Oh Shit! I’m Getting Divorced https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com So your marriage is over and you have no idea what comes next. Welcome to the show that says the quiet part out loud.

Each week, host Becky Swanson — a certified divorce coach — sits down with real people and real experts to talk about what divorce actually looks like: the friends who disappear, the money terror, the co-parenting standoffs, the dating disasters, and the surprising, hard-won moments of getting your life back.

No lectures. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations for women figuring out how to rebuild — one messy, funny, occasionally rage-filled episode at a time. 

Yes, she’s really a pastor. She loves Jesus, and she cusses a little.

]]> Tue, 27 Oct 2026 18:29:45 -0500 https://podbean.com/?v=5.5 en us Copyright 2026 All rights reserved. Education:Self-Improvement 1440 episodic Your marriage is over and you have no idea what comes next. Welcome to the show that says the quiet parts out loud. I’m Becky Swanson, and each week my guests tell the stories behind every piece of the divorce experience: the people at work, the family, your soon-to-be ex. The friends who disappear. The money terrors. The co-parenting standoffs. The dating disasters. And the surprising, hard-won moments of getting your life back, finding out who you really are, and loving that person. No lectures. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations about women rebuilding their lives, one messy, occasionally rage-filled, often funny and silly episode at a time. Yes, I’m an actual pastor. I love Jesus, and I cuss a little bit. Whether you do either, or neither, you’re welcome here. Subscribe now so you don’t miss episode one. Becky Swanson Coaching, LLC Becky Swanson Coaching, LLC No true https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/10280005/SwansonPodcast.jpg Oh Shit! I’m Getting Divorced https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com 144 144 The Money Side of Divorce with Howard Gershman The Money Side of Divorce with Howard Gershman https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/ep6/ https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/ep6/#comments Tue, 27 Oct 2026 18:29:45 -0500 BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/4ac25272-3640-3d1f-9769-856638174865 The Money Side of Divorce: Beneficiaries, Credit and Knowing Your Numbers, with Howard Gershman

The emotional pain of divorce can't be avoided, but financial ruin can be. Howard "Howie" Gershman, a financial educator who has worked with more than 300 clients, joins me to talk about the money mistakes that quietly cost people the most: old beneficiary forms, accounts you can't see, and a credit report you have never read. He has been married more than 50 years, so he is here as a teacher, not a veteran of divorce. The smallest next step is simple. Get a copy of your credit report this week.

What you'll hear

  • Why Howard teaches instead of sells. He spent years trusting financial advice that benefited the advisor more than him. In his view, the industry is often set up for advisors and companies, not clients, so he now focuses on financial education.
  • Basics nobody taught us. What insurance is and isn't, what investments are and aren't, and how a credit report and score work.
  • Why one advisor can't serve both spouses. When a couple splits, someone has to move to a new advisor, and Howard explains why.
  • Check your beneficiaries. Howard shares two stories of life insurance and a 401(k) paying out to the wrong person. The name on the form is what counts, even if your will says something different.
  • Is life insurance a divorce asset? Howard's answer: not really, because the death benefit does not exist until someone dies.
  • Beneficiaries are everywhere. 401(k)s, Roth IRAs and other investments have them, and bank accounts can have a payable-on-death designation.
  • Finding assets you can't see. Howard says forensic accountants can trace accounts a spouse is hiding.
  • Budget for the in-between and the after. Go through every expense, including the subscriptions you forgot, to see what is really left over.
  • Know your numbers. Understanding what comes in and what goes out, in detail, is Howard's answer to avoiding financial ruin.
  • If money makes you freeze. Howard refers clients who feel overwhelmed to financial coaches, who work on the emotional side of money.
  • Three things to do now. Check your beneficiaries, get a copy of your credit report, and open a bank account in your name only.

Timestamps

These times come from the Zoom recording, which starts a couple of minutes before the welcome. Add or subtract the difference once Raven's edit comes back, then check them against the edited audio.

Time

Topic

2:49

Welcome and Howard's background

4:07

Why Howard does this work: trusting the wrong advice

5:31

How the financial advice industry is set up

5:51

The money basics we should have been taught

8:48

How Howard started working with divorce clients

10:49

Why one advisor can't serve both spouses

12:28

Compassion without getting into the weeds

13:52

The B$mart assessment and what it uncovers

16:16

A story about beneficiaries that never got changed

19:00

A second beneficiary story

20:01

Is life insurance a divorce asset?

21:04

Matching your beneficiaries to your will

21:37

Roth IRAs, 401(k)s and payable-on-death bank accounts

22:49

Separate accounts or joint accounts

24:39

Finding assets you can't see, and forensic accountants

26:50

Building a budget for the separation and for after

27:51

The Sweatpants of the Month Club, and forgotten subscriptions

29:07

Avoiding financial ruin: know your numbers

31:10

When money makes you want to freeze: financial coaches

32:17

The one thing to know: beneficiaries, your own account, your credit report

33:06

How to get your free credit report and dispute errors

35:26

Own accounts, joint accounts and credit cards

36:25

Opening a small account and building credit history

38:41

Howard's monthly show, Everyday Money Insights

40:42

His free gift, The Real How Money Works

42:28

Closing

Resources and the Gift Vault

  • Free gift from Howard: The Real "How Money Works" is a free digital guide, about 30 pages, that covers insurance, investments, compound interest and other personal finance basics: therealhowmoneyworks.com
  • AnnualCreditReport.com: The website Howard mentions for getting your credit report from the three credit bureaus.
  • Everyday Money Insights: Howard's monthly video podcast and webinar, with guests such as accountants, attorneys and divorce coaches.
  • Gift Vault: Find Howard's gift, and the free gifts from every guest, in the Gift Vault. [Gift Vault link: add before publishing]

Gift Vault entry (draft):

  • Episode 6, Howard Gershman
  • Title: The Real "How Money Works": Your Free Digital Guide
  • Description: A free guide to the money basics most of us never learned, from Howard Gershman, a financial educator who has worked with more than 300 clients nationwide.
  • Link: https://www.therealhowmoneyworks.com/us/hgershman

About Howard Gershman

Howard "Howie" Gershman is a financial educator with 20 years of experience. He has worked with more than 300 clients nationwide, helping turn debt into million-dollar retirement trajectories, eliminate college loan burdens and protect households from financial devastation. After years of trusting the wrong financial advice himself, he made it his mission to teach people how money really works.

Enjoying the show? Please subscribe, and leave a rating and a short review wherever you listen. It helps other women find us.

]]> The Money Side of Divorce: Beneficiaries, Credit and Knowing Your Numbers, with Howard Gershman

The emotional pain of divorce can't be avoided, but financial ruin can be. Howard "Howie" Gershman, a financial educator who has worked with more than 300 clients, joins me to talk about the money mistakes that quietly cost people the most: old beneficiary forms, accounts you can't see, and a credit report you have never read. He has been married more than 50 years, so he is here as a teacher, not a veteran of divorce. The smallest next step is simple. Get a copy of your credit report this week.

What you'll hear

  • Why Howard teaches instead of sells. He spent years trusting financial advice that benefited the advisor more than him. In his view, the industry is often set up for advisors and companies, not clients, so he now focuses on financial education.
  • Basics nobody taught us. What insurance is and isn't, what investments are and aren't, and how a credit report and score work.
  • Why one advisor can't serve both spouses. When a couple splits, someone has to move to a new advisor, and Howard explains why.
  • Check your beneficiaries. Howard shares two stories of life insurance and a 401(k) paying out to the wrong person. The name on the form is what counts, even if your will says something different.
  • Is life insurance a divorce asset? Howard's answer: not really, because the death benefit does not exist until someone dies.
  • Beneficiaries are everywhere. 401(k)s, Roth IRAs and other investments have them, and bank accounts can have a payable-on-death designation.
  • Finding assets you can't see. Howard says forensic accountants can trace accounts a spouse is hiding.
  • Budget for the in-between and the after. Go through every expense, including the subscriptions you forgot, to see what is really left over.
  • Know your numbers. Understanding what comes in and what goes out, in detail, is Howard's answer to avoiding financial ruin.
  • If money makes you freeze. Howard refers clients who feel overwhelmed to financial coaches, who work on the emotional side of money.
  • Three things to do now. Check your beneficiaries, get a copy of your credit report, and open a bank account in your name only.

Timestamps

These times come from the Zoom recording, which starts a couple of minutes before the welcome. Add or subtract the difference once Raven's edit comes back, then check them against the edited audio.

Time

Topic

2:49

Welcome and Howard's background

4:07

Why Howard does this work: trusting the wrong advice

5:31

How the financial advice industry is set up

5:51

The money basics we should have been taught

8:48

How Howard started working with divorce clients

10:49

Why one advisor can't serve both spouses

12:28

Compassion without getting into the weeds

13:52

The B$mart assessment and what it uncovers

16:16

A story about beneficiaries that never got changed

19:00

A second beneficiary story

20:01

Is life insurance a divorce asset?

21:04

Matching your beneficiaries to your will

21:37

Roth IRAs, 401(k)s and payable-on-death bank accounts

22:49

Separate accounts or joint accounts

24:39

Finding assets you can't see, and forensic accountants

26:50

Building a budget for the separation and for after

27:51

The Sweatpants of the Month Club, and forgotten subscriptions

29:07

Avoiding financial ruin: know your numbers

31:10

When money makes you want to freeze: financial coaches

32:17

The one thing to know: beneficiaries, your own account, your credit report

33:06

How to get your free credit report and dispute errors

35:26

Own accounts, joint accounts and credit cards

36:25

Opening a small account and building credit history

38:41

Howard's monthly show, Everyday Money Insights

40:42

His free gift, The Real How Money Works

42:28

Closing

Resources and the Gift Vault

  • Free gift from Howard: The Real "How Money Works" is a free digital guide, about 30 pages, that covers insurance, investments, compound interest and other personal finance basics: therealhowmoneyworks.com
  • AnnualCreditReport.com: The website Howard mentions for getting your credit report from the three credit bureaus.
  • Everyday Money Insights: Howard's monthly video podcast and webinar, with guests such as accountants, attorneys and divorce coaches.
  • Gift Vault: Find Howard's gift, and the free gifts from every guest, in the Gift Vault. [Gift Vault link: add before publishing]

Gift Vault entry (draft):

  • Episode 6, Howard Gershman
  • Title: The Real "How Money Works": Your Free Digital Guide
  • Description: A free guide to the money basics most of us never learned, from Howard Gershman, a financial educator who has worked with more than 300 clients nationwide.
  • Link: https://www.therealhowmoneyworks.com/us/hgershman

About Howard Gershman

Howard "Howie" Gershman is a financial educator with 20 years of experience. He has worked with more than 300 clients nationwide, helping turn debt into million-dollar retirement trajectories, eliminate college loan burdens and protect households from financial devastation. After years of trusting the wrong financial advice himself, he made it his mission to teach people how money really works.

Enjoying the show? Please subscribe, and leave a rating and a short review wherever you listen. It helps other women find us.

]]> The emotional pain of divorce can’t be avoided, but financial ruin can be. Howard ”Howie” Gershman, a financial educator who has worked with more than 300 clients, joins me to talk about the money mistakes that quietly cost people the most: old beneficiary forms, accounts you can’t see, and a credit report you have never read. He has been married more than 50 years, so he is here as a teacher, not a veteran of divorce. The smallest next step is simple. Get a copy of your credit report this week. Becky Swanson Coaching, LLC true No 2480 1 54 full What Do I Do With All This Stuff? Organizing Through Divorce (with Gayle Gruenberg) What Do I Do With All This Stuff? Organizing Through Divorce (with Gayle Gruenberg) https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e5/ https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e5/#comments Sun, 25 Oct 2026 16:29:00 -0500 BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/d565e2e7-4774-3fca-8035-fc9476cc28ec After my own divorce was final, I stared at a house full of my ex-husband's belongings and could not make myself box them up. I was completely overwhelmed. What got me through was a friend who went through the basement and the attic with me, one box at a time, and who gave me the best technique ever: "Just tell me when you get the overwhelmies." I wish I had known today's guest back then.

Gayle Gruenberg is the Chief Executive Organizer at Let's Get Organized LLC, a certified professional organizer in chronic disorganization, a certified virtual organizing professional, and an organizer coach. She helps people through high-stakes transitions like death, divorce, and downsizing, and she has been doing it since 2003. In this conversation, Gayle shares what organizers actually do when a marriage ends, from a weekend pack-up to a four-month catalog of a large collection for equitable distribution, and what she learned from her own divorce.

We talk about executive function, shame, perfectionism, and emotional labor, and why decisions about our stuff are really decisions about our emotions. You will also hear Gayle's gentle approach to sentimental items (let them marinate), what to ask before you hire an organizer, how virtual organizing works, and the simple advice she leaves you with: start small, and set a timer for five minutes.

Timestamps

00:00 My story and meeting Gayle 02:35 Welcome, and "the other Big O" 03:53 The unspoken burden of dealing with our stuff 04:38 How organizers get called in 07:13 Gayle's own divorce and "The Boulevard of Broken Dreams" 10:05 Executive function and chronic disorganization 15:04 What hands-on organizing looks like 17:18 Readiness for change, and why we keep things 20:29 Sentimental items, handled gently 23:47 Let it marinate 25:44 How to choose an organizer 28:26 Virtual organizing 33:10 How long does it take? 37:30 Holiday tidying vs. life-transition organizing 40:48 Shame and perfectionism 42:30 Emotional labor 44:15 Gayle's book and free consultation 45:47 Procrastivity, body doubling, and making it fun 48:13 Start small: five minutes 48:51 Closing thoughts

  • Gayle Gruenberg, Let's Get Organized LLC
  • Book mentioned: Emotional Labor: Why a Woman's Work Is Never Done and What to Do About It, by Regina F. Lark, PhD, and Judith Kolberg
  • Organizer associations: Institute for Challenging Disorganization (ICD) and NAPO
  • Newsletter: an executive summary of each episode, plus a preview of the next one Newsletter Signup
  • Free consult with Becky: Find a time here.

About Gayle Gruenberg

Gayle Gruenberg is the Chief Executive Organizer at Let's Get Organized LLC, based in northern New Jersey. She is a certified professional organizer in chronic disorganization, a certified virtual organizing professional, and an organizer coach, known as the organizer other organizers call when things get tough. She helps people turn overwhelm into clear, actionable progress through death, divorce, downsizing, and life disasters.

Your next step

What's the smallest and easiest step you can take next? Set a timer for five minutes and start with one drawer, one box, or one corner. Then join the newsletter so every episode lands in your inbox: Newsletter Signup

Connect with Gayle

Free gift from Gayle

Professional organizers and coaches can not diagnose brain-based conditions or take the place of a licensed mental health professional. There is no shame in seeking help when needed.

Enjoying the show? Please subscribe, and leave a rating and a short review wherever you listen. It helps other women find us.

]]> After my own divorce was final, I stared at a house full of my ex-husband's belongings and could not make myself box them up. I was completely overwhelmed. What got me through was a friend who went through the basement and the attic with me, one box at a time, and who gave me the best technique ever: "Just tell me when you get the overwhelmies." I wish I had known today's guest back then.

Gayle Gruenberg is the Chief Executive Organizer at Let's Get Organized LLC, a certified professional organizer in chronic disorganization, a certified virtual organizing professional, and an organizer coach. She helps people through high-stakes transitions like death, divorce, and downsizing, and she has been doing it since 2003. In this conversation, Gayle shares what organizers actually do when a marriage ends, from a weekend pack-up to a four-month catalog of a large collection for equitable distribution, and what she learned from her own divorce.

We talk about executive function, shame, perfectionism, and emotional labor, and why decisions about our stuff are really decisions about our emotions. You will also hear Gayle's gentle approach to sentimental items (let them marinate), what to ask before you hire an organizer, how virtual organizing works, and the simple advice she leaves you with: start small, and set a timer for five minutes.

Timestamps

00:00 My story and meeting Gayle
02:35 Welcome, and "the other Big O"
03:53 The unspoken burden of dealing with our stuff
04:38 How organizers get called in
07:13 Gayle's own divorce and "The Boulevard of Broken Dreams"
10:05 Executive function and chronic disorganization
15:04 What hands-on organizing looks like
17:18 Readiness for change, and why we keep things
20:29 Sentimental items, handled gently
23:47 Let it marinate
25:44 How to choose an organizer
28:26 Virtual organizing
33:10 How long does it take?
37:30 Holiday tidying vs. life-transition organizing
40:48 Shame and perfectionism
42:30 Emotional labor
44:15 Gayle's book and free consultation
45:47 Procrastivity, body doubling, and making it fun
48:13 Start small: five minutes
48:51 Closing thoughts

  • Gayle Gruenberg, Let's Get Organized LLC
  • Book mentioned: Emotional Labor: Why a Woman's Work Is Never Done and What to Do About It, by Regina F. Lark, PhD, and Judith Kolberg
  • Organizer associations: Institute for Challenging Disorganization (ICD) and NAPO
  • Newsletter: an executive summary of each episode, plus a preview of the next one Newsletter Signup
  • Free consult with Becky: Find a time here.

About Gayle Gruenberg

Gayle Gruenberg is the Chief Executive Organizer at Let's Get Organized LLC, based in northern New Jersey. She is a certified professional organizer in chronic disorganization, a certified virtual organizing professional, and an organizer coach, known as the organizer other organizers call when things get tough. She helps people turn overwhelm into clear, actionable progress through death, divorce, downsizing, and life disasters.

Your next step

What's the smallest and easiest step you can take next? Set a timer for five minutes and start with one drawer, one box, or one corner. Then join the newsletter so every episode lands in your inbox: Newsletter Signup

Connect with Gayle

Free gift from Gayle

Professional organizers and coaches can not diagnose brain-based conditions or take the place of a licensed mental health professional. There is no shame in seeking help when needed.

Enjoying the show? Please subscribe, and leave a rating and a short review wherever you listen. It helps other women find us.

]]> Certified professional organizer Gayle Gruenberg explains why the stuff of a marriage is so hard to face, how to let sentimental items ”marinate,” what virtual organizing looks like, and why five minutes is enough to start. Becky Swanson Coaching, LLC true No 3058 1 5 full How a Late ADHD Diagnosis Saved a 27-Year Marriage How a Late ADHD Diagnosis Saved a 27-Year Marriage https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e4/ https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e4/#comments Sun, 25 Oct 2026 10:53:00 -0500 BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/3d4e854b-34a3-351b-9963-3fc9f469575f Chris Steindorf spent more than 40 years believing he was "not smart enough," a label that started with one first-grade teacher. When his marriage nearly ended, he found out the real story: he has ADHD, and he had been freezing, fawning, and shutting down in the moments his wife needed him most.

In this conversation, Chris walks us through the night everything blew up, the decision to check himself into inpatient care, and the surprisingly simple communication tool he and his wife used to find their way back to each other. We also talk about what late-diagnosed adults can do to meet their authentic selves, and how parents going through divorce can support kids who are neurodivergent.

If you've ever felt broken, like you missed the instruction manual everyone else got, this one is for you. The worst part of your story can become the best part of your story, and the help out there is real.

Content note: Chris shares a candid account of a night of crisis (starting around 14:41). If you are struggling, please reach out. In the U.S. you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at any time. You don't have to white-knuckle it.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome and introducing Chris 01:22 Why "ADHD detective"? 02:09 The first-grade label that stuck for 40 years 03:34 A marriage that almost ended 04:06 Feeling broken, and the tribe of us who don't know it yet 06:31 Fight, flight, freeze, fawn 07:26 Getting kicked out, empty nest, and choosing inpatient care 09:01 "I think you might have ADHD" 10:16 The diagnosis: hope, grief, and "who am I now?" 11:47 The communication tool that changed everything 14:23 Recognizing the courage it takes to get help 14:41 Chris's hardest night (content note) 17:56 Why reaching out is an embrace, not a burden 19:55 "The worst part of your life is the best part of your story" 20:27 Divorce, kids, and neurodivergence: where parents can find help 22:42 Pattern Identity: helping late-diagnosed adults meet themselves 25:43 Masks, imposter syndrome, and showing up authentically 27:49 For neurotypical partners: resources that help 31:15 Chris's e-book and the role of inflammation 33:05 Wrap-up

  • Chris's podcast and website: adhdcasefiles.com (e-book and newsletter)
  • Pattern Identity: Chris's course for late-diagnosed adults, in development
  • Book: Dirty Laundry, from the couple behind the ADHD Love podcast
  • Forbes Riley: speaker and speech coach mentioned in the episode
  • Local neurodivergence resources by county: Chris is gathering these and they will be added here
  • Crisis support: call or text 988 (U.S.)

Chris is sharing his personal experience, not medical advice. If you think you or your partner may have ADHD, talk with a licensed professional.

About Chris Steindorf

Chris is an ADHD detective, late-diagnosed adult, and founder of Pattern Identity. He has been married for 27 years and helps late-diagnosed neurodivergent adults rewrite their inner narrative and meet their authentic selves.

Your next step

Divorce doesn't have to be the only path through a hard season, and you don't have to walk it alone. Join the newsletter for the next small, doable step: Newsletter Signup

Connect with Chris

Free gift from Chris

  • The ADHD Detective's Guide: Uncover the Clues Behind the Struggles You've Been Living With, a free e-book, in the Gift Vault

Enjoying the show? Please subscribe, and leave a rating and a short review wherever you listen. It helps other women find us.

]]> Chris Steindorf spent more than 40 years believing he was "not smart enough," a label that started with one first-grade teacher. When his marriage nearly ended, he found out the real story: he has ADHD, and he had been freezing, fawning, and shutting down in the moments his wife needed him most.

In this conversation, Chris walks us through the night everything blew up, the decision to check himself into inpatient care, and the surprisingly simple communication tool he and his wife used to find their way back to each other. We also talk about what late-diagnosed adults can do to meet their authentic selves, and how parents going through divorce can support kids who are neurodivergent.

If you've ever felt broken, like you missed the instruction manual everyone else got, this one is for you. The worst part of your story can become the best part of your story, and the help out there is real.

Content note: Chris shares a candid account of a night of crisis (starting around 14:41). If you are struggling, please reach out. In the U.S. you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at any time. You don't have to white-knuckle it.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome and introducing Chris
01:22 Why "ADHD detective"?
02:09 The first-grade label that stuck for 40 years
03:34 A marriage that almost ended
04:06 Feeling broken, and the tribe of us who don't know it yet
06:31 Fight, flight, freeze, fawn
07:26 Getting kicked out, empty nest, and choosing inpatient care
09:01 "I think you might have ADHD"
10:16 The diagnosis: hope, grief, and "who am I now?"
11:47 The communication tool that changed everything
14:23 Recognizing the courage it takes to get help
14:41 Chris's hardest night (content note)
17:56 Why reaching out is an embrace, not a burden
19:55 "The worst part of your life is the best part of your story"
20:27 Divorce, kids, and neurodivergence: where parents can find help
22:42 Pattern Identity: helping late-diagnosed adults meet themselves
25:43 Masks, imposter syndrome, and showing up authentically
27:49 For neurotypical partners: resources that help
31:15 Chris's e-book and the role of inflammation
33:05 Wrap-up

  • Chris's podcast and website: adhdcasefiles.com (e-book and newsletter)
  • Pattern Identity: Chris's course for late-diagnosed adults, in development
  • Book: Dirty Laundry, from the couple behind the ADHD Love podcast
  • Forbes Riley: speaker and speech coach mentioned in the episode
  • Local neurodivergence resources by county: Chris is gathering these and they will be added here
  • Crisis support: call or text 988 (U.S.)

Chris is sharing his personal experience, not medical advice. If you think you or your partner may have ADHD, talk with a licensed professional.

About Chris Steindorf

Chris is an ADHD detective, late-diagnosed adult, and founder of Pattern Identity. He has been married for 27 years and helps late-diagnosed neurodivergent adults rewrite their inner narrative and meet their authentic selves.

Your next step

Divorce doesn't have to be the only path through a hard season, and you don't have to walk it alone. Join the newsletter for the next small, doable step: Newsletter Signup

Connect with Chris

Free gift from Chris

  • The ADHD Detective's Guide: Uncover the Clues Behind the Struggles You've Been Living With, a free e-book, in the Gift Vault

Enjoying the show? Please subscribe, and leave a rating and a short review wherever you listen. It helps other women find us.

]]> ADHD Detective Chris Steindorf shares how a late diagnosis reshaped his self-image, his communication, and his marriage. Discover practical ways to navigate neurodivergence, relationship stress, and family change, and why reaching out for support can make all the difference. Becky Swanson Coaching, LLC true No 2086 1 4 full Oh Shit! I'm Getting Divorced - Trailer (mp3) Oh Shit! I'm Getting Divorced - Trailer (mp3) https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/oh-shit-im-getting-divorced-trailer-mp3/ https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/oh-shit-im-getting-divorced-trailer-mp3/#comments Fri, 23 Oct 2026 18:18:13 -0500 BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/737cabed-a3ec-374b-9bab-2568f5c72b1a Your marriage is over and you have no idea what comes next. Welcome to the show that says the quiet parts out loud.

I'm Becky Swanson, and each week my guests tell the stories behind every piece of the divorce experience: the people at work, the family, your soon-to-be ex. The friends who disappear. The money terrors. The co-parenting standoffs. The dating disasters. And the surprising, hard-won moments of getting your life back, finding out who you really are, and loving that person.

No lectures. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations about women rebuilding their lives, one messy, occasionally rage-filled, often funny and silly episode at a time.

Yes, I'm an actual pastor. I love Jesus, and I cuss a little bit. Whether you do either, or neither, you're welcome here.

Your next step: Join the newsletter for the takeaways from every episode, straight to your inbox: Newsletter Signup

Already done waiting? Book a free consult: Find a time here.

Subscribe now so you don't miss episode one.

]]> Your marriage is over and you have no idea what comes next. Welcome to the show that says the quiet parts out loud.

I'm Becky Swanson, and each week my guests tell the stories behind every piece of the divorce experience: the people at work, the family, your soon-to-be ex. The friends who disappear. The money terrors. The co-parenting standoffs. The dating disasters. And the surprising, hard-won moments of getting your life back, finding out who you really are, and loving that person.

No lectures. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations about women rebuilding their lives, one messy, occasionally rage-filled, often funny and silly episode at a time.

Yes, I'm an actual pastor. I love Jesus, and I cuss a little bit. Whether you do either, or neither, you're welcome here.

Your next step: Join the newsletter for the takeaways from every episode, straight to your inbox: Newsletter Signup

Already done waiting? Book a free consult: Find a time here.

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]]> Your marriage is over and you have no idea what comes next. Welcome to the show that says the quiet parts out loud. Becky Swanson Coaching, LLC true No 124 53 full Your Next Chapter with Brenda Smith Your Next Chapter with Brenda Smith https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e3/ https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e3/#comments Thu, 22 Oct 2026 10:49:00 -0500 BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/be208d4f-f0f7-359f-960b-4cea7b73a34d Divorce often means a career question lands right alongside everything else: Do I need a new job? How do I explain a long gap? What do I even have to offer? In this episode, I talk with Brenda Smith, a certified career transition coach and fellow divorced woman, about how to move from feeling off-balance to knowing who you are and where you want to go.

Brenda explains why she slows clients down before touching a resume, and how a personal branding statement gives you the confidence to answer "tell me about yourself" without rambling. We talk about the carpool driver who is really a logistics and safety manager, why volunteer work and parenting count as real skills, and what to do about big gaps in your work history.

We also get honest about AI: it can write a polished resume, but it does not know you, and a generic resume does not get calls. Brenda shares how compelling career stories, clear decision-making, and an understanding of which industries are growing can help you choose your next chapter on purpose. She also has a free 10-question personal branding clarity checklist waiting for you in the gift vault.

Timestamps

00:00 Introducing Brenda Smith 01:36 Why career transition and personal branding? 02:38 Why a resume is not enough 04:06 Brenda's own story 05:08 Divorce, new jobs, and messaging under pressure 06:15 The personal branding statement 07:53 Client story: the optician who learned to code 09:02 Big gaps and stay-at-home parents 10:10 Transferable skills: the carpool driver 11:16 Volunteer work and emotional intelligence 12:59 From assessments to a career strategy 13:30 What the job market looks like now 15:45 How AI is changing the job hunt 17:13 Compelling career stories 18:49 Decision-making and your next chapter 21:19 Working with Brenda: one-on-one and small groups 21:52 The free personal branding clarity checklist 23:42 How to reach Brenda 24:11 Closing thoughts

About Brenda Smith

Brenda is a certified career transition coach who helps professionals showcase their expertise and value through an authentic process built on clarity and self-discovery. She started her company in 2009 after 20 years in marketing and communication, and she has coached hundreds of clients through career exploration, personal branding, and career documents.

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]]> Divorce often means a career question lands right alongside everything else: Do I need a new job? How do I explain a long gap? What do I even have to offer? In this episode, I talk with Brenda Smith, a certified career transition coach and fellow divorced woman, about how to move from feeling off-balance to knowing who you are and where you want to go.

Brenda explains why she slows clients down before touching a resume, and how a personal branding statement gives you the confidence to answer "tell me about yourself" without rambling. We talk about the carpool driver who is really a logistics and safety manager, why volunteer work and parenting count as real skills, and what to do about big gaps in your work history.

We also get honest about AI: it can write a polished resume, but it does not know you, and a generic resume does not get calls. Brenda shares how compelling career stories, clear decision-making, and an understanding of which industries are growing can help you choose your next chapter on purpose. She also has a free 10-question personal branding clarity checklist waiting for you in the gift vault.

Timestamps

00:00 Introducing Brenda Smith
01:36 Why career transition and personal branding?
02:38 Why a resume is not enough
04:06 Brenda's own story
05:08 Divorce, new jobs, and messaging under pressure
06:15 The personal branding statement
07:53 Client story: the optician who learned to code
09:02 Big gaps and stay-at-home parents
10:10 Transferable skills: the carpool driver
11:16 Volunteer work and emotional intelligence
12:59 From assessments to a career strategy
13:30 What the job market looks like now
15:45 How AI is changing the job hunt
17:13 Compelling career stories
18:49 Decision-making and your next chapter
21:19 Working with Brenda: one-on-one and small groups
21:52 The free personal branding clarity checklist
23:42 How to reach Brenda
24:11 Closing thoughts

About Brenda Smith

Brenda is a certified career transition coach who helps professionals showcase their expertise and value through an authentic process built on clarity and self-discovery. She started her company in 2009 after 20 years in marketing and communication, and she has coached hundreds of clients through career exploration, personal branding, and career documents.

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]]> Certified career transition coach Brenda Smith explains why a resume is not a career strategy, how to turn years at home into transferable skills, and how to stand out in a job market reshaped by AI. A practical conversation for anyone facing a new chapter after divorce. Becky Swanson Coaching, LLC true No 1615 1 3 full The Moment I Knew The Moment I Knew https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e2/ https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e2/#comments Wed, 21 Oct 2026 10:41:00 -0500 BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/d8c1db5e-5d83-367c-8ec5-e34c01bdc82a The Moment I Knew: Lessons From My Own Divorce (and a Tool to Help You Decide)

In this solo episode, I take you back about 20 years to the moment I said to myself, "Shit, we are going to get divorced, aren't we?" Nine months later, I filed, and I learned that divorce would cost me more relationships than just my marriage. Family wanted to assign blame. Friends I thought I could count on stepped away. That loss felt like a bigger betrayal than the marriage ending.

What got me through was a set of realizations I now share with every client: my former husband and I did not fail, we just could not make it work. I can only control myself. Forgiveness eventually lets go of the anger and makes room to forgive yourself. And the court does not care who was right, so right fighting is a costly way to spend your energy.

I also walk you through the consequences wheel, a tool from my corporate years that I use with clients to turn anxious "what ifs" into a clear picture of possible outcomes. If you have ever felt your usual competence take a hike under stress, this one is for you.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome and a story 00:31 The moment I knew 01:10 What divorce cost me beyond the marriage 02:28 "We did not fail" 03:38 Why divorce does not brand you forever 04:05 When stress blocks the skills you rely on 05:08 What a divorce coach brings to the process 05:42 You can only control yourself 06:50 Forgiveness, and forgiving yourself 07:25 Why right fighting gets you nowhere 08:24 The consequences wheel 10:17 Why this tool works for professional women 10:48 Dignity, not doormat 11:27 What this show will be 11:59 Follow the show and join the newsletter 12:59 Free consult and sign-off

About your host

Becky Swanson is a certified divorce coach and ordained ELCA pastor. She has been an ICF-certified coach since 2014 and brings 30 years of corporate learning and leadership experience, along with her own experience of divorce, to help women navigate the process with dignity, clarity, and strength.

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]]> The Moment I Knew: Lessons From My Own Divorce (and a Tool to Help You Decide)

In this solo episode, I take you back about 20 years to the moment I said to myself, "Shit, we are going to get divorced, aren't we?" Nine months later, I filed, and I learned that divorce would cost me more relationships than just my marriage. Family wanted to assign blame. Friends I thought I could count on stepped away. That loss felt like a bigger betrayal than the marriage ending.

What got me through was a set of realizations I now share with every client: my former husband and I did not fail, we just could not make it work. I can only control myself. Forgiveness eventually lets go of the anger and makes room to forgive yourself. And the court does not care who was right, so right fighting is a costly way to spend your energy.

I also walk you through the consequences wheel, a tool from my corporate years that I use with clients to turn anxious "what ifs" into a clear picture of possible outcomes. If you have ever felt your usual competence take a hike under stress, this one is for you.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome and a story
00:31 The moment I knew
01:10 What divorce cost me beyond the marriage
02:28 "We did not fail"
03:38 Why divorce does not brand you forever
04:05 When stress blocks the skills you rely on
05:08 What a divorce coach brings to the process
05:42 You can only control yourself
06:50 Forgiveness, and forgiving yourself
07:25 Why right fighting gets you nowhere
08:24 The consequences wheel
10:17 Why this tool works for professional women
10:48 Dignity, not doormat
11:27 What this show will be
11:59 Follow the show and join the newsletter
12:59 Free consult and sign-off

About your host

Becky Swanson is a certified divorce coach and ordained ELCA pastor. She has been an ICF-certified coach since 2014 and brings 30 years of corporate learning and leadership experience, along with her own experience of divorce, to help women navigate the process with dignity, clarity, and strength.

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]]> Becky Swanson shares the moment she knew her marriage was over, what her divorce cost her beyond the marriage, and the lessons that shaped her coaching. Plus a simple tool, the consequences wheel, for making strategic decisions instead of reactive ones. Becky Swanson Coaching, LLC true No 863 1 2 full Introduction to Becky Swanson Introduction to Becky Swanson https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e1/ https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/s1e1/#comments Tue, 20 Oct 2026 18:51:48 -0500 BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/7b455564-d9ef-3cde-a64d-d14d1aba1434 Before Becky starts bringing you experts, strategies, and real stories from women who have been through divorce, you get to meet the woman behind the microphone. For this first episode, Raven Blair Glover (Raven the Talk Show Maven) does the interviewing and Becky does the answering.

Becky shares why she chose a title that does not tiptoe around anything, how she lived divorce both as a child and as a woman who never thought she would be divorced, and why she believes shame and failure are baggage nobody needs. She also explains why a pastor with 40 years in the church and 30 years in corporate life became a divorce coach, and what listeners can expect: other helpers beyond the first call to a lawyer, honest conversations about parenting agreements, dating, and money, and a free gift from every guest.

If you have ever thought "oh, shit" when divorce landed in your life, you are in the right place. There is a little determination in those words. You can do this, and you do not have to do it alone.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome to the inaugural episode 01:36 Meet Raven Blair Glover 02:40 Why this show name? 04:48 Becky in one sentence 05:44 Becky's story: child of divorce, and a woman who had to divorce 07:15 "This is not a failure" 08:49 Gray divorce, and when splitting up is the healthiest path 09:50 Becky's background and credentials 11:04 When divorce affects your career 13:15 Why divorce coaching? 15:56 Becky's coaching certification and calling 17:28 Why a show, and why now 18:36 What the show will cover 21:10 Real stories, and how education takes the fear away 22:46 What to expect, and the gift vault 25:54 Respond, don't react 28:40 Control the controllable 30:10 Is this show for you if you're thinking about remarrying? 31:54 Becky's wrap-up: an honest show 33:36 Co-parenting and showing your kids how to thrive 36:00 Feel less alone: closing thoughts 37:58 Sign-off

  • Raven Blair Glover, "Raven the Talk Show Maven": founder of Power Me Up Radio Network (Live365) and Raven International TV Network (Roku)
  • "There's a Coach for That TV": Becky's miniseries on Inside Business TV, airing soon
  • Gift vault: free resources from each guest, Open the Gift Vault
  • Becky Swanson Coaching:  https://www.beckyswanson.com
  • Live show schedule: Tuesdays at 5:00pm PT on Power Me Up Radio, with occasional bonus Thursdays 

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]]> Before Becky starts bringing you experts, strategies, and real stories from women who have been through divorce, you get to meet the woman behind the microphone. For this first episode, Raven Blair Glover (Raven the Talk Show Maven) does the interviewing and Becky does the answering.

Becky shares why she chose a title that does not tiptoe around anything, how she lived divorce both as a child and as a woman who never thought she would be divorced, and why she believes shame and failure are baggage nobody needs. She also explains why a pastor with 40 years in the church and 30 years in corporate life became a divorce coach, and what listeners can expect: other helpers beyond the first call to a lawyer, honest conversations about parenting agreements, dating, and money, and a free gift from every guest.

If you have ever thought "oh, shit" when divorce landed in your life, you are in the right place. There is a little determination in those words. You can do this, and you do not have to do it alone.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome to the inaugural episode
01:36 Meet Raven Blair Glover
02:40 Why this show name?
04:48 Becky in one sentence
05:44 Becky's story: child of divorce, and a woman who had to divorce
07:15 "This is not a failure"
08:49 Gray divorce, and when splitting up is the healthiest path
09:50 Becky's background and credentials
11:04 When divorce affects your career
13:15 Why divorce coaching?
15:56 Becky's coaching certification and calling
17:28 Why a show, and why now
18:36 What the show will cover
21:10 Real stories, and how education takes the fear away
22:46 What to expect, and the gift vault
25:54 Respond, don't react
28:40 Control the controllable
30:10 Is this show for you if you're thinking about remarrying?
31:54 Becky's wrap-up: an honest show
33:36 Co-parenting and showing your kids how to thrive
36:00 Feel less alone: closing thoughts
37:58 Sign-off

  • Raven Blair Glover, "Raven the Talk Show Maven": founder of Power Me Up Radio Network (Live365) and Raven International TV Network (Roku)
  • "There's a Coach for That TV": Becky's miniseries on Inside Business TV, airing soon
  • Gift vault: free resources from each guest, Open the Gift Vault
  • Becky Swanson Coaching:  https://www.beckyswanson.com
  • Live show schedule: Tuesdays at 5:00pm PT on Power Me Up Radio, with occasional bonus Thursdays 




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]]> In the inaugural episode, talk show host Raven Blair Glover turns the microphone on Becky Swanson, an ordained pastor and certified divorce coach. Hear why divorce is a grief and not a failure, why the show is called what it is, and what to expect in the weeks ahead. Becky Swanson Coaching, LLC true No 2346 1 1 full Oh Shit! I'm Getting Divorced Oh Shit! I'm Getting Divorced https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/oh-sht-im-getting-divorced/ https://BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/e/oh-sht-im-getting-divorced/#comments Tue, 20 Oct 2026 13:12:20 -0500 BeckySwansonCoaching.podbean.com/4bd3942c-2038-3db7-8c89-a66ed080e2ec Your marriage is over and you have no idea what comes next. Welcome to the show that says the quiet parts out loud.

I'm Becky Swanson, and each week my guests tell the stories behind every piece of the divorce experience: the people at work, the family, your soon-to-be ex. The friends who disappear. The money terrors. The co-parenting standoffs. The dating disasters. And the surprising, hard-won moments of getting your life back, finding out who you really are, and loving that person.

No lectures. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations about women rebuilding their lives, one messy, occasionally rage-filled, often funny and silly episode at a time.

Yes, I'm an actual pastor. I love Jesus, and I cuss a little bit. Whether you do either, or neither, you're welcome here.

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]]> Your marriage is over and you have no idea what comes next. Welcome to the show that says the quiet parts out loud.

I'm Becky Swanson, and each week my guests tell the stories behind every piece of the divorce experience: the people at work, the family, your soon-to-be ex. The friends who disappear. The money terrors. The co-parenting standoffs. The dating disasters. And the surprising, hard-won moments of getting your life back, finding out who you really are, and loving that person.

No lectures. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations about women rebuilding their lives, one messy, occasionally rage-filled, often funny and silly episode at a time.

Yes, I'm an actual pastor. I love Jesus, and I cuss a little bit. Whether you do either, or neither, you're welcome here.

Your next step: Join the newsletter for the takeaways from every episode, straight to your inbox: Newsletter Signup

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Subscribe now so you don't miss episode one.

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