The Art of Being You https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com The Art of Being You

Leadership, Identity, and Internal Authority

Most people think confidence is the problem.

It isn’t.

Confidence is the result of something deeper: knowing who you are and leading from that place.

The Art of Being You explores what it actually takes to move from approval-seeking to authentic leadership.

Hosted by Leadership Identity Coach Nancy Haines, this podcast challenges the common narratives around confidence, success, and leadership.

After building a thriving career in Los Angeles and then rebuilding her life and identity after moving to Dubai, Nancy Haines experienced firsthand what happens when your identity becomes tied to external validation.

This show explores the deeper work of leadership:

  • developing internal authority

  • separating identity from achievement

  • leading with presence instead of performance

  • building confidence that comes from alignment, not approval

Each season features a mix of solo episodes and conversations with leaders, entrepreneurs, and thinkers exploring the psychology and lived experience of authentic leadership.

If you’re a high-performing professional, entrepreneur, or leader who is ready to stop performing for approval and start leading from identity — you’re in the right place.

Because the most powerful leadership doesn’t come from proving yourself.

It comes from being fully yourself.

]]> Fri, 27 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0400 https://podbean.com/?v=5.5 en Copyright 2020 All rights reserved. Education:Self-Improvement 1440 episodic The Art of Being You is a leadership podcast about moving from approval-seeking to internal authority. Hosted by Leadership Identity Coach Nancy Haines, the show challenges the common belief that confidence is something you fix. In reality, confidence is the result of knowing who you are and leading from that place. Through solo insights and conversations with leaders, entrepreneurs, and professionals, this podcast explores identity, presence, and the deeper work behind authentic leadership. If you’re ready to stop performing for approval and start leading with clarity, confidence, and self-trust, this show is for you. artofbeingyou artofbeingyou No false https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/7938104/art_of_being_you_copy_i3kvg6.jpg The Art of Being You https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com 144 144 Episode 17 What Real Confidence Actually Feels Like (With Jayson Graystone) Episode 17 What Real Confidence Actually Feels Like (With Jayson Graystone) https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-17-what-real-confidence-actually-feels-like-with-jayson-graystone/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-17-what-real-confidence-actually-feels-like-with-jayson-graystone/#comments Fri, 27 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/b361abeb-d6c8-30d7-8776-acf36da01c5a In this episode of The Art of Being You, I share a short but powerful conversation with Jayson Graystone — a highly successful trader and businessman — but more importantly, someone who embodies a kind of leadership that isn’t often talked about.

What stood out to me wasn’t just what he said… but how he showed up.

There are certain people who carry a presence that shifts a room without needing to perform, impress, or prove anything. And it raises an important question:

What is it that actually creates that kind of confidence?

In this conversation, we explore what it looks like to operate from internal authority — and how that changes the way you lead, make decisions, and show up in business and life.

In This Episode, We Explore:
  • How internal authority changes decision-making
  • The contrast between pressure-driven hustle and a more grounded way of operating
  • What authentic leadership feels like in real life — not just in theory
A Note on This Conversation

This is a short, focused conversation — but one that captures something deeper than just words.

As you listen, pay attention not only to what’s being said… but how it feels.

If This Resonates

If this episode speaks to you, follow the show and continue with the next conversation.

This podcast is for those navigating the shift from external validation to internal authority — in leadership, business, and life.

]]> In this episode of The Art of Being You, I share a short but powerful conversation with Jayson Graystone — a highly successful trader and businessman — but more importantly, someone who embodies a kind of leadership that isn’t often talked about.

What stood out to me wasn’t just what he said… but how he showed up.

There are certain people who carry a presence that shifts a room without needing to perform, impress, or prove anything. And it raises an important question:

What is it that actually creates that kind of confidence?

In this conversation, we explore what it looks like to operate from internal authority — and how that changes the way you lead, make decisions, and show up in business and life.

In This Episode, We Explore:
  • How internal authority changes decision-making
  • The contrast between pressure-driven hustle and a more grounded way of operating
  • What authentic leadership feels like in real life — not just in theory
A Note on This Conversation

This is a short, focused conversation — but one that captures something deeper than just words.

As you listen, pay attention not only to what’s being said… but how it feels.

If This Resonates

If this episode speaks to you, follow the show and continue with the next conversation.

This podcast is for those navigating the shift from external validation to internal authority — in leadership, business, and life.

]]> artofbeingyou false No 571 2 17 full Episode 16 Why I Stepped Away From My Work — And What It Taught Me About Confidence Episode 16 Why I Stepped Away From My Work — And What It Taught Me About Confidence https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/why-i-stepped-away-from-my-work-%e2%80%94-and-what-it-taught-me-about-confidence/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/why-i-stepped-away-from-my-work-%e2%80%94-and-what-it-taught-me-about-confidence/#comments Fri, 13 Mar 2026 15:11:21 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/78fcf405-a075-3d9d-a073-fe072ff389f3 After several years away from the microphone, The Art of Being You is returning with a deeper message and a clearer purpose.

In this episode, I share why I stepped away from my work for a period of time, what that space allowed me to see, and why this next chapter of the podcast feels different.

During this time, I reflected deeply on patterns I’ve seen in so many capable people — overthinking decisions, second-guessing themselves, feeling responsible for everyone around them, and constantly looking outside themselves for validation.

What I realized is that confidence was never the real issue.

Confidence is the outcome.

The real shift happens when we move from external validation to internal authority.

This podcast is about understanding the identity patterns that shape how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. Because when identity aligns, presence changes. When presence changes, leadership becomes natural — and confidence follows.

If you’ve ever felt capable but still unsure, strong but still exhausted, or clear but still hesitant to fully trust yourself, this space is for you.

Welcome back to The Art of Being You.

]]> After several years away from the microphone, The Art of Being You is returning with a deeper message and a clearer purpose.

In this episode, I share why I stepped away from my work for a period of time, what that space allowed me to see, and why this next chapter of the podcast feels different.

During this time, I reflected deeply on patterns I’ve seen in so many capable people — overthinking decisions, second-guessing themselves, feeling responsible for everyone around them, and constantly looking outside themselves for validation.

What I realized is that confidence was never the real issue.

Confidence is the outcome.

The real shift happens when we move from external validation to internal authority.

This podcast is about understanding the identity patterns that shape how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. Because when identity aligns, presence changes. When presence changes, leadership becomes natural — and confidence follows.

If you’ve ever felt capable but still unsure, strong but still exhausted, or clear but still hesitant to fully trust yourself, this space is for you.

Welcome back to The Art of Being You.

]]> artofbeingyou false No 779 2 16 full Episode 15- Vulnerability & Intimacy in Relationships Episode 15- Vulnerability & Intimacy in Relationships https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-15-vulnerability-intimacy-in-relationships/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-15-vulnerability-intimacy-in-relationships/#comments Sun, 14 Feb 2021 19:52:52 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/6c24df1b-2060-378a-b019-bc6c7361ad53 Happy Valentines Day to you! We have a special episode on this day for you to enjoy. It is a topic that most people do not discuss while in a relationship and is necessary for one to thrive.  

Let's be honest. Vulnerability and intimacy are sometimes the hardest things to build that require both parties to feel safe and not judged. We share some awesome tips for those who still want to grow in their relationships and give it depth. 

Enjoy the laughs and the vulnerability.  

]]> Happy Valentines Day to you! We have a special episode on this day for you to enjoy. It is a topic that most people do not discuss while in a relationship and is necessary for one to thrive.  

Let's be honest. Vulnerability and intimacy are sometimes the hardest things to build that require both parties to feel safe and not judged. We share some awesome tips for those who still want to grow in their relationships and give it depth. 

Enjoy the laughs and the vulnerability.  

]]> artofbeingyou false No 1992 1 15 full Episode 14 - Communication in Relationships Episode 14 - Communication in Relationships https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-14-communication-in-relationships/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-14-communication-in-relationships/#comments Sun, 17 Jan 2021 18:00:00 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/b6035ae1-0e1d-3483-b696-a61a29ba9bc5 In this episode, we dive in a bit deeper into what communication in relationships really is. The ability to identify your communication style and to identify your needs is crucial for everything to be in harmony. At the end of the day, communication is a massive pillar for a couple. Self-love really comes into play here as well. Loving yourself enough to talk about what your needs are and also your ability to bring up problems in a relationship. 

Listen up as we share some mistakes we all make and tips to help you move through all the junk and get to the point of having harmony and essential conversations without the hassle. 

]]> In this episode, we dive in a bit deeper into what communication in relationships really is. The ability to identify your communication style and to identify your needs is crucial for everything to be in harmony. At the end of the day, communication is a massive pillar for a couple. Self-love really comes into play here as well. Loving yourself enough to talk about what your needs are and also your ability to bring up problems in a relationship. 

Listen up as we share some mistakes we all make and tips to help you move through all the junk and get to the point of having harmony and essential conversations without the hassle. 

]]> artofbeingyou false No 1969 1 14 full Episode 13- Self Sabotage in Relationships Episode 13- Self Sabotage in Relationships https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-13-self-sabotage-in-relationships/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-13-self-sabotage-in-relationships/#comments Fri, 18 Dec 2020 18:49:39 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/15fa2e88-8c1c-3cca-acda-b1b1b2f1e12d Let's be honest, we have all self-sabotaged at some point in our relationships. A good question to bring up is, how many times have you stood in your own way of your happiness because "what if..."? In this episode we discuss why we self-sabotage in relationships and how to stop it. Identifying patterns and understanding where they come from are a great way to show up in relationships fully prepared and ready! 

To get some deeper support, remember to check out the Dim to Damn Girl online program (link found on IG @the_confidence_catalyst). Don't let this New Year start without learning some great tools to help yourself!

]]> Let's be honest, we have all self-sabotaged at some point in our relationships. A good question to bring up is, how many times have you stood in your own way of your happiness because "what if..."? In this episode we discuss why we self-sabotage in relationships and how to stop it. Identifying patterns and understanding where they come from are a great way to show up in relationships fully prepared and ready! 

To get some deeper support, remember to check out the Dim to Damn Girl online program (link found on IG @the_confidence_catalyst). Don't let this New Year start without learning some great tools to help yourself!

]]> artofbeingyou false No 2193 1 13 full Episode 12 -Resentment In Relationships Episode 12 -Resentment In Relationships https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-12-resentment-in-relationships/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-12-resentment-in-relationships/#comments Fri, 04 Dec 2020 17:58:15 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/8a6f045e-6cb9-3350-8e43-cbfa8ee19c8a Resentment in relationships is very common. It can be the wedge that starts creating disconnect and toxicity. The toxicity it creates may impact a relationship enough to cause irreparable damage. We talk about the types of resentment, the causes, and some tips on how to help your relationship survive it! Let's start becoming aware of our habits and start creating healthy relationships!

]]> Resentment in relationships is very common. It can be the wedge that starts creating disconnect and toxicity. The toxicity it creates may impact a relationship enough to cause irreparable damage. We talk about the types of resentment, the causes, and some tips on how to help your relationship survive it! Let's start becoming aware of our habits and start creating healthy relationships!

]]> artofbeingyou false No 1949 1 12 full Episode 11- Roles in Relationships Episode 11- Roles in Relationships https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-11-roles-in-relationships/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-11-roles-in-relationships/#comments Mon, 09 Nov 2020 21:14:32 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/b9a3b889-cb3d-3a58-8940-c99f25204b9a Who are you when you are in a relationship? What role do you normally take? Does it serve you? These are just some questions that we discuss in this episode. I brought my husband in to get his perspective and for men to hear a male perspective on this topic. We share some of our challenges in our relationship that led us to have the conversation that was needed to move forward. 

]]> Who are you when you are in a relationship? What role do you normally take? Does it serve you? These are just some questions that we discuss in this episode. I brought my husband in to get his perspective and for men to hear a male perspective on this topic. We share some of our challenges in our relationship that led us to have the conversation that was needed to move forward. 

]]> artofbeingyou false No 1828 1 11 full Episode 10 - Does Your Self-Love Come With Conditions? Episode 10 - Does Your Self-Love Come With Conditions? https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-10-does-your-self-love-come-with-conditions/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-10-does-your-self-love-come-with-conditions/#comments Tue, 29 Sep 2020 17:30:00 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/788131a3-aae5-3604-aaa2-effff96613e7 In this powerful episode, we discuss a very intriguing question. Do you love yourself just for being yourself? Or do you love yourself with conditions?

Do you know the impact the response to these questions has on your life? A HUGE impact on what you attract and what you see in the mirror. Do you want to change it? If so, listen up and share with family and friends!

 

]]> In this powerful episode, we discuss a very intriguing question. Do you love yourself just for being yourself? Or do you love yourself with conditions?

Do you know the impact the response to these questions has on your life? A HUGE impact on what you attract and what you see in the mirror. Do you want to change it? If so, listen up and share with family and friends!

 

]]> In this powerful episode, we discuss a very intriguing question. Do you love yourself just for being yourself? Or do you love yourself with conditions? artofbeingyou false No 1327 1 10 full Episode 9 - Setting Healthy Boundaries Episode 9 - Setting Healthy Boundaries https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-9-setting-healthy-boundaries/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-9-setting-healthy-boundaries/#comments Mon, 21 Sep 2020 17:06:37 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/5eb373d3-dcfe-3b9c-b1ad-7e3eeb2cb875 Setting healthy boundaries is a form of self-love. In relationships of all sorts, boundaries are a must. You teach people how to treat you based on your boundaries. Boundaries is also tied to how strong your identity is. Taking your power back from situations that have caused you stress, trauma, or sadness makes a big difference on how you respect yourself. Enjoy the episode and the tips to help you start setting some healthy boundaries. 

]]> Setting healthy boundaries is a form of self-love. In relationships of all sorts, boundaries are a must. You teach people how to treat you based on your boundaries. Boundaries is also tied to how strong your identity is. Taking your power back from situations that have caused you stress, trauma, or sadness makes a big difference on how you respect yourself. Enjoy the episode and the tips to help you start setting some healthy boundaries. 

]]> Setting healthy relationships is a part of self-love. It is important because it impacts your identity. artofbeingyou false No 1511 1 9 full Episode 8 - The Toxicity of Judgment Episode 8 - The Toxicity of Judgment https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-8-the-toxicity-ofjudgment/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-8-the-toxicity-ofjudgment/#comments Mon, 07 Sep 2020 08:00:00 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/bc801854-127c-3405-9af5-ca6789f66bb6 artofbeingyou false No 1383 full Episode 7 - Surrender and Get Out of Your Own Way! Episode 7 - Surrender and Get Out of Your Own Way! https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-7-surrender-and-get-out-of-your-own-way/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-7-surrender-and-get-out-of-your-own-way/#comments Mon, 31 Aug 2020 11:02:06 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/d4e89369-fac9-38e5-99c7-82c380a3e364 The act of surrendering is so powerful and yet it is not used enough. In this episode, we talk about what it means to surrender and how to get out of your own way. Any challenges you are facing requires an answer from a higher power. Surrendering allows you to ask for help and accept you are not alone in this. What are you not happy with that you want to surrender? Try it and see what happens!

]]> The act of surrendering is so powerful and yet it is not used enough. In this episode, we talk about what it means to surrender and how to get out of your own way. Any challenges you are facing requires an answer from a higher power. Surrendering allows you to ask for help and accept you are not alone in this. What are you not happy with that you want to surrender? Try it and see what happens!

]]> artofbeingyou false No 1411 1 8 full Episode 6 -The Difference between Confidence and Self-Esteem Episode 6 -The Difference between Confidence and Self-Esteem https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-6-the-difference-between-confidence-and-self-esteem/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-6-the-difference-between-confidence-and-self-esteem/#comments Sun, 16 Aug 2020 17:26:21 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/ef8792c3-b454-3a5f-a979-edb37fc4cb4f Confidence and self-esteem are used interchangeably and most people do not know the difference. The impact of each is very unique and be the reason why you are feeling a bit off. 

Understanding the difference between each is quite an aha moment. What it can do for you to know the difference is quite powerful. I was inspired to do this episode from an interview with Dubai Eye Radio. 

As always, I share with you some tips to use to help you get out of the funk and getcha mind right! 

]]> Confidence and self-esteem are used interchangeably and most people do not know the difference. The impact of each is very unique and be the reason why you are feeling a bit off. 

Understanding the difference between each is quite an aha moment. What it can do for you to know the difference is quite powerful. I was inspired to do this episode from an interview with Dubai Eye Radio. 

As always, I share with you some tips to use to help you get out of the funk and getcha mind right! 

]]> artofbeingyou false No 1584 1 6 full Episode 5 - Interview with Lara Tabet Episode 5 - Interview with Lara Tabet https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-5-interview-with-lara-tabet/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-5-interview-with-lara-tabet/#comments Sun, 19 Jul 2020 16:53:00 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/d1cd871d-4c62-55a7-b45f-a53d9f860336 I had the absolute pleasure of sitting with Lara Tabet, an iconic woman in Dubai. Lara Tabet wears many hats! Among being a wonderful wife and mother, she is an Award-Winning Global Influencer, TV Presenter, Official spokesperson of Arab Fashion Council, and brand Ambassador for multiple luxury brands. Lara shares some intimate stories that will leave you with inspiration, hope, and amazement. 

]]> I had the absolute pleasure of sitting with Lara Tabet, an iconic woman in Dubai. Lara Tabet wears many hats! Among being a wonderful wife and mother, she is an Award-Winning Global Influencer, TV Presenter, Official spokesperson of Arab Fashion Council, and brand Ambassador for multiple luxury brands. Lara shares some intimate stories that will leave you with inspiration, hope, and amazement. 

]]> artofbeingyou false No 2101 1 5 full Episode 4 - The Importance of Being Seen and Heard Episode 4 - The Importance of Being Seen and Heard https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-4-the-importance-of-being-seen-and-heard/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-4-the-importance-of-being-seen-and-heard/#comments Tue, 16 Jun 2020 18:33:07 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/d16acfd9-3408-5db1-8824-11d4353ce7d3 Whether it is at home or in the office, there is a disconnect with others when they don't feel seen or heard. Even if you think you are listening, you may not necessarily be active listening. In this episode, I share some stories and tips to help you to connect with people on a deeper level. 

]]> Whether it is at home or in the office, there is a disconnect with others when they don't feel seen or heard. Even if you think you are listening, you may not necessarily be active listening. In this episode, I share some stories and tips to help you to connect with people on a deeper level. 

]]> artofbeingyou false No 1665 1 4 full Episode 3 - Finding Your Voice Episode 3 - Finding Your Voice https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-3-finding-your-voice-1591113343/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-3-finding-your-voice-1591113343/#comments Tue, 02 Jun 2020 19:55:43 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/3be7b0c8-0b42-52bb-9ec7-cef93a091784 In a time when your voice is the only thing you can use to change the world, this episode discusses how to get it back if you feel like you have lost it. 

Finding your voice is a powerful tool to showcase that authentic and unapologetic you! 

]]> In a time when your voice is the only thing you can use to change the world, this episode discusses how to get it back if you feel like you have lost it. 

Finding your voice is a powerful tool to showcase that authentic and unapologetic you! 

]]> artofbeingyou false No 1489 1 3 full Episode 2 - Identity Crisis During Challenging Times Episode 2 - Identity Crisis During Challenging Times https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-2-identity-crisis-during-challenging-times/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-2-identity-crisis-during-challenging-times/#comments Tue, 05 May 2020 18:07:38 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/30c3ed41-efbc-5ea8-be48-93821336c8ba In this episode, you will be introduced to this concept of identity crisis and how it impacts you in your daily life. 

Many of us go through an identity crisis when we are going through a transition phase. Single to in a relationship, married to divorced, single to parent, etc...

The phase we are all currently going through is a challenging one and the effects of an identity crisis are here! They are coming to the surface and they feel stronger than ever.

Learn the tips and tools to identify it and also how to overcome it.  

]]> In this episode, you will be introduced to this concept of identity crisis and how it impacts you in your daily life. 

Many of us go through an identity crisis when we are going through a transition phase. Single to in a relationship, married to divorced, single to parent, etc...

The phase we are all currently going through is a challenging one and the effects of an identity crisis are here! They are coming to the surface and they feel stronger than ever.

Learn the tips and tools to identify it and also how to overcome it.  

]]> artofbeingyou false No 1122 1 2 full Episode 1 - Introduction Episode 1 - Introduction https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-1-introduction-1586782966/ https://artofbeingyou.podbean.com/e/episode-1-introduction-1586782966/#comments Mon, 13 Apr 2020 17:02:46 +0400 artofbeingyou.podbean.com/1a8fe162-4241-5d2b-ad86-bcd202f04df5 In this episode, you get to know a little bit of who I am and why I'm doing this podcast. 

The tools I will be sharing with you that I have used with my clients and the journey I have had to get to where I am today. From death in the family, to divorce, to body shaming...It is all coming out. We can't take our power back from a situation if we cannot be vulnerable about it all. 

We will discuss identity crisis, self-worth, confidence building techniques and so much more to help you in any situation you are in your life. If you are single, a mom, a career babe...we got you girl! Any transition that you face can be experience with much more ease if you have the right tools and mindset. 

Come with me and our guests as they take us through their journeys. See you in the next episode.

]]> In this episode, you get to know a little bit of who I am and why I'm doing this podcast. 

The tools I will be sharing with you that I have used with my clients and the journey I have had to get to where I am today. From death in the family, to divorce, to body shaming...It is all coming out. We can't take our power back from a situation if we cannot be vulnerable about it all. 

We will discuss identity crisis, self-worth, confidence building techniques and so much more to help you in any situation you are in your life. If you are single, a mom, a career babe...we got you girl! Any transition that you face can be experience with much more ease if you have the right tools and mindset. 

Come with me and our guests as they take us through their journeys. See you in the next episode.

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