We’re At The Age

Communities that Carry Us: Faith & Connection As We Age

Thu, 16 Jul 2026 07:00:00 -0600

What carries us through life's hardest seasons?

In this episode of We're at the Age, Melody sits down with Rev. Dr. Julie Strassman, hospice chaplain and congregational care minister, to explore the powerful role that faith, community, and human connection play as we grow older.

Together, they discuss what it means to navigate grief—not as something to "get over," but as a natural part of a life well-lived. Julie shares how joy and sorrow work together and why the communities that surround us can become our greatest source of strength.

Whether you're supporting an aging loved one, experiencing a loss, or simply searching for deeper connection, this conversation offers a thoughtful reminder that we were never meant to carry life's burdens alone.

In Sickness and In Health: A Caregiver's Story

Mon, 29 Jun 2026 09:59:00 -0600

In sickness and in health.

Most of us say those words without knowing exactly what they may ask of us.

When Doug Whitman’s wife Pam experienced a sudden stroke, their lives changed in an instant. In the days and months that followed, Doug found himself navigating a new role — not only as a husband, but as a caregiver.

In our latest episode of We’re At The Age, Doug shares the moment he realized everything had changed, the challenges of caregiving, how their relationship has continued to grow, and the faith that has helped carry him through.

This is an honest conversation about love, resilience, and what it means to show up for someone you love when life takes an unexpected turn.

At Death's Door: Conversations with a Music Thanatologist

Thu, 18 Jun 2026 07:00:00 -0600

What if music could offer comfort, peace, and connection during one of life’s most profound transitions? In this episode of We’re At The Age, we explore the beautiful world of music thanatology with Tony Pederson, a music thanatologist who uses the harp and voice to provide therapeutic support for people nearing the end of life.

Tony shares how music thanatology blends music, science, and compassionate presence to support hospice patients and their families. We discuss how carefully chosen music can influence breathing, heart rate, anxiety, and emotional well-being, creating moments of comfort and connection during the dying process.

Whether you’re a caregiver, healthcare professional, or simply curious about the many ways we can support one another through life’s final chapter, this conversation offers a meaningful look at an innovative approach to end-of-life care.

Learn more about music thanatology and training programs here:
https://accordaschool.org

Who's Walking The Dog?

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 07:58:51 -0600

What happens to your dog if you suddenly need weeks of rehab after an illness, injury, or surgery?

For many people, it's a question filled with worry. For the team at Clare's House, it's a problem they're working to solve every day.

In this episode, we sit down with the Executive Director of Clare's House to talk about their one-of-a-kind mission: providing free temporary care for dogs while their St. Louis owners get better. We discuss how the organization got started, the impact they're making for both people and pets, and how our community can help keep tails wagging while owners focus on healing.

To support and learn more: clareshousestl.org

We're At The Age Love Looks Like A Plan

Thu, 21 May 2026 08:00:00 -0600

What happens when we stop treating death like a surprise?

In this episode, Lauren Ponder joins us for a deeply human conversation about end-of-life planning, grief, legacy, and the courage it takes to talk about what comes next. Through her work with With Love Events, Lauren helps individuals and families navigate difficult conversations with compassion, intention, and even moments of humor.

Together, we discuss the emotional weight families carry when plans are left unspoken, the beauty of meaningful celebrations of life, and how preparing ahead can become one final act of love for the people we leave behind.

This episode is an invitation not to fear the conversation, but to finally begin it.

Understanding Alzheimer’s Part 1: You’re Not Alone

Thu, 15 Jan 2026 08:00:00 -0600

Caregiving rarely starts with a plan... it starts with a feeling that something isn’t quite right.

In this episode of We’re At The Age, we’re kicking off our Alzheimer’s series with Jeremy Koerber from the Alzheimer’s Association. Jeremy shares how his own path led him into this work and what he’s learned from supporting families navigating Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia every day.

Together, we talk about the early signs that are easy to miss, why so many caregivers find themselves in this role unexpectedly, and how family dynamics can complicate already difficult conversations. Jeremy also breaks down why education and early diagnosis matter, what treatments and supports are available, and how caregivers can access help before reaching a breaking point.

This conversation is informative, honest, and grounded in one simple truth: caregivers deserve support, understanding, and resources... early and often.

We're At The Age "What?" Is A Full Conversation

Thu, 02 Oct 2025 07:14:09 -0600

In this episode, Melody and Marjorie sit down with Dr. Kate Sinks from the Center for Hearing and Speech to talk about a challenge many caregivers face every day: hearing loss. You’ll hear about why early detection matters, the not-so-clunky advancements in hearing aid technology (goodbye, giant beige gadgets), and how caregivers can respond with patience, empathy, and maybe a little humor. We'll learn that supporting someone with hearing loss can be an opportunity for connection, advocacy, and even a laugh or two.

Learn more about the Center for Hearing and Speech: https://chsstl.org/

We're At The Age to Understand Medicare

Thu, 18 Sep 2025 08:00:00 -0600

Join Melody, Marjorie, and Medicare Expert Diane Finnestead-Ellis for an eye-opening conversation that goes far beyond the basics. From breaking down the different parts and tackling the open enrollment maze to addressing the real challenges caregivers face, Diane brings her personal experiences to the table with honesty and clarity. Along the way, she busts common Medicare myths—especially around long-term care—and shares practical tips for choosing the right coverage. This empowering discussion shines a light on why clear communication and education are essential for caregivers and seniors to confidently navigate their healthcare decisions.

https://nabip.org/

https://dianeinsurancestl.com/

We're At The Age Hospice is Not The End

Thu, 04 Sep 2025 07:54:26 -0600

In this episode, guest Mike George invites us to rethink what hospice really means. He shares his personal journey into the field and breaks down common misconceptions, reminding us that hospice is less about death and more about living well to the very end. The conversation explores the benefits of getting hospice involved early, the deeply personalized care patients receive, and the vital role caregivers play. Mike also highlights the emotional and spiritual support offered, the importance of celebrating life’s moments, and the power of real stories from hospice experiences. Plus, we shine a light on the incredible contributions of volunteers and share resources to help families find the support they need—encouraging everyone to consider hospice not as a last resort, but as a pathway to dignity, comfort, and connection.

We're At The Age 'Spend Down' Isn't A Shopping Term

Thu, 21 Aug 2025 08:00:00 -0600

In this episode, Melody and Marjorie sit down with elder law and estate planning attorney Paul Gantner for a deep dive into the world of asset protection and long-term care planning. Together, they unpack the sometimes-confusing differences between Medicare and Medicaid, explore smart spend-down strategies, and talk about why a solid estate plan is so important for protecting assets and ensuring quality care for aging loved ones. If you’ve ever wondered how to navigate these tricky topics, this episode is packed with clarity, insight, and practical advice.

Your Estate Matters

https://www.yourestatematters.com/

National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys https://www.naela.org/Web/Shared_Content/Directories/Find-a-Lawyer.aspx

We're At The Age to Ask, "Who Are You Caring For?"

Thu, 07 Aug 2025 08:30:00 -0600

In this episode, Melody and Marjorie discuss their experiences as caregivers, sharing personal stories about the loved ones they care for. They emphasize the importance of community support in caregiving and address common questions and concerns that caregivers face, including estate planning, hospice care, and mental health issues. The conversation highlights the challenges and rewards of caregiving, as well as the need for ongoing support and resources.

We're At The Age to Start the Converstaion

Thu, 15 May 2025 08:00:00 -0600

In the season finale, hosts Melody Fox and Marjorie Moore look back on the powerful conversations that shaped the first season—unpacking what they’ve learned about caregiving, aging, and end-of-life planning. From the emotional weight of advocating for loved ones to the often-overlooked differences between home care and home health, they revisit the stories and insights that stood out most. They also reflect on the tragedy of Gene Hackman, exploring how the lessons from this season could help prevent similar outcomes. With warmth and honesty, Melody and Marjorie highlight the critical importance of open dialogue around death, the need for estate planning, and the value of strong support systems for caregivers. As they close out the season, they invite listeners to keep the conversation going—sharing stories, questions, and ideas for what’s next.

We're At The Age Mom's Selling Our Childhood Home

Thu, 01 May 2025 08:00:00 -0600

In this conversation, Ryan and Chad Klamen join Melody and Marjorie to discuss the complexities of selling a family home when it's time for an aging loved one to downsize. They explore various selling options, the emotional challenges involved, and the importance of open communication among family members. The guests from Klamen Realtor Group shares insights on market conditions, the benefits of alternative selling methods, and the need for flexibility in the selling process. They emphasize the significance of understanding the seller's objectives and providing support throughout the transition.

We're At The Age to Make Peace with Death

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0600

In this episode of the We're At The Age podcast, hosts Melody and Marjorie engage in a candid conversation about death and the role of death doulas. They discuss the common fears surrounding death, the misconceptions about death doulas, and the importance of planning for end-of-life care. Dr. Maurya D. Cockrell, a death doula, shares her insights on how to navigate grief, create meaningful legacies, and the various rituals that can help in the grieving process. The conversation emphasizes the need for open discussions about death and encourages listeners to document their wishes and memories.

We're At The Age We Can't Do It All Anymore

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0600

This conversation explores the various aspects of home care and home health care, highlighting the differences between the two, the types of services available, and the importance of finding trustworthy care providers. The discussion also touches on financial considerations and shares heartwarming stories from the field, emphasizing the emotional connections formed in caregiving.

We're At The Age We're Getting Around To Making A Will

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 08:00:00 -0600

In this conversation, Brian Quinn discusses the intricacies of estate planning, focusing on the importance of wills and trusts, strategies to avoid probate, and the necessity of updating estate plans regularly. He emphasizes the role of family dynamics in estate planning decisions and the impact of state-specific laws on the process. The discussion also touches on the costs associated with creating wills and trusts, providing listeners with a comprehensive understanding of the estate planning landscape. He emphasizes the significance of having open conversations with aging parents about their estate plans. The discussion highlights the potential financial and emotional burdens of not having a proper estate plan in place.

We're At The Age to Have Hard Conversations

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 08:00:00 -0600

In this episode, Melanie Maynor joins our hosts to discuss the challenges of navigating conversations with aging loved ones, the role of geriatric care managers, and the importance of intentional planning for aging. They explore how to prepare for difficult discussions, manage resistance to change, and recognize signs that may indicate a need for transitioning care. The conversation also highlights the value of care management for individuals with disabilities and offers insights on finding the right care manager. Success stories illustrate the impact of care management, and the episode concludes with a reflection on the essence of aging gracefully.

We're At The Age Mom Needs An Advocate

Thu, 20 Feb 2025 08:00:00 -0600

In this episode, Melody, Marjorie, and Chien Hung discuss the critical role of ombudsmen in advocating for residents in long-term care facilities. They explore the definition of an ombudsman, the challenges faced in the field, and the growing need for advocacy as the aging population increases. Chien shares his personal journey into gerontology and highlights the importance of awareness and funding for ombudsman programs.

We're At The Age To Have A Death Party

Thu, 06 Feb 2025 08:00:00 -0600

In this conversation, Melody introduces the concept of a 'death party' as a way to facilitate discussions about end-of-life wishes among family members and emergency contacts. Melody and Marjorie talk about the importance of planning for these wishes, navigating legal documents, and the emotional aspects of these discussions. Melody emphasizes the need for open communication and the benefits of having these conversations in a light-hearted manner, ultimately leading to a sense of peace and understanding within families.

End of Life Planning Workbook (not sponsored):

https://www.amazon.com/Im-Dead-Now-What-Organizer/dp/1441317996/ref=sr_1_6?crid=TWII2YU9FWLT&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.X1htgXznnEnsX86Wa578WXFRRImSdbLekKTeNn3KA05PGELtksgWYp4Of_a_HPSvdq-Cz4iWF67MP3xg_Gr60GhhUW6eQSh9KudfGHH9wGdyrongKz5XACfMucRzmo22b1XCpP1zE9-zbIf7OhuM-4pBLFigGGWpLFeNs8HoNP5vGz5e5E8NRTa-kL92h9D7p9_L7qJ7iWel1nCbJFvxTfQHUAoV_X7h6whytD8j82d4zxkiWRJ7TBfLmjRTBmuQvwCX1ZJbeiMj_Rk2Ye2AtsA2JkU-DNjo3CbiKbsj30lG8-OYrOpjNJWmIxvuS3QrNt8nh-okaSnjO72WeKx6T7Bi5LcvBx7FtmlVxJ3pd-dk79SGUBKlAqWdzm1C3oRRda9AgOKAReShkPxuTxQHYOvY43HjgKNlmdrvsuzgig-Q_yDdmpaUlvlweu6xJI1x.IkxFpofw5kPVLcQyw-BIqKPqSPfcK103ZTEKYQZpqs8&dib_tag=se&keywords=end+of+life+planner&qid=1738774643&sprefix=end+of+life+planner%2Caps%2C93&sr=8-6

VOYCE blog about end of life planning:

https://www.voycestl.org/blog/preparing-for-death-as-a-momentous-life-event/

We're At The Age We're Making A Podcast

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 12:10:45 -0600

In this introduction to the podcast "We're At The Age," Marjorie and Melody discuss the challenges of caregiving for aging parents and relatives, emphasizing the need for community support and resources. We chat about personal experiences with family health issues and the importance of planning for the future, including discussions around end-of-life planning.