamic to reduce trauma for the involved children. She reveals the 13 steps she uses to determine if a potential client is a good candidate for this solution.

There is a path to a more peaceful separation of co-parents than attorneys on both sides ready for war. Krista’s Amicable Uncontested Divorce Solutions offer the answer you’ve been searching for.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The implications of the choices the involved parties make during a divorce or legal separation
  • Handling a separation or divorce in Colorado without an attorney and potential pitfalls and considerations
  • Hiring an attorney to handle your case, what to be aware of as you research who to hire, and when you can use one attorney versus two
  • The importance of prioritizing children during separation—and why many attorneys fail to do so
  • Investing in a coaching service and key factors to consider when evaluating your options
  • Krista’s tips for evaluating a mediator to handle a divorce or separation
  • The pitfalls of mediation and how it can derail a case.
  • Arbitration’s advantages and disadvantages as an option for handling a divorce or separation
  • Amicable, Uncontested Divorce Solutions at Children First Family Law tailors benefits for both co-parents seeking customized resolutions.
  • Minimizing trauma for children while preserving a healthy co-parenting dynamic.
  • Krista’s 13-step approach to achieving an amicable, uncontested divorce.

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> It’s no secret that separations and divorces can be stressful, costly, and emotionally exhausting, and finding a solution that works for both parties involved and the children can feel impossible.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista outlines the options available to those seeking a divorce or separation, particularly in Colorado. The choices individuals make in this situation have implications, and Krista shares the potential pitfalls and considerations of each one. These options include handling the separation or divorce without an attorney, hiring an attorney (or two–one for each party), coaching services, mediation, and arbitration. She explains each one’s advantages and disadvantages. Krista offers a unique final solution she developed called an Amicable Uncontested Divorce Solution, in which she works with both co-parents to create customized solutions for their particular scenario. Finally, Krista shares the importance of preserving the co-parenting dynamic to reduce trauma for the involved children. She reveals the 13 steps she uses to determine if a potential client is a good candidate for this solution.

There is a path to a more peaceful separation of co-parents than attorneys on both sides ready for war. Krista’s Amicable Uncontested Divorce Solutions offer the answer you’ve been searching for.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The implications of the choices the involved parties make during a divorce or legal separation
  • Handling a separation or divorce in Colorado without an attorney and potential pitfalls and considerations
  • Hiring an attorney to handle your case, what to be aware of as you research who to hire, and when you can use one attorney versus two
  • The importance of prioritizing children during separation—and why many attorneys fail to do so
  • Investing in a coaching service and key factors to consider when evaluating your options
  • Krista’s tips for evaluating a mediator to handle a divorce or separation
  • The pitfalls of mediation and how it can derail a case.
  • Arbitration’s advantages and disadvantages as an option for handling a divorce or separation
  • Amicable, Uncontested Divorce Solutions at Children First Family Law tailors benefits for both co-parents seeking customized resolutions.
  • Minimizing trauma for children while preserving a healthy co-parenting dynamic.
  • Krista’s 13-step approach to achieving an amicable, uncontested divorce.

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4436 69 full 068: Colorado Family Law: Understanding the Role of a CLR in Custody and Parenting Cases 068: Colorado Family Law: Understanding the Role of a CLR in Custody and Parenting Cases https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/068-colorado-family-law-understanding-the-role-of-a-clr-in-custody-and-parenting-cases/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/068-colorado-family-law-understanding-the-role-of-a-clr-in-custody-and-parenting-cases/#comments Mon, 02 Feb 2026 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/54f01fc5-375c-3769-b103-073d619e1874 In this solo episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista, a Colorado-based family law attorney and child advocate, breaks down her structured approach to serving as a Child’s Legal Representative (CLR) in high-conflict divorce and custody cases across the state.

Krista shares her 11-step process for advocating on behalf of children during some of the most complex and emotionally charged family law matters. Drawing on her experience practicing throughout Denver, Boulder, Fort Collins, and Colorado Springs, she guides listeners through the process of how CLRs are appointed, their interactions with families, and how they contribute to shaping child-centered solutions both inside and outside the courtroom.

From initial appointments and home visits to therapeutic collaboration and final court engagement, Krista explains how an active, negotiation-based model empowers children to have a voice while protecting their well-being. She also compares the CLR role to other evaluative processes used in Colorado family courts, including CFIs and PREs, highlighting the benefits of real-time engagement and ongoing problem-solving.

For parents, attorneys, and professionals working in Colorado family law, this episode offers a clear and practical guide to what it means to truly represent the best interests of the child, with a process that’s informed, intentional, and deeply rooted in trauma-aware advocacy.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How courts appoint a Child’s Legal Representative (CLR) in Colorado
  • Why earlier CLR involvement can lead to better outcomes for families
  • A detailed look at Krista’s 11-step CLR process, from start to finish
  • The value of active negotiation over passive observation in high-conflict parenting cases
  • The difference between a CLR and roles like CFIs or parenting evaluators
  • Strategies to support children’s voices in parenting time disputes
  • How Colorado-specific forms (JDF 1319/1320) initiate the CLR appointment process

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this solo episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista, a Colorado-based family law attorney and child advocate, breaks down her structured approach to serving as a Child’s Legal Representative (CLR) in high-conflict divorce and custody cases across the state.

Krista shares her 11-step process for advocating on behalf of children during some of the most complex and emotionally charged family law matters. Drawing on her experience practicing throughout Denver, Boulder, Fort Collins, and Colorado Springs, she guides listeners through the process of how CLRs are appointed, their interactions with families, and how they contribute to shaping child-centered solutions both inside and outside the courtroom.

From initial appointments and home visits to therapeutic collaboration and final court engagement, Krista explains how an active, negotiation-based model empowers children to have a voice while protecting their well-being. She also compares the CLR role to other evaluative processes used in Colorado family courts, including CFIs and PREs, highlighting the benefits of real-time engagement and ongoing problem-solving.

For parents, attorneys, and professionals working in Colorado family law, this episode offers a clear and practical guide to what it means to truly represent the best interests of the child, with a process that’s informed, intentional, and deeply rooted in trauma-aware advocacy.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How courts appoint a Child’s Legal Representative (CLR) in Colorado
  • Why earlier CLR involvement can lead to better outcomes for families
  • A detailed look at Krista’s 11-step CLR process, from start to finish
  • The value of active negotiation over passive observation in high-conflict parenting cases
  • The difference between a CLR and roles like CFIs or parenting evaluators
  • Strategies to support children’s voices in parenting time disputes
  • How Colorado-specific forms (JDF 1319/1320) initiate the CLR appointment process

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3683 68 full 067: Best Hits from the Archives: Top 10 Things to Do (and Don't Do) When Hiring a Divorce Attorney 067: Best Hits from the Archives: Top 10 Things to Do (and Don't Do) When Hiring a Divorce Attorney https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/067-best-hits-from-the-archives-top-10-things-to-do-and-dont-do-when-hiring-a-divorce-attorney/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/067-best-hits-from-the-archives-top-10-things-to-do-and-dont-do-when-hiring-a-divorce-attorney/#comments Mon, 26 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/0435f32e-210e-31db-ae74-19474d022364 Hiring the right attorney in a divorce case involving children can make or break your case. If you hire the wrong one, they could be a big problem.

In this replay episode of Children First Family Law, Krista offers the 10 dos and don’ts of hiring a divorce attorney. A good attorney should be a peacemaker, not a gladiator, which can foster the destruction of children’s well-being, parents, and individual parties. Toxicity generally isn’t necessary, even in potentially adversarial cases.

Finding amicable solutions for children's best interests is at the heart of this episode. Using Krista’s tips for finding a good divorce attorney, you could avoid a litigious, expensive, and destructive road.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The importance of hiring an attorney who is empathetic, warm, likable, and ethical
  • Krista’s tips for testing the accessibility and responsiveness of an attorney and their team
  • Ensuring your attorney will be clear and transparent about each step of the process as well as costs
  • How hiring someone who simplifies the process can save you a lot of money
  • Why humility is a valuable trait in an attorney
  • Reputability and its importance in the law community and red flags to consider
  • The value of an informed individual who is pursuing growth of knowledge and experience
  • The calming effect of a peacemaker in your corner
  • What a child-focused attorney can do for you versus one who isn’t
  • Problem-solving and finding the best solution for all involved parties

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Hiring the right attorney in a divorce case involving children can make or break your case. If you hire the wrong one, they could be a big problem.

In this replay episode of Children First Family Law, Krista offers the 10 dos and don’ts of hiring a divorce attorney. A good attorney should be a peacemaker, not a gladiator, which can foster the destruction of children’s well-being, parents, and individual parties. Toxicity generally isn’t necessary, even in potentially adversarial cases.

Finding amicable solutions for children's best interests is at the heart of this episode. Using Krista’s tips for finding a good divorce attorney, you could avoid a litigious, expensive, and destructive road.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The importance of hiring an attorney who is empathetic, warm, likable, and ethical
  • Krista’s tips for testing the accessibility and responsiveness of an attorney and their team
  • Ensuring your attorney will be clear and transparent about each step of the process as well as costs
  • How hiring someone who simplifies the process can save you a lot of money
  • Why humility is a valuable trait in an attorney
  • Reputability and its importance in the law community and red flags to consider
  • The value of an informed individual who is pursuing growth of knowledge and experience
  • The calming effect of a peacemaker in your corner
  • What a child-focused attorney can do for you versus one who isn’t
  • Problem-solving and finding the best solution for all involved parties

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3688 67 full 066: Divorce Done Well: A Child's Story, with Special Guest, Liberty 066: Divorce Done Well: A Child's Story, with Special Guest, Liberty https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/066-divorce-done-well-a-childs-story-with-special-guest-liberty/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/066-divorce-done-well-a-childs-story-with-special-guest-liberty/#comments Mon, 19 Jan 2026 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/159cb270-017c-3de0-b647-b202553e1a60 In this episode of Children First Family Law®️, Krista sits down with Liberty, a 21-year-old who grew up navigating her parents’ divorce in a way many families hope for but rarely see. Liberty shares what it felt like to be told about the divorce as a sixth grader, how her parents’ intentional co-parenting kept her out of the middle, and why clear structure and communication mattered more than she realized at the time.

Liberty reflects on growing up in two homes without conflict, watching her parents show up together for milestones, and later welcoming stepparents and stepsiblings into her life. Her story offers a rare, honest look at how divorce can reshape a family without breaking it.

This conversation is a powerful reminder that when adults truly put children first, kids can grow up feeling secure, supported, and hopeful.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Being told about divorce together and why that moment mattered
  • Growing up without being put in the middle of parental conflict
  • How structure and predictable parenting schedules created stability
  • Parents communicating directly instead of through their child
  • Navigating new partners and blended families without pressure
  • The difference between a “broken” home and a restructured one
  • How healthy co-parenting shaped long-term trust and relationships

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of Children First Family Law®️, Krista sits down with Liberty, a 21-year-old who grew up navigating her parents’ divorce in a way many families hope for but rarely see. Liberty shares what it felt like to be told about the divorce as a sixth grader, how her parents’ intentional co-parenting kept her out of the middle, and why clear structure and communication mattered more than she realized at the time.

Liberty reflects on growing up in two homes without conflict, watching her parents show up together for milestones, and later welcoming stepparents and stepsiblings into her life. Her story offers a rare, honest look at how divorce can reshape a family without breaking it.

This conversation is a powerful reminder that when adults truly put children first, kids can grow up feeling secure, supported, and hopeful.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Being told about divorce together and why that moment mattered
  • Growing up without being put in the middle of parental conflict
  • How structure and predictable parenting schedules created stability
  • Parents communicating directly instead of through their child
  • Navigating new partners and blended families without pressure
  • The difference between a “broken” home and a restructured one
  • How healthy co-parenting shaped long-term trust and relationships

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3217 66 full 065: New Year, Same Kids: 10 Resolutions Divorced Parents Can Make to Truly Help Their Children 065: New Year, Same Kids: 10 Resolutions Divorced Parents Can Make to Truly Help Their Children https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/065-new-year-same-kids-10-resolutions-divorced-parents-can-make-to-truly-help-their-children/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/065-new-year-same-kids-10-resolutions-divorced-parents-can-make-to-truly-help-their-children/#comments Wed, 31 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/9edd1975-dfe5-3082-931f-e4d74e920ae6 In this solo episode of Children First Family Law®️, Krista shares 10 practical resolutions for divorced and separated parents to make the new year—or any time of year—supportive for their children.

Recognizing that most parents genuinely want the best for their kids but often feel overwhelmed, hurt, or reactive, Krista emphasizes that children feel the effects of parental conflict even when no words are spoken. These resolutions are not about perfection. They are about intentional choices that prioritize children’s emotional well-being.

Krista walks through each resolution, offering concrete examples and strategies that parents can realistically implement. From stopping negative talk about the co-parent to creating calmer transitions, supporting consistency across households, and practicing flexibility, each resolution is designed to empower parents to show up differently for their kids. She also stresses the importance of processing personal emotional pain, seeking support through therapy or co-parenting classes, and modeling accountability through apologies and repair when mistakes happen.

By committing to even one resolution, parents can create meaningful ripple effects that positively shape their children’s experiences, emotional security, and development, proving that small, intentional actions often matter more than sweeping changes.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Stop speaking negatively about your co-parent and model emotional regulation
  • Keep children out of adult conflicts and communication loops
  • Pause before responding to reduce reactive conflict
  • Support your child’s relationship with the other parent
  • Make transitions calmer and more predictable
  • Prioritize your own emotional health and seek support if needed
  • Aim for consistency in routines, school expectations, and household rules
  • Apologize and repair when mistakes happen
  • Practice flexibility and prioritize what serves your child best

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this solo episode of Children First Family Law®️, Krista shares 10 practical resolutions for divorced and separated parents to make the new year—or any time of year—supportive for their children.

Recognizing that most parents genuinely want the best for their kids but often feel overwhelmed, hurt, or reactive, Krista emphasizes that children feel the effects of parental conflict even when no words are spoken. These resolutions are not about perfection. They are about intentional choices that prioritize children’s emotional well-being.

Krista walks through each resolution, offering concrete examples and strategies that parents can realistically implement. From stopping negative talk about the co-parent to creating calmer transitions, supporting consistency across households, and practicing flexibility, each resolution is designed to empower parents to show up differently for their kids. She also stresses the importance of processing personal emotional pain, seeking support through therapy or co-parenting classes, and modeling accountability through apologies and repair when mistakes happen.

By committing to even one resolution, parents can create meaningful ripple effects that positively shape their children’s experiences, emotional security, and development, proving that small, intentional actions often matter more than sweeping changes.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Stop speaking negatively about your co-parent and model emotional regulation
  • Keep children out of adult conflicts and communication loops
  • Pause before responding to reduce reactive conflict
  • Support your child’s relationship with the other parent
  • Make transitions calmer and more predictable
  • Prioritize your own emotional health and seek support if needed
  • Aim for consistency in routines, school expectations, and household rules
  • Apologize and repair when mistakes happen
  • Practice flexibility and prioritize what serves your child best

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 1943 65 full 064: Divorce Coaching Explained: A Child-Centered Tool Parents Don’t Know They Need with Tracy Callahan 064: Divorce Coaching Explained: A Child-Centered Tool Parents Don’t Know They Need with Tracy Callahan https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/064-divorce-coaching-explained-a-child-centered-tool-parents-don-t-know-they-need-with-tracy-callahan/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/064-divorce-coaching-explained-a-child-centered-tool-parents-don-t-know-they-need-with-tracy-callahan/#comments Mon, 22 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/ff3d1e02-2485-328b-bf64-3c42eb6a0fe5 Divorce often pushes parents into survival mode. Legal strategy and emotional overwhelm take center stage, while children absorb the fallout quietly and deeply.

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista explores a powerful but often misunderstood resource that helps parents navigate divorce more intentionally: divorce coaching.

Krista sits down with Tracy Callahan, co-founder of the Divorce Coaches Academy, certified divorce coach, and family mediator licensed in Florida and New York. Tracy brings decades of experience in alternative dispute resolution and a deeply child-centered lens shaped by both professional practice and personal parenting experience. Krista and Tracy unpack what divorce coaching actually is and, just as importantly, what it is not.

The conversation reframes divorce coaching as a future-focused, action-oriented form of dispute resolution rather than therapy or advocacy warfare. Tracy explains how divorce coaching helps parents regulate emotions, understand conflict dynamics, and develop communication skills that reduce escalation and protect children from being caught in the middle. Rather than reliving the past, divorce coaching emphasizes intentional decision-making, personal accountability, and preparing parents to participate more effectively in mediation, settlement discussions, and co-parenting.

Krista and Tracy also address common misconceptions, including the belief that divorce coaches exist to help parents “fight harder.” In reality, the work centers on minimizing emotional and financial damage, supporting conversations that matter, and helping parents shift from positional thinking to child-focused problem solving. They highlight how unmanaged conflict—not divorce itself—creates lasting harm for children, often with generational consequences.

Tracy shares insight into how divorce coaching complements legal representation, saves time and money, and helps parents stop using attorneys and courts as emotional outlets. The episode offers clarity for parents, professionals, and anyone working in family law who wants better outcomes for children navigating two homes.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Divorce coaching as a child-centered dispute resolution tool
  • Clear distinctions between divorce coaching, therapy, and legal advocacy
  • The impact of unresolved parental conflict on children
  • Emotional regulation as a foundation for effective co-parenting
  • Future-focused decision-making during divorce
  • Support divorce coaching provides in mediation and legal processes
  • Shifting away from win–lose thinking toward family stability

Resources from this Episode

www.divorcecoachesacademy.com

www.mediating-matters.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Divorce often pushes parents into survival mode. Legal strategy and emotional overwhelm take center stage, while children absorb the fallout quietly and deeply.

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista explores a powerful but often misunderstood resource that helps parents navigate divorce more intentionally: divorce coaching.

Krista sits down with Tracy Callahan, co-founder of the Divorce Coaches Academy, certified divorce coach, and family mediator licensed in Florida and New York. Tracy brings decades of experience in alternative dispute resolution and a deeply child-centered lens shaped by both professional practice and personal parenting experience. Krista and Tracy unpack what divorce coaching actually is and, just as importantly, what it is not.

The conversation reframes divorce coaching as a future-focused, action-oriented form of dispute resolution rather than therapy or advocacy warfare. Tracy explains how divorce coaching helps parents regulate emotions, understand conflict dynamics, and develop communication skills that reduce escalation and protect children from being caught in the middle. Rather than reliving the past, divorce coaching emphasizes intentional decision-making, personal accountability, and preparing parents to participate more effectively in mediation, settlement discussions, and co-parenting.

Krista and Tracy also address common misconceptions, including the belief that divorce coaches exist to help parents “fight harder.” In reality, the work centers on minimizing emotional and financial damage, supporting conversations that matter, and helping parents shift from positional thinking to child-focused problem solving. They highlight how unmanaged conflict—not divorce itself—creates lasting harm for children, often with generational consequences.

Tracy shares insight into how divorce coaching complements legal representation, saves time and money, and helps parents stop using attorneys and courts as emotional outlets. The episode offers clarity for parents, professionals, and anyone working in family law who wants better outcomes for children navigating two homes.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Divorce coaching as a child-centered dispute resolution tool
  • Clear distinctions between divorce coaching, therapy, and legal advocacy
  • The impact of unresolved parental conflict on children
  • Emotional regulation as a foundation for effective co-parenting
  • Future-focused decision-making during divorce
  • Support divorce coaching provides in mediation and legal processes
  • Shifting away from win–lose thinking toward family stability

Resources from this Episode

www.divorcecoachesacademy.com

www.mediating-matters.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3687 64 full 063: Co-Parenting Over the Holidays, with Dr. Marlene Bizub 063: Co-Parenting Over the Holidays, with Dr. Marlene Bizub https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/063-co-parenting-over-the-holidays-with-dr-marlene-bizub/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/063-co-parenting-over-the-holidays-with-dr-marlene-bizub/#comments Mon, 15 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/3503dffd-2348-348c-a1c4-b80bf6b532e6 The holidays can bring joy, excitement, and meaningful traditions, but for separated and divorced families, they can also amplify stress, conflict, and emotional overload.

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista explores how parents can navigate holiday schedules, shifting expectations, new traditions, and blended-family dynamics in a way that truly protects children’s emotional well-being. Dr. Marlene Bizub draws on nearly three decades of working with court-involved families to unpack why the season feels so intense and what parents can do differently to create calmer, healthier holidays.

Dr. Bizub and Krista talk through the issues that emerge every December, from split-day disasters to extended-family tensions, gift-giving challenges, travel disruptions, and the grief children often feel beneath the surface. Dr. Bizub offers practical strategies parents can act on right now, along with long-term guidance on flexibility, communication, and taking the high road. Whether you’re newly separated or years into co-parenting, this episode provides grounded, child-centered guidance for navigating the holidays more peacefully.

Dr. Marlene Bizub, a longtime psychologist working with court-involved families, shares her expertise on creating healthy traditions, supporting children through grief, and setting realistic expectations during the holidays. She highlights what children genuinely need, how parents can avoid emotional pitfalls, and why kindness creates lasting goodwill.

This episode reminds parents that even small changes in approach can transform the holidays for their children and for themselves.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Emotional pressures that intensify holidays for co-parents
  • The shift from rigid expectations to child-centered planning
  • Why avoiding split-day celebrations smooths the season for kids
  • Fresh ideas for building new, meaningful traditions
  • Approaches that help blended families adjust at their own pace
  • Thoughts on birthdays, gift-giving, and extended-family involvement
  • Flexibility strategies for travel delays, illness, and disrupted plans
  • How generosity and cooperation create long-term goodwill
  • Nonverbal communication patterns that shape a child’s experience
  • Ways parents can find support and care for themselves during the holidays

Resources from this Episode

www.amazon.com/Contentious-Custody-Really-Interest-Children/dp/1941870724

open.spotify.com/show/4LJ9Ey2LemBeXfkh4wNauv

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> The holidays can bring joy, excitement, and meaningful traditions, but for separated and divorced families, they can also amplify stress, conflict, and emotional overload.

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista explores how parents can navigate holiday schedules, shifting expectations, new traditions, and blended-family dynamics in a way that truly protects children’s emotional well-being. Dr. Marlene Bizub draws on nearly three decades of working with court-involved families to unpack why the season feels so intense and what parents can do differently to create calmer, healthier holidays.

Dr. Bizub and Krista talk through the issues that emerge every December, from split-day disasters to extended-family tensions, gift-giving challenges, travel disruptions, and the grief children often feel beneath the surface. Dr. Bizub offers practical strategies parents can act on right now, along with long-term guidance on flexibility, communication, and taking the high road. Whether you’re newly separated or years into co-parenting, this episode provides grounded, child-centered guidance for navigating the holidays more peacefully.

Dr. Marlene Bizub, a longtime psychologist working with court-involved families, shares her expertise on creating healthy traditions, supporting children through grief, and setting realistic expectations during the holidays. She highlights what children genuinely need, how parents can avoid emotional pitfalls, and why kindness creates lasting goodwill.

This episode reminds parents that even small changes in approach can transform the holidays for their children and for themselves.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Emotional pressures that intensify holidays for co-parents
  • The shift from rigid expectations to child-centered planning
  • Why avoiding split-day celebrations smooths the season for kids
  • Fresh ideas for building new, meaningful traditions
  • Approaches that help blended families adjust at their own pace
  • Thoughts on birthdays, gift-giving, and extended-family involvement
  • Flexibility strategies for travel delays, illness, and disrupted plans
  • How generosity and cooperation create long-term goodwill
  • Nonverbal communication patterns that shape a child’s experience
  • Ways parents can find support and care for themselves during the holidays

Resources from this Episode

www.amazon.com/Contentious-Custody-Really-Interest-Children/dp/1941870724

open.spotify.com/show/4LJ9Ey2LemBeXfkh4wNauv

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3709 63 full 062: Top Reasons Parents Lose Custody in Colorado — And How to Protect Your Parenting Time 062: Top Reasons Parents Lose Custody in Colorado — And How to Protect Your Parenting Time https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/062-top-reasons-parents-lose-custody-in-colorado-%e2%80%94-and-how-to-protect-your-parenting-time/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/062-top-reasons-parents-lose-custody-in-colorado-%e2%80%94-and-how-to-protect-your-parenting-time/#comments Mon, 08 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/5cb0aa34-ba95-3752-b997-73969aef4a85 In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista breaks down the leading reasons parents lose custody or experience restrictions on parenting time in Colorado.

Drawing on her work as a child advocate and family law attorney, Krista explains how judges evaluate safety, stability, mental health, and co-parenting behaviors when deciding on parental responsibilities. She also reminds listeners that “losing custody” in Colorado rarely means a permanent loss of parental rights. Instead, it typically reflects temporary limits tied to a child’s best interests.

Krista walks through the three most common categories that lead courts to restrict parenting time—safety concerns, parental unfitness or instability, and damaging co-parenting behavior. She illustrates each category with case patterns she has seen repeatedly in child advocacy work, including emotional abuse, unmanaged mental health issues, and behavior that undermines the child’s relationship with the other parent. She emphasizes that Colorado courts prioritize the child’s emotional and physical safety above all else, and that parents who take proactive steps, such as treatment, stable routines, and appropriate communication, can protect or rebuild their parenting time.

For parents, professionals, and supporters, this episode serves as a clear and practical guide to navigating Colorado custody cases while centering children’s well-being.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Safety issues that lead judges to restrict parenting time
  • Behaviors that courts view as instability or parental unfitness
  • Patterns of harmful co-parenting that damage custody outcomes
  • Practical steps parents can take to protect and rebuild time with their children

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista breaks down the leading reasons parents lose custody or experience restrictions on parenting time in Colorado.

Drawing on her work as a child advocate and family law attorney, Krista explains how judges evaluate safety, stability, mental health, and co-parenting behaviors when deciding on parental responsibilities. She also reminds listeners that “losing custody” in Colorado rarely means a permanent loss of parental rights. Instead, it typically reflects temporary limits tied to a child’s best interests.

Krista walks through the three most common categories that lead courts to restrict parenting time—safety concerns, parental unfitness or instability, and damaging co-parenting behavior. She illustrates each category with case patterns she has seen repeatedly in child advocacy work, including emotional abuse, unmanaged mental health issues, and behavior that undermines the child’s relationship with the other parent. She emphasizes that Colorado courts prioritize the child’s emotional and physical safety above all else, and that parents who take proactive steps, such as treatment, stable routines, and appropriate communication, can protect or rebuild their parenting time.

For parents, professionals, and supporters, this episode serves as a clear and practical guide to navigating Colorado custody cases while centering children’s well-being.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Safety issues that lead judges to restrict parenting time
  • Behaviors that courts view as instability or parental unfitness
  • Patterns of harmful co-parenting that damage custody outcomes
  • Practical steps parents can take to protect and rebuild time with their children

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 2316 62 full 061: Divorce & Money: Why it Matters for Kids, with Divorce Finance Expert, Todd Huetner 061: Divorce & Money: Why it Matters for Kids, with Divorce Finance Expert, Todd Huetner https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/061-divorce-money-why-it-matters-for-kids-with-divorce-finance-expert-todd-huetner/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/061-divorce-money-why-it-matters-for-kids-with-divorce-finance-expert-todd-huetner/#comments Mon, 01 Dec 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/06f7ecc7-65b6-36b7-b786-497ce76760c5 In this episode of the Children First Family Law® podcast, Krista opens the first installment of a recurring series on divorce and money, an area she rarely tackles but one that powerfully shapes children’s lives. To launch the series, she welcomes Colorado-based mortgage and divorce finance expert Todd Huetner, known nationally as the “divorce CFO.” With more than two decades of experience in lending, divorce finance, and collaborative family law, Todd guides families and professionals through the financial realities of housing decisions during separation and divorce.

Krista frames the conversation around a simple truth: housing stability profoundly influences children’s well-being. Whether parents keep the home, sell it, or relocate, financial planning directly affects where children sleep, how often they move, and whether parents can sustainably maintain two households. Todd explains that families often wait too long to explore housing options, which can limit choices, increase stress, and lead to preventable long-term consequences. Beginning early gives parents time to identify credit issues, gather documentation, understand real options, and reduce the fear that comes from not knowing what lies ahead.

Todd breaks down five common types of income that affect the ability to assume or refinance a mortgage in divorce: earned income, retirement/investment income, court-ordered support, co-signers, and creative trust structures. He explains how temporary maintenance, even at a very low amount, can start critical qualification timelines. He also addresses widespread misconceptions, such as the belief that a loan cannot be assumed, taking advice from lenders who provide incomplete information, and assuming a disadvantaged spouse cannot qualify for a mortgage. Many families unknowingly leave life-changing opportunities on the table.

Krista and Todd also discuss the real impact of relocation. When a parent cannot afford to remain in a community, the resulting move can disrupt children’s support systems, educational stability, and relationship with the other parent. Todd notes that short-term strategies, like staying in the home for a limited period, delaying a move, or restructuring assets creatively, can preserve options while reducing the likelihood of multiple relocations.

In the second half of the conversation, Todd turns to professionals—attorneys, mediators, and mental health experts—who often unintentionally limit their clients’ options by relying on assumptions or failing to understand how mortgage underwriting works. He emphasizes the importance of early consultation, correct terminology, precise drafting in separation agreements, and asking the right questions rather than the most obvious ones. A small oversight can cost a family tens of thousands of dollars or eliminate the possibility of homeownership entirely.

This episode gives parents and professionals a roadmap to approaching financial and housing decisions with clarity, creativity, and an eye toward children’s long-term stability.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Early steps that expand housing options during divorce
  • Types of income lenders can (and can’t) use during mortgage qualification
  • Hidden pitfalls in assumptions, refinancing, and temporary maintenance
  • How relocation pressures affect children when housing decisions go wrong

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law® podcast, Krista opens the first installment of a recurring series on divorce and money, an area she rarely tackles but one that powerfully shapes children’s lives. To launch the series, she welcomes Colorado-based mortgage and divorce finance expert Todd Huetner, known nationally as the “divorce CFO.” With more than two decades of experience in lending, divorce finance, and collaborative family law, Todd guides families and professionals through the financial realities of housing decisions during separation and divorce.

Krista frames the conversation around a simple truth: housing stability profoundly influences children’s well-being. Whether parents keep the home, sell it, or relocate, financial planning directly affects where children sleep, how often they move, and whether parents can sustainably maintain two households. Todd explains that families often wait too long to explore housing options, which can limit choices, increase stress, and lead to preventable long-term consequences. Beginning early gives parents time to identify credit issues, gather documentation, understand real options, and reduce the fear that comes from not knowing what lies ahead.

Todd breaks down five common types of income that affect the ability to assume or refinance a mortgage in divorce: earned income, retirement/investment income, court-ordered support, co-signers, and creative trust structures. He explains how temporary maintenance, even at a very low amount, can start critical qualification timelines. He also addresses widespread misconceptions, such as the belief that a loan cannot be assumed, taking advice from lenders who provide incomplete information, and assuming a disadvantaged spouse cannot qualify for a mortgage. Many families unknowingly leave life-changing opportunities on the table.

Krista and Todd also discuss the real impact of relocation. When a parent cannot afford to remain in a community, the resulting move can disrupt children’s support systems, educational stability, and relationship with the other parent. Todd notes that short-term strategies, like staying in the home for a limited period, delaying a move, or restructuring assets creatively, can preserve options while reducing the likelihood of multiple relocations.

In the second half of the conversation, Todd turns to professionals—attorneys, mediators, and mental health experts—who often unintentionally limit their clients’ options by relying on assumptions or failing to understand how mortgage underwriting works. He emphasizes the importance of early consultation, correct terminology, precise drafting in separation agreements, and asking the right questions rather than the most obvious ones. A small oversight can cost a family tens of thousands of dollars or eliminate the possibility of homeownership entirely.

This episode gives parents and professionals a roadmap to approaching financial and housing decisions with clarity, creativity, and an eye toward children’s long-term stability.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Early steps that expand housing options during divorce
  • Types of income lenders can (and can’t) use during mortgage qualification
  • Hidden pitfalls in assumptions, refinancing, and temporary maintenance
  • How relocation pressures affect children when housing decisions go wrong

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4729 61 full 060: Tech Tools for Coparents: Our Family Wizard App with Child Advocate Elle Barr 060: Tech Tools for Coparents: Our Family Wizard App with Child Advocate Elle Barr https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/060-tech-tools-for-coparents-our-family-wizard-app-with-child-advocate-elle-barr/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/060-tech-tools-for-coparents-our-family-wizard-app-with-child-advocate-elle-barr/#comments Mon, 24 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/1c239e71-38c1-343b-b0c5-df5bb1871b63 In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista continues the tech tools for coparents series with a deep dive into Our Family Wizard, one of the most established and widely adopted communication platforms in family law. She interviews Elle Barr, a former family law attorney, longtime guardian ad litem, and current Education Coordinator at Our Family Wizard, who brings more than two decades of child-focused legal experience to her work.

Elle explains how the platform’s design grew out of real-world family law challenges and why its features matter for reducing conflict, creating clarity, and strengthening the co-parenting relationship. She walks through how tools like messaging, the shared calendar, expense tracking, the Information Bank, ToneMeter AI, journal entries, third-party accounts, and documented audio/video calls are intentionally built to improve communication and protect children from the stress of unmanaged conflict.

Krista and Elle also discuss the importance of predictable documentation, the role professionals can play through their own linked accounts, and how transparent tools often prevent unnecessary litigation. Elle breaks down subscription tiers, fee waivers for families who qualify, and how Our Family Wizard supports parents navigating high-conflict situations, domestic violence restrictions, supervised contact, dependency matters, and everyday scheduling needs.

Whether listeners are parents, practitioners, or professionals supporting families in transition, this episode highlights how thoughtful technology can give structure, support, and accountability during and after separation. Elle’s child-centered experience and practical guidance offer a clear look at what effective co-parenting tools can accomplish when used consistently.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Tools inside Our Family Wizard that support clearer communication and documentation
  • How ToneMeter AI guides parents toward calmer, more respectful messaging
  • Ways the shared calendar, expense tracking, and Information Bank create reliability
  • Why documented calls and transcripts help in cases involving safety concerns

Resources from this Episode

www.ourfamilywizard.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista continues the tech tools for coparents series with a deep dive into Our Family Wizard, one of the most established and widely adopted communication platforms in family law. She interviews Elle Barr, a former family law attorney, longtime guardian ad litem, and current Education Coordinator at Our Family Wizard, who brings more than two decades of child-focused legal experience to her work.

Elle explains how the platform’s design grew out of real-world family law challenges and why its features matter for reducing conflict, creating clarity, and strengthening the co-parenting relationship. She walks through how tools like messaging, the shared calendar, expense tracking, the Information Bank, ToneMeter AI, journal entries, third-party accounts, and documented audio/video calls are intentionally built to improve communication and protect children from the stress of unmanaged conflict.

Krista and Elle also discuss the importance of predictable documentation, the role professionals can play through their own linked accounts, and how transparent tools often prevent unnecessary litigation. Elle breaks down subscription tiers, fee waivers for families who qualify, and how Our Family Wizard supports parents navigating high-conflict situations, domestic violence restrictions, supervised contact, dependency matters, and everyday scheduling needs.

Whether listeners are parents, practitioners, or professionals supporting families in transition, this episode highlights how thoughtful technology can give structure, support, and accountability during and after separation. Elle’s child-centered experience and practical guidance offer a clear look at what effective co-parenting tools can accomplish when used consistently.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Tools inside Our Family Wizard that support clearer communication and documentation
  • How ToneMeter AI guides parents toward calmer, more respectful messaging
  • Ways the shared calendar, expense tracking, and Information Bank create reliability
  • Why documented calls and transcripts help in cases involving safety concerns

Resources from this Episode

www.ourfamilywizard.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4084 60 full 059: Seeing Families Clearly: Understanding Neurodiversity in Family Law with Meggin Rutherford 059: Seeing Families Clearly: Understanding Neurodiversity in Family Law with Meggin Rutherford https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/059-seeing-families-clearly-understanding-neurodiversity-in-family-law-with-meggin-rutherford/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/059-seeing-families-clearly-understanding-neurodiversity-in-family-law-with-meggin-rutherford/#comments Mon, 17 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/c8ee73c8-e041-3868-b60f-70df64323ac6 In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista welcomes Meggin Rutherford, a Colorado attorney, mediator, and parenting coordinator whose professional work and personal experience give her a unique perspective on neurodiversity in family law. As an attorney with autism and ADHD, Meggin shares how understanding neurodivergent families can transform the way attorneys, judges, and parents approach custody, parenting plans, and co-parenting relationships.

Drawing from her own journey as well as her work with families navigating autism, ADHD, and other neurodivergent experiences, Meggin explains how the legal system’s “one-size-fits-all” model often fails these families. She emphasizes the need for individualized parenting plans, reduced transitions for children, and clear decision-making structures that account for each child’s unique neurobiological wiring.

Krista and Meggin discuss the difference between neurodiversity (the natural variation in how brains function) and mental health disorders, and why those distinctions matter when building parenting plans and advocating for children’s needs. They also explore how professionals can better support neurodivergent families through education, collaboration, and flexible approaches that prioritize each child’s comfort and security.

Meggin offers powerful analogies, such as comparing neurodiverse brains to Linux operating systems, to help listeners grasp how neurodivergent children experience the world. She also highlights how unrecognized neurodiversity in parents can influence family dynamics and decision-making during divorce. Her message is both practical and hopeful: when parents and professionals understand these differences, they can create plans that allow every child to thrive.

This conversation invites attorneys, mental health professionals, and parents alike to see families more clearly and to understand that labels, when embraced, can be empowering tools for support and belonging.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The difference between neurodiversity and mental health disorders
  • Why neurodivergent families need customized parenting plans and reduced transitions
  • How shared decision-making can create challenges for families with neurodivergent children
  • The importance of professionals recognizing and accommodating neurodiverse parents and kids

Resources from this Episode

mrutherfordlaw.com/meggin

  • Resources for Families and Professionals Autism:
      • Autism: A New Understanding – Verywell Magazine Special Edition
      • Uniquely Human by Barry Prizant, PhD
      • A Different Kind of Normal by Abigail Balfe
      • Strengths-Based Guide to Supporting Autistic Children by Claire O’Neill
  • ADHD:
    • How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe (book and YouTube)
    • The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene
    • ADHD 2.0 by Dr. Edward Hallowell and Dr. John Ratey

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista welcomes Meggin Rutherford, a Colorado attorney, mediator, and parenting coordinator whose professional work and personal experience give her a unique perspective on neurodiversity in family law. As an attorney with autism and ADHD, Meggin shares how understanding neurodivergent families can transform the way attorneys, judges, and parents approach custody, parenting plans, and co-parenting relationships.

Drawing from her own journey as well as her work with families navigating autism, ADHD, and other neurodivergent experiences, Meggin explains how the legal system’s “one-size-fits-all” model often fails these families. She emphasizes the need for individualized parenting plans, reduced transitions for children, and clear decision-making structures that account for each child’s unique neurobiological wiring.

Krista and Meggin discuss the difference between neurodiversity (the natural variation in how brains function) and mental health disorders, and why those distinctions matter when building parenting plans and advocating for children’s needs. They also explore how professionals can better support neurodivergent families through education, collaboration, and flexible approaches that prioritize each child’s comfort and security.

Meggin offers powerful analogies, such as comparing neurodiverse brains to Linux operating systems, to help listeners grasp how neurodivergent children experience the world. She also highlights how unrecognized neurodiversity in parents can influence family dynamics and decision-making during divorce. Her message is both practical and hopeful: when parents and professionals understand these differences, they can create plans that allow every child to thrive.

This conversation invites attorneys, mental health professionals, and parents alike to see families more clearly and to understand that labels, when embraced, can be empowering tools for support and belonging.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The difference between neurodiversity and mental health disorders
  • Why neurodivergent families need customized parenting plans and reduced transitions
  • How shared decision-making can create challenges for families with neurodivergent children
  • The importance of professionals recognizing and accommodating neurodiverse parents and kids

Resources from this Episode

mrutherfordlaw.com/meggin

  • Resources for Families and Professionals
    Autism:
      • Autism: A New Understanding – Verywell Magazine Special Edition
      • Uniquely Human by Barry Prizant, PhD
      • A Different Kind of Normal by Abigail Balfe
      • Strengths-Based Guide to Supporting Autistic Children by Claire O’Neill
  • ADHD:
    • How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe (book and YouTube)
    • The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene
    • ADHD 2.0 by Dr. Edward Hallowell and Dr. John Ratey

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4380 59 full 058: Coercive Control, Accountability & Custody — A Deep Dive with Nil Buckley 058: Coercive Control, Accountability & Custody — A Deep Dive with Nil Buckley https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/058-coercive-control-accountability-custody-%e2%80%94-a-deep-dive-with-nil-buckley/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/058-coercive-control-accountability-custody-%e2%80%94-a-deep-dive-with-nil-buckley/#comments Mon, 10 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/0dbf5787-a502-3ba7-93b2-0497da126a88 In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista welcomes Nil Buckley, a licensed professional counselor, licensed addiction counselor, and domestic violence clinical supervisor whose expertise bridges trauma-informed mental health, forensic evaluation, and family law. Nil is the founder of Vivas Counseling and Care Forensic Solutions and creator of The CARE Method, an evidence-based program now used in multiple states to support both survivors and offenders. Her background includes extensive work with the Colorado Department of Corrections, court-ordered treatment programs, and expert testimony in criminal and domestic relations cases.

Drawing from this deep professional experience, Nil joins Krista to explore how coercive control and its related forms, including legal abuse, financial manipulation, and psychological coercion, show up in custody cases and family court. She explains that there are now 24 recognized forms of abuse in the global research literature, yet many family law professionals still focus only on physical harm. Nil’s work seeks to change that by educating judges, attorneys, and mental health providers about the full spectrum of domestic violence and its impact on children.

The discussion also examines Colorado’s evolving domestic violence laws, such as Kayden’s Law, which aim to protect families better but can be challenging to implement consistently in court. Nil and Krista address the tension between holding offenders accountable and ensuring survivors aren’t further harmed by systems meant to safeguard them. They share real-world examples of how trauma, reactive behaviors, and legal complexity intersect in divorce and custody disputes and what professionals can do to create safer, more balanced outcomes.

This conversation launches a continuing series on domestic violence and coercive control, setting the stage for future episodes with Nil that will dive even deeper into the realities of abuse, accountability, and healing in family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Expanding definitions of abuse beyond physical violence
  • How coercive control and legal abuse appear in custody disputes
  • Why trauma-informed evaluations matter in family law cases
  • The complexities of applying Kayden’s Law and related legislation
  • How professionals can balance accountability with survivor protection
  • The importance of continued education across courts and legal systems

 

Resources from this Episode

safersociety.org/nil-buckley-ma-lpc-lac-dvcs-ncc-acs

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista welcomes Nil Buckley, a licensed professional counselor, licensed addiction counselor, and domestic violence clinical supervisor whose expertise bridges trauma-informed mental health, forensic evaluation, and family law. Nil is the founder of Vivas Counseling and Care Forensic Solutions and creator of The CARE Method, an evidence-based program now used in multiple states to support both survivors and offenders. Her background includes extensive work with the Colorado Department of Corrections, court-ordered treatment programs, and expert testimony in criminal and domestic relations cases.

Drawing from this deep professional experience, Nil joins Krista to explore how coercive control and its related forms, including legal abuse, financial manipulation, and psychological coercion, show up in custody cases and family court. She explains that there are now 24 recognized forms of abuse in the global research literature, yet many family law professionals still focus only on physical harm. Nil’s work seeks to change that by educating judges, attorneys, and mental health providers about the full spectrum of domestic violence and its impact on children.

The discussion also examines Colorado’s evolving domestic violence laws, such as Kayden’s Law, which aim to protect families better but can be challenging to implement consistently in court. Nil and Krista address the tension between holding offenders accountable and ensuring survivors aren’t further harmed by systems meant to safeguard them. They share real-world examples of how trauma, reactive behaviors, and legal complexity intersect in divorce and custody disputes and what professionals can do to create safer, more balanced outcomes.

This conversation launches a continuing series on domestic violence and coercive control, setting the stage for future episodes with Nil that will dive even deeper into the realities of abuse, accountability, and healing in family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Expanding definitions of abuse beyond physical violence
  • How coercive control and legal abuse appear in custody disputes
  • Why trauma-informed evaluations matter in family law cases
  • The complexities of applying Kayden’s Law and related legislation
  • How professionals can balance accountability with survivor protection
  • The importance of continued education across courts and legal systems

 

Resources from this Episode

safersociety.org/nil-buckley-ma-lpc-lac-dvcs-ncc-acs

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3747 58 full 057: Creating a Child-Centered Parenting Plan: How to Build Predictability, Peace, and Emotional Safety After Divorce 057: Creating a Child-Centered Parenting Plan: How to Build Predictability, Peace, and Emotional Safety After Divorce https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/057-how-to-create-a-parenting-plan-through-amicable-approaches-that-put-your-child-first/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/057-how-to-create-a-parenting-plan-through-amicable-approaches-that-put-your-child-first/#comments Mon, 03 Nov 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/1a3a012a-07f6-3c3f-9c77-5d66beb870d0 In this solo episode of the Children First Family Law® podcast, Krista explores one of the most essential tools for helping children thrive after separation or divorce—a thoughtful, child-centered parenting plan. Drawing from years of experience as a family law attorney, mediator, and parenting coordinator, Krista explains how clarity, predictability, and flexibility can create emotional safety for children during family transitions.

She breaks down how to design developmentally appropriate parenting schedules from infancy through adolescence and explains why focusing on stability rather than strict equality best supports a child’s well-being. Krista also covers shared decision-making, communication strategies, managing holidays and vacations, handling new relationships, and addressing common pitfalls like technology use and “right of first refusal” clauses. Throughout the episode, she emphasizes that clarity is love, predictability is safety, and structure is one of the greatest gifts parents can give their children.

Krista closes the episode by previewing her upcoming 16-week Co-Parent Coaching Program, designed to help parents create peaceful, structured, and emotionally healthy co-parenting lives. This October episode is a roadmap for parents seeking to build a stable and cooperative foundation for their children, even amid the challenges of family restructuring.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The core philosophy behind a peaceful, child-centered parenting plan
  • How to structure parenting schedules for different age groups
  • Ways to handle decision-making responsibilities without conflict
  • Communication strategies that foster cooperation and reduce tension
  • How to address holidays, vacations, and new relationships thoughtfully
  • The importance of predictability, emotional safety, and flexibility

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

]]> In this solo episode of the Children First Family Law® podcast, Krista explores one of the most essential tools for helping children thrive after separation or divorce—a thoughtful, child-centered parenting plan. Drawing from years of experience as a family law attorney, mediator, and parenting coordinator, Krista explains how clarity, predictability, and flexibility can create emotional safety for children during family transitions.

She breaks down how to design developmentally appropriate parenting schedules from infancy through adolescence and explains why focusing on stability rather than strict equality best supports a child’s well-being. Krista also covers shared decision-making, communication strategies, managing holidays and vacations, handling new relationships, and addressing common pitfalls like technology use and “right of first refusal” clauses. Throughout the episode, she emphasizes that clarity is love, predictability is safety, and structure is one of the greatest gifts parents can give their children.

Krista closes the episode by previewing her upcoming 16-week Co-Parent Coaching Program, designed to help parents create peaceful, structured, and emotionally healthy co-parenting lives. This October episode is a roadmap for parents seeking to build a stable and cooperative foundation for their children, even amid the challenges of family restructuring.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The core philosophy behind a peaceful, child-centered parenting plan
  • How to structure parenting schedules for different age groups
  • Ways to handle decision-making responsibilities without conflict
  • Communication strategies that foster cooperation and reduce tension
  • How to address holidays, vacations, and new relationships thoughtfully
  • The importance of predictability, emotional safety, and flexibility

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3811 57 full 056: Living Together During Separation: Nesting and Early Transitions, with Coparenting Expert Christina McGhee 056: Living Together During Separation: Nesting and Early Transitions, with Coparenting Expert Christina McGhee https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/056-living-together-during-separation-nesting-and-early-transitions-with-coparenting-expert-christina-mcghee/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/056-living-together-during-separation-nesting-and-early-transitions-with-coparenting-expert-christina-mcghee/#comments Mon, 27 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/0da8bad9-70a3-3509-b839-ef2ff548a5d1 In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Christina McGhee, a co-parenting expert, mediator, and author of “Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids.” Christina brings decades of experience helping families navigate the challenges of separation and divorce, offering practical strategies to support both parents and children during transitions.

Krista and Christina explore the concept of nesting, where parents temporarily share the same home after separation, allowing children to remain in one familiar environment. They discuss how nesting can help parents practice new roles, build trust, and gradually shift responsibilities, while highlighting common challenges such as establishing boundaries, managing expectations, and accommodating children’s preferences.

The conversation also delves into the importance of communication, routines, and consistency for children. Christina shares actionable guidance on setting expectations for “on duty” and “off duty” parenting, fostering healthy parent-child relationships, and preparing children for changes in family structure. They also address societal expectations around mothering and fathering, and the impact of premature introduction of new partners.

Throughout the episode, Christina emphasizes practical, grounded strategies parents can use to navigate co-parenting successfully. She highlights resources for parents, including her website and comprehensive guides, and emphasizes the importance of building resilience in children to cope with uncertainty and change. This episode offers a wealth of actionable insights for parents, professionals, and anyone supporting families through separation and divorce.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • What nesting involves and how it supports children during separation
  • Ways parents can keep boundaries clear while sharing space
  • Emotional and logistical realities of early co-parenting transitions
  • The role of communication and shared purpose in making nesting work
  • Situations where nesting may not serve a family well
  • How professionals can guide parents through early transition planning

Resources from this Episode

Christina McGhee, Divorce Parenting Expert, Trainer, Coach, Author, Education & Training Director: SPLIT Films – Divorce and Children, LLC

coparentingspecialist.com

divorceandchildren.com

Book: Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids

www.amazon.com/s?k=parenting+apart+christina+mcghee&crid=3T5BH29G1YY0&sprefix=parenting+apart%2Caps%2C163&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-pd-dpltr-ranker_2_15

divorceandchildren.com/about-christina-mcghee

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Christina McGhee, a co-parenting expert, mediator, and author of “Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids.” Christina brings decades of experience helping families navigate the challenges of separation and divorce, offering practical strategies to support both parents and children during transitions.

Krista and Christina explore the concept of nesting, where parents temporarily share the same home after separation, allowing children to remain in one familiar environment. They discuss how nesting can help parents practice new roles, build trust, and gradually shift responsibilities, while highlighting common challenges such as establishing boundaries, managing expectations, and accommodating children’s preferences.

The conversation also delves into the importance of communication, routines, and consistency for children. Christina shares actionable guidance on setting expectations for “on duty” and “off duty” parenting, fostering healthy parent-child relationships, and preparing children for changes in family structure. They also address societal expectations around mothering and fathering, and the impact of premature introduction of new partners.

Throughout the episode, Christina emphasizes practical, grounded strategies parents can use to navigate co-parenting successfully. She highlights resources for parents, including her website and comprehensive guides, and emphasizes the importance of building resilience in children to cope with uncertainty and change. This episode offers a wealth of actionable insights for parents, professionals, and anyone supporting families through separation and divorce.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • What nesting involves and how it supports children during separation
  • Ways parents can keep boundaries clear while sharing space
  • Emotional and logistical realities of early co-parenting transitions
  • The role of communication and shared purpose in making nesting work
  • Situations where nesting may not serve a family well
  • How professionals can guide parents through early transition planning

Resources from this Episode

Christina McGhee, Divorce Parenting Expert, Trainer, Coach, Author, Education & Training Director: SPLIT Films – Divorce and Children, LLC

coparentingspecialist.com

divorceandchildren.com

Book: Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids

www.amazon.com/s?k=parenting+apart+christina+mcghee&crid=3T5BH29G1YY0&sprefix=parenting+apart%2Caps%2C163&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-pd-dpltr-ranker_2_15

divorceandchildren.com/about-christina-mcghee

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3702 56 full 055: ACEs in the Family Law System - Protecting Children Through Advocacy and Awareness - Part 4 of a 4-Part Series 055: ACEs in the Family Law System - Protecting Children Through Advocacy and Awareness - Part 4 of a 4-Part Series https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/055-aces-in-the-family-law-system-protecting-children-through-advocacy-and-awareness-part-4-of-a-4-part-series/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/055-aces-in-the-family-law-system-protecting-children-through-advocacy-and-awareness-part-4-of-a-4-part-series/#comments Mon, 20 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/22024e99-0837-3fa0-9983-3b07a2dbf63c In this final episode of the four-part ACEs series on Children First Family Law, Krista dives into practical strategies for parents and professionals to support children through adverse experiences and the complex realities of family law. Building on earlier discussions about parental addiction, attachment, and trauma, Krista outlines ways parents can actively foster resilience and emotional security for their children, even when co-parenting challenges arise.

Krista emphasizes the importance of separating a child’s perception of a parent from the parent’s struggles. She shares creative approaches, such as building a library of videos of a parent reading or engaging with the child during periods of instability. By doing this, parents can validate their child’s connection with both caregivers, avoid reinforcing negative feelings, and promote stability and trust, even in difficult circumstances. Small rituals, predictable routines, affirming therapy, and engagement with activities like art or nature help children feel secure and supported, and demonstrate the power of consistent presence over conflict.

The episode also expands the focus to professionals in the family law system, including judges, attorneys, child advocates, and therapists. Krista outlines how the adversarial structure of courts can unintentionally exacerbate trauma for both children and parents, and how trauma-informed approaches grounded in safety, trust, choice, collaboration, and empowerment can mitigate harm. She highlights the need for trauma-informed language, empathy, and curiosity, both in interactions with families and in self-care for professionals navigating high-conflict cases.

Closing the series, Krista paints a vision for a family law system that prioritizes children’s safety, emotional security, and long-term resilience. By combining research on ACES, practical parenting strategies, and professional responsibility, she challenges parents and practitioners to reframe conflict as an opportunity to foster connection and healing. The episode reinforces that trauma-informed advocacy is not only possible. It is essential to shape outcomes that truly serve families and communities.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How to foster attachment and resilience in children when one parent struggles with addiction
  • Practical strategies to maintain children’s connection to both parents through creative tools and predictable routines
  • The importance of trauma-informed approaches in the family law system
  • How small actions by parents and professionals can prevent new adverse childhood experiences
  • Ways professionals can shift from judgment to empathy, curiosity, and healing-centered advocacy

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this final episode of the four-part ACEs series on Children First Family Law, Krista dives into practical strategies for parents and professionals to support children through adverse experiences and the complex realities of family law. Building on earlier discussions about parental addiction, attachment, and trauma, Krista outlines ways parents can actively foster resilience and emotional security for their children, even when co-parenting challenges arise.

Krista emphasizes the importance of separating a child’s perception of a parent from the parent’s struggles. She shares creative approaches, such as building a library of videos of a parent reading or engaging with the child during periods of instability. By doing this, parents can validate their child’s connection with both caregivers, avoid reinforcing negative feelings, and promote stability and trust, even in difficult circumstances. Small rituals, predictable routines, affirming therapy, and engagement with activities like art or nature help children feel secure and supported, and demonstrate the power of consistent presence over conflict.

The episode also expands the focus to professionals in the family law system, including judges, attorneys, child advocates, and therapists. Krista outlines how the adversarial structure of courts can unintentionally exacerbate trauma for both children and parents, and how trauma-informed approaches grounded in safety, trust, choice, collaboration, and empowerment can mitigate harm. She highlights the need for trauma-informed language, empathy, and curiosity, both in interactions with families and in self-care for professionals navigating high-conflict cases.

Closing the series, Krista paints a vision for a family law system that prioritizes children’s safety, emotional security, and long-term resilience. By combining research on ACES, practical parenting strategies, and professional responsibility, she challenges parents and practitioners to reframe conflict as an opportunity to foster connection and healing. The episode reinforces that trauma-informed advocacy is not only possible. It is essential to shape outcomes that truly serve families and communities.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How to foster attachment and resilience in children when one parent struggles with addiction
  • Practical strategies to maintain children’s connection to both parents through creative tools and predictable routines
  • The importance of trauma-informed approaches in the family law system
  • How small actions by parents and professionals can prevent new adverse childhood experiences
  • Ways professionals can shift from judgment to empathy, curiosity, and healing-centered advocacy

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3054 55 full 054: ACEs, Trauma, and Hope: Understanding Childhood Pain and Building Resilience - Part 3 of a 4-Part Series 054: ACEs, Trauma, and Hope: Understanding Childhood Pain and Building Resilience - Part 3 of a 4-Part Series https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/054-aces-trauma-and-hope-understanding-childhood-pain-and-building-resilience-part-3-of-a-4-part-series/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/054-aces-trauma-and-hope-understanding-childhood-pain-and-building-resilience-part-3-of-a-4-part-series/#comments Mon, 13 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/4a85af90-a707-36e4-a974-cd210bec4574 In this third installment of the four-part series on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Krista continues her powerful conversation with Columbine survivor Chris Markham. While Chris has shared the trauma of his upbringing and the violence he witnessed, this episode turns toward resilience and healing. His story shows that even when children grow up with high ACEs, it is possible to build a life filled with love, family, and purpose.

Chris reflects on the role therapy played in helping him work through post-traumatic stress, anger, and grief. He explains how finding healthy outlets, such as Taekwondo, supportive relationships, and consistent guidance, helped him shift from a destructive path toward one focused on growth. Krista and Chris explore the challenges of forgiveness, the weight of intergenerational trauma, and how breaking harmful cycles can allow children to experience childhood more fully than their parents once did.

The episode also highlights how parents’ choices during divorce profoundly affect their children. Chris emphasizes that even when relationships break down, children still love both parents. Respecting that bond and avoiding toxic narratives is essential for preventing long-term emotional harm. His personal experiences reveal the lasting consequences of parental alienation and the importance of maintaining space for both parents in a child’s life.

Ultimately, Chris’s journey is both sobering and hopeful. From surviving Columbine to raising two children of his own, he demonstrates how resilience, forgiveness, and intentional parenting can overcome even the most painful beginnings. For parents, attorneys, and professionals working with families, this episode offers a meaningful reminder: trauma may shape us, but it doesn’t have to define us.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Resilience grows when children are guided toward positive relationships and safe outlets
  • Forgiveness frees individuals from carrying trauma into adulthood
  • Breaking intergenerational cycles allows kids to experience true childhood
  • Parents must respect a child’s bond with both parents, even after divorce
  • Toxic narratives create lasting damage and resentment
  • Healing requires patience, consistency, and space for reconnection

Resources from this Episode

www.columbinememorial.org

www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.html

my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/24875-adverse-childhood-experiences-ace

www.apaf.org/our-programs/justice/free-resources/what-are-aces

https://www.samhsa.gov/resource/sptac/adverse-childhood-experiences-role-substance-misuse-prevention

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this third installment of the four-part series on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Krista continues her powerful conversation with Columbine survivor Chris Markham. While Chris has shared the trauma of his upbringing and the violence he witnessed, this episode turns toward resilience and healing. His story shows that even when children grow up with high ACEs, it is possible to build a life filled with love, family, and purpose.

Chris reflects on the role therapy played in helping him work through post-traumatic stress, anger, and grief. He explains how finding healthy outlets, such as Taekwondo, supportive relationships, and consistent guidance, helped him shift from a destructive path toward one focused on growth. Krista and Chris explore the challenges of forgiveness, the weight of intergenerational trauma, and how breaking harmful cycles can allow children to experience childhood more fully than their parents once did.

The episode also highlights how parents’ choices during divorce profoundly affect their children. Chris emphasizes that even when relationships break down, children still love both parents. Respecting that bond and avoiding toxic narratives is essential for preventing long-term emotional harm. His personal experiences reveal the lasting consequences of parental alienation and the importance of maintaining space for both parents in a child’s life.

Ultimately, Chris’s journey is both sobering and hopeful. From surviving Columbine to raising two children of his own, he demonstrates how resilience, forgiveness, and intentional parenting can overcome even the most painful beginnings. For parents, attorneys, and professionals working with families, this episode offers a meaningful reminder: trauma may shape us, but it doesn’t have to define us.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Resilience grows when children are guided toward positive relationships and safe outlets
  • Forgiveness frees individuals from carrying trauma into adulthood
  • Breaking intergenerational cycles allows kids to experience true childhood
  • Parents must respect a child’s bond with both parents, even after divorce
  • Toxic narratives create lasting damage and resentment
  • Healing requires patience, consistency, and space for reconnection

Resources from this Episode

www.columbinememorial.org

www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.html

my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/24875-adverse-childhood-experiences-ace

www.apaf.org/our-programs/justice/free-resources/what-are-aces

https://www.samhsa.gov/resource/sptac/adverse-childhood-experiences-role-substance-misuse-prevention

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 2853 54 full 053: ACEs, Trauma, and Hope: Understanding Childhood Pain and Building Resilience - Part 2 of a 4-Part Series 053: ACEs, Trauma, and Hope: Understanding Childhood Pain and Building Resilience - Part 2 of a 4-Part Series https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/053-aces-trauma-and-hope-understanding-childhood-pain-and-building-resilience-part-2-of-a-4-part-series/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/053-aces-trauma-and-hope-understanding-childhood-pain-and-building-resilience-part-2-of-a-4-part-series/#comments Mon, 06 Oct 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/4b44c531-7080-308f-be27-bb8533ea435d In this second installment of the Children First Family Law podcast’s four-part series on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Krista welcomes her longtime friend Chris Markham. Chris opens up about his childhood in a family affected by divorce, emotional disconnection, and abuse. He also reflects on the devastating day he survived the Columbine High School shooting as a freshman, bringing to light the profound ways trauma can shape a child’s life. His willingness to share these experiences provides an intimate glimpse into how ACEs manifest in real families.

Chris recounts how parental alienation, strict limitations on contact with his father, and the instability of living with a mother struggling with substance abuse compounded the trauma of his early years. Physical abuse at the hands of a stepfather further deepened the challenges he faced. These experiences left him with a constant sense of disconnection and a drive to seek out healthier role models and mentors who could help him imagine a different future.

Despite the weight of these adversities, Chris discovered strength in discipline and community. Through martial arts, mentorship, and his own determination, he cultivated resilience that carried him beyond the instability of his upbringing. The discipline he adopted helped him counter destructive patterns and provided him with the tools to process his pain in constructive ways. His story demonstrates the critical role that supportive adults and structured environments play in helping children heal from trauma.

Today, Chris is a husband and father committed to building a stable and loving home for his family. He speaks candidly about how his past fuels his desire to break cycles of generational trauma and to model healthier relationships for his children. His journey illustrates both the risks of ACEs and the hope that comes from resilience, making this conversation an important listen for parents, professionals, and anyone striving to support children through adversity.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Growing up with divorce, emotional disconnection, and abuse in the home
  • The reality of surviving the Columbine High School shooting as a freshman
  • Parental alienation and its impact on a child’s relationship with both parents
  • The role of substance abuse and unstable environments in shaping childhood trauma
  • Physical abuse from a stepfather and the long-lasting effects of violence in the home
  • How discipline and martial arts created structure and stability amid chaos
  • Mentors and supportive adults stepping in when family life fell apart
  • Building resilience by turning pain into strength and determination
  • The ongoing work of breaking cycles of generational trauma
  • Creating a healthier family legacy through fatherhood and committed relationships

Resources from this Episode

www.columbinememorial.org

www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.html

my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/24875-adverse-childhood-experiences-ace

www.apaf.org/our-programs/justice/free-resources/what-are-aces

www.samhsa.gov/resource/sptac/adverse-childhood-experiences-role-substance-misuse-prevention

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this second installment of the Children First Family Law podcast’s four-part series on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Krista welcomes her longtime friend Chris Markham. Chris opens up about his childhood in a family affected by divorce, emotional disconnection, and abuse. He also reflects on the devastating day he survived the Columbine High School shooting as a freshman, bringing to light the profound ways trauma can shape a child’s life. His willingness to share these experiences provides an intimate glimpse into how ACEs manifest in real families.

Chris recounts how parental alienation, strict limitations on contact with his father, and the instability of living with a mother struggling with substance abuse compounded the trauma of his early years. Physical abuse at the hands of a stepfather further deepened the challenges he faced. These experiences left him with a constant sense of disconnection and a drive to seek out healthier role models and mentors who could help him imagine a different future.

Despite the weight of these adversities, Chris discovered strength in discipline and community. Through martial arts, mentorship, and his own determination, he cultivated resilience that carried him beyond the instability of his upbringing. The discipline he adopted helped him counter destructive patterns and provided him with the tools to process his pain in constructive ways. His story demonstrates the critical role that supportive adults and structured environments play in helping children heal from trauma.

Today, Chris is a husband and father committed to building a stable and loving home for his family. He speaks candidly about how his past fuels his desire to break cycles of generational trauma and to model healthier relationships for his children. His journey illustrates both the risks of ACEs and the hope that comes from resilience, making this conversation an important listen for parents, professionals, and anyone striving to support children through adversity.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Growing up with divorce, emotional disconnection, and abuse in the home
  • The reality of surviving the Columbine High School shooting as a freshman
  • Parental alienation and its impact on a child’s relationship with both parents
  • The role of substance abuse and unstable environments in shaping childhood trauma
  • Physical abuse from a stepfather and the long-lasting effects of violence in the home
  • How discipline and martial arts created structure and stability amid chaos
  • Mentors and supportive adults stepping in when family life fell apart
  • Building resilience by turning pain into strength and determination
  • The ongoing work of breaking cycles of generational trauma
  • Creating a healthier family legacy through fatherhood and committed relationships

Resources from this Episode

www.columbinememorial.org

www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.html

my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/24875-adverse-childhood-experiences-ace

www.apaf.org/our-programs/justice/free-resources/what-are-aces

www.samhsa.gov/resource/sptac/adverse-childhood-experiences-role-substance-misuse-prevention

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3930 53 full 052: ACEs, Trauma, and Hope: Understanding Childhood Pain and Building Resilience - Part 1 of a 4-Part Series 052: ACEs, Trauma, and Hope: Understanding Childhood Pain and Building Resilience - Part 1 of a 4-Part Series https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/aces-trauma-and-hope-understanding-childhood-pain-and-building-resilience-part-1-of-a-4-part-series/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/aces-trauma-and-hope-understanding-childhood-pain-and-building-resilience-part-1-of-a-4-part-series/#comments Mon, 29 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/555f8654-8d41-3339-89a0-8610ac78c4cb Today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast launches a powerful four-part series on adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), trauma, and resilience. Krista records this conversation with Dr. Kathleen McNamara, the day after the Evergreen High School shooting in Jefferson County, Colorado, and the assassination of Charlie Kirk in Utah. Both tragedies underscore how deeply trauma ripples through families and communities.

Dr. McNamara, a psychologist and national leader in trauma-informed family law, explains the origins of the ACEs study and the direct connection between early childhood adversity and long-term outcomes such as chronic health issues, depression, and even shortened life expectancy. Together, she and Krista explore how high-conflict divorce can become an ACE, why early intervention is critical, and how functional co-parenting reduces harm.

This urgent conversation also expands the ACEs discussion to modern realities—school shootings, bullying, discrimination, and the lingering effects of COVID-19—and introduces resilience factors that can alter a child’s trajectory. Safe caregivers, coping strategies, social connections, and trauma-informed practices can help children heal and thrive, even after experiencing hardship.

As the first installment in the ACEs series, this episode sets the stage for Parts 2 and 3, featuring the story of a Columbine survivor who endured multiple ACEs, and Part 4, where Krista shares practical guidance for parents and professionals on protecting children’s mental health during divorce.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • ACEs disrupt brain development and long-term health
  • High-conflict divorce as a significant ACE risk factor
  • Modern ACEs, including school shootings, discrimination, and COVID-19
  • Early intervention reduces harm and improves outcomes
  • Safe caregivers, social support, and coping strategies build resilience
  • Trauma-informed practices in family law protecting children

 

Resources from this Episode

www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.html

my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/24875-adverse-childhood-experiences-ace

www.apaf.org/our-programs/justice/free-resources/what-are-aces

www.samhsa.gov/resource/sptac/adverse-childhood-experiences-role-substance-misuse-prevention

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast launches a powerful four-part series on adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), trauma, and resilience. Krista records this conversation with Dr. Kathleen McNamara, the day after the Evergreen High School shooting in Jefferson County, Colorado, and the assassination of Charlie Kirk in Utah. Both tragedies underscore how deeply trauma ripples through families and communities.

Dr. McNamara, a psychologist and national leader in trauma-informed family law, explains the origins of the ACEs study and the direct connection between early childhood adversity and long-term outcomes such as chronic health issues, depression, and even shortened life expectancy. Together, she and Krista explore how high-conflict divorce can become an ACE, why early intervention is critical, and how functional co-parenting reduces harm.

This urgent conversation also expands the ACEs discussion to modern realities—school shootings, bullying, discrimination, and the lingering effects of COVID-19—and introduces resilience factors that can alter a child’s trajectory. Safe caregivers, coping strategies, social connections, and trauma-informed practices can help children heal and thrive, even after experiencing hardship.

As the first installment in the ACEs series, this episode sets the stage for Parts 2 and 3, featuring the story of a Columbine survivor who endured multiple ACEs, and Part 4, where Krista shares practical guidance for parents and professionals on protecting children’s mental health during divorce.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • ACEs disrupt brain development and long-term health
  • High-conflict divorce as a significant ACE risk factor
  • Modern ACEs, including school shootings, discrimination, and COVID-19
  • Early intervention reduces harm and improves outcomes
  • Safe caregivers, social support, and coping strategies build resilience
  • Trauma-informed practices in family law protecting children

 

Resources from this Episode

www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.html

my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/24875-adverse-childhood-experiences-ace

www.apaf.org/our-programs/justice/free-resources/what-are-aces

www.samhsa.gov/resource/sptac/adverse-childhood-experiences-role-substance-misuse-prevention

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3771 52 full 051: Tech Tools for Co-parents: How TalkingParents App Helps Communication & Much More 051: Tech Tools for Co-parents: How TalkingParents App Helps Communication & Much More https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/051-tech-tools-for-co-parents-how-talkingparents-app-helps-communication-much-more/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/051-tech-tools-for-co-parents-how-talkingparents-app-helps-communication-much-more/#comments Mon, 22 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/776caf18-8aa7-3d9d-a91b-8125ebeefe82 In this episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista begins a new series exploring technology tools that help separated and divorced parents co-parent more effectively. She welcomes Heather Ruiz from TalkingParents, a platform designed to simplify communication, improve organization, and reduce conflict between co-parents.

Heather shares how TalkingParents was created by a family law attorney who had firsthand experience with the struggles of co-parenting. The platform has evolved into a comprehensive solution that includes secure messaging, shared calendars, expense tracking, recorded calls, an info library for important documents, and resources for parents navigating high-conflict situations.

Krista and Heather discuss the challenges parents face with traditional communication methods,  disorganized text messages, missing receipts, or misunderstandings, and how TalkingParents provides clarity, accountability, and security. Heather also explains how its features reduce litigation costs by documenting every interaction in a way that courts readily accept.

For families, attorneys, and mental health professionals, this episode offers a close look at how tech tools  TalkingParents can keep the focus where it belongs—on the children.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why using a co-parenting app reduces conflict and builds accountability
  • How TalkingParents helps streamline expenses, calendars, and document storage
  • Security measures that ensure records remain accurate and admissible in court
  • Options for both free and paid plans to meet families’ needs
  • Extra features  recorded calls, transcripts, and educational resources
  • How the app helps establish healthy co-parenting habits early in the process

 

Resources from this Episode

talkingparents.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista begins a new series exploring technology tools that help separated and divorced parents co-parent more effectively. She welcomes Heather Ruiz from TalkingParents, a platform designed to simplify communication, improve organization, and reduce conflict between co-parents.

Heather shares how TalkingParents was created by a family law attorney who had firsthand experience with the struggles of co-parenting. The platform has evolved into a comprehensive solution that includes secure messaging, shared calendars, expense tracking, recorded calls, an info library for important documents, and resources for parents navigating high-conflict situations.

Krista and Heather discuss the challenges parents face with traditional communication methods,  disorganized text messages, missing receipts, or misunderstandings, and how TalkingParents provides clarity, accountability, and security. Heather also explains how its features reduce litigation costs by documenting every interaction in a way that courts readily accept.

For families, attorneys, and mental health professionals, this episode offers a close look at how tech tools  TalkingParents can keep the focus where it belongs—on the children.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why using a co-parenting app reduces conflict and builds accountability
  • How TalkingParents helps streamline expenses, calendars, and document storage
  • Security measures that ensure records remain accurate and admissible in court
  • Options for both free and paid plans to meet families’ needs
  • Extra features  recorded calls, transcripts, and educational resources
  • How the app helps establish healthy co-parenting habits early in the process

 

Resources from this Episode

talkingparents.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3748 51 full 050: The Point C Divorce: A Five-Minute Fable That Puts Kids First, with Larry and Joni Jones 050: The Point C Divorce: A Five-Minute Fable That Puts Kids First, with Larry and Joni Jones https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/050-the-point-c-divorce-a-five-minute-fable-that-puts-kids-first-with-larry-and-joni-jones/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/050-the-point-c-divorce-a-five-minute-fable-that-puts-kids-first-with-larry-and-joni-jones/#comments Mon, 15 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/a8ff0180-f7a0-3278-876e-f4199cd2fce6 In this episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista welcomes Larry and Joni Jones, the creators of “The Point C Divorce,” a five-minute animated fable designed to help parents, attorneys, and professionals refocus on children’s well-being during divorce. Larry, a retired New Jersey Superior Court judge, and Joni, a board-certified psychiatric and mental health nurse, mediator, and restorative practice facilitator, combined their professional expertise and personal experiences to create a short but powerful video that shines a light on how parental conflict can harm children.

The conversation traces the origins of Point C, which began with Larry sketching ideas on a pizza box after a particularly painful custody case. The video has since been used in courtrooms, mediation, and educational programs across the country, resonating with families and professionals alike. Larry and Joni explain how the fable illustrates the dangers of parents becoming consumed by litigation at the expense of their child’s emotional health.

Joni shares how her own childhood experience with divorce shaped her perspective, emphasizing the importance of skill-building and forgiveness in helping families move forward. Together, she and Larry stress the need for attorneys, mediators, and parents to rethink how conflict is handled and to recognize that litigation often undermines the very “best interests of the child” it claims to protect.

The episode highlights the long-term effects of contentious divorces, from fractured parent-child relationships to mental health struggles for children. Krista, Larry, and Joni discuss practical tools, such as effective listening, expectation-setting, and restorative practices, that can help parents break the cycle of conflict. You will come away with a deeper understanding of how Point C offers a wake-up call to keep children’s voices and well-being at the center of family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The inspiration behind “The Point C Divorce” and how it began on a pizza box
  • How the five-minute fable helps parents and professionals see the child’s perspective
  • Why litigation often contradicts the “best interest of the child”
  • Joni’s personal story as a child of divorce and how it influenced her work
  • Tools for parents: skill-building, heartfelt forgiveness, and active listening
  • The role of attorneys and mediators in shaping respectful, child-centered outcomes
  • Why kids often just want the fighting to stop, no matter which parent is “right”

Resources from this Episode

pointcdivorce.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista welcomes Larry and Joni Jones, the creators of “The Point C Divorce,” a five-minute animated fable designed to help parents, attorneys, and professionals refocus on children’s well-being during divorce. Larry, a retired New Jersey Superior Court judge, and Joni, a board-certified psychiatric and mental health nurse, mediator, and restorative practice facilitator, combined their professional expertise and personal experiences to create a short but powerful video that shines a light on how parental conflict can harm children.

The conversation traces the origins of Point C, which began with Larry sketching ideas on a pizza box after a particularly painful custody case. The video has since been used in courtrooms, mediation, and educational programs across the country, resonating with families and professionals alike. Larry and Joni explain how the fable illustrates the dangers of parents becoming consumed by litigation at the expense of their child’s emotional health.

Joni shares how her own childhood experience with divorce shaped her perspective, emphasizing the importance of skill-building and forgiveness in helping families move forward. Together, she and Larry stress the need for attorneys, mediators, and parents to rethink how conflict is handled and to recognize that litigation often undermines the very “best interests of the child” it claims to protect.

The episode highlights the long-term effects of contentious divorces, from fractured parent-child relationships to mental health struggles for children. Krista, Larry, and Joni discuss practical tools, such as effective listening, expectation-setting, and restorative practices, that can help parents break the cycle of conflict. You will come away with a deeper understanding of how Point C offers a wake-up call to keep children’s voices and well-being at the center of family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The inspiration behind “The Point C Divorce” and how it began on a pizza box
  • How the five-minute fable helps parents and professionals see the child’s perspective
  • Why litigation often contradicts the “best interest of the child”
  • Joni’s personal story as a child of divorce and how it influenced her work
  • Tools for parents: skill-building, heartfelt forgiveness, and active listening
  • The role of attorneys and mediators in shaping respectful, child-centered outcomes
  • Why kids often just want the fighting to stop, no matter which parent is “right”

Resources from this Episode

pointcdivorce.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3930 50 full 049: How to Tell Kids about Divorce: with Parenting Expert Christina McGhee 049: How to Tell Kids about Divorce: with Parenting Expert Christina McGhee https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/049-how-to-tell-kids-about-divorce-with-parenting-expert-christina-mcghee/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/049-how-to-tell-kids-about-divorce-with-parenting-expert-christina-mcghee/#comments Mon, 08 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/707b363e-8203-39f1-abfe-bc8d63e5eec1 In this episode, host Krista Nash sits down with parenting expert, author, and coach Christina McGhee to tackle one of the most difficult moments in divorce: telling your children. Christina, who has spent over two decades helping families navigate separation, shares compassionate, practical guidance for parents who want to put their children first during this life-altering conversation.

Together, Krista and Christina explore the emotional weight parents carry and the common mistakes that can undermine a child’s sense of security. Christina emphasizes the importance of clarity, preparation, and unified messaging, reminding parents that while the marriage may be ending, parenting is not. She introduces strategies such as framing divorce as a change rather than an ending, using age-appropriate language, and avoiding over-sharing or placing emotional burdens on children.

Listeners will also hear insights into how children of different ages process divorce, the dangers of using children as confidants, and the long-term impact of blurred boundaries. Christina offers practical tools for ensuring children feel a sense of belonging in both homes and encourages ongoing dialogue rather than a “one and done” conversation.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Divorce doesn’t end parenting—it changes how you parent.
  • Always use clear, age-appropriate language, including the word “divorce.”
  • Never make your child a confidant or emotional caretaker.
  • Prepare and plan the conversation instead of “winging it.”
  • Make it an ongoing dialogue, not a one-time event.

Resources from this Episode

Christina McGhee, Divorce Parenting Expert, Trainer, Coach, Author, Education & Training Director: SPLIT Films – Divorce and Children, LLC

https://coparentingspecialist.com/

https://divorceandchildren.com/

Book: Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=parenting+apart+christina+mcghee&crid=3T5BH29G1YY0&sprefix=parenting+apart%2Caps%2C163&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-pd-dpltr-ranker_2_15

https://divorceandchildren.com/about-christina-mcghee/

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode, host Krista Nash sits down with parenting expert, author, and coach Christina McGhee to tackle one of the most difficult moments in divorce: telling your children. Christina, who has spent over two decades helping families navigate separation, shares compassionate, practical guidance for parents who want to put their children first during this life-altering conversation.

Together, Krista and Christina explore the emotional weight parents carry and the common mistakes that can undermine a child’s sense of security. Christina emphasizes the importance of clarity, preparation, and unified messaging, reminding parents that while the marriage may be ending, parenting is not. She introduces strategies such as framing divorce as a change rather than an ending, using age-appropriate language, and avoiding over-sharing or placing emotional burdens on children.

Listeners will also hear insights into how children of different ages process divorce, the dangers of using children as confidants, and the long-term impact of blurred boundaries. Christina offers practical tools for ensuring children feel a sense of belonging in both homes and encourages ongoing dialogue rather than a “one and done” conversation.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Divorce doesn’t end parenting—it changes how you parent.
  • Always use clear, age-appropriate language, including the word “divorce.”
  • Never make your child a confidant or emotional caretaker.
  • Prepare and plan the conversation instead of “winging it.”
  • Make it an ongoing dialogue, not a one-time event.

Resources from this Episode

Christina McGhee, Divorce Parenting Expert, Trainer, Coach, Author, Education & Training Director: SPLIT Films – Divorce and Children, LLC

https://coparentingspecialist.com/

https://divorceandchildren.com/

Book: Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=parenting+apart+christina+mcghee&crid=3T5BH29G1YY0&sprefix=parenting+apart%2Caps%2C163&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-pd-dpltr-ranker_2_15

https://divorceandchildren.com/about-christina-mcghee/

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Children First Family Law false No 3607 49 full 048: Co-Parenting After Divorce: Tips for Successful Communication 048: Co-Parenting After Divorce: Tips for Successful Communication https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/048-co-parenting-after-divorce-tips-for-successful-communication/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/048-co-parenting-after-divorce-tips-for-successful-communication/#comments Mon, 01 Sep 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/85bd6026-25c6-3179-97cf-cd098d205976 Co-parenting after divorce is one of the most difficult challenges parents face. In this solo episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista draws on her experience as an attorney, mediator, and child advocate to share practical strategies for improving communication between separated parents. With Colorado’s focus on the best interests of the child, Krista emphasizes that effective communication isn’t just a convenience; it directly impacts children’s stability, peace, and well-being.

Krista explores common hurdles like old wounds resurfacing, mismatched communication styles, tone problems, and mistrust, all of which can derail even the most routine exchanges. She explains how parents can shift from reactive arguments to constructive conversations using the BIFF method (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm), and why choosing the right communication platform can reduce conflict and create a reliable record.

From setting boundaries on response times to prioritizing the child's needs, Krista provides actionable ways parents can work together as a team. She stresses that communication should be approached like a business partnership with one shared goal—the care of their children.

Krista also highlights resources for families in Colorado, including co-parenting apps, mediation, parenting classes, and counseling options, all of which can help parents strengthen their approach when communication feels impossible. The episode concludes with an important reminder: children notice how their parents speak to and about one another. Respectful exchanges model cooperation and reassure children that they come first.

This episode is a practical guide for parents, professionals, and anyone supporting families navigating life after divorce. By adopting healthier communication strategies, parents can reduce conflict, protect their children’s peace, and build a more supportive two-home family dynamic.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Communication challenges divorced parents face
  • How the BIFF method helps diffuse conflict
  • Why using co-parenting apps improves clarity and accountability
  • Ways to set boundaries and avoid emotional reactions
  • The importance of keeping children in the center, not the middle
  • Resources in Colorado for co-parenting support

Resources from this Episode

highconflictinstitute.com/high-conflict-strategies/how-to-write-a-biff-response

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ggXhQLihi54

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Co-parenting after divorce is one of the most difficult challenges parents face. In this solo episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista draws on her experience as an attorney, mediator, and child advocate to share practical strategies for improving communication between separated parents. With Colorado’s focus on the best interests of the child, Krista emphasizes that effective communication isn’t just a convenience; it directly impacts children’s stability, peace, and well-being.

Krista explores common hurdles like old wounds resurfacing, mismatched communication styles, tone problems, and mistrust, all of which can derail even the most routine exchanges. She explains how parents can shift from reactive arguments to constructive conversations using the BIFF method (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm), and why choosing the right communication platform can reduce conflict and create a reliable record.

From setting boundaries on response times to prioritizing the child's needs, Krista provides actionable ways parents can work together as a team. She stresses that communication should be approached like a business partnership with one shared goal—the care of their children.

Krista also highlights resources for families in Colorado, including co-parenting apps, mediation, parenting classes, and counseling options, all of which can help parents strengthen their approach when communication feels impossible. The episode concludes with an important reminder: children notice how their parents speak to and about one another. Respectful exchanges model cooperation and reassure children that they come first.

This episode is a practical guide for parents, professionals, and anyone supporting families navigating life after divorce. By adopting healthier communication strategies, parents can reduce conflict, protect their children’s peace, and build a more supportive two-home family dynamic.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Communication challenges divorced parents face
  • How the BIFF method helps diffuse conflict
  • Why using co-parenting apps improves clarity and accountability
  • Ways to set boundaries and avoid emotional reactions
  • The importance of keeping children in the center, not the middle
  • Resources in Colorado for co-parenting support

Resources from this Episode

highconflictinstitute.com/high-conflict-strategies/how-to-write-a-biff-response

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ggXhQLihi54

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 2731 48 full 047: Verified Sobriety: How U-VERIFY™ Protects Children in Family Law 047: Verified Sobriety: How U-VERIFY™ Protects Children in Family Law https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/047-verified-sobriety-how-u-verify%e2%84%a2-protects-children-in-family-law/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/047-verified-sobriety-how-u-verify%e2%84%a2-protects-children-in-family-law/#comments Mon, 25 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/d6355bea-a772-33b4-85bb-fedbb1936311 In this episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista speaks with Tim Reid, Director of Business Development at U-VERIFY™ Testing.

Originally from Australia, Tim now lives in Austin, Texas, and works closely with U-VERIFY™’s San Diego-based laboratory while often connecting with clients and partners in Indiana. With a background in clinical pharmacology and experience across multiple industries, Tim introduces U-VERIFY™, a testing service designed to eliminate many of the problems family law professionals face when monitoring substance use. Traditional drug and alcohol testing often relies on inconvenient, costly, and sometimes unreliable methods. U-VERIFY™ changes this landscape with legally defensible, DNA-verified urine testing that can be completed remotely while protecting children and supporting accountability.

Krista and Tim explore why urine remains the gold standard for drug and alcohol testing, the challenges of tampering with traditional tests, and how DNA verification ensures results truly belong to the individual tested. They also discuss the limitations of breathalyzers, the importance of comprehensive testing panels, and how U-VERIFY™ helps build trust between co-parents in high-conflict custody cases.

By addressing both the science and the legal practicalities, Tim demonstrates how this service strengthens safety measures for children while streamlining the testing process for families and attorneys.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Urine remains the preferred specimen type for reliable drug and alcohol testing
  • DNA verification removes the need for invasive observed collections
  • Breathalyzers have limits, so using complementary tools may be necessary
  • U-VERIFY™ covers more than 70 substances, including alcohol, fentanyl, and prescription drugs
  • Legally defensible results backed by accredited lab standards
  • Remote testing streamlines the process, reduces conflict, and helps build trust in co-parenting

Resources from this Episode

www.phamatec.com 

www.uverifytesting.com

uverify@phamatech.com for more info

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista speaks with Tim Reid, Director of Business Development at U-VERIFY™ Testing.

Originally from Australia, Tim now lives in Austin, Texas, and works closely with U-VERIFY™’s San Diego-based laboratory while often connecting with clients and partners in Indiana. With a background in clinical pharmacology and experience across multiple industries, Tim introduces U-VERIFY™, a testing service designed to eliminate many of the problems family law professionals face when monitoring substance use. Traditional drug and alcohol testing often relies on inconvenient, costly, and sometimes unreliable methods. U-VERIFY™ changes this landscape with legally defensible, DNA-verified urine testing that can be completed remotely while protecting children and supporting accountability.

Krista and Tim explore why urine remains the gold standard for drug and alcohol testing, the challenges of tampering with traditional tests, and how DNA verification ensures results truly belong to the individual tested. They also discuss the limitations of breathalyzers, the importance of comprehensive testing panels, and how U-VERIFY™ helps build trust between co-parents in high-conflict custody cases.

By addressing both the science and the legal practicalities, Tim demonstrates how this service strengthens safety measures for children while streamlining the testing process for families and attorneys.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Urine remains the preferred specimen type for reliable drug and alcohol testing
  • DNA verification removes the need for invasive observed collections
  • Breathalyzers have limits, so using complementary tools may be necessary
  • U-VERIFY™ covers more than 70 substances, including alcohol, fentanyl, and prescription drugs
  • Legally defensible results backed by accredited lab standards
  • Remote testing streamlines the process, reduces conflict, and helps build trust in co-parenting

Resources from this Episode

www.phamatec.com 

www.uverifytesting.com

uverify@phamatech.com for more info

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3435 47 full 046: Teaching Kids to Cope: The Program Born from One Father’s Divorce Story with Dr. Don Gordon 046: Teaching Kids to Cope: The Program Born from One Father’s Divorce Story with Dr. Don Gordon https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/046-teaching-kids-to-cope-the-program-born-from-one-father-s-divorce-story-with-dr-don-gordon/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/046-teaching-kids-to-cope-the-program-born-from-one-father-s-divorce-story-with-dr-don-gordon/#comments Mon, 18 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/52b970dc-a069-3ed4-a197-7427ed5462aa In this episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista Nash talks with Dr. Don Gordon, a clinical child psychologist and Executive Director of the Center for Divorce Education. Dr. Gordon shares how his personal experience with high-conflict divorce shaped his mission to help families reduce stress and improve parent-child relationships through evidence-based education.

Their conversation centers around “Children in Between,” a widely used court-mandated parenting program, and its new companion course for kids. Dr. Gordon explains why emotional literacy, stress reduction, and safe communication are critical tools for children during separation and divorce. He also discusses the neuroscience of fight-or-flight responses in parents, how to interrupt reactive behaviors, and why involving kids in conversations about their feelings changes outcomes for life.

Divorce doesn’t have to break a child’s emotional foundation if we give families the tools to manage it with care.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Parents need training for co-parenting under stress, not just general parenting
  • Children benefit when they learn how to name, share, and manage emotions
  • Divorce stress impacts a child’s long-term relationships and mental health
  • Online programs can support families with low-cost, effective tools
  • Teaching emotional regulation improves how parents and kids relate
  • Kids internalize conflict when they feel caught between two parents
  • Loyalty conflicts do more harm than divorce itself
  • Involving both parents in emotional coaching gives kids double the support
  • When parents model calm responses, kids learn resilience
  • Proactive education reduces litigation and emotional fallout

Resources from this Episode

www.childreninbetweenforkids.com 

www.childreninbetween.com

online.divorce-education.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista Nash talks with Dr. Don Gordon, a clinical child psychologist and Executive Director of the Center for Divorce Education. Dr. Gordon shares how his personal experience with high-conflict divorce shaped his mission to help families reduce stress and improve parent-child relationships through evidence-based education.

Their conversation centers around “Children in Between,” a widely used court-mandated parenting program, and its new companion course for kids. Dr. Gordon explains why emotional literacy, stress reduction, and safe communication are critical tools for children during separation and divorce. He also discusses the neuroscience of fight-or-flight responses in parents, how to interrupt reactive behaviors, and why involving kids in conversations about their feelings changes outcomes for life.

Divorce doesn’t have to break a child’s emotional foundation if we give families the tools to manage it with care.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Parents need training for co-parenting under stress, not just general parenting
  • Children benefit when they learn how to name, share, and manage emotions
  • Divorce stress impacts a child’s long-term relationships and mental health
  • Online programs can support families with low-cost, effective tools
  • Teaching emotional regulation improves how parents and kids relate
  • Kids internalize conflict when they feel caught between two parents
  • Loyalty conflicts do more harm than divorce itself
  • Involving both parents in emotional coaching gives kids double the support
  • When parents model calm responses, kids learn resilience
  • Proactive education reduces litigation and emotional fallout

Resources from this Episode

www.childreninbetweenforkids.com 

www.childreninbetween.com

online.divorce-education.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3376 46 full 045: The Child’s Voice vs. The Child’s Best Interest: Lessons from New York with Judge Peggy Walsh 045: The Child’s Voice vs. The Child’s Best Interest: Lessons from New York with Judge Peggy Walsh https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/045-the-child-s-voice-vs-the-child-s-best-interest-lessons-from-new-york-with-judge-peggy-walsh/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/045-the-child-s-voice-vs-the-child-s-best-interest-lessons-from-new-york-with-judge-peggy-walsh/#comments Mon, 11 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/4a9b0cdd-4b21-34db-ad36-c3867d5f3c17 In today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes retired New York Judge, Peggy Walsh, who brings decades of experience from both the Family and Supreme Courts. Judge Walsh unpacks how New York’s family law system centers children’s voices in custody cases and what the rest of the country can learn from it.

Krista and Judge Walsh explore how attorneys for children play an active role in advocating for a child’s stated preferences, even when they differ from best interest arguments. They also compare New York’s court structure with Colorado’s, explore trauma-informed judicial practices, and reflect on how systems either empower or silence young voices. Judge Walsh shares how she approached in-camera interviews with children and how her bench experience now informs her work as a coach for co-parents navigating conflict.

When a child tells their attorney what they want, that’s not just testimony. It’s a window into what makes sense for that child’s life.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Child attorneys in New York reflect what the child wants, not what adults believe is best
  • Best interest and expressed interest often overlap, but not always
  • New York courts offer every child legal representation at no cost
  • Judges rely on in-camera interviews to hear from children directly
  • Ethical representation includes guiding children without overriding them
  • Professionalism in family court matters more than persuasion
  • Trauma-informed courts reduce harm during high-conflict litigation
  • Courts trust parents to decide, and judges step in only when needed
  • Kids in the middle of conflict often show internal distress
  • Co-parenting coaching offers an alternative to repeated litigation

 

Resources from this Episode

peggywalsh.com

thecoparentcoach.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes retired New York Judge, Peggy Walsh, who brings decades of experience from both the Family and Supreme Courts. Judge Walsh unpacks how New York’s family law system centers children’s voices in custody cases and what the rest of the country can learn from it.

Krista and Judge Walsh explore how attorneys for children play an active role in advocating for a child’s stated preferences, even when they differ from best interest arguments. They also compare New York’s court structure with Colorado’s, explore trauma-informed judicial practices, and reflect on how systems either empower or silence young voices. Judge Walsh shares how she approached in-camera interviews with children and how her bench experience now informs her work as a coach for co-parents navigating conflict.

When a child tells their attorney what they want, that’s not just testimony. It’s a window into what makes sense for that child’s life.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Child attorneys in New York reflect what the child wants, not what adults believe is best
  • Best interest and expressed interest often overlap, but not always
  • New York courts offer every child legal representation at no cost
  • Judges rely on in-camera interviews to hear from children directly
  • Ethical representation includes guiding children without overriding them
  • Professionalism in family court matters more than persuasion
  • Trauma-informed courts reduce harm during high-conflict litigation
  • Courts trust parents to decide, and judges step in only when needed
  • Kids in the middle of conflict often show internal distress
  • Co-parenting coaching offers an alternative to repeated litigation

 

Resources from this Episode

peggywalsh.com

thecoparentcoach.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3837 45 full 044: Do Your Job!: How to Parent after Divorce, with Alaska’s Allen Levy MS LPA 044: Do Your Job!: How to Parent after Divorce, with Alaska’s Allen Levy MS LPA https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/044-do-your-job-how-to-parent-after-divorce-with-alaska-s-allen-levy-ms-lpc/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/044-do-your-job-how-to-parent-after-divorce-with-alaska-s-allen-levy-ms-lpc/#comments Mon, 04 Aug 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/83dc6aea-5b8b-3ed3-bd3a-7692a53878d9 In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista Nash welcomes Allen Levy, an Anchorage-based mental health professional and parenting educator, for a direct and thoughtful discussion on how to parent after divorce. Allen draws from over two decades of work with high-conflict families to explain why parenting after separation needs to be treated as a job share, not an emotional battleground.

He shares the framework behind his post-separation parenting curriculum, which was developed through years of real-world experience and is now utilized in workshops, therapy sessions, and court-ordered education. This approach teaches parents to focus on four core duties: communication, decision-making, problem-solving, and conflict resolution across key parenting domains like education, healthcare, and family routines.

Through structured rules, concrete strategies, and clear analogies, Allen reframes co-parenting as professional conduct, not emotional entanglement. The result? Less conflict, fewer court battles, and healthier kids.

You don’t need both parents to change. When one parent acts with professionalism, it can shift everything.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Parent-child relationships must come before parent-to-parent conflict
  • Parenting is a job with duties, boundaries, and standards
  • Effective communication focuses on children, not personal grievances
  • Shift changes (custody exchanges) should feel routine and drama-free
  • Parallel parenting can work even when co-parenting is unrealistic
  • Focus on behaviors, not blame or psychological explanations
  • Avoid the trap of sharing emotional information with your ex
  • Protect kids from conflict by removing them from the middle
  • Redefine success by how well parents manage the job, not how they feel
  • One parent can shift the dynamic, even if the other won’t change

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista Nash welcomes Allen Levy, an Anchorage-based mental health professional and parenting educator, for a direct and thoughtful discussion on how to parent after divorce. Allen draws from over two decades of work with high-conflict families to explain why parenting after separation needs to be treated as a job share, not an emotional battleground.

He shares the framework behind his post-separation parenting curriculum, which was developed through years of real-world experience and is now utilized in workshops, therapy sessions, and court-ordered education. This approach teaches parents to focus on four core duties: communication, decision-making, problem-solving, and conflict resolution across key parenting domains like education, healthcare, and family routines.

Through structured rules, concrete strategies, and clear analogies, Allen reframes co-parenting as professional conduct, not emotional entanglement. The result? Less conflict, fewer court battles, and healthier kids.

You don’t need both parents to change. When one parent acts with professionalism, it can shift everything.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Parent-child relationships must come before parent-to-parent conflict
  • Parenting is a job with duties, boundaries, and standards
  • Effective communication focuses on children, not personal grievances
  • Shift changes (custody exchanges) should feel routine and drama-free
  • Parallel parenting can work even when co-parenting is unrealistic
  • Focus on behaviors, not blame or psychological explanations
  • Avoid the trap of sharing emotional information with your ex
  • Protect kids from conflict by removing them from the middle
  • Redefine success by how well parents manage the job, not how they feel
  • One parent can shift the dynamic, even if the other won’t change

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3782 44 full 043: Comfort in a Ball: How Mimbleballs Help Kids (and Adults) Cope with Big Feelings with Julia Chambers, Creator of Mimbleballs 043: Comfort in a Ball: How Mimbleballs Help Kids (and Adults) Cope with Big Feelings with Julia Chambers, Creator of Mimbleballs https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/043-comfort-in-a-ball-how-mimbleballs-help-kids-and-adults-cope-with-big-feelings-with-julia-chambers-creator-of-mimbleballs/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/043-comfort-in-a-ball-how-mimbleballs-help-kids-and-adults-cope-with-big-feelings-with-julia-chambers-creator-of-mimbleballs/#comments Mon, 28 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/318b6ec1-90f0-33dd-a5f6-b4fab58dcd26 In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista sits down with Julia Chambers, creator of Mimbleballs, to explore how one quirky, fuzzy tool helps kids—and adults—manage big feelings. What started as a DIY craft with her son became a comfort object now used by therapists, attorneys, first responders, and families across the country.

Julia shares how Mimbleballs provide tactile support, regulate nervous systems, and open emotional pathways during tough transitions like divorce, court appearances, or co-parenting changes. She and Krista also discuss the deeper mission behind the brand, including its work with schools, nonprofits, and professionals helping children feel safe and seen.

Sometimes healing starts with a hug—even from a fuzzy face with googly eyes.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Breaks the ice in court-involved or high-stress settings
  • Supports emotional regulation through texture, movement, and play
  • Works across ages and developmental stages
  • Opens communication when words feel hard
  • Helps professionals and parents build trust with children
  • Bridges transitions between homes or family systems
  • Encourages self-soothing and emotional expression
  • Promotes silliness, safety, and connection in difficult moments
  • Gives children a reliable source of comfort they can carry with them
  • Strengthens co-parenting dynamics through shared emotional tools

Resources from this Episode

www.mimbleball.com (Use code MBLOVE for the website shop for 10% off your entire purchase)

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista sits down with Julia Chambers, creator of Mimbleballs, to explore how one quirky, fuzzy tool helps kids—and adults—manage big feelings. What started as a DIY craft with her son became a comfort object now used by therapists, attorneys, first responders, and families across the country.

Julia shares how Mimbleballs provide tactile support, regulate nervous systems, and open emotional pathways during tough transitions like divorce, court appearances, or co-parenting changes. She and Krista also discuss the deeper mission behind the brand, including its work with schools, nonprofits, and professionals helping children feel safe and seen.

Sometimes healing starts with a hug—even from a fuzzy face with googly eyes.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Breaks the ice in court-involved or high-stress settings
  • Supports emotional regulation through texture, movement, and play
  • Works across ages and developmental stages
  • Opens communication when words feel hard
  • Helps professionals and parents build trust with children
  • Bridges transitions between homes or family systems
  • Encourages self-soothing and emotional expression
  • Promotes silliness, safety, and connection in difficult moments
  • Gives children a reliable source of comfort they can carry with them
  • Strengthens co-parenting dynamics through shared emotional tools

Resources from this Episode

www.mimbleball.com (Use code MBLOVE for the website shop for 10% off your entire purchase)

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3953 43 full 042: Blending StepFamilies with Heart and Wisdom: Dr. Ann Ordway 042: Blending StepFamilies with Heart and Wisdom: Dr. Ann Ordway https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/042-blending-stepfamilies-with-heart-and-wisdom-dr-ann-ordway/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/042-blending-stepfamilies-with-heart-and-wisdom-dr-ann-ordway/#comments Mon, 21 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/77946538-98ee-3f42-b773-55ee078a213f In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista Nash welcomes Dr. Ann Ordway, a family law attorney, parenting coordinator, and stepfamily coach. Together, they unpack what it takes to build a healthy blended family, one grounded in patience, emotional awareness, and long-term thinking.

Dr. Ordway shares what works and what fails when families blend too quickly. She draws on her professional expertise and personal experience of raising seven children in a blended family. They explore how children react to transitions, how co-parents can support one another across households, and how step-parents can earn trust instead of expecting it.

This episode gives parents and professionals a roadmap for blending families that prioritizes emotional safety and sets children up to thrive.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Begin stepfamily transitions by acknowledging loss and grief
  • Give each child space to adjust at their own pace
  • Slow down recoupling to avoid emotional whiplash
  • Approach introductions gradually, with clear communication
  • Build step-parent relationships through trust, not authority
  • Spend one-on-one time to strengthen individual bonds
  • Coordinate with co-parents to reduce confusion and fear
  • Keep children in familiar spaces when possible
  • Treat stepchildren and biological children equitably
  • Model respectful relationships between all households

 

Resources from this Episode

www.afccnet.org/About/Staff/ann

www.stepfamily.org

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista Nash welcomes Dr. Ann Ordway, a family law attorney, parenting coordinator, and stepfamily coach. Together, they unpack what it takes to build a healthy blended family, one grounded in patience, emotional awareness, and long-term thinking.

Dr. Ordway shares what works and what fails when families blend too quickly. She draws on her professional expertise and personal experience of raising seven children in a blended family. They explore how children react to transitions, how co-parents can support one another across households, and how step-parents can earn trust instead of expecting it.

This episode gives parents and professionals a roadmap for blending families that prioritizes emotional safety and sets children up to thrive.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Begin stepfamily transitions by acknowledging loss and grief
  • Give each child space to adjust at their own pace
  • Slow down recoupling to avoid emotional whiplash
  • Approach introductions gradually, with clear communication
  • Build step-parent relationships through trust, not authority
  • Spend one-on-one time to strengthen individual bonds
  • Coordinate with co-parents to reduce confusion and fear
  • Keep children in familiar spaces when possible
  • Treat stepchildren and biological children equitably
  • Model respectful relationships between all households

 

Resources from this Episode

www.afccnet.org/About/Staff/ann

www.stepfamily.org

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3795 42 full 041: Fathering After Divorce with Dr. Marsha Kline Pruett 041: Fathering After Divorce with Dr. Marsha Kline Pruett https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/041-fathering-after-divorce-with-dr-marsha-kline-pruett/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/041-fathering-after-divorce-with-dr-marsha-kline-pruett/#comments Mon, 14 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/0aa2932e-8c68-30bd-a7a8-5d4b5c2fa3ff In today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Dr. Marsha Kline Pruett, a clinical psychologist, researcher, and nationally recognized authority on child development, co-parenting, and father involvement. Together, they explore what healthy post-divorce fathering looks like and what professionals and parents can do to foster those relationships.

Dr. Pruett draws on decades of experience working with families in the U.S. and internationally, including groundbreaking work with the California Office of Child Abuse Prevention and long-term studies on parenting partnerships. She discusses how early father involvement impacts long-term child development and why gendered parenting roles still influence family law decisions.

This episode also explores the pitfalls of rigid parenting plans, the pressure of 50/50 custody expectations, and how children process family dynamics differently than adults often assume. Dr. Pruett explains how to build trust between co-parents, why gatekeeping harms both children and relationships, and what attorneys and therapists should stop doing if they genuinely want to serve families well.

This episode challenges assumptions about post-divorce parenting and offers a path forward where fathers stay connected, kids feel secure, and co-parents build trust, one interaction at a time.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Early father involvement as a foundation for long-term connection
  • Gatekeeping and how it limits father-child relationships post-divorce
  • Flexible parenting plans that reflect a child’s real-world needs
  • Emotional safety over rigid time-sharing structures
  • One-on-one time is more impactful than group settings
  • Building co-parenting trust through consistency and accountability
  • Harmful professional dynamics when attorneys mirror client conflict
  • Benefits of parallel parenting when co-parenting isn’t possible
  • Starting fresh, no matter how long it’s been
  • Supporting fathers without undermining maternal relationships

 

Resources from this Episode

marshapruett.com

Book: Partnership Parenting: How Men and Women Parent Differently-Why It Helps Your Kids and Can Strengthen Your Marriage: www.amazon.com/Partnership-Parenting-Differently-Why-Strengthen-Marriage/dp/0738213268

Book: Your Divorce Advisor: www.amazon.com/Your-Divorce-Advisor-Psychologist-Emotional/dp/0684870681

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Dr. Marsha Kline Pruett, a clinical psychologist, researcher, and nationally recognized authority on child development, co-parenting, and father involvement. Together, they explore what healthy post-divorce fathering looks like and what professionals and parents can do to foster those relationships.

Dr. Pruett draws on decades of experience working with families in the U.S. and internationally, including groundbreaking work with the California Office of Child Abuse Prevention and long-term studies on parenting partnerships. She discusses how early father involvement impacts long-term child development and why gendered parenting roles still influence family law decisions.

This episode also explores the pitfalls of rigid parenting plans, the pressure of 50/50 custody expectations, and how children process family dynamics differently than adults often assume. Dr. Pruett explains how to build trust between co-parents, why gatekeeping harms both children and relationships, and what attorneys and therapists should stop doing if they genuinely want to serve families well.

This episode challenges assumptions about post-divorce parenting and offers a path forward where fathers stay connected, kids feel secure, and co-parents build trust, one interaction at a time.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Early father involvement as a foundation for long-term connection
  • Gatekeeping and how it limits father-child relationships post-divorce
  • Flexible parenting plans that reflect a child’s real-world needs
  • Emotional safety over rigid time-sharing structures
  • One-on-one time is more impactful than group settings
  • Building co-parenting trust through consistency and accountability
  • Harmful professional dynamics when attorneys mirror client conflict
  • Benefits of parallel parenting when co-parenting isn’t possible
  • Starting fresh, no matter how long it’s been
  • Supporting fathers without undermining maternal relationships

 

Resources from this Episode

marshapruett.com

Book: Partnership Parenting: How Men and Women Parent Differently-Why It Helps Your Kids and Can Strengthen Your Marriage: www.amazon.com/Partnership-Parenting-Differently-Why-Strengthen-Marriage/dp/0738213268

Book: Your Divorce Advisor: www.amazon.com/Your-Divorce-Advisor-Psychologist-Emotional/dp/0684870681

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3279 41 full 040: Colorado Child Relocation Laws: How Moving Affects Custody and Parental Rights 040: Colorado Child Relocation Laws: How Moving Affects Custody and Parental Rights https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/040-colorado-child-relocation-laws-how-moving-affects-custody-and-parental-rights/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/040-colorado-child-relocation-laws-how-moving-affects-custody-and-parental-rights/#comments Mon, 07 Jul 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/fe37c7f0-4e4b-3131-970e-199781d4fd77 In today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista explores one of the most high-conflict areas in Colorado family law: relocation after divorce or custody orders. When one parent wants to relocate, whether within or outside the state, courts must decide what serves the child’s best interest, not the parent’s.

Krista walks through how Colorado handles relocation under C.R.S. §14-10-129, explains the difference between a parent's right to move and the right to move with a child, and addresses a common fear: Is it kidnapping to move without permission? She illustrates these issues with real-world case studies, one in which a parent left without notice, and another in which a parent followed every step legally.

This solo episode covers the legal process, emotional impact, court standards, and how to keep children at the center of difficult relocation decisions. It’s a must-listen for any parent facing—or fearing—a move.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Relocation means any move that significantly disrupts an existing parenting plan, not just moves across state lines
  • Parents retain the right to relocate, but not the automatic right to move a child with them
  • Colorado requires written notice, a proposed new parenting plan, and court approval under C.R.S. §14-10-129
  • Unauthorized relocation can result in contempt charges or emergency return orders, even without criminal charges
  • Courts assess each relocation under the best interests of the child per C.R.S. §14-10-124
  • Long-distance parenting creates added costs and challenges—judges often assign travel costs to the relocating parent under C.R.S. §14-10-115(11)
  • Emotional losses for children include missing friends, schools, and a parent’s daily presence
  • Real case examples show why courts value transparency, cooperation, and early communication
  • Key case law includes Spahmer v. Gullette, Ciesluk v. Ciesluk, In re Marriage of Martin, and DeZalia v. DeZalia

Resources from this Episode

Relocation statute: C.R.S. 14-10-129: codes.findlaw.com/co/title-14-domestic-matters/co-rev-st-sect-14-10-129

Best interests of the child: C.R.S. 14-10-124: codes.findlaw.com/co/title-14-domestic-matters/co-rev-st-sect-14-10-124

Payment issues: C.R.S. 14-10-115(11), scroll way down to find (11): codes.findlaw.com/co/title-14-domestic-matters/co-rev-st-sect-14-10-115

Key Colorado caselaw around relocation:

In re Marriage of Ciesluk: law.justia.com/cases/colorado/supreme-court/2005/04sc555-0.html

Spahmer v. Gullette: law.justia.com/cases/colorado/supreme-court/2005/03sc751-0.html

In re Marriage of Martin: callidusai.com/wp/ai/cases/2639358/in-re-the-marriage-of-martin

In re Marriage of DeZalia: callidusai.com/wp/ai/cases/2638291/marriage-of-dezalia-v-dezalia

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista explores one of the most high-conflict areas in Colorado family law: relocation after divorce or custody orders. When one parent wants to relocate, whether within or outside the state, courts must decide what serves the child’s best interest, not the parent’s.

Krista walks through how Colorado handles relocation under C.R.S. §14-10-129, explains the difference between a parent's right to move and the right to move with a child, and addresses a common fear: Is it kidnapping to move without permission? She illustrates these issues with real-world case studies, one in which a parent left without notice, and another in which a parent followed every step legally.

This solo episode covers the legal process, emotional impact, court standards, and how to keep children at the center of difficult relocation decisions. It’s a must-listen for any parent facing—or fearing—a move.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Relocation means any move that significantly disrupts an existing parenting plan, not just moves across state lines
  • Parents retain the right to relocate, but not the automatic right to move a child with them
  • Colorado requires written notice, a proposed new parenting plan, and court approval under C.R.S. §14-10-129
  • Unauthorized relocation can result in contempt charges or emergency return orders, even without criminal charges
  • Courts assess each relocation under the best interests of the child per C.R.S. §14-10-124
  • Long-distance parenting creates added costs and challenges—judges often assign travel costs to the relocating parent under C.R.S. §14-10-115(11)
  • Emotional losses for children include missing friends, schools, and a parent’s daily presence
  • Real case examples show why courts value transparency, cooperation, and early communication
  • Key case law includes Spahmer v. Gullette, Ciesluk v. Ciesluk, In re Marriage of Martin, and DeZalia v. DeZalia

Resources from this Episode

Relocation statute: C.R.S. 14-10-129: codes.findlaw.com/co/title-14-domestic-matters/co-rev-st-sect-14-10-129

Best interests of the child: C.R.S. 14-10-124: codes.findlaw.com/co/title-14-domestic-matters/co-rev-st-sect-14-10-124

Payment issues: C.R.S. 14-10-115(11), scroll way down to find (11): codes.findlaw.com/co/title-14-domestic-matters/co-rev-st-sect-14-10-115

Key Colorado caselaw around relocation:

In re Marriage of Ciesluk: law.justia.com/cases/colorado/supreme-court/2005/04sc555-0.html

Spahmer v. Gullette: law.justia.com/cases/colorado/supreme-court/2005/03sc751-0.html

In re Marriage of Martin: callidusai.com/wp/ai/cases/2639358/in-re-the-marriage-of-martin

In re Marriage of DeZalia: callidusai.com/wp/ai/cases/2638291/marriage-of-dezalia-v-dezalia

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 2167 40 full 039: Divorce, Two Homes, and a Child’s Voice: What Parents and Professionals Need to Know, with Dr. Susan Fletcher 039: Divorce, Two Homes, and a Child’s Voice: What Parents and Professionals Need to Know, with Dr. Susan Fletcher https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/039-divorce-two-homes-and-a-child-s-voice-what-parents-and-professionals-need-to-know-with-dr-susan-fletcher/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/039-divorce-two-homes-and-a-child-s-voice-what-parents-and-professionals-need-to-know-with-dr-susan-fletcher/#comments Mon, 30 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/c524e580-3505-3cfd-8e9a-8a6d0e470457 In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista is joined by Dr. Susan Fletcher, a licensed psychologist in both Texas and Colorado, known for her deep experience with court-involved families and child-focused evaluations. Together, they explore what children truly experience during and after a divorce and how parents and professionals can better support their transition to life in two homes.

Dr. Fletcher explains how children internalize language like “custody” and “visitation” and offers practical suggestions for reframing these terms in ways that support emotional resilience. She stresses the importance of maintaining consistency, recognizing a child's individual vulnerabilities, and reframing transitions as opportunities rather than losses. The conversation covers early intervention, therapist involvement, and the crucial role of in-home observations for professionals working with families post-divorce.

This episode also addresses why mental health providers may resist testifying in court, how board complaints create fear, and what professionals can do to better navigate the intersection of clinical care and legal involvement. Dr. Fletcher shares real-world experiences from both therapy and evaluations, bringing clarity to a complex and emotionally charged aspect of family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Children often absorb adult terminology like “custody” and “visitation” in ways that affect their sense of identity
  • Simple language changes and reframes can support emotional safety during transitions
  • Some kids adapt easily to two homes, while others need more structured emotional support
  • In-home observations provide professionals with a clearer context for how children experience post-divorce life
  • Fear of licensing complaints can prevent therapists from staying involved in court cases, even when their voices matter
  • Parents can remain emotionally available without overwhelming their children
  • Creating a strong support system helps families and professionals navigate ongoing changes
  • Shifting focus from fear-based reactions to hopeful engagement promotes healthier outcomes

Resources from this Episode

www.fletcherphd.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista is joined by Dr. Susan Fletcher, a licensed psychologist in both Texas and Colorado, known for her deep experience with court-involved families and child-focused evaluations. Together, they explore what children truly experience during and after a divorce and how parents and professionals can better support their transition to life in two homes.

Dr. Fletcher explains how children internalize language like “custody” and “visitation” and offers practical suggestions for reframing these terms in ways that support emotional resilience. She stresses the importance of maintaining consistency, recognizing a child's individual vulnerabilities, and reframing transitions as opportunities rather than losses. The conversation covers early intervention, therapist involvement, and the crucial role of in-home observations for professionals working with families post-divorce.

This episode also addresses why mental health providers may resist testifying in court, how board complaints create fear, and what professionals can do to better navigate the intersection of clinical care and legal involvement. Dr. Fletcher shares real-world experiences from both therapy and evaluations, bringing clarity to a complex and emotionally charged aspect of family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Children often absorb adult terminology like “custody” and “visitation” in ways that affect their sense of identity
  • Simple language changes and reframes can support emotional safety during transitions
  • Some kids adapt easily to two homes, while others need more structured emotional support
  • In-home observations provide professionals with a clearer context for how children experience post-divorce life
  • Fear of licensing complaints can prevent therapists from staying involved in court cases, even when their voices matter
  • Parents can remain emotionally available without overwhelming their children
  • Creating a strong support system helps families and professionals navigate ongoing changes
  • Shifting focus from fear-based reactions to hopeful engagement promotes healthier outcomes

Resources from this Episode

www.fletcherphd.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4297 39 full 038: Protection and Custody Collide: Child Abuse in Divorce Cases with Expert Seth Goldstein, Former Police Officer & Child Abuse Attorney 038: Protection and Custody Collide: Child Abuse in Divorce Cases with Expert Seth Goldstein, Former Police Officer & Child Abuse Attorney https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/038-protection-and-custody-collide-child-abuse-in-divorce-cases-with-expert-seth-goldstein-former-police-officer-child-abuse-attorney/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/038-protection-and-custody-collide-child-abuse-in-divorce-cases-with-expert-seth-goldstein-former-police-officer-child-abuse-attorney/#comments Mon, 23 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/6a82e1c6-baf7-378e-96d9-8be921159a57 In this episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista welcomes Seth Goldstein, a California-based family law attorney, expert witness, and former police officer with over four decades of experience in child protection. The conversation centers on how courts respond—or fail to respond—when child abuse allegations arise in the context of divorce or custody disputes.

Drawing on his experience in law enforcement and years of litigating high-conflict family law cases, Seth offers a rare dual perspective that spans criminal investigations, forensic evidence, and courtroom advocacy. Krista and Seth examine how family courts often lack the protections, resources, and trauma-informed systems that exist in dependency courts, leaving children vulnerable in legal battles that prioritize parental rights over child safety.

Krista and Seth also discuss how allegations are frequently dismissed as custody tactics, the limitations of child protective services, the misunderstood role of minors’ counsel, and how new legislation, like Colorado’s Kayden’s Law and House Bill 24-1350, aims to shift the focus back to the child.

This episode is a must-listen for family law professionals, child advocates, and parents navigating abuse concerns in the middle of divorce. It’s also a sobering look at what can go wrong and what needs to change to prevent tragedy.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The disconnect between how criminal courts and family courts handle child abuse allegations
  • Why dependency courts offer more protection for children than family courts
  • How courts evaluate the credibility of abuse claims in custody disputes
  • The critical role of evidence, mandatory reporters, and multidisciplinary teams
  • Why some abuse reports are dismissed, even when they’re credible
  • The dangers of forced reunification and outdated views on co-parenting
  • Colorado’s response through Kayden’s Law and HB 24-1350
  • What parents can do if they suspect abuse, and fear the system won’t believe them
  • The long-term effects of domestic violence on children, even without direct exposure
  • A call for reform: shifting from shared parenting presumptions to child-centered outcomes

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

www.lawofficesofsethgoldstein.com

www.missingkids.org/home

fvaplaw.org

www.phillyburbs.com/story/news/local/2024/03/26/kayden-mancuso-pa-legislature-kaydens-law-child-custody-reform-bucks-county/73103605007/#:~:text=What%20happened%20to%20Kayden%20Mancuso,%2C%22%20and%20then%20killed%20himself.

www.hud.gov/vawa#close

leadershipcouncil.org

www.ivatcenters.org

www.peaceoverviolence.org/iii-the-cycle-of-violence-and-power-and-control

www.thehotline.org/here-for-you

bwjp.org

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista welcomes Seth Goldstein, a California-based family law attorney, expert witness, and former police officer with over four decades of experience in child protection. The conversation centers on how courts respond—or fail to respond—when child abuse allegations arise in the context of divorce or custody disputes.

Drawing on his experience in law enforcement and years of litigating high-conflict family law cases, Seth offers a rare dual perspective that spans criminal investigations, forensic evidence, and courtroom advocacy. Krista and Seth examine how family courts often lack the protections, resources, and trauma-informed systems that exist in dependency courts, leaving children vulnerable in legal battles that prioritize parental rights over child safety.

Krista and Seth also discuss how allegations are frequently dismissed as custody tactics, the limitations of child protective services, the misunderstood role of minors’ counsel, and how new legislation, like Colorado’s Kayden’s Law and House Bill 24-1350, aims to shift the focus back to the child.

This episode is a must-listen for family law professionals, child advocates, and parents navigating abuse concerns in the middle of divorce. It’s also a sobering look at what can go wrong and what needs to change to prevent tragedy.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The disconnect between how criminal courts and family courts handle child abuse allegations
  • Why dependency courts offer more protection for children than family courts
  • How courts evaluate the credibility of abuse claims in custody disputes
  • The critical role of evidence, mandatory reporters, and multidisciplinary teams
  • Why some abuse reports are dismissed, even when they’re credible
  • The dangers of forced reunification and outdated views on co-parenting
  • Colorado’s response through Kayden’s Law and HB 24-1350
  • What parents can do if they suspect abuse, and fear the system won’t believe them
  • The long-term effects of domestic violence on children, even without direct exposure
  • A call for reform: shifting from shared parenting presumptions to child-centered outcomes

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

www.lawofficesofsethgoldstein.com

www.missingkids.org/home

fvaplaw.org

www.phillyburbs.com/story/news/local/2024/03/26/kayden-mancuso-pa-legislature-kaydens-law-child-custody-reform-bucks-county/73103605007/#:~:text=What%20happened%20to%20Kayden%20Mancuso,%2C%22%20and%20then%20killed%20himself.

www.hud.gov/vawa#close

leadershipcouncil.org

www.ivatcenters.org

www.peaceoverviolence.org/iii-the-cycle-of-violence-and-power-and-control

www.thehotline.org/here-for-you

bwjp.org

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3689 38 full 037: Colorado Family Law: Understanding the Role of a CLR in Custody and Parenting Cases 037: Colorado Family Law: Understanding the Role of a CLR in Custody and Parenting Cases https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/037-colorado-family-law-understanding-the-role-of-a-clr-in-custody-and-parenting-cases/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/037-colorado-family-law-understanding-the-role-of-a-clr-in-custody-and-parenting-cases/#comments Mon, 16 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/7e995156-efd4-31af-9711-8d7be1dc729b In this solo episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista, a Colorado-based family law attorney and child advocate, breaks down her structured approach to serving as a Child’s Legal Representative (CLR) in high-conflict divorce and custody cases across the state.

Krista shares her 11-step process for advocating on behalf of children during some of the most complex and emotionally charged family law matters. Drawing on her experience practicing throughout Denver, Boulder, Fort Collins, and Colorado Springs, she guides listeners through the process of how CLRs are appointed, their interactions with families, and how they contribute to shaping child-centered solutions both inside and outside the courtroom.

From initial appointments and home visits to therapeutic collaboration and final court engagement, Krista explains how an active, negotiation-based model empowers children to have a voice while protecting their well-being. She also compares the CLR role to other evaluative processes used in Colorado family courts, including CFIs and PREs, highlighting the benefits of real-time engagement and ongoing problem-solving.

For parents, attorneys, and professionals working in Colorado family law, this episode offers a clear and practical guide to what it means to truly represent the best interests of the child, with a process that’s informed, intentional, and deeply rooted in trauma-aware advocacy.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How courts appoint a Child’s Legal Representative (CLR) in Colorado
  • Why earlier CLR involvement can lead to better outcomes for families
  • A detailed look at Krista’s 11-step CLR process, from start to finish
  • The value of active negotiation over passive observation in high-conflict parenting cases
  • The difference between a CLR and roles like CFIs or parenting evaluators
  • Strategies to support children’s voices in parenting time disputes
  • How Colorado-specific forms (JDF 1319/1320) initiate the CLR appointment process

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this solo episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista, a Colorado-based family law attorney and child advocate, breaks down her structured approach to serving as a Child’s Legal Representative (CLR) in high-conflict divorce and custody cases across the state.

Krista shares her 11-step process for advocating on behalf of children during some of the most complex and emotionally charged family law matters. Drawing on her experience practicing throughout Denver, Boulder, Fort Collins, and Colorado Springs, she guides listeners through the process of how CLRs are appointed, their interactions with families, and how they contribute to shaping child-centered solutions both inside and outside the courtroom.

From initial appointments and home visits to therapeutic collaboration and final court engagement, Krista explains how an active, negotiation-based model empowers children to have a voice while protecting their well-being. She also compares the CLR role to other evaluative processes used in Colorado family courts, including CFIs and PREs, highlighting the benefits of real-time engagement and ongoing problem-solving.

For parents, attorneys, and professionals working in Colorado family law, this episode offers a clear and practical guide to what it means to truly represent the best interests of the child, with a process that’s informed, intentional, and deeply rooted in trauma-aware advocacy.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How courts appoint a Child’s Legal Representative (CLR) in Colorado
  • Why earlier CLR involvement can lead to better outcomes for families
  • A detailed look at Krista’s 11-step CLR process, from start to finish
  • The value of active negotiation over passive observation in high-conflict parenting cases
  • The difference between a CLR and roles like CFIs or parenting evaluators
  • Strategies to support children’s voices in parenting time disputes
  • How Colorado-specific forms (JDF 1319/1320) initiate the CLR appointment process

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3683 37 full 036: The Split Films’ Ellen Bruno: Giving Voices to Kids of Divorce 036: The Split Films’ Ellen Bruno: Giving Voices to Kids of Divorce https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/036-the-split-films-ellen-bruno-giving-voices-to-kids-of-divorce/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/036-the-split-films-ellen-bruno-giving-voices-to-kids-of-divorce/#comments Mon, 09 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/0272c77f-5331-3632-ae15-5e5507e3f797 In this moving episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista welcomes acclaimed documentary filmmaker Ellen Bruno, the creator behind the powerful films “Split: The Early Years” and “Split Up: The Teen Years.” These documentaries feature a cast of real children who had experienced divorce of their parents, with purely their voices and artwork, no experts, no therapists, no adults – just the kids. Split featured the kids when young; Split Up then followed up with the same kids 10 years later, reflecting on how divorce had impacted them as they emerged into late teens and young adulthood. The films give incredibly powerful insight every parent going through family law dynamics should watch, as well as any professional in the family law arena. The film is raw, honest, and deeply impactful. 

In her conversation with Krista, Ellen shares the personal journey that inspired her to create Split, which began after her own divorce when she heard her own child and others in carpools from school discussing issues of divorce and the lightbulb that went off in her head that she could use her filmmaking to give voice to the voiceless and shine a light on the impact of divorce on children  She had already spent much of her career in humanitarian work and international filmmaking attempting to give voice to many different people groups, with films focusing on issues at the forefront of human rights. 

Ellen began her relief efforts in remote Mayan villages in Tabasco, Mexico. She worked in refugee camps on the Thai-Cambodian border with the International Rescue Committee, in Vietnamese boat camps with The Refugee Section of the American Embassy in Thailand, and as director of the Cambodian Women's Project for the American Friends Service Committee.

With a masters degree in documentary film from Stanford University, she is a recipient of Guggenheim and Rockefeller Fellowships, a Goldie Award for Outstanding Artist, an Alpert Award for the Arts,an Anonymous Was A Woman Award for the Arts, a Shenkin Fellowship from Yale University School of Art, and was an Artist-in- Residence at the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts, among many other accomplishments.

Krista and Ellen explore recurring themes from both Split films, including identity shifts, the emotional cost of “two homes,” and the unspoken pressure children feel to take care of their parents. They also highlight how parents, legal professionals, and mental health practitioners can utilize the films to gain a deeper understanding of the child’s perspective—and why it matters so much. Ellen shares, too, the potential for another film following up yet again with these now-adult kids and/or their parents, a possibility Krista encourages.

This conversation is a true gem for the podcast and a must-listen for divorcing parents, co-parents, attorneys, and anyone who works with families. It’s a powerful reminder that small choices can create lasting change and that truly listening to children can transform our approach to divorce.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The emotional cost of silence and shame in divorce
  • Why kids need space to share their experiences without adult interference
  • The impact of small co-parenting gestures, like family photos or shared events
  • How the Split films help parents and professionals re-center on children
  • A reminder that divorce doesn’t end in six months—it’s a lifelong transition

 

Resources from this Episode

To purchase the “Split” films:

Contact Ellen Bruno: info@splitoutreachproject.org

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this moving episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista welcomes acclaimed documentary filmmaker Ellen Bruno, the creator behind the powerful films “Split: The Early Years” and “Split Up: The Teen Years.” These documentaries feature a cast of real children who had experienced divorce of their parents, with purely their voices and artwork, no experts, no therapists, no adults – just the kids. Split featured the kids when young; Split Up then followed up with the same kids 10 years later, reflecting on how divorce had impacted them as they emerged into late teens and young adulthood. The films give incredibly powerful insight every parent going through family law dynamics should watch, as well as any professional in the family law arena. The film is raw, honest, and deeply impactful. 

In her conversation with Krista, Ellen shares the personal journey that inspired her to create Split, which began after her own divorce when she heard her own child and others in carpools from school discussing issues of divorce and the lightbulb that went off in her head that she could use her filmmaking to give voice to the voiceless and shine a light on the impact of divorce on children  She had already spent much of her career in humanitarian work and international filmmaking attempting to give voice to many different people groups, with films focusing on issues at the forefront of human rights. 

Ellen began her relief efforts in remote Mayan villages in Tabasco, Mexico. She worked in refugee camps on the Thai-Cambodian border with the International Rescue Committee, in Vietnamese boat camps with The Refugee Section of the American Embassy in Thailand, and as director of the Cambodian Women's Project for the American Friends Service Committee.

With a masters degree in documentary film from Stanford University, she is a recipient of Guggenheim and Rockefeller Fellowships, a Goldie Award for Outstanding Artist, an Alpert Award for the Arts,an Anonymous Was A Woman Award for the Arts, a Shenkin Fellowship from Yale University School of Art, and was an Artist-in- Residence at the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts, among many other accomplishments.

Krista and Ellen explore recurring themes from both Split films, including identity shifts, the emotional cost of “two homes,” and the unspoken pressure children feel to take care of their parents. They also highlight how parents, legal professionals, and mental health practitioners can utilize the films to gain a deeper understanding of the child’s perspective—and why it matters so much. Ellen shares, too, the potential for another film following up yet again with these now-adult kids and/or their parents, a possibility Krista encourages.

This conversation is a true gem for the podcast and a must-listen for divorcing parents, co-parents, attorneys, and anyone who works with families. It’s a powerful reminder that small choices can create lasting change and that truly listening to children can transform our approach to divorce.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The emotional cost of silence and shame in divorce
  • Why kids need space to share their experiences without adult interference
  • The impact of small co-parenting gestures, like family photos or shared events
  • How the Split films help parents and professionals re-center on children
  • A reminder that divorce doesn’t end in six months—it’s a lifelong transition

 

Resources from this Episode

To purchase the “Split” films:

Contact Ellen Bruno: info@splitoutreachproject.org

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3628 36 full 035: Choosing Your Child’s Therapist with Child Custody Expert & LPC Christy Bradshaw Schmidt 035: Choosing Your Child’s Therapist with Child Custody Expert & LPC Christy Bradshaw Schmidt https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/035-choosing-your-child-s-therapist-with-child-custody-expert-lpc-christy-bradshaw-schmidt/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/035-choosing-your-child-s-therapist-with-child-custody-expert-lpc-christy-bradshaw-schmidt/#comments Mon, 02 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/bf4f41e4-8c2b-3e2f-97c4-ee24367e63dd Choosing a therapist for your child often feels daunting because it’s an important decision in the divorce process. Today’s guest offers invaluable advice on what to look for in a therapy professional.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes child custody expert and Texas-licensed professional counselor Christy Bradshaw Schmidt. Christy has served as a private child custody evaluator since 2003, having completed more than 600 evaluations for families. She also serves as a private consultant and expert witness in family law matters like constructing parenting plans for kids less than three years old, relocation, reunification, and parent-child contact problems, among other topics. Christy is also a leading voice in helping therapists understand boundaries in high-conflict cases, the appropriate roles of mental health professionals in family law matters, and why selecting appropriate therapists for court-involved families is critical. Christy is the author of hundreds of articles and presentations surrounding issues related to children and family courts.

Krista and Christy begin their discussion by delving into Christy’s journey working with court-involved families. Christy explains the problem with therapists’ training, why nearly all cases requiring child custody evaluations also require therapeutic resources, and her experience with 600+ custody evaluations, with 90% of those including recommendations for therapy. You’ll hear specific ways parents can find the best and most appropriate mental health professionals and why more therapists need to enter this line of work. Krista and Christy cover the necessity of transparency between therapists and both parents, Christy’s process for dealing with parent-child contact cases, and why family law is an incredible career focus area for mental health professionals who can find many satisfying rewards in helping families flourish.

Divorce is incredibly distressing for children and families. Involving a qualified therapist can help guide parents to help children and parents cope with divorce realities and meet individual and coparenting needs moving forward.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Christy Bradshaw Schmidt’s journey into working with court-involved families
  • The problem with therapists’ training, fostering fear in working with court-involved families
  • Why nearly all child custody evaluations recommend  therapeutic resources to help fix the problems
  • The incredible dearth of trained professionals willing to do this critically important work, for example about 25 in the Dallas/Fort Worth, Texas, area, demonstrating the serious issues of supply and demand mismatch for families going through divorce and needing help
  • Specific ways parents can find the best, most appropriate mental health professionals by using the right keywords and asking the right questions
  • The problems and likely damage parents face when they choose the wrong mental health professionals
  •  
  • Why more therapists need to go into this line of work
  • Therapists’ basic training that makes them ill-equipped to do this work
  • How therapists can obtain the necessary skills to help court-involved families
  • The importance of therapists for the family to work with one another and communicate regularly
  • The need for transparency between therapists and both parents
  • Rebuilding and fostering trust between parents
  • Ethics considerations for therapists involved with court-involved families
  • Why mental health professionals should testify regarding their work when parents go to court in family law cases
  • The process Christy would use in a family with parent-child contact problems
  • What other states can learn from Texas, which created rule changes around grieving therapists in these cases, giving them more protection and allowing more therapists to be willing to do this important work
  • Why Christy believes family law is an incredible area in which mental health professionals can focus one’s career, giving therapists so many opportunities to help families flourish despite the breakdown caused by divorce

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

txfamilylawforensics.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/CV-combined-version-with-CE-5425feb.pdf

txfamilylawforensics.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Choosing a therapist for your child often feels daunting because it’s an important decision in the divorce process. Today’s guest offers invaluable advice on what to look for in a therapy professional.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes child custody expert and Texas-licensed professional counselor Christy Bradshaw Schmidt. Christy has served as a private child custody evaluator since 2003, having completed more than 600 evaluations for families. She also serves as a private consultant and expert witness in family law matters like constructing parenting plans for kids less than three years old, relocation, reunification, and parent-child contact problems, among other topics. Christy is also a leading voice in helping therapists understand boundaries in high-conflict cases, the appropriate roles of mental health professionals in family law matters, and why selecting appropriate therapists for court-involved families is critical. Christy is the author of hundreds of articles and presentations surrounding issues related to children and family courts.

Krista and Christy begin their discussion by delving into Christy’s journey working with court-involved families. Christy explains the problem with therapists’ training, why nearly all cases requiring child custody evaluations also require therapeutic resources, and her experience with 600+ custody evaluations, with 90% of those including recommendations for therapy. You’ll hear specific ways parents can find the best and most appropriate mental health professionals and why more therapists need to enter this line of work. Krista and Christy cover the necessity of transparency between therapists and both parents, Christy’s process for dealing with parent-child contact cases, and why family law is an incredible career focus area for mental health professionals who can find many satisfying rewards in helping families flourish.

Divorce is incredibly distressing for children and families. Involving a qualified therapist can help guide parents to help children and parents cope with divorce realities and meet individual and coparenting needs moving forward.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Christy Bradshaw Schmidt’s journey into working with court-involved families
  • The problem with therapists’ training, fostering fear in working with court-involved families
  • Why nearly all child custody evaluations recommend  therapeutic resources to help fix the problems
  • The incredible dearth of trained professionals willing to do this critically important work, for example about 25 in the Dallas/Fort Worth, Texas, area, demonstrating the serious issues of supply and demand mismatch for families going through divorce and needing help
  • Specific ways parents can find the best, most appropriate mental health professionals by using the right keywords and asking the right questions
  • The problems and likely damage parents face when they choose the wrong mental health professionals
  •  
  • Why more therapists need to go into this line of work
  • Therapists’ basic training that makes them ill-equipped to do this work
  • How therapists can obtain the necessary skills to help court-involved families
  • The importance of therapists for the family to work with one another and communicate regularly
  • The need for transparency between therapists and both parents
  • Rebuilding and fostering trust between parents
  • Ethics considerations for therapists involved with court-involved families
  • Why mental health professionals should testify regarding their work when parents go to court in family law cases
  • The process Christy would use in a family with parent-child contact problems
  • What other states can learn from Texas, which created rule changes around grieving therapists in these cases, giving them more protection and allowing more therapists to be willing to do this important work
  • Why Christy believes family law is an incredible area in which mental health professionals can focus one’s career, giving therapists so many opportunities to help families flourish despite the breakdown caused by divorce

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

txfamilylawforensics.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/CV-combined-version-with-CE-5425feb.pdf

txfamilylawforensics.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Children First Family Law false No 4203 35 full 034: Transforming Co-Parenting Success Through Effective Training: BeH2O with Trina Nudson 034: Transforming Co-Parenting Success Through Effective Training: BeH2O with Trina Nudson https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/034-transforming-co-parenting-success-through-effective-training-beh2o-with-trina-nudson/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/034-transforming-co-parenting-success-through-effective-training-beh2o-with-trina-nudson/#comments Mon, 26 May 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/8cf19bb5-1ddd-35c8-9a3c-af63142553d7 Many professionals in the divorce community are beginning to recognize the impact divorce can have on children. Out of that realization, innovative programs are emerging that can help children and families flourish despite a divorce.

On today’s Children First Family Law, Krista interviews Trina Nudson, creator of nationally available child-centered co-parenting programs that parents anywhere can access to transform the quality of their co-parenting. Trina first worked as a foster care social worker and later transitioned to a best interest attorney for kids. She recognized that children and parents of divorce needed better solutions to help safeguard childhood and strove to find solutions for change. Trina recently launched her innovative BeH2O program, training professionals across the United States to encourage parents to transform their co-parenting and navigate challenges with resilience and fluidity that overflows to their children, helping everyone flourish.

Krista and Trina start their conversation by delving into Trina’s background in social work, what led her into law, and finally, her work as an entrepreneur developing programs to help parents and children flourish post-divorce. You’ll hear about her initial project, The Layne Project, now known as The Layne Project 4 Families, and how that led to the creation of BeH2O, a 16-week co-parenting curriculum. She shares what she means by “safeguarding childhoods,” the various offerings BeH2O offers participants and coaches, and how BeH2O integrates kids into the process. Trina explains why co-parenting requires rebuilding and shares some of her family success stories. Finally, Trina explains the cost of BeH2O and why it can be much more cost-effective than further involving the court and attorneys.

Previously, resources for parents who want to co-parent more effectively have been limited, but with emerging programs like BeH2O, parents have more options than ever to improve co-parenting dynamics.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Trina Nudson’s journey from social work to law to entrepreneur, developing real solutions to help divorced parents be the best possible co-parents
  • How she helped innovate Kansas courts to better serve children, including through the state's triage system.
  • The suffering ALICE families (asset-limited, income-constrained, employed families) experience with few services available to help them be better co-parents and help their children flourish despite divorce
  • The Layne Project in Kansas, Trina’s initial effort to meet these needs head-on for decades, now a nonprofit called The Layne Project 4 Families
  • New solutions to scale her program through BeH2O, a 16-week co-parenting curriculum, with offerings now (or soon) in 14 states, and goals to reach all 50 states within two-and-a-half years
  • Trina’s goal to “safeguard childhoods,” and why divorced parents need to do the same
  • How BeH2O Coaching offers training through Trina’s competitive, selective program for professionals serving families.
  • Details about how the program works, including integrating kids into the process 
  • The program is not “magic fairy dust” but “getting real”
  • Program topics include: effective communication, tools for tough situations, empathy and understanding, commitment to growth, and well-being beyond parenting
  • Why co-parenting change requires rebuilding, because the old models of parental interaction are obsolete
  • BeH2O is not therapy and not typical parent coaching, but rather a guided, curriculum-based program 
  • Real success stories and transformation for even the most entrenched parents
  • How the EOS (Entrepreneurial Operating System) system helps Trina run the program
  • The cost of attending the program as a professional or parent

Resources from this Episode

thelayneproject.com/educational-programs/beh2o

beh2ocoaching.com

tlp4families.org

thelayneproject.com/blog

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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]]> Many professionals in the divorce community are beginning to recognize the impact divorce can have on children. Out of that realization, innovative programs are emerging that can help children and families flourish despite a divorce.

On today’s Children First Family Law, Krista interviews Trina Nudson, creator of nationally available child-centered co-parenting programs that parents anywhere can access to transform the quality of their co-parenting. Trina first worked as a foster care social worker and later transitioned to a best interest attorney for kids. She recognized that children and parents of divorce needed better solutions to help safeguard childhood and strove to find solutions for change. Trina recently launched her innovative BeH2O program, training professionals across the United States to encourage parents to transform their co-parenting and navigate challenges with resilience and fluidity that overflows to their children, helping everyone flourish.

Krista and Trina start their conversation by delving into Trina’s background in social work, what led her into law, and finally, her work as an entrepreneur developing programs to help parents and children flourish post-divorce. You’ll hear about her initial project, The Layne Project, now known as The Layne Project 4 Families, and how that led to the creation of BeH2O, a 16-week co-parenting curriculum. She shares what she means by “safeguarding childhoods,” the various offerings BeH2O offers participants and coaches, and how BeH2O integrates kids into the process. Trina explains why co-parenting requires rebuilding and shares some of her family success stories. Finally, Trina explains the cost of BeH2O and why it can be much more cost-effective than further involving the court and attorneys.

Previously, resources for parents who want to co-parent more effectively have been limited, but with emerging programs like BeH2O, parents have more options than ever to improve co-parenting dynamics.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Trina Nudson’s journey from social work to law to entrepreneur, developing real solutions to help divorced parents be the best possible co-parents
  • How she helped innovate Kansas courts to better serve children, including through the state's triage system.
  • The suffering ALICE families (asset-limited, income-constrained, employed families) experience with few services available to help them be better co-parents and help their children flourish despite divorce
  • The Layne Project in Kansas, Trina’s initial effort to meet these needs head-on for decades, now a nonprofit called The Layne Project 4 Families
  • New solutions to scale her program through BeH2O, a 16-week co-parenting curriculum, with offerings now (or soon) in 14 states, and goals to reach all 50 states within two-and-a-half years
  • Trina’s goal to “safeguard childhoods,” and why divorced parents need to do the same
  • How BeH2O Coaching offers training through Trina’s competitive, selective program for professionals serving families.
  • Details about how the program works, including integrating kids into the process 
  • The program is not “magic fairy dust” but “getting real”
  • Program topics include: effective communication, tools for tough situations, empathy and understanding, commitment to growth, and well-being beyond parenting
  • Why co-parenting change requires rebuilding, because the old models of parental interaction are obsolete
  • BeH2O is not therapy and not typical parent coaching, but rather a guided, curriculum-based program 
  • Real success stories and transformation for even the most entrenched parents
  • How the EOS (Entrepreneurial Operating System) system helps Trina run the program
  • The cost of attending the program as a professional or parent

Resources from this Episode

thelayneproject.com/educational-programs/beh2o

beh2ocoaching.com

tlp4families.org

thelayneproject.com/blog

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3801 34 full 033: Co-Parenting with Respect: Creative Approaches with Jill Reiter and Dr. Shelley Bresnick 033: Co-Parenting with Respect: Creative Approaches with Jill Reiter and Dr. Shelley Bresnick https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/033-co-parenting-with-respect-creative-approaches-with-jill-reiter-and-dr-shelly-bresnick/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/033-co-parenting-with-respect-creative-approaches-with-jill-reiter-and-dr-shelly-bresnick/#comments Mon, 19 May 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/b4071e1a-d8f2-3054-ac3d-16fe5303e95f When couples split up, animosity and resentment can fester, leaving children caught in the middle.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Jill Reiter and Dr. Shelley Bresnick to discuss their program, Co-Parenting with Respect, a 10-session curriculum that brings children’s voices to the forefront and delicately facilitates parents learning to be the best possible co-parents. Shelley is a clinical psychologist who has worked with Colorado’s court-involved families for decades as a parental responsibilities evaluator, co-parent educator, and parenting plan consultant. She is also a therapist, working with children, adolescents, couples, and families. Jill is a licensed clinical social worker who received much of her early training with psychiatrists in child, adolescent, and adult inpatient psychiatric units. She has years of experience working with disrupted family systems through the public and private sectors. Jill maintains a private practice in Colorado, specializing in child, adolescent, and family therapy, including parent-child contact problems and parent coaching.

Krista, Jill, and Shelley begin their discussion by exploring the providers’ backgrounds and how they decided to partner to develop Co-Parenting with Respect. Jill and Shelley explain how they screen co-parents for the program, the positive impact on children when parents overcome dysfunctional co-parenting dynamics, and how they implement child voice sessions. Jill and Shelley outline the Co-Parenting with Respect curriculum, explain what situations and families the curriculum best serves, how they teach parents to communicate together, and share a couple of their favorite success stories of families who completed the program. Finally, the family law bar and in particular litigation-focused attorneys need to know about their role in the divorce process and the impact litigation focus has in harming families and coparenting outcomes

Reframing the co-parenting dynamic is a critical piece of the puzzle following divorce. Shelley and Jill are teaching parents how to communicate and interact so their children can flourish for years to come with both parents.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Jill Reiter’s background in social work and discovery of a passion for work in the divorce and domestic relations realm
  • Dr. Shelley Bresnick’s entry into divorce work after completing her Ph.D.
  • The development of Jill and Dr. Bresnick’s Co-Parenting with Respect program
  • How they screen co-parents for their program, and the impact that domestic violence can have on the screening
  • Overcoming difficult co-parenting dynamics and the positive impact it can have on children
  • The goal of Child Voice Sessions and what makes them unique.
  • An outline of the Co-Parenting with Respect curriculum
  • Teaching parents how to communicate together, focusing on the children, and the shift that occurs when parents learn these skills
  • Jill and Shelley’s favorite family success stories from their program
  • The family dynamics best suited for the Co-Parenting with Respect program
  • Finding common ground with which parents can resonate and use to turn their relationship into a business-like relationship that is courteous and puts children first
  • What attorneys need to know about their role in the divorce process and the impact litigation focus has in harming families and coparenting outcomes

 

Resources from this Episode

www.coparentingwithrespect.com

Jill Reiter, LCSW, is offering the CPR program at the following location:   

750 E. 9th Ave Suite 104

Denver, CO 80203

Call or email: 720-810-9910 or jill@jillreiterlcswpllc.com

jillreiterlcswpllc.com

Shelley Bresnick, PsyD, PLLC, is offering CPR at the following location. 

710 Kipling Suite 103

Lakewood, CO 80215

Call or email: 303-601-4983 or shelleybresnick@gmail.com

shelleybresnickpsyd.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> When couples split up, animosity and resentment can fester, leaving children caught in the middle.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Jill Reiter and Dr. Shelley Bresnick to discuss their program, Co-Parenting with Respect, a 10-session curriculum that brings children’s voices to the forefront and delicately facilitates parents learning to be the best possible co-parents. Shelley is a clinical psychologist who has worked with Colorado’s court-involved families for decades as a parental responsibilities evaluator, co-parent educator, and parenting plan consultant. She is also a therapist, working with children, adolescents, couples, and families. Jill is a licensed clinical social worker who received much of her early training with psychiatrists in child, adolescent, and adult inpatient psychiatric units. She has years of experience working with disrupted family systems through the public and private sectors. Jill maintains a private practice in Colorado, specializing in child, adolescent, and family therapy, including parent-child contact problems and parent coaching.

Krista, Jill, and Shelley begin their discussion by exploring the providers’ backgrounds and how they decided to partner to develop Co-Parenting with Respect. Jill and Shelley explain how they screen co-parents for the program, the positive impact on children when parents overcome dysfunctional co-parenting dynamics, and how they implement child voice sessions. Jill and Shelley outline the Co-Parenting with Respect curriculum, explain what situations and families the curriculum best serves, how they teach parents to communicate together, and share a couple of their favorite success stories of families who completed the program. Finally, the family law bar and in particular litigation-focused attorneys need to know about their role in the divorce process and the impact litigation focus has in harming families and coparenting outcomes

Reframing the co-parenting dynamic is a critical piece of the puzzle following divorce. Shelley and Jill are teaching parents how to communicate and interact so their children can flourish for years to come with both parents.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Jill Reiter’s background in social work and discovery of a passion for work in the divorce and domestic relations realm
  • Dr. Shelley Bresnick’s entry into divorce work after completing her Ph.D.
  • The development of Jill and Dr. Bresnick’s Co-Parenting with Respect program
  • How they screen co-parents for their program, and the impact that domestic violence can have on the screening
  • Overcoming difficult co-parenting dynamics and the positive impact it can have on children
  • The goal of Child Voice Sessions and what makes them unique.
  • An outline of the Co-Parenting with Respect curriculum
  • Teaching parents how to communicate together, focusing on the children, and the shift that occurs when parents learn these skills
  • Jill and Shelley’s favorite family success stories from their program
  • The family dynamics best suited for the Co-Parenting with Respect program
  • Finding common ground with which parents can resonate and use to turn their relationship into a business-like relationship that is courteous and puts children first
  • What attorneys need to know about their role in the divorce process and the impact litigation focus has in harming families and coparenting outcomes

 

Resources from this Episode

www.coparentingwithrespect.com

Jill Reiter, LCSW, is offering the CPR program at the following location:   

750 E. 9th Ave Suite 104

Denver, CO 80203

Call or email: 720-810-9910 or jill@jillreiterlcswpllc.com

jillreiterlcswpllc.com

Shelley Bresnick, PsyD, PLLC, is offering CPR at the following location. 

710 Kipling Suite 103

Lakewood, CO 80215

Call or email: 303-601-4983 or shelleybresnick@gmail.com

shelleybresnickpsyd.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3753 33 full 032: Family Law Across Continents – A Global Peek at Australia, the US, Japan, Italy, Germany, & Others with Justice Altobelli 032: Family Law Across Continents – A Global Peek at Australia, the US, Japan, Italy, Germany, & Others with Justice Altobelli https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/032-family-law-across-continents-%e2%80%93-a-global-peek-at-australia-the-us-japan-italy-germany-others-with-justice-altobelli/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/032-family-law-across-continents-%e2%80%93-a-global-peek-at-australia-the-us-japan-italy-germany-others-with-justice-altobelli/#comments Mon, 12 May 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/380c68ad-3e0e-345b-9aea-b08033e6371b Courts worldwide handle divorce and children differently, and Australia’s system is one today’s guest knows well.

On today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Justice Tom Altobelli, a family law judge from Sydney, Australia, who has served as a leader of international organizations focusing on doing divorce better. Justice Altobelli is a former professor at Western Sydney University and has been on the bench since 2006, rising to the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia in 2020. In 2023, Justice Altobelli was appointed as a member of the Order of Australia in recognition of significant service to the law and legal education. He is also the author of many books and articles, focusing on children and the law.

Krista and Justice Altobelli’s conversation starts by highlighting his long career in family law, beginning with his experience as an attorney and then as a professor. Justice Altobelli outlines the court structure differences between the United States and Australia, the evidence rules Australia created for less adversarial court procedures, and dispute resolution rules that have changed since 2006. He explains Child Impact Reports that can aid in the dispute resolution process, the role of Independent Children’s Lawyers, and Australia’s unique process of triaging  families based on the circumstances of individual situations. Krista and Justice Altobelli discuss the oddities of the U.S. family court structure and Justice Altobelli’s work in understanding the effect that being caught in the divorce crossfire can have on children.

The structure of family courts may differ around the world, but Justice Altobelli underscores that people around the world seek to put children first and ensure they aren’t caught in their parents’ crossfire.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Justice Altobelli’s background as a former professor at Western Sydney University and attorney in Australia and his experience on the bench as a family court judge since 2006
  • Court structure differences between the United States and Australia and other countries
  • Evidence rules in Australia that create far less adversarial court procedures
  • How these new rules have improved the speed and efficacy of family law cases
  • Dispute resolution rules before 2006, and the change in the importance of mediation
  • The focus on empowering, encouraging, and educating parents to settle cases about their children outside of a courtroom
  • The blending of all issues in the dispute resolution process and the Child Impact Reports that arise out of this process
  • Independent Children’s Lawyers and when they are assigned to a case
  • Triaging cases based on the individual circumstances of each one
  • The oddities of the U.S. family court structure and the influence of the emphasis on individual rights
  • Why children generally don’t come to court in Australia
  • Trends internationally in family law and the commonalities that countries often share
  • Justice Altobelli’s work in understanding the effect of children being caught in the divorce crossfire 
  •  The reality that fears persist from lawyers and judges regarding  loosening evidentiary rules in family law courts

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Courts worldwide handle divorce and children differently, and Australia’s system is one today’s guest knows well.

On today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Justice Tom Altobelli, a family law judge from Sydney, Australia, who has served as a leader of international organizations focusing on doing divorce better. Justice Altobelli is a former professor at Western Sydney University and has been on the bench since 2006, rising to the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia in 2020. In 2023, Justice Altobelli was appointed as a member of the Order of Australia in recognition of significant service to the law and legal education. He is also the author of many books and articles, focusing on children and the law.

Krista and Justice Altobelli’s conversation starts by highlighting his long career in family law, beginning with his experience as an attorney and then as a professor. Justice Altobelli outlines the court structure differences between the United States and Australia, the evidence rules Australia created for less adversarial court procedures, and dispute resolution rules that have changed since 2006. He explains Child Impact Reports that can aid in the dispute resolution process, the role of Independent Children’s Lawyers, and Australia’s unique process of triaging  families based on the circumstances of individual situations. Krista and Justice Altobelli discuss the oddities of the U.S. family court structure and Justice Altobelli’s work in understanding the effect that being caught in the divorce crossfire can have on children.

The structure of family courts may differ around the world, but Justice Altobelli underscores that people around the world seek to put children first and ensure they aren’t caught in their parents’ crossfire.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Justice Altobelli’s background as a former professor at Western Sydney University and attorney in Australia and his experience on the bench as a family court judge since 2006
  • Court structure differences between the United States and Australia and other countries
  • Evidence rules in Australia that create far less adversarial court procedures
  • How these new rules have improved the speed and efficacy of family law cases
  • Dispute resolution rules before 2006, and the change in the importance of mediation
  • The focus on empowering, encouraging, and educating parents to settle cases about their children outside of a courtroom
  • The blending of all issues in the dispute resolution process and the Child Impact Reports that arise out of this process
  • Independent Children’s Lawyers and when they are assigned to a case
  • Triaging cases based on the individual circumstances of each one
  • The oddities of the U.S. family court structure and the influence of the emphasis on individual rights
  • Why children generally don’t come to court in Australia
  • Trends internationally in family law and the commonalities that countries often share
  • Justice Altobelli’s work in understanding the effect of children being caught in the divorce crossfire 
  •  The reality that fears persist from lawyers and judges regarding  loosening evidentiary rules in family law courts

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3421 32 full 031: How Do I Get My Child’s Voice Heard? Picking the Right Child Advocate in Child Custody Cases in Colorado 031: How Do I Get My Child’s Voice Heard? Picking the Right Child Advocate in Child Custody Cases in Colorado https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/031-how-do-i-get-my-child-s-voice-heard-picking-the-right-child-advocate-in-child-custody-cases-in-colorado/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/031-how-do-i-get-my-child-s-voice-heard-picking-the-right-child-advocate-in-child-custody-cases-in-colorado/#comments Mon, 05 May 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/932b32e2-ff35-3a96-999f-7abf6470367b Parents often want their children’s voices to be heard during the divorce process. However, how that happens can vary greatly depending on the family’s situation.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista explains the “best interests” standard in Colorado and what families can expect regarding their child’s voice being heard in court. She outlines the nine factors Colorado uses to determine parenting time allocation, including considerations of factors used in allocating decision-making in a no-fault divorce state. Krista shares specific situations, such as alcohol or drug abuse or domestic violence, that can elevate a child’s voice in these scenarios, the ideal scenario for parenting time versus what often occurs, and ways a therapist can be utilized in a divorce case. She defines the roles of Child and Family Investigators (CFIs) and Parental Responsibilities Evaluators (PREs), as well as the drawbacks of involving either of them in a case. Finally, Krista explains how you can benefit from a child’s best interests attorney (Child’s Legal Representative or “CLR”) to attempt to curate solutions alongside parents and professionals involved in your case while representing the best interests of the child as an attorney advocate who obtains and considers the child’s wishes

Divorce can be messy and traumatic for everyone involved. Keeping your child’s best interests at the forefront and hiring qualified professionals can make the process smoother, making it more manageable for everyone.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The use of the “best interests” standard in Colorado
  • Ensuring a child’s voice is heard in the court while avoiding an adversarial approach to the other parent
  • Colorado’s implementation of nine factors to determine parenting time allocation, including:
    • Parents’ wishes
    • Child’s wishes
    • The relationship between the child and parents, siblings, and any other person who significantly affects the child's best interests
    • The child’s adjustment to home, school, and community
    • The mental and physical health of everyone involved
    • The parties’ ability to encourage the sharing of love, affection, and contact between the child and the other parent
    • Whether the parties’ past involvement shows a system of values, time commitment, and mutual support
    • How far apart the parties live
    • The ability of each party to place the needs of the child ahead of their own needs
  • How no-fault divorce impacts considerations of parenting time and decision-making
  • Alcohol abuse, drug abuse, and domestic violence, and Colorado’s statute that indicates a child’s voice should have strong consideration in these situations
  • The ideal scenario for parenting time versus what often occurs
  • A movement in Colorado toward children over 12 years old to become more actively involved in court proceedings and hearings in the dependency and neglect courts but not so much in domestic/divorce courts
  • Ways a therapist can be used in court proceedings
  • Bringing in witnesses to testify to what’s best for the child
  • The role of Child and Family Investigators (CFIs) in Colorado, their requirements, their cost, and how they can impact the parenting dynamic
  • The role of Parental Responsibilities Evaluators (PREs), who can do everything a CFI can, plus do deeper analysis including psychological testing of parents
  • The downsides of bringing in CFIs and PREs
  • The benefits of a child's best interest attorney or Child Legal Representative (CLR), who they represent, the requirements they must meet, what they can and cannot do, and what they cost
  • A CLR’s ability to curate the right people to work with the parties involved in the case
  • When you should pursue a child advocate and why you shouldn’t wait too long

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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]]> Parents often want their children’s voices to be heard during the divorce process. However, how that happens can vary greatly depending on the family’s situation.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista explains the “best interests” standard in Colorado and what families can expect regarding their child’s voice being heard in court. She outlines the nine factors Colorado uses to determine parenting time allocation, including considerations of factors used in allocating decision-making in a no-fault divorce state. Krista shares specific situations, such as alcohol or drug abuse or domestic violence, that can elevate a child’s voice in these scenarios, the ideal scenario for parenting time versus what often occurs, and ways a therapist can be utilized in a divorce case. She defines the roles of Child and Family Investigators (CFIs) and Parental Responsibilities Evaluators (PREs), as well as the drawbacks of involving either of them in a case. Finally, Krista explains how you can benefit from a child’s best interests attorney (Child’s Legal Representative or “CLR”) to attempt to curate solutions alongside parents and professionals involved in your case while representing the best interests of the child as an attorney advocate who obtains and considers the child’s wishes

Divorce can be messy and traumatic for everyone involved. Keeping your child’s best interests at the forefront and hiring qualified professionals can make the process smoother, making it more manageable for everyone.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The use of the “best interests” standard in Colorado
  • Ensuring a child’s voice is heard in the court while avoiding an adversarial approach to the other parent
  • Colorado’s implementation of nine factors to determine parenting time allocation, including:
    • Parents’ wishes
    • Child’s wishes
    • The relationship between the child and parents, siblings, and any other person who significantly affects the child's best interests
    • The child’s adjustment to home, school, and community
    • The mental and physical health of everyone involved
    • The parties’ ability to encourage the sharing of love, affection, and contact between the child and the other parent
    • Whether the parties’ past involvement shows a system of values, time commitment, and mutual support
    • How far apart the parties live
    • The ability of each party to place the needs of the child ahead of their own needs
  • How no-fault divorce impacts considerations of parenting time and decision-making
  • Alcohol abuse, drug abuse, and domestic violence, and Colorado’s statute that indicates a child’s voice should have strong consideration in these situations
  • The ideal scenario for parenting time versus what often occurs
  • A movement in Colorado toward children over 12 years old to become more actively involved in court proceedings and hearings in the dependency and neglect courts but not so much in domestic/divorce courts
  • Ways a therapist can be used in court proceedings
  • Bringing in witnesses to testify to what’s best for the child
  • The role of Child and Family Investigators (CFIs) in Colorado, their requirements, their cost, and how they can impact the parenting dynamic
  • The role of Parental Responsibilities Evaluators (PREs), who can do everything a CFI can, plus do deeper analysis including psychological testing of parents
  • The downsides of bringing in CFIs and PREs
  • The benefits of a child's best interest attorney or Child Legal Representative (CLR), who they represent, the requirements they must meet, what they can and cannot do, and what they cost
  • A CLR’s ability to curate the right people to work with the parties involved in the case
  • When you should pursue a child advocate and why you shouldn’t wait too long

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Children First Family Law false No 3262 31 full 030: Incremental Trust Building for Co-Parents: A Challenge from International Expert Dr. Michael Saini 030: Incremental Trust Building for Co-Parents: A Challenge from International Expert Dr. Michael Saini https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/030-incremental-trust-building-for-co-parents-a-challenge-from-international-expert-dr-michael-saini/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/030-incremental-trust-building-for-co-parents-a-challenge-from-international-expert-dr-michael-saini/#comments Mon, 28 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/908526b7-0ffd-34c9-b5fc-47bd4f5436dc Co-parents often find themselves at a stalemate with one parent distrustful of the other. Trust can be rebuilt, and returning guest Dr. Michael Saini has some tips on how to do it.

On today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes back Dr. Saini, a Toronto-based renowned psychologist who has authored more than 200 publications, including book chapters, government reports, systematic reviews, and a vast number of peer-reviewed journal articles highlighting research in the area of family law and its impact on children. Dr. Saini is a passionate advocate for children’s rights.

Krista and Dr. Saini begin their conversation by explaining the importance of establishing boundaries around trust and repairing trust violations in the context of a divorce situation. Dr. Saini outlines the research on trust as the number one dynamic for co-parenting success, emphasizing the importance of accepting who your co-parent is and building trust despite any disputes you may have with them. He shares why coming to terms with “good enough” parenting can be helpful, how the erosion of trust can lead to additional conflicts as co-parents, and why the conflict is worse for your kids than getting your way in the fight you’re having with your co-parent. You’ll hear Dr. Saini’s method of using mini goals to rebuild trust with your co-parent, the foundation childhood creates for trusting or distrusting in future relationships, the importance of exposing kids to new romantic partners carefully, and learning to become comfortable with your new roles post-divorce. Finally, Krista and Dr. Saini explain when trust-building models aren’t appropriate and how to figure out what each parent is willing to do to demonstrate their trustworthiness.

Trust is a complex and significant topic in divorce, and Dr. Michael Saini’s tips can help you rebuild trust with your co-parent and foster a healthy relationship for your children, thereby breaking intergenerational conflict tendencies.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Building boundaries around trust and repairing trust violations
  • Research about trust being the number one dynamic for co-parenting success
  • Dr. Michael Saini’s take on viewing trust as a bank account with a positive or negative balance based on experiences
  • The importance of coming to a place of acceptance of your co-parent, thinking beyond the dispute, and building trust
  • “Good enough” parenting and not placing your standards on the other parent
  • Why emotional processing is like an iceberg, because we only see a small portion of it
  • How erosion of trust leads to additional conflict in co-parenting
  • For your kids, the impact of the conflict is far more harmful than who 'wins' the argument.
  • Anger and fear as secondary emotions to fear
  • Using mini goals to rebuild trust
  • Childhood is the foundation for trusting or distrusting future relationships
  • When conflict is modeled poorly over generations,kids can repeat the same unhealthy patterns rather than learning how to resolve them
  • Exposing kids to new romantic partners very carefully
  • Boundary ambiguity post-divorce and becoming comfortable with new roles
  • When the trust-building models are not appropriate, especially considering the dynamics of violence
  • What each parent is willing to do to demonstrate trustworthiness

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Dickie 2015 Trust and Conflict Resolution - http://childrenfirstfamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Dickie-2015-Trust-and-Conflict-Resolution.pdf

Saini 2025 Trust in AFCC CA Handouts2PP - http://childrenfirstfamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Saini-2025-Trust-in-AFCC-CA-Handouts2PP.pdf

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Co-parents often find themselves at a stalemate with one parent distrustful of the other. Trust can be rebuilt, and returning guest Dr. Michael Saini has some tips on how to do it.

On today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes back Dr. Saini, a Toronto-based renowned psychologist who has authored more than 200 publications, including book chapters, government reports, systematic reviews, and a vast number of peer-reviewed journal articles highlighting research in the area of family law and its impact on children. Dr. Saini is a passionate advocate for children’s rights.

Krista and Dr. Saini begin their conversation by explaining the importance of establishing boundaries around trust and repairing trust violations in the context of a divorce situation. Dr. Saini outlines the research on trust as the number one dynamic for co-parenting success, emphasizing the importance of accepting who your co-parent is and building trust despite any disputes you may have with them. He shares why coming to terms with “good enough” parenting can be helpful, how the erosion of trust can lead to additional conflicts as co-parents, and why the conflict is worse for your kids than getting your way in the fight you’re having with your co-parent. You’ll hear Dr. Saini’s method of using mini goals to rebuild trust with your co-parent, the foundation childhood creates for trusting or distrusting in future relationships, the importance of exposing kids to new romantic partners carefully, and learning to become comfortable with your new roles post-divorce. Finally, Krista and Dr. Saini explain when trust-building models aren’t appropriate and how to figure out what each parent is willing to do to demonstrate their trustworthiness.

Trust is a complex and significant topic in divorce, and Dr. Michael Saini’s tips can help you rebuild trust with your co-parent and foster a healthy relationship for your children, thereby breaking intergenerational conflict tendencies.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Building boundaries around trust and repairing trust violations
  • Research about trust being the number one dynamic for co-parenting success
  • Dr. Michael Saini’s take on viewing trust as a bank account with a positive or negative balance based on experiences
  • The importance of coming to a place of acceptance of your co-parent, thinking beyond the dispute, and building trust
  • “Good enough” parenting and not placing your standards on the other parent
  • Why emotional processing is like an iceberg, because we only see a small portion of it
  • How erosion of trust leads to additional conflict in co-parenting
  • For your kids, the impact of the conflict is far more harmful than who 'wins' the argument.
  • Anger and fear as secondary emotions to fear
  • Using mini goals to rebuild trust
  • Childhood is the foundation for trusting or distrusting future relationships
  • When conflict is modeled poorly over generations,kids can repeat the same unhealthy patterns rather than learning how to resolve them
  • Exposing kids to new romantic partners very carefully
  • Boundary ambiguity post-divorce and becoming comfortable with new roles
  • When the trust-building models are not appropriate, especially considering the dynamics of violence
  • What each parent is willing to do to demonstrate trustworthiness

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Dickie 2015 Trust and Conflict Resolution - http://childrenfirstfamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Dickie-2015-Trust-and-Conflict-Resolution.pdf

Saini 2025 Trust in AFCC CA Handouts2PP - http://childrenfirstfamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Saini-2025-Trust-in-AFCC-CA-Handouts2PP.pdf

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4194 30 full 029: Healing the Hurt: Supporting Kids & Co-Parents Through Divorce with Mental Health Professional Lauren Blake 029: Healing the Hurt: Supporting Kids & Co-Parents Through Divorce with Mental Health Professional Lauren Blake https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/029-healing-the-hurt-supporting-kids-co-parents-through-divorce-with-mental-health-professional-lauren-blake/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/029-healing-the-hurt-supporting-kids-co-parents-through-divorce-with-mental-health-professional-lauren-blake/#comments Mon, 21 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/405fc92d-9ecb-33ff-8fa7-ce56e5c07d91 Divorce brings many challenges to families going through a divorce, and involving a mental health professional can make all the difference in their outcomes on the other side of the divorce.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Lauren Blake, owner and founder of Michigan-based Blake Family Consulting. Lauren is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a decade of experience working in family law with highly litigious families. Her practice focuses on providing trauma-informed collaborative care to high-conflict families.

Krista and Lauren start their conversation by exploring Lauren’s career path from family law paralegal to a mental health provider. Lauren outlines the mental health challenges that often accompany divorce, the overuse of terminology like “parental alienation,” and Lauren’s childhood experience with alienation and divorce. She shares the therapeutic resources now available to families, what divorcing couples need to know about the role of attorneys, and why these couples should consider individual therapy as well as co-parenting therapy. You’ll hear how anticipatory anxiety can impact kids required to see the disfavored parent, when “no contact” with a parent is necessary, and the various roles outside of mental health professional Lauren often takes on.

Lauren Blake is uniquely positioned to understand the needs of both children and adults in high-conflict divorce situations, and she shares her tips for successfully navigating them.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Lauren Blake’s journey from family law paralegal to mental health provider
  • The mental health challenges that often accompany divorce
  • The nuances surrounding “parental alienation”
  • Lauren’s personal story of alienation, including not knowing her father and the dynamics of her parents’ divorce
  • How she uses her personal story to help others going through divorce
  • Signs of parental alienation
  • Therapeutic resources available today that didn’t exist when Lauren navigated her parents’ divorce
  • How therapists can, and often should, testify in parental alienation cases
  • What couples considering divorce should know about the role of attorneys
  • The importance of “uncoupling” to be good co-parents
  • Why divorcing parents should consider both individual therapy and co-parenting therapy
  • The challenge of anticipatory anxiety for children seeing the disfavored parents
  • When “no contact” is warranted, including child abuse or sexual abuse
  • Pacing therapy well and not rushing kids, but knowing when a push is necessary
  • The role of attorneys in speaking truth to their clients
  • Various other roles Lauren sometimes takes on, including Guardian ad Litem
  • Re-establishing relationships post-divorce and how to frame therapy correctly for the best success

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

www.blakefamilyconsulting.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Divorce brings many challenges to families going through a divorce, and involving a mental health professional can make all the difference in their outcomes on the other side of the divorce.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Lauren Blake, owner and founder of Michigan-based Blake Family Consulting. Lauren is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a decade of experience working in family law with highly litigious families. Her practice focuses on providing trauma-informed collaborative care to high-conflict families.

Krista and Lauren start their conversation by exploring Lauren’s career path from family law paralegal to a mental health provider. Lauren outlines the mental health challenges that often accompany divorce, the overuse of terminology like “parental alienation,” and Lauren’s childhood experience with alienation and divorce. She shares the therapeutic resources now available to families, what divorcing couples need to know about the role of attorneys, and why these couples should consider individual therapy as well as co-parenting therapy. You’ll hear how anticipatory anxiety can impact kids required to see the disfavored parent, when “no contact” with a parent is necessary, and the various roles outside of mental health professional Lauren often takes on.

Lauren Blake is uniquely positioned to understand the needs of both children and adults in high-conflict divorce situations, and she shares her tips for successfully navigating them.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Lauren Blake’s journey from family law paralegal to mental health provider
  • The mental health challenges that often accompany divorce
  • The nuances surrounding “parental alienation”
  • Lauren’s personal story of alienation, including not knowing her father and the dynamics of her parents’ divorce
  • How she uses her personal story to help others going through divorce
  • Signs of parental alienation
  • Therapeutic resources available today that didn’t exist when Lauren navigated her parents’ divorce
  • How therapists can, and often should, testify in parental alienation cases
  • What couples considering divorce should know about the role of attorneys
  • The importance of “uncoupling” to be good co-parents
  • Why divorcing parents should consider both individual therapy and co-parenting therapy
  • The challenge of anticipatory anxiety for children seeing the disfavored parents
  • When “no contact” is warranted, including child abuse or sexual abuse
  • Pacing therapy well and not rushing kids, but knowing when a push is necessary
  • The role of attorneys in speaking truth to their clients
  • Various other roles Lauren sometimes takes on, including Guardian ad Litem
  • Re-establishing relationships post-divorce and how to frame therapy correctly for the best success

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

www.blakefamilyconsulting.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3654 29 full 028: DefuseDivorce and Keeping Kids Out of the Middle with author Dr. Benjamin Garber, PhD 028: DefuseDivorce and Keeping Kids Out of the Middle with author Dr. Benjamin Garber, PhD https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/028-defusedivorce-and-keeping-kids-out-of-the-middle-with-author-dr-benjamin-garber-phd/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/028-defusedivorce-and-keeping-kids-out-of-the-middle-with-author-dr-benjamin-garber-phd/#comments Mon, 14 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/01f9c7c0-f309-3636-8bd1-a921dc2a3956 Keeping children’s best interests at the forefront in family courts should be a common goal, but unfortunately, they are often caught in litigious battles. Understanding the processes behind court proceedings can often smooth out the rough edges, and today’s guest specializes in advocating for kids and serving their needs.

 

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Dr. Ben Garber, a superstar in the family law landscape around the globe. Based in New Hampshire, Dr. Garber is a licensed psychologist with decades of experience understanding and serving the needs of children, including authoring ten books on subjects in child and family development, divorce, and family law. He also handles various forensic evaluation roles, consultation, and expert testimony. First and foremost, Dr. Garber is a children’s advocate as a clinician, consulting expert, writer, and speaker. He is active in family law organizations throughout New England and the United States.

 

Krista and Dr. Garber begin their conversation by exploring Dr. Garber’s extensive body of work, including ten books. He shares the winding road he took to land in the family law niche and why it’s been so rewarding. You’ll hear how the dynamics of high-conflict families impact children, the benefits of a divorce without creating more harm to the children, and some examples of the solutions Dr. Garber’s site, DefuseDivorce.com, offers for parents and professionals. Dr. Garber outlines why “advance orientation” in a divorce scenario can improve outcomes for families, how parental anxiety hurts kids, and why information is the antidote to anxiety. Dr. Garber and Krista share some video clips from DefuseDivorce.com, and finally, they explain why consistency and being an anchor for your kids can create good outcomes for your children in a divorce.

 

Divorce is complex, and kids often get caught in the middle, but understanding the ins and outs of the process can help reduce anxiety on all sides. Don’t miss Dr. Ben Garber’s expert advice on handling divorce while keeping kids’ best interests at the forefront.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Dr. Garber’s vast body of work, including ten books
  • Why Dr. Garber chose this particular career path
  • The dynamics of high-conflict families and how they impact children
  • Divorce can be done without so much harm to kids
  • DefuseDivorce.com solutions for parents and professionals, 
  • How “advance orientation” improves outcomes for families
  • Parents’ anxiety hurts children, and the antidote to anxiety is information
  • Examples of resources from DefuseDivorce.com: resist-refuse dynamics; orientation to parenting plan evaluations; how to produce a parenting plan
  • Consistency is key – being an anchor for kids – to have good outcomes for children in divorce

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Keeping children’s best interests at the forefront in family courts should be a common goal, but unfortunately, they are often caught in litigious battles. Understanding the processes behind court proceedings can often smooth out the rough edges, and today’s guest specializes in advocating for kids and serving their needs.

 

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Dr. Ben Garber, a superstar in the family law landscape around the globe. Based in New Hampshire, Dr. Garber is a licensed psychologist with decades of experience understanding and serving the needs of children, including authoring ten books on subjects in child and family development, divorce, and family law. He also handles various forensic evaluation roles, consultation, and expert testimony. First and foremost, Dr. Garber is a children’s advocate as a clinician, consulting expert, writer, and speaker. He is active in family law organizations throughout New England and the United States.

 

Krista and Dr. Garber begin their conversation by exploring Dr. Garber’s extensive body of work, including ten books. He shares the winding road he took to land in the family law niche and why it’s been so rewarding. You’ll hear how the dynamics of high-conflict families impact children, the benefits of a divorce without creating more harm to the children, and some examples of the solutions Dr. Garber’s site, DefuseDivorce.com, offers for parents and professionals. Dr. Garber outlines why “advance orientation” in a divorce scenario can improve outcomes for families, how parental anxiety hurts kids, and why information is the antidote to anxiety. Dr. Garber and Krista share some video clips from DefuseDivorce.com, and finally, they explain why consistency and being an anchor for your kids can create good outcomes for your children in a divorce.

 

Divorce is complex, and kids often get caught in the middle, but understanding the ins and outs of the process can help reduce anxiety on all sides. Don’t miss Dr. Ben Garber’s expert advice on handling divorce while keeping kids’ best interests at the forefront.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Dr. Garber’s vast body of work, including ten books
  • Why Dr. Garber chose this particular career path
  • The dynamics of high-conflict families and how they impact children
  • Divorce can be done without so much harm to kids
  • DefuseDivorce.com solutions for parents and professionals, 
  • How “advance orientation” improves outcomes for families
  • Parents’ anxiety hurts children, and the antidote to anxiety is information
  • Examples of resources from DefuseDivorce.com: resist-refuse dynamics; orientation to parenting plan evaluations; how to produce a parenting plan
  • Consistency is key – being an anchor for kids – to have good outcomes for children in divorce

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3276 28 full 027: Settling For Success: Resolving Disputes with Wisdom from the Honorable Michael Hegarty 027: Settling For Success: Resolving Disputes with Wisdom from the Honorable Michael Hegarty https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/027-settling-for-success-resolving-disputes-with-wisdom-from-the-honorable-michael-hegarty/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/027-settling-for-success-resolving-disputes-with-wisdom-from-the-honorable-michael-hegarty/#comments Mon, 07 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/2f32a34b-0129-3325-96bd-3aca04ad6baa Dispute resolution is a talent, and those gifted with this talent are adept at reaching out to both parties during conflict resolution to reach an acceptable conclusion.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes the Honorable Michael E. Hegarty, long-time attorney, litigator, and a retired federal judge from the U.S. District Court for the District of Colorado. Judge Hegarty served 19 years on the bench before retiring in January 2025. He now does private mediation/arbitration through JAMS, the world’s largest private alternative dispute resolution provider. Judge Hegarty was Krista’s first boss following law school; she served full-time as his law clerk, working alongside him, and learning the art of alternative dispute resolution (“ADR”).  In the magistrate judge role, Judge Hegarty had the unique authority at U.S. District Court to lead more than 1,00 settlement conferences, resolving almost all of them, including high-profile cases such as one of the civil cases of the Aurora “Batman” movie theater massacre.

Krista and Judge Hegarty explore his entry into the legal field at an international law firm, his rise to chief of the civil division at the U.S. Attorney’s Office, and his appointment to the bench as a federal magistrate judge. Judge Hegarty recently retired and shares his new role as a dispute resolution provider with JAMS, his reflections on why he has so much success at ADR, and his insights into the power of settlement to create better solutions for families. Krista and Judge Hegarty share some stories of peaceful resolutions in actual cases, how brokered agreements can lead to solutions unavailable in courts, and why the need for ongoing relationships in divorce cases requires careful handling

Judge Hegarty’s long record of successful dispute resolution is impressive, and his strategies for ADR can help attorneys and families find common ground that leads to resolutions that are best for children and their parents.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Krista’s work with Judge Hegarty as first his intern and later his law clerk at the U.S. District Court as her first job out of law school
  • Judge Hegarty’s background from working at an international law firm to rising to chief of the civil division at the U.S. Attorney’s Office and then to his appointment to the bench for years of service as a judge
  • Judge Hegarty’s recent retirement and new role at JAMS, the world’s largest private alternative dispute resolution (ADR) provider where many of the best judges go to continue to help resolve conflict for parties after retirement from the bench
  • His reflections on why he has such success at ADR, what approaches work best, and how relational attunement can lead to agreements
  • Judge Hegarty’s insights as to how settlement often has the power to create better solutions for families
  • Judge Hegarty mediated the civil settlements in the Aurora theater shooting case, with Krista assisting as his law clerk in resolving claims and providing closure to victims' families.
  • How brokered agreements leave outcomes in the hands of parties and offer solutions not available in court, such as apologies and other non-monetary wins
  • ADR’s benefits for people divorcing so that ongoing coparenting relationships can be preserved
  • Attorneys’ obligation to advocate for their clients as well as families

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

https://www.jamsadr.com/hegarty/

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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]]> Dispute resolution is a talent, and those gifted with this talent are adept at reaching out to both parties during conflict resolution to reach an acceptable conclusion.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes the Honorable Michael E. Hegarty, long-time attorney, litigator, and a retired federal judge from the U.S. District Court for the District of Colorado. Judge Hegarty served 19 years on the bench before retiring in January 2025. He now does private mediation/arbitration through JAMS, the world’s largest private alternative dispute resolution provider. Judge Hegarty was Krista’s first boss following law school; she served full-time as his law clerk, working alongside him, and learning the art of alternative dispute resolution (“ADR”).  In the magistrate judge role, Judge Hegarty had the unique authority at U.S. District Court to lead more than 1,00 settlement conferences, resolving almost all of them, including high-profile cases such as one of the civil cases of the Aurora “Batman” movie theater massacre.

Krista and Judge Hegarty explore his entry into the legal field at an international law firm, his rise to chief of the civil division at the U.S. Attorney’s Office, and his appointment to the bench as a federal magistrate judge. Judge Hegarty recently retired and shares his new role as a dispute resolution provider with JAMS, his reflections on why he has so much success at ADR, and his insights into the power of settlement to create better solutions for families. Krista and Judge Hegarty share some stories of peaceful resolutions in actual cases, how brokered agreements can lead to solutions unavailable in courts, and why the need for ongoing relationships in divorce cases requires careful handling

Judge Hegarty’s long record of successful dispute resolution is impressive, and his strategies for ADR can help attorneys and families find common ground that leads to resolutions that are best for children and their parents.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Krista’s work with Judge Hegarty as first his intern and later his law clerk at the U.S. District Court as her first job out of law school
  • Judge Hegarty’s background from working at an international law firm to rising to chief of the civil division at the U.S. Attorney’s Office and then to his appointment to the bench for years of service as a judge
  • Judge Hegarty’s recent retirement and new role at JAMS, the world’s largest private alternative dispute resolution (ADR) provider where many of the best judges go to continue to help resolve conflict for parties after retirement from the bench
  • His reflections on why he has such success at ADR, what approaches work best, and how relational attunement can lead to agreements
  • Judge Hegarty’s insights as to how settlement often has the power to create better solutions for families
  • Judge Hegarty mediated the civil settlements in the Aurora theater shooting case, with Krista assisting as his law clerk in resolving claims and providing closure to victims' families.
  • How brokered agreements leave outcomes in the hands of parties and offer solutions not available in court, such as apologies and other non-monetary wins
  • ADR’s benefits for people divorcing so that ongoing coparenting relationships can be preserved
  • Attorneys’ obligation to advocate for their clients as well as families

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

https://www.jamsadr.com/hegarty/

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3119 27 full 026: Science-Based Solutions For Co-Parenting Through Divorce with Dr. Karey O'Hara 026: Science-Based Solutions For Co-Parenting Through Divorce with Dr. Karey O'Hara https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/026-science-based-solutions-for-co-parenting-through-divorce-with-dr-karey-ohara/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/026-science-based-solutions-for-co-parenting-through-divorce-with-dr-karey-ohara/#comments Mon, 31 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/a865289a-f75c-3df9-888b-1d4ad2b3e7cc Science offers us some intriguing perspectives on divorce’s impact on children. Today’s guest is using science to better understand and support parents and kids through the complexities of the experiences of loss.

 

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Dr. Karey O’Hara, a psychologist and assistant research professor at Arizona State University with a focus on navigating the intersection between family law and psychology. Dr. O’Hara’s work mainly focuses on how parents and children cope and adapt when exposed to significant disruptions like death and divorce. She is studying the science of how to evaluate and gauge this impact and provide solutions that can be put into practice. Dr. O’Hara’s research is always paired with active collaboration with courts or other community programs to ensure her research is tested and disseminated to real people to create real change for parents and kids. She has much to teach us in the area of risk and resilience factors associated with children’s coping and adjustment following divorce, informing family court policy, and improving interventions to promote the well-being of court-involved families.

 

During Krista’s conversation with Dr. O’Hara, you’ll hear about parents’ powerful influence on their children, why it is critical to validate emotions during a divorce process, and the impact high-quality parenting – including love – can have on children’s outcomes. Dr. O’Hara shares the three components of high-quality parenting, what science can teach us about interventions in the real world to help children fare better in divorce, and her research program that provides insight into understanding behavior and emotion under stress. She outlines her work in programs for parents and kids, including Project Brain Team, which promotes mental health and coping strategies and skills in divorce. Finally, Krista and Dr. O’Hara discuss lessons from science about the human and emotional experience of divorce and co-parenting dynamics and their influence on children. They share why there is hope for kids even after divorce and that those outcomes are in the hands of their parents.

 

Divorce is often complicated and messy, and handling those emotions can be difficult for everyone involved. However, Dr. O’Hara’s research reinforces that finding solutions that work for everyone is possible and offers some tips for reducing the tension.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Dr. Karey O’Hara’s path to her work in family law and clinical psychology focused on children and families
  • The powerful influence parents have on their children
  • The risk of labels like “parental alienation” and their limited helpfulness for parents and children
  • Validating someone’s emotions, which can bring down the emotional temperature
  • Protective factors of parents in helping themselves and their children deal with stress
  • The impact of high-quality parenting (including love) on children’s outcomes
  • How high-quality parenting includes love, appropriate limits, and discipline
  • Risk factors for children and parents under stress
  • What science can teach us about interventions in the real world to help children fare better in divorce
  • Dr. O’Hara’s research program insights into understanding behavior and emotion under stress and then translating that science into ways to deliver real solutions to actual people
  • Her work in programs for parents and kids, including Project Brain Team, promoting  mental health and coping strategies and skills in divorce
  • Lessons from science about the human, emotional experience of divorce and co-parenting dynamics and their influence on children
  • Why there can be hope for children even after divorce
  • The power of outcomes for kids is in the hands of their parents

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Dr. Karey O’Hara: search.asu.edu/profile/3192762

Project Brain Team: sites.google.com/asu.edu/asu-projectbrainteam?usp=sharing

Patterns of intimate partner violence in a large, epidemiological sample of divorcing couples.

Coping in context: The effects of long-term relations between interparental conflict and coping on the development of child psychopathology following parental divorce

Does Shared Parenting Help or Hurt Children in High-Conflict Divorced Families?: Journal of Divorce & Remarriage: Vol 59, No 4

Validation of a Measure of Intimate Partner Abuse With Couples Participating in Divorce Mediation: Journal of Divorce & Remarriage: Vol 50, No 5

Adolescent-to-Parent Violence: Translating Research into Effective Practice | Adolescent Research Review

Parenting time, parenting quality, interparental conflict, and mental health problems of children in high-conflict divorce.

Psychological and Biological Processes in Children Associated with High Conflict Parental Divorce - Davidson - 2014 - Juvenile and Family Court Journal - Wiley Online Library

Evaluating Parenting Coordination Programs: Encouraging Results From Pilot Testing a Research Methodology: Journal of Child Custody: Vol 8, No 4

Longitudinal Effects of PostDivorce Interparental Conflict on Children’s Mental Health Problems Through Fear of Abandonment: Does Parenting Quality Play a Buffering Role? - O’Hara - 2021 - Child Development - Wiley Online Library

Contact With an Ex-Partner Is Associated With Psychological Distress After Marital Separation - Karey L. O’Hara, Austin M. Grinberg, Allison M. Tackman, Matthias R. Mehl, David A. Sbarra, 2020

Multidisciplinary partnership: Targeting aggression and mental health problems of adolescents in detention.

Human-centered design methods to achieve preparation phase goals in the multiphase optimization strategy framework - Karey L. O’Hara, Lindsey M. Knowles, Kate Guastaferro, Aaron R. Lyon, 2022

Understanding the perception of stakeholders in reducing adolescent-to-parent violence/aggression - ScienceDirect

The Development, Evaluation, and Implementation of Parenting‐Focused Prevention Programs in Collaboration with Family Court - O'Hara - 2021 - Family Court Review - Wiley Online Library

Measurement invariance across sexes in intimate partner abuse research.

Self-Compassion for Caregivers of Children in Parentally Bereaved Families: A Theoretical Model and Intervention Example | Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review

Enhancing the Focus: How Does Parental Incarceration Fit into the Overall Picture of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs)? | Research on Child and Adolescent Psychopathology

The Prospective Effects of Caregiver Parenting on Behavioral Health Outcomes for Children with Incarcerated Parents: a Family Resilience Perspective | Prevention Science

Interparental conflict and adolescent emotional security across family structures - O'Hara - 2024 - Family Process - Wiley Online Library

Enhancing daily affect in youth experiencing high‐conflict parental divorce: A multiple baseline trial of an online prevention program - O′Hara - 2022 - Family Court Review - Wiley Online Library

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Science offers us some intriguing perspectives on divorce’s impact on children. Today’s guest is using science to better understand and support parents and kids through the complexities of the experiences of loss.

 

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Dr. Karey O’Hara, a psychologist and assistant research professor at Arizona State University with a focus on navigating the intersection between family law and psychology. Dr. O’Hara’s work mainly focuses on how parents and children cope and adapt when exposed to significant disruptions like death and divorce. She is studying the science of how to evaluate and gauge this impact and provide solutions that can be put into practice. Dr. O’Hara’s research is always paired with active collaboration with courts or other community programs to ensure her research is tested and disseminated to real people to create real change for parents and kids. She has much to teach us in the area of risk and resilience factors associated with children’s coping and adjustment following divorce, informing family court policy, and improving interventions to promote the well-being of court-involved families.

 

During Krista’s conversation with Dr. O’Hara, you’ll hear about parents’ powerful influence on their children, why it is critical to validate emotions during a divorce process, and the impact high-quality parenting – including love – can have on children’s outcomes. Dr. O’Hara shares the three components of high-quality parenting, what science can teach us about interventions in the real world to help children fare better in divorce, and her research program that provides insight into understanding behavior and emotion under stress. She outlines her work in programs for parents and kids, including Project Brain Team, which promotes mental health and coping strategies and skills in divorce. Finally, Krista and Dr. O’Hara discuss lessons from science about the human and emotional experience of divorce and co-parenting dynamics and their influence on children. They share why there is hope for kids even after divorce and that those outcomes are in the hands of their parents.

 

Divorce is often complicated and messy, and handling those emotions can be difficult for everyone involved. However, Dr. O’Hara’s research reinforces that finding solutions that work for everyone is possible and offers some tips for reducing the tension.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Dr. Karey O’Hara’s path to her work in family law and clinical psychology focused on children and families
  • The powerful influence parents have on their children
  • The risk of labels like “parental alienation” and their limited helpfulness for parents and children
  • Validating someone’s emotions, which can bring down the emotional temperature
  • Protective factors of parents in helping themselves and their children deal with stress
  • The impact of high-quality parenting (including love) on children’s outcomes
  • How high-quality parenting includes love, appropriate limits, and discipline
  • Risk factors for children and parents under stress
  • What science can teach us about interventions in the real world to help children fare better in divorce
  • Dr. O’Hara’s research program insights into understanding behavior and emotion under stress and then translating that science into ways to deliver real solutions to actual people
  • Her work in programs for parents and kids, including Project Brain Team, promoting  mental health and coping strategies and skills in divorce
  • Lessons from science about the human, emotional experience of divorce and co-parenting dynamics and their influence on children
  • Why there can be hope for children even after divorce
  • The power of outcomes for kids is in the hands of their parents

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Dr. Karey O’Hara: search.asu.edu/profile/3192762

Project Brain Team: sites.google.com/asu.edu/asu-projectbrainteam?usp=sharing

Patterns of intimate partner violence in a large, epidemiological sample of divorcing couples.

Coping in context: The effects of long-term relations between interparental conflict and coping on the development of child psychopathology following parental divorce

Does Shared Parenting Help or Hurt Children in High-Conflict Divorced Families?: Journal of Divorce & Remarriage: Vol 59, No 4

Validation of a Measure of Intimate Partner Abuse With Couples Participating in Divorce Mediation: Journal of Divorce & Remarriage: Vol 50, No 5

Adolescent-to-Parent Violence: Translating Research into Effective Practice | Adolescent Research Review

Parenting time, parenting quality, interparental conflict, and mental health problems of children in high-conflict divorce.

Psychological and Biological Processes in Children Associated with High Conflict Parental Divorce - Davidson - 2014 - Juvenile and Family Court Journal - Wiley Online Library

Evaluating Parenting Coordination Programs: Encouraging Results From Pilot Testing a Research Methodology: Journal of Child Custody: Vol 8, No 4

Longitudinal Effects of PostDivorce Interparental Conflict on Children’s Mental Health Problems Through Fear of Abandonment: Does Parenting Quality Play a Buffering Role? - O’Hara - 2021 - Child Development - Wiley Online Library

Contact With an Ex-Partner Is Associated With Psychological Distress After Marital Separation - Karey L. O’Hara, Austin M. Grinberg, Allison M. Tackman, Matthias R. Mehl, David A. Sbarra, 2020

Multidisciplinary partnership: Targeting aggression and mental health problems of adolescents in detention.

Human-centered design methods to achieve preparation phase goals in the multiphase optimization strategy framework - Karey L. O’Hara, Lindsey M. Knowles, Kate Guastaferro, Aaron R. Lyon, 2022

Understanding the perception of stakeholders in reducing adolescent-to-parent violence/aggression - ScienceDirect

The Development, Evaluation, and Implementation of Parenting‐Focused Prevention Programs in Collaboration with Family Court - O'Hara - 2021 - Family Court Review - Wiley Online Library

Measurement invariance across sexes in intimate partner abuse research.

Self-Compassion for Caregivers of Children in Parentally Bereaved Families: A Theoretical Model and Intervention Example | Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review

Enhancing the Focus: How Does Parental Incarceration Fit into the Overall Picture of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs)? | Research on Child and Adolescent Psychopathology

The Prospective Effects of Caregiver Parenting on Behavioral Health Outcomes for Children with Incarcerated Parents: a Family Resilience Perspective | Prevention Science

Interparental conflict and adolescent emotional security across family structures - O'Hara - 2024 - Family Process - Wiley Online Library

Enhancing daily affect in youth experiencing high‐conflict parental divorce: A multiple baseline trial of an online prevention program - O′Hara - 2022 - Family Court Review - Wiley Online Library

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3787 26 full 025: “Family” Restructuring Post-Divorce with Dr. Premela Deck 025: “Family” Restructuring Post-Divorce with Dr. Premela Deck https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/025-family-restructuring-post-divorce-with-dr-premela-deck/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/025-family-restructuring-post-divorce-with-dr-premela-deck/#comments Mon, 24 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/aab4fb00-2541-37c8-add8-4836a37cb984 When a divorce or separation occurs, despite the complicated emotions that accompany it, a family remains a family.

 

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Dr. Premela Deck, a Boston-area family law attorney and forensic social worker with a Ph.D. in her field who is creating innovative solutions to integrate law and social work to help children and parents navigate conflict amid family law disputes. As an attorney, Dr. Deck is a family law litigator, mediator, parenting coordinator, and guardian ad litem. As a mental health professional, she primarily serves as a custody evaluator, parenting coach, and therapist for high-conflict families, couples, or individuals caught up in family situations. She also has a unique practice that allows for deep coparenting and therapeutic intervention to help improve outcomes for kids and parents going through divorce.

 

During their conversation, Krista and Dr. Deck explore the important work Dr. Deck is doing in her practice. She shares what her early work for the city of Boston taught her about mental health considerations in court settings, leading her into social work/law integration. You’ll hear the unwillingness professionals often have to work in forensic mental health and the difficulties faced when trying to limit therapeutic options to those covered by health insurance as they require a diagnosis that often is not possible or warranted.. Dr. Deck explains the difference in language attorneys and mental health professionals use and the importance of bridging that gap for families. You’ll hear about therapeutic jurisprudence and reforming the law based on understanding mental health, Dr. Deck’s unique practice of blending law and mental health resources, and the nationally available programs she uses to help with high-conflict co-parenting. Finally, Krista and Dr. Deck discuss building a foundation of respect between co-parents, the nuanced approach Dr. Deck recommends for parent-child contact problems, and the importance of handling conflict in a healthy way for the benefit of children.

 

Creating a healthy co-parenting dynamic is possible, but it requires work from both parties. Dr. Premela Deck lays out her unique methodology to help parents find common ground for the benefit of their children.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Dr. Premela Deck’s law and social work background and how she ultimately pulled the two disciplines together with her Ph.D. and now with her unique practice with options available across state lines
  • The need for mental health considerations in family court, similar to what Dr. Deck saw in her early work condemning homes of hoarders
  • Realizing these legal challenges need delicate care that considers the mental health of individuals, leading her into social work/law integration
  • The serious challenge of so few mental health professionals going into the area of helping families embroiled in family court conflict
  • The limitations of seeking only  insurance-covered mental health options in family law dynamics
  • Language differences between attorneys and mental health professionals and the need for a bridge between disciplines to help families
  • The concept of therapeutic jurisprudence and reforming the law by understanding mental health
  • Dr. Deck’s unique practice that blends law and mental health resources, including multi-faceted family therapy, group and private parent coaching, and co-parenting restructuring
  • Nationally available programs offered by Dr. Deck to help with high-conflict coparenting
  • The importance of a foundation of respect when parents begin this therapeutic work
  • Taking a nuanced approach to parent-child contact problems and Dr. Deck’s steps for this process
  • Dr. Deck’s model for this type of practice
  • The risk to children when parents fight and have poor co-parenting dynamics
  • Handling conflict in a healthy manner for the benefit of the children
  • Grasping that there is a duality in cases and ensuring goals are working in tandem
  • Dr. Deck’s postdoc program with a focus on family law dynamics, which is the only one of its kind in the country

 

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

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]]> When a divorce or separation occurs, despite the complicated emotions that accompany it, a family remains a family.

 

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Dr. Premela Deck, a Boston-area family law attorney and forensic social worker with a Ph.D. in her field who is creating innovative solutions to integrate law and social work to help children and parents navigate conflict amid family law disputes. As an attorney, Dr. Deck is a family law litigator, mediator, parenting coordinator, and guardian ad litem. As a mental health professional, she primarily serves as a custody evaluator, parenting coach, and therapist for high-conflict families, couples, or individuals caught up in family situations. She also has a unique practice that allows for deep coparenting and therapeutic intervention to help improve outcomes for kids and parents going through divorce.

 

During their conversation, Krista and Dr. Deck explore the important work Dr. Deck is doing in her practice. She shares what her early work for the city of Boston taught her about mental health considerations in court settings, leading her into social work/law integration. You’ll hear the unwillingness professionals often have to work in forensic mental health and the difficulties faced when trying to limit therapeutic options to those covered by health insurance as they require a diagnosis that often is not possible or warranted.. Dr. Deck explains the difference in language attorneys and mental health professionals use and the importance of bridging that gap for families. You’ll hear about therapeutic jurisprudence and reforming the law based on understanding mental health, Dr. Deck’s unique practice of blending law and mental health resources, and the nationally available programs she uses to help with high-conflict co-parenting. Finally, Krista and Dr. Deck discuss building a foundation of respect between co-parents, the nuanced approach Dr. Deck recommends for parent-child contact problems, and the importance of handling conflict in a healthy way for the benefit of children.

 

Creating a healthy co-parenting dynamic is possible, but it requires work from both parties. Dr. Premela Deck lays out her unique methodology to help parents find common ground for the benefit of their children.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Dr. Premela Deck’s law and social work background and how she ultimately pulled the two disciplines together with her Ph.D. and now with her unique practice with options available across state lines
  • The need for mental health considerations in family court, similar to what Dr. Deck saw in her early work condemning homes of hoarders
  • Realizing these legal challenges need delicate care that considers the mental health of individuals, leading her into social work/law integration
  • The serious challenge of so few mental health professionals going into the area of helping families embroiled in family court conflict
  • The limitations of seeking only  insurance-covered mental health options in family law dynamics
  • Language differences between attorneys and mental health professionals and the need for a bridge between disciplines to help families
  • The concept of therapeutic jurisprudence and reforming the law by understanding mental health
  • Dr. Deck’s unique practice that blends law and mental health resources, including multi-faceted family therapy, group and private parent coaching, and co-parenting restructuring
  • Nationally available programs offered by Dr. Deck to help with high-conflict coparenting
  • The importance of a foundation of respect when parents begin this therapeutic work
  • Taking a nuanced approach to parent-child contact problems and Dr. Deck’s steps for this process
  • Dr. Deck’s model for this type of practice
  • The risk to children when parents fight and have poor co-parenting dynamics
  • Handling conflict in a healthy manner for the benefit of the children
  • Grasping that there is a duality in cases and ensuring goals are working in tandem
  • Dr. Deck’s postdoc program with a focus on family law dynamics, which is the only one of its kind in the country

 

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Children First Family Law false No 3461 25 full 024: The Benefits of Full-Service Amicable Uncontested Divorce Mediation. How to Save Money, Reduce Stress, and Prioritize Your Family’s Emotional Health During Divorce 024: The Benefits of Full-Service Amicable Uncontested Divorce Mediation. How to Save Money, Reduce Stress, and Prioritize Your Family’s Emotional Health During Divorce https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/024the-benefits-offullservice-amicable-uncontesteddivorce-mediation-how-tosavemoney-reducestress-and-prioritize-your-familys-emotional-health-during/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/024the-benefits-offullservice-amicable-uncontesteddivorce-mediation-how-tosavemoney-reducestress-and-prioritize-your-familys-emotional-health-during/#comments Mon, 17 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/1e2ae8ed-a2f5-3d52-906d-d24c4a32558d It’s no secret that separations and divorces can be stressful, costly, and emotionally exhausting, and finding a solution that works for both parties involved and the children can feel impossible.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista outlines the options available to those seeking a divorce or separation, particularly in Colorado. The choices individuals make in this situation have implications, and Krista shares the potential pitfalls and considerations of each one. These options include handling the separation or divorce without an attorney, hiring an attorney (or two–one for each party), coaching services, mediation, and arbitration. She explains each one’s advantages and disadvantages. Krista offers a unique final solution she developed called an Amicable Uncontested Divorce Solution, in which she works with both co-parents to create customized solutions for their particular scenario. Finally, Krista shares the importance of preserving the co-parenting dynamic to reduce trauma for the involved children. She reveals the 13 steps she uses to determine if a potential client is a good candidate for this solution.

There is a path to a more peaceful separation of co-parents than attorneys on both sides ready for war. Krista’s Amicable Uncontested Divorce Solutions offer the answer you’ve been searching for.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The implications of the choices the involved parties make during a divorce or legal separation
  • Handling a separation or divorce in Colorado without an attorney and potential pitfalls and considerations
  • Hiring an attorney to handle your case, what to be aware of as you research who to hire, and when you can use one attorney versus two
  • The importance of prioritizing children during separation—and why many attorneys fail to do so
  • Investing in a coaching service and key factors to consider when evaluating your options
  • Krista’s tips for evaluating a mediator to handle a divorce or separation
  • The pitfalls of mediation and how it can derail a case.
  • Arbitration’s advantages and disadvantages as an option for handling a divorce or separation
  • Amicable, Uncontested Divorce Solutions at Children First Family Law tailors benefits for both co-parents seeking customized resolutions.
  • Minimizing trauma for children while preserving a healthy co-parenting dynamic.
  • Krista’s 13-step approach to achieving an amicable, uncontested divorce.

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> It’s no secret that separations and divorces can be stressful, costly, and emotionally exhausting, and finding a solution that works for both parties involved and the children can feel impossible.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista outlines the options available to those seeking a divorce or separation, particularly in Colorado. The choices individuals make in this situation have implications, and Krista shares the potential pitfalls and considerations of each one. These options include handling the separation or divorce without an attorney, hiring an attorney (or two–one for each party), coaching services, mediation, and arbitration. She explains each one’s advantages and disadvantages. Krista offers a unique final solution she developed called an Amicable Uncontested Divorce Solution, in which she works with both co-parents to create customized solutions for their particular scenario. Finally, Krista shares the importance of preserving the co-parenting dynamic to reduce trauma for the involved children. She reveals the 13 steps she uses to determine if a potential client is a good candidate for this solution.

There is a path to a more peaceful separation of co-parents than attorneys on both sides ready for war. Krista’s Amicable Uncontested Divorce Solutions offer the answer you’ve been searching for.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The implications of the choices the involved parties make during a divorce or legal separation
  • Handling a separation or divorce in Colorado without an attorney and potential pitfalls and considerations
  • Hiring an attorney to handle your case, what to be aware of as you research who to hire, and when you can use one attorney versus two
  • The importance of prioritizing children during separation—and why many attorneys fail to do so
  • Investing in a coaching service and key factors to consider when evaluating your options
  • Krista’s tips for evaluating a mediator to handle a divorce or separation
  • The pitfalls of mediation and how it can derail a case.
  • Arbitration’s advantages and disadvantages as an option for handling a divorce or separation
  • Amicable, Uncontested Divorce Solutions at Children First Family Law tailors benefits for both co-parents seeking customized resolutions.
  • Minimizing trauma for children while preserving a healthy co-parenting dynamic.
  • Krista’s 13-step approach to achieving an amicable, uncontested divorce.

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4436 24 full 023: Addiction Expert Insights: Handling Substance Misuse in Family Law 023: Addiction Expert Insights: Handling Substance Misuse in Family Law https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/023-addiction-expert-insights-handling-substance-misuse-in-family-law/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/023-addiction-expert-insights-handling-substance-misuse-in-family-law/#comments Mon, 10 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/cb2ece06-501e-3e48-8cd7-4191b17b07f8 Substance misuse and abuse is a complex topic, especially in a divorce situation in which children are involved. Today’s guest helps to unravel complexities surrounding addiction issues to help families navigate these complex situations while keeping children’s well-being at the forefront.

 

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Lorraine Bockman, a licensed clinical social worker and addiction counselor who has worked in the mental health and addiction field for more than 30 years. Lorraine works in private practice in the Denver area, is recognized as a Master Addiction Counselor (MAC) with the National Association of Addiction Counselors (NAAC), and is part of the Association for Addiction Professionals. She has served as a program director, manager, staff developer, and clinician in public and private institutions and has specialized training as a telemental health therapist, interventionist, expert witness, and substance abuse professional.

 

Krista’s conversation with Lorraine covers several important topics related to substance misuse and addiction issues, including the differences between clinical and forensic substance evaluations. Lorraine explains how a Substance Use Evaluation (SUE) works, the disease elements behind substance use, and the cognitive distortions common in this arena of mental health.  Krista and Lorraine also explore the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) on children, including the effects of divorce but also the effects of addiction, both of which deeply impact kids’ futures. They highlight, though, that there is a lot of reason for hope through stories of people who have chosen to heal and change, acknowledging that while some individuals can overcome these challenges, not everyone does.

For an insightful take on the ripple effects substance use can have on families and children, don’t miss Lorraine Bockman’s expertise on this complicated topic.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Lorraine Bockman’s extensive background working with children and families, which ultimately led her to addiction work
  • The difference between clinical and forensic evaluations
  • When a Substance  Use Evaluation (SUE) is most useful
  • The impact high-conflict relationships can have on substance use evaluations
  • A consultation in a child custody case versus a complete evaluation
  • Taking care not to put a parent in the role of “watchdog” over the other parent
  • How Lorraine creates connections with her clients and her experiences helping clients before they hit “rock bottom”
  • The behavior stages of change related recovery from addictions
  • Lorraine’s use of the term “courage” related to substance abuse recovery and the biology underlying a propensity for addiction
  • Cognitive distortions and their impact on recovery, such as black-and-white thinking
  • Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), including addiction and divorce, and how they impact attachment in children
  • Measuring relapse
  • The hope Lorraine has to help people get better

 

Resources from this Episode

 

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Substance misuse and abuse is a complex topic, especially in a divorce situation in which children are involved. Today’s guest helps to unravel complexities surrounding addiction issues to help families navigate these complex situations while keeping children’s well-being at the forefront.

 

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Lorraine Bockman, a licensed clinical social worker and addiction counselor who has worked in the mental health and addiction field for more than 30 years. Lorraine works in private practice in the Denver area, is recognized as a Master Addiction Counselor (MAC) with the National Association of Addiction Counselors (NAAC), and is part of the Association for Addiction Professionals. She has served as a program director, manager, staff developer, and clinician in public and private institutions and has specialized training as a telemental health therapist, interventionist, expert witness, and substance abuse professional.

 

Krista’s conversation with Lorraine covers several important topics related to substance misuse and addiction issues, including the differences between clinical and forensic substance evaluations. Lorraine explains how a Substance Use Evaluation (SUE) works, the disease elements behind substance use, and the cognitive distortions common in this arena of mental health.  Krista and Lorraine also explore the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) on children, including the effects of divorce but also the effects of addiction, both of which deeply impact kids’ futures. They highlight, though, that there is a lot of reason for hope through stories of people who have chosen to heal and change, acknowledging that while some individuals can overcome these challenges, not everyone does.

For an insightful take on the ripple effects substance use can have on families and children, don’t miss Lorraine Bockman’s expertise on this complicated topic.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Lorraine Bockman’s extensive background working with children and families, which ultimately led her to addiction work
  • The difference between clinical and forensic evaluations
  • When a Substance  Use Evaluation (SUE) is most useful
  • The impact high-conflict relationships can have on substance use evaluations
  • A consultation in a child custody case versus a complete evaluation
  • Taking care not to put a parent in the role of “watchdog” over the other parent
  • How Lorraine creates connections with her clients and her experiences helping clients before they hit “rock bottom”
  • The behavior stages of change related recovery from addictions
  • Lorraine’s use of the term “courage” related to substance abuse recovery and the biology underlying a propensity for addiction
  • Cognitive distortions and their impact on recovery, such as black-and-white thinking
  • Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), including addiction and divorce, and how they impact attachment in children
  • Measuring relapse
  • The hope Lorraine has to help people get better

 

Resources from this Episode

 

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3415 23 full 022: The Family Court Fix: Improving Family Court Justice with Fran Fontana 022: The Family Court Fix: Improving Family Court Justice with Fran Fontana https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/022-the-family-court-fix-improving-family-court-justice-with-fran-fontana/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/022-the-family-court-fix-improving-family-court-justice-with-fran-fontana/#comments Mon, 03 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/98fa5dee-39a1-3b13-a030-5eda1bfd675b Too often, family courts focus on viewing cases through a typical civil court lens rather than considering the children and families who need nuanced solutions that best preserve coparenting and meet specific needs of specific children. Typical courts that rotate judges and have little background in these nuances often fail to meet such needs, leading to debate about whether dedicated family courts can serve families and children better.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Fran Fontana, an attorney and thought leader in Colorado who is a thought leader in the dedicated family court debate. Fran brings significant authority to the conversation, including serving on the Colorado Supreme Court Standing Committee on Family Issues, where conversations are occurring regarding how best to meet the unique needs of family law cases. Fran is a past chair of the Family Law Section of the Colorado Bar Association, past president of the Colorado Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC), and a former Domestic Violence Task Force member. She also serves as a Peer Professionalism Assistance Group member to encourage professionalism amongst attorneys across all disciplines.

Krista and Fran’s conversation touches on many issues facing family courts, including the lack of problem-solving between attorneys in family law cases. Fran shares the work her Peer Professionalism Assistance Group is doing to help attorneys manage conflict and identify cases that need faster intervention. She is a strong advocate for a court system that meets people where they are, which has led her to work to make changes in Colorado toward a better approach Having worked for decades as an attorney in hundreds of family law cases, Fran also shares her insights on the negative impact divorce has on children and parents and what her dream court model would look like. Finally, she shares with Krista how conflict manifests in children and discusses how good problem-solving techniques between attorneys and parents can benefit kids, helping parents navigate divorce in a far more healthy way.

 

Keeping kids front and center in a divorce can help create the best outcomes for them, and Fran Fontana has spent her career making children and families a priority. Don’t miss this episode for a peek into the future of Colorado family courts and how a dedicated family court can be a picture nationally and internationally of how to help children flourish despite divorce by fixing the divorce court itself

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Fran Fontana’s proactive path to family law and her varied career experiences
  • The use of “custody” when discussing parenting time and assignment of parental responsibilities and the negative connotations “custody” evokes 
  • The importance of identifying cases that need intervention faster and creating better outcomes for families
  • Reasons why family courts need to meet people where they are and recognize the nuanced issues that impact families and in particular children
  • Fran’s work to make changes in family courts in Colorado and how problem-solving has evolved from earlier in her career
  • Why advocating isn’t the same as problem-solving
  • The divorce industry’s negative impact on children and families
  • Fran’s dream court model and what she proposes for better family outcomes

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Too often, family courts focus on viewing cases through a typical civil court lens rather than considering the children and families who need nuanced solutions that best preserve coparenting and meet specific needs of specific children. Typical courts that rotate judges and have little background in these nuances often fail to meet such needs, leading to debate about whether dedicated family courts can serve families and children better.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Fran Fontana, an attorney and thought leader in Colorado who is a thought leader in the dedicated family court debate. Fran brings significant authority to the conversation, including serving on the Colorado Supreme Court Standing Committee on Family Issues, where conversations are occurring regarding how best to meet the unique needs of family law cases. Fran is a past chair of the Family Law Section of the Colorado Bar Association, past president of the Colorado Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC), and a former Domestic Violence Task Force member. She also serves as a Peer Professionalism Assistance Group member to encourage professionalism amongst attorneys across all disciplines.

Krista and Fran’s conversation touches on many issues facing family courts, including the lack of problem-solving between attorneys in family law cases. Fran shares the work her Peer Professionalism Assistance Group is doing to help attorneys manage conflict and identify cases that need faster intervention. She is a strong advocate for a court system that meets people where they are, which has led her to work to make changes in Colorado toward a better approach Having worked for decades as an attorney in hundreds of family law cases, Fran also shares her insights on the negative impact divorce has on children and parents and what her dream court model would look like. Finally, she shares with Krista how conflict manifests in children and discusses how good problem-solving techniques between attorneys and parents can benefit kids, helping parents navigate divorce in a far more healthy way.

 

Keeping kids front and center in a divorce can help create the best outcomes for them, and Fran Fontana has spent her career making children and families a priority. Don’t miss this episode for a peek into the future of Colorado family courts and how a dedicated family court can be a picture nationally and internationally of how to help children flourish despite divorce by fixing the divorce court itself

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Fran Fontana’s proactive path to family law and her varied career experiences
  • The use of “custody” when discussing parenting time and assignment of parental responsibilities and the negative connotations “custody” evokes 
  • The importance of identifying cases that need intervention faster and creating better outcomes for families
  • Reasons why family courts need to meet people where they are and recognize the nuanced issues that impact families and in particular children
  • Fran’s work to make changes in family courts in Colorado and how problem-solving has evolved from earlier in her career
  • Why advocating isn’t the same as problem-solving
  • The divorce industry’s negative impact on children and families
  • Fran’s dream court model and what she proposes for better family outcomes

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3580 22 full 021: Part 2: Leading Research on Better Ways to Approach Alcohol & Drug Misuse and Child Custody 021: Part 2: Leading Research on Better Ways to Approach Alcohol & Drug Misuse and Child Custody https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/021-part-2-leading-research-on-better-ways-to-approach-alcohol-drug-misuse-and-child-custody/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/021-part-2-leading-research-on-better-ways-to-approach-alcohol-drug-misuse-and-child-custody/#comments Mon, 24 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/38b8bfb8-e0f6-33ff-bfe6-884144779d6b Maintaining a child’s attachment to a parent with substance abuse issues can be a complex path to navigate. With advice from experts and keeping the child’s best interests first and foremost, parents and courts can successfully co-parent and maintain a healthy parent-child relationship.

This episode of Children First Family Law is part two of Krista’s two-part series on navigating substance misuse issues alongside co-parenting in a divorce situation. While citing the research and expertise of  Dr. Stephanie Tabashnecke, Krista highlights the vulnerability of children in a family law case when a parent is struggling with substance abuse. She shares the underlying causes of this disorder and why understanding it can help both parents cope while keeping the child’s best interests at the forefront of their co-parenting conversations. You’ll hear why relapse is an expected part of struggling with this disorder, the top ten myths surrounding substance abuse, and how disrupting a child’s attachment to a caregiver can impact their lifelong health. Krista explains how to set up a treatment plan that continues communication with the child, the importance of using a trauma-informed approach, and her top ten tips for judges and attorneys handling cases involving parents with substance abuse issues.

Understanding the science at play behind a substance abuse disorder can help guide parents to a solution that benefits parents and child and ensures the child’s needs are met throughout the process. Don’t miss this deep dive into the science and expertise to guide you through the complexities of a substance abuse disorder.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Leading current thoughts on the nuances of dealing with sobriety issues of parents in family law cases, considering strongly safety of children while balancing attachment needs of children
  • Input from leading experts such as Dr. Stephanie Tabashneck, leading Harvard psychologist and lawyer, who provides background insight to help family court professionals and parents navigate this challenging area 
  • The vulnerability of children in a substance abuse situation and the lines of protection the court and attorneys may invoke
  • Understanding the underlying factors that can trigger a substance abuse disorder and the consensus in the medical and scientific communities to treat them as chronic conditions
  • Relapse is part of a substance abuse disorder, and improper treatment, stress, and unmanaged co-occurring conditions can increase relapse risk
  • Finding strategies to meet the attachment needs of children and avoiding overreaction to relapse
  • The 10 myths surrounding substance abuse and the factors that increase a predisposition to addiction
  • Seeking a dopamine “hit” and the impact substances can have on the dopamine baseline
  • Role of genetics in substance abuse
  • Attachment in children and the impact messaging can have on that attachment, especially as it relates to substance abuse
  • Creating treatment plans that work for families logistically and financially and the components of a good treatment plan
  • The Optimal Parenting Time Decision Tree criteria used by professionals to evaluate optimal parenting time
  • Assessments, testing for alcohol and drug use, and questions to consider
  • Having a plan in place in the event of a relapse with specificity and creating a parent plan for this scenario
  • The impact on child attachment when completely removing a caregiver from their lives and mitigating this issue
  • Using a trauma-informed approach for the parent experiencing substance abuse
  • The top 10 tips for judges and attorneys in cases involving parents with substance abuse

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Maintaining a child’s attachment to a parent with substance abuse issues can be a complex path to navigate. With advice from experts and keeping the child’s best interests first and foremost, parents and courts can successfully co-parent and maintain a healthy parent-child relationship.

This episode of Children First Family Law is part two of Krista’s two-part series on navigating substance misuse issues alongside co-parenting in a divorce situation. While citing the research and expertise of  Dr. Stephanie Tabashnecke, Krista highlights the vulnerability of children in a family law case when a parent is struggling with substance abuse. She shares the underlying causes of this disorder and why understanding it can help both parents cope while keeping the child’s best interests at the forefront of their co-parenting conversations. You’ll hear why relapse is an expected part of struggling with this disorder, the top ten myths surrounding substance abuse, and how disrupting a child’s attachment to a caregiver can impact their lifelong health. Krista explains how to set up a treatment plan that continues communication with the child, the importance of using a trauma-informed approach, and her top ten tips for judges and attorneys handling cases involving parents with substance abuse issues.

Understanding the science at play behind a substance abuse disorder can help guide parents to a solution that benefits parents and child and ensures the child’s needs are met throughout the process. Don’t miss this deep dive into the science and expertise to guide you through the complexities of a substance abuse disorder.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Leading current thoughts on the nuances of dealing with sobriety issues of parents in family law cases, considering strongly safety of children while balancing attachment needs of children
  • Input from leading experts such as Dr. Stephanie Tabashneck, leading Harvard psychologist and lawyer, who provides background insight to help family court professionals and parents navigate this challenging area 
  • The vulnerability of children in a substance abuse situation and the lines of protection the court and attorneys may invoke
  • Understanding the underlying factors that can trigger a substance abuse disorder and the consensus in the medical and scientific communities to treat them as chronic conditions
  • Relapse is part of a substance abuse disorder, and improper treatment, stress, and unmanaged co-occurring conditions can increase relapse risk
  • Finding strategies to meet the attachment needs of children and avoiding overreaction to relapse
  • The 10 myths surrounding substance abuse and the factors that increase a predisposition to addiction
  • Seeking a dopamine “hit” and the impact substances can have on the dopamine baseline
  • Role of genetics in substance abuse
  • Attachment in children and the impact messaging can have on that attachment, especially as it relates to substance abuse
  • Creating treatment plans that work for families logistically and financially and the components of a good treatment plan
  • The Optimal Parenting Time Decision Tree criteria used by professionals to evaluate optimal parenting time
  • Assessments, testing for alcohol and drug use, and questions to consider
  • Having a plan in place in the event of a relapse with specificity and creating a parent plan for this scenario
  • The impact on child attachment when completely removing a caregiver from their lives and mitigating this issue
  • Using a trauma-informed approach for the parent experiencing substance abuse
  • The top 10 tips for judges and attorneys in cases involving parents with substance abuse

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4629 21 full 020: Alcohol, Drugs & Other Addictions in Child Custody: The Traditional Approach 020: Alcohol, Drugs & Other Addictions in Child Custody: The Traditional Approach https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/020-alcohol-drugs-other-addictions-in-child-custody-the-traditional-approach/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/020-alcohol-drugs-other-addictions-in-child-custody-the-traditional-approach/#comments Mon, 17 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/bb5af073-0833-37a7-8cf1-5afb5c90bea6 Substance abuse is often used as a weapon in family court, even when there isn’t a significant problem. Courts have several ways of handling this issue, and each method can have long-term implications.

In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista explores how family courts determine whether a parent is safe with a child. She outlines her experiences with families dealing with these scenarios, implementing advice and expertise from psychologist and attorney Dr. Stephanie Tabashneck. Two previous podcast episodes, with guests Cheryl and Mike, explore both parenting sides of this situation.

Krista offers an outline of the tools the court can use to evaluate a substance abuse issue and any additional risk factors. You’ll also hear the 10 factors the DSM-5 defines substance abuse. Together, these tools help attorneys and courts form parenting time recommendations.

Substance abuse in a divorce scenario can be complicated. This episode is a guide for navigating substance abuse while keeping children’s best interests at the forefront.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Substance abuse—primarily alcohol—is a chronic issue in family court, requiring assessments of handling approaches, their implications, and parental safety.
  • Krista’s experiences working with families in these situations and the expert advice she receives from attorney and psychologist Dr. Stephanie Tabashneck
  • The tools used by courts when a child’s safety is an immediate concern
  • Why courts are sometimes hesitant to restrict legal substance use entirely 
  • Direct testing methods like Soberlink or BACtrack, urine analysis, hair follicle, and nail testing
  • Substance Use Evaluation (SUE) involves an in-depth assessment conducted by a highly qualified professional with a strong background in addiction counseling, psychology, social work, or a related field.
  • Psychological testing in conjunction with a Substance Use Evaluation
  • A sample of questions you can expect from a Substance Use Evaluator (SUE) and the background information included
  • Substance Abuse Subtle Screening Inventory (SASSI) evaluations and its insight into a person’s potential proclivity for substance abuse
  • DSM-5’s definition of substance abuse and substance abuse disorders and the required criteria
  • The 10 factors used to diagnose a substance abuse disorder according to the DSM-5
  • Dimensions to evaluate for level of care decisions and what to look for in the evaluator’s report
  • Recommendations following a Substance Use Evaluation (SUE) based on the results and when these evaluations are needed

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Soberlink Remote Alcohol Monitoring | Improving Lives

BACtrack | The Leader in Breathalyzers

Home www.NAADAC.org

Adult SASSI-4 | The SASSI Institute

Alcohol Use Disorders Identification Test (AUDIT)

Michigan Alcohol Screening Test (MAST)

5280 Drug Testing - 5280 Drug Testing, Greenwood Village, CO

Drug Testing - Precise Monitoring

ASAM - American Society of Addiction Medicine

SAMHSA - Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM5).

American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders – Fifth Edition (DSM-5) defines a Substance Use Disorder based on using the criteria below. If, in the previous 12 months, an individual was identified as meeting 2-3 of the criteria they would have a mild disorder; meeting 4-5 criteria would equal a moderate disorder; and meeting 6 or more criteria would indicate a severe disorder. If the individual had previously met the criteria for a Substance Use Disorder, and none of the criteria have been met in the last three months, but less than 12 months, the diagnosis would be considered “In Early Remission.” If the individual had previously met the criteria for a Substance Use Disorder, and none of the criteria have been met in the previous 12 months, the diagnosis would be considered “In Sustained Remission."

  1. Substance is often taken in larger amounts over longer time period than was intended
  2. Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to cut down or control substance use
  3. Great deal of time spent in activities necessary to obtain, use, or recover from its effects
  4. Craving, or a strong desire or urge to use the substance
  5. Recurrent use resulting in failure to fulfill major role obligations at work, school, or home 
  6. Continued use despite persistent or recurrent social or interpersonal problems caused or exacerbated by the effects of the substance use
  7. Important social, occupational, or recreational activities are given up or reduced
  8. Recurrent use in physically hazardous situations   
  9. Continued use despite knowledge of having a persistent recurrent physical or psychological problem that is likely to have been caused or exacerbated by substance use 
  10. Tolerance as defined by:                      
    1. A need for markedly increased amounts to achieve intoxication or desired effect
    2. A markedly diminished effect with continued use of the same amount of substance
  11. Withdrawal, as manifested by either of the following:
    1. The characteristic withdrawal syndrome for the substance  
    2. The substance, or a closely related substance is taken to relieve or avoid withdrawal symptoms

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Substance abuse is often used as a weapon in family court, even when there isn’t a significant problem. Courts have several ways of handling this issue, and each method can have long-term implications.

In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista explores how family courts determine whether a parent is safe with a child. She outlines her experiences with families dealing with these scenarios, implementing advice and expertise from psychologist and attorney Dr. Stephanie Tabashneck. Two previous podcast episodes, with guests Cheryl and Mike, explore both parenting sides of this situation.

Krista offers an outline of the tools the court can use to evaluate a substance abuse issue and any additional risk factors. You’ll also hear the 10 factors the DSM-5 defines substance abuse. Together, these tools help attorneys and courts form parenting time recommendations.

Substance abuse in a divorce scenario can be complicated. This episode is a guide for navigating substance abuse while keeping children’s best interests at the forefront.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Substance abuse—primarily alcohol—is a chronic issue in family court, requiring assessments of handling approaches, their implications, and parental safety.
  • Krista’s experiences working with families in these situations and the expert advice she receives from attorney and psychologist Dr. Stephanie Tabashneck
  • The tools used by courts when a child’s safety is an immediate concern
  • Why courts are sometimes hesitant to restrict legal substance use entirely 
  • Direct testing methods like Soberlink or BACtrack, urine analysis, hair follicle, and nail testing
  • Substance Use Evaluation (SUE) involves an in-depth assessment conducted by a highly qualified professional with a strong background in addiction counseling, psychology, social work, or a related field.
  • Psychological testing in conjunction with a Substance Use Evaluation
  • A sample of questions you can expect from a Substance Use Evaluator (SUE) and the background information included
  • Substance Abuse Subtle Screening Inventory (SASSI) evaluations and its insight into a person’s potential proclivity for substance abuse
  • DSM-5’s definition of substance abuse and substance abuse disorders and the required criteria
  • The 10 factors used to diagnose a substance abuse disorder according to the DSM-5
  • Dimensions to evaluate for level of care decisions and what to look for in the evaluator’s report
  • Recommendations following a Substance Use Evaluation (SUE) based on the results and when these evaluations are needed

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Soberlink Remote Alcohol Monitoring | Improving Lives

BACtrack | The Leader in Breathalyzers

Home www.NAADAC.org

Adult SASSI-4 | The SASSI Institute

Alcohol Use Disorders Identification Test (AUDIT)

Michigan Alcohol Screening Test (MAST)

5280 Drug Testing - 5280 Drug Testing, Greenwood Village, CO

Drug Testing - Precise Monitoring

ASAM - American Society of Addiction Medicine

SAMHSA - Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM5).

American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders – Fifth Edition (DSM-5) defines a Substance Use Disorder based on using the criteria below. If, in the previous 12 months, an individual was identified as meeting 2-3 of the criteria they would have a mild disorder; meeting 4-5 criteria would equal a moderate disorder; and meeting 6 or more criteria would indicate a severe disorder. If the individual had previously met the criteria for a Substance Use Disorder, and none of the criteria have been met in the last three months, but less than 12 months, the diagnosis would be considered “In Early Remission.” If the individual had previously met the criteria for a Substance Use Disorder, and none of the criteria have been met in the previous 12 months, the diagnosis would be considered “In Sustained Remission."

  1. Substance is often taken in larger amounts over longer time period than was intended
  2. Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to cut down or control substance use
  3. Great deal of time spent in activities necessary to obtain, use, or recover from its effects
  4. Craving, or a strong desire or urge to use the substance
  5. Recurrent use resulting in failure to fulfill major role obligations at work, school, or home 
  6. Continued use despite persistent or recurrent social or interpersonal problems caused or exacerbated by the effects of the substance use
  7. Important social, occupational, or recreational activities are given up or reduced
  8. Recurrent use in physically hazardous situations   
  9. Continued use despite knowledge of having a persistent recurrent physical or psychological problem that is likely to have been caused or exacerbated by substance use 
  10. Tolerance as defined by:                      
    1. A need for markedly increased amounts to achieve intoxication or desired effect
    2. A markedly diminished effect with continued use of the same amount of substance
  11. Withdrawal, as manifested by either of the following:
    1. The characteristic withdrawal syndrome for the substance  
    2. The substance, or a closely related substance is taken to relieve or avoid withdrawal symptoms

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4025 20 full 019: Navigating Divorce Through Sobriety - An Addicted Father’s Story 019: Navigating Divorce Through Sobriety - An Addicted Father’s Story https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/019-navigating-divorce-through-sobriety-an-addicted-father-s-story/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/019-navigating-divorce-through-sobriety-an-addicted-father-s-story/#comments Mon, 10 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/5c9cbba6-8cf7-3f18-81b0-f19deb1dbe57 Personal issues such as addiction can jeopardize parental custody, but through hard work, dedication, and earning back trust, it is possible to co-parent with an ex-partner successfully.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Mike, a former client and recovering addict who came to Krista for help when his personal issues threatened custody of his baby daughter during his divorce. Mike is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict who worked hard to overcome his struggles, and today, he is successfully sharing custody with his ex-wife.

As Krista and Mike begin their conversation, Mike shares his initial exposure to drugs and alcohol and the role they played in his relationship with his ex-wife as they progressed toward marriage. When Mike’s ex became pregnant with their daughter, Mike hit rock bottom, still trying to convince himself he was fine. Ultimately, he recognized he needed help and entered an in-patient rehab, learning how to be honest with himself and others, and working with his ex in marriage counseling to attempt to save their marriage. When divorce became imminent, Mike moved to Colorado, where his ex had moved with their daughter, and hired Krista to assist him in getting custody of his daughter. With Krista at his side, Mike took proactive steps to earn trust with his ex, incrementally earning more time with his daughter.

Mike’s story is one that many parents can relate to, whether they are the parent struggling with addiction or the parent who needs to trust an ex-partner again. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The background behind Mike’s addiction, how he met his wife in college, and the denial and enabling surrounding his addiction
  • Evolution of Mike’s alcohol addiction 
  • Hitting rock bottom and how he convinced himself he was fine
  • Bringing a child into the mix and realizing he needed help
  • The inpatient rehab experience, honesty, and an attempt at marriage counseling to save the marriage
  • Divorce, a move to Colorado, hiring Krista, and getting some hard truths from her about his case
  • Mike’s proactive approach to gain trust and earn parenting time with his young daughter
  • The role of shame, kindness, and grace in becoming sober
  • His advice for dealing with addiction, becoming educated about its impact, healing, and faith

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Soberlink Remote Alcohol Monitoring | Improving Lives

Have a problem with alcohol? There is a solution. | Alcoholics Anonymous

Drug Addicts Anonymous USA - Find a 12 Step Meeting Near you

Amazon.com: Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change (Audible Audio Edition): Randye Kaye, Jeffrey Foote PhD, Carrie Wilkens PhD, Nicole Kosanke PhD, Stephanie Higgs PhD, Tantor Audio: Books

BACtrack | The Leader in Breathalyzers

Annie Grace - This Naked Mind

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Personal issues such as addiction can jeopardize parental custody, but through hard work, dedication, and earning back trust, it is possible to co-parent with an ex-partner successfully.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Mike, a former client and recovering addict who came to Krista for help when his personal issues threatened custody of his baby daughter during his divorce. Mike is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict who worked hard to overcome his struggles, and today, he is successfully sharing custody with his ex-wife.

As Krista and Mike begin their conversation, Mike shares his initial exposure to drugs and alcohol and the role they played in his relationship with his ex-wife as they progressed toward marriage. When Mike’s ex became pregnant with their daughter, Mike hit rock bottom, still trying to convince himself he was fine. Ultimately, he recognized he needed help and entered an in-patient rehab, learning how to be honest with himself and others, and working with his ex in marriage counseling to attempt to save their marriage. When divorce became imminent, Mike moved to Colorado, where his ex had moved with their daughter, and hired Krista to assist him in getting custody of his daughter. With Krista at his side, Mike took proactive steps to earn trust with his ex, incrementally earning more time with his daughter.

Mike’s story is one that many parents can relate to, whether they are the parent struggling with addiction or the parent who needs to trust an ex-partner again. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The background behind Mike’s addiction, how he met his wife in college, and the denial and enabling surrounding his addiction
  • Evolution of Mike’s alcohol addiction 
  • Hitting rock bottom and how he convinced himself he was fine
  • Bringing a child into the mix and realizing he needed help
  • The inpatient rehab experience, honesty, and an attempt at marriage counseling to save the marriage
  • Divorce, a move to Colorado, hiring Krista, and getting some hard truths from her about his case
  • Mike’s proactive approach to gain trust and earn parenting time with his young daughter
  • The role of shame, kindness, and grace in becoming sober
  • His advice for dealing with addiction, becoming educated about its impact, healing, and faith

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Soberlink Remote Alcohol Monitoring | Improving Lives

Have a problem with alcohol? There is a solution. | Alcoholics Anonymous

Drug Addicts Anonymous USA - Find a 12 Step Meeting Near you

Amazon.com: Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change (Audible Audio Edition): Randye Kaye, Jeffrey Foote PhD, Carrie Wilkens PhD, Nicole Kosanke PhD, Stephanie Higgs PhD, Tantor Audio: Books

BACtrack | The Leader in Breathalyzers

Annie Grace - This Naked Mind

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3822 19 full 018: Top 10 Things to Do (and Don't Do) When Hiring a Divorce Attorney 018: Top 10 Things to Do (and Don't Do) When Hiring a Divorce Attorney https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/018-top-10-things-to-do-and-dont-do-when-hiring-a-divorce-attorney/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/018-top-10-things-to-do-and-dont-do-when-hiring-a-divorce-attorney/#comments Mon, 03 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/1e956c2a-c0a6-3dc1-b63f-730e5cf5ce1c Hiring the right attorney in a divorce case involving children can make or break your case. If you hire the wrong one, they could be a big problem.

In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista offers the 10 dos and don’ts of hiring a divorce attorney. A good attorney should be a peacemaker, not a gladiator, which can foster the destruction of children’s well-being, parents, and individual parties. Toxicity generally isn’t necessary, even in potentially adversarial cases.

Finding amicable solutions for children's best interests is at the heart of this episode. Using Krista’s tips for finding a good divorce attorney, you could avoid a litigious, expensive, and destructive road.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The importance of hiring an attorney who is empathetic, warm, likable, and ethical
  • Krista’s tips for testing the accessibility and responsiveness of an attorney and their team
  • Ensuring your attorney will be clear and transparent about each step of the process as well as costs
  • How hiring someone who simplifies the process can save you a lot of money
  • Why humility is a valuable trait in an attorney
  • Reputability and its importance in the law community and red flags to consider
  • The value of an informed individual who is pursuing growth of knowledge and experience
  • The calming effect of a peacemaker in your corner
  • What a child-focused attorney can do for you versus one who isn’t
  • Problem-solving and finding the best solution for all involved parties

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Hiring the right attorney in a divorce case involving children can make or break your case. If you hire the wrong one, they could be a big problem.

In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista offers the 10 dos and don’ts of hiring a divorce attorney. A good attorney should be a peacemaker, not a gladiator, which can foster the destruction of children’s well-being, parents, and individual parties. Toxicity generally isn’t necessary, even in potentially adversarial cases.

Finding amicable solutions for children's best interests is at the heart of this episode. Using Krista’s tips for finding a good divorce attorney, you could avoid a litigious, expensive, and destructive road.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The importance of hiring an attorney who is empathetic, warm, likable, and ethical
  • Krista’s tips for testing the accessibility and responsiveness of an attorney and their team
  • Ensuring your attorney will be clear and transparent about each step of the process as well as costs
  • How hiring someone who simplifies the process can save you a lot of money
  • Why humility is a valuable trait in an attorney
  • Reputability and its importance in the law community and red flags to consider
  • The value of an informed individual who is pursuing growth of knowledge and experience
  • The calming effect of a peacemaker in your corner
  • What a child-focused attorney can do for you versus one who isn’t
  • Problem-solving and finding the best solution for all involved parties

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3688 18 full 017: Kayden’s Law, Domestic Violence & Challenges with the Wall Street Journal; Experiences & Insights with Dr. Matthew Sullivan 017: Kayden’s Law, Domestic Violence & Challenges with the Wall Street Journal; Experiences & Insights with Dr. Matthew Sullivan https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/017-kayden-s-law-domestic-violence-experiences-insights-with-dr-matthew-sullivan/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/017-kayden-s-law-domestic-violence-experiences-insights-with-dr-matthew-sullivan/#comments Mon, 27 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/f4d20402-1037-3111-9b80-0b576973b0af Don’t miss this episode of Children First Family Law in which Krista speaks with Dr. Matthew Sullivan, an internationally known researcher, speaker, psychologist, and author of two leading books on parental alienation and parent-child contact problems. His work emphasizes solution-driven approaches, providing practical encouragement to improve coparenting dynamics to help children flourish.   Dr. Sullivan is a pioneer in the field, having more than 30 years experience in family dispute resolution and clinical work in the family courts. He served as president of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts from 2019 to 2020, won its President’s Award in 2023, and was awarded the Meyer Elkin recognition for his powerful work published in the Family Court Review in 2024.

 

Dr. Sullivan, along with prior guest Dr. Michael Saini, together led the “Peace Talks” regarding Kayden’s Law at a major international conference, attempting to bring together what has become at times heated division among professionals as to how to best deal in family courts with important issues of domestic violence and parental alienation. He and Krista discuss at length the dynamics that have created such tension among professionals and his thoughts on how best to move forward productively for the best interests of children.

 

Dr. Sullivan shares his expertise on the variety of approaches courts use to determine best interests of children and discusses his perspective on ways to receive and consider the voices of children in these cases. He also shares why a mental health professional a best interests attorney, and a solutions-oriented judge can create problem-solving magic in cases with complex family dynamics. 

 

In this episode, you will learn about:

  • Kayden’s Law and the effects the legislation could have
  • Dr. Sullivan’s experience with the media’s tendency to polarize domestic violence issues as seen by a recent spat with the Wall Street Journal
  • Advocacy for effective balance of domestic violence reform and its role in parent-child contact problems
  • Child custody evaluations and the underlying reasons they can fall short
  • Ways courts approach to determine best interests and consider the voice of children 
  • The three players who can create a serious problem-solving team when it comes to supporting children during divorce
  • The importance of getting buy-in from parents to prioritize children in divorce 
  • The concern of mental health challenges experienced by kids in high-conflict divorce
  • Thoughts on when therapy is effective and when it’s ineffective

  

Resources from this Episode

Overcoming the Co-Parenting Trap: Essential Parenting Skills When a Child Resists a Parent: www.amazon.com/gp/product/0692407995/ref=sw_img_1?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1

Overcoming the Alienation Crisis: 33 Coparenting Solutions: www.amazon.com/gp/product/1735099406/ref=ewc_pr_img_2?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1

Overcoming Barriers website: overcomingbarriers.org/about-us/mission

Dr. Matthew Sullivan’s website: sullydoc.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Don’t miss this episode of Children First Family Law in which Krista speaks with Dr. Matthew Sullivan, an internationally known researcher, speaker, psychologist, and author of two leading books on parental alienation and parent-child contact problems. His work emphasizes solution-driven approaches, providing practical encouragement to improve coparenting dynamics to help children flourish.   Dr. Sullivan is a pioneer in the field, having more than 30 years experience in family dispute resolution and clinical work in the family courts. He served as president of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts from 2019 to 2020, won its President’s Award in 2023, and was awarded the Meyer Elkin recognition for his powerful work published in the Family Court Review in 2024.

 

Dr. Sullivan, along with prior guest Dr. Michael Saini, together led the “Peace Talks” regarding Kayden’s Law at a major international conference, attempting to bring together what has become at times heated division among professionals as to how to best deal in family courts with important issues of domestic violence and parental alienation. He and Krista discuss at length the dynamics that have created such tension among professionals and his thoughts on how best to move forward productively for the best interests of children.

 

Dr. Sullivan shares his expertise on the variety of approaches courts use to determine best interests of children and discusses his perspective on ways to receive and consider the voices of children in these cases. He also shares why a mental health professional a best interests attorney, and a solutions-oriented judge can create problem-solving magic in cases with complex family dynamics. 

 

In this episode, you will learn about:

  • Kayden’s Law and the effects the legislation could have
  • Dr. Sullivan’s experience with the media’s tendency to polarize domestic violence issues as seen by a recent spat with the Wall Street Journal
  • Advocacy for effective balance of domestic violence reform and its role in parent-child contact problems
  • Child custody evaluations and the underlying reasons they can fall short
  • Ways courts approach to determine best interests and consider the voice of children 
  • The three players who can create a serious problem-solving team when it comes to supporting children during divorce
  • The importance of getting buy-in from parents to prioritize children in divorce 
  • The concern of mental health challenges experienced by kids in high-conflict divorce
  • Thoughts on when therapy is effective and when it’s ineffective

  

Resources from this Episode

Overcoming the Co-Parenting Trap: Essential Parenting Skills When a Child Resists a Parent: www.amazon.com/gp/product/0692407995/ref=sw_img_1?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1

Overcoming the Alienation Crisis: 33 Coparenting Solutions: www.amazon.com/gp/product/1735099406/ref=ewc_pr_img_2?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1

Overcoming Barriers website: overcomingbarriers.org/about-us/mission

Dr. Matthew Sullivan’s website: sullydoc.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3681 17 full 016: Parent-Child Contact Problems and What to Do: Insights from Clinical Psychologist Dr. Richard Spiegle 016: Parent-Child Contact Problems and What to Do: Insights from Clinical Psychologist Dr. Richard Spiegle https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/016-parent-child-contact-problems-and-what-to-do-insights-from-clinical-psychologist-dr-richard-spiegle/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/016-parent-child-contact-problems-and-what-to-do-insights-from-clinical-psychologist-dr-richard-spiegle/#comments Mon, 20 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/1bc9b775-bcbc-322e-b90f-4f21b5490731 In this episode of Children First Family Law, Dr. Richard Spiegle, a renowned clinical and forensic psychologist, joins Krista to share his extensive experience in family law and child advocacy.

With a background in special education and a specialization in forensic psychology, Dr. Spiegle offers a unique perspective on the struggles that arise and the complexities involved in repairing parent-child relationships, emphasizing the need to focus on the importance to the wholeness of the child and his or her future adulthood in repairing relationships with a parent in almost all circumstances. Dr. Speigle explains the critically important view that parents must focus on relationships with children, not just parenting time, and the risk in family court that relational dynamics tend to be lost with an over emphasis on parenting time as the goal.  

Dr. Spiegle sheds light on the evolving landscape of family law, the introduction of new statutes and their impact, and mental health experts' roles in guiding families through crises. He highlights the importance of nurturing open communication and resolution in these delicate situations.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Spiegle relates impactful stories from his career, illustrating the effects of therapeutic interventions on families in distress. From addressing domestic violence to navigating estrangement and mental health issues, he underscores the necessity of creating safe environments for children to express themselves and the need for extremely careful approaches to therapeutic approaches to address parent-child contact problems.

This episode calls for systemic improvement, encouraging professionals to work together to support families and protect vulnerable children.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Dr. Richard Spiegle’s take on the complexities of family law and child advocacy
  • Emotional and academic challenges children face long into adulthood when continued estrangement between a child and parent occurs and is not addressed
  • Repairing fractured parent-child relationships, focusing on favored and disfavored parent dynamics
  • The evolving role of mental health experts in family therapy and legal contexts
  • Challenges of reintegration therapy and supervised parent-child interactions
  • Addressing the needs and perspectives of children in cases of domestic violence and child abuse
  • New statutes and their impact on parenting time and decision-making processes in family courts

Resources from this Episode

Dr. Richard Spiegle’s website: psychologistsdenvercolorado.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of Children First Family Law, Dr. Richard Spiegle, a renowned clinical and forensic psychologist, joins Krista to share his extensive experience in family law and child advocacy.

With a background in special education and a specialization in forensic psychology, Dr. Spiegle offers a unique perspective on the struggles that arise and the complexities involved in repairing parent-child relationships, emphasizing the need to focus on the importance to the wholeness of the child and his or her future adulthood in repairing relationships with a parent in almost all circumstances. Dr. Speigle explains the critically important view that parents must focus on relationships with children, not just parenting time, and the risk in family court that relational dynamics tend to be lost with an over emphasis on parenting time as the goal.  

Dr. Spiegle sheds light on the evolving landscape of family law, the introduction of new statutes and their impact, and mental health experts' roles in guiding families through crises. He highlights the importance of nurturing open communication and resolution in these delicate situations.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Spiegle relates impactful stories from his career, illustrating the effects of therapeutic interventions on families in distress. From addressing domestic violence to navigating estrangement and mental health issues, he underscores the necessity of creating safe environments for children to express themselves and the need for extremely careful approaches to therapeutic approaches to address parent-child contact problems.

This episode calls for systemic improvement, encouraging professionals to work together to support families and protect vulnerable children.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Dr. Richard Spiegle’s take on the complexities of family law and child advocacy
  • Emotional and academic challenges children face long into adulthood when continued estrangement between a child and parent occurs and is not addressed
  • Repairing fractured parent-child relationships, focusing on favored and disfavored parent dynamics
  • The evolving role of mental health experts in family therapy and legal contexts
  • Challenges of reintegration therapy and supervised parent-child interactions
  • Addressing the needs and perspectives of children in cases of domestic violence and child abuse
  • New statutes and their impact on parenting time and decision-making processes in family courts

Resources from this Episode

Dr. Richard Spiegle’s website: psychologistsdenvercolorado.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3969 16 full 015: Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, and Co-Parenting Considerations for Children of Divorce: an Interview with International Researcher and Expert Dr. Michael Saini 015: Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, and Co-Parenting Considerations for Children of Divorce: an Interview with International Researcher and Expert Dr. Michael Saini https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/015domestic-violence-childabuseandco-parenting-considerations-for-children-ofdivorce-an-interview-with-internationalresearcher-andexpert-drmichael/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/015domestic-violence-childabuseandco-parenting-considerations-for-children-ofdivorce-an-interview-with-internationalresearcher-andexpert-drmichael/#comments Mon, 13 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/703d6daf-d87a-32ea-8e25-c70116366efc On this episode of Children First Family Law, join Krista and renowned psychologist Dr. Michael Saini as they delve into the complex world of family law, focusing on its impact on children and co-parenting dynamics.

Dr. Saini has authored more than 200 publications, including book chapters, government reports, systematic reviews and vast number of peer-reviewed journal articles highlighting research in the area of family law and impact on children, including leading research on the devastating impact poor co-parenting dynamics have on children post-family breakdown. Dr. Saini, a passionate advocate for children's rights, discusses initiatives like Kayden's Law and the necessity of broadening the scope of family law to avoid extreme cases from dictating policies.

Krista and Dr. Saini highlight the complexity of the dynamics around domestic violence and its implications and handling in family law cases, including discussion of the risk of creating laws in response to tragedies. Dr. Saini describes his journey from social work to academia and his extraordinary research into a vast array of topics in the family law arena. Krista and Dr. Saini discuss the benefits of parents becoming better educated in conflict resolution, highlighting Dr. Saini’s research that shows the co-parenting relationship is the top indicator of outcomes for children post-divorce. parent-child relationships within that family system. As they discuss domestic violence, mental health, co-parenting dynamics, and evolving legal landscapes, Dr. Saini provides insights into legislation affecting family dynamics. The episode underscores the importance of emphasizing co-parenting dynamics and examines international models for a balanced approach.

Tune in for a compelling conversation aimed at enhancing family law practices and advocating for the rights of children and families.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Insights into Dr. Saini's extensive internationally acclaimed and recognized research in the arena of family law
  • Analysis of Kayden's Law and Dr. Saini’s concerns that tragedy-based policymaking fails to make best use of a multi-factor approach to complex problems of domestic violence and child abuse in family courts 
  • Challenges in the intersection of child protection and family law, spotlighting conflict resolution education and bridging research gaps
  • Examination of the importance of co-parenting dynamics on outcomes for children post-divorce

Resources from this Episode

discover.research.utoronto.ca/9702-michael-saini

www.researchgate.net/profile/Michael-Saini

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> On this episode of Children First Family Law, join Krista and renowned psychologist Dr. Michael Saini as they delve into the complex world of family law, focusing on its impact on children and co-parenting dynamics.

Dr. Saini has authored more than 200 publications, including book chapters, government reports, systematic reviews and vast number of peer-reviewed journal articles highlighting research in the area of family law and impact on children, including leading research on the devastating impact poor co-parenting dynamics have on children post-family breakdown. Dr. Saini, a passionate advocate for children's rights, discusses initiatives like Kayden's Law and the necessity of broadening the scope of family law to avoid extreme cases from dictating policies.

Krista and Dr. Saini highlight the complexity of the dynamics around domestic violence and its implications and handling in family law cases, including discussion of the risk of creating laws in response to tragedies. Dr. Saini describes his journey from social work to academia and his extraordinary research into a vast array of topics in the family law arena. Krista and Dr. Saini discuss the benefits of parents becoming better educated in conflict resolution, highlighting Dr. Saini’s research that shows the co-parenting relationship is the top indicator of outcomes for children post-divorce. parent-child relationships within that family system. As they discuss domestic violence, mental health, co-parenting dynamics, and evolving legal landscapes, Dr. Saini provides insights into legislation affecting family dynamics. The episode underscores the importance of emphasizing co-parenting dynamics and examines international models for a balanced approach.

Tune in for a compelling conversation aimed at enhancing family law practices and advocating for the rights of children and families.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Insights into Dr. Saini's extensive internationally acclaimed and recognized research in the arena of family law
  • Analysis of Kayden's Law and Dr. Saini’s concerns that tragedy-based policymaking fails to make best use of a multi-factor approach to complex problems of domestic violence and child abuse in family courts 
  • Challenges in the intersection of child protection and family law, spotlighting conflict resolution education and bridging research gaps
  • Examination of the importance of co-parenting dynamics on outcomes for children post-divorce

Resources from this Episode

discover.research.utoronto.ca/9702-michael-saini

www.researchgate.net/profile/Michael-Saini

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 4250 15 full 014: Peaceful Divorce Insights and Collaborative Law from Leading Attorney, Mediator and Family Law Icon Terri Harrington 014: Peaceful Divorce Insights and Collaborative Law from Leading Attorney, Mediator and Family Law Icon Terri Harrington https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/014-peaceful-divorce-insights-and-collaborative-law-from-leading-attorney-mediator-and-family-law-icon-terri-harrington/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/014-peaceful-divorce-insights-and-collaborative-law-from-leading-attorney-mediator-and-family-law-icon-terri-harrington/#comments Mon, 06 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/de5b8481-f9c6-3ca1-ad7b-b4225969a7aa In this episode of Children First Family Law, join Krista in a conversation with Terri Harrington, a pioneering figure in family law renowned for her dedication to fostering peaceful resolutions in divorce proceedings. With more than 40 years experience, Terri shares her journey from a Nebraska farm to becoming a leading family law attorney in Colorado, advocating for a shift from adversarial legal practices to more compassionate, solution-focused methods.

Krista and Terri delve into the evolution of harmonious ways to peacefully end marriages, discussing ways to reduce conflict and promote amicable outcomes for children in particular. They discuss the invaluable role of neutral experts, such as financial advisors and child development specialists, in achieving well-informed and equitable decisions and emphasize the importance of educating future attorneys to prioritize the well-being of families and peacemaking to help children and their parents flourish.

Krista and Terri also explore essential skills for attorneys navigating emotionally charged divorces and share strategies for maintaining strong co-parenting relationships after separation and divorce. They offer personal stories, insights, and a heartfelt perspective on how understanding the emotional dynamics of family law cases can lead to more effective resolutions.

This episode calls on the legal community to embrace empathy and understanding and set a new standard in family law practices.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The needed transition from adversarial to peaceful practices in family law, focusing on problem-solving and non-adversarial solutions
  • The role of neutral experts, like financial advisors and child development specialists, in facilitating informed decisions and reducing conflict
  • Educating attorneys on peacemaking skills and understanding the emotional impact of parental conflict, referencing the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) study
  • Benefits of mediation preparation and the efficiency of pre-mediation negotiations for successful outcomes
  • An emphasis on unified parenting approaches post-divorce to support children's well-being
  • The evolving role of best-interest attorneys in supporting family law cases
  • Challenges in the legal system, including the lack of family law experience among judges and the need for a dedicated family law court

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of Children First Family Law, join Krista in a conversation with Terri Harrington, a pioneering figure in family law renowned for her dedication to fostering peaceful resolutions in divorce proceedings. With more than 40 years experience, Terri shares her journey from a Nebraska farm to becoming a leading family law attorney in Colorado, advocating for a shift from adversarial legal practices to more compassionate, solution-focused methods.

Krista and Terri delve into the evolution of harmonious ways to peacefully end marriages, discussing ways to reduce conflict and promote amicable outcomes for children in particular. They discuss the invaluable role of neutral experts, such as financial advisors and child development specialists, in achieving well-informed and equitable decisions and emphasize the importance of educating future attorneys to prioritize the well-being of families and peacemaking to help children and their parents flourish.

Krista and Terri also explore essential skills for attorneys navigating emotionally charged divorces and share strategies for maintaining strong co-parenting relationships after separation and divorce. They offer personal stories, insights, and a heartfelt perspective on how understanding the emotional dynamics of family law cases can lead to more effective resolutions.

This episode calls on the legal community to embrace empathy and understanding and set a new standard in family law practices.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The needed transition from adversarial to peaceful practices in family law, focusing on problem-solving and non-adversarial solutions
  • The role of neutral experts, like financial advisors and child development specialists, in facilitating informed decisions and reducing conflict
  • Educating attorneys on peacemaking skills and understanding the emotional impact of parental conflict, referencing the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) study
  • Benefits of mediation preparation and the efficiency of pre-mediation negotiations for successful outcomes
  • An emphasis on unified parenting approaches post-divorce to support children's well-being
  • The evolving role of best-interest attorneys in supporting family law cases
  • Challenges in the legal system, including the lack of family law experience among judges and the need for a dedicated family law court

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3143 14 full 013: Balancing Evidence-Collection and Peacekeeping when Proving Child Safety Issues: An Interview with Author and Divorce Survivor Cheryl Palmar 013: Balancing Evidence-Collection and Peacekeeping when Proving Child Safety Issues: An Interview with Author and Divorce Survivor Cheryl Palmar https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/013-balancing-evidence-collection-and-peacekeeping-when-proving-child-safety-issues-an-interview-with-author-and-divorce-survivor-cheryl-palmar/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/013-balancing-evidence-collection-and-peacekeeping-when-proving-child-safety-issues-an-interview-with-author-and-divorce-survivor-cheryl-palmar/#comments Mon, 30 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/50abe66c-a47d-3c82-9e2c-b17f12cfa423 Join Krista on the Children First Family Law Podcast to explore the compelling story of Cheryl Palmar, a best-selling author in the United States and Australia who transformed her life despite the turmoil of a troubled marriage. In this episode, Cheryl shares her journey from heartache to empowerment, revealing the emotional and legal battles she encountered while navigating a marriage with a highly functioning alcoholic partner. Along the way, however, she found that with careful planning and evidence collection, she was able to accomplish and amicable divorce with a full settlement despite the potential that her case could have ended up as yet another story of toxic litigation.

Cheryl's candid narrative offers insight into the complex process of securing a future for herself and her daughter. She discusses the importance of gathering evidence, seeking legal guidance, and the strategic steps she took to ensure their safety. Her experience highlights the necessity of having a strong support system and the courage required to initiate change.

Beyond the legal aspects, Cheryl offers insights on healing and co-parenting. Her reflections on therapy and personal growth provide hope to others facing similar challenges. Cheryl’s book, "Erased: Exiting a Toxic Relationship," serves as a guiding light for those feeling trapped in toxic relationships, inspiring a path towards a healthier and more empowered future, and highlights ways to get the protections you need and want for your children even in ugly, risky situations through a careful approach to preparing for and executing your case.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Cheryl Palmar's journey from a marriage with a functioning alcoholic to empowerment and healing.
  • Emotional struggles and legal strategies in protecting her daughter and navigating divorce.
  • Insights into gathering evidence, privacy concerns, and the importance of legal advice in substance abuse situations.
  • Revelations about the balance of collecting evidence and the ability to approach a case peacefully and without extensive litigation – all through the power of incontrovertible facts, not allegations.
  • The role of co-parenting, focusing on unity and the well-being of their child despite past conflicts.
  • Discussion on the importance of therapy and personal growth after divorce.
  • Cheryl's experience with sobriety testing agreements to ensure her daughter's safety during parenting time and decision making.

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

"Erased: Exiting a Toxic Relationship" by Cheryl Palmar available online on Amazon.com or Barnes & Noble

Amazon: https://a.co/d/dnrbUMY

Barnes & Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/erased-cheryl-palmar/1144672044?ean=9781923123199

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Join Krista on the Children First Family Law Podcast to explore the compelling story of Cheryl Palmar, a best-selling author in the United States and Australia who transformed her life despite the turmoil of a troubled marriage. In this episode, Cheryl shares her journey from heartache to empowerment, revealing the emotional and legal battles she encountered while navigating a marriage with a highly functioning alcoholic partner. Along the way, however, she found that with careful planning and evidence collection, she was able to accomplish and amicable divorce with a full settlement despite the potential that her case could have ended up as yet another story of toxic litigation.

Cheryl's candid narrative offers insight into the complex process of securing a future for herself and her daughter. She discusses the importance of gathering evidence, seeking legal guidance, and the strategic steps she took to ensure their safety. Her experience highlights the necessity of having a strong support system and the courage required to initiate change.

Beyond the legal aspects, Cheryl offers insights on healing and co-parenting. Her reflections on therapy and personal growth provide hope to others facing similar challenges. Cheryl’s book, "Erased: Exiting a Toxic Relationship," serves as a guiding light for those feeling trapped in toxic relationships, inspiring a path towards a healthier and more empowered future, and highlights ways to get the protections you need and want for your children even in ugly, risky situations through a careful approach to preparing for and executing your case.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Cheryl Palmar's journey from a marriage with a functioning alcoholic to empowerment and healing.
  • Emotional struggles and legal strategies in protecting her daughter and navigating divorce.
  • Insights into gathering evidence, privacy concerns, and the importance of legal advice in substance abuse situations.
  • Revelations about the balance of collecting evidence and the ability to approach a case peacefully and without extensive litigation – all through the power of incontrovertible facts, not allegations.
  • The role of co-parenting, focusing on unity and the well-being of their child despite past conflicts.
  • Discussion on the importance of therapy and personal growth after divorce.
  • Cheryl's experience with sobriety testing agreements to ensure her daughter's safety during parenting time and decision making.

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

"Erased: Exiting a Toxic Relationship" by Cheryl Palmar available online on Amazon.com or Barnes & Noble

Amazon: https://a.co/d/dnrbUMY

Barnes & Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/erased-cheryl-palmar/1144672044?ean=9781923123199

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3764 13 full 012: Top Ten Holiday Parenting Tips in Child Custody Family Law Situations 012: Top Ten Holiday Parenting Tips in Child Custody Family Law Situations https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/012-top-ten-holiday-parenting-tips-in-child-custody-family-law-situations/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/012-top-ten-holiday-parenting-tips-in-child-custody-family-law-situations/#comments Mon, 23 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/a6c3b1d3-91a1-3fd4-a00c-808614d307ec In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista provides tips to handle the holidays within co-parenting arrangements. 

Krista discusses the importance of having a flexible parenting plan that respects each parent's significant holidays and traditions. Families can navigate the complexities of holiday traditions and new dynamics post-divorce by prioritizing the children's experiences and well-being over parental convenience.

Effective communication can help transform holiday co-parenting from a conflict-ridden experience into a more harmonious experience. Krista provides strategies for clear communication with your co-parent, extended family, and children, helping reduce stress and confusion. Discover the benefits of coordinating gift-giving, supporting children in purchasing gifts for the other parent, and celebrating holidays on alternative days.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Strategies for successful holiday planning in co-parenting, focusing on children's needs and new family dynamics
  • Importance of flexible parenting plans and respecting significant holidays to foster stability
  • Navigating holiday traditions in blended families and maintaining children's relationships with extended family
  • Effective communication and coordination to reduce stress and confusion during holidays
  • Benefits of coordinated gift-giving and supporting children in buying gifts for the other parent
  • Emphasis on prioritizing children's happiness and stability during holiday transitions

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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Episode Credits

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]]> In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista provides tips to handle the holidays within co-parenting arrangements. 

Krista discusses the importance of having a flexible parenting plan that respects each parent's significant holidays and traditions. Families can navigate the complexities of holiday traditions and new dynamics post-divorce by prioritizing the children's experiences and well-being over parental convenience.

Effective communication can help transform holiday co-parenting from a conflict-ridden experience into a more harmonious experience. Krista provides strategies for clear communication with your co-parent, extended family, and children, helping reduce stress and confusion. Discover the benefits of coordinating gift-giving, supporting children in purchasing gifts for the other parent, and celebrating holidays on alternative days.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Strategies for successful holiday planning in co-parenting, focusing on children's needs and new family dynamics
  • Importance of flexible parenting plans and respecting significant holidays to foster stability
  • Navigating holiday traditions in blended families and maintaining children's relationships with extended family
  • Effective communication and coordination to reduce stress and confusion during holidays
  • Benefits of coordinated gift-giving and supporting children in buying gifts for the other parent
  • Emphasis on prioritizing children's happiness and stability during holiday transitions

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Children First Family Law false No 1761 12 full 011: Top 10 Things to Consider When Contemplating Divorce, from a Child Advocate’s View 011: Top 10 Things to Consider When Contemplating Divorce, from a Child Advocate’s View https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/011-top-10-things-to-things-to-consider-when-contemplating-divorce-from-a-child-advocate-s-view/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/011-top-10-things-to-things-to-consider-when-contemplating-divorce-from-a-child-advocate-s-view/#comments Mon, 16 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/b000b6b3-74c3-3cb0-98ed-cd0f19accb24 In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista guides you through the intricacies of divorce using a child-centered approach.

Krista shares her top ten considerations for those contemplating divorce, emphasizing the children's best interests. She highlights the importance of identifying subtle forms of abuse, such as coercive control, and discusses the potential for reconciliation in non-abusive relationships. She also underscores the value of seeking expert guidance and the value of contemplating legal separation as a potentially better first step as an alternative to divorce.

Krista addresses the challenges of co-parenting and financial management post-divorce. She explains how the legal system prioritizes the child's best interests in parenting time and decision-making, discussing the impact of shared parenting responsibilities and common conflicts. She delves into income imputation complexities in child support and spousal maintenance cases and explores changes in parenting dynamics when parents previously less involved in primary care seek more active roles.

She further examines the impact of divorce on relationships and future planning, considering the complexities of forming new relationships and relocation challenges. Krista highlights the importance of assembling a reliable team of professionals and explores different approaches to handling divorce, such as hiring attorneys, negotiating amicable agreements directly, and mediating.

This episode is a must-listen for a comprehensive guide to navigating divorce with the children's best interests in mind.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Importance of a child-centered approach when considering divorce, emphasizing hiring professionals who prioritize children's needs
  • Identifying and addressing various forms of abuse, such as coercive control, and exploring legal separation as an alternative to divorce
  • Navigating co-parenting and financial management challenges post-divorce, especially for primary caregivers adjusting to shared parenting time and decision-making
  • Understanding the complexities of income imputation in child support and spousal maintenance and the dynamics of previously uninvolved parents seeking active roles
  • Impact of divorce on broader relationships, including friends, family, and new relationships, along with the challenges of potential relocations
  • Building a support team of legal and emotional resources to guide through the divorce process
  • Emphasizing the well-being of children in family law and discussing best-interest attorney roles and future series on domestic violence

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista guides you through the intricacies of divorce using a child-centered approach.

Krista shares her top ten considerations for those contemplating divorce, emphasizing the children's best interests. She highlights the importance of identifying subtle forms of abuse, such as coercive control, and discusses the potential for reconciliation in non-abusive relationships. She also underscores the value of seeking expert guidance and the value of contemplating legal separation as a potentially better first step as an alternative to divorce.

Krista addresses the challenges of co-parenting and financial management post-divorce. She explains how the legal system prioritizes the child's best interests in parenting time and decision-making, discussing the impact of shared parenting responsibilities and common conflicts. She delves into income imputation complexities in child support and spousal maintenance cases and explores changes in parenting dynamics when parents previously less involved in primary care seek more active roles.

She further examines the impact of divorce on relationships and future planning, considering the complexities of forming new relationships and relocation challenges. Krista highlights the importance of assembling a reliable team of professionals and explores different approaches to handling divorce, such as hiring attorneys, negotiating amicable agreements directly, and mediating.

This episode is a must-listen for a comprehensive guide to navigating divorce with the children's best interests in mind.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Importance of a child-centered approach when considering divorce, emphasizing hiring professionals who prioritize children's needs
  • Identifying and addressing various forms of abuse, such as coercive control, and exploring legal separation as an alternative to divorce
  • Navigating co-parenting and financial management challenges post-divorce, especially for primary caregivers adjusting to shared parenting time and decision-making
  • Understanding the complexities of income imputation in child support and spousal maintenance and the dynamics of previously uninvolved parents seeking active roles
  • Impact of divorce on broader relationships, including friends, family, and new relationships, along with the challenges of potential relocations
  • Building a support team of legal and emotional resources to guide through the divorce process
  • Emphasizing the well-being of children in family law and discussing best-interest attorney roles and future series on domestic violence

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 2853 11 full 010: “Best Interests of Children” & Constitutional Rights to Parent: A Conversation with Arizona Judge Bruce Cohen 010: “Best Interests of Children” & Constitutional Rights to Parent: A Conversation with Arizona Judge Bruce Cohen https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/010-best-interests-of-children-constitutional-rights-to-parent-a-conversation-with-arizona-judge-bruce-cohen/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/010-best-interests-of-children-constitutional-rights-to-parent-a-conversation-with-arizona-judge-bruce-cohen/#comments Mon, 09 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/586aed3f-d2f6-3aeb-ab4d-a7effb5d2c1d In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Judge Bruce Cohen, a distinguished figure in family law with more than 40 years of experience.

Judge Cohen shares his extensive knowledge and unique perspectives from serving in the Maricopa County court system in Arizona, the fourth largest in the United States. With a career that spans from being a young lawyer to a seasoned judge appointed by Governor Janet Napolitano in 2005, Judge Cohen discusses the intricacies of family law, particularly focusing on the delicate balance between the well-being of children and Constitutional rights to parent.

Throughout the conversation, Judge Cohen offers a deep dive into the challenges judges face, especially those new to the family law arena. He provides insights into parenting time and decision-making complexities, where terms like “best interests” are often debated. Additionally, Judge Cohen's innovative approaches to promoting healthy co-parenting and enhancing self-representation bring a fresh perspective to resolving family disputes.

We also explore Judge Cohen's experiences and reflections from the AFCC Conference in Boston, underscoring the shared commitment to improving family law practices. His passion for guiding families toward constructive resolutions and focusing on the well-being of children is evident throughout the discussion.

Join us for a thought-provoking episode enriched by Judge Cohen's insights and dedication to advancing family law practice.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Judge Bruce Cohen on balancing child well-being with Constitutional rights and court principles
  • Insights into the challenges of early intervention in cases involving domestic violence or mental health issues
  • An exploration of the complexities and nuances of parenting time and decision-making
  • Judge Cohen's journey and experience in family law, emphasizing the importance of training and support for judges
  • Promoting healthy co-parenting and addressing challenges in family law dynamics
  • Innovative approaches to simplifying legal proceedings for self-represented litigants in family law courts
  • Ethical dilemmas attorneys face, emphasizing guiding clients toward constructive resolutions

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes Judge Bruce Cohen, a distinguished figure in family law with more than 40 years of experience.

Judge Cohen shares his extensive knowledge and unique perspectives from serving in the Maricopa County court system in Arizona, the fourth largest in the United States. With a career that spans from being a young lawyer to a seasoned judge appointed by Governor Janet Napolitano in 2005, Judge Cohen discusses the intricacies of family law, particularly focusing on the delicate balance between the well-being of children and Constitutional rights to parent.

Throughout the conversation, Judge Cohen offers a deep dive into the challenges judges face, especially those new to the family law arena. He provides insights into parenting time and decision-making complexities, where terms like “best interests” are often debated. Additionally, Judge Cohen's innovative approaches to promoting healthy co-parenting and enhancing self-representation bring a fresh perspective to resolving family disputes.

We also explore Judge Cohen's experiences and reflections from the AFCC Conference in Boston, underscoring the shared commitment to improving family law practices. His passion for guiding families toward constructive resolutions and focusing on the well-being of children is evident throughout the discussion.

Join us for a thought-provoking episode enriched by Judge Cohen's insights and dedication to advancing family law practice.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Judge Bruce Cohen on balancing child well-being with Constitutional rights and court principles
  • Insights into the challenges of early intervention in cases involving domestic violence or mental health issues
  • An exploration of the complexities and nuances of parenting time and decision-making
  • Judge Cohen's journey and experience in family law, emphasizing the importance of training and support for judges
  • Promoting healthy co-parenting and addressing challenges in family law dynamics
  • Innovative approaches to simplifying legal proceedings for self-represented litigants in family law courts
  • Ethical dilemmas attorneys face, emphasizing guiding clients toward constructive resolutions

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3642 10 full 009: Domestic Violence and Child Abuse: Kayden's Law Introduction 009: Domestic Violence and Child Abuse: Kayden's Law Introduction https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/009-domestic-violence-and-child-abuse-kaydens-law-introduction/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/009-domestic-violence-and-child-abuse-kaydens-law-introduction/#comments Mon, 02 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/a36ccc1e-e2a3-316b-a8a3-3c9311504fde In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista provides an important introduction to what will be an ongoing conversation on the podcast: the complexities of domestic violence, child abuse, and child sexual abuse in family law cases and the current landscape of laws attempting to safeguard those at risk. 

This introduction highlights the complexities of this area of family law and provides a solid foundation for understanding the issues. She also previews a series of thought leaders who will join the show in early 2025 to help unpack these important issues.

On this episode, Krista explains the differences between the dependency and neglect courts and family courts and the inability of family courts to terminate parental rights, even if there has been domestic violence or child abuse. She introduces Kayden’s Law, a Pennsylvania statute that aims to protect children, which then spawned federal attention and legislation, which then motivated Colorado to be among the first additional states to change its laws to better protect children from parents who commit DV and child abuse and child sexual abuse.

Krista explains Colorado’s leadership in the transformation of family court reform to better address domestic violence and child abuse, including laws in 2023 and 2024 that greatly change the protections regarding these issues in family courts. These laws have created a pivotal shift in defining domestic violence within legal contexts, including the importance of including children's voices and better defining domestic violence to include aspects of coercive control. This episode advocates for a more compassionate family law system. It encourages listeners to actively engage with these reforms, creating an environment where children and those affected by abuse are genuinely heard and protected.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Exploring the complexities of family law related to domestic violence and child abuse
  • Challenges victims face, such as fears of escalation and financial instability
  • Differences between dependency and neglect cases versus domestic relations court cases
  • Introduction of Kayden’s Law 
  • Colorado laws that elevate domestic violence, including aspects of coercive control, and attempt to get children's voices in court
  • The role of parenting plan evaluators and mandatory reporters in protecting children
  • The importance of engaging with reforms for a more effective legal system that protects children

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

 

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]]> In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista provides an important introduction to what will be an ongoing conversation on the podcast: the complexities of domestic violence, child abuse, and child sexual abuse in family law cases and the current landscape of laws attempting to safeguard those at risk. 

This introduction highlights the complexities of this area of family law and provides a solid foundation for understanding the issues. She also previews a series of thought leaders who will join the show in early 2025 to help unpack these important issues.

On this episode, Krista explains the differences between the dependency and neglect courts and family courts and the inability of family courts to terminate parental rights, even if there has been domestic violence or child abuse. She introduces Kayden’s Law, a Pennsylvania statute that aims to protect children, which then spawned federal attention and legislation, which then motivated Colorado to be among the first additional states to change its laws to better protect children from parents who commit DV and child abuse and child sexual abuse.

Krista explains Colorado’s leadership in the transformation of family court reform to better address domestic violence and child abuse, including laws in 2023 and 2024 that greatly change the protections regarding these issues in family courts. These laws have created a pivotal shift in defining domestic violence within legal contexts, including the importance of including children's voices and better defining domestic violence to include aspects of coercive control. This episode advocates for a more compassionate family law system. It encourages listeners to actively engage with these reforms, creating an environment where children and those affected by abuse are genuinely heard and protected.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Exploring the complexities of family law related to domestic violence and child abuse
  • Challenges victims face, such as fears of escalation and financial instability
  • Differences between dependency and neglect cases versus domestic relations court cases
  • Introduction of Kayden’s Law 
  • Colorado laws that elevate domestic violence, including aspects of coercive control, and attempt to get children's voices in court
  • The role of parenting plan evaluators and mandatory reporters in protecting children
  • The importance of engaging with reforms for a more effective legal system that protects children

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

 

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We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

 

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Children First Family Law false No 2605 9 full 008: Cynthia Roberts - Understanding Supervised Parenting Time 008: Cynthia Roberts - Understanding Supervised Parenting Time https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/008-cynthia-roberts-understanding-supervised-parenting-time/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/008-cynthia-roberts-understanding-supervised-parenting-time/#comments Mon, 25 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/5a81c71b-46f2-3a3e-b271-3f78da52e977 On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista dives into the intricate world of supervised parenting in situations with safety concerns for children. Our guest, Cynthia Roberts, who is well-versed in mental health and family law, shares her journey from a mental health specialist to a therapeutic parenting time supervisor, helping navigate keeping children safe when there are allegations of a variety of safety concerns for children with a parent.   She offers a unique perspective on how these visits can be both protective and transformative.

 

Krista and Cynthia explore the challenges families face during contentious divorces, including the financial and logistical hurdles associated with supervised visitations. Cynthia discusses the delicate balance between providing therapeutic intervention and keeping meticulous documentation to ensure the safety and well-being of children. She clarifies the nuanced differences between therapeutic and standard supervised visitations, emphasizing the importance of unobtrusive supervision to allow for genuine family interactions. The discussion extends to the varied roles within family law, highlighting both Child and Family Investigators (CFIs) and best-interest attorneys such as Child Legal Representatives (CLRs) and reflecting attempts at more effective child-focused advocacy in high-conflict scenarios. Cynthia emphasizes the emotional demands on professionals in this field and the necessity for supportive professional relationships to enhance outcomes and prevent burnout.

 

Tune in to learn from Cynthia Roberts how to create supportive and safe environments for children in these complicated family law situations.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Exploring the role of supervised visitations 
  • Insights from Cynthia Roberts on the delicate balance between providing therapeutic intervention and keeping meticulous documentation to ensure the safety and well-being of children
  • The challenges faced by families, including financial and logistical hurdles, in securing qualified therapeutic supervised visitation specialists
  • Examination of the roles of  Child and Family Investigators (CFIs) to best-interest attorneys and the impact on child-centered advocacy in family law
  • The emotional demands on family law professionals and the importance of maintaining professionalism and respect
  • Strategies for managing parent exchanges to ensure children's safety and comfort during visitations
  • The role of supervised visitations in assessing parenting behaviors and supporting positive parent-child interactions

 

Resources from this Episode

Roberts Family Resolution Services: www.robertsfamilyresolution.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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]]> On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista dives into the intricate world of supervised parenting in situations with safety concerns for children. Our guest, Cynthia Roberts, who is well-versed in mental health and family law, shares her journey from a mental health specialist to a therapeutic parenting time supervisor, helping navigate keeping children safe when there are allegations of a variety of safety concerns for children with a parent.   She offers a unique perspective on how these visits can be both protective and transformative.

 

Krista and Cynthia explore the challenges families face during contentious divorces, including the financial and logistical hurdles associated with supervised visitations. Cynthia discusses the delicate balance between providing therapeutic intervention and keeping meticulous documentation to ensure the safety and well-being of children. She clarifies the nuanced differences between therapeutic and standard supervised visitations, emphasizing the importance of unobtrusive supervision to allow for genuine family interactions. The discussion extends to the varied roles within family law, highlighting both Child and Family Investigators (CFIs) and best-interest attorneys such as Child Legal Representatives (CLRs) and reflecting attempts at more effective child-focused advocacy in high-conflict scenarios. Cynthia emphasizes the emotional demands on professionals in this field and the necessity for supportive professional relationships to enhance outcomes and prevent burnout.

 

Tune in to learn from Cynthia Roberts how to create supportive and safe environments for children in these complicated family law situations.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Exploring the role of supervised visitations 
  • Insights from Cynthia Roberts on the delicate balance between providing therapeutic intervention and keeping meticulous documentation to ensure the safety and well-being of children
  • The challenges faced by families, including financial and logistical hurdles, in securing qualified therapeutic supervised visitation specialists
  • Examination of the roles of  Child and Family Investigators (CFIs) to best-interest attorneys and the impact on child-centered advocacy in family law
  • The emotional demands on family law professionals and the importance of maintaining professionalism and respect
  • Strategies for managing parent exchanges to ensure children's safety and comfort during visitations
  • The role of supervised visitations in assessing parenting behaviors and supporting positive parent-child interactions

 

Resources from this Episode

Roberts Family Resolution Services: www.robertsfamilyresolution.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Children First Family Law false No 3747 8 full 007: Understanding Family Law from the Seat of the Bench with Judge Robert Lung 007: Understanding Family Law from the Seat of the Bench with Judge Robert Lung https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/007-understanding-family-law-from-the-seat-of-the-bench-with-judge-robert-lung/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/007-understanding-family-law-from-the-seat-of-the-bench-with-judge-robert-lung/#comments Mon, 18 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/212f3a1a-2e8b-3254-a57b-d422d2ce5e42 In this episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista sits down with the Honorable Judge Robert Lung to explore the nuances of family law. With decades of experience as a district court judge in Colorado, Judge Lung offers invaluable perspectives on how parents can work together to shape their children's futures. This episode emphasizes parental cooperation in making decisions about their children's lives rather than relying on a judge who lacks personal insight into their circumstances.

Judge Lung discusses critical issues such as human trafficking, childhood trauma, and resilience. Drawing from his extensive work with various professionals, including military, medical, and law enforcement communities, Judge Lung underscores his commitment to these pressing topics through his roles on significant councils addressing human trafficking.

You’ll hear Judge Lung recount his path from law school in Ohio to his current position in Colorado. Krista and Judge Lung highlight the influence of mentors and personal stories, reflecting on how focusing on children's well-being in family law cases can lead to better outcomes. They also emphasize the empowerment of parents to reach agreements during divorce proceedings, placing the best interests of their children at the forefront.

The episode delves into the intricacies of co-parenting, parental rights, and the effects of trauma on child advocacy. Central themes include conversations about parenting time, challenges for non-offending parents, and the role of judicial input in enhancing the family court system. Judge Lung reiterates maintaining a nurturing environment for families, stressing mentorship, open communication, and continuous improvement efforts by the Colorado Judicial Branch.

Join us as we navigate these critical issues with Judge Robert Lung and discover ways to foster a nurturing environment for families facing family law challenges.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The importance of parental cooperation in family law to avoid judicial decisions by strangers
  • Judge Robert Lung's career journey and experiences in Colorado's family court system
  • Trauma awareness, human trafficking, and child advocacy
  • Empowerment of parents to reach agreements in divorce proceedings
  • Challenges of co-parenting, parental rights, and maintaining a supportive environment for children
  • Continuous improvement in Colorado's family courts
  • Anecdotes highlighting informed decision-making and the pitfalls of unnecessary litigation

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> In this episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista sits down with the Honorable Judge Robert Lung to explore the nuances of family law. With decades of experience as a district court judge in Colorado, Judge Lung offers invaluable perspectives on how parents can work together to shape their children's futures. This episode emphasizes parental cooperation in making decisions about their children's lives rather than relying on a judge who lacks personal insight into their circumstances.

Judge Lung discusses critical issues such as human trafficking, childhood trauma, and resilience. Drawing from his extensive work with various professionals, including military, medical, and law enforcement communities, Judge Lung underscores his commitment to these pressing topics through his roles on significant councils addressing human trafficking.

You’ll hear Judge Lung recount his path from law school in Ohio to his current position in Colorado. Krista and Judge Lung highlight the influence of mentors and personal stories, reflecting on how focusing on children's well-being in family law cases can lead to better outcomes. They also emphasize the empowerment of parents to reach agreements during divorce proceedings, placing the best interests of their children at the forefront.

The episode delves into the intricacies of co-parenting, parental rights, and the effects of trauma on child advocacy. Central themes include conversations about parenting time, challenges for non-offending parents, and the role of judicial input in enhancing the family court system. Judge Lung reiterates maintaining a nurturing environment for families, stressing mentorship, open communication, and continuous improvement efforts by the Colorado Judicial Branch.

Join us as we navigate these critical issues with Judge Robert Lung and discover ways to foster a nurturing environment for families facing family law challenges.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The importance of parental cooperation in family law to avoid judicial decisions by strangers
  • Judge Robert Lung's career journey and experiences in Colorado's family court system
  • Trauma awareness, human trafficking, and child advocacy
  • Empowerment of parents to reach agreements in divorce proceedings
  • Challenges of co-parenting, parental rights, and maintaining a supportive environment for children
  • Continuous improvement in Colorado's family courts
  • Anecdotes highlighting informed decision-making and the pitfalls of unnecessary litigation

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Children First Family Law false No 3079 7 full 006: What to Look for in Therapeutic Resources for Your Children with Psychologist Dr. Kathleen McNamara 006: What to Look for in Therapeutic Resources for Your Children with Psychologist Dr. Kathleen McNamara https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/006-what-to-look-for-in-therapeutic-resources-for-your-children-with-psychologist-dr-kathleen-mcnamara/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/006-what-to-look-for-in-therapeutic-resources-for-your-children-with-psychologist-dr-kathleen-mcnamara/#comments Mon, 11 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/6737a1ff-232c-37de-abe6-b047199fd534 Join us for an insightful discussion with Dr. Kathleen McNamara, a seasoned psychologist with nearly 40 years of experience, as she shares her expertise at the intersection of family law and psychology.

In this episode of Children First Family Law, we delve into the intricacies of child-parent relationships, emphasizing the need to separate relationship issues from parenting logistics. Dr. McNamara's extensive career, spanning academia, clinical practice, and policy-making, enriches our exploration of child-centered strategies that place children's needs at the forefront in legal contexts.

We examine te impact of recent legislative changes and the complexities surrounding terms like alienation and gaslighting. Dr. McNamara advocates for moving beyond labels to focus on specific behaviors and their effects on family dynamics. The episode also highlights Kayden's Law and the evolving role of best-interests attorneys – called Child Legal Representatives in Colorado – discussing the balance between safeguarding children and honoring parental rights.

Throughout the conversation, we address the challenges of high-conflict divorces, stressing the importance of a stable parenting schedule and the guidance of experienced therapists. By encouraging communication, conflict resolution, and emotional resilience, we aim to assist families in transitioning from disputes to effective co-parenting.

Our discussion, filled with expert advice and personal experiences, aims to inspire listeners to adopt child-focused approaches in the complex realm of family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Exploring the intersection of family law and psychology with Dr. Kathleen McNamara
  • Child-centered strategies and their importance in family dynamics
  • The impact of recent legislative changes, such as Kayden's Law, on family law
  • Challenges and strategies for managing high-conflict divorces and parenting schedules
  • The role of language and behavior-focused approaches in understanding family dynamics
  • The importance of emotional resilience, communication, and conflict resolution in co-parenting
  • Insights into child advocacy, family rights, and the evolving role of best-interests attorneys – called child legal representatives in Colorado

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

Episode Credits

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

]]> Join us for an insightful discussion with Dr. Kathleen McNamara, a seasoned psychologist with nearly 40 years of experience, as she shares her expertise at the intersection of family law and psychology.

In this episode of Children First Family Law, we delve into the intricacies of child-parent relationships, emphasizing the need to separate relationship issues from parenting logistics. Dr. McNamara's extensive career, spanning academia, clinical practice, and policy-making, enriches our exploration of child-centered strategies that place children's needs at the forefront in legal contexts.

We examine te impact of recent legislative changes and the complexities surrounding terms like alienation and gaslighting. Dr. McNamara advocates for moving beyond labels to focus on specific behaviors and their effects on family dynamics. The episode also highlights Kayden's Law and the evolving role of best-interests attorneys – called Child Legal Representatives in Colorado – discussing the balance between safeguarding children and honoring parental rights.

Throughout the conversation, we address the challenges of high-conflict divorces, stressing the importance of a stable parenting schedule and the guidance of experienced therapists. By encouraging communication, conflict resolution, and emotional resilience, we aim to assist families in transitioning from disputes to effective co-parenting.

Our discussion, filled with expert advice and personal experiences, aims to inspire listeners to adopt child-focused approaches in the complex realm of family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Exploring the intersection of family law and psychology with Dr. Kathleen McNamara
  • Child-centered strategies and their importance in family dynamics
  • The impact of recent legislative changes, such as Kayden's Law, on family law
  • Challenges and strategies for managing high-conflict divorces and parenting schedules
  • The role of language and behavior-focused approaches in understanding family dynamics
  • The importance of emotional resilience, communication, and conflict resolution in co-parenting
  • Insights into child advocacy, family rights, and the evolving role of best-interests attorneys – called child legal representatives in Colorado

Resources from this Episode

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 3232 6 full 005: Insight into Family Law with Judge Angela Arkin 005: Insight into Family Law with Judge Angela Arkin https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/005-insight-into-family-law-with-judge-angela-arkin/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/005-insight-into-family-law-with-judge-angela-arkin/#comments Mon, 04 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/30f00209-95ab-385b-9dc0-32f759f341a7 Join us for a conversation with the Hon. (Ret.) Angela Arkin, a former Colorado judge and current thought leader in family law with a wealth of experience to share. Judge Arkin provides her perspective based on her decades of experience regarding ways to improve access to justice for families without resources to hire lawyers and how to better advocate for children.

 

Judge Arkin dives deep into the heart-wrenching complexities judges face in family law, especially when it comes to cases involving children. We explore the intricate process of discerning the truth in these emotionally charged situations and the critical role of mental health and socioeconomic factors. 

 

Celebrate Judge Arkin's profound impact on the legal community and her tireless dedication to training future generations of lawyers and judges. This episode provides invaluable advice for judges, lawyers, and parents alike, emphasizing the crucial need to prioritize children's wellbeing in all family law proceedings.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Judge Angela Arkin's journey from Georgia to Colorado in family law
  • Challenges and responsibilities judges face in high-conflict divorce cases, particularly involving children
  • The impact of socioeconomic and mental health issues on family dynamics and court decisions
  • Importance of mentorship and training for judges and lawyers to prioritize children's best interests in family law proceedings
  • Issues regarding access to justice in family law cases in which parents cannot afford attorneys
  • Advice for parents, lawyers, and judicial officers

 

Resources from this Episode:

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Guest’s website - https://jaginc.com/arkin-angela/

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Join us for a conversation with the Hon. (Ret.) Angela Arkin, a former Colorado judge and current thought leader in family law with a wealth of experience to share. Judge Arkin provides her perspective based on her decades of experience regarding ways to improve access to justice for families without resources to hire lawyers and how to better advocate for children.

 

Judge Arkin dives deep into the heart-wrenching complexities judges face in family law, especially when it comes to cases involving children. We explore the intricate process of discerning the truth in these emotionally charged situations and the critical role of mental health and socioeconomic factors. 

 

Celebrate Judge Arkin's profound impact on the legal community and her tireless dedication to training future generations of lawyers and judges. This episode provides invaluable advice for judges, lawyers, and parents alike, emphasizing the crucial need to prioritize children's wellbeing in all family law proceedings.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Judge Angela Arkin's journey from Georgia to Colorado in family law
  • Challenges and responsibilities judges face in high-conflict divorce cases, particularly involving children
  • The impact of socioeconomic and mental health issues on family dynamics and court decisions
  • Importance of mentorship and training for judges and lawyers to prioritize children's best interests in family law proceedings
  • Issues regarding access to justice in family law cases in which parents cannot afford attorneys
  • Advice for parents, lawyers, and judicial officers

 

Resources from this Episode:

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

Guest’s website - https://jaginc.com/arkin-angela/

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Krista Nash false No 2734 5 full 004: Amicable Uncontested Divorce Services 004: Amicable Uncontested Divorce Services https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/004-peaceful-approaches-to-family-law-conflict-mediation-and-other-peacekeeping-solutions/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/004-peaceful-approaches-to-family-law-conflict-mediation-and-other-peacekeeping-solutions/#comments Mon, 28 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/35c9f67a-3ae4-345f-add8-6c7c2fb17908 Mediation can be an excellent solution for some families, but it is often an ineffective problem-solving technique.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista explains a court’s obligation to attempt Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) before a contested hearing and the challenges that could arise during mediation. Mediation is not always the most effective resolution tool, and Krista explains why it often fails. She shares why she created Amicable Uncontested Family Law Solutions, what you can expect from that process, and why Krista’s method helps parents learn to co-parent more effectively. Krista outlines the challenges mediation can present, with attorneys often making the situation more difficult than it needs to be. She shares the steps clients and attorneys can take before entering mediation, what differentiates collaborative law from mediation, and her passion for mitigating the damage done to families by helping them recognize when they need help.

Children’s well-being is at the heart of Krista’s law practice, and she wants attorneys and families to know what they can do to create better co-parenting situations that benefit all involved parties.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) and a court’s requirement to do this type of mediation before a contested hearing
  • The issues a prepared mediator will address during the mediation session
  • Mediation’s lack of effectiveness and some reasons it often fails
  • Krista’s love of creating effective solutions with settlement conferences as opposed to traditional mediation
  • Amicable Uncontested Family Law Solutions and what Krista’s clients can expect to gain from this product offering
  • The involvement of attorneys making a divorce situation far more difficult
  • Using the Children First Family Law podcast as a resource for parents and attorneys
  • The steps a client should take before entering mediation and the information attorneys need to create a good outcome
  • Collaborative Law definition and who it best suits
  • Krista’s preference to help both parents and help them learn to co-parent better
  • Mitigating damage in families by helping them recognize when they need help

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Mediation can be an excellent solution for some families, but it is often an ineffective problem-solving technique.

On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista explains a court’s obligation to attempt Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) before a contested hearing and the challenges that could arise during mediation. Mediation is not always the most effective resolution tool, and Krista explains why it often fails. She shares why she created Amicable Uncontested Family Law Solutions, what you can expect from that process, and why Krista’s method helps parents learn to co-parent more effectively. Krista outlines the challenges mediation can present, with attorneys often making the situation more difficult than it needs to be. She shares the steps clients and attorneys can take before entering mediation, what differentiates collaborative law from mediation, and her passion for mitigating the damage done to families by helping them recognize when they need help.

Children’s well-being is at the heart of Krista’s law practice, and she wants attorneys and families to know what they can do to create better co-parenting situations that benefit all involved parties.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) and a court’s requirement to do this type of mediation before a contested hearing
  • The issues a prepared mediator will address during the mediation session
  • Mediation’s lack of effectiveness and some reasons it often fails
  • Krista’s love of creating effective solutions with settlement conferences as opposed to traditional mediation
  • Amicable Uncontested Family Law Solutions and what Krista’s clients can expect to gain from this product offering
  • The involvement of attorneys making a divorce situation far more difficult
  • Using the Children First Family Law podcast as a resource for parents and attorneys
  • The steps a client should take before entering mediation and the information attorneys need to create a good outcome
  • Collaborative Law definition and who it best suits
  • Krista’s preference to help both parents and help them learn to co-parent better
  • Mitigating damage in families by helping them recognize when they need help

 

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Children First Family Law false No 1725 4 full 003: An Introduction to Child Advocacy 003: An Introduction to Child Advocacy https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/003-an-introduction-to-child-advocacy/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/003-an-introduction-to-child-advocacy/#comments Wed, 16 Oct 2024 11:32:07 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/2c6d4992-4ae5-304e-ace0-23f8807cd9c8 Discover tools to navigate the waters of family law with a focus on child advocacy and the nuances of our legal system. Join Krista Nash as we unravel the complexities of divorce and custody proceedings, championing a child-centered approach that prioritizes the well-being of children.  We'll dissect the difference between dependency and neglect cases and domestic relations, emphasizing the crucial role state intervention plays in safeguarding children's safety in D&N cases but the need for parents and professionals to focus on children’s best interests in the family law world.

Gain clarity on the various roles within child advocacy such as parenting plan evaluators and best-interests attorneys. These are called different names in different states – for example, in Colorado, there are  Child and Family Investigators (CFIs), Parental Responsibilities Evaluators (PREs), and Child's Legal Representatives (CLRs). We'll break down their functions, from CFIs' short-term assessments to the comprehensive evaluations conducted by PREs, and dissect their associated costs and required training. 

Explore the transformative power of effective co-parenting to foster better futures for children post-divorce.  We'll also highlight alternative dispute resolution methods like mediation and arbitration as valuable tools to minimize conflict and encourage peace. Together, we'll call upon parents, judges, and attorneys to unite in support of children during these challenging family transitions, with a promise of future episodes offering expert advice on navigating family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Focus on child-centered approaches in family law, especially during divorce and custody proceedings
  • Overview of roles and processes in family law investigations, including CFIs, PREs, and CLRs
  • Importance of effective co-parenting and minimizing conflict for children's well-being
  • Exploration of alternative dispute resolution methods like mediation and arbitration
  • Emphasis on universal principles of child advocacy that transcend state lines

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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Episode Credits

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]]> Discover tools to navigate the waters of family law with a focus on child advocacy and the nuances of our legal system. Join Krista Nash as we unravel the complexities of divorce and custody proceedings, championing a child-centered approach that prioritizes the well-being of children.  We'll dissect the difference between dependency and neglect cases and domestic relations, emphasizing the crucial role state intervention plays in safeguarding children's safety in D&N cases but the need for parents and professionals to focus on children’s best interests in the family law world.

Gain clarity on the various roles within child advocacy such as parenting plan evaluators and best-interests attorneys. These are called different names in different states – for example, in Colorado, there are  Child and Family Investigators (CFIs), Parental Responsibilities Evaluators (PREs), and Child's Legal Representatives (CLRs). We'll break down their functions, from CFIs' short-term assessments to the comprehensive evaluations conducted by PREs, and dissect their associated costs and required training. 

Explore the transformative power of effective co-parenting to foster better futures for children post-divorce.  We'll also highlight alternative dispute resolution methods like mediation and arbitration as valuable tools to minimize conflict and encourage peace. Together, we'll call upon parents, judges, and attorneys to unite in support of children during these challenging family transitions, with a promise of future episodes offering expert advice on navigating family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Focus on child-centered approaches in family law, especially during divorce and custody proceedings
  • Overview of roles and processes in family law investigations, including CFIs, PREs, and CLRs
  • Importance of effective co-parenting and minimizing conflict for children's well-being
  • Exploration of alternative dispute resolution methods like mediation and arbitration
  • Emphasis on universal principles of child advocacy that transcend state lines

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

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]]> Krista Nash false No 1671 3 full 002: How to Approach Divorce and Do It Well 002: How to Approach Divorce and Do It Well https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/002-how-to-approach-divorce-and-do-it-well/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/002-how-to-approach-divorce-and-do-it-well/#comments Mon, 14 Oct 2024 14:30:19 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/b4b39894-7d84-383a-b4a2-52bc990fbc4d Discover the keys to navigating family law with a focus on the well-being of children and the power of peaceful resolutions. Explore how choosing the right attorney, one who prioritizes negotiation and settlement, can transform the divorce process. We'll learn insights from experienced family law attorney, Krista Nash, who offers a roadmap for those embarking on this challenging journey. Our discussion sheds light on the financial intricacies akin to splitting up a business, the importance of transparency, and the need for a comprehensive view of marital assets and debts.

Next, we look into the complexities of crafting a parenting plan, focusing on major decisions that can become contentious. We'll analyze the components of a well-drafted parenting plan, including communication strategies and non-disparagement clauses. By understanding the intricacies of separation agreements, including assets, debt, child support, and alimony, we can work toward minimizing conflicts. It's all about fostering cooperation and ensuring fair settlements, enabling a smoother path forward for families.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Importance of choosing an attorney who prioritizes negotiation and peaceful resolutions in family law.
  • An introduction to navigating the financial intricacies of divorce, including assets, debts, and potential financial abuse.
  • Benefits of creative problem-solving over court litigation for resolving family disputes and retaining control.
  • Emphasizing dignity and respect in divorce proceedings, with a focus on the well-being of children and preservation of peace for long-term, effective co-parenting

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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]]> Discover the keys to navigating family law with a focus on the well-being of children and the power of peaceful resolutions. Explore how choosing the right attorney, one who prioritizes negotiation and settlement, can transform the divorce process. We'll learn insights from experienced family law attorney, Krista Nash, who offers a roadmap for those embarking on this challenging journey. Our discussion sheds light on the financial intricacies akin to splitting up a business, the importance of transparency, and the need for a comprehensive view of marital assets and debts.

Next, we look into the complexities of crafting a parenting plan, focusing on major decisions that can become contentious. We'll analyze the components of a well-drafted parenting plan, including communication strategies and non-disparagement clauses. By understanding the intricacies of separation agreements, including assets, debt, child support, and alimony, we can work toward minimizing conflicts. It's all about fostering cooperation and ensuring fair settlements, enabling a smoother path forward for families.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Importance of choosing an attorney who prioritizes negotiation and peaceful resolutions in family law.
  • An introduction to navigating the financial intricacies of divorce, including assets, debts, and potential financial abuse.
  • Benefits of creative problem-solving over court litigation for resolving family disputes and retaining control.
  • Emphasizing dignity and respect in divorce proceedings, with a focus on the well-being of children and preservation of peace for long-term, effective co-parenting

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

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]]> Krista Nash false No 1962 2 full 001: Get to Know Your Host Krista Nash: A Journey into Family Law Child Advocacy 001: Get to Know Your Host Krista Nash: A Journey into Family Law Child Advocacy https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/001-get-to-know-your-host-krista-nash-a-journey-into-family-law-child-advocacy/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/001-get-to-know-your-host-krista-nash-a-journey-into-family-law-child-advocacy/#comments Fri, 11 Oct 2024 09:59:36 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/9b802aaf-3ec5-3dbc-a929-ca5010d4eaf0 In this introductory episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, host Krista Nash takes listeners through her journey from journalism to becoming an accomplished family law attorney and nationally recognized child advocate. Raised in Colorado, Krista initially pursued a career in journalism, graduating from Northwestern University. She worked as a newspaper reporter, but growing disillusionment with the industry's ethical challenges led to career changes and ultimately a specialty in family law and children’s issues. 

The episode delves into significant milestones in Krista's life, including meeting her husband in 1995, moving back to Colorado in 2001, and managing career shifts in public relations while raising her children. A pivotal lawsuit against her husband's employer became a turning point, propelling her toward law school. Balancing the demands of legal education with motherhood, Krista's experiences enriched her perspective and deepened her commitment to putting children first in the messy area of family law. 

Krista shares her motivations for founding Children First Family Law, emphasizing the importance of problem-solving and the limitations of litigation. She began this podcast to fill what she sees as a serious gap in the discourse around family law issues. With vast numbers of people – and their children –  experiencing family breakdown, this podcast serves as a platform for diverse voices aimed at helping individuals navigate through the complexities of family law and how best to help their children flourish The podcast also intends to challenge all professionals – lawyers, judges, counselors, supervisors, legislators, and others – to do better by children.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Krista Nash's journey from journalism to family law advocacy
  • Disillusionment with journalism leading to career pivot
  • Transition from public relations to law school
  • Challenges and rewards of balancing legal education and motherhood
  • Founding Children First Family Law and commitment to problem-solving
  • Encouragement for parents to focus on their children
  • Challenge for family law professionals to place a higher value on children’s best interests

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

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]]> In this introductory episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, host Krista Nash takes listeners through her journey from journalism to becoming an accomplished family law attorney and nationally recognized child advocate. Raised in Colorado, Krista initially pursued a career in journalism, graduating from Northwestern University. She worked as a newspaper reporter, but growing disillusionment with the industry's ethical challenges led to career changes and ultimately a specialty in family law and children’s issues. 

The episode delves into significant milestones in Krista's life, including meeting her husband in 1995, moving back to Colorado in 2001, and managing career shifts in public relations while raising her children. A pivotal lawsuit against her husband's employer became a turning point, propelling her toward law school. Balancing the demands of legal education with motherhood, Krista's experiences enriched her perspective and deepened her commitment to putting children first in the messy area of family law. 

Krista shares her motivations for founding Children First Family Law, emphasizing the importance of problem-solving and the limitations of litigation. She began this podcast to fill what she sees as a serious gap in the discourse around family law issues. With vast numbers of people – and their children –  experiencing family breakdown, this podcast serves as a platform for diverse voices aimed at helping individuals navigate through the complexities of family law and how best to help their children flourish The podcast also intends to challenge all professionals – lawyers, judges, counselors, supervisors, legislators, and others – to do better by children.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Krista Nash's journey from journalism to family law advocacy
  • Disillusionment with journalism leading to career pivot
  • Transition from public relations to law school
  • Challenges and rewards of balancing legal education and motherhood
  • Founding Children First Family Law and commitment to problem-solving
  • Encouragement for parents to focus on their children
  • Challenge for family law professionals to place a higher value on children’s best interests

Resources from this Episode

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

Follow and Review:

We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

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]]> Krista Nash false No 2304 1 full Welcome to the Children First Family Law Podcast Welcome to the Children First Family Law Podcast https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/welcome-to-the-children-first-family-law-podcast-1723743813/ https://childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/e/welcome-to-the-children-first-family-law-podcast-1723743813/#comments Thu, 15 Aug 2024 13:44:09 -0400 childrenfirstfamilylaw.podbean.com/1bdbac09-cbd4-310e-940a-650156199b8c Welcome to *Children First Family Law*, a podcast dedicated to transforming the way families navigate the challenging landscape of divorce. In an industry too often focused on litigation, financial battles, and a war-like approach, we advocate for a radical shift in priorities—putting the well-being of children at the forefront. Join us as we explore how to handle divorce in a way that protects children from the collateral damage of parental conflict and legal battles. We offer resources, insights, and expert advice to help parents understand how to manage divorce without destroying their children's future. By highlighting the flaws in the current system and providing a roadmap for a more compassionate approach, we aim to become thought leaders in this space, calling for change within the professional landscape of family law. We’ll discuss crucial topics like collaborative and amicable divorce, parental alienation, and navigating the complexities of domestic violence and child abuse within the legal system. Through candid conversations and expert guidance, *Children First Family Law* equips families to emerge from the brokenness of divorce with their children's well-being intact—just like a beautiful stained glass window crafted from shattered pieces. If you’re asking yourself, "How can I ensure my children aren’t destroyed by my divorce?" or "Why does my lawyer always push for litigation?" this podcast is for you. Tune in, and let us guide you toward a healthier, more hopeful future for your family.

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